Anger
Question # 1 What is anger?
Examples of anger: Rage. Fury. Hatred. Envy. Jealousy. Apathy. Shame.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 115.
Anger is an alerting phenomenon.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-explorations/201706/understanding-anger
Question # 2 How do we express anger?
Because kids cannot yet understand or communicate anger so well, they act it out, for example by shouting.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why
Question # 3 Why do we feel anger?
Anger can come from seeing people, we care about,
being mistreated.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.
Anger is usually a response to inequality, injustice
and unfair treatment.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Pages 115 and 130.
Anger is a common emotional response to a conflict.
https://hbr.org/2017/12/should-you-share-your-feelings-during-a-work-fight
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward
someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.
http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx
What is often sitting beneath that anger are emotion such as feeling betrayed, feeling unseen, feeling disappointed.
https://hbr.org/2017/12/should-you-share-your-feelings-during-a-work-fight
Anger is highly related to love, for example because of its connection to need and involvement.
When anger is accompanied by a clear communication, it is a sign of basic respect for a loved person.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-explorations/201706/understanding-anger
Question # 4 How does anger help us?
Anger can help you express negative emotions.
http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx
Anger helps us set boundaries.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 41.
Anger helps us to act and fix what made us angry.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Page 28.
Anger often helps people to get the courage to fight back.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.
Moving from feeling hurt to feeling angry helps the person feel less vulnerable.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why
When anger arises, it signals that healing is underway.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 115.
Anger can give you a way to find solutions to problems.
http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx
When a child refuses to accept a parent’s critical assessment of him or her, the anger rescues him or her from feeling,
for example, shame.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why
Question # 5 What are negative results of expressing anger?
When people feel anger, they tend to believe that
people are at fault and things go wrong.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Page 32.
Anger can cloud our ability to think clearly and behave effectively.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.
People, who feel anger, also feel more optimistic and
more in control than they actually are. This can lead them to take risks that they would not do otherwise.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.
When we feel anger, we tend to speak more loudly, more
aggressively and more in black-white terms.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.
Excessive anger can cause problems such as increased blood pressure. That can make it difficult for the person to think straight and harm his or her physical and mental health.
http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx
When we express anger, we instill fear in others.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Page 36.
Getting angry is a desperate attempt by a person to cover up that he or she feels hurt.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why
When you are unable or unwilling to deal with your anger, boredom arises.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 191.
Question # 6 How can we feel less anger?
To feel less anger, be less optimistic.
Be less hopeful about life.
https://youtu.be/coiCkmcKjX8
3 ideas to express anger in healthy ways: 1. Accept the emotion as normal and part of life. 2. Take a walk or run to cool down. 3. Ask yourself why you feel angry.
https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/anger-how-it-affects-people
To help a person feel less anger,
help the person to feel safe.
3 ideas: 1. Suggest that you take a walk and talk. 2. Listen patiently. 3. Speak slowly and in a low tone.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/201804/10-strategies-defusing-your-partners-anger