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Volume 33 • Number 2 • FEBRUARY 2021 • SERVING THE COUNTIES OF MIDDLESEX • NEW LONDON • TOLLAND • WINDHAM, CT & FISHERS ISLAND, NY

“...you are dust and to dust you shall–return” Genesis 3:19

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“I have a child now.... I have two children now.... I have three children now. But no child will ever bring back the child I destroyed. I measure every child I see against the child I will never see.” Words of a woman who suffered for decades from the devastating trauma of abortion and the forgiveness she eventually found.

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“You will laugh out loud while you are being taught about the Catholic faith. This is the perfect program to bring joy into our homes during the pandemic; I hope everyone young and old will join us.” Liza Roach, Youth and Young Adult Minister, inviting everyone to the upcoming online family event known as The Doug and Dave Show, billed as an evening of Family, Fun and Faith, sponsored by the Diocesan Office of Faith Events.

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“I remember one Sunday evening during the winter walking to Mass and it was so cold. I removed my hat before Mass started and my hair was actually frozen.” Brendan Leddy, an Eastern Connecticut State University alumnus, reminiscing about the importance of attending weekly Mass on campus no matter the weather.

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Lent begins on Ash Wednesday, February 17. Changes to the distribution of ashes are being made this year to ensure the safety of the clergy and faithful. See page 6 for the details.

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The Humility of Dust Lent is nearly upon us. It begins with a simple mark of ashes on our forehead and a reminder of our own mortality. “Remember you are dust and to dust you shall return.” (Genesis 3:19) Lent 2021 is a severely challenging time to maintain a life of grace. Perhaps the most challenging ever. A time that leaves us searching for peace and realizing how much our faith matters. Fortunately, the Church has gifted us with a ritual that centers us in God’s love and mercy. Grounded in a reality that helps us to orient our hearts to God, we are reminded of our inevitable physical death and that our time here is God’s, not our own. This year, because of the pandemic, ashes will be sprinkled on the head, making the ritual that much more meaningful. Last month I spoke to you about sharing our own brokenness with God, allowing Him to transform and illuminate our brokenness as a witness for others. The wearing of ashes is another example of witnessing God’s power in our lives. Lent is about humility. The humility of dust. The ego wants to set us apart from others, yet we are the same — male or female; conservative or liberal; young or old; regardless of color — we all are God’s creation. Created from dust. We are part of creation but distinctly separate — we were made in the image and likeness of God. We are His creation. It is for this reason that God invites us into union with Him. Avoiding this truth can lead us toward sin. As Venerable Archbishop Fulton Sheen pointed out, “There is only one thing in the world that is definitely and

absolutely your own, and that is your will.” It is up to us how we will respond to this invitation. Our Lenten journey is about preparing ourselves to stand at the foot of the cross on Good Friday in order to reap the ultimate reward of Easter Sunday. We can prepare ourselves in a number of ways. We can begin by renewing our relationship with God by opening ourselves to the gifts of the Holy Spirit through the Sacrament of Reconciliation. We are all wounded by our own sins and the hurt they may have caused others. Sin is a heavy burden on each of us. Jesus wants to heal our wounds. He wants to give us a new beginning. This call goes out to those who may have been away from the Sacrament or the Church for a while. If you have been away, Lent is a wonderful time to come home to the Church. Lent is calling you home to a new beginning in your life of faith — to restore sanctifying grace to your life. The forgiveness of sins is one of the most merciful missions Jesus entrusted to the apostles and their successors. We, the priests of this diocese, want to assist the faithful with tenderness and understanding in this wonderful Sacrament, to make them feel the Good Shepherd‘s love. Please hear Jesus’s call this Lenten season and come to have your burdens lifted in the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

with the decision of her life and the life of her unborn child; somewhere, unseen to most of us, is an elderly person whose loneliness is calling to us — and we will answer that call, thanks to your kindness and compassion. During these turbulent times it helps to remind ourselves of the Church as a community of faith — a living missionary body. This has been a more difficult year than most. Thankfully, your continued support of the Annual Catholic Appeal has helped the ministries of the diocese reach those who might otherwise be left in crisis, unnoticed in their time of need. Your generosity is a lifesaver for the many neighbors you will never meet. Your sacrifice and faithful service to one another is a blessing. I thank everyone who so generously support, volunteer, and help the many ministries in the Diocese. All of them work so hard to restore dignity in the lives of our brothers and sisters who may be hungry, suffering or without a roof over their head. I pray, that this year, as you prepare to receive ashes, you bring your whole self to God, giving Him your brokenness to transform. Focus not on the death that the ash represents, rather focus on the new life, the eternal life that God wants us to share with Him. Sincerely yours in Christ’s mercy,

Another way that we can prepare ourselves is to put our faith into action. Somewhere within the four counties that make up our Diocese, there is an unemployed father or mother struggling to feed their family; somewhere there is an expectant mother faced

Michael R. Cote Bishop of Norwich

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My dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

THE MOST REVEREND

MICHAEL R. COTE, D.D.

BISHOP OF NORWICH

LET FAITH LEAD THE WAY

La humildad del polvo

Mis queridos hermanos y hermanas en Cristo,

Recientemente vi una fotografía de una pieza de La Cuaresma se acerca. Comienza con una simple marca de cenizas en nuestra frente y un recordatorio de nuestra propia mortalidad. “Recuerda que eres polvo y al polvo volverás”. (Génesis 3:19)

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La Cuaresma de 2021 es una época muy desafiante para mantener una vida de gracia. Quizás la más desafiante de todas. Un tiempo que nos tiene buscando paz y dándonos cuenta de lo mucho que importa nuestra fe.

Afortunadamente, la Iglesia nos ha regalado un ritual que nos centra en el amor y en la misericordia de Dios. Basados en una realidad que nos ayuda a dirigir nuestro corazón hacia Dios, nos recuerda de nuestra inevitable muerte física y que nuestro tiempo aquí es de Dios, no nuestro. Debido a la pandemia, este aňo, se esparcirán cenizas en la cabeza, lo que hará que el ritual sea mucho más significativo. El mes pasado les hablé sobre compartir con Dios nuestros propios sufrimientos permitiéndole transformarlos e iluminarlos como un testimonio para los demás. El uso de cenizas es otro ejemplo de presenciar el poder de Dios en nuestras vidas.

La Cuarema se trata de humildad. La humildad del polvo. El ego quiere diferenciarnos de los demás, pero somos iguales, hombres y mujeres; conservador o liberal; joven o viejo; independientemente del color, todos somos creación de Dios. Creados a partir del polvo. Somos parte de la creación pero claramente separados: fuimos creados a imagen y semejanza de Dios. Somos su creación. Es por eso que Dios nos invita a unirnos a él. Evitar esta verdad puede llevarnos al pecado. Como seňaló el Venerable Arzobispo Fulton Sheen, “Sólo hay una cosa en el

mundo que es definitivamente y absolutamente suya, y esa es su voluntad”. Depende de nosotros cómo esponderemos a esta invitación.

Nuestro viaje Cuaresmal consiste en prepararnos para estar al pie de la cruz el Viernes Santo a fin de cosechar la máxima recompensa el Domingo de Pascua. Podemos prepararnos de varias formas.

Podemos comenzar renovando nuestra relación con Dios abriéndonos a los dones del Espíritu Santo a través del Sacramento de la Reconciliación. Todos estamos heridos por nuestros propios pecados y el daňo que pueden haber causado a otros. El pecado es una carga pesada para cada uno de nosotros. Jesús quiere sanar nuestras heridas. Quiere darnos un nuevo comienzo.

Este llamado se dirige a aquellos que pueden haber estado alejados del Sacramento o de la Iglesia por un tiempo. Si ha estado fuera, la Cuaresma es un momento maravilloso para regresar a casa, la iglesia. La Cuaresma le llama a casa a un nuevo comienzo en su vida de fe, para restaurar la gracia santificante en su vida. El perdón de los pecados es una de las misiones más misericordiosas que Jesús confió a los apóstoles y sus sucesores. Nosotros, los sacerdotes de esta diócesis, queremos ayudar a los fieles con ternura y comprensión en este maravilloso Sacramento, para hacerles sentir el amor del Buen Pastor. Por favor, escuche el llamado de Jesús en esta temporada de Cuaresma y deje que sus cargas sean aliviadas en el Sacramento de la Reconciliación. Otra forma en la que podemos prepararnos es poner nuestra fe en acción. En algún lugar de los cuatro condados que componen nuestra Diócesis, hay un padre o una madre desempleados que luchan por alimentar a su

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familia; en algún lugar hay una futura madre que se enfrenta a la decisión de su vida y la vida de su hijo por nacer; en algún Lugar, hay una persona mayor invisible para la mayoría de nosotros, cuya soledad nos llama, y responderemos a ese llamado, gracias a su amabilidad y compasión. Es útil recordarnos durante estos tiempos turbulentos, que la Iglesia es una comunidad de fe, un cuerpo misionero vivo. Este ha sido un aňo muy difícil, más que los anteriores. Afortunadamente, su continuo apoyo a la Campaňa Católica Anual ha ayudado a los ministerios de la diócesis a llegar a aquellos que de otra manera podrían quedarse en crisis, desapercibidos en tiempos de necesidad. Su generosidad es un salvavidas para los muchos vecinos que nunca conocerá. Su sacrificio y servicio fiel de los unos a los otros es una bendición. Agradezco a todos los que tan generosamente apoyan, se ofrecen como voluntarios y ayudan a los muchos ministerios de la Diócesis. Todos ellos trabajan arduamente para restaurar la dignidad en las vidas de nuestros hermanos y hermanas que pueden estar necesitando comida, sufriendo o sin un techo donde vivir.

Oro para que este aňo, mientras se prepara para recibir las cenizas, lleve todo su ser a Dios, entregándole su sufrimiento para que lo transforme. No se centre en la muerte que representa la ceniza, sino en la nueva vida, la vida eterna que Dios quiere que compartamos con Él. Sinceramente en la misericordia de Cristo,

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ast month, the Christmas Season came to an end on the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord. By the grace of God and through the sacrament of baptism, here we are -- God’s children, with the gift of grace now always being offered to us for our salvation. God’s gift to us is His living spirit working and being within each of us as His children, baptized into His family. We are created with a purpose that only truly comes to conclusion for each of us when we face the reality of eternal life, when Christ himself comes again in all His Glory as our Savior and calls us to share in His Glory and union with the Father and their Spirit. Yes, God’s love always sustains us in being. At some point as we hear from the Book of Wisdom, “Having become perfect in a short while, he reached the fullness of a long career; for his soul was pleasing to the Lord, therefore he sped him out of the midst of wickedness.” Following the above words, we then read; “But the people saw and did not understand, nor did they take this into account.”

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These words have often struck me when used at a funeral Mass. Yet, since we are just beginning the second month of 2021, I ask you to consider these words as a reminder of what every baptized son and daughter of God is called to remember about their lives here on earth as participants in a pilgrimage to lead us to our proper home. God created each of us for Himself. We are called to experience and rest in the perfect love of God. This is our proper end. We are given at Baptism the mission to work at becoming holy and thereby becoming a saint. Yes, each of us is called to become a saint while living and working in this world as a child of God. Properly and firstly, “our citizenship is in heaven” (Philippians 3:30). Therefore, our first priority in life must be to embrace and live our “call,” our “mission” as given us by God. As each of us grows into

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adulthood here on earth, we must strive to keep our “spiritual proper end” in discernible focus. This is difficult due to many earthly distractions, evil around the world, and constant temptation. The second quote above reminds us of this pitfall. This underscores the importance of the gift of the Holy Priesthood of the true High Priest Jesus Christ. The question I, as vocation director, often hear from laypeople is “Why does God call other men to be His priests?” The answer I challenge all of you to work at this new year is, “to work at preparing your soul throughout your time here on earth to be pleasing to the Lord.” Why? Because as the Book of Wisdom reminds us, “the age that is honorable comes not with the passing of time nor can it be measured in terms of years.” Time is a human measurement for this world and this life. Time doesn’t really matter in God’s plan because He exists outside of time. So, whether one be considered young, middle aged, or old, it doesn’t matter. What is truly important if we desire to attain union with God is to always be mindful that we keep as our highest priority the spiritual goal of working to make our souls pleasing to God. The work of all priests is to directly remind, encourage and help people understand to always keep these things in the forefront of their minds. This is one of the reasons your prayers and continued support for our seminarians is so important. As we move forward during 2021 please keep them all in your prayers and especially Jacob Ramos, who is up for Ordination to transitional diaconate this spring and Deacon Larry Barile, who is anticipating Priestly Ordination on June 26, 2021. Father Greg Galvin

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Ash Wednesday Will Look Different This Year Pandemic safety protocols bring changes to the distribution of ashes FCC News Desk distribute ashes to the faithful by sprinkling ashes on the head of each person without saying anything. The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops Committee on Divine Worship noted that while this is a common practice in some countries, this form of distribution is not as well known in the US. There is no requirement for anyone to receive ashes. Also, for those preparing to be received into the Church this year, the Rite of Election normally held at the Cathedral of St. Patrick has been CANCELLED due to Coronavirus restrictions. The various rites associated with the RCIA will take place in their individual parishes to the extent they are able. As in the past we will once again offer a Lenten resource page on the diocesan website. This can be found at NorwichDiocese.org/Lent.

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ears ago, when I was teaching here in our Academy, I had a student who often shared her dreams with me, the way that happens in a boarding school. After she graduated, she called me one evening at the end of her freshman year of college. She was sobbing. She told me she had become involved with a married man, and when she told him she was pregnant he convinced her to have an abortion. Within days, she was devastated and reached out to me for help. Her dreams were shattered. There were no words I could offer to stem the flood of her tears that drenched my heart from a thousand miles away. I was rather young myself and this was my first experience with such agony in another’s soul. I could only help

her cry and try to remind her that all was not lost. But I was wrong. In her eyes, all was lost. I know that because she called me regularly for years. Her words were predictable. “I have a child now.... I have two children now.... I have three children now. But no child will ever bring back the child I destroyed. I measure every child I see against the child I will never see. She would be that age. She would be on that bus. She would be going into that dance studio with her ballet slippers hanging over her shoulders.... She would be walking down the aisle now, Sister, into the arms of the man who would be her husband. What have I done? I’ve been to confession, but I can’t forgive myself, so how could God forgive me? What will become of me?”

about what happened. I’d heard these retreats were good for people like me.”

Then, one night I met her at the bedside of a dying man. She was a nurse, and I was ministering in the same hospital in Pastoral Care. I had never expected to see her again, but here we were together, two people who had spent two decades talking about an unborn child sent out of season into eternity, now sitting with a man who was about to enter that same eternity.

“Saturday night we had exposition of the Blessed Sacrament all night,” she continued. “There was a lifesized statue of Mother Mary in the Chapel and she held her arms as though there was a baby in them. But instead of a baby, Mary was cradling this huge Host framed in gold. Mary was gazing down at the Host, but I felt Him gazing out at me. I looked at the Host and I knew it was Jesus. I told Him for the thousandth time how sorry I was for what I had done. And do you know what happened?”

In the dim light of the nurses’ station outside the room, she leaned over and said softly, “Can I tell you something, Sister? You will want to hear this. This past weekend I made a Rachel Retreat. It’s for women who have had abortions. I told my husband I needed to go. He knows

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The man who lay between us just then took a last gentle breath as I waited for her to finish her story. We looked down at him and began

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“I knew that I was forgiven at that moment when Jesus in the Host looked at me,” she whispered. “I will never forget the awful thing I did, and I’ll always carry the pain with me, but now I know there is hope for me. I think someone must have been really praying for me, Sister. I’m sure of it. I know I am forgiven. “ I could not tell whether the tears falling on the man’s graying hands were hers or mine. Maybe they were both. And the tears of Jesus, too, because He was there in that room as well. I realized in

that moment, in a way I had never known before, just how fragile a gift life is. From conception to natural death, we say. Don’t ever think your prayers aren’t enough or aren’t being heard when you pray for an end to abortion, and for the culture of death to give way to the Culture of Life. There are millions of women out there, and men, all dying little deaths over and over again. They need our prayers. They need to be reconciled. And we can help. Perhaps today we can go in spirit to the place where broken hearts go. Perhaps we can pick up just one and carry it all day, close to our own heart, begging God for healing for that shattered one. With all the suffering in this world at this moment, may one soul

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any of us have had those days when you wonder if what you do makes a difference in this life. As St. John Henry Newman for whom the Newman Centers were named, believed, “God…has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission. I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons.” The Diocese of Norwich Outreach to Haiti ministry is committed to walking with our brothers and sisters in Haiti and helping where we can by offering many services including medical/health care and educational programs. Outreach has an Education Scholarship Program that helps young people to attend primary, secondary, and post-secondary schools in Haiti. Without this program, these young people would find it difficult and maybe impossible to earn an education and develop their potential. Please know you do make a 12 difference as shown by the

following thankyou note from a young man who benefitted annually with a scholarship donated by the same U.S. sponsor. Dear Sponsor, This is me Scott David FELIX. I am this young boy you’ve been helping since I was a kid and today, I am very thankful and happy to get in touch with you and asking about you during this health crisis. Hoping that you and your family and all those people in your life are good and in shape. You have made a big impact in my whole life - even in my family as well. I wanted to let you know how good I am and how excited I am pursuing my dream through your help. I am about to complete my degree in Marketing Management and Public Relations and through the grace of Outreach to Haiti I do finish my school and now my degree. It’s an honor and great joy to tell you what I am doing now in Haiti as you are helping me. I have always wanted to give back and

this is what I am doing for some projects and people. I am actually the coordinator of an ecotourism project at *FORÊT DES PINS* which is a green area in Haiti. Doing this kind of job consists of changing people’s lives and it is magic, and it helps me to know and I can feel how big is your heart. All I want is making you proud of me and hopefully inspire you and other people to keep helping us even if I know how hard it is nowadays due to all the issues you might be facing. However, you can count on me to keep doing the job YOU’RE doing! Please receive this letter written directly on my phone. Your friend Scott

Sometimes we can lose sight of the people whose lives we are affecting—Scott is one of MANY— who have been assisted through Outreach over the years. Each of us is an important link and we hope you know the difference you make in this life through your actions. If you would like to know more about our work or contribute to our education programs, please visit Outreachtohaiti.org or call our office 860-800-3604.

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Family Event Blends Music, Humor and Faith

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ational musicians and storytellers Doug Brummel and Dave Wilson will present an evening of family fun and joy with their unique blend of humor, stories, and song to help families discover truths about their Catholic faith in a lighthearted way. The event, known as The Doug and Dave Show and billed as an evening of Family, Fun and Faith, is sponsored by the Diocesan Office of Faith Events. It will be livestreamed on the diocesan website NorwichDiocese.org/ Live-Events at 7 p.m. on February 11. “Doug and Dave are going to have you so engaged you will hang on their every word,” said Liza Roach, youth, and young adult minister for the diocese. “You will laugh out loud while you are

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being taught about the Catholic faith. This is the perfect program to bring joy into our homes during the pandemic; I hope everyone young and old will join us.” Roach said the event has been specially created for the Diocese of Norwich. She hopes families will be inspired by Brummel and Wilson’s unique blend of inspirational catechesis, which includes rousing music, stories and original characters. The two men, referred to as “stewards of the faith” on their website, began

performing together in 2018. They’ve since launched a two-man Catechetical comedy called Mass Confusion, which explores the Catholic faith within the context of the Mass. They have also released an album of original worship music entitled “I Am Called.” They have performed at numerous conferences including the National Catholic Youth Conference, the Los Angeles Religious Education Conference, and the National Federation for Catholic Youth Ministry. They most recently

served as worship leaders at a faith day event in Colorado Springs, Colorado, with the world-famous Harlem Globetrotters. Brummel is earning a master’s degree in Theology from St. Meinrad Seminary and School of Theology in Indiana. He has spent the last 30 years speaking at more than 1,400 parishes and conferences. He lives with his wife Jennifer and their seven children in Black Forest, Colorado. Wilson is an award-winning songwriter who toured as a country music artist before venturing into partnership with Brummel. He and his wife Maggie have three children and live in Colorado Springs. For more information about the event, or to have a link sent to you where the event is streaming, please contact Marianne Nicholas at manicholas@norwichdiocese. net or call (860) 848-2237 Ext. 304.

SAINT PIUS X VIRTUAL AUCTION March 6 – March 14, 2021 Attention fellow followers in Christ. St. Pius X Church in Middletown is holding their 21st Annual Extraordinary Year, Extraordinary Giving Auction virtually! This means ALL in our community are invited to participate in our online auction for the first time! From March 6th through March 14th you will be able to go to saintpius.org and click on our link to our virtual auction. (Our Auction site will be live on March 1st for previewing items and the bidding will begin on March 6) From here you can bid on a wide variety of items from gift baskets, to excursions and virtual/zoom classes, as well as home improvement items. We appreciate your support and generosity! God Bless you all.

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By Father Brian Maxwell

ormally, I’d be writing about a very powerful and impactful experience after coming back from the March

for Life in Washington DC. This year, I’m writing this article two weeks before it’s being held. Unfortunately, due to the pandemic and concerns about keeping everyone safe and healthy, and the would be required quarantining

upon return, our Diocesan high schools, UCONN and young adult groups that usually make the arduous journey, will not be making the trip. The March for Life occurs every year near the anniversary of Roe v. Wade as a peaceful protest of the Supreme Court’s 1973 ruling, which mandated legal abortion nationwide. As I wrote this, the March was still scheduled to take place on Friday, January 29th, even after the unfortunate occurrence at our Nation’s Capital earlier in the month. Jeanne Mancini, president of March for Life, said: “We marched during the blizzard of 2016, we’ve marched during government shutdowns, we marched after 9/11, we will march again this year. We’ve marched for 47 years, and no sacrifice is too great to fight this human

rights abuse of abortion.” Usually, hundreds of thousands of pro-lifers travel from around the country to attend. This year’s turnout will have been severely impacted. I have attended almost all the Marches since my seminary formation began back in 2008. In addition to the March, there have traditionally been many inspiring and energetic spiritual events leading up to it. They kick-off with The National Prayer Vigil for Life at the Basilica of The National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception. Hundreds of seminarians, priests, bishops and cardinals celebrate the opening Mass for Life, The National Rosary for Life, and Holy Hours conducted by seminaries throughout the night, with another Mass for Life in the morning as well. This year, due to Covid-19 restrictions, these events will

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have only been held virtually, live streamed on websites and via broadcast on EWTN. Besides the main celebrants, priests, religious and seminarians this year were not allowed to attend. Across town in Arlington, Virginia, customarily over 11,000 youth, families and religious gather at the EagleBank Arena for the Life is Very Good Mass and Rally. St. Bernard’s high school students have been attending this recently. Unfortunately, this year, after careful consideration of state and local regulations and consultation with their Bishop, they decided this event would not take place in it’s usual manner, but instead, would be offered via a live streamed evening of prayer. Early, the morning of the March, The Youth Rally and Mass for Life in downtown Washington normally

hosts over 20,000 young people, religious sisters, and seminarians with very energetic praise and worship musicians and dynamic speakers, including a beautiful Mass for Life with many bishops, and the Papal Nuncio delivering an encouraging message from the Holy Father. This too was only held online. Just not the same. But these youth events provide a prayerful opportunity to effectively encourage our young people in their witnesses as disciples of Christ and promoters of the Gospel of Life. As one of our youth leaders recently shared with me “statistics show that those who adapt pro-life views at a young age will keep them.” As so much continues to be challenging in many ways, the best thing we can do is solidly join together in prayer throughout the

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year, that we as a nation, may stop wandering in the wilderness of the culture of death and enter into “life

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Mystic Teaches Message of God’s Encompassing Love By Mary-Jo McLaughlin

for most and daily life revolved around religion which taught that God inflicts punishment on sinners and should be feared.

“Julian of Norwich saw in God only love and in the context of this wrote her famous quote, ‘All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well,’” Sr. Elissa Rinere, CP, told participants during a recent virtual workshop on the 14th century hermit, sponsored by the Diocesan Office of Faith Events.

The first wave of the bubonic plague killed Julian’s father in 1349, when she was six years old. She married at age 16 and gave birth to two children. In the span of 11 years, she would lose her husband and children to the second wave of the plague. These tragedies formed Julian’s prayer as she sought to discern if it was God’s wrath over sin that brings about suffering.

lthough mystic, spiritual guide and visionary Julian of Norwich died 600 years ago, her writings reveal a powerful message for us today – God looks on all of us with great love.

Julian was born in 1342 and died 74 years later. She spent the last 40 years of her life confined to a cell attached to the Church of St. Julian in Norwich, England, becoming known as Julian of Norwich. Her real name is unknown, Sr. Elissa said. The mystic lived during a time when life was difficult 18

When Julian was 30, she became deathly ill and spent six days in a coma. While unconscious she saw and heard revelations from God which she wrote about when she recovered, becoming known as The Revelations of Divine Love. Widowed without any male relative to care for her, she asked

permission from the local bishop to live in solitude as a hermit. A cell, described as a living grave, was built for her attached to the local church. There she lived for the next 40 years praying and meditating on the revelations she received forming the basis for her second collection of writings known as The Long Text. “Julian integrated her faith with her life,” said Sr. Elissa. “In her prayer and her contemplation, she saw and came to know God through the lens of her own life and suffering.” The fruit of her contemplation was an understanding that all of creation is made and loved by God and therefore held in God’s loving and protective hands. “She understands God as love and everlasting bliss,” Sr. Elissa said. “All that is exists due to love,” said Sr. Elissa paraphrasing one of the pillars of Julian’s spirituality.

“Creation is the manifestation of Divine Love…All creation leads to love of God. Love leads to joy, and joy leads to service of God and neighbor.” Sr. Elissa noted that Julian concluded from her meditations that God does not get angry when we sin, as anger is a human emotion. Therefore, God does not cause suffering. Pain is the fruit of sin. Sin punishes, not the Lord. Julian understood God’s love as all encompassing; it does not change or lessen when we fall prey to sin. “The greatest challenge of our Christian faith is the acceptance of the infinite love that God has for each of us,” said Sr. Elissa. “Julian knew that God did not inflict suffering…God does not inflict punishment. God is love.”

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fter meeting author Jim Sano at the final diocesan Book Club session, many participants were motivated to start a book club in their own parish. The author of the book “The Father’s Son” encouraged the participants to help evangelize by sharing their faith through love of literature and healthy discussion. He went on to explain that Catholic fiction gives believers an opportunity to expand their faith while enjoying a great story. Here are some reactions from the Diocesan Book Club members: “I thought ‘The Father’s Son’ was a book that grew on me the more I read it. I really appreciated the local Boston details as I grew up nearby. The weaving in of Catholic beliefs with the plot

makes me think I may go back for a second reading if I find myself trying to explain things in a down to earth way to family or friends.” - Sally Germain “‘The Father’s Son’ was an engaging story I had trouble putting down. Jim Sano craftily takes the reader on one man’s journey of faith in a story that is relatable and enlightening to the reader. Reading this with the book club over the six weeks allowed me to savor it and appreciate the richness within its pages. The twists and turns were engaging. Being able to meet the author at our last meeting was a bonus for sure.” - Sandy Colabro “The book club which read ‘The Father’s Son’ by Jim Sano was wonderful. I really enjoyed the reading time and then the discussion time. The book not only refreshed my faith but gave me an insight into the deep

personal conflicts that sometimes challenge people. On the outside and for the world you can look very successful, but inner doubts can lead you down the road God did not intend for you.” - Kathy D’Amelio “This was my first experience being part of a book club and it was such a fun experience. ‘The Father’s Son’ gave us all a lot of food for thought and I truly looked forward to Wednesday nights. It allowed everyone to share insights and a few laughs with each other. It was also great to meet virtually from the comfort of our own homes, especially on a couple of meeting nights that were stormy. Book Club is a really convenient way to evangelize in 2021.” - Marianne Nicholas “The book ‘The Father’s Son’ was a Christian fiction story. It was an easy read and an enjoyable story that took place in Boston. The parts

of the story that explained some of our beliefs as Catholics reminded me of my days as a teacher. This book is a great evangelization tool for people of all ages.” - Carol Benevides If you are interested in starting a spiritual book club in your parish or with family or friends, the Office of Faith Events has put together a study guide that you can use. The study guide is specifically for the book “The Father’s Son” by Jim Sano. Using the study guide provided the members would be asked to read six chapters per week and be ready for discussion. A general study guide that can be used with any spiritual book is available as well. For more information, contact the Office of Faith Events at 860-848-2237, ext. 304 or e-mail faithevents@ norwichdiocese.net.

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Campus Ministry Remains a Resource for Students By Gina Foster

throughout the winter vacation and pray that everyone stays healthy as we look forward to next semester and wonder about our ‘new normal.’”

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ecently, I was listening to a radio commercial for a small familyowned jewelry store. The owner was discussing the effects the pandemic had on his business and indicated that cross necklaces have been one of the most popular items in his store.

People feel extremely close to God, maybe even more so over the past 12 months. People are seeking spiritual guidance and frequently praying, seeking comfort from God. It must be challenging for college students who may be studying at home or if on campus, isolated from their families. Many students turn to campus ministry for inspiration and support during these difficult times.

Eastern Connecticut State University Student Shawn Dousis, whose help was instrumental in initiating Shawn’s Cupboard.

person or remotely. Campus ministers stayed in touch with the students through e-mails with any information that was thought to “As was true on many college be helpful. ‘Words of wisdom,’ campuses this semester, the pictures, links to websites, campuses at Eastern Connecticut songs or prayers were all shared. State University, the University of Personal appearances on campus, Connecticut, Wesleyan University although limited, were still and Connecticut College were possible.” pretty quiet,” the Very Reverend Virtual Bible studies were Laurence LaPointe, Campus available to the UCONN through the Ministry director, said. “Since community we were not able to hold many auspices of FOCUS, a national of our usual in-person events, we evangelizing organization active concentrated on what we could do on the UCONN campus. The to let the students know that the Office of Vocations sponsors a Campus Ministry was still there weekly holy hour and Mass for for them. Weekly Catholic Mass vocations at UCONN on Thursday for all four campus communities evenings. At Eastern, Shawn’s was still available either in- Cupboard, a student-led food

Brendan Leddy, an Eastern Connecticut State University alumnus, reminisced about the importance of attending weekly Mass on campus no matter the weather. “I remember one Sunday evening during the winter walking to Mass and it was so cold. I removed my hat before Mass started and my hair was actually frozen.”

As one of our Annual Catholic Appeal supported ministries, pantry jointly sponsored with the Campus Ministry benefits from Foundation for Campus Ministry, your generous donations to the continued to combat student ACA. Our ministries provide hunger by serving more than physical, spiritual and economic 75 students last semester. The help to those dealing with dayCampus Ministry at Connecticut to-day challenges and the added College reached out to students burdens imposed by the cold through the internet and offered weather and the pandemic. weekly Masses, both on-line On behalf of those who have and in the beautiful Harkness generously given to our 2020 Chapel. Wesleyan students and ACA, thank you so very much. faculty found encouragement We will be launching our 2021 and inspiration through words of Annual Catholic Appeal, “One wisdom, including hyperlinks to Faith, One Family,” in March. thought-provoking websites and If you have not finished making articles. your 2020 pledge payments, “All in all, the campus ministries you may contact Heather Harris found students, faculty and staff at hharris@norwichdiocese. on all campuses to be pretty net or (860) 886-1928 to do so. resilient.” Fr. LaPointe said. “We Thank you so much for your will continue our email blasts continued kindness.

Jesus said, “Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained.”

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Marianne Cote, Principle 25 Squire Street, New London 860-442-1720 SJSNL.com

St. Michael School, Pawcatuck Doris Messina, Principal West Broad St., Pawcatuck 860-599-1084 stmichaelschoolct.com

St. Patrick Cathedral School, Norwich Sharon Stewart, Principal 211 Broadway, Norwich 860-889-4174 st-patrickschoolnorwich.org

Academy of the Holy Family, Baltic Mother Mary David, SCMC, Principal 54 West Main St, Baltic 860-822-9272 ahfbaltic.org

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Dear Friends, It is hard to believe that we are already into the second half of the school year. Bishop Coteâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s decision to open all Catholic schools with in-person learning was certainly the proper choice. Thanks to the wonderful work of our administrators and teachers our schools have certainly been a safe haven for our students. Although there have been some cases where the schools had to temporarily utilize remote learning, these were exceptions. In fact, most elementary schools have not lost any in-person school days. This accomplishment is also due to the wonderful cooperation from our parents and students. Working together has made a very difficult school year a success at this time. I would also like to thank our administrators and teachers who have been participating in our religious education professional development program. We have contracted with Franciscan University of Steubenville to provide this program for our administrators and teachers. They have a multitude of online courses for professional development in all areas of religious education. Just as we must continue to develop our teaching methods, it is important to also enhance our faith life. Our schools exist to help spread the Word of Our Lord and we must continue to enrich ourselves to help students deepen their own faith life. February is also the month when we will begin our preparation for Easter. I wish all of you a prayerful and spiritual Lenten season. God Bless, George A. Milot Superintendent of Schools

Pizza 4 Pals

By Jeff Otterbein “God bless you,” said the woman as she walked away from the window at MacDonough School in Middletown, where the Christmas spirit was alive and well on a late December day. The woman had four children to feed, so the “take and bake” pizzas, part of the Pizza 4 Pals program,

would bring holiday smiles to her kids. The program was conceived by friends Vincent Scileppi Jr. ‘23, and Aleia Goodison of Haddam. Scileppi’s father owns Iliiano’s, which has two locations in Middletown and Meriden. The idea, first thought of in the spring as COVID tightened its

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grip, was to raise money to be able to make frozen pizzas that would be distributed to feed those in need. The equipment was purchased, and the pizzas were churned out. With the assistance of the City of Middletown at MacDonough and Spencer schools, about 750 pizzas were distributed. Cars lined up

at both schools. A city worker at Spencer spoke of how appreciative people were. “It was great to see that Vincent and Aleia wanted to do this and I’m glad we were able to make it happen,” Vincent Scileppi, Sr. said.

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aint Bernard School is pleased to announce two new honor societies for middle school students: Tri-M Music Honor Society, Junior Chapter and National Junior Mathematic Honor Society, Chi Alpha Mu. The Tri-M Music Honor Society, sponsored by the National Association for Music Education (NAfME), is the only national honor society for music students in the United States. With more than 2,100 chapters in the world serving 84,000 members, Tri-M gives student musicians the opportunity to “perform, lead and serve.” In 1998, the Tri-M Music Honor Society Chapter 3055 for high school

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together and assist each other. Invitations to apply to the honor society will be sent out to all eligible students next month. The current high school Tri-M members are looking forward to welcoming their brothers and sisters into the new chapter. The Saint Bernard Chapter of Chi Alpha Mu Middle School Honor Society started its inaugural year with 10 students in grades 6-8. Chi Alpha Mu stands for Creative Adventures in Mathematics and seeks to promote enjoyment and understanding of mathematics by middle school students. One of the goals of Chi Alpha Mu is to recognize middle school students at Saint Bernard School who are performing at a high level in mathematics. Since September 2020, Chi Alpha Mu members elected officers, competed in collaborative competitions such as Math Madness, and took the Mathematical Association of America’s National American Mathematics Competition 8 exam. According to faculty adviser Matt Donnelly, in addition to competitions students are learning how to work on deeper level math problems that require not just a knowledge of formulas but a higher degree of critical

thinking, analysis, and an ability to use what he calls their “puzzle brain.” “It’s not just knowing math but how to do something with the knowledge you have and make sense of it,” Donnelly said. Students participating in the Chi Alpha Mu and continuing in the high school honor society Mu Alpha Theta will also be better prepared to tackle some of the higher-level unique mathematics classes offered at Saint Bernard School such as the Philosophy of Space and Time, The Philosophy of Religion, and Philosophy of Math and Astrophysics. In addition, Chi Alpha Mu students are also eligible to apply to attend MathPath, a four-week summer residential program for students who love math. In 2021, the program will be held at Mount Holyoke College in South Hadley, Massachusetts. “One of the goals I have for this program is to encourage students to consider careers in the STEM fields, science, technology, engineering and mathematics,” Donnelley said. Due to COVID restrictions, both honor societies will hold induction ceremonies at a later date.

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you ponder the meaning of your own life. 6. Contribution toward world peace. Gaudium et Spes, the Second Vatican Council’s Pastoral Constitution on the Church in the Modern World, said that the imbalances in the world that lead to war and tensions “are linked with that more basic imbalance which is rooted in the heart of man.” Peace of soul leads to peace of heart leads to peace beyond oneself. 7. A better neighborhood. Confession leaves you feeling good about yourself, thereby cutting back the inclination to road rage and aggressive shopping cart driving. With the grace of the sacrament, you’re energized to, as Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery, “go and sin no more.” 8. Realistic self-perception. Confession helps overcome

arrogance when you have to admit you’re as much of a sinner as anyone else. It helps build tolerance for others’ perceived shortcomings. 9. One more benefit of being Catholic. There are lots of benefits, including a sense of community, liturgical rites to help us encounter God in prayer, and the wonderful sense of humanity exemplified in the saints, from Mary, the loving Mother of God, to Augustine, the exasperating son of Monica. The sacrament that leads us to inner peace is among the greatest boons. 10. Closeness to God. Confession helps you realize that you have a close connection to God and receive His grace through the sacraments. What can be better than knowing God’s on your team, or, to be less arrogant about it, that you are on God’s.

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enance, aka confession, is the sacrament of the forgiveness of sin. You can’t beat it for convenience. It’s available practically whenever. Tell a priest you want to go to confession, and you’ll get his attention. One bishop I know was cornered on an airplane. Another passenger figured out what was going on and asked if he could confess too. It must have been an interesting game of musical seats. An interesting question for priests might be: Where was the strangest place you ever administered the sacrament of penance? The answers I’ve gathered include “in a sports bar, at a graduation party” and “on the golf course, walking up the fairway.” Confession has benefits. Here are ten: 1. Confidentiality guaranteed. There’s nothing like confessing your sins to someone guaranteed not to tell anyone else. Sometimes you need to talk in absolute confidence. Even under subpoena, a priest can’t tell anyone what’s said to him in confession. He can’t even hint at it. Now that’s confidentiality. 2. Housekeeping for the soul. It feels good to be able to start a clean life all over again. Like going into a sparkling living room in your home, it’s nice when clutter is removed – even if it’s your own. 3. A balm for the desire for revenge. When you have been forgiven you can forgive others. If the perfect Jesus forgives me, who am I to want to avenge the slights in my life. Think: “Why did they promote him over me?’ or “Mom played favorites!” 4. Low cost therapy. It’s free, which makes it cheaper than a psychiatrist for dealing with guilt. 5. Forced time to think. Socrates said that the unexamined life is not worth living. To examine our lives and acknowledge failings marks the first step of making things right with God, others and ourselves. Life can be more worth living when

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Xavier Fulfills Mission of Caring For the Whole Person Mind, Body, and Spirit

By Jeff Otterbein

ohn Guinan talks in glowing terms about the pastoral advising program at Xavier High School. “It reminds me of how special a school I work at, a school willing to put its money where its mouth is when it says it cares for the whole person: mind, body and spirit,” Guinan, assistant campus ministry director and religion teacher, said. He is also talking about the foundational values of the school. “At the end of the day,” Guinan said, “a Catholic institution needs to be a place that not only cares for the intellectual formation of the students but cares for the development of their souls, and we believe that takes place best in the context of relationships … that students know they’re cared for in a relationship of trust, respect and love.” Director of Campus Ministry and

Faculty Formation Peter Lyons noted, “It is also one of the many ways in which we fulfill our mission of fostering the spiritual growth of the young men entrusted to our care.” “The pastoral care of our students extends far beyond the boundaries of the Pastoral Advising Program. All of our teachers and staff members recognize that they have a role to play in helping our students to grow in virtue, take responsibility for their actions, and use their Godgiven gifts and talents in service to others. Specifically, Pastoral Advising allows us to get to know our students to help them navigate the challenging waters of their high school years in light of their relationship with God,” Lyons said. In addition to his guidance counselor, each Xavier student has an assigned pastoral advisor. The pastoral advisor for freshmen, sophomores

and juniors is their religion teacher. Seniors get to choose their pastoral advisor from among the religion teachers, administrators and a small pool of other teachers. The pastoral advisor meets at least once a year with the student. “ It is good to be able to talk with students to find out where they’re from, their background, their interests, their challenges, their expectations,” religion teacher and pastoral advisor Brother Philip Revell, C.F.X., said. “It is a chance to know them more on a personal level than just the day-to-day of the classroom. I always ask them about their religious practices, their faith formation, and encourage them to take advantage of everything the school has to offer.” Has it ever been easy being a teenager? Every generation would recall challenges, some universal, some particular to the times. Guinan

sees one particular to the times. “Right now the greatest concern in our culture is loneliness, and I don’t think it’s new to the pandemic,” Guinan said. ”I think we’ve seen it over the years. Students need to be assured that they’re loved, and with the rise of social media it is contributing to a culture of isolation and loneliness that can only be rectified with true relationships.” There is yet another subtlety to pastoral advising that is different from other interactions that are necessary in the development of a student. “It is not meant to be an evaluation or an assessment . . . in the sense of checking up on the students in regard to academics or discipline,” Brother Philip said. “It is a chance for students to talk about how their lives are going and to bring up any concerns they might have.”

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Volume 6: Eucharist, Part I “Out of the darkness of my life, so much frustrated, I put before you the one great thing to love on Earth: the Blessed Sacrament…there you will find romance, glory, honor, fidelity, and the true way of all your loves on earth, and more than that: Death.” These are words that author J.R.R. Tolkien wrote to his son in a letter. Tolkien was a man who had seen and experienced a lot in his life: both great joys and tragic losses. And, as is evident from his words, he was also someone whose Catholic faith was central to his life. And I think these words of Tolkien beautifully capture the gift that, our next Sacrament, the Holy Eucharist, is for us. While Tolkien’s closing sentiment may seem morbid, his words remind us that all of the earthly things that we love are subject to death… they either eventually leave us or we eventually leave them. And while this reminder may sound depressing or discouraging, Tolkien points out that the Eucharist, the Sacrament which makes the real Body and Blood of Jesus truly present to us, contains, in a way, God’s remedy for death. And we can say this because the Eucharist is the true Body and Blood of Jesus, our Savior who has freely “entered into” death precisely to save us from it. In other words, where the Eucharist is, there Jesus is present with us….and where Jesus is present with us, we too share in His victory over death.

Contained “in” the Eucharist is the entire reality of Christ’s life, death, and resurrection. And, while this is true of each of the Sacraments, the Eucharist is a Sacrament that remains “with us”. This great Sacrament is made present for us upon the altar at Mass through the words and actions of the priest, but it is also a Sacrament that remains with us in every Catholic Church throughout the world where the Eucharist is reserved. With Baptism and Confirmation, we learned that these Sacraments give us particular graces. (In Baptism we’re adopted as God’s children; in Confirmation we’re strengthened and commissioned to be public witnesses of Christ). So too, in the Eucharist God bestows particular graces for us. In the Eucharist we are given strength to be sustained throughout our lives as Catholic Christians… the Eucharist is spiritual nourishment for us during our pilgrimage on this Earth. This is one of the reasons why the Eucharist is one of the Sacraments that can be received more than once…because we all need to be fed repeatedly if we are to stay alive. We have begun to discuss the Eucharist as the third Sacrament after Baptism and Confirmation because the Eucharist is the third and last of the Sacraments of Initiation. The Sacraments of Initiation are those first Sacraments that are traditionally received when a person wishes to become Catholic. By being baptized, confirmed and receiving First Holy Communion, the person is “initiated” into the Catholic Church. Next month we’ll look a little bit at the form and matter that are required for the Eucharist before moving into the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

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In the Month of Love, Take Time to Appreciate God’s Love Fai th Sparks

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By Mary-Jo McLaughlin

met my husband Pat in 1989 when he placed a classified ad in the singles column of a local newspaper. Meeting him, I was immediately taken by his quick Irish wit, auburn hair, good looks, and self-confidence. His Irish Catholic background meshed with mine and the conversation between us flowed easily. Pat was a widower with two young children, ages four and five. When I met them, they immediately tugged at my heartstrings, beginning a bond that would grow and deepen until the four of us became a family. In time, our family would grow and with the birth of our youngest daughter God had given me everything I had ever wanted. My relationship with Pat started with all the classic romantic and passionate feelings that couples experience during the early days of

courtship. I couldn’t eat, or sleep; my heart pounded whenever I was with him, and I reveled in the new and exciting discoveries I was learning about him and our budding relationship. It was one of the most exciting times in my life. The Greeks have four different words to describe the various types of love. What I was experiencing in those early days with my husband is Eros. The other words the Greeks use for love are: Philia, which is the virtuous, platonic love shared between friends; Storge, the affectionate love you have for family; and Agape, which is unconditional, selfless, and sacrificial love that puts the other first. It is the way God loves us and, hopefully, we love God in return. February is a month that we traditionally think about love as we celebrate Valentine’s Day. While

merchants and advertisers would like us to focus this month on the hearts and flowers kind of Eros love, let’s not overlook all the ways we experience and are called to love in our lives. My hope is that, like me, you have experienced love as the single most important blessing in your life. For me, those blessings have come through friendships I have treasured and the laughter, camaraderie, challenges and support they have given me through my sorrows and joys; and through the struggles and wonders of family life where I have learned how to share, settle differences, live harmoniously and appreciate the value of loyalty and sacrifice. These relationships have shaped my life and are precious to me, yet they do not reach the height of what I have experienced through

the gentleness of God’s love – a love most evident to me in what I share with my husband through our Sacrament of Marriage. It is a love that has grown over 30 years of marriage from Eros to Agape. Through the simple, ordinary, everyday ways Pat treats, respects, talks to and forgives me, he mirrors to me God’s unconditional love. It reinforces to me that the words sung by the main character Jean Valjean in the musical Les Misérables are true: “To love another person is to see the face of God.” May you see the face of God in your spouse, your family, your friends and in all the ways that God’s love is manifested for you. That love is always there. Take some quiet time during this month dedicated to love and let God’s Divine Love help you see His face more clearly.

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