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MUMMING IN A COVID- 19 WORLD
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Our resident midwife Natasha talks about birth and motherhood during COVID-19
HOW TO KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONG THROUGH PARENTHOOD
GET YOURSELF OUT OF A FUNK 5 ways to get your mamma zen back
We chat with couples therapist Natalie about keeping that spark alive
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24 Mamma Q+A We spoke with mamma Elle new mum, and positive vibe advocate. She shares her story and her life in squares.
38 Interior Passion Indoor plan lover? We get the tips to take care of your plant babies.
45 Stay in the now Our Mindfulness expert Montse shares her tips to stay in the now.
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Mamma heres to you! MAY WE KNOW THEM MAY WE BE THEM MAY WE RAISE THEM
It's mothers day in just a few days, and putting this edition together. I thought it is only fitting that we celebrate mums, new mums, ivf mums, mums who have lost, stay at home mums, working mums, mums of babies, mums of teens, mums of adults, empty nesters, MUMS! I have the privilage of putting this magazine together and meeting some of the most inspirational amazing mammas, supporting small mum run businesses and putting together tips and tricks in hopes to help at least one mum on her motherhood journey. I find looking and reaching out to all of these amazing women the most enjoyable part of my job. Many of the women I meet are truly inspirational, how they balance business, life, love and motherhood should be applauded. This issue is dedicated to every mamma out there, you are truly superhuman, you are fabulous, YOU ARE STRONG! I hope you enjoy this issue as much as we did putting it together.
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The Brochure lied by Anissa Papadokos, is a short illustrated story of a first time mum's journey into motherhood. It depicts issues which are still a big part of our community and which affect many mothers today. These issues include anxiety, depression, fear and even breastfeeding.
The purpose of the book is to give assurance to mothers who may be struggling with motherhood.
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Biz Spotlight V AND ME CUSTOM DESIGNS "Mamma Catherine from V and Me Custom designs shares how she became a biz mamma and how her jewellry line has blown up"
Hey gorgeous! My name is Catherine, and I am the jewellery maker and designer behind V and Me Custom Designs. My husband is the other half of the V and Me Team and is in charge of the website and marketing for the business. I have two beautiful children, Valencia and Ambrose and live in Melbourne, Australia. While pregnant with my son, I was searching for a personalised necklace that would hold my children's initials. I had always loved this style of jewellery but couldn't find what I was after, and it was so frustrating!
After a few months of searching, I thought, why don't I design a piece myself? That's precisely what I did. I set up my business while I was pregnant with my son, had a two 1/2-year-old and had no jewellery making skills or experience whatsoever. I researched materials, suppliers, how to stamp, and what stamps to use. The first piece I created was the Valencia Necklace, named after my little babe. I made my next piece a few weeks later, and that was the Esperance Necklace. After receiving many compliments and questions from friends and family asking where I had purchased them from, I was super proud to say I had made them myself and that's when V and Me Custom Designs was born. I created an Instagram account and began posting photos of the pieces I had already made. After a few weeks, I began reaching out to some fantastic influencers and mummas that I knew would love this type of jewellery. Our first V and Me babe was Zoe George from @thesubtlemummy. I reached out to Zoe and within days had her chosen piece made and sent out to her. A few days later, she had posted a story on her page wearing our Esperance Necklace. Within a few hours, my inbox was full of messages from people asking how they could get one. At this stage, I didn't have a website and was taking orders via email and DMs. By November of 2018, our website was up and running and made life so much easier. I found that the love of personalised jewellery did not just lie with me but with many women I met and continue to meet every day. I recieve messages and emails almost every day from women asking me how I started my business. I worked late into the night, every night. I chose how hard to work and how far to push myself. I also have my husband's help and support which is what makes us a great team.
My advice to anyone looking to start a small business would be asking for help when you need it and don't be afraid to put your ideas out there. We choose our path in life, so why wouldn't you choose one that makes you happy? I did, and I haven't looked back. Countless early mornings, late nights, tears and fears have and continue to fuel my passion for this little business; I started off with a small room in our home nearly two years ago. I love to create beautiful pieces that can be treasured for years. The majority of the collection is hand made to order. This means that each piece is unique and made, especially for you. With the choice of dates, names, initials or a message that is special to you, you are sure to stand out with your custom piece. It truly is the most beautiful way to have your loved ones with you always. Thankyou to our amazing V and Me Fam for all of your love and support throughout the last 2 years. I can't believe how much this little business has grown, how many pieces have been sent out around Australia and the world and that we have a community of over 11,000 people who have joined us for the ride. All of this would not be possible without you all so from the bottom of my heart, THANKYOU! I am excited about what is planned for this year, for the many new designs in the works and to continue making the most beautiful, exquisite, keepsake jewellery â?¤ Much Love Catherine Owner and Boss Mamma V and Me Custom Designs @vandmecustomdesigns_aus
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Mum bun Mamma Amanda shares her tips for a quick and easy hairdo when your in a rush or just doing mumlife. For more tips, tricks and styling inspiration go to; @thelifestyle.mum and @thehairstylist.co
Like most mums, I love the top bun, aka ‘mum bun’ and it is one of my go-to styles on my days away from the salon. If your the same and looking to switch it up a bit, I’m here to share my tricks and tips to guide you through. I always recommend a heat protection spray before applying any heat to your hair, whether it be from a hairdryer, straightener or curling iron. If you haven’t washed your hair in a couple of days, reach for the dry shampoo, it’s a game-changer! If your having a bad hair day and the trusty top bun doesn’t want to cooperate, go with a low bun. This look is versatile and simple to create. You can try the sleek low bun with a side or centre part or go for a messy low bun. I tend to opt for this and achieve it by slightly backcombing (teasing) the top of my hair to add volume and an undone look. Bring your hair into a low bun and pull a few pieces of hair out from around the front hairline, creating a beautiful soft frame around your face. This is also an excellent tip for a slightly messy ponytail or side braid. If your bored with the everyday top bun, switch it up and go with a half-up top bun instead, that way the hair is off your face yet you can still have your fresh locks on display. And If you want to dress it up, even more, add some curls. Always a winner.
Another tip for busy mums that don’t often have the time to get to a hair salon and a little trick I use to keep those unwanted greys hidden is a coloured root spray or for a more precise touchup, simply use a mascara. So for brunette hair, you would use brown mascara, and for blonde hair, I have found beige eye-shadow does the trick for those few random ones that seem to pop up around the hairline. These are a few products I have tried and tested. Root spray- L’Oreal magic retouch -$16 Kevin Murphy -$39.95 Mascara- You can purchase an affordable one, or you can buy L’Oreal precision root touch up the wand from Priceline or a professional range from a stockist. Eyeshadow/eyebrow kit - for blonde hair, highlighted hair etc.
hypnobirthing
DEMYSTIFYING By Bonny Redman
I’m not a spiritual person in any way – I don’t do crystals (aren’t they just pretty rocks?) and I only do a yoga class for the nap at the end. So when I first heard about hypnobirthing, I brushed it off as something not for me. But with each day, my son’s impending birth drew closer; I craved an option that would give me back some control over the unknown and uncertainty that is labour. And I found that in hypnobirthing. Hypnobirthing aims to alleviate some of the fear that comes with childbirth. Rather than seeing birth as something risky — a dangerous, painful event that requires medical intervention, it’s a way for mothers to focus on the parts they can control. This control is obtained through the use of calm breathing techniques, deep relaxation, visualisations and affirmations to reduce the fear, pain and anxiety of childbirth. I saw hypnobirthing as a way to better prepare for whatever my labour may bring; to become more informed and empowered about the choices I may have to make. Many hypnobirthing mums use a combination of the hypnobirthing methods. Still, I couldn’t see myself chanting affirmations or using meditative tracks – it’s just not me. And that’s the great thing about hypnobirthing - you can choose the elements that work for you. I focused on the breathing techniques – long, slow, controlled breaths which vary depending on the stages of labour, and also used the vast resources provided during the course to develop my birth plan. This plan detailed not only my ideal birth, but what I’d like to happen in case of something when wrong. My preferences for an emergency Csection, vaginal exams, after-birth care etc. were all documented on paper so that when the time came, I could focus on the task at hand – birthing my son. Looking back, preparation was the best thing I could have done. When I went into labour on 14 September 2019, I was able to breathe through each surge (the hypnobirthing term for contraction) until my son was born 7 hours later. I put this down to the fact that I didn’t have to communicate my preferences to the midwifery team – it was all there documented in my birth plan. Instead, I just focused within. Don’t get me wrong, labour wasn’t easy, and hypnobirthing may not guarantee you your “ideal” birth. Besides, at the end of the day, how you birth your child does not matter. But through hypnobirthing, you’ll be a whole lot more prepared going in – and that and safe delivery and healthy baby is all us mums can hope for.
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T H A T When Stan and I made the decision we wanted to extend our family, we were heading overseas for part 2 of our honeymoon to the motherland Greece. In my head, getting pregnant would be easy! Wrong! It took us 15 months, three chemical pregnancies, a laparoscopy in between to finally, fall pregnant with our two little blessings.
P R E C I O U S
gift
So every 3-4 weeks, I was going for my routine scan. Around the 20 week mark, I had lots of fluid and was put basically on bed rest and had to stop work. I was then getting scanned every single week. On my On my eight week scan, my OB at the time noticed two heartbeats and 29th week scan, Dr Olive seemed stressed, something was wrong I he said they are identical with one could tell. She sent me upstairs to placenta and one sac. With this, he get a steroid trigger shot, to help the explained that I had to see an OB blood flow in the umbilical cord. The who dealt with high-risk next day, I went back for a scan, and pregnancies. What? High risk? Dr Olive seemed a lot happier. The Twins? I was confused, shocked, day after, I went back again, again, scared and happy all at once. We Dr Olive still looked stressed. The then made our way to my OB Dr Emily Olive. Dr Olive explained that steroid shot had worn off; I was sent to get my bags packed, and she because they were identical and began trying to look for a hospital to shared the same placenta and sac, deliver my babies who were under there could be complications along 32 weeks. the way.
Evelyn Rados @itsa.twin.thing is a mamma to two precious twin girls, but there journey earthside wasn't at all how she had planned.
I was in complete shock; I cried, I wanted MY doctor to deliver these babies, not someone I didn't know. So I was then sent to the Mercy Hospital for Women, one of the tertiary hospitals for premature babies. After two sleepless nights, my OB and team of doctors at the Mercy, decided for an emergency C-section as my twins developed Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome. So the early hours on Monday the 8th of July 2019, Stan and I were patiently waiting, with monitors on my belly listen to the girl's heartbeats.
I was sent to recovery for an hour or so, my whole body shaking. The nurses wheeled me down to the NICU to see my babies through incubators. I couldn't see their faces with all the machinery and masks on them. I didn't even know what to feel. I just tapped on the window and said: "Mummy's here".
They spent a whole eight weeks in the hospital. With lots of scares along the way. Some being, Influenza, Bronchitis, Staphylococcus and many breathing difficulties that I had to witness. An experience, I will By the time I had my spinal block, a few minutes later, out comes never forget, to not be able to hold your baby without twin 1, Tia. I couldn't hold her; she went straight to the team of permission, or even correctly feed your baby. I am so paediatrician's and doctors. She was wrapped in plastic and on very blessed that they are now seven months old breathing support. A couple of minutes later, out comes twin from birth, and that we made it through. They will 2,Victoria. Off she went also to get her checked and monitored. I forever be my precious miracles. I had nobody to talk wasn't able to hold Tia. Straight down to the NICU (Neonatal to who had gone through a similar situation; I only Intensive Care Unit), she went with my husband. I got hold had the nurses. They were wonderful. They were my Victoria for all up 20 seconds, and then she also went down to sanity! I have now started a blog, to share my the NICU. experience and help others along the way of their journey, with premature babies.
Parenthood
HOW TO KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRONG THOUGH
By Natalie Claire King, Couples Therapist.
Trained as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, Natalie helps couples find new ways to communicate and resolve conflict. Natalie has a Master of Social Science (Couple Counselling) and has worked with couples to help them overcome issues of infidelity, constant arguing, parenting, anxiety, depression, separation and loss, intimacy and sex, and facilitates pre marriage counselling. Natalie looks at the heart of a couple’s distress, identifying the issues that stop relationships from feeling deeply satisfying and allowing each partner to feel truly understood.
www.natalieclaireking.com Currently offering sessions online.
No one talks about the stress children add to a relationship. While it’s common for many, it’s rarely
1. Don’t avoid your feelings. When couples avoid talking about how they’re coping, it
considered when people talk about having children.
can lead to distance and disconnection. It
Many couples expect it will bring them closer, and
takes courage to open up, reveal your
that may happen, but often not in the ways a couple
insecurities and share your inner world
might expect.
with the person who means the most to you, but the moment you do, you create
If you’re feeling completely overwhelmed, utterly
an opportunity for connection.
exhausted, and added strain to your relationship – you’re not alone. It’s ok, totally normal and even expected that you might be feeling all this and more. Dr Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples explains, “For both partners, there is less money, less sleep, more tasks, and more conflict over how to parent: new mums and dads have eight times as many arguments as childless partners.” How you communicate with one another and cope together to manage the stress of parenthood will be
2. Reach for your partner from a place of vulnerability. All too often we can fall into the trap of blaming and criticizing our partner when we’re trying to pull them close. Funnily enough, this will often push them away, as they attack back or shut down and retreat. Avoid this familiar pattern by sharing with your partner where your distress is coming from. For example, “When I ask you to help me with
key in ensuring your relationship stays strong.
[insert task], and you don’t respond, I start
Three ways to communicate with your partner
to get scared that I don’t matter to you,
successfully
that I’m not important to you.”
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“new mums and dads have eight times as many arguments as childless partners.”
3. Be curious about what your partner tells you. Hearing how you impact your partner’s emotional world can sometimes be tough. But know that the only reason you do impact them so great is that you mean so much to them. When they share this with you, try tapping into a place of curiosity, validating your partner’s experience and reassuring them that you want to understand this more. For example, “I hear you say that when I don’t respond, you get the message that you don’t matter to me – perhaps that I’m telling you you’re not important enough to respond to? Help me understand what goes on for you?” It’s also important to get help if you need it – in the form of a couple’s therapist, individual counsellor or even just a babysitter to give you the opportunity to talk.
5 FOODS THAT Libido BOOST YOUR What is an aphrodisiac?
An aphrodisiac is a substance that increases sexual desire, sexual pleasure, or sexual behavior. Substances range from a variety of plants, spices, foods, and synthetic chemicals.
While you might’ve heard that oysters are aphrodisiacs, we did our research and found there are also a heap of other less-exotic foods rumoured to have aphrodisiac qualities that you probably eat every day here are our top 5.
WATERMELON Sweet and juicy and rich in L-citrulline, an amino acid that helps improve blood flow.L-citrulline supports the body in optimizing blood flow when it converts to L-arginine and then to nitric oxide. It is said that L-citrulline has the same properties as Viagra but all natural.
CHILLI Feeling hot? Hot chili peppers contain capsaicin that gives peppers their heat and may increase your libido.
BANANAS Well they are already phallic so it only makes sense right? Bananas contain the bromelain enzyme, that increases libido. Also, they are potent sources of potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin, which increase the body's overall energy levels.
AVACADO According to health.com Energy and a healthy libido are crucial for great sex, and avocados can give you both. They're loaded with minerals, monounsaturated fats (the good kind that protect the heart and lower cholesterol), and vitamin B6—all of which help keep your energy and sex drive up. Smashed Avo on toast anyone?
SAFFRON This spice is often used as an alternative remedy to help treat depression, reduce stress and enhance mood!! Bow chika wow wow
MammaQ+A We spoke with mamma Elle @sheis.elle New mum, and
positive vibe advocate. She
shares her story and her life in squares.
What are you listening to right now? I love podcasts! My top favourite are
The
Papaya Podcast, Motherly and How I Built This.
Sweet or savoury? Ahh, so torn! I’m gonna have to say sweet. I can
NEVER
pass
up
a
piece
of
pie
with
vanilla ice cream!
What are you binge-watching on Netflix right now? Cheer,
Zumbo’s
Just
Desserts
and
Dirty
Money.
f you could bring back one toy from your childhood what would it be and why? I
More
than
supplies “bank
toys,
so
I
I
was
could
teller.”
LOL.
really
play I
into
office
“secretary” loved
and
receiving
stationery, desk organisers, or nice pens for my birthday. To this day, I would be thrilled to be gifted those things!
f the mum journey was a novel what would the title be? I
“Surprised
by
the
unpredictability”
surprised:
a
journey
of
Can you share a bit about your story? In a nutshell, I am a first time mother to my son, Crew, and wife to my rock, Dean. Having
been
a
babysitter,
teacher
and
Auntie,
I
went into motherhood thinking it would be easy. Ha! Was I wrong and totally ignorant. I thought as soon as my husband and I would start trying to conceive, it would happen. Not the case. I thought I would be able to have a vaginal birth. Not the case. I thought my body would be able to quickly go back to how it was before. Not the case. There were so many things Dean and I assumed would
be
easy,
and
when
they
weren’t,
we
felt
overwhelmed. However, through it all, I have grown as a person and felt like I have a new meaning in life. Having a child is the most selfless thing I have ever done. There
have
been
a
lot
of
lows,
highs
and
in-
betweens, and each one of those experiences has enriched my life.
We love your squares because you are open and honest about how your body has changed since becoming a mum and I'm sure so many other mums new and experienced have self criticised their bodies when they don't fit into the "norm" how do you kick self-criticism in the butt? This is a constant journey! I have my good days and bad days. Days where I feel like hot stuff in my skinny jeans and other days I feel like a beached whale. When I start the negative self-talk, I try to combat
it
done/can
by do
celebrating for
me,
what
instead
of
my
body
focusing
has
on
my
limitations and what it is not. I don’t necessarily love how my stretch marks and lose skin look, but I can come
to
a
place
of
appreciating
what
they
represent and why they are there in the first place.
What do you do in your self-care routine? To me, self-care is about the mind, body and soul. I don’t have so much a routine than I have a focus on those three areas in my life. I try to challenge my mind by learning something new every so often. That may be watching a tutorial on YouTube, reading a news article or improving a skill I already have. I like to get my body moving. This is sometimes just a short walk while pushing the pram or other times it’s going to the gym for an intense workout. I nurture my soul with having meaningful relationships and conversations. If no good is being produced from a relationship, then cut it off.
Your hubby is a hands-on dad how has your relationship changed since becoming parents and how do you keep your sparkle? Our relationship has definitely been tested in new ways since becoming parents. Our patience has worn thin with each other and we’ve pushed each other’s buttons (sometimes even on purpose). But through it all, I am thankful that our marriage has only gotten stronger. I know this isn’t always the case. Once our son was born, it was my love for my husband that surprised me, not necessarily the love for my baby. Seeing my husband in his new role as dad, and seeing how he cared for me, blew me out of the water. He changed our son’s first diapers…he changed my adult diapers! He was fully present and I am so appreciative. Keeping our “sparkle” is about being intentional with one another – in our communication, honesty, intimacy, and time. We take time to talk, laugh, and love. Sometimes this includes our son, other times we focus on just the two of us.
What's one thing you took from your mum when you became a mum? Being an adoptee, my mother has shown me that love is stronger than blood relations. Love is a choice and if you choose it, your life will be transformed for the better.
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LETTER TO
Mamma
By Samantha Letran
Dear reflux Mama, or colic Mama, or Mama suffering silently from your anxieties.
Dear Mama, If you’re brave enough to venture out to mothers group, you might be lucky to feel
I understand. I feel you. I was you. Your baby is unsettled. Not just a little grizzly here
&
there
I’m
talking
about
screaming,
crying, barely naps & more bad days than Ok
incredibly supported. On the flip side, you might be the only Mum sitting in the group who’s baby has not settled the entire meet uptime.
days.
So you haven’t been able to chat or bond You feel heartbroken watching you partner walk out that front door off to work in the morning knowing you’re in for an 8-hour shit show that’ll be relentless. You can’t help but
hold
your
breath
while
your
baby
screams & go through the usual checklist from soiled nappy, hungry, tired, too warm or too cold? When all this fails, you’ll hold your baby, probably weeping yourself, hoping that your embrace will comfort & quiet them because
When or IF bubs falls asleep it’ll be on your body. So you’re stuck. You are pinned down to the couch or rocking chair, frozen in fear. The fear of moving and waking the baby and another
round
of
Maybe like me, you hardly leave the house. Bubs screams bloody murder as soon as
to your destination with a hysterical passenger in the back. The outing itself may be worse than the drive there if bubs decides to do one of their projectile spews in the shopping centre food court (This happened to me!) But you are strong Mama. Through the
the all-day cries are soul-crushing.
starting
full of self-doubt.
they’re in the car seat. You frantically drive
envy him more than you care to admit. You’ll
with anyone. You leave feeling defeated &
screaming
exhaustion, you’ll feel something in your gut. A little niggle of thought and concern that won’t go away. Pursue that niggle! Trust your gut. Mama’s instinct won’t lie.
and Once you begin the journey to investigate
crying.
your babies crying days, it will be SO DAMN TOUGH. You will need to be assertive and You’ll
be
hungry.
My
God
so
hungry.
If
confident in what you’re saying. Explain
you’re breastfeeding, you’ll be starving! So
bub’s screaming and crying and explain it
consumed
well. Ignore the bitchy nurse who
human,
by
you
basic needs.
your
forget
tiny to
little
tend
to
screeching your
own
condescends your every word and keep pushing. Til you find your person. That one person who will hear you. I mean hear you & believe without a doubt that you know your baby needs some form of extra support. Be it medicine, dietary change, a diet change for a breastfeeding Mama whatever it maybe this person will help guide you to it.
For us, it was our pediatrician who was present at my emergency C-section. For this, I am so, so grateful. He set us on the right treatment plan for our Silent Reflux baby & oh so slowly it felt, over time things did start to improve.
Once things began to get better, I realized how down & highly strung I’d been. Hubby & I had endured eight months of a crying baby all day every day & we were STRESSED. In our mission to help our baby, we neglected ourselves & each other. We were both physically & emotionally drained & exhausted! Reflecting on this now, I should have spoken out more about the heartache & anxieties I was experiencing at the time. But I felt so much shame. I felt ashamed to admit to myself, let alone anyone else how much of strain I felt caring for my reflux baby. So please don’t feel shame, Mama. It is Ok not to be Ok. And it’s even more Ok to speak up. It is good for you, baby & your overall wellbeing to seek extra help & support when you need it the most. I cannot stress enough how vital a supportive network is for Mum & baby during a particularly taxing time. So please read this Mama. Know that it will all be Ok. You’ll be Ok & you are so strong, Mama. Speak up. Reach out. Lean on your people. Trust your instinct. And take a break every now & then. Lord knows you’ve earned it! Chat soon Mama, Love Sami xo
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LOVE YOUR
BUDGETS ARE TIGHT, YOUR AT HOME, BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU TIME IS OVER? WERE SHARING OUR GO TO FACE MASKS USING TWO INGREDIENTS YOU HAVE AT HOME.
Bye bye wrinkles 2tbs Coffee 2tbs Honey
Your glowing 2tbs yoghurt 2tsp lemon
So fresh so clean 2 tbs Honey 1 tbs Lemon
Mamma in the
Kitchen
Yummy pumpkin pie
1/3 cup brown sugar 1 tablespoon cornflour 2 eggs 2/3 cup evaporated milk 1 1/4 cups cold mashed Kent pumpkin 2 tablespoons maple syrup
Sweet, savoury and indulgent Pumpkin pie is a sure way to get the kids to eat veggies and ask for more. It's also super fun to do with the kids.
1 teaspoon mixed spice Icing sugar, to serve Whipped cream, to serve
Make Pastry: Place flour, sugar and butter in a food processor. Process until mixture resembles fine breadcrumbs. Add egg yolk and iced water. Process until
PASTRY
dough just comes together. Turn pastry out onto a lightly
1 1/2 cups plain flour
floured surface. Knead until just smooth. Shape into a
1/4 cup caster sugar
disc. Cover in plastic wrap. Refrigerate for 30 minutes.
125g butter, chilled, chopped 1 egg yolk 1 tablespoon iced water
Preheat oven to 200째C/180째C fan-forced. Place an oven tray in oven. Grease a 4cm-deep, 20cm (base) round pie dish. Roll out pastry between 2 sheets of baking paper until large enough to line base and side of prepared dish (about 30cm). Line dish with pastry. Trim edge. Pinch edge to make a decorative pattern. Refrigerate for 15 minutes. Line pastry case with baking paper. Fill with ceramic pie weights or uncooked rice. Bake for 10 minutes. Remove paper and weights or rice. Bake a further 10 to 12 minutes or until pastry is golden. Cool.
Reduce oven to 180째C/160째C fan-forced. Combine brown sugar and cornflour in a medium bowl. Whisk in eggs, evaporated milk, pumpkin, maple syrup and mixed spice until combined. Pour into pastry case. Bake for 45 to 50 minutes or until filling has just set. Cool. Refrigerate for 1 hour or until chilled. Dust pie with icing sugar. Serve with whipped cream.
Mammas cheeky muffins
Ingredients 3 medium banana 2 medium egg 250g Greek Yogurt 1/2 cup almond milk, unsweetened 1 tsp vanilla extract 1 1/2 cup flour, whole wheat 1/2 cup cocoa powder, unsweetened 1 1/2 teaspoon baking soda 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/2 cup chocolate chips, dark
Preheat oven to 180 degrees and grease muffin tins or line with cupcake liners. In a large bowl, add bananas and mash well. Add eggs, greek yogurt, milk and vanilla. Stir well. In a separate bowl whisk together flour, cocoa powder, baking soda and salt. Add dry ingredients and chocolate chips to the wet mixture; stir just until combined. Avoid over mixing. Fill muffin tins evenly and bake for 25-30 minutes.
For a sweeter version you can add honey or a little sugar.
MUMMING IN A COVID-19
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Natasha Sau is a Registered Midwife, podcast host of the ‘Welcome to Motherhood Podcast’, mum of four ranging from toddler to teen & online course creator based on the Sunshine Coast, Queensland.
MUMMING IN A COVID-19
Today we are living a lifestyle that we would not have predicted when the clock struck midnight on New Years Eve 2020, and we made our new year’s wishes and resolutions. For some of us, we may have hoped for some downtime and more time at home or with our children. But this, this was not what we would have been expecting I am sure. We are amid a pandemic, the first one in my lifetime and hopefully the last too. COVID-19 has swept the world and over here in the beautiful land of Australia, we have also fallen victim to this virus spreading to our shores, unfortunately. Do we know when it will end? No, but hopefully soon. Do we know how it will end? No, but probably with as few lives lost as we can manage. Throughout all this, though – there are some serious areas I want to address for all the Mums reading this today. I hope you all read this and take away some essential tips to help navigate your way through this crazy season we now live. For our beautiful pregnant Mamas right now, you are no doubt scared and feeling ripped off and scared of the idea of catching COVID-19, scared of potentially birthing with only one support person, scared of going into hospital at all at this time.
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As a midwife and I hear these concerns from many women, I listen to you, and I wish it were not like this for you. I recently released two podcast episodes about the effect on pregnancy, as we know it so far, and how to navigate lockdown; both episodes have had so many people reaching out to me, and everyone has the same fears right now, you are not alone. You may be feeling ripped off that your beautiful baby shower or gender reveal party was quashed. Many new Mums look forward to this for months on end. Don’t strike it off altogether, decorate your home, dress up, bake delicious treats, invite people to chat to you on skype or zoom. Celebrate you and your new life in whatever way you still can. Treat it not like a cancellation but instead a change in plans, a detour, and recreate the fun in different ways! School is up in the air for term two, and some parents love the idea of home-based schooling for next term, but others (such as myself) are dreading this if it is an option and hoping that school is back to normal sooner rather than later. Mothers out there are stressing themselves out about becoming a home school teacher overnight.
The need to run through the curriculum and keep in mind your child’s mental health, physical health and emotional health. It is all just a draining and stressful time for many of you reading this. Do you want to know my take on this? Any home-based learning needs to be based on what you, as their Mum, feel comfortable with. Yes, they have fantastic online resources and websites and activities set by teachers. In essence, I know our schools, for example, have created the most incredible learning tools that make me appreciate them more than I ever did before! But you know what? Use those to guide you, use them as tools to pull out, but use it in addition to what lessons you have to teach your child in this stage of their lives. Teach your child to bake a cake, teach your child to weed the garden, teach your child financial lessons by paying them (fake money of course) for chores they pick to undertake and then let them ‘spend’ their cash on tv time, treats and fun games with you. You are not a teacher; you are their Mum. Let that be enough and relish the extra time with them, and you know what, let them watch movies if either of you doesn’t have it in you to juggle the activities one day! Release the guilt and expectation of becoming this fantastic teacher overnight. You are their Mum, and that is enough. Some of you will be grieving the loss of all the things you now can’t do.
Whether it was birthday parties planned for your children, events you had booked in to take your little ones too, weddings that have now been postponed and travel you were looking forward to. Personally, I am grieving something in every single one of those categories. The only way to move forward is to know that it is out of your control, and you cannot change it. Another thing you can do – create those things differently. I have seen videos of birthday party drive-by present dropoffs, weddings still held but with family all on skype watching in and holidays taken at home by camping in the yard or decorating the house to pretend it is a luxurious overseas destination. We adapt, we make it work, and we focus not on what we are losing but instead on the downtime we are now able to have. We can’t change the pandemic, but we can try to work on improving our mindset to help guide us, though. It won’t last forever; life will return to normal for us, and our kids will remember this time for all of their days. This will become our “in my day…” story that we tell our great-grandchildren one day. Just do what you need to get through right now and know that you are doing your best with this crazy situation that no one was expecting to be our focal point for 2020. Natasha Sau
Get in touch with Natasha at www.welcometomotherhood.net
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Passion Natalie Tran @the_interior_passion is the plant queen, her squares make any interior plant lover swoon. She shares her tips helping your fiddle leaf fig thrive
As I get so much love on my posts when I style my interiors with the ficus lyrata, also known as the fiddle leaf fig, I thought I would share my top 5 tips on looking after this beautiful plant. If it grows well, you will be rewarded with its show-stopping and lush fiddle-shaped leaves.
1. It’s all about the spot you find for it. It loves bright but indirect light, and like most plants, it will grow towards the light. I do rotate mine so that it grows more evenly, but having said that, it’s not about moving or rotating it every day. I would do this every 2-3 weeks. The fiddle leaf fig does not like being moved so once you find a good spot for it, keep it there and avoid draughts.
2. Still on light, but the absorption of it. To allow the leaves to take in as much light as possible, wipe its leaves with a damp cloth. I use water and do this every 2-3 weeks time it with rotating the plant, but you could do this once a week if you have time.
3. The fiddle leaf fig does not like being overwatered, so ensure you test the soil (with the finger or water meter). If the top 7-8cm is dry, it’s time to water it and never leave it sitting in a tray with water. If you want to ensure the roots get extra time to absorb from underneath, you could leave it in the tray with the run-off water but 10-15 minutes maximum. I would also use a watering can with a small opening which helps you water the plant slowly and evenly as much as possible. Uneven or overwatering may lead to red-brown dots appearing on the leaves, especially the young leaves.
4.With regards to soil, I use indoor potting compost, but one which is more free-draining and you can also add perlite to help give the roots
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more room to grow and hence help strong root growth.
5. To propagate, I have had success with cutting stems with 1-3 leaves and at least 1-2 nodes (ensure you cut off at about 5-6mm below the node). Place the cutting in a clean vessel with water in a sunny spot
with indirect light, and in 4-5 weeks you will start seeing some growth. I will only change the water if it looks cloudy. Once the roots are 10cm or more, you can plant it in soil.
Good luck and I look forward to you sharing pics of your beautiful fiddle leaf figs with me on Instagram!
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HOW TO GET YOURSELF
Funk OUT OF A
In this current situation, its so hard to not give in to all the negative news, stuck inside with screaming kids, having to home-school them and letting everything bring down your funk. I know im victim to loosing my funk every now and then. So what can we do to get our zen back?
Take a break Stop what your doing boil the kettle and make yourself a tea take 10 minutes to just sit, rest and think about nothing. Go for a walk You are probably over going for walks right now, but this time go on your own if you can, pump your favorite song in those headphones and get that heart rate pumping
Have a tech free day Detox from technology decide on a day where yur phone stays in the draw. Put it all away and just be in the now!
Make lists Make it your routine to write a list every night before you go to bed, so that every morning you wake up with purpose, youll feel so much better having accomplished some tasks, rather then going with the flow.
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KEEP THE KIDS
The Idea of KEEPING the KIDS entertained is something that I know can give mums and dads a HUGE amount of ANXIETY. You want them to have fun, learn and be stimulated or else you go to bed feeling like you failed as a parent. I know, I've been there. But, it doesnt have to be so anxiety driven. We have tried and tested some of our fave keep the kids busy projects.
Playdough WHAT TO DO
WHAT YOU NEED 1 cup Flour 1/2 cup of warm water 1 tbs cream of tartat 1/4 cup salt food colouring
ADD ALL INGREDIENTS TO A LARGE SAUCEPAN AND STIR TO COMBINE. HEAT SAUCEPAN OVER MEDIUM HEAT STIRRING CONSTANTLY. AFTER ABOUT 3-5 MINUTES THE PLAYDOUGH SHOULD START TO FORM A SOLID MASS. REMOVE THE PAN FROM HEAT, PLACE THE DOUGH INTO A LARGE BOWL AND LET COOL.
OOBLEK
WARNING! THIS IS A MESSY ONE WHAT TO DO WHAT DO YOU NEED 2 Cups Cornstarch 1 Cup Water Food coloring
Pour 2 cups cornstarch into a bowl. Add 1 cup of water and stir to combine. If adding food coloring to your oobleck do it at the mixing stage.basic ratio: 2 to 1: cornstarch to water When mixed you should be able to press it into a ball in your hand; when you release the pressure the ball should “melt” back into a liquid.
Lemon volcano WHAT YOU NEED Lemons Baking Soda Food Coloring Paddle pop stick Dish soap Tray & Spoons
Slice the bottom off the lemon and slice out the core. Use a Paddle pop stick to mush the center of the lemon. Place a few drops of food coloring in the lemon. Add a squeeze of dish soap to the lemon. Add a spoonful of baking soda to the lemon. Take the craft stick and stir the lemon juice and baking soda to create a reaction.
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Now
Get Calm and stay in the Life is always throwing us curveballs, so it's no surprise that we feel anxious or stressed and can't always focus on being in the present moment. Our resident mindfulness teacher Montse shares top 10 Mindfulness tips to help you, anytime, anywhere to find calm and be in the NOW. 1. Pay attention to your thoughts. It's so easy to let your mind wander away from the present. Thoughts can seem so clear that they feel like a fact -- even when they are about things that haven't happened yet. The trick is to pay attention to your thoughts, to realise that they're just that: thoughts, like bubbles floating into the sky. The more you are aware of them and can release them, the easier it will be to stay focused on the present.
2.Try the 54321 game. Try this simple and fun exercise to stay in the now. Notice five things you can see in the room, four things you can feel (my feet on the floor or air in your nose), three things you can hear, two things you can smell and name one good thing about yourself.
3. Step outside yourself. When I'm focused just on me and my worries, I stress more, so let's turn that around and do something beautiful for someone else, send a kind text or hug someone for no reason or call an old friend that might be alone. You can also think (positively) about someone else.
4. Journal it. Often the best ways to get out of your own head is to put all of the stuff that's in there down on paper. I've found that when I write things down, it's often like cleaning out the closet of my mind, getting rid of all the thoughts that don't fit in there anymore making space for being grateful for what we have right now. 5. Breathe. Pay full attention to your breathing, try the box method which is; breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts and breathe out for 4. This allows you to feel your breath calming and setting a rhythm.
6. Catch Yourself. When you find yourself falling into an old destructive habit, like negative self-talk or listening to the negative news on TV or thinking the worst, STOP and change what you are doing. DISTRACT your mind and rewire your brain. Yes, you can do this, and every time you repeat a thought or habit, you are creating new neural pathways, so choose that path wisely.
7. Reverse it. Have a Beginners mind and reverse the order you are doing something, like which way you dress or put your shoes and socks on.This will stop the autopilot of our brain and help it stay in the present moment. You see, your mind is always waiting on your command, so choose smart!
8. Let it go. Ok, so you've realised you are in a negative groove so witness the feeling or the thoughts and then imagine they are in a big red balloon and let it GO!! See it floating above and away from you. You are more than a thought, you are fantastic and can do anything you put your mind too, so let go of criticising yourself, quit beating yourself up for something that may not be that important and LET IT GO. Ask yourself whether it will still be so important in a year or a month or even a week? 9.Breathe Yes focus on that breath of yours; you control it. Remember four, four, four. Imagine white light washing over you on the in-breath and grey clouds pushing out with your out. Take your time.
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PROJECT Gift guide
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Mamma it's time to treat yourself! We have worked with some of the most amazing mamma businesses to bring you this amazing collaboration. We know times are tough right now and you need to spoil yourself. So our amazing small businesses have come together to offer you an amazing shopping experience. As you flick through the pages of this guide you will see offers from our supporting businesses. Click on the Store name to be taken to their website or Socials and grab yourself a bargain. Happy shopping x
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