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Fun family fitness ideas!
A guide to Internet safety
What to expect from your Nursery
Helping your child deal with stress and anxiety
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News & Views Homes for Hampshire children Hampshire County Council are looking for people who live in the county or surrounding areas to provide homes for Hampshire children who are unable to live with their birth families. We are particularly looking for homes for older children, teenagers, siblings and children with disabilities or special needs. This could be through adoption, long or short term fostering, emergency placements, or providing regular respite breaks through the Family Link scheme.
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Longdown Activity Farm open from February Half-Term Longdown Activity Farm opens the farm gate for the 2015 season, welcoming visitors for February half-term. The Farm will be open from Saturday 14th February, every day, until 1st November, including weekends and Bank Holidays. Whatever the weather, there will be lots of family farmyard fun. The daily timetable is packed with activities, which run throughout the day, giving ample opportunity to see and feed the animals. Have a go at bottle-feeding a kid goat or a calf. Maybe hold a duckling or baby rabbit in their animal handling barn. The pigs are waiting to meet you – and you may even see some piglets. There are lots of animals to meet including Pearl the Shire horse, Abbie the cow, Samuel the donkey, goats galore, ponies, sheep, rabbits, ducks, geese….and lots of new babies! Their popular pony riding will also run throughout the half-term holiday, and at weekends. If the weather is bad, there are plenty of undercover play areas for the children to let off steam. The Farm has a fabulous soft play area, lots of trampolines, a huge straw barn, or the quieter infant play area and sand pit. The Longdown Farm shop, situated at the entrance to the Farm, is stocked with a wide range of local produce. Longdown Activity Farm and Longdown Farm Shop are just off the A35 between Lyndhurst and Southampton. Telephone: 023 8029 2837 www.longdownfarm.co.uk
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After 20 years of making party starting music, Basement Jaxx are back with new music and a string of huge live shows! The energetic, feel good dance duo will be taking to the Castle stage at Victorious Festival Portsmouth on Sunday night. Organisers of the hugely popular South coast family festival are extremely excited to bring the event back after the success of last year, adding more bands, acts, stages, entertainment and facilities! Victorious Festival will see a continuation of the relaxed ethos of last year’s family event with festival goers treated to a huge children’s area, street entertainers, boutique and creative markets and plenty of local produce food stalls to choose from. This year the children’s arena welcomes the addition of a main stage. The stage will showcase local and national talent from schools, clubs and a few well known house hold names
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WIN!! A family ticket to The Sooty Show! 1st February - 11.00am and 2.30pm Izzy Wizzy Lets get busy – It’s The Sooty Show! Direct from Citv, Sooty heads into town in a fabulous new show to delight the whole family. Joining the nations favourite bear will be Sweep, Soo and Sooty's TV Partner Richard Cadell - who will be attempting to keep Sooty from getting up to mischief! It's Sooty's Birthday party and things aren't going to plan. Sooty and Sweep get messy baking the Birthday cake and will Soo ever decide which dress to wear? Special party guests include legendary Sooty favourites Butch the bulldog and Ramsbottom the snake. There's also a chance to meet Richard and Sooty after the show.
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What to expect from your child’s nursery education We’ve all heard about the importance of early years education. According to new research undertaken by academics at the Institute of Education, a child who has gone to pre-school has more chance of getting better exam results and ultimately earning higher wages. So you send your child to nursery, in the hope that it will improve their education prospects. But what are they actually going to do there all day? It’s unlikely your 3-year-old is going to tell you! To give you some idea of what will happen, you can look at the legal requirements for nurseries in the UK. The Early Years Foundation Stage framework is a document that sets out the statutory welfare and developmental goals for children 5 years and under. It gives guidelines for safety and learning and development for all early years providers - all nurseries, child minders, playgroups, preschools and reception classes.
The EYFS explained
The EYFS framework document can seem daunting, but it’s there to ensure that all children receive a suitable level of care. It sets out the legal requirements that keep your child safe and promote their welfare. This includes:
• Basic checks, such as staff security checks • Setting the number of children each member of staff can look after • Ensuring the facilities and equipment are safe and suitable • Checking the quality of the environment, e.g. recommending access to outdoor space.
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It also covers the seven areas of learning and development. These are:
• communication and language • physical development • personal, social and emotional development • literacy • mathematics • understanding the world • expressive arts and design The activities they will do at nursery, to support their learning and development will be unique to your child’s needs. They will learn by playing and exploring, being active, and through creative and critical thinking which takes place both indoors and outside. There is a requirement for ‘continuous provision’, which in layman’s terms means that there needs to be high quality resources and activities available all of the time, so your child can learn through play in lots of different ways.
Assessment
The EYFS also lays out guidelines for assessment of your child’s progress. Soon after your child turns 2, you will get a written summary of how your child is progressing in communication and language, physical development and personal, social and emotional development. Any areas where they need extra help or support will be highlighted at this stage.
The next written assessment will come when your child is 5, usually at the end of their reception year, which is the last year they are classed as being in early years education. This will include assessment of skills such as writing their name, reading and talking about a favourite book, speaking to people your child is not so familiar with or their understanding of numbers. The school will give you a progress report including some of this information.
How will I know how my child is doing?
Your child will have a ‘key person’ at nursery, pre-school or reception class, who is responsible for putting together information on how they are developing. This person will be your main point of contact, and it’s important that you work together and communicate well. Any worries about your child should be discussed with their key worker, and they will be able to build on what your child is learning at home. Look at the full document here: www.gov.uk/government/publications/ early-years-foundation-stageframework--2 For a detailed parent’s guide to the EYFS go to: www.foundationyears.org. uk/files/2014/08/EYFS_Parents_Guideamended.pdf For more general advice for parents: www.ndna.org.uk/parents
Portsmouth High School
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Boundary Oak School is a leading coeducational day and boarding school for 2 - 13 years. • • •
Nursery ‘Taster Day’ Tuesday 20th January Set in 23 acres with Woodland Classrooms Excellent transition to Reception and Pre-Prep
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Education
Exploring the outdoors at Boundary Oak ‘Outstanding’ early years at St Johns the start of a brilliant journey Little St John’s, the Early Years Department of St John’s College, is celebrating after receiving an ‘outstanding’ inspection report from the Independent Schools Inspectorate – just one month after the new setting opened in September. The provision for boys and girls aged 2 to 5 was graded as ‘outstanding’ in every category – the highest possible rating. The report acknowledges the high-quality teaching which ensures all children make ‘excellent progress’ in both the Nursery and Reception Classes. Little St John’s is now registering for the 2015 Reception Class – go along and see their outstanding provision on Tuesday 13 January, or contact them to arrange a visit. St John’s College, Grove Road South, Southsea, PO5 3QW 0845 2698804
Boundary Oak School is a coeducational day and boarding school for pupils aged 2 – 13 years. The Nursery is housed in a secure and purpose-built oak-framed building offering a homely feel with plenty of safe playing space, both inside and out. Set in 23 acres of beautiful Hampshire countryside, Children here are treated as an individual within a family community. School life is a happy learning journey, which is achieved thanks to the friendly atmosphere and beautiful rural surroundings. To support their core curriculum learning, Boundary Oak Nursery near Fareham ensures that what the children learn indoors is enhanced and built upon outside. A short walk across to their own Woodland Classroom takes them on many adventures. It’s great for young explorers who love to recall what they have learnt while out and about, what they have found, and discuss what they have achieved. This outdoor learning environment is used throughout the week, come rain or shine. Forest Fridays are a big favourite among the children each week, where the children put on their wellies and head off to the woods for a variety of activities.
A seamless transition at Brookham Nursery
Boundary Oak School, Wickham Road, Fareham PO17 5BL
The Nursery at Brookham Pre-Prep School in Liphook is an integral part of the School. Nursery children are included in many Reception and whole school activities, helping to make the transition from Nursery to Reception almost seamless as the children are already familiar with the school building, its teachers and many of the daily routines. Nursery children begin learning to read the same way they will continue to do in Reception, just at a gentler pace. Each letter is learnt over the course of a week in a multitude of different ways. This morning the children were making jelly as this week they are learning the letter ‘J’. Then during their weekly visit to Forest School, among the other woodland learning activities, they will make toast over the camp fire to eat with jam. We believe the importance of breadth in the curriculum, especially in the early years, cannot be underestimated. A diverse range of activities and teaching methods are often essential to find the keys to develop the potential in each individual child, and to develop the child’s self-esteem for learning, by playing to their strengths.
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Portsmouth High School, 25 Kent Road, Southsea, PO5 3EQ
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Added extras at Portsmouth High Nursery The Nursery at Portsmouth High School is a very special place where children are welcomed into a warm and inclusive environment. Our Early Years building is light and modern with access to a large wooded garden offering plenty of space for girls to play and explore. Curiosity and creativity are encouraged and a whole new world of discovery is opened up for enquiring young minds. Portsmouth High Nursery follows an Early Years Foundation Stage PLUS curriculum which uses as its base the national curriculum with significant Portsmouth High School additions. For example, girls are taught French in Nursery and have lessons by other specialist teachers in music, physical education and Forest Schools. They have access to all the junior school facilities with many opportunities to mix with the older girls supporting a seamless transition to Reception Class and beyond. Visit Portsmouth High Nursery at one of their Open Doors events or make an individual appointment at any time. You can contact the Admissions Registrar Louise Nunan on 023 9282 6714 or via admissions@por.gdst.net
Ryde School
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An Island School with a Global Outlook
Education and exploration at Ryde School Situated in acres of beautiful grounds overlooking the Solent, a short distance from the Hovercraft terminal and with their Hover Nanny service, Ryde School offers the perfect environment to learn through adventure and exploration. Teaching Nursery to 18 years of age, they believe in mixing traditional and innovative approaches to learning. Latin, Mandarin and the junior level of the Duke of Edinburgh’s Award are now available in the Junior School, underscoring their commitment to combine academic excellence with an holistic approach to learning. Their pupils become confident, engaging and polite individuals. 10% of last year’s Sixth Form are now at Oxbridge and 90% at their first choice of higher or further education. With a raft of awards for drama and music and a very wide choice of extracurricular opportunities, the ethos of lifelong and independent learning is continued, building resilient, accomplished, confident individuals of the future.
OPEN MORNING Saturday 7th February 10.00am ~ 12.00pm
Come along to see what we have to offer A short 10 minute ride on the hovercraft, please call us and we will be happy to collect you. Queen’s Road Tel: (01983) 617970
Ryde
Isle of Wight PO33 3BE
Email: admissions@rydeschool .net
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See for yourselves at their next Open Morning on Saturday 7 February between 10am and 12pm. Ring 01983 617970 and they will even pick you up at the Hover. Ryde School, 7 Queen’s Road, Ryde PO33 3BE 01983 562229
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A Quick Guide to: Internet Safety If your child is the family tech whizzkid that's pretty useful, but just what are they getting up to online when they log onto your PC, tablet or their own smartphone? Many of us rely on built-in, traditional or free software which doesn't have social networking and parental controls. Without these additional features, parents are leaving their children open to all that is bad about the internet. MD Allen Scott, MD of security experts F-Secure said: "We understand that many people are a bit lost when it comes to online protection, which is why we've compiled advice to give some guidance."
Set up user accounts for each member of the family This will allow you to tweak the parental controls for each of your children. For example, blocking chat rooms and forums for young children, but allowing them for your teenagers. You can also use these controls to set 'homework time' for older children, which will block them from visiting any sites which are not deemed educational during your specified hours.
Whitelist favourite sites for younger children Many young children enjoy using the internet, but they only want to view the same few sites over and over, such as CBeebies. Using the whitelist function, add in all the websites you are happy for them to view and block the rest. This way, they won't stumble upon something which is not appropriate for their age.
Have 'the talk' before letting your teenagers join social networking sites You need to set rules before letting your children enjoy social networking sites such as Facebook and Instagram. Every child is different, so this must come from you. Some parents want access to their child's account, so they can check up on them at any time. Be warned, this can lead to your child setting up a second account in a different name. It is a good idea to only allow them to be
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'friends' with people they know in real life though. Whatever your approach, help them set up their account with privacy restrictions, so their profile is not public. Go to www.facebook.com/ FSecureSafeProfile, click 'use now', then log in to test their Facebook profile. It will show what is public and explain how to change the settings accordingly.
Don't forget their smartphones and tablets Many children have access to these devices now and the way they use them is no different from a computer, so they need to be protected too. Mobile security software is downloaded as an app or will come as part of the security software package you buy for your computer. Set up parental controls on these devices, just as you would for your computer.
Password protection It is wise to set up a password for your children's devices, so that they must come to you before downloading any app or in-app purchase. This will also mean you'll avoid a nasty shock when the bill arrives! Remember, the internet is amazing! Your children just need a guiding hand to ensure they enjoy it safely.
More information For more advice on family protection, visit www.safeandsavvy.f-secure.com
Social media sites & chat rooms People can easily hide behind a fake identity online – make sure your children know this and are aware of the dangers of befriending strangers online and why they should never meet up with anyone they meet on the internet. It’s important that they do not give out personal information such as address, date of birth, full name or name of their school. Try to also avoid using this sort of information to form usernames. Social Media has become another platform for bullying – think carefully about posting personal images and details online, I.e. about where they are going or who they are with. Advise them to avoid ‘tagging’ themselves at specific locations. Show them how to block someone if they are causing problems or upsetting them.
Family health
Set goals and rewards for you and your family: e.g. ‘if we can increase our walking by 30 minutes this week we’ll use the money we saved on petrol to borrow a DVD from the library and have a family movie night.’
New Year
fitness By Julia Wilmott
Post-Christmas we may have more round our waistline but a lot less in the bank account. But what can you do which doesn't cost a bundle? Local fitness expert Julia Willmott gives us some ideas.
Arrange play dates with other families which involve activity – dog walks in the park, cycling to a picnic spot, ‘mountain expeditions’ involving a local hill walk where each team races to ‘plant’ their flag at the top etc.
Work it out! A quick and effective workout which you can do at home with your little ones! Do each exercise for 30 seconds with a 15 second rest in between a set of 5 exercises, do 2-3 sets:
Jumping Jacks: feet together, jump the feet outwards and back in again
Make the Solent area your fitness playground - jogging in QE Park, walking along our beaches, or cycling through our lanes and villages.
Ditch the car when doing family chores: cycle to the post office, do small shops on foot taking back packs to carry the shopping home. Award points to who can spot a 'chance for action': i.e. using the stairs instead of the escalator, choosing the manual doors instead of the automatic ones.
If the weather is really awful, prise the kids off their play stations and have a game of Twister, hide and seek, musical chairs, musical statues, What’s the Time Mr Wolf, charades – anything which gets everyone moving and having fun!
whilst lifting arms up and down
Squats: feet hip width apart bend knees and lower bottom behind as if
'sitting' down to where thighs are parallel with ground and weight through heels. Knees above ankles, not 'falling' forward. Power back up to standing squeezing buttocks. Add a jump to increase intensity.
Jogging on the Spot: jog on the spot kicking the heels towards the bottom.
Row the Boat: holding hands, take turns to tuck pelvis under and lower
shoulders towards floor behind you as your partner leans towards you - as your partner pulls you back up use your tummy muscles to bring yourself back up to seated.
Tuck Jumps: squat to power through the legs and jump high in the air
bending your knees up towards your chest, keeping abs in and landing with feet hip width apart and knees soft. (NB Always seek medical advice before starting any new form of exercise)
Run a fitness lucky dip: every weekend a member of the family picks a card out of the hat to find a fun activity for all the family: ‘have a disco dance off’; ‘play ‘It’s a Knockout’ in the garden’, ‘go on a nature treasure hunt’.
Julia is a mum and fitness expert living in Petersfield. For details of her fitness retreats, exercise classes including pre and post natal fitness & Pilates visit her website www.juliawillmott.co.uk, Or call her on 07593 828503
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As a parent, it hurts to see your child unhappy or stressed, but resist the urge to fix every problem for them and instead, focus on helping your child grow into a problem-solver.
Helping your child overcome stress, anxiety and depression You probably won’t be surprised to hear that stress, anxiety and depression in children is worryingly getting more prevalent. The Office of National Statistics has found that one in ten children now suffer from mental health problems, with children as young as five being treated for depression. With these worrying statistics, experts say it is going to become a major health problem in the future unless something is done now to tackle stress in children. Although stress is not the same as depression, prolonged periods of stress can lead to depression, and about half of people diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. The earlier we can reach the children showing signs of stress the better we can help them.
Stressful lives? Considering our own increasingly stressful lives, it is no surprise to learn that our children are suffering from rising stress. Parents under pressure and overwhelmed with their jobs, affects the way they parent. Rising unemployment and financial problems associated with the economic downturn increases
tension that children pick up on. Heavily orchestrated schedules of extra activities can also leave little free time for children to be children, and to relax. School and social life also create pressures that can feel overwhelming for children. NSPCC research recently found that academic worries were the biggest cause of stress for nearly 50% of children. Other common sources of childhood stress such as bullying, sibling rivalry, peer pressure are all fairly normal parts of growing up, but because children now have less free time to relax these ordinary problems can become magnified and less easy for them to deal with.
Spotting the signs Stress or anxiety in children can be difficult to spot. Signs to look out for would include a low mood, unhappiness, tearfulness or irritability not
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related to anything specific. Sleeping problems, clingy behaviour, stomach aches and headaches are also signals. The main thing to look for is a change in behaviour. Trust your instinct. Erika Brodnock, one of the UK’s leading experts on the subject of raising happy, successful children says, “Don’t mistake your child’s behaviour for being naughty, when they may be feeling stressed and anxious.” As a parent, you can't protect your kids from the stresses of our modern world, but you can help them develop healthy ways to cope. Notice out loud. Tell your child when you notice that something's bothering them and name it, “Do you feel angry with what happened?” or “You must have felt worried about that.” Erika Brodnock explains this as “Notice, it, own it, tame it,” she continues, “once you can identify the emotion you can then manage it. Without this, things are significantly more difficult.” Explore and empower. Once they understand the feeling they have, explore together what to do. Simple techniques can make a world of difference and have a profound effect on the way they feel. When they start to feel stressed, encourage them to ask for help for example.
Be you! Look at your own moods, behaviours and energy levels. “We can all put a smile on our face at the end of a bad day but when the energy isn’t there your child will notice” says Erika Brodnock, “parents need to learn to manage their moods too!” This is backed up by statistics that show 60-90% of what we learn is through nonverbal communication. If we want our children to manage their emotions effectively, we
must model the behaviour we want them to embrace.
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Building stress-free kids
Exercise, a nature walk, dancing to music will all naturally release those ‘feel-good’ endorphins that help reduce stress. Eating well, drinking lots of water, a bedtime routine and set schedules so your child can rely on daily patterns, are all ways in which you can help. Erika Brodnock recommends a 15 minute ‘Golden Moment’ every day with your child, “this is an opportunity for the child to speak privately and confidentially with their parent, knowing they can say anything without criticism or complaint, which builds trust and strengthens bonds.” This goes a long way towards protecting a young person against developing depression. As a parent, it hurts to see your child unhappy or stressed, but resist the urge to fix every problem for them and instead, focus on helping your child grow into a problem-solver — who knows how to roll with life's ups and downs, put feelings into words, calm down when needed, and bounce back to try again. By teaching healthy coping strategies, you'll prepare your kids to manage the stresses that come in the future.
Many thanks to Erika Brodnock who offered many insights and information in compiling this article. Erika Brodnock is one of the UK’s leading experts on the subject of raising happy, confident children. She offers a wealth of knowledge and practical advice and has even produced an eBook which she is happy to offer free of charge for parents looking for useful and practical information and techniques. For more information go to www.karismakidz.co.uk
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What’s On Your guide to all the best family events this January & February
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Although we aim to be as accurate as possible, the events listed in our What’s On section are compiled several weeks beforehand and may be subject to change. Please contact venues in advance to check full details.
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17 January
Messy Cathedral
St Thomas’ Cathedral, St Thomas’s Street, Old Portsmouth, PO1 2HA 023 9282 3300
All families are welcome to join in the fun, food and fellowship. An hour of craft and worship followed by afternoon tea. 2 - 4pm
24 January
Bear Snores On story time
Gosport Discovery Centre, High Street, Gosport, PO12 1BT 0845 603 5631
Listen to a story and make a collage to take home. FREE, just come along. 11am to 12 noon
25 January
Chicken Little (2005)
Kings Theatre, Albert Road, Portsmouth, PO5 2QJ 023 9282 8282
A showing of the film Chicken Little. Suspense, chaos and laughs ensue as Chicken Little and his band of misfit friends attempt to save the world. 2pm
30 January
Children’s Concert
Chichester Festival Theatre, Oaklands Park, PO19 6AP
Southern Pro Musica returns to Chichester with their hugely popular concert for children aged 5 to 11. A perfect introduction to live classical music, the concert includes musical classics and lots of audience participation packed into one hour of musical mayhem, compered by magician extraordinaire Neil Henry.
31 January
Robin’s Winter Adventure
Spring Arts & Heritage Centre, 56 East St,Havant, PO9 1BS 023 9247 2700
A young boy’s incredible journey with a feathered friend. But will facing his fears turn out to be the greatest adventure of all? An uplifting tale of change, bravery and friendship told with puppetry, poetry, music and magical design. For children age 4+ and their family and friends. 2:30pm / Adults £8.00 per ticket/ Children £5.00 per ticket
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1 February Sid’s Show
Kings Theatre, Albert Road, Portsmouth, PO5 2QJ 023 9282 8282
Join Sid from CBeebies live on stage in a fantastic fun-filled adventure that’ll knock your socks off! Sid is setting out on a heroic quest to find out where in the world his favourite socks and shoes have got to - share in the adventure at the bottom of the sea, deep in the jungle or floating in outer space, you’ll meet some funny characters along the way. In an interactive experience crammed with games, songs, poems and magic, Sid’s Show will leave you with a smile on your face and a spring in your step. Perfect for families with children aged 3+ 1pm
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Winter Half Term Family Activities Monday 16 - Friday 20 February
Wear your winter woollies and pop on your wellies for a week of creative activities, countryside skills and ideas to inspire all the family. Make a bird pudding Weaving Rag rugging Badge making Lino printing Winter scavenger hunt Victorian household chores Activities are under cover if wet. Opening times and admission charges can be found at www.wealddown.co.uk or Tel: 01243 811348 Dogs on leads welcome
1 February
The Sooty Show!
Ferneham Hall, Osborn Road, Fareham, PO16 7DB 01329 824864
Izzy Wizzy Lets get busy – It’s The Sooty Show! Direct from Citv, Sooty heads into town in a fabulous new show to delight the whole family. 11.00am and 2.30pm
5 February
The Dark Arts Show
Gosport Discovery Centre, High Street, Gosport, PO12 1BT 0845 603 5631
The Travelling Talesman presents tales of witches, wizards and spells. Tickets £5. Booking line 023 9252 3463.
7 February
Shark in the Park Story time Gosport Discovery Centre, High Street, Gosport, PO12 1BT 0845 603 5631
Listen to a story and enjoy a treasure hunt! FREE, just come 11am to 12 noon
10 - 14 February
There was an old woman Chichester Festival Theatre, Oaklands Park, PO19 6AP
There’s a problem with shoes. They keep getting mixed up. That man has a welly on one foot, and a fluffy slipper on the other. The woman over there is wearing a flip-flop and a football boot. Some people don’t have any shoes at all! What’s going on? Has that woman who lives in a shoe got anything to do with this? Join us on a journey through
16 February Take Art Gosport Discovery Centre, High Street, Gosport, PO12 1BT 0845 603 5631
A circus of five different art activities. Tickets £3 per child. Booking line 023 9252 3463 11am to 12.30 or 1.30 to 3pm / Tickets £3 per child
16 - 20 February
Half term activities
Weald and Downland Open Air Museum, Town Lane, Singleton, Chichester, PO18 OEU Wrap up warm for a week of creative activities and countryside skills – outdoor trails, arts and crafts. Under cover if wet.
16 - 22 February the sights, scents, textures and sounds of this multi-sensory Oily Cart wonderland in the company of a live musician, and all sorts of shoes. Join in with craft and colouring-in activities 30 minutes before these family shows in the Minerva Lounge.
14 February
Love Monster and the last Chocolate Story time Special Gosport Discovery Centre, High Street, Gosport, PO12 1BT 0845 603 5631
Listen to a story and make your own love monster. FREE, just come along. 11am to 12 noon
14 - 22 February Build a Tower!
The Spinnaker Tower, Gunwharf Quays, PO1 3TT 02392 857520
February half term will see families taking part in tower building activities 100 metres above Portsmouth Harbour, surrounded by the breathtaking views. Recreate the Spinnaker Tower design or build your very own inspired creation, plus learn more about the Tower’s unique construction process 10.00am to 6.00pm
15 February
The Jungle Book
Kings Theatre, Albert Road, Portsmouth, PO5 2QJ 023 9282 8282
Visit the Kings Theatre for a showing of Disney Classic, The Jungle Book. 2pm / £3 adult/£1 child
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Half term camps and worshops
Electric Woods ‘Spirit of the Orient’
Robin Hill Adventure Park, Downend, Nr Arreton, Newport, PO30 2NU A stunning spectacle of Oriental themed light, sound and colour will mark the coming of the Chinese New Year at Robin Hill during next February’s school half term holiday. 5pm until 9pm
20 - 21 February
Arthur’s Dream Boat
Chichester Festival Theatre, Oaklands Park, PO19 6AP
One night, Arthur has an amazing dream about a beautiful pink and green boat with a stripy mast. He can’t wait to tell everyone about it but no-one (not even his dog!) is interested. Soon, Arthur is bouncing along the waves in his very own dream boat. Maybe now his family will listen! A magical story with enchanting puppets. Join in with craft and colouring-in activities 30 minutes before these family shows in the Minerva Lounge.
16 - 20 February Camp Adventure Ages 7 +
Portsmouth Watersports Centre, Eastern Road, PO3 5LY Tel: 023 9266 3873 9:30am – 4:30pm. Kayaking, the climbing wall with high ropes, den building, beach safari, crate stacking, outdoor sports, raft building, competitions, bushcraft skills, and much more. £25 per day.
18 - 20 February
Themed workshops Ages 5 - 12
The Spring Arts & Heritage Centre, East Street, Havant Hampshire PO9 1BS Tel: 023 9247 2700 10am – 3pm. What kind of weird and wonderful creatures ruled the world before people? Various themed workshops about prehistoric times. £16.50 for the day. A packed lunch is available for £4.
19 – 20 February Magic School Ages 7 - 12
Gosport Discovery Centre, High Street, Gosport, PO12 1BT Tel: 023 9252 3463
1 March
9.30 am - 3.30pm. 2 day workshop. Matt Blossom again reveals the secrets of magic. Tickets £27.50. Booking line. Tickets £27.50
The Square Tower, Broad Street, Portsmouth PO1 2ND 07519 505785
Super Camps Ages 6 +
Ickle Bambino Baby Raves
A fun, family afternoon out with top local DJs playing a range of great music, anything with a good beat. Parties feature a host of engaging activity areas. Dancefloor, tea rooms and craft area. / Adults £4.00 / Children £3.00 1 - 7 years of age / under 1’s free
16 - 20 February
West Hill Park School Titchfield, PO14 4BS and Kingscourt School, Catherington, PO8 9NJ Tel: 01235 467300
9am – 5pm (drop off from 8am – 6pm available) Weekly during the holidays
Activities include sports, arts & crafts.
Some small resolutions
with BIG effects! Smile
As the song says ‘Pack up your troubles in your old kit bag, and smile, smile, smile’. Make it your mission to smile even when you don’t feel like it. Research suggests the act of smiling alone can help lift spirits.
Gratitude and attitude
Just before sleep each night, think of three things you are grateful for that day. Anything that warms the cockles of your heart will do. Going to sleep with a smile on your face will put you in a better mood in the morning.
Be kind to yourself
Children respond better to understanding and compassion for their mistakes than to being berated – and so do we! So this month give up beating yourself up (even if you eat a cream cake!).
Share a laugh with the kids
Put aside one ‘treat time’ each week to play a game with the children; snuggle up on the sofa with popcorn to watch a movie, or play chasing in the park.
Warning: never work with children or animals. by Helena Clarke Before having children, I never gave much thought to the range of skills required to do the job of a health care professional. Sure I knew they were difficult, challenging jobs that required significant training, but the one thing I had never factored in was how their job must be ten times harder when they were treating children. Have to do a tricky tooth extraction? Practise enough and this may well become second nature. Have to do the same extraction on a 5 year old and it becomes a whole other ball game. No training, no practise, no careful planning can possible prepare you for the unexpected curve balls children can throw at you, particularly when they are anxious or in pain. Take my children. They have systematically worked their way through every available health professional and attempted to crush their spirit through a combination of incessant chatter; irrational fear; and complete and utter inability to keep still.
Is it time for a change? The New Year is not just about detoxing our bodies – it can also be a time to detox our lives. In fact, January is a fantastic time for those of us with children in nursery or full time education for the first time to go back to work, start a new venture, set up our own business or to re-train in something that will get us leaping out of bed every morning! From a new job or a whole new career, the world is your oyster as a working parent. If your hours are limited by the school run, setting up your own business or taking up a franchise can offer you the opportunity to do something you love while working flexible hours, and the options are limitless. You can choose anything from running a yoga franchise to teaching Spanish!
1) At the dentist If my children can be taken as representative of their generation then this being a dentist requires a hefty amount of patience. Whenever we visit, the first 5 minutes is taken up with a lengthy argument over who has to go first and when I finally intervene and insist that one or other child sits in the chair, they invariably refuse to open their mouths without promises of stickers at the end. When it is finally my turn in the chair, they make up for their previous taciturn state by screeching at each other whilst I am left helpless, feebly attempting to issue reprimands with a mouth full of metal instruments. With potential daily re-runs of this scene, I am in no hurry to swap places with our lovely dentist.
2) At the optician On our first visit to the opticians recently, we started as we meant to go on when Ana required reinforcements to be brought in when she found it impossible to keep still whilst having her eye examined on the impressive looking ‘big eye machine’. Faith, on the other hand, grew restless after a lengthy spell in the chair and resorted to scratching her nose at frequent intervals, causing
Take a course, start a marketing business, design websites, set up a blog, open a café – it’s up to you. There are plenty of websites out there to help you get started and find a new job, re-train, choose the right business, give you ideas, advise you on tax and even help you design your logo, so there’s no excuse not to get stuck in this New Year. Take a look at these sites (Ed. Although the sites seem very female centric, most of the information is very relevant to dads too!)
www.gov.uk/starting-up-a-business www.workingmums.co.uk www.mumandcareer.co.uk www.mumandworking.co.uk www.mumpreneuruk.com
the delicately balanced glasses frame to tilt repeatedly, spewing its cargo of breakable lenses across the examination room floor. Twice. Children + delicate machinery + complex calculations = potential disaster. Opticians, I salute you.
3) At the clinic Now nurses probably anticipate dealing with children, but I do feel for them when their job involves doling out vaccinations to unsuspecting preschoolers. With tiny babies, you can rely on their goldfish memory to wipe the incident from their minds, but the preschool jabs must be a constant strain. Faith, for one, has never forgiven the very kind nurse who spoke so gently, made her laugh and then stabbed her in the arm. Her treachery has never been forgotten. And for shouldering the burden of being the pain-bringing enemy in the pursuit of preserving our children’s health, I praise nurses across the land! Helena is our weekly online columnist. You can read more of her articles at: www.familiessolenteast.co.uk or check out her blog at: www.motherinferiorblog.com
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