Families Suffolk Magazine: Issue 44 - January / February 2019

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Education Not sure whether your child would do best at an academy, free school or grammar school?

We look at the different options available.

Clubs & Classes Our guide to some of the local clubs & classes available for the whole family.

New: Family First Aid Mini First Aid advice on choking Issue 45: January / February 2019

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Welcome & Contents

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In this Issue

Happy New Year... Welcome to the first issue of 2019. I hope you had a lovely Christmas and enjoyed some quality time with your family.

I would firstly like to thank Orwell Park School for supplying the lovely cover image for our current issue. You can read more about the school within our Education Feature on pages 7-11.

We also have a great guide to the different types of secondary schools now available, from community schools to grammar schools, we help you understand the key differences between the various options now available.

New for 2019: I am very pleased to tell you about a new Family First Aid column we are launching this year in association with Mini First Aid Suffolk. In the first of these regular columns we are covering choking, please see page 4.

The New Year is also a great time for your family members, young and old to join a new club or class. So to help give you some inspiration, I have put together a guide to some of our family favourites, including more detailed listings for dance and performing arts classes and swimming lessons on pages 15-17.

Remember you can also stay in touch with all the latest news and event information by following us on facebook and twitter.

With Best Wishes

Stacey Phillips

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Family Health & Wellbeing

mini First Aid advice on

ch o ki n g Many parents do not have the basic first aid knowledge to help save a child’s life. Naomi Cooper from Mini First Aid Suffolk is here to help in our new First Aid column.

In this issue, we are covering choking – one of the most common worries for any parent or carer.

For many parents weaning their babies, the possibility of them choking is nerve wracking. The worry doesn’t stop as babies turn to toddlers, and they continue to stuff food in their mouths in vast quantities. Then we have dreaded older sibling toys; think lego and the like. We as parents fear choking especially when we hear so many terrible stories in the press.

So, What do we do?

Firstly, we show our babies and children that grown-ups eat sitting down, chew properly and that we never put too much in our mouths. We never leave a baby or child eating without supervision. There is a big difference between gagging and choking and its vital that as parents we can recognise the difference so we know what to do.

The charity provide counselling to promote well being by enabling people to have healthy relationships in families, between individuals, and in the community. They enable young people to develop healthy balanced relationships in later life through a range of therapeutic services and drama based workshops in schools.

The Change Project aim to empower participating young people to: • Understand the components and characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships.

• Discuss attitudes towards relationships constructively.

• Recognise early warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.

• Identify where and how to seek support.

• Advocate respect and equality in their peer groups and communities.

• Develop communication skills.

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Suffolk Mum Stacey Cole, and pupils from Long Melford Primary School are raising awareness about children’s mental health...

how to deal with choking...

Advice for choking child (aged 1 – puberty)

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Encourage child to cough.

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With the child standing up, give 5 back slaps between shoulder blades using the heel of your hand. Check if anything comes out.

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Up to 5 abdominal thrusts. Clenched fist between tummy and breastbone, with other hand over the top. In & upwards motion. Check if anything comes out. If nothing has come out, call 999.

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Continue cycles of 5 back slaps & 5 abdominal thrusts, until the obstruction comes out or CPR is required.

You must always refer to hospital any child or baby who has been choking and where abdominal manoeuvres have been used.

The techniques for babies under 1 are very different. Please book onto a class to have hands on practice of all these techniques and much more.

To book onto a Mini First Aid course near you visit: www.suffolk.minifirstaid.co.uk The 2 hour class is £20pp, the cost of our child’s life is priceless. Private classes in your own home with friends of family are also available.

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The Change Project are an East Anglian based charity committed to preventing conflict in relationships, whatever form that takes. It could be a parent experiencing aggressive behaviour from a child, a partner experiencing controlling and abusive behaviour, or a couple having arguments and fights. Whatever your age, background or sexual orientation they can help you resolve the problems in your relationships.

Suffolk Mum of two, Stacey Cole, a Youth Counsellor and Psychotherapist for The Change Project, will be undergoing a very personal challenge in April this year when she climbs Snowdonia to raise money for the charity. Stacey has also organised a sponsored walk in March with the children and family and friends of Long Melford Primary School to help raise local awareness about the importance of recognising and addressing mental health issues early on.

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Family Health & Wellbeing

Coming to Suffolk in 2019...

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Mama Wellness has been operating now for over 3 years, with a focus on pregnant and postnatal woman’s wellness.

Services within this venture have grown over this time, and many women have benefitted from assistance with fitness and movement courses, massage therapies, scar work, mindfulness session, purposeful exercise classes and emotional support.

Nina Parnham, the owner of Mama Wellness has been working with women for over two decades as a Midwife and Wellness Practitioner. It soon became apparent to Nina that women required support at other times in their life, including during their fertility journey and as they were entering the menopause.

Nina felt that she wanted to offer a service that enabled women to feel their best at every life phase.

Nina comments: “There is much misinformation out there about women’s health, and the common perception is that women have to just deal with the issues that they are confronted with’. I feel that all women have a right to health and wellness. There is a real need for women to know that there is support for them to live their life entirely and love the body that they are in’.

Nina now plans to develop a range of new services in 2019, and will be changing the name of the business to:

Suffolk Woman’s Wellness Centre® - SWWC SWWC also plans to open a new centre in January 2020 where they can combine exercise and movement, specialist massage, holistic therapies, nutrition and mindset from the top women’s health practitioners in the area, to provide a centre of excellence, where women can obtain all they need under one roof.

Nina concludes “Our main aim for all women is to educate and empower them, create communities, tackle taboos and provide much needed rehab and recovery, because we understand the importance of being in control of your body and feeling good in it”.

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Fertility: Therapies and coaching for women experiencing challenges with their fertility

Mama Wellness : Purposeful movement classes, Yoga, Workshops, Massage and Therapies, Courses, Pelvic Floor and Core Recovery Programmes, Hypnobirthing and Birth Trauma Counselling.

One You: Movement courses, pelvic health

workshops, seminars, support groups and exercise classes for women who are peri/post and in the menopause.

Femme Elements: Support through holistic services including groups, workshops and seminars, therapies and holistic services for women experiencing issues with breast or pelvic cancers, thyroid , digestive, endometriosis, hormonal tinnitus and PCOS.

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Family Law

Unmarried Couples:

Where the Law Stands It has become increasingly common for many couples to live together in a long term committed relationship without the benefits of marriage. Before entering into a co-habitation arrangement, it is crucial to be aware that the legal rights afforded to married couples are very different to those afforded to co-habitees.

It is a very common misconception that if a couple co-habit, they will automatically acquire certain rights by virtue of the fact that they automatically become a “common law Wife” or a “common law Husband”. There is, in fact, no such thing as a “common law Wife” or Husband, and therefore, has no basis in English law.

Property Unlike married parties, the law treats unmarried couples as two separate individuals. This means that any assets enjoyed by the couple, for example, bank accounts, savings, investments, etc., will remain in the ownership of whoever’s name that asset is in. If those assets are held in joint names, then upon separation, they will generally be divided equally, unless there is clear, convincing and persuasive evidence to the contrary that the parties agreed to something else.

It goes without saying that it is important for the children to maintain contact with both parents, but in the cases of unmarried parents, particularly for Fathers, the rights can be more complex. In any event, the parent with whom the children remain living is able to claim child support for the children.

get professional advice This is a very specialist area of law which requires the assistance of a Family Solicitor with experience of this type of situation.

To get some professional advice call Carol Robinson on: 01473 611211.

If the couple own a home together in joint names, then again, that asset will usually be divided equally between them unless there is clear evidence that there was an agreement to the contrary. Upon separation, most commonly one person will buy the other out of the property to the equivalent of a half share of the equity, and will take on the outstanding mortgage. If this is not a viable option, then the property will simply have to be sold, and the proceeds divided equally.

Often time, one party will have already owned the home before the co-habiting relationship formed, or the property may have been purchased in one party’s name. This being the case, the starting point in resolving this situation is that the sole owner will retain full ownership upon separation. This arrangement brings about complexities when the non-owning partner has contributed financially to the property by means of mortgage payments, the purchase deposit, or paying for home improvements. There may be a formal or informal agreement between the couple that the property was intended to be jointly owned, despite the fact that the formalities of changing the property title were not attended to. This being the case, it will be up to the non-owning party, along with his/her Solicitor, to prove that he/she is entitled to a share of the property.

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Education

Options for Secondary School

By Andrew Campbell

Not sure whether your child would do best at an academy, free school or grammar school?

The terminology surrounding the different types of secondary school can be baffling. Families explains the differences between the various types of school to help you begin the journey of deciding which school would best suit your child.

All schools fall into two broad categories – they are either state schools which are governmentfunded, either directly or via a local authority, and are free for all pupils, or they are independent schools charging fees.

The education provided in all state schools and some independent schools is inspected and reported on by Ofsted, an independent department of government. You can find Ofsted inspection reports at www.gov.uk/government/ organisations/ofsted

Community Schools Community schools, also known as maintained schools, are state schools controlled and run by the local authority.

The local authority owns the land and buildings and determines the admission arrangements (such as a catchment area). Community schools have to follow the national curriculum and stick to national pay and conditions for teachers.

Academies Academies are state secondary schools which operate outside of local authority control, receiving their funding directly from the government.

These schools have more freedom and control over curriculum, school hours, term dates, and staff pay and conditions. These schools are run by an academy trust which employs the staff. Some academies have sponsors such as businesses, universities, other schools, faith groups or voluntary groups. Whilst academies do not have to follow the national curriculum, they must be seen to be offering a “balanced and broadly based” education and are held accountable through a legally binding ‘funding agreement’.

Free Schools Free schools are a type of academy, but are entirely new schools, established where there is local parent demand, or independent schools becoming state schools for the first time. Free schools are funded directly by the government and have the same powers over their curriculum, finances and teacher recruitment as academies. Teachers, parents, existing schools, educational charities, universities, or community groups can set up free schools.

Specialist Schools Specialist schools are state secondary schools that can

focus on a particular subject area such technology, language, sports or arts.

The schools must meet full national curriculum requirements but have a special focus on the chosen specialist area.

Faith Schools and Faith Academies Faith schools and faith academies are affiliated with a certain religion or religious body, such as the Church of England. Unless they are an academy, they have to teach the National Curriculum, although they can teach what they like in RE lessons.

Faith academies don’t have to teach the national curriculum and have their own admissions processes.

These schools may get some of their funding from a religious organisation, which also usually owns the school buildings and the land.

Anyone can apply for a place, but priority is often given to children who practise the faith of the school.

Grammar Schools Grammar schools are state secondary schools that select their pupils by means of an examination taken by children at age 11, known as the "11-plus".

They are usually run by a

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governing body, which acts as admission authority. There are only about 163 grammar schools in England out of a total of about 3,000 state secondaries.

Independent Schools Independent schools are private or public schools and charge fees to attend, rather than being funded by the government. They are governed by a board of governors. Independent schools may provide education for pupils regardless of ability, but some independent schools select students by ability, requiring them to pass an entrance examination or test.

So now you have the basics, the next step on your journey is to visit the schools you are considering. Talk to the head teachers, where possible, but most importantly, talk to the pupils. Secondary school age students are more than capable of articulating what they like or dislike about their school and are likely to be more honest than almost anyone else!

For more information visit www.gov.uk/ childcareparenting /schoolseducation

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Education

Benefits of Outdoor Play and Learning for the under 5’s.

January and February are typically cold months of the year and it is easy to hibernate inside in the warm.

But it doesn’t have to be that way – young children love playing outside in all conditions – whether it’s raining, snowy, or frosty there is still lots of fun to be had. Wrap your child up warm, and head outdoors! Children greatly benefit from the exercise and chance to let off steam which being outside brings. It definitely beats being cooped inside with lots of seasonal germs!

We are lucky within Ipswich to have so many great free outside resources – such as local parks and woods. For young children splashing in puddles, digging in the dirt, creating dens, climbing trees and socialising with other children are great whatever the season. So don’t hibernate this winter – wrap up warm and join in the fun outside!

Forest Learners is the first Outdoors Nursery for Ipswich, where children aged 3 and 4 years will spend the majority of their day play and learning outside regardless of the weather. The Nursery will be opening in January 2019 and will be run by a Qualified Forest school practitioner.

For more details visit www.forestlearners.co.uk or call their parent Nursery Little Learners to find out more: 01473 725454

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Old Buckenham Hall Baby & Toddler Group Tuesdays 10.00am – 11.30am, term time.

Open Day Events Old Buckenham Hall Nursery School, Pre-Prep and Prep School

Sat 26 January 10.00am – 12.30pm Pre-Prep ‘drop-in’ morning Fri 8 February, 9.00am – 12.00pm

Orwell Park Fri 1st February, 9.00am – 12.00pm

On Tuesday mornings babies and toddlers of all ages are welcomed into the Pre-Prep for a Baby and Toddler group – a great insight into life at Old Buckenham Hall.

Set in their beautiful new Nursery classroom, influenced by Reggio and Montessori learning environments, the children are able to make use of natural resources, role-play areas and creative corners. Each week has an exciting theme which is represented through a craft activity, small world play, specially created tuff/texture trays and a selection of sensory baby toys and fine motor control activities.

Pre-Prep teaching staff visit throughout the morning to meet the families and catch up with regulars. They are always happy to answer questions about the Nursery and Pre-Prep and enjoy running specialist sessions with the babies and toddlers.

Every week there are delicious home-baked goodies and a fruit platter, fresh from the Old Buckenham Hall kitchens, along with tea and coffee for the grown-ups.

If you would like to find out more, please contact Old Buckenham Hall on 01449 740252 Email: linda.williams@obh.co.uk | Visit: www.obh.co.uk

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MELTON PRIMARY SCHOOL PUPILS CONTRIBUTE TO NEW TV ANIMATION SHOW

Year 4, 5 and 6 pupils at Melton Primary School in Woodbridge are in with the chance of seeing their creative work included in a new animated show to be aired on Sky in 2019.

In a world first, the pupils have taken part in a workshop run by the creators of Night Zookeeper which will soon be brought to life in a 10 part series of shows. Best known for its awardwinning digital platform which encourages literacy and writing amongst children aged seven and over, Night Zookeeper, is used by thousands of schools not only in the UK, but across the world. It inspires children to invent their own magical animals and then write stories about them.

Night Zookeeper will be the first animated children’s show in the world to collaborate with thousands of children on the creation of each episode. A free microsite and teacher/parent guide for the project will soon launch so that anyone can easily get involved. The show will launch on demand on all Sky platforms in February 2019.

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Local Kumon students honoured at awards ceremony Local students from the Kumon Ipswich Central Study Centre were recognised at an Advanced Student Honour Roll awards ceremony in November 2018, for their success and continued development studying on the Kumon Maths and English Programmes.

Ipswich Borough Council Leader, Councillor David Ellesmere presented students with certificates and medals for their achievement of reaching the Kumon International Standard, and in some cases, surpassing it, meaning they are studying advanced work in comparison to their peers world-wide.

David Ellesmere, who was delighted to present the awards and meet the children, said: “In these uncertain times, education is going to be key. Working on the skills of Mathematics and English will help our children achieve their potential.”

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Developing a life-long love of learning in a magical setting...

Orwell Park, established in 1867, is a co-educational prep school for day pupils and boarders from 2½ to 13. The outstanding beauty of the grounds and the historic 18th century buildings contribute to an inspiring experience which combines the legacy and the traditions of the past with the dynamism and energy of the present and future. Outstanding facilities include a working Victorian observatory, a walled garden with outdoor pool, a nine-hole golf course, floodlit sports facilities, a library in the mansion house.

The new Pre-Prep building caters for pupils from Nursery through to Year 2 boasts state of the art facilities and is situated in a woodland setting, presenting ample opportunity for classes to take advantage of our Forest School. In addition they have a Mother and Toddler group in the Pre-Prep every Wednesday from 9.30am.

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learning strategies tailored to the individual child, lead to high levels of attainment.

Orwell Park pupils are also involved in a comprehensive activity programme, including: orchestra and various ensembles, chess, community service, skiing, equestrianism, climbing, OPS Challenge (a mini D of E course), camping and campfire fun in the school’s woodlands, Art and DT clubs, Brownies and Blueys (boys’ club), as well as numerous large scale theatrical productions.

Boarding is extremely popular at Orwell Park and takes the form of flexible, weekly and full boarding. Pupils choose to board, driven by a desire to enjoy the company of friends once the normal school day is over.

Open Morning Friday 1 February 2019.

For more information contact the Registrar: 01473 653224, email: admissions@orwellpark.org.

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Family Health & Wellbing

huddl Support for the parenting journey

Teaching is the second greatest vocation – the first is being a parent for which we get no training whatsoever.

Huddl research found that many parents wanted to learn more about parental pressure and its effect – good or bad on our children and young people. In this article Huddl advisor and speaker Dr Rosemary Taylor provides some good tips and possibly some new years resolutions for parents and carers!

Yes, it can be tough and sadly ‘constant worry’ seems to be the default mode for many parents today, as we rush through life trying to prepare a kale smoothie whilst hurrying the children into the car to get to pre-school Mandarin (yes, you know who you are!!)

Here are ten points to think about that may help you get the balance right.

1. If we’re honest, our egos ride on how well our children do. We take pleasure from their successes and are disappointed by their failures, not just for them but for ourselves too.

2. However, apart from great genes, unconditional love and a good education, one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is confidence.

3. Crucially, we do this not by endlessly pushing or praising them, but by allowing them to do things for themselves. When you do something for them that they are quite capable of doing for themselves, whether it is carrying a school bag, ‘over-helping’ with homework or a school project or even taking over in a friendship issue, you erode your child’s growing self-esteem.

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4. Performance at school goes a long way to shaping a child’s future, you know that – and so do they. But it’s a bit like being the trainer of a fighter – you can coach all you like but you can’t go into the ring with them. So the best thing you can do is to stand back and give advice in-between rounds.

5. “If you don’t start studying you’ll end up leaving school with nothing, all you’ll be qualified to do is fry burgers or stack shelves in a supermarket…” Unsurprisingly this usually has little or no effect other than to make them feel even worse than they do already! The reality is that most young people WANT to do well in school – they don’t lack motivation but what they do sometimes lack is self-discipline.

6. Supervision – agreed timed study periods without phone, TV, internet (except strictly for educational purposes) i.e. exactly as it would be at school – is sensible. At secondary age, and especially when approaching exams, this should be in place whether they have homework or not. After the given time, they can do what they like –

free time. Stay with it, it does require effort and input from you too but it works.

7. Sometimes it’s ok – and indeed important, to nudge.

But it can be a two-edged sword so needs to be used carefully because whilst a gentle push can achieve positive results, there are risks. Push too hard, and they simply stop. High hopes can be a real burden.

8. Your role is not to be the smartest or most capable person in the room, your role is to interact, collaborate and foster talent. They will, at times, be discouraged or distracted at which point she will expect you to do the heavy lifting. You can help, but you can’t do it for them – you can and do invest effort in your children, but they have to invest effort in themselves too, that’s the simple truth.

9. Be generous, be openminded, be clear, be persistent, be present – give them your time and energy and, most importantly, the benefit of the doubt. Believe in them, even when they stumble or fail to believe in themselves.

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10. Always remember that you cannot and should not protect a child from conflict, disappointments, frustrations or mistakes – these experiences are inevitable and affirm your child’s ability to cope with challenges.

Through these experiences’ children sharpen their problem-solving skills, learn to see life as it is and develop tenacity and strength.

About Huddl Advisor Dr Rosemary Taylor

Dr Rosemary Taylor is an advisor to the UN, COBIS consultant, regional editor of The Good Schools Guide and International speaker on the subject of the development of the teenage brain.

Visit www.huddl.uk to read other articles by Rosemary and other Huddl advisors as well as view the latest resources and videos.

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Suffolk Museums

Sounds like fun at the Red House!

Classical music is not traditionally seen as family friendly, but the Britten-Pears Foundation at The Red House, Aldeburgh aims to change that with a transformed programme of events and educational visits to engage and inspire families and younger audiences.

School activities The Britten-Pears Foundation promotes the musical legacy of Benjamin Britten and Peter Pears. The Foundation, based at their former home, offers visitors a chance to explore the house, library and composition studio as well as extensive exhibition space and five acres of gardens, (a friendly spot for picnics in the summer months).

School Offers at Suffolk Museums The Museum of East Anglian Life

The Red House runs numerous projects with schools, young people and families. New school visits include ‘Create an Opera Day’, where children take on the role of musicians, designers, authors and performers as they learn about Benjamin Britten and one of his best loved operas. ‘Musical Mini Beasts’ offers pupils the chance to hunt for music and mini beasts in the varied environments of The Red House’s beautiful gardens. The Red House is also now an Arts Mark partner and Arts Award venue and offers budding artists the chance to complete an Arts Award Discover qualification.

Under 5s are not left out - Mini Music Makers is a free music and play session developed with families and children’s organisations which include singing and creative play.

Norfolk and Suffolk Aviation Museum

Awards recognition

The museum specialises in KS2 sessions that can be tailored to suit or self-led visits which include meeting costumed characters and object handling sessions.

In recognition of The Red House’s work to engage schools, families and a younger audience, the organisation was Shortlisted in the 2018 Kids in Museums Family Friendly Museum Award as well as the Best Heritage Venue in the 2018 School Travel Awards.

For any further information about education at The Red House please contact Joe Carr, Collections and Learning Curator: j.carr@brittenpears.org.

The museum is open for educational visits all year round and pre-booked educational visits are free during the summer open season.

www.eastanglianlife.org.uk

The Norfolk & Suffolk Aviation Museum’s World War II school’s session includes learning survival skills and a chance to try out the museum’s flight simulator.

www.aviationmuseum.net

The Long Shop Museum

www.longshopmuseum.co.uk

Moyse’s Hall Museum The museum offers a unique opportunity for schoolchildren to visit one of the oldest Medieval buildings in Bury St Edmunds.

www.moyseshall.org

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30 day What’s Up Challenge - 30 things for young people to try to support their emotional wellbeing.

The 30 day ‘What’s Up’ challenge is back!

Get ready for our 30 day What’s Up Challenge to help blow away those January blues and help young people feel energised and happier about the year ahead.

From Friday 1 February 2019, The Source for young people in Suffolk, will be posting out daily challenges that young people can do with schools, friends and family to get them talking, shake up the daily routine and get them trying out new things.

Are you up to the challenge?

A new challenge will be revealed every day on: www.thesource.me.uk Follow us on Facebook @thesourcewebsite and on Twitter @sourcesuffolk and use the hashtag #WhatsupSuffolk to get involved!

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Clubs & Classes

Clubs & Classes The New Year is a great time for your family members to join a new club or class. So to help give you some inspiration, we have put together an overview of some of our family favourites, including more detailed listings for dance and performing arts classes and swimming lessons.

JOIN INSPIRE Join AN an Inspire SUFFOLK CLUBinIN2019 2018 Suffolk Club A range of sports and holiday clubs for your child!

INSPIRE SUFFOLK Inspire Suffolk know a thing or two about sports.

Their sports team deliver high-quality coaching at local primary schools, weekly sports sessions and disability sports sessions to name a few. This means they see first-hand the benefits that sport can have on young people. They are a local charity aiming to provide activities to motivate and inspire young people, and run a range of sports activities for all ages across Suffolk. Their sessions are always centred around having fun.

Find out more at www.inspiresuffolk.org.uk Registered Charity Number: 1101519

www.inspiresuffolk.org.uk | 01473 353194

Mini First Aid

Mini Frist Aid offer award winning, accessible and affordable baby & child first aid classes across Suffolk.

The 2 hour friendly, relaxed class covers all essential first aid for babies and children giving you the vital hands on learning needed to gain knowledge and confidence. Babies are more than welcome to come along too, or get some friends and family together and host a class in the comfort of your own home. Mini First Aid also run classes for kids from as young as three.

www.suffolk.minifirstaid.co.uk | 07706 068980

would you know what to do in an emergency?

2 Hour Baby & Child First Aid Classes, covering CPR, Choking, Bumps, Bleeds, Breaks, Burns, Febrile Convulsions and Meningitis Awareness Pre crawling babies welcome Classes are held at various locations across Suffolk or why not host a private class in the comfort of your own home?

£20

naomi@minifirstaid.co.uk www.suffolk.minifirstaid.co.uk

OneLife Suffolk All OneLife Suffolk Holidays Clubs and 10-week Family programmes are FREE for any child on or above the 91st centile. Siblings can also attend if only one child in the family is eligible.

Their 10-week Family Programmes offer weekly, one hour sessions covering topics such as portion sizes, understanding food labels and the importance of physical activity through fun and interactive activities.

Their FREE Holiday clubs offer up to 5 days of fun games and activities to help keep your children entertained during the school holidays.

www.onelifesuffolk.co.uk | 01473 718193

Helping local people to live healthier lives

FREE

10 Week Family Programmes and School Holiday Clubs*

New groups starting in 2019

Ipswich - Felixstowe - Kesgrave - Sudbury - Leiston Stowmarket - Bury St Edmunds - Haverhill - Lowestoft www.onelifesuffolk.co.uk | 01473 718193 | info@onelifesuffolk.co.uk

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Clubs & Classes

Dance & Performing Arts CDC Street Dance

where little boys and girls love to dance

The award winning movement to music, dance and singing programme for boys and girls from 6 months upwards run within a fun, safe and caring environment.

babyballet® Tots 6 - 18mths babyballet® Tinies 18mths - 3yrs babyballet® Movers 3 - 4yrs babyballet® Groovers 4 - 6yrs babyballet® Tappers 3yrs + Exciting classes available in

Sudbury, Bury St Edmunds & Ipswich Contact Miss Abigail on

CDC Street Dance, was established in March 2011 and is run by Sophie Dilworth. CDC Street Dance offers shows, workshops with professional dancers, examinations, holiday fun days, birthday parties, awards, interschool competition, regional and UK final competitions throughout the country.

In 2018 CDC’s team Star Troopers became 101 UK Champions, SDI UK Champions and STarSTreet Troopers were ranked 12th in the world.

Red House Troopers were National Street Dance Challenge camber champions. At the UDO World Championships 2018 Zyrus Degville placed 4th in the world and Chloe Smith placed 6th in the world.

256 pupils also took part in the successful annual Christmas shows 2018. www.cdcstreetdance.co.uk | 07507 806787

Claydon•Stratford St Mary•Capel St Mary•Ipswich•Kesgrave ning Award win ce! an D t Stree

07580 693 747 sudbury@babyballet.co.uk babyballet Sudbury @bbSudbury

Best Baby/Toddler Class

Call 07507806787 cdcstreetdance@outlook.com

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Best Baby/Toddler Class

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Babyballet babyballet® Sudbury, Bury St Edmunds & Ipswich is a fun, awardwinning pre-school dance concept for girls and boys aged 6 months to 5 years. babyballet® dance classes allow babies, toddlers and young children to enjoy the physical and social benefits of ballet, song and dance in a safe, caring, positive and informal environment.

With a real focus on learning through play, the unique babyballet® syllabus offers every child the opportunity to build their confidence and social skills, learning manners, discipline and respect while developing their basic ballet technique, coordination, musicality, balance, posture and rhythm.

Chloe Kinrade School of Dance Chloe Kinrade School of Dance, founded in 2016 offers dance classes in Rendlesham and Wickham Market, Suffolk for children aged 2.5 years-16 years of age. Chloe trained at the Centre Performing Arts College, London and has gained her ISTD (Imperial Society of Teachers of Dancing) teaching qualifications in Classical Ballet, Tap and Modern. Students have the opportunity to participate in shows, summer fetes and performances throughout the year as well as being entered into exams following the ISTD Examination Board. Please contact Chloe to book a free trial class.

07940469026 | chloe.kinrade@hotmail.co.uk facebook.com/chloekinradeschoolofdance.co.uk www.chloekinradeschoolofdance.co.uk

Coop Juniors

Stagecoach

• Ipswich www.coopjuniors.co.uk 01473 212181

• Ipswich www.stagecoach.co.uk/ipswich 07900 657780

Miss Lesley’s School of Performing Arts

• Woodbridge & Felixstowe www.stagecoach.co.uk/ woodbridge | 01728 688627

There are four different age groups available:• babyballet® Tots 6-18mths • babyballet® Tinies 18mths-3yrs • babyballet® Movers 3-4yrs • babyballet Groovers 4-5yrs

• Boxford • Bildeston www.facebook.com/MissLesley 07957 351941

You can see our full timetable of classes available and book a three week trial for £15 via our website www.babyballet.co.uk

www.pqacademy.com 0800 531 6282

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Clubs & Classes

Quay School of Dance

The CTC

Quay School of Dance

• Needham Market www.thectc.co.uk | 01449 721633

The Suffolk Academy Of Dance & Performing Arts

D B U RY & E L D IN S U C LA S S E S H EDMUNDS R B U RY S T N , H T R O IX W Pupils accepted from 3 years

• Ballet • Modern • Jazz • Tap

• Street • Cheer-leading • Adult Tap • Adult Ballet

The Quay School of Dance is a warm and friendly school which aims to deliver enjoyable and well-structured classes in a positive and nurturing environment.

Pre-school children are encouraged to use their imagination through music and movement in Ballet classes. From age four children can do Ballet, Tap & Modern. Street/Cheer-leading sessions are offered to children above the age of six.

Exams - Shows - Summer Schools t: 07771 648649 e: quaydance@hotmail.co.uk

Fun, informal Tap & Ballet classes take place for adults of all ages and abilities. Come along – you may just love it!

www.quaydance.co.uk Quay Dance

www.quaydance.co.uk | 07771 648649

• Ipswich www.sadpa.co.uk | 07889 982957

The Suffolk School of Dance • Hadleigh www.suffolkdancehadleigh.myfree.website | 07754 720970

The Theatre Emporium - School of Performing Arts • Ipswich www.theatreemporium.co.uk 07983 338203

Football | Netball | Rugby Suffolk Football Association Suffolk FA is the not-for-profit, governing body of football in Suffolk.

They grow participation, promote diversity and regulate the sport for everyone to enjoy.

To find a local club visit: www.suffolkfa.com

Suffolk Netball Association Suffolk Netball Association’s aim is to promote, develop, encourage and increase netball throughout Suffolk.

To find a local club or netball workshop visit: www.suffolknetballassociation. weebly.com.

Suffolk Rugby Union Suffolk Rugby Union is an organisation that manages rugby clubs in the Suffolk region. There are 18 rugby clubs that compete at different levels within Suffolk.

To find a local club visit: www.suffolkrfu.pitchero.com.

Swimming Water Babies Weekly Local Classes

iSwim • Clopton • Eyke • Pettistree • Melton • Ipswich • Swilland • Woodbridge www.iswim.bi | 01473 277085

Puddleducks

A watery world of confidence, skill and fun!

To give your baby a splashing start call

01206 841 126

or visit www.waterbabies.co.uk Let’s teach your baby to swim!

With Christmas over for another year and the days getting longer, what better time to wave goodbye to the winter blues than splashing into a Water Babies class near you.

Swimming provides one of the best forms of exercise for both you and your little one and is just as perfect for cold winter days as it is for hot summer ones.

It’s a fantastic way of burning off those festive treats, getting out and about having fun, meeting old friends and making new ones – while all the time teaching your baby or toddler a potentially life-saving skill.

For more information, email blastoff@waterbabies.co.uk, call 01206 841126 or visit www.waterbabies.co.uk.

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• Birch Farm • Hintelsham • Sudbury • Levington www.puddleducks.com/localteams/south-suffolk 01473 824582

South Suffolk Leisure • Kingfisher Leisure Centre, Sudbury • Hadleigh Pool & Leisure www.ssleisure.co.uk

Mid-Suffolk Leisure • Stowmarket www.everyoneactive.com 01449 674980

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Private Client Law

What is the real cost of care?

The cost of care is different for every person and is affected by factors such as; how much you have by way of savings, what income you receive, what your medical condition is and whether that changes quickly or not. Lindsey Sharples from the Private Client team at Barker Gotelee helps answer some common questions asked.

What is the real cost of care?

In my experience the cost of care is often a fluid issue and costs can change drastically dependant on the factors mentioned above. Generally speaking, what a person pays when he or she enters a care home does not remain the same for the entire duration of the stay. In order to provide further detail we would need to analyse each case individually to ensure that the resident and their family are as prepared as possible.

Life | Land | Business

Peace of mind for your family across the generations Whether you have a young family or are enjoying spending time with your grandchildren, at Barker Gotelee Solicitors, we’re here to help you plan a happy and secure future for you and your loved ones.

Our friendly, approachable and experienced team can offer a wide range of services, including advice about:

· Wills containing guardianship provisions · Setting up trusts for young children/grandchildren · Wills following a divorce or separation

· · · ·

Tax efficient gift giving Inheritance Tax planning Powers of Attorney Estate planning and asset protection

For your life, land and business, we’re here to help.

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How can we protect assets from care fees assessments?

The care rules state that you must not ‘deliberately deprive yourself of assets within 6 months contemplation of moving in to a care home’. We must therefore be very careful when thinking of giving away assets if the primary aim is to avoid paying care fees. With careful planning, if you start dealing with assets early enough this should be avoidable; however it is imperative that you take legal advice in order to ensure anything you do falls within the rules. This area can be a complete minefield and if you are deemed to have deliberately deprived yourself of assets then the local authority can make you reverse any transaction, which can obviously turn out to be a costly exercise.

What should we be aware of when entering into care agreement contracts?

Not all care agencies/care homes etc are out to take as much money as they can from residents, however, we must remember that a care home is a business and that you need to pay for the service you receive. All care contracts are different. As with any contract, you need to scrutinise the terms, such as understanding what the notice period is, whether you receive a refund of the deposit upon death, whether the home can increase the fees you pay and, if so, if there is a cap on the amount they can increase by. Furthermore, if your funding changes, you need to know that there is a mechanism for fees to reduce in line with any extra funding you may receive.

What advice is there around moving in with a child – whether their home, or a current property?

Before moving in with a child I would suggest speaking to your solicitor in order to ensure all the pros and cons have been discussed. If you are putting any money into the child’s property it is important to ensure this is ring fenced or that it will pass to the chosen beneficiary upon death. When moving in with a child you need to ensure that this action does not cause any undue issues for the child from the point of view of disputes with siblings, care fees, increasing the size of their estate or issues surrounding what happens to any money you have put in to the property upon your death. There can be a great deal of problems caused if a move such as this is handled incorrectly.

Many people will make it their New Year’s resolution to ensure their Will is in order.

What would be your first piece of advice for 2019?

It is always sensible to ensure your Will is up to date. Once it is up to date you should ensure it remains current and relevant by undertaking reviews of it every 3-5 years. When updating a document as important as a Will I would always advise someone to take proper legal advice from a solicitor.

A solicitor will be able to identify any new areas that may need to be addressed or considered, ie, tax issues or care fee issues. There is a real risk that these issues may be left out if you do not obtain advice from a professional.

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What’s On

What’s on:

January / February

Throughout Jan & Feb

Sat 9th Feb

Sat 16th - Sat 23rd Feb Beauty and The Beast Riverside Theatre Woodridge

Heffalump Hunt Kentwell Hall Written by Patrick Phillips, the owner of Kentwell, follow the poem and travel through fields and woodland, over a stream and through dark tunnels in pursuit of that most elusive of beings...

The Heffalump! But beware!

Will you find the Heffalump before it finds you....!

www.kentwell.co.uk 26th - 28th January Big Garden Bird Watch Sign-up for Big Garden Birdwatch 2019. To request a Free pack visit: www.rspb.org.uk

THREE SAT UNDER THE BANYAN TREE New Wolsey Theatre 11.00am and 2.00pm Near the foothills of the Himalayas, three orphans open a magical book under a Banyan tree. They were told the book wouldn’t give them answers but they’d learn from it, so they stir a pot of milk and watch as three stories of the forest rise from the pages.

Adults: £8 Child (under 16): £5.00

www.ipswich.gov.uk/ content/mini-mammoths

GRUESOME GOINGS ON Framlingham Castle 11am - 3pm

Travel back in time and discover the painful punishments your history teacher’s too timid to tell you about!

Adults: £9.50 Child (under 17): £5.70

www.english-heritage.org.uk Thu 21st Feb

Easton Farm Park Half term fun on the farm

Clay Faces Ipswich Museums 10.15am | 11.15am | 2.15pm

www.wolseytheatre.co.uk Tue 19th Feb

Tue 5th Feb

Mini Mammoths Ipswich Museum 10:15am - 11:15am Interactive sessions for young children and their parents, grandparents or carers. Explore the collections and galleries through a mixture of play, stories, trails, craft and science activities designed to encourage development, communication and curiosity about the world around us.

Cost: £2.20

Mon 18th - Fri 22nd Feb

Milkshake Monkey’s Musical The Ipswich Regent 12.00pm and 3.00pm Milkshake! Monkey is determined to put on a Musical, so spectacular, it will keep the theatre open forever!

Adults: £17 Child (under 16): £15.50

Take inspiration from sculptures in Kiss and Tell: Rodin and Suffolk Sculpture and create your own self-portrait from clay.

This activity is best suited to children aged 5+ FREE activity, no booking required.

www.cimuseums.org.uk Fri 22nd - Sat 23nd Feb Landguard Fort, Felixstowe Half Term Trail 10am - 3pm

Dear Zoo New Wolsey Theatre Various Times

Tom’s Tuesdays Gainsborough’s House, Sudbury 10am - 1pm Family activities every Tuesday during half terms and holidays.

Pop alomg and get stuck in Cost: £2.00

Join in some half term fun with a quiz trail around Landguard Fort.

Normal admission prices apply.

Dear Zoo, the timeless children’s classic book returns to the stage this February .Adults: £8 Child (under 16): £5.00

www.gainsborough.org

www.landguard.com

www.wolseytheatre.co.uk

https://apps.ipswich.gov.uk

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Adventurers Day Out

at Ufford Park Woodbridge

A great day out with the children. Enjoy a round on Congo Rapids, a main meal from the children’s menu & a swim.

THE MERMAID IPSWICH Yarmouth Road, Ipswich IP1 2EN www.mermaidpubipswich.co.uk

ONLY

Family packages available 1 adult, 2 children

£15 per child

(4 - 12 years old)

£45*

* Terms & conditions apply. Food is not included for an adult.

Parents must accompany under 12’s at all times.

t 01394 386871 w www.uffordpark.co.uk

Yarmouth Road | Woodbridge | Suffolk | IP12 1QW

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