How to Love Yourself When No One Else Will

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FLIESSEN VOL. II ISSUE II.

Pass the knife please.


Fion Koh 04

Izzy Hildago 06

Cyrill Acuña 16

FIORE 18

Artist Submissions 12 17

Team Submissions 3 8 10 14 20 22

Pages designed by Emma Caamano 8,9,14,15,20,21 Brianna Hawley 2,3,18,19 Amanda Bohn 4,5,10,11 Gabby Napolitano 1,24 Isabelle Bryson 6,7 Soffia Obando 17 Abby Kim 16 Illustration by Vickiana Dulcio on pages 22-23


Romanticize Everyday Life Brianna Hawley Graphic Design ‘23 Insta: @artbyhawley “You have to start romanticizing your life. You have to start thinking of yourself as the main character. Because if you don’t, life will continue to pass you by. And all the little things that make it so beautiful, will continue to go unnoticed. So take a second, and look around, and realize that it’s a blessing for you to be here right now” - Darling Derl It is easy to get caught up with the highs and lows of life. Each day presents it’s own set of challenges but there is great peace and love to be found within the mundane. Applying self love practices into your daily life does not have to be a big grand gesture. Although that is great too, it is about being content with the life you live. In the midst of everyday stress I have found joy within indulging in the little things. I started by spending more time on things that are important to me. For example with the

constant flow of assignments and classes it was easy to skip meals and or replace them with several cups of coffee. But in trying to care for my body I started to set aside time to eat balanced meals. Allowing myself extra time to aesthetically plate my food and enjoying eating without rushing simply gave me much needed breaks within the day and ensured I wouldn’t go all day without eating. I even started spending a little extra money on things that I knew would make me smile everyday like heart shaped ice trays for my morning coffee. These daily self love practices have also manifested in me finding more ways to express myself in my outward appearance and environment. After spending months quarantining in my room I found myself getting bored of looking at the same four walls. So every so often I spend time putting up new decor and moving around my furniture. In taking time to decorate my space I have also been taking time to accessorize myself. I have been getting back into my love for painting my nails and taking on a new passion of finding jewelry to pair. As I continue my path toward self love, I’m learning to see and appreciate things with fresh eyes. Photos by Brianna Hawley


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Illustrations by Fion Koh

Fion Koh Graphic Designer Insta: @artsbyfion For a long time, I was obsessed with the idea of meeting “the one” -someone who understands all of me and fills my missing parts. One day, that person showed up. I tried so hard to impress, to be the “perfect” version of myself, and it still fell through. My piece of heaven turned into a private hell. I was devastated. I’m left with a broken heart. I forgot who I was before the relationship. I realized while I was trying to be this “perfect”

version of myself, I wasn’t being the authentic me. Being a human is both beautiful and burdensome. When I was trying so hard to be the perfect girlfriend, I forgot that both the beautiful and chaotic parts of me are what makes me special. Someone not being able to choose you anymore just means that they were not meant to hold your heart. And you deserve to be loved the way you love others. And while this is hard, and while it may not make sense, it

is within these moments that you truly can connect with how strong you are. Life will demand you to do the work, for you to understand yourself, for you to heal even when it hurts. Deep down I know that kind of love and beauty exists. But first, you have to nurture the relationship with yourself. You need to figure out who you really are, and who you want to be. By learning your actual value you do not become desperate, and by not becoming

desperate you do not settle for bad relationships. You start to figure out what kind of person is good for you. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. When you accept and love yourself, you don’t need someone else’s approval or love. You are more likely to find someone who you love, and who will love you back.


Izzy Hidalgo Insta: @izzy.hidalgo

Happy Valentine’s Day 2021! One of the only years that being alone is deemed responsible and for your own safety. Whether this is your first valentine’s day alone or nineteenth we’re gonna find some ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day with the person that needs love the most right now: YOU!

Step 1: Buy yourself a present or a couple Self-love does not have to look much different than other forms of love. If you’re the type of person to see something someone you care about would like and get it for them, extend the same kindness to yourself. If you’re passing your favorite coffee shop en route to somewhere else, no one knows your favorite order like you do, so go grab one. The same goes for silly things on the shelves near check out or a purchase you’ve been debating but are waiting for a sign to get. (This is that sign if you didn’t get that.)

Step 2: Do literally anything and everything you want Your relationship with yourself should be relatively easy in the common interests department, as y’all have the same exact interests. Fuck romcoms if that’s not your thing! This is your Valentine’s day so get your heart-shaped box of chocolates or your Taco Bell or a 5-course meal. Once you have that, watch some horror movies or Disney+ or all of those videos in your YouTube “watch later” that you forgot to watch later. If you wanna stop in the middle that’s okay because the only one you’re pleasing today is yourself.


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Step 3: Make it last more than Valentine’s Day This can be done in a multitude of ways. You can write yourself a love letter to yourself to open the next year or make concrete plans that you’re excited about sometime soon. Remember that Valentine’s day is a once a year celebration of capitalizing on the human desire to have a relationship and show your love with money, but self-love is for the rest of your life.


Photographs by Rosa Fihla


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Guide to Self-Love for

Graphic Designers

Amanda Bohn Graphic Design BFA ‘23 Insta: @ambohnn Self-Love is a journey for everyone, but for all the designers out there, here’s some advice on how to love yourself (and your work!)

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Stop searching for permission. Just start making! Try to be more content with yourself and your instincts. Learning opportunities and seeking out advice are one thing, but depending on others completely to tell you what to do- and when to do it- will only slow down your progress. Some of the best designers out there have said that the best piece of advice they can give is to make bad work and continue making it, until somewhere along the way, you make something great. Welcome serendipity into your life, search for happy accidents in the midst of all the process work and mistakes made.


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Surround yourself with a solid support system, while also finding fulfillment in solitude. Only surround yourself with people who will support you and your passions as much as you support them. You and your teammates should care about each other and treat each other’s work with the same respect that you give your own. When a design reaches its audience and successfully communicates, it has the capacity to bring about great change. Feedback and critique from peers will not only help you understand how viewers are going to react to your work, but also reveal your own strengths and weaknesses. Being selfaware can point out areas that need improvement, so you know to spend a little more time on certain parts of the process. Solitude can be difficult for extroverts who rely on social interaction, but finding a balance between being in the company of others and working alone can help bring about inspiration. It can help you trust your instincts and decisions made when you are the only one to make them. Solitude will also give you time to make sure that you are taking care of yourself properly, drinking water, eating right, and getting enough sleep.

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Be confident, but not arrogant. Confidence is a struggle for a lot of us because when we come across more difficult projects, we might know something is wrong, but just can’t seem to figure out what it is. In this case, seeking out advice from peers to see how they are reacting to the work could be of great benefit. This way, we can find more comfort in the process and encourage ourselves to learn from the difficult projects. That being said, being overly confident, like everything in life, could cloud your judgement and lead you to avoid or ignore critique when feedback is an important aspect of improvement. Find a balance in which you are confident in yourself and your own decisions, but aren’t afraid to point out flaws and ask for help.



Illustrations by Jean Denise @by.jeandenise


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Film shot by Paloma Delagdo


SELF LOVE! Every 14th of February we celebrate the feast day of St.Valentine. In our modernday, we celebrate it by cherishing someone we love whether it is romantic, platonic, or family love. How about self-love? And what about it? For me, self-love is more than pampering yourself or treating yourself with a nice boba tea after work.

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Loving yourself when no one

else will is probably the bravest thing you’ll do for yourself because, amidst the loneliness and the toxicity of the world, you choose to take care of yourself. Self-love can also lead to good things and better relationships with other people. It’s a good thing that in this month of celebrating love, it’s perfectly okay if you’re the one who loves yourself.

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Katy Spore Graphic Design Student @kt.design.dungeon My relationship with self love has changed dramatically during the past six months. In the past I would often focus on the physical parts of self love and self care,

but I was completely ignoring the concepts of nurturing your mind as well. I have just recently learned how to hold space for my mental growth and create

routines that allow me to know myself more. Sometimes your body doesn’t know what it truly wants until you have reflected and consulted your mind fully.

Performing these practices with your mind will help you uncover a lot about yourself and the needs that your body and soul require to live a healthy lifestyle. Illustration by @kt.design.dungeon


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