PAPA KEHETE HAIN

You love to live close to your family. Best day to buy gold and silver for investment sake.

You are a child at heart and never let this child die. You have a big heart and you always help someone if you can. Video gathering is possible as you miss your social circle like anything.

GEMINI

MAY 21 - JUNE 21

You are a pro in your field and none can beat you. You give tough competition to people. Many people get inspired by you. You will get special treatment from your dear ones. Take stand where you need to, don’t run in the same direction where everybody else is going.

Cancer

JUNE 22 - JULY 23

Visit a doctor if you have any doubts about your health. Don’t attack stress even if you don’t have any. Let go of things that are not in your control. You want to have your own house and you will work hard to make your dream come true. Health remains perfect .

LEO

JULY 24 - AUGUST 23

You make sure to make things work your way. Never demotivate someone even if someone is not capable of doing something. You are most wanted by your friends. You can have romantic affair in office and a serious one. You will invest money in clothes and accessories today.

VIRGO

AUG 24 - SEP 23

Your spouse is someone who can do anything for your happiness. You are opportunist and this will make you successful one day. There may be delays in property possession and it won’t effect you. You are happy spending whole day at home.

LIBRA

SEPT 24 - OCTOBER 22

Scrumptious food is what you are craving for today. You always maintain cordial relationship with everyone. You workout daily to keep yourself fit.

You may start a side business to earn extra money. You are not a jealous kind and you feel happy for others.

SCORPIO

OCT 23 - NOVEMBER 22

You will feel amorous towards your wife. This is the best time try something new with life give yourself a new purpose. Work on your limitations, there can be no better time than this. You have more opposite sex friends than the same and you may be judged sometimes but don’t care.

There is a constant and admittedly vital voice that demands rights for women and equal status as men. Having said that, it would be naïve to assume that men have it rosy.

Apropos it’s the very fact that men themselves continue to be victims of patriarchy, they subject the women in their life to patriarchy, resulting in a never-ending cycle of generational trauma and abuse.

It is the omnipresent and pervasive sexism, that a ‘man’ too, is held up to, and judged by a barometer that is undeniably unfair, unrealistic and quite frankly, unsustainable. I’m not in any way trying to minimize or compare it to the deep-rooted patriarchy that women suffer, but suffice it to say that a few incidents and examples will at least provide broad strokes of what I’m on about.

When I moved back to Jaipur from Mumbai at the end of 2013, I remember visiting the local wine shop. My wife Anuja, a staunch genderequalist who’d otherwise instinctively alight the vehicle and fetch the desired contraband in Mumbai, did not disembark! She explained that she wasn’t comfortable and that it would probably be wiser for me to procure the liquor. I followed the sage advice, only to realize that her behaviour would be the least surprising part of this moonshine drive! To cut a long story short, upon uncomfortably observing me having Gin packed, one of the many hangers-around at the wine shop decided to relieve himself of his simmering patriarchal rage, “Whisky nahi toh

SAGITTARIUS NOV 23 - DEC 22 kam se kam Bhotka to try karo saahab, ye Gin toh lugailog peeve hai!”

Spend time talking with likeminded people as it will make you feel good for now. Boisterous behaviour is what everyone needs right now, do whatever you can do to cheer everyone up. You will feel financially comfortable and in position to invest money in some new venture.

“Madam ko ata hai gadi chalana par who toh abhi dukaan mein gayi hain!”

Should I be sorry that I can’t be a party to ‘manly’ conversations about women and their vital statistics, or be a co-traveler on bache-

IPL team, or curse-in-chorus about having to suffer the drudgery of my own child’s birthday party!

The fact is, I am a misfit.

An anomaly. An exception. A mutation. An oddity. An alien. I am also some- are uncensored rather for the of my guests. tled, bothered, ward, and god-forseen to be ‘dandy’ and/

More of the same followed when our daughter was born, and my genuine elation was met with terse criticism & judgment. “You wanted a girl?” I have tried desperately to search for a silver lining; wonderful how people are uncensored and uninhibited, is it not?

I used to make it a point to inform our guests that I was the one who selected and arranged the flowers and curated the art; passions that endure, though information thereof, withheld, not out of fear, rather for the mental-comfort of my guests.

People feel unsettled, bothered, conscious, awkward, and god-forbid there’s a ‘man’ seen to be ‘dandy’ and/ or, worse still, artistic & home-obsessed!

Is it unfair? You bet! Is it tough to deal with? Of course. It helps that, as a man, I am not subject to this scrutiny regularly, as opposed to my wife. I might even get the Father of the Year award to take care of my child while my wife takes two days off from her duties as a mother!

Over time and with a modicum of wisdom, one can, on occasion, even have fun with it – it may only serve to perplex conditioned onlookers more; at least Anuja & I have a vent, a chance to quietly and harmlessly protest, share a little inside joke, humanize the situation, and once in a blue moon, instigate a tiny shift. How? I always have the cheque at a restaurant redirected to my wife! When asked to move the car in a busy street, I always say

CAPRICORN

DEC 23 - JAN 20 lor sojourns to Bangkok & Amsterdam (to which I continue to be regularly invited by married men), or contribute to heated exchanges on what stocks to invest in, or show-off specifics of the landparcel I recently acquired, or add my set of spicy ingredients to a spirited potpourri of wife-bashing, or tap-tumblers oozing with pale ale whilst screaming in cheer for a capitalistic-creation that is an one who a vast section of men themselves can’t process. What do I even do? I teach! I write! I co-run a Mental Wellness platform!

You are very generous by nature and also you are the backbone of your family. Today is a favourable day for business. You may postpone your study plans. You are very fortunate to have a great friend circle. Be careful of the words that come out of your mouth.

The inferences being drawn are palpable, tangible, plentiful and horrifically real. Does it make me bitter, frustrated and angry? It used to. Does it make me alter my outward behavior or demeanor, or question myself and my leanings? Not.

As an Educator who is shamelessly vocal about my me, because at the very least, ‘weak’, ‘unstable’, ‘unfit’. guably the most tragic fallugly head on men – a ‘man’ ing any mental distress, is mental health struggles, and an individual who vociferously advocates mental help; I know I am inadvertently dissuading schools, institutions, and parents of potential students, from associating with me, because at the very least, if I am in therapy, I MUST be ‘weak’, ‘unstable’, ‘unfit’. This finally brings me to arguably the most tragic fallout of patriarchy rearing its ugly head on men – a ‘man’ who admits he is experiencing any mental distress, is simply not ‘man enough’.

You need a break from day to tensions and the way to cope up with stress is to meditate. You must create an environment of understanding at home. You will succeed in any sort of examination if you put your heart and soul to it. Promotion can be expected even if other are not.

Initiative Driveway Devi, entrenched in the cause est sympathies go out to share their true feelings, eties. Men who have to seek channels where they ask for left open for them (to faciliensuring they’re never seen), vironment that even allows

As the co-founder of our modest Mental Wellness Initiative Driveway Devi, and now firmly and fully entrenched in the cause of mental wellness, my deepest sympathies go out to men. Men who can never share their true feelings, emotions, stresses and anxieties. Men who have to seek therapy, literally use back channels where they ask for clinic service entrances to be left open for them (to facilitate hasty entries and exits ensuring they’re never seen), worse still, not having an environment that even allows for dialogue or discussion.

Over the past 11 years I’ve been teaching, it is a conscious endeavor of mine that aside from the communication skills I am propounding, I at least create that safe space for my students. A space and a dynamic where they are liberated, freed from the shackles of expectations & patriarchy. And it has worked. In so many cases, where boys especially, have gone on to confess, confide and develop the courage to be themselves. Shall we, can we, just place a brief pause on ‘papa kehte hain…’ and examine, listen, allow…. ‘bete kya kehete hain’?

Your spouse may make you spend more than you expected.

Fantastic day for investing money in stock market as you can make fortune. You need help on academic front and you should not shy away from asking. You miss your parents a lot and somewhere fear to loose them.