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Vol. 39 | Issue 19 | February 13-19, 2019
News & Views
Publisher - Chris Keating Associate Publisher - Jim Cohen
Feedback/Comics ................. 8 Informed Dissent ................ 10 News Hits ............................ 14
Feature: The Lust Issue Dannie Diesel ...................... 20 The Dirty Show turns 20 .... 22 The return of reader dating horror stories ....................... 24 Valentines for Detroit ......... 26
EDITORIAL Editor in Chief - Lee DeVito Investigative Reporter - Steve Neavling Dining Editor - Tom Perkins Music and Listings Editor - Jerilyn Jordan Web Editor - Devin Culham Copy Editor - Dave Mesrey Contributing Editors - Michael Jackman, Larry Gabriel Editorial Interns - Jessica D’Alfonso, Mike Dionne, Will Feuer, Angela Zielinski, Ariel Whitely
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Review: Antihero ............... 28
What’s Going On ............... 32 Fast Forward ....................... 38
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Arts & Culture Pop art at the DIA ............... 40 Senghor Reid ...................... 42 Film: The Lego Movie 2 ..... 44 Higher Ground .................... 46 Savage Love ........................ 50 Horoscopes .......................... 58 On the cover: Artwork by Glenn Barr
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NEWS & VIEWS A letter from the editor Metro Times is pleased to welcome Steve Neavling to our team as a fulltime investigative reporter. Lovers of local news will likely recall Neavling’s name from Motor City Muckraker, the independent news website he launched in 2012 after getting fired from the Detroit Free Press for yelling at then-Detroit City Council President Charles Pugh. (Pugh is now in prison for having sex with a minor.) A list of other enemies Neavling has made includes former Detroit Fire Department commissioner Edsel Jenkins, who resigned after a monthslong series of Muckraker reports, and the Detroit
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Police Department, who probably aren’t happy with Neavling’s recent series with journalist Charlie LeDuff regarding the city’s long police response times. Indeed, Neavling’s stories have led to reforms, resignations, and FBI investigations. In 2014, the Columbia Journalism Review called Neavling “one of the most hated men in Detroit” because of his tenacious reporting. Originally from Harrisburg, Pa., Neavling has lived in Detroit since 2010. We’re looking forward to seeing what this newshound comes up with in the pages of MT. —Lee DeVito Have an opinion? Of course you do! Send feedback to letters@metrotimes.com.
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NEWS & VIEWS Informed Dissent
You’ll miss us when we’re gone By Jeffrey C. Billman
On Feb. 2, Jane Elizabeth, the
managing editor of the Raleigh News & Observer and Durham Herald-Sun in North Carolina’s Research Triangle, tweeted that a “good portion” of the a er s staff and e er other Clat h newsroom would e offered u outs he usiness model ma e ro en ut journalism is not she wrote ournalism su orts demo ra demo ra su orts journalism our nalism will outlast us all he fa es and latforms and te hnolog will hange ut journalism sur i es as long as de mo ra does
t s a han e to retire earl ut what ha ens if not enough eo le ta e Clat h u on the offer e ll ha e to see hat s roje ting into the future whi h we re not allowed to do e ause we re a u li l traded om an thin ou an read etween those lines egal re iousl told the Columbia Journalism Review e ho e that offering earl oluntar retirement and shifting to a fun tional organi ation will reate enough sa ings in o erating e enses to a oid la offs ore than an thing these news a ers are i tims of the dum ster fire of a om an that owns them s o nter
and that Craig s a tual om ensation remains lower than his other peer media C s at annett and ri une n fa t annett s C who just announ ed a la off of eo le re ei es three times more] total compensation than Craig annett a tuall laid off eo le according to New York maga ine orth noting ts C will retire this ear nd it just fended off a hostile ta eo er from the hedge fund lden Global Capital, which Washington Post media olumnist argaret ulli an alled one of the most ruthless of the or orate stri miners seemingl intent on destro ing lo al journalism after it e is erated the Denver Post his isn t just a Clat h ro lem t s an industr ro lem anuar was terrif ing for m rofession he ig digital la ers Buzzfeed, Vice, HuffPo all slashed their staffs lt wee lies ha en t een immune ormer titans li e the Village Voice, the Boston
Some of the McClatchy dailies affected by the buyouts.
d offer a more essimisti s in on that last part: Democracy will last as long as journalism does, not the other wa around nd if we don t figure out a wa to a for journalism journalism es e iall lo al journalism will die n e Clat h offered olun tar earl retirement u outs to a out em lo ees at its news a ers in states in luding the Miami Herald, the Charlotte Observer, the Kansas City Star, and the Sacramento Bee a out er ent of the om an s wor for e he were all o er the age of 55 and were eligible for pensions, meaning the d een there for at least ears he ha e until e to de ide whether to ta e the u outs Clat h s o eswoman eanne e gal stresses that this is not a staff ut
re orted in e tem er Clat h is saddled with nearl million in de t and its mar et a is the lowest of the se en u li l traded news a er om anies Clat h sto has lost almost all its alue to in estors o nter noted en so in C Craig orman too home million in salar sto awards and a onus the Miami New Times re orted ording to the CJR his newest ontra t has a mil lion ase salar a million onus and a a month housing sti end egal sa s the housing sti end is sim l a wa to a ture all of orman s e enses in luding ne essar e enses for safet and se urit rom ted threats we are not at li ert to dis uss he also sa s he s fro en his ase salar
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Phoenix, the San Francisco Bay Guardian, and m alma mater Philadelphia City Paper, ha e losed hile these a ers don t ha e shareholders reath ing down their ne s and most of them ha e owners who elie e the re doing a u li ser i e rather than has ing a u the re still gra ling with smaller newsrooms and newsholes he e e tions to the rule are the New York Times and Washington Post, where a rising national su s ri tion ase dri en the rum frea show has made u for de lining rint ad er tising ut local journalism is in risis Jane Elizabeth is right: The model is ro en es there are ra a ious short sighted or orations to lame nd es the industr was too omforta le in the fat rofit margins of ore and too
slow to adapt to changes in information onsum tion ut there s also a fundamental ro lem e e tried to su lement de lining rint ad ertising with in reased digital ad ertising and for man dailies a walls ut oogle and a e oo ha e s oo ed u almost all of the digital re enue er ent etween just those two om anies in and eo le e ame a limated to getting their internet content for free nd e ause the remaining digital ad re enue is de endent on age iews media chains are cheapening their own rodu ts hurning out loads of aggre gation to hit li uotas Larger dailies still ha e e ellent in estigati e and statewide des s that do ig roje ts and win awards nd there are still good re orters wor ing eats ut there s usuall not enough of them to dig dee er than what ha ened at the it oun il meeting nd when journalism fails to get e ond this su erfi ial le el or, worse, when local newspapers close, as has ha ened nearl times in the last three ears or ru tion ourishes n fa t resear hers ha e found that in areas where papers closed, muni i al ond osts soared, an indication that the owerful ta e ad antage of us when no one’s holding them to a ount tories are eing missed, and we don’t e en now what stories we re missing he fewer reporters we ha e the more stories we ll miss and the more demo ra will suffer for it No matter how smart and diligent the re orters that s an ines a a le realit ur anal sis one of those resear h ers Chang Lee of the ni ersit of llinois at Chi ago told Cit La last ear suggests that news a er om a nies or the information the ro ide is a u li good and it s worth ro iding ut if we don t finan e it no one will rodu e it d li e to e as o timisti as li a eth eo le want journalism so journalism will ersist ut Lee s right omeone has to a for it to ma e it sustaina le ight now journalism has a ro lem nd journalism s ro lem is demo ra s ro lem Additional reporting by Cole Villena.
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on sale friday:
coming soon concert calendar:
2/15 – chris lane
w/ paulina jayne low tickets
2/17 – palisades @ the shelter
w/ savage hands & dead silent
2/18 – Like A Storm @ the shelter w/ Royal Tusk & Afterlife
jones jun. 19 howard w/ men without hats,
apr. 18 gunna
st. andrew’s all hail the silence
st. andrew’s w/ shy glizzy
coming soon:
2/21 – Action Bronson w/ Meyhem Lauren
2/28 – The Cadillac Three w/ Republican Hair
3/7 – frisky whisky - whiskey,
burlesque, craft beer, & live art 21+
3/8 – zoso - a tribute to led zeppelin 18+ 3/9 – moneybagg yo 3/11 – kodie shane @ the shelter w/ baby goth
feb. 19
peter muprhy
40 years of bauhaus w/ david j, st. andrew’s desert mountain tribe & dj pleasure kitten low tickets
feb. 25 sheck wes st. andrew’s
3/12– bones 3/14 – born of osiris w/ chelsea grin, make them suffer, kingdom of giants
3/15 – the black queen @ the shelter 18+
3/16 – haywyre @ the shelter 18+ 3/17 – sabrina carpenter 3/18 – children of bodom me at six feb. 27 you w/ dreamers & machineheart st. andrew’s
mar. 9 moneybagg yo st. andrew’s
w/ swallow the sun & wolfheart
3/19 – as i lay dying
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NEWS & VIEWS
News Hits
Farewell, John Dingell
The Congressman mourned ‘an uncivil war’ two months before death at 92 By Steve Neavling
John D. Dingell
Jr., the longest-serving member of Congress and a staunch advocate of the U.S. auto industry and universal health care, died Feb. 7 after receiving hospice care. He was 92. Dingell was one of the most in uential and feared mem ers of Congress, serving under 12 presidents and becoming a master of legislative deal-making. irst ele ted in to fill the House seat vacated by his late father — John D. Dingell, who had served 23 years in the House — Dingell Jr. was not a dogmatic Democrat. While he helped pass the Civil Rights Act and fought for Medicare, he had gone headto-head with his own party over environmental issues because of his loyalty to the auto industry. An avid hunter who had adorned his o e with a ussian wild boar, a white-tailed deer, and two pairs of elk antlers, Dingell often fought against gun control and at one time was an avid supporter of the NRA. By the end of his last term in 2014, Dingell relied on a cane or motorized cart to get around the Capitol. His wife, Debbie Dingell, who was 27 years his junior, replaced her husband in Congress in 2015. Dingell never lost his wry sense
John Dingell.
Police wipe out homeless camps in Detroit, seize belongings By Steve Neavling Detroit police wiped out two makeshift camping spots for homeless people this week, leaving them shivering and without their belongings or a dry place to sleep. Police seized sleeping bags, tents, coats, hats, shoes, gloves, and anything else found in the underground area of Hart Plaza and underneath an overpass by Joe Louis Arena last week. For decades, the
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makeshift camps have been popular for homeless people in a city that does not have enough shelters. “What they did was totally wrong,” Howard, a 66-year-old homeless senior in tears, told WXYZ, whi h first ro e the stor Howard said police took his wallet and ID, making it di ult for him to get hel Cit o ials tell Metro Times that the areas were unsanitary, attracted rats, and were the focus of an effort to mo e homeless eo le into more ermanent housing. Before last month’s arctic polar vortex, which saw a blast of subzero temperatures, the it offered to mo e those li ing in the am s to shelters, where people could take advantage
of additional services, Sgt. Nicole Kirkwood tells Metro Times. Kirkwood says the homeless people were given ample warning and plenty of opportunities to move into shelters. But some people decided to stay. Some homeless people don’t want to stay in shelters because they can be dangerous. In 2013, the American Civil Liberties Union alleged Detroit police were abducting homeless eo le and dro ing them off miles awa The most impoverished big city in the nation, Detroit has more than 1,000 homeless people, according to a 2018 “point-in-time” count.
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NEWS & VIEWS of humor and built a cult following on Twitter with more than 250,000 followers. A day before his death, on Wednesday, Dingell di tated his final tweet to his wife. “I want to thank you all for your incredibly kind words and prayers,” he tweeted. “You’re not done with me just yet.” In February 2009, when Dingell became the longest-serving member of Congress, former President Bill Clinton praised the legendary lawmaker for “the quality of his service … the depth of his convictions and the astonishing energy he still brings.” Soon after learning about Dingell’s death, Clinton tweeted, “There are few major legislative triumphs since 1955 that he didn’t have a key hand in passing.” Detroit Mayor Mike Duggan said he was “deeply saddened by the death of John Dingell.” “He will be remembered as one of the greatest legislators in American history who never forgot about the people he served and the city of Detroit,” Duggan said. “While it’s hard to imagine a world without John Dingell, his legacy of working to improve people’s lives will last forever.” Two months ago, as Dingell’s health was deteriorating, he took to Reddit to answer questions. “That is the greatest satisfaction of a representative: to be able to fi someone s ro lem Dingell wrote on Reddit. “Government is not your enemy; it is us working together for the good of us all.” When asked about the bitter divide in politics today, Dingell mourned “the absence of civility.” “Partisan bickering stinks, and it goes back to Greek, Roman, and Babylonian times. It seems to be getting more and more intense,” Dingell said. “The level of partisan bickering and how it has prevented us from coming together to do the people’s work is one of the things that propelled me into leaving the Congress. We now find oursel es in an un i il war with one another. The absence of civility has poisoned the process.” At one point, Dingell said it was time to eat his favorite sandwich — peanut butter and mayonnaise.
Southfield mayor turns down sex doll ‘brothel’ By Lee DeVito The mayor of outhfield insists the city will not, in fact, be home to the nation s first se doll rothel and that there will never be such a business in the city. Yep, that would be pretty much e a tl what it sounds li e a la e to rent a room to ha e se with a high end realisti sili one se doll “This is never going to happen to outhfield a or en i er told the Detroit Free Press Thursday afternoon. “We just don’t want to be known as the lo ation for se doll rothels On Thursday, numerous outlets reported the city was approached by a Canadian se doll om an last ear about the possibility of opening shop in the city. If approved, they would be the first su h esta lishments in the though the ha e e isted o erseas for years. (They’re big in Japan.) The city reportedly issued a 180-day moratorium to study the matter, and then issued another 180-moratorium after that with a it attorne e e ted to offer a re ommendation on the matter by the summer. However, Mayor Siver says the city is opposed to the matter, and that he e e ts it oun il will draft an ordinance to outright ban the businesses.
Midtown McDonald’s says it’s severing ties with ‘predatory’ Breakthrough Towing By Lee DeVito Midtown Detroit’s McDonald’s has announced it is severing ties with Breakthrough Towing following months of re orts from unsatisfied customers who say their cars were improperly towed from the restaurant’s small parking lot. “We take the allegations of Breakthrough Towing’s towing practices that may impact McDonald’s customers very seriously,” reads a statement from Virgirilli Management Company, the company that runs the McDonald’s. “We are listening to our customers’ concerns and plan to end our relationship with Breakthrough Towing.” According to signs posted at the
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An example of a sex doll, which are not coming to Southfield after all.
Furthermore, he says none of his constituents appear to be interested in se doll rothels “I haven’t had anybody call me and say ‘I hope the council votes for this,’” Siver told the Freep. “All the callers and emailers were appalled, and they don’t want the city to be associated with this.” re resentati e of Canadian se doll om an in doll told The Detroit News that while the company is considering e anding to the it has not onsidered outhfield though it is considering locations in Houston, Las Vegas, Miami, and New York. Given the backlash against the Southfield ro osal we an li el e e t
restaurant, the parking spots are reserved for McDonald’s customers only. However, many have come forward in recent months saying that they were paying customers and that their cars were towed while they were still in the restaurant. The allegations gained traction last summer when one customer published a YouTube video alleging a scheme in which an overzealous “spotter” was watching the parking lot, alerting the company to tow cars — even after only a few minutes. The customers were then forced to pay more than $400 to retrieve their vehicles. Metro Times o e is right a ross the street from the McDonald’s, and we spent weeks watching the parking lot n the first da we started loo ing into it, our observations led us to believe that there were in fact spotters parked across the street working for Breakthrough. When we confronted
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other metro Detroit cities to draft bans as well. Last year, Aura Dolls — one of North meri a s first se doll rothels opened in Toronto, with rates ranging from $80 for 30 minutes with one doll to $960 for four hours with two. A spokesperson for the company told Vice that the brothels could “help lower crime rates related to se im ro e se life in marriages, and most importantly, give men and women a wa to e lore their se ual desires in a safe nonjudgmental way.” The dolls are cleaned after every use, but Aura Dolls recommends customers use a condom, as there is still a risk of contracting STDs.
them, they claimed not to know what Breakthrough Towing was and threatened to “smack the camera” out of our hands e orters from had a similar e erien e When we called for comment, Breakthrough Towing owner Michael Dickerson also denied that the company used spotters. A spokesman from McDonald’s questioned the credibility of the YouTube video and vehemently denied that the company was involved in an alleged towing scheme with Breakthrough. Eventually, a class action lawsuit was filed against rea through and announced it was cutting ties with the company. In November, the city cracked down on the company, issuing 10 blight violations for its Detroit towing parking lot. The company also has contracts with nearby Midtown Liquor and the CVS in Hamtramck.
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NEWS & VIEWS Out in the cold
How new laws targeting human trafficking is chilling online expression — and endangering sex workers By Rob St. Mary
In 2012, following a divorce,
a series of unfulfilling jo s and a need to a her mortgage dd in h found out some men were interested in a ing for her time sim l e ause as a transgender woman she offers something a majorit of other women do not. lot of m lientele are straight dudes who want to suck a dick for the first time she sa s remem er had one gu who er shamefull said have a really weird kink,’ and it took a out a good minutes to get it out of him and all he wanted to was perform oral sex on me. That’s not a kink, that’s nothing to e ashamed of t started slowl for in h with ads on Craigslist and later other sites reated es e iall for those offering se ual ser i es in e last s ring howe er the majorit of those latforms ha e een for ed to shut down or radi all hange ma ing it ris ier for se wor ers li e in h to find lientele n s ring Congress assed and resident Donald rum signed into law the to na ling e ra ers t and the ight nline e ra ing t he law hanges a ro ision in the Communi ations De en t that freed sites in the early days of the world wide we from eing held res onsi le for third art ontent he statute allowed lia ilit to fall on the ontent reator and not on sites li e oogle Craigslist or a e oo hanges the d nami and o ens riminal and i il lia ilit for sites found guilt of fa ilitating se tra ing he assage of the a t followed in estigations into sites su h as a age a former di ision of illage oi e edia now oi e edia rou a well known owner of respected alt-weeklies that once included The Village Voice. ollowing the resident s signature on ril a age was sei ed and shut down authorities with other sites radi all hanging how the handle sex-related material. growing num er of oi es howe er ontend that the laws are too road and affe t far more than their intended targets of human tra ing nd it s
not just se wor ers li e in h Da id reene the Ci il Li erties Dire tor at the digital rights grou the le troni rontier oundation has ta en u a ase against on ehalf of fi e laintiffs who are all o osed to se tra ing ut ha e on erns e ause the laws were written in a wa that threatens their a ilit to do their wor mong the laintiffs in the ase is he nternet r hi e a digital li rar of old we sites oo s and other u li ations whi h is on erned the ould e e osed to riminal and i il lia ilit for hosting the old material as the store millions of files some of whi h ontain old ads nother laintiff is a non se ual massage theraist who was using Craigslist as his sole method of offering his ser i e or reene and the the uestion is a out what means to romote or fa ilitate the rostitution of another person, since the court s stem has made road rulings on the term fa ilitate in the ast hat he sa s should e a on ern to an one on erned a out s ee h online Congress wrote a law that riminali es s ee h that is otherwise legal he sa s or e am le reene sa s e en online s ee h sim l ad o ating for the de riminali ation of rostitution ould e onsidered illegal under e should alwa s e on erned when Congress is restri ting free speech, even when you don’t care a out that arti ular s ee h thin ou should also e on erned when ou see what effe t the law is ha ing on harm redu tion efforts it s reating a signifi ant u li health ro lem de reasing the a ilit of organi ations to provide resources to sex workers and also with the loss of latforms sending se wor ers a to street ased wor e ause now for es sites to monitor their forums and comment sections more carefully, Greene sa s this has had a hilling effe t on online s ee h as man sites find it is sim l too mu h of a urden to moderate thers ha e losed forums retooled their sites for other uses, or shut down altogether n e tem er a federal ourt in
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ashington D C dismissed the ase rought the iting la of standing of the laintiffs to sue the go ernment o er reene sa s the ase has een a ealed to the Court of eals D C Cir uit ut a hearing has not et een s heduled
Making it harder for police to do their jobs
hile one might thin oli e would find this new law alua le it s een a mi ed ag he De artment of usti e ame out against the ills efore their assage laiming it would ma e their work harder. i higan tate oli e u li information o er i hael haw sa s the agen su orts the federal law seeing it as a enefit to their efforts e sa s the agen has two troo ers assigned to an tas for e for human tra ing and that they have not seen a drastic hange in the num er of arrests made sin e the assage of in ril he s statisti s are not et a aila le n law that ma es it harder on the eo le that are doing these t es of rimes is etter for us he sa s hile it was eas to go on a age it just ta es a little it more wor to find out the new la es online where the are going and ommitting this rime haw adds that is aware of sites and chat rooms where the solicitation for se tra ing ontinues to ta e la e ut nationwide other oli e de artments ha e riti i ed the new laws n a ul stor from ndiana olis C gt ohn Dagg an under o er o er with the ndiana olis etro olitan Police Department, said the shuttering of a age has made it harder for his team to tra human tra ers and pimps. ith a age we would su oena the ads and it would tell a lot of the stor Dagg said lso with the ads we would catch our victim at a hotel room whi h would gi e us a rime scene. There’s a ton of evidence at a rime s ene ow sin e a age has gone down we re getting late re orts of them and we don t ha e mu h to go n the same stor te hanie effers of
rit nto ra e a non rofit that gi es aid to street prostitutes, said the shuttering of a age not onl led man she talked to say they would more than li el ha e to go to the street ut that it more than likely wouldn’t slow down the criminal element in sex work. im s are still going to ma e their mone tra ers are still going to ma e their mone it s just going to hange things for the women she said nd wouldn t assume for the etter hile the a ilit to la e ads online has een limited or outright anned other sites that aided those in sex work ha e also hanged their fo us or losed in h sa s sites that featured so alled la lists where wor ers ould share information and re iews a out a usi e lients ha e all ut dried u under the guise that those sites are seen as aiding in se tra ing in h sa s the re iew sites were in alua le a la e where wor ers tal ed among themsel es a out whi h lients were not onl inconsiderate or cheated them on pay ut also h si all dangerous n one re iew in h learned a out a man who attacked a fellow sex worker’s face with a id or se wor ers li e in h su h information an e a lifesa er
A reheated Comstock-type law?
n the go ernment assed a series of laws allowing the ostal Service to focus on the “Suppression of rade in and Cir ulation of s ene Literature and rti les of mmoral se he e ame nown as Comsto Laws after the nited tates ostal ns e tor nthon Comsto who had started the New York Society for the Suppression of Vice that same year. The laws make it a crime to send anything through the ail that was deemed o s ene in luding ersonal letters with any sexual content or information related to ontra e ti es a ortion, sex toys, or the like. Comstock’s iew of what was lewd and o s ene e en in luded anning anatom te too s from eing shi ed to medi al students n the Comsto Laws added railroads to the mail as a delivery method for su h unsa or materials f on i ted iolators ould re ei e unishment on the federal le el u to fi e ears hard la or in rison he Comstock Laws were slowly dismantled throughout the earl s until the last piece, related to contraception, was stru down in ears after the were originall ena ted ut what ma es different from the Comstock Laws is that
The new SESTA-FOSTA laws have forced many sex workers off of the internet and back onto the streets.
the government itself is not the one in the business of censoring. Instead, this new generation of laws pushes the onus onto business owners to do such regulating, and as many internet companies deal with millions and millions of posts and pieces of information coming through their systems on a daily basis,
many have little to no time to check everything coming over the transom. Now, anything that could be perceived as related to se tra ing is getting pushback. The day after SESTA-FOSTA was passed, Craigslist, which had removed its “adult” services sections over the
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past decade, also shut down its “personals” section from all its U.S. pages. “Any tool or service can be misused. We can’t take such risk without jeopardizing all our other services, so we are regretfully taking craigslist personals o ine o efull we an ring them back some day,” the company wrote in
a short statement on its website.“To the millions of spouses, partners, and couples who met through craigslist, we wish you every happiness!” For Finch, business has changed, as her usual places to advertise have disappeared. She says she understands how she holds a privileged place among sex workers as a white transgender woman with a rolodex of clients in major cities throughout the U.S. and Canada who does not have to do street work. And while the number of clients she sees has diminished due to the passage of SESTA-FOSTA, Finch says it has meant return business from some of her older clients who have also found their usual avenues for making connections with someone like her blocked. While she says it’s laudable to seek to sto se tra ing in h sa s FOSTA doesn’t appear to be helping — and, in fact, is doing more harm in areas she cares about beyond her own pocketbook. “It’s really easy for people to get behind se tra ing is ad so se wor is also bad,’” she says. “It’s really easy to follow that and forget really important speech that’s being erased. It’s really scary when I think about it in the larger context of the things that are no longer allowed.”
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anielle Colby has picked many things. The 43-year-old mother, “herstory” advocate, and self-proclaimed “Queen of Rust” has most famously served as the voice of reason on History Channel’s American Pickers for nearly a decade. Working alongside collectors Mike Wolfe and Frank Fritz onscreen, Colby manages Wolfe’s storefront Antique Archaeology in Le Claire, Iowa — just 15 miles north of her hometown of Davenport and 160 miles west of her Chicago home. And when she’s not sending the stars to unassuming garages- and farmhouses-turned-treasure troves across the country, or researching the make, model, price, and origin of a dizzying arra of rare finds she s fawning o er sequins, garters, feathers, and nipple pasties. For Colby, the art of burlesque picked her. thin the ostuming is what first struck me,” Colby says. “I eventually was li e oh dammit ha e to figure out how to dan e if wear this stuff That sort of introduced me to take lessons from some really great performers like LouLou D’vil and Michelle L’amour.” The world of burlesque and politics of the stripper stage have endured man hanges sin e Col first too to the stage as an 18-year-old “Iowa girl” when she performed an impromptu striptease at a drag show. Burlesque has since shimmied from the fringe spotlight of underground and DIY venues and into the mainstream, enticing a new generation with the promise of self-expression, body positivity, incredible costuming, and the ability to reclaim personal agency. Since her humble debut, Colby has embraced the strength of her stature and developed a stage persona: Dannie Diesel. “Sexuality is the last thing that’s on my mind when I’m on stage,” she says. “What’s on my mind, is my core
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balance, my ability to breathe within a moment,” she says. “It takes a lot to just stand and have a moment of pause. You’re baring a huge part of yourself, no matter what part of the industry you’re in. I have a lot of respect for just your classic stripper, your nightclub stripper, because it takes a huge amount of guts and intuition and courage and fortitude within yourself to be able to go in front of a group of people ... At a strip club there are a lot of things that are thrown at you that are not anything like you would see at a burlesque show.” Outside of American Pickers — which allows her to work two weeks onsite or on the road and two weeks off she dedi ates most of her time to perfecting her own burlesque practice while traveling the world to study its origins and the stories of the many performers who made it possible for dan ers li e Col to find their oi e “It’s beautiful to see everything that’s finall allowed she sa s and to see people in this industry being encouraged to push the envelope in multiple different wa s and not just in the wa that the top 10 performers think it should be pushed, but pushing the envelope in ways that really speak to those people who are just starting to get into this industry.” For Colby’s headlining performances at the 20th annual Dirty Show, she says she has prepared several routines, all of which lean into her love of costumeheavy styling and envelope-pushing. She’s partnered with a Canadian design house led by Christina Manuge to create a “Burning Down the House”ins ired fire ostume om lete with ame olored feathered fans and corseted armpieces — and is revamping her Queen of Hearts costume, which she deems as being her “easy routine.” She also has a special 4/20 tribute to commemorate Michigan’s
recent statewide legalization of recreational marijuana, during which she dons a Statue of Liberty-style weed leaf headdress. “There’s nothing coy or frilly about me,” she says of her stage presence and styling. “I’m really fond of strength onstage and I’m not a small person. I’m 5'9" and 190 lbs. — you can’t really go on stage and be too shy.” As a master treasure hunter, Colby cites her growing collection of vintage costumes and accessories once worn by burlesque performers, both famous and unknown, as perhaps her most prized possession. She struggles to decide which is more special to her: a
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rare Mata Hari set, Lillie Langtry’s 1890 Parisian costumes, Lili St. Cyr’s pasties, or Tempest Storm’s earrings (which were gifted to her personally). For Colby, each piece contains a spirit and a story — and pushes her to be better at her craft. “It’s really hard to pick a favorite because they’re all like your kids,” Colby says. “People are with their costuming every day, and most of these performers erform fi e da s a wee o when ou come in contact with something like that, something somebody has spent so much creative time and energy, that’s also quite cathartic because you go through a lot of therapy when you’re
dancing and when you’re sewing.” Burlesque is the axis on which Colby’s world tilts and twirls. Recently, her passion led her to Puerto Rico, where she has been juggling her studies of burlesque’s Caribbean history and e tensi e olunteer relief efforts whi h continue following the destruction of Hurricane Maria in 2017. Colby’s schedule allows her to spend weeks at a time there, where she actively works alongside the La Casa De Todos orphanage, local animal shelters, the Boys and Girls Club, and Puerto Rico’s Cultural Institute. In terms of her own history, Colby is focusing on being in the moment.
Though she will continue sifting through dust and rust, revisiting the past through her adventures on American Pickers (now in its 20th season) and digging deeper and further in time to connect with her burlesque studies, Colby believes the present time is the most interesting. “I hear a lot of people say, ‘I was born in the wrong era,’ ‘I would have been urned at the sta e in a different era she says. “But I am amazed to see that we are still fighting for human rights Colby’s love of history gives her perspective. “History teaches me that the dollar rules and whoever writes history writes it however they want,” Colby
says. “We keep repeating it even though we keep seeing millions of people dying because of it. Trying to balance that in this world is a tough thing. But the little pretty things in between like burlesque are great and they keep my mind focused on the positive. But studying history can sometimes be a very dark thing if you have a heart.” Dannie Diesel will headline The Dirty Show on Thursday, Feb. 14, Friday, Feb. 15, and Saturday, Feb. 16, doors open at 7 p.m.; 1600 Clay St., Detroit; dirtydetroit.com; 21+; General admission tickets are $40, VIP packages available starting at $100.
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flirty, dirty, and thriving JERRY VILE ON 20 YEARS OF THE DIRTY SHOW
By Lee DeVito
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n the weeks before the opening night of Detroit’s Dirty Show, the show’s founder, Jerry Vile, marvels at the longevity of the erotic art exhibition, which is now in its 20th year, “I’m surprised I lasted that long,” Vile says, who had a heart attack in 2017. “I got some stents in my heart now, so I almost didn’t last as long as the show.” ile threw the first Dirt how a o e the o es of his former monthl magazine, Orbit. The small show was enough of a success that the next year, he threw another, and another, and the event continued to grow, moving to various locations throughout the city. By 2014, he had to move the show from its longtime home at Bert’s Warehouse Theatre to the Russell Industrial Center’s thennew exhibition space, where it has been held ever since. In some ways, not much has changed. The show, which opened last weekend and continues Thursday through Saturday, still features a variety of erotic art, from paintings to sculptures to photographs and beyond. Of course, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the work at the Dirty Show runs the spectrum of sexuality, from sensual to raunchy and everything in between. As in past years, there is a special guest artist. This year’s is so-called “lowbrow” painter Glenn Barr, who is the first lo al artist to ser e as the show’s special guest, joining the likes of iger unn eager Da id ern Colin Christian, and John Waters in the tradition. But Vile defends his choice of Barr, and not just because he didn’t have to u lane ti ets to him in from out of the state or country. hen we re loo ing at different andidates, we have to go, ‘Are they bigger than Glenn Barr?’” Vile says. “Once you look at Glenn Barr as an artist rather than, you know, a Detroit friend, it’s
10 P.M. by this year’s Dirty Show featured artist, Glenn Barr.
uite a different stor A former background artist for Ren & Stimpy arr s fine art aintings hel ed put Detroit on the map when it comes to the Pop Surrealist movement, which was anchored by the likes of Juxtapoz magazine and Los Angeles’ La Luz de esus aller arr s wor t ified the genre, featuring cartoonish yet noir characters and backdrops, with stylish femme fatales often featured front and center. For the show, Barr has created a series of new works. Since his star has
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steadily risen, with work easily fetching thousands of dollars, Vile says Barr has also created a series of limited-edition prints for sale in the show’s gift shop. Other Dirty Show mainstays include the return of the “Daddyhole,” a pop-up leather daddy bar, burlesque performances (see this week’s interview with headline performer Dannie Diesel), bondage demonstrations, spanking ooths an eroti film festi al and more. Vile says the show will feature around 300 works of art, which he has found to be the sweet spot for the show.
This year there is a special Golden Girls themed mini-exhibition inside the show, Golden Girls Gone Wild. As far as other changes go, Vile says he and his crew have further tweaked the space at the Russell. The footprint inside the building is now a little larger. The pegboard walls for hanging art have been replaced with sturdier metal. This year, they’re employing video mapping technology to project images onto the building, further enhancing the experience. Vile says they’ve also updated their lighting to LED, which uses a fraction of the electricity, so we now have a cleaner, greener Dirty Show. “It just makes you feel a little bit better,” Vile says. At this point, Vile says his crew is a well-oiled machine, and the event has taken on a life of its own. “We used to have to ask every single artist and person to be part of the Dirty Show, and now it just comes to us like a big sleazy magnet,” he says. e finall now what we re doing he adds. “So many years we didn’t know what we’re doing.” As the world turns, it’s good to have traditions to look forward to, and the Dirty Show has certainly become one in Detroit. But as always, it’s interesting to see the ways the world has changed outside of the Dirty Show. “You know, we started in a time when ‘golden showers’ and ‘shithole countries’ and and things like that were not discussed by the daily news,” he says. “Now we have to compete against a rapey Supreme Court Justice and a pussy-grabbing president.” One can only wonder what the world will be like in time for Dirty Show 21. The Dirty Show runs from 7 p.m.-2 a.m. Thursday, Feb. 14, Friday, Feb. 15, and Saturday, Feb. 16; 1600 Clay St., Detroit; dirtydetroit.com; 21+; General admission tickets are $40, VIP packages available starting at $100.
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LUST READERS ONCE AGAIN SHARE THEIR ONLINE DATING DUDS (AND ONE SUCCESS STORY)
lust for swipes By Metro Times Readers
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t’s almost Valentine’s Day, which means it’s time for our annual Lust Issue — where Metro Times turns to you, dear readers, to regale us with your sexual escapades. As we did last year, we asked you to share your experiences with online dating. Like last year, we were once again looking for tales of online dating gone awry. But perhaps because it can sometimes feel like the entire damn world has gone awry these days, we decided to switch things up a little bit this year, and also asked you to share your online dating success stories as well. Readers, let’s see what you came up with. —Lee DeVito
T HREE ’ S A C ROWD
I was going to meet up with a girl one time for some drinks and another girl showed up with her. My date told me that a guy ditched her friend so she was tagging along with us. I’m an introvert, so it was absolutely brutal to try to entertain two people on a date. Had to pay for both their drinks, too. Spoiler alert: there was no threesome. I never made any attempt to talk to her again.
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went on a first date to the enaissan e Festival. I let him drive us there, which was a risky move, but I’d been following him on Instagram for awhile and had a good feeling about this one, so I went with it. Things were going mostly OK until we came upon the horses dressed as unicorns. He started going on and on about how “those better be girl horses!” Then he did it AGAIN when we saw a dog dressed as a fairy. Holy fragile masculinity, Batman! I wanted to, you know, make it home again, so I didn’t
really call him on it — but, yikes. We stopped for dinner on the way home and when I insisted on paying my half, he became convinced that meant I was going to go home and block him immediately and never speak to him again. Well, if I wasn’t before…
S TILL O UT T HERE , C REEPIN ’
A couple years back when I was 19, I met a girl on Tinder and invited her to meet for offee e met u and were talking. She seemed to know an awful lot about me, including things like small details about my family that I never shared with her — my family members’ names and my political opinions (just to name a few of the things). Turns out that a random friend request I had accepted on Facebook was one of her friends. I only knew because there were pictures of them together on Facebook. Same girl also low-key followed me on Instagram and was watching me, collecting details for this girl. I ignored her after our weird first date and about once a week a weird Instagram account with no picture and 0 followers and 0 following would show up following me, so I’d block it. About three more accounts followed me before it stopped, but every now and then I wonder if she’s still out there, creepin.’
to beat me with a hammer, but my dog jumped into my lap and covered me with his body. I still couldn’t get him out of my house. It took him slamming my head into the dashboard of a car and me jumping out of it at a light for him to finall e arrested He is serving jail time for two of the three charges against him for attacks on me.
I now run background checks on anyone I meet. I have started therapy for the PTSD he left me with. That man may have ruined my life for two years, but I won’t let him ruin me forever.
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1. Swiped right on Tinder and decided to meet up with this guy, but unfortunately my car had to be repaired so he offered to i me u from the mechanic shop. I was thrilled to see him, as he was pretty good looking, and we went for offee at a near afe I was really admiring his face and all of a sudden he reveals the fact that he is married and that his wife is aware that he was going out with me. As I was depending on him to bring me back to my home, I just had to put up with him to explain his business and the
G OODBYE , A SSHOLE
I met my ex on OkCupid. He wasn’t dating me a month when he basically moved into my house. He was a perfect gentleman for a few months, but then his real self started to come out. He is a narcissist. He started to control me in small ways. Then the threats started — putting a gun to my dogs’ heads, verbal abuse. I told him to get out numerous times, but he wouldn’t leave. He tried
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he as ed me if wanted to meet downtown ording to her rofile we were the same age ut when we met it was rett o ious that she had either lied a out her age or led a rett hard life e saw ea h other for a out four odd months it o iousl didn t wor out she e t her rofile u ut ne er hanged her age nd when as ed her she ne er offered an answer as to wh she lied a out her age hen we first met she as ed me wh loo ed sur rised wasn t willing to tell her
o three ears ago when was was a first timer on inder after getting di or ed mat hed with the first gu swi ed and had s ar ling on o e was ute and funn and had Gilmore Girls song l ri s in his rofile m fa show fter a out three da s of messaging a and forth we de ided to meet u was managing an e ent until a out a m so he ame o er when got home e wal ed in we said hi he too off his ja et and issed me hen we had some rett wild se and ontinued doing so e er single da after that ast forward three months and we are li ing together as he had just mo ed from California e said one da e should get married said ure wh not e went to the ourt house and got married in a grou er emon on a uesda fter a out a ear and a half of wedded liss and tal s of ha ing a id together found out he had a girlfriend a in California the entire time we were together t was a former o wor er alread sus e ted after she sent a irthda resent to our house o i ed him out and he mo ed a and we re in the ro ess of getting di or ed nline dating reall wor s
shi then telling me how mu h fun he was ha ing without me gnored all of it out si wee s later was read ing the news a er and a i ture in the o ituaries jum ed out at me t was him urns out from what read that he d ommitted sui ide and was i o lar ome eo le said that m reje tion ma ha e triggered his sui ide ut feel trul dodged a ullet
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his reall doesn t ualif sin e it ha ened efore there were online dating a s e met through the ersonal ads in the Metro Times ears ago and now married Metro Times ran our engagement hoto either right efore or after we were married good friend and wrote uite a demanding ad
se ond hone messages en and a er in hand jotting down notes names and num ers and then alling them a had just mo ed a to Detroit at the time and had no intention of sta ing long his gu wor ed for so it seemed li e a ad mat h in Detroit fore er ut here we are mo ed us to a an and orea through the ears and we are again a in Detroit with one ear old daughter a out to lea e for ollege ow hard ould it ossi l e to meet someone now without ha ing to write the ad all for our messages ta e notes all them a and a tu all arrange meeting la es o er the hone er all nd meet without a hoto
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was re entl di or ed after ears of marriage et a gu online tal ed and finall met eemed a it ossessi e ut had een married to someone om letel indifferent so just e t m e es o en ne da made the mista e of telling him that was going out with a girlfriend e showed u followed us to the ne t la e then followed me home ounding on m door until threatened to all the oli e hen the te ts and hone alls started first as ing how ould throw awa all we had a one month three date relation
o aggage no hea drin ers no drug users no wife hunters nd the following ednesda when it ran we alled to see if an one left us a message hat s what ou did ears ago ou a tuall alled to retrie e a tual hone messages that eo le left ou regarding our ad earl gu s answered that ad and she and met a lot of them nd had to listen to e er one of their
wi e right or left m waiting to hear a out how ad enturous that ould os si l e ut than s for the ad s a e Changed m life Congratulations to the lovely couple above, who submitted our favorite story this year — earning them an erotic prize package from one of our advertisers, Lover’s Lane
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v-day, detroit-style A 11 MOTOR CITY-THEMED LOVE LETTERS TO GIVE TO YOUR SWEETHEART ON VALENTINE’S DAY
hh yes, Valentine’s Day. The Hallmark holiday that smitten couples love to love — and bitter singles love to hate. Regardless of your relationship status this Valentine’s Day, you can take part in a little commercialized holiday fun by sending your longtime lover or newly swiped sweetie a Detroit-themed Valentine. Because what else could accurately define our lo e than the sa harine sentiment from Sterling Heights’ newly erected Golden Butthole? You’re welcome. —Devin Culham
From an Ilitch-owned parking lot:
I have space in my heart for you, Valentine
From the Joe Louis Fist:
From Quicken Loans:
From the QLine:
Hop on, Valentine. I promise this relationship won’t go too fast.
From Lafayette and American Coney Islands:
Why pick one
WieNER when you can have two, Valentine?
From Joumana Kayrouz:
From potholes, everywhere:
Valentine,
Hold on tight to me, Valentine, you’re in for a bumpy ride
From the Church of Scientology:
From the Sterling Heights “Golden Butthole” statue:
Roses are red, violets are blue,
Pucker Up, Valentine
Worry, Valentin t ’ n e Do
No need to clench up, ValentinE My love is true
I promise that our love is no accident my love is not on loan — but it is
high interest
From Robocop:
Come quietly, Valentine. Or there will be…
trouble.
From the People Mover:
Don’t worry, Valentine. What I lack in length I make up for in personality.
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my love for you could rival the
strength of xenu
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Antihero
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231 W. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale 248-307-7383 antiheroferndale.com Open 4 p.m. to 11 p.m. Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday; 4 p.m. to midnight Wednesday and Thursday, 4 p.m. to 2 a.m. Friday and Saturday Wheelchair accessible Prices: Starters $5-$6; raw items $10-market price; vegetables, $7-8; mains $8-$16; hibachi, $2-$8; dessert, $8; cocktails $11-$13; wines $8-10 per glass and $32-$38 per bottle. Subject to change.
Fried chicken bao bun.
JAY JURMA
Stay for the drinks By Brittany Hutson
There’s a lot going on at Antihero, metro Detroit’s latest Japanese izakaya. Nestled on Nine Mile in downtown Ferndale, it’s hip and swanky, with an almost Manhattan or downtown Los Angeles feel to it. The lighting is low yet warm. The building is made up of blond wood, which covers the bar, the booths, and custom barstools. Eclectic art decorates the space. One main attraction is the 33-foot mural that features a s i fi motif reated Detroit artist Glenn Barr. A DJ discreetly holds space in a corner at the front of the dining room. Antihero is now the third establishment in the Working Class Outlaws restaurant group’s portfolio, joining Imperial and Public House (located next door). The informal Japanese gastropub features a menu with small plates and shareable dishes. But make no mistake — this is, at its core, a bar. For those unfamiliar, “izakaya” is a
compound from the words “stay” and “sake,” meaning that drinking is foremost and food is secondary. At Antihero, drinks take up more than half of the menu, with Japanese whiskeys, sake om s sa e ights soju o tails and wines from around the globe. During one visit, I tried the yogurt cocktail — a popular drink in Korea. Mixed with soju and raspberry, it was a perfect balance of sour and sweet — and so light and refreshing that I nearly forgot that I was drinking alcohol. On another visit, my dining companion ordered the Tokyo S.O.S. cocktail, a playground of natural sugars and ar onation that ga e off island i es with each sip. My dining companion was surprised, describing it as a “fruit explosion” that was “very well done.” Here was another drink that I forgot had alcohol in it, despite the menu listing off um a rum and ida me al in the mixture.
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As far as food, there are nearly 30 menu items, divided into six sections — appetizers; raw (or uncooked plates); vegetables; dumplings, rice, and buns; noodles; and hibachi. Although the menu boasts Asian-inspired offerings the uisine tends to lean more American than it does traditional Japanese and Korean. Take, for instance, the ramen. Typically in ramen, the meat and the vegetables are thinly sliced. But when my order of ramen hero arrived, there were two puck-sized mushrooms, a piece of pork belly, and an egg, which arrived whole instead of cut in half. The vegetables are really where the menu shines, which is good news for vegetarians and vegans. It also shouldn’t come as a surprise, since Executive Chef Nick Erven is renowned for his former eponymous plant-based American restaurant in Santa Monica. Erven brought to Michigan some remnants of his former establishment with updates, like the chickpea fritter — jet-black rectangles served with a yuzu whip for dipping. One of my dining guests loved the “chicken fried” tofu. Other highlights included the bok
choy “caesar” — the crisp, green leaves and white stalks were sliced into strips, and decorated with chili threads and seaweed breadcrumbs. The lemoncaper dressing added a touch of acidity to the salad. The black kale was also a favorite, with lots of contrast between the creaminess of the avocado, the crunch from the leaves and peanuts, and the heat from the carrot-ginger ranch dressing. The hibachi grill sounded like a fun experience, but we were underwhelmed. You can choose from a sele tion of s ewered egeta les fish or beef. At the recommendation of our server, we ordered the New York strip. We received a personal grill and a set of skewers with three cubed pieces of meat and small bowls of togarashi — a 7-spice blend common in Japan, salt, and Antihero’s signature “fuck yea” sauce (a combination of pickled garlic ponzu, kimchi juice, and chiliginger salsa). The only instruction we received was to cook the meat how we wanted. If you’re not willing to monitor your food to prevent overcooking it or want to a oid starting a fire s i the hibachi. From the dumplings, rice and buns section, the fried chicken bun fared well. The pieces of chicken breasts thankfully weren’t dry, and they were stuffed etween illows of ao uns with curry mayo and pickled cucumbers. Dessert, on the other hand, can be left behind. The baked Alaska was certainly visually appealing with its mountain of browned meringue. It’s a different stor on e ou ut inside of it It was a relief to have the black sesame ice cream to break up the overt sweetness from the meringue and passion fruit curd. The matcha cake was green and dense, which was acceptable in order to hold the stack of ice cream, curd and meringue. But after some time, I abandoned the dessert as a whole and picked at the ice cream and cake. e t time ll definitel sta for the drinks.
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THIS WEEK THURSDAY, 2/14 Village of Love: Planned Parenthood Benefit @ Deluxx Fluxx
MUSIC + FUN-DRAISER Get tested and spread the love because this Valentine’s Day is all about the healthcare warriors of Planned Parenthood. The illage of Lo e enefit omes to Detroit way of Los Angeles, where the event has been an annual tradition for six years. The Motor City iteration invites a bevy of babefronted bands like Stef Chura, Anna Burch, Britney Stoney, Willa Rae, and Bevlove. All ro eeds from the e ent will e donated to Planned Parenthood of Michigan, an organization that provides reproductive ser i es D testing emergen ontrae tion hormone thera for transgender atients arious mens health are ser i es as well as cancer screenings and pelvic e ams for women and often do so on a sliding s ale for low in ome atients Doors open at 7 p.m.; 1274 Library St., Detroit deluxx uxx.com Tickets are .
THURSDAY, 2/14 Toni Braxton
Toni Braxton, Fox Theatre, Feb. 14.
JAMIE LAMOR THOMPSON/SHUTTERSTOCK
What’s Going On
A week’s worth of things to do and places to do them
@ Fox Theatre
MUSIC If you’ve never belted “Un-Break My Heart” in the privacy of your own car while it’s raining… well, do you even have a heart? The iconic ’90s ballad about reversing some rutal heart rea is erha s the most definiti e moment in the s e led career of diva and reality show star Toni ra ton ollowing a rief month long retirement from musi in ra ton dro ed a memoir returned to roadwa starred in a slew of Lifetime original mo ies, and released her eighth studio record, s Sex & Cigarettes all while uietl battling lupus. For this special Valentine’s Da erforman e as art of her s Long s Li e our ra ton will erform her entire atalog of o hits irl grou SWV is also on the bill. Doors open at 8 p.m.; 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit; 313-471-3200; 313presents. com Tickets are . .
FRI., 2/15-MON., 3/11 Death of a Salesman @ Ringwald Theater
THEATER hile the definition of the meri an dream has hanged sin e r-
thur Miller penned Death of a Salesman in one thing remains the same Death of a Salesman is a profoundly sad play (and the title is a total spoiler alert). Through the eye-opening tale of father, hus and and salesman ill Loman iller s seminal wor follows the merian Dream as it tragi all sli s through his fingers Dire ted oe aile he Ringwald’s production has enlisted ilde ward winner oel it hell to star as Loman as well as ell omlen Donn iedel effer ahon Darr l aharidge and tewart Dante ones and others. Performances begin at p.m. Woodward Ave., Ferndale; 248-545-5545; theringwald.com Tickets are .
SATURDAY, 2/16 Bird Box screening and signing with author Josh Malerman
with a s e ial engagement and oo signing with New York Times Bestselling author and i higans own osh alerman ased on the no el Bird Box re ortedl had more than million a ounts stream the ost a o al ti film during its first wee reju enating andra ullo s areer and utting alermans writing in the spotlight once again. A and oo signing with alerman will follow the screening. Doors open at p.m. Michigan Ave., Detroit pagesbkshop.com Tickets are and include screening, a copy of the novel, and signing, admission available for screening and signing.
SATURDAY, 2/16 Definition of Red: Bre’Ann White solo exhibition @ Playground Detroit
@ The Senate Theater
FILM + LIT Leave your blindfolds at home fol s he gloom and doom etfli horror i Bird Box is getting the big s reen treatment at the enate heater
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ART ed is without uestion a ower color. Depending on where in the world ou all home red an re resent e er thing from lo e to mourning Longtime Detroit-based photographer Bre’Ann
White boldly explores color and contrast through her debut solo exhibition, De nition of Red Com osed of large s ale portraits, De nition of Red om ines White’s creative evolution with the story of her su je t onis a dar s inned outh udanese model n in estigation of war and beauty, heritage and religion ir umstan e and transformation ea h one red De nition of Red s opening reception will feature beverages irtue Cider and li e musi Opening reception begins at p.m. Gratiot Ave., Detroit playgrounddetroit.com vent is free.
SATURDAY, 2/16 Paint Thinner album release @ UFO Factory
MUSIC Do you like the Stooges? How about Interpol? Any thoughts on an underground noise supergroup that once graced Metro Times Bands to Watch list? Lastly, can you relate to feelings of psychedelic dread? If your answer to all of the above is a resounding “Hell yeah,” this show is for you. Paint Thinner has returned with its record The Sea of Pulp, which is full of sexual tension and old s hool sludge orged from Detroit mainsta s erri le wos ontana rustrations and uman e aint hinner in ite eauti ians and l ing je ts for the and s al um release show along with D
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Kurt Vile and the Violators
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@ Majestic Theatre
ART Though beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, Michigan’s dismal winter pallet is an acquired taste and we are sort of totall o er it o offer some e e and David Klein Gallery’s Fractured Beauty features three multidisciplinary artists, all of whom explore color, perspec tive, and form through their respective mediums. Alisa Henriquez uses collage and distortion as a means to explore femininit and Detroit ased ndrew Krieger uses wood and clay to create three dimensional anels to re e t the many sides of beauty. Rounding out the showcase is Los Angeles sculptor Brad Howe, who mixes nature and bold color to e lain his multi ers e ti e narra tive. Fractured Beauty will be on display until March 23.
FOOD From the ladies who brought you egan a o ell Detroit ased o u Street Beet returns with McDaddy’s —its spin on supersized fast food giant McDon alds treet eets latest all egan menu of fers health and environmentally conscious options, all of which play on the Mickey D’s classics that have been clogging our arteries with garbage since childhood. In addition to eing meat and dair free er usual vegan queens Nina Paletta and Meghan haw will offer gluten nut and so free options. Among the menu’s contenders: Fi let No Fish, McFakeChicken, Phony Burger, ShamWow Shake, and the sandwich to end all sandwiches, the McRibby.
MUSIC As a founding member of indie ro and ar on Drugs hiladel hia bred Kurt Vile has been a prominent fi ture of the indie musi s ene for more than a de ade now with his o eat sing er songwriter sensi ilities is se enth studio al um and first in three ears Bottle It In, features contributions from in uen ers oni ouths im ordon and harpist Mary Lattimore. Vile will be backed by his faithful band the Violators and will be joined by the Sadies, with whom he collaborated on the track “It’s Easy (Like Walking)” in 2017.
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ply, 345 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; $10-$15. The Blue Stones 7 p.m.; PJ’s Lager House, 1254 Michigan Ave., Detroit; $10-$12. Van Halentines Day IX 8 p.m.; Magic Bag, 22920 Woodward Ave., Ferndale; $18.
Sunday, Feb. 17 Hailey Knox 6:30 p.m.; PJ’s Lager House, 1254 Michigan Ave., Detroit; $10.
Stef Chura, Village of Love: Planned Parenthood Benefit, Deluxx Fluxx, Feb. 14.
The Beatles Rooftop Concert 50th Anniversary Celebration 7:30 p.m.; Bert’s Warehouse Theater, 2739 Russell St., Detroit; $22.
Saturday, Feb. 16
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Hearts for Recovery: Dawn Farm 7:30 p.m.; The Ark, 316 S. Main
St., Ann Arbor; $25-$35. Jazzy Ash & The Leaping Lizards 1 p.m.; The Ark, 316 S. Main St., Ann Arbor; $12-$15.
The Ben Daniels Band 8 p.m.; The Ark, 316 S. Main St., Ann Arbor; $15.
Joel Peterson Chamber Works | Matthew Smith Solo 8 p.m.; Trinosophes, 1464 Gratiot Ave., Detroit; $7.
Candlebox 7 p.m.; The Fillmore, 2115 Woodward Ave., Detroit; $29.50+.
Palisades 5 p.m.; The Shelter, 431 E. Congress St., Detroit; $18.
Dilon Francis X Alison Wonderland 8 p.m.; Masonic Temple, 500 Temple St., Detroit; $45+.
The Suffers 9 p.m.; El Club, 4114 W. Vernor Hwy., Detroit; $14-$16.
Eric Church 8 p.m.; Little Caesars Arena, 2645 Woodward Ave., Detroit; $54+. Gang of Four 8 p.m.; El Club, 4114 W. Vernor Hwy., Detroit; $29.50+. Joe Policastro Trio 8 p.m.; Kerrytown Concert House, 415 N. Fourth Ave., Ann Arbor; $10-$20. Jon B. 7 p.m.; The Crofoot Ballroom, 1 S. Saginaw St., Pontiac; $35-$55.
Sunday Brunch with Jarrod Champion a m Cliff ell s Park Ave., Detroit; No cover. We Shall Overcome 3 p.m.; The Whiting, 1241 E. Kearsley St., Flint; $20. Welles 7 p.m.; Pike Room, 1 S. Saginaw, Pontiac; $12.
Monday, Feb. 18
Lalah Hathaway 8 p.m.; Fox Theatre, 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit; $64.
Detroit to Dakar - A Taste of Senegal 6 p.m.; Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History, 315 E. Warren Ave., Detroit; $40.
Led Zeppelin 2 7 p.m.; Token Lounge, 28949 Joy Rd., Westland; $15-$25.
Like A Storm 6 p.m.; The Shelter, 431 E. Congress St., Detroit; $17.
Loverboy 8:30 p.m.; Andiamo Celebrity Showroom, 7096 E. 14 Mile Rd., Warren; $28+.
Tuesday, Feb. 19
Majetic, Primer, Vespre 9 p.m.; Trixie’s Bar, 2656 Carpenter Avenue, Hamtramck; $7. The Mega ’80s 8 p.m.; Magic Bag, 22920 Woodward Ave., Ferndale; $12. Roosevelt Diggs 8:30 p.m.; Otus Sup-
The Alexis Lombre Trio 8 p.m.; Cliff ell s ar e Detroit o cover. Deerhunter 9 p.m.; El Club, 4114 W. Vernor Hwy., Detroit; $25. Dennis Coffey 8 p.m.; Northern Lights Lounge, 660 W. Baltimore St., Detroit; Free.
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THIS WEEK Kurt Vile and the Violators 8 p.m.; Majestic Theatre, 4140 Woodward Ave., Detroit; $27-$30. Peter Murphy: 40 years of Bauhaus 7 p.m.; Saint Andrew’s Hall, 431 E. Congress St., Detroit; $45. Sierra Hull 8 p.m.; The Ark, 316 S. Main St., Ann Arbor; $20. Travis Greene & Mosaic MSC 7 p.m.; Royal Oak Music Theatre, 318 W. Fourth St., Royal Oak; $30.
THEATER A Midsummer Night’s Dream Friday, 7:30 p.m.; The Capitol Theatre, 140 E. Second St., Flint; $10+. Angels in America Part 1: Millennium approaches TuesdaysSundays, 8 p.m.; Hilberry Theatre, 4743 Cass Ave., Detroit; $17-$28. If/Then Friday and Saturday, 8 p.m., Sunday, 2 p.m.; Stagecrafters, 415 S. Lafayette, Royal Oak; $21+. Never Not Once Wednesdays-Sundays.; Purple Rose Theatre, 137 Park St., Chelsea; $13.50+. Pinkalicious Saturday, 11 a.m., 1 & 3 p.m.; City Theatre, 2301 Woodward Ave., Detroit; $29.50. The House on Poe Street Thursday Friday Saturday and Sunday; Detroit Repertory Theatre, 13103 Woodrow Wilson St., Detroit; $17-$20. The How and the Why ThursdaysSundays.; Theatre Nova, 416 W. Huron, Ann Arbor; $22. The Last Five Years WednesdaysSundays, 2, 3 & 8 p.m.; Tipping Point Theatre, 361 E. Cady St., Northville; $10-$25. The Play That Goes Wrong Wednesday 8 p.m., Thursday 8 p.m., Friday 8 p.m., Saturday 2 & 8 p.m., Sunday 2 & 7:30 p.m. and Tuesday 8 p.m.; Fisher Theatre, 3011 W. Grand Blvd., Detroit; $44+. The Spitfire Grill Wednesdays-Fridays, Sundays.; Meadow Brook Theatre, 207 Wilson Hall, Rochester; $30.
COMEDY All-Star Showdown Saturdays, 8 & 10 p.m.; Go Comedy! Improv Theater, 261 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; $20.
Death of a Salesman, Ringwald Theatre, Feb. 15-March 11.
Funny As Ish Comedy Tour with Mike Epps Friday 7 p.m.; Fox Theatre, 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit; $57+. Open Mic Wednesdays, 7:30 p.m.; Mark Ridley’s Comedy Castle, 310 S. Troy St., Royal Oak; $5. Pandemonia Every other Friday, 8 & 10 p.m.; Go Comedy! Improv Theater, 261 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; $20. Ralph Harris Thursday, 7:30 p.m., Friday 7:15 & 9:45 p.m. and Saturday 7 & 9:30 p.m.; Mark Ridley’s Comedy Castle, 310 S. Troy St., Royal Oak; $10. Sunday Buffet Sundays, 7 p.m.; Go Comedy! Improv Theater, 261 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; $10. Thursday Night Live! Thursdays, m nt all Caniff t amtramck; $5.
DANCE
Comedy Open Mic Tuesdays, 9 p.m.; Trixie’s Bar, 2656 Carpenter Avenue, Hamtramck; No cover.
Alessandra Ferrie: Art of the Pas de Deux Saturday, 7:30 p.m.; Detroit Opera House, 1526 Broadway St., Detroit; $30+.
Fresh Sauce Sundays, 9 p.m.; Go Comedy! Improv Theater, 261 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; Free.
To Sangana African Dance Concert Saturday, 7:30 p.m. and Sunday, 3 p.m.; Wayne State University — Maggie
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BRANDY JOE PLAMBECK.
Allesee Department of Dance; 4841 Cass Ave., Detroit; $14-$24.
FILM Brew and View — Grease Thursday, 8 p.m.; Emerald Theatre, 31 N. Walnut St., Mount Clemens; $5. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban Friday, 8 p.m. and Saturday, 2 & 8 p.m.; Historic Redford Theatre, 17360 Lahser Rd., Detroit; $5. The 2019 Academy Award Nominated Documentary Short Films Thursday, 7 p.m.; Detroit Film Theatre, Detroit Institute of Arts, Detroit; $7.50$9.50. The 2019 Academy Award Nominated Short Films Wednesday, 7 p.m., Saturday, 2 & 7 p.m. and Sunday, 1 & 6 p.m.; Detroit Film Theatre, Detroit Institute of Arts, Detroit; $7.50-$9.50. The Craft Friday and Saturday, midnight; Main Art Theatre, 118 N. Main St., Royal Oak; $7.
ART 50 Years of Immortality: Art Exhibition Honoring Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Through March
Creation of Her by Bre’Ann White, Playground Detroit, Feb. 16. COURTESY OF PLAYGROUND DETROIT
3; Detroit Public Library — Main Branch, 5201 Woodward Ave., Detroit; Free.
and Saturday; Russell Industrial Center, Cla e Detroit
Annica Cuppetelli: Measures of Constriction Through March 2; K. Oss Contemporary Art, 1410 Gratiot Ave., Detroit; Free.
The Faces That We Face: Closing Reception Friday; AtomArt Gallery, 522 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; Free.
Behind the Scenes Tour: Cranbrook Couples Thursday, 6-7 p.m.; Cranbrook Art Museum, 39221 N. oodward e loomfield ills lus museum admission. Drawing in the Galleries Fridays, 6 p.m., Saturdays, noon and Sundays, noon; Detroit Institute of Arts, 5200 Woodward Ave., Detroit; Free. African Art: Highlights from the Horn Collection Through May 26; Flint Institute of Art, 1120 E. Kearsley St., lint donation Global Glass: A Survey of Form and Function Mondays-Wednesdays, and Fridays, 9 a.m. -5 p.m. and Thursdays, 9 a.m.-7 p.m.; Alfred Berkowitz Gallery, U of M-Dearborn, Dearborn; Free. Measured Space closing reception Saturday, Scarab Club, 217 Farnsworth St., Detroit; Donation. Melanie Manos: Truing Through Feb. 23; Simone DeSousa Gallery, 444 W. Willis St., Units 111 and 112, Detroit; Free. Natural Forms: Figurative and Landscape Works by Ann Kelly Caldwell, Fran Wolok, and Nora Venturelli Mondays-Sundays, 6 p.m.; orth ille rt ouse Cad t Northville; Free. Origins Through Feb. 21; Janice Charach Epstein Gallery, 6600 W. Maple d est loomfield ree The Big Picture Guided Tour Tuesdays-Sundays, 1 p.m., Fridays, 6 p.m. and Saturdays, Sundays, 3 p.m.; Detroit Institute of Arts, 5200 Woodward Ave., Detroit; Free. The Dirty Show Thursday, Friday,
The Far Shore: Navigating Homelands Mondays-Sundays.; Arab American National Museum, 13624 i higan e Dear orn The Other Dirty Show: Agnes Gira — Closing Reception Saturday; Scarab Club, 217 Farnsworth St., Detroit; Donation. Thursdays at the Museum: Highlights of the Permanent Collection Thursdays, 1 p.m.; Detroit Institute of Arts, 5200 Woodward Ave., Detroit; Free. Unfurled: Supports/Surfaces 1966-1976 Tuesdays-Sundays.; Museum of Contemporary Art Detroit (MOCAD), oodward e Detroit suggested donation.
FUN FOR ALL Aphrodisiac Cocktails at Trixie’s Wednesday, 6 p.m.; Trixie’s Bar, 2656 Carenter enue amtram o o er Detroit City Chess Club Open Play Fridays, 4 p.m.; Detroit Institute of Arts, 5200 Woodward Ave., Detroit; Free. HopCat Detroit Beer Dinner uesda m o Cat Detroit oodward e Detroit Magic & Illusion of Elliot Zimet Sunday, 4-6 p.m.; The Berman Center for the Performing Arts, 6600 W. Maple Rd., est loomfield Quicken Loans Winter Blast Weekends Friday-Sunday, 11 a.m.; Cam us artius ar oodward Ave., Detroit; Free. Get listed! Email calendar@metrotimes. com or go to metrotimes.com/addevent to do it yourself.
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Wiz Khalifa Saint Andrew’s Hall, Feb. 20, 7 p.m.; $117+
Ali Wong The Fillmore, May 4, 7 p.m., 9:30 p.m., $55+
Kelly Clarkson Little Caesars Arena, Feb. 21, 7 p.m., $20+
Patton Oswalt The Fillmore, May 18, 8 p.m.; $37.50+
Cold Cave Majestic Theatre, Feb. 28, 7 p.m.; $20-$25
Slayer DTE Energy Music Theatre, May 19, 6 p.m., $29.50+
Teenage Fanclub El Club, March 7, 8 p.m., $25
The Who Little Caesars Arena, May 28, 7:30 p.m., $68+
Mariah Carey Fox Theatre, March 8, 8 p.m., $49.95+
Luke Combs DTE Energy Music Theatre, May 30, 7 p.m.; $96+
Meek Mill Fox Theatre, March 9, 8 p.m., $104+
Weird Al Yankovic Meadow Brook Amphitheatre, July 5, 8 p.m., $30+
Cypress Hill The Fillmore, March 10, 6:30 p.m., $30+
Dave Matthews Band DTE Energy Music Theatre, July 9, 8 p.m., TBA
Kiss Little Caesars Arena, March 13, 7 p.m.; $59.50+
New Kids on the Block Little Caesars Arena, June 18, 7:30 p.m., $79.95+
James Bay Royal Oak Music Theatre, March 18, 7 p.m., $43+
Hugh Jackman Little Caesars Arena, June 24, 7 p.m., $152+
Justin Timberlake Little Caesars Arena, March 25, 7:30 p.m.; $73+
Jeff Lynne’s ELO Little Caesars Arena, July 20, 8 p.m., $69.50+
Mumford & Sons Little Caesars Arena, March 27, 7:30 p.m., $64.50+
Adam Lambert + Queen Little Caesars Arena, July 27, 8 p.m.; $995+
Demetri Martin Royal Oak Music Theatre, March 29, 8 p.m., $39.50
John Mayer Little Caesars Arena, Aug. 2, 7:30 p.m., $59.50+
Muse Little Caesars Arena, April 4, 7:30 p.m.; $44.50+
Bryan Ferry Fox Theatre, Aug. 3, 8 p.m., $39.50+
Ariana Grande Little Caesars Arena, April 5, 8 p.m.; $339.95+
Carlos Santana DTE Energy Music Theatre, Aug. 11, 7 p.m., $47+
Trevor Noah Fox Theatre, April 26, 7:30 p.m., 10 p.m. $35+
Backstreet Boys Little Caesars Arena, Aug. 12, 8 p.m., $144+
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CULTURE Pop goes the DIA New exhibition revisits the whimsy and turbulence of the ’60s and ’70s By Lee DeVito
The dynamics at play in the
new pop art exhibition at the Detroit Institute of Arts are perhaps best e em lified a wor from ister ar Corita a lesser nown Los ngeles artist who also ha ened to e a nun at a Catholi s hool n nri hed read Corita a ro riates the old olors and atterns of onder read a aging added a uote from hiloso her l ert Camus and ga e the ie e a name that nods to the Catholi eu harist reat ideas it has een said ome into the world as gentl as do es the Camus uote reads in art erha s then if we listen attenti el we shall hear amid the u roar of em ires and nations a faint utter of wings the gentle stirring of life and ho e he has this fa ulous uote in there whi h is telling artists to engage with the world sa s Clare ogan the museum s urator of rints and drawings ou ha e some od who ou would thin wouldn t e er engaged with the world ou now a nun who is a tuall in redi l engaged with ontem orar o art and its latest possibilities, and with existentialist philosophy, and with ad ertisements he image was made in and the D a uired it in whi h shows how the museum was on to of the o rt mo ement when the fine art world was rea ting to the rise of mass media ogan who joined the museum in late sa s she was ins ired the museum s olle tion for her first e hi ition in her new role. “When you come to a collection, one of the great jo s is finding out what the strengths are she sa s started loo ing through the whole olle tion of rints and drawings and ui l reali ed that this was an area where not onl did we ha e great material ut we had a histor of olle ting from the
“Crying Girl,” 1963, Roy Lichtenstein, American; offset lithograph printed in color on off-white wove paper.
er earl s and had a han e to ring out some ie es that ha en t een on e hi ition in ears in e man of the wor s are on a er the an onl e on dis la for short eriods of time so as not to get damaged light he show mar s an o ortunit for isitors to see man of these wor s together for the first time in a generation ogan sa s she hose the eriod of to for the show e ause it was the a e of the mo ement thin the thing with o is it s a reall interesting transition es e iall in the histor of rintma ing e ause it s a moment when artists are engaging with the e er da world with the modern the new she sa s e ha e to remem er ad ertising as we now it toda was just new and e iting in his was er mu h a outh re olution as well as an art re olution t was also a mar ed mo e awa from the wor of the older generation of stra t ressionists whose art was more about the internal ision of the artist then artists were loo ing to o culture for inspiration, whether it was Claes lden urg s ode to ood umor i e ream ars or o Li htenstein ta ing omi oo anels and enlarging them for ing the iewer to see them in a new ers e ti e hat s art of a lot
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of the energ and the i ran of o art, is that embrace of contemporary life sa s ogan his idea of a roriation the idea of ta ing something and ma ing it larger stranger highlighting it riti uing it turning it around ma ing it e seen in a different wa t the time a ro of fine art rint sho s had emerged whi h ould hel artists mass rodu e their wor s ome li e L s emini L e erimented with new te hni ues to reate editions of three dimensional wor s out of lasti as the did with ldenurg t also turned the idea of what is onsidered fine art on its head Li htenstein s Cr ing irl for e am le was rinted as a oster to ad ertise a show at ew or s Leo Castelli aller f ou went to see the show ou d get one ogan sa s nd there are all these stories a out eo le who olle ted them and ut thum ta s in them and stu them u in their edrooms and ne er thought a out it nd now it s in a museum olle tion grou ing the wor hronologiall ogan is a le to tell the stor of the onte t the wor was reated in n this ase that was the tur ulent s and s as a e ge o timism made
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wa for oliti al u hea al hen e the show’s name, From Camelot to Kent State. lot of the wor in the earlier art of the de ade is reall em ra ing the modern and the new with a er ositi e er ele rator em ra e of mass ulture ogan sa s hat all hanged i hard amilton s rint series ent tate whi h features a grisl image of a ollege ietnam ar rotester shot at the hands of the ational uard amilton sat in front of the with a amera on a tri od for a wee in sear h of a su je t for a rint edition when the image ashed on the C t seemed right too that art ould hel to ee the shame in our minds amilton said at the time he wide distri ution of a large edition rint might e the strongest indi tment ould ma e he image then is also e em lar of o rt ta ing the e hemeral and immortali ing it he show runs through ug rom Camelot to ent tate o rt opens on Sunday, Feb. 17 at the Detroit Institute of Arts; 5200 Woodward Ave., Detroit; 313-833-7900; dia.org; Free with museum admission, which is free for Wayne, Oakland, and Macomb county residents.
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Senghor Reid in the studio.
COURTESY OF M CONTEMPORARY ART
Making waves
Detroit artist Senghor Reid takes to the water in new exhibition By Ashley White
For his latest series of paintings, Detroit artist Senghor Reid started with small studies, building a system of gestural movements that began to simulate something that surrounds us here in the Great Lakes State but perhaps can easily become taken for granted — water. “I started painting water and I asked myself, ‘What does this really mean to me?’” says Reid, a Detroit native who is an artist-in-residence at Cranbrook. “I realized that growing up in the city and being a city boy my whole life, I don’t have a lot of contact with nature — physical contact, physical interactions — and especially when it comes to water. My paintings are a way for me
to deal with that yearning and wanting to be closer connected to nature.” That series is collected in Distilled, which opens in Ferndale’s M Contemporary Art on Friday. It follows a similar theme to the artist’s past work in drawing inspiration from nature. “As an artist, every color, every form, every te ture ou an find in nature he sa s ou an alwa s find something in nature to draw from, be inspired by or to use as a catalyst or a springboard for your work.” Reid says this body of work allowed him to open up as an artist — literally and figurati el got to a oint last year where I felt like my paintings were a little too tight,” he says. “I wanted
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to push the limit and really distill my process down into smaller bits and make work that is a little bit more of linear quality. [I’m also] trying to figure out how to aint water so that it becomes a part of my muscle memory. I’m trying to understand things structurally.” As Reid worked on the exhibition, he says it not only challenged him as an artist, but Distilled also opens the door for a deeper conversation. “I would like to have a bigger impact on our personal health,” explains Reid. “I want my work to make people more aware of the decisions we make when it comes to our eating habits, our vices, and the way that we treat our bodies. I’m not
perfect, but as I continue to get older, I’m trying to conspire against my worst habits by eating healthier, by drinking more water, or being more conscious of what I intake.” “My goal is to always inspire people to be their best selves,” he says. “I always make art with bright colors, lots of movement. I want people to be invigorated, I want people to be happy and excited when they see my work.” Distilled has an opening reception from 6-9 p.m. on Friday, Feb. 15 at M Contemporary Art; 205 E. Nine Mile Rd., Ferndale; 347-665-7011; mcontemporaryart.com; Show runs through March 9.
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The colorful denizens of Bricksburg return.
WARNER BROS. PICTURES
Toy story By Corey Hall
Late-stage capitalism
ma es a mesmeri ing dis la of its e ibility in The Lego Movie 2: The Second Part — squeezing emotion, laughs, and even a sense of wonder from what is ostensi l an e tended to ommer ial he real magi tri here is that ids in the multi le will eagerl go le u this ela orate mar eting e er ise as will their arents whose herished hildhood memories ro a l in lude aturda morning to ommer ials in themsel es Don t let m en angst and rofessional ni ism fool ou though his is a sugar into i ating and olored rom that will stimulate leasure enters in e en the most resistant rains his relentlessl energeti se uel i s u fi e ears after the original smash hit with the an iti ens of ri s urg struggling to maintain their unique identity after being overrun by sparkly invaders from the distant and enigmati star stem hese
aggressi el heerful and a arentl unsto a le intruders ha e reated a risis of onfiden e in our lo heroes for ing them to ado t edg new ersonas and refashion their o lasti metro olis into a ost a o al ti frontier town right out of the Mad Max uni erse While everyone else is busy brooding and getting trendy tats, sweetly o timisti regular gu mmet Chris Pratt) keeps plugging away on the plans for his o little dream ottage whi h he s ho efull uilding as a ha il ever-after retreat for himself and his gal rush Lu ldst le li a eth an s s hi er as he is e en mmet is troubled by visions of a pending rmomageddon just o er the hori on hose shadow fears ear fruit when the shapeshifting alien Queen ate ra a a i the gidd oi e of iffan addish idna s our main hara ters and announ es her lans to merge the feuding kingdoms by mar-
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r ing the ommitted tough gu loner atman ill rnett fresh from his own atman Lego s in off mo ie ho an resist this onslaught of s ar l lo e do e ooties en the might usti e League gets glitter om ed o the res ue rushes e Danger est also oi ed ratt a su er ool ra tor training s a e irate and adventurer that is a mash-up of all of ratt s o ular a tion roles who o ens u the stor to a wider world s is slowl re ealed the animated shenanigans are mirrored by a livea tion lot a out the si ling ri alr etween rothers inn adon and and id sister ian a roo l nn rin e whose onstant arguing leads to the very real threat of parental intervention whi h will mean all the Lego eo le will get banished to eternal limbo in the dreaded storage ins reenwriting team hil Lord and Christo her iller ha e uilt a mini em ire on the ind of er le er
The LEGO Movie 2: The Second Part Rated: PG-13 Run-time: 146 minutes metate tual de onstru tions of genre in films li e 21 Jump Street and, most re entl Into the Spider-Verse, but the Lego series ma e their most erfe t la ground he jum le of o ulture figures at wor here not onl mimi s the wa ids a tuall la with their to s ut allows for am le in jo es ele rit ameos and nowing win s It also allows for a theme of mutual understanding and olla oration to sli through the ashing lights and o song earworms s it mani ulati e t sure is ut there s su h jo ful imagination ehind this ro ert ou ll lo e eing swindled.
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Seminar on marijuana and the workplace was half-baked By Larry Gabriel
With recreational, adultuse marijuana now legalized in
Michigan, businesses and their human resources professionals now have to reconsider rules about pot and the workplace. That was made pretty clear at the seminar “Michigan’s New Marijuana Law: What Every Business Should Know,” hosted by Trion Solutions on Thursday, Feb. 7 at the Auburn Hills Chamber of Commerce. he ri le effe t of legali ing adult use marijuana is going in all kinds of di-
re tions arijuana is affe ting dri ing law, food law, agriculture law, business zoning law, and more. At some point it will hange finan e law and ultimatel the war on drugs. However, this is about dealing with change as it happens. The presentation put on by Trion’s CEO Craig Vanderburg and hief legal o er ames aiers was a starting-from-zero kind of presentation. Really: Baiers literally discussed the difference in spelling between “marihuana” and “marijuana,” and speculated on how much is 2.5 ounces — the amount an adult can have at home without having to lock it up in a vault. “It’s not about right or wrong,” says Vanderburg. “It’s about what is the potential impact if something happens in your workplace.” That’s what it should be about, particularly in a manufacturing or industrial workplace. Every business owner probably has at least the occasional nightmare about liability issues if someone is hurt in their workplace. Vanderburg brought up the possibility of a i Lo o erator under the in uen e running somebody over. That’s a night-
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mare for everybody involved. The folks from Trion are correct that em lo ers definitel need to loo at their policy regarding marijuana. And they touted experience on the subject based on doing business in Colorado and California, where medical and adult-use recreational have long been facts of life well before either came to Michigan. That should give folks at Trion some perspective. “This goes beyond a change in the law,” Vanderburg says. “It’s getting into what’s going on in society.” That was the setup. It sounded like they understand social trends, as if they had clocked that millennials don’t fear marijuana and ha e a different attitude than older generations. The Trion folks played themselves as more or less objective arbiters of prudence for businesses with regard to marijuana, preaching that businesses should step back and take a look at policy. All of that seemed to be a conservative approach. Of course you don’t want eo le at wor under the in uen e That’s a no-brainer. But how do you easily discern between the people who
Trion’s James Baiers, left, and Craig Vanderburg discuss marijuana in the LARRY GABRIEL workplace.
had a Sunday afternoon joint while watching the game and somebody who fired u in the ar at lun h on onda That’s a harder to answer question that is im ortant to get figured out and one that has a legitimate place in getting our relationshi with marijuana figured out Whoever comes up with a quick saliva test that can detect how much fresh THC is in a person is going to make a lot of mone f ourse some od first has to figure out how to dis ern how mu h marijuana is too much. In the meantime, Vanderburg gave the general recommendation that
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juana does to eo le Let s sa ou ha e some od in our a ounting and finan e de artment that comes in and they’re high,” he says, “and they would have never thought of doing this ut now the re sitting at a des to and the ha e the a ilit to commit fraud, move money out of the an a ount o did it im air our judgment arentl he thin s that marijuana turns good eo le into riminals e says this person would not have even thought of committing fraud had he or she not used marijuana ould understand it if he had said the finan e erson got onfused and ut the num ers in the wrong olumn or ran them through the wrong program, or even accidentally put the money in the wrong account. You might argue that eing high made ou get mi ed u on something owe er ander urg asserts that marijuana an hange our fundamental character and turn you into a criminal. That’s Reefer Madness, a hen ointed this out to anderurg he said that he didn t intend it
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that wa a e he didn t ut that s what he said t tells me that he hasn t really thought of it that deeply if that is his first e am le out of that la oo would ha e e e ted that he had a er good e am le at hand to toss m wa m not an gu nor am ade t at al ulating ris and lia ilit and all that ut do re ogni e a atten down the hat hes a roa h to marijuana when see one he rion gu s asi all argue that’s the prudent thing to do until all of this gets more definiti el sorted out But theirs isn’t the only approach. There was a March 2018 article on loom erg om titled he Coming Decline of the Employment Drug Test.” t re orts a sur e of Colorado om anies ountain tates m lo ers Coun il found the om anies that drug-test employees had dropped from er ent to er ent and that those in states where medicinal and recreational marijuana are legal were leading the way. The article quoted human resources oli law er ames eid who sa s “We assume that a certain level of emlo ees are going to e arta ing on the
weekends. We don’t care.” rion is a nationwide usiness and their fol s ha e to e aware of that trend and approach. That’s not in or even suggested in their resentation n his earliest remar s ander urg mentions a wor er using marijuana on rida night and not really thinking it through that work loomed on Monday. The folks at Trion need to think that through. Either they have little understanding of marijuana or the re ur osel s reading fear to drum u usiness he onl ro lem with marijuana on Monday morning, three days after having used it on rida is ha ing to ta e a drug test. And that is what Trion advises em lo ers ontinue doing oli e their wor ers eha ior when the re not at work. Employers have a freedom of choice a out their oli ies and the an consult with Trion or even outsource their de artment to the om an owe er when the rion rew omes on with this line that it s not a out right or wrong don t elie e them or some it s a arentl still a out Reefer Madness.
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I am a 56-year-old heterosexual man, and I have lived with ALS for the past six years. I am either in a wheelchair or in a hospital bed, and I have very little motor ability in my limbs. Like most or all male ALS patients, I still have full sensory ability, including a fully functioning penis. Are there safe websites or groups I can connect with that deal with helping paralytics like me nd people who are interested in hooking up? I’m talking about people who have a fetish for paralytics. I know that some people have a thing for amputees; I imagine there’s a fetish for any number of diseases or a ictions. When was healthy, I was into light bondage. That seems like a redundancy now, but I can still get into dress-up and role-play. I would be cool if someone was into the whole bathing, grooming, dressing thing, and whatever baby-doll fantasy they might have. Hell, I’d be happy if someone just wanted to give me a pity fuck! —Realistic About Getting Dominated Or Lustfully Laid
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Savage Love
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m interested in mummi cation — being covered in layers of plastic wrap and duct tape — but I am not interested in sexual activity. I created an account on what I have been told is the most popular hookup app for kinky gay men. I am not interested in sex with any gender. How can I determine if someone who
by Dan Savage
agrees to mummify me can be trusted not to initiate sexual activity? Wannabe Rare Aspie Perv
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I’m a 44-year-old woman living in the DC area. I divorced my husband last year, and I haven’t had sex in seven years. Despite my premenopausal age and daily antidepressant, I’m horny as fuck. How do you recommend nd someone to do me am a BBW and ready to get fucked. But I also want to protect my privacy and I’m reluctant to post pics online. I’m aware I am a fetish for some, and I’ve been something of a “crazy-person magnet” in the past, and that’s a concern. I’m not looking for love. I just want to get done without meeting a psycho. —Like A Virgin Again
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ou an t find someone if ou aren t willing to ut ourself out there L whi h these da s means utting some i s u on dating a s here are lots of dating and or hoo u a s and we sites for igger fol s some more fetishi ing than others did a little digging and oo lus om seems to e legit and not o errun with feeders nd who ares if someone s ots our hoto on a dating site f eff e os refuses to e shamed his di i s or la mailed with them ou don t ha e to e ashamed to show our fa e on a dating or hoo u a s for a oiding s hos L there are shitt to i eo le e er where Learn to re ogni e the signs and ta e those red ags seriousl f ou ha e a terri le tra re ord if ou e found ourself with or married to a lot of shitt to i eo le then ou need to ma e sure ou re not the ro lem e ause if e er one ou e e er dated was shitt or to i L there s a etter than e en han e ou were the shitt or to i ommon denominator in a lot of failed relationshi s Do the wor ris eing intros e ti e and self riti al and if ou re not the ro lem and ou are in a a le of s otting red ags onfide in a friend whose judgment ou trust when ou re s reening otential s On the Lo e ast, Dan chats with Eric Leue from the Free Speech Coalition: savagelovecast.com. Questions? mail@savagelove.net. Impeach the Motherfucker Already: ITMFA.org.
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Horoscopes By Cal Garrison
ARIES: March 21 – April 20 ou are tr ing to figure out how to get things to wor with er little su ort from an thing ut little old ou or whate er reason ou sto ed needing an one to show u to sa e the da a long time ago De ending on the wa ou slant things ou re either feeling sorr for ourself or ou re in a groo e that is tea hing ou a lot a out how mu h strength we deri e from nowing we an handle a solutel an thing he ower of thought will ontinue to gi e ou more to sa a out our life and a out the wa things go ee our heart o en and ee u the good wor
LEO: July 21 – August 20 he desire to stand u for ourself or ma e our oint is understanda le ut it s stu id to e honest with dishonest eo le Do ourself a fa or and let od dish out the justi e he more ou tr to rea re enge or get those who ha e wronged ou to see the error of their wa s the more trou le ou will stir u or someone who retends to e in tune with letting it e ou should now etter than to offer resistan e n some ases our trou les are eing aused the fa t that ou re in the wrong la e at the wrong time u h of what s messing ou u ould e fi ed with a mo e
SAGITTARIUS: Nov. 21 – Dec. 20 er now and then the whole all of wa melts down and whate er ou e reated turns into something else n the erge of our ne t a t a lot of things will wal off the set and e re la ed with eo le and situations that ha e more to do with who ou are now f others ha e a ro lem with this gi e them time to get used to it or e re ared to wa e good e rom what an see ou are a out to em ar on the ad enture of a lifetime f ou hoose to sit this out ou will wind u where ou re at now f ou hoose to go for it it will o en the oodgates to a whole new life
TAURUS: April 21 – May 20 etween a ro and a hard la e there is onl one o tion inding our wa out of this mess will re uire ou to hange our es we now that ou are real good at ta ing are of ourself ut right now our tried and true methods our ta t and or our stiff u er li aren t wor ing t loo s li e eo le and situations ha e ou the shorthairs hoe er the are ultimatel ou re the erson in harge s ou loo at what it will ta e to shift the alan e of ower ta e the ull the horns and remind them that ou are no usho er and that the jig is just a out u
VIRGO: August 21 – Sept. 20 ou are wise enough a out worldl things to now how to mo e and sha e them he igger art of ou wants more than that t the moment ou are wal ing the line that ee s all of us wishing we ould mo e etween the h si al and the magi al as e ts of earthl e erien e without losing too mu h of the truth to one or the other ou ha e all inds of reasons to entren h ourself in things that hold s a e for what mone an u s ou ontinue to um life into those things don t lose sight of the fa t that we wea e e er thing we reate from within
CAPRICORN: Dec. 21 – Jan. 20 ou re a at it again doing whate er it ta es to turn the tide f our est laid lans are tied u in a we of frustration it has a lot to do with the fa t that others ha e not ome through with the goods or een a le to ee their word or a while there ou thought ou had our head a o e water etween ur h s Law and a few e tra added attra tions ou an t figure out what s u with all of this t times li e this we ha e no hoi e and the sa ing ot m will ut thine alls us to gi e it u to od and trust that whate er is ha ening is in his hands
GEMINI: May 21 – June 20 here s alwa s a ertain sense of satisfa tion that omes from eing a le to sa told ou so ou were right a out this all along ow that ou e een indi ated the ones who didn t listen will want to at h u their differen es f that s the wa it goes don t lord an thing o er them and tr to forgi e them for messing u his e erien e has taught ou more a out ourself than a hundred ears of thera hat ou ta e from it won t e lear for a while ut the first art of the lesson seems to e a out nowing enough to sta hum le and trust our intuition er ent of the time
LIBRA: Sept. 21 – Oct. 20 he fo us needs to e on the resent oo mu h dwelling on the ast and the tenden to fret a out the future is ma ing it hard for ou to now where ou re at with our life u h of what s ome to ass in re ent months a ears to e a nee jer rea tion to things that seemed to e more than ou ould handle he ui fi didn t reall sol e mu h it ma ha e e en rought ou straight from the fr ing an into the fire ow that ou re here he out the situation and ome to terms with the fa t that our future is eing written the things that are going on now
CANCER: June 21 – July 20 sn t it funn what a little time and a hange of s ener an do for our ers e ti e he wa things are going ou re wondering wh ou e er had a ro lem with this or the ne t few months whate er ou ouldn t seem to ull together in the ast is going to ome together in a wa that will rea rm our elief that this is all worthwhile n etween the reali ation that ou reall are on the right tra and feelings of immense gratitude ou might want to thin a out where this is all going to end u and re are the ground for whate er it ta es to ma e it etter
SCORPIO: Oct. 21 – Nov. 20 n the middle of a huge turnaround it s unwise to ma e things harder than the ha e to e ou ee thin ing that ou ha e to go a to s uare one efore ou an get things to wor ut if ou loo around ou ha e e er thing ou need to mo e on to igger and etter things right here in front of ou thers are definitel in our fa e a out it ut that s their ro lem nd wh ou need to rea free in the first la e ith new eo le showing u to distra t ou e autious and e er wat hful of the tenden to jum from the fr ing an into the fire
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AQUARIUS: Jan. 21 – Feb. 20 ou e got it made on a lot of le els hat ha ens ne t will add to the sense that ou re mo ing onward and u ward olding s a e for this mu h su ess needs to e alan ed with enough humilit to ee our ego and o er onfiden e from going o er the to t s a good thing life is going so well e ause this ta es the edge off some of the harder stories that ha e ro elled ou to get this far s far as that goes it ll e awhile efore those things ome u for re iew or now sit a and relish the fa t that ou e made it to the to with oth hands tied ehind our a PISCES: Feb. 21 – March 20 ou are eginning to feel li e things are totall out of our hands f this seems li e a sign of wea ness fear not ou e rea hed the oint where ou understand that we an onl li e from moment to moment ith no firm sense of how all of this is going to ome together ou don t need to do mu h of an thing ut sta honest and e as lear as ou an when other eo le show u to distra t ou omething al hemi al is a out to transform our life and in the a t of doing so will release ou from armi de ts that ha e all een aid off with our lood sweat and tears
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