10 things that can ruin a relationship

10 Things That Can Ruin a Relationship

Any kind of relationship does not come easy in life, especially the one where two people decide to share their lives together. People often forget that everybody is different and unique in their own way and therefore living and sharing a life requires few compromises, lot of understanding and of course the love and passion for the someone special.

Today where every individual is fighting for their own identity, they forget that having a partner by your side while you find your ways to the maze of life is like a blessing and therefore it is important that you do not take that person for granted and have a life which is filled with happy moments along with your better half.

If there is one thing we all want in our life after money is having the love that makes our life safe, secure and worth a beautiful journey. Many of us battle to the realities of life to save our breaking relationships and try hard to make them work. But what we don’t realize is that, there are some things which slowly suck away the life out of that relationship.

If we could just avoid doing those things, maybe we would not take the love of the people to the sudden

death sentence.

To list a few, we have come up with following things that can ruin your relationship and if you are doing any of those, then simply DON’T DO them because the love you have found is worth fighting for.

1. Being too selfish One of the major things that is ruining a relationship these days is the fact that everybody is selfish. In this fast moving world, where all people want is to make them known and heard, they have to work pretty hard and for that reason, they first and foremost think about their own self.

When such a thing is okay to have a great career or successful profession, it definitely does not work in personal life. In marriage or in relationship, it is important that you are selfless and believe in giving away your whole self in order to have long lasting love.

The more selfish you get, the more interest the other person loses in you. If there is one thing that destroys love is selfishness and solely putting oneself in the forefront instead of the other. It is needed to

remember that in a relationship, it is never about “I” but “We”.

2. Not paying attention about appearance Once we are committed, we start taking our partners for granted. He hardly pay attention to personal grooming or take care of our appearance and looks and think that since we have a partner who would love us no matter what, why do all the work? This idea is absolutely wrong.

It is normal for any long term relationship to lose it spark and charm over a period of time and in situations like this, it is important that both the partners make that little effort which may rekindle the romance in their life and give freshness and new avatar to the dull relationship.

Such things are so small yet have huge impacts.

Things like having a new haircut, or dressing differently or simply putting up your little black dress for your guy, surprising your girl with new look might just bring the element of surprise in your life and work out in a perfect way to add a pinch of happiness and romance in your life.

3. Cutting the Communication For any relationship to survive and have a long healthy life, communication serves as a great help.

Most relationships today are ruined because people have stopped talking to each other and worst they have stopped listening also.

For every problem you face in your relationship, it is said and advised that the solutions come out from talking it out and coming to conclusions which otherwise cannot be made.

Cutting all communications mostly lead to assumptions and this dangerously affects the bond.

When we don’t talk to our partners, the wall of silence is created between two individuals and puts up a barrier in their love.

People have become so engrossed in their virtual life and existence that talking to one another seems like a big task. And when such situation arises, the relationship bond is held very loosely.

4. Bad Habits It is seen these days that people are so fond of their

lifestyle that they hardly think about making changes into it and compromising. From carefree single life to a committed relationship, a whole lot of things change and the scenarios change. For such changes to happen in an easy way, it is hoped that people give up certain things of their lifestyle and adjust accordingly.

From various addictions (alcohol, gambling and porn) to things that might hamper the trust in the relationship, it is needed that the partner knows that it is time to let go of bad habits or else they will destroy whatever good you have between you and your partner.

Often it is said that it is essential that as the relationship grows, a person needs to be more evolved and matured and for this reason only, it is important that bad habits are thrown away and start of new things with your partner should be looked ahead in future.

5. Not Enough space to Breathe Partners in a relationship mostly takes clinginess as a sign of love and compassion which is absolutely an absurd idea. Every individual needs a personal space

which sometimes does not involve the other partner.

And to make relationship breathy and airy, it is important that both the partners give valid space and let the other person have their time as and when required.

Also another mistake partner’s do in order to ruin the love is letting friends and family in the relationship in order to seek their expert advice which often turns out to the ruining element. When a relationship is made of two people, it hardly makes any sense to involve the outsiders to solve their problems.

6. Money Matters If sharing life becomes a thing in a relationship; one should understand that with sharing life come other responsibilities too. Suddenly every decision you take is for two people and not for single one and in the same way, all the important matters also consists of two people now.

Out of all the matter, money is the only element which has the power to ruin what you have. Ladies consistently over spending the budget and men being too miser is what makes matter worse. Hence it is advised that never mix love and money together and

it’s always better to talk things out before making any money decisions.

7. Dullness and Boring routine Life has become so predictable in today's time that people get easily bored. The monotonous routines and same happenings over and over again make life and relationship pretty dull and grey. At moments like this, when partners become stale in relationshipsdoing the same thing over and over becoming predictable, causes slow and dreadful death of the love and bond.

What partners do the most wrong are not trying new things and adopting new habits which may save their drowning relationship. People have become so bored that they hardly try to save what they have and this part of losing effort in relationship destroys the couple.

8. Complaining Unnecessarily This unnecessary urge to control everything and everyone around has made human a mechanic robot which has high expectations. And when those expectations are not met, we start to complain and

put the other person on the pedestal of asking questions. Complaining unnecessarily to your partners for the things that must be according to your expectation is silly and wrong and has the power of finishing up a healthy relationship. This situation mainly arises because we want other person to be perfect and forget that perfection is an illusion and honestly a boring concept.

Degrading or discounting the other person and complaining of whatever they are doing wrong makes everything damaged.

9. Being Over Critical and trying to change the other person In every relationship, there are lot of phases where couples goes through and take their relationship journey farther. In the early stages, they experience the honeymoon phase where everything is filled with rainbows, unicorns, love hearts and candies.

The romance is at its peak and all the mushy things seem too much romantic. Soon this phase ends and reality hits. During the real face to face scenarios, couples often find every little detail about each other which irritates them and try to change the other

person.

Suddenly the way they dress, talk, socialize, live are the things that get on their nerves. They become over critical of the other person and wishes to change the whole persona of their partner which ironically was the thing they fell in love with.

So in the end phase, either one of the partner gets irritated and frustrated of the over analyses and criticism and gets out of the relationship or if they change, lacking or losing confidence ,they definitely don’t remain the same ones and this causes much bigger problems and ruins the relationship.

10. Distrust and Blame Game When two people decide to come together and make up a relationship, they form into couple only after having few things which make them a perfect companion for each other. And one of those important elements of relationship is trust. Most of today’s relationships are not able to survive because of the scarcity of trust.

With so much going on in everybody’s life and so many changes constantly, the insecurities and fear

run hand in hand. During such time it is obvious that partners are not able to trust the other one easily.

Because of distrust comes up another evil which harms relationship is that of blame game.

Everybody is so obsessed with their own identity that they do not at any cost want to compromise anything for the sake of love and therefore they want themselves to be perfect one who cannot make mistakes.

It is silly to assume that anyone can have all the qualities and would be perfect. Blaming others for the problems is like going around the bush and not finding solutions. Such attitude and thinking often disrupts the easy going relationships and ruins everything.

Everybody craves for love in their life and when they have it in form of a loving partner and stable relationship, they start taking things for granted and often do things that damage the soul of relationship and slowly and slowly takes away the life and fun out of the bond they share.

It is said that lucky are those who found true love and if true love is too unrealistic in today’s era, at least

having someone by your side through thick and thin is worth everything. But so many things come in the way of relationship that it all starts to fall apart.

Mostly people don’t pay enough attention to the little things they do which might harm and destroy their relationship and therefore falling off and ruining of relationships happens.

To all those who have their ‘someone special’ and wish to nurture it and make it blossom with happiness, we advise you to start taking care of little things. When it’s about love, compromises, adjustments and understanding goes a long way and if you wish to save the special part of your life, know that everything is fair in love and war.

Controlling anger and spreading love is what can make your relationship healthy. If you let go off your insecurities, be better friends with your partner, have respect and love for each other and keep an open mind to try new things, nothing can have the power to ruin things for you.

All you have to do is be selfless and positive person who believes in spreading happiness.