So Why Won’t He Commit to You? Here Are Some Possible Answers

So Why Wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t He Commit to You? Here Are Some Possible Answers

So Why Won’t He Commit to You? Here Are Some Possible Answers Relationships can be a difficult thing. Both men and women go through various phases in their lives where they get confused as to what the other person wants. Why won’t he commit? Why won’t she stop talking about babies? Why won’t he get serious? Why is she always serious? These questions can be as difficult as questions about the meaning of life. People ask them every day and not a single moment goes by in a relationship where questions don’t come up. But that’s the beauty of relationships! People are humans! Humans don’t just think they also feel. And one of the keys to a good relationship is the ability to understand each other. That’s why a lot of relationships end up in dire straits, because the partners are not really communicating. In most cases, they are talking past each other, not understanding what perspective the other person is coming from. The key to a good relationship is balancing the human side with the rational thinking side of things. So why won’t he commit? Is he incapable of being a human? If you are asking yourself this question, then you need to ask yourself whether the question is really true or not. Has he told you his feelings? If the answer to these questions is no, then you most likely have an issue that you need to deal with. One of the biggest problems that crops up in relationships time and time again is the issue of people not communicating. Nobody can be expected to be a mind reader! If you think your partner is not really understanding your perspective and you are arguing because you haven’t been able to get your point across, then you need to ask yourself the question honestly — have you been explaining it in a way that he can understand? You see, when men complain to their friends in the locker room about “she expects me to read her mind or something”, they’re being completely sincere and honest. They can’t understand you. This is a big problem and while it certainly can be the case that he isn’t really listening in the first place, you must ask yourself whether this is because he is not interested, or whether you just simply aren’t speaking his language?

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So Why Won’t He Commit to You? Here Are Some Possible Answers You need to understand your man If you are wondering why won’t he commit, then you should first find out how to understand your man. This is not to say that you should start grunting like a primordial ape and cheering for the next football game on TV, because stereotyping people is a sure-fire way to annoy them enough to start despising you. Nobody’s asking you to like football, but certainly if he does, you need to sit down and see a few games with him now and then. But if you go down this route, then make it clear that you are also expecting a compromise — that he should also make time to be with you and whatever your hobby is. Or you could just give him the space. Some men just need their “cave”. They need to have a time when they are either completely alone or a time to spend with their friends. It’s the same thing as when you go out on girl’s night, or watch your “show” on TV while he is at work. One very real possibility in many relationships as to why won’t he commit, is that he feels pressured and not ready for a serious relationship yet. How do you overcome that fear? Let’s be completely honest here, it’s not your job to overcome his fear. Why won’t he commit, is less of a concern for you to be worried about than it is for him. Perhaps he’s just not ready for that yet? Perhaps he’s still looking to have fun and not entirely certain he’s ready to settle down and have a family yet? These are issues that should not be forced, as if they are, they often lead to bitterness and resentment. What you want to do is to make him feel as comfortable as possible and as happy as possible and in his own time, he will come to you for commitment. Ready for the next step? Grab your complimentary copy of Coleta’s “How to Get Engaged to the Guy of your Dreams” ebook. Find out a much better way to get him to pop the question WITHOUT using threats and dangerous ultimatums.. You can get your free ebook at: http://www.emotionalaffairadvice.com/main-report.pdf

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