Agape
Question # 1 Are your eyes and the eyes of the other talking to each other?
When you have a strong spiritual bond with someone you can feel it in their gaze. You lock eyes - even from across the room and you feel a kind of magnetic, powerful energy drawing you to them.
Regardless of the words you say, your eyes are talking to
each other and inviting each other to connect. https://ideapod.com/spiritual-signs-of-love-that-show-this-connection-is-real/
The light, which shines in the eye, is really the light of the heart. The light which fills the heart is the light of God, which is pure and separate from the light of intellect and sense.
As the 13th Century Sufi poet Rumi. https://www.azquotes.com/quote/866451
Agape is spiritual love.
It means that when you look into the eyes of a person, you recognize the essence of this person beyond her or his personality. You recognize the one consciousness that both of you share. You find yourself.
https://youtu.be/GRB6zAxMA9E
When you have a spiritual connection, it’s like you
can see into someone’s heart. The lies go away and honesty takes their place.
https://ideapod.com/spiritual-signs-of-love-that-show-this-connection-is-real/
Humor and sharing laughs together can be a really strong sign of a spiritual love connection.
https://ideapod.com/spiritual-signs-of-love-that-show-this-connection-is-real/
Agape is the highest of all loves. It is a love of will and choice – not a love of emotions.
https://kenboa.org/living-out-your-faith/five-loves-greatest-agape/
The person, whom you love, sees the potential in herself
/ himself and is enabled to actualize these potentials.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2372299403 Page 114.
When marching - with other Auschwitz concentration camp prisoners - to a work site in icy wind, while guards kept shouting at them, calling them pigs, driving them with the butts of their rifles and whipping them when they stumbled, Viktor Frankl was thinking of his wife. Although Viktor Frankl did not know if his loved one was still alive, he
saw her
smile, her frank and encouraging look. He experienced the look of his wife as being more luminous than the sun which was beginning to rise. In his mind, he asked her questions, and she answered. Then, she asked him questions in return, and he answered. In this situation, Viktor Frankl grasped that the salvation of man is through love and in love. He learned that love goes far beyond the physical person of the beloved. https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2372299403 Pages 46-49.
Question # 2 Do you want to put the other person first?
Agape puts the person, whom you love, first and sacrifices self interest for the sake of that person.
http://fromerostoagape.wordpress.com/2012/08/09/eros-romantic-love-and-agape-unconditional-love/
Agape is based on selfless love. In this style of love, a person is willing to sacrifice anything for his or her partner.
http://www.psychologycharts.com/six-love-styles.html
Agape is the love you give without expecting
anything in return.
https://thoughtcatalog.com/rania-naim/2016/02/the-7-kinds-of-love-and-how-they-can-help-you-define-yours-according-to-the-ancient-greeks/ http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/the-ancient-greeks-6-words-for-love-and-why-knowing-them-can-change-your-life
Agape is love for others for their sake.
http://www.thekingcenter.org/archive/theme/4705
Agape includes altruism, which is defined as unselfish concern
for the welfare of others.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/hide-and-seek/201606/these-are-the-7-types-love