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THE WEEK

SUNDAY, FEB. 26

Candlelight Open Air: Vivaldi’s Four Seasons 7 & 9 pm; The Veranda at Thornton Park, 707 E Washington St.; $35-$40; 407-872-8454.

Eddie Marshall’s Blue Bamboo Big Band 3 pm; Blue Bamboo Center for the Arts, 1905 Kentucky Ave., Winter Park; $25-$35; 407-636-9951.

A Joy-Filled Noise: A Musical Celebration of Black History 7:30 pm; Timucua Arts Foundation, 2000 S. Summerlin Ave.; $7.50; 407-595-2713.

J.S. Bach’s St. Matthew Passion 3 pm; Rollins College, Knowles Memorial Chapel, 1000 Holt Ave., Winter Park; $30; 407-646-2000.

Justin Biltonen 6 pm; Tuffy’s Music Box, 200 Myrtle Ave., Sanford; $15.

Ludacris 7 pm; Bayside Stadium, 5677 SeaWorld Drive; $9.99-$85.

Marisela and Alvaro 8 pm; Silver Spurs Arena at Osceola Heritage Park, 1875 Silver Spur Lane, Kissimmee; $89-$154; 321-697-3333.

Orlando Jazz Festival Concert II 8 pm; UCF Communications Building Auditorium, 4000 Central Florida Blvd.; free-$25; 407-823-1500.

Oscar G & Cocodrills 6 pm; Elixir, 9 W. Washington St.; $15; 407-985-3507.

Trapt 7 pm; Shovelhead Lounge, 900 S. Highway 17-92, Longwood; $20-$60; 407-332-9199.

The World I See, Tether, 6 Days in September, Counter Attack, Enigmal, Real Men 6:30 pm; Conduit, 6700 Aloma Ave., Winter Park; $12; 407-673-2712.

MONDAY, FEB. 27

Adore Delano: Party Your World 8 pm; The Social, 54 N. Orange Ave.; $36; 407-648-8363.

TUESDAY, FEB. 28

The Beach Boys, John Stamos 7:30 pm; Hard Rock Live, 6050 Universal Blvd.; $68.50-$89.50; 407-351-5483.

The Chicago Symphony Orchestra 7:30 pm; Steinmetz Hall, Dr. Phillips Center for the Performing Arts, 445 S. Magnolia Ave.; $120-$300; 407-358-6603.

Spirit Machines, Mirror Parts, Sistamatic, Iesha Marie 8 pm; Will’s Pub, 1042 N. Mills Ave.; $10-$12.

Theater

A Big Day for Jackie Robinson: A Magic Tree House Adventure Jack and Annie are back in this musical journey, based on the book by Mary Pope Osborne. Margeson Theater, Lowndes Shakespeare Center, 812 E. Rollins St.; $12-$18; 407-447-1700; orlandoshakes.org.

The Addams Family A comical feast that embraces the wackiness in every family. Opens Thursday; Fashion Square Mall, 3201 E. Colonial Drive; $20-$60; 407-896-1131.

Angels in America, Part Two: Perestroika Bold conclusion to Tony Kushner’s epic theatrical masterpiece.

Thursday-Saturday; Valencia East Campus Black Box Theater, 701 N. Econlockhatchee Trail; $12; 407-5822900; events.valenciacollege.edu.

As You Like It One of Shakespeare’s most beloved romantic comedies, interfused with song and movement. Wednesday-Saturday; Rollins College, Annie Russell Theatre, 1000 Holt Ave., Winter Park; $20; 407-646-2145; rollins.edu/annie-russell-theatre.

Beacon Street Staged reading of a new musical by Stan Madray, featuring the music of Nancie Griffith.

Friday-Saturday; Renaissance Theatre Company, 415 E Princeton St.; $20; rentheatre.com.

Best of Broadway: 1965-1974 Songs from Seesaw, Lorelei, Pippin, A Little Night Music, Grease, Follies and many more shows. Breakthrough Theatre Company, 6900 Aloma Ave., Winter Park; $12-$20; 407-9204034; breakthroughtheatre.com.

Breaking Our Mold: A Ghost Light Theatricals Cabaret Series Six local artists explore why they chose theatre as a profession. 7 pm Sunday; The Mezz, 100 S. Eola Drive; $15-$60; 407-423-9999; mezzorlando.com.

Creature Feature Weekly horrordrag show by Black Haüs. Ages 18+; 10 pm; Renaissance Theatre Co., 415 E. Princeton St.; $7-$10; instagram. com/blackhaus_creaturefeature.

Home of the Brave The concept of home can mean a lot to different people. Friday-Sunday; UCF Black Box Theatre, Theatre Building, Main Campus; $15; 407-823-1500; arts.cah.ucf.edu.

Lady Day at Emerson’s Bar and Grill

In a seedy bar in 1959 Philadelphia, celebrated singer Billie Holiday gives one of her final unforgettable performances to a captive audience. Mandell Theater, Lowndes Shakespeare Center, 812 E. Rollins St.; $25-$57; 407-447-1700; orlandoshakes.org.

Luchadora! Imagine the Chinese legend Hua Mulan set in the world of lucha libre — Mexican wrestling! Sarurday-Sunday; Orlando Repertory Theatre, 1001 E. Princeton St.; 407896-7365; orlandorep.com.

Middletown The lives of the inhabitants of Middletown intersect in strange and poignant ways in a journey that takes them from the local library to outer space and points between. Fringe ArtSpace, 54 W. Church St.; $27; orlandofringe.org.

The Prom A funny, playful, zazzy show, brimming with satire, and packing a powerful message. Thursday-Sunday; Theatre South Playhouse, 7601 Della Drive; $32; theatresouthplayhouse.org.

Rock of Ages The show features an all-star cast, including Bo Bice, Omar Cardona and Justin Sargent. Garden Theatre, 160 W. Plant St., Winter Garden; $35-$75; 407877-4736; gardentheatre.org.

The Vagina Monologues Celebrate the good, the bad, and the sisterhood while raising awareness and funds. 5 pm Sunday; The Abbey, 100 S. Eola Drive; $25; 407-704-6261; abbeyorlando.com.

Comedy

David Jolly and Friends 6 pm Sunday; Orlando Improv, 9101 International Drive; $15; 407-4805233; theimprovorlando.com.

Marlon Wayans Multiple shows Thursday-Saturday; Orlando Improv, 9101 International Drive; $48-$58; 407480-5233; theimprovorlando.com.

Open Mic 7 pm Thursday; Orlando Improv, 9101 International Drive; free; 407-480-5233; theimprovorlando.com.

Phil Rosenthal 8 pm Saturday; The Plaza Live, 425 N. Bumby Ave; $39-$59;

407-228-1220; plazaliveorlando.org.

Events

The 12th Annual Chili for Charity Winter Park chefs’ unique chilis and fixings, live entertainment, and silent auction.

5 pm Friday; Winter Park Library and Events Center, 1052 W. Morse Blvd., Winter Park; $75-$500; 407-399-9354.

BLK on the Block Games, vibes, and a visit from the neighborhood candy lady, plus enter for a chance to win a Tampa Bay Bucs signed football. Music by DJ Intel. 2 pm Saturday; The Veranda at Thornton Park, 707 E. Washington St.; $5-$20; 407-801-4877.

Collect-A-Con The nation’s largest trading card, anime & pop culture convention. 10 am Saturday; Orange County Convention Center, 9800 International Drive; $25-$100; 407-685-9800.

Daytona Beach Carnival Exciting rides and games, plus deep-fried treats, sweets and carnival eats. Wednesday-Sunday; Daytona Beach Racing and Card Club, 960 S. Williamson Blvd., Daytona Beach; free-$60; 866-666-3247.

An Evening With Fabulous Friends Fundraising gala with music, cocktails, dinner, luxury auction. 6 pm Saturday; Mennello Museum of American Art, 900 E. Princeton St.; 407-246-4278; mennellomuseum.org.

HeART and Soul Paying homage to the beauty of Black culture across the Diaspora. All ages. 2 pm Saturday; Winter Park Library and Events Center, 1052 W. Morse Blvd., Winter Park; free; 407-623-3300; winterparklibrary.org.

Heroes, Villains, and Blerds: For the Love of Cartoons A gathering of black nerds and artists from all fandoms. It creates space for black fans, artists, and other POC in the nerd community. 2 pm Sunday; Winter Park Community Center, 721 New England Ave., Winter Park; free; 407-5993275; scarlettswitch.com/hvandb.

Scavenger Hunt Orlando Venture through downtown Orlando to solve clues, compete in photo challenges, and test knowledge of local trivia, benefitting Ronald McDonald House Charities of Central FL. 12:30 pm Saturday; Ember Bar and Restaurant, 42 W. Central Blvd.; $200; 407206-0957; fb.me/e/2u3KrFZR6.

Whiskey Business More than 70 whiskeys, Scotches, bourbons & ryes, plus craft beer and wine, bites from top Orlando restaurants, live music & performances, local vendors and much more. Ages 21+ only. 7 pm Thursday; Winter Park Civic Center, 1050 W. Morse Blvd., Winter Park; $35-$70; whiskeybusinessorlando.com.

Learning

Brechner Series: “Joy and Pain: Black Music of the United States Global Praxis” Don Harrell, University of Central Florida professor of Africana Studies and CEO of African Diasporic Arts and Education Inc., leads a discussion of the relationship between music and society. 2 pm Sunday; Orange County Regional History Center, 65 E. Central Blvd; free; 407-836-8500; thehistorycenter.org.

Snack and Learn: Black History Bingo In Black History bingo, we all win by learning the history of African Americans. Snack will be provided. Noon Wednesday; Eatonville Branch Library, 200 E. Kennedy Blvd., Eatonville; free; 407-835-7323; attend.ocls.info.

Vision Board Workshop Create a vision board to help you imagine your best life. 2 pm Saturday; Southeast Branch Library, 5575 South Semoran Blvd.; free; 407-835-7323; attend.ocls.info.

Literary

Joybird’s Book Club: I Contain Multitudes Every animal, whether human, squid, or wasp, is home to millions of bacteria and other microbes. Thursday 7 pm; Joybird Books, 3018 Corrine Drive; 407951-5436; joybirdbooks.com.

Sports

Thunder City Siren Recruit Night 7:15 pm Sunday; Deland Skating Center, 1779 N. Spring Garden Ave., DeLand; 386-734-9444; facebook. com/events/1563220344180889.

Yoga in the Sculpture Garden Start your Sunday out blissfully with a relaxing lakeside flow. 11:30 am Sunday; Mennello Museum of American Art, 900 E. Princeton St.; $5-$25; 407246-4278; mennellomuseum.org.

Yoga With Cats 9:30 am Saturday; Orlando Cat Cafe, 532 Cagan Park Ave., Clermont; $20; 352-9894820; orlandocatcafe.com. n

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): “What is originality?” asked philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. Here’s how he answered: “to see something that has no name as yet, and hence cannot be mentioned though it stares us all in the face.” Got that, Pisces? I hope so, because your fun assignments in the coming days include the following: No. 1, to make a shimmering dream coalesce into a concrete reality; No. 2, to cause a figment of the imagination to materialize into a useful accessory; No. 3, to coax an unborn truth to sprout into a galvanizing insight.

ARIES (March 21-April 19): Philosopher John O’Donohue wrote a prayer not so much to God as to Life. It’s perfect for your needs right now. He said, “May my mind come alive today to the invisible geography that invites me to new frontiers, to break the dead shell of yesterdays, to risk being disturbed and changed.” I think you will generate an interesting onrush of healing, Aries, if you break the dead shell of yesterdays and risk being disturbed and changed. The new frontier is calling to you. To respond with alacrity, you must shed some baggage.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Right-wing religious influencers are rambling amok in the United States. In recent months, their repressive pressures have forced over 1,600 books to be banned in 138 school districts in 38 states. The forbidden books include some about heroes Nelson Mandela, Cesar Chavez and Rosa Parks. With this appalling trend as a motivational force, I encourage you Tauruses to take inventory of any tendencies you might have to censor the information you expose yourself to. According to my reading of the astrological omens, now is an excellent time to pry open your mind to consider ideas and facts you have shut out. Be eager to get educated and inspired by stimuli outside your usual scope.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): I think we can all agree that it’s really fun to fall in love. Those times when we feel a thrilling infatuation welling up within us are among the most pleasurable of all human experiences. Wouldn’t it be great if we could do it over and over again as the years go by? Just keep getting bowled over by fresh immersions in swooning adoration? Maybe we could drum up two or three bouts of mad love explosions every year. But alas, giving in to such a temptation might make it hard to build intimacy and trust with a committed, long-term partner. Here’s a possible alternative: Instead of getting smitten with an endless series of new paramours, we could get swept away by novel teachings, revelatory meditations, lovable animals, sublime art or music, amazing landscapes or sanctuaries, and exhilarating adventures.

I hope you will be doing that in the coming weeks, Gemini.

CANCER (June 21-July 22): The scientific method is an excellent approach for understanding reality. It’s not the only one, and should not be used to the exclusion of other ways of knowing. But even if you’re allergic to physics or never step into a chemistry lab, you are wise to use the scientific method in your daily life. The coming weeks will be an especially good time to enjoy its benefits. What would that mean, practically speaking? Set aside your subjective opinions and habitual responses. Instead, simply gather evidence. Treasure actual facts. Try to be as objective as you can in evaluating everything that happens. Be highly attuned to your feelings, but also be aware that they may not provide all facets of the truth.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Is there anything in your psychological makeup that would help you do some detective work? How are your skills as a researcher? Are you willing to be cagey and strategic as you investigate what’s going on behind the scenes? If so, I invite you to carry out any or all of these four tasks in the coming weeks: No. 1: Try to become aware of shrouded half-truths. No. 2: Be alert for shadowy stuff lurking in bright, shiny environments. No. 3: Uncover secret agendas and unacknowledged evidence. No. 4: Explore stories and situations that no one else seems curious about.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): The country of Nepal, which has strong Virgo qualities, is divided into seven provinces. One is simply called “Province No. 1,” while the others are Sudurpashchim, Karnali, Gandaki, Lumbini, Bagmati and Janakpur. I advise Nepal to give Province No. 1 a decent name very soon. I also recommend that you Virgos extend a similar outreach to some of the unnamed beauty in your sphere. Have fun with it. Give names to your phone, your computer, your bed, your hair dryer and your lamps, as well as your favorite trees, houseplants and clouds. You may find that the gift of naming helps make the world a more welcoming place with which you have a more intimate relationship. And that would be an artful response to current cosmic rhythms.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Are you aimless, impassive and stuck, floundering as you try to preserve and maintain? Or are you fiercely and joyfully in quest of vigorous and dynamic success? What you do in the coming weeks will determine which of these two forks in your destiny will be your path for the rest of 2023. I’ll be rooting for the second option. Here is a tip to help you be strong and bold. Learn the distinctions between your own soulful definition of success and the superficial, irrelevant, meaningless definitions of success that our culture celebrates. Then swear an oath to love, honor and serve your soulful definition.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): The next four weeks will be a time of germination, metaphorically analogous to the beginning of a pregnancy. The attitudes and feelings that predominate during this time will put a strong imprint on the seeds that will mature into full ripeness by late 2023. What do you want to give birth to in 40 weeks or so, Scorpio? Choose wisely! And make sure that in this early, impressionable part of the process, you provide your growing creations with positive, nurturing influences.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): I recommend you set up Designated Arguing Summits (DAS). These will be short periods when you and your allies get disputes out in the open. Disagreements must be confined to these intervals. You are not allowed to squabble at any other time. Why do I make this recommendation? I believe that many positive accomplishments are possible for you in the coming weeks, and it would be counterproductive to expend more than the minimal necessary amount on sparring. Your glorious assignment: Be emotionally available and eager to embrace the budding opportunities.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Actor Judi Dench won an Oscar for her role as Queen Elizabeth in the film Shakespeare in Love — even though she was onscreen for just eight minutes. Beatrice Straight got an Oscar for her role in the movie Network, though she appeared for less than six minutes. I expect a similar phenomenon in your world, Capricorn. A seemingly small pivot will lead to a vivid turning point. A modest seed will sprout into a prismatic bloom. A cameo performance will generate longterm ripples. Be alert for the signs.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Most of us are constantly skirmishing with time, doing our best to coax it or compel it to give us more slack. But lately, you Aquarians have slipped into a more intense conflict. And from what I’ve been able to determine, time is kicking your ass. What can you do to relieve the pressure? Maybe you could edit your priority list — eliminate two mildly interesting pursuits to make more room for a fascinating one. You might also consider reading a book to help you with time management and organizational strategies, like these: Getting Things Done, by David Allen; The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey; and 15 Secrets Successful People Know About Time Management, by Kevin Kruse.

Let’s say you’re a younger gay guy who’s been doing ethical FinDom (financial domination) for a few years and you’re good at it and you feel good about doing it because you take reasonable amounts of money, aka “tribute,” from your finsubs and you give value in return. In my case, I share sexy text messages and pics and do meet-ups with subs who’ve earned my trust. And let’s say one of your trusted subs — someone you’ve been draining in you’re own ethical way for a few years — offers to sign everything he has over to you. House, condo, vacation home, savings, stocks. Everything. This person says it’s their ultimate fantasy and they ask again and again. Do you have to say no? At what point can you ethically say yes? Let’s say this particular sub has no kids, no spouse and his nearest relatives are Trump supporters and homophobes who were awful to him when he came out. He doesn’t want them to get anything. He says if I don’t take it all, he’s going to give it all to charity. I’m 32 (not that young, I guess) and he’s 72 and he’s not in great health. This would set me up for life and I would be able to help my parents out. Thoughts? What if I had to marry him to make it possible for tax reasons? Should I marry him? No one in their right mind would make an offer like this, right? I half expect him to come to his senses and think I’m a monster if I say yes. Can I do this and still think of myself as an ethical FinDom?

Seriously Entertaining This Unbelievable Possibility

P.S. I told him he could leave me whatever he wants in his will, but he says wants to have the experience of giving it all to me while he’s still alive to enjoy it.

I shared your letter with three random gay dudes who do financial domination online. All three were extremely jealous and all three, perhaps unsurprisingly, felt you should take the money — and the house, the condo, the vacation home, all of it. In fact, two of them initially responded with the same threeword answer: TAKE THE MONEY!

But since you seem concerned with the ethics of the very unique situation you find yourself in, SETUP, I shared your question with a couple of actual ethicists.

“The fundamental, background, taken-forgranted ethical framework assumed by Dom/ sub relationships is that they’re entered into autonomously and both parties are ‘in their right mind’ in some relevant sense,” says Dr. Brian Earp, senior research fellow in Moral Psychology at the Uehiro Centre for Practical Ethics at the University of Oxford. “Running with that, if SETUP really thinks his sub may not ‘be in his right mind,’ if he thinks his sub is offering to sign over all those assets due to some breakdown in his decision-making competence, then, yeah, it would be exploitative and wrong to say ‘yes’ to this offer.”

So … Earp doesn’t think you take the money? Not necessarily.

Earp cited a relevant debate in the field of bioethics, which is his specialty, that might argue in favor of taking the money. Indeed, it would be “objectionably paternalistic” of you to assume your sub isn’t in his right mind just because he wants to do something others might regard as imprudent or even harmful.

“Take someone who refuses to go on kidney dialysis because she’s ‘tired of life’ and doesn’t want to deal with all the hassle,” Earp says. “In a recent real-life case, the doctors basically said the sheer fact she says she prefers to die instead of getting the doctorrecommended treatment suggests she ‘lacks competence’ to decide about her own healthcare and so she should be forced to go on kidney dialysis ‘for her own good.’ But if you go with that way of thinking, you can basically just declare people incompetent — people who otherwise would not be seen as incompetent — every time they choose something you think is a bad idea.”

So, to avoid even the appearance of behaving in an objectionably paternalistic manner — because God forbid — Earp thinks you should take the money? Not necessarily.

If there’s evidence of diminished mental capacity independent of the specific decision at issue here — your sub giving you everything he owns — that additional evidence of diminished mental capacity would argue against taking the money, the house, etc.

“Basically, if SETUP has some other, independent set of good reasons for thinking the sub is ‘not in his right mind’ apart from the sheer fact of offering to sign away all his assets,” Earp says, “then it’s not paternalistic to say, ‘No, I’m not going to honor your request.’ But if the offer is the only thing that makes the writer think the sub is not in his right mind, then the writer may be projecting their own values, preferences, or worldview onto the sub in a way that is, itself, disrespectful of the sub’s underlying autonomy.”

So, if signing over all his assets is the only crazy thing your sub wants to do, you can take the money. But if signing everything over to you is one crazy tree in a forest full of crazy trees, you can’t take the money.

Now, when it comes to big decisions — and this one more than qualifies — it’s always helpful to get a second opinion.

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