Folio Vol. 37, Issue 20

10.18

2023

UNVEILING THE WOKE 1

CONTENTS

VOL. 37, ISSUE 20

COLUM N S

FEAT U RE S

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Angela Phillips

Kelila Ritchie

Kelila Ritchie

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Ambar Ramirez & Carmen Macri

Drink

Letter From the Publisher

Welcome to the Gayborhood

Trick-Or-Treating Give Me Something Good to Eat... Or

Horrorscopes

Folio Weed: Dab’ll Do Ya Shelton Hull

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Desire For Doom Mallory Pace

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Su Ertekin-Taner

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I Saw You

Amiyah Golden

Combined Minds Ambar Ramirez & Carmen Macri

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The Beautiful Nuance of Fall in Florida Mallory Pace

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Boy Dinner

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Greater Jacksonville Agricultural Fair

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Girl Dinner

Shelton Hull

Getting Real With Lisa Thomas of the Ambar Ramirez & Carmen Macri

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Weird Wild Stuff

Speakeasy Scavenger Hunt Ambar Ramirez

Carmen Macri

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The Talk

Play Defeats Cancer Carson Rich

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Unveiling the Woke: Navigating the Complexities of a Political Buzzword Carmen Macri

In Your Own Words Ruth Elder

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Dear Dumbs BEHIND THE COVER:

Shari & Terry Jaymes

“Unveiling The Woke: Navigating the Complexities of a Political Buzzword”

FOLIO STAFF:

Words & graphic by Carmen Macri

ANGELA PHILLIPS Publisher

SHELTON HULL Writer

TERESA SPENCER General Manager

SU ERTEKIN-TANER Writer

JOHN PHILLIPS Vice President

CARSON RICH Writer

KERRY SPECKMAN Copy Editor/ Writer

AMIYAH GOLDEN Writer/Photographer

AMBAR RAMIREZ Creative Director

MALLORY PACE Writer

CARMEN MACRI Multi-media Creative/ Social Media Manager/ Lead Writer

KELILA RITCHIE Writer DREW ARNETT Illustrator

LETTER It’s Fall Y’all and You Know What That Means …

From the Publisher

Pumpkin spice and basic bitches are back Saturdays are for College Football and weekdays are for talking smack to your friends about last week’s game or this week’s game.

Mondays are for celebrating Jaguars victories. (Manifesting this one!)

It’s a season of giving and often that giving includes buying on Amazon Prime Day, Black Friday, Cyber Monday or Small Business Saturday.

It’s also a time for holidays, events, awareness months and days — and there is no shortage of things to get involved in or be part of.

Breast Cancer Awareness Month · Down Syndrome Awareness Month · National Disability Employment · Awareness Month · National Bullying Prevention Month · LGBTQ+ History Month · Global Diversity Awareness Month · National Book Month · Socktober · World Vegetarian Day · National Chocolate Day · Kindness To Animals Day · World Teachers Day · World Sight Day · World Homeless Day · National Coming Out Day · World Hunger Day · Spirit Day · Hispanic Heritage Month · ADHD Awareness Month · Polish American Heritage Month · German Heritage Month · Hindu Heritage Month · Italian American Heritage Month · Filipino American Month · AIDS Awareness Month · World Psoriasis Day · Colon Cancer Awareness Month · Black Cat Day · Sober October · Squirrel Awareness Month · Cybersecurity Awareness Month · Navy Day · Dyslexia Awareness Month · Learning Disability Awareness Month · National Immigrants Day · Liver Cancer Awareness Month · National Depression Education and Awareness Month · Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month · Indigenous People’s Day · World Smile Day · International Day of the Girl Child · Boss’s Day · Global Champagne Day · National American Beer Day · Grandparents Week · Text Your Ex Day · Halloween · Native American Heritage Month · Dia de Los Muertos · Hunger & Homelessness Awareness Week · World Kindness Day · Giving Tuesday · Veterans Day · Movember · National Homeless Youth Awareness Month · Espresso Day · COPD Awareness Month · Sesame Street Day · Diabetes Awareness Month · Epilepsy Awareness Month · Lung Cancer Awareness Month · Pancreatic Cancer Awareness Month · Manatee Awareness Month · World Adoption Day · National Recycling Day · Botox Day · Small Business Saturday · Giving Tuesday · International Jaguar Day · Thanksgiving

Whatever you choose to be a part of — or not be a part of — take a cue from Nov. 13 — World Kindness Day – and remember to be kind. The thing that is important to you may not be on the top of someone else’s list: Learn what’s at the top of theirs and teach them about yours.

Throughout this busy season we all have a lot on our plates (not just on Thanksgiving), so treat each other with kindness and enjoy the season.

Angela

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One of the most historic sites in Jacksonville is the grave in Old City Cemetery of Episcopal Bishop John Freeman Young (1820-1885). People in every English-speaking nation sing his words every December. He translated the lyrics of the Austrian carol “Stille Nacht” to “Silent Night.”

I found his woefully neglected gravesite in 2002. Since the Episcopal Diocese of Florida had no interest in maintaining the monuments of the Silent Night bishop and his wife, I travelled to Jacksonville (70 miles) three or four times a year to work on the site. At one point, the bishop’s monument needed repairs. It took five years of letters, email, and phone calls to get the Episcopal Diocese to put up the $350 that was needed to pay a monument company.

For decades, I visited Bishop Young’s grave on December 24 to place a wreath and sing “Silent Night.” Nobody from the Episcopal church was ever there. I knew that at the same time in Austria, there would be a candlelight ceremony at the grave of the Catholic priest who wrote the “Stille Nacht” poem in 1816.

Age has caught up. Now in my 80s, I can no longer maintain the gravesite, but I visit there when in the city for an annual medical appointment at the Veterans clinic.

When I stopped in Old City Cemetery the other day, I was shocked to see the deplorable condition of Bishop Young’s grave. It’s the opposite of the scrupulously maintained graves of the Austrian men who created “Stille Nacht,” Joseph Mohr and Franz Gruber.

The years of neglect by the current Episcopal Bishop of Florida, Samuel Howard, have clearly indicated that he has no interest in maintaining the legacy of his predecessor.

Perhaps volunteers from another religious denomination or history group could organize a committee to care for the site. They could also consider obtaining a historic plaque to relate the “Silent Night” history of Bishop John Freeman Young. That should have been done by the Episcopal church, many years ago. But they, obviously, don’t give a damn.

Bill Egan – retired Navy Journalist Flagler Beach

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BOUQS & BRICKS

BOUQUETS

BRICKBATS

ing Corps (VLSC) of Jacksonville Beach for their Sons & Salts Oyster

filed in Duval County, and 2023 is outpacing 2022 thus far. Obviously, ten-

Roast. The inaugural event raised $5,000 for the VLSC, which has stood

ants deserve to be evicted if they don’t pay rent, but greed and inflation

watch over our beaches protecting the lives of residents and visitors since

have caused many owners to increase prices so drastically renters can’t

1912. For information on how to be involved helping VLSC, contact cbond@

afford to stay, essentially leading to an eviction. Our city leaders need to

jaxbeachlifeguard.org.

focus on issues like rent control and affordable housing in order to help stop

To the Sons of the American Legion Post 129 and the Volunteer Life Sav-

Eviction-happy landlords. Last year, more than 14,000 eviction cases were

this vicious cycle. And when you consider a report from Harvard University showing 47% of Jacksonville residents are cost burdened when it comes to rent, we need more focus on tenant rights and put limitations on the investors who are to blame for the rental housing crisis in our city. Evictions = Homelessness

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HORRORSCOPES NO ONE IS SAFE

ARIES

LIBRA

There is a boogeyman under your bed, and there is no one

You are getting fired and your partner is leaving you for

to save you from it. This could be seen as a metaphor, or

someone better. Your dog will run away and your car will

maybe it’s just a home invasion. None of the lights work in

be repo’d. You will be miserable and wish for death, but

your house, similar to that light within yourself that has been extinguished.

it won’t come. You will have to live inside your mind until the day the Grim Reaper appears, which, unfortunately for you, won’t be for a long, long time.

TAURUS

SCORPIO

It might be time to throw out any color in your closet, Taurus

That hollow feeling inside of you is growing, and it won’t

… as well as all those skeletons. You’ll be wearing a lot of

stop until it swallows you whole. Your death won’t be

black this month as you will lose something — or someone

quick or honorable, either. You will be alone, like always,

— dear to you. Might as well put the “Sound of Silence” on

and no one will care. After a few days of rot and decay,

constant queue as that’s all you’ll be hearing. Nothing.

your cats will begin eating your corpse, At least you are good for one thing.

GEMINI

SAGITTARIUS

Nobody exists on purpose. Nobody belongs anywhere.

You’ve been looking awfully pale, Sagittarius. Have you

We’re all going to die. All the signs you’ve seen are purely

been drinking a lot of spoiled milk and are dying a slow

coincidence; there is no higher power watching over you.

death? Maybe you’re already dead … destined to spend

You are alone in this world.

CANCER

the rest of eternity in corporate hell.

CAPRICORN

Feeling weak and unimportant, Cancer? Well, we’re sorry to

You don’t have an angel on your shoulder. Just two devils

say that things won’t change. Stop playing the whole “good-

constantly whispering your darkest fears in your ears. Too

ie goodie” role and embrace the devil that dwells within you.

bad there is nothing you can do to get out of it. Too bad

Better yet, pull out the Ouji board and actually befriend a demon.

everything they are saying is true. You are worthless and irrelevant in every sense of the words.

LEO

AQUARIUS

You have no close circle because you are insufferable. The

Your dreams of being abducted from an alien vessel are

“friends” who are not friends have all been plotting against

coming true. Have you even seen “Predator”? Soon that

you. Every move you make has been monitored and criti-

will become your reality. Living the rest of your days on

cized. They are just waiting for that final slip-up to completely cut you out of their lives.

VIRGO

an operating table far in space, where no one will hear your screams.

PISCES

Time to channel your inner demons, Virgo. In other words,

You are stuck in a time loop (if you haven’t realized it)

keep doing what you’re best at, which is scaring everyone

and there is no way to escape. Every death you suffer

with your annoying conversations and horrible BO. If you’re

will just put you back to the beginning, constantly reliving

lucky, someone close to you will poison you, ending your worthless existence.

your nightmares. You can’t escape your dreams as they have become reality. There is nothing for you to do. This is eternity.

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WELCOME TO THE GAYBORHOOD Words by Kelila Ritchie and photos by John Lawless Rainbows, loud music, infectious laughter, dance parties in the middle of the street. River City Pride is the place to be every October. It’s something I personally look forward to every single year. People from so many different walks of life, dancing together, drinking together, taking pictures together. It’s a day for everyone who participates to just be without fear of judgment. In either direction you look, you see people just thoroughly enjoying themselves. We don’t see a lot of that these days. So anytime I’m able to squeeze in some dopamine boosting experiences, I’m all for it.

Riverside has been coined as the first “gayborhood” of Jacksonville, for many great reasons. Riverside became Jacksonville’s Pride headquarters following the first gay pride festival at Willowbranch Park in 1978. The event became so successful, it became an annual picnic. During the 1960s, there was a drastic drop in house values in Riverside resulting in “white flight.” This opened the space and opportunity for people from many different backgrounds to find community within this one neighborhood. Throughout the years, Pride events have seen some community backlash but Jacksonville overall has seemingly improved its LGBTQ+ visibility. During a time where being a part of the LGBTQ+ community was less than normalized, the Willowbranch Library also served as a safe haven for the LGBTQ+ community back in the day. JASMYN, a prominent LGBTQ+ youth nonprofit in Jacksonville, actually has roots in the library. In 1992, 19-year-old Ernie Selorio was outed by his mother after she read his journal. Selorio asked for his peers to meet and help form an LGBTQ+ youth support group which resulted in a turnout of 10 people. From there, JASMYN was born and has since blossomed. JASMYN continues to support and provide support to LGBTQ+ teens and young adults around the city.

Today, you will likely see modern hippies, happily gay couples, artists, musicians etc. at Bold Bean simultaneously. River City Pride has completely captivated the neighborhood of Riverside. There is a parade that goes through Riverside accompanied by a week of events in Five Points. She IS the moment.

Jacksonville itself has a very colorful history with the LGBTQ+ community which is something we don’t talk about! Jacksonville served as a headquarters for different music genres such as blues, jazz and especially ragtime music. Many of the members who participated in creating Black music and sharing it with the world were members of the LGBTQ+ community. Professor Johnnie Woods was a well known performer, ventriloquist and “female impersonator” (more commonly known today as a drag performer) performed frequently at the Airdome in LaVilla before it was demolished. Another super cool fact that I did not know, Ma Rainey, a prolific blues singer, moved to Jacksonville with her husband to join Pat Chappelle’s variety troupe,The Rabbit’s Foot Company, in 1906. Rainey was bisexual and often talked about same-sex romance in her songs. A fan favorite is “Prove It On Me Blues.”

Music often plays a vital role in gay spaces. Speaking of music, many Jacksonvillians have no idea about many different bars and clubs dedicated to creating a safe space for the LGBTQ+ community in Jacksonville (maybe it was just me but anyway …). Sadly, OGs like College Station, Bo’s Coral Reef — which closed in 2019 after 55 years in business — and the Metro Entertainment Complex are no longer with us, but Park Place Lounge, Boot Rack Saloon, Incahoots and others have been carrying the torch with new spots like Hardwicks Bar opening last month to rave reviews.

While River City Pride Festival and the always-popular parade through Riverside took place earlier in the month, it’s an important reminder of the purpose of Pride: to unite and celebrate our diverse community in the month of October. And if you missed it this year, be sure to mark your calendar for next year!

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Like many longtime cannabisseurs (at least the sane, honest ones), I was thoroughly confused by dabs when all that first became a thing some years back. My tastes were simple, pedestrian even: a toke here, a bong rip there, maybe a mouthful of THC gummies soaked in Manifest vodka on very special occasions, like WrestleMania or the election of Barack Obama. The first time I saw a dab rig, I had no idea what it was; maybe a glass bong made by someone who was already so high that they forgot what they were doing, which is something that does happen. Generally, the last things you want to be playing with when you’re high are red-hot glass, butane torches and nails. In #Florida, that usually means somebody’s in big trouble!

I’ve dabbled in dabs for years, always from a position fixed firmly on the periphery, for reasons both practical and professional. But once medical marijuana got started here in 2017, the overall profile of that product was boosted bigly, as dabs went from a relatively isolated gimmick used strictly by hardcore weedies to a legit category that is now easily found at pretty much every dispensary. Oil, wax, resin, shatter — they sound like names that juvenile delinquents give each other, and that’s no accident. Dabbing is for the kind of person for whom finger-blunts and office water cooler bottles just don’t cut it anymore. That used to mean a trip to rehab, but now it means a trip to re-up on concentrate, which is ironic, because the very last thing you’re gonna do after dabbing is concentrate on anything.

Dab dilettantes might be shocked to see how sophisticated this particular aspect of the culture has become, but we’ll all have a perfect opportunity to learn more about it on Oct. 28, when the annual Dab Day Halloween Festival takes place at The Glass Factory, a repurposed warehouse turned event space, nestled in the heart of the city’s Railyard District (601 N. Myrtle Ave.), right next to Myrtle Avenue Brewing, which is co-hosting.

FOLIO WEED: DAB’LL DO YA Words by Shelton Hull I went to dabday.com to learn more, but that website is devoted to some-

The rampant dabbery on-site will also include a costume contest, a haunt-

thing called Draw A Bird Day. (It’s actually a beautiful story about a British girl

ed compound, food and drink trucks galore, clothing, arts and crafts (includ-

named Dorie Cooper, who used bird drawings to comfort wounded soldiers

ing live glassblowing) and live music from artists like Cloud 9 Vibes, Coastal

in WWII. She was only 10 when she died, in 1946, and her memory is honored

Breed, Hour Glass Kids, Indigo I ft. Kevin Offitzer of Stick Figure, Kash’d Out

every year on her birthday, April 8. So before Dab Day, there was DAB Day,

and DJ Don Shula (not the Don Shula, who died in 2020).

so let’s do our best to always be stoned for both.) Andy Franklin gave me that link, and now I understand why his smirk was even more impish than usual.

Having grown up not far from that part of town, I’m really happy to see it being the subject of renewed focus and a unified effort to elevate its brand. Other

This column was also Andy’s idea, and it preempted the one that had already

businesses in and around the area include Lemonstreet Brewing Co., Eco Rel-

been written. We’ve both attended the event before, and both were prompted

ics, Zebo’s Crab Shack, Standard Feed & Seed, Beaver Street Fisheries and

to do so by the late great Richard Bruce Borders, who was a key source for

the Jacksonville Farmers Market, all of which are great places to visit when

many of the nearly 200 “Folio” Weed columns published so far. The actual

you’re stoned and even when you’re not. Millions have been spent to stim-

website is 710dabday.com. Why “710”? Because when you rotate it 180 de-

ulate pedestrian and bike traffic, and I’ll readily embrace any opportunity to

grees clockwise, you get “OIL”. The event runs from 4 p.m. to midnight with

gas up the homies (shout-out to Whalen James!), because their hard work is

tickets ranging from $25 and $75. It’s worth going for the vendors alone.

paying off, and their payoffs are working hard. “Folio” has been tight with all these places for years, and many of their people are friends, so hook them up!

Organized by Dab Day Productions (which also puts on the Florida Groves festival every April), the event is sponsored by Binske, Curaleaf, Dr. Dabber, Exotic Infusions, The Flowery Homestead, Goldleaf, Jungle Boys, Preferred Gardens and the Releaf Clinic, who will be there to assist anyone wanting to apply for a medical marijuana card.

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TRICK-OR-TREAT GIVE ME SOMETHING GOOD TO EAT Words by Carmen Macri

… OR DRINK.

Does anyone else have to dig deep into the memory vault to recall the last

Some wrap them in tissue paper as a makeshift ghost, others just hand them

time they went trick-or-treating? It’s kind of like trying to reminisce about

out as is. If you’re lucky and live near a pristine baker, some people even

those endless hours of playing outside as a kid — you know it was a thing, but

leave out boozy candies or desserts.

the specifics elude you, right?

Parents or non-parents (over the age of 21, of course) hit the streets of their Now as grown-ups without little goblins of our own, what exactly is the game

neighborhood for a night of mingling and mischief. Think of it as a traveling

plan for Halloween? I mean, post-college life has left me with zero enthusiasm

cocktail party. You and your neighbors get to revel in the joy of donning cos-

for house parties, and I’ve learned to steer clear of the chaos at the Beaches

tumes, teaming up with kindred spirits and taking the cul-de-sac by storm.

bars on this haunted night. So what’s a responsible adult to do?

(Plus, free drinks?)

The answer is simple.

Certain hosts have even taken the “trick or treat” tradition to a whole new level by crafting a medley of boozy concoctions, each served in a shot glass.

You go trick-or-treating … with a twist.

Among these creations, some are bound to be wickedly awful (trick), while others are scrumptiously delightful (treat). But here’s the kicker: once you

Now, as I mentioned, I have no ghouls or goblins of my own (thank god), but

make your selection, you’re committed to downing it before you move on to

I do live in a nice area where trick-or-treaters frequent. So starting last year,

the next residence.

my boyfriend and I decided: to hell with house parties! Let’s be responsible adults and give candy to little kids (in the least sinister way possible). But let

Not only is it fun to relive the golden days, but it’s also an excellent means to

me just tell you … it was boring as hell. I mean, seriously. You just sit in a lawn

foster connections with your neighbors, either as a host or as a creepy (bar)

chair attempting to make small talk with the parents while their devils ransack

crawler.

your candy bowl.

Regrettably, my neighborhood hasn’t quite caught the drift of adult trick-orSo why do the kids get to have all the fun on this fright night? That’s a hypo-

treating just yet. But that’s perfectly fine; every grand tradition has to start

thetical question.

somewhere, and in this case, it’s with yours truly. With that in mind, if you’re feeling as weary as I am of Halloween house parties and packed, perspira-

Adult trick-or-treating – What a wonderful idea.

tion-soaked bars, why not be the spark for your neighborhood? I’m willing to bet they’ll relish the idea just as much as you do.

I had not yet heard of this last Halloween, and it wasn’t until our last editorial meeting that I realized adult trick-or-treating is in fact a very real and very exciting thing. After a lap (or two) around the neighborhood and after the parents put their gremlins to sleep, that’s when the party starts. Halloween bowls are refilled, but not with candy — with shooters.

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Weird Wild Stuff Words by Shelton Hull

Well, summer is over, not that you can really tell. Ever notice how the same

Sometimes a glass gets spilled, sometimes a bottle gets dropped, and some-

people who deny the reality of climate change are the same ones who insist

times 2.2 million liters of wine gets spilled out into the streets, as we saw

that the stadium needs a roof because it’s too hot to watch football in Sep-

in the Portuguese town of Levira, where the local winery had its worst day

tember. Maybe it’s the heat, maybe it’s the day-drinking and the synthetic

ever in early September. First responders were (not) on the scene with olives,

fabrics and the constant screaming, who knows? It doesn’t matter — we’re

cheese and crusty bread.

here for the laughs, so let’s just get right to it.

Chickens are widely perceived to be dumb animals, and maybe they are, or Every year, we see stories about kids going for joyrides in other people’s cars.

maybe that’s just how humans justify killing over 8 billion of them for food

Of course, some of these are carjackings, and that’s not good, but quite often

each year or about 300 per second — and that’s just in America. But we may

the kids’ internal logic makes sense, and it’s almost cute, once the actual

be able to learn how smart they really are someday, thanks to researchers

danger has passed. Such stories always leap to the queue for WWS, and this

from the University of Tokyo. The professor has developed a system for “in-

month’s example comes from Alachua, where two siblings made it about 200

terpreting various emotional states in chickens, including hunger, fear, anger,

miles in their mom’s car before being pulled over at 3:50 am, and we would

contentment, excitement, and distress” using AI, which is apparently never

pay money to see the bodycam footage from that stop! The daughter, who

used for anything serious. The actual process is fascinating, and it does have

was 11, had lost her electronics privileges, so she ran away, and her 10-year-

potentially useful applications for other animals, and even for humans, such

old brother offered to drive, even though it was not his battle to fight. Were

as babies or non-verbal adults. As for the chickens, well, if we can ever truly

they wrong? Sure. But they stuck together, and that is adorable.

translate their speech, we assume that much of that speech will involve them begging for their lives — in vain, of course

Speaking of runaway vehicles, a man in Indiana was arrested for driving drunk, which is not itself unusual. But his mode of transportation was: a Power

We all love art, but the business of art is fundamentally a scam. The actual

Wheels vehicle. The man was taken in after failing a field sobriety test, which

materials are bought at a fixed price, and the amount of labor will vary per

seems almost redundant. Another man, in Nebraska, was driving a legitimate

piece, but the prices for art are basically set by a combination of hype and

vehicle, but the problem was his passenger: a nine year-old bull named Doo-

bullshit with the result that visual art has always been an easy way to launder

dy, who had left a virtual mudslide of doody sliding down the rear window

money, especially in the modern era, where countless wealthy fools actually

of his owner’s Crown Vic. Apparently, he had modified the car, allowing the

embrace the collecting of art as a legitimate investment, which it is, for now. A

bull to ride around all the time, even though Doody’s horns are wider than

Danish artist understood the assignment, and nearly scammed his way into an

the car’s wheelbase. No word on what kind of punishment he’ll get, but we

easy payday. He was granted 534,000 kroner, equivalent to about $75,000,

assume a reality show is forthcoming.

for a project in which he embedded banknotes into canvases that were then put on display. Instead, he kept the cash and turned in two blank canvases.

Humans are messy people — not just mentally, emotionally and politically,

The courts forced him to return the money, which is really a shame. Best of

but also physically — not just their actual filthy bodies but also their natural

all, the project was called “Take the Money and Run,” which should have been

environment. If it’s not space trash or river poop, it’s wine.

a clue, but it never is.

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DESIRE FOR DOOM WHY DO WE LIKE TO FEEL FRIGHTENED? Words by Mallory Pace The tradition of Halloween is, objectively, a weird one. When October rolls around, we decorate our homes with skeletons, cobwebs, ghosts and no one bats an eye … get it? We walk through haunted houses fully aware there’s someone dressed in a terrifying costume waiting around every corner to jump out. Despite knowing none of it’s real and there’s no actual danger awaiting us, we still scream and run out of genuine fear. Even outside of Halloween, we watch disturbing horror movies and murder-packed TV shows that fill our insides with anxiety and disgust. Pondering on this strange American tradition a bit more begs the question of, why do we like to feel terror?

There is no one answer to this question, in fact, there are quite a few explanations depending on whom you ask and in what context. One of the simplest reasons is found in our thrill-seeking nature. Jonathan Bassett, a psychology professor at Lander University in Greenwood, South Carolina, said these thrill- or sensation-seeking behaviors also explain why people enjoy roller coasters, bungee jumping, skydiving, etc. These activities provide a neurochemical jolt in our brain in ways we don’t typically get in our daily lives.

Some people possess this “sensation-seeking” trait more than others, which psychologists use to see how much an individual likes to look for novelty and excitement in their lives. Correlation survey research shows high sensation-seeking predicts greater enjoyment and more frequent watching of horror media, Bassett explained.

“So for these folks, watching murder, blood, gore and horror, gets them kind of the same level of arousal, physiologically, that low sensation seekers might get from more mundane kinds of experiences,” he added.

Another explanation for why we might desire unpleasant feelings is called cultivation appreciation. Bassett explained that like a pungent cigar, a dry wine or spicy food, horror movies and thrill-inducing activities are an acquired taste that can evolve over time.

“Maybe there’s just something enjoyable about overcoming that initial unpleasantness and learning to sort of cultivate an appreciation for it,” Bassett said.

Bassett also argues that horror aficionados might take pride in their ability to regulate their emotions and overcome feelings of fear and disgust. But on a deeper level, they learn to appreciate the technique and artistry that goes into creating a high-quality horror scene or haunted attraction.

A third explanation is called the excitation transfer theory, or simply put, relief. It might not be that we actively enjoy being afraid but more so enjoy the sense of relief we feel when it’s over. Many horror movies use pop-up scenes to induce anxiety via anticipation, but the fear felt during the scene is quickly alleviated when the jump scare is over, the movie continues on and we can breathe again. That feeling might be what we seek and enjoy, not necessarily the agonizing anticipation. Like roller coasters, Bassett explained, we get off the ride and jump with glee and excitement, partly because of the thrill and partly because it’s over.

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But when you look at the photo of yourself taken halfway through the ride,

These five explanations for why we seek to be terrorized are simply five pos-

you might find fear and worry written on everyone’s faces. Same with haunt-

sibilities as to why a certain individual might choose — or avoid to — engage

ed attractions, at one point you’re being chased with a chainsaw but that

in thrill-seeking activities. A combination of factors come into play when try-

glorious walk back to your car is filled with relief and subsided adrenaline.

ing to determine the why, which might be easily explainable. But do these tendencies determine personality or behavior? Bassett asserts the two big-

“The idea is that the more tension we feel in the moment, because of the

gest predictors for why an individual is more likely to view horror is their level

unpleasantness, the greater the satisfaction we feel when it’s over,” Bassett

of sensation-seeking and empathy traits. People prone to strongly feeling

said.

or reacting to the suffering of others are less likely to be horror fanatics.

However, just because someone loves all-things horror doesn’t necessarily

Another, more complex explanation comes from the just-world theory, which

mean they have low empathy levels. On the contrary, Bassett suggests the

is the innate tendency to believe that the world is a just, fair place and people

horror genre and its fans get a bad reputation for being sick or violent people,

face deserving fates. Bassett explained horror movies often reinforce tradi-

but there’s no real support for that. Psychological research can only really

tional values in morality by showing punishments to those who deviate from

conclude that certain people enjoy thrill-seeking more than others, and they

those values. The themes of many horror movies offer warnings about what

might have lower levels of empathy but they’re not necessarily sociopaths

might happen if someone diverges from social conventions and typically will

because they enjoy horror films.

try to depict victims as “deserving” of their suffering. This theory, Bassett posits, also considers the unsavory human tendency to take pleasure in the

There are other speculations about whether the continued exposure to vio-

suffering of others, if we view that suffering as deserved. Psychologists use

lent media can cause someone to become desensitized to such violence, but

the German word ‘Schadenfreude’ to explain why we take delight in the suf-

Bassett explained little evidence supports such a theory.

fering of others and it’s because it reinforces our notion that the world is a fundamentally fair place.

“People with high levels of empathy just don’t find watching horror appealing, but does it go the other way? Does watching horror diminish your empathy?

Many horror films, especially earlier ones, follow in the same tradition of fairy

It could, but I don’t know that there’s really any robust evidence that estab-

tales and folklores that warn children not to disobey their parents or societal

lishes that,” he said.

standards. For example, Bassett explained, the popular 1980s slasher movies used certain themes and messages as a reflection of the conservative pol-

Over five decades of research have yet to confidently conclude whether ex-

itics of the time. Teens are punished for experimenting with sex and drugs

posure to violent media has the potential to make an individual violent in

while being a larger commentary on the perceived loss of family structure

nature. Dating back to Aristotle and Freudian models, people used to say that

and social values that allowed the kids to be alone and in these dangerous

if you could gratify an impulsive fantasy, via watching a murder movie for ex-

situations, Bassett said.

ample, it would drain the likelihood of you acting on it in reality. That idea has been disproved, in fact, the preponderance of evidence points in different

On one side, people argue horror is somewhat innately conservative, mean-

directions. Bassett explained that in the act of watching violent media, there

ing it reinforces conservative, traditional American values, but others defend

is an increase in the extent to which someone is currently having aggressive

the opposite. Bassett’s final explanation for why both individuals and society

thoughts. However, determining whether that directly translates to aggres-

value the element of fear is called the societal concerns perspective. The

sive behavior is difficult to prove. This is due to both ethics and challenges of

idea is that horror media might allow people a safe, fictional space to consid-

scientific experiments involving people and the complex nature of the human

er challenging social issues in a more comfortable way than thinking about it

brain and behavior.

in the realm of reality.

“Whether or not someone acts aggressively in any particular instance, is a “The supernatural forces and the lack of realism in the horror movie creates

really complicated interaction of dozens of variables,” Bassett said. “And ex-

this psychological distance that allows viewers to grapple with questions

posure to media violence would just be one of those variables.”

about pressing current events or social issues,” he said.

Trying to conclude the behavioral effects that horror and violent media has Especially over the last few decades, horror films have been used as artistic

on an individual isn’t that simple. The same goes for the psychological conse-

vehicles for a bigger social commentary on current issues like systemic rac-

quences of overexposure to horror; there are varying criticisms and perspec-

ism, discrimination, inequality, you name it. Jordan Peele’s films — “Get Out,”

tives on the topic. One being the inverse of the just-world theory — the mean-

“Us” and “Nope” — do an excellent job at providing its audiences with an

world hypothesis, which is the idea that watching a lot of violence can make

imaginary, yet eerily familiar scenario that plays on the malicious undertones

people overly paranoid and skeptical of the motives of others. They might

of American values without explicitly saying it. Bassett suggests that horror

come to see the world as a more disturbing, dangerous place than it really is,

films like these are particularly effective because the audience can use it as

Bassett explained. But other people make the opposite argument, claiming

an allegory for the problems of modern and systemic racism without investing

that watching violent media might be an indicator of adaptive behavior. Peo-

their own consciousness into real people in real contexts, like one might by

ple might watch scary movies with high-stake scenarios and subconsciously

watching the news. Under the societal concerns perspective, people might

“practice” how they would react in the same environment. Likewise, for some

gravitate toward horror films for any number of reasons, but subconsciously,

people, watching violent media might help them master their fears and can

they’re giving their brains a space to confront uncomfortable social issues

leave them feeling a greater sense of control on their ability to function in

that they might not confront otherwise in reality.

the world.

I love horror movies. What does this all say about me?

“It kind of allows us to look behind the curtain, to stare into the abyss and see the reality of that thing we typically repress,” he said.

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“Some evolutionary psychologists have argued that, like watching a horror movie or going to a haunted attraction, even though they know they’re safe

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Above all, exposure to horror has its negatives and positives, but Bassett asserts that viewing or feeling horror is more beneficial than harmful. In his book, “Death on the Small Screen,” Bassett analyzes the appeal of violence

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by investigating psychological theories surrounding death, anxiety and the defenses we use to manage that anxiety. He claims one positive of horror exposure is it allows us to confront the disturbing reality of mortality in a way that’s typically repressed. The topic of death isn’t something talked about socially or casually, even though we all think about it to some extent. It’s become unspoken, almost taboo in society, and we aren’t all that exposed to death aside from a personal loss or in the media. Bassett argues that horror is one genre able to break through social disguises about what’s polite and what makes us uncomfortable, but in a fictional way.

“It kind of allows us to look behind the curtain, to stare into the abyss and see the reality of that thing we typically repress,” he said.

Bassett’s advice to readers this Halloween season is to go out there, unabashed and unashamed, and enjoy the scary activities, horror movies and haunted attractions because at best, there’s a potential to raise your social consciousness by interacting with these issues. You might gain a new sense of mastery or control over your life, or at the very least, it’s an opportunity to confront your inner fears in a safe, controlled environment. But if none of those things happen, Bassett said, it’s still just fun.

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GIRL DINNER Words by Su Ertekin-Taner

I take a resident cheddar block out of the fridge and try my best to cut the

Dietitians and psychologists alike worry that some users might overlook the

hunk into small cubes— I am partial to the shape. I adorn a now cheddar-filled

satire of the content, instead interpreting this nicotine rich, calorie deficient

plate with pretzel crisps; I fashion hearts out of my pretzels that will frame the

diet as acceptable because it is branded under a popular trend.

cheese cubes. I am considering the category of dip now, hoping for a variety of texture. I decide on plain hummus. For a splash of something fresh and

But girl dinner backers argue that this view of girl dinner neglects the original

bright, I cut some cucumbers and tomatoes.

intent of the trend. Girl dinner encourages satiation in a playful, easy, and adjustable way. In this way, girl dinner makes eating fun. Olivia Maher said this

Both out of laziness and desire for a quick indulgence, I’ve thrown (almost

on the “Today” show, “What matters is the feeling it [girl dinner] evokes. Gid-

literally too) this plate of cravings together for the night. The items only barely

diness often goes along with it because it’s what you want. It satisfies you.”

belong together (i.e., I don’t usually see cucumber and cheddar on the same plate) and said belonging can be mostly attributed to proximity. This meal is

Much like Maher, I make girl dinner to feel giddy. I construct modified char-

nonsensical and engaging. I have made my “girl dinner.”

cuterie boards, for example, to romanticize an otherwise standard TV binging session. My various writing duties also seem more pleasurable with a bit of

“Girl dinner,” a TikTok trend started by creator Olivia Maher, invites TikTok

cheese and peanuts on the side. I feel as fashionable and as curated as the

creators to share their ideal plate of uniquely curated and, for the most part,

plate next to my computer. Other times, I make a girl dinner to just celebrate

unprepared and uncooked snacks or grub. The dinners sometimes consist of

the simple. I want to taste and understand ingredients as they are, not as a

compatible components, the plate taking on the thoughtful unity of a char-

fraction of a whole meal.

cuterie board. Other times, these creators revel in the mismatched: @elevateyourboutique, for example, arranges a girl dinner of a cheese stick,

Yet girl dinner does not only represent desire for temporary delight for me.

strawberries and boiled eggs, while @swagatronforever2.0 takes a different

It is a truth of living and eating. While girl dinner describes the mismatched

approach to mismatching, deciding on a combination of mac and cheese,

plate I’ve made today, my curating (of sorts) existed long before the trend.

pork and beans, a salad of lettuce dressed with vinegar, hot fries, a Slim Jim,

When long work nights limited dinner prepping and eating time, I turned to

a pickle and two plums for the night.

girl dinner. The mishmash of the week’s leftovers — that now constitutes girl dinner — was always a necessary truth of end-of-the-week dining.

As with most TikTok fads, the trend which has amassed hundreds of millions of views on TikTok has been cause for social media and dietician skepticism.

Of course, when this tapa-tization occurs everyday for every meal, health con-

Girl dinner adversaries argue that public posting of one’s girl dinner not only

cerns may arise especially if the chef skimps on proteins, fruits and veggies.

provides an affirmative space for content creators with disordered eating but

But implicit in the understanding of girl dinner is that the trend offers a break

also promotes a sparse style of eating for one of the largest demographics on

from the norm of cooking and the collateral dishwashing; it’s an indulgence

the app: adolescent girls.

meant for special occasions like the onset of summer — when the temperature increase discourages cooking — or the completion of an exhausting day.

These concerns are not unfounded. Indeed, by the nature of the TikTok algorithm, those plates that are more plate than food pop up every once in a

So when the cacophonous chorus of the phrase “girl dinner” pops up on your

while under the hashtag #girldinner for users that prefer and search for girl

social media, enjoy the sound that accompanies the trend. The jingle signals

dinner-related content. More common and equally as dangerous is the satiri-

a new zeitgeist: one of simplicity, lower exertion and most importantly, giddi-

cal girl dinner of a Redbull and vape or a cigarette and tea.

ness. This triad is one I can get behind.

BOY DINNER Words by Amiyah Golden

Because we’re girls and we truly can’t have anything our own, our viral trend

And with all these labels we are never fully equipped to handle the effects

“girl dinner” has now been infiltrated by the male species with their own ren-

these ideologies foster. With lots of little boys growing up in environments

dition: “boy dinner.”

that prioritize physical strength over mental wellness, it breeds a mindset that physical aesthetics will ultimately move you further along in life — which

If you are reading this with a furrowed brow because you have absolutely no

is not true.

idea what I’m talking about, let me catch you up.

I’ve talked to so many men about why they have started their fitness journeys The terms, “girl dinner” and “boy dinner” refer to a “typical” dinner that cor-

and it always leads back to outside validation, feeding a cycle that keeps men

relates with each respective gender. Girl dinner usually consists of a mish-

away from parties because of their fear of going over their macros or filling

mash of various foods that make no sense together, and boy dinner generally

their plates with 3,000 calories (exactly) of chicken and rice — or vice versa

depicts rice and beans, a protein shake and a beer (which also make no sense

and only consuming foods within their calorific deficit. I have heard all ends.

together).

Now, there’s nothing wrong with having fitness goals and having to adjust This trend was originally started to incite relatability but has now sparked

some habits to reach your goals but not when it blurs the line of mental

discourse around a troubling issue — eating disorders.

well-being. It’s so important to have the conversation surrounding disordered, but often times not taken as seriously when a man is at the forefront.

As more users began to participate, the shared experience — originally highlighting foods like mac and cheese with dinosaur nuggets — has now turned

It trickles down to breaking down gender “norms” that we have instilled in our

grim, as girls begin to show off a plate of lettuce and a handful of almonds as

communities, that don’t promote healthy thinking but further cater to the idea

their proclaimed dinner. (But you can read more about this in Su’s story.) Even

that all men need to align with this “alpha-male”, body-building lifestyle that

if it wasn’t intentional, most of the accounts sharing their own girl dinners are

everyone is not simply built for.

prominent models or influencers – the majority of them already existing in the realm of social media where they embody the societal beauty standard — lur-

Protein powder, a cigarette and a beer is not sustainable but, neither is 1,300

ing girls and women alike to feel pressured to participate in an eating culture

calories of food every day for an adult male that is 6’5”.

that’s not sustainable or healthy.

Attaining 20% body fat is never worth a life of misery.

While most people have honed in on the girl side of things, I saw much similarity with the guys’ version. It spiraled me down the path of gym “bros” and

Eating is power, it’s fuel and necessary. Your body exists in so many unique

the daunting silence that surrounds diet culture when it comes to men.

ways and forms and it’s OK for it to change — that’s a part of life.

The discussion surrounding men’s mental health is often swept under the rug

Trends are fun and so is social media, but some things we must take a deeper

— due, in part, to the unrealistic standards society has placed on men:

look into and differentiate if it’s all for laughs and engagement or is it a cry

“Be strong!”

for help?

“Don’t cry!”

“Don’t let them strip you of your masculinity!” (whatever that means …)

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UNVEILING THE WOKE: NAVIGATING THE COMPLEXITIES OF A POLITICAL BUZZWORD Words by Carmen Macri Before we get started, I find it necessary to generously bestow upon you

That was when DeSantis granted Disney their new nickname;

the profound revelation that “woke” is, indeed, the past tense of “wake.”

“Woke Disney” (clever) and decided to sue the company (also

I mean, who knew, right? But now, let’s get into how this term has be-

clever).

come a symbol of a modern culture war.

He even went as far as to say this during a recent event in Virginia The term “woke” is an adjective originating from African-American Ver-

regarding Florida’s wokeness: “We have made Florida the state

nacular English (AAVE), signifying being “attentive to racial bias and dis-

where woke goes to die. The woke mind virus represents a war on

crimination.” The phrase “Stay Woke” has its roots dating back to the

merit. It represents a war on achievement.”

1930s within the framework of heightened awareness concerning social and political matters impacting the Black community.

What does that even mean… Genuinely asking.

During the 2010s, “woke” decided it needed a wardrobe change. It went

I will say, Republicans are not the only party at fault for how “woke”

from being exclusively concerned with African-American issues to em-

has been misused and misrepresented, obviously. Their hatred for

bracing a buffet of social inequalities. Suddenly, it was all about eradicat-

the term had to stem from something other than it representing

ing racial injustice and sexism and championing the rights of the LGBTQ+

social and racial injustices, that would, again, be too easy.

community.

The perception of “woke” as a negative term began to gain some Not content with its earlier catalog, “woke” became the poster child for

traction in the 2010s, particularly among those who viewed it as

American Left ideas, including the wonderfully complex world of identity

associated with excessive political correctness, identity politics

politics and the quest for social justice. It even took on the role of a lin-

and what they saw as overly zealous social justice activism. It in-

guistic shortcut for concepts like white privilege.

tensified in 2020 in the wake of the George Floyd protests and the polarized discussions surrounding racial and social justice issues.

Essentially, being “woke” meant being politically correct (kind of).

When the Black Lives Matter (BLM) movement began and bore the term “Stay Woke” it seemed like the tides were shifting. “Woke”

But that is not where the evolution of “woke” ends, of course: that would

went back to its original origin — highlighting racism, discrimina-

be too easy and too short of a story. No, much like everything else in pol-

tion and racial inequality.

itics, the word is ever-changing. What was once a word to signify social injustice and change, is now a derogatory term used to slander Liberal

Cue the too-far-left Liberals.

Democrats for god knows what.

Following the death of George Floyd and the rise of the BLM While the term seemed to have resonated with the Democrats, it’s the

movement, the already polarized political parties split even fur-

Republican party that can’t seem to get it out of their mouths. Republi-

ther. Peaceful protests turned violent in the name of BLM and

cans are wielding it as a versatile tool to denounce anything within the

“staying woke.” While the intentions may have been pure in the

progressive realm that doesn’t sit well with them. This includes subjects

beginning, they didn’t stay that way for long. Liberals took “woke”

such as teaching about racism in schools, gender transition policies and

and made it something wholly different. It was now a war cry for

even books in libraries they consider unsuitable. Or when Disney re-

overcorrection.

makes a movie and includes LGBTQ+ or Black characters. That is just unthinkable! How dare Disney decide to be inclusive. A Black mermaid?

Sometimes being too politically correct is a bad thing, well, most

NO.

times. Just as Republicans have their far-right extremists — Trumpies — the far-left has something equally as terrifying — Libs. (Not

That actually brings us to our favorite Gov. Ron DeSantis. Are you tired

to be confused with your run-of-the-mill Liberals. There is a differ-

of us writing about him yet? Well, if he would stop giving us reasons to,

ence.)

we would. Trust me.

During the lockdown in 2020, when everyone became chronically Ronny Boy has made it his life mission to make Florida “anti-woke” in any

online, something very, very strange happened, but that is to be

sense of the word. In every campaign rally, speech or tweet, DeSantis

expected when the entire world shuts down. We saw a surplus in

has mentioned it. But his silliest “woke” battle, in my opinion, is his war-

the LGBTQ+ community — or as the Republicans would call it, the

path on Disney, which resides in our Sunshine State. This feud followed

alphabet army (sarcasm). Now let me preface this, I wholehearted-

the controversial “Don’t Say Gay Bill,” that was passed in March 2022,

ly support the LGBTQ+ community. Everyone has a right to be who

when several members of the corporation and even their then-chief ex-

they are and love who they love, that is not what we are talking

ecutive, Bob Chapek, made remarks criticizing the bill.

about.

We are talking about the moral superiority that came with it and how members within the community began overreaching in the name of being “woke.” Or when opposing opinions simply could not exist, and if they did? People were then deemed homophobic or transphobic for simply disagreeing with a few of the remodeled terms and conditions that most had not realized changed, the overreaching alienated moderate supporters.

Once again, driving the wedge between the two parties even further because “wokeness” in gender ideology is not a pretty sight.

Take, for instance, the case of Canada’s oldest women’s domestic violence shelter in Vancouver. In 2019 they lost their local authority funding because they stood their ground on the admission of trans women (biologically male).

Sure, they could’ve handled things differently, but in the name of “inclusion,” the local authority claimed a short-term victory. And the result? An essential service became crippled, division intensified and the long-term damage to the cause was undeniable.

It seems people now demand nothing short of rigid conformity to their newfound focus on gender ideology and a pecking order of wokeness that’s tearing apart the progressive agenda.

The term “one bad egg could spoil it all” is essentially exactly what happened. (Albeit, it was a few more than just one egg).

When the Libs took the term and morphed it to fit their agenda, that is where “woke” went to die (at DeSantis’s discretion). Once a symbol of heightened awareness to racial bias and discrimination is now more like a badge worn proudly by those leaning a tad too far to the left, which conveniently becomes ammunition for those a tad too far to the far right.

It’s unfortunate, really, for all of the moderate Democrats. Being “blue” does not equal being “woke.” But in the eyes of politics, and everyone within the sphere, you are what your party is. How drab.

A perfect example would be this fascinating piece of mail we received only a few days ago when we sent out our Holiday Ad Gift Guide: “As I don’t agree with your ‘Woke’ agenda, I would not even consider advertising in your rag.”

(Thank you, SignsPlus! And oh, yes, thanks for being a “Folio” reader too!)

Now, what “woke agenda” are they referring to? As an alternative news magazine (emphasis on magazine), I don’t see us having any real agenda, other than to inform and entertain. But since we are a bit left-leaning (thank you, Ronny Boy), of course, that means we are “woke”... how silly!

We’ve reached a juncture where the true meaning of this word is as clear as mud. Republicans tossing it around seem to be in the dark about its real essence, while the Libs are contorting and reshaping it to suit their ever-evolving agenda.

So we are left at a standstill. Do we reclaim the word? Or let it die at the hands of those who don’t quite grasp what it stands for?

Or, do we pull a Nancy Pelosi and be damned to an eternal hell of “wokeness” for wishing American citizens a happy “Schwanza” instead of “Kwanzaa.”

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THE TALK Words by Kelila Ritchie As a woman, there are certain things you just can’t do or, rather, you don’t feel

“Because we’re still seeing this high level of lethality and deaths of domestic

comfortable doing like going on a run at night out of fear of being kidnapped

violence in Northeast Florida, we still need to get the word out,” Patin said,

and sold into the sex trade or not stopping at the gas station after a night out

referring to 5,000 individuals Hubbard House has helped in one year alone,

because if you reject the guy at the pump’s advances he just might stab you.

not to mention the thousands of calls to their hotline. “This is not lessening.”

These may sound like extreme examples, but unfortunately, they happen every day. And not only to women.

VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN With the upcoming fall and winter, it is also important that we continue keep-

That women are the only victims of domestic abuse is a common misconcep-

ing an eye on instances of abuse. Violent cases tend to increase during

tion. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, nearly

spikes in weather such as cold temperatures or a heat wave. Stress is also a

one-third of victims of domestic violence are male. Nor is domestic violence

huge contributor to the rise in domestic violence.

always physical. Also known as intimate partner violence, dating violence and family violence, this type of abuse can range from sexual abuse to emotional

Since the COVID-19 pandemic, there has been an overall increase in women’s

abuse. Domestic violence does and can happen to anyone, and anyone can

experience of violence. Simultaneously, the effects of the pandemic left many

be the abuser.

victims of domestic violence without shelter or without many other resources.

According to the United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empow-

STATISTICS

erment of Women (UN Women), 80% of women whose partners do not have

Around 10 million people become victims of domestic violence in the United

any earnings reported that they or at least one woman they know has experi-

States every year. This equates to 22 people per minute experiencing some

enced at least one act of domestic violence.

form of violence in their personal relationships, making it an incredibly urgent subject that — up until 1970 — was considered a “private family matter.” Wom-

“Earning an income appears to reduce experiences of violence: Women with

en and children were considered possessions of men and, therefore, prob-

an income are less likely to perceive violence against women as a problem

lems at home should be handled within the home. I have vivid memories of my

and domestic violence as common. The exception: women who out earn their

mom having conversations with my sister and me about the dangers of being

partner perceive domestic violence as more common and feel less safe at

a woman and how to best protect ourselves. I was 10 years old. According to

home than those who don’t,” according to UN Women.

the Florida Department of Children and Families, 22%-25% of all women will experience domestic violence at some point in their lifetime. Abuse can be

With the ever-changing economy, this needs to be addressed today. The is-

physical, sexual, economic or psychological actions or threats of action that

sue of violence against women goes deeper than just one act of violence,

aim to instill fear in victims.

one time. The issue of violence against women speaks to centuries of discrimination and gender-based inequalities that continue to cause harm and

Domestic violence can extend past intimate, romantic relationships and can

forego justice. Violence against women (VAW) is a consequence of gender

also include sibling abuse and parental abuse, something many people might

inequality. Data surrounding this phenomena is constantly changing but nev-

not consider or take seriously. We think about fighting with siblings or parents

er paints the full picture, as many survivors of domestic abuse fear coming

in a way that reflects our childhood moments but rarely in a way that resem-

forward to share their story and/or feel ashamed. Marie says her experiences

bles the mainstream idea of “domestic violence.” Then there are people like

with domestic violence have made her question the human ability to love.

Marie, a survivor of domestic violence, whose stepfather would “terrorize” her household.

We, as a society, have to do our part in helping to ease the transition from having to survive to being able to live. Many times when a survivor speaks out

“Growing up, domestic violence was always a part of life. Just as barbecues

regarding their abuse, they are met with invalidating questions such as, “Well,

and family reunions were. I would see adults fighting, whether intimate part-

what did she do to deserve that?” Victim-blaming plays a huge role in silence

ners or brothers and sisters or just sisters. It was a norm in my village,” she

among survivors. Even worse, the normalization of violence against women

said.

further perpetuates this miserable cycle. Reading cases where women are brutally beaten, raped and killed is always incredibly gut wrenching.

Currently in Duval County, more than 8,000 people are injured as a result of domestic violence every year. Every October, the Hubbard House releases

Currently in Florida, not all acts of violence involving people in relationships

their Domestic Violence Fatality Review Report which looks at fatalities oc-

can make a case for domestic violence in court. For example, if you are in a

curring the previous year that were due to domestic violence. This year, the

relationship with someone but do not live together or have children, any acts

numbers have not decreased, according to Gail A. Patin, CEO of Hubbard

of violence in the relationship would be deemed criminal but not classified

House, which serves victims of domestic violence and their families.

as domestic violence. The distinction matters greatly as different safety measures are taken to protect a victim of domestic violence. Also, the penalty for those convicted are likely to be higher. There needs to be stricter laws surrounding the safety of women, no loopholes.

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SAFE HAVEN Many survivors of domestic violence face many barriers when trying to leave an abusive relationship — lack of resources, affordable housing, conflicting feelings and beliefs, and familial values to name a few. Survivors may be afraid the violence will increase if they try to leave. They may also stay out of fear they will lose their children or their family may be harmed as a result. In many cases, these fears are based on past experiences.

Affordable housing is one of the most significant barriers survivors face.This is one of the biggest challenges people face when leaving an abusive relationship: Where will I go?

“Survivors need to be able to rent or own a home at a worker’s level of income so they have choices to live free of the abuser. We need to address how rising costs of living and costs in general are impacting everyone,” said Patin.

“But for a survivor, it could be deadly.”

To address domestic abuse cases in Northeast Florida, The Hubbard House and other local organizations like Sulzbacher and the City Rescue Mission remain dedicated to creating a safe space for survivors of domestic violence.

Patin attributes the success of Hubbard House to the support of the Jacksonville community. The mission of Hubbard House is safety, empowerment and social change for victims of domestic violence and their families.

Patin also stated the importance of family and friends in a domestic violence situation and had these tips on supporting someone you know may be involved in an abusive relationship. She suggested posting information about domestic violence on social media; sharing information about resources available to them; and above all, being there for them — in private and away from the abuser.

Tough love, she added, is not the answer. When dealing with someone being abused at home who hasn’t left the relationship yet, it’s human nature to carry that worry with you and want them to leave. Though it may feel like the right thing to do, tough love can be detrimental to the survivor. Whether it is the first time they decide to leave or the 100th, support them in doing so, every time.

“Believe them in doing that because that one time may be the time when they leave that it sticks,” Patin said.

If you or anyone you know is dealing with domestic violence, please call the 24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline at (904) 354-3114.

This month, as every month, “Folio” continues to spread awareness for survivors of domestic violence. We hear you, we see you, we believe you.

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SPEAKEASY SCAVENGER HUNT Words and photo by Ambar Ramirez Admit it. When a friend tells you they have something

So naturally, speakeasies are the next best thing.

to say to you, something that you can’t tell anybody, you feel piqued, eager and dare I say … excited. There’s

Our modern day speakeasies are very much legal and

something about secrecy that activates some sort of pri-

offer an escape to the past. A lot of speakeasies still

mal reaction. Which begs the question, why are secrets

honor the code of needing a secret passcode or hand-

so fun? Is it a sense of pride that your friend trusted you

shake to get past the door, but for the most part, you just

with some vital information? Or is it that with secrecy

need to know where you’re going. And this isn’t to say

comes this unspoken role, that you are some undercover

that you (or I) should or will stop going to the beach bars

spy having to be very careful with what you say and do? I

or to silent disco and so on, this is just to allow some

think, and maybe it’s just me, but anything that’s a secret

variety to our repetitive nightlife routine.

can’t be overrated. It’s a unique piece of information that only a small amount of people know or in extreme cases,

Now that you are fully prepped on the history of speak-

only one person knows. And in our digital age, where

easies, I’ll let you in on yet another secret. A list of some

information is so widely shared, it makes you feel special

of Jacksonville’s hidden gems.

to know that something that most people don’t.

THE VOLSTEAD Something that has always piqued my interest is a secret

Shrouded away on Adams Street between a row of busi-

location, especially one with alcohol.

nesses is the moody speakeasy Volstead. When you

And no, I don’t mean any dive bar/hole-in-the-wall (those

first walk into the establishment, you may find yourself

are cool too), but places that offer drinks and music —

confused and thinking you’re in the wrong place. But if

and a definite vibe. In other words, a speakeasy.

you find yourself in what looks like an abandoned barber shop, you’ve made it. There’s no secret handshake or

Speakeasies were created and established during Pro-

passcode that I know of. All you need to do is walk past

hibition when alcohol was deemed a danger to society

the hefty red-velvet curtains and allow your eyes to ad-

and ultimately made illegal. Basically the dark ages. If

just to the dimly lit space. This is the place to be if you’re

you didn’t guess or take a history class, speakeasies

into a more low-key night out. Leather couches and

were places that illegally sold alcohol. The title came

small coffee tables are scattered throughout if you’re in

from “speak-softly shops” and alluded to the need for

need of some comfort, otherwise, stools encompass the

secrecy. New York City was a hotspot for speakeasies

rounded bar. The speakeasy is named after the Volstead

during the 1920s and ’30s, and such establishments

Act which was co-written and sponsored by Andrew Vol-

even went as far as having two entrances, one meant

stead and essentially enacted Prohibition. The bar want-

to confuse law enforcers and the other for people to

ed to honor the time in which elegance, prosperity and

covertly enter or exit. Interestingly, something I didn’t

change were at the forefront of our society. And they do

know prior to writing this story, is that decades prior to

just that by offering a range of unique crafted cocktails

the Prohibition, women were typically not allowed to be

and vintage decorations. This is the place to be if you

seen drinking alcohol in public. But speakeasies created

truly need an escape and detachment from the every-

a safe space for women to do just that, often camouflag-

day. Specifically from your phone since I had no phone

ing such activities under the guise of restaurants, dance

signal while inside the establishment.

rooms and powder rooms — and ultimately paving the way for our modern nightlife.

T-DUBS MERCANTILE Men’s clothing store by day, speakeasy by night, T-Dubs

And now you’re probably wondering, what is the point of

Mercantile located in Atlantic Beach definitely has some

a speakeasy now that alcohol is (thankfully) not illegal. I,

tricks up its sleeves. You wouldn’t have any idea that

personally, am in my early 20s. I should be hitting up the

this store turns up when the lights turn down. Through

beach bars every weekend or going to Root Down in 5

racks and tables filled with polos and khakis, you’ll find

Points for silent disco. And believe me, I definitely was

a bar in the back that mainly serves beer, wine and sake-

… two years ago. But the glitz and glamour of the beach

based cocktails. Not only does this speakeasy offer

bars has lost its appeal (and its glamour), and I can only

drinks but it also offers live music from local artists. And

go to silent disco so often. Plus I’m not quite ready for

if you’re there earlier in the evening you can sip and

the casual after-work drinks at a restaurant. I most defi-

shop. It doesn’t get any better than that.

nitely still want to be on the dance floor or, if that isn’t an option, at the very least be in a setting so loud that I can ignore conversations without any repercussions.

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BUCHNER’S BIERHALLE Now this wouldn’t be a proper scavenger hunt if we didn’t get lost a few times. When my Apple Maps told me I had arrived at my location, I had to doublecheck I was in the right place as I was standing in front of a seemingly closed vapor shop on Edgewood Avenue in Murray Hill. Luckily, I saw somebody else walk in. Through its vapor shop guise, you wouldn’t guess that a German-themed speakeasy is located in the back of this shop. And boy, do I love themes. This speakeasy only offers German beers and wine, and I’m not complaining. Not to mention the amount of detail was impressive, from the menus to the decoration, this place screams German. And surprise! There’s more. Behind the speakeasy is the biergarden. Which I can only assume is the German way of saying outdoor patio. The garden was much more quiet and decorated with hanging lights (bonus points if you can find all the gnomes).

Unfortunately, I got to this speakeasy after 11 p.m., but if you start your nights earlier and are in need of German-themed food, this is the place to go.

THE PARLOUR Funnily enough, when you search The Parlour on the web, it is listed as a beauty salon. They truly took that whole secret thing to heart even if this speakeasy is hidden behind Grape & Grain Exchange, which is a bar in San Marco Square. Despite the fact that the curtains were drawn back and essentially open to the rest of Grape & Grain, I wouldn’t have guessed what I was about to walk into. I walked through the misleading hallway and was met with hypnotizing live jazz music and a full bar. I quickly ordered some cocktails, and by quickly I mean I asked the bartender to make me whatever the couple next to me was having. Thankfully, the cocktail was delicious and so was the atmosphere. It was the kind of place I could get lost in. Are we rating? Cause this speakeasy gets a 13/10.

SECRET TIKI TEMPLE Tucked behind Pagoda Restaurant on Baymeadows Road, you’ll find the Secret Tiki Temple. Its secret? You need a reservation. Luckily, you can usually make reservations day of and needless to say, it’s worth the visit. This speakeasy is decorated to the nines, and if you’re impressed by its colorful lights and island-inspired seating, you’ll be even more impressed by its cocktail menu and food menu.

TIPSY DUCK PARLOR This one goes out to all of you Jeep and soap lovers. Let me set the scene.

You’re casually spending the day shopping in St. Augustine when you stumble upon a soap shop. But not just any old soap shop. Located inside Bath Junkie in St. Augustine is the Tipsy Duck Parlor. A rubber duck-themed bar, with a few tables and bar stools styled to look like duck feet. Not only does this fever dream speakeasy offer specialty cocktails but they also have a make-your-own soda option with a range of flavors to choose from. Bonus points because pets are welcome.

THE RL LOUNGE Finding the address is easy: 712 N Hogan St. Finding parking is a cinch (there’s a garage next door). Finding this super hidden speakeasy … not so easy. You may even want to give up after your third drive around the block, but if you do, you’ll be missing out on a true hidden gem. Located inside the NoCo Center (currently home of the King Tut exhibit, which also hosted “Beyond Van Gogh”). Once you make it to the door (look for Tut), enter and take a left. Just down the hallway, you’ll find a cozy, sophisticated lounge serving up craft cocktails, killer panini and their highly craveable nut mix. Not to mention some of the best service with a smile in town.

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GETTING REAL WITH LISA THOMAS OF THE GREATER JACKSONVILLE AGRICULTURAL FAIR Words by Carmen Macri and interview Ambar Ramirez We eagerly anticipate it every year, and the moment we’ve all been waiting for has finally arrived. The Greater Jacksonville Agricultural Fair is just around the bend, and it’s bringing with it a cornucopia of delights: beloved funnel cakes, exhilarating rides, vibrant lights and a plethora of local musical talent.

“Folio “ chatted with Lisa Thomas, director of marketing for the Greater Agricultural Fair, to give us the inside scoop on what’s in store and what we should be most excited about this year.

“The one thing that’s close to my heart is that I purposely put in a lot more local music acts,” Thomas shared. “We have national acts, but all the other 90% of our acts are all local. And that’s because that’s where my heart is.”

Scan the QR code to watch the full interview with Lisa Thomas.

THE BEAUTIFUL

NUANCE OF FALL IN FLORIDA Words by Mallory Pace

As a Florida native, I know exactly two seasons: summer and not-summer. Hot

of the best ways to feel the season. Filling the air with the aroma of pumpkin

air, high humidity and a blazing sun are what Floridians know for most months

bread while a Halloween movie plays in the background and the thermostat

of the year. But each year, around September or October, one day you go

is turned to 70 degrees is my definition of a perfect fall evening. If we can’t

outside and it feels … different. There are no leaves on the ground indicating

have a true autumn season, we sure can imitate it. Hosting a fall-inspired par-

a season change, and it’s certainly not cold enough for a jacket, but in the

ty is the perfect excuse to indulge in the season by crafting themed cocktails,

subtle smell of the wind and in the brisk taste of the breeze, you might find

charcuterie boards, baked goods and of course, decorations. With an autumn

the beginning of fall in Florida.

leaves candle lit, pumpkin cookies on the table and laughter roaring through the living room, your home will turn into your own fall oasis, even if the fore-

Like most everything and everyone in Florida, our seasons are out of whack.

cast is calling for a tropical storm.

The remnants of summer linger all year, even as a cool breeze and tinted leaves settle into place. We might not enjoy the traditional changing of sea-

Part of what makes fall in Florida so much fun is getting to role play small

sons, but fall shows us its presence in its own unique ways, and there are

town, “Gilmore Girls” fantasies where we go apple picking and get lost in a

plenty of ways to get in the fall mood — even in 85 degree weather.

corn maze as if we’re somewhere else besides Duuuval County. Even if you can’t bundle up in your favorite scarves and coats that haven’t seen the light

In fact, the weather is one of the luxuries Floridians have during the fall sea-

of day since December 1989 (the last time it snowed in Jacksonville), take in

son. Temperatures drop just enough to wear a sweater in the morning but

all the fall festivities you can. Enjoy these few months for what they are, even

still be able to spend time at the beach in the afternoon. Even as the year

if it doesn’t feel like “true fall.” This season gives locals a glimpse into an es-

nears its end, the beach remains a beautiful place to take a walk or bike ride.

cape from year-round summer, although if you don’t love year-round summer,

Being coined the “Sunshine State” has its perks during the colder months as

Florida might not be for you.

we’re able to spend more time outside enjoying the crisp air rather than being forced to stay indoors. Fall in Florida looks like driving with the windows

There is something so charming about fall in Florida and its bashful, nuanced

down, taking walks with a light jacket on and choosing to sit outside at dinner.

hints that it’s anything other than a Sunshine State. Each year, she (yes, Flor-

It might seem small and mundane, but it’s Florida’s way of feeling fall.

ida is a she in my mind) wakes up one day, lets out a cold, refreshing breath of air and tells us, almost telepathically, change is here. Then suddenly, you

Also, just because we can’t run and jump into a pile of leaves (no matter how

take a moment to look around and hints of fall reveal themselves to you in

much I have always wanted to) doesn’t mean Floridians can’t enjoy fall-related

ways they didn’t yesterday. The clouds are softer, more inviting. The wind is

activities. With a quick Google search, you’ll find plenty of fall festivals hap-

happier, whispering melodies to the trees and grass. The air smells sweeter,

pening in Jacksonville and its neighboring counties. And what’s fall without

like how it did when you were a kid and seeing the beauty of the world for the

pumpkins? Pumpkin patches scatter the city and make for the perfect date

first time. The changes are just subtle enough to remind us that the year is

or family outing. Just the smell of pumpkin guts is sure to put you in the fall

coming to an end, the world is still spinning and we’re still standing.

mood. There is truly nothing quite like digging through the insides of a pumpkin, feeling that slimy, stringy texture run through your fingertips … yummy.

Tomorrow might feel different, but in those small moments, we can appreciate the delicate mystery of fall in Florida.

Speaking of yummy, baking or consuming anything pumpkin-related is one

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PLAY DEFEATS CANCER Words and photos by Carson Rich The Roc Solid Foundation, an organization created to serve children who are fighting cancer, made a stop in Jacksonville for their “Play Defeats Cancer Tour.” During the tour, volunteers and teams from Roc Solid travel across the country to build custom backyard playsets for children diagnosed with cancer.

Eric Newman, the founder and chief play officer of Roc Solid, came up with the idea for the tour based on his own history of battling a life-threatening illness. After beating a rare form of liver cancer and seeing loved ones around him suffer, he began to struggle with finding his own purpose in life. This all changed for him once he began sharing his story and realizing that he is not alone in the fight.

“Everything that you see right now has come from some of the turmoil that was created in my life. With me being a childhood cancer survivor, I know exactly what the kids are going through,” said Newman. “I was a second child, three years old when I was diagnosed. My dad’s sister, a second child, three years old, was diagnosed with leukemia. My dad’s brother, a second child, three years old, was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. So I witnessed play be taken from them as well, and they lost the fight.”

Newman worked previous jobs in construction and even started his own companies, but after an unfortunate series of events caused him to let go of them, he started on his own journey to inspire kids who are going through the same things that brought him here. Combining his knowledge of construction with the passion that he has to brighten children’s lives created the Roc Solid Foundation and most importantly, the “Play Defeats Cancer Tour.”

When asked why Roc Solid specifically chose to build playsets for these children, Newman spoke about the impact that playing outside has had on them as children and why it is so detrimental to have that stripped out from underneath them. “The reason that we built playsets specifically is that the one thing that you and I never had to be taught to do is to play, play is a universal language, play is a gift to the imagination. And once a child is diagnosed with cancer, all of that becomes off limits. Play becomes off limits. See, you and I choose to stop playing, but kids fighting cancer, they don’t have a choice.”

Their stop in Jacksonville served to help 4-year-old Aspen Peterson-Armengol, diagnosed with embryonal rhabdomyosarcoma (ERMS), an aggressive form of childhood cancer. Due to her being immunocompromised, she has not been able to play on public playgrounds since her diagnosis, taking away some of the biggest moments that every child deserves to have at a young age. Building this playset gives her the opportunity to have that experience.

Unfortunately, Peterson-Armengol could not be there in person for the reveal of her new playground because she needed emergency surgery, but a heartfelt Facetime call was made later that day, and she was smiling from ear to ear.

Eric Newman has dedicated everything he has toward the cause, and he feels like now he has finally found his purpose. “This is what I was put here on this earth to do, this is why I still have breath in my lungs … they don’t. So I’m gonna chase this and fight as hard as I can, until every child gets the ability to play,” he said. “It’s bigger than screws. It’s bigger than bolts. It’s bigger than wood. It’s a moment. And that’s what these families yearn for is, like, they want a sense of normal. And so this place provides the emotional support behind it; it gives them a taste of hope.”

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AMBAR: Once Carmen was finished with her intense, nail-biting reading, it was my turn. I went into this reading wanting to know if moving to New York City in the near future was a good decision. Not as scary as a relationship reading, but still nerve-wracking as you never want to hear that your dream doesn’t align with your purpose. Still, I went into it with an open mind and heart.

CARMEN: That would be such a shame, wouldn’t it?

AMBAR: Anyway, Ruth was about to ring the bell to tune in with my spirit guides, but, of course, Carmen’s guides were not finished and had one more question for her.

CARMEN: They wanted to know just how long I was going to sit on this information. Yet I’m the bossy one?

AMBAR: I wouldn’t expect anything less from her guides honestly. Once they were finished making sure Carmen heard what they had to say, they dipped and in came my guides.

The girls see a psychic Words by Ambar Ramirez and Carmen Macri CARMEN: Let me start by saying I was a bit skeptical of this. It is hard for me to put my blind faith into something I truly do not understand. Still, during my reading, there were just so many specificities mentioned that I had no other choice but to fully believe every single thing Ruth Elder told me.

AMBAR: Let’s set the scene. I was severely hungover, and Carmen just got back from a weekend trip of over-spending and over-drinking. Nonetheless, we made our way over to the Portal, Midnight Sun’s dedicated space for psychics, tarot readings and other spiritual healing activities. And as soon as we walked into the incense-filled room I felt my hangover dissipate and a sense of peace.

CARMEN: One of us had to be the guinea pig, and it had to be me. Great. After racking my brain for a whole two minutes, I came up with the perfect question (I’m sorry, Ryan): Am I in the right relationship? But, she said, that was too broad of a question, so she sat me down and we went over the specific sub-questions that I should also be asking, i.e. who am I with him, who would I be without him and vice versa. Needless to say, questions were answered, but new questions arose and I didn’t have the heart to ask them.

AMBAR: Before Ruth starts shuffling and pulling cards, she rings a little bell to channel our spirit guides. And one thing about spirit guides is they have a lot to say and aren’t afraid to hold back. As they should.

CARMEN: Before she even pulled a card, I guess my spirit guides had a lot they wanted to say. My guides told me that I already knew the answer to my question, but I just needed that energy push to solidify it. They also said I was a bit bossy, but that’s neither here nor there. The first card pulled was Page of Wands — reversed (every card pulled was reversed). The Page of Wands reversed suggests that you can feel the stirrings of something new emerging within you, but you don’t know how to turn it into action. That was the catalyst that set my very, very hefty reading into place.

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CARMEN: Ambar’s guides were a lot nicer than mine.

AMBAR: They were very sweet, and if I could have seen them, I would’ve given them a kiss on the mouth.

CARMEN: I would have shaken them.

AMBAR: Enough with the interruptions. You and your spirit guides are so alike. Anyway, after my guides quickly let me know that I was essentially on the right path and have a good track with luck, they noted how I am often hesitant. And if you know me at all, you know I don’t make decisions easily (or at all – Carmen.). Which is why I did the reading in the first place. I’d rather have someone else (aka a clarity reader), make the decision for me.

CARMEN: Essentially, Ambar is moving to New York City and I need to have a long talk with my boyfriend.

AMBAR: I call that a win-win situation if you ask me.

CARMEN: Mmm hmm ...

AMBAR: If things don’t work out for Carmen and her relationship, she can move to New York with me.

CARMEN: Overall, it was an amazing experience. We gave Ruth very little information about us, and most of what she said was spot on (albeit, annoying to hear, but spot on.) She has been doing this for over 30 years and it shows.

She made sure we were comfortable and understood exactly what each card meant.

AMBAR: If you have the chance to get a reading or are currently having internal battles, visit Ruth Elder at the Portal. You won’t regret it.

CARMEN: Well, you might.

“I started reading Tarot when I was 20 years old due to a “twist of fate.” I was raised in a very strict Catholic household where things like Tarot were verboten. I had a friend whom I had met through another twist of fate. (She was the ex-girlfriend of my then-husband.) Susie had been raised in Daytona and attended church in Cassadega, so she was very much in the Tarot/Mediumship/ Psychic mindset. One day, we were hanging out, and she said, “I want a Tarot reading,” and handed me her deck of Tarot cards. I told her, “I don’t know how to read Tarot. And she replied, “Yes, you do.” I don’t even remember what I read, but I remember that reading the tarot cards was like getting a taste of the most delicious thing I had ever tasted: I had to find out more. I have had a passion for Tarot and Divination ever since! Susie gave me her own deck after that first reading and she taught me a lot. I’ve spent the last 31 years reading books and taking classes and reading as many people as possible to keep expanding my knowledge. Now I also teach Beginning Tarot classes to help others learn. The wonderful thing about divination in any form is that there is always more to learn to strengthen your skills. About half the people I read have never had their cards read before. And I’m always happy to demystify the “scary” Tarot cards like Death, The Devil or the Tower card. (P.S. all are about change, which is why people find them scary.) In the end, my goal is to give people clear guidance on how to move forward to their highest good.

I want to give my clients as much clarity through the reading as possible,

In Your Own Words

which is why my business cards say “Clarity Card Readings.” When anyone

Ruth Elder

tors for direction, you will always get an answer! We have so many spirits and

comes with a question and asks God/Spirit/Universe/Angels/ Guides/Ances-

“What was the catalyst behind your decision to start reading tarot cards? How long has it been since?”

souls wanting to help us. We are never alone.”

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Dear Dumbs, My mom listens to your podcast a lot. She told me I should listen as well say-

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ing “it’s a great example of how a healthy relationship can be.” Thanks for all the laughs and inspiration, for it’s inspiration I need.

I’m 17 years old and my uncle got me a job at his dentist office. I basically answer the phones. I do a good job, but I’m afraid to tell everyone involved I want more in life. I’m very outgoing and love to laugh with my friends. What I want to do is go to college and get into the entertainment industry. Either in front of the camera or behind the scenes. I’m pretty sure, OK, I know this won’t go over well with my parents. But I really want to do it.

I know Terry is in the industry, so could he give me some insight on what I can expect? And can Shari give me some encouraging words on how to approach this with with my parents?

Thank you.

Courtney (Court) Kansas City, Missouri

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TERRY: I’m envious. 17 years old and full of dreams. What an exciting time.

SHARI: Do you have the same advice for a career behind the scenes?

SHARI: I would never want to be 17 years old again. What a painful time. I

TERRY: No. College is the best choice there. Especially if you’re not 1000%

really think college is a great choice. I don’t think any parent would ever say

sure of what you want to do. Try it all. Acting in a school play. Learn how to

no to that.

block and direct and set design etc … Be open to it all and see what holds your interest the most.

TERRY: Well, it’s a good thing I’m not a parent because I disagree. Some of the best advice I ever received came from a guy named Jeff Sotzing. He was

SHARI: Court, don’t be afraid to talk to your parents about this. You’re young,

my brother’s friend, and Jeff was Johnny Carson’s nephew and worked on

and they know you’ll want to try new things. I think a thought out plan would

“The Tonight Show.” I had lunch with him hoping that he could get me a job at

go a long way with them. If you get any negative feedback from them, it’s only

NBC so I could get my foot in the door.

because they have your best interest in mind.

SHARI: This story again?

TERRY: That’s a great point. But overall, I’m so excited for you. You’re young.

Go out there and take some chances. There’s no such thing as failure. Please

TERRY: Shut your pie hole. He said he could easily get me a job there, but

keep in touch.

why would I want that if I desired a career in front of the camera. That was the exact moment I decided to try my hand at standup, acting and radio.

SHARI: We’re cheering you on.

SHARI: That worked out for you, but the odds weren’t in your favor.

TERRY: Who cares about the odds? I felt alive and fearless. If you’re lucky enough to have those feelings you’re going to make it.

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