Managing critical voices in our heads

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Managing critical voices in our heads

Question # 1

What questions do you ask the critical voices in your head?

Why are you criticizing me? https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/5393569419 page 51.

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To what extent do you think criticizing me will help me to change?

What are you afraid will happen if I do not do what you say I should do?

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What do you want to protect me from?

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Question # 2

What do you do to be kind to yourself?

Take whatever the judge tell us with a grain of salt. Why? Because you don’t know what will happen in the future.

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Realize that all distress in your mind is created by saboteurs in your mind.
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Do NOT get angry with your saboteur
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If you do, you fall into the trap of being a judge that judges your saboteurs.
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Put a name on the saboteur that pops up in your mind when you think certain thoughts and feel certain emotions. When you put a name on a saboteur that shows up in your mind, that saboteur loses its power over you.

Example

When the perfectionist voice speaks to you, say “Hello perfectionist, are you there again saying that I should...."

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Love yourself. Showing empathy with yourself will help you to learn about what happened and what you can do to improve.

Example

When you made a mistake, say to yourself that you are still a wonderful human being and that every mistake can be turned into an opportunity.

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To empathize with yourself, visualize yourself as a child doing something that made your eyes light up.

This image is a reminder that you are worthy of unconditional caring when you are feeling beaten by your own judge.

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Show appreciation, compassion and forgiveness with yourself.
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Question # 3

How will you become curious and learn?

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Write down an important thing about yourself that you have never shared with others.
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What would change in your life, if the saboteur, which pops up in your mind, was weakened?

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What is good about people you judged?
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What do people, whom you judge, try to tell you?

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Take time to discover all important and relevant information before moving on to developing a solution and acting

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Observe how the energy and emotions of people change in different situations.

Find out why the person is feeling how she / he feels?

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Be aware / mindful of what you do, for example what your hands do when you make tea.
Find out what happened in a situation with the goal of learning from it - not with the goal of blaming.
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Question # 4

How will you develop ideas?

Come

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up with as many ideas as possible.

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are 3 ways you can turn the problem into a gift and an opportunity?
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Develop ideas. Use your creativity.
Avoid judging / evaluating ideas.
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Try the exercise "Yes, and.." Example: "Yes, what I love about this idea is.... and..."
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Question # 5

What are your values?

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Choose ways forward that have your most important values as foundation.

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Our values and purpose lie in our hearts.

Question # 6

How will you act?

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the problem go without any regret, guilt or shame. Example: With your right hand, make a broom action on your left shoulder.
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a decision.
Make
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Try out ideas.
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Set boundaries for your top critical voice in your head and live it out.

Example:

If the top critical voice in your head is the perfectionist, try and do a small project during which you try to do everything perfectly in the way you want to do it.

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