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t’s hard to believe that we’re already half way through the year – time just flies when you’re having fun. My hubbie and I were recently invited to stay at three different properties that encouraged relaxation and much-needed rest. Read all about the French House, the Cob Cottage and Warm Earth Cottage on pages 24-28. We asked former world taekwondo champion Christine Young to be on our cover for this edition as she has always impressed us with her supportive, encouraging and gracious demeanour towards other women. For Christine, taekwon-do is more than a hobby or sport; it’s a way of life that instils not only a healthier lifestyle, but also the inner learnings of selfconfidence, focus and self-discovery. Read about how Christine has turned her martial arts practice into a vehicle for lifelong learning and watch our video at focusmagazine.co.nz/christine to see what went on behind the scenes of the photoshoot. In this edition we meet Dr Bronwyn Copeland who recently swam across Lake Taupō to raise awareness for the P Not Once

campaign. We also meet Neisha Connor, who overcame obstacles that would crush many of us, to become a successful entrepreneur and founder of Beekawa NZ. Snuggle up on your sofa with a warm cup of hot chocolate and enjoy the read. With gratitude

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The Nourished Eatery in Tauranga is a hot-spot for lovers of good, nourishing food and when Sharna McElligott, the founder of this vegan café, decided to publish a cookbook it was sure to be a winner. True enough the cookbook has received rave reviews, not just for the 30 delicious vegan recipes, but also because Sharna openly shares her learnings about the realities of being in business for yourself. As a ME sufferer, Sharna has faced more challenges than most of us but her gutsy determination is truly inspiring.

When Emily Searle’s life was turned upside down with a breast cancer diagnosis that involved a year of surgeries and chemotherapy, she took the advice of a psychologist who suggested she write letters to herself on her good days and read them on her bad days. A week before her double mastectomy she was feeling a little sentimental about her breasts and wrote a letter to them. After sharing this concept on social media, the Dear Boobs project was born. Dear Boobs is a collection of 100 letters and imagery from women all over the world, who have been affected by breast cancer, and offers readers an insight into the significance and impact of their breast surgery and their journey to the ‘new normal’.

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Dr Joe Dispenza’s work is at the intersection of neuroscience, epigenetics and quantum physics and is driven by the belief that each of us has the potential for unlimited abilities and greatness. He teaches people how to rewire their brains and recondition their bodies to make lasting change. He also helps people to heal themselves of illnesses and chronic conditions and to step outside their physical reality and into the quantum field of infinite possibilities. Complicated, yes, but worth watching. focusmagazine.co.nz

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CHRISTINE YOUNG Christine, a 6th dan black belt taekwon-do world champion, talks to focus about selfdiscovery, perseverance and the importance of learning for life

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Out & About

What’s On?

Ask the experts We ask the experts about the effectiveness of Pilates and the causes of bad breath

Travel Dee and Mark Collins explore some unique spots to relax and unwind in the Bay

Creativity in the Bay Of Plenty Mandy Williams captures the essence and innocence of life in art

Style Pages Ready for winter

Product Reviews Anti-aging skincare

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The Last Page Quick questions for Michelle Pleydell from Dress for Success

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HEALTH & WELLBEING

Dr Bronwyn Copeland Swimming across Lake Taupō for P Not Once

Dr Anuya Deshpande Varicose veins

Women and heart attacks Could you be at risk?

Dr Liza Schneider Do’s and don’ts of feeding wild birds

LIFE

Neisha Connor Launching Beekawa helped her recover from eyesight loss

Winter warmers Delicious dishes from Tauranga restaurants

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Tee Gardner Behind The Zoë Journal

Calming the farm naturally Embracing and managing emotions in the workplace

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WONDER WOMEN Following the horrific and tragic mosque shootings in Christchurch, the first Wonder Women event of the year reached out to Tauranga’s Muslim community in a celebration of solidarity, inclusiveness and community spirit.

1. Gabriel Renton, Judith Russell, Pamela Hayes and Joy Gillon 2. Jayne O’Brien and Rachel Grimstrup 3. Jill Batty and Barbara Griffith 4. Melanie Brayshaw and Joy Moir 5. Omnia Saleh and Samira Hammed 6. Diane Bain and Denise Arnold 7. Avey Woods, Jan Edwards and Gillian Kelly 8. Margrit Rohs, Lynne Mischewski and Davina Plummer

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PINK RIBBON LADIES LUNCH AT OCTOPUS’S GARDEN Everyone’s favourite tranquil getaway in the middle of busy Mount Maunganui, Octopus’s Garden teamed up with Cloe’s Creations to organise the coolest women-only garden party. Chef Mikey outdid himself with nibbles and canapés, singer and MC Ngere Paul made sure everyone enjoyed themselves, Emily Searle shared the touching story of the ‘Dear Boobs’ project and Rebecca Tereu filled the space with the wonderful aromas of doTerra oils. Prizes were awarded to the best dressed lady, and vouchers and other prizes were up for grabs. Keep your eyes peeled, as chef Mikey and Tina Leigh are already planning the next event! focusmagazine.co.nz

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HEART AND SOLE WOMEN’S RUN SERIES 9 June Gordon Spratt Reserve, Papamoa heartandsole.nz This is the second in a series of four women-only running events, happening every season around town. You can join the 2.5km, 5km or 7.5km distance options and have great fun in the company of other like-minded women. All participants receive free photos from the event and an impressive goodie bag.

BLACK SWAN, WHITE SWAN 15-16 June Baycourt Community and Arts Centre, Tauranga rnzb.org.nz

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A daring retelling of ballet’s classic Swan Lake comes to Tauranga. A deeply personal take on the classic love story, we follow Siegfried, caught between two women – the black swan and the white swan. Siegfried struggles with ideal love, pure evil, temptation, and most of all, himself.

BAY OF PLENTY PET & ANIMAL EXPO 22-23 June Trustpower Baypark Arena, Mount Maunganui petanimalexpo.co.nz The place to be for anyone who loves animals or owns a pet. Hundreds of the latest products and services for your furry friends, all creatures great and small, attractions, entertainment and demonstrations, all weekend long.

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SERIOUSLY GOOD FOOD SHOW 29-30 June Trustpower Baypark Arena, Mount Maunganui seriouslygoodfoodshow.co.nz Over 130 exhibitors from around New Zealand will be showcasing their brands – from world-famous to previously unheard of in the Bay. And the best news is, the international Food Truck Hub is back for another year. No foodie should miss out on the opportunity to visit this show!

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Ladies Social Cycling

Rotorua Home & Lifestyle Show

LADIES SOCIAL CYCLING 6 July Wintec Rotokauri Campus, Hamilton ladiessocialcycling.org.nz Join this non-competitive, supportive and fun cycling event for ladies of all ages and experience cycling through parts of Hamilton you might never have visited before. The route covers 25-30 km with a stop mid-way for refreshments. The first Saturday of the month is always the best time to join as partners and friends are also welcome to cycle along on these days!

Waikato Mid-Winter Retro Fair

ROTORUA HOME & LIFESTYLE SHOW 12-14 July Energy Events Centre, Rotorua facebook.com/ rotoruahomeandlifestyleshow

WAIKATO MID-WINTER RETRO FAIR 27 July Chartwell Cooperating Church (St Albans), Hamilton facebook.com/waikatoretro

Try gourmet food at The Taste Zone, visit the Artisan Craft Zone or browse through rows and rows of appliances, furniture, cars, electric bikes and other must-have items. Everything from kitchens to new spa pools is on offer at this home owner’s paradise.

Furniture, clothing, toys, jewellery, décor and souvenirs from the 19501970s are up for grabs at this unusual market. Many of these items are no longer manufactured so you won’t find them anywhere else. Bargain hunters, retro lovers and collectable seekers – this is your day out! focusmagazine.co.nz

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ACROSS LAKE TAUPŌ FOR P NOT ONCE

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THE TIDE OF P

A passion for open water distance swimming meant Tauranga psychiatrist Dr Bronwyn Copeland was always going to swim Lake Taupō at some stage in her life. The opportunity to use it to support a campaign helping young people to say ‘No’ to methamphetamine was simply too good to pass up. Words CAROL GARDEN

ronwyn completed her epic swim in late February, and used it to raise funds and awareness for the P Not Once campaign. Founded by Bronwyn’s neighbour and good friend Lavina Good, P Not Once has set out to make short educational videos for social media and a half-hour classroom documentary about the risks and consequences of methamphetamine, or P. Bronwyn’s efforts raised several thousand dollars, enough to start paying for a new video to help parents understand their role in discouraging kids from trying the highly addictive drug. The epic swim spanned the 40km of Lake Taupō from Turangi to the top of the lake in Taupō. Bronwyn set off at 3am in 19 °C water in the dark. For her swim to be officially recognised as an unassisted swim, according to international rules, it had to be done without a wetsuit, so she spent the 11 hours, 59 minutes and five seconds in the water with no insulation other than a regular swimsuit, cap and goggles and heavy-duty sunscreen. “It’s not a glamourous sport,” she says. “My skin was very wrinkly when I got out of the water at the end. The sunscreen is called surf mud and has to be pasted on then scraped off like very bad make-up.”

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FIRST MAJOR SWIM IN SAMOA Bronwyn has always been sporty and joined a swim squad at 19, after an injury prevented her from running. This led to triathlons, and at 30, she did her first Ironman event. But swimming appealed the most. Last year – at 40 – she swam the Apolima Strait, between two islands of Samoa, Upolu and Savai’i, coming first of the ten swimmers competing. “The sea was really rough and the support crew in the accompanying boat were all seasick. We were swimming against currents and the tides – never again,” she says. The Samoa swim was 22km so at 40km Lake Taupō was a step up – the longest distance she’d ever swum. It was challenging swimming in the dark for the first few hours, but there were positive aspects too. “Even though it was colder, and fresh water doesn’t have the buoyancy of salt water, you don’t get the chafe and you can drink it when you’re thirsty. I felt very tired at the end but really pleased at how I’d coped. I didn’t expect to enjoy it, but I did.” Of all the swimmers who attempted the Lake crossing this season, Bronwyn swam the fastest time.

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BEATING MENTAL EXHAUSTION Bronwyn’s biggest fear was mental exhaustion. She’d heard from others who had ‘entered a very dark place between the 20-30km mark’ but she was past this when she had her own mental challenge. “I didn’t think about the enormity of the task, I just did lots of counting to measure distance and to relieve my hip flexors. At 33km I thought I had swum 36km and it was very hard to realise I had to swim a further 7km, not four.” It helped that she knew so many people were watching the swim and supporting her. “My workmates were all watching, and my daughters’ classes too. Knowing they were able to watch the progress graphic on the P Not Once facebook page and the Givealittle page was great.” She was supported by New Zealand swimmer Phil Rush, who holds the record for double and triple crossings of the English Channel, a double crossing of Cook Strait and Lake Taupō. Her first ‘meal’ came after an hour in the water, when she swallowed electrolyte gels while treading water.

RAVAGES OF P The P Not Once cause appealed to Bronwyn on many levels. As a mental health worker in the wider community, she has seen first-hand the terrible effects of methamphetamine addiction. “I see lots of substance abuse problems and they are completely preventable. Young lives are being ruined and as a parent I want to know that I am doing everything I can to prevent this happening.” Her two young daughters have already seen the videos made by P Not Once and she is comfortable discouraging them from trying drugs, through graphic images. “I don’t think it’s a problem if they are scared – it’s a scary life if you take drugs.”

THE NEXT CHALLENGE It’s only a few months since Bronwyn swam Lake Taupō but she has already set her sights on swimming Cook Strait in February 2020. Leading up to this she will do long hours in the pool and more sea swims to train for it. Only one in three swimmers succeed in swimming Cook Strait, where currents and tides have a huge impact. But she’s not one to shy away from a challenge and she firmly believes that anyone can do it, with hard work and dedication. 

Check out the P Not Once videos on YouTube or visit facebook.com/PNotOnce

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Christine Young a life of purpose, perseverance and self-discovery

Numerous New Zealand and international championship titles allude to Christine Young’s string of successes in taekwon-do, yet trophies and medals are almost incidental to what is achievable in martial arts. Rather, it’s the inner journey made through lifelong practice that has led to some of her greatest accomplishments. Christine, 6th dan black belt from Tauranga and co-owner of The Martial Arts Academy, talks to focus about self-discovery, perseverance and the importance of learning for life, whatever your age.

Words: Millie Freeman Images: Vanessa Laval-Glad, Indigo Moon Films & Photography Hair & makeup: Sharyn Butters Hair and Makeup Artist

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hen we meet in early March, Christine Young is getting ready to run free, public self-defence classes to celebrate International Women’s Day. She’s offered these since 2016 to build self-confidence in women and teach the physical skills of self-defence. Promoting gender equality is important too, and participants receive flowers and inspirational messages reminding them of the beauty and diversity of womanhood. A basic understanding of self-defence is important for all women, but she says mindset has a lot to do with confidence and whether women are victimised in the first place. “We teach the physical moves of self-defence, knowing these skills give people more confidence in what they can achieve, and this mental boost shifts their mindset, so it’s a circle of skills – as they learn one they develop the other.” Other sports can inspire self-confidence too, yet can be hard for women to return to later in life if the sport is geared towards competition. Martial arts, however, are more about self-improvement and mastering techniques for yourself. It’s a gradual process, Christine says, of building confidence, trusting instincts and knowing you can achieve something to reach your goals. “We eventually do things in martial arts that we don’t think we could have done physically, but we learn to persevere to overcome the physical challenge that is initially beyond our capability. I have quite a few mums training with me, who’ve come back after a long break and are enjoying finding their self-confidence again and the knowledge that they can achieve so much more from a physical aspect.” This subtle combination of mental and physical training has positive spinoffs for both men and women. Students focus on ‘grading’ goals to reach the next level of their martial art and ultimately develop and deepen their practice, and it is this ability to set goals and achieve them that becomes a valuable life skill. With martial arts training, she says, you learn how to overcome any roadblock.

MARTIAL ARTS PIONEER Christine co-founded Tauranga’s Martial Arts Academy with business partner Scott Coburn in 2013. The Academy is pioneering a new trend in

CHRISTINE IN HER DOBOK, the taekwon-do instructor's uniform. The black vertical stripes signify her rank as an international instructor (4th degree and above). Christine is currently 6th degree.

New Zealand and internationally in offering a wide range of martial arts in one place, for children right through to older adults. A second studio opened in Papamoa last year. While each martial art may look different – some use weapons, others are noncombative and low impact, and some take place mostly on the ground – they all provide effective methods of self-defence, and, once students grade to high levels, the peak of learning is essentially about self-enlightenment and self-discovery. “When you reach black belt you have only just mastered the essentials,” says Christine. “You realise there’s still so much more to learn about the art and especially about yourself. I started taekwon-do when I was 15 and I turn 50 this year, and I’m still learning. Everyone eventually reaches a similar belief and philosophy, and they will often want to share the art with their students because of what they have learnt about fulfilment, achieving goals, or learning to overcome challenge.”

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She credits these learnings as crucial to her own successes in life. As a teenager in Levin she was keen on learning karate kicks but the taekwon-do dojang was nearer to home – before long she found her confidence improving as she learnt the physical skills, so she persevered. By 1990, aged 21, she had earned her black belt, and between 199295 won numerous New Zealand taekwon-do titles. The discipline of focusing on her goals translated into her personal life, and by the mid 90s, as a fully qualified chartered accountant, she moved to England with a clear vision and career path ahead. With her husband studying at Oxford University, taekwon-do was simply a means to keep fit and she juggled training sessions with the University club around her work commitments. At this time of her life – she was 27 – Christine thought she was done with competitive taekwon-do, but as it turned out, the UK selectors had other plans for her. So she began training with the British team to attend the 1997 World Taekwon-Do Championships, coming home with a gold medal in the team power breaking. She attended two more World Championships with the British team, winning three more medals, before putting aside the competition once again and returning to New Zealand in 2006. For the next four years she coached the New Zealand national representative team, while continuing with her professional career. Last year, aged 49, she decided to aim for one more event – this time to represent New Zealand on the world stage – and was delighted to end her competitive career on a high with five gold medals, a silver and a bronze for her age group at the International Taekwon-Do Federation World Cup in Sydney.

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Winning against Australian Champion Ms Melanie Khadi at the Oceania Champs

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Of course, no path is without its hurdles and unexpected detours, and Christine has confronted difficult decisions in her life; once again she credits her martial arts practice for instilling self-confidence. When her husband returned to New Zealand from the UK she made the decision to remain and focus on her career in London instead; essentially ending the relationship. In 2006, when her mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she wrestled with leaving London and returning home to support her parents, and later, when she decided to stop work entirely to set up her Martial Arts Academy, she again had a big decision to make – this time facing the uncertainty of leaving behind a reliable income for a life offering far less financial security. “I think martial arts practice teaches us to live more deliberately, rather than being swept along in the current and drifting through life, or getting stuck in our own comfort zones,” she says. “So I’ve never been afraid to step out of the current and take up new challenges, because I believe in my own strength of mind and the confidence in my abilities to know I’d be okay whatever roadblocks I might face. “It’s our own self talk that prevents us from doing more things in life because of fear of failure, and even with small failures we tend to give up too easily.”

LEADER AND INFLUENCER When her students have left for the day, Christine changes focus and begins her own training. While the thought of a

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DELIBERATE LIFE CHOICES

Demonstrating step-sparring at National Novice Women's

CHRISTINE TOOK UP BRAZILLIAN JIU-JITSU, which goes with the theme of being a lifelong learner, when she started The Academy. In this martial art Christine is a white belt, a beginner student, but was awarded the National Women’s <56kg Gi Champion (not age group related) in 2016 and in 2015 managed two bronzes and a silver at Nationals.

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workout after a hectic schedule may seem onerous to many of us, Christine says it’s energising, and naturally, she is preparing for her next big goal – grading for her 7th dan black belt in February 2020. Achieving that would see her become the highest graded female for ITF Taekwon-Do in the country. Not only is she leading the way in her own practice, Christine was the first woman to coach a New Zealand representative taekwon-do team and, in 2011, became one of the first women in the country to become accredited as an international umpire for a world event. In April, as a beneficiary of a Prime Minister’s Performance Scholarship, she joined the New Zealand delegation to umpire at the World Championships in Germany. As she says, small successes led to bigger successes and her story is a reminder to all women: whether it’s competing, participating or trying something completely new, focus on your goals and don’t let age be a barrier to going after what you want.

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And when you live your life with purpose and focus, can there be any regrets, even when you turn a hobby into a profession? Not for this determined and influential woman. “When I was young I always had a feeling that I wanted to influence more people, to work with others to help them overcome their fears. I feel that martial arts are definitely a great vehicle for that and for building strong communities at the grassroots. It’s like my candy store here – I get to work with an amazing team of instructors and reach so many people from all walks of life.” With student numbers now over 600 ranging from aged 4 to late 70s, and a number of instructors teaching in a full-time capacity, The Martial Arts Academy is creating opportunities for hundreds of people to experience the physical and mental elements of martials arts, whether to dip their toe in at the edge, or to appreciate a life-long journey of self-discovery and fulfilment. 

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IF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is affecting your life

aving a happy and healthy relationship is what we all strive for, but sadly, New Zealand has some of the highest domestic violence statistics in the developed world. Research consistently shows that all sections of our society are impacted by domestic violence. It does not respect age, socio-economic position, geographic location or gender. Domestic violence can be carried out by anyone you are in a close relationship with. It could be a partner, ex-partner, carer, friend, flatmate or family member. The team of legal experts based in the Tauranga and Rotorua offices of The Law Shop are highly experienced in Family Law, and they have assisted many families in dealing with domestic violence-related litigation. If you are a victim of domestic violence, it is essential you get expert legal advice so that you are aware of the options available to you. You may be eligible for legal aid, and you can contact The Law Shop at any time. “In some cases, it may be appropriate to file urgent applications under the Domestic Violence Act seeking a Protection Order. This generally happens when there is a risk to the immediate safety of the applicant,” explains Sarsha Tyrrell, one of The Law Shop’s Family Law specialists.

“The Act recognises that domestic violence, in all its forms, is unacceptable. It offers legal protection for victims of physical, verbal and psychological abuse,” she says. “Our team understands the urgent nature of situations that involve domestic violence, and in some cases, an urgent Temporary Protection Order may be applied for and obtained in the same day.” Many of The Law Shop’s clients who have moved on from the Family Court process have made positive changes in their lives. Sarsha says it is incredibly rewarding to have been a part of that process. WHERE TO GET HELP: The Law Shop: 0800 LAW SHOP It's Not OK: 0800 456 450 Living Without Violence: 0800 577 003 Shine: 0508 744 633 Victim Support: 0800 650 654 Women's Refuge: 0800 733 843 If it is an emergency and you feel like you or someone else is at risk, call 111 and ask for the police.

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GET YOUR LEGS

A medical condition can be a heavy burden, and when people are relieved of it they realise how hard it was to bear, and how good it is to finally be free.

atalie (37) has a family history of varicose veins and finally had them treated last September, once she had the last of her four children. While there was the usual heaviness and aching from her ropey leg veins, the main discomfort she suffered was heat, as she wore winter clothes in the height of summer to hide her legs. “They got worse with each child, especially after our second child. I used to wear jeans and thick tights all year round – I was too embarrassed for anyone to see my legs.” This embarrassment even extended to her own children. “If our three-year-old ever saw them she would put her hand on them to rub them better. She thought they were painful.”

Actual patient: before and two months after non-surgical treatment for varicose veins. Individual results may vary.

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For Karen (38), her veins were more of a medical problem than a cosmetic one. “Mine weren’t nearly as dramatic as many people’s. There was just one vein on my leg that would embarrass me, but I’m a real fluid retention person. I had bad cellulite, I always had restless legs and they would be swollen at the end of the day. Once I had kids they got even worse.” When her doctor suggested that many of her problems could be due to underlying varicose veins she made an appointment to see a Tauranga-based phlebologist. An ultrasound scan in the initial consultation revealed large underlying varicose veins from her groin to her ankle. “It’s quite a personal thing to say to someone, ‘I don’t like the way my legs look’, but she was so real and I just felt she wanted to help me solve the problem. The treatment didn’t feel invasive or even particularly painful. Although the compression stockings were a bit of a hassle, I wore them and followed all the instructions, like exercising and not sitting with my legs crossed, because I wanted the best possible result.”

Like Karen, Natalie found exercise was the best way to relieve discomfort after the procedure. “You have to keep the exercise going – that’s the best way to relieve the discomfort. A couple of weeks later, when I had healed, I got back into classes.” Last summer both women put on swimsuits and headed to the beach for the first time in ages. For Karen, this meant a tropical holiday – with more even skintone and less cellulite and fluid retention. Natalie says she just enjoyed being able to join her kids in the water. “I finally wore shorts during the summer and had a totally different experience – it was great to feel cooler. This is a good time of the year to get your legs done if you want to get them out next summer.” 

Dr Anuya specialises in varicose veins, skin cancer medicine and surgery as well as cosmetic medicine. 0800 DR ANUYA doctoranuya.co.nz

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ASK THE EXPERTS HOW QUICKLY CAN I EXPECT RESULTS FROM CLASSICAL PILATES? The wonder of Classical Pilates is that anyone, at any age, can get started. Through controlled and progressive movements, a total reshape of your body will occur over time. It is a totally holistic technique for both men and women that concentrates on working the body as a whole rather than individual parts. During sessions, the Pilates technique will reintroduce your ‘mind to body’ connection. By focusing the mind, regulating your breathing and making use of internal resistance, it becomes an extremely powerful way to tone the body. It is not only about the repetitions but also the concepts. The exercises are dynamic stretches; they are active movements that lead to an increase in range of motion, overall flexibility, better balance, improved posture, increased core stability and strength. By attending two sessions per week you will achieve results in the time frames as promised by Joseph H. Pilates: “You will feel better in 10 sessions, look better in 20 and have a completely new body in 30.” Pilates is a journey to improving your daily activities, and most of all, having fun. Exercising in the morning will set you up for the day, while exercising in the evenings will release the stresses of the day and ensure better sleep.

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WHY DO I HAVE BAD BREATH? If your colleagues keep you at arm’s length and only your best friend dares to tell you that it may be because you have bad breath, it’s time to act. Some obvious causes are easy to eliminate or remedy, such as smelly foods, alcohol or cigarettes. Certain medicines or medical conditions can also cause bad breath. However, the most common causes are poor oral hygiene or poor oral health. If you don’t brush and floss your teeth regularly, food particles stuck between your teeth decompose and lead to a build-up of plaque on teeth, which causes an odour of its own. This creamy plaque, if not removed, then hardens to tartar. Such an environment is a perfect breeding ground for ever-present oral bacteria that thrive and often cause periodontal disease, i.e. an infection of the gums. Once pockets in the gums have developed that are colonised by bacteria, brushing and flossing can eliminate bad breath only temporarily. Periodontal disease is treatable. It can be prevented by adopting a proper, regular oral hygiene routine, seeing a dental hygienist twice a year and going for regular check-ups to the dentist. Bad breath can be eliminated with good, new oral hygiene habits.

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WOMEN AND HEART DISEASE

COULD YOU BE AT RISK? All women face the threat of heart disease. And women are more likely than men to have heart attack symptoms without chest pain. Women tend to show up in emergency rooms after heart damage has already occurred because their symptoms are not those usually associated with a heart attack, and because, as women, we often downplay the warnings.

hile many of us may be familiar with heart attack symptoms in men and often consider heart disease as a ‘man’s disease’, the latest Ministry of Health figures show that more than 3,000 New Zealand women die each year as a result of heart disease and there are more than 65,000 living with the condition. The Heart Foundation says heart disease kills twice as many women in New Zealand than any other single cause.

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Often these deaths are premature and preventable as the signs and symptoms are often incorrectly interpreted. Nearly two thirds of women who die from a heart attack have no history of chest pain but, instead, experience symptoms like indigestion, gas, nausea, unusual fatigue, shortness of breath or dizziness. These symptoms can appear and then recede so the sufferer often assumes stress or exhaustion is the cause, or confuses this with some other illness and fails to seek medical attention.

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KNOW THE SIGNS

MANAGE YOUR RISK

Nearly two thirds of women who die from a heart attack have no history of chest pain and are more likely to experience other symptoms, with or without chest discomfort, such as:

• Stop smoking • Eat a healthy, balanced diet • Be active, for at least 30 minutes, every day

• Discomfort in the jaw, neck, shoulder, back and arm • Shortness of breath • Nausea or vomiting • Sweating • Light-headedness or dizziness • Unusual fatigue

WHEN SHOULD WOMEN GET A CHECK?

RISK FACTORS To protect yourself from having a heart attack, you need to reduce your risk factors. Smoking, being overweight, high blood pressure, diabetes and a family history of heart disease all contribute to an increased risk of heart attack. The risk also increases in women who have gone through menopause as their metabolism and body fat distribution can change. Menopause can also cause an increase in blood cholesterol level, blood pressure and insulin resistance.

Visiting your doctor or nurse for a heart check will identify anything that may be putting you at risk of a heart attack or stroke. The best time to do this is: • Women without known risk factors – 55 years • Women with significant known heart disease risk factors – 45 years • Māori, Pacific and Indo-Asian women – 40 years • Women with type 2 diabetes – annually, as part of the diabetic review If you are experiencing the symptoms of a heart attack, seek medical assistance quickly to avoid the risk of permanently damaging your heart or sudden death. Call 111 immediately. For further information visit heartfoundation.org.nz

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Time to pause and reset We often start the year off with good intentions only to slip back into the pressures of life a few months in. Sometimes we need to unplug in order to recharge, to escape the big smoke for a taste of country air and experience luxurious pampering or off-the-grid solitude and quiet. Our quest for this edition’s health and wellbeing theme was to find three very different accommodation experiences, close to Tauranga, that offered loads of ‘me time’, where we could kick back and relax. Words DEE COLLINS

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o say that we were impressed with the diversity of accommodation on offer in the Bay of Plenty would be an understatement. There was so much to choose from and so little time! Joining me on this search was my hubbie Mark, who, I might add, needed little persuasion to accompany me. We enjoyed the luxurious opulence of the French Country House, the rustic appeal of Warm Earth Cottage and the quiet solitude of The Cob House.

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LUXURIOUS FRENCH CHARM Nestled in the farmlands of Pahoia, 25 minutes north of Tauranga, is a luxurious tranquil oasis that offers weekend escapes or romantic getaways and is often chosen by bridal couples for their honeymoon. We arrive at the French Country House just as the Bay of Plenty drought ends but the rain is soon forgotten as Kay, with fur baby Freddie, welcomes us into the fabulous chateau. A tour around the house reveals three guest bedrooms, each with its own charm, an evening lounge area, a day room that leads onto the breakfast room, an expansive dining room and gorgeous kitchen with butler’s pantry. Luxury antique furnishings and fittings complement the comfortable modern facilities. There’s also a library nestled atop a spiral staircase that calls out for further investigation. Lovely old books sit across from newer reads and comfortable leather couches and chairs beckon me for a few hours of book time. A verandah leads out from the downstairs living rooms and, with an outdoor fireplace and dining table, is used for evening drinks or morning breakfast. Our room is on the first floor and overlooks a paddock with grazing sheep. Our ensuite has a spa bath for two and a rainhead shower tucked into an alcove. Beautiful basins, underfloor heating, hand-batched New Zealand toiletries, hot fluffy towels, bathrobes and slippers complete the picture.

The curtains and bed linen are luxurious and add to the deluxe feel. A flat screen TV is hidden inside a bureau and there’s complimentary broadband and WiFi, but our aim is to be ‘unplugged’. Downstairs we make ourselves at home in the day room and are offered bubbles or afternoon tea. We opt for the latter and sup from gorgeous china teacups and saucers, and devour freshly baked carrot cake. We’re already chatting to Kay as if we’ve known her for ages; she excels at finding out what we’re looking for during our visit and makes us feel at home. We’re also encouraged to help ourselves, at any time, to complimentary morsels and treats in the kitchen fridge. With years of experience in the hospitality industry behind her, Kay can advise guests on the various tourist experiences and restaurants in the region and she’s happy to organise the trips too. Added to that, Kay is also a wedding celebrant and wedding planner and has organised many intimate weddings in the downstairs reception room with its long tables and brocaded tablecloths, crystal chandeliers, natural rustic timbers and an open fireplace. With a break in the rain we decide to explore the surrounds. For an additional charge guests can enjoy horse-riding lessons with the on-site riding instructor or a trek over farmland and native bush, but we’re content to walk and explore some of the 40-acre property and offer a few fresh carrots to the horses. Cheyenne, the donkey, is also happy to join guests for a walk but today she is content with her fair share of pats and carrots.

Pre-dinner canapés and drinks are on offer in the formal lounge and it’s an opportunity for us to chat to holiday makers from the USA. We progress through to the dining room where the table is laden with fresh flowers, greenery and all the glassware, cutlery and crockery that you would expect from such a fabulous setting. We then experience Kay’s other talent, cooking, and are served a delicious three-course meal with wines to match. Whilst we indulge in this culinary delight, Kay and a helper nip up to our rooms to turn down the sheets, close the curtains and sprinkle fresh rose petals in the spa bath. I could get used to this! Before bedtime we take a few moments on the verandah to enjoy the clearing night sky, breathe in the country air and enjoy the twinkling lights of Tauranga in the distance. I can already feel the tightness in my shoulders easing. The bed is comfy, the room is quiet and dark, and it isn’t long before we’re both sound asleep. Next morning, although we really shouldn’t be eating anything else, we amble downstairs and are drawn to the morning room where a leisurely breakfast beckons. We are offered a hot breakfast of our choice, which we decline, as we’ve already been enticed by the assortment of mueslis, fresh and stewed fruit, yoghurts and toast. Fresh orange juice and tea or coffee round off the selection. Sublime! Kay’s heartfelt belief is that “you arrive as guests and leave as friends” and this is certainly the case as we bid farewell later that morning. focusmagazine.co.nz

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PEACE AND TRANQUILLITY AT WARM EARTH Prior to our visit to Warm Earth Cottage I’ve been corresponding with Jan, the owner, so by the time we arrive we’re already friends. Jan is passionate about her property and her enthusiasm shines through. We get the grand tour and are already impressed that Jan does everything herself. Warm Earth Cottage is the name of the communal cabin – separate from the accommodation cabins – that guests can visit if they are desperate for the modcons of life … such as electricity! It’s a place of quiet contemplation where you can listen to music or take a book from the library and sprawl out in front of the fire with a hot chocolate or coffee. There’s no WiFi here; that’s only available up the hill near the office, and Jan reminds us that staying at Warm Earth is about unplugging from our gadgets and reconnecting, communicating and relaxing. The two secluded cabins on the property – Tranquillity and Serenity – are quaint structures oozing character and charm, and designed after the miners’ cottages of yesteryear. Each cottage accommodates one couple, and there’s no electricity – just the promise of warm evocative lighting from the candles and lantern. The cabins are simply furnished and cooking is via a barbeque on the veranda; there’s also a gas burner to boil the billy for a cuppa. A room with a toilet and wash basin is attached to each cabin and shower facilities are located in a bathroom unit between the two guest cabins. We’ve been gifted a barbeque dinner hamper from Master Chef Trudie Robinson (Masterchef Top 5, 2014) – these are available to order before your arrival and I highly recommend them. As the sun begins to set we fire up the barbie and begin cooking the steaks, marinated chicken thighs and mushrooms. Delicious salads, a small cheese platter and handmade choccies accompany the meal. Everything is delicious and, as an added bonus, there’s enough left over for the next evening. The highlight of the evening is a bush bath that Jan lights each night for her guests. With wine glass in hand we enjoy a leisurely soak and while away a few hours, topping it up with cold water as the fire continues to heat the base. Admittedly I’m not an early-to-bed person, but my husband is. While he sidles off for the night, I sit outside, initially agitated because I can’t read, catch up on social media or check emails. I remind myself why I’m here, and walk outside, take a deep breath and relax into the darkness and solitude of the night. It’s a long time since I’ve stood outside in complete darkness. I listen to the nearby Waitekohe stream, the night birds and other sounds of the night percolating around me. I embrace the solitude before heading indoors to our cabin and a good night’s sleep. We receive a breakfast hamper next morning and leisurely prepare bacon, eggs, hash browns and home-grown tomatoes. We explore the beautiful gardens that Jan has lovingly created and, as it’s so hot, we can’t resist a dip in the nearby stream. The rest of the afternoon is spent snoozing and reading. The time we’ve had away from the noise of the real world and another early night means we wake refreshed and recharged – it’s time to head back to work and deadlines.

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GLAMPING IN THE HILLS The Bay of Plenty has an abundance of locations offering opportunities to recharge and get back to basics. The Cob Cottage, sitting high on the Papamoa Hills, offers a glamping experience and is only a 20-minute drive from The Mount. If you’re a sucker for a bit of rustic charm, the Cob Cottage is for you. The cottage is a quaint, organic building that was lovingly created by owners Tess and Marco Partridge, along with a team of helpers. The couple live on the property with their three children, Marco’s dad Don, and a menagerie of animals including chickens and a small herd of cows. The family live a sustainable lifestyle and were keen to offer accommodation that used natural resources to blend in with the surrounding area. The method of mixing clay, sand and straw to build a ‘cob’ is an ancient and natural method of building. The cob has incredible thermal properties, soaking up sunlight in the walls during the day and releasing the heat at night. This helps keep the cottage warm in winter

and cool in summer. The walls are left to dry for a few months before the cob is finished off with an interior and exterior application of natural earth plaster. Our campsite has various sections. The Cob Cottage is the bedroom part and contains a really comfy queen-sized bed with comfortable linen and blankets. We also have an outdoor self-catering kitchen equipped with gas stovetop, pots, pans, cutlery and crockery. There’s no fridge, just a chilly bin with ice bricks, so we quickly unpack our groceries and perishables. We read the instructions for the composting toilet – non-flush with a bucket of sawdust and shovel – all part of sustainable living and keeping the carbon footprint to a minimum. The Cob Cottage is off the grid and powered by the sun so although there’s lighting in the bedroom and campsite, the single plug is only to be used for recharging devices such as iPads and phones and not for hairdryers, straighteners or other electrical items. Although there’s no WiFi available we do get mobile reception which, of course, means I upload a few stories to Instagram and check my emails. As it’s focusmagazine.co.nz

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a work day for most, I’m also interrupted with a few phone calls before doing the right thing and turning my phone off! We enjoy a short bushwalk on the property before cooking our dinner of steak and mushrooms. Our outside dining room has peaceful views across the countryside to the twinkling lights of Tauranga harbour. Firing up the brazier and toasting marshmallows is tempting but we decide to leave it for our second night and instead immerse ourselves in a hot outdoor bubble bath. A cup of tea while chatting under the starry sky sees the end to a pleasant day. We set off the next morning for a brisk walk on the adjoining Summerhill Golf course – it’s an easy walk with undulating terrain and, on one side, gorgeous views across to Papamoa and the Tauranga harbour. If you’re a golfer, bring your clubs or hire a set – Green fees are just $20. The entry to the Otawa Trig DOC walk is accessible down the road from the campsite and the Kaiate Falls, with its choice of swimming holes, is a two-minute drive down the road. If mountain biking is your thing, there are heaps of mountain bike tracks nearby. The rest of the afternoon is spent lazing on bean bags, reading and soaking up the tranquillity, but, after discovering a basket full of board games under the bed, we spend the evening kicking back with some competitive entertainment. Before we know it, it’s time to pack up and head back to the city. We’ve had a chance to enjoy a healthy dose of Mother Nature – we’ve relaxed, reset our course and enjoyed the fresh country air. Thankfully we don’t have too far to drive home and we hope it’s not too long before we enjoy another taste of serenity in one of the wonderful properties that we are so lucky to have right here on our doorstep. 

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Feeding our

New Zealand Wild Birds Running a wildlife rehabilitation facility that takes in more than 800 birds a year offers some wonderful insight into how our wildlife is affected by human activity. Many birds are injured and orphaned because of humans, from the shags brought in with fishing hooks and line stuck in and around their bodies, to the baby birds whose nests are destroyed because of tree felling. Words DR LIZA SCHNEIDER, HOLISTIC VETS

• Malnutrition • Obesity • Ducklings may learn to beg for food rather than forage for a balanced diet • Uneaten bread can become mouldy and toxic if eaten later • Bread that is uneaten in the water may also contribute to algal blooms and depletion in water quality, which can

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contribute to diseases such as botulism. (In a low-oxygen water environment, bacteria produce a toxin that causes birds to become paralysed.)

HERE ARE SOME FOODS THAT ARE SAFER TO USE – IDEALLY USE A VARIETY OF THESE: • Defrosted frozen peas • Corn • Duck pellets • Lettuce and other greens torn into small pieces • Seeds • Wholemeal bread, but only in moderation Also be mindful that providing food to wild animals can create dependence and lead to negative issues, such as over-crowding of water-birds as they congregate where food is easily available, aggressive behaviour and a decrease in their natural behaviours. Having respect and appreciation for our wildlife and animals in our society is so important. Ghandi said, “The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.” 

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hankfully there are many people who are thoughtful, compassionate and kind, and have a true love and appreciation for our feathered co-inhabitants, doing whatever they can to help them. A common activity is feeding wild birds to attract them to gardens, and also to facilitate interaction – often a rewarding and joyous experience – for example, taking the kids to feed the ducks. It’s important to know that some foods can be foul to waterfowl (!) and cause more harm than good. Balanced nutrition is an important aspect of wellbeing for any animal. When we feed bread to birds there can be negative consequences to the birds’ health, especially if the bread becomes a large part of their diet. These consequences may include:

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NEISHA CONNOR helping people to heal herself

The morning when she suddenly lost her eyesight split the whole life of Te Puke photographer and happy wife and mum, Neisha Connor, into ‘before’ and ‘after’. A firm believer that everything happens for a reason, she didn’t let that ‘episode’, as she now calls it, let her down and found a new way to do what she loves the most – helping people. She created Beekawa – a natural healing balm that kiwis are raving about. Words & Images KSENIIA SPODYNEIKO

eisha always believed in signs. She grew up in Te Puke, in a loving family with two brothers. Right next to their farm was her favourite hill with gorgeous views. “I remember climbing up that hill as a kid and saying to mum that I wanted to live there. She was just laughing, because that land was for the cows, not humans.” Fast forward some good dozen years, when Neisha and her husband Simon were looking for a place to settle down, that land suddenly went up for sale! They bought it and built their dream home overlooking the peaceful Bay of Plenty countryside. Exactly the way she’d always envisioned it. She might have missed another sign from her childhood, though. Neisha’s favourite pastime was to pick dandelions from their paddock. Little did she know she would later harvest those dandelions again. Not as a curious kid any

more but as a lady boss, brewing Beekawa balms for at least 300 excited customers per week. Instead, Neisha decided to chase her other passion – photography. “I've had a camera in my hands since I was 10. I also did photography as a part of my Waikato University teaching degree.” She taught full-time for 14 years and only really got into photography after giving birth to daughter, Marlia-Rose (6) and son, Beauden (4). “We decided that I’d be a stay at home mum and look after our kids. It made no sense for me to go and teach other people’s children while someone else had to teach ours. There was no pressure to earn money but the opportunity to photograph weddings and family portraits meant I could bring in a bit of extra coin and I felt better for it.” Her side hustle snowballed into something bigger quite focusmagazine.co.nz

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quickly. In the blink of an eye she found herself operating from her own studio, doing six photoshoots per day and staying up night after night editing the images. “I was working a ridiculous number of hours. I’m not sure how I managed to sustain it for so long, to be honest. But I really loved it. I was meeting new people, going to stunning places. I felt really honoured that people trusted me to capture the most precious moments of their life.”

THE DARK DAY Alarm bells soon rang. “In March last year I started getting frequent headaches and noticed a weird blur in my right eye. I thought I was just really tired. I told no one what was happening and kept on flying at high speed, just using my other eye to take photos.” That dreadful Thursday morning three weeks after the first symptoms appeared, Neisha woke up to complete darkness. Her right eye had stopped functioning. She was taken to Tauranga hospital. “I was terrified. Brain tumour, glaucoma, cataract – diagnoses were rejected one by one. I went through so many tests but no-one could give me an answer. That was the scariest time of my life.” A year later, Neisha still doesn’t have a definite diagnosis. Although the right eye has healed by itself almost entirely, she is legally blind in her left eye (that second ‘episode’ happened three months later). Even in hospital, all Neisha could think about was her work. She had a wedding photoshoot on the Saturday. “I told my doctor – I needed to be out by then. I just couldn’t let those people down.” When it became clear she wasn't going anywhere any time soon, Neisha grabbed her phone to find a photographer to replace her. It was the high season and everyone was booked out. Except for one woman, whose partner was having a birthday that day and so she wasn’t working. “I started to chat to her and we just clicked. Her vision, her attitude – I knew I could trust her.” Now Neisha could finally relax and focus on her health. “After the second ‘episode’ I had to

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admit that was it with my passion. No one would ever want to hire a blind photographer! It broke my heart. I cried so many tears. I felt absolutely helpless and guilty for putting my family into a situation where we had to spend so much money on my tests and medication and also pay back all the customers who’d booked my photoshoots months and years ahead.”

HELPING OTHERS TO HEAL HERSELF No longer able to work as a photographer, Neisha couldn’t sit still, so she took kawakawa leaves they used for tea, and wax she bought for candles and decided to brew a balm for her family. Her husband, who is a builder, and her little kids are no strangers to cuts and bruises, so creating something healing for them made her feel better mentally. “It wasn’t ideal, of course. I did it on my stove and reused an old jar to keep it. I didn’t have coconut oil, so it turned out really solid. But it still worked!” After three months of trial and error, googling recipes and gathering feedback, Neisha was finally ready to set up a proper business. The name was born immediately. “I was just looking at my ingredients – beeswax, kawakawa… Beekawa! At first that new word made me giggle every time I pronounced it but I had no doubt it was the right one.” When Neisha signed up for last year’s Focus on Women Expo, she was barely six weeks into it. “We had to quickly launch the website, print T-shirts with logos and learn how to look as professional as possible, while, in fact, we were only just on our first baby steps.” Beekawa turns one this year and with 30 to 70 orders per day, Neisha admits she has never been busier and happier in her life. “I’m at home, spending time with my kids, and Simon takes a day off here and there. And my house just smells so wonderful!” The delicious aroma comes from the natural ingredients she uses. There are no essential oils in Beekawa balm, and the mixture is brewed from plants that she harvests by hand or sources

from small local businesses like Belle Honey Co. in Papamoa. “It was never about the money for me. I wanted to help people, so I’m adamant about using real plants, supporting local businesses and creating something that really works. We also follow all Māori traditions in harvesting kawakawa: karakia (prayer) is said, any left-over kawakawa is always put back and we don’t harvest in the rain. The whole process requires a lot of extra time but I won’t give up on keeping it very personal.” Neisha and her customers are still discovering new ways to use her product. What was created as a healing balm for cuts and scratches, turned out to be a great moisturiser for lips and skin as well. “One of my customers uses it in her bath and the other one says it’s the best makeup remover she's ever used!” 

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SOOTHES ECZEMA, BITES, BURNS, ACNE AND DRY SKIN

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UNREFINED BEESWAX ACTS AS A PROTECTIVE LAYER ON THE SKIN, LOCKS IN MOISTURE, REDUCES ITCHING

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COCONUT OIL HAS ANTIBACTERIAL PROPERTIES, SOFTENS SKIN AND REDUCES WRINKLES

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y t i v i t a e Cr in the ty n e l P f o y a B

MANDY WILLIAMS

Mandy’s passion for art began when she was a child – given a pen and paper, she’d be happy for hours. Her working career has always been in the creative industry however she didn’t start painting until her son was born 15 years ago. It began with wanting to have something nice to go on his walls but with little available it was the perfect opportunity to get into painting, keeping it super simple with no expectations. Once she began she couldn’t put the brush down!

COURAGE (left) & PRIDE (right) These two pieces are a set, combining the English William Morris wallpaper with a Māori boy and girl, along with our precious birds. This shows how the strength and beauty of each combines into one.

rom there Mandy did paintings for friends and that’s when the commissions started. She does other works alongside these so she’s continually learning, exploring and developing. It also gives people an opportunity to buy original art, instead of having to wait for a commissioned piece, and allows Mandy to create prints and other pieces, making her art accessible to everyone. “It blows my mind that there are people who enjoy my art as much as I do. I love that something I enjoy so much can bring so much joy!” Where do you find the inspiration for your artworks? It’s all around me, sometimes in the most random places. Initially it was certainly from my children, and still is. But it could be at a park or beach depending on what I’m painting. I love books and use Pinterest a lot these days, which is fabulous! How would you describe your style and method? I often get asked this question and never know quite what to say … so here goes … figurative, contemporary works, capturing the essence and innocence of life. The eyes are so important for me – this is where we capture the world and create our reality. To youthful eyes, the most simple pleasures are mesmerising.

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ORIGAMI BIRDS Capturing the childlike energy and pose of a young girl with her cat, both present with the stillness of the moment, but the cat really patiently waiting to pounce! William Morris Wallpaper adorns the background, with 24 carat gold wings on the birds. SERENITY A moment captured with a girl and her pet bunny. Calm and still, this piece brings Mandy peace and warmth. Painted on William Morris wallpaper, and includes a vintage stool that a lot of us would remember from childhood days.

What themes do you pursue? Generally there is a New Zealand feel somewhere. I try not to be too kitch about it though. Recently I have done a series of children with their furry or feathery friends, based around interior design, using beautiful wallpapers and fabrics. I’m currently embarking on a ‘round’ series of works, of beautiful faces or parts of faces with oils. And I have another series aching to get out after that one, using stencils and spray paint. There is never a shortage of ideas, just a shortage of time! Why do you do what you do? Because I love it. I feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing when I paint. If I’m not being creative it’s like I’m missing a part of me. When I speak to people who my art resonates with, it’s just so rewarding; sometimes they are literally moved to tears of joy – it just blows my mind! Enjoying art is about being present in the moment, not just looking but seeing and feeling; there is no right or wrong. What is your dream project? Mmmm good question … maybe a collaboration with a super inspirational artist, doing something fun like that. Or maybe a show somewhere fabulous, like New York! Melbourne would be awesome too!. 

To find out more you can email Mandy on info@mandywilliams.co.nz mandywilliams.co.nz facebook.com/mandywilliamsart Instagram: mandy_williams_art

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TAURANGA WINTER WARMERS Images ALEX SPODYNEIKO

MEAT AND SEAFOOD WITH A TWIST AT THE MILL HOUSE An inviting cosy gastro bar and eatery in the middle of Tauranga Crossing precinct, The Mill House Espresso, Bar and Eatery, is immediately welcoming with its wooden décor, open fireplace and greenery. It’s the perfect gathering place for a bunch of hungry friends. Mouthwatering dishes – using local and seasonal products – are carefully prepared by a team of chefs. Popular choices include the four juicy “Hooks” – beef, duck, chicken or salmon & prawn – served with a generous portion of beerbattered fries or fresh garden salad. The presentation of this dish will impress even the veteran foodies. themillhousetga.co.nz

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AUTHENTIC SOUP AT THE FAT COW SMOKEHOUSE Japanese ramen is the hottest food trend at the moment and The Fat Cow Smokehouse is leading the way with delicious variations of this moreish broth. Variety is important to Mexican chef and owner Jorge Sahagun Arizaga and you’ll find, with every visit, a new adaptation of their popular dishes – sausage on the menu one week might be venison, the next it will be beef. The same with ramen – each week you’ll discover new taste sensations. Recent renovations to the restaurant include an open kitchen so you can watch your food being prepared in real time. @thefatcowsmokehouse

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ELEGANT DINING AT THE RAFT Always a cut above, The Raft Espresso Bar & Eatery is well-known for its delicious lunch and breakfast menus and range of sweet and savoury dishes from the cabinet. But did you know that The Raft is also open for dinner from Tuesday to Saturday? Duck season is in full swing and heralding the bird in the best possible way, chefs at The Raft have included this elegant dish on their winter menu. The Duck Tarte Tatin, charged with fragrant spices, plum sauce, star anise and beetroot is a contemporary and elevated dish, that is pleasing on the eye and a delight to the taste buds. Paired with a glass of pinot noir on a chilly evening by the fire makes for beautiful refined dining. theraft.co.nz

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FAST & FANCY L.B.L.T. BAGEL AT OCTOPUS’S GARDEN Chef Mikey satisfies our love of both lamb and bacon with a revolutionary approach to convenience foods. Using his own in-house recipe of cured ‘lamb bacon’ and a delicious bagel made exclusively for Octopus’s Garden by local brand Billy’s Bagels, this is far from your average B.L.T., giving people from all walks of life a chance to experience bacon in a very kiwi way. Another excellent reason to visit this local café in winter is the pie cabinet filled with an assortment of handcrafted, hearty pastries, freshly baked each morning. Grab yours on the go or make yourself comfortable in the beautiful secret garden, behind the cafe. @octopussgardencafe

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Winter fashion It’s time to jump into your oversized sweaters and loose cardigans! Winter fashion means making the most out of your wardrobe and layering up in the cosiest pieces you own.

Thistle jumper CHARMAINE REVELEY $230.00

Heather skirt CHARMAINE REVELEY $335.00

9ct Created Ruby & Diamond Earrings PASCOES $299.00

Cowl Neck Slouch Knit WITCHERY $199.90

Merino Swing Cardi POSTIE $39.00

Annie Cardigan FROM $429.00

Waffle Knit Wool Beanie CITTÀ $32.90

Crimp ABACUS CREW $269.00

Maze Jumper KOWTOW $269.00

Pants KOWTOW $279.00

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Delux Poncho LOOBIE'S STORY $199.00

Waffle Knit Wool Scarf CITTÀ $89.90

STYLE | focus 9ct Rose Gold Diamond Circle Pendant STEWART DAWSONS $379.00

J'Adore Gilet LOOBIE'S STORY $399.00

Trilby Scarf FROM $199.00

Mt Maunganui Classic T-shirt TSJWEAR $50.00

Rainbow Scarf LEO+BE $79.00 Oversized Carryall Bag CITTÀ $89.90

Twist Knit Beanie WITCHERY $64.90 Basket Check Scarf WITCHERY $79.90

9ct Created Ruby & Diamond Pendant PASCOES $199.00

Sweater POSTIE $20.00

9ct Rose Gold Leaves Ring STEWART DAWSONS $149.00

Rib Polo Dress KOWTOW $279.00

Mt Maunganui iPhone Case TSJWEAR $35.00

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In search of anti-aging formulas that truly live up to all the things they promise, like smoother and more radiant skin and visibly reduced wrinkles? These creams, serums and masks impressed the focus team. You’re next!

Q10 Power is the most powerful NIVEA range yet with 10x more creatine than previous formulas. The replenishing pearls are also enriched with Coenzyme Q10 and hyaluronic acid and the silky serum quickly melts into your skin. Depending on your skin type you can apply a day cream afterwards. The product promises that your skin will feel firmer within two weeks but we’ve already noticed our skin feels wellmoisturised and velvety after the first use!

HYALURON CELLULAR FILLER, NIVEA $34.99 The Anti-spot Serum is a must for mature pigmented skin that’s become drier and paler due to significant loss of hyaluronic acid, collagen and elastin. Luckily, this new NIVEA product contains all three! This product also reduces pigmentation and wrinkles on hands, keeping them soft and hydrated.

NOURISHING CREAM MASK, KŌTIA $51 If you’ve never experimented with pure deer milk you’ll find that you’ve been missing out on an amazing anti-aging product. Enriched with essential amino acids, antioxidants and minerals to boost radiance and replenish moisture, this

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rich mask penetrates deeply into the skin to enhance its natural abilities to retain water and improve elasticity on every level. The mask requires at least 20 minutes of your time, so it’s perfect for a weekend ‘plump me up’ session.

VITAMIN C CREAM ANTI-AGING SKINFOOD, BEAUTY TOFU $84 It’s great to have a natural, organic and vegan product, gentle enough to be used, not only on your face but also around the eyes, neck and chest. Enriched with acacia berry, hibiscus extract, sweet orange oil, manuka oil and vitamins A, C, D, E, B1 and B2, it treats pigmentation, reduces wrinkles and nourishes and replenishes the skin. We love using it as a primer under makeup to keep skin hydrated and healthy all day long!

COLLAGEN WAND, BEAUTY TOFU $69 Young or mature skin, this tool is a no-brainer! A quick massage with the wand stimulates the lower layers of the skin and regenerates collagen production. Use it a few times a week and you’ll notice awesome results within a few weeks. Scars, wrinkles and uneven skin tone are all noticeably reduced and our skin is glowing and looking healthier than ever. Rolling the wand might feel a bit painful at first but your skin will adjust after a few uses.

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Q10 POWER REPLENISHING PEARLS, NIVEA $29.99

BUSINESS 47 TEE GARDNER BEHIND THE ZOË JOURNAL

48 REBECCA TEREU CALMING THE FARM NATURALLY

52 MICHELLE PLEYDELL DRESS FOR SUCCESS BAY OF PLENTY

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BEHIND THE ZOË JOURNAL When Tee Gardner launched The Zoë Journal, it sold out within 24 hours. But behind this successful concept is a life full of struggles and bad decisions. Image MIC INSLEY You've been through a lot in your life. How did this affect your mental health? I grew up really poor. We lived in a corrugated iron shack in Te Rahui Valley, on the outskirts of Ōpōtiki, with no clean water, no electricity and no phone. I was raised to believe that your financial status determined your self-worth and happiness so always had a side hustle, like selling lollies to my little sister and friends. The nearest shop was a good 30-minute drive away so they were willing to pay double price. As an adult, I entered a relationship that was as unhealthy as it gets, abusive on all levels, but I came from nothing and believed I was worth nothing, so thought that was the only attitude I deserved. I slipped into a deep depression. I felt completely stuck and helpless and would wake up every day wishing I would die. What was the turning point? Not long before my daughter turned one, I was getting ready to put her into bed. I used to make her drink from her bottle by herself but that night I

decided to feed her. I was sitting there, holding her in my arms, crying about this huge mess I was in when suddenly I saw this innocent baby looking up at me with nothing but true love in her eyes. That night I decided I wasn't ready to give up. I started studying the law to ensure that I could leave this relationship with my children. I finally had the courage and literally ran away from this life. Bare feet, just me and my two kids, and $20 in a pocket. How did you climb out from this dark place? I had an honest conversation with myself, about attracting negativity and fixing what was broken inside. I needed to learn to love myself so I dived into spiritual and personal development. Then I defined my top three values – family, authenticity and inspiration. And, finally, I could see that everything had happened for a reason and that the Universe had led me to the place where I am now, where I can inspire others to find inner happiness and follow their passion!

Is that when The Zoë Journal was born? Yes, I wanted to take the basics of what I’ve learnt and put it into a tool to help others. The Zoë Journal is open-dated, meaning you can start at any time and run it for 30 days. You’re taken through goal setting, daily actions, health tracking, law of attraction, reflection and more. This product is my heart and soul. It went from a pure idea to a physical product in just four weeks and it sold out in 24 hours! I think it shows how many people just need that little push. How do you maintain a work-life balance, being a mum and a business owner? Work on building strong foundations for yourself first! Figure out your top three values and use them as a basis for making any decision. When you’re clear on this it won’t be hard to see what deserves the most time and effort, and in which order. Get out of your head and into your heart! 

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'Growing up' as a business woman 20-odd years ago (yes I am that old), I was always taught to keep my personal life and business life separate. This black and white approach, which let’s face it, originated from the dark ages, also demanded from me a certain kind of staunch attitude and behaviour. In other words, if you were to make it in this predominantly maleled industry, then you had better have some big kahunas and not act like a girl. Words REBECCA TEREU

e staunch, show no mercy, justify every hard attitude to “it’s just business” and basically out-man the man – why? Because once upon a time we had to in order to be taken seriously in the workforce. Fast forward 20 years and women in the New Zealand workforce account for nearly half of the total employed people. Our economy has benefited hugely from the rise of professional women staking their claim and adding significant value to our economy. This number will only ever grow as we continue to demand, and even expect without demand, equality in the work place, equal pay rates, and anything our good men have been automatically given themselves. Because why not? Even so, I must propose that there is still work to be done. And not in the bra burning way you might imagine. This work I speak of is all about embracing our womanhood and not apologising for the very clear differences

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in our gender. The jury’s out ladies – we do actually have ovaries. And we all have hormones and emotions that spring forth from multiple engine rooms within our bodies, so what are you going to do about it? Firstly we need to accept that we are different from our male counterparts, and we need to be MORE than ok with that. Let’s not just embrace it, but celebrate it – and work with our bodies instead of ignoring them, being embarrassed by them, making excuses for them, or fighting against them. One way to work with our bodies is to give them some powerful and effective natural support. Natural health is all about supporting our bodies to do what they were always created to do. Yes, our bodies are amazing, but more and more they need support to remain healthy in this ever-growing toxic world. Natural health solutions are not just for the gypsies or greenies, or whatever other stereotype you may have predetermined in your head.

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Calming the farm naturally

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BREATHE. As Doctor Craig Gordon often says to me (and I’m paraphrasing), our bodies were not designed to live in continuous fight or flight mode. If we are forever fleeing from the lion, that emotional stress response will start to become an unconscious default – hard wired into our central nervous system where it will then become a physical stress response. That’s when our bodies start misbehaving and manifesting sickness. One solution to counteract this madness is to BREATHE. Yes I know that sounds funny, but most of us are not breathing correctly, because it is physically impossible to diaphragmatically breathe when you are stressed out. If you learn how to do this – and make it a daily habit – your body will be forced to release the stress, which will reprogram the central nervous system. So whether you are at work or at

home, practise diaphragmatic breathing every chance you get!

MOVE. It’s common knowledge that physical activity stimulates the endorphins and dopamines needed to make you feel better. We know this, yet most of us don’t turn that knowledge into action (me included!). Work-hack: Be purposeful with your free time or your lunch breaks and take a simple walk. Pack your sneakers if you have to, and remind your bad attitude that it really isn’t Mount Everest, and your emotions will actually thank you for it. Images by Freepik

In fact, today more than ever, humans all over the world are turning to powerful, effective and natural solutions. Why? Because they make sense, are often better than man-made medicine, and are even more accessible than ever before. Plus, natural alternatives are often far more effective at supporting our emotional health than anything else out there on our man-made shelves. There are many things we can do, but today I want to highlight just three things you as a woman (professional or not) can do to help calm that beautiful farm – naturally.

SMELL. Emotional aromatherapy is actually a thing – and a very powerful thing might I add. When you inhale natural chemicals (certified pure therapeutic-grade essential oils), they travel through your olfactory gland, straight to your limbic brain which is actually the behaviour centre of your brain, and is also the place that stores your memories and EMOTIONS. Bingo! So get your hands on this kind of natural goodness and use it to help balance your brain chemistry and manage those emotions – at home, and yes definitely at work. Check out my website for more information on this if you need to. Ladies. It’s time to empower yourselves. Sing out if you need help with this! 

Rebecca Tereu is an Author, Wellness Advocate & Educator and Business Advisor. www.crearewellness.com FB/Insta @Crearewellness

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Daniel Wellington accessories The minimalistic and refined style of Daniel Wellington pieces has earned this brand world-wide recognition. You’ll love this elegant Classic Bracelet and Classic Petite Sterling watch with the brand’s iconic interchangeable strap. The accessories work well together or can be worn separately.

Solomons Gold chocolates Hand-crafted, healthy and delicious. We’re giving away two sets of our favourite Solomons Gold chocolates. Each set contains 18 bars – two each of the original six flavours and three bars of each of the two luxurious Velvet collection.

Fabulous variety of NEW cookbooks Twice Cooked is New Zealand’s leading website for nearly-new cookbooks. They stock all your favourites as well as those tasty, hard to find titles, and all in excellent condition. You’ll even find unique and unusual culinary gems you never knew you wanted. For this giveaway Twice Cooked offers you six NEW cookbooks!

Designer Brands makeup essentials Try out the latest collection of ever-increasing products from the Australian vegan and crueltyfree makeup company, Designer Brand. Win a roll bag packed with 10 brushes and applicators, four deliciously smelling and super-light setting sprays and a chocolate-scented versatile 12shade eyeshadow palette. We have two sets to give away! focusmagazine.co.nz

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MICHELLE PLEYDELL COMPANY: Dress for Success Bay of Plenty POSITION: President Dress for Success empowers disadvantaged women to success by providing a range of training and interview skills programmes. Our service prepares them to enter, or re-enter the work force, to regain self-confidence and self-esteem, and to become the best versions of themselves. Financial success starts with the ability to earn an income, and most of our clients have families to support so gaining employment allows them to find housing, get children to school and to put groceries in the cupboard – simple goals that many of us give little thought to. What advice would you give to your younger self? Be true to yourself and don't second guess your decisions. Embrace every opportunity that comes your way. Oh, and stay away from the red Fiat 125 – it isn’t the great Italian you’re looking for! What do you love about your job? Many of our clients have been unemployed for some time, whether through challenges life has thrown at them, or by circumstances, such as redundancy or divorce. The ability to help them regain their confidence and their sense of purpose is humbling. Our clients have such strength and courage, it’s so rewarding when they discover their own self-belief.

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Tell us about a recent Bay event you have attended? I love attending the food festivals and markets. There are so many wonderful flavours and ideas that I get quite carried away with the selections. I will never forget being introduced to smoked garlic at the Mt Maunganui Saturday market – I use it in so many dishes. What would you study if time and money allowed? I would love to retrain as a Massage Therapist. I feel there are so many benefits from massage and reflection, balancing the body and mind, and taking time to remove ourselves from a busy world, just to focus on our own body’s needs.

Where would you love to visit one day, and why? Every girl dreams of visiting Paris, however my preference would be the south of France and the lovely villages that meander along the wine regions and around the Pyrenees mountains. Remote, picturesque and very French. How do you clear your mind after a stressful day? Swimming and walking my dog, Max, are my go-to ways to exercise. Swimming is my favourite stress reliever – once I’m in the water everything just melts away except for the rhythm of swimming. 