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CONTENTS 08 ACADIANA LIFE Leadership Day – Woodvale Elementary Cheeky Signs Enroll Lafayette Grumpy Grandma AAF Awards 20 HEALTHY LIVING The Weight Loss/Sleep Connection Work On Your Summer Body Insomnia – Have You Tried Everything? 24 HOME Mistakes Homeowners Make Selecting Interior Paint Colors 28 MONEY Find Unclaimed Money 30 LIFE AND LEISURE Internet Safety For Children – Kiddle Rainy Day Activities Girard Park’s New Splash Pad Modern Dating– Tinder 44 FAMILY MATTERS Too Tough With Disciplining Kids? Festival Survival Kit What Autistic Children Wish You Knew 48 CAREER Living Without Regret 50 MIND | BODY | SOUL Feeling Trapped in the Maze – Part 2 When He Asks For Space Artmosphere’s Thursday Poetry Nights Child Abuse – A Touchy Subject Controlling Back Pain 60 BEAUTY | STYLE Prom Color Guide For Your Skin Tone Prom Hair – Easy DIY Styles
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ACADIANA LIFE
They’re Growing L EADERS!
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Woodvale Elementary School holds annual Leadership Day, highlighting the leadership capabilities of their students.
n attendance were parents and community leaders who were greeted by student ambassadors and group leaders from various grade levels. The program began with a televised broadcast of school news and announcements being aired throughout the school on WSN (Woodvale Synergy Network), a student-run network originating from the library. Immediately following the broadcast, group leaders escorted the visitors to multiple stations around school to view classrooms, student programs, science lab, and the WSN set; in addition to meeting with a student advisory panel to discuss their interpretations of the 7 Habits of Happy Kids program derived from The Leader In Me*. Throughout the program, students interacted with the adult visitors, engaging in conversation and sharing
The program began with a televised broadcast of school news and announcements being aired throughout the school on WSN (Woodvale Synergy Network), a student-run network originating from the library.
their accomplishments, data collection and experiences as leaders of their school, community and families. Principal, Monique Vidos states, “It’s been three years since we [Woodvale] introduced the Leader in Me program to our faculty and students. During this time, we’ve definitely noticed an increased effort to achieve and maintain school-wide goals. It’s been amazing to see our students mature and take on leadership roles.” Assistant Principal Christy Hayes explains, “These kids are the leaders of the future. They’re going to make a difference in the world someday—a positive difference; you can’t put that into numbers or statistics.” Woodvale is one of only a handful of public elementary schools in the parish with an “A” rating from the LA State Department of Education and there are lots of things the school could boast about. However, ask almost any staff member and they’ll tell you, “We’re growing Leaders at Woodvale!”
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ACADIANA LIFE
CHEEKY SIGNS NICE NUTS! Oh boy. When I saw this one, I almost spilled my coffee, I was laughing so hard…it says a mouth full without really saying anything at all. I love it and apparently a lot of other people did too, because it was only up for about half a day. I guess they sold out?
JONES FLEA MARKET There’s something that intrigues me about small town America. It may be the slower pace of life or the simplicity of how things operate, I don’t know—but I love it. I was passing through Hornbeck, Louisiana last month and ran across this sign in front of Jones Flea Market. Sheer Genius! These people have cornered the market on both Fuel Stations and Pet Stations AND, they managed to do it inside a Flea Market!
SLOWER TRAFFIC KEEP RIGHT Ok, this sign isn’t funny or intriguing, but it triggers one of my biggest pet peeves. Why, because I like to drive fast. I’m safe and I don’t speed (especially around those damn speed vans), but it drives me crazy when I’m on the highway and some oblivious driver is driving well below the speed limit in the left lane, keeping others from passing. Louisiana, along with 10 other states, posts this sign for a very good reason. IT’S THE LAW! The Louisiana law states, “... slower traffic should keep right so that faster traffic can safely pass on the left…” SO MOVE OVER SLOW POKE! And stop texting while driving! If you see a great sign, email a good picture of it to me along with a short explanation to admin@faceacadiana. com. If we use it in the magazine, we’ll send you a FACE Magazine bumper sticker. 10 FACE | APRIL 2016
~ Till next time my darlings,
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ACADIANA LIFE
Back In The Day 20 Years Ago in April,1996 Major League Soccer kicks off in front of an overflow crowd of 31,683 packed in Spartan Stadium to witness the historic first game. San Jose Clash forward Eric Wynalda scores the league's first goal in a 1–0 victory over D.C. United. Louisiana Ice Gators set All-Time Attendance record for ECHL Playoff Game at 11,042 in the Cajundome (Jacksonville vs. Louisiana, Riley Cup 1st Round, April 5, 1996) Fastest wind speed ever recorded (not in a tornado) was 253 mph in Barrow Island, Australia John Bobbitt is put under house arrest in Las Vegas for 120 days Sotherby ends 4 day auction of Jackie O. Kennedy’s stuff, taking in $34.5 million President Bill Clinton signs the Line Item Veto Act of 1996, granting the U.S. president line-item veto power. The Supreme Court of the United States later finds this law unconstitutional. A Boeing 737 military jet crashes into a mountain north of Dubrovnik, Croatia. All 35 people on board die, including United States Secretary of Commerce Ron Brown. The film, Fargo, was released. TV Land, an offshoot of the series Nick at Nite, debuts round-the-clock broadcasting of classic television shows. Texas brothers Patrick and Michael Graham approach FBI in New Orleans with information about alleged criminal activity involving elected officials in Louisiana, particularly Edwin Edwards. Lousay Aubé was inducted into The Acadian Museum’s Living Legends Program in Erath for his work as a traiteur (healer).
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ACADIANA LIFE New Website Links Pre-K Programs
ENROLL LAFAYETTE For Parents of Preschoolers
F
orty six percent of children in Louisiana are not emotionally, mentally and academically prepared when entering kindergarten. In an effort to improve this statistic, Louisiana is implementing a unified Early Childhood System of Local Networks across the state. Lafayette Parish now has an Early Childhood Community Network, which educates its residents of early childhood programs available for children 6 weeks old to pre-K4. All facilities listed accept public funds. The overall goal is to prepare children for school, especially those considered at risk. There are 5 different categories of early education programs for parents to choose from, as follows:
1 LAFAYETTE PARISH SCHOOL SYSTEM PRE-K Residents of Lafayette Parish can enroll their four year olds (must be 4 by September 30th). Placement is determined by school zones and availability. Tuition for pre-K is income based. There are only 1,158 spots and overflows go to Truman Early Childhood Education Center, a flagship school for Lafayette Parish Pre-K.
2 NONPUBLIC SCHOOL EARLY CHILDHOOD DEVELOPMENT The Nonpublic School Early Childhood Development (NSECD) Program reimburses participating nonpublic schools throughout the state of Louisiana for providing four-year-old children with prekindergarten classes. There are currently three non-public schools to choose from for pre-K enrollment, which is income based. They are Gethsemane Christian Academy, Holy Family Catholic School and Immaculate Heart of Mary School.
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TYPE III EARLY LEARNING CENTERS
HEAD START Head Start is a federal program for preschool children three to five years of age in low-income families. Local nonprofit organizations manage the head start program. Children also receive free medical and dental care.
There are 38 participating centers with most servicing infants to five years providing quality care and kindergarten readiness. Tuition varies from center to center and mostly by age. Information on child care assistance and other forms of aid is provided by each individual institution.
Parents can visit www.enrolllafayette. com for more information to determine the program that best suits the needs of their children and family. Details on enrollment can be found on this site as well. This is a great opportunity for all children in the community to have equal opportunities for education and development despite challenges such as disabilities or financial status so they may enter kindergarten ready and set up for success.
4 EARLY HEAD START
Early Head Start (EHS) is a federally funded early childhood development program aimed to assist at risk, low income families. It is center-based, supplemented with home visits. Parents also have a home-based option as well as placing children with certified child care providers in their home.
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ACADIANA LIFE Grumpy Grandma Ok now look. I took a lot of heat for my
BONJOUR MY CAJUN FRIENDS!
predictions and comments about da presidential elections last month and
IT’S ME AGAIN, opinionated
it didn’t take very long for da political
columnist and general know it all,
hacks to squish my dreams of a Bob
Mrs. Nettie Mae Avec Domino.
Dole comeback, but let me tell y’all somethin’… I’m mad as Hades about this
Nettie Mae Avec Domino
MON DIEU! DA POPE GOT HOUSE ARRESTED IN LAFAYETTE PARISH!
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election and da outright demagoguery (yea I Googled dat) of da so called candidates we gonna have to choose from…What they gonna
promise next—free cell phones if you ain’t got a job? Pas bon y’all, Pas bon…
Y’all, it’s true! Mr. City Marshal Brian Pope done went and got himself house arrested! Mais, I couldn’t hardly
And finally, let’s talk about E-cigs and Vaping. If you wanna
believe it when I heard the news. Der I was, proud like a
quit smoking, good for you, but I can still see your Vape! And
momma hen when I learned dat da Pope had signed on dat handsome Mr. Uncle Clay Higgins as a Reserve Deputy Marshal…Then, not even a week later, da Pope himself done went and tried to stonewall da judge on some emails and BOOM! Dat Judge done throw’d da book at him.
for the rest of you who are hiding your nicotine habit by vaping because it’s sooo much better for you—seriously? You ain’t fooling nobody, so get your Marlboro Reds and smoke outside like everybody else. Ok, I think my gout’s about to act up again, so dat’s it for now.
Caww—dat’s tête dur, yea…
Until next time ~ Au revoir y’all,
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Local Artist Honored as Silver Medal Award Recipient
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t was an enchanted evening for Acadiana’s advertising industry at the 2016 American Advertising Awards. The American Advertising Federation of Acadiana (AAF Acadiana) recently hosted the ceremony where esteemed creatives took home coveted awards such as ADDY Awards, Best of Show and Special Judges Awards. But the highest honor was bestowed upon Denise Gallagher when she was named this year’s Silver Medal Award recipient for not only her creativity and countless accolades, but for her contribution to Acadiana non-profits and mentorship to students of all ages. Gallagher’s signature work is a blend of whimsy and sophistication. She portrays this through her personal art and through designs created for her clients such as logos, posters, illustrations and more. Her full portfolio can be seen at www.denisegallagher.com. If you’re not already familiar with her work, she created the official artwork for the 30th Anniversary of Festival International de Louisiane; or check out Marc Broussard’s latest album to get a better appreciation. Established in 1959, the Silver Medal Award recognizes the men and women of Acadiana who have made outstanding contributions to advertising and have been active in furthering the industry’s standards, creative excellence and responsibility in areas of social concern. Past recipients include Kevin Prejean of Prejean Creative, Chris Allain of Vidox Motion Imagery, Bob Holbrook of Holbrook Multimedia and Cherie Hebert of BBR Creative.
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2016 AMERICAN ADVERTISING AWARDS
Silver Medal Photo Caption: President Kellie Viola (right) presenting the 2016 Silver Award to Denise Gallagher (left).
This year’s AAAwards ceremony was organized by Right Angle Advertising and themed Enchanted ADventures: Fabled Tales of Creativity. Guests reveled in the fairy tale atmosphere as local creatives took home honors voted on by this year’s judges—Steve Grimes of The Richards Group, Dallas, TX ; Cindy Friedman of sparklecreative, Austin, TX; and Bronson Ma of Bronson Ma Creative, Dallas, TX.
An animated video featuring illustrations inspired by Denise’s work was created to surprise the recipient during the awards ceremony.
Amongst the competition was a wide variety of creative professionals and agencies in fields such as advertising, graphic design, photography, print, newspaper, radio, television, web, marketing and communications, as well as students studying in these areas. From those who received the highest merits, their work will go on to compete at the district level of the competition for an opportunity at winning national awards.
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ACADIANA LIFE
comme ça! Community Comment
“The Latin Music Festival. I’m originally from Venezuela so I like music I can do the salsa and merengue to.”
What’s your
~Samantha Lowe Lafayette
favorite festival and why?
?
“I like Mardi Gras because I like to hang out with friends and pass a good time.” “Festival International because it’s local. I don’t have to drive far and I’m introduced to music from talented artists I’d never get to see otherwise.”
~Lynzy Cho Scott
~Sadie Shamsie Lafayette
“Festival Acadien et Creoles because it presents the opportunity for the whole family to participate. The park lends itself to children, allowing them to run free without getting lost in a mass of people. The music’s great; food’s great; people are great.” ~Ramon John Fonseca Jr. Lafayette
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“The Crawfish Festival— because crawfish & beer. Is there anything else?” “The Cracklin Cookoff because it’s a local festival that brings family and friends together.”
~John Fonseca Lafayette
~Heather Blanchard Parks
“I’m looking forward to checking out the Scott Boudin Festival.” ~Jennifer Broussard Carencro “I like Festival International for the music.” ~Regina Dauphin Cankton
HEALTHY LIVING
WEIGHT LOSS Beyond Diet and Exercise By Daphne Olivier
W
hen it comes to weight loss, diet and exercise clearly are important players in the equation. There is no doubt these are critical, yet there is another lifestyle habit that plays an arguably more important role…sleep. Sleep is a time for the body to rest, rejuvenate, and detoxify itself.
Sleep helps with hormone balance, specifically blood sugar stability, insulin resistance, and leptin resistance. Studies show that one night of poor sleep can affect insulin and leptin, the hormone that tells your brain you are full. The lack of sleep can cause resistance in these hormones, not allowing them to work efficiently for several days.
A study from University of Rochester Medical Center shows that during sleep, your brain cells shrink by 60% allowing for efficient space for fluids to move through the brain to detoxify from proteins and metabolites. There is less need to go on a detox diet if you are getting enough sleep on a regular basis.
Getting at least 7-9 hours of sleep every night is as important as making the right choices at the table. If winding down is hard for you, take a few steps to set the scene and prepare the mind to rest. Dim the lights shortly after the sun goes down and turn off intriguing devices such as your phone, computer or tablet, and television. You may also benefit from taking a warm Epsom salt bath or drinking chamomile tea to help you relax. While staying up late to “catch up on things” may be appealing, it can also be affecting your waistline.
Your natural liver detoxification pathways are also regulated by circadian rhythm. Create a routine that prepares the brain and your organs to allow for times to eat and times to rest. The more routine you are, the better your body can prepare for what’s ahead. Getting the proper amount of sleep can assure you are making stable decisions throughout the day. Choosing whether you snack on an apple or cookie can be dictated by the amount of sleep you had the night before. 20 FACE | APRIL 2016
About the author: Daphne is a food passionista, farm girl wanna-be and registered yet unconventional dietitian with a private practice – My Food Coach. She focuses on unprocessed, real food and balancing the diet with your lifestyle. Visit her website at myfoodcoach.tv
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HEALTHY LIVING
WORK
ON YOUR SUMMER BODY
N
ow that spring has arrived, you may be itching to get out in the sunshine. This is perfect timing to work on toning your body for summer. Head to your favorite park to ease into the following routine.
CARDIO – 30 MIN. Intervals: Warm up with 5 minutes of brisk walking; followed by 2 minutes of sprinting and three minutes of recovery (jogging). Repeat 4 times. Finish with 5 minutes of walking to cool down.
ARMS Find a park bench and do 2-3 reps of 15 of pushups and tricep dips.
ABS Hanging upside down on the monkey bars, bring your upper body into a crunch to work out those abs.
LEGS/BUTT Do 2-3 reps of 15 of both squats and walking lunges.
DO THIS WORKOUT AT LEAST 3-4 X PER WEEK.
Once you’re in a groove, you can change things up and get more intense. Always make sure you have the okay from your physician before starting any exercise program.
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nyone who has suffered from insomnia knows the agony of being exhausted but unable to
fall asleep. If you’ve tried everything you can think of with no relief, maybe there is one thing you haven’t heard of yet. According to www.mrhealthylife.com, mixing the following ingredients together and ingesting 30 minutes before bed will help you to fall asleep, stay asleep and wake up refreshed. 1 TABLESPOON OF COCONUT OIL
HOME DÉCOR
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the salt can be added to water to chase down the coconut oil and honey. The combination gives your body the energy it needs to sustain itself while asleep, reducing sugar spikes and stress hormones. Bonne Nuit!
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HOME
MISTAKES HOMEOWNERS MAKE (Family Features) Spring is house-hunting season and with warmer temperatures and increased rain, it is also the season when pesky creatures can invade homes. Even minor flaws in a new home should not be ignored as they can potentially lead to pest damage. Ron Harrison, Ph.D., entomologist with Orkin, recommends new homeowners avoid making these five mistakes:
Overlooking tiny cracks
Pests are attracted to shelter, food and water. Homeowners should promptly clean up all water and food spills, seal any cracks and crevices around doors, windows and pipes and install weather stripping around and under all doors, including garage doors.
Obtaining second-hand furniture Buying a home is an expensive investment and it may be tempting to save money with furniture from a thrift shop or garage sale, but bed bugs, spiders and even scorpions have been known to dwell in second-hand upholstered furniture.
Even tiny cracks and crevices in the foundation, doorways and walls where pipes enter the home could be inviting ants, roaches, spiders, rodents and other pests inside, especially during cane cutting season.
Once inside, they can spread from room to room. That’s why it’s important to inspect and quarantine—for several months if possible— all second hand furniture before bringing it inside your home.
A rat can squeeze through an opening as small as a quarter and a mouse can fit through a hole the size of a dime. Cockroaches, ants and spiders can enter through tiny crevices, too.
Ignoring insulation
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A home’s attic can be a gateway inside for many pests— such as rodents and cockroaches that nest in insulation.
It’s important to inspect insulation for pest activity and damage—insulation that is wet, matted down, chewed or covered with droppings. New insulation technology incorporates materials specifically designed to help deter household pests.
Ignoring flooring and siding damage Termites are called “silent destroyers” because they may be secretly hiding and thriving in a home or yard without immediate signs of damage. They cause more than $5 billion in damage every year in the United States, according to the National Pest Management Association. House foundations, wood framing, furniture and shelves are all possible feeding sites for termites. In spring, termites can be seen swarming around windows or doors. Other signs of termite activity include buckling wood, swollen floors and
ceilings and areas that appear to be suffering from slight water damage. Brick and mortar homes are not termite-proof as they have wooden components, such as framing and flooring that can host termite infestations. It’s important to work with a licensed professional to provide regular inspections.
Not repairing leaks Minor leaks may seem to be just that— minor. But leaks or condensation, combined with increasing temperatures in the spring, can create ideal conditions for cockroaches and other pests. Cock roaches can enter homes through tiny cracks and are attracted to damp areas, both in the attic or crawl space and indoors in the basement, kitchen or bathroom. Small steps make a big difference. Fix leaking faucets, water pipes and A/C units and eliminate standing water on the roof or in gutters to help prevent an infestation.
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HOME
SELECTING THE RIGHT INTERIOR COLORS Decorating your home is an exciting event, and paint offers you the ability to make colorful changes to your home’s décor. You can create a dramatic difference and make your home reflect your family’s personality. It’s easier than you think, too. You just need to know where to start! Here are 7 color areas and the general color feelings that are associated with them. Explore each one to determine what base color may best suit your project and then review the palette of shades in that hue. Keep in mind that the lightness, darkness, or intensity of a color all must be considered in determining the overall effect that will be presented.
RED is generally considered
YELLOW is generally
BLUE is generally considered
an energetic color. If you wish to design a stimulating area that motivates, promotes alertness and enhances activity, select the red color family. The effect of this color creates vitality, encourages achievement, enhances activity, increases pulse rate, nurtures passion, promotes alertness and stimulates excitement.
considered an innovative color. If you wish to develop a creative atmosphere which nurtures a sense of freedom, select the yellow color family. The effect of this color encourages spontaneity, inspires creativity, has a lightness of spirit, raises alertness level and suggests a feeling of serendipity.
a serene color. To provide a soothing environment that offers a relaxing and peaceful surrounding, select the blue color family. The effect of this color creates a calming spirit, combats tension, offers serenity, promotes thoughtfulness, provides BEIGE AND GREY introspection, has a soothing are generally considered nature and supports relaxation. conservative, sophisticated colors. If you wish to create a VIOLET is generally thoughtful environment that considered an inspirational exudes a feeling of comfort, color. To create a sensitive select the color palette of environment that nurtures a sense of balance and purpose, beiges and greys. The effects of these colors suggest a select the violet color family. The effect of this color allows comfortable attitude, imply meditation, balances thought, stability and sophistication, promote a secure feeling, expresses mystery, invites suggest a subtle environment surprise, promotes elegance and have a versatile nature. and has a sensitive nature.
GREEN is generally considered a calm color. To compose a color scheme that ORANGE is generally provides a relaxing ambience considered an active color. and incorporates the feeling If you wish to create an of stillness, select the green active setting that promotes color family. The effect of this movement and excitement, select the orange color family. color enhances concentration, The effect of this color creates facilitates judgment, nurtures a fun atmosphere, encourages relaxation, provides a movement, invites friendliness, refreshing atmosphere, renews the spirit and suggests a promotes a pleasurable spirit thoughtful essence. and suggests joyfulness. 26 FACE | APRIL 2016
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MONEY
FIND UNCLAIMED
MONEY ! By Kisha Kana
According to the National Association of Unclaimed Property Administrators Don’t you love finding $20 in the pocket of a
(NAUPA), there’s approximately
LOUISIANA’S GUIDE TO UNCLAIMED MONEY $ Visit www.treasury.state.la.us
$42 billion in unclaimed funds
$ Click on “Unclaimed Property”
in the United States. How does
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this happen? Well, people move, get married and pass away,
$ Hit “Search for Lost Money”
some extra cash? If so, you may be surprised to learn there’s unclaimed money that’s rightfully
causing financial institutions and companies to lose track of customers. When they can’t reach people to return refunds, overpayments and unredeemed
yours just waiting to be
money; it is turned over to the
delivered to you.
state’s treasury where it sits until someone claims it. Most claims are not time sensitive and are typically available to heirs. So, what are you waiting for? You’re only a few computer clicks away from discovering if you have unclaimed property!
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Enter the suggested information in the search field. Don’t forget to yield a search with any other names you go by, such as your maiden name. The search page will bring up names, addresses and approximate amounts owed. In the event you are owed funds, the process of retrieving it is pretty simple. After electronically submitting a claim, you will print and mail the form along with a copy of your driver’s license, social security card and proof of address. This is a quick, simple and fun way to find cash. The average unclaimed property in Louisiana is around $200. Search for your friends, relatives and neighbors. They will love you for finding money for them! FOR A DIRECT LINK TO THE TREASURY WEBSITE, VISIT WWW.FACEACADIANA.COM.
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LIFE AND LEISURE
INTERNET SAFETY
FOR CHILDREN
www.kiddle.co
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N TODAY’S SOCIETY, ELECTRONICS AND THE WORLD WIDE WEB PLAY A HUGE ROLE IN THE LIVES OF CHILDREN.
Although there are many advantages to having information at fingertips, there’s a downside. An innocent Google search may pull up potentially dangerous and inappropriate information, images or videos. As a parent, how do you protect your children? One of the precautions that moms and dads can take is creating a personal user ID for your child and switching the search engine to Kiddle. 30 FACE | APRIL 2016
WHAT’S KIDDLE? Kiddle is a kid safe visual search engine, found at www.kiddle.co. Google’s kidsafe search engine filters out mature adult content and sites are handpicked and checked by Kiddle editors to ensure kid friendly material. The search results are typically less than what one would receive on a regular search engine and are sifted out for explicit content. Terms such as “sex” and “Kim Kardashian” will
Terms such as “sex” and “Kim Kardashian” will produce zero search results; whereas, a “Justin Bieber” search will pull up pages about his new haircut or performances without any non-kid friendly information regarding his personal life.
produce zero search results; whereas, a “Justin Bieber” search will pull up pages about his new haircut or performances without any non-kid friendly information regarding his personal life. Kiddle encourages feedback from moms and dads. In order to improve
the site, parents can request additional keyword search and site blocking by filling out a blocking request form. The form requires detailed reasoning of a request to block search terms or certain sites found on Kiddle. Expect to receive correspondence within one business day.
The internet has a wealth of information that can lend itself to educating today’s youth. It is important for kids to be able to have access to technology without compromising their innocence and values. Safe search engines can provide some comfort and relief to parents who are worried about the dangers that come with utilizing the Web.
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LIFE AND LEISURE April showers may bring…a whole lot of stress. Boredom coupled with energy to burn may cause children to get cranky, fight and whine. Take advantage of
Rainy Day Activities FOCUS ON FOOD • Cook dinner together or allow the kids to cook dinner (under supervision of course).
the opportunity to bond with
• Bake and decorate goodies!
your children by having a
• Turn the living room into an indoor camp site. Let the kids build a fort while you prepare hot cocoa and s’mores on the stove. Pop some popcorn and watch your favorite movie or TV series from your youth.
list of rainy day activities to keep everyone busy—and happy. Here are suggestions to get started:
STAY ACTIVE • Put on some tunes and dance together. • Pull up yoga or workout videos on YouTube and do them together. • Play Don’t Let The Balloon Touch The Ground.
PLAY GAMES • Play board games. • Teach your kids to play your favorite card games, such as Rummy or Crazy Eights. • Color or paint pictures with your little ones to hang on the fridge. • Tackle a puzzle together.
PURPOSEFUL ACTIVITIES • Write letters or cards to out of town relatives. • Sort out clothes and toys no longer needed to donate to charity. Reward kids for helping by promising to get a new toy or outfit when the weather clears up. • Have a spa day using homemade spa treatments. Take turns telling funny stories.
Rainy days will soon become something the whole family looks forward to as a nice break from the busy-ness of life. These are the days that your kids will remember and pass on to their children.
GIRARD PARK’S Newest Attraction
SPLASH PAD! The park is located at 500 Girard Park Drive in Lafayette.
Now that warmer weather is upon us here in Acadiana, kids and moms alike Girard Park recently constructed and opened a Splash Pad, free to its patrons. Grab your picnic baskets, bathing suits
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and sunscreen and plan a fun filled afternoon in the park. The park is located at 500 Girard Park Drive in Lafayette. For additional information contact (337) 291-8379.
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LIFE AND LEISURE
MODERN dating By E. Schels
INTERNET DATING HAS BEEN A THING FOR A WHILE NOW. BUT, APPS LIKE TINDER HAVE CHANGED THE GAME. Starting out as a casual hookup app, Tinder is now considered more of a dating app; and for a lot of millennials, this is the only dating world they know. It is a one stop shop of entertainment, hookups and/or potential dates.
HOW DOES TINDER WORK? The free application can be downloaded to your smart phone. To create your profile, you sign up using Facebook. It pulls your profile photo as well as the previous five to complete your photo gallery, which you can change and rearrange. Your first name, occupation and age are also derived from your Facebook account; however Tinder doesn’t post anything to Facebook. There is a GPS tracking system when you’re using the app so that potential mates can see your profile. In settings, you can set up if you are interested in males, females or both—up to 100 miles away. You can also add an age range. Next, you can set up a 34 FACE | APRIL 2016
mini bio about yourself, letting potential mates know a bit about you. Once all of that is done, you’re ready to swipe. As you play on Tinder, profiles will pop up. You swipe left if you aren’t interested and right if you are. You have an option of viewing more than the main photo and reading the full bio before making a decision. You will also be made aware if you two have any mutual friends on Facebook. You will never know if someone swiped left or right on your profile unless you both swipe right on each other. You will be notified that you were matched if this happens and you guys have the option to chat within the app.
MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR ONLINE PROFILE PHOTOS
TEST RUN
Post photos that show you in your best natural state. They should look good, but not misleading.
I decided to create a Tinder profile for research. I included four photos of myself with a very short bio that read: Not here for hookups, only interesting conversations. I set up a 50 mile radius interested in both men and women between the ages of 21-39.
It’s best to not have other people in your photos. If you’re with another female, you leave the swiper guessing which one you are and if you’re with a male, he will assume it’s a boyfriend or an ex. Limit selfies. Photos taken by others or photos of you doing what you love get better feedback.
I began to swipe away, which is actually a pretty fun way to pass time if you’re waiting in line at the DMV. There were a ton of guys to choose from in every race, ethnic background, shape and style.
There is a GPS tracking system
BIO
when you’re using the app so
Keep your bio positive and avoid things like “Swipe Left if you’re an arrogant gym junkie.”
that potential mates can see
State your intentions for Tinder clearly to save yourself the time of having to explain it repeatedly. Let your personality shine by putting your favorite quote or a funny quip about yourself.
your profile. Ninety-five percent of the guys I swiped right were a match with me, which was a huge confidence boost! Women were a different story. A woman’s profile came across my screen once to every 30 guys and mostly didn’t match with me.
Within a week’s time, I had well over a hundred matches but, only 8 men and one woman attempted to make conversation with me. Most conversations fell flat and didn’t continue to the following day. There were a couple of guys, who obviously didn’t read my bio, because they flat out asked to hookup. But, they were respectful and moved on after I declined. Two guys asked for my number after talking on Tinder for a few days. One guy really caught my interest with his wit and intelligence, which led to great conversations over the course of a few days. He has yet to ask me out. Another guy caught my attention with his model good looks. He’s asked me out a couple of times but our schedules have yet to align. In conclusion, Tinder opens up a world of dating which gives people options of meeting a variety of people that would have probably never crossed paths otherwise. I know people who love it and some have found love by means of it. I deleted my account as soon as my research was over. Although grateful for the Tinder experience, it just isn’t me—I’ll take my chances meeting people the old fashioned way for now.
STATS from www.expandedramblings.com • There are an estimated 50 million Tinder users • 79% are millennials • 45% of users are between the ages of 25-34 • Men swipe right 46% of the time •` Women swipe right 14% of the time • Peak time to get a match is between 6-10pm.
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Tamika Savoy Strength, Hope and Love in Catahoula By Nicole LaCour Photography by Penny Moore of Moore Photography QFACE MAGAZINE. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
Tamika and Randal Savoy survived a plane crash just outside of Las Vegas in 2010. It was a horrible event, bookmarking their lives with pain, suffering, loss and uncertainty.
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amika Savoy sat in a big recliner in her Catahoula home, looking down at her naked feet, pushing her pink toes as far up as they would go. “They’re just not the same,” she said. Mr. Bean’s Holiday set the mood on the big screen television as Pierson ran around alternatively packing a book bag for an imagined trip to school and exclaiming, “This is my favorite part,” in 3-year-old speak.
hope that those words mean to her, as they pepper the story of her life.
Tamika broke up with Randal once. They had been together since the fifth grade but it was time to go to the big school, St Martinville Senior High. Tamika’s mom, Tracy, was concerned about how serious her daughter was with this childhood sweetheart so she encouraged Tamika to spread her wings a bit. She went off to high school thinking she wouldn’t see Randal in the crowd of teenagers. But Tamika and Randal Savoy survived a plane then, there he was right behind her in crash just outside of Las Vegas in 2010. homeroom. By the end of the semester It was a horrible event, bookmarking they were a couple again. their lives with pain, suffering, loss and uncertainty. Tamika recounts the details of They were married in 2005 and planned the tragic day and all that followed with for a big family. During her first pregnancy, an unexpected ease that comes from a a life-long, chronic heart defect caused strength forged from survival. Her story her heart to beat dangerously fast. In is incredible. It would be easy to call her 2007 she had the last of three surgeries brave and Tamika’s strength shines around on her heart, hoping to eliminate the her like a powerful aura. But as she trigger of the fast heartbeat. Two weeks tells her story, she reveals another story after the procedure, she was pregnant that has carried her through 23 years. with her second child. This time the A love story. pregnancy almost killed her, causing more She doesn’t serious heart problems. Her cardiologist even call him advised, “No more kids.” An only child, Randal. It’s Tamika was devastated. Randal put things “my husband” in perspective. “I’d rather have you and this and “my husband” that—two words the family we have now than have more spoken with understated ease, taking for children and you gone.” So Tamika had a granted that the listener understands all tubal ligation.
family
After the crash, it was Tamika’s turn to imagine a world without “her husband.” Randal’s prognosis was at times bleak. Their rooms at either end of a hallway in the burn unit, Tamika made often difficult walks to see him every day. When she was ordered to remain in bed after a second attempt to perform a skin graft on the third degree burns that covered the bottom half of her legs, she was dismayed that she would be away from him that long. He had taken a turn for the worse and the doctor’s weren’t sure if he would make it. Tamika likes to think it was her absence that caused what happened next. By the third day, Randal sat up in bed and, with some help, walked down to her room. “When I saw him entering the doorway I was more enthusiastic than a kid at Christmas. I have never felt that much excitement before or since.” Randal sat at her side and they held hands in a moment of relief during a month of unbearable pain and uncertainty.
healing
Tamika and Randal were very close to Susan and Doug Touchet. Susan and Tamika worked together at Dauterive Hospital. Their families often had dinner together on Friday nights or played a little bourée. Susan and Tamika were on the same diet plan and supported each faceacadiana.com | FACE 39
Despite her strong spirit, she was often in the emergency room, with complications from her heart condition and asthma. Those experiences informed her decision to be a nurse.
other, sharing recipes. A professional CPA, Doug learned to fly so he could travel to clients all over the U.S. with ease. He often flew family and friends and had just returned from a flight to Key West with one of Susan and Tamika’s co-workers. “When’s our turn?” Tamika teased Susan. “Where are we going?” Susan said she wanted to go to Las Vegas. So, Labor Day weekend the two couples flew to Vegas. With Tamika in charge, it was an adventurous weekend. “One night we went to the Top of World restaurant, shopping for little black cocktail dresses before. We rented a convertible and road around with the top down. We rented ATV’s and rode in the desert and Red Rock Canyon and kayaked at the base of the Hoover Dam.”
friendship
On Monday, it was time to go home. As the single engine (Piper Cherokee) that Doug was piloting was losing altitude after less than 5 minutes in the air, Randal and Tamika grabbed each other’s hands just as the plane hit the pavement of a neighborhood street. Unable to bank and turn away, Doug had skillfully controlled the crash, making contact on a street instead of one of the houses. Though both were taken to hospitals, neither Doug nor Susan survived. Tamika and Randal will never forget the efforts Doug took to lessen the impact of the crash and avoid any homes. It is clear that he saved lives that day.
survival
“With every fiber of my being I believe that Randal and I are alive today because of what Doug did,” Tamika said. “He truly is my hero and will always be.”
“You can’t thank somebody enough for that. There’s no words,” Randal said, echoing his wife’s sentiments. People talk about fate and destiny when these things happen. It seems a little cruel to assign a set of circumstances that were fortunate for some and not for others to fate. But on that day, there was a small set of seemingly meaningless circumstances that led to Tamika and Randal sitting next to each other in the back of the plane. Randal sat up front with Doug on the flights to Vegas, but all the controls made him nervous and he wanted to be next to Tamika when they flew home. He was going to sit in the middle seat, facing Tamika but Doug asked him to sit all the way in the back so he could gain altitude faster. When Randal had trouble buckling his seat belt, he brushed it off, but Doug insisted he try again until it was fastened. If just one of those circumstances had been different, their story might have had a very different ending. Some of her family confessed that they had not been enthusiastic about the pairing of Randal and Tamika. For one, they had been together since they were children. In fact, for one of their school proms, Tamika’s mom and their neighbor Jamie Barras insisted that she attend with Jamie’s son instead of Randal. “We just wanted to see her in some pictures without Randal.” Jamie said with a laugh. “We love Randal,” Jamie said, “He’s a good guy. And he can talk, talk, talk.” Randal’s outgoing personality gets him into debates with family, friends and strangers. When he returned to Catahoula after a month on life support, his response to the outpouring of love
and support for him was, “I didn’t know that many people loved me.” {Feel free to read that with the Cajun accent you know you have stored away in your mind.}
love
To Tamika, he’s home. Her best friend, her partner for life. Many marriages would crack and strain under the stress of what they have been through, but you can feel the connection Tamika has with Randal as every sentence she utters contains, “my husband,” over and over, the ever-present ballast of her life. It may be cliché to reveal that having survived this accident gave Tamika and Randal a new appreciation for life, but in their case, they manifested that new outlook in a very dramatic way. Tamika worked hard to lose weight as advised by her cardiologist and in 2011 she traveled to Kentucky to have the tubal ligation reversed. A month later she was pregnant with Pierson. “I love all my children equally,” Tamika said, “But he is special. I appreciated him more.” Pierson laughed out loud at the antics of Rowan Atkinson as he fumbled with spilled coffee through the streets of Italy. “This is my favorite part!” he exclaimed again. “Admit it, they’re all your favorite parts,” I argued with the child. He runs around their cozy Catahoula home, with more boats than cars, a little human manifestation of the love and hope Tamika and Randal share.
nurse savoy
Tamika spent her childhood in hospitals. Her mother’s friend Jamie remembers visiting her in the hospital
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after open-heart surgery. “She came running down the hall to see us. She was 14 months old. She was a firecracker.” Despite her strong spirit, she was often in the emergency room, with complications from her heart condition and asthma. Those experiences informed her decision to be a nurse. Her experiences help her to empathize with patients, especially cardiac patients. “We can compare notes; I can show them what their scar will look like years down the road.”
a sing-songy Cajun accent here} “I’m so sorry. You were right. It was anxiety. Thank you.” That month in the hospital had been rough. She had her own injuries to deal with and the traumatic way her burns had to be treated. Her husband was fighting for his life, unconscious most of that month, leaving Tamika to make decisions for both of them—and she had just lost two of her dearest friends.
Now, when Tamika encounters a patient at their lowest, unsure if they have the strength to overcome whatever obstacles they are facing, she can push them with an honesty not equaled in her peers. “I don’t go to every patient and say ‘Look I was in a plane crash,’ but when I see a patient come to a place where they have given up and they feel like there’s no end in sight…I can tell them my story and say, ‘I wouldn’t have thought 5 or 6 years ago when I was in that hospital bed that I’d be working again and standing on these feet.”
She thought she knew herself so well, especially being a cardiac patient since childhood, that it didn’t occur to her that
trauma
Her nursing skills were invaluable when paramedics approached her on the lawn of the Vegas neighborhood and despite the excruciating third degree burns on her legs and feet, she immediately insisted, “No, I’m OK. Go to my husband. He’s not breathing.” But it made her a bad patient at times. When a nurse insisted that she take anxiety medication instead of heart medicine for the palpitations and shortness of breath she was feeling, Tamika angrily kicked him out of her room. When the anxiety medication kicked in, she called him, feeling very calm, light as a feather and said, {again it helps if you imagine
loss
Her husband was fighting for his life, unconscious most of that month, leaving Tamika to make decisions for both of them—and she had just lost two of her
in bed together, staring at the ceiling, wide awake. “For months and months I would remember every single second of the plane taking off. It was like I was watching a movie and it would play over and over.” When she was diagnosed with PTSD, the nurse in her thought, “Duh, I should’ve known that. I thought that was only for soldiers in wars.” With a lot of help, Tamika came through with characteristic strength and tenacity. “Now I can go a day or two without thinking about it. But I’m constantly reminded by my little toes. They’re so sensitive.”
recovery
It’s not surprising that Tamika looks forward to the drives between patients as a home health nurse. With three kids whom she is absolutely dedicated to, an incredibly active life and the continuing recovery from that life-changing event, the country roads, oak trees and quiet car are an oasis of calm.
dearest friends. her symptoms could be anything else. She had a similar problem when she got home. “Tamika is never a poor-me-look-atwhat-I-had-to-go-through person,” Jamie observed. She is naturally active and vivacious. So, she went back to work as soon as she could and tried to seamlessly return to her normal life. But she wasn’t sleeping. She hadn’t slept much in the hospital. When they returned, they stayed with Tamika’s parents so they had help moving around and taking care of the kids. She and Randal would often lie
Tamika with 2 of her 3 children — Devaney (left) and Pierson (right). Rylin not pictured. faceacadiana.com | FACE 43
TOO TOUGH
Am I When I Discipline My Kids? By Elana Joseph, MD
I’ve noticed that the more sternly I speak to my kids— for example, after they’ve run into the street without looking—the more distraught they get. How can I make sure they understand the seriousness of certain situations without making them feel worse?
– Zoe
s the saying goes, “Desperate times call for desperate measures.” When your child’s safety is at risk—whether they have run into the street, reached for an open flame, or gotten dangerously close to a pool—yelling, screaming, or crying out is a perfectly normal (and necessary!) response. After all, at that moment, you would do anything possible to get your child’s attention and get them out of harm’s way.
On the other hand, there are times when being too stern—like yelling regularly for minor offenses—can backfire. Kids can become immune to parents’ overblown reactions and fail to take them seriously. If you feel yourself getting into this habit, take a deep breath before responding to your child’s behavior and ask yourself, “Am I about to overreact?” If so, walk away for a few minutes and come back when you’ve calmed down.
After an episode like this, it’s natural for kids to cry—and for you to want to apologize. But the truth is, your kids are likely crying in response to the fear and urgency in your voice, not because you’ve been “too stern.” At times like these, it’s OK to comfort them without apologizing. Give your child a hug and say something like, “I know you’re upset. But what you did was dangerous and I was scared that you were going to get hurt. You must never do that again.” Punishing kids after an event like this is usually not necessary, since they’ve probably learned their lesson.
In general, when it comes to disciplining kids, it’s best to speak with a low, firm voice and to keep your focus on the behavior, not the child. It’s also helpful to use natural consequences whenever possible. That means if your child has thrown a toy, ask them to pick it up. If they’ve taken something from their sibling, ask them to return it. If they choose not to comply, an age-appropriate timeout or other consequence should follow, despite tearful pleas. Consistency is the key to effective discipline, and giving in to a child’s tears may inadvertently reinforce negative behavior.
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LOUISIANA ISN’T CALLED THE FESTIVAL CAPITAL OF THE WORLD FOR NOTHING! Cajuns are famous for celebrating every crop and wild game under the sun, providing tourists and residents hundreds of festivals each year to choose from. Festivals are typically family friendly but can quickly turn for the worst without a few handy items. Being prepared will ensure a great time for the whole family.
FESTIVAL SURVIVAL KIT
Visit www.louisianatravel.com for a list of festivals and events.
pack a Festival Survival Kit and pass a good time! OVERSIZED BAG to carry
LARGE PICNIC BLANKET is easier to
CASH for purchasing food and
everything you need.
throw in a bag and carry around than folding chairs and can be used by the whole family for sitting or napping.
I.D. BRACELETS for your children
WET WIPES come in handy for messy outdoor play as well as cleaning faces and hands before and after meals.
IBUPROFEN for unexpected
SUNGLASSES AND HATS for sunny days.
headaches that threaten to ruin a good time.
DISPOSABLE PONCHOS AND RAIN BOOTS for rainy days.
WATER BOWL
BAND-AIDS for minor scrapes and
for pets.
blisters from walking.
SUNSCREEN, even on overcast days, reapplied as directed will help prevent sunburns.
Modify the survival kit as needed; check the festival’s website to be sure your intended items are permissible. Plan according to your kids’ ages, realistically allotting the right amount of time you intend to spend at the festival. With the right preparations, your entire family can enjoy some stress-free fun!
retail items. with your cell phone number; making sure your children know what to do in case you get separated.
PORTABLE CELL PHONE CHARGER to ensure battery life for taking pictures of the many memories you’ll be making!
FAMILY MATTERS
WHAT CHILDREN WITH AUTISM WISH YOU KNEW AUTISM SPECTRUM DISORDER (ASD), more commonly referred to as “Autism” is not a single disorder, but a spectrum of closely related disorders with a shared core of symptoms. Every individual on the autism spectrum has problems to some degree with social skills, empathy, communication, and flexible behavior; but the level of disability and the combination of symptoms vary tremendously from person to person. In fact, two kids with the same diagnosis may be very different when it comes to their behaviors and abilities. If you’re a parent dealing with a child on the autism spectrum, you may hear many different terms including high-functioning autism, atypical autism, autism spectrum disorder, and pervasive developmental disorder. These terms can be confusing, not only because there are so many, but because doctors, therapists, and other parents may use them in dissimilar ways. No matter what doctors, teachers, and other specialists call the autism spectrum disorder, it’s your child’s unique needs that are truly important. The following is a summarization from Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew by Ellen Notbohm, author and parent of child with ASD. #1—I AM, FIRST AND FOREMOST, A CHILD. Autism is only one small part
of the child. It does not entirely define the child. It does not place clear or definitive limits on their potential at the time a diagnosis is made. It is of the utmost importance that we have similar expectations of children with autism as we do for children 46 FACE | APRIL 2016
who follow a typical developmental trajectory while providing appropriate support as they work to reach that expectation. Otherwise, we may set the bar too low and the children abide by the limits we have placed on them. #2—MY SENSORY PERCEPTIONS ARE DISORDERED. Sensory sensitivities
may affect an autistic child’s sense of taste, touch, sound, smell, and sight. Some children find certain sensory information aversive so they try to avoid it. Removing shoes, covering ears, or turning off lights are some ways children may attempt to lessen the harshness of sensory information. Other children seek out sensory input; similar to if we were half-asleep and trying to remain alert. We often stand up, walk around, or try some other means to arouse ourselves. For children with ASD, this may look like jumping, spinning, or running. Occupational therapists are extremely effective in helping children with ASD to regulate their sensory systems which in turn helps the children to find comfort in an otherwise chaotic sensation-filled world.
#3—DISTINGUISH BETWEEN WON’T AND CAN’T. Children with ASD
are very quick to realize our expectations of them. Like many children, they will take short-cuts when allowed. When a child with ASD, or any child, does not comply with what we have asked them to do, we should ask ourselves, “Is this a performance deficit (won’t) or a skill-deficit (can’t)?” If it is a performance deficit and the child has the ability to complete the task we have presented, then we must offer the proper motivation to encourage compliance. If we determine it is a skill deficit, then we must provide the necessary teaching and guidance to help the child to complete the task. By addressing these two questions, we reduce the frustration of both parties. #4—I AM A CONCRETE THINKER. I
interpret language literally. We must be constantly aware of the language we use when speaking to children with ASD. Clichés, inferences, and indirect instructions are often lost on those with language impairments. It is best that we use succinct phrases when speaking. It takes effort and practice to adopt this strategy but it comes with great reward. #5—BE PATIENT WITH MY LIMITED VOCABULARY. Some children with ASD
have learned that it is socially acceptable to respond when spoken to. They have learned the art of turn-taking. However, when the verbal exchange becomes too complex, their response will likely reflect their limited vocabulary. We may observe repetition of the last words we said or a “scripted response” which may be appropriate in context but is taken from a television show, movie, or song. Some children speak a great deal but the content is shallow. They are unable to build upon our statements or elaborate on their own statements. The attempts to compensate for limited vocabulary may leave us feeling
Show your child what to do rather than giving a lengthy explanation.
confused, thus requiring patience on our part as we remember that this is a skill deficit that will require ongoing support.
be too troublesome and not worth the effort. Regardless of where your child with ASD is in their social development, it is highly likely that direct instruction, ample encouragement, and patience will be needed to help them navigate social interactions with others, especially those outside of the family. #9—IDENTIFY WHAT TRIGGERS MY MELTDOWNS. All behavior is
communication and we must work to decode the message. It is highly likely #6—BECAUSE LANGUAGE IS SO that meltdowns occur for one DIFFICULT FOR ME, I am very visually or more of the following oriented. For those with limited language abilities, visual presentation of information reasons: sensory sensitivity, the child may be more effective. Show your child is trying to avoid what to do rather than giving a lengthy doing something explanation. Visual schedules, which they don’t include pictures of the activities that wish to do, will occur and in what order, are very is seeking helpful with assisting children with ASD attention, is organize their behaviors, time, not feeling physically and understand expectations. well, or is imitating #7—FOCUS AND BUILD ON WHAT I CAN the poor behaviors All behavior is DO RATHER THAN ON WHAT I CAN’T DO. communication. of another person. Nurture your child’s gifts. These gifts may Once the purpose of the behavior is not come in the same form as a typically identified, we can work to teach the developing peer, but gifts do exist. Look child a more appropriate way to have closely. Be creative in the way you help their needs met. your child uncover their gifts. Celebrate all #10—LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY. accomplishments, no matter how small. This is true for any child, not only Share your child’s accomplishments with those with developmental differences. your own friends. Your excitement will Most of us did not meet every be contagious. expectation our parents set for us, yet #8—HELP ME WITH SOCIAL INTERACTIONS. they loved us nonetheless. Social development is a long and slow Knowledge and understanding is the process. We are constantly receiving first step in supporting those with feedback from others and revising our behavior. However, children with ASD may ASD and their families. Each child is a unique individual with much to be aware of the feedback they receive from others but are unable to generate an contribute. It is the obligation of the community to help all children reach alternate, more appropriate response. For their full potential while providing other children with ASD, the social world unconditional love and support. may be so unpredictable and confusing that social interactions are believed to faceacadiana.com | FACE 47
LIVING
CAREER
WITHOUT
REGRET Zig Ziglar said, “Making
a big life change is pretty scary. But, know what’s even scarier? Regret.” HAVE YOU EVER MADE AN INTENTIONAL COMMITMENT, only to realize that months or even years have passed and you realize that you did not (or forgot to) honor that commitment? How did you feel? How about if you had every intention of visiting someone in the hospital, only to come across that person’s obituary? It’s a sinking feeling, but one that we all experience at some point in our lives.
PUT DOWN THE CELL PHONE during a personal meeting. Personal meetings require the same or more concentration as driving your car. It’s ILLEGAL to text while driving. When we respect others by turning off the cell phone, we will become better people.
START A
REALITY: We all have great intentions. Our hearts are in the right place at any given time—then life happens and we ultimately get distracted. How can we intentionally live without regret?
“6 MOST IMPORTANT THINGS TO DO” LIST
If a significant period of time has passed since you made a commitment, are you too embarrassed to make follow-up contact? If so, consider these steps to living without regret: BE INTENTIONAL IN YOUR DAILY ACTIVITIES. If you live life like an ostrich with your head in the sand, you will inevitably regret something. Be aware. Do your best to honor your small daily commitments. GET ORGANIZED. Write things down in a way that speaks “organization” to you. I always encourage the “6 Most Important Things To Do” list! BE OTHERS-FOCUSED. Concentrate a portion of each day to filling the needs of others. I don’t mean being a martyr; become more selfless and a better listener. When we listen to others, we become better and happier people. 48 FACE | APRIL 2016
TAKE DEEP BREATHS as often as you can. My husband taught me this technique. Deep breathing is healthy and calms us down. KEEP YOUR COMMITMENT LIST MANAGEABLE, and you will find success in fulfilling each item!
PS: I just saw my next door neighbor fixing her mailbox. Although a bit embarrassed that we have never actually met (we have been neighbors for five years), I decided to take my own advice and live without regret. Amazingly, I walked next door and we had a lovely conversation. I apologized for not being the best neighbor, and she said the same thing. We now know each other by name, and our doors have been opened to better communication.
About the author: Laurie J. James is one of 18 Master Career Directors globally. She co-founded and presided over the Professional Résumé Writing & Research Association from 2000-2004. PRWRA rebranded to Career Directors in 2005. Laurie has created 10,000+ job-winning résumés in her 30-year career. She is a credentialed résumé and LinkedIn profile writer, seasoned public speaker and award-winning career image coach.
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Feeling Trapped in the Maze – Part 2 By Don Short, LPC, LMFT
THE EMDR THERAPY SOLUTION CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, or EMDR, is a powerful psychotherapy technique, which is very successful in helping people who suffer from trauma, anxiety, fear, disturbing memories, anger and many other emotional problems. In the past these conditions were difficult and time-consuming to treat. EMDR Therapy can bring quick and lasting relief for most types of emotional distress. In our day-to-day life we may experience anxiety, fear and anger. We must remember that all of these are very normal emotions. These emotions are very problematic when we get stuck in the maze of the emotion or when we feel these emotions at a greater intensity than what the situation we are experiencing requires. For example, if you are experiencing a level 10+ on a Level of Disturbance Scale of 0 to 10, where 10 represents the highest level of disturbance and 0 represents no disturbance, but as you review your experience you feel that your level of disturbance really should be a 3 or a 4. This spike of disturbance represents an unresolved issue in your life that has not been adequately dealt with. With EMDR Therapy, I assist my clients in identifying and resolving these past issues. Here in part 2 we are going to review various scenarios where I have found EMDR Therapy to be really useful for my clients. FIRST let’s talk about the MAZE OF ANXIETY AND FEAR. Anxiety is a normal emotion that we all have to deal with and learn to manage one way or another. For many of us it creates barriers in our lives that hinder us in both our personal 50 FACE | APRIL 2016
and professional lives. I have used EMDR Therapy to help many individuals break through these barriers and to get out of this maze. Examples of this include: 1) Feeling more comfortable and confident in public places. 2) Increased enjoyment in flying and traveling. 3) Having more confidence in and around water, such as swimming and snorkeling in the Gulf of Mexico. 4) Feeling more confidence in dealing with issues at work and talking to their supervisor. SECOND, let’s talk about the MAZE OF ANGER. Anger is also a very normal emotion that we all experience from time to time. I have used EMDR Therapy to assist several of my clients in the understanding and processing of their anger in healthy ways. We worked together to assess the nature of the anger and determine the root of it and came up with healthy ways of dealing with similar situations in the future. Some issues that I have helped my clients with include: 1) Dealings with their ex-spouse without feeling overwhelmed and triggered to a point where one feels that they are losing control. 2) Dealing with unresolved anger towards a parent or sibling. 3) Dealing with unresolved anger as a result of being bullied physically or sexually abused.
THIRD, let’s talk about the MAZE OF SHAME. Many of us have grown up into adulthood with lingering feelings of shame. These feelings have their roots in early childhood experiences and they still have this nasty way of affecting our lives and relationships today. These feelings can include: 1) “I’m not good enough.” 2) “There is something wrong with me.” 3) ‘I’m a loser.” 4) “I’m fat and ugly.” All of this negative scripting has its origins in early childhood experiences. These words often originate from our parents, our siblings and/or our peers. Too often as a child when we hear these words, we believe them and allow them to echo through our hearts and mind for years to come. Being stuck in this maze negatively affects our lives in many ways until we find someone to help us change these self-destructive scripts into new and healthy ones. This is what we do in EMDR Therapy. We can go back into those childhood experiences and correct these negative, hurtful and destructive scripts. Once this is completed, the healing and transformation of the individual can begin. FOURTH, let’s talk about the MAZE OF GRIEF. Grief is an emotion that many of us have experienced. I have lost both of my parents and in August of 2000, my wife and I lost our 20-year-old son in a tragic car accident. EMDR Therapy was very useful in helping us navigate through this loss. In my practice I have helped several of my clients address the issue of the loss of a spouse, a parent, a child, a friend, a sibling and even a pet. The EMDR technique can be really effective when used in conjunction with other traditional methods of therapy in treating these emotional disorders. As a therapist, I work gently with my clients and ask them to revisit the traumatic moment or incident, recalling feelings surrounding the experience, as well as any negative thoughts, feelings and memories. EMDR is a natural process. The client and I become partners on this journey. Together we work to transcend and free up the energy, so the client can return to their natural grounded state of being. The goal of this work is to help the client heal, so they can return to their life with greater peace. Clients who have gone on this journey find greater harmony in their lives and greater intimacy in their relationships. They feel more confident and have greater skill in resolving conflicts and communicating their needs. HOW DO I KNOW IF EMDR THERAPY IS RIGHT FOR ME? There are a number of factors to consider when evaluating the appropriateness of EMDR Therapy for a client’s particular situation and history. During the initial consultation, all of the relevant factors will be discussed to help the client come to a decision to move forward with EMDR Therapy. For many, this one hour consultation is the beginning of healing which opens doors to greater peace and harmony in their relationships and in all other areas of their life.
About the author: Mr. Short is the owner of After Hours Counseling located in Lafayette, LA. His practice focuses on clients with marriage, relationship and family issues. He is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. Contact After Hours Counseling 337-781-4565 or www.afterhourscounseling.com.
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When He Asks For
S P A C E By Taiya Lin
W
hether you are casually dating, in a committed relationship or married; when a guy asks for space, it can feel alarming and devastating. Many questions, both rational and irrational may run through your head.
DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG? DOES HE WANT TO BREAK UP? IS HE CHEATING? IS OUR RELATIONSHIP FALLING APART?
You may feel like yelling or crying, demanding he tell you what’s wrong or giving an ultimatum. But, before jumping to conclusions and blowing things out of proportion, take a deep breath to compose yourself. Remind yourself that you love or may love this man. Authentic true love allows your significant other to be exactly who they are, to do exactly what they need for themselves without any demand on your part to satisfy you or your ideals. 52 FACE | APRIL 2016
If your guy comes to you to ask for space, that means he needs it. Men typically are straightforward and forego head games. Some also have a hard time articulating anything that has to do with feelings. As much as this may be hurting you, this is probably hard for him as well. Instead of bottling or running from his feelings, he chose to express what he needs instead. That counts for something. There are a number of reasons he may need space that may not have anything to do with you. Some may include: • Pressure at work is high and he needs to focus 100% in addition to getting adequate rest. • A relationship may be new to him and he feels he is losing himself in it, thus needing more time with friends or hobbies. • Things may be moving faster than expected and he needs time to process everything.
• If he’s married (especially with children), he may just need some quiet time alone. • He may be dealing with some emotional baggage that needs unpacking. The list is endless and varies with each individual. Note that he may not want to share his reason because he may not even know—that’s part of what needs to be sorted out. Constantly worrying about the reason will only drive you crazy.
SO, WHAT’S A GAL TO DO? You can start by thanking him for his honesty and expressing how much you appreciate him coming to you. Ask him what space looks like. Clearly defined boundaries between you two will make this a success. Agree on a timeline or on a specific date to regroup, discuss things and decide where to go from there. Then, you must give him space. By giving him space, you will prove to be a
supporting, loving partner. Many women will argue that he is only asking for space to cheat or because he wants to break up. Maybe in some cases; but in most, cheaters and guys who want to leave you—will. They won’t ask permission.
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REFOCUS ON YOU While your significant other is focusing on taking care of his needs, you should do the same. Remove all doubt and worry and use this time to redirect your energy toward yourself. Relationships are wonderful but, they do require a lot of attention. Look at this as an opportunity for some much needed ME time. If there are any areas of your life you’ve been neglecting, now is the time to refocus on those areas. Here are a few suggestions: Catch up with girlfriends. Make plans with your best gal pal for shopping and mani-pedis. Grab a group of girls and head to dinner and a movie. Call a longdistance pal to catch up on each other’s lives. Hit the gym. If takeout and pizza has become the norm, hit the gym again. If you’re a regular already, try a new class or change up your routine. Getting those endorphins moving will lift your spirits and take your mind off of him. Spend quality time with loved ones. If you’re missing your standing weekend date with your guy, invite someone in your family for a one on one date. Take your mom, dad, grandparent, kid, niece or nephew on a nice dinner date. It’ll be fun getting dressed up and you will make them feel special. Enjoy quiet time alone. Read that book you’ve been meaning to. Watch that “girly” movie. Write your thoughts and goals down in a journal. Spend time pampering yourself.
IT’S A WIN-WIN SITUATION Once your guy’s time to himself is over, you will have used your alone time wisely and he will respect you more knowing that you are a strong female who cares about his well being as well as your own. Your relationship should improve from the experience. In the event he decides he no longer wants to be in a relationship, you will walk away with dignity with the right tools to move on.
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The Thursday Night Reading Series (TNRS) is a creative writing reading series sponsored by the University of Louisiana at Lafayette’s English Department.
Thursday Night Reading Series at Artmosphere By Kisha Kana APRIL MARKS THE 20TH ANNIVERSARY OF NATIONAL POETRY MONTH. In honor of
that, FACE Magazine caught up with S.B. Ferguson, co-host of the Thursday Night Reading Series (TNRS) to find out what it’s all about. Here’s what we learned. The Thursday Night Reading Series (TNRS) is a creative writing reading series sponsored by the University of Louisiana at Lafayette's English Department. It features weekly readings of original works from graduate students and faculty. Readings include poetry, fiction, creative non-fiction, plays, and many things in between and outside of standard genre boundaries. Each year there are two co-hosts that schedule the reading, pick a venue, and make sure everything runs smoothly. This year’s co-hosts are S.B. Ferguson and Jessy Hylton. “The series is run by graduate students and is entirely unfunded, running off of love and a sense of purpose!” explains Ferguson. 54 FACE | APRIL 2016
With a goal of building a community dedicated to creative expression, TNRS not only showcases the talent UL has, it also strives to build a larger creative community in the Lafayette area. TNRS takes place most Thursdays during the academic year (school breaks and holidays omitted) from 7:15-9pm at Artmosphere Bistro on Johnston Street. Special alumni guests and undergraduate writers are sometimes given the opportunity to read. The series periodically will host open mic competitions equipped with prizes. A yearly publication is printed out of collected open mic competitions and tabletop stories derived from things written and drawn on the tables during the events; which is funded by making and selling broadsides of their featured writer’s work. “There's an exceptional amount of talent among the creative writing graduate students and faculty of UL's English Department. TNRS is a new, dynamic
experience each week. Everyone is welcome to attend the reading series. It's free and open to the public,” says Ferguson. In honor of National Poetry Month, April 7th will feature three poets. The last event of this series will end with poetry readings on April 28th.
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It’s a T O U C HY Subject By Kisha F Kana
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iscussing the birds and bees with your children is typically uncomfortable and awkward. However, parents are there to educate, nurture and protect their offspring and that includes having the uncomfortable conversation about how the body works. The sex talk should start much earlier than puberty because the harsh reality is that child molestation happens. Even more disturbing, the predator is typically someone you wouldn’t expect—most often a friend or family member. Informing children about sexual abuse at an early age may help them to identify more clearly what is and is not appropriate behavior. Speak to your child in a manner in which they can plainly understand. Explain that no one is allowed to touch their privates nor request they touch theirs. Encourage your little ones to trust their instincts and remove themselves from a situation that makes them uncomfortable. Many parents
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Always trust your gut feelings and help reduce the chances of sexual abuse by keeping the lines of communication open with your children, periodically discussing it with them throughout the years.
unknowingly send the wrong message to kids by forcing them to innocently hug and kiss family members. If your child refuses to show affection to people, respect their right to decide what’s comfortable for them and don’t worry about other’s potential hurt feelings. The freedom to say no and knowing they are in charge of their bodies gives a child the confidence they will need if faced with inappropriate behavior. Make it clear that if any sexual situations arise, they need to tell you immediately, regardless of any threats made by the perpetrator. Learning that a child you love has been sexually molested may feel like a nightmare from which you will never wake up. For many people, the first
impulse may be to find the molester and seek revenge, but your primary concern must be the welfare of the child. They will need an evaluation of their physical health immediately; evaluating and treating their emotional health may take years. You must make sure the child knows you believe them and are on their side, and let them know it’s your job to protect them.
SHOULD YOU LEARN OR SENSE THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED, THE FOLLOWING STEPS ARE SUGGESTED
It is estimated that there are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse in America today.
STEP 1 Talk with the child in private, and stress that it is essential they tell you exactly what happened. Remember that they depend on you to remain calm and listen, even if you want to jump up and hunt down the abuser right that minute. Tell them repeatedly that the molestation is the abuser’s fault, not their fault—they can never hear it too many times. Be patient with the fact that they might be too embarrassed to tell you certain things, and tell them how strong they are for what they were able to reveal. Your job is to not make their experience of telling any more difficult than it already is. Remember that this is the hardest thing they’ve ever done.
STEP 2 Go to the emergency room or pediatrician if the abuse just occurred. Your doctor can collect a rape kit that can be essential in convicting the child’s abuser. Gently insist to the child that they must not bathe or shower until they see the doctor.
STEP 3 Contact local law enforcement and Child Protective Services immediately. Once you’ve made sure your child is safe and healthy, your next priority should be to stop the abuser from molesting other children.
STEP 4 Let the child know that you respect their privacy and will not tell anyone what happened to them unless they want you to. If they would prefer you not inform their siblings, respect their wishes, unless you suspect that they too have been abused.
before the age of 18.
1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18.
Abuse typically occurs within a long-term, on-going relationship between the offender and victim, escalating over time, and lasts an average of four years.
Many child sexual abuse victims never disclose their abuse to anyone. Less than 12% of child sexual abuse is reported to the police.
Children are most vulnerable between ages 7-13.
STEP 5
93% of juvenile sexual assault
Get into therapy as soon as possible. Child Protective Services, your pediatrician or a clergy member can recommend a qualified therapist. Tell your child that going to therapy is just as important to their health as seeing their physician. Let them know that kids who have been abused do recover emotionally and go on to have healthy, happy, trusting relationships.
victims know their attacker, 34.2%
Always trust your gut feelings and help reduce the chances of sexual abuse by keeping the lines of communication open with your children, periodically discussing it with them throughout the years. This can not only assist in preventing occurrences but also gives your kids the chance to ask questions and become comfortable discussing things of this nature with you. Try to never overreact when they confide in you, no matter how shocking. They should feel safe coming to you with problems and questions.
1 in 3 girls are sexually abused
of attackers were family members and 58.7% were acquaintances and only 7% of the perpetrators were strangers to the victim.
* Statistics retrieved from www.parentsformeganslaw.org
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Day to day operations contribute to a sort of stress that is far more common in general back and neck pain. The body adapts to the pressure it is put under causing the framework of it to change. The weight of our body becomes unequally distributed, developing tight muscles on one side of the body and weakened ones on the opposite side.
MIND | BODY | SOUL
MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND/OR CHEMICAL STRESS Everyone deals with varied degrees of mental stress from family or work related issues. The severity of emotional stress can be brought on by the death of a loved one, losing a job, or sending a child off to college, for example. If you have experienced these stress related issues, you have likely felt the muscle tension and spasms associated with this type of stress.
CAN BACK PAIN BE CONTROLLED…AND SHOULD IT BE? Millions of people have back and neck pain. The vast majority of these complaints will resolve on their own, in time, without medical care or attention. The question is, should these conditions be ignored?
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M
ost pain related complaints derive from stress to your body. Stress is your body's way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. These threats or demands to the body typically occur in a few different ways. To simplify these threats, let’s separate them into categories: Physical, Emotional/Mental, and Chemical Stress.
PHYSICAL STRESS Physical stress could be caused by an injury related to exercise or a sports related event, a fall, or a car accident, among other things. It can also be related to how you sit at your desk or in a car for hours at a time. There is even physical stress related to how you sleep at night.
When our body is under emotional duress or fear, our body will take over and will enter into a state of what we call "fight or flight syndrome.” This syndrome will trigger an array of hormones released in the body. These hormones include adrenaline, norepinephrine, and cortisol release. The release of adrenaline is your body's preparation for fight. If someone approaches you in a threatening manner, you may start to breathe faster, your heart may start to pound, and your muscles will become tense. Your body is getting ready to defend itself! Norepinephrine will trigger a similar response to that of adrenaline. This hormone will increase heart contractions and direct blood flow to certain muscles of the body rather than equally distributing the blood flow throughout the body. Once this reaction has been triggered, it may take hours to days before the body may return to a normal resting state. This will ultimately affect our body's ability to rest and recover. The release of cortisol involves a complex reaction between the brain and your adrenal glands. Faced with a “life or death” situation,
cortisol increases the flow of glucose (as well as protein and fat) from your tissues and into the bloodstream to increase energy and physical readiness to handle the stressful situation or threat. In small dosages this hormone can save a life, but with long term release of cortisol we may see factors such as elevated blood sugar, high blood pressure, and obesity. You are probably beginning to realize that each and every one of us in under stress on a day to day basis whether this stress is physical in nature or emotional/ chemical in nature. This causes our body to age and has lifelong effects on how we handle day to day life. As a doctor of Chiropractic Medicine, my vision is a society where health is a realization of optimal function throughout the body. Our goal is to advocate and help as many people as possible through natural care and to enhance their body to
its optimal level so that they enjoy a higher quality of life for many years to come, focusing on wellness rather than symptom based care only.
Your body is your temple and your spine is the framework and the foundation of the entire body. This vision can be obtained partially through education. Health is something that should be worked on and not just be accepted as good or bad. Your body is your temple and your spine is the framework and the foundation of the entire body. More importantly, your spine holds the central nervous system—the lifeline of your body. If we destroy this system it is inevitable that illness and even death will occur. You can protect your lifeline by first understanding that your body is something
that should be protected all the time and not just when it is malfunctioning. This is the only body that you will ever have. Daily exercise, proper nutrition, meditation, and prayer are all ways of dealing with stress. Constant attention to our posture and framework is vitally important to reduce the type of daily stress that we have been discussing. Proactive healthcare, such as Chiropractic, is available!
About the author: Dr. Brad A. Grizzaffi, D.C. has practiced Chiropractic Care for over 25 years and is the owner of Pinhook Chiropractic Clinic in Lafayette, LA. 337-237-2273 — www. pinhookchiropractic.com.
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BEAUTY | STYLE
Prom One of the most exciting parts of the year for many teenage girls is sneaking its way around the corner. It’s prom time! The planning has begun for most—what dress to wear, what accessories are needed and what makeup look suits you best. It’s all about
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COLOR GUIDE
UNDERTONES
DETERMINING YOUR SKIN’S UNDERTONE is the easiest way to know which colors best suit your skin tone to enhance your natural beauty. To do this, pull up your sleeve and look at the veins on your wrist. If you see blue veins, you most likely have a cool-toned undertone and will look better in cool-toned colors. If you look down and see green veins, it is because you are warmtoned and will look better in warm-toned colors If you see both blue and green, that means you are one of the lucky neutral ones that can pull off any color. Now,…take what you know and apply it!
THE DRESS Now that you know what undertone your skin has, it will be a lot easier to decide what color dress you want. Cool-toned Ladies: Blues, greens and purples are your best option. Warm-toned Ladies: Reds, oranges, and yellows will be your best option. Neutral Ladies: Both warm-toned and cool-toned colors will flatter your skin tone.
ACCESSORIES If you are the type of person who likes to wear accessories, it’s an awesome idea to know what undertone your skin carries. Your skin tone can make certain colors look amazing. Cool-toned Ladies: If you are cool-toned, silver accessories will flatter you the most.
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Warm-toned Ladies: If you are warm-toned, gold accessories will flatter you. Neutral Ladies: Gold and silver are your two best friends!
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MAKEUP COLORS After you have everything decided, from your dress down to your accessories, the makeup is your last decision. If you are doing your makeup yourself, it’s always hard to pick what look you want to achieve or what colors you will use. Just like when it comes to dress findings and accessory picking, the eye shadow you choose to wear should be chosen based on your undertone. Cool-toned Ladies: I would go for a look with shades of grey such as charcoal, pewter, or even go for a black smokey eye. Of course you can use any other cool-toned color as well such as blue or purple. Warm-toned Ladies: Shades of brown, red, and orange will best suit your look. Neutral Ladies: Any color you desire, but make sure it matches your dress. About the author: Madelyn Meaux lives
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Prom Hair
EASY STYLES You Can Do Yourself
By Kisha Kana
Simple Up-do Back comb your roots wherever you need height before smoothing a side swept ponytail in between the crown and nape of your neck. Grab small sections of hair and roll towards your scalp into a barrel curl, securing with a bob pin. Do this throughout the entire ponytail. Fan out the curls making sure there are no holes. Use a finishing spray to lock in the style.
For Long Hair Start with either a slight side part or a center part. Twist one side starting at the temple. Hold in place with a bob pin while you work on the other side. Cross the two sections of hair behind the head and secure with criss crossed bob pins. Place a decorative barrette right above the pins. Using a 1.5 inch barrel curling iron, curl your hair, two inch sections at a time. Hairspray the look in place. For a more piece-y look, separate the curls after spraying and hairspray again.
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For Short Hair Curl hair in two inch sections using a curling wand. Run fingers through your hair for a messy look. Backcomb the crown for height and secure with bob pins. Pull up each side, crossing over the center, pinning each in place. Bangs can be pulled back or side swept. Finish off with a finishing spray.
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A person who finds intelligence the most attractive feature in others.
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