Engaged Wedding Magazine - March 2011

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Notes from the Editors...

What a month it has been.

The devastation in Christchurch has obviously been filling our hearts and minds over the past week and our thoughts go out to everyone affected by this tragic event.

Cover Credits: Photography: Jessica Higueras from Jessica Photography www.jessicaphotography.co.nz

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One of the few positives that have been witnessed from this event is witnessing the strength and resilience that those directly affected by the quake have shown. One amazing example of this is Emma Howard and Chris Greenslade.

Emma was trapped under her desk in the earthquake, was eventually rescued and then married Chris only a couple of days later. This determination not to let the earthquake get the best of them was truly inspirational.

Times like this certainly make us think about what is truly important - family and friends. For those planning weddings, it is also a reminder not to sweat the small stuff, but instead look at the big picture: sharing your day with friends and family.

Keep safe.

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New Associate at Jessica Photography Jessica Photography Ltd is very proud to announce and welcome Jared Luke as an Associate, working as a senior photographer for Jessica Photography Ltd. Jared brings with him a great natural talent, a well-developed portfolio and some well-honed skills. He is looking forward to getting started at Jessica Photography. “Photographing any wedding is always a privilege and a pleasure,” says Jared. “I know it will be even more so under the expert guidance of Jessica, and having the support of her team.”

To celebrate, Jessica and Jared would like to offer a FREE Engagement Shoot for couples that book Jared to cover their wedding. Offer will be available only until end of June 2011.

For bookings or enquiries, please visit www.jessicaphotography.co.nz

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WIN ONE OF TEN COSTUMES! The good folk at Grippers.co.nz have kindly given us five female and five male costumes to give away to ten lucky readers!

Grippers.co.nz have an amazing range of costumes perfect for your hen and stag party.

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Get in behind the Christchurch earthquake appeal!

Anna Schimmel Bridal Designer has started a great initiative to raise money for the Christchurch earthquake appeal. For every wedding gown deposit received in the month of March she will donate $100 to a relevant charity. She has also challenged other wedding suppliers to match her.

Rising to the challenge so far are a number of fantastic businesses including: Nicola Inglis Photography: $100 from each deposit in March Artisian Cakes - 10 percent of the value of each cake, macaroon and cookie booked/deposited in March Paul Nicholas Photography - $100 from each deposit in March WHITE Wedding Video - $120 from each deposit paid in March City Cake Company - $100 from each deposit in March Ruby & Willow Design Studio - 10 percent from all deposits paid in March for new stationery orders Click here to check out the Anna Schimmel Bridal Design facebook page for details of which businesses are joining in.

All other wedding vendors out there, rise to the challenge and match Anna Schimmelâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s donation!

Brides, make sure you support those businesses as they try to do their bit to help those affected in Christchurch!

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It’s the little details that count, and when you are planning your wedding it’s these details that make your day that much more special.

One of the very first tastes of what is to come for your guests is the invite. That pristine white envelope, waiting in their post box, the perfect precursor to what awaits.

It’s instantly exciting to receive. Careful not to rip the keepsake, the envelope is opened and you instantly know that what you are viewing is just the tip of something magical.

Anna Matjasec appreciates the magnitude of the occasion and has come up with a new range of contemporary and stylish wedding invites designed with the environment in mind.

Once we saw Anna’s new range of invites, we wanted to share them with you. The mixture of classic and contemporary is sure to suit almost any wedding.

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Your guide to dove and butterfly releases

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very bride wants to create a little bit of magic on her wedding day. With confetti, rice and balloons being frowned upon for environmental reasons, a lot of ceremonies are now including dove or butterfly releases to provide a stunningly visual way of celebrating the coupleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s first moments as husband and wife.

As soon as you mention doves, the words peace and love come to mind. They are a symbol of purity and grace, with the white dove in particular being seen as a symbol of new beginnings, fidelity, prosperity and true love. As Doveblessings put it â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;as a symbol of true love, doves choose one partner and mate for life, therefore doves are a very fitting addition to any weddingâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;. So, what actually happens in a dove release?

Brides and grooms have the choice of a hand release or flock release. In the hand release, the bride and groom each hold a dove, both of which are released at the same time. The flock release involves the bride and groom releasing two birds from their hands or a box, plus a larger number of doves being released shortly afterwards to join the original two in the sky.

The release can be accompanied by the reading of a poem, scripture or some writing personal to the couple.

Doves are trained from a young age to return home and are especially selected for this ability. There are a couple of requirements for the release to be successful and to ensure the doves make it home in time: they need to be released in good weather and at least one hour prior to sunset to give them time.

With butterflies, the symbolism is about new beginnings, good fortune and joy. When released, the butterflies seem to weave amongst the guests, as if making sure everyone gets some of that fortune and joy.

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Butterflies can also be released in a number of different ways.

The first is where selected guests (including the wedding party) are given a box with a single butterfly in it and those guests then release the butterfly at a nominated time in the ceremony.

The guests releasing the butterflies may be pre-selected, or the boxes with the butterflies may be distributed much like traditional confetti or bubbles. Alternatively, a mass release of the butterflies can be arranged.

Generally, Monarch butterflies are used as they are strong and suited to the transport and packaging required for the release.

Being cold-blooded, the butterflies are kept in cool and dark conditions whilst transported so that they go into a natural hibernation-type sleep. At the ceremony, the butterflies are warmed up when they are distributed to guests, which makes

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them amenable to flying when they are released. Of course, if it is a cold, windy or rainy day, the butterflies wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to come out of their sleepy state and therefore butterflies cannot be released on these types of days. Like doves, butterflies also need to be released before sunset so they can find food and shelter. They should also never be released inside.

Apparently there is an ancient butterfly legend that says if you want a wish to come true, whisper it to a butterfly!

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The Dreaded Speech

Engagedâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s guide to wedding speeches

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peeches…not many of us like making them. Our palms sweat, our hearts race, we speak too fast, trip over our words, and when the speech is over, take many minutes before that fluttery feeling goes away. Of course, some people are naturals. For those of you that are not, we have Engaged’s tips on how to survive.

The first and most important thing to remember is that the people you are speaking to are your friends and family. They love and care for you and are not there to criticise or pick holes in your speech or speaking style.

The second is that preparation is vitally important. Give yourself time to draft and write your speech and time to practise it. This process helps you feel comfortable about the pace and content of your speech and makes sure you don’t forget anyone – especially not your new husband or wife!

It helps to know the traditional things you should include in your speech as that provides a good framework. The following are set out in the order speeches are traditionally made.

Your wedding is a truly memorable day. Allow yourself enough time to make sure your speech matches the occasion. Practise, practise and more practise will have you speaking like a professional!

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Father of the Bride

The bride’s father traditionally speaks first. In his speech he should: • • • •

Say how proud he and his wife are of their daughter; Welcome his new son-in-law; Welcome the groom’s parents; Say that he is very confident of the new couple’s future together and impart any words of wisdom about successful marriages. This is not a chance to lecture!! Short and sweet is best; • Toast to the bride and groom.

The speech, as with all of the others following, should be peppered with stories about the bride (and groom). Make sure you read the rules about what not to say!

The Groom

The groom will reply on behalf of himself and his new bride. should:

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• Thank his father-in-law for his speech and the comments in it; • Thank the bride’s parents for such a beautiful daughter and allowing him to marry her; • Thank his own parents for everything they have done throughout his life; • Thank the guests for coming and their presents; • This one is extremely important – tell his bride how wonderful (and beauitful!) she is and how lucky he is to have her; • Thank his best man and acknowledge the friendship and support he has given; • Thank any helpers (see the what not to say box for tips);

• If a close family member or friend is absent, express regret that they cannot be there to share the day; • Propose a toast to the bridesmaids.

Best Man

The best man will reply on behalf of the Bridesmaids: • Offer thanks on behalf of the Bridesmaids for the groom’s toast and adding a few compliments of his own toward them; • Make a comment about how lucky the groom is to have found the bride; • Talk about what a good friend and man the groom is; • Read any telegrams or emails; • Advise the program for the rest of the evening (if the MC has not already done so).

Anyone else?

After these three speak, the father of the groom, the bride or any other guest may wish to speak. To ensure it is not a free-for-all, make sure everyone knows who is going to speak and firmly, but gently, limit the number of speakers if necessary.

If you wish to open the floor to any of the guests to speak, ensure that the MC takes control of the situation: often the guests will have been drinking for a couple of hours prior and the speech might become a bit of a drunken ramble!

Now that you have the framework for your speech, check out the following pages for tips on how to make your speech easier - on yourself and those listening!

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Tips from the experts: • Yes, we are repeating ourselves, but prepare your speech well in advance. Make sure you haven’t missed anything out by reading and re-reading it.

• Write or type your speech in a dark-coloured ink on easily manageable cards. This will make the speech easy to read and, if you have memorised it, allow you to glance at the cards to prompt you if your nerves kick in.

• Keep it short. Five minutes maximum is good.

• Try not to repeat yourself or certain phrases.

• Don’t forget to bring your speech! Double check before you leave the house.

• Be clear on what you need to say and what others will be saying so you don’t overlap and bore the guests.

• Don’t drink too much before you speak. Whilst one drink can calm the nerves, several can turn you into a blathering idiot.

• Speak slowly and clearly.

• It is best not to deviate from your speech as you could end up saying something you regret.

• Don’t forget to breathe!

(Adapted from ‘Wedding Etiquette: The What, How & When of Weddings’ by Pat and Bill Derraugh.)

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What not to say: The following are definitely out when making a speech at a wedding (or anywhere for that matter!): • Don’t tell dirty or smutty stories. There will usually be a wide range of ages and sensitivities at the wedding and you don’t know who you will offend. If the story is about the bride or groom, this goes double! It’s a day for romance.

• The above dovetails with any stories about the groom’s (or bride’s) romantic conquests. Best to leave stories about any dodgy past in the past and instead stick with humorous anecdotes.

• Don’t make a long ‘thank you’ list. Try to weave your thanks into the wedding speech. You don’t have to thank the reception venue staff or other suppliers – instead, a better idea is to send a handwritten note after the event. Of course, this doesn’t apply if the mother-of-the-bride made the cake. Make sure she is thanked in the speeches.

• Speaking of mother-in-law jokes, don’t do them. Generally they aren’t that funny and you know there will be at least one or two mothers-in-law present that could be offended.

• Use a bit of discretion. Check before mentioning a decreased family member. Don’t mention family secrets like alcoholism or any prison sentences. Don’t talk about previous marriages. Remember the romance and fairytale feeling of the day.

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he stag night, bucks’ night, or bachelor party… hands up all those brides who, as soon as they hear those words, imagine strippers and their dearly beloved chained to a lamp post in the middle of Queen St? It’s enough to strike fear into the heart of any bride-to-be, with legendary stories of stag nights gone wrong circulating via email or wordof-mouth. Or imagine the degree of trepidation felt by some grooms – how much does he trust his so-called best mates and does he really think he will have both of his eyebrows at the end of the night?

It doesn’t have to be all bad.

The stag night should be thought of as a bonding experience for the groom and his besties. A chance to hang out together as single men for the last time, to swap outlandish tales of past conquests (half of which probably aren’t true) and to reminisce about good times had.

In an earlier issue of Engaged, we gave some tips for organising the best hens’ night ever. Now here are our tips for the best man, groomsmen and any others responsible for ensuring that the groom has a stag do.

Planning Planning of the stag do is normally left to the best man, so if you are reading this and you aren’t the best man, you might want to pass it on...

Try to plan as early as possible. Get a few guidelines from the groom as to what he wants. Sure, it is your number one duty to embarrass the hell out of him, but having the groom paralysed by fear at the thought of getting up close and personal with a

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stripper doesn’t make for a good night for him.

Find out who the groom wants to invite along. Get suggestions from those invited and get an idea as to budget. Is the groom the sporty type? Adventurous? A wine buff? Try to tailor the night to the groom’s interests and make it memorable for him. This does require a bit of forethought. Just meeting at the local and deciding from there on the night doesn’t usually make for a special night.

If your activities are spread out geographically, think about transport so no one is responsible for driving. Allow plenty of time to get from venue to venue. Organising drunken men is like herding cats and takes a little more time and effort.

Consider having a uniform for the event - this may be costumes or even just t-shirts made for the occasion (check out grippers.co.nz for some ideas).

Planning will also ensure you avoid scheduling the stag night for the same night as any major rugby or cricket fixture.

Solids It’s a great idea to plan on eating something during the day.

Whether it’s a pie after your first paint ball session or a picnic with your wine tasting tour, get some food into everyone. Or just go for a kebab at 3am. Your choice.

More on money Especially at the moment while times are tough, make sure you let everyone know up front what the costs are (including or excluding drinks) and get a commitment. Some sort of pre-payment is always

a good idea when booking activities – you don’t want to be left with a big bill for a confirmed booking when half the party pull out due to funds being ‘a bit tight, mate’.

Evidence Make sure you take loads of pics. You can use this to blackmail the groom later. Just kidding. The photos will be a reminder of what great mates the groom really has. Really.

Video, on the other hand, isn’t necessary. Posting a video of the stag night on You-Tube probably won’t endear anyone to either the bride or groom! The old adage of “what goes on on tour, stays on tour” is a good one to follow.

Big Brother Make sure you look after the groom. Hopefully he will wake up the next day, remembering everything and regretting nothing.

It is your job to remember that he has planned to marry his sweetheart for a long time and he doesn’t want to jeopardise that with a drunken pash with some girl he has never meet before.

You don’t have to babysit him, just keep an eye out. He is your best mate after all. And for God’s sake, don’t lose him.

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Some ideas: • Head out on a fishing weekend - hire a charter boat and go and catch the big one!

• Spend the weekend surfing • Off-road biking or quad bikes • Jet boating • Paintball • Go karting - hire out a track and organise a full Grand Prix competition • V8 car racing • Back yard cricket - set up a full tournament • Lawn bowls - use your local bowling club (the beer is normally pretty cheap as well!)

• Sumo wrestling • Bungy Jump • Bridge Climb • Wine tour • Pub crawl - find pubs that brew their own beer and go on a tasting mission • Team cocktails • Organise a ride in a rally car • Go clay-target shooting • Have a weekend of golf - tour some of your local golf clubs • If you aren’t any good at the real thing, have a mini golf tournament • Hire out a private dining room at a nice restaurant and treat yourselves to a degustation menu • Ten pin bowling tournament • Poker tournament • Any combination of the above!

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One thing that often gets overlooked in any beauty preparations are your nails. In everyday life, we often concentrate on our face, hair and body, forgetting that your hands are going to be very much on show during your wedding day.

Almost every guest will ask to see your ring and the photographer will almost certainly take a picture of your hands entwined with the rings clearly visible.

So what do you do to get your nails in â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;look at meâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; condition?

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Going natural If you intend to ‘go natural’ with your nails, you will need to start 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Have weekly manicures (either at a salon, or using the do-it-yourself process below).

Ideally, your nails should be fairly strong to start with and you shouldn’t be a nail biter – if nail biting is an ingrained habit, any wedding nerves might make you start up again, undoing all your good work!

Here’s how to give yourself a manicure: • Remove any old polish. Acetone-free nail polish remover is less drying and more gentle on the nail. Often it is better to hold a remover-soaked cotton ball or pad on the nail for a few seconds, then press downwards and pull towards the tip of the nail.

• Use an emery board or file to shape the nail. File from corner to centre and don’t file in a see-saw motion: this can cause the nail to split or ridges to appear on the nail.

Aim for a rounded or square shape as these shapes are the strongest.

• Soak your hands in warm, soapy water for a few minutes.

This softens cuticles and removes any dirt. After you remove your hands from the water, push the cuticles back (gently) and clean under the nail edge using an orangewood stick. Never cut your cuticles – this is one step left to the professionals as if the cuticle is cut incorrectly, the nail can die!

• Dry hands thoroughly and then apply a base coat to your nails. Allow the base coat to dry completely, then apply

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two coats of your favourite colour, followed by a shine sealer.

• Nails should be left to dry for at least an hour: this means avoid getting the car keys out of your pocket, washing dishes, hanging out washing, typing…sounds like a perfect time to sit back and get your man to give you a foot rub!

• Lastly, apply a good quality moisturiser to the hands and cuticles. Try doing this a couple of times a day and feel the difference!

Need help?

If your nails have a tendency to split (or you have a habit of biting them!), artificial nails may be for you. Made from a wide variety of materials, artificial nails can either look as natural as real fingernails or be miniature works of art. Most brides go for the natural look: it complements the bridal look and won’t age in photos.

There are two main procedures for getting artificial nails.

The first is nail tips. These are lightweight plastic nail-shaped plates that are glued on to the end of the natural nail and then acrylic or gel is applied over the entire nail. The second is forms. Forms are fitted over the nail and then an artificial nail is molded out of acrylic or gel on the nail. The form is removed, then the acrylic or gel is shaped and buffed.

There are a few popular materials for nails. Acrylics harden within 30-40 seconds after application and cures to final hardness after about an hour. Acetone is generally used

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to remove acrylics (a process that takes about 20 minutes). UV gel (which is a polymer resin) hardens under ultraviolet light. UV gel nails may be stronger and more flexible but more expensive.

These type of nails are removed by filing or being left to grow out.

Lastly, there are fibreglass or silk wraps, which may be good for those allergic to the chemicals used in the acrylic or gel process.

Fibreglass or silk fabric is cut to fit on the surface of the nail or tip and then is sealed down with resin or glue.

Nail extensions can take some time to get used to, so we would recommend having a trial at least two weeks before the wedding.

You will also need to get the nails in-filled every two weeks, so that appointment should be booked for the day before the wedding.

In-filling is necessary as your natural nails grow and the artificial nail moves with it away from the cuticle.

You can get your nail colour or art applied at the same time as the in-fills are done. Talk to your nail technician about colours and effects, remembering that some styles may date in photographs.

Also talk to your manicurists about after-care for when you are on honeymoon.

Make sure you ask for recommendations for nail salons, as it is very important that the person applying the nails knows what they are doing. They need to know how to deal correctly with the chemicals they are using, what to do if allergies appear, and they need to be aware of the dangers of the nail separating from the nail bed, damaging the nail root. With a properly qualified professional, you will literally be in good hands!

Compliment, not clash Your bridesmaids should also have their nails done, so that their look is â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;polishedâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;. This can be done during the preparation time the morning of the wedding (they can help each other out), or ideally, the day before so their nails have time to dry before they start rushing around after you!

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Their nails should compliment yours, should not clash and preferably match each other.

Feet treat Don’t forget those tootsies! If you are wearing open-toed (or open-heeled) shoes, make sure your feet get the same treatment as your hands. Book in for a pedicure or use the same steps as the at-home manicure above.

And if your heels are a little, uh, rough, try slathering them with a heavy-duty moisturiser each night, slipping on some cotton socks and then hopping into bed to let the cream work its magic overnight.

It’s not just a girl thing Remember that the groom’s hands will also be on view. Treat him to a manicure a day or two before the wedding, and make sure he doesn’t intend to change the oil in the car between the manicure and the marriage!

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The Checklist Engaged to 9 months before Task

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Announce your engagement, including notices in the newspaper Organise for your families to meet, if they haven’t done so already Choose your bridesmaids, groomsmen, MC, flower girls, page boys Discuss the type of wedding you want, including budget Compile a draft guest list (this will help determine venue size) Choose venues for the ceremony and reception Set the date and time for the wedding Choose and book the following: • Photographer • Videographer • Entertainment • Caterer • Florist • Transport • Wedding Co-ordinator • Celebrant Start thinking about your dress (you may need to book a dressmaker) Consider purchasing wedding insurance to cover those things that are out of your control which may result in the wedding being postponed or cancelled Have an engagement party

9 months before Task

Order your wedding dress Choose your accessories: veil, jewellery, underwear, shoes and so on Choose the attire for the rest of the wedding party as applicable: • Groom • Bridesmaids • Groomsmen • Flower girls • Page boys Select stationery including: • Invitations

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• Thank you cards/notes • Place name cards • RSVP cards • Seating plan • Envelopes Book a calligrapher Send out save-the-date cards Contact rental companies to hire equipment, marquees, tables, etc Organise gift registry Start thinking about your honeymoon

6 months before Task

Order bridesmaids’ dresses Order/book the groom’s and groomsmen’s suits Help your mother and mother-in-law with their outfits Discuss your beauty regime with your beauty therapist Book in for marriage preparation course if needed Decide on and order your wedding cake Book your accommodation for the wedding night Investigate accommodation options for out of town guests Choose and purchase your wedding rings Make any honeymoon reservations

4 months before Task

Book hairdresser and make-up artist Order favours Discuss menu options with caterer/venue, including wine selection Organise entertainment if you are having children at the reception Speak with the celebrant or minister and decide on an order of service, responsibilities, speech making, readings, etc. Set your rehearsal date Let people know if they will be making a speech, doing a reading, etc Purchase wedding gifts for each other and the wedding party Organise time off work for your honeymoon Renew passports if necessary!

2 months before Task

Post invitations Write your vows Have your hair and makeup trials (remember to take your veil etc)

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Organise dancing lessons for the first dance Organise your hen’s and buck’s nights with the wedding party Confirm: • Flowers with florist – do they fit with the theme, colours, dresses • Menu with caterer • Accommodation for yourselves and your guests Organise any legal work, for example, pre-nuptial agreements, wills

1 month before Task

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Apply for your marriage licence Confirm and finalise final guest numbers Make a seating plan (allow time for disagreements!)

Have your dress fittings Organise bridal party’s final fittings (including accessories) Confirm groom’s and groomsmen’s outfits are ready Write your speech Confirm honeymoon accommodation and flight bookings Organise a house-sitter for while you are on honeymoon

2 weeks before Task

Confirm with everyone that you have booked for your wedding, advise final numbers and provide a emergency contact number to: • Venue • Caterer • Celebrant/Minister • Photographer • Videographer • Entertainment • Florist • Cake maker • Stationery • Car hire company • Hairdresser • Makeup artist • Favours • Hire company Make a list of everything that needs to be set up and/or taken to the ceremony and reception Have your final dress fitting including accessories. Take your chief bridesmaid so she knows how to how to attach your train etc.

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Make sure the bridesmaids have their dresses, footwear and accessories Have your final haircut and colour before the wedding Make sure the groom has his hair cut Finalise seating plan for reception Write place cards Practise walking around in your wedding shoes Have hen’s night and buck’s night

1 week before Task

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Pick up your wedding dress and hang it in a safe place Wedding rehearsal (you may like to give the bridal party their gifts then) Pick up hire items, including groom’s and groomsmen’s attire Confirm honeymoon arrangements Pack for honeymoon Have your engagement ring professionally cleaned Pack an emergency kit for the day Final check on arrangements and plan for the day: • Who has the rings?

• Have you paid entertainers etc ahead of time or do you need to take money?

• Who is taking the gifts home after the wedding?

• Who is dry-cleaning your dress the next day?

• Who is returning the suits?

• Make sure the bridal party are aware of their roles • Give a list of important contacts to a trusted family member or friend (can be the chief bridesmaid or the mother of the bride)

The day before Task

Relax and spend some quality time on your own!

Present each other with gifts and remind each other why you love the other Give wedding bands to the best man and/or chief bridesmaid to hold during the ceremony

The big day Enjoy yourself!

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