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A JOURNEY THROUGH MUSIC WITH STOKLEY: MINT CONDITION CHATTING IT UP WITH SHIRLENE KING PEARSON A.K.A MS JUICY MAKING A DIFFERENCE WITH JEREMY MINCEY FEMI CREATIVE SPOTLIGHT: RICO KNIGHT
COVER STORY: BAMBI “THE GLOW UP”
COUNTRY SINGER DANI WRIGHT
COOKING WITH DR. FLAVA
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BAMI “THE GLOW UP”
YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT: AUTHOR TANISHA D. DAVIS
MEDIA MOGUL REEC SWINEY
RECIPES WITH MAI BURNETTE
BLACK LITERATURE FEATURE: TAHANEE PODCAST & INFLUENCER: ELAYNE FLUKER MOTHER’S DAY TRIBUTE: REMEMBERING CHYRELL MYERS
TANISHA D. DAVIS Publisher EDITORIAL Victoria Moulterie - Content Editor Candace Green - Content Editor PUBLIC RELATIONS Shauna Lamore Lamore Lifestyle PR CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Adezza DuBose Asia Isadore Camille Ali Latrice Strong Jazmyne Byrd Kiwanna Harshaw Chaiquan Wingfield GuGu Khumalo Pamela Smith Crystal Frieson Amanda Miller Jewell Hill
CREDIT: Photography By: Berlin Location: Le Archive Showroom Stylist: Marlo Hampton
ART/ DESIGN Harold Knight - Graphic Designer CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Gregory Bettis Photography Booth Photography ArtOfficial Photography MGimages Studios FOUNDER Tanisha D. Davis EMAIL info@femimagazine.org
Publisher’s Note TANISHA DAVIS Our community is filled with individuals who wake up with a plan to inspire the world daily! These acts are done by black creatives all over the world, inspiring through comedy, acting, fashion, beauty, cooking, producing films and so much more! We take the time out now to showcase those individuals who deliver a positive influence on social media and in their own communities. What does it mean to be a Social Influencer? For us it means someone with the power and wisdom to influence others to want to be greater and to change the way they look at life or even live their lives. This month’s cover features Actor/Comedian Brandon T. Jackson & Adizia “Bambi” Benson of Love & Hip Hop because of their positive social influence on individuals around the world. We live in a world where so many want to please people, but what we need are the individuals who will speak out and influence others to use the power of their voice and this has been done by so many using their social platforms! FEMI encourages you to use your platform to positively influence others to be better and to not fear!
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A Journey Through Music
CATCHING UP WITH STOKLEY The album features H.E.R., Snoop Dogg, The Bonfyre, Wale, and KiDi. Stokley shows that with this album as he literally takes what he loves about music in general and ou know him as the lead singer from brings it forward to be presented on this the R&B group Mint Condition. For album. his vocals on songs such as Breakin’ My Heart (Pretty Brown Eyes), You Don’t FEMI Magazine sat down with Stokley Have To Hurt No More, and On & On. And to discuss his journey as a solo artist, my personal favorite, What Kind of Man his upcoming new album, and some of Would I Be. I was probably 12 years old his biggest lessons learned in the music when this song debuted on the radio. And industry. I loved R&B music back then, and I still love R&B music now. I still listen to these Tell us about your journey as a solo same songs today. It’s nostalgia for me. I artist. Is becoming a solo artist swear I grew up during an era when R & B something you always wanted to music was at an all-time high. If you haven’t pursue? guessed his name, by now. It’s Stokley. Becoming a solo artist wasn’t something Stokley is a multi-Grammy nominated I’ve always had my sights on. It was singer, songwriter, and music producer. gradual in my journey with Mint In 2017, the former lead singer of the Condition. I always thought, in that renowned R&B band Mint Condition collective, I was much more useful than embarked as a solo artist and is now me solo in the world. As time went on, preparing to release his sophomore album my skill sets, experiences, thirst for Sankofa this Spring. He has partnered with elevation in my own spirit grew. Any legendary Jimmy Jam & Terry Lewis of Flyte artist will grow curious as to what their Tyme and Perspective Records. Stokley true purpose is. And that purpose will shares more of his musical personality in often be many things. There are always this album as he played the instruments on many facets to a person & we should the album as well as produced and co-wrote always be open to it when it hits you. songs with hit songwriting duo Shakespear! So, what I’m doing now is exploring,
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enjoying, and expanding my life. It’s short-living so we gotta get it. You have worked with many of the music industry’s biggest names, who has been your favorite recording artist to work with thus far? Yes, I’ve had the pleasure of working with some amazing artists, some of my faves but not limited to are: Ledisi (worked with her on my 1st album), Wale, loved touring with Janet Jackson & Toni Braxton, working with Snoop on this latest was fun. Also, Jam & Lewis as always, they have been kind of an ace, bridging the gap with many relationships I’ve gained. Just a few to mention. Tell us about your process for choosing the name for your new album. I realize that I’m always connected to all that has come before me, so I was trying to think of something that represented this concept. SANKOFA means to “go back and get it.” The word and concept are not new, which makes it tried and true. It always makes me think of where, who, & what I’ve come from. This made the perfect title for this one. You hear & feel reflections of what got me here FEMI MAGAZINE
through the decades. You will experience however, some amazing moments vibes from the ‘70s, ‘80s & up to today’s happened. I was inspired by Snoop to modern musical landscape. create “Jeopardy/Verbalize”. It’s actually for his project and he was cool to allow How is your sound different in your me to put it on my project as well. I don’t sophomore album compared to your think I would have created it otherwise. first album? It reminds me of something the great vocal group The Stylistics would have What I feel may be the big differences done, just a lil’ more modernized on my between this album and the first, part. Also, I just got to a point where I someone else may feel it more subtly. missed hearing that fun energy out here. However, I think I will spend more time The pandemic hit and all felt a lil’ dreary, traveling on this one. Songs that will dark, and desolate. I wanted to feel more feel like familiar moments in your life. lively, dynamic, vibrancy...so I created There’s a bit more steel pan (one of my “Vibrant”. I will always uplift, cherish & favorite instruments). I used my band show gratitude towards the women in (The Vü) to add some different textures, my family and women in general, so I a few new sounds I’ve never used, and created the song “Woman” (with writers of course, the artist collaborations. The Shakespeare). I will leave the rest for Bonfyre, H.E.R., Snoop, Wale, Kidi, and you all to discover. I hope you enjoy it as Shakesphere!. This project feels both much as I did creating it. familiar yet fresh. That’s the phrase I hear back when others experience it. If you could choose one word to describe yourself as an artist, what What was your favorite song to record would it be? and why? One word to describe myself. Hmmm... I don’t think I have a favorite record Utilitarian. Because I’m pretty userthat I’ve recorded on this vibe because friendly in the studio and on stage. all these musical children are dynamic, Wherever I need to be I can usually hit it. Photography By: Owen Duckett
Music has been your entire life, what has the music industry taught you and what are the biggest changes you’ve seen given your experience? Yes, many lessons & changes. A very fickle, competitive, & seductive industry. A few things learned & that I always say is to always stay open to change. Learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable, it will ultimately lead you to accomplish your goals. Be patient with the process, accepting the word no, and failures are inescapable yet necessary. The key is to convert that energy to fuel. This is a practice that of course applies to our everyday lives. As far as the biggest change? That answer will always be technology. It affects us all! Every industry, every human. I’ve had the blessing of working in analog & later switching or integrating the digital realm in. We went from waveforms to zeros and ones. Also, social media seems to rule the day. Influencing, directing, distorting, even destroying countless things. With that being said, it’s still an amazing, convenient tool to use. It has helped to even the playing field a bit in terms of small business & creating awareness, not to mention all applications at our disposal. Here we all are trying to make our way. This again is why I was so desperately trying to find that connection to the past. A time when we had more of a human connection, a tactile experience. a much fuller and real energy versus a virtual one. The word SANKOFA makes me feel that connection... present, future & past. It’s important to know, then to fertilize and grow. I imagine there has been a lot of growth in your journey as a multi-talented solo artist. What do you want your fans to know about who you are now? Oftentimes, artists will strike a nerve with their music. Cause we are going or working through something as well. What I’m trying to do is give or spread some therapy through music. That’s why I call myself the Sonic Healer. I want them to know I’m really just getting started with this chapter of my life, so, hold on. You only know what I’ve shared thus far, but you will only experience the fullness if you are open to new sonic experiences. I’m here to keep pushing you past what you know and/or what may be comfortable for you. I think that’s what artists are supposed to do. You leave the room a little different than what you came in feeling. Again, reflecting on past, present, and future is all we are. We all practice SANKOFA, whether we know it or not. Check out Stokley’s new album Sankofa debuting on April 9th. @stokleyofficial
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Chatting it up with
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EMI Magazine had the honor to chat it up with the “Royal Highness Queen Majesty” herself, aka the Queen of Atlanta, Ms Juicy Baby. The star of the Lifetime unscripted hit television series Little Women: Atlanta. Ms Juicy, known for her larger-thanlife personality and keeping it all the way real. A multi-hyphenate Reality TV Personality, Radio Host, Actress, Social Influencer, Entrepreneur and word on the street, a good cook that can get down in the kitchen is a cool person that can easily be a sister’s imaginary homegirl. Let’s see what’s up with Ms Juicy. FEMI Mag: Before we get into questions about Ms Juicy, can you tell us about Shirlene King Pearson? Ms Juicy: Shirlene is a PK kid from Corsicana, TX, who has always had the personality of a giant, been the life of the party, and never been afraid to speak her mind. As you see, Ms Juicy is just an extension of Shirlene, and that will never change, lol. I come in a small package, but I pack plenty of power. FEMI Mag: How much has your life changed since you’ve joined the cast of LWATL? Ms Juicy: It has changed immensely as far as the type of fan base I have; no matter the race, age, ethnicity, or gender, they love the Juice. FEMI Mag: This publication focuses on being a social influencer; tell us how you use your platform to inspire others daily? Has your journey been easy as a black woman in the entertainment industry? Ms Juicy: By using my spiritual background, I always post spiritual quotes in hopes to uplift, encourage, and motivate others. I’m also inspiring and educating others by being a firm believer and willing participant in activism for our equal rights. My journey in the entertainment industry hasn’t been easy. Not only because I’m a black woman, but a little person as well. But I have always had a gung-ho personality and never allowed anyone to tell me I can’t do anything. The no’s puts fuel in my fire and makes me go even harder. I must say I have been blessed after being in this industry for over 20 years, but I still have more to give and accomplish. FEMI Mag: I heard you have the best Seafood Boil recipe out right now; what’s your secret to a good seafood boil? 8
Ms Juicy: Thank you. I have been told that myself. It’s a secret for a reason, and if I tell you, it won’t be a secret anymore, lol. But no, I will tell you one thing I do add to it, a lot of love. FEMI Mag: What are some of your favorite moments from the show this season? Ms Juicy: As far this season goes, it’s not over yet. But from what you have seen so far, I would have to say the launch of my shades line Eminence Eyewear by Juicy. Regardless of the craziness that went on during it, it still was a huge accomplishment for me, and I’m proud of it. FEMI Mag: What’s next for you this year? Ms Juicy: For me, it’s continuing to build my empire and acting in more movies, tv shows, etc. The sky’s the limit, I’m on a mission to be the best Juicy you have ever seen, and there’s no stopping me. Stay Connected with Ms Juicy: https://www.therealmsjuicybaby.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/msjuicyrsms/ FEMI MAGAZINE
You Are Worth THE WaIT A GUIDE TO HELPING YOU DISCOVER SELF-WORTH & GAIN THE POWER TO WAIT FOR YOUR LIFE PARTNER By: Author Tanisha D. Davis This book is a guide to help so many who struggle with loving themselves while they wait for that life partner to come along. At times it can be very difficult to trust that someone good is out there waiting for you. You may doubt yourself and feel that nothing good will ever come your way because you have been hurt many times. This guide is to help break down that wall of confusion about who you are and what you deserve. You are valuable and regardless of what you have been through, you are worth waiting for.
Available on Amazon in paperback & kindle!
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JEREMY MINCEY:
Making a Difference On and Off the Field WRITTEN BY CANDACE GREEN
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eremy Mincey is making a difference on and off the field. He is a former defensive end who had a nine-year career with the Jacksonville Jaguars, Denver Broncos, and Dallas Cowboys. He is a father, husband, artist, producer, and an advocate for mental health. The latter is especially important, as data shows that up to 35% of elite athletes suffer from a mental health crisis at some point in their careers. “Mental health has a stigma that is tied into weakness and is absolutely the antithesis of what athletes want to portray.” (Dr.Thelma Dye Holmes) Jeremy is working to get rid of that stigma, and he suggests that “All Black Men should find a therapist in some form.” In addition to advocating for mental health in the sports community, Jeremy hosts a toy drive every year and “adopts” 2 families for Christmas. Jeremy sat down with us to talk about life after the NFL, his record label, mental health, and what he has planned for the future. In 2019, the average career length in the 10
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NFL was 3.33 years. You played almost 3 times that. How was it getting adjusted to life after the NFL? It was tough. You’re used to discipline and now you have to find the courage to do it without the extra motivation. Tell us a little bit about your label, Mr. Mince Productions. What projects are in the works? I have my daughter Jermani’s project, Nuke Fie, Astro Boy, my own project and some screenplay on the way. We also have been working on a docuseries. Mental Health is a topic that is finally gaining traction, but it can be hard to talk about in the sports world due to the stigma. How have you been able to bring awareness to this topic for black men? All Black men should find a therapist in some form. It can change their life. Mental health is real. What topics do you plan to talk about on your podcast “No Mince”? Various topics. Sports, Hip-hop, Trends, and Social Commentary.
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The more you give, the more God will give back to you. Wear your I plan on us becoming one of the heart on your sleeve and never stop top production companies around believing. There is always room for the world. We put in the work, so help so we accept all helping hands it’s only a matter of time. for this man’s moving positive vision Ultimately, what is the we have been executing. Just email Unexplainable. Definitely help me message you want people us: Mrminceproductionsinc@gmail.com motivate my team to put some to take away from the for more info. points on the board. philanthropic work you do, and how can people get What are some things you involved? @mrmince92 have planned for the future We heard through the grapevine that some of your own music can be heard during NFL games, how does it feel to hear your own work during a game?
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From Billboard Charting Artist to Media Mogul:
Reec “Who you Wit?” Swiney
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eec Swiney has built quite the media empire for himself. He’s been featured on Hot 107.9, Fox5 Atlanta, Fox10 Phoenix, SPJ Georgia, just to name a few. During the pandemic he has found ways to keep his faith and confidence in himself and others alive, and has managed to spearhead multiple community events, including a book bag giveaway, back to school drive, and drivethru snack distribution. The pandemic has drained as all more than we probably know, so if uplifting, witty content is what you need, this is your guy. Reec sat down with us to explain his many mantras for success, how his upbringing shaped his give back attitude, and advice for young people wanting to get into the entertainment industry. 12
It looks like you have done a lot with/for the community. What was your inspiration behind continuing to give back? Yes, giving is a huge part of daily life for me. I watched my maternal grandparents help and feed their neighbors and community and instill that in my mom and siblings. My dad was heavily involved with the community and made sure that as a preteen and teenager that I did the same. He instilled the drive to give back through action. My goals in the entertainment industry are directly related to this mind frame. The bigger I can get entertainment wise, the more I can do for people with Positive American Youth. FEMI MAGAZINE
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took an internship, partnered with the station Radio One Atlanta on doing some of my own events that I hosted, got put on over nights, then weekends then middays within a 24 month span. For 4 years I was top rated on Hot 107.9, on Rickey Smiley For Real TV show and even made an appearance on Star on Fox! Success like this doesn’t just happen overnight. What advice would you give for young people wanting to break into this industry? The mantra I go by is “Be genuine, be consistent, be strategic”. That’s the best perspective to have in my opinion. In most cases your success may look completely different than someone else, so also be mindful of your wins and use them as motivation to push you through any of the rocky times. Lastly, you’re only in competition with yourself. Don’t get caught up in anyone else’s “success” because you never really know what that person is going through behind closed doors. This month’s publication focuses on social Influencers, how do you use your platform daily to be a light to individuals during a time of a pandemic?
During the pandemic I realized I hit a few dark times that put me in a not so great mental space for various reasons. I started to showcase three things on my page in hopes of up lifting, inspiring and helping others. I posted a series of comedic shorts named “Quarantine Chronicles” based on instances that could only happen during the pandemic. I also did a miniseries called “Community Spotlight” that highlighted small businesses, community organizations and content creators that were pushing through and making the best of their quarantine. This series was made You have built quite an empire with hosting to help inspire people to keep going and pushing. I on the radio, your own podcast, and speaking also highlighted and promoted the things Positive engagements. How did you get your start in media? American Youth was doing including the free mass non-contact food give away events, book bag I played college level basketball and I wanted to be events and other give back programs. a sports announcer, but my start actually came as an artist. I had several songs that charted Billboard What motto do you live by daily to keep a positive and even charted at #1 on Hip Hop Single Sales headspace? charts, beating out Beyoncé’s & Chris Brown’s weekly single sales (Proof here: https://www. Don’t Stop Get It Get It. instagram.com/p/iaTEgtnwm0/). While doing a JOKING. radio promotional tour for this project, all of the The mantra is “To get something I’ve never had, I radio hosts I sat down to be interviewed by asked must do something I’ve never done.” me “Did I ever think of doing radio myself.” I always had an interest in broadcasting. Long story short, I @reecswiney FEMI MAGAZINE
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FEMI CREATIVE SPOTLIGHT:
RICO KNIGHT is all about shining the light on FEMI those who are doing amazing things in our communities. When it comes to
being creative and influencing others in the field of graphics, we have to take a minute and shine the light on Rico Knight. As a local graphic designer in Mobile, Alabama this creative has put together some movie posters that have went viral and grabbed Celebrity attention, to include large media outlets like The ShadeRoom and more! One of his movie posters we know had to be the energy that sparked the development for Coming 2 America after he created the fan made movie poster years ago asking people if they would be here for a sequel to the original movie. The fan made movie poster created such a buzz amongst Black Twitter that the movie went into production. He has also designed album covers for artist like Bobby V & Lil Scrappy which were highlighted on VH1’s Love & Hip Hop! Recently we heard he may also be working with R&B legend Marques Houston very soon! As you would hear many say to give a person their flowers now, we want you to keep your eye on Rico Knight because you will definitely see him doing some work for movies on the big screen very soon! Connect with Rico Knight on Social Media! @ricoknight 14
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Bluefish Stew
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luefish stew is one of my favorite dishes to prepare. It reminds me of the delicious fish stews I enjoyed with cassava and yams growing up. The coarse texture and moist meat of the bluefish combined with the herbs, vegetables, and spices, gives the stew a delicious and distinctive flavor.
This recipe is quick and easy to prepare, and sure to put a smile on your face! It can be served with rice, cassava and any other starch. I personally enjoy this recipe with rice and steamed okra.
4 small bluefish, about 5 pounds total weight, cleaned, scaled, cut into 3 pieces, with head and tail left on
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Season fish with salt and black pepper. Heat 2 cups of oil in large frying pan. Fry fish until golden brown and set aside in a bowl.
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Heat remaining oil in medium saucepan. Add onions, bell peppers, tomatoes, and garlic. Stir and sauté over medium heat for 5 minutes.
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Add salt, black pepper, chicken bouillon cubes, turmeric, thyme, and bay leaves. Stir and sauté for 5 minutes.
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Blend remaining onion and habanero peppers with 2 cups of water and pour into the pot. Add tomato paste, stir, and cook for 10 minutes on mediumlow heat.
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Add fried fish, stir gently and simmer on low for 15 minutes. Stew is ready when there is no longer water bubbling in the stew.
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4 yellow onions (3 sliced) 1 green bell pepper, sliced 1 red bell pepper, sliced 2 tomatoes, sliced 3 cloves garlic, chopped salt and pepper to taste 2 chicken bouillon cubes ½ teaspoon turmeric ½ teaspoon thyme 4 bay leaves habanero peppers to taste 2 tablespoons tomato paste
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In her new cookbook, Cooking with Mai: Easy to Prepare West African Food, Chef Mai Burnette shares some of her family’s traditional Sierra Leonean dishes as well as other well-known West African favorites. Her cookbook is available on Amazon or at DinnerwithMai.com
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COVER STORY
The Glow Up Written By: Jazmyne Courtnii Byrd
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rom playing with baby dolls and Barbie dolls to caring for a real life little human, the experience of Motherhood for every little girl is something they hope to have. For those who get to experience it whether by having a child biologically, adopting or becoming a stepmother through marriage, it is an understated emotion that remains indescribable. Many describe it as an 18
unexplainable feeling when you meet your child face to face for the very first time. A feeling of nostalgia as you get to watch something that you created grow into something wonderful. Motherhood has the ability to change you for the better and see the world in a different way. Becoming a mother matures you as a woman and allows you to focus on the important things in life. Your life prior to having FEMI MAGAZINE
a child will change forever. No journey to motherhood is ever easy or simple. In fact, one could never be truly prepared to hear those life changing words,” you are pregnant”. But, for reality star and castmate of Love and Hip-Hop Atlanta; Bambi in just a short period of time not only became a wife but a mother as well. The journey of course was covered for all of us to see, “It all happened so fast that finding balance has been my goal. First Breland was born and then I became pregnant with Xylo and now I’m pregnant with my last child. Did I mention LAST CHILD, I want to be very clear that this is my last child (laughs). The factory is officially closed for business (laugh). But no seriously, this has been quite the journey that has taken me on both highs and lows. Your hormones are raging and your body is going through so many changes all at the same time. If people say that being a mother is easy, they are lying. It takes a lot and on most days you are really just trying to keep it all together. I am grateful that I have a great support system with my husband Lil’ Scrappy and our families because it can be a lot to handle.”
“I have been on reality tv for a while now and unfortunately people still have no idea about who I am. I love family as I have a huge family in Los Angeles where I’m from. I’m the baby of my family so I’m very loved on (laughs) meaning I’m spoiled. I love to laugh and have fun. I’m not into drama or negativity at all and sometimes on these shows those situations happen and people can easily mis-understand you and judge you based on what was shown on TV. I have learned to stay off of social media so much because people can try to bait you. But my reality is that I’m a very down to earth and low-key person, which honestly was the reason that Scrap and I decided not to get married on tv. We wanted something just for us. We shared our relationship, our engagement, our relationship ups and downs and our wedding had to be just for the two of us to share together. People have this impression of reality stars that even when we go out to eat or we go to the mall, that our life belongs to them and it doesn’t. We are regular people it’s just at times we have a camera on us.” Bambi says.
Becoming a mother has always been a dream of Bambi’s as she is the baby of her family. Being raised in a large family has given her some practice into the joys of becoming a mother. She now gets Reality tv lovers have had a to put her nurturing nature into chance to watch Bambi grow from practice with her own tribe. her days of hitting the stages and rocking crowds while performing “Being a nurturing person has her music on Basketball Wives LA always come natural to me to starting her relationship with because I come from a big her now husband Lil Scrappy family. I have a lot of nieces and aka The Prince of the South on nephews, so growing up I was Love and Hip-Hop Atlanta. While babysitting them all. So, it’s like many people feel that we really second nature for me to love on get to see the real reality of stars my children and be caring as on these shows, due to edits and well as giving to them. Also while of course real-life occurrences we dating Scrap I got to build a great only get a small micro glimpse relationship with his daughter Emani which was great because into their real worlds. FEMI MAGAZINE
becoming her stepmother was super natural for me because we had already created an instant bond. That was something that was important for me, I wanted us to have a relationship and I wanted it to be organic and not forced. I have watched her grow from a child into a teenager and we have become very close, like I cannot believe that she will be six-teen soon. She is a great big sister to siblings and watching Scraps relationship with Emani was one of the key factors in our dating phase. Watching their interactions and how he treated her was a big thing for me because it showed me that he would be a great father to our children in the future. Every woman should look at those things when dating a man with children and it will tell you a lot about him and his character.” Now pregnant, the mother of three awaits in excitement that in the next few months she will get to meet her little bundle of joy. @adizthebam @AdizBambi 19
COUNTRY SINGER DANI’ WRIGHT IS SINGING TO THE BEAT OF HER OWN DRUM! Written by: Kiwanna Harshaw
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ew Orleans Country Music Star Dani’ Wright is making her presence known with her angelic voice and electric personality. Incorporating different genres like Jazz, 90’s R&B, Hip Hop, and of course Country Music, Dani is creating a lane of her own by making an impact in her community as well as inspiring those who cross her path.
Can you tell us more about Nola’s Dani’ Wright? (Laughing) Nola’s Dani Wright is something interesting! Going to church every Sunday at Greater St. Stephen Full Gospel Baptist Church where my aunt and uncle preach. Feeling Grounded, being funny, drinking daiquiris, enjoying my family, and laughing a whole lot. I mean everyone is funny in New Orleans.
New Orleans is popular for their music. What impact did growing up in New Orleans have on your singing career? Yes, New Orleans is known for Bounce, Jazz and so many other types of music. I think each genre played a part in my career and life. So many different styles, so many different stories, so many different vibes. Cleaning on a Saturday morning I was listening to jazz. At a backyard cookout, it was bounce music, on Sundays it was gospel, and every other day it was Country, rnb and pop!
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Growing up Brandy was the first person that made me want to sing. But it wasn’t until Shania Twain until I wanted to do country music! Listening to the radio one day and you hear “whose bed have your boots been under”!!!! Just when that hook comes in and like omgggggggggg!!! So from then on Shania became my everything!! Then “you’re still the one” and then “man I feel like a woman”!!!! I’d never heard so much empowerment of women!
How has the journey been in this genre as a black woman? Any stereotypes? If so, how did you overcome it? This journey has been very interesting but humbling. I’ve learned so much, watched so much, and took so many notes. Even though it’s way easier now to be heard via social media, being SEEN in country music is a total different thing. Even harder when certain FEMI MAGAZINE
it regardless of any obstacles. I want to be the person I wish I had. I want to help up and coming Black Country artists or artists in general, to help reach their goals. Everyone has stories, everyone has inspiration and everyone has dreams. We are all here to serve in whatever way that is, so I would use my platform by serving and helping others in any way that I can. Let’s share the wealth!
Do you have any new music or projects coming up in the near future we could look forward to?
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Yes!! Working on an EP and I can’t wait for you guys to hear it!!! Right now, I’m releasing my debut single, “Won’t Change (P.Y.T.)” just in time for the Spring/Summer. We’ve all experienced so much in 2020, so I’m excited to release a fun record that explains my love for both Country Music & Trap/ Hip-Hop Music, and most importantly staying true to myself!
people you admired see you but don’t acknowledge you. But I guess it’s the business. Just like any other genre you have to learn the game. As talented as you are you still have to play chess. The hardest thing for me was finally being myself. I love Country music, but I also love r&b and pop. So at first, I was afraid of mixing all 3 sounds thinking I wouldn’t be accepted, but realized over time that country music is where you tell your truth. So I decided to be honest FEMI MAGAZINE
and true to myself and hopefully people will love me!
This issue focuses on social influencers, how do you feel you can help leave a positive light for those coming up behind you in this field? Coming up in this genre I literally had no one to help or guide me through, I just did what I loved and prayed to make
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TAHANEE SAYYID A JOURNEY THROUGH Written By: Camille Ali
Later. Tahanee uses her literacy voice to educate women on the importance of self-care, self-respect, and selflove. Mantras like, “Standards...It’s Just That Simple!” are timeless messages that are relevant to every woman regardless of their race and socio-economic background. Tahanee wants women to know and understand that their adult relationships are based on their childhood experiences. Both positive and negative. In her book Lust Now, Cry Later, she highlights this message through the book’s fictional main characters, Natalya and Sdia who both experienced childhood sexual and emotional abuse. As a result, Natalya destroys any positive adult relationships she has, including her marriage and friendships, through verbal and physical abuse. Sdia repeatedly attracts and dates men who abuse her emotionally and physically.
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Tahanee shares with FEMI magazine how she developed a passion for writing, how she became a relationship columnist and her daily writing routine. Tell us a little more about yourself and what inspired your passion for writing?
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writer’s journey is never ending. Through moments, memories, experiences, pain, and trauma we create something honest someone can relate to. With each hand-selected word, we create something original to give to the world. With each sentence, quote, and paragraph, we create something meaningful to leave behind. A writer’s journey is constant, always evolving. With each edit, our voice grows stronger. With each story, our audience grows. Tahanee Sayyid is an upcoming writer. At a young age, she developed her passion for writing through poetry. Since then, her writing has advanced into a relationship column for Yandy Smith’s Everything Girls Love Magazine, a blog entitled Cook, Cheat, Love, and an Amazon five-star rated novel entitled, Lust Now, Cry 24
I began writing after the sudden death of my nineteen-year-old cousin. She and I were very close! She was like a second mother to me. Her death was one of the most traumatizing things I’ve ever experienced. To make matters worse, she died a week before my 16th birthday. There was no sweet sixteen birthday celebration for me; Instead, there were flowers, a priest, and her coffin being lowered into her grave! I attended one of the most important people in my life’s funeral...on my birthday! The toll her death took on me was so painful that I had to speak with a therapist! It worked for a little while until one day my mother suggested I write out all my emotions on a piece of paper and I did. That’s when I wrote my first poem, inspired by my cousin. And from that point on I never stopped writing. What is it about writing poetry that you find most healing? You are able to be yourself, express yourself, and let out all of the bottled-up emotions you have been harboring. The poem belongs to you! There is no right or wrong way to write a poem! These are your words, your feelings, your emotions, and how dare anyone tell you how to feel! You are the creator and dictator. What inspired you to write your book “Lust Now, Cry Later”? FEMI MAGAZINE
on in every family! And it’s sad to say, we have accepted it and then we wonder why our children are growing up lost, violent, and having children of their own only to instill those same menacing traits.
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Tell us how you became a relationship columnist for Yandy Smith’s Everything Girls Love Magazine?
I wanted to write a novel that would not only be entertaining but also educate my readers. Often times in the Urban World of Lit, the books focus on a lot of the same scenarios, Sex, money, drugs, and prison. I am not saying that that doesn’t happen, but what I am saying is that not everyone is from the hood, not everyone has prostituted, sold, drugs, etc. I wanted to focus on something that can affect everyone no matter what your upbringing is! My book covers everything! Drug abuse, domestic violence, mental illness, HIV, sexual abuse and so much more. The topics covered in my novel are the things people tend to sweep under the rug in families. For example, molestation has become the “Norm.” It’s a mental illness to be attracted to children however, it has become the norm. And the norm creates toxic relationships in the future. Families turn the blind eye to the fact that “Little Trina was touched by her older cousin.” Why? Well because that’s just what goes FEMI MAGAZINE
manner that attracts people who are on the same spiritual level as you! Looks are temporary! The heart is where beauty lies! Have a pure heart before anything and give the knowledge you have been gifted with and the love you have to spare to those who are worth it and appreciate you! When you do good; Good happens!
Do you have a daily writing practice or writing routine? Can My sister, Samiyyah (shout to you you share with us what that looks sis) actually told me that Yandy like for you? was looking for writers for her new magazine and because I had It’s always necessary for me to written my first novel, Lust Now, pray before I write! I ask God to Cry Later and had a Radio Show in open the portal of creativity for the past called, Pillow Talk Radio, me. I ask him to help me with the I gave it a shot and submitted a proper words I need to complete sample article based on what I do his mission and reach out to best…” Write about relationships” those who need help! I also enjoy and Viola! Out of thousands and reading my Quran. Everything I thousands of submissions, I was need to know about life is there! chosen. But the funny thing about I also listen to motivational that is, I wasn’t contacted until speeches as I write and Kutbars six months later, so I had kind of (similar to what Christians listen forgotten I had even applied but to when they hear a Pastor speak). was delighted I had been. What advice would you give to We live in a society that is women who want to pursue a becoming more aware of how career in writing? important self-care, self-respect, and self-love is, can you share This is not an overnight process! one thing that women need to It took me eleven years to get a major book deal and I am still know about? learning each day! No matter what There isn’t anything wrong you do, NEVER GIVE UP! Sure, with feeling confident and you can take a break, but NEVER knowing your worth, but there is lose sight of what your passion is! EVERYTHING wrong when you Find a great Agent, Publicist, and feel the need to build yourself books (Do your research). In fact, I up by putting others down! Self- will be providing services for those esteem and self-care go together! who are interested in writing. I When a woman is confident she encourage you all to subscribe to doesn’t have to always say or my website at Tahanee.org I will broadcast it! Okay, we get it, you be providing tips and tricks to the love yourself, you feel good, etc., publishing world for everyone, etc.! When you are truly confident not just women! But for my ladies, and believe in yourself you don’t be careful of those who approach have to share it with the world! you with these outlandish deals Because 9 out of 10 the very and promises. The world we live in people you are trying to impress is male dominating. YES, women are the very ones who will find are becoming more independent ways to destroy and ridicule you and educated, but always have and if you aren’t strong enough, someone with you who you you will be second-guessing and trust and who has your back questioning yourself! To build up wholeheartedly! For me, it’s my a shield of confidence takes time mom and sisters. and the most humble are the ones who are the most quiet (truth Read more from Tahanee on her be told). Instead, be humble and blog or Everything Girls Love help those in need. The power of Magazine. prayer is amazing! Behave in a 25
ELAYNE FLUKER OF SUPPORT IS SEXY
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hen Do Women Stop doing Everything and ask for Help?
As a Black woman, mother, daughter, student, worker, and Everything else under the sun, I feel like I have to do Everything or it will not get done at all. The thing is, as women, we keep going and going without a break or rest, and when we hit that exhaustion 26
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Podcast Highlight:
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point, it becomes dangerous to our mental health, self, and others. Most times, we do not recognize that exhaustion point, and that is when we go into neutral mode and start all the spark about ourselves. However, I feel like it is time for a change and for women to understand that we cannot do Everything by ourselves, and it is ok to ask for Help, speaking of Help! FEMI Magazine interviewed
the amazing Elayne Fluker to understand better the importance of networking between women, asking for Help, and mental health. Elayne Fluker is the podcast host of Support is Sexy, whose podcast has reached over 130 Countries. Elayne is an author of Get Over it I Got It book catered to helping women get over the FEMI MAGAZINE
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superwoman complex and realize that all goals cannot be accomplished alone. Along with other powerful moves that Elayne has made in her life, she is an editor, producer, and media entrepreneur. Elayne has served as an editorial executive at media powerhouses such as Condé Nast, Huffington Post, Essence, Martha Stewart Living, VIBE, and Latina. So, let’s get into it! Elayne, you are a black woman of multiple talents. Give us a back story on what led you to this route of helping many other women? I attended a personal development workshop over six months in 2015 called Momentum. During this workshop, my broken relationship with support (and the restraints that this broken relationship put on my personal life, my business, and my dreams) really became apparent to me. In a group of about forty individuals—all-powerful leaders from diverse backgrounds, industries, accomplishments, and life experiences—two things seemed very difficult for most of us to request when pushed to do so: 1) love and 2) support. Because expressing the desire or need for both love and support requires a level FEMI MAGAZINE
of vulnerability and transparency, most of us have become masters at concealing to show up as “strong” and “successful” in our worlds, in whatever way we each defined those attributes. As a result of that workshop, I rewired my beliefs and reframed my relationship with support. It not only opened me up to opportunities and experiences I may have otherwise missed, but it also relieved the loneliness and isolation I was experiencing at that time in my life. As I went back to my everyday life and worked hard to figure out my business, I constantly reminded myself that support is sexy (a phrase I adopted as my mantra and used as a hashtag on social media— #supportissexy). Eventually, I began to notice how many other women like me—whether entrepreneurs, career women, or caregivers handling their business and “making it happen”—were unwittingly choosing to struggle alone because they didn’t want to risk the shame of asking for support. However, like me, they needed it desperately. I decided to make it my mission for unapologetically ambitious women like myself to know that having it all doesn’t mean doing it alone. Knowing how to ask for support is a key to success and fulfillment. 27
Support is Sexy is a unique podcast that has channeled well over 500 various entrepreneurial women, has more than 850,000 downloads and has listeners in more than 130 different countries. What were your thoughts when starting the podcast? What are your goals for the podcast, and what do you hope to accomplish in the end? I am a passionate podcast listener, especially those around entrepreneurship and personal development. In 2016, many of the podcasts I loved (and still love) were hosted by men, and more specifically by white men. I wanted to hear stories of other women entrepreneurs like myself, not just the successful part of the journey, but the ups and downs of the trip and what kind of support each woman turned to make it to the other side and find her success. That was the origin of Support is Sexy. As far as the goal, I’ve recorded more than 800 episodes at this point. I’ll let you know when I reach 1000! What has been a significant event or opportunity that has completely changed your life? What have you learned from this opportunity or event? What advice would you give others that aids in progressing in life in a mentally healthy way? Being able to publish my very first book and to do so with a publisher such as HarperCollins Leadership is an event that has already changed my life. No matter how many copies the book sells or how many best-sellers lists it’s on or not, writing and publishing a book is a dream come true for me. 28
At times I didn’t know if it would ever come true, even while I was actually writing the book, but it did. I celebrate finishing the book, no matter what the next chapter of life looks like. You have a new book releasing soon titled Get Over “I Got it.” What is the significance of this title? What do you hope for women to gain while reading this published work? The phrase “I got it” is something that I’ve used as a defense mechanism to prove to myself and others that I can do it all without any help. But that “I got it” mindset is incredibly damaging. Of course, it’s important to tell women that they can achieve anything, but to do it all on their own is exhausting. I want women to know that they can lean on their support system without feeling like a burden, especially when people out there want to help. My book is letting you know that you deserve support, and I have exercised at the end of each chapter to help you go about getting that support. What is your standpoint on mental health and Black women? Also, why do you think it is hard for Black women to seek Help when needed? I have a chapter in my book, “Get Over, ‘I Got It,’” called “Learn the Language of the Ask.” It’s about this very topic around Black women and our struggle historically to ask for support. It’s difficult to reconcile asking—and having the right to ask and the belief that you will receive when you and people who looked like you didn’t have permission for simple acts at a point in history.
Like sitting at the same lunch counter and eating a sandwich next to someone who is white or sitting in whichever seat is empty on a public bus after a long day of work was not already enough. Most of us grew up seeing the women in our lives swallow their pain and their desires-which led to mental health issues, depression, and stress-related illnesses we still contend with today. But now we know better, and we have to encourage each other to ask for what we need. How do you feel to be a woman who is positively influencing other women across social media? It feels incredible! I love what I do because I meet so many incredible women from all over the world. It’s so motivating to see women achieve their wildest dreams and tell others about it. I want to keep growing and expanding my reach. I want everyone to experience having a great network of entrepreneurial women as their friends the way I have. There you have it. I know sometimes it can be hard to see the light at the end and ask for Help when desperately needed, but as we see through Fluker’s success, there is power in asking for Help and networking. For more content, inspiration, and ideas. Connect with Elayne through social media at Facebook. Instagram, Twitter, Linked In, and YouTube @ELayneFluker. Make sure to visit her website at www.GetOverIGotIt.com. Also, do not forget to check out
Elayne’s podcast, Support is Sexy!
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Mother’s Day Tribute:
Chyrell
Davis Myers O Written By: Tanisha D. Davis
n October 18, 2020 I remember just around midnight my mother was reacting with the heart symbol on my Facebook post. While preparing for church that morning, I decided to pop up and visit her after church. I remember sitting in my truck blowing up my mom’s phone to let her know my daughter Jaida and I were on the way over. Little did I know, those comments on my Facebook page that night were the last time I would hear from my mother.
My mother was a strong woman and when we think of heroes, I think of her because it seemed that no matter what life tossed at her. She survived it.
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Remembering
I can speak her truth because she was the example of letting nothing and nobody stop you! She had overcome things that many thought would take her out. I watched my mom when I was a little girl survive a domestic violent marriage in her early 20s, she overcame addictions, and in her early 50s she beat Stage 3 Breast Cancer. She was a woman of so much power! My mother experienced things as a young woman with four small children in the 1990s that when I look back and remember, it just brought tears to my eyes. I remember sitting on my mother’s lap at age 5 and she was hugging me while the choir song, “Wade in the Water” and she cried and kissed my cheek and told me how much she loved me. This was a tough time in her life but she wanted me to know that I was loved no matter what. I am the oldest of four children. When I think of my mother, I remember a fighter and a woman who never bit her tongue! She told you how she felt and always reminded me to speak my mind no matter what. She always fought for what was right. During her last days she continued to work, even though I wanted her to rest after her surgery and the chemo treatments. I remember her laughing and telling me okay that she wouldn’t FEMI MAGAZINE
take on another job, only for me to find out she took the job anyway. (laughing) That showed me that she didn’t want to be seen as helpless or weak. She worked up until her last day on this earth. My mother slept away on October 18, 2020. The woman who had spent her entire life fighting and surviving, finally was able to rest. I will forever remember her strength and it will forever be an example to me to never quit and to keep fighting until the very end.
I love you mother! You will forever live on inside of me and all of your children, grands, family, friends, and even through her husband she left behind.
Happy Mother’s Day! Chyrell Davis Myers
June 11, 1967 - October 18, 2020
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