Folio Vol. 38, Issue 9

Amiyah

ANGELA PHILLIPS Publisher

TERESA SPENCER General Manager

JOHN PHILLIPS Vice President

KERRY SPECKMAN Copy Editor/ Writer

AMBAR RAMIREZ Creative Director

CARMEN MACRI Multi-media Creative/ Social Media Manager/ Lead Writer

SHELTON HULL Writer

AMIYAH GOLDEN Writer/Photographer

HARRY MOORE Writer

JILLIAN LOMBARDO Writer

BRIANA PEREIRA Writer

ERNEST MATTHEWS Contributor BEHIND

Photo by Carmen Macri

Dear Folio,

I hope this finds you well; because I, on the other hand, am far from it.

Besides already being off-put by their “Jeep wave” I am again, deeply disturbed by the individuals who drive Jeeps. Some of the drivers have started collecting rubber ducks for their dashboards. The presence of these rubber ducks, especially when displayed on the dashboard for everyone to see, gives off a creepy impression. Jeeps, known for being poorly made cars, combined with the unsettling display of rubber duck collections by adults, raises concerns about their intentions. Such individuals, who seem to have a fascination with children’s toys, should not be allowed in Jacksonville. Their behavior and choice of display create an uncomfortable and disturbing environment for others in this beautiful community we call home.

Thank you, Jax resident.

T H E

MAIL

BOUQS & BRICKS

BOUQUETS BRICKBATS

To the National Park Service for awarding The St. Johns Cultural Council a $750,000 grant to continue the restoration of the Cultural Arts Center at the St. Augustine Beach Hotel. In 2022, the building was listed on the National Register of Historic Places for its national significance as the location of wade-ins protesting segregated beaches in June of 1964. These wade-ins, and the press coverage they received, are widely credited with influencing the passage of the Civil Rights Act on July 2, 1964.

To the St. Johns County Commissioners and Administration, The Friends of Ponte Vedra Concert Hall and SJC Cultural Events for making the restoration project of the Ponte Vedra Concert Hall a reality. Renovations begin May 1st and we can’t wait to see it completed. What a great resource for the community.

To Nico Flowers for being named the 2024 State of Florida’s Youth of the Year. This prestigious honor recognizes Flowers’ exceptional leadership, academic excellence, and commitment to serving his community. Flowers is with the Boys & Girls Clubs of Northeast Florida.

To the TikTok Ban. A ban of one app does nothing to fix the national security threats posed by our lack of comprehensive data security legislation in the United States. We are very vulnerable to foreign adversaries across the entire internet after all. One would think that since the U.S. is typically labeled as the world’s most prominent superpower that we would have better means to combat and protect our citizens from threats, breaches and attacks from cyber predators.

HOROSCOPES

Words by Ambar Ramirez & Carmen Macri

This April, Aries, you’re feeling a surge of energy and confidence. Use this momentum to tackle those projects you’ve been putting off. Your assertiveness will help you overcome any obstacles that come your way. Just remember to take some time for self-care too.

ARIES TAURUS

The cosmos has lined up an all-you-can-eat buffet of opportunities this month, Taurus. Your bull-headed determination will be your secret sauce for success, so trust your instincts and charge ahead fearlessly. But remember to take a moment to sniff the flowers along the way. Romance may be grazing in your pasture, so keep those eyes peeled for a special someone.

GEMINI

April brings a wave of inspiration your way, Gemini. You’ll find yourself bursting with new ideas and creative energy. Use this time to explore your passions and try new things. Just be sure to stay focused so you can see your projects through to the end.

CANCER

Get ready to ride the waves of emotion and creativity this month. Your intuition is your superpower, so trust those gut feelings and let them guide you to some seriously magical moments. Whether you’re splashing in the sea of inspiration or cozying up with loved ones, this month is all about finding your happy place.

LEO

This April your social life takes center stage, Leo. You’ll find yourself surrounded by friends and loved ones, and you’ll thrive in social settings. Take this opportunity to strengthen your connections and create lasting memories. Just don’t forget to make time for yourself too.

VIRGO

Virgo, get ready to dance to the cosmic rhythm in May. Your attention to detail and organizational skills are like glitter for your success. Expect sparks of inspiration to light up your path, leading you to new adventures and opportunities.

Libra

May is like your personal party playlist, filled with all your favorite tunes of joy and adventure. Get ready to dance through this month with grace and charm, as the universe showers you with opportunities to shine. Your diplomatic skills will be in high demand, so don’t be surprised if you find yourself playing the role of peacemaker among friends or colleagues.

Scorpio

April is a month of transformation for you, Scorpio. You’ll find yourself shedding old habits and embracing new ones. Embrace this change and trust that it’s leading you to where you need to be. Remember to be patient with yourself along the way.

Sagittarius

This month, the cosmos is your playground, and adventure awaits around every corner. Embrace your spontaneous spirit and say yes to new experiences — it’s time to expand your horizons and explore the world with unbridled enthusiasm.

Capricorn

You’re feeling particularly ambitious this month, Capricorn. You have your sights set on your goals, and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to achieve them. Just be sure to pace yourself and not take on too much at once. Remember, slow and steady wins the race.

Aquarius

This month is all about embracing your individuality, Aquarius. Don’t be afraid to swim against the tide — after all, you’re a trendsetter, not a follower. Channel your inner rebel and shake things up in all the best ways. Your innovative ideas are powerful and can truly make changes if you’re up for it.

Pisces

April is a month of reflection for you, Pisces. Take some time to look inward and evaluate where you’re at and where you want to be. Trust your intuition to guide you in the right direction. Remember, sometimes the answers we seek can be found within ourselves.

IN THE NAME OF

Words by Amy Love

Matchmaker and Founder of the Honey and Flame Matchmaking agency

I AM A WOMAN WHO IS ONLY ATTRACTED TO MEN WHO MAKE MORE MONEY THAN I DO. (I MAKE SIX FIGURES.) THE LAST GUY I DATED LIED AND TOLD ME HE WAS A HIGH EARNER. WHEN WE BROKE UP BECAUSE WE JUST WERE NOT COMPATIBLE, HE TOLD ME THAT I WAS A SHALLOW PERSON FOR ONLY LETTING MONEY BE IN THE LOVE EQUATION. AM I WRONG ABOUT THIS? I DON’T FEEL SHALLOW, I JUST THINK THAT I MIGHT END UP RESENTFUL IF A MATE DOESN’T HAVE THE SAME DRIVE OR EARNING POWER I HAVE.

Dear Seeking Self-Love, It’s understandable that you’re grappling with this issue, and I’m here to offer some guidance. First and foremost, it’s crucial to recognize that your feelings are valid. However, it’s also essential to explore the underlying reasons behind your preferences.

While financial stability is undoubtedly an important aspect of a relationship, placing too much emphasis on it can inadvertently overshadow other significant qualities like kindness, compatibility and emotional connection. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, understanding and support, which aren’t necessarily tied to monetary success.

Reflect on whether your desire for a partner who earns more stems from societal pressures, personal insecurities or past experiences. By delving into these underlying factors, you can gain a clearer understanding of your motivations and make informed decisions moving forward.

Additionally, consider whether your focus on a partner’s earning potential might inadvertently limit your dating pool and hinder your chances of finding genuine compatibility. True fulfillment in a relationship often stems from shared values, goals, and aspirations rather than financial status alone.

Ultimately, self-love involves honoring your worth and prioritizing your emotional well-being. While financial compatibility is important, it’s just one piece of the puzzle. Embrace the journey of self-discovery and don’t hesitate to seek support from trusted friends, family or a therapist as you navigate these complexities.

Remember, you deserve love and happiness in a relationship that celebrates all facets of who you are.

I AM A 25-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN MAN. I FIND THAT ONCE I REVEAL THIS TO ANYONE,I HAVE BEEN DATING THEY IMMEDIATELY THINK IT MUST BE DUE TO RELIGIOUS BELIEFS. IT’S NOT. I JUST THINK PEOPLE SHOULDN’T PARTICIPATE IN HAVING SEX UNTIL THEY ARE MARRIED. THE ONLY WOMEN I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO FIND WHO AGREE WITH THIS ARE SUPER RELIGIOUS. SINCE I’M NOT, THAT SEEMS TO BE OF ISSUE AS WELL. ANY TIPS ON HOW TO FIND LOVE WITHOUT SEX BEING INVOLVED?

Dear Seeking Love,

Your perspective on relationships and intimacy is valid and deserves respect. It’s understandable that you may feel frustrated by the assumptions people make about your choice to abstain from sex. It’s essential to remember that your values and beliefs are yours to honor, regardless of whether they align with religious teachings or not.

Finding love without sex as a focal point may seem challenging in a society that often emphasizes physical intimacy. However, it’s entirely possible to build meaningful connections based on shared values, emotional compatibility, and mutual respect.

Consider exploring communities or social circles where individuals prioritize emotional connections and share similar views on intimacy. This might include groups centered around shared interests, hobbies or personal growth activities. Engaging in activities that align with your values can increase the likelihood of meeting like-minded individuals who appreciate your perspective.

Communication is key in any relationship. When dating, be open and honest about your beliefs and intentions from the start. This transparency allows you to connect with individuals who respect and understand your boundaries.

Remember, your journey toward love is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Stay true to yourself, embrace your values, and trust that the right person will appreciate and support you for who you are.

Wishing you strength, patience, and fulfillment on your path to love.

by

Photo

Carmen Macri

A HEALTHIER JAX AND A HEALTHIER YOU

Words by Briana Pereira

Never in my life have I ever wanted to be a runner girlie more than I have in the past year. Active clubs both globally and throughout Jacksonville have been on the rise. Run clubs, pickleball groups and more have been popping up all over our city, providing outlets for fitness and friendship. If improving your health is something you’ve wanted to focus on this year, it’s never too late to get involved in a local active group, here are two local clubs in Jax that you can check out.

Neptune Run Crew is the club that got me hooked on discovering fitness clubs. I actually originally found out about NRC from a TikTok of a pair running the New York City marathon together and talking about how they lived in Neptune Beach. I was instantly intrigued and had to know more. I found out that they were two of the founders of NRC Andrew Mogg and Keri Clarke. The club was founded in December 2022 by three individuals who wanted to create an environment for runners who believe in people over pace.

According to the group’s mission: “Running is the foundation of our group, but community is our focus.” They strive to build a community that fosters friendship and supports the community of Jacksonville by partnering with local businesses and local creatives. They meet regularly two days a week: Friday mornings for a 5K leaving from Lemon Bar in Neptune Beach at 6:45 a.m. and ending with coffee and kombucha and Wednesdays for their twomile “happy hour run” then meet for drinks after. The times and location are released on their Instagram, as well as time for their occasional Saturday “loooooong” run.

Jax Fray is another group that strives to build friendships and encourage play around Jacksonville. They host a variety of events including sport leagues and special events. Their club is 21 and up, but it’s the perfect opportunity for Jacksonville folks to stay active and make friends in their community, no matter what age. Jax Fray has a league for everyone, including sports that some would consider to be more niche like bocce, skeeball, darts and ax throwing, Currently they are hosting community events on certain Fridays throughout the Jumbo Shrimp season, as they hope to improve the sense of community throughout their leagues. Based on the league you choose to join, practice times and frequency varies, but the friendships made continue year round.

As a busy adult it can seem hard to find ways to balance maintaining a social life and squeezing in time to stay active. Joining groups like these help foster an environment that encourages healthy living and being surrounded by like-minded people. There is something so rewarding knowing there are ways to really “do it all” while enjoying the little things in life. If I can leave you with anything, it is not to be scared to step out of your comfort zone, if there’s something you’ve been wanting to try, go for it. It can seem intimidating knowing you may not be as strong or fast as others, but groups like these make it easy to feel included and encouraged no matter what level you’re at. This goes beyond just active clubs, but for anything in life. You got this!

PROMOTIONS

GOOD IS EVERYWHERE WEDNESDAY

Presented by VyStar Credit Union

Join VyStar Credit Union as they raise awareness and funds for a featured charity throughout the night through ticket sales and promotions. Plus, VyStar Credit Union members can enjoy a Buy-One, Get-One-Free ticket special by using their VyStar credit or debit card at the box office.*

THIRSTY THURSDAY

Presented by Coors Light

Join us for the best outdoor happy hour(s) in Jax! We’ll have $2 16oz drafts at select Thirsty Thursdav locations!

FIREWORKS FRIDAY

Be sure to stick around after every Friday night game for Friday Night Fireworks! Plus, Jumbo Shrimp players and staff will wear red each Friday to support the military, and fans who wear red save $1 on their ticket at the box office or can donate the $1 to charity.

GIVEAWAY SATURDAY

Be sure to show up early for Saturday games — the first 2,000 fans through the gate will receive a unique giveaway item!

SUNDAY FAMILY FUNDAY

Presented by Baptist Health

Join us as we host a 20 minute pre-game catch on the field. Kids can also feel like the pros after each Sunday game by running the bases once the field is clear. Plus, each Sunday will feature complementary, PRE-GAME, face painting and balloon animals!

TICKETS START AT JUST $5 TICKETS START AT JUST $5 SCAN FOR FULL PROMOTIONS SCHEDULE:

MAY 1

Jacksonville Icemen vs. Florida Everblades

VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena

jacksonvilleicemen.com

NOTE: Jacksonville Icemen May dates TBD pending playoff results

MAY 1-5

Jacksonville Jumbo Shrimp vs. Wilkes Barre Rail Riders

121 Financial Ballpark milb.com/jacksonville

MAY 4

Clay County Young Life “Hula Hustle” 5K & 1 Mile Fun Run

455 Park Ave, Orange Park 1stplacesports.com

MAY 4

The Run Home 5K Root Realty 1stplacesports.com

MAY 11

DONNA Mother’s Day 5K Friday Musicale 1stplacesports.com

MAY 11

Jacksonville Armada FC vs. Global Soccer Pathways

University of North Florida–Hodges Stadium jacksonvillearmada.com

MAY 14-19

Jacksonville Jumbo Shrimp vs. Nashville Sounds 121 Financial Ballpark milb.com/jacksonville

MAY 18

Jacksonville Sharks vs. Sioux Falls Storm VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena jaxsharks.com

MAY 18

Jacksonville Armada FC vs. Naples United FC

University of North Florida–Hodges Stadium jacksonvillearmada.com

MAY 18

Hope Starts Here 5K

Operation New Hope 1stplacesports.com

MAY 25

Kindness Matters 5K and Fun Run

Joes Crab Shack 1stplacesports.com

MAY 25

Jacksonville Armada FC vs. Dade County FC University of North Florida–Hodges Stadium jacksonvillearmada.com

MAY 27

Memorial Day 5K

Town Hall Park, Orange Park 1stplacesports.com

MAY 28-JUNE 2

Jacksonville Jumbo Shrimp vs. Durham Bulls

121 Financial Ballpark milb.com/jacksonville

Simply Stitch Co

Words by Jillian Lombardo

In today’s competitive business landscape, standing out from the crowd is crucial. Simply Stitch Co., a Jacksonville-based business, empowers companies to do just that. They offer exceptional embroidery, screen printing, and eye-catching vehicle wraps, all delivered with a commitment to exceptional customer service and lightning-fast turnaround times.

After losing their jobs simultaneously, longtime friends Luis Montiel and Ryan Viti were starting fresh in a shaky job market. Having worked together previously and sharing expertise in fashion and clothing manufacturing, they looked to opportunities in their passions before rejoining corporate America. In that time, Montiel found a hole in the market through market research. This began the birth of Simply Stitch Co., offering embroidery and screen printing, later adding commercial vehicle wraps.

“From the moment of first contact we offer our expertise based on each customer’s individual needs. We are happy to provide as much or as little guidance as our customers prefer.”

Simply Stitch Co.’s expertise is evident throughout Jacksonville! From contractors and realtors to restaurants and fashion houses, they’ve helped countless local businesses elevate their brand identity with high-quality embroidery and screen printing. Renowned local names like Lafavre, 4SAP, Kollect, Tuck, and 8103 trust Simply Stitch Co. to create unique apparel. They’ve also delivered exceptional service to national brands like McDonald’s, Pilot Pen, and Costco, crafting uniforms for their Jacksonville locations. However, their passion truly lies in supporting the local community. They go the extra mile for local businesses, as evidenced by their dedicated work ethic – like when they pulled overtime in December to ensure McDonald’s Jacksonville stores received their uniforms on time. Simply Stitch Co. takes pride in fostering strong relationships with local businesses and helping them shine.

“That’s where we feel like we can really make a difference as a company,” said Ryan. “Local businesses have authority to customize their apparel and make something truly special for their employees and even their own customers to wear.”

Priding themselves on customer service, they have a near-perfect same day response rate, tracked by Google metrics. Viti, co-owner, handles all calls and emails personally to ensure the highest level of customer service. Their products go through a thorough inspection process during manufacturing and double checked for quality before being given to the customer. They also buy from local suppliers for garments and have partnered with many Jacksonville - based businesses for supplies. Consistently reinvesting in their business, both equipment and staff, Simply Stitch Co. is about to provide the highest quality products with a quick turnaround.

“We noticed that a lot of similar shops have a 3-4 week turnaround time. Sometimes even longer,” said Viti. “We’ve been able to keep ours down to less than half that.”

Simply Stitch Co. is constantly reinvesting in cutting-edge technology to maintain their industry-leading turnaround times. Let them help your business make a lasting impression. Contact them today for a free quote or visit their website at SimplyStitchCo.com or on their Instagram @SimplyStitchCo.

“We plan to continue to invest in our future and keep our promise to provide the highest level of quality to our customers in Jacksonville and Northeast Florida,” said Viti.

R I V I

MONDAYS

• St. Augustine Fish Company & Oyster House, 6 p.m

• V Pizza–Mandarin (music bingo), 6 p.m.

• Amici (music bingo), 7 p.m.

• Donovan’s Irish Pub, St. Augustine, 7 p.m.

• Mellow Mushroom–Durbin Park, 7 p.m.

• Mellow Mushroom–Fleming Island, 7 p.m.

• Mellow Mushroom–River City/Northside, 7 p.m.

• Mellow Mushroom–Tinseltown, 7:30 p.m.

• Rain Dogs, 8 p.m.

• Treylor Park (pop culture), 9 p.m.

TUESDAYS

• St. Mary’s Seafood (music bingo) 6 p.m.

• Mr. Chubby’s Wings–Fleming Island (music bingo), 6:30 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–St. Aug, 6:30 p.m.

• V PIzza– St. Augustine, 6:30 p.m.

• The Back 40, 7 p.m.

• Bottlenose Brewing, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–Nocatee, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–San Pablo, 7 p.m.

• Gator’s Dockside–Oakleaf, (music bingo), 7 p.m.

• Harps American Grill, 7 p.m.

• Hurricane Grill & Wings–Atlantic Boulevard, 7 p.m.

• Island Wing Company–Bartram, 7 p.m.

• Jax Craft Beer, 7 p.m.

• Jerry’s Sports Grille, 7 p.m.

• Miller’s Ale House–Deerwood, 7 p.m.

• My Tap Room (pop culture), 7 p.m.

• Players Grille, 7 p.m.

• Southern Grill, 7 p.m.

• Surfside Kitchen, St. Augustine, 7 p.m.

• V Pizza–Fernandina (music bingo), 7 p.m.

• Xtreme Wings Sports Bar and Grille, St. Johns, 7 p.m.

• Culhane’s Irish Pub–Southside, 7:30 p.m.

• Flask & Cannon / V Pizza (pop culture), 7:30 p.m.

• King Maker Brewing (name that tune), 7:30 p.m.

• Lynch’s Irish Pub (music bingo), 7:30 p.m.

• Monkey’s Uncle Tavern, 7:30 p.m.

• Time Out Sports Bar, 7:30 p.m.

• Casbah Cafe, 8 p.m.

• Sahara Cafe, 8 p.m.

• Shantytown Pub, 8:30 p.m.

• Surfer the Bar (pop culture trivia), 9:30 p.m.

WEDNESDAYS

• Mr. Chubby’s Wings–Ponte Vedra (music bingo), 6:30 p.m.

• V Pizza–Mandarin, 6:30 p.m.

• The Beacon, St. Augustine, 7 p.m.

• Bold City Brewery, 7 p.m.

• Cruisers Grill, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–Nocatee, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–Mandarin, 7 p.m.

• Firefly Bay, 7 p.m.

• Ink Factory Brewing, 7 p.m.

• Island Wing–Bartram (music bingo) 7 p.m.

• Island Wing–Southside, 7 p.m.

• Mellow Mushroom–Avondale, 7 p.m.

• Miller’s Ale House–Hodges, 7 p.m.

• Mellow Mushroom–Jacksonville Beach, 7 p.m.

• Scarlett O’ Hara’s, St. Augustine, 7 p.m.

• Shaughnessy’s Sports Grill, St. Augustine, 7 p.m.

• V Pizza–Fleming Island, 7 p.m.

• V Pizza–Fernandina, 7 p.m.

• V Pizza–Palm Valley, 7 p.m.

• Veterans United Craft Brewery, 7 p.m.

• Burrito Gallery–Town Center (pop culture), 7:30 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–Fleming Island, 7:30 p.m.

• Harps American Grill (pop culture), 7:30 p.m.

• Hoptinger–5 Points, 7:30 p.m.

• Hoptinger–Jacksonville Beach, 7:30 p.m.

• Hurricane Grill–Fleming Island, 7:30 p.m.

• King Maker Brewing, 7:30 p.m.

• Time Out Sports Grill, 7:30 p.m

• The Brix Taphouse (pop culture trivia), 8 p.m.

• Hamburger Mary’s (drag bingo, 21+), 8 p.m.

THURSDAYS

• Ann O’Malley’s Irish Pub, 7 p.m.

• Bold City Brewery, 7 p.m.

• Bottlenose Brewing, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–Atlantic Boulevard, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings– Nocatee (name that tune), 7 p.m.

• Justice Pub (music bingo), 7 p.m.

• Island Wing Company–Southside (music bingo), 7 p.m.

• Kava and Company–San Marco (every other Thursday), 7 p.m.

• Miller’s Ale House–Avenues, 7 p.m.

• Mr. Chubby’s Wings–Ponte Vedra, 7 p.m.

• The Stout Snug, 7 p.m.

• V Pizza– Fernandina (what’s that song), 7 p.m.

• Burrito Gallery–Brooklyn (’80s, ’90s & 2000s), 7:30 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings– St. Aug, 7:30 p.m.

• Flask & Cannon / V Pizza, 7:30 p.m.

• V Pizza–San Marco, 7:30 p.m.

• Hoptinger–Jax Beach (music bingo), 8 p.m.

SATURDAYS

• Hamburger Mary’s (HamBingo), 2 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–Atlantic Boulevard, 7 p.m.

• Dick’s Wings–San Pablo (pop culture), 7p.m.

• Ink Factory Brewing (name that tune), 7 p.m.

• Bottlenose Brewing (name that tune), 7:30 p.m.

Dear Jacksonville,

Dear Jacksonville,

It’s time you and I had a serious conversation.

Now you know I love you… I am one of your number one defenders, especially when people try to tarnish your name. They call you boring, unwelcoming, discouraging and more. I shut down the complaints, but honestly, I’m running out of ammunition. What else can I say to avert the naysayers?

I send the events you host. I repost them on my socials (even Facebook), and I direct to the fun, but it seems like the proceedings are starting to trickle. There’s not much range. I know you like to get down and party … me too! That’s how we met; I’ll never forget that night! But some of my companions can’t join the festivities: They’re either sober, on a time constraint, too young ( or just simply not interested. I came to the realization that you don’t encompass the many facets that we possess as a city! There are numerous interests that we would love to immerse ourselves in besides the food festivals and bar hopping.

Don’t get me wrong, you know I’m a foodie, but I’ve noticed that your culinary span falls short. You keep bringing me tacos, burgers and pizza — and while I love all three — I would also love for you to take me somewhere different. I want to dig into the expansive cultures that exist in this city! The melting pot that you are but, I feel like you’re lowering your potential and now my tastebuds are being contrived and deprived.

I know… I know… I’m being ungrateful. You did just get me a present recently. The gesture was very grand. I can say I’ve never had someone spend $8 million on me. I was flattered (although a 120-foot-tall fountain wasn’t really on my list of desires), but you know how I feel about trivial things. You know I would rather you make better use of those funds! I always tell you how we can help the less fortunate who live at your doorstep. Funding for more programs, rehabilitation services, and housing would benefit so greatly from the $8 million you spent.

I would’ve loved it in the distant future when our priorities were set, but I think we have bigger fish to fry.

Although I really enjoy our alone time together, I really want to meet new people (this isn’t me cheating by the way) but I want to be connected to my fellow residents. You are aware of how big you are… right?

Your distance keeps us all so far apart, and for some people voyaging across town isn’t accessible. When you host your events you tend to keep them Downtown or at the opposite end, toward the Beaches. I think it would be vital to connect the city. Don’t you?

When I go visit other cities (and again I promise this is not me cheating) I can’t help but appreciate how walkable it is! Or the trolley services they provide. Again, you know you’re my first love but some of my comrades can’t even enjoy you in your full capacity because of the lack of ways I can get to your heart (Downtown.)

Now, I know you have to be considerate. You’re forced to consider the voices of your city leaders. But that doesn’t relinquish your power fully. You have the ability to rally change. Tell everyone of the potential you possess. All of the fragments of ideas just need additional sanction to come together. Explain the importance of the allocation of your funds! You have an entire network of souls willing to do the work to continue to make you triumph. The chatter of propositions and conceptualizations for your future persists, but it can’t be done without the stamp of approval from you!

I compose this letter to you to convey my longing to bear witness to your evolution! We’ve been in tandem for so long, and I have seen the long strides you have made. I’m so proud of you for that but, I also feel warranted to share my sentiments with you, given the nature of our relationship.

Sincerely,

— Amiyah

Words & photos by Amiyah Golden

FILM REVIEWS

Words by Harry Moore

CIVIL WAR

A near-future United States is engulfed in a civil war after an authoritarian president begins a third term in office in this dystopian cautionary tale from writer-director Alex Garland. “Civil War” focuses on a small team of reporters — composed of a renowned war photographer Lee Smith (Kirsten Dunst), her journalist colleague Joel (Wagner Moura), her mentor Sammy (Stephen McKinley Henderson) and Jessie (Cailee Spaeny) an aspiring photojournalist who idolizes Lee — journeying across the war-torn states to follow a lead that promises the chance at an interview with the tyrannical president (Nick Offerman) before the Western Forces of Texas and California close in. The film takes a grounded approach to portraying its fictional conflict. We don’t see the war room briefings or even get to know any of the soldiers, the story is only told through the eyes and camera lenses of the four reporters. Much has been made of Garland’s choice to not label either of the warring sides as good or bad or to draw heavily from the real divisive rhetoric of our current climate. But by making the film’s point of view that of the journalists, he finds a way to portray the violence as a non-intervening observer. The road trip conceit of the story allows for an almost episodic plot with each stop on their journey bringing in new characters and challenges for our leads to overcome. It allows Garland to show how he interprets different regions to fare during a war. We see Philadelphia turned into a refugee camp while the countryside becomes a playground of sadism, which is highlighted in the film’s most gripping scene where they cross paths with a violent militant (Jesse Plemons) who is in the act of filling a mass grave.

War movies tend to carry similar imagery to one another. Whether they’re set in mid-century Europe, the Vietnamese jungles or Middle Eastern villages, there is an expectation of seeing helicopters whirring overhead as explosions go off and legions of troops are shredded by artillery. Where a lot of the power of “Civil War” comes from is in the transposition of those images into the U.S. homeland. Seeing American landmarks being obliterated has been a blasé experience since “Independence Day”: Monsters and aliens

have had their way with almost all our major cities for years now, The White House getting vaporized by space lasers isn’t the provocative image it used to be, but seeing Washington, D.C. turned into a battlefield reminiscent of Al-Fallujah is an arresting sight. Throughout the film, Garland brings the distressing spectacle of modern warfare to the American landscape with quick firefights and tense faceoffs between snipers, but it isn’t until the climactic assault on Washington that we see a full-fledged battle sequence that culminates in a Bin Laden-inspired raid on the White House. Garland has said that he intended the film to be an anti-war piece, and to his credit, he largely eschews the exciting bombastic tradition of war cinema, hammering home the predominant idea that war is hell, and the last thing we need is a fight. The message is delivered loud and clear throughout with sequences show ing how quickly conflict allows people to dehumanize each other and enables some to act out their most sadistic instincts.

“Civil War” will likely be amongst the most divisive films of the year. Those in the audience expecting a chest-thumping war epic will be dismayed at the film’s often solemn, contemplative tone, while others will be frustrated that it’s not a prophetic warning against a certain ideology leading us into a catastrophe like this. Then there are those who will want to see audacious bravura filmmaking with several nerve shredding sequences that don’t pull any punches. With stellar performances across the board, particularly Plemmons who gives one of the great single scene performances —and indelibl e cinematography, editing and sound design — “Civil War” is operating at an incredibly high level and is some of the strongest work of Garland’s career so far. It’s not a great time at the movies, but it is a great movie.

ABIGAIL

A crew of crooks bite off more than they expected when they kidnap the daughter of a powerful crime lord. The directing duo of Tyler Gillett and Matt Bettinelli-Olpin jump from their recent success of rebooting the “Scream” series to this genre-blending thriller that revels in gore.

Abigail is an interesting beast in the modern film landscape. The effectiveness of the film is predicated on the revelations that lie in wait in the plot to be surprising. Due to the nature of movie marketing, the twist that kicks off events in the second act was placed front and center in the advertising, which blunts much of the early tension and the impact of the reveal — which is a crucial factor for the entire film.

The premise of “Abigail” sees a group of disparate criminals hired to pull off kidnapping the child of a wealthy and powerful crime lord in the hopes of claiming a large ransom. But what they don’t know is that the little girl they’ve taken hostage is in fact a vampire, and they have been set up to be her prey. Now this turn happens around the midway point of the film, which to that point is playing out as a straight-faced crime thriller before turning into a blood-splattered monster movie. Knowing the direction the story is heading leaves the audience waiting for the other shoe to drop through much of the film and significantly dulls the intended effect that would be there when going into the film cold with no preconceived notion of what will happen. It is a pretty damning indictment of the studio’s marketing department that they opted to hamstring an inventive film as they were incapable of figuring out how to sell it without giving it all away. Perhaps the film will find its audience as it was intended to be seen, years down the line when the marketing campaign is just a distant entry on a disappointing portfolio. On its own merits though, “Abigail” is a fun watch for horror fans that is helped by a dynamic ensemble cast led by Melissa Barrera and Dan Stevens. It is further evidence that Gillett and Bettinelli-Olpin have the instincts for over-the-top, Raimi-esque gore that doesn’t veer over into excess for the sake of excess.

THEATER/DANCE

THROUGH MAY 4

“Disney’s Frozen the Musical” Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts fscjartistseries.com

THROUGH MAY 5

“Picasso at the Lapin Agile” Theatre Jacksonville theatrejax.com

THROUGH MAY 12

“Escape to Margaritaville” Alhambra Theatre & Dining alhambrajax.com

“First Date”

Limelight Theatre, St. Augustine limelight-theatre.org

MAY 3-12

“An Experiment With an Air Pump” The Island Theater, Fleming Island theislandtheater.com

“Couples”

The Waterworks, St. Augustine A Classic Theatre

MAY 3-19

St. Augustine’s Romanza Festivale of Music & The Arts

Various locations, St. Augustine romanzafestivale.com

MAY 10

“The Stranger’s Tale” Ancient City Baptist Church, St. Augustine firstcoastopera.com

MAY 10-26

“Trouble in Mind” Players by the Sea playersbythesea.org

MAY 10-11

Atlanta Dance Connection

Amelia Community Theater, Fernandina Beach ameliaislanddancefestival.org

MAY 11

In Bloom: JDT’s Annual Spring Repertory Concert

Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

“Snow White Ballet”

St. Augustine Ballet & Conservatory saintaugustineballet.org

MAY 11-12

“Romeo and Juliet”

The Florida Ballet Theatre floridaballet.org

MAY 12

“Airing Grandma’s Laundry and Other Hush Hush Family Secrets” Ritz Theatre & Museum ritzjacksonville.com

MAY 16

“Super Freak: The Rick James Story” Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts jaxevents.com

MAY 17-19

“The Lion King Jr. Artist Connection Theatre artistconnectiontheatre.org

MAY 17-JUNE 2

“A Doll’s House Part 2” Limelight Theatre, St. Augustine limelight-theatre.org

MAY 19

An Evening with Lee Asher Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

MAY 30

“Untold Stories: Spring”

The Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

MAY 31

Tay Tay Laser Party ft. DJ Swiftie Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

“Beauty and The Beast”

The Island Theater, Fleming Island theislandtheater.com

MAY 31-JUNE 1

“Broken Promises, Distorted Truths Ritz Theatre & Museum ritzjacksonville.com

FRIDAYS AND SATURDAYS

Magician Bill Abbott at the Magic Hideway

Casa Monica Resort & Spa, St. Augustine magichideaway.com

PARASOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS:

DELUSION OR HUMAN INSTINCT?

Words by Mallory Pace

As human beings, we are hardwired to seek and desire connections with others, whether that be through relationships, friendships, family, pets or even as children with inanimate objects such as stuffed animals and blankets. We are inherently social beings who need emotional connection, one way or another. But what about relationships where the other person doesn’t know we exist? Like, at all? Do those meet the criteria to be considered a connection, or is our lack of existence to them a deal-breaker?

I listen to a lot of podcasts, probably more than I do music. The weekly episodes have become a part of my routine, and something I have begun to look forward to. I know the days each one drops a new episode and when in my routine I’ll have the chance to listen or watch. I especially like to listen to podcasts while I’m running around cleaning my apartment or when I’m out for a long walk. I hadn’t pondered why I’m so drawn to podcasts until I started researching parasocial relationships. Listening to other people talk or converse makes me feel, in the least sad way possible, like I’m a part of their conversation. It’s like I’m chatting with friends, except I’m not actually saying anything, and they couldn’t hear me even if I were. I know I’m not actually involved in the conversation, but this twisted sense of connection appeals to something in my brain, something that is subconsciously desiring social interaction. It doesn’t mean it’s better than or replacing any human interaction in my real life, but in those times of quietness, like on a walk or driving to work, I’m partaking in a parasocial interaction, and consequently, developing a parasocial relationship relationship with my favorite podcasters.

Parasocial relationships are one-sided connections where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, and the other party or persona is completely unaware of the other’s existence, according to an article on Find A Psychologist (not joking). These relationships are most common with celebrities, musicians, social media personalities, even sports teams. Even though you’ve never met this person in real life, you feel as if you have an actual relationship or connection to them, which might sound somewhat absurd, but nearly everyone experiences it to some extent.

The term was first coined in 1956 by sociologists Donald Horton and Richard Wohl to describe a sense of false intimacy with others as a result of the emerging radio, television and movie industry. The illusion of a face-to-face interaction, especially when continuously repeated, instills in the observer a false sense of intimacy, friendship, attraction or, perhaps, hatred. The article mentioned that parasocial relationships expand one’s social network in a way that negates the chance of rejection and allows them to model and identify with individuals of their choosing. Parasocial relationships don’t have to be with mega-celebrities or even real people. They can be with a lesser known podcaster, streamer, author, content creator, artist, etc., or even with fictional characters from books, TV shows, movies or games. They also don’t have to be some sort of obsession or involve excessive, needy behavior. It can be as simple as being fond of someone who doesn’t know you exist, and when you put it that way, it’s something every one resonates with.

There are different levels to parasocial relationships. In a simple form, para social interactions refer to “conversation give and take” between a media user and persona, like I described with podcasts. This takes place exclusively while interacting with a piece of media and psychologically resembles faceto-face interactions or conversations, according to an article on VeryWell Mind. During a parasocial interaction, the user feels as if they are a part of the conversation or dialogue being had through the screen. On the other end of the spectrum, parasocial attachments occur when a media persona becomes a source of comfort, security or escape. The term was coined by professor Gayle Stever and is based on the theory of attachment, which describes the deep bonds between children and caregivers — and romantic partners. This level of attachment is more deeply rooted in emotional needs and is achieved through mediated acts of exposure to a media persona. Stever has been studying parasocial relationships for over 35 years, during which she wrote three books on the topic. While the term “attachment” may feel derogatory, that’s not necessarily the case. Parasocial attachments don’t always mean an unhealthy or overly dependent connection to a media persona, instead, it refers to feeling a sense of safety and security within the remote presence of someone.

Of course, we all have celebrity crushes and icons we look up to, but where’s the line between being a fan and having a parasocial relationship or attachment? An article from ImPossible Psychological Services stated that a fan is someone who admires or is interested in somebody or something, may show devotion or enthusiasm to a person and their work, and may feel inspired by them. Someone in a parasocial relationship, on the other hand, believes they have, to some extent, a personal connection to a media persona for any number of reasons. There are several causes for why this might occur, according to Forbes Health. It could be to satisfy the need for interaction or be a form of escapism where the act of imagining a relationship with a public figure may bring a sense of comfort and support to someone. A 2021 study from the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that the COVID-19 pandemic increased people’s developments of parasocial connections, suggesting that media personas became “more meaningful” as participants engaged in social distancing. During the pandemic, Stever explained, parasocial relationships ameliorated — to a larger extent — our sense of isolation.

“Parasocial relationships are the natural and expected result of a mediated culture, one that was accelerated by the pandemic and our dependence on mediated interaction during that time,” Stever said.

Having aspirational role models is proven to be beneficial, especially for those in earlier developing stages of life, to connect with someone and experiment with their identity. Among youth, it’s especially common to develop these attachments as they look to their idols for a big sibling or role model connection, or as a means to express romantic crushes while avoiding any fear of rejection.

Even in adults, these relationships can serve a valuable purpose as a means of increasing social networks and satisfying an emotional need for human connection, even if it’s one-sided. People can find a sense of comfort and belonging by engaging with a media persona that they look up to or identity with in some way. These feelings are also beneficial to those with avoidant attachment styles to be able to form a connection without rejection or shame.

“When we get to know a person and develop an affection for that person as a result, this is part of this natural proclivity for this kind of social connection,” Stever said. “Sometimes a ‘crush’ can be more intense and harder to handle for an individual, but most usually, people get over those and move on. Or they write fan fiction!”

THE ROLE OF SOCIAL MEDIA

Having 24/7 access to the internet has increasingly blurred the line between performer and spectator, and though that’s not necessarily a bad thing, it merely goes to show the rapid pace of digital media and mass communication. Before social media was what it is now, “famous people” existed in carefully curated spaces in the media and therefore in our minds. In other words, we saw what we were intended to see and knew these people in ways that were crafted for us. But social media has changed in dramatic ways. On one hand, we have seen an overwhelming influx of social media personalities and content creators for observers to attach to. On the other, the new-found casualness of social media has given observers a two-way mirror into the lives of seemingly sacred, untouchable celebrities. Meaning, we can now see much more into their lives, strengthening that false sense of intimacy, while the other person still has no idea of our existence. Before, A-list celebrities existed primarily in the realm of their art, only giving the audience a taste of their personalities through interviews or behind-the-scenes. Now, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson posts his leg day routine and Reese Witherspoon shares what she’s currently obsessed with on TikTok. Sally Theran, a professor of psychology at Wellesley College, said that when viewing celebrities on social media, it’s important to maintain a critical lens. Though there will always be a distinction between performers and spectators, the moving age of para-communication is breaking down certain barriers, allowing the audience to interact with their idols in new and raw ways, paving the path for parasocial relationships. Theran is a clinical psychologist, and her research involves examining authenticity and relationships in adolescence as well as parasocial relationships.

“It’s important for people to remember that when they are interacting with someone on social media, that person is not representing their ‘real self,’ she said. “Social media exists as a form of publicity, and while people strive to be authentic, it is very unlikely that celebrities are representing their true authentic self on social media.”

On TikTok especially, an app of constant content production, users having the ability to directly interact with media personas through video feeds into a false sense of genuine connection and friendship. Something I’ve seen recently are social media users almost “living through” their favorite content creators as they share milestones and experiences that many people don’t get the chance to. Creators will push out video after video of their experience and hundreds of people will flood their comments as if they really know the person. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing — social media is great in that it allows users to feel involved and belonging to a community, but when I see a comment that says, “I’ve been refreshing your page all day to see your Coachella vlogs!” I get a bit of a weird feeling.

There’s a key difference, or at least should be, between consuming content for entertainment purposes and being internet-dependent on a media persona as a form of social interaction and experiencing life. It’s easy to get wrapped up in other people’s lives, especially as it’s being fed to us 24 hours a day, that we can forget to make our own memories in real life. When it’s used appropriately and consciously, social media can be great for entertainment, connection or inspiration. But it can also feed into feelings of low self-esteem, jealousy or isolation. We are inherently social creatures, sure, but I’m not sure how much we were made to know so much about so many people’s lives that we don’t already know.

Historically, parasocial relationships have been viewed as a symptom of loneliness and isolation, but both sides are widely argued. Some research literature suggests that sometimes parasocial relationships “can be used as a crutch and reinforce unrealistic expectations about relationships, such that young people may be rehearsing scripts through [parasocial interactions] that would not realistically occur,” according to a study called “Parasocial Interaction, the COVID-19 Quarantine, and the Digital Age Media.” While this may not be a common occurrence, it’s something to consider when viewing mass amounts of social media. Most times, it’s just for fun, but too much of anything can be a bad thing. Living through online personalities holds the opportunity to take away from real life experiences and may give us unrealistic standards as to how we should be living our own lives. What may start out as inspiration can quickly turn into jealousy and insecurity.

However, other studies have found that para-relationships help decrease loneliness among some people, as they’re exposed to emotional connection and belonging, even if the dialogue or feelings are not reciprocated. It can be an outlet for people struggling with loss and grief as a means of feeling less alone. According to the study, the research supports the idea that para-communication can be used to compensate for internal social deficits, essentially providing real psychological benefits from parasocial behaviors: “Though not conclusive, some findings have yielded support for this concept. For instance, for those who had social challenges such as factors related to cognition, anxiety, introversion, fear of rejection, loneliness or self-esteem, engaging in parasocial behaviors significantly aided some measures of well-being.”

Theran explained that “it’s important to remember that parasocial relationships can be helpful and beneficial, but they are not a substitute for authentic in-person relationships. It is also critical to remember that when you consume social media, to view it critically.”

Cases where someone becomes dangerously dependent on their parasocial relationship are very rare and usually occur when a person already has some form of mental illness. The overwhelming majority of para-relationships remain at a healthy level of admiration and “obsession.” Stever said that in her 35 years of fieldwork, her observation is that mental illness precedes the problematic relationship. In most cases, she added, the effects of parasocial relationships are more healthy than they are harmful.

It’s good and normal to find comfort in other people, even if that peace is only found in you. It’s perfectly healthy to look up to people we see ourselves in or want to be more like; we should always be wanting to grow and better ourselves, so long as we don’t lose sight of who we are. In other words, as screenwriter Charlie Kaufman once said, “We are what we love, not what loves us.”

COMEDY

MAY 2-4

Bubba Dub Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

MAY 3-4

First Coast Comedy

The Main Event, 7:30 p.m.

Adult Show (21+ only), 10 p.m.

First Coast Comedy firstcoastcomedy.com

MAY 5

We Them One’s Comedy ft. Mike Epps, DeRay Davis and Lil Duval

VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena jaxevents.com

MAY 9

Gigi LeFlair Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

MAY 10-11

First Coast Comedy

The Main Event, 7:30 p.m.

Adult Show (21+ only), 10 p.m.

First Coast Comedy firstcoastcomedy.com

MAY 10-12

Michael Blackson Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

MAY 11

Unscripted Comedy Third Space Improv, St. Augustine adventure-project.com

MAY 12

Jim Breuer Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

MAY 15

LOL Comedy Showcase Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

MAY 16

Bo Johnson

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 17

Jeff Dye: On Tour

Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts jaxevents.com

Don’t Tell Comedy

Somewhere in Arlington donttellcomedy.com

Dustin Sims

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 17-18

First Coast Comedy

The Main Event, 7:30 p.m.

Adult Show (21+ only), 10 p.m.

First Coast Comedy firstcoastcomedy.com

MAY 18

Don’t Tell Comedy Somewhere in Murray Hill donttellcomedy.com

MAY 24-25

First Coast Comedy

The Main Event, 7:30 p.m.

Adult Show (21+ only), 10 p.m.

First Coast Comedy firstcoastcomedy.com

MAY 26

The Jam Showcase

First Coast Comedy firstcoastcomedy.com

MAY 29

LOL Comedy Showcase Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

MAY 30-JUNE 1

Jackie Fabulous Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

SHE’S HUMAN, TOO.

MOTHER’S DAY

Words by Mallory Pace

As a child, I saw my parents as just that — parents. Not as 30- or 40-something-year-old human beings. They’re my parents. They make sure I have clothes, food, shelter, an education and love. They know everything — all of life’s secrets, what to do in every situation, how to make money, do taxes, raise a child, be independent, even math. Why wouldn’t they? They’re parents and are like so much older than me, so of course they know right from wrong, good from bad, yes from no. Right? Especially my mom, she had two kids, obviously she has been there, done that, seen it all. She’s not scared of anything or has any regrets. Right? When you’re a child, you see your mom as a super-human, as someone who has it all figured out; it’s hard to see her as a real, living person until you’re a little older. When you’re old enough to make regretful decisions and/or life changing ones and can confide in your mother on a human level, you start to really see her.

Each May we celebrate Mother’s Day, a time for giving your mom a little extra love and attention, maybe a new robe or purse and definitely a break. Sometimes it’s overlooked or brushed past, sometimes it’s full of celebrating and being celebrated. Sometimes it’s one of the hardest days of the year, filled with grief, mourning and remembering. We all have a mother, whether she’s near or far, and we all have something to thank her for: life. If you’re a mother yourself, this one’s for you and all that you do, seen and unseen. You truly are the world’s heroes.

Growing up is realizing your mom is human, too. She’s your mother who birthed you and punished you when you were bad as a kid, yes. But she’s more than a mom; she’s a living, breathing, feeling person who is going through life for the first time, just like you. Before she was your mom, she had a whole life. She was a child, then a hormonal teenager, a student, then a young adult. She was a free-thinker, an intern, a boss, a rebel, a lover, a wife. Then a mom. But as a kid, you mostly just think of her as much, someone who’s there when you get home, there when you wake up and every minute in between. She’s nurturing, caring, kind and beautiful. When you’re a teenager, she’s strict, harsh, and, of course, has no idea what you’re going through. But when you’re an adult, you realize she actually knows exactly what you’ve been through — and what you will — because she’s likely been there too. It’s like seeing a teacher out in public and realizing they exist outside of the classroom. Your mom has existed and continues to in ways separate from you. Her world might revolve around you now, but she’s still a growing person, just like you.

In a way, it’s unfortunate that it takes us so long to see this, but it actually just might be the best part of growing up. You get to see your mom in a new light, one that shows her vulnerability, fear and passions. You get to know her as a person, not just as your mom — don’t let that pass by. She has known you for your entire life thus far, you’ve only known her for a fraction of hers. Be curious about her life and get to know everything you can before it’s too late. Treat her more like a person and less like someone who will always be there because she might not be. She existed before you were born and lived a million lives before you were even discussed. Don’t let her forget that part of herself, the one that’s human, that messes up and falls down.

Being a mother is the hardest job on the planet because it’s impossible to ever know if you’re doing it right. Even when you’re told how good a job you’re doing or even if your kids turn out exceptional, it’s hard not to wonder what you could be doing better, doing more of, doing at all. Unlike every other job, there’s no manual to being a mom. You have to do your best every day and hope everything turns out all right. You can’t call out or take the day off; you have to be present, aware and alert. There’s no training — you have to somehow know what to do without ever doing any of it before. Though I don’t have the credentials to speak on any mothers’ behalf, I feel like when you become a mom, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself as a person. You assume this role that suddenly becomes your whole world, and though it’s seemingly the most rewarding and beautiful thing about life, it’s hard work. It consumes your entire being, every sleeping and waking moment. You’re now a mother before you are a person. For the first time in your life, you have to put someone else before you in every way. It’s the miracle of life, don’t get me wrong, but it’s also the biggest sacrifice someone can make: putting their life on hold to raise another. It takes bravery, strength and resilience. You have to show up every day and put on a smile even after you’ve finished crying. But even for mothers, a brave face can become sore.

I asked my own mother what the best and hardest part is about her role and she said, “The best part about being a mom is experiencing what love truly is, a bond that can never be broken. Laughter with my girls are the very best moments in my life without a doubt. The hardest part is that I never stop worrying. I have complete faith in their abilities, but life can throw us curve balls at times.”

When my parents got divorced, I was upset and confused but mostly mad. Selfishly, I was more concerned with what was going to happen to me and less with what was happening to them. It really did take me until my college years to understand the gravity of divorce. It sucks for the kids, no doubt, but it sucks on an entirely different level for the parents. My parents were together for almost 20 years until they decided they couldn’t do it anymore. That’s heavy stuff, most of which I couldn’t grasp being a kid. I was sad it was happening, but I was also angry they couldn’t just figure out how to stay together or tolerate each other enough for mine and my sister’s sakes. But now, as an adult, I realize that’s no way to live. Sometimes, people outgrow each other, forcing them to make hard sacrifices in order to keep growing. Sometimes, even as a mom, you have to put yourself first so you can be happy because you deserve to be happy, too. Looking back, I wish I gave them more grace and compassion for what they were going through. But kids don’t always think that way, so all I can do is give it to them now. My parents deserved to be happy even if that meant separating. They were people going through a divorce for the first time, just like when they got married. It was all new to them — love, loss and everything in between.

Unfortunately, we’re not always guaranteed to have a relationship with our mothers. Sometimes, life happens and the connection is lost somewhere along the way. Other times, death knocks too soon, unannounced and unfairly, and the world is flipped upside down. Losing the one who gave you life is one of the worst things to happen to someone. Even if it’s not death that comes knocking, but some other force that keeps you apart, it’s the cruelest thing about this life. There’s no right time to lose that person. If you’re remembering her this May, remember her loud and proud. Talk about her to anyone who will listen, share your memories, say her name. Talk to her like she’s there because she is — she’s listening and proudly watching you grow.

Mom, Mama, Mommy, Madre, Mother. Whatever you call her, or whatever you’re called, it means the same — love and life. If you’re fortunate enough to have your mom in your life this May, make this month an especially good one. It can be easy to take life for granted and even easier to forget who gave it to you in the first place. Make her feel special, loved and celebrated. Tell her how good a job she’s doing and how proud you are of her. Remind her of her strength, kindness and resilience. Ask her questions about herself. Consult her for advice and take it. Give her grace and compassion. Hug her, remember her and be nice to her. She’s only human after all, and she’s doing the best she can.

MOTHER’S DAYGIFT GUIDE

Words by Briana Pereira

Coming up with gift ideas to give to parents can be hard, especially when they often look past their own needs to fulfill our o wn. You ask them what they want or need and most of the time they reply with “nothing” or “I have everything I need.” Thinking of some thoughtful gifts that can help display the gratitude we have toward them is tough. With Mother’s Day approaching, I created a mini-gift guide to try and make shopping for one of the most important people in so many people’s lives a little easier.

There is no gift great enough that can genuinely equal how much gratitude we have for our mothers, but we can sure try. It doesn’t have to be a gesture too grand or anything expensive, but think about the small gifts or acts of service you enjoy receiving from others and treat your mom on a day that should be all about her.

Etsy is my personal favorite spot to shop for unique and personalized jewelry. Birth flower/birthstone jewelry is the perfect way to celebrate a mom on her special day. It allows you to include the birth months of both you and your siblings (if applicable), reminding her how much she is loved and appreciated on a piece that can be made to fit her.

I’ve always thought that nothing elevates a woman more than a nice scent. Moms really are superheroes in our lives and they deserve to be spoiled. There are so many unique scents and brands to choose from and even on the days that might feel rough, I know when I smell good it helps me feel good too.

SELF-CARE GIFT BASKET + MASSAGE GIFT CERTIFICATE

A classic in the realm of gift giving but one that should not be failed to mention is a cozy day-in/spa basket for mom. A great way to try and show love toward our moms can be giving them a basket of all things self-care as a reminder that they should put themselves first sometimes, and it’s OK to do so.

Some ideas for what to put in this basket would be a big fluffy blanket, bath bombs, face masks, some of her favorite snacks, some house slippers, a massage gift certificate and a new mug with some gift cards to her favorite spots.

THINGS TO DO WITH MOM” ADVENTURE BOOK +

This idea might be one of my favorites. I think the concept is super clever and would give a gift that keeps long past the holiday. Amazon sells a “100 Things to Do With Mom,” a compilation of bucket list ideas that would be the perfect way to plan activities to deepen your relationship throughout the year. This is especially great if her or your love language is quality time together.

Paired with the book you would give her a Polaroid so you could capture pictures when you are completing each adventure together. If you want to be extra fancy, you could get her a scrapbook so she can save the pictures all in one spot and write little recaps next to the picture as keepsakes.

DINNER + POTTERY CLASS

This is a perfect night out gift idea to spend quality time with your mom. Spoil her by taking her to dinner at either her favorite spot or somewhere she’s been hoping to try and then add some excitement to the evening by attending a pottery class together.

Pottery making is something interactive and unique that allows for creative advancement and it’s decently affordable. You both can pick out a few ceramic pieces to either paint, or start from ground zero and create your own piece of pottery using clay. It’s an activity that’s memorable, something she will remember doing with you for years to come.

MAKING

WINE TASTING + CANDLE

Last, but certainly not least, Wine Tasting and Candle Making. This is a very fun gift for the moms who love their wine (my mom included). It’s a bit elevated but still interactive, allowing you and your mom to get a little tipsy together before (or after) going to make some unique scents. In downtown there is a spot called Wick: A Candle Bar that allows you to not only create your own candles but also body scrubs. This allows her to pick her favorite smells and create something she will get use out of, it also hints you towards some of her favorite scents for the future.

RIDE IN STYLE WITH THE ST. JOHNS RIVER TAXI

Words & photos by Ambar Ramirez & Carmen Macri

Some tend to forget that Jacksonville is not all beaches; it’s also home to beautiful rivers. And they also seem to forget that car rides, buses and Skyways aren’t the only modes of transportation in this bold city. Established in 1987, the St. Johns River Taxi ferried passengers across the St. Johns River between the Northbank and Southbank of Downtown Jacksonville. However, now it is more than just a mode of getting from point A to point B — it is a vibrant party cruise.

“Water Taxi service in Jacksonville has been around for a long time, years before we have been personally involved. That said, the service has changed significantly,” said Heather Surface, owner of the St. Johns River Taxi. “We still offer traditional taxi service. We operate multiple ‘transit’ boats when there is an event occurring Downtown or when there is a large group or demand for transport. This is especially popular for concerts, baseball, games, hockey games, and, of course, Jags games. Passengers can also text the taxi for pick up — texts are checked only when we are safely docked so the response is not immediate. As Downtown Jacksonville has evolved, so has our business.”

It was on a Saturday evening that we decided to board the Captain Jax River taxi for the newly added sunset cruises at Jacksonville Beach. Walking down the dock at Beaches Marina, we were met with the smell of brackish water, fish and the sight of the sun beginning to set. As we boarded the 31-passenger river taxi, we were quickly introduced to the driver, also known as Captain Steve Cardano, entertainer and personal DJ of the cruise. Our only job for the excursion? “Listen to music and have a good time.”

The sunset cruise navigates through the Intracoastal Waterway for an hour and 15 minutes — an ideal prelude to a night out or a romantic date. Passengers have the freedom to relax and enjoy the journey as they please. They can sit back and take in the scenery, stroll onto the front deck for a clear view of the river and its wildlife, or visit the beer and wine station at the back for a refreshing drink.

We opted to relax and enjoy the ride, accompanied by some classic rock, thanks to Cardano. As luck would have it, the weather was perfect with hardly a cloud in the sky. Casual conversations filled the air until around 7:45 p.m., when the sun transformed into a blood-orange hue. At that moment, all the passengers, including ourselves, made their way to the front deck to witness the sunset, even though the taxi boasts open windows throughout. It’s strange, living in this city and witnessing countless sunsets, yet there’s something special about experiencing it while idly cruising along the river in a boat packed full of strangers. Everyone was there for the same reason — to admire the beautiful place we call home.

Surface’s family has been in the marine business since the early ’80s and has always been extremely passionate about our rivers and expanding access to everyone.

To achieve that goal, the St. Johns River Taxi is constantly adding innovative ways to get the city excited about our environment and about getting locals and tourists aboard the large passenger boats. So if a relaxing sunset cruise isn’t your cup of tea, that’s OK because there are many other trips to choose from.

“The project gave us an opportunity to put our passion into practice. We host narrated Downtown Sightseeing Tours, Sunset Cruises, Eco Tours, Happy Hour Tours and City Lights Tours. We periodically offer narrated neighborhood cruises featuring San Marco, Riverside, Avondale, Ortega and Arlington. We hope to expand this program to the Northside and resume our service to/ from the Jacksonville Zoo. We recently resumed our weekend river tours at our beach location where passengers can look for wildlife along the Intracoastal Waterway,” Surface shared. “[And] starting May 3rd and running every Friday through the end of September, we will feature local musicians on our sunset cruises. This is made possible through a special collaboration with the Ronan School of Music and its founder Darren Ronan.”

Another recent addition worthy of recognition is the informative and thrilling eco-cruise. Collaborating with the St. Johns Riverkeeper, the St. Johns River Taxi now offers a fun immersive and educational tour along Jacksonville’s waterways, providing passengers, including students, with insight into the diverse wildlife inhabiting both the river and its surrounding areas.

“The River Taxi has been a valuable partner to us as we can take up to 50 students at a time aboard a ‘floating classroom’ on the St. Johns River. On each RiverX trip, we ask the students if they’ve ever been on a boat before — most of the time over half of them raise their hands,” St. Johns Riverkeeper Education Director Jamie De Nisco said. “At St. Johns Riverkeeper, we advocate for hands-on education, and what better way to teach the next generation about our local environment than to take them on a trip down the St. Johns River!”

Thanks to Constellation Furyk & Friends the RiverX field trips are free of charge to Title 1 schools in Duval County and are tailored to give fourth to sixth graders the resources they need to become better stewards of our rivers.

“On our RiverX trips, fourth through sixth graders break out into three groups and rotate through three stations: salinity, EcoWeb and observation. At the salinity station, students can use refractometers to take salinity readings from five locations throughout the St. Johns River. This allows them to see what freshwater, saltwater and brackish water look like under the lens of the same tool that many scientists use. At the EcoWeb station, students participate in building a perfectly balanced ecosystem using photos of plants and animals along the St. Johns. We use rope to demonstrate how ecosystems are connected and show the students how each component of our environment is critical to protect.

Finally, students rotate to an observation station where they can use their skills to observe and take notes on what they see along the river,” De Nisco added.

All of these unique excursions are a perfect representation of how local businesses can unite and work together to make something greater. And just because you are technically an adult doesn’t mean you can’t take a field trip: The new Jax Beach Eco Cruise is open to all ages and is just as informative.

Whether you want to relax, learn, take a trip down Jacksonville’s history or party on the water, the St. Johns River Taxi is well worth the $15-28 ticket.

Here is a list of some of the St. Johns River Taxi most honorable mentions:

• Downtown Sunset Cruise

• Downtown Round trip game transport

• Jax Beach Sunset Cruise

• Jax Beach Eco Cruise

• Downtown Happy Hour Tour

• Sunset, Friendship Fountain Light Show & City Lights Cruise Upcoming live concerts on the Friday sunset cruises:

• May 3- Alex Affronti

• May 10 - Aaron DeCicco

• May 17 - John Austill

• May 24 - Luke Peacock

• May 31 - Natalie Ealum

• June 7 - Darren Ronan

• June 14 - John Citrone

• June 21 - Ace Winn

• June 28 - Natalie Ealum

• July 5 - Alex Affronti

• July 12 - Luke Peacock

• July 19 - Andy Haney

• July 26 - Tom LeGrand

• Aug 2 - John Citrone

• Aug 9 - TBD

• Aug 16 - Andy Haney

• Aug 23 - Darren Ronan

• Aug 30 - Aaron DiCicco

“BEYOND MONET” NoCo Center beyondmonet.com

THE ART CENTER COOPERATIVE

“In the Style Of,” through May 11 tacjacksonville.org

BEACHES MUSEUM beachesmuseum.org

BUTTERFIELD GARAGE ART GALLERY

• Works by Amy Hemphill Dove, Nancy Hamlin–Vogle, Sydney McKenna, Jan Miller, Debra Mixon Holliday, Paula Pascucci, Ron Vellucci and Cindy Wilson butterfieldgarage.com

THE CORNER GALLERY AT THE JESSIE

• Ya La’ford–”Embed: the approach,” through May 8 facebook.com/movingthemargins

CUMMER MUSEUM OF ART & GARDENS

• “Sporting Fashion: Outdoor Girls 1800-1960,” through May 16

• Jacksonville’s Norman Studios: Movie Posters from the Permanent Collection, through July 7

• Works on Paper from the Cummer Museum’s Collection, through Sept. 30 cummermuseum.org

FEMART GALLERY femartgallery.org

FIRST COAST CULTURAL CENTER firstcoastculturalcenter.org

GALLERY 725 gallery725.com

GOVERNOR’S HOUSE CULTURAL CENTER AND MUSEUM, ST. AUGUSTINE

• “Painting St. Augustine: Selections from the Samuel H. and Roberta T. Vickers Collection,” ongoing

• “Freedom Is Not Free: Ax Handle Saturday,” virtual exhibition staugustine.ufl.edu

HASKELL GALLERY AT JACKSONVILLE INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT jaxairportarts.com

HILLARY WHITAKER GALLERY hwhitakergallery.com

JACKSONVILLE UNIVERSITY

• ”Bill Davis: No Dark in Sight,” virtual exhibition

• “Kristin Skees: Close Knit,” virtual exhibition ju.edu/cfa

THE LIGHTNER MUSEUM

• “75 for 75: Lightner Museum Diamond Anniversary Exhibition,” ongoing

• “Illuminate: Lightner Museum’s Stained Glass Rediscovered,” ongoing

• “St. Augustine Through the Lens of William Henry Jackson,” ongoing lightnermuseum.org

MOCA JACKSONVILLE

• “A Walk on the Wild Side,” through June 30

• Project Atrium: Frank Stella,” through July 21 mocajacksonville.unf.edu

PASTA FINE ART GALLERY

• Works by David Fain, Pam Geiger, Linda F. Hawkins, Tracy Lavely, Ginny LeJeune, Rafael Pasarell, Marlene Zullig and others pastagalleryart.com

RITZ THEATRE & MUSEUM

• “Marcus Williams: Dignity and Pride,” through May 3

• “Maya Matheison: Beaufifully Damaged,” through May 3

• “Lift Ev’ry Voice,” permanent collection ritzjacksonville.com

SOUTHLIGHT GALLERY

• Featuring works by Will Dickey, Koo Hon, Paul Karabinis, Pablo Rivera, Enzo Torcoletti, Pam Zambetti and more southlightgallery.com

ST. AUGUSTINE ART ASSOCIATION staaa.org

STELLERS GALLERY

• Works by Eileen Corse, Jim Draper, MacTruque, Fallon Pepper, C. Ford Riley, Alice Williams, Jeff Foxworthy (yes, that Jeff Foxworthy) and more stellersgallery.com

THRASHER-HORNE CENTER GALLERY

• Works by Thomas H. Nagata, Yamel Molerio and John Gerstner, ongoing thcenter.org

TOUCHÉ GALLERY touchegallery.com

UNIVERSITY OF NORTH FLORIDA

unf.edu/gallery

THE VAULT AT 330

• Featured artists include Susan Astleford, Margena Burnett, Ellen Dia mond, Ed Hall, Dolf James, Harry McCormick and Denise Murphy thevaultat1930.com

YELLOW HOUSE

• “Sit in Stand Up,” virtual exhibition

• “Still Not About a Hotdog and a Coke,” virtual exhibition

• “Magic, Mirth, and Mortality: Musings on Black Motherhood,” virtual ex hibition yellowhouseart.org

ONGOING

ART WALK: MAY 1

Downtown Jacksonville lights up the first Wednesday of the month with art by local artists at hubs in James Weldon Johnson Park, The Jessie and Vag abond Flea at VyStar Tower from 5–9 p.m. Visitors can also enjoy live music, food trucks, street performers, free admission to MOCA and complimentary rides on JTA’s Skyway. dtjax.org

FERNANDINA BEACH ARTS MARKET: MAY 11 AND 25

Amelia Island’s premier arts and crafts market comes alive the second and fourth Saturday of every month from 9 a.m.–1 p.m. fernandinabeachartsmarket.com

RIVERSIDE ARTS MARKET: MAY 4, 11, 18 AND 25

Artists, artisans and makers display their original paintings, jewelry, photo graphs, prints and other handcrafted items every Saturday — rain or shine — from 10 a.m.-3 p.m. on Riverside Avenue underneath the canopy of the Fuller Warren Bridge. riversideartsmarket.com

ST. AUGUSTINE FIRST FRIDAY ARTWALK: MAY 4

On the first Friday of every month (hence the clever name), more than 30 galleries around the Oldest City open their doors from 5–9 p.m. for visitors to browse exhibits and interact with artists. A complimentary trolley service provides transportation between downtown venues. staaa.org

VILANO BEACH ARTISAN MARKET: MAY 18

Part beach party, part arts market, this monthly event includes works by local artists and locally-made products, as well as live music. The market takes place on the third Saturday of every month from 4-8 p.m. on A1A and Vilano Road. facebook.com/vilanobeachofficial

JME

In celebration of Jazz Appreciation Month (April) WJCT News 89.9 – in partnership with the Jacksonville Music Experience and the Independent 89.9 HD4 – will air Jazz Beyond Tradition, a six-episode limited series that explores jazz voices from the past, present and future.

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ON WJCT

89.9 & 10AM on The Independent 89.9 HD4

NEW MUSIC RELEASES

Made For You By Amiyah Golden

“RADICAL OPTIMISM”

Pop princess Dua Lipa is releasing her third studio album, “Radical Optimism” this month! Best known for her hit songs such as “Houdini”, “Physical” and “Levitating,” the singer is adding to her catalog with her latest 11-track project.

“Houdini” is listed as a featured song on the album, along with the early release of her single, “Ilusion.”

The criminally underrated Canadian singer and songwriter Charlotte Day Wilson has announced her new album “Cyan Blue.” My discovery of her was through many collaborations with some of my favorite artists including Kaytranada, Daniel Caesar, Snoh Aalegra and Syd. Her song, “Work” also holds a space in my heart from days in my former dance studio, a hauntingly beautiful piece that shadows a personal tale.

I expect nothing but greatness from Wilson’s newest project.

While her name simply holds weight just by being the daughter of actors Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith, Willow has truly been able to create a name associated with much more than her last name. With her producing such unparalleled music, I’m always surprised when I don’t hear her name mentioned more in the conversation of eminent artists in the alternative music scene.

Billed as a musical compilation, her new album “empathogen” is expected to encompass Willow in ev

ery facet of her numerous talents and abilities.

The “Chandelier ”singer, known for concealing her face with theatrical wigs and hats, will be unmasking her latest album, “Reasonable Woman,” this spring with appearances by artists such as Labrinth, Tierra Whack, Kaliii, Paris Hilton and the iconic Chaka Khan. While Sia is a powerhouse in her own right, the features alone have me enticed to give this project a listen.

DUA LIPA

This band had the 2000s in a chokehold with banger after banger after banger including “Use Somebody,” “Sex on Fire” and “Manhattan.” Now they’re back with a new album, “Can We Please Have Fun,” accompanied with a tour featuring Phantogram and The Vaccines. I have already mourned the fact that they’re not coming to Florida, but I’m still so excited to listen to the new album in the comfort of my bed.

“YOU WON’T GO BEFORE YOUR SUPPOSED TO”

“CAN WE PLEASE HAVE FUN”

For my metal-core fans out there, Knocked Loose will be releasing their latest project, “You Won’t Go Before You’re Supposed to” this month. With a dedicated fan base and a notoriety within the realm of rock and metal, Knocked Loose fans are amped up to hear what the Kentucky natives have in store with their newest project.

Following their hit song, “It’s Called: Freefall” —an ongoing anthem for me — the group Rainbow Kitten Surprise releases their latest body of work “Love Hate Music Box.” They will also hit the road in support of the new album starting in May.

“LOVE HATE MUSIC BOX” RAINBOW KITTEN SURPRISE

Singer and songwriter Billie Eilish releases “Hit Me Hard and Soft,” her newest album composed of 10 tracks with the help of her brother and producer Finneas. Eilish has amassed a devoted following with flowing support, and fans are excited to hear what the 22-year-old artist has created.

CAGE THE ELEPHANT

I AM SO EXCITED (yes, I’m yelling this for emphasis) for this drop! Cage the Elephant has never let me down … ever … with their 2013 album “Melophobia” is quite literally still on repeat to this day. With the early release of three singles from their latest album “Neon Pill,” the band has given listeners a taste for what to expect — but at the same time, this is Cage the Elephant so nothing is ever truly expected. They blow my mind every time they create a project, and I don’t foresee this time to be any different. A tour beginning in June will also accompany their newest project.

KINGS OF LEON

“HIT ME HARD AND SOFT”

BILLIE EILISH

“MELOPHOBIA”

“ROOM UNDER THE STAIRS”

To all my One Direction stans, it’s your time to rise up. Zayn’s fifth solo album, “Room Under the Stairs,” will feature 15 tracks of him pouring his heart and soul into his sound. I’m actually intrigued by his single alone, “Alienated” which really illuminates this raspy, blues-inspired sound that I didn’t know the British artist possessed.

Wallows have announced the release of their new album, “Model.” I’m a longtime supporter of this indie trio — and an even bigger fan of Dylan Minnette (hey … if you happen to read this) — and this groovy, alternative collective, always makes the best music to dance to, vibe to, sing really loudly in your car to (when no one is around of course), and they just consistently make really great music that makes you feel good! I can’t wait to add this album to my summer playlist!

The 59-year-old artist and four-time Grammy winner will be releasing his 12th studio album this May titled, “Blue Electric Light.” With fluidity, Kravitz continues to transcend boxes regarding genre and expectations. And with his range, we could really hear anything on this new album. This alone makes him one of the greats and I’m excited to hear what Kravitz produces.

“The Border” is legendary country singer Willie Nelson’s 75th solo studio album (75th!). The 90-yearold icon has influenced and paved the way for so many artists, not to mention creating a sound that’s uniquely his.

Coming on the heels of his recent feature on Beyonce’s latest album, “Cowboy Carter,” his latest album should continue to showcase his tales and his passion.

WILLIE NELSON

“THE BORDER”

TIME CAPSULE OF FUNK

Words by Jillian Lombardo

Have you ever lost a piece of yourself? Joe did. After his brother’s passing, the music they created together — a testament to their bond — vanished

Billie D. Senger III, a Baltimore native born in 1957, nurtured a passion for music from a young age. Honing his skills on the guitar before taking center stage as frontman for his own band, LEAF, in 1979. This is where the story of the Senger brothers and their musical journey truly begins. Recognizing his younger brother Joe’s potential, Billie ensured Joe got his first drum set, solidifying the band’s core. Despite their age difference and Billie’s struggle with bipolar disorder, they shared a unique musical connection that transcended their challenges.

Fueled by their admiration for rock and funk legends, Billie and Joe transformed their Baltimore home into a vibrant musical hub during the 1980s. The energy of their diverse neighborhood seeped into their sound as they experimented with a four-track recorder. This culminated in their debut 45 RPM single, “Food Stamps/How Do I Know,” released in late 1982, a perfect embodiment of their dual rock and funk identity.

They formed a band called LEAF (Love-Everyone-Always-Forever) that focused on original music with social commentary. The brothers weren’t afraid to get unconventional, sometimes setting up drums on the first floor with the guitar relegated to the basement. Despite this physical separation, their musical connection was undeniable. They consistently started with the foundation of guitar and drums, building their sound layer by layer. This collaborative approach, fostered by their tight musicality, is what allowed them to blossom as a band.

“We did not use clock tracks to keep timing 30 years ago,” said Joe, “we just relied on God-given talent and time.”

Mainly creating music based around funk and rock, their songs touch on drugs, gun violence and racism. Joe sees that there is still a need for these to be heard 30 years later. One song in particular, “Jew and a German” Billie wrote to shock people and draw awareness to the obscurity of calling people these names. While the drugs in their song “Too Many Junkies” connect more to the crack crisis of that time, there are other drugs that have taken their place destroying lives in today’s climate.

Joe moved to Florida after a while, keeping up with his brother periodically. Until one day the line went silent. Joe realized he hadn’t heard from Billie in months, so he immediately flew to Baltimore to check in. The melody of his life took a turn; something wasn’t right. Joe visited the shop next to his brother’s apartment and asked if they had heard from Billie. It was then Joe became aware of his brother’s demise.

The news hit him hard: His brother was gone. The landlord, claiming there was no next of kin, had sold everything of Billie’s: recordings, instruments, basically Billie’s life. Desperate, Joe took to Craigslist and a local music magazine, hoping to find these lost relics. Fortunately, he got a hit and immediately flew to Baltimore to meet a man who had the tapes and was willing to give them to Joe. They met at a bar in Towson. Filled with gratitude for this unexpected connection to his brother, Joe offered the man a drink or a meal. But the exchange was abrupt. The man simply dropped off the tapes and left. Stunned, Joe was left with no answers, only the silence where questions about his brother should have been.

Joe’s musical journey began at 14, drumming alongside his brother. Without his brother by his side, it was difficult, but he rekindled his passion for playing. One of his most popular projects was playing with Coast Friends of Funk (FCF of Funk), releasing an album with them in 2015. He then released “Up Yo Game” featuring Joy Denise (vocals), Danny Bedrosian (keyboards), and Jesse Cruce (guitar). Recording “LEAF,” however, reignited a fire within him, a desire to return to his roots of writing and producing.

The recording process of the album became a reunion of Jacksonville’s music scene.

Longtime collaborator Kenny Hamilton, known for his work with JJ Grey & Mofro, added a soulful saxophone line to “Without You” after Joe envisioned it during a mix session. Childhood friend Shawn Pfaffman, who plays keyboards with Joe in their band Flo ‘N Grits, brought his signature Hammond organ sound to a couple of tracks. These local legends joined the project alongside Rick Grice, whose production on “Ding Dong” immediately impressed Joe with its Red Hot Chili Peppers vibe. Grice’s enthusiasm for the project solidified the choice, not to mention his background aligned perfectly with their commitment to social commentary and artistic diversity — values Joe and Billie championed throughout their careers. With a few more surprise guests from the Jacksonville area waiting in the wings, the album promised to be a vibrant mosaic of the city’s musical talent.

“Listening to the music today and remixing in the studio just takes me back to a time when I really felt we had something, something different and something that could break through,” said Joe. “This needs to be heard.”

This album acts as a bittersweet tribute to the good times, the bad times and the memories that connect them for the rest of their lives. To him, it feels as if he is working with his brother again on something new.

“We’re still creating together,” Joe commented.

Inspired by many who recognized the unique narrative of the Senger brothers’ rediscovered music – a story involving a deceased brother, a ruthless landlord, a prized 45 record achieving collector’s status and even a London compilation.

To weave a complete tapestry of this journey and include all perspectives, Joe embarked on a mission to interview key players from over the years including musicians to the original engineer, Carl King, to the unsuspecting record store owner who inadvertently spread the music globally.

To learn more about the upcoming album or to hear more about the bands mentioned, visit fcfoffunk.com.

CONCERTS

Photo by Courtney Thomassen

MAY 1

Sawyer Brown

Thrasher-Horne Center, Orange Park thcenter.org

Calahoney

Blue Jay Listening Room bluejayjax.com

Mike Pinto

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Kabaka Pyramid Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 2

Eddie 9V

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 3

Me First and The Gimme Gimmes

St. Augustine Amphitheatre–Backyard Stage theamp.com

Sweeping Promises

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Big Something Underbelly underbellyjax.com

Selwyn Birchwood Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 3-4

Luke Combs EverBank Stadium jaxevents.com

MAY 4

Kenny G Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

Daniel Rodriguez

Blue Jay Listening Room bluejayjax.com

Skyview

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Magnolia Boulevard Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 5

The FIXX Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

Terence Blanchard: Absence Featuring the E-Collective and Turtle Island Quartet Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts jaxsymphony.org

Sandra McCracken

Murray Hill Theatre murrayhilltheatre.com

Andy Frasco & The U.N. Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 6

The Record Company Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 7

Hozier VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena jaxevents.com

Emo Orchestra ft. Escape the Fate Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

Chris Renzema w/Citizens

Murray Hill Theatre murrayhilltheatre.com

MAY 8

One Night of Queen Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

Andrew W. Boss

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Biogression & Funeral of God

Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 9

Trace Adkins

Thrasher-Horne Center, Orange Park thcenter.org

Kurt Vile and the Violators with special guest

Florry

Intuition Ale Works intuitionaleworks.com

IV & The Strange Band

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Jeffrey Gaines

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 10

The Chisel Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Enterprise Earth, Inferi & more Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 10-11

Dancin’ in the Streets: The Sounds of Motown Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts jaxsymphony.org

MAY 11

George Strait and Chris Stapleton EverBank Stadium jaxevents.com

Howard Hewett

Ritz Theatre & Museum ritzjacksonville.com

Blynkr Fluyd

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Damon Fowler

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 12

AJR

VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena jaxevents.com

Taylor Hunnicutt

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Overtime

Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 16

Black Joe Lewis & The Honeybears

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

MAY 17

Megan Moroney

St. Augustine Amphitheatre theamp.com

Grateful Shred & Circles Around The Sun Intuition Ale Works intuitionaleworks.com

408 Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

Future Joy w/Sexbruise? Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 17-18

Adelya Plays “The Lark Ascending” Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts jaxsymphony.org

MAY 18

As If! 90s Fest with Deana Carter, Paula Cole, 69 Boyz and Fastball Francis Field, St. Augustine asifthe90sfest.com

Ultimate Rush Tribute Underbelly underbellyjax.com

Antwoine Hill, Young Bro & more

Murray Hill Theatre murrayhilltheatre.com

Davy Knowles

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 19

Tank

Jacksonville Center for the Performing Arts jaxevents.com

Melody Trucks ft. The Fitzkee Brothers and Platten Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 20

Worldsucks

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

MAY 22

Cabal, Born a New & more Underbelly underbellyjax.com

Joanna Connor

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 23

Jacksonville Jazz Piano Competition Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

MAY 24

Jacksonville Jazz Festival

4:15 p.m.: TBA, Daily’s Place Stage

4:30 p.m.: Michelle Manzo, Met Park Stage

5:30 p.m.: Jamison Ross, Daily’s Place Stage

6 p.m.: Nicholas Payton, Met Park Stage

7 p.m.: Kenny Barron Trio, Daily’s Place Stage

7:45 p.m.: Lee Ritenour and Dave Grusin, Met Park Stage

8:30 p.m.: The Brian McKnight 4, Daily’s Place Stage

9:30 p.m.: Stanley Clarke Band, Met Park Stage jacksonvillejazzfest.com

Glass Camels 35th Anniversary Party Underbelly underbellyjax.com

Mutlu

Cafe Eleven, St. Augustine originalcafe11.com

MAY 25

Jacksonville Jazz Festival

3 p.m.: TBA, Daily’s Place Stage

3:45 p.m.: TBA, Met Park Stage

4:30 p.m.: Pablo Aragona Quintet, Daily’s Place Stage

5:15 p.m.: Jacksonville Jazz Piano Competition winner, Met Park stage

6 p.m.: Josh Vietti, Daily’s Place Stage

6:15 p.m.: Lekecia Benjamin, Met Park Stage

7:45 p.m.: Huntertones, Daily’s Place Stage

7:45 p.m.: Gregory Porter, Met Park Stage

9:15 p.m.: Robin Thicke, Daily’s Place Stage

9:30 p.m.: Brian Culbertson, Met Park Stage jacksonvillejazzfest.com

Lionel Richie + Earth, Wind & Fire: Sing a Song

All Night Long

VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena jaxevents.com

Vision Video

Underbelly underbellyjax.com

Concerts for a Cause: Randy Houser

Tringali Barn, St. Johns County tringalibarn.com

MAY 25-26

JJ Grey’s Blackwater Sol Revue St. Augustine Amphitheatre theamp.com

MAY 26

Jacksonville Jazz Festival

3:15 p.m.: JAMS, Met Park Stage

3:15 p.m.: UNF Jazz Ensemble I, Daily’s Place Stage

4:15 p.m.: Jeff Ryan, Met Park Stage

4:30 p.m.: Keiko Matsui, Daily’s Place Stage

5:45 p.m.: Chucho Valés Royal Quartet, Met Park Stage

6 p.m.: Lizz Wright, Daily’s Place Stage

7:15 p.m.: The Baylor Project, Met Park Stage

7:45 p.m.: RnR, Daily’s Place Stage

9:30 p.m.: Joss Stone, Met Park Stage jacksonvillejazzfest.com

NF VyStar Veterans Memorial Arena jaxevents.com

Slater w/Tony Velour Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 27

Caged Affair, Falling In Place & more Underbelly underbellyjax.com

MAY 28

Tye Tribbett Florida Theatre floridatheatre.com

Heavy on the Heart

Jack Rabbits jaxlive.com

MAY 28-29

Dave Matthews Band Daily’s Place dailysplace.com

MAY 29

Walter Parks

Blue Jay Listening Room bluejayjax.com

MAY 30

Matthew Logan Vasquez Blue Jay Listening Room bluejayjax.com

MAY 31

Skyliner, Appalachian Death Trap & more Underbelly underbellyjax.com

Words & photos by Amiyah Golden

Some things are just destined to be together: peanut butter and jelly, ranch on pizza, J. Lo and Ben Affeck (depending on who you ask, of course) and Jacksonville band, Divorce Culture, an alternative-rock ensemble composed of Fleming Island natives Tyler, Brian, Jeremy and Brysen. Despite the irony of the name, the unification of Divorce Culture has produced a sound that fuses together to create a euphonious harmony.

High school hallways served as the initial mediator between Tyler and Brian who belonged to their individual factions at school with Tyler in chorus and Brian in the band. The shared musical interests amongst the two garnered buzz around each other’s abilities.

A mundane post-grad life trip to the gas station for Brian was unknowingly the beginning of a rhythmic journey with Tyler. The run-in between the two led to the formation of their first group. As time passed, Divorce Culture was then formed with Brysen becoming a later addition to the group after a search for a bassist circulated.

Many jam sessions occurred, creative juices poured and memories were made. Up until the beginning of 2017 when Brysen and a former drummer had to step away.

The name wasn’t feeling too ironic anymore, but this initial breakup was amicable. Brysen went on to pursue their education, and Tyler and Brian continued to write music.

While the band took a hiatus as a whole, the break was used for personal exploration in the world of careers and life changes. Tyler continued to pour into his own artistic avenues under his alias Rokko Cash, combining a fusion of indie style music and hip-hop.

Last year, Tyler and Brian linked back up on a casual hangout that turned into a discussion of a potential reunion. That proposition felt even further bona fide after a repost of a Facebook memory from a previous show by Tyler was met with a comment from Brysen quoting: “Round 2?” A group call followed for explicit confirmation. With the greenlight, the “divorce decree” was ripped up and the band reconciled with the addition of new drummer, Jeremy who initially had ties to Tyler as they played and wrote music together.

The transition to unity again was effortless due to their shared bond and solo journeys within music, yet the yearning to co-create never fizzled out.

With Jacksonville having a pretty saturated alternative scene, it can be hard to stand out at times. Divorce Culture does so by paying homage to a sound that can be categorized under the midwest emo subgenre, creating music that make you want to mosh and music that makes you want to stare at the ceiling and soak in the lyricism. It’s the intertwining of their own sound along with stellar storytelling really sets them apart.

Inspired by bands including Title Fight, Green Day and Hot Mulligan the group’s ability to reflect influence, while still delivering their own unique flair, garners them longevity, as well as the envelopment of a post-punk sound that’s constructed from unadulterated aspirations.

The advantage of four viewpoints due to various life stories, experiences and interests also contribute to the embracive mastery of their catalog thus far. With Jeremy coming from a musical family who raised him on hard-core metal, Brysen taking inspiration from time signatures in math-rock, Tyler having the ability to mesh divergent genres, and Brian taking the reins in educating himself on various softwares gave this band a leg up up due to their well-rounded understanding of music, further strengthening their craft — and the sheer delight they get just from simply sharing their music.

“I look at Divorce Culture as a passion project,” said Brysen. “When I see streams go up, I’m excited to see people listening and enjoying. I’m not thinking about how we can capitalize off of it.”

“This is just how we like to hang out with each other,” chuckled Tyler.

“We would still be doing it if no one was listening,” chimed Jeremy.

The energy that radiates from these individuals is a testament to the humble hunger that’s motivated from creating a connection with listeners, as well as fellow bands in the area and beyond.

While this brainchild was birthed because of their shared fanaticism, it doesn’t discount the heights they can truly reach. Their single, “FM,” has racked up 10,000 streams on Spotify alone with various listeners from around the world.

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Killer vocals, refined production, intense percussion and timely strums flow into the experience they deliver. Live shows at venues across town such as Kona Skatepark and the Jacksonville Bridge Shows hosted by Jax Punx are always met with adulation from supporters and colleagues alike.

“You can throw us into an indie show or a more hardcore show and it works,” said Brysen.

Putting out quality music isn’t for the faint of heart, especially in a city where local music is supported but not always outwardly. It’s hard work to release your inner workings for potential scrutiny or — even worse — lack of reach. Divorce Culture’s dynamic works so well in Jacksonville’s music scene works because of the band’s ecstasy of collective voracity, that giddy feeling artists get from sharing their creation.

Memories of six-hour practices at Brysen’s parents’ house were shared for a good laugh between band members. These recollections of teenage sagas have certainly contributed the synergy they continue to nurture. The recent addition of Jeremy was a stroke of fate; he fit in so well one would think he was there the whole time — pre-divorce. The flow of all participants just worked, further supporting their songwriting process, ideas and stage presence.

To keep up with their latest musical journey, follow them on Instagram at @divorceculture and Spotify at Divorce Culture.

FOLIO SUMMER COVERS

Cliff’s Bar & Grill cliffsbarandgrill.com

Fancy Sushi & Grill Japanese Restaurant fancysushiandgrill.com

Fuji Sushi fujisushi-fl.com

The Good Place Nutrition facebook.com/thegoodplacenutrition

Grinders American Diner grindersamdiner.com

ABBQ abbqmeatdrink.com

Anejo anejococinamexicana.com

Angie’s Subs facebook.com/angiessubs

Aqua Grill aquagrill.net

Azurea at One Ocean azurearestaurant.com

Barbara Jean’s on the Water barbarajeansonthewater.com

Caffe Andiamo caffeandiamo.com

Cantina Louie cantinalouie.com

Coop 303 coop303.com

Eleven South elevensouth.com

Engine 15 Brewing Company engine15.com

European Street Cafe europeanstreet.com

The Fish Company Restaurant and Oyster Bar thefishcojax.com

Flying Iguana Taqueria & Tequila Bar flyingiguana.com

The G.O.A.T. Tapas & Bar thegoatjax.com

GROM facebook.com/Grom904

La Palmerita orderlapalmerita.com

Rice + Noodles Korean Restaurant riceandnoodles.net

Seven Wonders Restaurant 7wondersbakery.com

Southern Coast Seafood southerncoastseafood.com

Tabouleh Cafe taboulehcafe.com

Hawkers eathawkers.com

JJ’s Liberty Bistro jjbistro.com/ponte-vedra

Kamiya 86 kamiya86fl.com

Lone Wolf Co. lonewolfjax.com

Marker 32 marker32.com

Mezzaluna mezzalunajax.com

Mojo Kitchen mojobbq.com/mojo-kitchen

Nona Blue Modern Tavern nonablue.com

North Beach Fish Camp thenorthbeachfishcamp.com

Oaxaca Club theoaxacaclub.com

O-Ku o-kusushi.com

Palm Valley Fish Camp palmvalleyfishcamp.com

Poe’s Tavern poestavern.com

Ragtime Tavern ragtimetavern.com

Safe Harbor Seafood Market and Restaurant safeharbor-seafood.com

Thai & Lao Bistro thaiandlaobistro.com

Salt Life Food Shack saltlifefoodshack.com

Salumeria 104 Atlantic Beach salumeria104.com

Singleton’s Seafood Shack singletonsseafood.com

Sliders Oyster Bar slidersoysterbar.com

Southern Grounds southerngrounds.com TacoLu tacolu.com

Two Dudes Seafood Restaurant twodudesrestaurant.com

Valley Smoke BBQ valleysmoke.com

Vicious Biscuit viciousbiscuit.com

Bellweather bellwetherjax.com

The Bread and Board thebreadandboard.com

The Brick Coffee House brickcoffeehouse.com

Burrito Gallery burritogallery.com

Cowford Chophouse cowfordchophouse.com

Casa Dora Italian Cafe facebook.com/casadorajax

De Real Ting Cafe facebook.com/derealtingcafe

Estrella Cocina estrellajax.com

The Happy Grilled Cheese thehappygrilledchees.wixsite.com/grilledcheese

Indochine indochinejax.com

Berndt Ends BBQ facebook.com/berndtendsbbq

Blue Bamboo Canton Bistro bluebamboojacksonville.com

ChopHouse Thirteen chophouse13.com

Enza’s Italian Restaurant enzas.net

ISO ISO Ramen isoisoramen.com

Julington Creek Fish Camp julingtoncreekfishcamp.com

Kazu Japanese Restaurant kazujapaneserestaurant.com

Le Petit Paris French Cafe lepetitparisjax.com

Mandola’s Italian Kitchen mandolas.com

Masala Indian Cuisine jaxmasala.com

Juliette’s Bistro at Marriott Jacksonville Downtown marriott.com

Morton’s The Steakhouse mortons.com

Ocean Street Tacos oceanstreettacos.com

On The Fly Sandwiches & Stuff (food truck) ontheflyjax.com

The River Club jaxriverclub.com

Spliff’s Gastropub spliffsgastropub.com

Super Food & Brew superfoodandbrew.com

Sweet Pete’s sweetpetescandy.com

Tavern at the Hyatt Regency hyatt.com

One Night Taco Stand onenightjax.com

Picasso’s Pizzeria jaxpicassos.wixsite.com/jaxpicassos

Rosy’s Restaurant rosys-restaurant.business.site

Taziki’s Mediterranean Cafe tazikis.com

Umami Japanese Curry & Ramen umamijax.com

Wicked Barley Brewing Company wickedbarley.com

Bold Birds Nashville Hot Chicken boldbirdshotchicken.com

Buchner’s Bierhall buchnersbierhalle.com

The Dreamette dreametteicecream.com

El Jefe Tex Mex eljefejax.com

Fired Up Pizza woodfireduppizza.com

Fuji Yama fujiyamajax.com

Green Papaya Pan Asian Cuisine greenpapayaus.com

Joseph’s Pizza josephspizza.com/northside-full-menu

The Jungle Bowl facebook.com/thejunglebowl

Junior’s Seafood Restaurant juniorsseafoodrestaurant.com/north-jacksonville

Masala Mantra masalamantrajax.com

13 Gypsies 13gypsies.com

904 Tacos facebook.com/904tacosfivepoints

Ale Pie House alepiehousefl.com

Arepa Please arepaplease.com

Bagel Love bagel-love.ueniweb.com

Biggie’s Pizza biggiespizzajax.com

Biscottis biscottis.net

The Blue Fish bluefishjax.com

Blue Buddha bluebuddhaspecialty.com

Maple Street Biscuit Company maplestreetbiscuits.com/murray-hill

Moon River Pizza moonriverpizza.net

Murray Hillbilly murrayhillbilly.com

Solazo Taqueria solazofl.business.site

The Stout Snug thestoutsnug.com

Nagasaki Japanese Restaurant nagasakisushirestaurant.com

New Berlin Fish House & Oyster Bar newberlinfishhouse.com

Ship 2 Shore Seafood & Steak ship2shoreseafood.com

Sushi Zen Jax sushizenfl.kwickmenu.com

Terry’s Grill facebook.com/terrysgrill

Blue Orchid Thai Cuisine blueorchidthai.com

Bold Bean boldbeancoffee.com

Brew Five Points brewfivepoints.co

Carolina Jax carolinajax.com

Carmines Pie House carminespiehouse.com

Cool Moose Cafe coolmoosecafe.net

Cuisine 76 & Bar cuisine76andbar.com

European Street Cafe europeanstreet.com

The Fox Restaurant facebook.com/thefoxrestaurant

Vagabond Coffee Co. vagabondcoffee.com

The Walrus thewalrusjax.com

Hawkers eathawkers.com

Homespun Kitchen homespunkitchen.com

Iguana on Park iguanaonpark.com

Josephine josephineavondale.com

Kickbacks Gastropub kickbacksgastropub.com

Kingmaker Brewing kingmakerbrewing.com

MOJO No. 4 Urban BBQ & Whiskey Bar mojobbq.com/mojo-no-4

The Mossfire Grill mossfire.com

Nacho Taco nachotaco.net

Pattaya Thai Grill pattayathaijax.com

Pizza Cave facebook.com/pizzacave5pts

Restaurant Orsay restaurantorsay.com

River & Post riverandpostjax.com

Sake House sakehousejax.com

Southern Grounds southerngrounds.com

S & R Dim Sum srdimsumjax.com

Sushi Cafe sushicafejax.com

1937 1937sanmarco.com

Bar Molino barmolino.com

bb’s bbsrestaurant.com

The Bearded Pig thebeardedpigbbq.com

Bistro X Restaurant and Lounge bistrox.com

Chart House chart-house.com

European Street Cafe europeanstreet.com

Fla. Juice and Bowl flajuiceandbowl.com

Flavors of Thai flavors-of-thai.business.site

Fuji Sushi jacksonvillefujisushi.com

The Local thelocaljax.com

Sweet Theory Baking Company sweettheorybakingco.com

Taqueria Cinco taqueria5points.com

Matthew’s Restaurant matthewsrestaurant.com

The Metro Diner metrodiner.com

The Olive Tree Mediterranean Grille theolivetreemediterraneangrille.com

Peterbrooke peterbrooke.com/pages/san-marco

Pink Salt Restaurant + Wine Bar pinksaltrestaurant.com

Rue Saint-Marc ruesaintmarc.com

Southern Grounds southerngrounds.com

Taverna taverna.restaurant

Town Hall townhalljax.com

V Pizza vpizza.com

1748 Bakehouse 1748bakehouse.com

Caribbean Sunrise Bakery & Restaurant caribbeansunrisebakery.com

Crispy’s Springfield Gallery facebook.com/CrispysSpringfieldGallery

Flavva flavvajacksonville.com

Island Tropics Restaurant facebook.com/Island-Tropics-Restaurant-Lounge

Tha Soulfood Smagicians facebook.com/thasmagicians

III Forks 3forks.com/location/jacksonville

4 Rivers Smokehouse 4rsmokehouse.com

Amazing Thai Restaurant amazingthaijax.com

Bazille at Nordstrom nordstrom.com

Blaze Pizza blazepizza.com

Catullo’s Italian catullos.hrpos.heartland.us/menu

Culhane’s Irish Pub culhanesirishpub.com

The French Pantry thefrenchpantryfl.com

Ahadu Ethiopian Restaurant ahadu-ethiopian-restaurant.business.site

Banana Leaf Asian Bistro facebook.com/bananaleafasianbistro

Cross Creek Steakhouse and Ribs crosscreeksteakhouse.com

Ellianos Coffee ellianos.com

The Juicy Crab thejuicycrabjax.com

La Perla Mexican Restaurant orderlaperlamexicanrestaurant.com

The Dreamette dreametteicecream.com

The District thedistrictspr.com

Hola Mexican Restaurant holajax.com

Social Grounds Coffee Roasters social-grounds-coffee.myshopify.com

Strings Sport Brewery stringssportsbrewery.com

Silkie’s Chicken & Champagne Bar meetatsilkies.com

Galaxy Burger galaxyburgersjax.com

Mr. Potato Spread mrpotatospread.com

Midtown Table midtowntable.medurebrothers.com

Prati Italia pratiitalia.com

Seasons 52 seasons52.com

Taste of Thai tasteofthaijax.com

Texas de Brazil texasdebrazil.com

Lewey’s Seafood and Wings leweys-seafood-wings.business.site

Mesa mesajax.com

The Metro Diner metrodiner.com

The Potter’s House Soul Food and Bistro thesoulfoodbistro.com

Puerto Plata Restaurant puertoplatarestaurant.com

Sushi Bear sushibearjax.com

Uptown Kitchen and Bar uptownkitchenjax.com

Waafa and Mike’s Cafe facebook.com/waafaandmikes

Trent’s Seafood jltrents.com

BITE

SNACCIDENT: DOUGHNUTS AND TATER TOTS

Words by Ernest Matthews

A snack is generally described as a small food item eaten in between meals, but in the modern age we have turned it into a lifestyle. From boba tea to girl dinner, many people have shifted from eating major meals to simply snacking all day. This has led to a slang term that I personally love to use: “snaccident,” which is when a person starts eating with the intention of having a small amount but may lose control and it turns into a much larger meal. The main example of this would be intending to eat a handful of potato chips but eating the entire family size bag instead. While this definition is good, I’d like to give this word another connotation: finding a wonderful snack completely by accident. This was the case one afternoon when I visited Sweet Theory Bakery and Clarke Bros Subs.

One mid-afternoon I had finished all my errands and had far too much time to burn. I was off from my regular 9-5 and only had a light salad for lunch earlier, so I made the decision to take a walk around the block. I started down King Street from my humble dwelling on Forbes and within seconds I was in front of the small bakery that I had passed for years but never walked in. Sweet Theory stood next to me in all of its modesty. I walk in and I’m met with the smell of sweets and coffee. The shop felt like a homey cottage with a cozy glass counter to display its delicious wares. The pickings were slim later in the afternoon, but I spotted a powdered doughnut and a chocolate chip cookie calling my name. I refused the regular cardboard box for baked goods as I had no plans for them to last longer than the rest of the block.

The cookie was a standard A+ chocolate chip cookie with a soft crumble and an ample amount of chocolate chips. As good as it was, it was not the star today. As I’m rounding the corner onto Park Street, I start on this sizable doughnut. I go to rip a piece off the beast and in an odd moment I’m met with unexpected resistance. Instead of the normal light texture of a common yeast doughnut, this one had substance and structure. I tear the piece off and devour it. It was chewy and sweet with an almost bagel-like texture. This was different than most of its kind, as there was a slight sourness that played with the sweetness of the powdered sugar. Even with some of the differences, it still felt like it never forgot it was a doughnut. Such a simple taste with complex texture, a wonderful departure from the regular dessert fare found around town.

After an unexpected and offbeat treat, I decided I wanted something more, but after having my dessert first I wanted something light. I remembered there was a poke bowl place on the corner of Riverside and Barrs so I made my way there. As I’m walking up, still thinking about the doughnut, I find out that I had not been keeping up with restaurant news as much as I thought. Instead of the poke bowl place, I found a cartoon dog holding a hoagie. Clarke Bros Subs lie before me, and while it wasn’t what I was looking for I went inside. The decor was lively and pleasing with some standard booths and some metal cafe tables to sit after ordering at the counter. Waves painted on the walls with a half wall topped with all the different breads greet you along with the smell of beef on a flat top. The menu spans most of a wall catching your eyes as you walk inside as well. Many of the options seemed too heavy at the time so I went with a smaller side item to snack on — the bacon cheddar tater tots.

I sip on some root beer while waiting on my order with what might be the longest silly straw I’ve seen at an eatery. A nice man dropsoff a metal basket of fried morsels on the table. Before me is something that resembles hushpuppies, larger and rounder than any tot I’ve ever seen before then. I take one and rip it open to discover pillowy shredded potato, cheddar cheese and bacon inside. The crispy exterior with the soft potato was excellent. I had initially thought that the “bacon cheddar” part would be topping but being inside the tots made it all the better. The salty bacon danced with the melted cheese and was brought back home by the potato. They came roughly eight to an order, but they seem like they didn’t last long. A homemade treat such as that never lasts very long.

While I never intended to find any of those snacks that day, I’m forever grateful that they found me: a doughy pastry from an expected place and a better take on a traditional burger companion.

Many times it’s small bites like these that make a big impact on taste buds. It is very easy to over-indulge though, like I did on my walk that day. A major snaccident in my opinion, using either definition.

ARLINGTON

Cliff’s Bar and Grill cliffsbarandgrill.com

Club Heaven clubheavenjax.com

BEACHES/PONTE VEDRA

Blue Jay Listening Room bluejayjax.com

The Brix Taphouse jacksonvillebeachbar.com

Casa Marina casamarinahotel.com

Culhane’s culhanesirishpub.com

Flask & Cannon facebook.com/flaskandcannon

Fly’s Tie Irish Pub facebook.com/flystieirishpub

Green Room Brewing greenroombrewing.com

Grey Matter Distillery greymatterdistillery.com

Gusto gustojax.com

Hoptinger Bier Garden + Sausage House hoptinger.com

Ink Factory Brewing inkfactorybrewing.com

NIGHTLIFE

Island Girl Cigar Bar islandgirlcigarbar.com

Jax Beach Kava Bar kavajacksonville.com

Jekyll Brewing jekyllbrewing.com

Julep Palm Valley facebook.com/juleppalmvalley

Lemon Bar & Grille lemonbarjax.com

Lynch’s Irish Pub lynchsirishpub.com

Mango’s mangosjaxbeach.com

Mavi’s Waterfront Bar & Grill mavijax.com

Monkey’s Uncle Tavern monkeysuncletavern.com

Palm Valley Outdoors Bar and Grill palmvalleyoutdoors.com

Penthouse Lounge at Casa Marina Hotel casamarinahotel.com

Ragtime Tavern ragtimetavern.com

Refinery Jax Beach refineryjaxbeach.com

Reve Brewing revebrewing.com

The Ritz Lounge theritzlounge.com

The Shim Sham Room shimshamroom.com

Southern Swells Brewing Company southernswells.com

Surfer The Bar surferthebar.com

Voo Swar Restaurant & Lounge instagram.com/vooswar

DOWNTOWN

The Bier Hall at Intuition Ale Works intuitionaleworks.com/bierhall

Bold City Brewery boldcitybrewery.com

De Real Ting Cafe facebook.com/derealtingcafe

Dos Gatos dosgatosjax.com

Element Bistro Bar & Lounge elementjax.com

Hardwicks hardwicksbarjax.com

Intuition Aleworks intuitionaleworks.com

Island Girl Cigar Bar islandgirlcigarbar.com

Justice Pub facebook.com/thejusticepub

The Lark thelarkjax.com

Live Bar facebook.com/livebarclubjax

Manifest Distilling manifestdistilling.com

Ocean Street Tequila instagram.com/oceanstreettacosandtequila

The RL Lounge therlloungejax.com

Ruby Beach Brewing rubybeachbrewing.com

Underbelly underbellyjax.com

The Volstead thevolsteadjax.com

FLEMING ISLAND

Island Girl Cigar Bar islandgirlcigarbar.com/fleming-island

Mercury Moon facebook.com/mercury-moon

Mr. Chubby’s Wings mrchubbyswings.com

Sunset Tiki Bar the-sunset-tiki-bar.business.site

Whitey’s Fish Camp whiteysfishcamp.com

INTRACOASTAL WEST 9 Zero Pour 9zeropour.com

MVP’s Sports Grille facebook.com/mvpssportsgrille

The Spot Hookah Lounge thespothookahloungejax.com

Time Out Sports Grill timeoutsportsgrill.com

MANDARIN/JULINGTON CREEK/

FRUIT COVE

2nd Bay Brewing 2ndbaybrewing.com

Comedy Zone comedyzone.com

Iggy’s Grill and Bar facebook.com/iggysgrill

Kava & Company kavaandcompany.com

Legacy Ale Works legacyaleworks.com

Monkey’s Uncle Tavern facebook.com/monkeysunclemandarin1

Rack’em Up Sports Bar facebook.com/rackemupsportsbar

Time Out Sports Grill timeoutsportsgrill.com

MURRAY HILL Axe Champs axechamps.com

Buchner’s Bierhalle buchnersbierhalle.com

The Boot Rack Saloon boot-rack-saloon.business.site

Fishweir Brewing Company fishweirbrewing.com

The Flamingo theflamingojax.com

Perfect Rack Billiards perfectrackbilliards.com

Silver Cow silvercowjax.com

The Stout Snug thestoutsnug.com

The Walrus thewalrusjax.com

NORTHSIDE

Coppertop Bar and Restaurant coppertopbarandrestaurant.com

Four Fathers Distillery fourfathersdistillery.com

ORANGE PARK/MIDDLEBURG

57 Heaven

facebook.com/57heavenop

Big Dawgs Sports Restaurant bigdawgsrestaurant.com

Cheers Park Avenue cheersparkave.com

The Daq Shack thedaqshack904.com

Dee’s Music Bar and Grill facebook.com/musicbarandgrill

The Fresh Spot Lounge thefreshspotlounge.com

LeaderBoard Arcade leaderboardarcade.com

Locals Pub localspub.co

Nakama Anime Bar nakamabar.com

Park Avenue Billiards parkavenuebilliards.com

Pinglehead Brewing Company pinglehead.com

Southern Social Whiskey Bar & Lounge southernsocialbar.com

RIVERSIDE/AVONDALE Birdies facebook.com/birdiesfivepoints

Bold City Brewery boldcitybrewery.com

Brick Restaurant brickofavondale.com

Burlock & Barrel burlockandbarrel.com

Casbah Cafe thecasbahcafe.com

Dart Bar & Games facebook.com/dartbarjax

Eclipse Bar & Nightclub facebook.com/eclipsebarjax

The Garage garagejax.com

The Green House thegreenhousebar.com

Hoptinger Bier Garden + Sausage House hoptinger.com

Incahoots incahootsnightclub.com

Kanine Social Taproom kaninesocial.com

Keg & Coin kegandcoinjax.com

Kingmaker Brewing kingmakerbrewing.com

Lemonstreet Brewing Company lemonstreetbrewing.com

The Loft loftjax.com

Mickie’s Irish Pub facebook.com/mickiesjax

Myrtle Avenue Brewing facebook.com/myrtleavebrewing

Park Place Lounge park-place-lounge.business.site

Rain Dogs instagram.com/raindogs5points

River & Post riverandpostjax.com

Riverside Liquors riversideliquors.biz

Rogue Bar facebook.com/rogue.bar.1

Root Down facebook.com/rootdownjax

Shores Liquor and Bar instagram.com/shoresliquoravondale

Wildcrafters facebook.com/wildcraftersjax

SAN MARCO/ST. NICHOLAS

1937 Spirits & Eatery 1937sanmarco.com

Aardwolf Brewing Company aardwolfbrewing.com

Bar Molino barmolino.com

Breezy Jazz House breezyjazzhouse.com

Cuba Libre Ultra Lounge cubalibrebar.com

Fore Score Golf Tavern forescoregolf.com

The Grape & Grain Exchange grapeandgrainexchange.com

Kava & Company kavaandcompany.com

The Mudville Grill themudvillegrill.com

The Players Grille playersgrille.com

Posting House posting.house

Sidecar instagram.com/sidecarjax

SOUTHSIDE/ST. JOHNS TOWN CENTER

Austin Karaoke facebook.com/austinkaraoke

Bottlenose Brewing bottlenosebrewing.com

Cataluna Jax catalunajax.com

Culhane’s culhanesirishpub.com

Island Girl Cigar Bar islandgirlcigarbar.com

Jax Craft Beer jaxcraftbeer.com

Medusa Restaurant and Hookah Lounge facebook.com/medusa-loungejacksonville

Secret Tiki Temple secrettikitemple.com

Seven Bridges Grille & Brewery 7bridgesgrille.com

Trio Lounge triohookahlounge.com

Veterans United Craft Brewery vubrew.com

Wicked Barley Brewing Company wickedbarley.com

WXYZ Bar at Aloft Hotel aloftjacksonvilletapestrypark.com

SPRINGFIELD

Crispy’s Springfield Gallery crispysspringfieldgallery.com

The District thedistrictspr.com

Historically Hoppy Brewing Company historicallyhoppy.com

Shantytown Pub facebook.com/shantytownjax

Strings Sports Brewery stringssportsbrewery.com

Stumpy’s Hatchet House stumpyshh.com

ST. AUGUSTINE

Ancient City Brewing ancientcitybrewing.com

Arnold’s Lounge arnoldslounge.com

Beacon Listening Room beaconstaug.com

Cellar Upstairs Bar at San Sebastian Winery sansebastianwinery.com

Dog Rose Brewing dogrosebrewing.com

The Original Café Eleven originalcafe11.com

Prohibition Kitchen pkstaug.com

Tradewinds Lounge tradewindslounge.com

WESTSIDE Elevation

Lillian’s lillianssportsgrill.com

“Life Without Color”

Janice Martin