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THE BEST DATING ADVICE FOR FINDING LOVE AFTER 40

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MORE THAN JUST A WEDDING

REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD HOST YOUR RUSTIC WEDDING ON A RANCH

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The Best Dating Advice for Finding Love After 40

More Than Just A Wedding

7 Reasons Why You Should Host Your Rustic Wedding on A Ranch

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THE BEST DATING ADVICE FOR FINDING LOVE AFTER 40

IF WE SAID YOU HAVE A BETTER CHANCE NOW THAN WHEN YOU WERE YOUNGER, WOULD YOU BELIEVE US?

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f you’re single and over 40, chances are your BFF, your parents, your siblings, and maybe even the stranger in the

checkout line are offering you their unsolicited dating advice.

While Aunt Debbie may have some wisdom, we’d rather leave it to the pros. So we spoke to a

WHEN YOU’RE DONE BEING PATIENT...BE PATIENT. Whether you just left a bad

REMEMBER, YOU’RE EXACTLY THE RIGHT AGE TO FIND TRUE LOVE. When you’re wondering if your

marriage, or have been in the dating

smile lines are stopping Mr. or Miss

world for decades, it makes sense

Right from swiping right, it’s easy

to feel like it’s your turn to find

to forget that if you were ten years

love. “Singles over 40 often have an

younger you wouldn’t be who

Amazon Prime mentality when it

you are right now. Relationship

comes to dating,” says relationship

expert Dr. Juliana Morris says love

expert and founder of Smart Dating

connections at an older age can be

handful of dating coaches and

Academy, Bela Gandhi. “They want

even more profound.

relationship experts for their best

to check off a few boxes and have

tips for dating after 40. Read on,

the perfect candidate arrive at their

are in your life, who you are, and

but don’t forget: Being on your

mailbox in 48 hours.” It’s important

are confident in your values and

own is just fine, too.

to be patient and to stay positive,

personality, you are more likely to

she says. Think of your frustration

find someone who is better suited

like a blizzard—it will do nothing but

for you,” she says.

delay the delivery.

“When you own where you

To attract the kind of person you want to be with, it’s most important that your profile reflects your authentic self.

KEEP TRYING NEW THINGS. “Be the single you want to meet,” says Tammy Shaklee,

breakers?) Before saying “see ya

that he was dedicated to his family,”

never,” ask yourself if the person has

says Ettin, who encouraged her

other qualities that might be worth

client to give it a shot. “She now has

another look.

a newfound love of chicken fingers

relationship expert and founder of

But do think positively.

H4M Matchmakers. One way to do

“After a couple of decades of

that is to constantly explore new

dating experience, it can be

hobbies and interests. That way, she

easy to assume you will be

says, “you’ll have exciting things to

disappointed,” says dating coach

RESIST DATING SOMEONE WHO REMINDS YOU OF AN EX.

discuss on a date, whether it’s travel

Lily Womble. But that cynicism is

“It can be tempting to go out

plans, the latest restaurant, or even

only working against you. Sunny

with a person who reminds you

new places and activities going

Joy McMillan, relationship expert

of someone you’ve already had a

on in your city.” When you’re the

and author of Unhitched, agrees.

relationship with,” says Lane Moore,

best version of yourself, “it can be

She recommends replacing your

author of How to Be Alone. And

magnetic,” says Shaklee.

doubts with optimism. For example,

while there’s something to be said

she suggests changing your

for familiarity, if love didn’t work

mindset from “dating is scary and

then, why would it work now?

DON’T GET HUNG UP ON WHAT YOU THINK YOU WANT. If you know right away whether your first date is worthy of a second, you’re setting yourself up for failure. Intuitive dating coach Nikki Novo says this is a common mistake. “Dating in our 40s typically means we know what we want, and we feel pressed to find it quick!” she says.

“But eliminating fast is often the strategy that prolongs our single status.” She warns that there is a thin line between “going with your gut” and being judgmental.

(Are excuses like ‘I don’t like how their apartment smells,’ really deal-

difficult” to “dating is fun and easy.”

at Friendly’s.”

To stop history from repeating

Dissolving any pesky thoughts will

itself, Moore recommends finding

help you date with positivity.

ways to heal, whether that means going to a therapist or doing some

EMBRACE YOUR BAGGAGE. It’s safe to assume most people have something they’re struggling with. Morris suggests reframing “baggage” as “life experience,” and Erika Ettin, dating coach and author of Love at First Site has found this to be true. For example, Ettin says, one of her clients didn’t want to date a man because he took care of his grandson. But Ettin helped reframe it as a positive. “It showed

soul-searching. “Healing is the only way to date a person who isn’t similar to someone who is unhealthy for you,” she says.

HIRE A DATING COACH. Just like a trainer at the gym helps

...use the confidence that comes with age to your advantage. It provides an opening that many younger people miss out on.

BUT, DON’T RELY ON APPS ALONE.

you push yourself, a dating coach kicks

If all that swiping starts to feel

your love life into shape. “In every area

overwhelming, shut it down. In fact, a

of our lives, we hire people to help

lot of people over 40 miss dating IRL,

us,” says Gandhi. “Yet when it comes

according to Novo, who says her clients

to love, we think it should happen

have the most success when they

organically.” As a coach, Gandhi helps

hang out at places that make them

clients with everything from writing

feel good, like a bar that plays their

online dating profiles to teaching

favorite music, at a cozy independent

folks how to message effectively.

coffee shop, or by joining a running or

“Coaching offers services and products

fitness community—if that’s your thing.

that are designed to improve our

“Don’t discount referrals or meeting

clients’ success,” says Keren Eldad,

by chance, just because everyone else

who created the program Date With

seems to be using apps,” she says. If

Enthusiasm. Eldad recommends

you date in a way that feels right for

searching Linkedin for a dating coach

you, you’ll be more successful.

that melds with your personality, is ICF certified (that stands for International Coaching Federation), and has a proven track record.

CREATE A TRUTHFUL ONLINE DATING PROFILE. “Do not modify who you are, do

MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. “One of the freedoms of being older is knowing what you want and being able to ask for it,” says Morris. So, if you think you may be interested in someone, you shouldn’t hesitate to be the first one to initiate a conversation,

not copy someone else’s profile, and

or ask that person out—or even go for

for goodness sake,” says Eldad, “stay

the kiss.

away from trite quotes.” To attract the

“By the time most people are

kind of person you want to be with,

40, they can handle acceptance and

it’s most important that your profile

rejection equally,” she says. So use the

reflects your authentic self. “

confidence that comes with age to

In short, “don’t fake your age, height,

your advantage. It provides an opening

or anything else for that matter,” she

that many younger people miss out on.

says. “You don’t want to start off with dishonesty.” Instead she says, if you love a certain fantasy novel, talk about

BE PRESENT. The stakes can feel higher when

it. If you like to dance, ski or go on

dating in your 40s and beyond, says

walks with your dog, mention that.

McMillan. “Each party has more life

“You are unique and awesome, so show

experience, and often more kids.”

up that way. You will connect with

This can turn a simple first date into

another person as the true you.”

a “future trip of epic proportions.”

PICK A COUPLE OF APPS THAT FEEL RIGHT. So, how do you know which apps are

But instead of jumping ahead and wondering how your kids will get along, take dating one step at a time.

“We are most powerful in the present

best for you? If trial and error sounds

moment,” says McMillan, “So use that

stressful, take Novo’s guidance: If you have

power to your advantage when dating,

“stranger danger” Bumble is great, because

and keep your attention on what is

it allows you to make the first move, she

immediately in front of you.”

says. But if you like to be pursued, she recommends Match.com. And for those who feel most comfortable knowing there’s a social connection, she likes likes Hinge because it matches based on common friends.

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Spacious dressing rooms for both the Bride and Groom, set the tone for a day of celebration like no other. With the professional kitchen on site the catering will have all the amenities to help make your dream come true while YOU are helping someone else’s’ dream come true.

Bethel Ranch also has a beautifully appointed bed and breakfast on the property that has enough room to create a rustic wedding there, if a smaller setting with family and friends is how you dreamt of this special time. The

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You might choose to take advantage of our outdoor space, 82 acres of rolling hillside, fields and lake.

Open the rustic doors to the open-air setting under the trees to say I DO in God’s country.

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in God’s country. We have lots to

individuals that are working and

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offer for the setting of your wedding

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event. They have trained to make you

allowing the options of an indoor or

a second chance they need. With

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outdoor ceremony and/or reception.

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You might choose take advantage of our outdoor space, 82 acres of rolling hillside, fields and lake. Open

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REASONS

WHY YOU SHOULD HOST YOUR RUSTIC WEDDING ON A RANCH

BETHEL WEDDINGS One of the first major decisions any couple makes when planning their wedding is the venue. Location and atmosphere are what truly set the tone for any event. If you find yourself dreaming of a rustic desert wedding, you’ll want to look toward the rolling mountains and vast starry skies of the southwest.

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HERE ARE A FEW REASONS WHY AN AUTHENTIC RANCH WEDDING MIGHT BE THE PERFECT FIT FOR

encompasses the true

YOUR BIG DAY:

spirit of the west. Neither

A ranch wedding

too stuffy nor too casual, it can easily be dressed

NATURAL BEAUTY Imagine your outdoor

up or down. Maybe you’re dreaming of a laid back rehearsal dinner, but want

ceremony or reception on a

the wedding to feel a bit

lush green lawn surrounded

fancier. A luxury ranch can

by mature mesquite trees

easily accommodate both,

and cascading party

as well as a few fun extras,

lights, or on a terrace with

like a romantic horseback

breathtaking panoramic

entrance.

views. With the unmatched backdrop of the vast landscape you’ll need less décor to set the tone for the evening. Let the glow of warm fire pits and bistro lighting create the atmosphere as you dance the night away under the stars.

A large part of cultivating an authentic experience at your wedding comes from the food you choose to serve. When you host a destination ranch wedding, you have access to locally sourced ingredients and chefs who are familiar with the area’s traditional cuisine. Take guests on a

CHANGE OF SCENERY

southwestern adventure

The natural beauty of a

through to the reception

from breakfast straight

ranch wedding lends itself to

with menu styles like

a multitude of picturesque

homestead, BBQ and

settings. After the outdoor “I

Mexican.

do’s” and the desert sun has set, you have the option to move indoors, where elegant décor seamlessly blends with the landscape. Host the ceremony on the lawn, toast to cocktail hour on the patio, dine indoors under southwestern chandeliers and end the evening circled around the crackling fire (indoors or out). With all of these options, you’ll never tire of the setting and it’s virtually impossible for bad weather to impose on your big day.

UNIQUE ACTIVITIES A ranch wedding offers an authentic feel true to old time southwestern lifestyle, cuisine and lodging with a modern twist. With a treasure trove of activities you and your guests will want to spend the days before and after the wedding experiencing all the ranch has to offer. Horseback riding, hiking, swimming, fishing, tennis, jeep adventures and mountain biking are just a few of the possibilities.

UNBEATABLE ACCOMMODATIONS

your expectations. A superior staff will ensure everything from the food to the décor and your guests’ needs will be taken care of with joy and

Traditional adobe walls and Santa Fe-style

ease.

architecture perfectly complement the beauty of the natural surroundings. Luxury ranch lodging is comfortable and inviting, tastefully combining

PIECE OF HISTORY

the spirit of the Old West with today’s modern amenities. Guests can kick-back, relax and enjoy

Historic wedding venues are embedded

the rich southwestern atmosphere as soon as they

with charm and character, which effortlessly

arrive.

authenticates the atmosphere of your big day.

There’s a particular sense of romance associated with making new memories at a place that has

SUPERIOR STAFF

stood the test of time. It’s also a safe bet that a historic venue will be around for years to come,

With a full-service luxury ranch you can be assured your vision of the big day will be

making it the perfect getaway for an anniversary or vow renewal.

beyond comparison. With the effortless care and assistance of the wedding planners and the entire staff, every detail of your wedding will exceed

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