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This Spring makes our fourth FDM year since its inception As everything blooms around us, this season of renewal and growth can also mark a profound personal rebirth for each of us Let's explore the transformational experience that comes from embracing our true self especially for the young in spirit. This journey applies to any transition in life
I draw inspiration from my own passage into maturity and self-discovery Fresh out of college, I stepped into the world of modeling a leap that was both exhilarating and intimidating This transition was more than a career change; it was a metamorphosis into adulthood. The experience, filled with its fair share of trials and tears, taught me invaluable lessons about personal evolution and the importance of seeking guidance, at any age
At a time when every decision felt overwhelming, counseling provided a sanctuary It was here that I confronted my deepest fears and insecurities. Through sessions that were as much about listening as they were about discovering, I learned two life-altering lessons. First, I came to the realization that adulthood means stepping away from the shadows of parental expectations to illuminate our own desires and dreams Second, I faced down the fears of judgment and competition that often accompany new endeavors, especially in industries as scrutinizing as modeling
This journey of self-reflection wasn't solitary. Books like The Magic of Thinking Big and Creative Visualization became my mentors, teaching me the power of mindset and the art of envisioning my future These tools didn't just help me adapt; they helped to transform me They empowered me to mold a persona that was undeniably Chloé, leading me all the way to Milan a city as stylish and bold as the dreams I chased
As we embrace this Spring, let it be a reminder of our capacity for renewal. Whether you are transitioning from student to professional, shifting careers, or simply looking to rediscover your essence, remember that growth often comes dressed in the garb of challenges Equip yourself with knowledge, seek mentors, and most importantly, believe in the magic of your potential
This season, let us all dare to flourish into our most authentic self, creating a life as beautiful and vibrant as Spring itself Let's nurture our inner gardens to bloom with confidence and grace After all, personal excellence isn't just about reaching heights it's about the depth of the journey there
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As we continue this year in the spirit of complete excellence, we are excited to share another round of flourishing greatness
As the Editor-in-Chief of this auspicious magazine, I’m learning more about myself than I ever imagined possible I’m learning that excellence is more than a mindset Excellence takes intention Excellence takes time With this issue, we allowed our excellence to shine
Our cover star, Carolyne Truelove, is an open book, showing us how to achieve big things while navigating through immense challenges My Editor’s Pick, Isimemen Aladejobi, is helping women of color get what they desire and deserve out of their life and career And new contributors Lethabo Makua and Nora Jacques are carving out a new lane for themselves as they interview our hidden gems As always, the sky’s the limit here at Flourish Digital Magazine
Go ahead and grab a glass of of your favorite beverage (alcohol-free for me), put your feet up and get ready to be inspired and empowered by this year’s second issue
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OriginallyfromChicagoandnowaproudAtlantanfortwentysevenyears,Andersonhasbeenaself-taughtartistsincehewas aboy.Althoughheshiftedhisfocusfromarttosportsinhigh school,itwasn'tuntilthepivotalinfluenceofhislatefiancéein 2010thatSmithrekindledhispassionforart,markingthe beginningofanillustriouscareer.Followingherpassing,Smith fullyembracedhisidentityasanartist,quicklymakinganame forhimselfwithinAtlanta'svibrantartscene. >
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Anderson’sdedicationledhimtoopenhisfirstgalleryintheheartofAtlanta’sBuckheadcommunity,a spacewherehenotonlysellsartbutactivelyengageswithcustomerstofindtheperfectpiecefortheir space Celebratingthesuccessofhisfirstgallery,Smithisnowopeningasecondlocation atestament tohishardworkandthewarmreceptionofhisartbythecommunity
Smithisnotjustanartist;he'sacuratoroftruthandhonesty,representinghimselfandvariousartistswith integrity.Hiswork,deeplyintegratedintoAtlanta'sculturalfabric,enjoyspopularityacrossadiverse audience,includingentertainmentmogulsandartcritics.Withpiecesshowcasediniconicvenuesand thepersonalcollectionsofnotablefigures suchasNFLproCamNewtonandrapperClifford“T.I.”Harris Smith’sartresonateswithAtlanta’seliteandbeyond.GalleryAndersonSmithinviteseveryoneto experiencethemagneticallureofhiswork,furthersolidifyinghisimpactontheartscene. <
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Deena Beasley LIVING THE DREAM
Imagine waking up each morning with a sense of purpose, excitement, and the unwavering belief that you’re truly living the dream
My journey from Detroit to Europe, and back to the States is a tale of determination and resilience After working as a successful model, I was a waitress for seven months, until I saved enough money to get what I needed I always wanted success
“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”
In life we are always transitioning whether it’s from our teens to our twenties, or moving from state to state, or from employee to boss. As I transitioned from a successful modeling career in Europe to readjusting to American life, I rediscovered my passion for writing and creating Years later, I have embarked on creating a TV show and hosting a podcast It has been a journey of excitement, challenges, and fulfillment Most people are born with talents and never develop them. I decided at a young age to pursue my dreams and use my God-given talents. As I navigate through the Universe, the essence of living the dream lies not just in personal achievement, but in the ability to inspire and uplift others
With each project, I strive not only to share my experiences but to ignite a spark of possibility and hope in everyone. Starting any business takes dedication Balancing the demands of a career with the responsibility of raising a family has been challenging but it’s my greatest achievement yet
Living the dream encompasses every facet of life. All your experiences make you and shape you. There are times when you may feel lost and don’t know what to do Those can be times when you realize your best ideas
For instance, when the pandemic hit, we were all locked down at home, afraid to leave, unsure of the future. That is when my podcast came to fruition. I needed to see people, I needed to entertain so I used the tools I had I created and hosted my Living the Dream Podcast I interviewed guests on Zoom I involved my family: My daughter Micah, a web designer, did my graphics; my husband Michael, an actor, was my producer; my son Darius, a music
producer, did the music; and my son Malik, an NBA player, was my first guest I used what I had I made it entertaining by playing trivia games with the guests. The podcast was instrumental in keeping me grounded and occupied through those lonely days.
My story is a testament to the power of hard work and adaptability You, too, can live the dream Never lose sight of your dreams regardless of the obstacles that may come. Always believe in yourself. Changes come through the many different experiences we have. Let my journey be a reminder that no dream is too big or small Never give up See it Believe it Achieve it Embrace your passion and don’t be afraid of living the dream Flourish! <
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Springinto TheOne Thing
Maleeka Hollaway
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Growing up, Spring was my least favorite season I suffered from severe pollen allergies. If you’ve ever experienced Spring in the South, you know the horror of walking outside and stepping into a soft yellow haze. Recess time at school usually yielded a call home to my mother to pick me up, suspecting pink-eye. The school finally agreed to allow little ol’ me to stay inside and read. The rest of my classmates let loose on the jungle gym. But I didn't mind one bit.
Outside of socializing with friends which I did throughout learning and instruction time anyway I loved being lost in the pages of a good book From Matilda to Alice in Wonderland plus a few failed attempts at tackling the Harry Potter books, a good read always kept my young mind going My yapping lips were closed even if just for a few minutes. Books were my happy place. And they still are.
A few years ago, a childhood friend reminded me that I once told her that one day I'd be a New York Times best-selling author when I grew up. It's been years since I had that dream. While each of the four anthologies I've co-written made brief best-seller status on Amazon when they were released, I can admit that the dream of earning a coveted spot on the world's most-known best-sellers list has escaped me Reading and writing eventually became more of a job than a joy Nowadays I read mostly to do research for business or for self-improvement.
As a grown-up, I wrote only to pitch an idea to a client or to showcase my thought leadership on some of the world's top business and lifestyle publications such as Forbes, Business Insider, and Essence. The pure bliss of putting pen to paper no longer came to me quickly. It had to be forced and often came with the pressure of tight deadlines.
That's what my creativity had dwindled down to: life on a deadline Over the past few months of homing in on the spirit of play and polishing my ownership of excellence, I'm returning to the little girl who used to get lost in creativity. Reading “just because,” and writing for a release.
My friend reminded me of a dream I had forgotten about, which lit a spark. I'm not yet quite working on what I think will be my New York Times–worthy book. Still, sitting in the spirit of making that my goal, and a part of my daily mantra (thanks to Chloé Taylor Brown), I'm starting to feel the passion swim back into my imagination
So, let me ask you this: What is one dream you had as a child—or even as an adult—that you’ve taken off your vision board or erased from your bucket list? What was The One Thing that made your heart soar before life set in and the responsibilities took over?
1 Start small. Set aside an hour a week only to think.
Here are three suggestions to help you wake up your sleeping dream to give your soul a beacon of light to look forward to as you progress to the next best version of yourself. It's been studied and proven that some of the world's most incredible creatives spend more time thinking than doing It may seem counterintuitive, but now and again, your mind needs time to be without obligation and restriction
During this hour, don't focus on writing anything down. Just allow yourself time to breathe. Sit outside as the weather starts to warm, the leaves on the trees grow green, and the flowers are blooming. Think about what life will feel like when you are ready to put action toward The One Thing. Consider how your perspective and your life will >
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shift when you step into doing the things your soul always wanted to do but never made time to do. What day and what time will your weekly thinking hour be?
2 Start watching individuals who have done what you want to do.
Here's the thing. I don't choose books to read based on their award status. However, I do follow some of my favorite writers on social media, and I read their personal blogs or watch their vlogs about their life happenings. As a child, I always wondered what a writer's life was like. Do they write all day, every day? Is her real life like a Hallmark movie, where the accomplished author whisks herself into a secluded cabin in a short time, and she magically meets the man of her dreams and finishes writing the best book she has ever written? The truth is, most of the time, this is not the case with writers. I’ve noticed they are more like me. Exactly how I am now. They have families. Most have day jobs. Most write and speak all over the country, and some go worldwide. They are doing only some of these grandiose things every so often. For them, life is simple. For you and me, life is simple, too. Pick two people to study for the next ninety days. See what inspiration you grab along the way.
3 Start taking action by telling one person what that dream is.
My person is Chloé Taylor Brown. (Yes, even a strategist has a coach, and you should, too.) When she and I sat down to clarify what I wanted in this chapter of my life, I shared with her that I used to dream about being a full-time writer and a New
York Times best-selling author. She suggested I bring that dream back. And so, here I am. It didn't feel scary sharing this dream with her because even though it became work, I had never stopped writing. My focus on what I wrote and when I wrote had shifted, but my gift of writing has always been at play. Chloé encouraged me to make that sleeping dream a part of my mantra. So every day, I say out loud, "I am sagacious, charismatic, beneficial, and effective; a wholesome, gutsy world traveler, destined to be a prosperous, venturesome New York Times best-selling author. I am Maleeka Hollaway." It's a mouthful to say, but it's mine. Even if the dream never happens, the idea that it could happen is more satisfying to me than anything else. Share what you want, think, and feel with someone. You never know how sharing may help wake up someone else's dream. <
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Crosscultural Inspiration
Hey, Mamas!
In the bustling city of Atlanta, amidst the energy of its vibrant art scene, there resides a beacon of creativity and resilience: Kyoko Takeuchi, a local artist hailing from Japan, and proud mother of two Even though there are cultural differences among moms around the globe, Kyoko's story shines as a testament to the profound commonality that unites mothers no matter where they are
As mothers, we navigate the intricacies of parenthood with love and dedication, transcending boundaries of nationality and tradition. I met Kyoko through a mutual friend. From the moment I met her, I was in awe of her art style and even more impressed by the fact that not only is she is a mom, but she also roller blades at night in the streets of Atlanta; and she agreed with the fact that self care is one of the best things you can do for your family I was excited to interview her and bring in the Spring by sharing her inspiring words for moms everywhere >
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Elena : Tell us about your journey from Japan to America and how you adapted to the cultural changes.
Kyoko: In Japan, there is a saying similar to “When in Rome, do as the Romans do ” It’s about paying respect to new cultures and environments, as well as to the people who live there, by adhering to the local rules, and absorbing only the parts you like
Elena: What challenges have you faced as a single mom of two in a new country? And how have you overcome them?
Kyoko: The first challenge that comes to mind is the language barrier. Adapting to the language and culture of a new country can be difficult, but of course it was necessary to learn a new language in order to support my children
There was also a lack of social connection in the new environment, which sometimes led to feelings of loneliness and isolation To overcome these difficulties, I explored various ways to take care of myself and to find ways to move forward with my children. By immersing myself in artistic activities as a means of self-expression and stress relief, I was able to maintain mental stability.
Artistic expression has been a pillar for my spirit a way to dispel the stress and loneliness of the new environment. By drawing or enjoying music with my children, I am able to have a space for self-expression. Not only that, by engaging in artistic activities together with my children, we are able to deepen our bond and enjoy our time together
Elena: How did you discover your passion for art, and how has it evolved over the years?
Kyoko: My passion for art began in my childhood From a young age, I loved drawing and enjoying music I often received awards for my drawings as a child, which contributed to my confidence In particular, drawing and creating anime characters was a source of enjoyment for me, and it played an important role as a means of self-expression
Over the years, my passion for art has deepened and evolved in various forms. During my student years, I took classes in art and music, where I was able to refine my artistic expression through learning specialized techniques and theories. As I had more opportunities to engage with different cultures and forms of art, my artistic perspective also broadened
Subsequently, I ventured into various forms of art trying my hand at painting, photography, fashion, make-up, and as many areas as I could find to express myself
Currently, my artistic expression focuses on the individual's inner world and life. Expressing my own experiences and emotions through art has become my main goal. My passion for art has become a part of my life, creating a deep connection with my inner self and environment.
Elena: How has being a divorced mom influenced your perspective on life and your artistic expression? >
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Kyoko: I have come to understand the complexities and realities of family and human relationships. This is also reflected in my artistic expression, and themes related to family and relationships are often incorporated into my work Additionally, divorce has given me the opportunity to develop strength and independence This is also evident in my work, where my art focuses on one’s inner life and self-discovery
The lessons learned from the experience of divorce have brought depth and empathy to my work, enabling me to have a better understanding of other people. At the same time, having gone through a divorce has taught me to be thankful for everything.
Divorce stirred up a storm of emotions, but it also taught me the importance of self-love. As a mother, I have made an even stronger commitment to always have a genuine smile for my two children and to share a life of comfort with them To achieve this, I have pledged to be true to my desires to believe in them; to take concrete action; to never give up; and to keep going, even if it's just little by little
Elena: How do you balance being a mom of two with pursuing your artistic endeavors?
Kyoko: Balancing artistic activities, my job as a teacher, and parenting is indeed a challenge every day. Last year, after finishing school >
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Kyoko, continued: work, I used to go to the studio for creative activities. But I began to feel the limits of my physical strength, so this year I am doing my creative work at home. I have a responsibility to stay healthy, so I had to make the decision to let go of anything that could harm my health, no matter how attractive it might be
After that, creating at home has given me time with my children, and I feel reassured Children grow up in the blink of an eye, and the time I can spend with them is limited. I don't want to miss the happiness of watching them grow! I've learned that sometimes it's necessary to make the tough choice to let go of something important. In my case, by giving up the studio, I have gained irreplaceable time with my children, and better health.
Elena: Can you share some of your favorite art projects that reflect your experiences as a mom and as an artist?
Kyoko: Firstly, there is an early work called Emotional Stem This piece features stems of emotion drawn in accordance with my feelings of the day, nested within layers of circles
Looking back, it's like a diary Even now, I can recall those times when I look at it. I believed that these stems of emotion would ascend and some day become the beautiful spices of life.
And then there is what I feel is my masterpiece, Life. The butterflies represent us. I depicted our life cycle. As humans, we are creatures who grow and change and it is important to accept that. I believe it is crucial to embrace and adapt to growth and change at various stages of life As I drew, I reflected on many things learned from my experiences These include: learning from difficulties; cherishing love and connections; daring to take risks without fear of failure; and the importance of finding happiness within oneself.
Elena: How do you incorporate your Japanese cultural background into your art and daily life in America?
Kyoko: I often incorporate the cultural background of Japan into my art I draw inspiration from many aspects of Japanese life and culture, music, traditional Japanese paintings and crafts, kimonos, and the landscapes and old buildings of the Taisho and Showa eras in Japan and I incorporate them into my works
Even in my everyday life in America, I incorporate Japanese culture. For example, I enjoy cooking Japanese food, and Japanese movies and music. I also like participating in Japanese festivals and events, and embracing opportunities to experience Japanese culture. Additionally, I refer to Buddhist teachings for the best ways to organize my mind and ways of thinking.
Elena: How do you involve your children in your artistic activities? And what impact has it had on them?
Kyoko: My children are interested in Japanese culture and my artistic activities I show my children traditional Japanese paintings and crafts, and teach them Japanese. They like Japanese cuisine, anime, and manga. They enjoy playing the piano, dancing, drawing, making music, and creating games on a daily basis. Their time spent creating is enjoyable and enriching, constituting an irreplaceable and wonderful time in their lives. It nurtures their creativity and expressive abilities Furthermore, by involving my children in my art activities and showing them my work, I can convey to them the joy and significance of art
For my solo exhibition, I collaborated with my daughter, Akilah who is thirteen years old on a dance performance for the exhibition's theme titled LIFE: The Golden Fleeting Life. >
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Kyoko, continued: First, I shared my intentions with her, and then we created costumes and composed music together. I also wanted to see what she could create, so I left all the choreography up to her I offered her this opportunity because I thought her graceful movements, interspersed with moments of childish motions, would perfectly highlight the imperfections in people's lives
Although she had been sick until the day before and so she hadn't been able to practice, it seemed she had spent her free time thinking a lot The opening part, in particular, was beyond my expectations Honestly, I was amazed
After seeing this, her younger brother, Shun, who is ten years old, also expressed his desire to collaborate with me. So it seems to have been a great stimulus for him. I believe that by enjoying creating with them, our family bond deepens, and through our shared interests, we can lead a richer life.
Elena: What are your future artistic goals? How do you see your role as a mom evolving as your children grow?
Kyoko: I want to touch and inspire more people through my work I aim to establish myself as an artist by participating in exhibitions and events And I want to continually pursue new creativity by incorporating new techniques and approaches
As my kids grow, my role as a mother will change They will need support and guidance as they become independent When they pursue their own dreams and goals, I want to provide unwavering support They may not continue to be interested in my art activities, but I believe it is important to respect and support their own interests and talents Balancing parenting and art activities while continuing to grow personally is my goal. Supporting my children to grow up healthy and to chase their dreams while I also continue to grow in the art world is my vision for the future.
Elena: What is one valuable piece of advice you’d like to give to moms?
Kyoko: Self care is vital. Take care of yourself first, and you’ll be able to show up for yourself, your family, and others
Elena: Thank you Kyoko We will remember: Pursue your goals and dreams while you’re raising your children, and take care of yourself while doing so!
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Welcome to the world of men's fashion, where every detail is carefully crafted to enhance your style and elevate your wardrobe. Rich Men Looks takes immense pride in offering high-quality and unique merchandise exclusively for the modern-day man. They source the finest fabrics and curate looks that not only make a statement but also stand the test of time. Your appearance is a reflection of your confidence. Rich Men Looks is dedicated to helping men look and feel their best. From dapper suits to casual streetwear.
So, gentlemen, get ready to embrace timeless elegance and contemporary flair— because in the realm of men's fashion, Rich Men Looks is always one step ahead. >
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Seane: The name Rich Men Looks is a very distinctive name. How did you come up with that name?
Frantz: It covers the entire spectrum. The concept really is: looking like a rich man, without breaking the bank.
Seane: How long have you been in business?
Frantz: Since 2016
Seane: Walk me through the journey of how you got to where you are Were you always into fashion growing up? Did you go to school for fashion? Tell us how you got started creating this amazing brand
Frantz: I grew up around fashion. There were people in my family who were tailors but I was never interested in that. I was mainly interested in sales. I worked a nine-to-five job after college, but I soon realized I needed to do something for myself. Being that I loved to shop for clothes and I have a passion for fashion, I started to lean into it a bit more. That's when I launched my first website selling limited items with some success.
After working a regular job like everyone else I quickly realized that I wanted to launch into entrepreneurship I enjoy shopping because I always like to have the latest So, wanting to do something for myself, I switched my mindset and decided to sell garments On my website, I would resell items I found that many guys didn’t want to go to the mall to shop which makes a mobile store option ideal I also took appointments to make it convenient That strategy ended up being so successful, I was able to open my first storefront in Boynton Beach, Florida, which led to the second storefront in Atlanta and now I’m working on a third.
After working a regular job like everyone else I quickly realized that I wanted to launch into entrepreneurship.
Seane: Where do you get your designs?
Frantz : I’m the creator of the designs. I’ve had ideas from years ago. And I’ve been able to bring things to life via inspirations from many areas of life. You just never know what will inspire you.
Seane: Knowing that the fashion and the apparel industries are so challenging, what keeps you going? What helps you sustain that drive? How do you remain in this very tough industry?
Frantz: It is true, it’s a very tough industry Considering that there aren’t a lot of minorities in this space proportionately, I took on a challenge for myself: to stay with something that I’d started. I did my research and I worked even harder to ensure that I was successful. Once I’m focused on something, it’s like a laser.
Seane: Are there any designers who inspire you?
Frantz: There are quite a few that I admire. However, it’s the price point that is my differentiator. Other designers tend to focus on a certain target audience they often target celebrities. I like to make my designs available to the masses, while keeping in mind the quality and the price point
Seane: Your garments are extremely well-crafted and look very high-end, with a luxury appeal Would you categorize your brand as luxury?
Frantz: Yes, and no I don't think we’re striving for the luxury part But let me expand on that A lot of times we equate luxury with a high price, and sometimes the quality actually isn’t even there. We are luxury, but we don't want to have that luxury price. Hence the name, Rich Men Looks. We provide our customers a product that looks, feels, and is made with extreme quality in mind. The idea is to get the most bang for your buck. We want our clients to look good without breaking the bank. >
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Seane: Your approach to advertising your brand reminds me of how Oprah Winfrey is front and center of O Magazine. She is on every cover. I say that because I see that you are often in a lot of the Rich Men Looks videos on Instagram.
Frantz: Honestly that wasn’t the plan It started off as a necessity, because at first we didn't have the budget to hire models By shooting my own content, it got to the point that I was being associated with being the face of the brand And I think that has worked in our favor
Seane: Have you ever considered leveraging influencers to market your brand? With social media being such a huge engine for brand recognition and promotion, any thoughts on that?
Frantz: That’s actually something we're working on. We have things in place to facilitate that. I just need to get better at getting the word out to let the public know that we could potentially leverage influencers to help promote the brand. If anybody's out there reading this article and you are interested, please reach out! There could be an opportunity to be a brand ambassador for us.
Seane: What is your dream for Rich Men Looks?
Franz: Honestly, the dream is very simple I want to grow as big as some of the well-known labels like Louis Vuitton I don’t ever want to stop learning But most importantly, I want to ensure we stay close to the community and support a culture that is reflective of our brand That seems to be missing with some other brands
Seane: That's great to hear! I think community and culture are important. To that end, what advice would you give someone who is looking to get into the fashion industry?
Frantz: I think the number-one thing is to make sure you really want to do this. Often times, people want to do things because they want to work for themselves. That is definitely the wrong way to go about it. You work longer hours, and there are levels of stress that come with working for yourself. I think I'm stressed every day, for many different reasons You may find yourself stressed out because the brand is growing too fast Of course, that is a good problem to have
At the end of the day, it’s about putting your best foot forward even when you don’t feel like it. There will be good and bad days. But if you stay focused, believe in yourself, and don’t give up, you’ll see the results.
Seane: That’s great advice I'll ask you one last question: How does Franz flourish?
Frantz: The thing that really makes me smile is seeing someone in my garments For instance, I can be sitting at a restaurant, and in walks someone wearing one of our pieces That’s an awesome feeling And it’s evidence that here at Rich Man Looks, we are flourishing <
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In the vibrant Spring issue of Flourish Digital Magazine, we celebrate Carolyne Truelove, an inspiration of authentic leadership and unwavering excellence With over twenty-five years beutifying the landscape of customer experiences in the travel industry, Carolyne's story is one of resilience, strategic genius, and an ever-evolving pursuit of excellence.
Carolyne's journey begins with a pivotal childhood experience, where facing racial and cultural isolation, she embraced her father's wisdom: to strive to be a top-three-percenter, transcending barriers with undeniable distinction. This mindset, seeded in adversity, bloomed into a life philosophy which guided her through personal trials as she built an illustrious career. "Being a top-three-percenter it evens the playing field, even as a young person,” she says. “No one can take that away from you." >
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As we celebrate Carolyne Truelove, we commend the indomitable spirit of every woman who—despite great obstacles—chooses to rise, to lead and to flourish.
From her first job at a travel agency, driven by necessity, to leading high-performance teams globally, Carolyne's path is marked by a relentless pursuit of improvement and innovation. Her specialties ranging from customer experience enhancement to strategic planning underscore a career dedicated to elevating the human experience, be it through seamless customer service or empowering teams to achieve their full potential.
Yet, it's not just Carolyne's professional accolades that inspire us. Her personal story of overcoming including battling cancer and championing diversity speaks volumes. Her authenticity and resilience shine as she navigates challenges with grace and unwavering faith, influencing countless others along the way
As we delve into Carolyne's story, it becomes clear: Her life is a testament to the power of self-belief, and the importance of data in charting the path to success. Carolyne's experience is more than just a success story; it's a clarion call to all who aspire to lead with authenticity, to excel against the odds, and, most importantly, to do so with an open heart and a steadfast spirit
In celebrating Carolyne Truelove, we celebrate the indomitable spirit of every woman who despite great obstacles chooses to rise, to lead, and to flourish.
Chloé: Carolyne, what's one powerful mindset shift that you've had to embrace? Not about your work, but about your first pivot or shift when you were growing up
Carolyne: I think the first time I remember having to pivot was when I was probably almost fourteen years old, and I had been going to a new junior high school My family had not lived in the area for very long I was being racially harassed at the school because I was the only Black child Add to that being a first-generation immigrant coming to the US shortly before that. I learned a really hard lesson about not fitting in, not just because I was the only Black person at that time living in the suburbs of Chicago but it was more so that I felt I wasn't accepted anywhere What I mean by that is, if you come from another country and you come to the United States, it's one thing to have a little bit of a funny accent It's another thing to also be in transition, in prepubescence Then there’s the fact that you go to predominantly Caucasian schools because of where my parents had us living to ensure we had the best educational options. And it's yet another thing when you speak funny, even to our own Black people at that time. I was in an area where there were not a lot of Africans, let alone Kenyans, unless they were coming to visit our family home >
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Carolyne, continued: I was devastated I remember crying to my father about how I didn't fit in anywhere We weren't in Kenya We weren't living in a Black community But even if we were, I wouldn't fit in, because my experience was that I was always constantly being told that I spoke funny
The mindset shift came for me when my father said, "In order for you to even the playing field, it doesn't matter where you are Because people will always talk about your accent People will always talk about the color of your skin As a young woman, that's another diversity slice that you will always be part of Therefore, in order for you to feel comfortable with who you are, even the playing field by being a topthree-percenter If you're a top-three-percenter, it doesn't matter what your color is. It evens the playing field. Even if you’re a young person. If you are a topthree-percenter in everything that you do, no one can take that away from you "
Chloé: I like that And so, when your father said that to you, you took ownership of it?
Carolyne: Yes, and there's a backstory there My father was one of the original exchange students on John F. Kennedy's program that became the Peace Corps. So, he came to the United States on a scholarship program, and he experienced the same thing I had gone through as a very young Black man in the late 1950s, coming from Kenya He was one of twenty exchange students from all different countries He went to live in a sponsor family's home, to live with people he had never met He had no idea about their race, color, creed, religion nothing A lovely couple in Colorado was his host family for all the years that he was there. He had to learn to be comfortable with everyone. That was a White family. He grew up in Kakamega, which was a rural community at that time in Kenya. So his experiences were very similar to mine
Chloé: Kakamega, wow. And so, when he said that to you, you knew he knew what he was speaking of, because he had had that experience.
Carolyne: Exactly It was during the Civil Rights Movement He came here not knowing anything about what was going on If you think about it, television was very controlled in our country, so there wasn't a whole lot of understanding of the politics of what was happening It was more about pop culture and TV shows and stuff like that.
Chloé: When you finally took ownership and shifted when you were in middle school or early high school and you did, in fact, become a top-three-percenter did that actually save you from bullying and from the insecurities that you had prior to that?
Carolyne: It gave me a different lens on accepting the fact that I would have to live in my insecure skin for a while and get comfortable with the fact that I was just different That I was different from all the traditional communities in the United States My father had been different, and he accepted it He was just different So, I don't think that it changed the insecurities It gave me a new perspective And a fire that I maybe didn't have before a sense of knowing that I already came from excellence If my father could do that, and be a top-threepercenter in everything that he did and create this fabulous lifestyle for our family flying back and forth across the world and things like that I could do that too. And so, he inspired me! And to this day, he is still my number-one inspiration
Chloé: So, you went on, striving to become that topthree-percenter in high school, and you decided that you were going to go to college Did you know who you wanted to be and what you wanted to contribute to the world when you were leaving high school?
Carolyne: No. What I knew was that I hadn't quite achieved the top three percent, but I knew I was going to do that I would also say that my brothers picked up on the top three percent faster than I did, in all that they did Because it was a similar conversation with them as well I had work to do when I was going to university, and all I knew was what I didn't want to be I did not want to be in the medical profession in any way, shape, or form My father was one of the top gastroenterologists >
“My father grew up in Kakamega,which was a rural community at that time in Kenya.”
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“I was always told as the first-born daughter that I was a princess and a queen—so much so that my parents would constantly tell me about the fact that I was 100 percent royalty.”
Carolyne, continued: in the world in his career My mother was a very prominent geriatric nurse in the area, and they were the Kenyan version of a supercouple. We hosted all the Kenyan families in the tri-state area between Wisconsin, Illinois, and Michigan just about every weekend, if we were there. It was a lot of Black excellence! because most immigrants coming to this country at that time in my life when I was growing up, coming from Kenya, were all striving for excellence, meaning that the families and the parents of the families that I was surrounded with they were all living in some level of excellence compared to Kenya And so I didn't really have a choice but to step into it!
When you are living in your version of potential abundance, and you come from a family that has worked so hard for whatever their abundance already is, it doesn't matter what demographic that abundance might be when it comes to the income bracket You simply do not want to live a lifestyle where you are dishonoring your family And in my case, I also needed to honor my ancestors, too Because I knew: My name is Wakesho Matseshe. That's my Kenyan name. This name means “Princess of Tomorrow.” I was always told as the first-born daughter that I was a princess and a queen, so much so that my parents would constantly tell me about the fact that I was 100 percent royalty
What they really meant by that wasn't necessarily this notion of the chief of the tribe's first-born daughter, so to speak It was more about the fact that genetically, I was a pure blood. But I just didn't believe it. When you hear your parents saying stuff like that, in my mind, I'm thinking, “Wait a minute. You're from two different tribes, the Luhya and Taita tribes. What do you mean by ‘pure blood’”? Later I understood the power of being a Bantu I have five kids, three of which I gave birth to
When my children got into doing the 23andMe DNA swab test, I went ahead and did it and discovered that my parents were telling me the absolute truth: I'm 100 percent Bantu I have no other genetic diversity in my blood My parents come from 100 percent Bantu tribes
Chloé: How amazing is that? And it gives you pride in your heritage and ancestors. Don't you feel proud?
Carolyne: I do I am so proud of the fact that the stories I was hearing, the stories from my parents and my grandparents and the other elders in the Taita and Luhya tribes, are like the most precious metals or jewels you could ever even think about, because that is the makeup of really who I am
I just didn't totally understand it when my father was having that top-three-percent conversation that he was actually reiterating that. I got it a little bit more when I went to the University of Colorado, in Boulder, where I was still different, but in a different way because of the fact that at that time in my life, apartheid was occurring So we were in the midst of doing our own protests during that time As someone originally from the continent of Africa who is a pure blood although I wasn't from South Africa in my university life, I experienced a sense of differentness that was actually positive. >
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Carolyne, continued: There were only 101 of us who were Black at the University of Colorado during that time The Colorado campus was similar to Berkeley, where as students, we wanted to make an impact on the world
There was power in being surrounded by people who looked like me, who had a different lens from when I was thirteen or fourteen years old. We were all striving for excellence We all had to work hard to be accepted there whether it was academic, in my case, or athletic, which was the majority Out of the 101, there were only two of us who were not on an athletic scholarship When I think about those university days the power of how hard everyone was working together and the tightknit Black community we had I'd never seen anything like that before. I relished it, and I relished the celebration of being Black in America, and celebrating our roots and coming from Africa and the lens through which many people were asking me questions And how good that made me feel I think that was another paradigm shift
Chloé: The paradigm shift you're speaking about in college, where you were actually stepping into your power did that make you feel good, and reinforce who you were being? And did that encourage you to continue to step forward?
Carolyne: I was away from my parents. I was away from the Illinois North Shore suburban community, like Libertyville and Lake Forest, which was relatively wealthy At university, I was surrounded by all different demographics That was very enlightening to me Because it wasn't just about being a top-threepercenter, so to speak At that time, we were less than three percent of the total population! So that was a sense of pride. And we were in the midst of persecution because there weren't that many of us.
Chloé: Do you feel that you started to really speak and step into your own authenticity while you were in college? Or afterwards?
Carolyne: I believe it started to occur when I was at university I had a series of experiences where it was my African American community that surrounded me with love and power.
Let me just paint the picture for you. My father wanted me to be safe at school After my first two years living in the dorm, he and another one of my dorm roommates, whose father was an attorney,
ended up renting a house for us But then we had other girls who were part of that process who didn't necessarily have the opportunity to afford whatever the rent was that our parents were paying We had the better bedrooms, and they had to share One of their boyfriends was a racist and resented the fact that my other roommate and I had bigger bedrooms on the main floor, And so on.
So I was being racially harassed, and I didn't realize who was doing it I had to carry a little, stupid device in case an emergency happened because of what was going on with my roommate situation where I was the only Black one This harassment was definitely racially directed Somebody broke in, and there was the N word spray-painted across my bedsheets in my room. There was someone picking up the phone and calling, randomly, all the time when we were at the house. And we didn't have a bunch of cell phones at that time So, it was someone always calling and hanging up on the house phone It was traceable
So the police knew that there was a problem And even though they gave me a stupid device for my protection, that wasn't my real protection My real protection was the CU Boulder football team and the basketball team and the track team! All these beautiful, hardworking Black men and women became my circle. And they knit around me so tightly that the Summer after that all happened, I stayed in Boulder And I lived within my Black community And that was the next big paradigm shift: I finally fit in
Chloé: Oh, that's wonderful I love that story I really do. You tell stories very well.
I want to know if you tell stories to your daughters that your parents and grandparents told you about the ancestors? Are you passing along those stories?
Carolyne: Yes, they are queens in their own right And when I think about those stories, I truly believe it in my heart of hearts My daughters are under thirty, and two of them are married, and I have my grandsons. And they're so much more successful than I ever was before thirty, and even more than my father ever was before thirty. >
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Carolyne, continued: I literally see the influence of my father and our ancestral stories Each generation I look at my father: From his one pebble that dropped in the pond of the United States as an exchange student, that ripple effect has spread across the number of people that he has educated from our tribe which is over 2000! His ripple effect has spread across his bloodline, which has now continued into my generation. I see the successes that have happened with myself and my brothers and sisters, and with our children, where I have the oldest of his grandchildren and they're already successful They have their own homes They have their own cars When I was their age, I was still asking, “Daddy, can you buy me my first car?” My kids were not like that They are badasses, these women
Chloé: Carolyne, in my vulnerability and authenticity, I want to tell you that I am so fond of what we're talking about and your story I can't help but feel like, wow, I wish I had a little bit of that With the family, that is although I'm not necessarily talking about the tribe. I'm actually speaking about my own mother and father. My mom passed away, and my father was an alcoholic, and he didn’t come to get us when she passed that whole thing My Aunt Anita came to get me and my three sisters The four of us then lived with her two children and my uncle
And I remember I was teaching myself to play the piano, and she comes in one day and says, "Who knows who you could have been if I had gotten you earlier? I'm going to do all I can." And I thought, "Oh, my goodness." Some people have told me that her saying that was not a positive thing. But I took it as a real big positive thing, because being so insecure at that time, I looked at it like, "Oh, my aunt thinks I can be so much "
Carolyne: Yes! And you know what? When someone says things to you that other people might interpret as negative, it's all about how you internalize the comment and what you do with it, and the power of positivity in your thinking at the moment. You chose to run with it and consider the possibilities of your potential Because that was the underlying message of what she was saying: that you have this incredible potential
Chloé: And I have lived up to it They are always bragging about me my whole hometown, in Mississippi. Anyway, I want to talk about when you started your career. How did you start? What was your first company?
Carolyne: Well, let me tell you that story. In my last year of university, my parents went into divorce. They had been in divorce court, but the assets were frozen So, all of a sudden, I didn't have any money So, I had to get the first job in my life And at that time, in the newspapers there was a job listed in Denver for a travel company It was a travel agency, looking for multilingual people They weren't requiring that you had to have gone to travel school, or worked for the airlines, or those kinds of things. And so, because I had my undergraduate degree, I was like, "Okay, why not?"
And so there I was, making $6 10 an hour for CUC Travel as a travel professional, a customer service salesperson in the contact center and that was the catalyst of my entire career to this day I learned about how passionate I was about serving people and changing people's lives. At that time, I never, ever considered working in a contact center to be like a factory, which is how some people perceive it today. I really thought of it as like, "Wow, I'm changing people's lives I'm helping them go all over the world I'm making sure that if they have a challenge, I'm fixing it so that they can achieve their dream trip, or so they can have a wonderful business trip ”
I wasn't in that role at $6 10 an hour for very long There was a lady who had the corner office. She came into our training room and talked about what it meant to be part of the company. I had never seen a woman like this. I had never, ever seen anyone like her in my life other than on TV She was a little, teeny, tiny woman Her name was Donna Davis She was an Italian woman from New York from Massapequa I just thought she was the best thing since sliced bread
I marched myself into her corner office and said, "Hey, can I have a few moments of your time? Because I want to ask you how you got to the corner office." Lo and behold, she said some stuff just like my father said about the top-three-percenters
Then I was like, "What?" She explained, "If you are in the top three percent of your performance data, which means whatever your key performance metrics are that you're held accountable to, if you nail them consistently and you're always in the top three percent of those metrics and the best, then you would be one of the first people we would look to as a potential candidate for the next role whether that is a team lead or a supervisor or a manager " >
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“The only role that I applied to in my entire life was that newspaper job posting—when I became a travel agent. I have never, ever had to apply to a job since that time, because of Donna Davis and my father. I have always used the same strategy: "Here's my data." If I asked, "What do I need to do to get to the next role?" If you answered me, "It's this. Here's the data." Then I would follow that. And I have used this approach without fail, and I will for the rest of my life. I have not had to apply for a single job since that first job, ever.”
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Carolyne, continued: So I listened to Donna Davis “That's a great path for you, if you want to go after this corner office ” I said, "OK, great Thank you for that "
Then as soon as I hit my metrics because that’s what I did, in my first couple of weeks I came back to her and I said, "Listen, I've consistently been a top performer since I had that conversation with you And I’m not just a top performer I'm in the top three percent, and I'm leading it I just saw that you have an opening, and I know that you will consider me as a top candidate for that team lead role " And then I got the team lead role When my team was a topperforming three-percent team, then there was a supervisor role posted. I went back to Donna Davis and said, "Donna, I'm coming back to you on your feedback. You told me that the role doesn’t matter. My team here is a top-three-percent team, this group that I'm leading So I just know that you'll consider me as the top candidate for that supervisor position " She did And I got it, no joke And that was my first corner office! That manager role
Chloé: Now, you have all this enthusiasm But back when you were young, did you go in there like that? Saying “I know you're going to consider me”? Did you actually do that when you were in your twenties?
Carolyne: Yes I did, because my father coached me to use exactly what she said, and to go back to her and use her exact same language. He said, "Did you write it down?" I said, "Yes, here it is, Dad." And he told me, "OK, well, she gave you the exact verbiage that you should use when you walk in and show her your data " That was another impactful moment Because I didn't understand before when my father said it: The top three percent was really all about your life's data
What he had been trying to teach me is what finally clicked when Donna Davis spoke to me, saying that it doesn't matter where you are a top-three-percenter. What matters is that you're paying attention to your data so that you can effectively articulate that you are a top-three-percenter Whether it's the metrics that you're given in life, whether it's you and the number of people that you've mentored, or whether it's the number of people that you've helped get promoted, and so on In any way and in every way, with your personal and professional data, if you are a top-three-percenter in whatever you do, with all of that data, most likely you can get to wherever you want to go. That is what I learned.
Chloé: I'm going to use that I've just learned something I'm going to get my data Carolyne, you've now shared some things that both before and after this first job you had, you’ve never since had to go out seeking a new positions. Instead, you've been sought after for your roles. Tell us more about that.
Carolyne: It’s true. The only role that I applied to in my entire life was that newspaper job posting, when I became a travel agent I have never, ever since that time had to apply for a job, because of Donna Davis and my father I’ve always used the language of "Here's my data "
Having your data applies to everything that you can do. And when you have the mindset that the power is in your data or when a team has the mindset that the power is within their data then you just put your head down, and do it You go after excellence
I consistently talk about this I will never forget how my father and Donna Davis changed my life, when those dots connected
Chloé: What do you enjoy most about what you're doing now?
Carolyne: I am a faith-inspired leader. And what I love about what I am doing now, which has been the case all along the way, is that every day I help the businesses I'm responsible for, and the people I'm responsible for, to achieve their greatest potential I help businesses and people transform into who they aspire to be I love that >
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Chloé: My greatest joy, too, is to help people become who they want to be and who they really can be to truly selfactualize It is a wonderful feeling, isn't it?
Carolyne: It really, truly is. And the “vitamins” the additional energy I get to keep going is that I always know that the way to measure accomplishment is through data, both personal and professional I know that once you instill this concept in any human being, the sky is the limit So, people can achieve anything I was a travel professional, an entry-level person And then I'm a team leader, a supervisor, a manager, a director, and on and on It doesn't matter what you aspire to do What matters is that you do it, and you have the data to prove it and no one can take that away from you.
Chloé: Tell us about where you are now, in American Airlines You are impacting so many people What is your team like?
Carolyne: I have always had amazing teams I continuously show people their potential Just like what your aunt was saying, and how that lit you up, and you've believed ever since then that you can do more and be your best self. When you show individuals or businesses the power of the transformation that they're going through using data it changes the dynamics of teams. When I think about starting at American Airlines eighteen months ago, and what the team that I lead has accomplished in that eighteen months, it's incredible
Chloé: Are you blowing your own mind, Carolyne?
Carolyne: Well, I am not surprised by it.
Chloé: Because that’s just what you do, and you do it all the time, everywhere you go, right? Tell the truth.
Carolyne: OK Well, yes This is what we do, right? But really, this is not about me Your life's work isn't necessarily about you Your life's work is really the impact you make on all the people that you touch along the way and they will always remember how you made them feel
It's about when someone appreciates how you make them feel, you are giving them “vitamins” of positive energy which takes them to places they never believed they could go This team, when I started, they were saying things like, "Oh, that will never happen ” Or, “Well, that's not how we do it around here ” Oh, my goodness! But I challenged them to go ahead anyway and see if it would happen
Chloé: You actually got that type of negative feedback?
Carolyne: Oh, yes, it happens all the time When you're transforming organizations, that's normal It's not surprising It's normal, and that's OK It's how you navigate through that, and show people that the impossible is possible. And it inspires them.
I think, number one, I'm just a regular old Kenyan girl I'm no different from anyone else who has aspirations I want to leave people with the inspiration to pay attention to the clues around us Success leaves clues When you open your mind to the possibilities of your potential, and pay attention to those clues, and leverage your data along the way, the sky is the limit.
Everything is wrapped around data. And faith.
Chloé: Data and faith We will remember that Speaking of faith, tell me what you think about integrity and faith How do they work together?
Carolyne: I think it depends on what your faith is But I will speak of mine I'm a Christian I believe in the power of the Universe, and the fact that when you focus on the positive, the positive comes back to you. Whether you believe in God or call it what you will whatever you believe in that is positive it’s true. I'm a faith-inspired leader I leverage my faith in the ways that I lead every day in every way When I start my day, I go through my version of meditation and spending time in my faith I do manifestations throughout the morning and nothing else There's no negativity that I start my day with I don't start with the news like some people do.
I start each day in my faith and in my power. And as I listen to my affirmations coming to work on the drive, and when I'm walking into the office, I've got my powerful music on The next “vitamin” I have is that we have wonderful individuals who are greeting people when they walk in I yell “good morning” in our beautiful space The acoustics in there are incredible So I say “good morning” to every person I see walking into whatever meeting I'm running to And what I get back is their positive energy. I get back a full “good morning” in return. I get back smiles.
All of that feeds me in the day-to-day of my life I encourage people to live in their space of faith, in their space of data power, in their space of positivity When you practice that religiously every single day, people around you do extraordinary things People can do extraordinary things in business >
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“You have pictures of me bald. I'm a survivor.”
Chloé: When you stay positive, you feel so much better People see your light, and they are attracted to you One of the things that I shared at a workshop earlier this week was about energy I shared my own story because I saw one lady who was resonating really low And I told her about being low that you're going to have to find some ways to elevate yourself I shared my story about when my son died how my energy was so low for such a long time that people who generally love me found it repulsive. But that's just what it is Because negative energy for so long becomes more negative It's not attractive
So, people can't be with you for long. They have to really, really love you If you notice, people cannot grieve with you for a long time You have to do all the work It's between you and God When my son died, it was between me and God I had to do that myself And people were leaving me, because they were with me for a long time when I was vibrating and resonating at such a low frequency. They’d just think, “Poor Chloé.” They didn’t mean any harm. Now, of course they're not saying that anymore.
Carolyne: Eventually, you stepped into your own power, didn't you?
Chloé: Yes That's the only way you can do it Own your power and your excellence
Carolyne: That's exactly right.
Chloé: And I was determined. I kept saying to myself, “I got through Mom's death as a young teenager ” But then I would hear the voice, “But no, that's your baby You're not going to ever get through that ” And then I would say back to myself, “But I've got to I can't be this sad for the rest of my life ” It was a struggle
And then finally, my son’s spirit came to visit me. I didn't see him, but I felt his presence. I felt a breeze, and he kissed me on my cheek, and I kept looking, confused Then I heard the Holy Spirit say, "You can't see him Justin is spirit " And it soothed my soul I still grieved But I knew that eventually I would be OK I continued doing the work I got through the counseling I got stuck at status quo awhile, until coaching That worked very well for me The main thing is, I had to work it. >
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Carolyne: Definitely We have to do the work And there are so many facets to what we're talking about here I haven't even gotten into the depths of it You have pictures of me bald I'm a survivor
Chloé: Tell us about that
Carolyne: I had a conversation with my daughters, and they challenged me to be honest about my baldness They said, "Mom, if you don't show your authentic self, what message are you sending?" I said, "You're right " There was no argument They said, "That's who you are You are your authentic self You don't worry about your professional life, because you are authentic "
Chloé: I'd like for you to share the challenging moments of your experience with cancer.
Carolyne: When I discovered I was ill, my first reaction was that, number one, I have always been the primary income earner for our blended family, and I have cared for any and every part of my girls' needs with the support of an incredible ex-husband and my current husband I want to call that out Because I was fifty-five years old and had the challenges of being a Black woman in corporate America, I really tried my best to make my cancer journey something that was quiet and behind the scenes. I was scared of not being able to provide for my daughters. I was scared of coming across as weak in my illness
I did a really good job of letting faith guide me and powering through it What I mean by that is, I focused on removing myself from people who were wallowing in any negativity And that often meant that I was avoiding support groups. Well, that's what you do in a support group: You get it out; you are allowed to wallow in it for a while. But then you have a community of people who help lift you up. I didn't want the negative part
I put myself completely in God's hands and said, "Listen, God, I have to provide for this family There's a reason why this is happening I know the reason must be that my data is needed for my descendants, because it's a genetic issue." That is what carried me through all the ups and downs of having cancer and having it come back. The result has been that I'm at American Airlines, where I have this amazing support system that is beyond anything I've ever seen Whenever I have challenges with pre-cancer or
selectivity or what have you, there are people here who are open about their journeys and positive and pushing through it just like me. Because they have shared their journeys, I'm so comfortable with mine in this space It's the first time in my entire career that I don't even have to think about it I just deal with it, because I have a support system The women at this company have lifted me up in such an extraordinary way, that I've never experienced before And of course, I don't say that to discredit my personal friends, who have also been there consistently. It’s just such an unusual blessing to say that, at work, I have this support system.
There are those of us who wear this ring that you see right here, and I'm going to show it to you It's a James Avery ring If you were to sit in meetings with me at American Airlines, you would see that there are other women who also wear this same ring It symbolizes our support system I gave this to them because I heard the story of jeweler James Avery, who had a friend going through breast cancer. He created this ring for the sisterhood of the people sitting with her during her treatments, lifting her up. That story really resonated with me >
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Carolyne, continued: That story inspired me to do the same for those women who supported me in my journey here I can look around the room and feel it: “Oh, my sisters are here.”
There's a little card that comes with it when you buy this ring. It actually doesn't tell the backstory of the cancer situation Other women, from the community in Texas where the James Avery jewelry line was founded, are the ones spreading the story I still keep the box that the ring came in And I could take a picture of the hands of the other women with their rings Imagine my hands, crossing over another woman's hands a woman who supported me You would see my dark black skin alongside this beautiful pale white skin. We all wear these rings of unity and support.
Chloé: I know that your faith is your foundation What else can you tell us about that?
Carolyne: My husband is my rock Through it all, my husband loved me long before we were married We got married on October 1st, 2020, which marked the 20th anniversary of our friendship!
Chloé: You'd already known each other for twenty years? He got you, didn't he? You got him, too. You got each other, right?
Carolyne: You know, as a player back in the day, he really did He swept me off my feet Richard Wesley Truelove is his name He's consistent, that one He's got that charm And the thing about Richard Wesley Truelove is that his name carries a presence
Even our son, Richie who's actually my stepson exhibits the same charm. You should see him on the football field. And he has a group of young girls, his own little following, just like his dad
Chloé: How old is Richie?
Carolyne: He's fifteen, Chloé, and he's growing up to be so much like his father and grandfather It's like seeing the same strong traits passing down through generations. >
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“The Spirit provides me with everything I need to know and do.”
Chloé: You are amazing I love that you love your work, you love your people, you love your
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J O I N A A D V A N T A G E
This Spring, Flourish Digital Magazine celebrates a woman whose brilliance transcends the boundaries of beauty and empowerment Ashunta Sheriff Kendricks, a powerhouse in the make-up artistry realm for over two decades, recently graced a panel at The White House alongside Vice President Kamala Harris. There, she discussed pivotal concerns affecting women of color specifically Black women in America underscoring her role not just as a CEO and beauty icon but as a beacon of hope, change and advocacy >
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The True Beauty of Diversity The True Beauty of Diversity
Ashunta's journey in the beauty industry is one of pioneering achievements and inspirational mentorship. Known for her signature flawless clean-beauty technique, she has not only embellished the visages of Hollywood’s elite but also forged influential collaborations with beauty giants like Dior, Armani Beauty, and Mary Kay. Her innovative approach has made her an indelible influence across the beauty landscape, from social media campaigns to magazine features.
Her portfolio, studded with stars such as Zendaya, Rihanna, and Taraji P. Henson, speaks volumes of her versatility and expertise.
Beginning her career as a male groomer for icons like Jay-Z and Michael Jordan, Ashunta quickly established herself as a revered name in the make-up industry.
But beyond the artistry, glitz and glamour, Ashunta's heart beats for mentorship and empowerment She is deeply committed to uplifting aspiring artists particularly women guiding many to their own spotlight. In 2022, Ashunta expanded her legacy with the launch of Ashunta Sheriff Beauty (see page 2), a make-up line that celebrates diversity, to put forth her vision of inclusive beauty. Ashunta Sheriff Beauty brings easy-to-use, quality products that are created to present flawless, stunning and radiant looks for all skin tones
Ashunta Sheriff stands as a testament to FDM’s ethos of personal excellence and transformation. Her dedication to creating pathways for future generations and her advocacy work make her not just a pioneer in beauty but a champion for change. Let's celebrate Ashunta's indelible impact on the beauty industry and her visionary commitment to empowering women of color Her story is a beacon of hope and inspiration, reminding us that beauty can be a powerful conduit for change, empowerment, and unity.
Ashunta Sheriff is not just shaping faces; she's shaping futures. >
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Discover AskthePRGirl™. This vibrant lifestyle and empowerment platform features Dwayna A. Haley and offers a glimpse behind the curtain of a busy working mom and socialite.. Here’s where we celebrate and uplift executive Black Women with powerful affirmations, inspiring stories, and a supportive community tailored for you, with real-life practical encouragement to boost your journey to success. Follow along on social media and visit the website to learn more! < www.asktheprgirl.com @asktheprgirl @asktheprgirl F L O U R I S H D I G I T A L M A G A Z I N E . C O M | S P R I N G 2 0 2 4 | 4 5 SHE IS dwaynahaley
The4DsofSuccess: Decide,Delegate,
DevelopandDominate
Mastering proactivity for professional excellence
by Frances Williams
All of us have dreams and ambitions which we are striving to achieve throughout our life In the dynamic landscape of today's professional world, success is not merely a product of hard work, but a result of strategic planning that leads to decisionmaking, effective delegation, endless development, and the ability to dominate challenges. These four critical aspects, which I often refer to as The Four Ds of Success, form the cornerstone of thriving careers and successful business endeavors
Let’s explore the significance of each D Decide, Delegate, Develop and Dominate and you’ll see how incorporating these principles into your professional life will pave the way for unparalleled success.
Decide
Decision-making is the beginning of effective leadership and a vital skill for any professional aiming to climb the corporate ladder Deciding involves assessing situations, considering alternatives, and committing to a course of action Successful leaders are adept at making informed and timely decisions, even in the face of uncertainty. Imagine a project manager tasked with choosing between two competing strategies for a critical project After a careful analysis, the manager decides to implement a data-driven approach, aligning the project with the organization's long-term goals, and thus ensuring a higher probability of success To implement this strength in your own career, develop a structured decision-making process. Gather relevant information, evaluate potential outcomes, and make decisions confidently Embracing the power of decisive action can set you apart in any competitive professional environment
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Delegate
Mastering the art of effective delegation involves entrusting tasks to the right individuals, empowering them to utilize their skills and expertise Astute leaders grasp the fact that greatness is a collective effort. They acknowledge the fact that individual prowess alone cannot suffice They excel in harnessing the strengths of their team members to propel shared success.
For example, a department head delegates responsibility for a crucial client presentation to a team member who excels in communication skills and client relations. In doing so, the leader ensures that the presentation is not only well received but also that it provides an opportunity for the team member to showcase their talents
In applying effective delegation, it is essential to identify the strengths of your team members and allocate tasks accordingly By trusting others with responsibilities, you not only foster a collaborative work environment but also free up your time to focus on high-priority tasks, thereby enhancing overall productivity and success
Develop
Continuous learning and personal development are indispensable components of a successful career. The world is constantly evolving. It is critical that professionals adapt to stay relevant Those who invest in self-improvement both in terms of skills and of knowledge are better positioned for long-term success.
To incorporate this principle into your career, embrace a growth mindset. Seek out opportunities for learning and skill enhancement whether through formal education, workshops or mentorship Demonstrating a commitment to personal development not only benefits you but also adds value to your organization
Dominate
Dominating in the professional realm isn't about controlling others. It’s about mastering challenges and overcoming obstacles It requires a proactive, resilient approach taking the lead to drive success, especially in the face of adversity.
For instance, a sales executive faces intense competition in a saturated market. Instead of succumbing to challenges, a professional will dominate by innovating their sales approach, identifying new markets and securing strategic partnerships This proactive stance positions them as a market leader
To infuse a dominating mindset into your professional journey, embrace challenges as opportunities for growth, and take the lead in navigating your career path. By adopting a mindset of dominance, you position yourself as a force to be reckoned with in your chosen field.
Remember, the path to success is not linear, and challenges are inevitable However, armed with The Four Ds, you will possess a resilient framework to navigate uncertainties, capitalize on opportunities and emerge victorious in the face of adversity.
In your pursuit of success, prioritize self-awareness and reflection. Regularly assess your decisions, delegation strategies, skill development initiatives, and overall approach to challenges. This reflective practice will enable you to refine your strategies, stay agile in a rapidly changing professional landscape, and maintain a trajectory toward sustained success
Success is not a final destination it’s an ongoing journey, which demands continuous improvement The Four Ds offer a robust framework for navigating challenges and seizing opportunities
In conclusion, The Four Ds of Success are not mere abstract concepts but actionable principles. When integrated into your professional life, they will significantly elevate your career trajectory. Decide with purpose, delegate with wisdom, develop with intention, and dominate with resilience By doing so, you will empower yourself to not only achieve success but to become a driving force in shaping the future of your industry As you embark on your journey, may The Four Ds serve as your compass, guiding you towards a fulfilling and prosperous professional life. <
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Frances Williams is the visionary behind The Next Step Agency, a consultancy firm specializing in administrative solutions and support staff development, located in Atlanta, Georgia. Leveraging her expertise in organizational management and strategic planning, Frances collaborates with entrepreneurs, executives, C-Suite leaders, ministries, and their administrative and operational support teams empowering them to achieve unparalleled success
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INTO THE SOFT LIFE
Navigating seasonal transitions with strength and gentleness
by Ariel Sutton
Springtime embodies a time of growth, transformation and new beginnings. We’re invited to shed the layers of winter and embrace the warmth and vitality of nature's rebirth. As the vibrant colors of Spring begin to bloom and the warmth of the sun graces our days, many of us eagerly anticipate the rejuvenation and renewal that this season brings
However, alongside the beauty of blooming flowers and longer days, Springtime can also feel overwhelming Whether it's juggling work commitments, navigating relationships, or managing personal struggles, the arrival of Spring can serve as a reminder of the importance of balancing strength with gentleness.
It is vital to acknowledge the fact that seasonal transitions can present unique challenges for even the strongest of women. While resilience may be a defining characteristic of a strong woman, we are not immune to life's changes.
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As warmer weather prompts expectations of revealing clothing and beach bodies, we may feel compelled to conform to public standards which can lead to feelings of insecurity, shame or inadequacy These pressures can be exacerbated by social media, advertising and peer comparisons further eroding self-esteem and body confidence It's essential for strong women to challenge this barrage by focusing on holistic well-being rather than external appearances.
Allow me the opportunity to introduce a few key principles for strong women to embrace. One essential aspect of shifting into a softer, more nurturing mindset is to embrace the art of celebrating imperfections. In a world that often glorifies perfectionism and achievement, it can be easy to fall prey to the pressures of striving for flawlessness in every aspect of our lives But true strength lies in embracing our imperfections and recognizing that they are an inherent part of the human experience By acknowledging and accepting our flaws, we liberate ourselves from the burden of unrealistic expectations We allow room for growth, learning and self-compassion.
FLEXIBILITY
Flexibility is another essential component. Strong women are highly skilled at adapting to ever-changing circumstances and overcoming obstacles; yet, they may sometimes struggle to relinquish control and accept unpredictability Flexibility means releasing the need for rigid plans and expectations thus opening ourselves up to new possibilities and experiences By cultivating a mindset of flexibility, strong women can learn to go with the flow trusting in their ability to navigate any challenge that may come their way.
EXPRESSING GRATITUDE AND PRACTICING MINDFULNESS
Gratitude and mindfulness are powerful tools for cultivating a softer, more presentfocused mindset. In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's easy to get caught up in worries about the future or regrets about the past. By grounding ourselves in the present moment and cultivating an attitude of gratitude, we can find joy and contentment in the simple pleasures of life Whether it's taking a moment to appreciate the beauty of nature or savoring a delicious meal, practicing mindfulness allows us to connect more deeply with ourselves and the world around us.
SETTING BOUNDARIES
Boundaries are essential for strong women to protect their well-being and maintain a healthy balance in their lives It's important to recognize that saying no to particular commitments or requests does not make us weak or selfish; it's an act of self care and selfrespect. By setting boundaries and prioritizing our own needs, we create space for rest, relaxation and rejuvenation which ultimately allows us to show up more fully in all areas of our lives.
PRIORITIZING SELF CARE
Self care is arguably the most fundamental aspect of transitioning into a softer, more nurturing mindset. Strong women are often adept at taking care of others, yet they may neglect their own needs in the process. Contrary to popular belief, self care is not a luxury it's a necessity for maintaining our physical, emotional and mental well-being Whether it's getting enough sleep, eating nourishing foods, or engaging in activities that bring us joy, prioritizing self care is essential for replenishing our energy and sustaining our strength
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PRACTICING SELF COMPASSION
Giving ourselves compassion is a powerful antidote to the inner critic that often plagues strong women Instead of berating ourselves for our perceived shortcomings or mistakes, self compassion invites us to treat ourselves with kindness, understanding and acceptance It's about offering ourselves the same level of empathy and support that we would give to a dear friend in need. By practicing self compassion, we cultivate greater resilience, inner peace and confidence.
FINALLY, EMBRACING VULNERABILITY
Vulnerability is the most courageous act of all Strong women are often accustomed to putting on a brave face and hiding their vulnerabilities from the world But the truth is, real strength lies in embracing our vulnerabilities and allowing ourselves to be seen, heard and loved for who we truly are. By opening ourselves up to the possibility of being hurt or rejected, we also open ourselves up to deeper connections, intimacy and authenticity in our relationships.
When we, as strong women, follow these principles, we grow stronger. We’ll find that we can navigate seasonal transitions with grace, resilience and compassion. As we cultivate a softer, more nurturing mindset, let us walk in celebration of our imperfections And when we are flexible, express gratitude and mindfulness, set boundaries, prioritize self care, practice self compassion, and choose to be vulnerable, an entirely new journey toward greater wholeness and well-being will unfold. Let us always keep in mind that strength and gentleness are not mutually exclusive they are two sides of the same coin. Grow in peace. <
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Paula G.: Clarence “The PencilMan” Pointer, you definitely have a unique gift, a unique talent Please share with our readers how this all came about how you discovered this gift.
Clarence: Well, first of all, it's a gift from God. I was born with it. At a young age of probably about five or six, when my classmates were drawing stick figures, I was actually drawing images. They were not as precise as they are now, but I do remember the stick-figure syndrome. I kind of hopped over that, so I just started drawing images Whatever I saw outside the window, in the classroom, I would draw: dogs, trees, cars, whatever, and it evolved from there over time
When I got into middle school, by eighth grade, a teacher, Ms Louie, was very instrumental in giving me some exposure. So, I started to have my art in the county fairs and different events like that. I was winning contests so it was fun. And soon I was kicking it into gear. There was a magazine back in the day called Soul Teen. It was a lot like Right On! magazine. Every issue, they >
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The Man and His Art
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Clarence, continued: would have art in the back from people who would send stuff in from all over the country I had done one of the character J J from Good Times, and it was published in that magazine I have no idea where it is now. It’s too bad I can't even remember what the cover looked like or anything. I would love to have a copy of that
Paula G : We’ll have to track that down! So, the unique part about your art is that it's all done with pencil Right?
Clarence: All pencil, yes That's simply because back in the day, growing up, all we had were pencils My parents weren't fortunate enough to buy brushes and paints and stuff like that So all I had was the number-two pencil Now, as time progressed, I got to know the value of different pencils. The softness and hardness, and how to make things lighter and darker. Using trial and error, I learned on a curve and I tweaked my skill, my technique, and the way I do it I've never copied anyone's style I have my own style
Paula G.: So, really, your gift blossomed due to a lack of access.
Clarence: Exactly However it happened, it blossomed I always knew it was there It was in me, and it was going to come out The first question a lot of people ask me is, “How did you discover you could draw?”
Actually, you don't discover it. It discovers you. It's already in there Eventually it's going to come out and it's up to you to maximize and capitalize on it, to its fullest potential The gift is in you And your support system helps it evolve I had support at home as a kid My dad would bring jobs home for me to do from his work especially once a local article came out in the newspaper with a picture of me holding my drawing of J J from Good Times Dad would bring requests to me from his coworkers asking me to draw something for them At only fourteen years old, I was making forty or fifty dollars a pop In the mid-1970s, that was a big deal! I could buy my own Converse, my own Pro Kids, my own clothes. That smidgen of knowing I could get paid for drawing catapulted things to where they are today
Paula G : Having that family support is so important Many young people are gifted, but that gift can sometimes wilt if they don't have that family support
I've seen quite a bit of your work, and it is simply exceptional Your attention to detail, considering you're using only pencils it's just phenomenal to me!
Please share with our readers about some of your more memorable pieces
Clarence: First off, most of my drawings are commission pieces. I get called to do pieces for special events such as birthdays, anniversaries, keynote speakers, and so on where someone wants to give something that's unique rather than a plaque or whatnot I'm moved by this, because that person felt that I was the right guy for that particular job I remember in the early 1990s, my coworker was having an anniversary, and he wanted a drawing done of his wife at her wedding. I did this drawing, and when I delivered it to their place, and after I presented it to her, she was crying like there was no tomorrow
So, I'm moved by the emotion that someone experiences when they receive my work. Sometimes I receive feedback over the phone, or from a video they might send me I have great pleasure in knowing that I fulfill that need, so they can cherish that moment through my artwork forever
And each drawing is different. Maybe only once or twice I've drawn the same subject twice. So, the challenge of doing things that are different every time keeps my passion going And it pays the bills
Paula G : Yes, let’s keep it real Those bills have to be paid
Clarence: Really, I have had the satisfaction of being selected to do certain things. For instance, there’s a new sports magazine that I draw for about four issues out of every month And I drew the actual artwork for the cover for the magazine I'm the artist exclusively, indefinitely for that No other artist can come on board because I'm the guy If I choose to allow someone else to do it, that's on me. I'm the guy. And that didn’t come from an art contest. It wasn't from an application. It wasn't from an interview It came from my social media presence The CEO saw my work, and reached out to me about doing this Do I get paid directly for this? No, not in this particular case; but the prestige of it all and the indirect sales from it all is absolutely worth its weight in gold!
I also find value in working with people who want to use my artwork to aide in generating funds for charitable organizations Nowadays my art is on the cover of Sports Life Magazine nationwide that’s exposure at Barnes and Noble, Books-A-Million, or whatever it may be So, it's a win-win scenario for me. They’ll soon be livestreaming too. More exposure there.
Paula G.: It's all about getting exposure, which really helps people to become aware of the uniqueness of your gift what it is that you have to offer >
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Clarence: Absolutely The bottom line, Paula, is that the back end normally always outweighs the front end in compensation. Just like a guy who gets the first-round draft pick in the NFL: He might make $15 million, a contract that's for four years. If he does well, then he gets $250 million. Like Jalen Hurts just did. The other guys too.
So I always value my talent. I don't sell myself short. I know what I'm getting involved in and how it's going to benefit myself and the other party that's bringing the opportunity to me.
Paula G.: That's encouraging for someone who's reading this and embarking on their own journey whatever their gift or passion is Sometimes you don't feel like people are paying attention, or sometimes you don't feel like people value what it is that you do But there is value And I always say that we have to respect the craft, respect the talent, respect the gift Because it does come at a cost
Clarence: Yes, it does! I tell people the same thing, quite often. I mean, I'm not a boasting, bragging person. But I know among the value of what I do. I am not a McDonald's; I'm a five-star restaurant! Some folks can understand that. I might charge somebody ten dollars, and they might say, “Oh, that's too much.” And I might say to somebody else $2,000, and they say “How do I pay?”
Paula G.: So, you never sell yourself short.
Clarence: No You can't allow other people to dictate your value You have to know your value
Paula G.: Yes, know your value. that’s so important. You clearly know your own value. What are some of the projects or pieces that you have in the wings? Or what’s something you have just completed that you’ve enjoyed the most?
Clarence: Well, I love going to different events, especially ones where I just show up and let my artwork show out. That is, events like, say, an awards event, or a golf tournament or some other upscale event I get an invitation, I go, I send my artwork I won't be concerned about who's going to be there I just have to travel to the destination, show up, interact and have fun Those are the kinds of events that I love to participate in For the most part, I like going to places where I don't know anyone, or maybe only a handful of people And some ask me, “Why do you say that?” And I answer, “If I knew everybody in the room already, how could I grow?” I can't expand if I know everyone in the room
Paula G.: I like that. Meet new folks, so you can grow.
Clarence: That's right. You have to expand. I have a lot on my plate for ideas to generate some substantial income in the upcoming year. I have a niche I won't share quite yet. I’ve got something I'm working on that's going to entice celebrities who have huge followings to gravitate toward my concept. They’ll be able to generate funds for their foundations, for their causes, and for things that they're passionate about by utilizing my gift by allowing me to do what I do to bring awareness to what I'm passionate about >
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Evonya “Love E” Easley turned her life around from finance to fashion. How did she do it? She was an accountant for ten years, while on nights and weekends, she pursued her passion for fashion by providing personal shopping and styling services for private clients including the news anchors at Fox 5 Atlanta and CBS Atlanta, among others. After being laid off from her day job post-Recession in 2010, she became a full-time certified personal executive stylist, founding Love E Fashion—and building her clientele across the nation Her work has appeared on CNN, MSNBC, HLN, Bloomberg, Disney, the NAACP Awards, and more. She dresses corporate professionals from folks at the Atlanta Hawks to healthcare and tech companies. <
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Evonya says, “When I was laid off, it forced me to bet on myself and see what I could do. And I’ve been an entrepreneur ever since.”
She helps her clients create wardrobes that give them the confidence to achieve their personal and professional goals. She has forged relationships with designers and boutiques around the world, and she loves bringing the people and the pieces together. Along with styling her clients, she also produces fashion shows for cities, (such as the City of Douglasville, Georgia), organizations (e.g., the MogulCon Women’s Conference) and corporations including Bloomingdale's and more Recently, she has infused fashion with tech to create a 3D virtual-reality fashion show merging two worlds for an immersive innovative experience. She also has an app available called Styled by Love E, where you can order a stylist on demand
“While other platforms send you a box of clothes, we wanted to create the experience of having a stylist bring you the clothes, along with the expertise.” Evonya wants everyone to have access to great style, bringing technology together with the human touch to provide a personalized, curated experience.
“A good wardrobe can bring you confidence,” she explains. “It’s about how it makes you feel and how people react to you. When you feel good about yourself, you’ll be more productive. You’ll be elevated personally and professionally. You have to go beyond the cute outfit. You have to dress how you want to be addressed. ” <
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Thirdly, I love crafts I’m super creative One time, I took a gray latex cleaning glove and turned it into a mermaid tail dress for my doll I’ve even made five-story houses out of boxes. Give me something, and I can do it. I always put my mind to it.
Lastly it’s taekwondo. I am glitzy glammy most of the time, but taekwondo is my thing. I’m a black belt and that took time, meaning three years. I’m won State Champion in 2022 in creative weapons (nunchucks), and District Champ in 2023 in traditional weapons (sword).
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And I’m an amazing twelve-year-old girl. Here are four things I love to do and why:
My number-one favorite thing to do is dress up. I love fashion, and anything that has to do with it. I take design classes, and I’m learning a lot. I can style myself and others. I put the P in personality and the S in style. One day, I want to model my work.
My second favorite thing to do is art art in all ways Art is a skill that I would say I have I can express my emotions through my art I mostly like to draw, but I am good at painting too I’ve been into fashion since I was five years old, so this is important to me!
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The Story
After being abandoned as an infant in Philadelphia by her mother, and witnessing her father battle drug addiction throughout her early childhood and teenage years, Tieshena “Tie” Davis instinctively developed the ability to decipher mysteries and solve complex challenges. In 1997, at the age of sixteen, she dropped out of high school and moved to Washington, D.C. on her own to attend Potomac Job Corps Center. During this journey, she began to accept her obstacles as life-changing opportunities, which fueled her ambition to diligently pursue her goals.
In 2000, Tieshena’s efforts quickly landed her a mid-level management position with Sodexho Marriott Services. At only nineteen years old, she became the youngest manager in both her district and region to operate a twenty-milliondollar corporate food service account. She then went on to obtain her undergraduate degree at the University of Maryland, where she studied accounting. She started her first business offering home office organizing services.
In 2013, Tieshena self-published her debut memoir, Surviving Shocking Situations: Finding Courage to Succeed in Spite of Life’s Painful Moments. This book launched Tieshena's career as a notable book collaboration manager and publishing consultant. In 2014, she launched Publish Your Gift, an international award-winning publishing firm specializing in author branding and development. To date, her company has released over 600 non-fiction titles for independent authors. In June 2016, she founded the Indie Author Legacy Awards (IALA), an annual international literary event honoring Black impact-driven writers who serve as unsung heroes in their communities. >
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Tieshenaisrenownedforherbusinessmentoringand coachingbook,ThinkLikeaBookpreneur,whichoffers acrashcourseforauthorsonhowtoturnabookinto multiplestreamsoflong-termincome Combining herstrongbusinessacumenwithhercontent marketingexpertise,Tieshenahasbecomeatrusted advisertohundredsofauthors throughherwriting, speaking,andconsulting.Shealsoappearswidelyat publicevents,teachingentrepreneursand professionalshowtoleveragewritingtoadvance theircareerandbusiness.
In2018,TiecompletedYaleUniversity’sLeadership StrategiesinBookPublishingExecutiveProgramand recentlycompletedMIT’sBusinessProgressDesignin StrategicManagementProgram Herworkand contributionstothepublishingindustryhaveledto herbeinghonoredinMarylandasoneofPrince George’sCounty’sTopFortyUnder40.She’salso recognizedasoneofD.C.’s100MetroPhenomenal Women,andshewasvotedbyExaminer.comasBest oftheBestinPublishing.Herexpertinsightshave beenfeaturedinForbes,TheHuffingtonPost,Black Enterprise,PublishersWeekly,RollingOut,and numerousotherpublications Withexcellence,grace, andagreatpassiontoserve,Tieshenahasbecomea keyinfluencertomanyworldwide
The Conversation
Chloé:Wouldyousharehowyoubeganyour careerincorporateAmericaatthetenderageof onlynineteen?
Tie:Ihavequitetheunconventionalbackground, whichIbelieveismysecrettosuccess At sixteen,IlefthighschoolinPhiladelphia my birthplace andleftbehindaratherturbulent upbringing.Mymotherabandonedmeasan infant,andmyfatherbattledacrackaddiction formostoftheeightiesandnineties.Iwasraised bymygreat-grandmother Throughallthis,I resolvedtoescapemycircumstances Tonot walkthepathlaidoutbeforemebuttocarvea newoneformyself
Chloé:That'squiteajourneysofar Howdidyou managethemovefromPhiladelphiatoD.C.at justsixteen?
Tie:Mygrandfatherhadcustodyofmeaftermy great-grandmother'spassingwhenIwaseight.
Livingwithhimandhiswifewastough,butthey agreedtosignmeupforJobCorpswhenthey realizeditwaswhatIwanted Itfeltrighttome So,IleftforDC thedayafterLaborDayin1996, determinedtoreshapemylife There,Iwasall in,takingadvantageofeveryopportunity, earningmyGEDwithinthefirstsixtydays
Chloé:Impressive!Tellmeaboutyourtransition toSodexhoMarriottServices.
Tie:WhileinJobCorps,Iwaspairedwith Sodexho,oneofthelargesthospitality companies,foraninternship Iwasinitially pursuingculinaryarts,butaspecialproject shiftedmytrajectory Theexecutivechef, recognizingmypotential,offeredmeaposition ashisadministrativeassistant.Itwasapivotal moment.Ipivotedfromculinarydreamsto embracingthepotentialwithinthecorporate managementsphere. >
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Chloé:AndIunderstandthatiteventuallyledtoyou managingamulti-million-dollaroperation
Tie:Yes.Istartedwithasmalloperation,whichsoon balloonedtoatwenty-million-dollaraccount.Iwas continuouslyinspiredtoclimbhigher,tolearnmore.I askedquestions,Iwascurious andthat'sbeenmy approach:alwaysseekingadifferentangleto achievesuccess
Chloé:Yourcuriosityisinfectious Tellme,what fueledtheconfidenceyouneededtoaskforwhat youwanted?
Tie:It’sthebeliefthatthere'salwaysanopportunity lurking.And,ifyoudon'tseeone,ask.It'saboutbeing proactiveandbold likestreettalksays,“Closed mouthsdon'tgetfed”
Chloé:AndwhathappenedafterSodexho?
Tie:Aftersixsuccessfulyearsthere,Iyearnedfor somethingdifferent Itransitionedtohealthcare That experienceledmetononprofitwork,whereI discoveredmyloveforteaching.Itwasinthisrealm thatIsawgapsthatsparkedmyentrepreneurial spirit,leadingtothefoundationofmyowncompany. AndI’vemadeacommitmenttofull-time entrepreneurshipsince2011
Chloé:Youtransitionedintopublishing Whatinspired thatmove?
Tie:Inoticedthatmanyofmyclients,authors,weren’t leveragingtheirbookseffectively.Theyweremissing outonconsistentsales,treatingbooksasan accessorytospeakingengagementsratherthanasa stand-alonebusiness Thissparkedanideainme: booksasabusinessventure That'sthehypothesisI testedwithmyownanthology,whichledtothe creationofmypublishingcompany,PublishYourGift
Chloé:It'sclearthatyouviewstorytellingasapowerful tool.Whatwouldyouliketoimparttoourreaders, especiallytoyounggirlswhomaybefacingtheirown adversities?
Tie:It'saboutstayinglaser-focusedonyourvision But alsobeingadaptable Lifewillthrowchallengesyour way,andwhenitdoes,it'snotjustaboutthe comeback it'sabouttheredirection,thepivoting,and sometimeseventakingthatleapoverthebarriers
Chloé:Whatapowerfulmessage,Tie.Thankyoufor sharingyourremarkablejourneyandthevaluable lessonsyou’velearnedalongtheway.
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Let me start by asking a question:
What was your most recent major conflict or cause for not operating from a position of peace and joy?
Stop and really think about this question before you answer Take at least two to three minutes. I wonder if your answer is the same as mine. I would venture to say that most of the time the reason for conflict or the absence of peace and joy in your life is centered around expectations either expectations of yourself, expectations of someone else, or someone’s expectations of you. >
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Expectations profoundly affect our lives. They can be high or low, reasonable or unreasonable, good or bad. Expectations influence emotions and behaviors. When our lives are ruled by personal expectations or expectations of others, it can make every day an unnecessary challenge And, as a result, we forfeit the gift of serenity Managing expectations is a habit we can learn Having the ability to understand and adapt our expectations can help in ways we might never have thought about
I define expectations as beliefs that spring from a person’s thought process when examining evidence. Proverbs 18:13 says, “Oh, what folly it is to give advice before listening to the facts.” Our expectations are not always correct because of flaws in our logic and our biases of hope and desire.
How are you managing expectations of yourself and others? Sometimes we get our hopes up based on a false premise or on a misunderstanding of evidence Often, we form expectations automatically, without even a conscious effort
When our expectations are not met, pain ensues, and we will quickly place blame on something or someone who did not live up to our expectations even if we don’t see that our expectations were unreasonable. Faulty expectations can create a lot of trouble in any relationship whether between parent–child, boss–employee, spouses, friends, partners, committee members, etc.
How are you at managing expectations of yourself and others?
When expectations are poorly managed, four negative emotions might emerge: anger, sadness, anxiety or shame Any one of these prevents us from unlocking the gift of serenity
ANGER sets in when people are prevented from seeing their expectations realized.
SADNESS, while much less intense, is no less hurtful
ANXIETY can easily become an emotional pitfall We can feel this way when we’re uncertain of what exactly someone’s expectations are
SHAME exists when it is clear we have failed to meet the expectations of another person or even of ourselves
Anytime there is mutual dependency, expectations exist. And if those expectations are not met, conflict is often the result, taking away the gift of serenity. What we want to do is adjust unrealistic expectations and address assumed expectations, so that in our relationships we can agree upon realistic expectations
At times, we impose our expectations on others, not realizing that, in fact, they don’t have the same expectations Sometimes we have expectations of ourselves and others that cannot be met because of extenuating circumstances that we might not be aware of at all.
When expectations are assumed, never expressed; when they are imposed, never negotiated; when they are ignored; or when they are unrealistic there will be suffering and trouble, and often failure in one way or another. For these reasons alone, let’s strive to cultivate skills and strategies to become better managers of our expectations >
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Here are three strategies for managing expectations that I have used. I’ve found them to be very successful in assisting me to unlock and maintain the gift of serenity. It is my hope and prayer that you, too, will find them helpful.
1 Expectations must be expressed.
Consider one of your main relationships in life. How many expectations have actually been expressed and discussed? You may not agree with another person’s expectations, but you do need to understand what is expected. Don’t guess. Ask, and then listen.
On the other hand, you have your own expectations, and you should share them. Don’t remain silent, but express them. When it comes to expressing expectations, it is most helpful to discuss one category at a time It is more beneficial to work on the ones which are appropriate at the moment How clearly do you communicate your expectations?
2 Expectations must be realistic.
Unrealistic and unachievable expectations only set you up to fail The objective, of course, is not to lower expectations; it is simply to make them realistic When confronted with expectations that are placed upon you, you have a few options You can say, “I’ll do it to the best of my ability.” Or you can say, “I’m sorry, I just can’t do it,” and explain the limitations that prevent you from meeting that expectation.
Another option you might use is to say, “Can we negotiate?” Managing expectations often requires some negotiation. This is the third strategy.
3 Expectations may need to be negotiated.
With negotiation, unrealistic and unfulfilled expectations can be transformed into realistic expectations. How do you handle unfulfilled expectations?
Consider this simple strategy for negotiating expectations:
Identify the issue, problem, or area of conflict
Be specific about whatever you identify Express your differing expectations by taking turns in expressing yourselves Be sure to listen and speak to each other with a positive attitude, without interruptions It might even be wise to write expectations down for one another.
Focus on the problem, not on the person. Sentences should begin with “I think” or “I feel.” Never start a sentence with “You.”
Work toward a compromise. Adjust, revise and create until you can agree.
Throughout the process, apply The Serenity Prayer: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference ”
Managing expectations requires a delicate balance of introspection, adaptability, and compassion. We can‘t completely eliminate expectations, but we can cultivate a healthy relationship with them. Be grounded in reality, yet hold on to hope and possibility. It gets better with practice so it takes time and commitment Remember to give yourself grace as you do the work Managing expectations is worth the price for the gift of serenity in a marriage, a family, a friendship, a business, a community and within yourself Make it a priority to unlock the gift of serenity! <
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HowthePersonalExcellenceProfile TranscendsTraditionalAssessments
In a world inundated with assessments aimed at fostering personal and professional growth, the Personal Excellence Profile (PEP) stands out, not just for its multidimensional approach but also for its unique ability to map out and elevate the journey through its specific Zones and a comprehensive evaluation of twelve Vital Abilities This precision makes the PEP an unparalleled tool guiding individuals, teams, businesses, organizations, and corporations to excel and outperform others in a multitude of contexts Let's explore the contrasts between the PEP and other assessments out there.
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The PEP’s unique structure encompasses various Zones of consciousness, each reflecting a stage in the journey of personal and professional development. Within these Zones, the assessment meticulously evaluates and measures twelve Vital Abilities: the ability to value self, perceive, decide, communicate, build rapport, interact, act, produce, have certainty, command, expand, and accomplish This comprehensive evaluation sets the foundation for profound growth, equipping individuals with the insight to harness their fullest potential
Compared to StrengthsFinder (Now CliftonStrengths), which helps individuals identify their top strengths, the PEP goes several steps further: The PEP not only simply recognizes strengths, but also provides a roadmap for leveraging these abilities across different Zones of consciousness to achieve holistic excellence.
Against the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), which categorizes personality types, the PEP offers a dynamic approach evaluating how these personality traits can be optimized through the development of the twelve Vital Abilities fostering a more adaptable and growth-oriented mindset.
While the DiSC Profile focuses on behavior types, the PEP transcends behavior delving into the core of personal and interpersonal abilities, and offering strategies for enhancing communication, rapport, and leadership, which are essential for effective team dynamics and leadership development. >
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Different from the Enneagram, which provides insights into motivations and patterns of personality, the PEP equips individuals with actionable insights on expanding our abilities to interact, decide, and act encouraging not only self-discovery but also tangible self-improvement and action.
Beyond the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal, the PEP not only assesses emotional skills but also integrates these into a broader spectrum of abilities that influence certainty, command, and production, essential for navigating complex personal and professional landscapes.
Surpassing The Big Five Personality Test, the PEP engages participants actively in their growth journey, focusing on the practical application of abilities like producing, accomplishing, and expanding thus offering a path to realworld success and fulfillment
More comprehensive than the Values in Action Inventory of Strengths (VIA Survey), the PEP illuminates how character strengths can be effectively utilized in conjunction with the twelve Vital Abilities to navigate the Zones of consciousness fostering not only well-being but also excellence in all endeavors
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The PEP’s integration of Zones and detailed evaluation of twelve Vital Abilities empowers individuals and teams to achieve unparalleled growth and excellence. By offering a clear, actionable path for development, the PEP ensures that every participant can navigate their journey with insight, clarity, and purpose. Whether in personal growth, team development, or organizational success, the PEP’s holistic and adaptable framework encourages continuous improvement making it the superior choice for those seeking meaningful and lasting transformation. This is not merely an assessment; it's a catalyst for embracing and achieving one's highest ideals, transforming the understanding and practice of personal and professional excellence across the board <
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Miguel is a globetrotter. He’s travelled to over 75 countries. While his professional career has been focused primarily in Global Business Development and in Marketing, most of his spare time is definitely spent in the kitchen His cookbook He's Got Flavor has frequently graced Amazon's best-seller list Numerous celebrities, professional athletes and influencers have sought out Miguel's cooking skills, to bring the Flavor to their events. >
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Here's What You'll Need:
4–6 bone-in, skin-on chicken thighs
1 Tbsp kosher salt (divided)
1 Tbsp. black pepper (divided)
1 Tbsp. thyme
3 t. vegetable oil
3 Tbsp. unsalted butter
Directions for Preparing the Chicken:
1. Sprinkle the chicken on both sides and under the skin with the salt and pepper, and the thyme.
2. Meanwhile, heat the vegetable oil in a large castiron skillet (or other large frying pan) over medium-tohigh heat. Once oil is hot and simmering, add chicken to the pan with skin side down. Sear, turning once, until browned on both sides (5–7 mins. total time).
3. While chicken browns, preheat the oven to 375F.
4. Remove the chicken from heat, add the butter to the pan, and place in the oven until the internal temperature of chicken reaches 165F (You may also transfer the chicken to a baking dish if you prefer )
5. When the chicken is almost done, brush a few strokes of the chili honey glaze over the chicken and continue to bake for the remaining time
6 Remove the pan from the oven carefully, as the handle is hot! and while the chicken is resting, glaze the remaining sauce over the chicken and serve.
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2 Tbsp. olive oil
1 t. garlic (minced)
½ oz. soy sauce
2 t. honey
¼ oz. lemon juice
½ t. crushed red pepper (adjust to taste)
3 Tbsp. House of Flava BBQ Sauce
Once oil is hot, add in garlic and cook for 20 seconds or until garlic is softened and fragrant. Stir in soy sauce, honey, lemon juice, crushed red pepper, and the House of Flava BBQ Sauce. Cover and simmer on the lowest
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a small saucepan, heat olive oil over low-to-medium heat
HOMEMADE SWEET PEACH COBBLER
Here's What You'll Need:
4 cups peeled and sliced peaches (fresh, frozen, or canned)
½ cup water
2 cups sugar (divided)
1 cup Original Bisquick mix
1 cup milk
1 stick butter, melted
½ cup brown sugar
1 t pure vanilla extract
1 t. ground cinnamon
¼ t. ground nutmeg (optional)
Here's How to Make it:
1. Preheat oven to 350F
2. In a medium saucepan, combine peaches, water and a cup of the sugar (mix well) Bring to a boil and then let simmer for 15 minutes. Remove from heat and set aside (Skip this step if using canned peaches)
3. Add a stick of butter to a baking pan (9 x 16 or similar) and place in preheated oven until melted.
4. Meanwhile, in a medium to large mixing bowl, combine the Bisquick, remaining sugar, brown sugar, and cinnamon together Now whisk in the milk (slowly to avoid clumping) and add vanilla. Stir to combine.
5. Once butter is melted, remove the baking dish from the oven, and slowly pour the Bisquick mixture over the melted butter. Do not stir the Bisquick mixture into the butter; just pour
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1. Double the recipe for more servings!
6. Now spoon the peaches over the top, and gently pour in the syrup (half or all), making sure not to stir Top it off with just a sprinkle of cinnamon and/or nutmeg (optional).
7. Bake uncovered until golden brown (approx 45 minutes). Serve as is or with ice cream and enjoy
2. If using canned peaches, don't discard the syrup.
3. Using more of the syrup makes the peach cobbler more gooey. And delicious! <
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I want to feel good in my body at every age. And I believe that we’re supposed to feel good in our body at every age.
Nishisksi Chandler, health and wellness coach, noticed an uptick in people reaching out in late 2023 through the New Year.
“As the year closes out, people start thinking about what I call the ‘fresh start’ effect. They ask themselves, What can I do to be better and feel better? How can I address some of the things that have been concerning to me? I think that was a factor. I think the algorithm started working in our favor because of the inquiries.” Chandler’s 2021 interview with Jay Cameron, in which she shared her personal health journey to overcome fibroid issues without surgery, had gone viral again. She marvels at the beauty of the internet. We’re glad to share her wise advice from her personal experience here at FDM. >
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“There are millions of women who are suffering from womb health issues. When they’re looking for mainstream solutions, there are none, outside of having some form of surgery. And many women are just not comfortable with that anymore,” explains Nashisksi.
Her business, Thrive Now Wellness, recently saw a surge in interest. As a wellness lifestyle strategist, Nishisksi has been helping clients heal from ailments such as digestive issues or fibroids for over ten years Her wellness path has really been in the making for twenty years
At the age of seven, Nishisksi was on several asthma medications One Summer in South Carolina, she met a woman, Rebecca Young, who forever changed the way she looked at natural remedies for health.
“This woman Rebecca ended up living well past a hundred. When she saw my mom giving me three medications, she asked what it was for. When my mom told her, she said, ‘Oh, no, she doesn’t need that!’” Then Nishisksi watched Rebecca develop a remedy for her breathing troubles using simple herbs and natural remedies.
“I think she was 114 years old when she died, when I looked at the record I was blessed to have met her an older woman with that much wisdom. A lot of people don’t have that.”
A little over a year later, Nishisksi never needed the medications again.
Nishisksi was a very active child after that Summer, when the seed had been planted for her future as a health and wellness coach. In eighth grade, the power of natural healing came into her life again. Nishisksi was having recurring
headaches. Her doctor recommended that she remove pork from her diet. Then, her headaches went away. When traditional medicine didn’t work, she started the journey into seeking solutions for better health. And she has never looked back.
“Most people are not educated on how to take great care of themselves. Most people really believe that there’s something wrong with their genes. They keep expecting certain misalignments, illnesses and experiences in their body,” Nishisksi says “When that’s the foundation people accept, then whatever happens to them is allowed, because their expectations are so low ”
Nowadays, Nishisksi is coaching others, and speaking at universities, nonprofits and corporations sharing her knowledge about the power of nutrition and natural remedies. She has a very strong track record of helping women achieve health with everything from PCOS to infertility to endometriosis. “Everyone is not going to become a nerd regarding herbs and wellness and alternative techniques and therapies,” Nishisksi says. But for twenty years she has been happy to do so.
Here are Nishisksi’s top three wellness tips to help readers live better, healthier lives:
1 Stop self-defeating behaviors.
Nishisksi advises us to look within. “Most people know at least one or two things they should stop doing If you know you have certain things that are working against you, look at that, and start identifying things you can do to stop the selfdefeating behaviors and replace them with positive activities and attitudes.” >
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SMOOTHMOOD MILK
16 oz. plant-based milk
2 Tbsp. turmeric
1 Tbsp. aswaganda
1 t. nutmeg
1 Tbsp. sprouted chia seed
1 ripe red banana
1 pinch black pepper
½ cup hemp seeds
1 Tbsp. black strap molasses
BEAUTIFUL BERRY BLAST
16 oz. coconut water
1 Tbsp. Schisandra berry powder
1 Tbsp. dried goji berries
½ cup fresh blueberries
1 Tbsp. baobab fruit powder
1 t. local honey
1 t liquid silica
⅓ cup ice
Blend well and enjoy!
Blend well and relax.
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Equal Pay Day symbolizes the ongoing struggle for gender wage equality This significant day sheds light on the additional days women must work into the new year to reach parity with their male counterparts' earnings from the previous year In 2024, women did not catch up to men’s income from 2023 until March 12th, more than 2 months after the end of the year (1)
Despite progress made since the Equal Pay Act's establishment in 1963 during President Kennedy's administration, the journey to closing the gender pay gap remains fraught with challenges and slow progress. The need to address systemic barriers and advocate for fair wages for all individuals, regardless of gender, remains a crucial focus in our ongoing pursuit of equality in the workplace.
The landscape in 1963 witnessed a groundbreaking moment with the Equal Pay Act, a pivotal step toward eliminating wage discrimination based on gender At that time, women earned a mere 60¢ for every dollar a man made Moving forward to 1990, thirty years later, the gap only slightly narrowed to 70¢ (2) Fast forward three decades to today, and women now earn 82¢ for every $1 men earn While this progress is commendable, it reveals the extremely gradual, and uneven trajectory toward equality.(3) >
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The disparities are even worse for women of color, who confront the compounded challenges of gender and racial pay gaps. Black women earn 69¢, Latinas earn 57¢, and Native American women 55¢ for every $1 that White, nonHispanic men earn. Consequently, Equal Pay Day for these groups falls much later in the year (July 9th for Black women, October 3rd for Latinas, November 21st for Native women) casting a long shadow over their economic contributions and rights (1)
Projections indicate that the gender pay gap may persist until 2059, a further thirty-five more years into the future (4) This sluggish rate of change is unacceptable It demands of us a renewed dedication to policies and strategies addressing the core issues of wage inequality
The gender pay gap is not only a women's issue; it is a societal matter impacting the financial welfare of families of our communities
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Kim Scouller is a Certified Financial Educator and co-author of the best-selling book How Money Works for Women: Take Control or Lose
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(1) AAUW, “March 12 is Equal Pay Day 2024,” (2024)
https://www aauw org/resources/article/equal-pay-daycalendar
(2) Investopedia, “Gender and Income Inequality: History and Statistics,” Greg Daugherty (Mar 1, 2023)
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3) Pew Research Center, “The Enduring Grip of the Gender Pay Gap,” Rokesh Kochhar (Mar 1, 2023)
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(4) Forbes, “Gender Pay Gap Statistics in 2024,” Katherine Haan (Feb 27, 2023)
https://www.forbes.com/advisor/business/gender-pay-gapstatistics
To expedite progress, advocating for pay transparency, robust enforcement of equal pay regulations, and bolstering support for women in underrepresented high-paying professions are crucial steps. Additionally, combatting the "motherhood penalty" and strong support for work–life balance are paramount to preventing women from having to sacrifice career growth for family obligations.
Equal Pay Day serves as both a milestone recognizing advancements women have achieved and a spotlight on the work that lies ahead It beckons policymakers, employers, and individuals to redouble their efforts to attain genuine wage parity Let this Equal Pay Day not only be a commemoration of the past but a catalyst for a future where pay fairness is not just an aspiration but an actual, concrete reality
The journey is long, but the goal remains clear: We want a future where pay is based on skill and ability, not on gender or race <
Chloé Taylor Brown celebrating INTERNATIONAL Women’s Day with Kim Scouller at VANDA House
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A candid interview with Maggie Phiri
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by Lethabo Makua
In framing the context around your recent birthday and the notable milestone you've achieved, how would you personally interpret and explain this major milestone, especially for those who have been following your entrepreneurial and leadership journey?
I perceive this stage as a pivotal moment where I've consciously moved away from the urge to please others, transcending the expectations that often come in one's twenties. During your thirties, the inclination to seek validation persists, and you're still navigating the complexities of finding your true path It is a process
As I entered my forties, the most significant revelation surfaced: the realization that I no longer yearned to fulfill societal expectations This awareness wasn't instantaneous; rather, it unfolded gradually. Culturally, especially for women, our upbringing emphasizes adherence to societal norms and constructs, such as making your family and community proud. So when I hit my forties, the transformation wasn't a sudden occurrence at the stroke of midnight on my fiftieth birthday. It took time.
The process, as it unfolded in my forties, allowed me to truly inhabit my skin. Looking back, I embraced the woman I had become, embodying a newfound boldness and bravery Whether my weight fluctuated or remained constant, I cherished myself and my body. It wasn't about reaching the age of fifty; it was about reaching a space where the opinions of a few no longer held sway over me Reaching that place comes with fulfillment
Now, at this juncture, I find myself indifferent to the judgments of others I recall someone telling me, "Maggie, you are now in the youth of your senior life." That felt like a revelation that struck a chord Recognizing the concept of time, I've adopted a serious approach to relishing life As I navigate the “youth of my senior years,” I am determined to savor the present without being burdened by external opinions This newfound mindset is rooted in the understanding that, as I approach my seventies or eighties when the body begins to show signs, my mind remains vibrant and my spirit is resilient It's a commitment to enjoying life unapologetically, liberated from the concerns of others' perceptions.
As evident from the confident way you carry yourself, it's clear that a significant part of your journey is rooted in you detaching from the need for external validation. How would you articulate the impact of this attitude and philosophy on your business ventures and overall professional pursuits?
Since around the age of thirty-five, I've made it a tradition to have an annual birthday photoshoot, often with a new hairstyle. This practice, rooted in celebrating life and its milestones, is my personal tradition In my thirties, it involved coordinating with my stylist for a new weave or a fresh look.
In marking another year around the sun, acknowledging the blessing of life is a sentiment I've imparted to some family members who may have faced challenging circumstances The simple act of smiling, and celebrating life, particularly now that I've reached half a century, is profoundly meaningful
Boldness and confidence that’s integral to my upbringing, a secret sauce concocted by my parents From a young age, I exhibited outspokenness and boldness, which played a crucial role in an incident where I actually saved my cousin's life Growing up with four brothers in a family where speaking up was valued, I developed a voice to be heard
I once attempted to emulate a quiet girl my mother had praised during a Summer gathering However, I wasn’t successful in that. My attempt at silence lasted a mere ten minutes as the innate need to express my thoughts and feelings prevailed! My mother recognized that being a quiet girl wasn't in my nature. So from then on, I embraced my outspoken and expressive self unable to contain the multitude of thoughts and feelings within me This early lesson reinforced my belief in the power of boldness and the necessity of expressing oneself authentically. The true impact started with me embracing that about myself first
You are very poised, and your image reflects significant achievements Taking a closer look at your day-to-day business operations, the behind-the-scenes meetings, client calls, and all the unpublicized aspects, would you provide insight into what a typical day looks like for Maggie, the entrepreneur and business owner?
A typical day for me follows a familiar routine shared by many. I start my day by getting up and tackling the most challenging tasks on my list, gradually working my way down Email management can be a bit overwhelming posing a significant challenge with its deluge of messages and tasks. Despite the demands of day-to-day operations, there's a stark contrast when I'm not in the public eye, sans the glam and the made-up appearance Picture me with natural hair focused and immersed in my work.
I steer clear of multitasking, as I firmly believe in completing one task before moving on to the next. There's a unique satisfaction in crossing items off the list, signaling accomplishment Multitasking, in my experience, tends to elongate the time it takes to complete tasks. The day-today grind involves handling clients, prospecting, and attending to the routine intricacies of running a business
And, Mondays through Fridays, without fail, you'll find me at Burn Boot Camp That’s a non-negotiable commitment in my work week Weekends are my time to recharge, but I make an exception for Burn Boot Camp. Adhering to a regular schedule, I grant myself the luxury of avoiding morning calls and prefer commencing my day around 9:00 AM. Given my aversion to early mornings, I accept that I'm not a morning person and structure my life accordingly Contrary to popular advice advocating for a 5:00 AM or even a 4:00 AM start, you'll find me during my sixth dream at that hour, peacefully enjoying my rest.
You emphasized the importance of structuring your life around your strengths, acknowledging that because you are not a morning person, you align your schedule accordingly. Would you elaborate on the significance of tailoring your life to your strengths? Our readers may be grappling with society’s expectations. And that often means a one-size-fits-all approach to productivity >
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Understanding your personal preferences and dislikes is very important Because nothing is more draining than being burdened with tasks that induce stress and headaches If there's a particular task that doesn't align with your strengths, then consider delegation In my case, having my outstanding assistant, Miss Jordan, has made a substantial difference Collaborating with individuals who excel in areas where you may struggle is a key strategy to alleviating unnecessary stress and optimizing your efficiency
I vividly recall a phase in the early years of my career when I worked relentlessly sacrificing holidays and clocking in sixteen to eighteen hours a day However, a pivotal moment came when a visit to my doctor revealed alarming health numbers It was a realization that all the hard work meant nothing if I jeopardized my well-being and wellness. This moment compelled me to reassess my priorities, recognizing the value of life beyond work
It's crucial to partner with people whose strengths complement your weaknesses Avoiding unnecessary stress and burnout is vital for your overall well-being I've come to appreciate the joy of living, breathing fresh air, and relishing the use of my body These simple pleasures motivate me to lead a life that allows time for enjoyment. Working incessantly without a balance doesn't contribute to happiness It's essential to question the purpose behind your efforts Is it merely to pay bills, or is there a broader goal and objective in mind?
I resonate with Flourish Digital Magazine's core values, which emphasize experiencing the finer things in life holistically Achieving a balance between work and life is a philosophy I wholeheartedly embrace, recognizing that true fulfillment lies in both the personal and professional spheres
Considering the multifaceted nature of your life, encompassing business, travel, love, friendships, and various wholesome activities, how do you perceive the flourishing aspect of your life at present, and which specific area stands out the most for you?
On an immediate level, my initial response is undoubtedly my eight-year relationship However, upon deeper reflection, I would have to say the most flourishing aspect is me. In this current season of my life, I find immense fulfillment in personal growth. The journey of self-evolution is perpetual and I relish the idea of adapting and adjusting to challenges as they come, for therein lies the opportunity for growth. Whether it's in my relationship, business, or personal life, true flourishing occurs when I actively participate, making each facet exciting and meaningful. Embracing new experiences, meeting diverse people, broadening my mindset, and savoring the richness of each day contribute to this sense of flourishing.
It extends to enjoying laughter with friends, delighting in meaningful connections, and cherishing time with family While having a substantial amount of money in your account is undoubtedly pleasant, such external factors don't consistently provide genuine fulfillment True flourishing emanates from within from personal growth and active engagement in all the various dimensions of life.
For us who are seeking to embrace life to its fullest, what is essential to focus on right now?
I would like to go the extra mile and give you three aspects to focus on.
11 Prioritize Your Health Prioritize Your Health
Take care of your health diligently In your twenties, it's natural to indulge in parties, drinks, dancing, and dating However, as you transition through into your thirties and forties, especially by your late forties, that check-engine light of life begins to flicker By the age of fifty, the consequences of how well you've cared for your body become apparent. Your health is invaluable No amount of money can replace it Take very good care of it >
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As William Shakespeare wisely said, "To thine own self be true." Take time each night, especially during those quiet moments before sleep, to reflect on your day honestly Whether you've faced stress, laughter, or challenges, being true to yourself ensures a good night's sleep. Acknowledge your actions, reconcile when necessary, and maintain your mental well-being by living authentically
3 3 Be Your Own Hero Be Your Own Hero
Recognize that no one is coming to save you, especially if you are a woman In the modern world, the fantasies of rescue have evolved In 2024, it's crucial to understand that you must be your own hero. Regardless of your background, ethnicity, or race, take charge of your future While faith is significant, it's equally essential to actively play your part in saving yourself on this earthly journey. Jesus may save, but on Earth, you have the power to be your savior
In my experience, these three principles prioritizing health, being true to yourself, and embracing self-reliance make a strong foundation for a life embraced to its fullest potential.
What exciting projects, assignments, or pursuits do you have on the horizon that you'd like to share with our readers?
I'm thrilled to share today an exclusive with Flourish Digital Magazine! On July 6th, 2024 in Atlanta, Georgia, I'll be launching my brand-new drum roll, please! skincare line. While I celebrated turning forty with a grand bash and festivities, turning fifty held a different significance for me I wanted to mark this milestone with purpose. The skincare line serves as a platform for me to explore new horizons and pursue impactful ventures
This endeavor is more than just a business venture; it's a channel to fulfill my childhood dreams and prayers As a young child, I fervently prayed to make a significant impact and help orphaned children in Zambia. The skincare line is a heartfelt response to that calling, representing a legacy and a means to achieve the big-ticket dreams that have always resonated with me. So launching the skincare line is just the beginning, with numerous exciting developments in the pipeline This venture aligns with my passion for making a positive impact, particularly in supporting disadvantaged women, children, and communities especially in Africa It's a step towards contributing to the well-being of humanity, reflecting a core value that has guided my journey. I'm excited to embark on this new chapter And I’m honored to share the journey with Flourish Digital Magazine's readers
This venture aligns with my passion for making a positive impact, particularly in supporting disadvantaged women, children, and communities especially in Africa It's a step towards contributing to the well-being of humanity, reflecting a core value that has guided my journey. I'm excited to embark on this new chapter. And I’m honored to share the journey with Flourish Digital Magazine's readers
For our readers interested in connecting with you, how can they find you?
You can connect with me through my podcast for entrepreneurs, mPress Conversations with Maggie, available on all podcast platforms If you're looking for business-related services, my company is called mPrint Creations. We specialize in marketing, website development, web hosting, and everything you need to establish a visible online presence for your brand Whether you're starting out, or looking to enhance your online store, we are here to assist you.
You can find me on social media under the handle @mPrintCreations. Feel free to reach out. I’d love to connect! <
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Visionary founder of Makua Global, Lethabo merges ministry and business to honor renowned educator Dr J M Makua's legacy guiding individuals towards their destinies through transformative insights from Scripture He introduced Prodigious Leadership in 2019, fostering leaders across industries, challenging norms and offering support via The Prodigious Summit. As Executive Director of Higher Life Church International, launching in 2027, he aims to empower lives through the Gospel envisioning a world of strengthened families, visionary children, and thriving professionals His leadership journey reflects a commitment to global excellence and empowerment.
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Beyond beauty beauty
by Dr. Karen Tedeschi
My definition of health is a balance between our structure, chemical and emotional bodies. Even though we often experience stress in any one of these, our ability to return to balance between them is an indicator of our health The more we learn about ourselves, take responsibility, and become proactive about our health, the happier and more fulfilling our lives become I have dedicated my life to helping people return to balance I have built Vanda House, a center where there are a variety of ways to do just that The services we offer include: bloodwork, hair analysis, toxicity testing, detoxing, applied kinesiology, chiropractic, sound therapy, and light therapy
Recently we’ve added facial treatments with the MicroHydraLift At first glance, it may seem like an odd pairing, but in actuality it is in perfect alignment as a tool for healing while bridging the gap between inner and outer health and beauty. When I first started my practice over thirty years ago, I thought that taking care of your skin was literally only skin deep. I thought that it never really got to the core of the issue. Boy, was I wrong! Not only is skin our largest sensory organ, and actually our body’s largest organ it brings information from the environment in, and also sends information about our internal environment out!
Did you know that wrinkles, blemishes, pigmentation, and redness can all be signs of potential dysfunction in other areas of the body such as the digestive system, the lymphatic system or the nervous system?
We all have different ways of relaxing, of taking stress off the body One of those ways can be through skin treatments After all, it is a healing practice that makes you feel and look great And the healing goes way beyond the skin, and way beyond outer beauty With the MicroHydraLIFT, the skin is cleansed, oxygenated, hydrated, and nourished Because the skin is our first line of defense, it is imperative to keep it healthy All of the skin is innervated by the nervous system Yes, all of it The skin on the face
and neck communicates directly with the brain and the spine Having our skin clogged up with toxins from bad air, radiation, medications, and poor hygiene can impact how we think and feel The MicroHydra-LIFT is a real game changer, going way beyond beauty treatment revitalizing skin to make it healthier than before
Let’s explore the boundless healing and holistic expertise of Dr. Karen Tedeschi, affectionately known as “Dr. T.” As the visionary behind Advanced Wellness of Atlanta, Dr. T offers a sanctuary where personalized wellness journeys are realized through a comprehensive blend of treatments, including facial treatments with the MicroHydra-LIFT With over four decades of experience in reiki, massage, applied kinesiology, chiropractic, and more, her practice is a testament to the power of integrated health approaches. Dr. T's commitment extends beyond healing; she's a dedicated educator teaching the importance of individual choice and knowledge in achieving optimal health She’s a leader who not only alleviates pain but empowers us through education >
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Recognized for her dedication to breast health, Dr April Spencer is a beacon of excellence in the field As an esteemed member of key oncological societies and a celebrated recipient of the American Society of Clinical Oncology’s National Diversity in Oncology Award, her expertise enriches numerous boards, including Susan G Komen for the Cure (Greater Atlanta Affiliate) and Georgia Perimeter College Her roles as a speaker, author, consultant, and educator amplify her voice in the realm of breast cancer and women’s health
With her recent foray into private practice, Dr Spencer invites her former and new patients to embark on a transformative journey she calls From Breast Health to Best Health. This endeavor isn't just about overcoming; it's about thriving and moving forward with vitality
My friend and colleague Chloé Taylor Brown set aside some time to ask April a few questions
Chloé: Dr Spencer, your glamour today is undeniable Share with us your thoughts on Beauty on Purpose
Dr. Spencer: Beauty on Purpose is profound It transcends vanity, and anchors in sanity. When we feel good internally, it naturally reflects externally We prioritize the inner balance, peace, and clarity setting the stage for outward beauty to emerge authentically
Chloé: That’s truly moving to hear How did your journey shape you into the remarkable woman you are today?
Dr. Spencer: Life presented me with numerous chapters, each with its trials and triumphs Growing up with a single mother, navigating through homelessness, and finding calm amidst chaos these experiences fortified my resolve to advocate for the voiceless and support those facing adversity I transformed my past into a tool for empowerment and change.
Chloé: Vanda Teixeira, a collaborator in your initiatives, has underscored for us the importance of internal wellbeing to achieve true beauty So, your Hydra Hydration Room is revolutionary, emphasizing the synergy between inner health and external radiance It's your pioneering approach that embodies your philosophy combining advanced treatments such as the MicroHydraLIFT with the nurturing of one’s emotional well-being This concept of internal wellness is integral to your work. So how does the MicroHydra-LIFT align with your vision?
Dr Spencer: The MicroHydra-LIFT is a manifestation of my approach to healing: addressing the internal needs to enhance the external
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Encountering this during my own personal transformative period, I realized its potential to empower all women, especially those recovering from cancer by nurturing both their inner and outer selves
Chloé: Your vision intertwines health and beauty, for healthy renewal You're not only treating the body but also the soul fostering an environment where every woman is empowered to reach her highest potential of well-being.
Dr. Spencer: Let me just add that Vanda Teixeira reinforces the essence of this mission I’ll conclude by sharing her eloquent words: “The ultimate goal” she says, “is to elevate hydration as a cornerstone of health and beauty. It's a movement beyond surface-level aesthetics. We’re aspiring for soul-deep nourishment In this era, it's not about the external facade; it's about holistic enrichment the integration of science and spirit to rejuvenate and restore ”
Chloé: Here at Flourish Digital Magazine, we thank you for sharing. Your passion and purpose resonate deeply. It’s all about harmonizing thought, feeling, and action for a healthier, lighter, and more vibrant existence <
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In the Springtime spirit of rebirth and beauty, we invite you into the enchanting world of J’Marie Bridal and Formal Wear. Nestled in the heart of Covington, Georgia’s charming downtown, this haven for bridal and formal attire is the brainchild of the visionary Jamesa Terrell. Since opening its doors in 2006 and experiencing a grand renewal in December 2021, J’Marie has become a treasured destination for those in pursuit of their dream wedding attire. >
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Imagine stepping into a space where every corner whispers tales of elegance and dreams waiting to be discovered.
Whether your heart is set on a gown that seems borrowed from the pages of a fairy tale, or a sleek, contemporary design that speaks of timeless elegance, our curated collection promises to make your heart skip a beat.
The magic of J’Marie Bridal and Formal Wear transcends beyond the exquisite attire. Here, it’s about the journey an experience meticulously crafted with love and attention. Our passionate team of consultants is dedicated to celebrating your unique story, ensuring that from the moment you enter, you’re enveloped in a warmth and sincerity that places your dreams at the forefront.
We believe that it is all about the big dreams and the small details! Welcome to J’Marie, where your bridal journey is not just seen but truly celebrated. Let’s embark on this beautiful journey together.
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JOURNEY OF ELEGANCE AND LUXURY
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As the world embraces the renewal of Spring, Flourish Digital Magazine is thrilled to introduce a blossoming talent who embodies the essence of innovation and elegance. Nabila Bergwijn, a Suriname-born, Amsterdam-raised visionary, has been weaving dreams into reality for nearly a decade. Through her distinguished brand, Mís Avi, and her eponymous label, Bergwijn Designs, she has not only created uniquely intricate garments but also established Bergwijn Tailors, a testament to her commitment to craftsmanship and service
Nabila’s journey in fashion is marked by significant milestones, such as her groundbreaking presence at the 2020 AIA Fashion Show with The Reminiscent Collection Making history, she graced the cover of Atlanta’s upscale magazine, Simply Buckhead, which highlights the remarkable contribution she has already made to the fashion world. She stands as a beacon of inspiration, breaking barriers: She was the first woman of color, the first student, and the first international talent to be on its cover.
Her prowess extends beyond design. As a tailor, seamstress, and costume designer, she has lent her expertise to the TV and film industry collaborating with notable brands and personalities Her work with Pastor Willie Moore Jr on his Love You Moore podcast exemplifies her versatile talent, showing that she blends her style with substance
Nabila Bergwijn has recently graduated magna cum laude from The Art Institute of Atlanta With this exceptional academic achievement, it's clear she's poised to take the fashion industry by storm At Flourish Digital Magazine, we recognize Nabila as a model for personal excellence and achievement, and the power of dreaming big. <
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There’s this place called Milk Bar. Have you heard of it? I discovered the sweet-treat chain when I watched the delicious Netflix documentary series Chef’s Table. In an industry article about Milk Bar founder Christina Tosi, the confectionary chef admits she, initially, wasn’t convinced that she fit in with the internationally renowned chefs who made Chef’s Table a must-see for everyone from casual food and travel fans to legit international foodies. To this day, I remain unconvinced of the fit, but I appreciate the insight I got from watching her segment. You see, the product that launched Tosi into food-world fame was more than familiar to me Because I thought of it myself way back in 1993
Busy feeding two little girls and a husband who loved cold cereal, I was the silent observer standing at the sink as my family turned up bowl after bowl to slurp the last drops of cereal-flavored milk I envisioned a new consumer product and began to flirt with the idea of bringing my brainchild to market. But life went on without me making any concrete moves and. . .rush up to 2007: Christina Tosi was applying for a trademark on cereal milk.
While working as a pastry chef for David Chang, founder of the Momofuku Noodle Bar empire, Tosi was charged with making nightly dessert for staff meals. After exhausting a rotation of typical after-dinner offerings, she created something so addictive that it earned the name “crack pie.” Featuring a creamy pudding-like filling made with corn flakes–flavored milk, the pie was, indeed, a hit. But it was the cereal-flavored milk that turned out to be a gold mine >
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Today, Christina Tosi is the host of a new Netflix series, and she can boast a James Beard award. Her crack pie has been renamed, but it’s still on the menu, as Milk Bar Pie, at sixteen Milk Bar locations. And if you can’t make it to one of the brick-and-mortar stores, you can buy Cereal Milk™ and other classic Milk Bar products online, or even at a grocery store near you
They say that lightning never strikes twice but Christina Tosi proved to me that it can, and it does While the term inspiration can evoke exceptionality, it is really quite ordinary It happens all the time, whether we recognize it or not and it can land on a unique individual or on a multitude The quietest inspiration is folded into our personal preferences, especially those that develop in adulthood. The impetus to try a new style, for example or to take up a new hobby or to travel abroad is inspired by encounters that take place in the regular course of life. Engagement with the world is always the muse.
The same is true for those vivid moments of clarity give way to life-changing paths.
Why, then, do some people experience inspiration more often than others? The difference in frequen can be explained by inspiration’s nature. Inspiration unconscious potential until it is stimulated into conscious availability Active curiosity, an open min and a posture of expectation are ways of being tha invite inspiration to cross that threshold Once inspiration arrives, the body responds with happy chemicals that supply even more creative energy T built-in system of reward tends to cause inspired people to become even more inspired
And research suggests that there’s hope for the res us. Inspiration can be cultivated through neuroplas the brain’s ability to change and adapt in respons experience.
Sustained meta-awareness practices like mindfulne meditation, connecting with nature and drawing ar powerful agents of neuroplasticity that stimulate th formation of new creative pathways in the brain. I a friend who achieves meta-awareness while riding bike. I get there through writing my daily Morning P where I spend ten to fifteen minutes writing down everything that crosses my mind, stream of consciousness, without any concern for grammar o punctuation
A quick study of Tosi’s entrepreneurial start provides insight into the next question that begs an answer. Why are some some people able to advance inspiration and others are not? First, Tosi already had expertise in the culinary field when she was inspired to use cereal to enhance the flavor of milk.
Next, she had a close relationship with a successful entrepreneur who was interested in investing in her idea Not only was Tosi in the right place at the right time, but she was prepared for the inspirational moment Preparedness is where I fell off my flavoredmilk inspiration And that’s why I’m writing about Tosi’s food industry success instead of my own
Fortunately, there are no actual losers in the inspiration game. There’s an endless supply and never cause for regret. We can be certain that inspiration will always find its place, as did Christina Tosi’s in the founding of Milk Bar and as did my own in my writing journey. Whether simple or visionary, personal or public, we all
Laurie Renfro is a writer and spiritual seeker with a Master's degree in Spiritual Psychology from Sofia University in Palo Alto, California (formerly The Institute for Transpersonal Psychology)
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OF SERENITY AND A season
The path to a peaceful life varies based on your past, your present, and what you foresee in the future. As we navigate life, we eventually come to a season where we have more years behind us than we do in front of us. That is an opportunity for a reality check. It’s a point where our priorities change. We realize there are certain things that are not so important anymore.
We have to let go of some of that baggage! Past hurts? Let go! Our adult children may have made decisions we do not agree with decisions that have stressed us out in the past Let go! Maybe we didn’t reach the particular goals in life that we desired to reach; but we’re still here, and we can recognize the fact that we have made some other accomplishments, and reached some other goals Let go! Our relationship status may not be exactly where we desire it to be But we can be grateful We are healthy, we live comfortably, and we have a life Let go! >
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CHARLES NEAL TRANSFORMATIONAL LEADER
Charles Neal stands out as a transformational leader in media and telecom with Genpact, a global professional services and solutions firm. He presides over the Atlanta Chapter of the National Association for Multi-Ethnicity in Communications (NAMIC) With more than twenty-five years of experience, he has skillfully managed and supported communication projects for prominent American corporations. His expertise shines in the development and execution of complex strategies. He is an expert at managing diverse teams, nurturing client relationships and fostering team building.
A business professional through and through, Charles' growth and success have been marked by his ability to adapt and excel in the face of challenges His career trajectory is impressive, beginning with the design of mobile networks; then managing national teams for the deployment of these networks; and now providing strategic direction for enterprise-wide initiatives. As a certified Project Management Professional (PMP), his proficiency extends to working within both Agile and Waterfall lifecycle development methodologies for product enhancements.
Chloé:Charles,howhaveyourexperiencesshapedyou intothemanyouaretoday?Wheredoesyourpassion comefrom?
Charles:BorninBrooklyn,NewYork,Ilatermovedto LongIslandduringmychildhood.Inner-citylife,inmy opinion,differssignificantlyfromotherenvironments Thoughnotintheprojects,welivedcloseby;often,the walkhomefromschoolmeanthavingtofight oneblock oneway,anotherblocktheopposite Thoseearlybattles forcedmeintosurvivalmode.Whenrejectedbyone groupasayoungchild,Idecidedtostartmyown Inretrospect,itseemschildish,butitwasaformative experience.Ittaughtmethatbelongingisdesirable,but notessential Wecancreateourownspaces,andwecan flourishwithinthem I'vesharedthislessonwithmy childrenandanyoneelsewillingtolisten:Don'tseclude yourselfifyou'rerejected Standfirm,andifyou encounterlike-mindedindividuals,unitewiththem Over time,suchaunioncanbecomeformidable,challenging thestatusquo >
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Chloé: It’s intriguing to hear about these kinds of early-life battles. You were fighting in elementary school?
Charles: Yes
Chloé: You had to start defending yourself that early?
Charles: You’re not hearing what I’m saying This was Brooklyn in the 1970s A scuffle could start over something as simple as stepping on someone's sneakers
Chloé: So, these weren't just metaphorical battles?
Charles: Not at all. I recall conflicts over something as trivial as PRO-Keds intense for a child. Those fights, whether over a sports game or defending yourself in the grocery store they were a daily reality. And when you’re that young, it feels like true combat.
Chloé: That resilience must have profoundly influenced your adolescence, shaping you into who you are today.
Charles: Yes, sports became my outlet in high school The competitive spirit I developed in Brooklyn carried me through to victories in track and football and even in academic endeavors We were state champions testament to our collective strength We learned that together, we could achieve greatness beyond the sum of our individual efforts
In high school, the fight was different, but the essence was the same: not to take any setbacks lying down I played football, ran track, and even played basketball to channel that competitive energy. We achieved a lot at Malverne High School [on Long Island]. The collective drive of our teams pushed us to win state championships in track and field, and our football and basketball teams were formidable competitors. There's strength in unity, which was clear as we stood together, identified as formidable athletes and students.
Chloé: That sense of unity and collective effort seems crucial I've always wondered what it's like to be part of a group My family has been involved in team sports, but I've never had the experience myself I’ve played table tennis Would you expand on the importance of group dynamics beyond sports?
Charles: Absolutely. Whether it's in sports or in any other collective effort, there's an underlying current of striving for excellence. Be it a debate team, a dance crew, or an ROTC group, the principle remains the same What matters is the pursuit of excellence and the competitive spirit that drives us This isn't confined to physical sports It's about mental and emotional strength too You may not always win, but the ambition to excel is what builds character and cements your resolve
Chloé: It’s interesting you mention that This spirit of competition and the will to be the best it must have played a significant role during your college years too?
Charles: Definitely. In college, the battleground shifted but the mindset stayed the same. At Morgan State University, the New York reputation preceded me. It was a challenge and a privilege to uphold that standard of tenacity. As part of the fraternity Phi Beta Sigma, I found a new arena to apply that resilience and leadership. The fraternity experience is another type of collective where the bonds formed are strong and lasting. We supported each other, learned from one another, and stood together ready to take on the world
Chloé: The camaraderie and sense of belonging in a fraternity is something quite special, isn't it?
Charles: It is Fraternity life forges bonds that can last a lifetime Beyond the brotherhood, it's about the wider Greek and HBCU community These connections provide support wherever you find yourself After college, I consulted for a time, and when I moved to a new city like Cincinnati, it was made easier by finding fraternity brothers who helped me settle in.
Chloé: That speaks volumes about the power of connection and community. This “excellence in collectiveness,” as you call it, seems to be a recurring theme in your life. Would you say it’s been a driving force for you?
Charles: You've hit the nail on the head, Chloé. My internal drive is to compete not necessarily to outdo everyone else but to do my personal best. If I'm among the top, that's great; but what's more important is the striving itself This extends to any group I'm a part of It's about pushing each other to excel If everyone in a group or organization has that drive, it lifts the whole team up >
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Chloé: It sounds like there's no place for complacency in your approach to life and work.
Charles: None at all. We're always moving forward. At this stage of my life, while the fire to compete is still there, it's tempered with a broader understanding of life's complexities. My focus is on being the best version of myself and helping those in my circle to be their best too.
Chloé: Like a basketball team where each individual contributes to a harmonious whole
Charles: Yes You're familiar with some of the exceptional people in my network Individuals like Dr Maxine Cain, Orlando Hampton, and Anthony E Tuggle they all embody excellence Bringing such people together creates an environment where everyone thrives. We're always moving forward.
Chloé: To achieve something extraordinary, Charles, let’s continue to align with people who have mastered their craft and their big-life game. That way, we create something far greater than the sum of its parts.
Charles: That's the essence of it, Chloé. And within that, there's a need for humility. It's about respecting each person’s unique contribution, and creating a team that’s as strong as its most robust member
Chloé: It’s essential to have that humility, to learn and grow together, isn’t it?
Charles: Yes In a group of strong individuals, everyone’s got to occasionally check their egos to achieve collective goals It's about respect, recognizing each person's strengths and weaknesses, and working together to build a formidable team.
Chloé: A group is only as strong as its weakest link.
Charles: Exactly. But if your weakest link is still above average, it speaks volumes about the group's overall strength. And this philosophy extends beyond professional circles to our personal lives, our communities, and even the events we host or the panels we sit on. It's about leveraging the collective strength for a common good
Chloé: Yes. It’s about the collective the we over the I. Let’s shift gears a bit, and talk about where you are in your career today.
Charles: I work for a Genpact, a firm dedicated to guiding companies through digital transformations where we focus on harnessing data, technology, and analytics to streamline operations. It’s about solving problems to enhance efficiency and productivity ultimately driving revenue.
Chloé: So, basically, you work with organizations to improve their operations through technology
Charles: That's right In the media and communications sector, I collaborate with major companies like Cox Communications and Comcast, helping them navigate the digital landscape
Chloé: Did you play a role in founding the company?
Charles: No, this firm was originally part of General Electric. It’s grown from a business process service provider to a leader in data and Artificial Intelligence technologies. It’s an impressive organization, and I’m proud to be part of it.
Chloé: With such a career, would you say your work aligns with your passion?
Charles: Absolutely. My role at Genpact which lies at the intersection of media, entertainment, and communication aligns perfectly with my background in telecommunications Additionally, my work with NAMIC Atlanta complements my role by connecting me to a network dedicated to diversity in the media and entertainment industries There's a synergy between my professional role and my community involvement that fuels my passion
Chloé: And outside of work, you’re involved with other organizations such as Science, Technology, Engineering and Math (STEM) Atlanta Women and the Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers.
Charles: That’s right. These organizations allow me to give back and make an impact beyond my professional sphere. As we mature, we understand that our contributions to society, the impact we make on others and the legacy we leave behind are what truly matters. >
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Chloé: That sense of community and support is crucial, isn't it?
Charles: Absolutely. I believe in the adage, "It takes a village." If we offer help with sincerity and humility, not just looking for transactions but transformations we lift up everyone, including ourselves.
Chloé: And you’ve mentioned that your family is a grounding force for you
Charles: Yes, they are No matter the accolades outside, at home, I'm just a hubby and a dad It's vital to keep that perspective and to ensure that we’re passing down the right values and skills to our children, so that they, too, can flourish independently
Chloé: Your daughters seem to be following in their parents’ footsteps, carving their own unique paths.
Charles: They are. I'm proud of their independence and their achievements. Whether securing internships on their own or excelling academically and socially at Spelman College, they are creating their own legacies.
Chloé: It’s clear that the cycle of passion you embody extends to your family as well.
Charles: It does It's about creating a cycle of success and positivity that impacts not just ourselves but our broader community And while we can't always be perfect or maintain every relationship, we can strive for consistency And also rekindle lost connections wherever we can
Chloé: So, what message would you like to leave our readers with?
Charles: It’s all about us and we: Building strong communities, exercising humility and recognizing the power of collectivity these are essential. By fostering an environment where we support and uplift each other, we all flourish. <
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