Engaged Wedding Magazine - April 2012 by Hamilton Media Limited

PRE-EMPT THE PRENUP ENGAGEMENT TO WEDDING IN SIX HOURS

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CITY BRIDAL COUTURE JOANNE & JOSEPH A LOVE STORY

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Notes from the Editors...

Here comes wedding show season!

Cover Credits: Photo: Jessica Photography www.jessicaphotography.co.nz

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Now is a great time to be planning the big ticket items for your wedding. By heading to the wedding shows you will be able to see what is on offer and compare and contrast the different products and services. Make sure that you take the chance to have a really good chat with the vendors as they have loads of knowledge about all aspects of weddings and are a great source of information (especially on deciding what you really need to spend your money on and what you can save on). On that note, we are stoked to announce our partnership with Perks to bring you top quality offers from brands that you know and love. Our focus is to only bring you Perks that are targeted towards your big day. If you have any suggestions for businesses who you would like to offer a Perk, let us know! Happy planning!

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What’s New Give Your Special Day a Signature Sound Memorable music is an integral part of your wedding day, setting the scene from the moment you walk down the aisle, to the last dance that has your guests celebrating alongside you. Ensure your special day has a signature sound and reflects the love you have for one another with the hauntingly beautiful voice of New Zealand songstress Sarah Brown. With her eclectic style of blues, folk, pop and rock, Brown’s soft melodies are the perfect complement to your ceremony and reception for a day that you will truly never forget. Renowned for her sultry, signature voice, Brown has enchanted audiences from intimate groups to large sell-out crowds while touring with iconic Kiwi musicians including Greg Johnson, Tim Finn and Jamie Cullum. The Marlborough-born blonde bombshell, who now calls the Hawke’s Bay home, is also set to release her sophomore album, The Great Heart Robbery, to coincide with New Zealand Music Month this May. The Great Heart Robbery is on sale from May 2012 and Brown is available to sing at weddings and events throughout the country. For more information visit www.sarahbrown.co.nz

New Look At City Bridal Couture To coincide with the imminent release of their new season’s collection, City Bridal Couture have launched a redesigned website. This website will make it easier for you to view their stunning gowns from the comfort of your own home. View the new website at www.citybridal.co.nz (and don’t forget to feast your eyes on our sneak preview of their new collection on page 12 of this issue of Engaged!)

Congratulations Congratulations to Kirsten McConchie who has won a pair of personalised cufflinks courtesy of Make My Day Bespoke Jewellery! These solid 925 sterling silver discs as cufflinks can be personalised with whatever, name, saying, words, or dates as long as they fit in and are the ultimate Must-Have for any Groom, Best Man or Father of the Bride! For those who didn’t win, never fear, you can still get your very own set from here: www.etsy.com/shop/NoWayOut

WEDDING PERKS We are really excited to announce a partnership with Perks to offer you some of the best wedding perks around. These arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t your half price sandwich type of deals. No, we are only interested in good quality offers from retailers and brands that you know and love. To receive these Perks, you just need to be signed up to the Weddings.co.nz newsletter or follow us on Facebook or Twitter. Most of the deals are open for a week to give you a chance to go and look at the products or services over the weekend (although some Perks have limited numbers so you might need to get in quick). At the moment, we are offering Perks from Auckland-based businesses. However, soon those of you out of Auckland will have your chance to grab a Perk so keep an eye out! Here are a few examples of some of the recent Perks that we have got for you: Save $375 on your wedding flowers from Blush by Kelly Amundsen Save $100 off Rocket Kitchenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Top No 1 selling wedding cake $100 off Exclusive Suit Hire Rental $500 off your couture John Zimmermann Wedding Gown Save $1250 of a Tony Banks Diamond Photography Wedding Package 100 personalised handmade chocolate wedding favours for only $95 save $50!

WEDDING SHOWS Wedding Expo Waitakere

Sunday 1 April 2012 9am-4pm Quality Hotel Lincoln Green Conference Centre FREE Admission & FREE Parking

The Grand Wedding Show

Sunday 15 April 2012 9am - 4pm Sky City Convention Centre, Auckland http://www.weddingshow.co.nz

Elegant Wedding Show

Sunday 15 April 2012 10:30am - 3pm Lion Foundation Arena, Edgar Centre, Dunedin http://www.elegantweddingshows.co.nz/

The Great New Zealand Bridal Show

Sunday 29 April 2012 Addington Events Centre, Christchurch http://www.thebridalshow.co.nz/

Taranaki Wedding & Events Expo

Saturday 5 May 2012 10am-4pm Quality Hotel Plymouth International

Bride & Groom Show

Sunday 6 May 2012 Ellerslie Event Centre, Auckland http://www.brideandgroomshow.co.nz

Nelson Wedding Show

Sunday 6 May 2012 10am - 3pm Trafalgar Centre, Nelson http://www.nelsonweddingshow.co.nz/

Elegant Wedding Show

Sunday 20 May 2012 10:30am - 3pm Ascot Park Hotel, Invercargill http://www.elegantweddingshows.co.nz/

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TO MARRIAGE IN SIX HOURS Words by Greg Daniels

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“What are you doing over there? Picturing me as your wife?” With these words Greg Daniels was caught out; staring, transfixed on a girl whom he’d met only a few days earlier. So it was only fitting that he rephrased the question, six years later, when asking Lynore Oakley to marry him. From the moment they met the chemistry was unmistakable. The pair were never more than a moment away from a sly joke or shared smile. Lynore was back home in NZ on holiday from her OE in the UK & Europe. Canadian-born Greg was traveling New Zealand as part of a small documentary film crew. They met at the wedding of a mutual friend and became friends while traveling the length and breadth of the South Island. Lynore recalls, “as the trip went on, I just found myself hanging on his every word.” After a month, they parted as friends but

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Greg remembers, “I was waiting to depart from Auckland airport thinking, ‘don’t leave. Get back in the car and go get the girl.’ It was a true movie moment for me,”. Six years, a daughter, two dogs and a house later, Greg’s marriage proposal was shaping up to be no less than cinematic. From a beautifully decorated marquee hidden behind the sand dunes on the Kapiti Coast, fifty of their friends and relatives were invited to witness the proposal. “The plan was to drop to one knee while on a beautiful family walk up the beach but the weather bomb that day had other ideas. I couldn’t change the date so in the pelting rain we drove to the spot where my secret microphone was within range and our friend and hidden camera man could get the best shot.” Lynore was in the back seat with their daughter Lacey Rose, “ Greg suddenly stopped, got out of the car, came round and opened the door... I think, I thought the whole thing was a bit strange because I wondered why he didn’t pick a sunny day.” After a short poem he popped the question to a slightly shocked and teary eyed Lynore to which her answer was yes. Relieved, but still very nervous, Greg pulled out an umbrella and led engaged

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his new fiancee and their daughter over the dune to their guests in waiting only to discover that they were 15 mins early. Everyone, including the camera man, had missed the moment so after apologizing to each of the guests as they arrived, the couple later braved the storm again for a reenactment. But the proposals didn’t stop there. Once back in the marquee, Greg dropped to his knee one last time and asked, “Will you marry me today?” It was only a few months earlier that Greg had decided it was time to finally propose. During the hour commute to work he’d devised a plan to not only get engaged but also be wed on the same day. “Once I found out that you only need one signature to get a marriage license, everything came together quite quickly.” Greg recruited a group of talented friends and family to help him achieve his ambitious plan.

“The last thing I wanted to do was hijack the biggest day of a girl’s life, so it was paramount that those people helping me knew Lynore and her style as well as I did.” Finding the dress was first on the list. For this Greg rang friend and owner of Paperdoll, Trina Laracy. “Trina was really the one who came up with how we could get Lynore to secretly choose her own wedding dress.” Then there was the venue. The guests were unaware of the day’s dual purpose. As both an engagement party and later ceremony venue, the marquee itself had an integral part to play. “I felt the only way Lynore would say yes to marrying me that same day would be if she was surrounded by her favourite beautiful things.” To achieve this while working over 50 hours a week, Greg again relied on their community of friends. The furnishings were lovingly donated

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by The Furnishing Affair and the decor was designed by Lovely Living while the flowers and overall coordination was impeccably handled by one of Lynore’s closest friends, Karen Rogers. “I couldn’t have done it without so many people but Karen was key. Not only did she think of everything I didn’t, she went ahead and arranged most of it. From Lynore’s hair, makeup and the band Shabam, to securing Glendoran Estate for our ceremony venue when she knew we couldn’t escape the weather bomb.” And so the stage was set for Greg’s third and final proposal. Lynore again said yes to an eruption of cheers from their guests and was then revealed the lengths to which all had gone to make the day possible: Marking their daughter, Lacey’s, height on the kitchen wall was later sent to a family friend back in Canada who made Lacey a flower girl dress. While modeling dresses for Paperdoll’s website, Lynore was actually picking her own wedding dress. Tracing Mummy, Daddy & Lacey’s hands on paper was actually Lynore’s ring sizing. After asking her sisters to be her bridesmaids, Lynore was whisked away and made ready while the flowers & decor were transferred over the hill to Glendoran Estate in Reikorangi. “I didn’t have much organized beyond the second proposal. I think part of me didn’t believe I’d pull 43

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it off. Everyone had to adapt quite quickly. The Front Room cafe were amazing. They packed up the delicious vegan and seafood nibbles and drinks they’d made and even delivered them to Glendoran.” Six hours later Lynore & Greg were married by their celebrant and friend Richard Khouzame. The ambitious and slightly mad plan of a man in love paid off. “We are just so blown away by all the incredible support from our community, family and friends. They all went above and beyond for us and we are forever grateful.”

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Through the Lens

Showcasing Photographic Excellence

Photograph by VisionWorks Photography

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Vanilla Images

Website: www.vanillaimages.co.nz Email: chris@vanillaimages.co.nz Mobile: 021 023 94008 Qualified Member NZ Institute of Professional Photography Auckland and Northland

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Suzanne McNatty - Photography by Design

Website: www.photographybydesign.co.nz Email: mcnatty@ihug.co.nz Mobile: 027 567 5990 Associate Member NZ Institute of Professional Photography Southland

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projectShot images

Award-winning wedding photography & video production Website: www.projectshot.com

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Email: info@projectshot.com Mobile: 021 685 871 Auckland

Dilworth Photography Website: www.dilworthphotography.co.nz Email: dilworthphotography@gmail.com Phone: 027 468 1865 Auckland

Greenapple Photo & Video Studio Website: www.greenapple.co.nz Mobile: 021 119 5567 Auckland

Email: wearegreenapple@gmail.com

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Amanda Wignell Photography Website: www.awp.co.nz Email: amanda@awp.co.nz Phone: 09 426 2647 Mobile: 027 615 3078 NZIPP Master of Photography Auckland and Northland (NZ Institute of Professional Photography)

Brett Lees, Unique Visions Photography Website: www.uniquevisions.co.nz Email: brett@uniquevisions.co.nz Phone: 09 8133 519 Mobile: 0274 913 061 Qualified Member NZ Institute of Professional Photography Auckland

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Jodie C Photography Website: www.jodiecphotography.co.nz

Email: info@jodiecphotography.co.nz Phone: 021 323 829 Auckland & Nationwide

Emma Hughes Photography Website: www.emmahughes.co.nz www.weddingsonwaiheke.co.nz Email: emma@emmahughes.co.nz Phone: 09 372 8729 Mobile: 021 051 3292 Waiheke and Auckland Master NZ Institute of Professional Photography

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Amy Schulz Photography

Website: www.amyschulz.co.nz Email: AmySchulzPhotography@gmail.com Mobile: 0211556071 Wellington and Nationwide

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Mike Hill Photography

Website: www.mikehillphotography.co.nz Email: info@mikehillphotography.co.nz Phone: 07 863 1180 Mobile: 021 507 537 Waihi, Nationwide & International Qualified Member NZ Institute of Professional Photography

Jan Maree Vodanovich Photography and Art Website: www.janmareeart.co.nz Email: jan@janmareeart.co.nz Phone: 09 236 8553 Mobile: 027 281 5921 Auckland, Franklin, Hamilton

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Backyard Studio

Web: www.backyardstudio.co.nz Phone: 021 143 7289 Christchurch

Email: info@backyardstudio.co.nz

New Regent Studios Website: www.photos.co.nz Email: info@photos.co.nz Phone: 03 355 4448 Mobile: 027 229 2329 Christchurch

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Jessica Photography

Website: www.jessicaphotography.co.nz Email: info@jessicaphotography.co.nz Phone: 09 537 5533 Mobile: 027 658 8831 Auckland Qualified Member NZ Institute of Professional Photography

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VisionWorks Photography

Website: www.visionworks.co.nz Email: tim@visionworks.co.nz Phone: 09 845 5925 Mobile: 021 44 88 17 Auckland

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Jeremy Hill Photography Website: www.jeremyhill.co.nz Email: enquiries@jeremyhill.co.nz Phone: (09) 8263394 Mobile: 021 2279196 Auckland

Vicky Broadbent Website: www.vickybroadbent.co.nz Qualified Member NZ Institute of Professional Photography

Email: broadbent@xtra.co.nz Phone: 021 633 404 Coromandel and Auckland

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FEATURE

HOW TO

Pre-empt A Prenup TAMMY MCLEOD FROM DAVENPORTS HARBOUR LAWYERS GIVES US SOME ADVICE ON AVOIDING THE DREADED PRENUP

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The dreaded pre-nuptial conversation before your big wedding day about to ruin any chance of happiness you thought possible with your future spouse? The concept of drawing up a legal document agreeing to who gets what in the event of a separation can raise all sorts of trust issues and can be a stressful thing to deal with for any couple - not to mention the actual nuptials! So why not get ahead of the game and get your affairs sorted before you have an altercation at the alter. You should be discussing your bright future with your beloved â&#x20AC;&#x201C; not fighting over who gets what in the event you separate. 63

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And by forming a trust you can pre-empt the dreaded prenup. A trust is an ideal way to protect your personal property and can be established long before you even meet Mr Right, says leading trust law expert Tammy McLeod. It takes the heartache out of having to think about division of personal property and assets meaning a prenup is no longer relevant and you can get on with living your life as a blissfully wedded couple. And this scenario is not just applicable to couples about to wed but also to those who have been living in a defacto relationship longer than three years where personal property can be fought over in the event of a separation. By forming a trust you can outfox any potential suitor, life partner or disguised gold digger. And itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s now easier than you would ever imagine, says Tammy of Davenports Harbour Law firm in Auckland. The concept of a trust is simple: you want to get rid of assets held in your own name and do this by putting them into trust whilst still retaining some control over them. There are many advantages to forming a trust but the four most common benefits are; 1. Secure protection of personal assets and property from

creditors and those seeking to get their grubby little hands on your worldly goods

2. Provide for existing children and family, in the event that

you separate from your current spouse and take up another relationship with someone else you can rest assured knowing that these people will be financially secure

3. Favourable taxation meaning you sometimes pay less in taxes â&#x20AC;&#x201C;

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4. Peace of mind for families who want to guarantee certain

outcomes for future generations to come ie; conditions imposed so beneficiaries can’t spend all the inheritance all at once.

Every trust is unique and tailored to your specific requirements and wishes, says Tammy who is regarded as one of New Zealand’s leading trust law specialists. Things such as special family heirlooms, debts on loans, racehorses, shares and even life insurance policies can be included in a trust. “And with the recent law change allowing for gifting of assets into trusts to take place without being taxed there’s never been a better time to get your affairs in order. As with anything however the law can change and new conditions can be legislated and implemented, but at present it’s never been easier to form a trust and get instant protection”, says Tammy who administers one of the largest collections of private trusts in the country. So if you ever got presented with a pre-nup you can always tell your fiancé there’s no need to fret with the paperwork – you already have everything protected in trust. Meaning you can spend more time trusting each other in a healthy, happy relationship.

Tammy McLeod is a Partner and trust law expert at Davenports Harbour Lawyers www.davenportsharbour.co.nz

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Joanne Joseph

This month, we have Joanne and Joesphâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s goreous engagement and wedding photos for you to enjoy. Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s more, we also have a couple of short videos so you can get a real feeling for how special their day was! Enjoy!

Credits: Jetmoproject -photographer/videographer (for majority of photos) Danskie Dijamco - photographer MK Magallanes - photographer Ginno Gomez- florist

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Same Day Edit Wedding Video (taken on the wedding day, edited on the same day within 2 hours to be shown at the reception!)

Love Story Video

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The Checklist Engaged to 9 months before Task

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Announce your engagement, including notices in the newspaper Organise for your families to meet, if they haven’t done so already Choose your bridesmaids, groomsmen, MC, flower girls, page boys Discuss the type of wedding you want, including budget Compile a draft guest list (this will help determine venue size) Choose venues for the ceremony and reception Set the date and time for the wedding Choose and book the following: • Photographer • Videographer • Entertainment • Caterer • Florist • Transport • Wedding Co-ordinator • Celebrant Start thinking about your dress (you may need to book a dressmaker) Consider purchasing wedding insurance to cover those things that are out of your control which may result in the wedding being postponed or cancelled Have an engagement party

9 months before Task

Order your wedding dress Choose your accessories: veil, jewellery, underwear, shoes and so on Choose the attire for the rest of the wedding party as applicable: • Groom • Bridesmaids • Groomsmen • Flower girls • Page boys Select stationery including: • Invitations

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• Thank you cards/notes • Place name cards • RSVP cards • Seating plan • Envelopes Book a calligrapher Send out save-the-date cards Contact rental companies to hire equipment, marquees, tables, etc Organise gift registry Start thinking about your honeymoon

6 months before Task

Order bridesmaids’ dresses Order/book the groom’s and groomsmen’s suits Help your mother and mother-in-law with their outfits Discuss your beauty regime with your beauty therapist Book in for marriage preparation course if needed Decide on and order your wedding cake Book your accommodation for the wedding night Investigate accommodation options for out of town guests Choose and purchase your wedding rings Make any honeymoon reservations

4 months before Task

Book hairdresser and make-up artist Order favours Discuss menu options with caterer/venue, including wine selection Organise entertainment if you are having children at the reception Speak with the celebrant or minister and decide on an order of service, responsibilities, speech making, readings, etc. Set your rehearsal date Let people know if they will be making a speech, doing a reading, etc Purchase wedding gifts for each other and the wedding party Organise time off work for your honeymoon Renew passports if necessary!

2 months before Task

Post invitations Write your vows Have your hair and makeup trials (remember to take your veil etc)

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Organise dancing lessons for the first dance Organise your hen’s and buck’s nights with the wedding party Confirm: • Flowers with florist – do they fit with the theme, colours, dresses • Menu with caterer • Accommodation for yourselves and your guests Organise any legal work, for example, pre-nuptial agreements, wills

1 month before Task

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Apply for your marriage licence Confirm and finalise final guest numbers Make a seating plan (allow time for disagreements!) Have your dress fittings Organise bridal party’s final fittings (including accessories) Confirm groom’s and groomsmen’s outfits are ready Write your speech Confirm honeymoon accommodation and flight bookings Organise a house-sitter for while you are on honeymoon

2 weeks before Task

Confirm with everyone that you have booked for your wedding, advise final numbers and provide a emergency contact number to: • Venue • Caterer • Celebrant/Minister • Photographer • Videographer • Entertainment • Florist • Cake maker • Stationery • Car hire company • Hairdresser • Makeup artist • Favours • Hire company Make a list of everything that needs to be set up and/or taken to the ceremony and reception Have your final dress fitting including accessories. Take your chief bridesmaid so she knows how to how to attach your train etc.

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Make sure the bridesmaids have their dresses, footwear and accessories Have your final haircut and colour before the wedding Make sure the groom has his hair cut Finalise seating plan for reception Write place cards Practise walking around in your wedding shoes Have hen’s night and buck’s night

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Pick up your wedding dress and hang it in a safe place Wedding rehearsal (you may like to give the bridal party their gifts then) Pick up hire items, including groom’s and groomsmen’s attire Confirm honeymoon arrangements Pack for honeymoon Have your engagement ring professionally cleaned Pack an emergency kit for the day Final check on arrangements and plan for the day: • Who has the rings? • Have you paid entertainers etc ahead of time or do you need to take money? • Who is taking the gifts home after the wedding? • Who is dry-cleaning your dress the next day? • Who is returning the suits? • Make sure the bridal party are aware of their roles • Give a list of important contacts to a trusted family member or friend (can be the chief bridesmaid or the mother of the bride)

The day before Task

Relax and spend some quality time on your own! Present each other with gifts and remind each other why you love the other Give wedding bands to the best man and/or chief bridesmaid to hold during the ceremony

The big day Enjoy yourself!

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