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RETURNING TO HER ROOTS & HELPING HER COMMUNITY
HEALING HOUSE Martini Glass Revealed UNRESOLVED ANGER
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CONTENTS 08 ACADIANA LIFE Through The Eyes of an Artist Discover Lafayette Community Profile The Healing Power of NO 16 THEN & NOW 18 MIND | BODY | SOUL Unresolved Anger 20 BEAUTY Habits to Change After 30 22 LIFE & LEISURE BeYOUtiful – Being Authentic 34 FAMILY MATTERS End Toxic Relationships Empty House Syndrome Kids – Diagnosing Mental Illness 40 HOME Upgrade Your Outdoor Patio 42 ENTERTAINING Sipping With Savannah 44 COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT Amp’d Up 48 EVENTS & ENTERTAINMENT
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THROUGH THE EYES OF AN
GLASS PHOTO BY JONATHAN CAZAYOUX
“ GIVING BACK? IT’S PROBABLY THE MOST REWARDING THING A PERSON CAN DO,” says
event. “When I found out it was a martini glass I thought, ‘well, that’s an odd canvas to paint on’,” she laughs. But, odd canvas or
Leslie Tammariello. “I’ve told my girls, ‘Don’t be afraid
not, Tammariello was not the least bit dissuaded from accepting the
to get involved, and to say yes. It pays off, it really does.
challenge; in fact, it was because of personal relationships that she
I just want to show my own kids how great it is to help
was even more fired up.
others, and being an example is the best way.” One of the ways this talented Lafayette resident has
“I said, ‘I’d love to do it’, and in many ways it’s because of some wonderful friends who benefitted from Healing House,” she
chosen for 2018 is by working her magic as the designer
explains. “They still talk about it, and it’s clear Healing House still
of the latest glass for Healing House’s annual Martinis
holds a special place in their hearts.”
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A self-proclaimed nature-lover, Tammariello does a lot of landscape art and often goes outside to find peace and inspiration. So in the case of her Martinis glass, “I happened to be looking at a tree that was full of beautiful Japanese magnolia blossoms, and that’s when it struck me I needed to incorporate that into my painting.” Suddenly, nature sent her yet another sign. “As I’m painting the tree, a bird appeared, one that I thought would be nice to represent peace, and as I put all of that into the painting, I did so with the hope that all of the kids who come to Healing House can feel some sort of peace during their individual journeys.” The colors of coral, pink and blue, with a bit of white to reflect ‘hope’, are there “…to make you feel good,” she adds. “Good, cheerful colors.” It all comes back to giving back, and to honoring a winning non-profit that so amazingly served some of her friends. “Healing House really helped them during a difficult time, and answered their prayers. Healing House is just a great organization that’s really needed, and I’m honored to help
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them this year.”
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LESLIE TAMMARIELLO DESIGNED THE 2018 HEALING HOUSE MARTINI GLASS
A self-proclaimed nature-lover, Tammariello does a lot of landscape
So when you’ve agreed to paint a martini glass in a way that reflects Healing House and all that
art and often
its staff and volunteers have done for so many
goes outside to
children who have lost loves ones, where does an
find peace and
artist start? “I’m an interpretive spiritual artist,” says Tammariello, “and I want someone to feel
inspiration
something when they see my work. I have a strong faith, and that really plays a part in a lot of my paintings. It just comes from within.”
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DISCOVER
LAFAYETTE CAMILLE PAVY CLAIBOURNE
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amille Pavy Claibourne has a beautiful voice and uses it to tell the story of others. Delving into the issues surrounding care of our elders as well as death and final decision-making, Camille Claibourne brings more than forty years of nursing experience to the table as she shares lessons learned from the dying, their families, and their caretakers.
her to the work of Ira Byock, M. D., who coined the term “Dying Well” which refers to dying as a life phase of growth and development. Interviewing hospice patients led to the publication of her first book, Dying in God’s Hands by Acadian Publishing in October 2009, where she shared that a majority of her patients believed in life after death, that “life does not end with bodily death but goes on eternally.”
Claibourne’s second book, Purses and Shoes for Sale, the Joys and Challenges for Caring for Elderly Parents, was published in March 2016, and was inspired by the challenges of being a caregiver for her parents in their older years. The humorous title is directly attributable to words of wisdom from her mother, Anna Mae, as she opined that her obituary should just state that upon her death there would be “purses and Early in Camille’s career as a critical Her brave patients inspired her to pursue a doctoral shoes for sale.” When you stop care nurse, a young man’s tragic degree in thanatology, the subject of death and dying. and think about it, you should really death touched her heart as she stop and think about this observation: when we go, we go… witnessed his heart stop functioning. As she moved on to care without all the stuff we’ve accumulated! The book contains a for the next patient and the next, Camille gradually realized treasure trove of resources on topics such as the Patients’ Bill that she had a deep interest in learning more about the of Rights, how to prevent falls, how to clear out a house, and process of dying and the many ways to navigate the topic that useful website. Anyone faced with the responsibility of caring no one seems to want to talk about. She also shared in this for a loved one in declining health will benefit from having audio podcast interview of Discover Lafayette that she loves Camille’s experience as set forth in this inspirational and being with the elderly, is joyful in the process of loving and easy-to-read guide. caring for them and learns from them as they communicate without filters that restrict most of our conversations! Her brave patients inspired her to pursue a doctoral degree in thanatology, the subject of death and dying. Her research led
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Camille gives back to our community, serving as a board member of Hospice of Acadiana. A Master Craftsman affiliated with the Louisiana Crafts Guild, her hobby as an accomplished potter has evolved into a small business you should check out. She is also President & CEO of Cabill, Inc., an executive coaching company. She is certified in Emergenetics, a tool which allows people to learn about their personality type and how to work better with others. For more information, she may be reached by calling 337-856-769 or emailing cam256@cox.net. Hospice of Acadiana, established in 1983, is Louisiana’s oldest hospice and palliative care provider, and the only non-profit provider in Acadiana. As a non-profit provider, patients receive all of the care they need, regardless of the cost or their ability to pay. HOA also offers several programs and services to the community at-large free of charge, including: Grief Counseling, Loss and Transition Workshops, Camp Brave Hearts, Pet Peace of Mind, and the We Honor Veterans Program. For more information, call (337) 232-1234 or visit www.hospiceacadiana. com. You can also email info@hospiceacadiana.com. Please forward this interview to anyone going through challenging end-of-life experiences, whether it is their parents, their own, or a close friend or family member. Knowledge is power and Camille Pavy Claibourne has dedicated her life to helping us live and cherish our own lives and lives of those we love. Jan Swift is host of Discover Lafayette, an audio podcast focused on the people and rich culture of Lafayette, the Gateway to South Louisiana. www. discoverlafayette.net. An attorney experienced in government and commercial law, she is affiliated with Swift & Rhoades, LLP. Jan most recently served as Executive Director of Upper Lafayette Economic Development Foundation.
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KNEADING A CHANGE “I wake up at 2:30 a.m., in my car at 3:30, on my way to work and I’m singing to the radio. I’m excited, and love coming to work.”
LOUISE LAMBERT WAS SUCCESSFUL. She was happy, and very good as a 23-year media & digital sales executive for some of Acadiana’s most popular radio stations. “Sales is always in my blood, only now, I’m selling Meche’s Donuts.”
Wait a second. I did just say ‘…she was happy and a very good… media sales executive’, didn’t I? That I did; but Louise Lambert decided—as content as she was—that she was ready for a pretty big change. “I am the general manager of the Pinhook location of Rickey Meche’s Donuts in Lafayette.” Seems that one of her radio clients—the Lim Family which owned a pair of Meche’s locations—was looking to add a third store, “…And I said, ‘That sounds like so much fun’” recalls Lambert. “Willy (Lim) looked at me and asked, ‘OK, you sure?’, and I said, ‘Yes, that’s what I want to do.’” So in December of 2017, Louise Lambert left one job and began another, one decidedly different from the first. “I don’t know; something just clicked. I love to bake, and this was meant to be.” Lambert’s family was on board with the decision (“They just want me to be happy”) but some friends were a bit perplexed. “They’d look at me and say, ‘You’re giving up what? You’re doing what? You’re working weekends? Why are you doing this?’” she laughs. “They have no idea how much I’m loving this! No regrets at all!” What happens now, among other things, is a decidedly different schedule. “I wake up at 2:30 a.m., in my car at 3:30, on my way to work and I’m singing to the radio. I’m excited, and love coming to work.” Lambert admits, however, that her knowledge in the donut arena was a blank slate of sorts. “Oh, I didn’t know how to do any of this; it’s all a new world. They do it a certain way, and a lot of customers love the way it’s done here.” Eight months into it, Lambert is still learning the tools of her new trade; kolaches are her favorite to make, and she creates the fried boudin kolaches and roll-ups. “It’s a very big learning experience with the dough,” she says.
The Pinhook location of Rickey Meche’s Donuts in Lafayette
“It takes about 45-to-50 minutes to be ready, and it has to be perfect from start-to-finish.” She doesn’t actually fry the donuts yet, but she does understand that it is an art form. “You don’t want the donuts to be too little, you don’t want them to rise too much. There’s a science to all of this.” Lambert says her donut life is less stressful than her work in radio; the Pinhook location of Meche’s is still relatively new so there are fewer expectations as of yet. But that’s not to say there aren’t pressured-filled moments. “At the three locations owned by the Lim Family, we have hot, fresh glazed until 10 a.m.,” she explains, “so we have to have dough in the bowl, dough on the table, dough in the proofer and dough in the fryer.” And if there’s a large, unexpected order? “Well, if someone comes in and wants 12 dozen, you accommodate them; but at the same time we want to be ready for the folks who come in right after that, too.” As Louise said, sales will always be in her blood; only now, it’s sales with a thin, delicious glaze of sugar on top. “Some days I go out, bring samples to businesses, show up with donuts and kolaches,” she smiles. “I go, ‘Hi, I’m Louise with Meche’s, and I’m here with free food’, and they go, ‘Ahhh, Meche’s!’”
“Sales is always in my blood, only now, I’m selling Meche’s Donuts.”
“I don’t know; something just clicked. I love to bake, and this was meant to be.”
Owning her own Meche’s is on her wish list, but, in the meantime, Louise Lambert is happy simply rolling in the dough. “I think this is so much fun; everyone who comes into a donut store seems happy. They’re traveling, they’re splurging with their kids, it’s family time, and everyone’s usually in a good mood.” Ask her what the best part about her job is, and you get a very fitting answer: “Ummm?... Donut holes?”
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THE HEALING POWER OF
By Scott Brazda
F
ORGIVE ME FOR STATING THE OBVIOUS, but
We’re afraid to say what has to be said — NO—
the word “No”… has a negative connotation.
which means that many funders:
And that’s a shame because, if used properly, “No” might actually be the ultimate philanthropic teaching and learning tool. We live in a society where so many of us are afraid to say that magic word —No — and so, we become like
• Don’t return phone calls. • Don’t send letters or emails. • Respond with incredibly ambiguous form letters. • Avoid these nonprofit leaders at public gatherings.
that guy or girl you’re interested in who won’t return your calls (see: Girls Who Wouldn’t Return My Calls
This in turn has the nonprofit’s executive director
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thinking:
In the case of philanthropy, it’s often those of us on the
• They hate me. They hate us. We don’t deserve
giving side who have decided against granting dollars
to be an organization. They haven’t made a
to a particular group, but then don’t want to hurt the
decision. I should call them back. I should call
collective feelings of those running said local nonprofit.
them back again.
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• We’re stringing them along, like What’s-Her-Name did to me back in
Throw out the standard rejection form letter, and take just a few
1975: “She must like me; she hasn’t shot me down. She hasn’t said, ‘I
minutes to explain the reasoning behind your board’s “No.” Now
like you as a friend. There’s still a chance!’” And I’ll admit, I’ve been
the pushback from some funders will be, “But we’re too busy to
guilty of this once or twice before as well (something of which I’m not
personally respond to all of them! Do you know how many grant
very proud), all because I wanted to avoid being the ‘bad guy’ which
applications we get?” I beg to differ. Nobody’s that busy, especially
then actually made me the ‘worse guy.’ I became What’s-HIS-Name.
if he or she really wants to strengthen potential partners and
• If a prospective grantor is truly in the capacity-building business, and
subsequently change the world.
really wants to ‘teach a man to fish,’ then the foundation’s rejection
Here’s another possible response: “I don’t owe them (the nonprofits)
of a grant proposal (OK, maybe the word ‘rejection’ isn’t the sweetest
an explanation. All that matters is my decision.” Sure…that’s…great.
sounding thing) carries with it tons of positive potential. The proper
It’s from the Universal Time-Honored Parents’ Handbook (Chapter 4,
delivery of your “No” can maximize its potential to become a “Yes” in
Paragraph 3) that begins with the words “BECAUSE I SAID SO.” We
the future, with your foundation or perhaps another foundation that
all know how well we liked hearing that back in the day.
has a mission and a passion different from yours.
It comes down to this: Is it about us? Or them? Is it about protecting
Simply put: Tell the nonprofit WHY you said “No” to its grant request.
our own turf? Or protecting and educating and lifting the people
Was it the organization? Was it the project? Was the application
of our planet? If the answer is “Us”… then a lot of Us are in the
missing the data or results needed to sway your board members? Did
wrong business.
the financials simply not add up? Is there still bad P.R. lingering from a previous organizational misstep? Was the ‘ask’ short of the needed details (Exactly how will this program work?)? Is there simply no match here between your organization and our organization?
The “No” will set you free, and the “Explained ‘No’” will set the nonprofits on a path of self-examination, growth, and fulfillment. Philanthropically, this negative can be quite… positive.
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[ THEN AND NOW ] But Gerald had a vision, and Patti continued to be amazed by what she says
PATTI BROUSSARD
was (and is) divine intervention. “Those doors kept opening, and we’d go to the next step, and CYT just kept going and going. The fact that we are still here,
“I remember the article and
continuing to grow, is proof that God has
talking about being fulfilled
always been at the center of it, and He
by serving others,” says Patti
helps us to always put the kids first.”
Broussard. “I totally stand by
The evolution of CYT-Lafayette has placed a new title onto Patti Broussard: Chapter
that to this day, and my life has more meaning.” FACE Magazine’s cover story of May 2012
Coordinator. “A bit of refreshing and rebranding for CYT,” says Broussard. “CYT Patti’s original cover story may be read online at www.issuu.com/faceacadiana/docs/face.may.2012
is the tree; CYT-Lafayette is the branch; and now we’ve got these fabulous leaves
featured Lafayette’s Patti Broussard who, at the time, spoke of
that are growing so well, Lafayette and Vermilion.” Of course,
the importance of making a difference. On that topic, things have
growing from the start-up group of 15-to-20 kids in a session (fall,
not changed a bit. “A life of service? Sure, it can sometimes be
winter, spring) to the nearly 300 kids in a current session most
exhausting and tiring; but, in the grand scheme of things, when you
definitely means CYT is way more than Patti and Gerald Broussard.
see some of the young people you’ve helped to mold and shape
“We have so many great people now; we have gathered this family
suddenly stand up and talk to everyone in the group about being a
of amazing teachers and directors. So many of them are in their 20s
leader, about believing in Christ, and about how much they love one
and 30s, and they bring this energy and vision to keep it going.”
another, well, it makes all of the hard times worthwhile.”
‘Chapter Coordinator’ is a title of which Broussard is very proud, but
The group in question is one near-and-dear to her heart: Christian
it’s nowhere close to that of ‘wife’ of the aforementioned Gerald. “In
Youth Theatre, perhaps better known in Acadiana by three letters:
January, it will be 30 years of marriage, and yes, that’s a long time,”
C-Y-T. In fact, Patti and her husband, Gerald, founded CYT-Lafayette
smiles Broussard. So what’s the secret to marital longevity? “You
10 years ago after they watched a show performed by CYT’s
stick it out through the good times and the bad times, and you just
Houston chapter. “Wow, 10 years,” laughs Broussard. “Who knew? I
work through it. We’re a team and we stick together.” You get the
remember thinking, ‘There’s no way. We’re starting a theatre group?’
feeling that, even six years after her first FACE interview, Patti kind
I kept waiting for the doors to shut.”
of likes her husband. “He’s my best friend, too.”
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We seem to be on a theme of titles and roles, and there’s still one more for Broussard. “Does being a mother continue to shape Patti Broussard?” I asked. There was no hesitation in her answer. “Oh, absolutely. I don’t know how that will not be the focus of my life. Grandchildren will come (oldest daughter Kallie, 25, is engaged), and I plan to have a large role there, too. If they’ll let me,” she laughs. Still at home are 21-year old Katie (a fantastic photographer, by the way) and 14-year old Emma. “I try not to be so caught up in the business of things I need to do. Those high school years really fly by, and there’s no magic way to slow it down. I try to just enjoy them and be with them as much as possible.” What’s next for Patti Broussard? On the family side, there’s a
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bit of wedding planning; but in terms of CYT, there’s a capital campaign, the goal of which is to put set-design, costumes, camps and a rehearsal space all under one roof. “We’ve been theatrical nomads,” she laughs. “All of these schools and denominations have been very gracious to give us space for various activities over the past decade, and we don’t want to overstay our welcome. It will be wonderful—except for
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our shows at UL’s Angelle Hall—to have a building for all things CYT.” Regardless of the title or role, Patti Broussard makes it clear
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MIND | BODY | SOUL
THE
HIGH COST OF UNRESOLVED ANGER
ANGER IS SOMETHING WE ALL HAVE EXPERIENCED to one degree or another. Anger in itself is generally not a problem, but how we deal with it will determine the effects it has on our self and the people around us. Having anger
Here are 3 different ways I have often seen in
is not wrong, but uncontrolled anger is always
the couples I’ve worked with over the years.
wrong, hurtful and even destructive. Our anger is expressed in our words when we are yelling, belittling, swearing, demanding and criticizing. Anger is expressed in our behavior when we try to
WITHHOLDING AFFECTION. This is where all nonsexual intimacy in the marriage has stopped with the intention of punishing the other spouse.
physically intimidate, destroy property, slam doors
WITHDRAWAL. This may include excessive time
and invade the personal space of the other person.
that is spent by a spouse on Facebook or video
Often during an argument and as the anger is
gaming. Or it could be one of many other ways to
growing, each feels as though they have to win or
avoid contact with the spouse by over focusing on
at least have the last word. At this point there are
work or a hobby, children, other family members or
no winners, just losers who are filled with varying
friends.
degrees of hurt, anger and resentment. When unresolved anger turns into resentment, how does it manifest itself in a marriage relationship?
ENGAGING IN PROVOKING BEHAVIOR. This could be the sharing of personal and embarrassing private information with family members and friends with the intention of provoking the other person.
How does one get out of this mess, this cycle of toxic behavior? Would counseling help? What are the benefits of marriage counseling? Here are 4 benefits that can change your life and marriage. With the anger and ongoing resentment, what are the psychological effects that begin to develop? Here are the 10 most common.
INCREASED SELF-AWARENESS. Understand what triggered inside you that lead to the conflict. What is your body language and voice tone saying about you as you are trying to communicate with your spouse?
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Fear of losing one’s family.
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Difficulty trusting because their apology is not followed with any changed behavior.
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Anxiety along with the feelings of walking on eggshells while in the presence of the other spouse.
BETTER IMPULSE CONTROL. Are you aware of how your automatic subconscious responses add fuel to the anger? Can you hit the pause button to give yourself time to assess the situation and make a conscience choice to determine a healthy nonpersonalized response to the situation?
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Sexual difficulties develop because of all the tension and the lack of feeling emotionally and physically safe.
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Shame as a result of being blamed and constantly being demeaned.
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Numbing is often the result of being constantly stressed and overwhelmed and the person does not want to feel any more.
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Low self esteem from feeling not good enough and being shamed constantly.
IMPROVED RELATIONSHIP SKILLS. Creating a joint optimistic view of the relationship with a willingness to put in the effort to create and sustain it. Focus on what you want your relationship to look like. Live in the present, focus on the future and shed the harmful and destructive behaviors from the past.
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Health issues. Chronic tension and stress can cause a variety of medical issues.
Reach out to someone today for help. Things can be better for you and your relationships.
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Feelings of isolation because of feeling too embarrassed to talk with anyone concerning the problems you are having in your marriage.
⑩ Poor communication skills and lack of understanding as to how to address your relationship issues.
PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS. Learning to recognize the dysfunctional and inadequacy of your old problem solving method and being willing to actively learn new and effective problem solving skills.
Don Short is the owner of After Hours Counseling located in Lafayette, LA. His practice focuses on clients with marriage, relationship and family issues. He is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors. Contact After Hours Counseling 337-781-4565 or www.afterhourscounseling.com.
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LIFE & LEISURE
#IntentionalPositivity We are not qualified to see the unique beauty within ourselves because we see our own flaws.
beYO U tiful
Being yourself is the only way to successfully navigate a day at the office or a summer vacation. Faking it until you make it only gets you so far, so at some point in the journey, embrace who you are to ensure a beautiful outcome. When you are AUTHENTIC, you will become the best versions of yourself — beautiful. AUDREY HEPBURN BROUGHT THIS SAM LEVENSON QUOTE TO POPULARITY
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ACT like you love your life! Concentrate on one thing at a time that you were uniquely blessed with…an attractive smile, long and thick hair, piercing eyes, a logical brain, two wonderful ears to listen with, etc.
“FOR ATTRACTIVE LIPS, speak words of kindness. FOR LOVELY EYES, seek out the good in people. FOR A SLIM FIGURE,
BEAUTIFUL HAIR, let a child run their
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fingers through it once a day. FOR POISE,
share your food with the hungry. FOR
walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will
you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”
TRY to remember that EVERYONE is in the same boat. None of us has a patent on perfect inner beauty, because we’re all human. However, we can embrace the best of ourselves and lovingly give our best effort in all that we do. HELP someone less fortunate! There is no better way to feel beautiful than to give to others! Return a shopping cart to the store; Help a disabled person open a door; Give some items to Goodwill or Salvation Army; Visit a nursing home; Sing in a church choir; Reach something off a top shelf for a vertically-challenged person.
ENHANCE the lives of those. Offer to run an errand for a neighbor, co-worker, relative, or a friend. Even if they say they don’t need your assistance, you can always mail or hand deliver a beautiful “thinking of you” card! This may have more impact than an email card.
NOTICE the beauty that others overlook. Learn to appreciate a bird in a feeder or a pretty flower in a garden. When you get into a quiet zone of appreciation, you will become more beautiful by focusing on others.
TALK to someone who appears quiet and shy. They might just need some attention to get out of their shell. This could yield some GREAT results! In a new work scenario, this may even be a ploy to see who will step out of their comfort zone to engage in conversation with others. You never know.
ISOLATE yourself from negative people! Love them from a distance and keep them away from your day-to-day existence! Negativity is a sign of their weakness, and it can spread like wildfire. Avoid it at all costs.
find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that
UNDERSTAND that the YOU seen by others is not the YOU seen in your mirror. We are not qualified to see the unique beauty within ourselves because we see our own flaws. Wrap your brain around the fact that the YOU that was created for this lifetime IS perfect.
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CONSIDER taking some YOU time for your inner Be-YOU-ty! Be good to yourself and appreciate all the beautiful things that are inherently YOU. Laurie J. James is one of the only 12 Master Career Directors globally. She co-founded and presided over the Professional Resume Writing and Research Association from 2000-2004. PRWRA rebranded to Career Directors in 2005. Laurie has created 10,000+ job-winning resumes in her career. She is a credentialed resume & LinkedIn profile writer, seasoned public speaker and award-winning career image coach. Visit her at www.lauriejjames.com.
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KEYSTONE NUTRITION CEO Dr. Jennifer Jackson By Erin Holden Photography by Moore Photography ©FACE Magazine. All Rights Reserved.
RETURNING TO HER ROOTS
HELPING HER COMMUNITY
She was inspired at an early age to become a dietitian the first time she heard that such a profession existed.
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orn and raised on the North Side of Lafayette,
Dr. Jennifer Jackson looks back on her childhood as one full of happy memories. Her upbringing is what formed the foundation for what she has accomplished, and is still accomplishing, in life – she is the owner of Keystone Nutrition and has worked in education for over ten years. Dr. Jackson’s memories of her upbringing in Lafayette are of “an amazing neighborhood. I am still good friends with several of the people there because their parents still live there. In fact, I kept my parents’ home and moved my mother-in-law into the house, so I still get to go back to the neighborhood and go back to the house I was raised in. I truly cherish that.” “The household we were raised in was the foundation,” of what she has done with her life, Dr. Jackson said. “We didn’t go out to eat, and we especially didn’t eat fast food; with three kids you just didn’t do that. I think it was a typical upbringing.” Even so, she was definitely raised “with the bacon grease on the stove,” a common way of cooking for any Louisiana family. She was inspired at an early age to become a dietitian the first time she heard that such a profession existed. It was when her father was in the hospital that her interest was first piqued. “I remember this like it was yesterday: I was a sophomore in high school. My dad was in and out of the hospital,” Dr. Jackson said. “He was constantly sick and, back then, you didn’t talk about people being sick and you didn’t ask questions. I remember being in the hospital and a lady came into the room to talk to my dad about the foods he could eat and the foods he shouldn’t eat. I asked my mom, ‘Who’s that?’ and she said, ‘She’s a dietitian. The foods your dad eats can make him feel better or make him feel worse.’ That stuck in my mind, and I said, ‘I want to be a dietitian.’” Wanting to learn more about her newfound calling, she decided to become a candy striper at Lafayette General, delivering food to the patients. As luck (or fate) would have it, she ended up working in a dietitian’s office during her volunteer work there. “I knew I wanted to be a dietitian, and dietitians, in my mind, worked in the hospital, so I went to the hospital and said I wanted to be a candy striper.” Her work there made her feel like she was on the right path. She felt so confident in her choice at that early age that, when she went to study at UL Lafayette, she never changed her major. After graduating from UL, Dr. Jackson moved to Scranton, Pennsylvania to do an internship and work on her master’s degree in nutrition from the small liberal arts college of Marywood University.
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After
graduating
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UL, Dr. Jackson moved to Scranton, Pennsylvania to do an internship and work on her master’s degree in nutrition from the small liberal arts college of Marywood University.
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“I had no kids, I wasn’t married, and I wanted to leave Lafayette just to see how another part of the world lived,” she explained, saying that she picked Pennsylvania because she was “tired of taking two showers a day” after being out in the Louisiana heat. “It was literally in the middle of nowhere,” she said of Marywood, but she picked it because she knew she would have a good chance of getting into their internship program, and she did. It had been a year since her graduation from UL that she moved to Scranton, and she said, “I swore I’d never come back.” Dr. Jackson got her first job in Easton, Pennsylvania working in public health for WIC, but she didn’t particularly enjoy it. “I think I did that job for maybe six months,” she said. “Then I got a job with the state, still as a dietitian, investigating nursing homes.” She did the auditing there, making sure that health regulations involving the food were being followed. A year and a half after that, she discovered her passion for higher education and began working as an administrator for Harrisburg Area Community College. By then, she had a master’s degree in education, and the president of the college encouraged her to continue on this path. “You know how some women are,” Dr. Jackson said. “She wanted to help younger women achieve, so she encouraged me to get my doctorate.” Having gone so far in studying nutrition, she wanted to learn more about working within universities, so she decided to get her EdD in educational leadership from the University of Phoenix, and she finished the program in 2008. She is the first person in Louisiana to earn her doctorate from there. Jackson had said that she would never return to Louisiana. She had started a new life in Pennsylvania, working for a community college that she loved, and she had met the man who would later become her husband — Chip. However, sometimes life has a way of bringing you back home. “My mother got sick,” Dr. Jackson said, explaining her change of heart “has truly blessed me.” I would come home and visit Lafayette and, one Mardi Gras, I went to UL and met up with someone I knew. I told them my interest in going back to Lafayette and that, if something comes up, to let me know.” Not long after that conversation, she got an interview in July of 2005 and was set to start her job as Assistant to the President of Campus Diversity that September. “Hurricane Katrina hit,” she said, “and let me tell you – if I hadn’t interviewed before it, I wouldn’t have been here.” Hurricane Rita hit not long after that. Rather than thinking of this as any kind of bad omen regarding her return, Jackson took it in stride. “Talk about a hurricane party! And being with my family, it brought back memories.” She worked in the Diversity office for seven years. “In the meantime, my mother had passed from breast cancer,” Dr. Jackson said. Following her passing, Jackson was cleaning up her childhood home and found her
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parents’ wedding picture. “I just broke into tears,” she said, “because I thought, you never know on your wedding day, with all the future you’ve planned together,” what the future might hold. She just couldn’t sell the house with all the memories she and her family had made there. “I said, ‘This is the house they raised their family in,’ so it’s very emotional to have my mother-in-law there. It’s great.”
She always knew that working in nutrition was her passion, but she had also learned from her time in higher education
that
she
loved teaching. With Keystone, Jackson is able to combine the two things she enjoys most.
Dr. Jackson found that she loved being back home in Lafayette, and that she was thriving in her position at UL. “It was a dream job,” she said. She created programs for black history month, helped with an LGBT group’s campus events, and she started the university’s Women’s Conference. She is “pleased that they continue it. It started in 2008 on a Wednesday and I got married that Saturday!” With earning her doctorate, getting married, and beginning the first women’s conference of this kind in the area, 2008 was a good year. “What was so neat about that (conference) was that there were women from all backgrounds,” she said. “It wasn’t just women in senior-level positions. It was women who were secretaries and stay-at-home moms as well. It was open to anyone.” Though Dr. Jackson was happy with her work at UL, she found herself looking for another job in 2012 in order to grow in her career, so she took a position at South Louisiana Community College, leaving there after 14 months to start Keystone Nutrition in February 2014. “It’s funny how you come full circle,” Dr. Jackson said. “I started my own nutrition consulting business.” She always knew that working in nutrition was her passion, but she had also learned from her time in higher education that she loved teaching. With Keystone, Jackson is able to combine the two things she enjoys most. The work Dr. Jackson does at Keystone is primarily in corrections now. Two months after starting the business, she began doing consulting work for the Lafayette Parish Correctional Center, and now Keystone does nutrition consultation for seven parish correctional facilities. Dr. Jackson’s contract work as a dietitian in these facilities involves counseling both the inmates and staff about proper nutrition. Her focus for the inmates is on therapeutic nutrition for those with diabetes, hypertension, high blood pressure, and other health issues that can be improved with diet. As for the staff, most of the requests she gets revolve around weight loss. One of the most challenging things about what Dr. Jackson does has to do with people’s concerns with their weight. “Dietitians are the experts when it comes to nutrition,” she said, “yet so many people take advice from family, friends, and people on TV. I spend so much of my time with a client refuting what non-experts say. Just because something worked for one person, that does not mean it will work for another.”
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Growing up, she lived in a neighborhood where she felt safe and made lasting friendships. “I’m still on the North Side,” she said. “I always tell people we could live anywhere we want, and I chose to live on the North Side. I love it.”
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Having taught nutrition classes at the University of Phoenix, Jackson knew that she wanted to incorporate her love of teaching into her new business. Aside from one-on-one consultations about nutritional education with inmates and staff, she also teaches a ServSafe course to the inmates about sanitation so they can get their certification. “That’s probably my favorite story,” Dr. Jackson said, “because these inmates take this very intense class, about 16 hours long, and then they have to take an exam. We give them certificates at a graduation ceremony. I always tell my husband, ‘I always wanted to be president of a college. I’ve got my own college!’ Here I am teaching these classes to them, and that’s the best feeling. I love what I do here.” Though the bulk of her work with Keystone is in corrections, Dr. Jackson also teaches nutrition education to low-income pregnant women through WIC; she works with LARC doing nutritional consultation for their food services; and she has been a keynote speaker for the Whole Foods health fair, Stone Energy, JS Clark Leadership Academy, and many others. With four years in, Dr. Jackson is “focusing on the business.” She goes to Good Hope Baptist Church (she is the third generation of her family to attend there), spends time with family and friends, but she has dialed back on her involvement in community organizations to make sure that she is focused on providing the best work possible through Keystone. Dr. Jackson has an amazing inner circle of friends – they regularly have girls’ nights and luncheons. She also has a very supportive husband who has been with her every step of the way in starting Keystone Nutrition. “He truly is the one who listens to the problems and concerns,” she said. “If it weren’t for him working full-time, I would have had to take any job I could. He let me take that time to figure out what to do. He’s my driver.” Ultimately, Dr. Jackson feels that a person’s success depends largely upon the support system they have during childhood, and she was incredibly blessed that way. She lived in a neighborhood where she felt safe and made lasting friendships. “I’m still on the North Side,” she said. “I always tell people we could live anywhere we want, and I chose to live on the North Side. I love it.” Dr. Jackson also credits her family for raising her with love and support. “I give the shout-outs to my parents and grandparents,” she said. “I work in jail, and these men, if you talk to them, their fathers weren’t there. It’s environment. It’s so important, especially as an African American female, that I come from parents who were married. I come from grandparents who were married. I used to spend every Friday night at my grandmother’s house. Those are my best experiences. She taught me how to be a lady.” You can learn even more about Dr. Jackson’s accomplishments and services at Keystonenutrition.co.
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FAMILY MATTERS
TOXIC
END RELATIONSHIPS WITHIN YOUR FAMILY
Your relationship with your parents and grown siblings might be so bad that your only option is to sever all ties, at least until everyone concerned expresses a willingness to talk about the relationship dynamics. Regardless of whether you have come to terms with your family relationships or not, the negativity might have bad effects on your health. Once you have decided that you will not be able to repair your relationships with your family, it is time to break those ties.
STEP 1 EVALUATE RELATIONSHIPS with your grown siblings and parents. While you have developed your identity from your family members, your relationship with them may begin identifying who you are as you try to deal with the arguments, bad feelings and stress. You and your siblings have childhood memories, but what you remember might not be what they remember.
STEP 2 LOOK BACK ON EVENTS FROM YOUR CHILDHOOD that might have affected the quality of your relationships with your parents and siblings. Parent-child relationships are affected by events in the family, such as the death of a child. When a parent gives more love or attention to one child, that child’s siblings recognize this and their relationships with their parents and siblings suffer.
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emotionally and physically, you might decide that your health is more important. Even if you and your family members do not fight, the state of your relationships might have caused stress or emotional upset in past years. Put that stress and emotional upset into your past, at least until your family is willing to discuss their relationships with you.
STEP 4 MEET WITH YOUR PARENTS AND SIBLINGS if it is safe for you to do so. Respectfully tell them you are stopping all contact with them. If you are tempted to tell them that the toxic relationships you have with them are affecting your health, understand that this will not matter to them. Keep your message simple and direct as you tell them why you are cutting off contact.
STEP 5 DEVELOP NEW, POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS with other friends. Post breakup with your siblings and parents, you will need to establish a healthy balance between work, recreation and new relationships. Start participating in enjoyable activities with your friends, focusing on having fun as you get to know them.
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So how should a parent cope? Keeping busy, says Cavanaugh, is one place to start. “Stay focused on your work, on your regular activities.” And there’s the chance that your child going to college might be the impetus for you expanding your own horizons. “Try to use this as an opportunity to discover so much more about yourself, that you’re more than just your child’s parent.”
THE EMPTY HOUSE SYNDROME By Scott Brazda She is leaving home. Our first-born is headed off to college, and I’m not sure how to handle this…on a variety of levels. “The first thing I tell parents is to trust yourself that you’ve prepared your child to the best of your ability, and, in your case, Scott, to trust that your child will do her best, too,” says Lafayette psychologist Dr. Amy Cavanaugh. I don’t want to hear these things, but Cavanaugh makes perfect sense when she reminds me that the only constant in life is change. “The relationship is changing, but you need to remind yourself that it’s a beginning, not an end; it’s a new chapter and that can be very exciting.” As you can no doubt sense, having that first child leave the nest is knocking me out of my comfort zone, sending me back on my heels and I’m not sure what to think. That uncertainty, adds Cavanaugh, is OK, too. “You can have more than one feeling; it’s only natural that these feelings coexist simultaneously. You can be excited and sad and proud, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.” It’s most important, though, that parents remember that their feelings aren’t caused by their departing children. “Don’t make the child feel responsible for your sadness,” explains Cavanaugh. “Don’t use your feelings to make them think they have to take care of you.” In many ways, there’s a grief process that parents, to varying degrees, will have to go through. “Recognize this, and allow yourself to feel and accept these feelings, that you will miss your child. Again, it’s natural and there’s nothing wrong with that.”
Don’t forget that leaving home may not be easy on your daughter or son, either. “Talk about it. Help him/her with the process, and go on the campus tour. Be present in the practical, logical things associated with your child’s move.” Remember the uneasiness I mentioned at the start of this article? Well, the start of college—orientation, then the beginning of classes—might send your child into a spin of their own. “It can be a very overwhelming time, and they may call you just looking for answers and reassurances. Be glad that you’re the one receiving that call, and maybe that’s all they need, just to know that Mom or Dad can be that comfortable safe base.” But what if they’re very upset? Ready to quit college and come home? “Remind them of the many times in the past that they faced hectic, stressful times and got through it,” says Cavanaugh. “Remind them of all they’ve accomplished, and that they can handle this, too.” One final bit of advice involves the words “letting go” (and I’m not sure if I’m ready for this aspect, either). “Respect boundaries, and don’t be a ‘helicopter parent’ at your child’s college,” finishes Cavanaugh. “A parent that’s overly-involved and overly-responsible for their child hinders the learning experience of the child, and keeps them from truly experiencing the successes and failures that come in life.”
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How is Mental Illness in Children Diagnosed
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ccording to industry experts,
If no medical reason is found for the behavior, the doctor
approximately one out of every five
refers the child to a psychologist or psychiatrist who
children between the ages of 13 and
treats children and adolescents. A psychologist is trained
18 has or will be diagnosed with a
to evaluate and diagnose mental illnesses but usually
mental illness.*
treats them through counseling or behavioral therapy. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who can diagnose mental
However, as children are developing mentally and physically,
illnesses and write prescriptions for medication. Often,
their behavior may be difficult to analyze. Anxiety, anger,
the two will work together to provide a combination of
and shyness can all be a part of developmental growth or a
counseling and medication. Other therapies, such as
temporary condition rather than an illness.
music or art, may be added to conventional treatments.
Diagnosis usually begins with a medical doctor who takes a
Initial diagnosis is based on reports of behavior from
lengthy history and examines the child to rule out physical
parents, caregivers, and teachers in order to understand
reasons for the difficulties. Lab tests may also be done to
how the child functions in different situations. Often a
test for side effects of medication, for allergies, or for other
child will have a combination of two or more behaviors,
conditions that could produce symptoms.
such as anxiety and bedwetting.
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Mental Health Facts
THE FOLLOWING DISORDERS ARE
CHILDREN & TEENS
COMMON IN CHILDHOOD: • Anxiety
Fact: 1 in 5 children ages 13-18 have, or will have a serious mental illness.
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• Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
20%
• Eating problems • Bathroom issues
20% of youth ages 13-18 live a with mental health condition1
• Feelings of sadness, or moodiness • Disruptive behavior
11%
50%
• Involuntary movements, or tics • Schizophrenia, or distorted thoughts
10 yrs
and feelings
10% of youth have a behavior or conduct disorder 1
8% of youth have an anxiety disorder 1
Suicide 50% of all lifetime cases of mental illness begin by age 14 and 75% by age 24.1
continue into adolescence and adulthood. Others go away or improve with age, and some begin later in life. Mental illnesses are usually caused by a combination of factors that fall into four broad categories:
3rd
Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in youth ages 10 - 24.1
The average delay between onset of symptoms and intervention is 8-10 years.1
Some disorders begin in childhood and
psychological. For instance, a child who has a
8%
Impact
• Learning disorders, such as dyslexia
environmental, genetic, biological, and
11% of youth have a mood disorder 1
10%
37%
37% of students with a mental health condition age 14 and older drop out of school—the highest dropout rate of any disability group.1
70%
70% of youth in state and local juvenile justice systems have a mental illness.1
90%
90% of those who died by suicide had an underlying mental illness.1
Warning Signs
genetic predisposition may develop a disorder when exposed to toxins or physical abuse. Although many parents want to avoid medication or the stigma of a mental diagnosis, the prognosis is brighter with proper treatment. If a child does not receive necessary care, the illness may continue into
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Feeling very sad or withdrawn for more than 2 weeks (e.g., crying regularly, feeling fatigued, feeling unmotivated).
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Trying to harm or kill oneself or making plans to do so.
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Out-of-control, risk-taking behaviors that can cause harm to self or others.
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Sudden overwhelming fear for no reason, sometimes with a racing heart, physical discomfort or fast breathing.
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Not eating, throwing up or using laxatives to lose weight; significant weight loss or gain.
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Severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships.
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Repeated use of drugs or alcohol.
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Drastic changes in behavior, personality or sleeping habits (e.g., waking up early and acting agitated).
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Extreme difficulty in concentrating or staying still that can lead to failure in school.
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Intense worries or fears that get in the way of daily activities like hanging out with friends or going to classes.
adulthood, creating high risk for issues such as substance abuse, antisocial behavior, or suicide. When given a correct diagnosis and
4 Things Parents Can Do
treatment, outlook for a healthy life as an adult is much more positive. * Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
Talk with your pediatrician 1
Get a referral to a mental health specialist
Work with the school
Connect with other families
This document cites statistics provided by the National Institute of Mental Health. www.nimh.nih.gov
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Source: National Alliance On Mental Illness, Kids Mental Health Organization, National Institute of Mental Health
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UPGRADE YOUR PATIO SPACE FOR ENTERTAINING [1] BRING LIVING ROOM IDEAS OUTSIDE
IT IS EASIER THAN YOU
For drier months when you can be outdoors, complement your patio
THINK to spruce up your patio
with items that can bring the comforts of your home to the outdoors.
space for entertaining and dining.
Comfortable furniture with throw pillows can be incorporated and bring
With the right dĂŠcor and creative use of space, you can transform your patio into a fully functioning living area. Patios can quickly be incorporated as a useful part of your home and everyday living. Here are five ways to
a cozy feel to your patio. Get a sturdy tablecloth for your outdoor table to define a dining area. Lanterns and candles can finish your look and bring a warm feel to your patio. Having table space and a bar area will bring to life your patio and make this the spot to entertain and sit with guests.
[2] BORROW FROM THOSE WHO HAVE MASTERED OUTDOOR SPACE Look through travel blogs to find outdoor plazas and parks that have
maximize space and increase comfort
a great outdoor look. If you can bring the flavor of an Italian piazza or
on your patio for entertaining.
Mexican cantina to your patio, it will be fun and inviting for guests and friends. Themes can change from season to season depending on the look you are hoping to achieve, or for a specific party theme.
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is where snacks and drinks can be grabbed up while being part of everything going on and food prep. To decrease the back and forth and keep everyone outside, bring the usual kitchen prep work to the patio. Start with an outdoor drink station, a side table for snacks, and a usable BBQ so that food prep and refreshments are at
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[4] MAXIMIZE FLOW FROM THE INDOORS TO THE PATIO If folks will be running back and forth from inside to outside, having a lousy flow can make your patio not as accessible as you would like.
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French doors can open up a space and have a nice walkway from home to patio. If there are stairs leading to your outdoor space, make sure these are skid proof and have a sturdy railing. If you have to screen in pets, you may want to consider relegating them to another part of the home so you don’t have to worry during parties.
[5] ENTERTAINING IN ALL WEATHER Awnings and heat lamps can make your patio entertaining year round a possibility. You can never fully predict the weather, so if a chill or some sprinkles threaten your outdoor event, be prepared. Pulling
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ext, we have the southern classic SUNSET PUNCH. Depending on the crowd, this bourbon-based punch serves six to eight and is perfect for the adventurous crowd ready to kick the party into high gear.
SPARKLING WATERMELON SANGRIA* Ingredients (Serves 4 to 6):
SUNSET PUNCH *
4 cups of seedless watermelon (remove the rind, cube, and chill)
Ingredients (Serves 6 to 8): 8 -10 ounces bourbon
3/4 cup dry white wine
8 ounces white vermouth
1 lime, sliced thin
1/2 cup fresh lemon juice
1 (750ml) bottle of Moscato, chilled 3 cups lime seltzer water or sparkling water (chilled) Optional ~ Strawberries, Raspberries In a large pitcher place 3 cups of cold watermelon cubes (saving some for garnish) and white wine. Some may prefer to blend the mixture into a slush before serving. Pour into ice-filled glasses and garnish it with a watermelon and a lime slice. Remember, you can add or subtract any of the ingredients to better blend with your taste. Yum!
6 to 10 lemon slices for garnish the glasses 1/4 cup simple syrup or 1/4 cup sugar mixed with 1/4 cup water, stir until dissolved. 12 ounces chilled ginger beer Mix the ingredients in a mid to large size punch bowl, add ice, stir gently and get ready to serve in a garnished glass. Wow… All that’s left is filling a glass, sipping, and relaxing. Enjoy!
*PLEASE DRINK RESPONSIBLY.
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adona Hanks Leonberger founded Amp’d Up, a team of athletes with special needs who recently won the silver medal at a state tournament in volleyball. Leonberger started Amp’d Up in March to engage Acadia Parish special needs athletes in the community and get them involved. “This is actually an intellectual part of Special Olympics,” Leonberger explained. “Some of these athletes play as well as someone without intellectual disabilities,” but they may have difficulty understanding the rules. “This gives them the opportunity to play with people that understand them, that know what to do when they react to something.” Leonberger is referring to the volunteers who act as “partners” in the game. Each team in Acadiana’s Special Olympics has a group of athletes (those with special needs) and partners (those without) who play with the athletes. In this way, it is an inclusive activity that brings all kinds of people together instead of making the team exclusively special needs. This is considered a Special Olympics Unified Sport.
Radona Leonberger with son Noah
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Leonberger said that this way “the athletes are able to learn if they don’t know about the sport – they learn from a partner, and this is giving society a chance to see what it’s really like” to engage with the special needs community. She has had partners who have come in to see what the organization is all about, and they never leave. Many of them even bring their family and friends to get involved. “It’s kind of addictive because you learn to love these kids,” Leonberger said. 18-year-old Noah is Leonberger’s son, and he has Asberger Syndrome. She said, “I did get involved with special needs things because of my son – this isn’t the only special needs thing I do. I teach classes in Girard Park and at the Heymann Center.” Leonberger has to undergo chemotherapy treatments, but her work with Amp’d Up and her other involvement with special needs people lifts her spirits.
If you would like to get involved in volunteering, donating, or getting a special needs person involved in Amp’d Up, contact Radona Hanks Leonberger at 337-581-0573. Amp’d Up accepts all athletes eight and up.
“I just get a lot of hugs, prayers, and phone calls,” she said. “I do it because of them.” Leonberger said that she and the athletes support each other. They lean on her for support, sending her texts when they have had a tough day. “A lot of it is knowing they have somebody to talk to and that I know they are there. It keeps me going.”
Special Olympics “Volleyball” in Hammond. LA. Pictured: Gage Bertrand, David Trahan, Randall Mergist, Connie Mergist, CJ Stoute, Noah Leonberger, Katlyn Hanks, Miia Bertrand, Jamie Bryant, Radona Leonberger, Tiffany Ruth, Caitlin Sailer, Paul Trahan, Melyssa Roseberry, Cheryl Trahan, Josh Tullier, Jazmine Romero
So few partners quit that it is sometimes difficult to make room for more volunteers; however, Leonberger is adding softball and basketball teams for the Amp’d Up group so, once she gets more athletes on those teams, she could use more volunteers. “What we want people to understand is that you don’t have to be special needs to play on our team.” The athletes also have a wide spectrum of special needs and disabilities. Some are in wheel chairs or walkers, while others have Down’s Syndrome or are simply slow learners. Softball will begin in August and, since Amp’d Up relies on donations, Leonberger needs equipment (new or used). This could include catcher’s equipment, bats, softballs, gloves, and she could also use a space for the athletes to practice. For example, she needs a place for the athletes to have batting practice.
First tournament participation and team wins first silver medal.
If you would like to get involved in volunteering, donating, or getting a special needs person involved in Amp’d Up, contact Radona Hanks Leonberger at 337-581-0573. Amp’d Up accepts all athletes eight and up. “My greatest hope would be that friendships get formed, that memories are made,” Leonberger said, “for them to be able to do these sports and not feel intimidated, and for them to feel accepted and included.
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AUGUST
EVENTS & ENTERTAINMENT SATURDAY, JULY 21
SATURDAY, JULY 28
♦ Play Day: Beat the Heat; The Paul and Hilliard
♦ Gulf Brew 2018; The Blackham Coliseum - 6:00
University Art Museum10:00 am - 2:00 pm. Beat the heat with a free family admissions day.
TUESDAY, JULY 24 ♦ Tini Tuesday. $2 Martinis at Bonefish Grill with
the purchase of an entree. This week’s highlighted restaurant in participation with this year’s Lafayette’s ABSOLUT Best Martini. Be sure to print the Tini Tuesday coupon at healing-house.org.
WEDNESDAY, JULY 25
♦ Tini Tuesday. $2 Martinis at Tsunami with the
purchase of an entree. This week’s highlighted restaurant in participation with this year’s Lafayette’s ABSOLUT Best Martini. Be sure to print the Tini Tuesday coupon at healing-house.org.
Biergarten - 8:00 pm - 11:00 pm ♦ Cajun Jam; Blue Moon Saloon. Every Wednesday
at 8:00 pm, jam on the back porch at the Blue Moon Saloon.
THURSDAY, JULY 26 Museum - 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm. Grab a friend and head to LSM to see a science-focused film in the museum gallery. Free admission.
FRI-SUN, JULY 27 - 29
J U LY
TUESDAY, JULY 31
♦ Lafayette Comedy’s The Wurst Open-Mic at The Wurst
♦ Documentary Date Night; The Lafayette Science
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pm - 9:00 pm - Experience the Acadiana region’s largest craft beer festival this July at Blackham Coliseum. Taste over 200 beers from Schilling Distributing, Crescent Crown, and local home brewers. Enjoy live music and good food. Tickets information is available at dothebrew.org.
♦ Louisiana Outdoor Expo & Boat Show: The Cajundome
- This premiere event is for everything outdoors, from hunting to camping to outdoor activities and is now even bigger with the extended addition of boat exhibitions. Tickets can be purchased at the Box Office
WED-SUN, AUGUST 15-19 ♦ The Delcambre Shrimp Festival - Delcambre
Shrimp Festival Grounds, 611 S. Richard St Delcambre, LA - the Delcambre Shrimp Festival honors the shrimping industry with events including a shrimp cook-off, queens, pageants, fais-do-dos, carnival rides, boat parade, food court and much more. www.shrimpfestival.net
FRI-MON, AUG 31-SEP 3 ♦ Louisiana Shrimp and Petroleum Festival;
Downtown Morgan City, 715 Second St. Morgan City, LA - A hometown festival celebrating the seafood and petroleum industries which are the backbone of the area economic development. www.shrimpandpetroleum.org
for $8. Visit Cajundome.com for more information.
FRIDAY, JULY 27
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♦ Uncorked: Salvador Dali; The Paul and Hilliard
MAGAZINE EVENTS CALENDAR
University Art Museum - 6:00 pm - 8:00 pm ♦ On the Rocks: A Yacht Rocking Cocktail Cruise; Social
Entertainment in the parking lot next to Jefferson Street Pub - 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm. $20 tickets available at socialentertainment.net.
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