Four County Catholic November 2020 by Diocese of Norwich

FOUR COUNTY

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Volume 32 • Number 10 • NOVEMBER 2020 •

SERVING THE COUNTIES OF MIDDLESEX • NEW LONDON • TOLLAND • WINDHAM, CT & FISHERS ISLAND, NY

- Saint Frances Cabrini

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THE MOST REVEREND

MICHAEL R. COTE, D.D.

BISHOP OF NORWICH

LET FAITH LEAD THE WAY

A Christian is a Missionary of Hope As we approach this Thanksgiving, we find ourselves challenged on many fronts. Political and social unrest is in our streets and in the media. We are hindered in our normal way of life by a pandemic that persists in challenging us physically and in many cases mentally and spiritually. By any measure, these are severely trying times. Thankfully, we have our faith. We can rely upon this faith for strength. His Holiness Pope Francis has a powerful message for us -- “What a real Christian is like, is not whiny and angry, but convinced by the strength of the Resurrection that no evil is infinite, no night without end, no hate is invincible from love. Those who have Christ at their side truly no longer fear anything. A Christian is a missionary of hope.” Central to the times in which we live, the Holy Father’s message creates an opportunity for us to stand up to the imposing challenges before us. To lift each other up. Worshipping and living our faith in freedom is one of the blessings for which we are grateful at this time of

thanksgiving. I am told by the pastors that more and more of you are safely returning to Mass to worship in person. If your circumstances require you to attend Mass remotely, please do not worry. Weekly live streaming of Masses throughout the Diocese will continue until such time as everyone can feel safe in returning to their parish in person. You can also find daily Masses, broadcast by the Office of Radio and Television of the Archdiocese of Hartford, broadcast on local television stations as well. As we know, a way to draw strength and radiate faith is to worship and pray together. The power of joining together at Mass on Sunday or any opportunity should never be underestimated. It comforts the soul and helps center our lives as an active community of faith. Attendance at Mass is not a private matter. We must always remember that we are called to gather as a community “to render to God an outward, visible, public and regular worship as a sign of His universal beneficence to all.” (CCC 2176) Unfortunately, to keep everyone safe, and to not exclude anyone, the annual Masses that honor specific

professions were cancelled this year. An unfortunate casualty of COVID-19. For more than a quarter of a century, we had come to rely on these yearly gatherings of educators, first responders, and other occupations with such names as the White Mass, the Red Mass, the Blue Mass and the Red, White and Blue Mass, to celebrate with and pray for these people no matter what their calling or religious affiliation. Even though the current situation does not allow us to celebrate with you, I would like to extend a sincere thank you to each and every one of you and let you know that I will continue to pray for your safety, success and spiritual comfort. I look forward to the day when fire and EMS personnel parade down Broadway passing underneath the American flag extended between the ladders of the fire trucks in front of the Cathedral; when all branches of the Armed Services carry their colors down the center aisle of the Cathedral; when those Dedicated to Education, without whom we would not have the other professions, place their roses

before Our Blessed Mother; and I also look forward to the day when the police dogs grace us with their quiet presence. I recall the words of one homilist who, when speaking to first responders, said, “What you do is important. It is more than a job. It is more than a civic duty. It is more than public service; it is a vocation. It is a calling by God, a command by Jesus Christ himself, to love your neighbor as yourself. “ I could not agree more and for this I am forever grateful. I pray that you and your families have a wonderful Thanksgiving, filled with health, love and joy and that the blessings of Almighty God rest upon you. May we all continue to be missionaries of hope. Sincerely yours in the life of Christ,

Michael R. Cote Bishop of Norwich

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My dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

THE MOST REVEREND

MICHAEL R. COTE, D.D.

BISHOP OF NORWICH

LET FAITH LEAD THE WAY

Un cristiano es un misionero de la esperanza

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Mis queridos hermanos y hermanas en Cristo,

A medida que nos acercamos al Día de Acción de Gracias, encontramos desafíos en muchos frentes. El malestar político y social está en nuestras calles y en los medios de comunicación. Nuestra forma de vida normal se ve obstaculizada por una pandemia que persiste en desafiarnos física y, en muchos casos, mental y espiritualmente. Estos son tiempos difíciles, en toda dimensión, Afortunadamente, tenemos nuestra fe. Podemos confiar en esta fe para obtener fortaleza. Su Santidad el Papa Francisco tiene un mensaje poderoso para nosotros: “Un verdadero Cristiano, no es un quejicoso o enojado, sino que está convencido por la fuerza de la Resurrección de que ningún mal es infinito, ninguna noche sin fin, ningún odio vence al amor. Aquellos que verdaderamente tienen a Cristo a su lado ya no temen a nada. Un cristiano es un misionero de la esperanza.” El mensaje del Santo Padre, fundamental para los tiempos en que vivimos, nos brinda la oportunidad de hacer frente a los imponentes desafíos que tenemos ante nosotros. Para animarnos los unos a los otros.

Adorar y vivir nuestra fe en libertad es una de las bendiciones por las que estamos agradecidos en este momento de acción de gracias. Los párrocos me han dicho que muchos más de ustedes están regresando a misa sin peligro para adorar en persona. Si sus circunstancias requieren que usted asista a misa de forma remota, no se preocupe. La transmisión semanal en vivo de las misas en toda la Diócesis continuará hasta que todos puedan sentirse seguros de regresar en persona a sus parroquias. También puede encontrar misas diarias, transmitidas por la Oficina de Radio y Televisión de la Arquidiócesis de Hartford, transmitidas también en estaciones de televisión locales. Como sabemos, una forma de sacar fuerzas e irradiar fe es adorar y orar juntos. El poder de unirse en la misa el domingo o cualquier oportunidad nunca debe subestimarse. Consuela el alma y ayuda a centrar nuestras vidas como una comunidad de fe activa. La asistencia a misa no es un asunto privado. Debemos recordar siempre que estamos llamados a reunirnos como comunidad "para rendir a Dios un culto exterior, visible, público y regular como signo de su beneficencia universal para con todos". (CCC 2176) Desafortunadamente, para mantener a todos a salvo y para no excluir a nadie, las misas

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anuales que honran profesiones específicas se cancelaron este año. Un infortunio de COVID-19.

Durante más de un cuarto de siglo, hemos llegado a depender de estas reuniones anuales de educadores, policías y otras ocupaciones con nombres como la Misa Blanca, la Misa Roja, la Misa Azul y la Misa Roja, Blanca y Azul, para celebrar y orar por estas personas sin importar su vocación o afiliación religiosa.

Aunque la situación actual no nos permite celebrar con ustedes, me gustaría extenderles un sincero agradecimiento a todos y cada uno de ustedes y hacerles saber que seguiré orando por su seguridad, éxito y consuelo espiritual.

Espero con ansias el día en que el personal de bomberos y EMS desfile por Broadway pasando bajo la bandera estadounidense que se extiende entre las escaleras de los camiones de bomberos frente a la Catedral; cuando todas las ramas de las Fuerzas Armadas lleven sus colores por el pasillo central de la Catedral; cuando aquellos dedicados a la educación, sin los cuales no tendríamos las otras profesiones, coloquen sus rosas ante nuestra Santísima Madre; y también espero con ansias el día en que los perros policía nos honren con su tranquila presencia.

Holy Hour for Vocations

Recuerdo las palabras de un homilista que, al hablar con los policías, dijo: “Lo que usted hace es importante. Es más que un trabajo. Es más que un deber cívico. Es más que un servicio público; es una vocación. Es un llamado de Dios, un mandato del mismo Jesucristo, amar a su prójimo como a si mismo. " No podría estar más de acuerdo y por esto estaré eternamente agradecido.

Oro para que ustedes y sus familias tengan un maravilloso Día de Acción de Gracias, lleno de salud, amor y alegría, y que las bendiciones del Dios Todopoderoso reposen sobre ustedes. Que todos sigamos siendo misioneros de la esperanza. Sinceramente en el amor de Cristo,

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Vocations Corner Deacon Larry Barile 4th Theology Pope John XXIII Seminary Weston, MA

A Seminarian Reflection I learned in early October that the seminary community at Mount St. Mary Seminary has been doing very well and they have no COVID infections. They have continued to social distance, wear masks and be very mindful of hygiene. Thank you, God, and our Blessed Mother, for keeping our seminarians all safe.

Mr. Alexander Pandolfe 1st Theology Mount St. Mary Seminary Emmitsburg, MD

We hope you have enjoyed the reflections of our seminarians. We are fortunate and blessed to have such good men willing to respond generously to God’s call. They are each gifted and unique. We now come to the final two reflections this November and next month as 2020 rolls to an end and into 2021.

Father Greg Galvin, Director of Priestly Vocations

Mr. Jacob Ramos 3rd Theology Mount Saint Mary’s Seminary Emmitsburg, MD

Mr. Dharen Brochero 2nd Theology Mount Saint Mary’s Seminary Emmitsburg, MD

Ruben Garcia Sanchez 2nd Theology Mount Saint Mary’s Seminary Emmitsburg, MD

“When I see the heavens, the work me to pursue virtue and the presence of your hands, the moon and the of our Lord in the Sacraments. stars which you arranged, what is After encountering Jesus’ mercy man that you should keep him in in confession and His Eucharistic mind, mortal man that you care for presence in Adoration, I felt a call to him?” (Ps 8:3-4). discern the possibility of pursuing Him more fully, and in a unique way, At times it may seem that God is as one of His priests so as to share His silent or ignoring our trials; yet, it is goodness with others. humbling to look back and consider how God’s Providence was always I’m currently a first-year theologian present, especially through the at Mount St. Mary’s Seminary in people He has placed in our lives. I Mr. Julian Cuervo Emmitsburg, Maryland. This means was blessed to be born to a Catholic that I am starting my third of six total 1st Theology family in Colombia. Thanks to my years of formation. The first two years Mount Saint Mary Seminary family’s witness of deep faith and were characterized by philosophical Emmitsburg, MD love for God, prayer, and the Mass, studies and developing a strong I experienced God’s personal love prayer life. These latter years will be for me in a very tangible way. highlighted by theological studies, Though I entered UConn as a finance major, I always continued human and spiritual development, and felt uneasy about what career I was being called to. pastoral integration. Throughout those college years, I also began to see An important milestone coming up is called Admission the emptiness and superficial pleasures in the false to Candidacy for Holy Orders. Through this rite, I idols which our culture glorifies. Through God’s will publicly express my intention to complete my Providence, I was introduced to St. Thomas Aquinas in preparation for holy orders and my resolve to fully a philosophy class, which ignited my pursuit for truth invest myself to that end, so that one day I may serve and goodness. Eventually I became integrated to the Christ, His Church, and in a particular way, the faithful Catholic community at the Newman Center (through in our diocese. the outreach of Fellowship of Catholic University Please pray for my continued discernment and Students) and met amazing friends who challenged formation; and of course, know of my prayers for you.

Mr. Eric Hosmer 2nd Year Pre-Theology Mount St. Mary’s Emmitsburg, MD

Mr. Mark Johnson 2nd Pre-Theology Mount Saint Mary Seminary Emmitsburg, MD

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Please continue to pray for young men to respond generously to the Lord’s call. This month we present another young man who graduated from UCONN, Julian Cuervo. He is a first-year theologian who has finished his two years of philosophy studies. Please continue to keep Julian and all our seminarians in your prayers.

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ACA Continues with the Help of Many ‘Grandpa Mahoneys’ By Mary Ellen Mahoney would have been a source of great comfort to him, as it was during all of life’s challenges. I also see Grandpa Mahoney in the faces of many of our parishioners. When I go to Mass and watch elderly people making their way to Communion,. Wearing their masks, I think of him. When I hear of elderly donors to the Annual Catholic Appeal increasing their donations, because they have steady incomes while they realize that so many have lost their jobs or had their incomes drastically reduced, I think of him. We cannot sufficiently thank all of the Grandpa and Grandma Mahoneys out there who have really reached deep into their pockets and made meaningful increased gifts to our ACA. You know who you are, and we send you our most grateful thanks. Whenever I would visit him, Grandpa Mahoney would have the most recent edition of the Four County Catholic on his coffee table and tell me how much he enjoyed reading my article. He, like many of our housebound parishioners, looked forward to the delivery of the Four County Catholic each month and I know now, with the pandemic,

even more people eagerly await its arrival. Wayne Gignac and his team in the Communications Office of the Diocese have truly stepped up during this pandemic. Not only have they kept parishioners abreast of COVID-19 related information on the website, they have been instrumental in providing live streaming Masses, and have also continued to enlighten, and encourage its readership through the Four County Catholic. Our Annual Catholic Appeal is currently at about 80% of our goal, for which we are very grateful. Unfortunately, the ministries that are supported by the ACA including the Communications Office and others such as St. Vincent de Paul Place, Norwich, St. Vincent de Paul, Middletown, Catholic Charities, Norwich, New London, Willimantic, Middletown, Ministry to the Sick and Spiritual Renewal have all experienced greatly increased demand for their services, which of course translates into a need for more money. We are so appreciative to the directors, staff and volunteers at all of our ministries for all they continue to do to help and

Mary Ellen Mahoney with her fatherin-law, Grandpa Mike Mahoney at his favorite spot by the Mystic Drawbridge.

support our diocese, despite limited resources. If you have not yet given to the Annual Catholic Appeal, “One Faith, One Family,” I would ask you to consider doing so now. Any donation, no matter its size, is very much appreciated. You can make an online donation at NorwichDioceseDevelopment.org or if you prefer, you can contact our Campaign Manager, Heather Harris, at (860) 886-1928 ext. 111 to do so over the phone. Thank you so much for your continued support.

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Each November as we celebrate All Saints and then All Souls Day I, like many of you, think about who the Lord has taken home during the past year. While the pandemic has certainly caused many Americans unimaginable loss, I lost my fatherin-law, Grandpa Mahoney, in early March, right before our area became affected by COVID-19. Michael Mahoney was a loyal parishioner of Sacred Heart Parish in Groton, and although it was not easy for him and his late wife, Elaine, they sent all five of their children to Sacred Heart School and then St. Bernard. They were committed to giving their children a Catholic education and took great pride in their achievements. When Michael became a grandfather and took on the name Grandpa Mahoney, he cherished the role, never missing a dance recital, sports event or school play or presentation. His love for his family and his church never wavered. Throughout this pandemic, I have often thought of Grandpa Mahoney and wondered how he would have handled it. I know that his faith

Why We Do Parish Twinning

“The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed that a person took and sowed in a field” Matthew 13:31

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By Father Frank Rouleau

Why are we involved in parish twinning? I was asked this question recently. Parish twinning allows us to help our sisters and brothers in the Faith in geographic areas less fortunate than ours. It is an opportunity to live out the Gospel values, build up the body of Christ, reach out in solidarity to our sisters and brothers in the faith in the underdeveloped world, have a fraternal relationship with them, and accompany them in their struggles for self-sufficiency. In parish twinning with the Diocese of Norwich Outreach to Haiti, the American twin parish develops a Christ-centered, mission-oriented collaboration with a parish in Haiti. It helps us to better understand the “one, holy, catholic and apostolic” faith shared by people throughout the world. Our twinning program gives parishes in the United States the opportunity to develop relationships with parishes in Haiti, resulting in a medical clinic, healthcare services, a food and nutrition program that helps expectant mothers and malnourished children, and an educational sponsorship program that provides more than 200 young people with the gift of education. Spiritually, we receive more than we give as our Haitian brothers and sisters share their strong witness of the Gospel with us. Their faith is strong even though their material resources are few. I remember when Bishop Daniel Hart asked me to go to Haiti in 2000 to learn

Haitian Creole so I could assist our Catholic Haitian brothers and sisters living here in the Norwich diocese with Mass and spiritual assistance. I spent three months learning the basics of Haitian Creole before going to live in some of our twinned parishes to develop further my new language skills. The first parish where I lived was St. Pierre in Ganthier, which is twinned with Blessed Sacrament Parish in Tolland and Rockville. Education was scarce in the area, and at the time the pastor of St. Pierre, Father Malbranche, had the idea to start a parish school. Like the mustard seed parable in the Gospels, Father started small, using the church for classes. A year later, when a delegation from Blessed Sacrament Parish visited, Father had created an addition on the side of the church for classrooms. The parishioners

and friends of Blessed Sacrament began helping with the project by paying teachers’ salaries. Then, more classrooms were added. The succeeding pastor, Father Emmanuel, got help from Food to the Poor to build a new school with 20 rooms across the street from the church. The original school space is now used for kindergarten, while the new school houses grades 1-9. Blessed Sacrament Parish continues to support the salaries of the teachers from kindergarten to sixth grade and another twinned parish supports the salaries for the seventh to ninth grade teachers. The Dorothy Spalla Feeding Program, with support from Tolland area people, provides school children with a hot meal four days per week. What began as a mustard seed has grown over the years into a large modern grammar school with 510 students enrolled this academic year. These children, who are from very

poor households, would not have received an education without the idea of Father Malbranch and the support of Outreach to Haiti’s twinned parish, Blessed Sacrament Parish and the assistance from other partners and friends. This is just one of the many twinning success stories we will share over the coming months. The Haitians are grateful that we walk with them and learn from each other. There are many impoverished areas in Haiti and if you are interested in walking with our Haitian brothers and sisters to help with our medical clinic and many outreach programs in Christ the King neighborhood or twinning with one of the impoverished parishes in the Archdiocese of Port au Prince, please call Outreach to Haiti at (860) 800-3601.

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‘Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.’ Mt 25:40

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By Laura Malone

Among this tumultuous time of COVID-19, Catholic Charities is assisting anyone who comes to us in need. Although the giving season is year-round for us, this is that special time of year when Thanksgiving and Christmas are on the minds of our families and friends. During this time of the pandemic, more families than ever need our help, and as the holiday season nears, many people are beginning to worry. Families are starting to wonder how they will be able to manage putting food on the table for Thanksgiving, but also how their children will be able to enjoy Christmas.

As we gather a little differently this year for Thanksgiving and Christmas, we still are grateful for all of the gifts and blessings God has given to us.

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Catholic Charities would like to help families in need during this holiday season by providing food, Christmas toys and gift cards for those who are struggling and who need a helping hand. We are seeking donations of nonperishable food items for Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner such as boxed stuffing mix, instant mashed potatoes, gravy, canned vegetables and macaroni and cheese, or a grocery gift card. For our families with children, we are requesting donations of unwrapped toys and gift cards for boys and girls of all ages. While we are all attempting to navigate through these trying times, Catholic Charities is hoping to create a stable and traditional time of Christmas celebrations, especially for the children. This is an important goal for our agency this year, and we know we would not be able to assist those individuals and families who come to us in crisis without your help. As witnessed by a client last year, your donations make a huge impact: “Christmas can be a very stressful time of year for anyone. This year was very different for our family due to some financial obstacles, unemployment because of illness, and finding out we were expecting another member to our family. We had never needed

assistance but this year we could not have had a Christmas without seeking out help from Catholic Charities. I could not be more grateful for the support this program provided for my family. Everyone involved was welcoming and made us feel like we were worth it! My six-year-old boy will wake up on Christmas morning with a smile on his face because of everything Catholic Charities has done for us.”- R.R. Catholic Charities would like to thank you for being a light in a dark and difficult time for so many, and we wish you all a very blessed, healthy and peaceful Thanksgiving holiday. To find out how you can bring joy to someone this Christmas, contact Terri Fontaine at 860-889-8346 ext 263, email terrifontaine@ccfsn.org or visit our website at CCFSN.org.

Saint Vincent de Paul Place Providing Weekly Turkey Lunches and Thanksgiving Dinner Deliveries

I like to refer to fall as hot chocolate season. I absolutely love sipping a good hot cocoa as the weather gets colder. My new nephew and Godson had his first visit to a pumpkin patch and enjoyed picking out his first pumpkin. It is special moments like these that help us keep things in perspective during a difficult time. This fall, take a moment and enjoy a cup of hot cocoa, watch the leaves change, and enjoy the beautiful colors around you. Hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen, a feeling of trust. Let us continue to have faith, hope and love as “One Faith, One Family.” As winter approaches, people like to stock up on essentials, but it’s not always possible for many. This pandemic has caused more families to live paycheck to paycheck, which forces them to look for help to get food and essential items. Saint Vincent de Paul Place of Norwich has seen a dramatic increase in new household requests for groceries and necessities. Saint Vincent de Paul Place is just one of the many organizations to benefit from the Annual Catholic Appeal. Employees and volunteers

have worked so hard through the tuna, cold cereal, pasta, canned pasta pandemic providing grab-and-go sauce, canned soup, and Spaghettios. boxed breakfast and lunch meals six Donations must be unopened, and the days per week. Average daily meals expiration date cannot have passed. have risen to 306, a sizable increase Saint Vincent de Paul Place has from last year. been serving turkey lunches with the Saint Vincent de Paul Place food trimmings on Thursdays. Volunteers pantry continues to distribute pre- work very hard preparing and made boxes with groceries three coordinating these fine lunches. days per week, “We plan to however the distribute 500 dramatic increase turkeys to families Hope is a feeling of in new households through our food has placed a big pantry program strain on food expectation and desire for and we will deliver and supplies. a certain thing to happen, another 300 There are many turkey dinners on ways you can a feeling of trust. Let us Thanksgiving Day,” help during this Executive Director holiday season. continue to have faith, hope Jill Corbin said. “We You may make a are so grateful for and love as “One Faith, direct monetary the support of the donation to ACA and so many One Family.” the ACA. Our volunteers who give ministries always of their time to make appreciate your all of this happen.” kindness and generosity. Our ministries always appreciate You can also give directly to Saint your kindness and generosity. The Vincent de Paul Place in Norwich. volunteers and employees are so They welcome most food donations, dedicated, and the clients are so but are specifically in need of frozen appreciative. Our ACA donations turkeys, peanut butter and jelly, continue to be extremely important to

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Father McGivney Beatified in Special Mass October 31

By Ryan Blessing When Michelle Schachle found out that her 13th child not only had Down syndrome, but fetal hydrops -- an uncommon, typically fatal condition where fluid builds up around the vital organs of an unborn child -- she and her husband, Daniel, appealed to Father McGivney for help. The unborn Schachle was given “no hope” - the combination of fetal hydrops and Down syndrome meant that he had no chance of survival. Praying to Father McGivney for his intercession was natural for the Schachle family. Daniel works for the Knights of Columbus and had previously been Grand Knight of his local council. The Schachles even dubbed their homeschool the “Father McGivney Academy.” Thanks to the intercession of Father McGivney, Michelle's unborn baby was miraculously cured of fetal hydrops, which meant he would indeed live. When Michelle heard her child had been healed, she knew she had to name him Michael, in honor of McGivney. Today, Michael "Mikey" Schachle is a happy and active fiveyear-old.

Editor’s note: This issue of the Four County Catholic was completed prior to the beatification ceremony on October 31st. Full coverage of the ceremony will appear in the December issue and online at NorwichDiocese.org

The Most Reverend Michael R. Cote, D. D., Bishop of Norwich, has made the following clergy and diocesan appointments in the Diocese of Norwich

Clergy Appointments Reverend Ernest Bedard, OFM Cap., from In Residence, St. Pius X, Middletown, to Parochial Vicar, St. Pius X, Middletown. Reverend Martin Curtin, OFM Cap., New to the Diocese, to Pastor, St. Pius X, Middletown. Reverend Brian Maxwell, from Parochial Vicar, St. Agnes, Niantic, and St. Matthias, East Lyme, to Outreach Coordinator for Catholic Charities. Reverend Matthias Wesnofske, OFM Cap., New to the Diocese, to Parochial Vicar, St. Pius X, Middletown. Reverend John Antonelle, from Pastor, Our Lady Queen of Peace Parish, Storrs and Coventry, to Pastor, Saint Mary Parish, Portland. Reverend Paul Boudreau, from Pastor, St. Mary Parish, Portland, to Retirement. Reverend Jonathan Ficara, from Parochial Vicar, Corpus Christi Parish, Willimantic and Windham, to Administrator, Our Lady Queen of Peace Parish, Storrs and Coventry.

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Venerable Father Michael J. McGivney, the founder of the Knights of Columbus, was beatified during a special Mass on October 31st at the Cathedral of St. Joseph in Hartford. Father McGivney is best known for founding the Knights of Columbus in 1882. The Knights have become one of the largest Catholic organizations in the world, with 2 million members in North and Latin America, the Caribbean, Asia and Europe. Beatification, being declared “blessed” by the Church, is the final step of recognition before a person can be declared a saint. McGivney became the fourth U.S.born man to be beatified, joining Bl. Stanley Rother, Bl. James Miller, and Bl. Solanus Casey. While the Church has recognized three women born in the United States as saints -- St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, St. Katharine Drexel, and St. Kateri Tekawitha -- there have been no U.S.-born canonized men. On May 27, the Vatican announced that Pope Francis had signed the decree recognizing a miracle through the intercession of Father McGivney, clearing the way for his beatification. The miracle involved the Schachle family from Dickson, Tennessee.

Ancient Order of Hibernians Blessed with Members Who Help Others

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By John J. Moore The John P. Holland Division of the Ancient Order of Hibernians is blessed with brothers who are using their skills to help those around us. Several of the brothers are also active members of the Knights of Columbus and support their community activities. One of our brothers is a Knight and also has a full-time job as a general manager for the Aramark Food Services company. This company endorses charitable works in their local work site communities, and our brother is always alert to help those in the community.

at this same center. That was the beginning of a multi-year project for our division. Each month two brothers drive to an Aramark site and pick up four or five trays of a dinner meal and bring it to the NLHHC. Two or three of the brothers then serve the food to the residents in a cafeteria-like service line.

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For several years he had responded to the good intentions of students at one of the Aramark work sites and offered to provide meals for the students to distribute at the New London Homeless Hospitality Center (NLHHC). During the March 2014 meeting of our chapter, we discussed whether it would be possible to provide a monthly meal

We had been serving on the first Friday of each month until June when the pandemic concerns ceased such group gatherings. On Friday, October 2, the NLHHC provided an outdoor tented site for serving meals and two of our brothers resumed their service. Our visits to NLHHC are warmly received by residents. It gives them an opportunity to share their goals and their individual difficulties with us. It gives us, the members of the Ancient Order of Hibernians, so much more.

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Unfailing Prayer to St. Anthony

Holy St. Anthony gentlest of Saints. Your love for God and charity for His creators made you worthy when on earth posses miraculous power which you were ready to speak for those who are in trouble or anxiety. Encouraged by this thought, I implore to you to obtain for me (request). The answer to my prayer may require a miracle, even so you are the saint of miracles. Oh gentle and loving St. Anthony whose heart is full of human sympathy whisper my petition into the ears of sweet infant Jesus, who loved to be folded in your arms, and the gratitude of my heart will ever be yours. This 13 day Novena has never been known to fail. Say three Hail Mary's and three Glories and promise publication.

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October 11, 1939 – October 19, 2020 Sr. Marian St.Marie, DHS, 81, a member of the Daughters of the Holy Spirit, unexpectedly died on Monday October 19, 2020 in Putnam. Born Marian Therese St.Marie on October 11, 1939 in Hartford, she was the daughter of Leonide and Gertrude Marion St.Marie. She entered religious life in 1957 and made her religious profession on July 2, 1959 at the Holy Spirit Provincial House in Putnam. She was then known as Sr. Therese Marian. She earned her BA in education and theology from Diocesan Sisters College and her MA in History and Political Science from St. Joseph University in West Hartford, CT. A lifelong educator, she began her teaching career in elementary schools in CT, VT and MA. then taught social studies and history at Putnam Catholic Academy in Putnam, CT, South Catholic High School in Hartford, until it closed and then at Mercy High School in Middletown for 22 years. In her work she aimed to make her students aware of the positive aspects of cultures other than their own and of the injustices that have been perpetuated throughout history into the present day. She left teaching after 52 years when called to be a Provincial Councilor for the US Province of the Daughters of the Holy Spirit in 2014. In addition, she was the Advisor for the East Coast Associates. Her mandate as Councilor ended June 30, 2020 and she was looking forward to where the Spirit would lead her at this time. Sr. Marian is survived by the Daughters of the Holy Spirit spiritual family – her Sisters in community, the Consecrated Seculars and the Associates. She is also survived by her brother Gerald and his wife Elaine St.Marie, a nephew Geoffrey St.Marie and a niece Aimee Viniconis, a grand-niece and grand-nephew.

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NYC SCULPTURE HONORS MOTHER CABRINI By Ryan Blessing

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likeness of Mother Cabrini, the first naturalized American citizen to be declared a saint and venerated as the patron of immigrants, has a new home at the gateway to the United States. The new statue of St. Frances Xavier Cabrini was unveiled on Columbus Day in lower Manhattan’s Battery Park City overlooking New York Harbor, Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty. St. Frances Xavier Cabrini was the founder of the Institute of the Missionary Sisters of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and opened and operated many schools and orphanages in New York City. She was born in Italy in 1850, and emigrated to the U.S. in 1889. She was canonized in 1946. The sculpture shows Mother Cabrini with a young boy and a young girl in a paper boat sailing on water. The nun holds a book in her hand, while the boy holds a suitcase and a wind instrument invented in Italy. It is said that as a child, Mother Cabrini had the habit of making paper boats and floating them on a stream. After a near-drowning, she had a recurring dream of drowning and the image of the paper boat. But this fear of water didn’t stop her from crossing the Atlantic Ocean at least 60 times in the period in which she worked with immigrants, not only in the United States, but also in Central America, Brazil, and Argentina. Bishop Nicholas DiMarzio of Brooklyn co-chaired the Mother Cabrini Memorial Commission, founded after a New York City program drew criticism last year for not accepting the most popular nominee, Mother Cabrini, as a subject for a new city-funded statue series intended to raise the profile of women and minorities. “We hope that people who visit this memorial will recognize that history should be repeated, that there was a care for the outcast and marginalized which Mother Cabrini understood, and we need that same care today,” Bishop DiMarzio said October 12th. “This is not just history, we want to

make history with a new understanding of how we take care of people.” Bishop DiMarzio organized a fundraiser and advocacy effort to build a statue of the saint. In the 2019 New York City Columbus Day Parade, the bishop rode on a parade float with a statue of Mother Cabrini. When the parade finished, Gov. Andrew Cuomo said New York State would work with the Brooklyn diocese and the parade sponsor, the Columbus Citizens Foundation, to create a permanent memorial for the saint. The statue was designed by Jill Burkee-Biagi and Giancarlo Biagi, sculptors based in New York City. “Our goal was to create a statue that would represent the perseverance spirit of an extraordinary woman in realizing her childhood dream, the dream of helping people in need around the world,” said Burkee-Biagi, NBC New York reports. “I am so happy that there were so many people who supported this effort and I am happy with the unique design which shows Mother Cabrini in motion and taking care of children,” Bishop DiMarzio said. “I know for the artists it was a work of passion, and this statue does her justice.” John Leo Heyer II, a member of the Mother Cabrini Memorial Commission, said the statue “recognizes both her contributions as an Italian immigrant woman, as well as those of all Italian American and immigrant women. “She is a shining symbol of what it means to care for the other person, the sick, the uneducated, the economically challenged and the stranger, always putting the needs of society’s most vulnerable above her own,” Heyer said. “I hope that people will see this heroic statue, ask questions, learn about her outstanding life and work to imitate it as we all build New York’s future together,” he said. The Diocese of Brooklyn has raised funds to build a Mother Cabrini monument in Brooklyn.

It will be placed at Sacred HeartsSt. Stephen Church, the parish now closest to where she worked. The cornerstone of the church in which she actually worked will be placed as part of the pedestal of the statue. The statue will show Mother Cabrini as she looked when she worked in the parish in her forties, with two immigrant children dressed in period costumes. The history of the ministry of Mother Cabrini in the diocese will also be depicted on a plaque on the platform on which the statue will rest. The Brooklyn diocese hopes to dedicate its statue by Christmas. Material for this article provided by Catholic News Agency.

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November 22, 2020 at 7pm Join us in the beauty of the Cathedral for a moment of musical prayer through the Psalms. There will be a moment of candlelight reflection. This event is for anyone that needs a moment of quiet in their overly busy life to encounter God in a special way. Most Reverend Michael R. Cote, presiding Music under the direction of Michael Steven Lianos Mary Beth Lee, soprano Patricia Johnson, alto Richard Schumacher, tenor Matthew Cramer, bass

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By Deacon Ben LoCasto Over the centuries, there have been countless instances, all over the world, where God has chosen to have The Eucharist transform perceptively into flesh and blood. That is, the Eucharistic bread manifesting itself physically into human flesh, and the wine into human blood. In fact, there have been over 160 such Eucharistic miracles approved by the Church. The Church of the Holy Family, in Hebron is hosting the Vatican International Exhibit of Eucharistic Miracles of the World. The exhibit was produced by the Vatican and consists of 140 posters, panels and a Power Point presentation documenting instances around the world where the Eucharist has perceivably changed into real human flesh and real human blood. Many of these have been scientifically analyzed, all with the same result the flesh is always from heart muscle, and the blood type is always AB (the same as the Shroud of Turin).

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An image of Carlo Acutis was unveiled at his beatification Mass in Assisi, Italy Oct. 10, 2020. Credit: Daniel Ibanez/CNA

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Assisi to watch the Mass on large screens as only a limited number of people were allowed inside. Acutis’ beatification drew an estimated 3,000 people to Assisi, including people who personally knew Acutis and many other young people inspired by his witness. Mattia Pastorelli, 28, was a childhood friend of Acutis, who first met him when they were both around the age of five. He remembers playing video games, including Halo, with Carlo. “Having a friend who is about to become a saint is a very strange emotion. I knew he was different from others, but now I realize just how special he was.” Pastorelli added, “I watched him while he was

programming websites … He was truly an incredible talent.” In his homily, Cardinal Vallini, the pontifical legate for the Basilica of St. Francis, hailed Acutis as a model of how young people can use technology at the service of the Gospel to “reach as many people as possible and help them know the beauty of friendship with the Lord.” For Carlo, Jesus was “the strength of his life and the purpose of everything he did,” the cardinal said. At a young age, Acutis taught himself how to program and went on to create websites cataloguing the world’s Eucharistic miracles and Marian apparitions.

the sun, we get a tan ... but when we stand before Jesus in the Eucharist we become saints.” “The Church rejoices, because in this very young Blessed the Lord's words are fulfilled: ‘I have chosen you and appointed you to go and bear much fruit.’ And Carlo ‘went’ and brought the fruit of holiness, showing it as a goal reachable by all and not as something abstract and reserved for a few,” Cardinal Vallini said. “He was an ordinary boy, simple, spontaneous, likeable … he loved nature and animals, he played football, he had many friends of his age, he was attracted by modern means of social communication, passionate about computer science and, self-taught, he built websites to transmit the Gospel, to communicate values and beauty,” he said. As Acutis once said: “When we face the sun, we get a tan ... but when we stand before Jesus in the Eucharist we become saints.” Material for this article provided by Catholic News Agency.

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The Catholic Church now has its first “Blessed” who loved Super Mario and Pokémon, but not as much as he loved the Real Presence of Jesus in the Eucharist. Carlo Acutis, the young Italian computer whiz who died of leukemia at 15 offering his suffering for the pope and the Church, was beatified Oct. 10 in a Mass at the Basilica of St. Francis of Assisi. “To be always united with Jesus, this is my life program,” Acutis wrote at the age of seven. Born in 1991, Acutis is the first millennial to be beatified by the Catholic Church. The teen who had an aptitude for computer programming is now one step away from canonization. “Since he was a child … he had his gaze turned to Jesus. Love for the Eucharist was the foundation that kept alive his relationship with God. He often said ‘The Eucharist is my highway to heaven,” Cardinal Agostino Vallini said in his homily for the beatification. “Carlo felt a strong need to help people discover that God is close to us and that it is beautiful to be with him to enjoy his friendship and his grace,” Vallini said. During the beatification Mass, Acutis’ parents processed behind a relic of their son's heart, which was placed near the altar. An apostolic letter from Pope Francis was read aloud in which the pope declared that Acutis’ feast will take place each year on Oct. 12, the anniversary of his death in Milan in 2006. Masked pilgrims spread out in front of the Basilica of St. Francis and throughout the different piazzas in

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My Dear Friends, November is a special month for our Catholic schools as we celebrate Discover Catholic Schools Week and our national Thanksgiving Day. We have a lot to be thankful for this year with the reopening of all our schools during these difficult times. While visiting the schools, it was wonderful to see all the children adapting to wearing masks, social distancing, washing hands and other measures to ensure our health. At times it appears the children adjust better than some of us adults. The month also begins with the Solemnity of All Saints on November 1st and the Commemoration of All the Faithful Departed or All Souls Day on November 2nd. Although these holy days are celebrated and discussed in our schools it is also a perfect opportunity for parents to speak to their children about the rich heritage in our Catholic faith. This is an occasion to strengthen our wonderful parent/school partnership. Thanksgiving Day is also a day of celebration of our faith. We must remind our children of all the wonderful blessings bestowed on us by our wonderful Father. It is a time to celebrate but also to give thanks to the Lord Our God. One of the hallmarks of Catholic education is the tremendous sense of community found in our schools. Therefore, it is also a time to thank all those who help to support our schools. From administrators, teachers, staff and parents along with our wonderful volunteers. It is because of your gifts of time, talent and treasures that our Catholic schools continue to flourish here in the diocese. A special thank you to Bishop Cote, who has been a staunch supporter of Catholic education in the Diocese of Norwich.

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By Jeff Otterbein ack when he was a student at the Xavier High School, Father Frank Gilbert attended Mass in the school’s gymnasium. Now the parochial vicar at St. Bridget of Kildare in Moodus and St. Patrick in East Hampton, Father Frank was back at his alma mater on Sept. 14, this time celebrating the Opening of School Mass. He called it an honor. Father Frank, class of 1974, is one of 10 Gilbert brothers to have graduated from Xavier. The Mass was live streamed into all Xavier classrooms. There were some students in the gym, such as those who were receiving various academic awards, which is a traditional part of the Mass. Principal Brendan Donohue thanked Father Frank for his spiritual leadership and friendship at the conclusion of Mass. “I would especially like to thank Father Frank Gilbert, Class of 1974, for his presence here today and for his many years of support for Xavier High School,” the principal said.

The academic awards: National Merit Semifinalist: Each year about 1.5 million students enter the National Merit Scholarship Program by taking their PSAT in their junior year. Of those students, about 16,000 are recognized nationally as semifinalists for their outstanding performance. This year, Ryan Frier, ‘21, was named a National Merit Semifinalist. He is now eligible to become a finalist. Commended Students: Those not named semifinalists were named Commended Students in the National Merit Scholarship Program: Jordan Hetu, David Jerman, Jake Lion, Eduardo Serrano. Academic scholarships: These were awarded to those students who earned the highest grade point average in their class in the 2019-2020 school year. Class of 2021: Ryan Frier Class of 2022: Aidan Higgins Class of 2023: Dominic Cusano Celestine Awards: Each year the Brother Celestine Medal is awarded

to students who have an overall final average of A, upon completion of the past academic year, with no final average grade less than an A-minus in their major subjects. This prestigious award can be earned only once during a student’s four years at Xavier, and is the highest academic tribute the school bestows. Brother Celestine Killigrew taught at Xavier in the early 1960s and died at the age of 25 as a result of injuries sustained in an automobile crash. Class of 2021: Matthew Battipaglia, Mark Kowalski, Reid Paiva, Logan Saks, Macklin Stevens. Class of 2022: Chris Andrei Abarientos, John Amatrudo, Matthew Fuffo, Stephen King, Aidan Muldoon, Aidan Pesce, Owen Pestka, Griffin Prushinski, Matthew Reardon, Alexander Sauer, Keegan Truscinski, David Wright, Jr., Nikita Zuev, Austin Zwick. Class of 2023: Nicholas Cassarino, Ryan Chrostowski, Dominic Cusano, Aidan Driscoll, Samuel Enes, Matthew Ewing, Tyler Ferguson, Aedan Frazer, Jack Gouin, Tyler

Keithan, Rithik Kurup, Owen Lelko, Samuel Matt, Nicholas Miano, Peter O’Brien, Richard Oliveira, Wesley Ong, Sotirios Paul, Brendan Peary, Damian Peralta, Wyatt Pestka, Robert Quan, Nicolas Russo, Vincent Salamone, Miguel Santos, Henry Stearns, Matthew Whitaker. Distinguished Scholars, Class of 2021: Students must have completed a minimum of two AP courses prior to senior year and be enrolled in a minimum of three AP courses in senior year. Students must maintain a minimum cumulative 3.0 GPA and must not have a grade lower than C in any AP course: Logan Barnes, Kyle Beasley, Ethan Cook, Dominick Delaney, Zachary Dolan, Ryan Frier, Timothy Gagliano, Wesley Harris, Jordan Hetu, David Parker Hunter, David Jerman, Cameron Kuselias, Jake Lion, Rohit Menon, Peter Mercugliano, Andrew Mitchill, Trevor Religa, Anthony Satrohan, Brian Satrohan, Eduardo Serrano, Rhys Snow, Macklin Stevens, Michael Stottlemyer, Holden Whaley, Revanth Yalamanchi, Brendan Zawisa.

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Mr. Matthew Donnelly, ‘06, a mathematics teacher and department chair at Saint Bernard School, has been named a recipient of the Edyth May Sliffe Award for Distinguished Teaching from the Mathematical Association of America (MAA). Donnelly is also a published mathematical researcher, a consultant with the New England Board of Higher Education (NEBHE) and has been a guest lecturer at universities in the United States and China.

“I’m trying to get students to think of the problem that they are working on as a puzzle or a process with real-world applications” Established in 1989, The Edyth May Sliffe Award recognizes the nation’s top math teachers for their contributions to their field. This national teaching award honors Mr.

Donnelly’s outstanding to spark students’ mathematics through in the MAA American Competitions.

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Mr. Donnelly said he knew that he was recommended for the award, but he never expected to receive it. Saint Bernard Head of School Don Macrino hailed Mr. Donnelly’s accomplishment. “We are all very proud of Mr. Donnelly and this award comes as no surprise, given his knowledge of math and his performance in the classroom,” Macrino said. “Math is a difficult subject for many. He has the

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Using project-based learning, Mr. Donnelly has been able to introduce a number of unique courses at Saint Bernard, such as the Philosophy of Space and Time, The Philosophy of Religion, and Philosophy of Math and Astrophysics. Mr. Donnelly’s mother is a retired physics professor with a degree in biochemical engineering and his sister has a degree in physics and math. Coming from that background and then seeing few women in math and science when he started teaching, he has encouraged girls to pursue their passion for math and science. Recently, Mr. Donnelly learned that a former student who discovered her love for math at Saint Bernard

School published a research paper on mathematical biology. Mr. Donnelly said she went from hating math to discovering its “coolness.” “It’s wonderful when you can see that you had an impact on a student’s life,” he said. Mr. Donnelly will be recognized at a special reception during the annual MathFest conference in Sacramento, California in August 2021. The conference draws mathematicians from across the country. As part of his award, he will receive a $500 stipend and all expenses paid trip to MathFest.

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ability to make the understanding of math attainable to all.” Mr. Donnelly, who has been an instructor at Saint Bernard School for 14 years, approaches teaching

math through project-based learning. In project-based learning, students are taught a concept and then gain knowledge and skills through exploration of real-world challenges and problems. “I’m trying to get students to think of the problem that they are working on as a puzzle or a process with realworld applications,” he said. He believes that using project-based learning in the classroom helps students discover that math does not have to be a negative in their lives. For those who love math, it helps them achieve at an even higher rate. “I am successful as a teacher if I have students afraid of math who are no longer scared, students who hate math who are no longer bothered by it, and who come to learn that math is no longer a negative in their lives,” he said.

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Virtual Youth Explosion

Spreads Message of Faithful Love By Mary-Jo McLaughlin While a pandemic may stop diocesan youth from gathering in person, it won’t stop them from experiencing God’s message of faithful love. That is the hope of Youth Minister Liza Roach, who has announced that the Annual Youth Explosion will take place virtually this on Sunday, January 31st from 1-3 p.m. “The wonderful thing about a

virtual Youth Explosion is that we can reach people all over the diocese,” Roach said. “Our young people can experience God’s message and our faith community with just a few clicks on their phone or computer.”

the witness of the music and testimony of John Angotti, an award-winning musical artist, songwriter, and speaker. He will focus on the message of hope, healing and truth available to everyone through the love of God.

The theme of this year’s event is Forever Faithful, a message Roach hopes will resonate with students in grades 6-12 through

“Young people need to remember that God’s faithfulness is not contingent on our faithfulness,” Roach said. “No matter what we

do or don’t do, God will never stop loving us.” There is no cost for this year’s Youth Explosion, but registration is required through each parish’s catechetical leader. For more information, contact Roach at lroach@norwichdiocese.net or at 860-848-2237, Ext. 305.

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Mary Not So Gentle

A Virtual workshop with Sr. Elissa Rinere, C. P. December 15, 2020 7 to 8:30 PM

The Joyful Mysteries of the Rosary are very familiar to us. In this presentation we will reflect on these and other Scriptural events to consider what qualities, in addition to gentleness, Mary presents to us all for our admiration and imitation. To register and receive the link please contact Marianne at the Office of Faith Events 860-848-2237 ext. 304 Or manicholas@norwichdiocese.net

"The Lord is my strength and my shield; in Him my heart trusts, and I am helped; my heart exults, and with my song I give thanks to Him." Psalm 28:7

Xavier Junior Earns Eagle Scout Honors Tristan Kolb of Madison started in Scouting when he was in kindergarten, joining the St. Mary Cub Scout Pack 428. The Xavier junior is now an Eagle Scout, the highest achievement one can attain from the Boy Scouts of America. He was awarded the distinction during a virtual Board of Review in August. Kolb enjoys outdoor activities such as camping, hiking and biking. Nature is important to him, and for the past six years he has been a steward for several osprey nests in the state. He has regularly observed and reported on these nests throughout the nesting season. His interest in ospreys was spurred on by a family friend, Don Parrott of Bethany, a longstanding supporter of birds and the Connecticut Audubon Society. His Eagle Scout project then grew out of that passion. Tristan worked with the Branford Land Trust osprey program to build a new nesting platform, bring it to the marshes of Branford and set it up on a chilly March morning in 2019. “I wanted to do something to benefit the community with respect to nature and especially with the osprey population,” Tristan said. “The resurgence of the osprey population in Connecticut is such a positive issue. Each year the ospreys return to the same nest to lay their eggs and raise their chicks. To add a new nesting structure to the estuary marshes will help entice and maintain a healthy local osprey population for many years.” The Branford Land Trust creates and maintains nesting sites and offers educational programs on the life cycle of the osprey, which live about seven

to 10 years, can grow to two feet in length, weigh three or four pounds and have a wingspan up to six feet. They also are referred to as “fish hawks,” because they almost exclusively eat fish. “It was a great experience to create a new osprey platform to replace a rotten one, build the platform and then transport the platform, pole and support beam to the new location,” Tristan said. No ospreys nested there in 2019, but a pair found it this spring and hatchlings were spotted in the nest. Tristan also will be the steward for the platform he helped build.

The Branford Land Trust says it maintains about 30 nesting platforms in the marshes of Branford. “I am very proud of what Tristan has accomplished in his 12 years in scouting and especially with his achievement of the rank of Eagle

Scout,” Tristan’s mother, Karen, said. “As a child, I was a Girl Scout for many years, and I understand the immense benefits from scouting. I had hoped Tristan would benefit as much as I did, and he has. The Boy Scouts have definitely helped to further instill a strong sense of community service and volunteerism within Tristan. It also ignited a fine sense of adventure.” Along his path to Eagle Scout, Tristan earned 31 merit badges, (10 more than the Eagle Scout requirement), his mother said. He serves as the Senior Patrol Leader and Historian for Boy Scout Troop 428. And now he is a part of history. Only about 5% of all Scouts earn Eagle Scout honors, according to the Boys Scouts of America Connecticut Yankee Council. His project also caught the eye of Channel 8, which interviewed him. The video report also had an image of him on the news station’s set with other Scouts in 2012.

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"Offer to God a sacrifice of thanksgiving and perform your vows to the Most High." Psalm 50:14

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We pray that our personal relationship with Jesus Christ be nourished by the Word of God and a life of prayer.

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- Pope Francis

The Advent wreath is part of our long-standing Catholic tradition of spiritual preparation for Christmas. After all, Christ is “the Light that came into the world” to dispel the darkness of sin and to radiate the truth and love of God (John 3:19-21). The symbolism of the Advent wreath is beautiful. The wreath is made of various evergreens, signifying continuous life. Even these evergreens have a traditional meaning which can be adapted to our faith: The laurel signifies victory over persecution and suffering; pine, holly, and yew, immortality; and cedar, strength and healing. Holly also has a special Christian symbolism: The prickly leaves remind us of the crown of thorns. The circle of the wreath, which has no beginning or end, symbolizes the eternity of

God, the immortality of the soul, and the everlasting life found in Christ. Any pine cones, nuts, or seedpods used to decorate the wreath also symbolize life and resurrection. Altogether, the wreath of evergreens depicts the immortality of our soul and the new, everlasting life promised to us through Christ, the eternal Word of the Father, who entered our world becoming true man and who was victorious over sin and death through His own passion, death, and resurrection. The four candles represent the four weeks of Advent. Three candles are purple and one is rose. The purple candles in particular symbolize the prayer, penance, and preparatory sacrifices and goods works undertaken at this time. The rose candle is lit on the third Sunday, Gaudete Sunday, when the priest also wears

rose vestments at Mass; Gaudete Sunday is the Sunday of rejoicing, because the faithful have arrived at the midpoint of Advent, when their preparation is now half over and they are close to Christmas. The progressive lighting of the candles symbolizes the expectation and hope surrounding our Lord’s first coming into the world and the anticipation of His second coming to judge the living and the dead. The light again signifies Christ, the Light of the world. Since Advent is a time to stir-up our faith in the Lord, the wreath and prayer provide us a way to augment this special preparation for Christmas. Moreover, this good tradition helps us to remain vigilant in our homes and churches and not lose sight of the true meaning of Christmas.

For great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; He is to be feared above all gods. For all the gods of the nations are idols, but the Lord made the heavens." 1 Chronicles 16:23-26

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By Father Michael Bovino As was mentioned in the first installment of “Sacraments 101,” the sacraments are the primary means by which Jesus gives us ongoing access to His treasury of grace. We now face the imposing task of unpacking what these gifts are and how we benefit from them. If we think of the sacraments as a storehouse of grace from God, then the sacrament of Baptism is, in a way, the door which gives us access to that storehouse. Thus, Baptism has been called the “gateway sacrament” insofar as it is the one which grants us access to the other sacraments. In other words, without Baptism, we cannot receive the graces from the rest of the sacraments. This is because, through Baptism, a person is visibly joined to Christ Jesus as a member of His Church. By being brought into God’s Holy Church, the newly baptized are granted access to all of the gifts and graces of Christ Jesus. Everything that belongs rightfully to Jesus as the True Son of God, He shares freely as a gift with all of the baptized: Blessed be God…who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as He chose us in Him…He destined us in love to be His sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of His will… (Eph 1:3-5). Throughout the Church’s history, two general effects that come through Baptism have been identified: (1) the cleansing from sin and (2) new birth in the Holy Spirit. Let’s take a closer look at both.

(1) Being cleansed from sin encompasses both Original Sin and any personal sins that we may have committed prior to Baptism. Original Sin can be thought of as the “wound” which we have all inherited through the fall of our first parents, whereas personal sin describes those sins which we commit ourselves through either ignorance, weakness, or malice. However, since many Catholics are often baptized as infants, in such cases there are no personal sins to be forgiven. (2) While forgiveness of sins is an important effect of Baptism, the main purpose of being forgiven is to clear the way for the second effect of Baptism, new birth in the Holy Spirit. The significance of this new birth cannot be emphasized enough. The new birth confirms us as beloved children of our Heavenly Father. And because of this, we are given a full share in the rights, responsibilities and blessings of being a child of God. By being born into a natural family, the child is granted a share in all that their parents are and have -- this gift is irrevocable. So too, once a person is baptized, they are given a share in everything that God is and has. His very Divine life is poured into the heart of every newly-adopted child of God. This is a free, total and irrevocable gift from God, and from here our mission is to grow and mature in the Christian life -- tasks which the other sacraments help us with. But before diving into the other sacraments, next month we will take a brief look at the structure and the Rite of Baptism.

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By Mary-Jo McLaughlin October used to be my favorite month. There were so many things to look forward to – fall foliage, the taste of the first apple pie of the season washed down with a flavorful cup of hot mulled apple cider, and the joyful sound of children’s laughter as they trick-or-treat through neighborhood streets. Then the calendar turned a page one year and my Octobers became something to dread. It started one year on October 20 when my best friend, Aimee, lost her sixyear battle to breast cancer at age 36. Eleven days later, on Halloween, my brother Michael, 37, was murdered during a house invasion at his home in Portland, Oregon. They were two of the most significant people in my life. Losing them in such a short period of time was a devastating blow that took me a long time from which to bounce back. But bounce back I did. There was anger for sure, mostly at God, who loved me enough to fight for me, and, in the long run, strengthened our relationship in ways that I could not have imagined. There was also emptiness, lethargy, loneliness, worry and a seemingly constant fear of who I would lose next. I couldn’t imagine

a day when those feelings wouldn’t be my constant companion. It took time to do the uncomfortable work of grieving, of ‘leaning’ into feelings and not numbing them, of letting the tears come, of trying not to let others minimize my grief when they said, “You should be over this by now.” I got involved in the support group Survivors of Homicide and learned to turn my anger and pain into power and action. It eventually led me to earn a teaching certificate so that I could instruct children in solving their disagreements in nonviolent ways. I realize now that I did not let my experience during those painful and life-changing months break me. Instead, I allowed the experience to break me open, as described by grief experts Khris Ford and Janie Cook in their grief support program Through Loss to Life. In a guidebook accompanying their program, Ford and Cook write: “In most cases, we are given no choice with regard to a significant loss. Loss happens and we grieve. But we do have a choice about what we do in these situations and how we

respond to the heartbreak of the death of a loved one…The person who is ‘broken open’ does not hold on to the broken pieces of their life out of fear. The one who is ‘broken open’ leans into the mystery of the experience, allowing the uncomfortable place of not knowing and not understanding. The ‘broken open’ person has a gaping wound with room for the fullness of the grief experience. That is, in the depth of the pain there is something more, and often it is joy… right alongside the pain and the sadness.” November is the month the Church sets aside for remembering those we have lost. We celebrate all our saints in Heaven on November 1, and on November 2, all the souls of the faithful departed. We believe in the resurrection of the dead and that as Jesus promised His disciples, “I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy away from you.” Jesus wants us to know the joy of life. He wants to give us all the courage we need to be ‘broken open’ and use the difficult losses of our lives to become more compassionate, merciful, and giving of ourselves to others.

Consider these few resources to support you on your grief journey: whatsyourgrief.com has several articles, courses and webinars on topics related to grief, grief support and coping. They are offering a free online self-paced course by grief professionals on grieving a death during the coronavirus pandemic. The book Send my Roots Rain: A Companion on the Grief Journey by Kim Langley is a collection of 60 poems followed by brief mediations, quotations, and questions for journaling. The Diocese of Norwich has a Memory Page on its website for the names of loved ones who have died. You can email a loved one’s name, birth and death date to mmclaughlin@norwichdiocese.net. I still dread Octobers. That month will never have the same fondness for me. But, when the calendar turns to November, I take comfort in the support and gifts of my faith, and my Church in helping me to become ‘broken open’ rather than broken by the scars of a past October.

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Love On behalf of the entire Diocese, I extend a special thank you to the brave and dedicated men and women of Healthcare, our Military, Law Enforcement, Firefighters, First Responders, Legal Professionals, Educators, Administrative Assistants, those serving in Ministry and Consecrated men and women for answering God’s call to

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