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FEB-MAR 2022 ISSUE 130

FUTUREREADY Empowering students for tomorrow

Distributed to the communities of Ballito, Durban North, Gateway, La Lucia, Mt Edgecombe, Prestondale, Somerset Park, uMdloti, uMhlali, uMhlanga Ridge, uMhlanga Rocks, Zimbali

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A new start

he start of a new year always brings new hope, new ideas, renewed energy and enthusiam, as well as a list of New Year resolutions to better our lives in the year ahead. But, it's amazing how quickly we jump back on the treadmill after a break, and before we know it we're planning what to do for the Easter weekend and resolutions are a thing of the past – gone and forgotten. As I write this the end of January is fast approaching, the schools are back in full swing, and Valentine's Day is round the corner. In this issue Ant Ellis has shared his all-time favourite "butter-her-up" Valentine meal for guys to make and impress the lady in their lives. Now here's a challenge to all the guys out there. Try out this super easy meal and send me a picture to post on The Ridge website. You might just become famous! Education is always a key focus in our first issue of the year,

and this year is no exception. Thank you to all the schools who have supported us with advertising – we are so lucky to have such great schools to choose from. Writer Anne Schauffer looks at the benefits of boarding schools – which is a tough topic many parents and children often debate, but the good news is there are lots of benefits. Turn to page 10 to read more. As adults all know, life skills are essential for coping with life in general. So is it possible to teach children essential life skills that will prepare them for a career in a world that is constantly evolving? Paul Bushell unpacks some of these necessary skills on page 16, while Jess Basson shares her first-hand experiences of ADHD on page 25. Age really is just a number, and to prove it, meet Thelma Buzzard and Val Wilson who are both in their 90s and still making

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40 EDUCATION TO BOARD OR NOT TO BOARD?

LIFESTYLE 10

The benefits of boarding school

ESSENTIAL LIFE SKILLS

Preparing your child for the future

THE TOY DOCTOR Published by Famous Publishing www.famouspublishing.co.za Printed by Novus Managed distribution by Vibrant Direct

Expert advice for navigating life's challenges

UNDERSTANDING ADHD

Jess Basson shares first-hand experiences

READY FOR WORK

Personalising your workspace

REAL MEN WEAR APRONS

Valentine meal for men to impress

FEARLESS SUMMER

Fashion trends

WELCOME TO WOW

Local furniture to inspire

COMMUNITY THE ART OF AGEING WELL

KZN'S BEAUTIFUL GEMS

The Saunter – exploring KZN

100 YEARS OF PROVEN RESULTS

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PROPERTY IN 2022 Trends for the year ahead

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KEEPING YOU IN THE LOOP

PT SECR KE Esse seeks to return skin to its roots, providing it with the natural support it needs to rehabilitate its own microbiome for better-looking and healthier skin. To do this, Esse challenge you to take up the #30dayrewild challenge and start your journey to your best skin with the launch of the limited-edition Esse Sensitive Skin #30dayrewild Pack. Costing R930 (a 50% saving), the pack provides a month’s supply of five Sensitive range products, all designed to strengthen barrier function and support a healthy skin microbiome. The products contain pre- and probiotics, are pH balanced and contain no harsh preservatives or synthetic chemical ingredients. Benefits include a simplified daily routine; the needs of a sensitive skin are addressed; and ultimately, a healthier skin. The Esse limited-edition #30dayrewild pack will be available through all Esse stockists and relevant online stores. Follow Esse on Instagram and WIN weekly prizes for taking part in the challenge.

Local fashion boutique Disco Dawn offers exclusive fashion that radiates the owner and trendsetter, Dawn MacNab’s, vitalising energy, joie de vivre and unique style. Housing up-cycled and sustainable statement garments, Disco Dawn works in collaboration with design icon Gideon while supporting and stocking young and upcoming brands like Vanklan and Naomi.

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CALLING ALL RIDGE READERS

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Get your BEST SKIN BACK

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Save the date for Dawn’s next Champagne Friday on April 1, 2022. Join Dawn for a day filled with champagne and shopping at your leisure. FOR MORE INFO:

Follow @disco.dawn or shop at www.discodawn.co.za; phone Dawn on 082 572 4652 to secure your invite.

Something FOR EVERYONE Beachwood Country Club took on a delicious taste of Thai/Asian cuisine when Chef Goo Imthawin added another dimension to their dining options, which have quickly gained popularity. Think Pot Stickers, Tom Yum Soup, Spring Rolls, Chili Crab, Stir-fries and the hugely popular Asian Sticky Ribs – not forgetting the legendary Crispy Spinach. Specialities include freshly caught snapper (Thai style) when available. Sharing the premises, Beach Aloe Cafe offer contemporary dishes such as burgers, steaks, salads, wraps and the like. You can order from either restaurant from your table, including a sushi menu. There’s also the characterful Blues on Beachwood pub and a Colombo coffee counter. Altogether a relaxed vibe looking out on to a well-kept golf course. Worth a visit.

Humphrey Honoured for REACHING R1-MILLION Back in 2011 uMhlanga resident and pharmacist Alwyn Immerman adopted an abused and abandoned dog from the SPCA. Since then, his mission has been to raise a million rand for the Durban & Coast SPCA. “When I first saw him, there was an immediate connection – and next thing the unkempt dog with the sad, soulful eyes, the bad limp and shaggy coat was on his way home with me. We called him Humphrey to complement our son’s dog called Bogart,” recalls Alwyn. What started as a fundraising campaign in 2011 to support the fantastic work of the SPCA for Mandela Day, has turned into a twice weekly stint for Humphrey to encourage people to donate funds

ABOVE: Alwyn Immermann with the real

Humphrey and his statue which can be seen on the uMhlanga Promenade.

for the SPCA. Every Thursday and Sunday, Humphrey goes to work at uMhlanga Medisport Pharmacy in uMhlanga Village where he lies in his basket with the donation jar near the dispensary. To date, Humphrey and Alwyn have raised R1-million for the SPCA – officially making Humphrey a dog in a million. Congratulations! To contribute to Humphrey’s SPCA fundraising campaign, donate to your local branch of the SPCA, then SMS or WhatsApp Humphrey’s Dad, Alwyn, on 083 792 4709 so he can add your donation amount to the grand total. F E B - M A R

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FOR MORE INFO:

Goo’s on Beachwood: 079 327 3924: Wed-Sat: 12 noon-9pm; Sun: 12 noon-4.30pm; Beach Aloe Cafe: 084 800 0111: Mon & Tues: 7.30am-4pm; Wed-Sat: 7.30am-8pm; Sun: 7.30am-5pm. W beachaloecafe; Goo’s On Beachwood

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SPLASHY FEN Is Back! So much more than just a music festival, Splashy Fen Music Festival is a celebration of life, art, music, people, love, laughter, fun and enjoyment … something which we can all do with a lot more of these days. After two cancelled years, South Africa’s friendliest festival returns to the rolling foothills of Underberg this coming Easter – April 14 to 17. With a locally lekker line-up and a host of family-centric activities and attractions, it’s set to be a wonderful return to a little piece of normal that we have all been longing for. Early morning dips in the refreshing Mzimude River, hot coffee and a delicious breakfast served fresh under the canopy of trees, lazy afternoon tubing, picnicking, dancing, drumming, shopping, walking, relaxing, mingling, and of course, a spoiltfor-choice line-up of musicians and artists in one of the most picturesque settings in South Africa. What more could you ask for? FOR MORE INFO: www.splashyfen.co.za

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Durban Girls’ College

Inspiring Young Women Durban Girls’ College applauds the Matric Class of 2021 on their outstanding IEB Matric results. We are proud of these 77 inspiring young women who persevered and thrived, overcoming many challenges. Thank you to our staff whose expertise and dedication have made these results possible. The future looks bright for the Class of 2021 and we wish them well as they embark on their onward journey. 100% PASS RATE 97% BACHELOR’S DEGREE PASS RATE IEB OUTSTANDING ACHIEVER – JENNA PEARSON 237 DISTINCTIONS - AN AVERAGE OF 3.1 As PER PUPIL 75% SYMBOLS ATTAINED ARE As & Bs 10 PLACEMENTS IN THE TOP 1% NATIONALLY FOR INDIVIDUAL SUBJECTS

JENNA PEARSON 8 Distinctions IEB Outstanding Achiever

LEAH KIRATU 8 Distinctions

JULIE BLEVIN 7 Distinctions

MELISSA GITHINJI 7 Distinctions

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GRACE MAITIN-CASALIS 7 Distinctions

JAMIE ROWE 7 Distinctions

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WELL ESTABLISHED IN THE NORTH DURBAN COMMUNITY, NORTHWOOD SCHOOL CONTINUES TO EVOLVE TO MEET THE NEEDS OF THE COMMUNITY ALONG WITH THE SPECIAL YOUNG MEN WHO PASS THROUGH THEIR GATES EACH MORNING

hile 2021 saw the opening of the state-of-the-art Victor Daitz Centre for Innovation, Northwood have set their sights firmly on 2023 with the exciting planned opening of The Northwood Cambridge Academy as part of their academic offering. This, along with the dynamic industry relative inclusion of vocational NSC subjects, affords their learners the opportunity to work to their unique strengths and potential within a world-class traditional boy’s high school environment.

As an internationally recognised education programme, the Cambridge Assessment International Education offers easier access to international tertiary education. It is a valuable extension to the schools’ current education offering in meeting the needs of parents and students considering overseas tertiary opportunities. The Northwood Cambridge Academy – which will officially open its doors for students in 2023 – will offer the Cambridge IGCSE, AS Level and the A Level courses taught during timetabled lesson times by qualified, experienced teachers. Cambridge students will be fully integrated into all

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NORTHWOOD CAMBRIDGE ACADEMY INFORMATION EVENING

17 FEBRUARY 2022

Open evenings to look out for

ABOVE LEFT: Deputy Headmaster

Mr Chetty and Paul Viljoen, Northwood Headmaster, are excited about offering their students the best opportunities for the future. LEFT: Some students in the state-of-the-art Victor Daitz Centre for Innovation.

other activities of the school, including assemblies, award ceremonies and all extra-curricular activities. Class sizes will be limited to 15 boys a class, with access to state-of-the-art technology. Students who are interested in the Cambridge programme will be required to write an entrance exam and demonstrate the set aptitude for the curriculum. 2023 will also welcome the introduction of Civil Technology as an addition to the school’s current NSC subject package.

This industry relative subject includes skillbased development aspects such as construction, electrical work, plumbing and electronics, and as a vocational subject, further future-proofs Northwood boys, equipping them to leave school and go out into the world as potential entrepreneurs. Paul Viljoen, Northwood Headmaster: “We are excited about these additions to our curriculum as this will further speak to the significance of each boy and will create opportunity to futureproof our boys.”

Parents and prospective students are invited to attend the following open evenings for a tour of Northwood and the two boarding houses. Northwood Cambridge Academy Information Evening: February 17, 2022 Northwood Grade 6 Open Evening: February 15, 2022 (tour of facilities, boarding houses and presentation) Northwood Grade 7 Open Evening: February 16, 2022 (tour of facilities, boarding houses and presentation)

FOR MORE INFO Should you require further information regarding our Cambridge programme, please email Mr Chetty, Deputy Headmaster – Cambridge International: cambridge@ nwood.co.za or phone 031 563 6501. For general school admissions email: admissions@nwood.co.za F E B - M A R

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To BOARD or not to board?

TODAY’S BOARDING EXPERIENCE IS A VASTLY DIFFERENT, INFINITELY NUANCED SCENARIO, FOCUSED ON FACILITATING A NURTURING SPACE FOR YOUNG PEOPLE TO ACQUIRE A RANGE AND DEPTH OF LIFE SKILLS, AND BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF THEMSELVES, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

n almost every possible way, boarding establishments bear little relation to those of yesteryear. They go back centuries of course, initially to little cloistered religious institutions with students isolated from society, then evolving into military-type academies, and eventually, into more secular establishments. Consultation with the children wasn’t on the radar. “In the past, the decision to send a child to boarding school was born out of circumstance – no suitable ‘day’ option close to home,” says Peter Storrar, Director of Advancements at Hilton College. “Nowadays, many families have access to quality schooling on their doorstep so, in that sense, the necessity for boarding has (for some) diminished.” But necessity is by no means the only driver: “For many boys, boarding is more effective and appropriate than it has ever been,” says Peter. “Traffic, cellphones, social media, pollution, crime, malls and time-consuming commutes can undermine the quality of an adolescent’s education. Teenagers are far better served spending their time engaging with their

peers face-to-face, enjoying the outdoors, and discovering more about themselves in a healthy and safe environment.” Clearly, life today is very different, with time being a scarce commodity, particularly for working parents. It’s often a massive challenge to protect children while still giving them freedom – elements like limiting screen and mall time isn’t easy when you aren’t there. Thomas Barry, Deputy Principal of

Teenagers are far better served spending their time engaging with their peers face-to-face Northwood, says, “Learners worldwide attend Northwood, but many families in the community want the option of sending their sons to a boarding school with the convenience of simultaneously playing a more hands-on role. The independence and responsibility that comes from being away from home encourages boys to solve their own problems and make their

own decisions.” Megan de Beer is an integrative psychologist who, for the past 20 years, has run her annual course ‘Strong Mothers, Strong Sons’ in top boys boarding schools countrywide: “Things have changed radically over the years. All boys’ boarding schools are far more sensitive and open to boys’ emotional intelligence.” For Megan, the huge positive is freedom and safety for South African children: “The powerful, natural teenage impulse for independence and freedom, to be separate from their parents, be their own person, discover who they are … is part of that experimentation heading into adulthood.” For many, boarding school is the perfect space in which that can play out “safely”. Is boarding school for every child? “No,” says Paul Bushell, educational psychologist and author: “The decision to send a child to boarding school needs careful consideration – every child is different. For many parents this means suspending their own hopes and dreams, and exploring how this decision will maximise their child’s holistic development. There is value in having conversations with the

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child concerned, and with personal and professional connections who know the child and/or understand boarding schools.” Educational psychologist Sally Davies works full time at St Mary’s Diocesan School for Girls in Kloof, as well as in her private practice. For her, “The child/ teenager must show a keen interest and

eagerness to go into boarding. Cases when parents force or coerce their child – directly or indirectly – may result in a failed boarding experience. Those families who believe ‘your grandparents and I went, so you must go’, could be making a large mistake.” For Hilton College, oversubscribed »

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as they are, Peter Storrar says, “It’s far more important that each boy who comes here, has selected us. In some families, it’s the parent’s decision, others leave it up to the boy, and others make a collective decision. We want to hear that the boy himself is up for it.” Hilton offers numerous “sleep-overs”, so the boy gets a sense of boarding life there, but equally, so the school can advise parents as to whether it’s the right place for their son. Northwood’s Thomas Barry feels differently. He believes all boys are suited to boarding school: “Some find the initial transition a bit difficult, but due to the support, camaraderie and brotherhood created, they quickly form strong connections and feel right at home. Northwood BE’s main vision is that it becomes a home-away-from-home.” The theme which comes up strongly is relationships. Peter Storrar believes, “You form relationships in the boarding space you won’t make in a day school – the depth, as well as what and how much you learn from others.” He adds, “In the classroom, you might not ever find yourself in a situation where you’re prompted to chat to someone you might not necessarily have chatted to. In the different BE houses, we are very deliberate about whom we put together … we’re trying to create as much diversity as possible. We have learners from around the world, raised in both extremely privileged and extremely disadvantaged circumstances. We put the boy from Singapore interested in robotics next to the farm boy from Eshowe who loves fishing. They learn as much from each other as they learn from the teaching staff.” This plays into the important life skills arena. “Traditionally, when you go out there into the world, it’s human nature to hang out with people who are like you. The boarding experience shows boys the value of forming relationships with people different from you. Our hope is that when our boys go out into society, they reach out to others quite different from themselves

and form relationships they might not necessarily have formed.” “Boarding certainly teaches boys how to deal with people from many different cultures and walks of life,” says Northwood’s Thomas Barry, “and it encourages them to manage their own affairs. Boarding creates bonds that last a lifetime. They discover strong connections that result from the warm family environment. We believe boarding should complement, not replace family life and we ensure open lines of communication with our families at all times.” Sally Davies feels strongly that, “For any family to consider boarding, there should be the willingness of the child, parents and institution to work in unison to ensure a successful and thriving boarding experience. All parties need to be open, honest, transparent, and to communicate any concerns and questions. A boarding school may have the care of the child

You form relationships in the boarding space you won’t make in a day school – the depth, as well as what and how much you learn from others Monday to Friday, but this never replaces a parents’ role and responsibility.” What about the numerous stereotypical views of boarding school, such as who’s best suited, bullying, homesickness or unhappy home environments? Clearly, the size and depth of the support structures and staff vigilance today is light years away from what they used to be. For Sally, if there’s a keenness by the child to attend, there’s no checklist of requisite personality traits: “Forget the idea that the extrovert, sporty, outgoing, leaders will be successful

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boarders, and the introvert, more culturally inclined, shy, followers won’t.” Peter concurs: “There are stereotypical extroverts and introverts who don’t do well, and others who do. You can be that softly spoken quieter boy, and be happy and succeed.” What about unhappy home scenarios? Removing children from adult stresses can be advantageous, particularly if the child wants that. Sally Davies feels, “There are cases whereby I would actively recommend boarding, even if only temporarily, where it becomes a safe haven giving all parties time to heal. What needs to be avoided is for a child to ever feel ‘sent away’ or abandoned.” Clearly, logistics play a role in choosing a boarding establishment. If your child is sporty with early hours/weekends devoted to sport, a boarding school with a strong sports department works well. Equally, for children who are passionate about drama, music or art with after-hours rehearsals, concerts and dedicated studios, a school with strength in those areas can offer a wonderful boarding experience. Megan de Beer suggests that parents do extensive homework, not only around the school ethos and whether it has a focus on

their child’s speciality, but equally, how well subscribed that department is: “Teenagers need their group of friends to feel safe and happy. This is where they find their tribe. They get their sense of belonging from their friends.” For Thomas Barry, there are so many advantages to boarding school life, from academics to the daily routine: “By the end of their tenure at Northwood, boys will have learnt time management, organisational skills and interpersonal skills. Their ability to focus in a group and develop coping

mechanisms in different situations are skills that will assist them throughout life. The boys are expected to take responsibility for themselves, their personal hygiene, their living space and the impact of their behaviour on others.” Ultimately, today’s boarding schools have very clear ideas on how to facilitate a safe yet expansive space where young people can be the best version of themselves. Each school will inevitably have a different ethos and varying strengths – it’s up to that trilogy of parent, child and school to gauge the right one.

Growing Top Performers in Every Field At Reddam House uMhlanga, we place great emphasis on our sporting codes which are administered by qualified and experienced coaches to ensure excellence in all aspects. With years of experience on our side, we know that sport is an effective way to help children build character and prepare them for any challenges which may lie ahead.

Our students can hone their sporting and life-skills on full-sized cricket pitches, soccer and rugby fields, on-site tennis and netball courts and six cricket nets. They also have access to a heated Olympic-sized water polo pool and a heated ‘learn-to-swim pool’, a sand and water-based Astroturf for outdoor hockey and an indoor sports centre for indoor hockey. We also have a mini Astroturf for hockey, soccer and cricket skills.

Coupling our sport together with a creative cultural programme alongside a strong academic offering allows us to nurture well-rounded students, ensuring a solid foundation from which they will benefit once they complete their schooling with us. Book a personalised tour and experience our sporting facilities first-hand! umhlanga.reddamhouse.com

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or many children, their future job doesn’t exist yet. Living in a constantly changing world means that jobs are disappearing and emerging all the time. This often leaves parents feeling unsure about what they should be prioritising in their child’s development. And although there is no winning formula for childhood development and parenting, talking about

Essential life

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PAUL BUSHELL DISCUSSES WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN IN ORDER TO PREPARE THEM FOR A CAREER IN A CONSTANTLY CHANGING WORLD

careers seems like a useful consideration to add to the list. Too many people leave their careers to chance. Here are five things to be doing with your child to prepare them for a career in a constantly changing world.

ABOVE: Paul Bushell is

a psychologist, author, and speaker. He is the founder of the #raisingkids series, and co-founder of the KindnessCan movement. He has a special interest in emotional intelligence, career development and meaningful living.

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Cognitive skills, like critical and analytical thinking, problemsolving, curiosity and creative thinking allow people to solve problems with innovative solutions. We can anticipate that a constantly changing world will be filled with new

needs and problems, and many new careers will be in response to these. From young, encourage children to engage in games and activities which require problem-solving. In everyday life, this also means not hurrying to solve all of children’s problems for them. Although it is often quicker and easier to do so, children can benefit from working through challenges and having responsibilities. This not only allows them to grow new skills, but also the belief that they can solve problems. It also means sometimes letting children be

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bored, and finding things – other than schedules and technology – to keep themselves busy.

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Skills like emotional regulation and self-management will become more and more important. This includes skills like resilience, flexibility and adaptability, stress tolerance and empathy. Many parents want to help their children avoid hard feelings, worrying that these kinds of feelings will negatively affect their child’s development. However, learning how to identify, understand and choose what to do with a variety of feelings is crucial in an unpredictable and challenging world. It is more important to engage these feelings, and work through them in supportive ways. An ability to engage in emotions in this way, also allows people to recognise, empathise and support other people’s emotions. This is an important part of finding solutions to people’s needs and solving problems in a constantly changing world.

Hard Drive

There is no time to be antitechnology. It will continue to be an important part of all careers in some shape or way. However, there is a big difference between recreational use of technology – such as social media, online gaming, etc – and actually learning how to use technology for a future career. Parents would do well to find structured opportunities and programmes to stimulate tech skills, and not fool themselves into believing that hours of gaming and viewing is necessarily productive. A big part of this is learning how to emotionally and socially integrate technology into everyday life. This means learning how to have boundaries with technology.

Help

Help-seeking is a crucial part of getting ahead and being resilient. Learning how to make connections and asking for support is crucial. This means getting help for everything, but also career development and support. Career assessments, counselling, job shadowing, volunteering, and career

planning should be structured and frequent in every home. This allows people to explore themselves and the world of work as they are unfolding. We can anticipate that people will change jobs and careers frequently in a constantly changing world, and learning from young how to reflect and grow a personal career plan is important.

Hope

Optimism and hope are important qualities and skills, especially when the world throws a curve ball. Although these qualities come more naturally to some, learning how to catch and readjust thoughts which are negative or gloomy is an important skill. This allows people to manage their thoughts and perspectives, in ways which are realistic, balanced and fair. This is not to say that being worried or sad about something is not allowed – of course it is. It is more around a self-belief that these situations and feelings can be attended to. This means growing an optimistic confidence to be an agent for change in your own life.

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DOCTOR SARAH MACKINTOSH CHATS TO EDUCATIONAL KINESIOLOGIST AND PLAY THERAPIST, NASREEN KHAN, ABOUT HOW PARENTS CAN HELP THEIR CHILDREN NAVIGATE LIFE, COVID AND THE EMOTIONAL CHALLENGES THESE BRING

asreen chats to me with an open smile and a warm heart – something I sense comes so naturally to her. She explains being a mum and a therapist with great passion. Nasreen is dubbed “The Toy Doctor” by most of her little clients – who talk to her about their success, troubles and frustrations through toys.

It’s all quite new to me, and I marvel at her ability to understand play at a subconscious level. The fusion of kinesiology and play therapy is what makes Nasreen a cut above the rest. She is able to ascertain brain dominance, thereby explaining to parents their child’s learning styles and productive parenting methods based on this. Have you ever given your child an instruction a few times, but to no avail? Nasreen explains that children need to be instructed via their particular learning style – such as auditory, kinesthetic or visual. Once you are able to talk to them in “their language”, parenting becomes simpler and more successful. Nasreen says the pandemic and 2021 riots have brought on a new type of stress in children and adults alike. Children

LEFT: Educational

kinesiologist and play therapist, Nasreen Khan.

crave human touch and present parents. When a child behaves unusually or does something out of their usual character, this is their way of saying “I’m confused, I’m hurt, I don’t understand”. And this is when they need help. According to Nasreen, there are some simple steps you can take at home to relieve your child’s stress and help them feel safe – such as sharing homecooked meals, bedtime stories and bedtime routine, hugs,

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hugs and more hugs, increasing their water consumption and including plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables in their diet. Nasreen added that play is an integral part of a child’s life, a game of chess or cards and outdoor games are vital in the brain producing feel-good hormones. “The old saying ‘honesty is the best policy’ is pertinent to an effective parenting style,” says Nasreen – and shares great Covid coping skills with us.

Distract, Distract, Distract Move energy and oxygen from your right brain to your left brain by taking a deep breath in, holding your breath for a count of six, exhaling slowly and counting backwards in twos from 100.

The 5 Technique Look around for five items in the colour blue. Name the big five. Repeat five times: “God is in control”. Listen to and identify five things you can hear/touch/smell.

Refocus & Relax Work off some negativity by going for a walk, painting, reading a book, baking … Now sit with your knees up to your chest and breathe deep.

My Happy Space Take a deep breath. Focus on transporting your mind to your happy

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t the beginning of Grade 2, we saw the light dim in our little boy’s eyes. He would get into the car after school and burst into tears, having held back his frustration all day long. After some hits and misses as we tried to figure out what was bothering him, we ended up taking him to an educational psychologist. She came back to us with the conclusion that he was a brilliantly intelligent child, who also had Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). What did this mean? What should we do next? We had already been through so much trying to parent him the way he needed, and this felt like the final blow. For the next couple of years I took a deep dive into understanding everything I could about ADHD. The more I understood, the less terrifying ADHD was. Accurate explanations lead to accurate problem-solving.

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Understanding an ADHD diagnosis can not just be liberating, but save people’s relationships, careers and even their lives. Because one of the greatest side-effects of ADHD is shame. Shame is that little voice that tells us we are not worthy of love and connection. Shame is what we feel not when we make a mistake, but when we believe

we are a mistake. So many kids with ADHD walk around under the weight of shame because ADHD is often treated as a behavioural problem instead of a neurological problem. The words “What is wrong with you?” hang over their young hearts like a cloud. This is what life is like for ADHD kids. They are trying so hard. They long to impress us,

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to protect what’s left of their self-esteem. Parenting and educating children with ADHD is difficult and often discouraging. I know their meltdowns and their tempers can be scary. But when they lose it, it’s terrifying for them too because they can’t make it stop. After the outburst, the flood of shame is soulkilling because they actually do know better. They know better because you taught them what is good, but they just can’t do it and they don’t know what’s wrong with them. So what should we do with our beautiful, spirited, challenging ADHD kids? Honestly, I don’t know. I’m still figuring it out and it’s exhausting. But here are three ideas that have helped me parent my child with more understanding and patience. 1 When we know better, we can do better Knowledge is empowering. For example, I learnt that ADHD affects a child’s working memory. Working memory is how you process the information you’re receiving in the moment. The ADHD brain is like a whiteboard that runs out of space, and so the child has to erase information they should still be using in order to take in the new input. This poorly developed working memory can make ADHD people seem irresponsible, careless, and forgetful. Not only have I been more realistic about my son’s capacity, I’ve changed my assumptions about the “why” he lost his school jersey for the third time. He literally cannot remember where he put it.

2 ADHD is an explanation, not an excuse An ADHD child doesn’t have a deficit of attention, they have difficulty regulating attention. The ADHD brain struggles to change gears. They might either struggle to focus on one idea, or hyperfocus on only one interesting idea. This helped me understand why it often seemed like my son was ignoring me. He would be so zoned in on playing Lego, that his brain wouldn’t receive the information that I was calling him to come for dinner. Eventually, I would get louder and louder until when he finally looked up at me, it was like he was seeing me for the first time. Because for his brain, it was. 3 ADHD is not a character defect, it’s a neurological divergence Studies using MRI scans show that when compared to a neurotypical brain, the neurodiverse ADHD brain shows actual physical differences in white matter and shape. In other words, some children are born with brains that think, learn and process information differently than others. Just like a person with diabetes can’t be disciplined to bring their insulin levels down, ADHD kids cannot rely on sheer willpower and determination to make their brains work the same way that a neurotypical brain works. If you have a child with ADHD, you may feel frustrated and anxious about their future. You are not alone. Please give yourself permission to be kind and compassionate not only to your child, but to yourself.

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The more you know, the better you can do at drawing the best out of their vibrant, flourishing, creative brains.

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MENTION THE NAMES OF OUR WONDERFUL NORTH COAST NONAGENARIAN ARTISTS THELMA BUZZARD AND VAL WILSON, AND YOU’LL GET A BROAD SMILE, HEAR A GREAT STORY. GREEN GALLERY IN MOUNT EDGECOMBE RECENTLY HONOURED THE TWO WITH AN EXHIBITION, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

helma Buzzard is 97; Val Wilson 90. Wonderful artists both, they’re still painting and accepting commissions. Age really is just a number. Norman Rockwell, illustrious illustrator of the 20th century, suggests: “The secret

to so many artists living so long, is that every painting is a new adventure. So, you see, they’re always looking ahead to something new and exciting. The secret is not to look back.” Thelma paints every single day, normally by 9am; in the corner, an easel, layered with works in progress. She

doesn’t only paint, she’s still wildly curious about artists and techniques, so there’ll be an art book there too. Thelma grew up with Victorian parents who didn’t consider university or a career fitting for a young lady. No art at Eshowe High School either: “Neither did my husband Eric want me to

work. In those days, music trumped art …” Thelma was undaunted though. Her mother always took her to watercolour exhibitions, and she became increasingly interested: “I entered the Royal Show in Durban, and won first prize,” she grins. But she really wanted to study art: “When art teacher Wendy Amm wanted to stop teaching, and suggested I’d be a good replacement for her classes, I saw an opportunity.” And so began Thelma’s highly successful teaching career, the classes enabling her to save up for and study art at Tech, UNISA, and head off for an annual art retreat to the ’Berg: “When you’re in a group, you always take a little bit of everything from everyone, and gradually your own style evolves.” Thelma’s reputation as a teacher

ABOVE: Thelma Buzzard. LEFT: Pretty flower paintings by Thelma.

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grew, and so too as an artist. One thing which helped Thelma enormously was her passion for gardening, flowers and floral art. She was a floral art judge for 24 years, and also instrumental in establishing the Watercolour Society. One day she overheard the words, “Thelma Buzzard. She just paints flowers,” and that prompted her to

And so began my art walk. It’s not the material things that count, it’s delight in the ordinary – the wonderment of every vista, every face, every object. Seeing the world with new eyes. How lucky am I to have had Thelma as my art teacher, not only to gain her extensive knowledge – but to see the whole world in a new light.”

When you’re in a group, you always take a little bit of everything from everyone, and gradually your own style evolves try other subject matter like trees, wildlife and life drawing. Conspiratorially, “My only claim to fame was this,” she says, bringing out a Sotheby’s catalogue. “Sotheby’s asked the Watercolour Society if members would submit work for an auction.” Thelma submitted three, and there they were in the brochure. Thelma’s husband died young at age 61, and she remained in their house until two years ago: “Seventy-two years in that house. But after Eric died, I saw it as the next phase of my life. “I devoted my life to my garden and my painting. And here I am at 97, still painting.” Thelma’s teaching has touched many. Acclaimed Durban artist Nicole Pletts attributes much of her success to Thelma: “I met her 27 years ago. She saw such joy and beauty in all her surroundings. It was so refreshing. She saw so many colours in a green leaf, in a dull mussel shell, and demanded that I see them too.

And Nicole met Val at Thelma’s, 27 years ago: “Many a Saturday morning was spent with Val and friends trolling the local art galleries, being inspired by what we saw and rushing off home to try and achieve something vaguely good (with me failing dismally). When the time came for me to find a way to support myself and my family, Val’s sensible and practical advice inspired me to consider taking up art as a career. It was an unheard of possibility. It seemed incomprehensible to me (and everyone I knew) that one could support oneself from art alone. Yet Val said I could, and she had faith in me … faith I never had in myself. I would never have thought it possible to vaguely earn income, let alone support a family, on art. Yet I did it. And it’s all thanks to Val.” »

TOP & MIDDLE RIGHT: Some of Val’s favourite pieces. RIGHT: Val Wilson putting the finishing touches to one of her paintings.

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ABOVE: Val Wilson. RIGHT: Trees and a King Protea by Val.

Ninety years old, and Val Wilson was waiting for a client to arrive. He’d seen her baobab oil painting at the Animal Anti-cruelty League exhibition at La Lucia Mall, and been pipped at the post by another buyer. He didn’t give up, just commissioned his own. Val boarded at Potchefstroom high school: “Three of us decided to do art, but the teacher wasn’t there and we had to sit in on the alternative – geography. When the headmistress who taught that class heard our plans for art, she was very clear: “Art? That’s not a subject, you’ll do

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geography.” And that was that. “I often wondered what would have happened had I done art then,” says Val. Val always wanted to draw as a child, but somehow it didn’t really happen. Once married, she took up golf: “One of the girls had just been to art and showed us what she’d done, and I loved it. I joined her class.” Val lost her husband very young: “I couldn’t bear the thought of the staff unemployed, and I needed to earn a living, so my son and I took on the business. That was my life for a long time.” She shrugs, “You have to do things you never did before.” Val’s interest in art took a back seat, but in time, she returned to it, learning oils with John Smith, then later, watercolours with Thelma. She considers those art classes as very special: “When you have art in common, you make lifelong friends. Everyone is generous, and you learn from one another.” Thelma won’t forget her first sale: “We were exhibiting on

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the uMhlanga Green, and I’d painted a little boat. A dealer asked if I could do more. Never one to say ‘No’, I asked how many? One hundred.” Thelma headed off on holiday with a friend, touring the coastline and taking endless

in the Park in 1995: “Her stand was next to mine and she had nipped off to the loo. Suddenly a lady appeared, desperate for Val’s large watercolour of three white ducks. “I got up and sold it. It was R600. Unbeknown to me, it

When you have art in common, you make lifelong friends. Everyone is generous, and you learn from one another photographs of boats.” She grins, “I didn’t manage the one hundred – eventually, I was over it!” Thelma’s inspiration is Africa. She’s travelled extensively worldwide, but her subject matter is largely our landscape: “I’ve travelled to every little dorpie, been on hiking trails, visited endless countries, but still …” International abstract artist Natasha Barnes met Val on her first day on the job at Art

was her first sale here ever. On the way back, Val noticed a woman walking off with her painting, but was too embarrassed to confront her. I walked over to her, introduced myself, and handed her her money.” That was the start of a wonderful friendship. “I count her among my most treasured friends, especially her wonderful advice over the years. I hear her voice over and over saying to me, ‘Natasha, just put your head down and keep going!’”

Val doesn’t paint every day: “I paint when I absolutely have to,” she laughs. “I do better under pressure, like for an exhibition.” Thelma sees painting as an intuitive, rather than a logical process: “You see something captivating, photograph it, then go ahead and paint it. I don’t really know how, I just do.” She adds, “The wonderful thing is you never leave painting. Unlike so many other things, you can keep going forever … once you start, you can’t really stop. And there’s no reason to.”

TOP: Wild Dogs by Thelma. ABOVE: Thelma at work in her studio.

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Creating music from ART PHONES ARE NOT JUST PHONES – AND WHEN YOU’RE LISTENING TO MUSIC ON THEM, YOU WANT IT TO BE LOUD AND CLEAR. LEE CURRIE MET UP WITH MOUNT EDGECOMBE’S TRACY VOSS WHO HAS CREATED A PIECE OF ART THAT DOES JUST THAT

met Mount Edgecombe artist Tracy Voss at a fair recently where she was showcasing some beautifully crafted clay horns attracting a small crowd of curious people. Nestled inside one of the horns, a smartphone emitted music with impressive clarity and volume considering there were no wires in sight. Art in myriad forms has always been an integral part of Tracy’s life, pottery being one of her passions since childhood. She had earlier

enjoyed a successful exhibition entitled Some Bunny Loves You – featuring a variety of clay rabbits each with their own quirky character. The pandemic effectively sent her back to the drawing board –or rather kiln – when her events company Out the Box Productions came to a grinding halt. “During 2020 I found myself taking a breath after many successful years in business,” recalls Tracy. “This time I wanted to do something not only marketable, but creative and different. I searched my

cupboards and found two unopened rolls of clay which I hadn’t touched for a couple of years. I then found myself going down the ‘Rabbit Hole’ on Pinterest looking for inspiration. I came across a Japanese site that made ceramics to amplify phones and wondered if I could create something similar.

come from your smartphone speaker, giving you a minimum 20 decibel bump in sound volume,” explains Tracy. And everyone agrees – they are more beautiful to look at than conventional speakers and a piece of art even when not in use, for instance as a centrepiece for a table. “They’re

They’re totally eco-friendly and don’t even use electricity – perfect for our Eskom issues Ben my husband was always telling me to create something functional ... and so my earthen amplifiers were born. I refer to it as acoustic art, a decorative passive amplifier for your smartphone.” The amplifiers are made from clay, double fired in high temperature kilns, then glazed with high quality black, white or mint-coloured ceramic glaze. “They work exactly as old gramophones used to work. You place your smartphone upright in the amp, and the gramophone shape serves to amplify the sound waves that

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totally eco-friendly and don’t even use electricity – perfect for our Eskom issues! I’ve found they’ve become talking points because people cannot believe how well they work.” Tracy is married to actor/ comedian Ben Voss (aka Beauty Ramapelepele), and their engaging 10-year-old daughter Scarlett has already tried her hand at selling hair scrunchies she has sewn herself. “With parents like us, Scarlett is destined to love the arts,” smiles Tracy. “We encourage her to try as many mediums as possible and

Automatic Pool Cleaners Get a new pool cleaner, or a few replacement parts. We'll also repair it for you. not only make art but try to market it.” We asked Tracy for her take on learners who want to focus on art at school or as a career. “You might feel this is an ‘easy way out’, but in the real world art is a career like any other. You not only have to be an artist, but a marketing guru, ‘techi’ and know how to build your brand. “You might be talented and have found your medium, but you still need to sell your art to sustain yourself

LEFT: Acoustic art – Tracy

with three of her earthen amplifiers or clay horns. BELOW: A family of many talents – Tracy, Ben and daughter Scarlett.

– which most of the time is more difficult to do than the creation of your work. However, if art makes your heart sing, follow your dream and find ways, be malleable and adjust your creativity into everyday work. Who knows ... it could make you famous!” Tracy hopes to promote her online store internationally. “Perhaps Covid’s ‘lockdown creativity’ will create a whole new sustainable business for our family.”

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wenty-nine years ago the Pietermaritzburg doctor shut down three medical practices to found Gift of the Givers on the advice of his Turkish spiritual mentor. Some might have considered him crazy, but his journey has been divinely inspired. Aged 30, Sooliman met and engaged with Sufi Sheikh Muhammed Saffer Effendi al Jerrahi who said: “My son, you will form an organisation. The name will be Waqful Waqifin, and that name is translated into ‘Gift of the Givers’. You will serve all people of all races, of all religions, of all colours, of all classes, of all political affiliations and of any geographical location. You will serve them unconditionally.” And so, Sooliman formed a small outfit that has grown in three decades to deliver R3,8-billion in humanitarian assistance to millions in disaster zones from Bosnia to Syria. What was warily regarded as an obscure Muslim charity is now internationally trusted for its response to trauma and desperation regardless of victim identity. Few people could have achieved what Sooliman has. He is brutally honest and yet is feted by captains of industry, politicians, civic leaders and people wanting to contribute to his causes. Sooliman is a trim, neatly attired man, and wears a

trademark Gift of the Givers shirt with the South African flag emblazoned on the left arm. He thinks fast, talks fast and acts smartly. He carries four cellphones and yet seems unflappable – like the cellphones are hotwired to his brain? He chuckles. One phone is for WhatsApp; another is for local

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SOOLIMAN IN THE NATION-BUILDING STAKES, FEW PEOPLE ARE IN THE LEAGUE OF IMTIAZ SOOLIMAN. IN A COUNTRY CRAVING HOPE, BUT BESIEGED BY CORRUPTION, SERVICE DELIVERY FAILURES, UNREST AND THE WOEFUL DIVIDE BETWEEN RICH AND POOR, HE IS A BALM FOR THE SOUL staff (there are 100); another is for global staff (there are 450 outside of South Africa); and the fourth one is a backup. Sooliman’s sanity comes from his Sufism. When he encounters problems, he says they are miraculously resolved, allowing his organisation to offer 30 services in a range of sectors solving a host of problems.

In South Africa alone it is providing water to droughtstricken areas, dealing with Covid-19 requests from multiple health facilities, supporting orphanages, old age centres, and institutions for the physically and mentally challenged. The organisation is helping upgrade state hospitals and

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schools, delivering fodder and nutritionally enriched pellets to animals, providing food parcels to the hungry, and it was at the forefront of a lightning-fast response to the civil unrest. Part of Sooliman’s appeal has been to attract a diverse set of donors and to brand Gift of the Givers as patriotic, altruistic, and all-encompassing. “Our diversity should not be an impediment to development nor an instrument for conflict or disorder but rather an opportunity to draw on our strengths.”

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Imtiaz Sooliman, founder of Gift of the Givers, has been serving people worldwide unconditionally. ABOVE: Ithlokomeleng old age home. ABOVE RIGHT: Handing out food parcels in Darkoush in northern Syria.

Sooliman stresses that the hallmarks of “spirituality are caring, compassion, generosity, sharing, ethics, integrity,

honesty, forgiveness, annihilation of ego”. All this might sound like it is out of a prayer book, but the piety hasn’t stopped Sooliman’s stinging criticism of state failures. His organisation brought water back to Grahamstown residents after a ridiculous struggle against government bureaucracy, for example. His persistence won the day and now cabinet

ministers seek Sooliman out because his harsh words are tempered by praise and backed up by solutions, be it for victims in war zones, drought besieged farmers or impoverished shack dwellers. Sooliman doesn’t feign modesty when asked about what seems like the organisational magic of Gift of the Givers. He says:

“People come into my life in response to problems. There’s no way to explain it. It is in the hands of God Almighty.” The successes energise Sooliman and his team. And the certainty that “spirituality never fails, it fosters good deeds and will help South Africans find one another, sincerely and permanently in harmony rather than destruction and discord”.

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ur recent competition offering a life-changing eyebrow makeover to one of our lucky readers got a lot of traction – we received a huge number of entries! The Ridge magazine’s winner, Val Naidoo, loved the professional transformation done by top makeup artist Debbie Jean. “I’ve always had a problem with my eyebrows being too thin and winning this has been a blessing. Of all my flaws, my eyebrows are my major flaw – until now,” says Val. “The experience was really fun. I don’t like tatoos and piercings, so for me it was a little sore, but

ABOVE: Debbie works in Hillcrest, Salt Rock and Durban North – as well as in Cape Town four times a year. Contact her to find out more, and to make a booking that will change your life.

when Debbie Jean noticed I was in a bit of discomfort, she added more anaesthetic. “Debbie Jean was gentle and professional, and I’m looking forward to my touch-up soon. I can’t wait for my new look eyebrows, ” says Val. Eyebrows frame the eyes, and now that we are all wearing masks they play a big role in completing our look. The best thing about getting your eyebrows done with Debbie is that you get brows in a better shape and colour, and they don’t wipe off in our humid climate. Debbie uses cosmetic tattoo techniques, and it will take seven to 10 days for your brows to heal. During this time you can’t do high impact exercise or put your head under water. Your

brows will look dark for a week, and the top layer will peel off to reveal a more subtle colour underneath. Having your brows done is a two-part process as the skin will “kick out” some of the colour – it’s the natural healing process. At the second session a second layer of colour gets added and the shape can

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hen styling a workstation or desk I like to take my cue from the colours and tones of the space. In this workspace the colours in the room were a combination of blush, nude, gold and white. As this is your space, be innovative and creative with vessels for storage of necessities, and have fun sourcing tonal bits and bobs for your countertop display. A beautiful mirror tray was used to display marble vessels to hold typo artist markers/ gold paperclips and nude pencils from Poetry

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stores, perspex and rose gold scissors/tape dispenser and staples, all sourced from various online suppliers. The desk pad and stationery from Indigo & Ivory complement the look perfectly – and are handy for taking down notes in a hurry. Two important factors to include in your workspace are good lighting – to me I adore a gorgeous desk lamp – and, of course, a comfy chair. Find my style: I find beautiful storage items for the desks I style from Mr Price Home, H & M Home, uMhlanga Spar Decor Division, and Typo stores. For stationery, pencils and notebooks my go-to places are Typo, Poetry, uMhlanga Spar, CNA and PNA. Online I also love Macaroon and Indigo & Ivory.

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t’s a new school year and apart from all the other things a new year entails, it usually involves buying new school shoes. Children spend a lot of time in their school shoes, so it’s important to choose carefully to make sure what you decide on will work best for their feet. Different brands of school shoes have different styles within that brand. The main differences are: shape of the toebox; height of toebox (how much space for toes); flexibility over ball of foot; weight; innersole thickness/comfort; heel counter height; heel counter support; and heel height.

to look for *inWhat a school shoe • Genuine leather upper. • It needs to be lightweight. • It should take on the shape of the child’s foot. • It needs to be flexible over the ball of the foot. • Sturdy supportive heel counter. • There should be half-a-thumbs width between the longest toe and the front of the shoe when trying on the shoe. When buying school shoes, try on the shoes with the right socks. It’s also best to try on shoes towards the end of the day as feet “swell” during the day. That way you know you’re sure to get the best fit. Different brands also might differ slightly in their sizing, so try on a size up and down and see which is the best fit. Don’t get stuck on numbers. Encourage your children to make it a habit to do their laces/buckles up when putting on shoes, and undoing them before taking the shoes off. There’s very important reasoning behind this. When you simply pull your shoes off you stretch the upper of the shoe which won’t give you a secure fit

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NELFRIE KEMP’S ADVICE FOR BUYING SCHOOL SHOES when wearing them. Likewise, by pushing your shoe off your foot using the other foot, you damage the heel counter (back heel part of the shoe) and weaken the support. The foot and shoe need to function as a unit when walking and proper tying of laces and buckles is important for that. When passing on shoes, look at the outersole, innersole and inside of the heel counter. If the shoe has been worn excessively it could influence the next pair of feet steps.

ABOVE: Podiatrist Nelfrie Kemp and Claire Thango – a winning foot care team.

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FOR THE SPECIAL ONE IN YOUR LIFE THIS VALENTINE’S DAY, THIS IS MORE THAN ABOUT SCORING BROWNIE POINTS (OR GETTING LUCKY). AND THE WORLD’S GREATEST CHEFS AGREE – THE SECRET INGREDIENT REALLY IS LOVE, WRITES ANT ELLIS

omething that really makes me happy is seeing dudes like me getting their hands dirty in the kitchen. Yeah, yeah – they can all braai. But sadly, many of us can’t do much better than the occasional slice of avo toast or air-fried fish fingers. So here’s the deal, boys: It’s time to step up. This Valentine’s Day you’ll be grabbing a frilly apron, letting what’s left of your hair down and fixing a kick-ass three-course meal for your one and only. Ladies, give these recipes immediately to your husband or boyfriend (or the nearest available kitchen-phobic chucklehead) and kick up your feet with a glass of ice-cold prosecco. It’s payback time. Guys, relax. We’re not going from zero to masterchef here. I’ve created and tested each of these dishes for three things – simplicity of ingredients and cooking method, speed, and of course, maximum flavour. You should have no problem finding any of the ingredients, or the equipment you need, in your own kitchen. Each of these recipes feeds four.

The Simplest Summer Salad SWEET, PEPPERY AND CREAMY WITH A ZESTY VINAIGRETTE. YOU’VE GOT THIS. Salad: 1 ripe mango, peeled and cut into slices • 1 large ripe avocado, halved, sliced and deshelled • 1 cup rocket leaves Citrus Dressing: 1/4 cup lime, lemon or orange juice, freshly squeezed • 1 tbsp olive oil • 1 tsp sugar • pinch of chilli flakes • pinch of salt • freshly ground black pepper This couldn’t be easier. Peel the mango, then carefully slice around the pit, opening the angle of your knife when you feel resistance – then cut the cheeks into slices. To get your avo flesh out perfectly, half the avo lengthways, remove the seed and then gently cup each avo half in your hand, run the tip of your knife through the flesh at 5mm intervals across the longest length. Using a tablespoon along the inside of the skin, scoop out the slices. Arrange the mango, avo and fresh rocket leaves in a bowl and dress with vinaigrette before serving. Level it up: Add a sprinkling of pomegranate rubies or paper-thin slices of red onion.

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Wham-bam Thai Fish Curry with Pineapple

HERE’S THE PROOF THAT SO OFTEN JUST A FEW INGREDIENTS CAN REALLY DELIVER. • 250g hake fillet, cut into cubes • 1 large pineapple, peeled and blended to a pulp in a blender (a 400g tin of crushed pineapple, drained, will work) • ½ white onion, chopped • 1 can coconut milk • ½ red pepper, deseeded and cut into strips • 1 tbsp Thai red curry paste • 1 tbsp fish sauce • chopped coriander leaves to garnish In a tablespoon of sunflower oil in a large pan, lightly fry onion. Add pineapple, coconut milk, red pepper, curry paste and fish sauce, combine over medium-high heat. Reduce heat to medium, add fish. Cook for 5 minutes or until fish is cooked through. Serve with Basmati rice (just follow the instructions on the packet and you won’t go wrong), topped with coriander leaves. Level it up: Garnish with fresh red chilli and a squeeze of fresh lime juice. If you prefer, substitute fish with prawns or cubed tofu.

3-ingredient Lemon Pudding

THIS REALLY IS AS FOOLPROOF AS IT GETS. DON’T LET ME DOWN. • 250ml whipping cream • 1 can sweetened condensed milk • juice of 3 lemons, and the zest of 2 • lemon zest from 1 lemon to garnish

Whip cream until thickened but not stiff. Add condensed milk to a bowl and mix in lemon juice with grated zest. Fold in whipped cream – do not stir or mix heavily – use broad, sweeping strokes. Portion equally into glasses and chill. To serve, top with fresh berries, grated zest or your favourite fresh fruit.

FOR MORE INFO Talk to me at ant@rockthekitchen.co.za

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IF YOU ARE FEELING LIKE THE REST OF US AND IN NEED OF A SUMMER TRANSFORMATION, IT’S NOT TOO LATE. JUST MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE FOLLOWING KEY ITEMS IN YOUR WARDROBE

hether we are working from home, socialising and travelling or not, designers and fashion experts have moved off their sofas and back into the studio, to bring us something other than leisurewear for 2022. It’s clear we are all needing some fun, and after months of muted tones and casual silhouettes, the 2022 summer trend perfectly embodies the idea of a sunny disposition.

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1 Drop It Low

This summer, baring your midriff with low-slung jeans or trousers will place you at the forefront of fashion. Say goodbye to high-rise jeans – it’s now the season for this non-fussy, ultra-low, baggy, oversized silhouette to take centre stage.

2 Super Sheer

This controversial summer trend is hot off the red carpet and oozing extreme fun. Evolving from the “barely-there” version of strategically placed pieces of fabric, the Naked Dress gets more sheer and transparent in 2022. Made from revealing fabrics such as lace and mesh, these brave ensembles are for the daring woman looking to cause a stir.

3 Crochet All Day

Whether you are looking to add a touch of texture to your summer wardrobe or are simply staying on trend, this summer is the time to get Granny busy crafting you that classic crochet bikini or colourful bucket hat.

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4 Brighter Days

According to top designers, we are in for a very lemon-lime 2022 – with a colour palette that’s playful, vibrant, energetic and pretty! Think all shades of the rainbow. Lime green, neon sunshine, fuschia pink and sunset orange are all trending hues – and each with its own tang. Whichever hue you chose to wear, each one is guaranteed to lift your mood.

5 Ultra Mini-mini

This trend possibly started with the introduction of the tennis skirt in late 2021. After months of Covid fatigue and fashion boredom, there is a strong desire for our wardrobes and lives to be filled with some flirty excitement. A chic yet still youthful way to embrace the trend is to balance your silhouette with a long-sleeved top half, while showing flesh at the bottom. For a fresh, wearable and more relaxed take on the trend, pair an oversized sweater, knit, blazer or white shirt with your micro-mini and get those legs out of hibernation once and for all.

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6 Powering Up

Wearing a suit has been off the sartorial radar for several months, however, as we head back to the office there is a definite shift towards a smarter look and the return of the power suit. The 2022 suit is seen in more free-flowing materials offering greater freedom and flexibility and in more loose-fitting cuts. Oversized, brightly coloured and complete with show-stopping accents – from waist ties to contrast black hardware and bold shoulders – power up as you step back into the workspace with style.

7 Bikini Life

The message is clear – don’t wait for the beach to get your bikini game right. Summer 2022 sees underwear become a perfectly acceptable form of outerwear, expressing a certain sensuality. Super chic when done in the right way, paired with pencil skirts and trousers, layered beneath an open blazer. The trick is to pull this trend off with a subtle hint of sexy.

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BORN TO WIN, BUILT TO WOW AND DESIGNED TO INSPIRE. LES ABERCROMBIE MEETS UP WITH A BALLITO FAMILY BUSINESS THAT CAN CUT ANYTHING INTO ANYTHING pictures dawn rouse and supplied

i! Thank you for coming. It’s going to be great having magazine coverage,” was my warm welcome from Caitlyn when I arrived at Wow Cutting in Ballito. She offered me a seat at a beautiful wood and glass table and proceeded to give me a comprehensive lesson on an array of cutting methods from laser to more aggressive water jet cutting plus a host of other fascinating design trends. Established in 2012 by Gary da Silva, his daughter Caitlyn and husband, Sky van Niekerk, Wow Cutting has its premises in a new, easily accessible, light industrial park in Ballito. Family owned and run, the company employs a highly experienced eight-man team of carpenters, designers and fabricators – all of whom have been with the business since its inception. Everything is produced inhouse, except for the powder-coating of metal frames and glass toughening which is outsourced to local Ballito companies. For their tables, Wow Cutting specialise in solid hardwood slabs with river’s edge. The wood used is either Matumi or Japanese

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van Niekerk, Caitlyn van Niekerk, Gary da Silva, Wendy da Silva and Henry Meyer. TOP: American walnut river’s edge tables with glass river “running down” each centre. RIGHT: Reverse river – Japanese maple reverse river’s edge table.

maple, and is sourced locally from sustainable forests and processed by local mills – truly proudly South African, from start to finish. I commented on the table at which we were sitting and Caitlyn casually said, “Oh, that’s our ‘river’s edge’ design.” Having never heard the term, she went on to explain: A river’s edge design is where the natural (live), outside of a wood slab (bark) faces the inside as a feature of the design. So, your tabletop would comprise of two slabs (or a split slab) with the “river’s edges” facing each other and the “river” being the glass space between the two. The final product is aesthetically very pleasing and eye-catching. The options are endless and clients are free to design their own wares. They are involved from the outset of sourcing the slab, choosing

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the grain detail and the powder-coating colour of the frame. A virtual design is then digitally produced which, once approved, enters the manufacturing process. Once complete, the client is invited to inspect the final product before delivery. In today’s world where so much of what we buy is flat-packed, it’s a

Your tabletop would comprise of two slabs (or a split slab) with the “river’s edges” facing each other and the “river” being the glass space between the two privilege to be up-close-and-personal with one’s own bespoke piece of beauty. Wow Cutting is a dynamic and evolving company. As Caitlyn says, “We can cut anything into anything!” As their main clients are interior decorators, architects and property developers, they receive an array of requests. Recently they were required to design bespoke mirrors in black powder-coated frames. No problem for the team. They also design privacy screens where the client can either choose from the standard range of designs, or request that their own »

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Some of the many products that can be seen in the showroom at Ballito, custom made for particular clients.

design be used. The steel screens are usually used to create privacy between neighbours but indoor screens can also be made. Many North Coast schools have started investing in wooden trophies for their end of year prize-giving – a well-chosen piece of natural wood with a subtle, engraved plaque. Apart from offering corporate gifts, Wow has an online facility selling kitchenware called The Groen Boer. Here you can choose from a variety of chopping boards, cheese boards, snack boards and carving boards. Visit www.thegroenboer.co.za. When next you’re needing something designed and cut, from specialist tiles to corporate gift boxes, be sure to call the Wow team.

FOR MORE INFO 032 815 2929; caitlyn@wowcutting.co.za

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Location, security and privacy translates to peace, happiness and a coveted lifestyle that only Sera Bella can provide. Peace of mind: Situated within a double gated security precinct, in addition to patrolled security and tactical presence, Sera Bella also has an electrified perimeter fence with surveillance cameras and a 24-hour security guard manning the access control from the guardhouse.

Location is key: Sera Bella is ideally located to Gateway Theatre of Shopping, hospitals, prestigious private schools, King Shaka International Airport, restaurants and beaches.

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he beauty of living in KwaZulu-Natal is that some of the most amazing scenery and experiences are only a very short distance away – and beautiful crafts and collectibles produced by local talents, as well as great food made from fresh ingredients farmed nearby, are usually alongside them. The only problem, according to Cheryl Lefevre Maiden, founder of The Saunter, is that many travellers don’t know how or where to find those gems. That’s why she created The Saunter – an online and readily accessible selection of routes across KwaZulu-Natal that showcases art, crafts, collectibles, activities and eateries. Her personal favourite is joining talented artists in their studios and watching them work – and many of the artists listed on The Saunter are happy to do just that. Cheryl explains that The Saunter is actually the legacy of her mother who joined with two friends during the 80s to create the Gillitt Foundation to help struggling pensioners and long-term patients at the local Hillcrest Hospital sell their creations. More than 30 years later, Cheryl has taken this a step further. She recalls how, on returning from the UK to care for her sick mother, she discovered that many locals knew very little about home-grown artists and crafters. Yet, when they either visited or lived overseas, the first

thing they did was visit art galleries and museums. The Saunter began to take shape four years ago in the Upper Highway area. “This area is rich in creative people. We now have a website and a Facebook page and all we are doing is pulling things together with beautiful visuals to show people what is on their doorstep,” she says. By the time The Saunter was officially launched at the beginning of 2021, it had been divided into seven different saunters and now includes central Durban, the North Coast, Pietermaritzburg, the Midlands, the Drakensberg and Clarens.

It’s the most fantastic thing I’ve ever done. Trying to find the right artists and crafters along the way is so rewarding Cheryl and a network of helpers identify artists, crafters, shops and restaurants and then try them out before including them on The Saunter. She also encourages people to send in suggestions which can be anonymously visited to ensure that they meet the strict listing criteria. The end result is that they have “the best of the best”, she explains.

Cheryl says that The Saunter is a bit like the Midlands Meander of old. A formal listing comes at a fraction of the price which is important as creative and hospitality based enterprises have taken a beating during the pandemic. “We have a little bit of accommodation, but not a lot. The main thing is about finding wonderful things to do. That might be a beautiful place to walk, it might be a museum to go to or it might be an artist’s studio. For example, near Shongweni, there’s an artist who does wonderful work with blown glass and another in Forest Hills who makes beautiful jewellery and cutlery decorated with Murano glass.” Cheryl and her helpers also create suggested routes that connect the listings. “It’s the most fantastic thing I’ve ever done. Trying to find the right artists and crafters along the way is so rewarding,” she says. »

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TOP: This safe swimming beach, Thompson’s Bay, is nestled in a cove just north of Ballito. Picture: The Saunter LEFT: Created by local residents, the Iphithi Nature Reserve includes a variety of different habitats, a man-made dam and a system of pathways. Picture: The Saunter ABOVE: Oribi Gorge just inland from the South Coast is great for anything from sight-seeing to bungee jumping. Picture: Shirley le Guern

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She is also very passionate about getting people to buy local. “That’s hugely important. We talk about artists and crafters but actually it’s about an artisan movement. I love and value beautiful things made by hand – and that includes food. You get wonderful factory made things as well but we are in a phase right now where we need to support individuals and small businesses. That’s how we will get this local economy back on its feet.” Cheryl says it is still early days and Covid has unfortunately kept people at home.

But that is changing and people are again keen to venture out. “I never set out to be online. My main objective is to get people walking through doors to see how things are created. That’s what counts – but it is going to take time.” “The Saunter will never be finished. It will continue to evolve,” she says. They are about to add a Wild Coast Saunter and are in the throes of gathering information about the South Coast.

FOR MORE INFO www.thesaunter.co.za

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ABOVE: The Howick Falls is the perfect anchor for the soon to be revamped tourist precinct in the Midlands town. Picture: Shirley le Guern TOP LEFT: Cheryl suggests calling up an artist or crafter, such as Carl Roberts, and making an appointment to visit and watch them work in their studio. Picture: The Saunter LEFT: Housed in an old railway shed along the R103, The Platform is home to an art gallery and Nguni hide seller. Stop at The Local for great bagels and good coffee. Picture: Shirley le Guern

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s we move into 2022, we expect the following trends to impact our property market, according to Pam Golding research: Interest rates: These are likely to be moving higher but the slow pace suggests this will remain a benign environment for the housing market with interest rates expected to rise gradually in small 25bps increments. Affordability: We have already seen the surge in first-time home buyer demand fade as the effects of the aggressive interest rate cuts early last year abate. Although interest rates are unlikely to prove a significant impediment, consumers are dealing with the economic fallout of the pandemic, load shedding and subdued growth prospects. That said, SA’s young population does mean that there will always be a steady demand from young buyers – to the extent that they can afford to purchase a home. Co-living and merging of residential and commercial: The co-living trend continues to gather momentum despite initial fears that the pandemic would bring this to an end. People have realised that infection is more about shared air space than contaminated surfaces, and outdoor space is likely to retain its appeal as we all spend more time at home –

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less time than last year but more time than before Covid. A key theme of the pandemic is that businesses need to be as flexible as possible, so co-working remains popular, as does co-living – in micro units with shared living spaces which offer community and reduced costs and maintenance. Conversion of office space: We have seen the conversion of office space into residential and/or the mixeduse model for some time, but now as businesses become more flexible to survive in the pandemic economy, the focus is to try to tap into as many markets as possible – office, retail, residential, gym, etc. Pure office space is likely to be under the most pressure of all sectors, so it is anticipated that much of this will have to change.

This implies a focus on central cultural districts in recognition of the fact that people are not there purely for the business but rather acknowledging the fact that in order to collaborate they may need physical connection. Fading Zoom Boom but semigration prevails: One of the key trends to emerge during the pandemic was the rise of the Zoom Boom – the realisation that working remotely meant you were able to live anywhere. This

Business hubs: It is becoming apparent, particularly given the acceleration in fuel price hikes, that even if people only come to the office occasionally, the office needs to be in a prime and accessible location, making location even more important than before.

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prompted many homeowners to relocate to peripheral suburbs or to smaller towns historically considered holiday or retirement destinations. Now, however, people are gradually returning to the office amidst a realisation that there are certain types of work which require physical interaction with ones’ colleagues. While there is currently general agreement that we are unlikely to return to the five-day at the office workweek, the realisation that one may well be required to be present in the office three days a week has made people reassess the reality of living a few hours’ drive away from their place of work. To rent or buy? The shift from renting to buying was probably at its peak in 2020 as first-time home buyers took

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advantage of the interest rate cuts. Now that the impact of those cuts is fading and the reality of the sluggish economy is being felt, the rental market is improving. Also, the need to be as flexible as possible in these extremely uncertain times will undoubtedly increase the appeal of rental. However, South Africa has a strong tradition of home ownership which remains intact, including first-time buyers and those seeking value for money. Estates remain sought after: Homes in estates remain in high demand and buyers will pay a premium for a sought after, secure estate – for example, Pam Golding Properties uMhlanga sold three similar properties for over R10-million each in the first two weeks of this year. Multi-generation living: The need for flexibility amidst challenging economic conditions suggests that multigenerational living will continue to gain in popularity. Going off the grid: Where affordable for homeowners, there is an ongoing desire to go off the grid, even if partially, with the installation of energy and water saving solutions which are now becoming the new normal amid rapidly

rising costs of electricity and utilities coupled with service delivery challenges, and partly because climate change is becoming a critical mainstream issue. Outlook and summary We remain optimistic regarding the country’s residential property market, which is expected to remain active as the long-term appeal of this sector holds strong. This is especially so since, in addition to the usual reasons for movement, the lockdown has inadvertently created the rationale for a wave of new reasons for relocation and property acquisitions, from the aforementioned upsizing for additional space due to work from home scenarios, to lifestyle moves, to more appealing destinations further afield. If you can live and work anywhere, it makes sense to live somewhere with a better quality of life in a more desirable location. With a population of predominantly “young” buyers, many of whom are likely to prefer life in a city hub, the increasing demand for accommodation to buy is helping drive activity in the residential property market, filtering upwards across all sectors of the market, boosting activity in middle markets and higher price bands as some existing homeowners upscale, and even creating stock shortages in high-demand areas.

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dislike Valentine’s Day but my father always said it’s a good time to take a closer look at your partner and get a better idea of what really matters to her. My dad met my mom on Valentine’s Day. It was 1970, he had just moved to Durban, and a work colleague set him up on a date. My dad cut his hair for the big night and polished his shoes and borrowed a suit that more or less fitted him. They arranged to meet at the restaurant because he didn’t have a car, only a scooter. He couldn’t decide whether to bring a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates, so he brought both. At this point of my dad’s story, I interrupted him to say, “Wow. You were kind of a dork.” “I wasn’t a dork,” he said. “I was polite. That’s good manners.” “You could have played a bit more cool.” “Thanks, my boy,” he said. “I tell you what, when you have children and a wife who loves you, then I’d love to hear your dating advice.” My dad was nervous and even more so when his date arrived. She was lovely, and her hair was taller and beehivier than every

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other hairdo in the joint. He tried to keep cool. He took her coat and pulled out her chair and gave her the chocolates and the flowers. Her name was Ronnie and she liked the chocolates but she wrinkled her nose and said she didn’t like carnations. “You can’t blame her for that,” I said. “Carnations are lame.”

She ordered mussels, which my dad remembers because when the waitress brought the food she tripped and spilt them all down Ronnie’s dress 64

“Nonsense,” he scowled. “Carnations are elegant.” My dad ordered them a bottle of sparkling wine. Unfortunately he didn’t order the most expensive one and that was a mistake because she took one sip and wrinkled her nose again and said it was too sweet. “Her nose looked pretty when she wrinkled it,” said my dad. “But I wished she wouldn’t wrinkle it quite so much.” Things weren’t off to a good start. She refused to drink any more of the sparkling wine and he couldn’t afford another bottle, so he was left with the

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tricky decision of whether or not to keep drinking the first one on his own. He decided, wisely, that he should. She ordered mussels, which my dad remembers because when the waitress brought the food she tripped and spilt them all down Ronnie’s dress. “It wasn’t really the mussels that bothered her,” my dad clarified. “It was the sauce.” When the food landed on Ronnie’s lap, she was furious. My dad remembers her yelling at the waitress, “Look at my dress! Look! Look at my dress!” “It’s not that bad,” my dad tried to reassure her, so she yelled at him too. Ronnie yelled some more at the waitress and when she went off to go clean herself, the waitress apologised to my dad for ruining his Valentine’s evening. It was her first week on the job, and she knew something terrible was going to happen – and now it had. My dad could see that she was upset and trying very hard not to cry. He thought she was brave and dignified, and he told her he was sorry Ronnie had yelled like that. And because he was being kind, that did make her start crying, and to stop her crying he asked her if she liked carnations, and she said she did, so he gave them to her. Some time later the waitress became my mom, and for the rest of their lives together, she still pretended she liked carnations.

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