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THE BEST DATING ADVICE FOR FINDING LOVE AFTER 40
BETHEL RANCH
MORE THAN JUST A WEDDING
REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD HOST YOUR RUSTIC WEDDING ON A RANCH
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The Best Dating Advice for Finding Love After 40
More Than Just A Wedding
7 Reasons Why You Should Host Your Rustic Wedding on A Ranch
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
THE BEST DATING ADVICE FOR FINDING LOVE AFTER 40
IF WE SAID YOU HAVE A BETTER CHANCE NOW THAN WHEN YOU WERE YOUNGER, WOULD YOU BELIEVE US?
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f you’re single and over 40, chances are your BFF, your parents, your siblings, and maybe even the stranger in the
checkout line are offering you their unsolicited dating advice. While Aunt Debbie may have some wisdom, we’d rather leave it to the pros. So we spoke to a
WHEN YOU’RE DONE BEING PATIENT...BE PATIENT. Whether you just left a bad
REMEMBER, YOU’RE EXACTLY THE RIGHT AGE TO FIND TRUE LOVE. When you’re wondering if your
marriage, or have been in the dating
smile lines are stopping Mr. or Miss
world for decades, it makes sense
Right from swiping right, it’s easy
to feel like it’s your turn to find
to forget that if you were ten years
love. “Singles over 40 often have an
younger you wouldn’t be who
Amazon Prime mentality when it
you are right now. Relationship
comes to dating,” says relationship
expert Dr. Juliana Morris says love
expert and founder of Smart Dating
connections at an older age can be
handful of dating coaches and
Academy, Bela Gandhi. “They want
even more profound.
relationship experts for their best
to check off a few boxes and have
tips for dating after 40. Read on,
the perfect candidate arrive at their
are in your life, who you are, and
but don’t forget: Being on your
mailbox in 48 hours.” It’s important
are confident in your values and
own is just fine, too.
to be patient and to stay positive,
personality, you are more likely to
she says. Think of your frustration
find someone who is better suited
like a blizzard—it will do nothing but
for you,” she says.
delay the delivery.
“When you own where you
To attract the kind of person you want to be with, it’s most important that your profile reflects your authentic self.
KEEP TRYING NEW THINGS. “Be the single you want to meet,” says Tammy Shaklee,
breakers?) Before saying “see ya
that he was dedicated to his family,”
never,” ask yourself if the person has
says Ettin, who encouraged her
other qualities that might be worth
client to give it a shot. “She now has
another look.
a newfound love of chicken fingers
relationship expert and founder of
But do think positively.
H4M Matchmakers. One way to do
“After a couple of decades of
that is to constantly explore new
dating experience, it can be
hobbies and interests. That way, she
easy to assume you will be
says, “you’ll have exciting things to
disappointed,” says dating coach
RESIST DATING SOMEONE WHO REMINDS YOU OF AN EX.
discuss on a date, whether it’s travel
Lily Womble. But that cynicism is
“It can be tempting to go out
plans, the latest restaurant, or even
only working against you. Sunny
with a person who reminds you
new places and activities going
Joy McMillan, relationship expert
of someone you’ve already had a
on in your city.” When you’re the
and author of Unhitched, agrees.
relationship with,” says Lane Moore,
best version of yourself, “it can be
She recommends replacing your
author of How to Be Alone. And
magnetic,” says Shaklee.
doubts with optimism. For example,
while there’s something to be said
she suggests changing your
for familiarity, if love didn’t work
mindset from “dating is scary and
then, why would it work now?
DON’T GET HUNG UP ON WHAT YOU THINK YOU WANT. If you know right away whether your first date is worthy of a second, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Intuitive dating coach Nikki Novo says this is a common mistake. “Dating in our 40s typically means we know what we want, and we feel pressed to find it quick!” she says. “But eliminating fast is often the strategy that prolongs our single status.” She warns that there is a thin line between “going with your gut” and being judgmental. (Are excuses like ‘I don’t like how their apartment smells,’ really deal-
difficult” to “dating is fun and easy.”
at Friendly’s.”
To stop history from repeating
Dissolving any pesky thoughts will
itself, Moore recommends finding
help you date with positivity.
ways to heal, whether that means going to a therapist or doing some
EMBRACE YOUR BAGGAGE. It’s safe to assume most people have something they’re struggling with. Morris suggests reframing “baggage” as “life experience,” and Erika Ettin, dating coach and author of Love at First Site has found this to be true. For example, Ettin says, one of her clients didn’t want to date a man because he took care of his grandson. But Ettin helped reframe it as a positive. “It showed
soul-searching. “Healing is the only way to date a person who isn’t similar to someone who is unhealthy for you,” she says.
HIRE A DATING COACH. Just like a trainer at the gym helps
...use the confidence that comes with age to your advantage. It provides an opening that many younger people miss out on.
BUT, DON’T RELY ON APPS ALONE.
you push yourself, a dating coach kicks
If all that swiping starts to feel
your love life into shape. “In every area
overwhelming, shut it down. In fact, a
of our lives, we hire people to help
lot of people over 40 miss dating IRL,
us,” says Gandhi. “Yet when it comes
according to Novo, who says her clients
to love, we think it should happen
have the most success when they
organically.” As a coach, Gandhi helps
hang out at places that make them
clients with everything from writing
feel good, like a bar that plays their
online dating profiles to teaching
favorite music, at a cozy independent
folks how to message effectively.
coffee shop, or by joining a running or
“Coaching offers services and products
fitness community—if that’s your thing.
that are designed to improve our
“Don’t discount referrals or meeting
clients’ success,” says Keren Eldad,
by chance, just because everyone else
who created the program Date With
seems to be using apps,” she says. If
Enthusiasm. Eldad recommends
you date in a way that feels right for
searching Linkedin for a dating coach
you, you’ll be more successful.
that melds with your personality, is ICF certified (that stands for International Coaching Federation), and has a proven track record.
CREATE A TRUTHFUL ONLINE DATING PROFILE. “Do not modify who you are, do
MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. “One of the freedoms of being older is knowing what you want and being able to ask for it,” says Morris. So, if you think you may be interested in someone, you shouldn’t hesitate to be the first one to initiate a conversation,
not copy someone else’s profile, and
or ask that person out—or even go for
for goodness sake,” says Eldad, “stay
the kiss.
away from trite quotes.” To attract the
“By the time most people are
kind of person you want to be with,
40, they can handle acceptance and
it’s most important that your profile
rejection equally,” she says. So use the
reflects your authentic self. “
confidence that comes with age to
In short, “don’t fake your age, height,
your advantage. It provides an opening
or anything else for that matter,” she
that many younger people miss out on.
says. “You don’t want to start off with dishonesty.” Instead she says, if you love a certain fantasy novel, talk about
BE PRESENT. The stakes can feel higher when
it. If you like to dance, ski or go on
dating in your 40s and beyond, says
walks with your dog, mention that.
McMillan. “Each party has more life
“You are unique and awesome, so show
experience, and often more kids.”
up that way. You will connect with
This can turn a simple first date into
another person as the true you.”
a “future trip of epic proportions.”
PICK A COUPLE OF APPS THAT FEEL RIGHT. So, how do you know which apps are
But instead of jumping ahead and wondering how your kids will get along, take dating one step at a time. “We are most powerful in the present
best for you? If trial and error sounds
moment,” says McMillan, “So use that
stressful, take Novo’s guidance: If you have
power to your advantage when dating,
“stranger danger” Bumble is great, because
and keep your attention on what is
it allows you to make the first move, she
immediately in front of you.”
says. But if you like to be pursued, she recommends Match.com. And for those who feel most comfortable knowing there’s a social connection, she likes likes Hinge because it matches based on common friends.
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lanning your dream Rustic Wedding? Bethel Ranch is the perfect setting for your special
day. The rolling 82-acre grounds with an elegant 4000 sf chapel that can be transformed into any vision you have dreamed of to say your nuptials. Each step of preparation in this life changing event has the potential to change someone’s life. Spacious dressing rooms for both the Bride and Groom, set the tone for a day of celebration like no other. With the professional kitchen on site the catering will have all the amenities to help make your dream come true while YOU are helping someone else’s’ dream come true. Bethel Ranch also has a beautifully appointed bed and breakfast on the property that has enough room to create a rustic wedding there, if a smaller setting with family and friends is how you dreamt of this special time. The
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MORE THAN JUST A WEDDING
You might choose to take advantage of our outdoor space, 82 acres of rolling hillside, fields and lake. Open the rustic doors to the open-air setting under the trees to say I DO in God’s country.
staff is ready to take care of every
in God’s country. We have lots to
individuals that are working and
detail to make this an unforgettable
offer for the setting of your wedding
learning skills that will give them
event. They have trained to make you
allowing the options of an indoor or
a second chance they need. With
their focus in service.
outdoor ceremony and/or reception.
the same budget you already have
We Live to be the place where magic
allocated to share your love story, you
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are helping share love with others
You might choose take advantage of our outdoor space, 82 acres of rolling hillside, fields and lake. Open
When you experience your
that once were marginalized in their
the rustic doors to the open-air
special moments in the setting of
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setting under the trees to say I DO
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REASONS
WHY YOU SHOULD HOST YOUR RUSTIC WEDDING ON A RANCH
BETHEL WEDDINGS One of the first major decisions any couple makes when planning their wedding is the venue. Location and atmosphere are what truly set the tone for any event. If you find yourself dreaming of a rustic desert wedding, you’ll want to look toward the rolling mountains and vast starry skies of the southwest.
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HERE ARE A FEW REASONS WHY AN AUTHENTIC RANCH WEDDING MIGHT BE THE PERFECT FIT FOR
encompasses the true
YOUR BIG DAY:
spirit of the west. Neither
A ranch wedding
too stuffy nor too casual, it can easily be dressed
NATURAL BEAUTY Imagine your outdoor
up or down. Maybe you’re dreaming of a laid back rehearsal dinner, but want
ceremony or reception on a
the wedding to feel a bit
lush green lawn surrounded
fancier. A luxury ranch can
by mature mesquite trees
easily accommodate both,
and cascading party
as well as a few fun extras,
lights, or on a terrace with
like a romantic horseback
breathtaking panoramic
entrance.
views. With the unmatched backdrop of the vast landscape you’ll need less décor to set the tone for the evening. Let the glow of warm fire pits and bistro lighting create the atmosphere as you dance the night away under the stars.
A large part of cultivating an authentic experience at your wedding comes from the food you choose to serve. When you host a destination ranch wedding, you have access to locally sourced ingredients and chefs who are familiar with the area’s traditional cuisine. Take guests on a
CHANGE OF SCENERY
southwestern adventure
The natural beauty of a
through to the reception
from breakfast straight
ranch wedding lends itself to
with menu styles like
a multitude of picturesque
homestead, BBQ and
settings. After the outdoor “I
Mexican.
do’s” and the desert sun has set, you have the option to move indoors, where elegant décor seamlessly blends with the landscape. Host the ceremony on the lawn, toast to cocktail hour on the patio, dine indoors under southwestern chandeliers and end the evening circled around the crackling fire (indoors or out). With all of these options, you’ll never tire of the setting and it’s virtually impossible for bad weather to impose on your big day.
UNIQUE ACTIVITIES A ranch wedding offers an authentic feel true to old time southwestern lifestyle, cuisine and lodging with a modern twist. With a treasure trove of activities you and your guests will want to spend the days before and after the wedding experiencing all the ranch has to offer. Horseback riding, hiking, swimming, fishing, tennis, jeep adventures and mountain biking are just a few of the possibilities.
UNBEATABLE ACCOMMODATIONS
your expectations. A superior staff will ensure everything from the food to the décor and your guests’ needs will be taken care of with joy and
Traditional adobe walls and Santa Fe-style
ease.
architecture perfectly complement the beauty of the natural surroundings. Luxury ranch lodging is comfortable and inviting, tastefully combining
PIECE OF HISTORY
the spirit of the Old West with today’s modern amenities. Guests can kick-back, relax and enjoy
Historic wedding venues are embedded
the rich southwestern atmosphere as soon as they
with charm and character, which effortlessly
arrive.
authenticates the atmosphere of your big day. There’s a particular sense of romance associated with making new memories at a place that has
SUPERIOR STAFF
stood the test of time. It’s also a safe bet that a historic venue will be around for years to come,
With a full-service luxury ranch you can be assured your vision of the big day will be
making it the perfect getaway for an anniversary or vow renewal.
beyond comparison. With the effortless care and assistance of the wedding planners and the entire staff, every detail of your wedding will exceed
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