“The True Ekklesia,” Frank Rivas, March 4, 2012
I have been thinking about church, particularly about what makes a good church. I have come to identify three characteristics that are essential for me. I make no claim to having identified these characteristics for the first time; I have simply affirmed them for myself. The first—and most important—characteristic is that the church is a safe place. We come to the church as who we are, and we do not want to feel compelled wear to a mask. Whether we are theist or atheist, we’re safe. Whether we’re Latino or Anglo, African American or Asian American, we’re safe. Whether we’re straight or gay, whether we’re coupled or single, we’re safe. In a good church our safety goes beyond such categories. In our struggles, in our failures, with our pain, with our dreams, we are safe. We don’t have to pretend ever to be other than who we are. The most important quality of a good church is that it makes us feel safe. The second characteristic is that a church is a place for spiritual formation. We come to church for lots of reasons—to hear great music, to be in fellowship, to provide a religious education for our children. However, a church is fundamentally about spiritual formation. This does not mean that the minister has the right to tell you what you ought to believe. Rather, in a good church, we grow as spiritual beings among other spiritual beings. Universalists were fond of saying that there is that of God in each of us. There is that of God in me, and that of God in each person here. It is only by encountering the holy in each other, only in speaking openly about our own lives and by listening to one another that we grow in our experience of the holy. During my last visit, I spoke about a time I spent with wild horses. The encounter with horses deepened my life; even though the experience was vicarious for you, some of your lives deepened as well. So it is with each of our stories. Some of you have experienced the birth of a child. I never have. In that birth you may have experienced something holy, and if you share that experience with me, my understanding grows. For some people here, the word “holy” itself is difficult, but the experience of something transcendent remains. One member, for example, seldom uses the word “holy,” but he glides above the earth and in the process experiences something transcendent. We are here for spiritual formation. We gather in community not only to be accepted for who we are, but also to grow in loving connection with one another. This is the second characteristic of a healthy church.
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