Creative Loafing Tampa — November 14, 2024

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Ground traffic around downtown Tampa came to a halt last Saturday afternoon, but it was clear skies when Red Bull once again brought its Flugtag flying machine competition to the convention center. The showcase found teams (28 of ‘em in 2024) bringing their ideas to life, then launching them off a 27-foot platform into the Hillsborough River while upwards of 80,000 people gawk from the shoreline and from the water. At the end, Orlando’s Flug Shag team—who 'tag-ed in Milwaukee and Cincinnati in 2022 and 2023—took home the win with a flight of 51 feet. The three-hour competition saw Tampa host Flugtag for a third time, following stops in 2008 and 2011. See even more photos via cltampa.com/slideshows—Ray Roa

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Tampa, man

Over the summer, Bert Kreischer filmed his sixth Netflix special at St. Petersburg’s Mahaffey Theater. This weekend, he returns to Pinellas County to lend a helping hand. “Anything that happens to the state of Florida, I always feel like happens to me. I think all Floridians feel this way. Florida defined me and the Bay area is family. I will do anything to help family,” the 52-year-old Jesuit grad, and Van Wilder-inspiration, said in a press release. His Bert Aid set, coorganized with radio host Mike Calta, will donate proceeds to Metropolitan Ministries’ efforts to help those affected by back-to-back hurricanes.

Bert Kreischer & Mike Calta

Present Bert Aid: Friday, Nov. 15. 7 p.m. $63.50-$128.72. Ruth Eckerd Hall, 1111 McMullen Booth Rd., Clearwater. rutheckerdhall.com—Ray Roa

Hope floats

The ocean may have come off our streets, but so many people and places in Tampa Bay are still figuratively underwater trying to recover from the effects of back-toback hurricanes. St. Pete Beach restaurant The Helm is one such locale, and remains closed. To help raise money for the restaurant and others in the area, Tampa Bay Watch hosts a ‘70s-themed party its calling “The Love Boat Gala.” Live music, lip sync contests, stories from restaurant owners, and, of course, tasting stations featuring dishes available across St. Pete Beach

The Love Boat Gala: Friday, Nov. 15. 6 p.m. $125. Tampa Bay Watch. 3000 Pinellas Bayway S, Tierra Verde. helmtampabay.com—Ray Roa

Talk AIM

Last week on a podcast with Jon Stewart, historian Heather Cox Richardson somehow turned an anecdote about the horrific massacre at Wounded Knee into a rallying cry for doing the right thing. Dennis Banks (pictured, center), a Native American activist who helped lead the occupation of Wounded Knee, died in 2017 at the age of 80, and this weekend a resurgent Florida chapter of the American Indian Movement (AIM) will screen a documentary about his life. Ken Burns, luminary of the genre, characterized “A Good Day to Die”—which tracks Banks’ time in boarding school, the military and prison—as “wonderful, sorrowful, compelling.” A discussion will follow.

‘A Good Day to Die’ Florida AIM monthly film: Saturday, Nov. 16. 2 p.m. No cover. Unitarian Universalist Church of St. Petersburg. 100 Mirror Lake Dr. N, St Petersburg. @FlaIndianAlliance.org/Facebook—Ray Roa

Four-hour tour

The latest Ybor Arts Tour was postponed thanks to Milton, and the redux is finally here. Over four hours in the historic district, roughly three dozen venues—including the galleries at HCC, Kress Contemporary, Lab Theater, Florida Museum of Photographic Arts, 1920 Ybor, and more—open doors as part of a self-guided adventure. A link to information on mobility assistance and EnChroma glasses for anyone who experiences red-green color blindness is available via @yborartstour on Instagram.

Ybor Arts Tour: Next Thursday, Nov. 21. 5 p.m. No cover. Kress Contemporary. 1624 E 7th Ave., Ybor City. kresscontemporary.com—Ray Roa

Century of sanctuary

St. Petersburg’s Allendale United Methodist Church is the epitome of safe harbor, and it celebrates 100 years of love, grace and advocacy this weekend. The church, home of the Wedding Altar For All, believes that banning same-sex marriage is inconsistent with Christ’s teaching. Its leadership stands up for protesters fighting for housing, and opens its doors to anyone who wants to be embraced by the church’s mission to “affirm the sacred worth of all people” while striving to “practice Christ’s example of unconditional love without exclusion. This homecoming worship will look back on Allendale’s history and paint a vision of the future—and comes just a few days before the church’s Trandgender Day of Remembrance vigil on Wednesday

100th Anniversary Homecoming

Worship: Sunday, Nov. 17. 10:30 a.m.

No cover. Allendale UMC, 3803 Haines Rd., St. Petersburg. allendaleumc.org

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New adventure

One of last season’s major delights was freeFall Theatre’s tour de force rendition of Ludwig’s “Baskerville,” in which Eric Davis and Matthew McGee masterfully played off one another as Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson, and three actors navigated quick changes of costume and accent to play everyone else. Kelly Pekar (pictured, left) and Robert Teasdale from that cast rejoin the dynamic duo (with the addition of comic powerhouse Sara DelBeato), to solve another classic Holmes mystery, this one involving the detective’s deliciously evil nemesis, Professor Moriarty.

Ken Ludwig’s ‘Moriarty’: Select nights through Dec. 14. $25 & up. Freefall Theatre. 6099 Central Ave., St. Petersburg. freefalltheatre.com—David Warner

ELECTIONS

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Buckle up

The job of Florida

abortion funds is about to get even harder.

More than 6 million Florida voters this election cycle voted in favor of enshrining the right to abortion up to the point of fetal viability in the state constitution. It still wasn’t enough.

That proposed constitutional amendment, on the ballot as Amendment 4, got 57% of the vote in the general election—a clear majority. But it did not surpass the 60% threshold that Florida requires for the passage of constitutional amendments. Currently, Florida law bans most abortions after six weeks of pregnancy, and now, post-election, that’s not expected to change any time soon, despite calls from some Democrats to repeal.

“The Florida Legislature and Governor Ron DeSantis—who spent public money to campaign against Amendment 4—should take these results as a clear rejection of their extremism and as a direct call to repeal Florida’s six-week abortion ban,” wrote Florida Rep. Anna Eskamani, D-Orlando, in a statement regarding the majority vote she posted to social media Tuesday.

Organizations in Florida that help pregnant people access abortion care, like the Tampa Bay Abortion Fund, expect their jobs will get harder, with an even greater surge in requests for help, moving forward.

“If we would have gotten viability back, we still would have been helping a lot of Floridians and a lot of people coming into Florida,” said Bree Wallace, director of case management for TBAF. “So you know, now we’re just kind of doing the opposite. Still helping Floridians here, but also having to help them go out of state.”

Before Florida’s six-week abortion ban, there was a 15-week ban enacted during the summer of 2022, approved by the GOP-controlled Florida Legislature and Gov. Ron DeSantis before the U.S. Supreme Court overturned the federal constitutional right to abortion.

Before the 15-week ban, abortion in Florida was legal up to viability—about 24 weeks of pregnancy. Florida at that point had a much less restrictive landscape for abortion access compared to other states in the U.S. South. Now, it boasts one of the strictest bans in the country. The closest state to legally access abortion past 12 weeks of pregnancy is Virginia,

more than 700 miles away.

Wallace’s group, the Tampa Bay Abortion Fund, has seen the number of requests received for accessing out-of-state care triple since May 1, when Florida’s six-week ban took effect. Her organization specifically serves residents of Hillsborough and Pinellas counties, where voters overwhelmingly voted in favor of Amendment 4.

“Nobody should have to travel out of state for healthcare,” Wallace argued. And for some people who contact her, it’s their first time traveling out of Florida.

So, she’s tasked with explaining the logistics of travel. She researches the most accessible and affordable lodging for callers, and develops relationships with abortion clinics in places like Washington, D.C., and Illinois to help get them appointments. Virginia, the closest state with less restrictive rules on access, isn’t an easy place to find affordable hotels or flights, said Wallace.

“I know a lot of people are trying to go to Virginia, but unless you’re driving, flights and hotels aren’t always the easiest,” she said. “They kind of get expensive at times, too.”

Her group has pledged roughly $345,000 just since May 1 to cover appointment costs for 739 people seeking abortion care. It has also pledged more than $55,000 in practical support, for things like airfare and hotels, averaging $800 for each person who requests it.

Unlike some other abortion funds in the U.S., TBAF doesn’t have restrictions on who it helps, based on income or anything like that, as long as they live in Hillsborough or Pinellas County. TBAF don’t require people to share sob stories in order to justify providing financial assistance for those in a vulnerable position— people who have no else to talk to, nowhere else to turn. But people often share their circumstances anyway.

Abortion care in Tampa, for instance, costs about $700 for the procedure itself, or $800 for medication abortion, according to Wallace. And that’s just if you’re less than six weeks pregnant and able to access that care legally. Beyond that point in pregnancy, there are travel costs to consider as well.

“I’m not bringing a child into this world just for them to experience pain and to suffer.”

“I’ll have people tell me they are unhoused, they’re going from couch to couch, they don’t have a job, they don’t know what to do,” said Wallace. “Which is, you know, incredibly hard to hear.”

Wallace, who’s responsible for fielding requests for help, recalled one person who contacted her last week who was looking for help affording an abortion procedure in Florida.

This person was eight weeks pregnant, and wasn’t aware of the state’s six-week limit.

“That was rough,” Wallace admitted. “You sometimes have to be the person telling them, like, ‘Hey, you’re not able to get an abortion

in Florida.’”

An August survey released by KFF found that nearly 30% of women of reproductive age in Florida said they weren’t sure about the status of abortion restrictions in their state.

The Tampa Bay Abortion Fund, founded in 2017, is a grassroots, entirely volunteer-driven nonprofit with the exception of Wallace, who handles all of the case management. It’s helped over 1,500 callers since Jan. 1 of this year, alone, pledging over $630,000 in appointment costs, plus $80,000 in practical support.

Since last year, the average cost of helping pregnant people in desperate situations, however, has only gone up. In 2023, TBAF pledged an average of $340 for appointment costs. Today, it says the average is $430.

The National Abortion Federation, a professional association of abortion providers, helps cover the cost of abortion for patients at

WORK, WORK, WORK: Bree Wallace’s Tampa Bay Abortion Fund has seen the number of requests received for accessing out-of-state care triple since May 1.

their affiliated clinics. But due to fewer donations, the group was forced this past July to cut its monthly budget for cost assistance in half—reducing the amount of financial assistance available to help cover the cost of care for those who may be unable to afford an abortion otherwise.

As NPR reports, Florida Medicaid doesn’t cover abortion care, and state law prohibits insurance plans sold on the Affordable Care Act marketplace from providing coverage.

While the state gives millions of dollars in taxpayer funds to anti-abortion pregnancy resource centers, often run by church groups or religious nonprofits, Florida law forbids providing state or local government funds—money used to provide medical services like cancer screenings, HIV testing or pregnancy planning—to any institution that also provides abortion. Stephanie Loraine Piñeiro, executive director of the statewide Florida Access Network, which also offers financial assistance for abortion procedures, admitted she expects some Florida abortion clinics will likely be forced to close, in the aftermath of Amendment 4’s failure to pass.

“Unfortunately, I do think that’s going to happen,” Piñeiro told Orlando Weekly. “A lot of independent abortion clinics have been holding their breath, waiting on the results of this election, to see if they can continue to operate.”

Florida currently has about 50 licensed abortion clinics across the state. Many are affiliated with Planned Parenthood, but others—like the Center of Orlando for Women, one of just two abortion clinics in Orlando—are private. Orlando’s clinic even set up a GoFundMe after the six-week ban went into effect, sharing the clinic was “at risk of forced closure due to the ban.”

“We want to thank everyone who has donated and helped us keep our doors open to help these women in their time of need,” wrote GoFundMe organizer and clinic owner Denise Williams, in an Oct. 8 update. “Vote Yes on Amendment 4 Florida 2024.”

Planned Parenthood, which represents less than one-third of licensed abortion clinics in the state, navigated more than 300 pregnant people out-of-state after the six-week ban took effect, according to a news release. It was one of the key organizations involved in the political committee backing Amendment 4, and thew millions of dollars behind the campaign to help secure its passage.

Wallace, sharing her immediate reaction to Tuesday’s election with Orlando Weekly, said news of Amendment 4’s failure to pass was “obviously heartbreaking.” Many abortion rights advocates, she said, “had high hopes it would pass.”

Polling for the measure slipped in the

months leading up to the election, as DeSantis directed state agencies to paint Amendment 4 backers as fraudsters and liars, and threatened TV stations with criminal penalties for airing pro-Amendment 4 ads.

“I think we all got a good cry out of it, and now we’re pretty much just back to the work we’ve been doing,” said Wallace, in a phone call Thursday. “I mean, we know we can’t just stop because something like that happened.”

Piñeiro, who studied social work at the University of Central Florida, similarly described the news as devastating. “The work is absolutely going to get more challenging,” she said. The Florida Access Network has helped 1,059 pregnant Floridians cover abortion-related costs since April, said Piñeiro. But both she and Wallace admit that fundraising has been one of their biggest challenges.

fearful of whether they could legally provide medically necessary care if it meant terminating a pregnancy.

Women in Florida have similarly shared stories of struggling to access care to terminate even wanted pregnancies, where there were complications that made those pregnancies non-viable.

“I’m not bringing a child into this world just for them to experience pain and to suffer,” said Danielle Tallafus, who made the incredibly difficult decision with her husband in 2020 to terminate her pregnancy, after hearing from a doctor at 20 weeks that the left side of her baby’s heart would never fully develop.

“Nobody should have to travel out of state for healthcare.”

They’ve seen a surge in requests for help— even among people who are less than six weeks pregnant, who can still legally access abortion through a Florida clinic—but find the depletion of their funds to be a significant barrier in helping pregnant people in perhaps their greatest time of need. Other abortion funds in the U.S. have similarly reported a drop-off in what they dubbed “rage donations” after Roe v. Wade was overturned in June 2022.

In states like Texas and Georgia, with similarly restrictive bans, women have died due to pregnancy complications, because doctors were

She spent hours with doctors, and hours online researching her baby’s diagnosed condition, searching for any answer that would allow her to deliver the son she wanted. She was told her baby would need three open-heart surgeries within the first two years of his life, with the first to take place within the first few days of birth. There was no guarantee the newborn wouldn’t feel excruciating pain from the procedure.

“Just imagining putting that burden onto such a tiny body was unimaginable,” Tallafus said, speaking at a recent roundtable of doctors and abortion rights advocates in support of Amendment 4 in Winter Park.

In 2020, abortion was still legal up to about 24 weeks in Florida. Tallafus was, by luck, able

to make an appointment at a clinic hours away, in West Palm Beach, before she passed the 24-week cutoff. She said she had to pay $5,000 for the procedure out of pocket.

“I have to remind people in my community constantly that when you start saying that abortions need to be banned, and you’re happy for this 15 weeks [limit], and then the subsequent six weeks, you’re saying that to people like me. People who wanted their child. I had his name picked out,” she said, blinking back tears. “His name was Nathaniel.”

Wallace said she wanted Orlando Weekly readers to know that her organization is here for its community, and it’s not going anywhere.

“We don’t have Planned Parenthood money, but we’re all still doing on the ground work, and we just really want to make sure people know that we exist and that you know, we’re a resource that they can use.”

The Tampa Bay Abortion Fund, made up of roughly 50 volunteers, accepts direct donations, has an online shop for TBAF merch, and welcomes community members to hold fundraisers for them (like an upcoming live music benefit show at Deviant Libation in Tampa on Nov. 30).

Florida Access Network also accepts direct donations. In addition to serving as an abortion fund, they also offer peer support, mutual aid services, and community-building events to destigmatize abortion and create spaces for conversation.

This post originally appeared at our sibling publication, Orlando Weekly.

SIGNS WERE THERE: In 2020, abortion was still legal up to about 24 weeks in Florida.
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Councilman calls for investigation into North Tampa floods.

Amonth after back-to-back storms, people throughout Tampa Bay are still recovering from the destruction caused by Hurricane Milton. But this storm has left people with questions as they rebuild their lives. Why did non-flood zone communities flood?

Milton made landfall off the coast of Siesta Key on Oct. 9 as a category three hurricane. The water spared Tampa thanks to a reverse storm surge, but neighborhoods like North Tampa that are above sea level or in Flood Zone X, flooded.

According to the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA), areas designated as Flood Zone X are determined to be outside of 500-year floods and protected from 100-year floods by levees. But Hurricane Milton dropped an average of 13.8 inches of rainfall on North Tampa, which the city of Tampa’s Mobility Department says is equivalent to a 300-year flood in a span of 24 hours.

Marc Chenard, a meteorologist at the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration’s Weather Prediction Center said there are two primary factors in tracking and predicting flood threats.

“One is figuring out how much rain is going to fall, what are the rainfall rates going to be? And then two, can the ground or can the area handle it,” Chenard said

Councilman Luis Viera represents North Tampa and grew up in the greater area.

“I was very emotional, because I know these people, these neighborhoods,” said Viera. “To see those communities flooded, it hurt me a lot. It really, really did, because these were No Flood Zones, and these families never saw it coming.”

At the Oct. 17 meeting of Tampa City Council, Viera called for action: an independent study to survey Tampa’s stormwater infrastructure.

“This is something where a great amount of families, many of them lower income, bluecollar, working-class people have lost their homes, and there are reasonable questions about Tampa’s infrastructure,” he said.

On top of dealing with loss from flooding and waiting for FEMA aid, some residents, like the tenants on the first floor of Timberfalls Apartments, on East 113th Avenue, who were given two weeks to vacate their homes.

“I went to the office and I said, ‘Hey, my apartment didn’t have any water damage on the inside. Can I stay a little bit longer? Because two weeks is ridiculous.’ And they said, no, I had to leave by the first [of November],” said Carisse Class Quiles, a first-floor resident, told Creative Loafing Tampa Bay.

Class Quiles was able to find another

apartment. But days before needing to vacate, but on Oct. 28, fellow Timberfalls Apartments resident Mary Jimenez was waiting for FEMA and the building.

The Mobility Department did not respond to repeated requests for comment, but its director, Vik Bhide appeared before city council,and numerous South Tampa residents over similar

flood danger.

“For the most part, we’ve been displaced,” Mary Jimenez, a Timberfalls Apartments resident, told CL. “I have a three-year-old daughter and we had to evacuate her first and foremost, because we didn’t want her to be in there.”

“These families never saw it coming.”

Timberfalls Apartments did not reply to a request for comment.

One of the causes for the flooding was a power outage that affected stormwater infrastructure throughout the area, including pumps in North Tampa at Curiosity Creek, East Ridge, Bougainvillea and West 109th Street, according to the Mobility Department.

issues of flooding in Flood Zone X areas, such as Parkland Estates, Palma Ceia and Bayshore Beautiful, while he gave council an update on the South Howard Flood Relief Project on Nov. 7.

While it was known there would be a power outage, Taryn Sabia, a professor and assistant dean of research at the University of South Florida’s School of Architecture and Community Design, said there are other factors that contributed to the flooding, especially to areas like North Tampa, with older infrastructure.

“When we look at older infrastructure, it’s kind of a compounding situation, right?

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Power outages, a lot of rain coming within a short amount of time, saturated ground,” Sabia told CL. Sabia is part of a team working on a countywide vulnerability study that she hopes will be released by the end of 2024. It was delayed to incorporate the impacts of Hurricane Milton.

Fletcher and Fowler Avenues flooded, as did areas of USF’s Greenway, including the home of bull’s future stadium where the university held a groundbreaking on Nov. 8.

Althea Johnson, USF’s director of media relations, issued the following statement to Creative Loafing Tampa Bay:

USF is fortunate that our facilities did not suffer significant, long-term damage from the recent hurricanes, and we have been able to reopen our campuses. We recognize that many people in the Tampa Bay region, including in the university area, are facing significant challenges as result of the storms. We continue to provide assistance in a variety of ways to USF students and employees who are experiencing hardship, including those who live off campus in the university area or other parts of the region impacted by the hurricanes. With any new project we will continue to consider and comply with requirements concerning stormwater drainage, flood mitigation and other environmental factors in our planning.

Sabia, the USF professor, is part of a team working on a countywide vulnerability study that she hopes will be released by the end of 2024, to incorporate the impacts of Hurricane Milton. She said water will go where it wants to go–and it crosses city and county lines—but there are ways to plan for it.

“One is looking for more natural stormwater management systems so that we’re less reliant on pumps where we can be, to make sure that we upgrade infrastructure and have a plan for upgrading that infrastructure, to find strategies for the coordination of that between our different jurisdictions,” Sabia said.

Councilman Viera said that the Hillsborough County Commission is interested in taking part in his proposal for an independent study. The commission will discuss it at their meeting on Nov. 13 and then will also speak, with Viera, about it to Tampa City Council at its Nov. 21 meeting.

Timberfalls Apartments resident Mary Jimenez cited a “lack of communication” from not only the building, but also the city.

“What is the city going to do? I think that’s the biggest question,” said Jimenez. “What are they going to do for everyone in the community who has been affected?”

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Tampa Bay restaurants o ering Thanksgiving specials.

It’s been a hellacious month-and-a-half in Tampa Bay, and now you’ve got to think about making Thanksgiving dinner. If you’re first reaction is, ‘Yeah, fuck that,’ then there are quite a few Tampa Bay restaurants that want to help. Have a look below for local spots who’ll help you and your family get stuffed this holiday. Did we miss your restaurant’s special? Send rroa@cltampa.com and email to let us know.

4 Rivers Add a BBQ twist to your Thanksgiving table this year with the 4 Rivers Smokehouse holiday special. Whether it’s the slow-smoked turkey or the 18-hour smoked beef brisket, the riv’offers stress-free holiday meals for this month’s big feast. For $67.69, the smokehouse will give you “The Fixins Package”, which feeds up to six people and includes one quart each of mashed potatoes, gravy, sweet potato casserole, cornbread stuffing, and southern green beans (plus a pint of cranberry chutney ). Pre-order the meal before 5 p.m. on Wednesday, Nov. 23 to pick it up on Thanksgiving day. Multiple locations. 4RSmokehouse.com.

Billy’s Stone Crab Billy’s is back open just in time for the holidays. The past couple months have been rough for the local business, but they’re excited to announce they’ll be back for a special Friendsgiving weekend. From Nov. 22-24, guests are invited to celebrate a Thanksgiving dinner with Billy’s everyday menu of fresh seafood favorites. Owner Ed medley says everything is back up and running and that his team is ready to welcome everyone back. From stone crab, peel-and-eat shrimp, to their famous $3.99 margaritas, Billy’s has it all to make this Thanksgiving a waterfront wonderland. 1 Collany Rd., Tierra Verde. billysstonecrab.com

Cooper’s Hawk Cooper’s Hawk wants to ease your stress this Thanksgiving with their 2024 holiday special: “Feast Without the Fuss,” a full dine-in Thanksgiving meal as well as a heat-and-serve take-home package that serves up to six people. The take-home kit is $199.99 and includes a selection of seasonal dishes like turkey, butternut squash soup, mashed potatoes, stuffing, carrots and green beans, and for dessert, a six-sliced pumpkin praline cheesecake. You can collect your kit either in-restaurant or curbside WednesdayThursday, Nov. 27-28. Pre-ordering is required by Nov. 22 due to limited quantities. The dine-in Thanksgiving menu offers the same dishes and is $34.99 for adults and $14.99 for kids 12 & under. Reservations are encouraged. 4110 W Boy Scout Blvd., Tampa. chwinery.com/reservations

The Dan The opportunity to have an awardwinning chef present your Thanksgiving meal doesn’t come often. But this year, The Dan in downtown Tampa offers a Thanksgiving Day menu curated by renowned Executive Chef Dernier Buleje. His special holiday menu includes roasted butternut squash bisque, roasted turkey, short ribs, pork chop, and an array of desserts that capture the fall flavor. 905 N Florida Ave., Tampa. dineatthedan.com

DINING GUIDE

Eddie V’s Prime Steakhouse This month, Eddie V’s welcomes you for the holidays with its traditional Thanksgiving dinner menu. The dine-in special includes sliced turkey, roasted butternut squash, cranberry chutney, mashed potatoes, pumpkin pie tartlet with pecan ice cream, and more. The offer starts at $55 for adults and $20 for children. Reservations are encouraged. 4400 W Boy Scout Blvd., Tampa. eddiev.com

Boulon Brasserie Water Street Tampa’s French connection wants you to put its pie on your table this month. Three options—including salted caramel apple pie, pumpkin spice cheesecake, and the “Spiced Orange Dream” featuring gingerbread cookie crust, toasted marshmallow fluff on top of Florida orange custard—are available for $45 each. Advance orders can be picked up on Wednesday, Nov. 27 starting at 8 a.m. Boulon Brasserie. 1001 Water St., Tampa. boulontampa.com—Ray Roa

Fresh Kitchen The A-based chain, which originated in Tampa, Fresh Kitchen offers its classic menu staples, like cauliflower potato mash, maple sweet potatoes, basil mushrooms and sesame green beans, for catering this Thanksgiving. Its entire menu is gluten-free and all meats are antibiotic-free and hormonefree. Delivery is available for orders over $100 and catering inquiries can be placed online. Multiple locations. eatfreshkitchen.com/catering Hotel Haya This Thanksgiving, enjoy a

three-course family-friendly dining experience at Flor Fina, located inside Ybor City’s Hotel Haya. The hotel offers a first course with bread baskets and salads, a main feast with turkey, salmon, and prime rib, and a dessert platter with pumpkin pie, pecan bars, and apple cobbler. Haya’s got everything you need to get in the holiday spirit, including a kids buffet full of picky-eaters favorites. Adults are $95 per person, children 6-12 are $15, and children five and under eat free Reservations are open from 11 a.m.-5 p.m. on Thanksgiving day. 1412 E 7th Ave., Ybor City. hotelhaya.com.

Juno & the Peacock Recently opened last August in the heart of Beach Drive in Downtown St. Petersburg, Juno & the Peacock offers a three-course Thanksgiving prix fixe meal complete with dessery— for $125 per person and $35 for kids 12 & under, with reservations needed ahead of time. Some of the offerings available at the new hotspot include, Joyce Farms roasted turkey breast, crab-crusted florida black grouper, along with pecan or apple cranberry pie. 400 Beach Dr. NE, St. Petersburg. junoandthepeacock.com

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SUNSHINE IN: Boulon’s ‘Spiced Orange Dream’ pie.

Oystercatchers This month, Tampa restaurant Oystercatcher invites you to dine-in for the holiday with a four-course Thanksgiving menu. The restaurant will offer various meals like a seafood platter, oyster rockefeller, and lobster and crab bisque, along with the more traditional roasted turkey and prime rib, sweet potato casserole, and whipped cheese potatoes. For desserts, Oystercatchers has holiday classics like pumpkin cheesecake, sweet potato pie, and pecan pie. Reservations are recommended. 2900 Baypoint Dr., Tampa. oystercatchersrestaurant.com

Pane Rustica This month, Pane Rustica is offering a Thanksgiving to-go holiday special with five different pie options, four specialty bread options, and a classic Thanksgiving dinner that serves four. The $180 package includes turkey (light and dark meat), gravy, sweet potatoes, stuffing, carrots, green beans, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, and fresh baked rolls. The deadline to order its to-go Thanksgiving dinner is Saturday, Nov 23, with pick-up happening Wednesday, Nov 27. 3225 S MacDill Ave., Suite 119, Tampa. 813-902-8828. panerusticabakery.com

The Pearl Any classic Thanksgiving dinner isn’t complete without a pie on the table. Whether you’re more of a classic Dutch apple

and pumpkin pie enjoyer, or looking to try a new staple, like a brown sugar or “buckeye” pie, The Pearl has you covered. Its homemade pies range from $40-$55 each. Place your orders by calling 813-709-7776 at least 48 hours in advance. 823 Water St., Tampa. thepearlrestaurant.com

Rooster & the Till The team led by Seminole Heights’ James Beard-nominated chef Ferrell Alvarez wants to send diners home with a handful of sides—milk bread “pull apart” rolls from Jamison B Breadhouse, roasted savoy, whipped potatos, hari-corts verts casserole, and Anson Mills corn pudding—plus a black walnut cake with rosemary butterscotch, five-space apples and white chocolate crumble. It’s $225 for the sides, with the option to add a roasted turkey complete with homemade gravy and cranberry compote for an extra $225. The meal feeds up to six people. Wine add-ons start at $90. Order are open until Friday, Nov. 22 at 5 p.m., with pickup happening Wednesday, Nov. 27 from 1 p.m.-1:30 p.m. 6500 N Florida Ave, Tampa. roosterandthetill.com

potatoes, stuffing, green beans, and pumpkin pie. Seasons 52 also offers a warm-and-serve Thanksgiving Green Box option for folks who’d like to stay in for the holiday feast. The box features everything on the Thanksgiving menu plus a salad to start and and six pumpkin pie indulgences to end. The to-go box serves up to six people people and is $230. Order by Monday, Nov. 25, to pick your boxes Tuesday-Wednesday, Nov. 26-27. Pick-up times are from 11a.m. to 4 p.m. Dine-in reservations are recommended. 204 N Westshore Blvd., Tampa. seasons52.com

DINING GUIDE

Seasons 52 Seasons invites you to enjoy traditional holiday classics this month with a dine-in Thanksgiving dinner menu. Starting at $42 for adults ($18 for kids), the restaurant offers roasted turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, sweet

Tampa Edition Whether it’s festive pies to-go or dinner feasts, Tampa Bay’s only fivestar hotel brings a unique spin to Thanksgiving. Patrons can attend a prix fixe dinner on Thanksgiving from 4 p.m.-9 p.m. at Tampa Editon’s Lilac restaurant where it’ll be serving Mediterranean-inspired dishes. For those looking for a different spin on the classic dinner, Market at Edition will serve an Italian-coastline-inspired menu from 5:30 p.m.-10:30 p.m. on Thanksgiving. Reservations are needed and can be booked via OpenTable online for ‘Lilac’ here, and ‘Market at Edition’ here. Meanwhile, those needing a quick dessert can order pickup for pies and quiche on Nov. 28-29 from noon-4 p.m. from Edition’s

Festive Pastries To-Go site. 500 Channelside Dr., Tampa. editionhotels.com/tampa Timpano Hyde Park From entrees to dessert, Timpano in Tampa’s Hyde Park has you covered with flavors inspired by Italy. Start off with cheese tortellini, and turkey polpettini or savor the seasonal roasted honey nut squash. For an entree, put an Italian spin on the Thanksgiving classic, with its herbroasted turkey with sweet potato buttermilk biscuits and cranberry compote. Timpano’s Thanksgiving dinners are $75 a person, with options for dine-in and to-go, but orders and reservations in advance are recommended and available online. 1610 W Swann Ave., Tampa. timpanohydepark.com

Tradewinds Bask in a classic Thanksgiving brunch buffet at the Tradewinds Resort for the traditional holiday experience. With roast turkey, an array of seasonal delicacies, and holiday favorite desserts, the resort is set to bring the holiday spirit to the Bay area. Located in the Grand Palm Colonnade at Island Grand, reservations for hour-long dining windows are available at 11 a.m. and 1 p.m. for $97.75 per person. Wine, beer, and cocktails are available for purchase, but note that Tradewinds is a cashless resort. 5500 Gulf Blvd., St. Pete Beach. tradewindsresort.com

TABLE SET: It’s $75/person to keep your house clean with Timpano’s.
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Setting the bar

St. Pete openings top the latest round of Bay area food news.

Described as an “ode to cocktails and nightlife,” Bar Mezzo, the newest concept from Intermezzo Coffee & Cocktail owner Jarrett Sabatini is open at 1049 Central Ave., the space that formerly housed St. Pete’s Independent Bar and Cafe location, which closed in late 2022. While Sabatini’s eight year-old Intermezzo Coffee & Cocktails at 1111 Central Ave. will remain a daytime cafe and laid-back lounge hybrid, the upcoming Bar Mezzo will take its siblings’s cocktail program up a notch.

Just a handful of staple Bar Mezzo cocktails include the “Cafe Mezzo” with vodka, espresso liqueur, coffee concentrate and bitters, the “Gin Basil Collins” featuring Condesa gin, fresh basil, lemon and soda, as well as its take on the classic margarita, loaded with Tequila blanco, agave, lime, orange and a bit of saline. There’s even a non-alcoholic “Phony Negroni” on the menu, too.

Bar Mezzo boasts a 1,600 square-foot lounge space and 800 square-foot outdoor patio, featuring sleek decor, low lighting and “a mid-century Italian design,” according to Sabatini.

Patrons of the new late-night lounge can also expect live music and DJs on the weekends.

ILovetheBurg says that Bar Mezzo will be the new home of Intermezzo’s beloved “Miracle at Mezzo” Christmas-themed cocktail pop-up, which typically features Instagrammable decor, entertainment and seasonal drinks in souvenir cups. The popular holiday event typically runs from Black Friday to New Year’s Eve each year. Head to barmezzo.com or @barmezzostpete on Instagram for the latest.

Tampa-based Mexican restaurant Guac N’ Cheese opens downtown St. Pete location

Downtown St. Pete’s newest go-to spot for Mexican eats and margaritas soft opened this month, Guac N’ Cheese resides at 15 8th St. N inside of The ‘Burg’s CoHatch coworking space. The restaurant parcel was formerly occupied by King State’s St. Pete location, which was open for a brief stint earlier this year.

Guac N’ Cheese soft opened its St. Pete restaurant on Oct. 30 and is now open seven days a week, with operating hours and menu items similar to that of its flagship location across the bridge in Tampa.

Its Tex-Mex-style menu features appetizers like guacamole, quesadillas, empanadas, calamari, taco salads and stuffed jalapeños alongside larger plates of nachos, platters of carne asada and spicy shrimp, burritos, chimichangas, fajitas and a variety of enchiladas. A specialty item on Guac N’ Cheese’s menu is its loaded molcajete entree, which features a

sizzling combination of shrimp, steak, chicken and sautéed vegetables inside of a traditional stone mortar and pestle.

The newly-opened Mexican restaurant also boasts a variety of options for vegetarians, picky kiddos and folks with a sweet tooth (fried ice cream or choco-banana chimichangas, anyone?)

Beers, margaritas, sangria, palomas and mules are on the menu, too.

popular seafood restaurant Sea Salt will close. The restaurant’s parent company, Aielli Group, made the announcement last week in a press release, as the concept nears the end of its lease on the second floor of The Sundial.

“The past ten years have been nothing short of amazing,” said co-owner Ingrid Aielli in a statement. “We’re incredibly proud to have been part of this community and thankful for the friendships and memories we’ve made together. This farewell is bittersweet, but we’ll forever cherish these experiences.”

OPENINGS & CLOSINGS

According to Guac N’ Cheese’s Toast page— where you can also place online orders—its St. Pete location is open from noon-8 p.m. on Sundays and 11 a.m.-9 p.m. MondaysSaturdays. Head to @guacncheesemexicangrill on Instagram for the latest news on Guac N’ Cheese’s new restaurant in The ‘Burg.

After nearly a decade, St. Pete’s Sea Salt will close this December

After almost 10 years of serving raw oysters and crab legs in downtown St. Petersburg,

Originally debuting in 2015, Sea Salt made a name for itself over the years with its 80-foot raw bar, 22-foot-tall wine cellar, $1 oyster happy hours and Venetian-inspired entrees. Sea Salt, located at 183 2nd Ave. N, will remain open through its last day of service on Dec. 31.—Colin Wolf

Nelly, Lynyrd Skynyrd and more announced for Plant City’s 90th annual Florida Strawberry Festival

Get ready for a berry good time—the sweetest event of the season is back! The Florida Strawberry Festival returns to Plant City next year, for its annual celebration of all things

berry. The iconic event is also bringing in a whole new lineup of artists, alongside the traditional attractions and eats.

Big names like Lynyrd Skynyrd, The Beach Boys and Nelly are headlining this year, alongside other artists like Lauren Daigle, Jon Pardi, Sawyer Brown and many others. More artists are to be announced as the event gets closer. “With such amazing performances in store, this year’s Festival is sure to be one for the books. We’ve worked hard to create an event that celebrates not just our community’s love for strawberries, but also our shared passion for music, fun, and tradition,” wrote Florida Strawberry Festival President, Kyle Robinson in a press release.

The festival runs Feb. 27-March 9. Tickets will go on sale to the public on Thursday, Dec. 12, at 8 a.m. and can be purchased on the Strawberry Festival’s website, app, over the phone at 813-754-1996 or in person at the Amscot Main Ticket Office located at 2209 W. Oak Avenue in Plant City.

Special days and discounts will be available throughout the festival’s run, such as kids over all ages, through high school can get in free on Saturday, March 1 and Tuesday, March 1 (with the purchase of an adult pass on the latter day).—Riley Benson

MOVIES THEATER ART CULTURE

Ends game

An Ybor City bookstore is at risk of losing grant money to open its historic bungalow.

After launching their book business several years ago, the owners of Bookends: Literature & Libations thought they were taking all the right steps to open a storefront in a historic Ybor City bungalow.

But after 14 months and counting of backand-forth permitting issues with the City of Tampa, the women-owned local business is at serious risk of losing essential grant money. On the line is about $100,000 in historic matching funds, which will be used to finish repairs and transform the 1920s shotgun-style bungalow into a bookstore.

their bungalow. A 2022 Historic Preservation Matching Grant helped fix the building’s foundation and roof. The two grants awaiting permit approval to begin and finish the work include a Facade Improvement Matching Grant from the city and a $99,999 Hillsborough County Historic Preservation Matching Grant.

BOOKS

Bookends

What the two Rodriguez sisters didn’t realize when they bought the property, located at 2208 E 2nd Ave., in April 2022 were all the hurdles to opening Bookends’ doors.

That grant expires in December, and the deadline to request a 90-day extension is Nov. 30. Laurie and Teresa worry construction on the building won’t be complete before the grant deadlines are up—with an extension, in the spring.

2208 E 2nd Ave., Ybor City. Opening date TBA @bookendsybor on Instagram

“Of course, we’re naive thinking, ‘Oh, we’re going to slap a couple of coats of paint on it; do this, do that, and then we’ll open a bookstore,” Laurie Rodriguez said. “We had no idea.”

“All we want is a bookstore,” she said.

Teresa and Laurie are third-generation Tampeñas. Their great-grandparents settled in Ybor City and worked in the local cigar industry and box factory. Both longtime educators, they attended Hillsborough Community College and have fond memories of trips to the Cuban Club, Centro Asturiano, the Italian Club and Guavaween.

The duo has big dreams for Bookends, which currently operates as a pop-up trailer shop at local events and through book clubs at Gasparilla Distillery around the corner. Besides being a place to shop for books of all genres, their plans for Bookends include a small kitchen to whip up baked goods.

Their permitting woes are rooted in complex bureaucratic speedbumps: the historic status of the building, where the bungalow sits in a mixed-used area, and the Rodriguez’s plans for a small oven. “Our experience with the city was great until the permitting,” Teresa said.

As of today, the two have invested nearly half a million dollars in the property. That includes the purchase of the building and hiring an architect and other experts to get the place up to the standards of the Barrio Latino Commission (BLC) and the city. They anticipated pushback from the BLC to keep the bungalow’s historic roots. But working with that body and the people behind the grants “was a breeze.”

“We got a rude awakening.”

“Everything that they want, they tell you, and then you do what they ask you to do,” Laurie said.

natural resources like trees and landscaping. Because Laurie and Teresa want to have a small oven, they’ve faced arguments about whether this makes the bookstore into a restaurant—a status that requires another bathroom, a hood for the oven and other amenities.

experience for the new owners and the surrounding neighbors,” a City of Tampa spokesperson said in an email to Creative Loafing Tampa Bay.

“I wasn’t even planning on working this long. I thought I would leave and be able to work in the bookstore,” Laurie said. “We just thought we’d come in and, I mean, “What’s the big deal? It’s just a bookstore.’ And then we got a rude awakening.”

The two were thrilled to be approved for several Hillsborough County and City of Tampa grants to help fund restoration work on

Laurie and Teresa can’t say the same for the permitting process with the city. Opening a new business in a historic building isn’t quick or simple, but the sisters see their situation being dragged along by a lack of clear communication and the differing perspectives of those tasked with reviewing the architect’s site plans. The onslaught of post-hurricanes permit inquiries is not helping

According to the building’s renovations record, applications for permits were first uploaded in August 2023. The biggest hurdles appear to be plans for mechanical, plumbing and

“But we’re not opening a restaurant. We’re opening a bookstore and we’re asking for permits to open a bookstore with a small kitchen to bake our cookies,” Laurie said. “It’s like, every time you turn around, you think you’re almost there. It’s been almost two years and…(they’re) waiting till the end to tell us we need to go back and do all of these things.”

Laurie and Teresa are active in the community of small businesses in Ybor City and asked others about their experiences with permits, repairs and opening their doors. They know it’s not an easy process, but feel their project is taking unusually long to be approved.

“Converting a single-family home in a residential area into a bookstore with a commercial kitchen is a complex process. Although it’s taken some time, the adjustments being made are essential for compliance to ensure a positive

The two are adamant about making sure their bookstore is renovated safely and to historical standards. But as the weeks fly by, the sisters become increasingly worried they’ll never get to open the bookstore they’ve worked so hard for.

“We’ve been patient and to me…whatever it takes, as long as it takes,” Laurie said. “But now what’s happening is…the amount of money that this has cost. Now it’s more. I don’t have it. I have just what I have and that matching grant (if we don’t lose it).”

While the Rodriguez sisters cautiously hope their permits will get approved soon, Bookends remains alive and well through its traveling trailer of books. They host book clubs and author events at Gasparilla Distillery and are planning a midnight release party for the next Rebecca Yarros book, Onyx Storm. They say the community of readers keeps them going.

“We love Ybor and can’t wait to open our bookstore there,” Teresa said.

SISTER ACT: Teresa (L) and Laurie Rodriguez.

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The Commodores w/The Pointer Sisters/The Spinners The current main vocalists in the Pointer Sisters are all family, but they’re not siblings. Original sister Ruth Pointer—the last one standing following the 2022 death of Anita—now shares the stage with her daughter Issa and granddaughter Sadako, and their set will be sandwiched between the current iterations of fellow Motowners including recent Rock and Roll Hall of Fame inductees The Spinners and the Commodores. Ruth Pointer told Creative Loafing Tampa Bay about the best gigs she ever saw—read more at cltampa.com/music. (Hard Rock Event Center at Seminole Hard Rock Hotel & Casino, Tampa)

C Dwight Yoakam w/The Mavericks/ Drayton Farley It’s been a big year for Dwight Yoakam. The King of Cool just accepted a lifetime achievement award at the 2024 Americana Music Awards, but also roped Post Malone into a new single from a new album, Brighter Days , which drops the day after this show. In continuing a recent tradition of having top-notch openers at his BayCare Sound shows, the 68-year-old songwriter has tapped The Mavericks to warm up the crowd (Charley Crockett did the deed last year). (The BayCare Sound, Clearwater)

C Juvenile w/The 400 Degreez Band

The Nola-based rap legend confirmed earlier this year that all four Hot Boys are gearing up for a reunion—now that BG is finally out of prison—and a new studio album. The group officially reunited at last weekend’s Lil Weezyana Fest, and if its set served as any sign of what the next year or so looks like, this very sold-out gig from Juvie (who reluctantly appeared on NPR’s Tiny Desk last year) might be the last time we get to see him solo for a hot minute. Not to mention that sipping on his hard iced tea, Juvie Juice beats the shit out of a Twisted Tea any day. (Jannus Live, St. Petersburg)

C No Plea w/Krona/Last Bias A little bit of Caribbean Winter comes to Tampa Bay when a packed week of punk rock wraps with a visit from Krona. The Dominican Republic outfit’s new single is an ballad about an ill-intentioned conquistador, and perfect for FFO of Queens of the Stone Age and Mastodon. Two heavy hitters of the St. Pete scene—No Plea and Last Bias—roll out the welcome mat. (The Nest at St. Pete Brewing Company, St. Petersburg)

While We’re Young (One Direction dance party) The death of Liam Payne was something no one had on their 2024 bingo card, and there’s no question that most Directioners (many of which probably attended one of the boy-band’s two 2012

and 2014 appearances in Tampa Bay) will be dancing with tears in their eyes, 28 days after Payne’s death. In his honor, $2 of each ticket sold will go to Metropolitan Ministries and the National Alliance on Mental Illness, so you’ll be dancing for a cause. That’s what makes you beautiful, yo. (Crowbar, Ybor City)

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C Ana Gabriel With more than 40 million records sold, Ana Gabriel is the best-selling Mexican female artist of all time. The 68-year-old raspy-voiced singer also has a star on Hollywood Boulevard in front of Ballet Hollywood, and has big plans after wrapping the “Un Deseo Más” tour (a honeymoon with her wife). Expect Gabriel—who is Mexican and Chinese—to run through all the hits, including “Simplemente Amigos” which is about loving your partner openly. (Amalie Arena, Tampa)

Bridge City Sinners w/Holy Locust/ Possessed by Paul James/Lightnin’ Luke It’s eerily accurate how a few tracks on the Bridge City Sinners’ new album In The Age Of Doubt sums up the way 71 million Americans have been feeling for the last week. Bass and banjo-hefty opening track “Break The Chain,” depicts agony and hopelessness in humanity, but also a willingness to fight the adversities and potentially “go down with the ship.”

“Doubt” tackles the feeling of society viewing one as the enemy, but also includes a life-saving ending, a reminder that you’re not alone, and things will get better at some point. The Portland folk-punk outfit was at Jannus Live earlier this year, opening for Frank Turner, but don’t be surprised if Bay area headlining debut starts a mosh pit, no matter how strange a time it seems. (Crowbar, Ybor City)

I Am Morbid w/Suffocation/UADA/ Mortiferum/Fulci/Knoll Until a few weeks ago, Morbid Angel was scheduled to headline this year’s annual Devastation On The Nation tour, with a homecoming gig in Tampa serving as the kickoff date. But early this month, the death metal outfit announced that it had to pull out due to “unforeseen circumstances,” and would be replaced by I Am Morbid.

Morbid Angel still features original guitarist and main creative force Trey Azagthoth, and lineup changes are fairly constant, but I Am Morbid features original lead singer David Vincent. (Orpheum, Tampa)

O.A.R. w/Ripe/The Ries Brothers The smooth, alt-rock vibes of O.A.R (short for Of A Revolution) first appeared at downtown Clearwater’s BayCare Sound last summer, as an opening act for Goo Goo Dolls (Kevin and Charlie Ries hosted a behind-the-scenes, Clearwater Young Professionals). There isn’t any new music from our headliners (what appears to be the first-ever band to play this venue twice), but during “That Was A Crazy Game Of Poker,” you just might see playing cards fly across the crowd like a beach ball. Not to mention that this show is just one of many that will see the Sound (and the

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other two venues under the Ruth Eckerd Hall umbrella) offer up to four free tickets to first responders in Pinellas and Pasco counties, as well as linemen and beach hospitality employees in response to their actions following Hurricanes Helene and Milton. Ahead of the gig, both of the Ries Brothers told Creative Loafing Tampa Bay about the best gigs they ever saw. Read their respective quotes at cltampa.com/music. (The BayCare Sound, Clearwater)

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C The Avett Brothers Grab your (clear) bag and grab your coat. The BOTB-winning Americana band is about to have its very own, Mignonette -centered jukebox musical “Swept Away” premiere at Broadway’s Longacre Theatre, where the likes of “Jesus Christ Superstar” and “A Bronx Tale” have previously played. But before a month or so off the road— for reasons we assume are related to oversight of the musical—Scott and Seth Avett return to Coachman Park for the first time since a 2017 slot at Clearwater Jazz Holiday. Expect another emotional rollercoaster built mostly on a new, eponymous album, featuring the boys’ regular, slow-and-sweet messages of hope in darkness (“We Are Loved”) and even a couple of headbangers (“Love Of A Girl,” “Orion’s Belt,”). (The BayCare Sound, Clearwater)

C Chandler & Spose w/DJ TuffLuck/ more TBA Those choir kids are versatile. Just look at Chandler Matkins, who’s launched the Richmond rap scene into virality, all thanks to a few bars from his track, “Nothin’ To It.” In the TikTok clip, the red-bearded emcee says, “Don’t ask me how I did it. I just did it—it was hard.” Matkins, whose delivery is laconic, with just a little drawl that’ll appeal to fans of Yung Gravy and even Blackalicious, brings Maine rapper Ryan Peters (aka Spose) along for the ride into one of Tampa Bay's best live music spots. (Hooch and Hive, Tampa)

The Dunwells In an era where virality defines success, Joe and Dave Dunwell stand apart. The Leeds lads’ band busked in railway stations as recently as last April, but has been hard at work for more than a decade (the boys made a U.S. national TV debut with a 2012 appearance on Leno’s “Tonight Show”). The Dunwells bring a tried and true brand of harmonious folk-rock to this intimate Clearwater gig. (Music4Life Living Arts Center, Clearwater)

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Kai Wachi w/Prosecute/Myr A 2023 video of Kai Wachi playing Ohio’s Lost Lands Festival finds tens of thousands of EDM fans headbanging to agro, ear-splitting dubstep. A February single, “Happier By Now,” is a bit more melodic, but expect the Idaho DJ and producer to show all sides at this club gig. (The Ritz, Ybor City)

C LaRue Nickelson The Seminole Heights watering hole-slash-cafe celebrates its 15th anniversary this weekend with a duo of live shows. On Saturday, cat-loving USF jazz guitar instructor of over 20 years LaRue Nickelson—who once told CL that he doesn’t go out of his way to be an entertainer-style showman—will appear on night one. Sunday features Tampa’s favorite Americana sons The Urbane Cowboys, who’re now something of a fixture at Indie anniversaries (Independent Bar and Cafe, Tampa)

C No Plea w/Realms of Death/Shades of War/Vile Serpent/Hysteresis The first 30 seconds of Realms of Death ’s 2023 EP are the perfect, acoustic amuse bouche for the brutal 20 minutes of blast-beat-driven, thrashy hardcore that follows. The San Antonio band anchors this brewery gig featuring Jacksonville hardcore outfit Shades Of War, Broward grindcore band Beastplague, Ocala beatdown crew Vile Serpent, and more. (Deviant Libation, Tampa)

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C Sixpence None The Richer w/ Kristopher James It’s been 26 years since “Kiss Me” catapulted Sixpence None The Richer to superstardom (the single won the Texas band a Grammy for Best Pop Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocals). The lineup on that breakthrough—Leigh Nash, Matt Slocum, Dale Baker, and Justin Cary— is back on the road supporting a new album, Rosemary Hill , that’s as catchy and sentimental as ever. Bay area songwriter Kristopher James—a soulful crooner who’s not afraid to be in his own feelings onstage and online— opens the show. (Orpheum, Tampa)

TFO: Music Of The Knights It’s no secret that The Florida Orchestra makes a point to stage at least one rock-related performance per season. Plenty of times, there’s even a rock band onstage to salute the likes of Tom Petty, ELO, and Fleetwood Mac. Though there’s a Tina Turner tribute coming up in May, these “Music Of The Knights” performances—one in the afternoon, and one in the evening—will salute the best-known material from Sir Elton John, Sir Paul McCartney (and, on a non-rock note, Sir Andrew Lloyd Webber). Sure, hearing “Your Song” paired with, say, “Yesterday” isn’t too much of a shock. But hearing those back-to-back with “Phantom of the Opera” might just be the enlightenment we need. (Mahaffey Theater, St. Petersburg)

Turkey Brawl: Highest Crown w/Spine Eater/Tut/Near Death/Fortitude Only because it falls so close to the last day of the month, Turkey Day feels like a lifetime away. This Bradenton hardcore benefit—featuring a smorgasbord of Central Florida bands—will help ensure that homeless kids have a turkey to eat later this month, because all donations collected at this show go towards FELT (Feeding Empty Little Tummies). The Manatee Countybased nonprofit’s food distribution warehouse recently suffered some roof damage as a result of Hurricane Milton (and there’s a fundraiser set up on FELT’s website), so maybe think about giving a little more than usual if you head to this gig. (Oscura, Bradenton)

C Wolf-Face w/Dial Drive/The Dismissives/Teen Cobra

Is Michael J. Wolf one of the greatest thinkers of our generation? Perhaps. Definitely, if you listen to Michaelangelo J. Wolf, the new EP from St. Pete’s lupine punk-rock band. “Brush and dry my body hair/Watch the crowd all stop and stare/Take a whiff of my pheromones/Now love is in the air,” he sings on the lead single, “Blood and Pubes on the Dance Floor.” In sync with the Beaver Moon—2024’s fourth and final supermoon—Wolf, who is immortal, leads the pack into downtown St. Pete for this record release show alongside Florida favorites from the Bay area (Teen Cobra), St. Augustine (The Dismissives), and Orlando (Dial Drive). (VFW Post 39, St. Petersburg)

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Blood Incantation w/Midwife Blood Incantation just dropped its fourth album Absolute Elsewhere , named after Yes drummer Bill Bruford’s obscure 1976 project of the same name. The album, recorded at Berlin’s legendary Hansa Tonstudios (where David

Bowie worked on two of his three Berlin-era albums), features Tangerine Dream’s own Thorsten Quaeschning doing a synth section on “The Stargate [Tablet II],” and is accompanied by a trippy-AF, 20-minute short film centered around a mysterious artifact and its victims. Expect to hear the entire album when the Denver-based metal outfit arrives for its first gig in town since a 2019 stop at Crowbar. (Orpheum, Tampa)

C It Was 50 Years Ago Today: Christopher Cross w/Maxi Priest/Jason Scheff Earlier this year, Badfinger’s Joey Molland told CL that there were talks of doing a third installment of the all-star “It Was 50 Years Ago Today” tour that celebrates The Beatles’ catalog. In previous years, Molland, along with the likes of Todd Rundgren and the late Denny Laine have been at the helm, but this year’s tour—which covers Let It Be and the American-released Hey Jude compilation— has a much smaller lineup. Rundgren won’t be there, and Molland had to drop out, but Maxi Priest of UB40 is on the bill, as are previous touring members Christopher Cross and Chicago’s first post-Cetera lead singer Jason Scheff. (The BayCare Sound, Clearwater)

C Panchiko w/Glare A couple dozen years after its release, Panchiko’s D>E>A>T>H>M>E>T>A>L is finally getting respect. The U.K. band reunited in late 2021, 20 years after playing its final show, only after interest in the 2020 album spread as listeners tried to figure out who was responsible for the shoegaze-y, Bowie-esque pop-metal with triphop tendencies. Supporting a 2023 LP, Failed at Math(s), Panchiko gets to meet Florida fans face-to-face after Texas rock outfit Glare warms up the crowd. (Jannus Live, St. Petersburg)

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C Babyface Every time I close my eyes… I hear Kennth Edmonds’ voice in my head. The 65-year-old with 13 Grammys is responsible for two generations worth of R&B hits, and last year flexed his bonafides in a legendary Tiny Desk set for NPR. The 11-song performance was a veritable quiet storm, and his setlists as of late have been a mixture of his own hits alongside songs made famous by the likes of Boyz II Men, Whitney Houston and Michael Jackson. Edmonds, better known as Babyface, plays an intimate set at the Hard Rock, and we’re hoping for a performance of Sza’s “Snooze,” which he co-wrote. (Hard Rock Event Center at Seminole Hard Rock Hotel & Casino, Tampa)

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C Snõõper w/Real People/Cabo Boing In Spotify years, 15 months is a decade. Snõõper knows this and has spent the days between the release of its debut LP and this November tour giving fans nearly half-a-dozen releases (including a ridiculous cover of Devo’s “I Think I ’m Falling In Luv Again”) to hold them over. The art-punk outfit that went from self-releasing music to pressing it on hometown label Third Man Records, and it comes to Tampa with Hollywood, Florida heavy-hitter Real People and Cabo Boing, the experimental project of YipYip’s Brian Esser in tow. (Crowbar, Ybor City)

C Sunshine Hootenanny Music & Art Festival w/Moe./Dogs In A Pile/Karina Rykman/Bobby Lee Rogers Trio/Tru Phonic/more

Florida Sand Music Ranch (formerly Sertoma Youth Ranch) is an 80-acre music-lover’s playground, and next week hosts two nights from Buffalo jam-rock favorite Moe. (stylized in all-lowercase), which headlines Friday and Saturday. Close to three-dozen acts are on the bill, and the party gets started on Thursday.

See an extended version of this listing via cltampa.com/music.

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Bike and pop music fans, we have some good News 4 U.

Los Angeles soul-pop band Fitz and the Tantrums is headed back to downtown Tampa this winter, as headliner of the 13th annual OnBikes Winter Wonder Ride.

The party, set for next month at Curtis Hixon Waterfront Park, is part of a full day featuring a seven-mile bicycle ride through downtown, plus up and down Bayshore Boulevard. Proceeds from the even support nonprofit OnBikes’ ongoing mission to provide new bicycles and helmets to underprivileged kids on the Bay area. onBikes founder Julius Tobin told Creative Loafing Tampa Bay that since its inception, OnBikes has distributed over 18,000 sets of wheels to kids in need.

Frikitona Friday, Nov. 22. 10 p.m. $17.67. Crowbar, Ybor City

Swarmfest: Pessimist w/Gigan/Nasty Savage/Lethal Prayer/Nocturnus AD/ Narcotic Wasteland/Koroidia/Perdition Temple/Interceptor/more Friday-Sunday, Nov. 22-24. 7 p.m. Friday and Saturday, 5 p.m. Sunday. $40 & up. Brass Mug, Tampa

Good Luck Club (Chappell Roan dance party) Saturday, Nov. 23. 9 p.m. $17.67. Crowbar, Ybor City

Damon Fowler & Friends Holiday Show

Wednesday, Nov. 27. 8 p.m. $15. Skipper’s Smokehouse, Tampa

Eat What You Kill: Fre$h P w/Ree Baby/ Aych & JC/Vixie/Beselfliss/Phxntom33/ more Friday, Nov. 29. 7 p.m. $20. Crowbar, Ybor City

Past headliners include LoCash, Big Boi, CeeLo, and Mix Master Mike. The Tantrums are no stranger to The Curt either, and played an NHL All-Star Game celebration there in 2018.

The theme for 2024's ride is “Après Ski After Party.” “Attendees are encouraged to embrace the cozy, festive style of unwinding after a day on the slopes, donning ski lodge chic attire such as puffy jackets, vintage ski suits, cozy scarves, fur-lined hats, and bold, retro goggles,” the release added.

Tickets to see Fitz and the Tantrums play onBikes’ Winter Wonder Ride at Tampa’s Curtis Hixon Waterfront Park on Saturday, Dec. 14 are on sale now and start at $40. See Josh Bradley’s weekly rundown of new concerts coming to Tampa Bay below. Ray Roa

Nightmare Before Curemas: Lovesong (Cure tribute) Saturday, Nov. 30. 7 p.m. $18. Music Hall at New World Brewery, Tampa

US103.5 Jingle Y’all: Riley Green w/ Zach Top/John Morgan/Ashley Cooke

Tuesday, Dec. 3. 8 p.m. $144 & up (resale only). Hard Rock Event Center at Seminole Hard Rock Hotel & Casino, Tampa

Jaenga (opening for Trivecta) Friday, Dec. 20. 10 p.m. $20 & up. The Ritz, Ybor City

Winter Jam: Skillet w/Anne Wilson/ KB/Colton Dixon/Newsong/Micah Tyler Saturday, Jan. 11. 6 p.m. $15 donation at door. Yuengling Center, Tampa

Nonpoint w/Crobot & Heartsick Friday, Jan. 17. 7:30 p.m. $26.50. Jannus Live, St. Petersburg

Cope don’t seethe

I am a bisexual cis woman in my 40s. My boyfriend is a straight cis man in his 30s. I had limited experience prior to our relationship. That said, it hasn’t stopped my boyfriend from providing all the pleasure I can imagine for the most part. There is just one thing I want to ask about. I am open about fantasies and often think about sex even when we’re not “in the moment.” He says he doesn’t have any fantasies and doesn’t think about sex outside of the experience. How can I gently encourage my guy to have sexual fantasies?

I suspect this is a mental block around shame and I think it would keep things interesting if we could both explore fantasy and talk more about it. Our NRE won’t last forever.—The Big Reveal

As everyone knows, TBR, the average man thinks about sex every seven seconds. (Some consider that stat to be dubious —mostly because it’s been disproven again and again— but I’m going to trot it out one more time for sake of argument.) So, either your BF, who only thinks about sex when he’s having it and claims to have no sexual fantasies, is an outlier, e.g., he thinks about sex far less than once every seven seconds, or he’s not being entirely honest with you about how often he thinks about sex and/or what he thinks about when he’s thinking about sex.

Why wouldn’t a man share his sexual thoughts (rate of) and sexual fantasies (specific of) with a girlfriend who wanted to hear about both?

He could worry his sexual fantasies might repulse you, TBR, and not because they’re repulsive—although they might be (some are!)—but because he may have shared his sexual fantasies with a previous partner who reacted badly. (Once bitten, twice shy.) I’ve lost count of the number of letters I’ve received from men and women whose partners begged them to open up about their fantasies and then reacted with horror at the revelation of a harmless, relatively common, and easily indulged sexual interest, like a thing for feet or fuzzy handcuffs. In a world where your run-of-the-mill foot fetishists and bondage-for-beginners types get dumped after laying their kink cards on the table, you’re going to encounter people who hesitate to share their sexual thoughts and fantasies with new partners for fear of getting dumped.

That said, it’s possible your boyfriend is one of those rare guys who is completely vanilla, TBR, and all of his sexual needs are being met in your relationship. (It’s also possible he doesn’t think about sex 19 times a day, which is the average for male college students.) So, why not err on the side of taking him at his word? You’re setting a good example for him by sharing your fantasies, TBR, and you can and should remind him once in a while—every couple of months

or so—that you’re ready, willing, and able to return the favor if he has a sexual fantasy you can reasonably indulge. (“Reasonable” is a very subjective standard when it comes to kinks; one person’s “reasonable” sexual fantasy is another person’s “no fucking way.”) If he hasn’t opened up to you about his fantasies because he’s struggling with shame—assuming, again, that he has any sexual fantasies—there’s no better cure than the affections and attentions of a GGG partner like you. But you’ll have to be patient.

As for keeping things interesting, TBR, just like it sometimes falls to one partner to initiate, it sometimes falls to one partner—not always the same partner—to keep things interesting once the NRE wears off. Which means you may be the one who has to order toys and/ or suggest heading to a sex club or fucking one the roof when the time comes. So long as your GGG boyfriend is willing to go there with and for you, TBR, then it’s only a problem if you decide to make it one.

How do you learn to live with your partner’s most annoying, idiotic behavior? I’m a 40-year-old bisexual woman in a long-term open relationship with a man. I tolerate a lot in my relationship with my ADHD partner, but there is this one little thing that makes my blood boil. When we watch movies or shows together, I sometimes lose the thread of the story, and ask my partner what’s going on. When he answers, he never uses the characters names or signifiers, only pronouns. Instead, he says stuff like “he wants him to follow him to his place so he can get the thing from him.” (In our language “he” and “him” can be the same word so it’s even worse.) It annoys me SO MUCH!!!

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of recaps one requires, one could keep one’s laptop open on one’s lap with the film’s IMDB page open. Then instead of asking one’s partner to do what one’s partner has repeatedly proven himself incapable of doing, AFF, one could glance down at the IMDB page already open on one’s laptop, as needed, to glean the information one needs.

Basically, AFF, after one has identified a source of frustration in one’s romantic relationship—after one has identified an engine of conflict—one should do what one can to avoid that thing. In other words, AFF: cope, don’t seethe.

P.S. There are always things about our partners that drive us crazy. If there’s something you truly can’t stand—if there’s something you absolutely can’t live with—then you should end the relationship. But if you don’t want to end the relationship, you have to learn to live with and work around the things your partner does or fails to do or says or fails to say that drive you crazy. That’s the price of admission.

I’m a 40-year-old cishet male, or at least I have been so far. I was in a very long-term relationship for most of my adult life, which ended just recently (partly because sex just wasn’t fulfilling for either of us anymore), and I find myself wanting different things out of sex nowadays. Specifically, I would like to try a more submissive role, and increasingly I don’t really care what gender the other person is. I’m learning that I’m quite attracted to twinks, femboys, and trans men, as well as women. I’m interested in exploring this attraction, but I have NO idea how to get back into the cishet dating/casual sex scene, much less the LBGTQ+ dating scene. I am excited but frankly terrified to put myself back out into the world, and I don’t know what I’m doing. Any advice?—Branching Out Now

Why not use the characters names or say “the guy in the red shirt” or SOMETHING like that?!? I can never follow my partner’s explanation. And when I ask, “Him who?,” my partner gets mad and accuses me of pretending not to follow his explanation. Which I must admit I sometimes do because WHY NOT JUST USE THE NAMES!??!

We’re currently trying to watch the Jason Bourne movies, but started fighting over this in the middle of the second one, and haven’t been able to pick it up again. Watching movies together is a big part of our relationship. How does one come to terms and live with stuff like this in long-term relationships?—Annoyed Film Fan

One learns to cope. Taking the example you cite—a partner’s inability to provide one with helpful plot-and-character summaries while watching a film—since one knows one’s partner won’t be able to provide one with the kind

And remember… when it comes to sex and dating… no one knows what they’re doing until they do it a few times. Like everyone else who’s ever gotten a dating or hookup app, BON, you’ll learn. But there’s no learning without doing.

Straight guy here. My wife and I have always been on the same page about necessary conversations and we both believe that disclosing information beyond what’s required should be undertaken with care. My wife is fairly guarded about her past, and I respect that. The truth is, I don’t know a whole lot about her sexual history. But you know who does? Her best friend’s asshole boyfriend. I know it’s healthy and normal to disclose intimate details to a close friend—including things you might never say to a partner—but my wife’s best friend shares whatever my wife confides in her with her asshole boyfriend. This man takes delight in revealing personal information about others. Because of this guy, I know things about my wife that she and I agreed weren’t important for me to know: her body count, men she dated I knew nothing about, and some very specific details of her sexual history. At first, I would flinch and bear it but the total weight of everything I now know is hard to bear. It turns out my wife has lived a lot of the fantasies I’ve shared with her with other men, all things she declined to partake in with me. And these things are known to our entire close friend group thanks to her best friend’s asshole boyfriend. Do I ask my wife not to confide in her best friend? That doesn’t sound right. Asking the asshole boyfriend to shut up hasn’t worked because he’s an asshole. Am I supposed to pretend not to know the things I now know? —Normally Open Troubled Dude Enervated And Frustrated

For better or worse, BON, most people— cishet or queer—meet their new sex partners and/and life partners online. So, take some accurate pics, download some apps, and put yourself out there. And if you’re interested in experimenting with twinks, femboys, and trans men, you’re free to get onto hookup apps and dating websites that serve the LGBTQIA+ community. Remember: the “Q” in LGBTQ+ doesn’t just stand for “queer, BON, it also stands for “questioning,” which is what it sounds like you’ve been doing lately. You might get some grief from queer people who don’t wanna be your experiment and don’t think anyone else should wanna be your experiment either, but so long as you’re respectful and honest about who you are and what you’re looking for, BON, you aren’t violating anyone by getting on the apps. And trust me: there are twinks and femboys and trans men out there who are up for being a “straight” guy’s first queer experience.

So, your wife knows she can’t confide in her best friend without her best friend repeating everything to her asshole boyfriend. Furthermore, your wife knows this asshole boyfriend delights in repeating whatever he learns about anyone to implicated third parties—like their husbands— and your wife knows her best friend’s asshole boyfriend has gone out of his way to embarrass and humiliate her husband more than once. The fix here is obvious: your wife either convinces her dumbfuck best friend to stop repeating things to her asshole boyfriend or your wife stops confiding in her dumbfuck best friend. That doesn’t mean your wife can’t confide in anyone—you aren’t trying to isolate her—you’re merely asking her to stop investing her trust in someone who has demonstrated that she can’t be trusted. She can confide in her best friend about Feud, she can confide in best friend about Finn Bennett (swoon), she can confide in her best friend about politics and religion. But it’s obvious your wife can’t confide in her best friend about her sexual history without it getting back to you. Email your question for the column to mailbox@savage.love! Podcasts, columns and more at Savage.Love

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