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The Duke and Duchess of Sussex Sally sees them announcing that Meghan is pregnant with their second child in 2020. When it comes to their role within the royal family, Sally adds that ‘the Queen will express her concern about their obvious unhappiness’.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge Having had a rift with his brother Harry in 2019, ‘William will ensure he is seen more with Harry and their children will be photographed together to show the world that both brothers are unified,’ according to Sally. On top of this, the psychic says that ‘William and Kate will take on a bigger role from the Queen with visits abroad, and the Queen will honour both of them for this.’

2020 Celebrity Louise Redknapp Having been single since she split from Jamie Redknapp in 2017, Louise will meet a new love in 2020. Sally says this mystery man is ‘in the music industry and they have a lot in common’, and while ‘her children are happy for her, Jamie will be disgruntled, even though he will be seen with a new lady too’. Career-wise, Louise will release another album and also ‘say yes to a West End role’.

Holly Willoughby

According to Sally, Holly isn’t going to be on This Morning as much next year, as ‘she’ll gently pull away from a full-time position, allowing her more time to spend on other TV shows, a new clothing range and a book’. The TV presenter will even get a new show that’s been written specifically for her ‘and will propel her into a primetime evening audience’. Lucky Holly!

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Piers Morgan It seems 2020 doesn’t see much change for Piers, as ‘he’ll find himself in hot water to do with comments made concerning the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, which he’ll have to retract and, in his own way, apologise to them’. On a brighter note, Piers ‘will accept a huge TV deal in the States and rethink his whole life and career in UK’. There’ll be a lot of people happy with that news…

Coleen Nolan Sally says that, despite staying single to focus on her family and friends, 2020 sees Coleen a lot happier as she ‘continues to thrive with new drive and positivity with her career and personal life’. Coleen’s biggest change is that she’s going to move home, ‘as she wants to clear her life from old memories’.

predictions Celebrity psychic Sally Morgan predicts what next year could have in store for these famous facesÉ Paul Hollywood His love life was extremely rocky in 2019, and it seems nothing changes for Paul next year, as ‘his two exes, Alex Hollywood and Summer MonteysFullam both do kiss-and-tells’.

However, this won’t affect Bake Off judge Paul too much, as he continues with the show and ‘will release two more best-selling cookbooks’.

Susanna Reid Susanna may have spent most of 2019 single after splitting from Steve Parish in April, but her love life is ‘set to become more fulfilling in 2020’, says Sally. However, her new relationship ‘may cause problems with her having to be in the studio so early’ for Good Morning Britain. Susanna’s also going to ‘front a weekend current affairs programme, and as this will be prerecorded it will allow her personal life to flourish’.

Simon Cowell

Having had a big shake-up of The X Factor and Britain’s Got Talent in 2019, next year Simon will bring some ‘new TV shows and dispose of some of the well-known ones’. Luckily, however, ‘Simon will reap the rewards of difficult decisions.’ And when it comes to his personal life, Sally says that Simon ‘would love a brother or sister for his son Eric, but his partner Lauren is not of the same mind’.

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‘Ruth’s life was turned

UPSIDE DOWN’

TV star Eamonn Holmes opens up about how wife Ruth is coping with her recent family tragedy

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hey can often be found bickering with one another live on This Morning or teasing each other about their bad habits, but beneath their playful exterior Eamonn Holmes and Ruth Langsford’s relationship is rock solid.

Since Ruth’s sister tragically passed away in June, the couple have faced a challenging few months – but Eamonn admits, ‘We just have to get through,’ and praises his wife for being ‘absolutely incredible’ even in the face of adversity.

And while many of us start the new year on a strict diet plan, Eamonn – who turned 60 in December – and Ruth, 59, aren’t fans of doing anything that might make January ‘miserable’. Instead, Eamonn is all about focusing on ‘selfprogression’ and ‘self-development’ as he heads into a new decade…

How has Ruth coped?

Ruthie has been absolutely incredible, looking after her mother, tending to family things. She is absolutely incredible.

I couldn’t speak more highly of her. She just is an amazing woman, an absolutely amazing person. She throws herself into her work.

She still finds time, particularly for her mother, and her family and us and I just am in awe of her.

It’s fair to say that 2019 was a difficult year for you both...

There has been a lot of difficulty in both our lives over the past year. There have been a lot of issues affecting us personally, which we just have to get through. The family need our help and support at this time. Ruth’s life was turned completely upside down when she lost her sister in June. It was a sudden death.

It is still very raw. Very raw.

Will you and Ruth be embarking on any diets in the new year or a Dry January?

No. Ruth tried doing Dry January once and was miserable and has said, ‘Never again.’ And I don’t drink. We don’t go in for diets at this time of year. I’m all for making New Year’s resolutions and improving my life, so I’m happy to look at learning new skills and

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Ruth’s sister Julia died this year after a battle with depression

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self-progression and selfdevelopment. For instance, if you walk a bit more, then that has to be good for you. I think we should always be on our toes as to how we can make ourselves better people.

You turned 60 in December – does ageing phase you?

My dad died at the age of 64 and that hangs over us all. You sort of think, ‘Will history repeat itself?’ So I do have this maudlin apprehension about how long’s left.

Do you still enjoy working together?

Absolutely. We never know what is going to happen.

I don’t know what Ruth is going to say and she doesn’t know what I am going to say or how we will both react.

It is live TV and anything can happen.

Eamonn describes wife Ruth as ‘an amazing woman’

Do you watch any TV together?

Unfortunately, we watch very little together but that is down to Ruth as she says I ask too many questions during the shows we are watching! I think we would be very good for Gogglebox. She usually banishes me to the sitting room to watch what I want to watch, and she is in the living room. Our tastes are very different.

‘I think we would be very good for Gogglebox’

Will you be doing another series of How The Other Half Lives again?

It was lovely to do but it is a question of finding the time. A lot of things got shelved when Ruth’s sister died and she had to take time off.

Tell us about the podcast and how it is going?

Really well. I am doing what I love, which is doing conversational-style interviewing, with some top names from the world of football, in a pub setting.

Do you both enjoy socialising in pubs?

We do. We live in Surrey and do go out for Sunday lunch, but I let Ruth make the decision as to where.

● Eamonn Holmes’ podcast, A Pint with Eamonn and the Gaffers, in association with Heineken, proud supporters of the great British pub, is available now.

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What about cosmetic surgery – do you think you would ever have anything done?

What would be the point? I think if you have a problem that can be fixed, then fine. A lot of TV presenters do go in for it and good on them. But I am not really sure what I would need done. I don’t have many wrinkles, and I am not wrinkle obsessed in any case.

I know Ruth is petrified of needles, knives and things going wrong and she doesn’t like pain, so she is not big into it and, for the same reasons, I am not into it either.

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Teen sweethearts

to bitter enemies As Ant McPartlin and Lisa Armstrong’s divorce battle rages on, where did it all go wrong for the power couple?

The ‘most amazing’ beginning Ant McPartlin was just 18 when he met Lisa Armstrong, then 17, at a pop concert in Newcastle in 1994, where they were both performing – she in pop band Deuce and he with best friend Declan Donnelly as PJ and Duncan.

Ant previously described the meeting as ‘the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to me,’ while Lisa said his handsome

looks left her feeling ‘gooey’.

It wasn’t until 11 years into their romance, in April 2005, that Ant popped the question. They tied the knot in a fairy-tale ceremony in Buckinghamshire the following year, with Dec as best man.

Ant once called it the ‘happiest day of his life’ and gushed that Lisa looked ‘absolutely stunning’ as she walked down the aisle.

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The couple married in 2006

Ant and Dec present I’m A Celebrity…

Lisa does the make-up on Strictly

Whenever Ant was in Australia presenting I’m A Celebrity… Lisa would be working as a make-up artist on Strictly – and because both shows run over November and December, it meant she couldn’t accompany Ant to Oz, so they wouldn’t see each other for a couple of months every year.

A source has said, ‘This put a strain on their relationship.’

The couple also reportedly started sleeping in separate bedrooms due to Ant’s insomnia and Lisa’s snoring.

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‘Her marriage meant everything to her’ Dating Lisa’s pal

As well as the strain their clashing It was during this period that schedules were causing, Ant and Lisa the real issues between the couple were struggling to start a family. surfaced and Ant’s drinking habits In 2013, Ant revealed, ‘Lisa and I caused further divides. would love to have kids. We’re A source said, ‘Ant asked Lisa trying. It’s tougher than you think to support him and stay with him when you get a bit older.’ during numerous painful times – and A source added, ‘Ant was she did, hoping it would get better. always incredibly protective of Lisa, ‘For years, she took his mood especially as it became clear swings and tried to support they were struggling to him through his addiction conceive. While she but it was tough and said their private they’d end up having heartache arguments into the deepened their early hours. bond and brought ‘But after every fall them closer, for out she’d be ready to Ant it was just make up and move more heartache forward. Ant and her and unhappiness.’ marriage meant In 2015, formerly everything to her.’ squeaky-clean Ant got Ant has had his troubles hooked on prescription drugs after botched knee surgery, sparking an addiction that lasted two years and Ant being warned Ant and Lisa’s marriage troubles came by doctors that he could’ve killed himself. to a head in January 2018 when they split.

At the time, Ant admitted he’d put Lisa Then, just months later, Ant was hit with ‘through hell with mood swings and a 20-month driving ban and £86,000 fine depression’ but said she’d coped for drink-driving after his Mini hit two ‘amazingly… and had been very cars in south-west London. supportive’ during his time in rehab.

He took a break from work and returned to rehab, with Holly Willoughby stepping in to front I’m A CelebrityÉ with Dec.

and ‘she knew a lot of the issues in the marriage’.

In June 2018, just five months For this reason, Lisa believes after his split from Lisa, Ant was revealed to be dating his personal Anne-Marie ‘knew what Ant would now want’, and with assistant – and Lisa’s former Anne-Marie having been out friend – Anne-Marie Corbett. in Australia with him for I’m A furious Lisa immediately A Celebrity… they added, ‘It must took to Twitter, fuming, ‘Yeah be so hard for Lisa to see her My Friend and OUR PA who flying out to stay in a five-star I let into OUR home.’ hotel with Ant when she was A source added that Lisa ‘confided a fair bit in Anne-Marie’, never able to do so.’

Ant is now living with former PA Anne-Marie

Drinking and rowing

The car crash

The toxic divorce battle Since getting together, Ant and Anne-Marie have moved into a £6 million London house, and there are even rumours Ant will propose.

Meanwhile, Lisa’s still living in the former marital home in Chiswick, west London – also worth £6 million – but has refused to let Ant back in since he left rehab. She’s also reportedly refusing to sign a non-disclosure agreement as the couple rack up £1.5 million in legal bills trying to agree a divorce settlement and custody of their beloved dog Hurley.

One of Lisa’s pals added, ‘Lisa just wants the truth exposed – she wants everyone to see who he really is and what she stood by so he’s not seen Lisa won’t as Saint Ant anymore.’ be silenced

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‘If you get a good script, you have to have it’ Why David Tennant is kicking off the new year by tapping into his dark side…

You must be minted – you’re the hardest working man in showbiz!

I’m very cheap. I’ll turn up for anything. Seriously, though, it’s all about the writers. There’s so much good writing about. If you get a good script, you sniff it and think, ‘Nobody else is having that!’ Just like Deadwater Fell. It’s the hardest show to talk about because anything I say unpicks the plot.

It’s a cracking yarn… so what CAN you tell us?

think you know what’s going on, but with every turn you realise the people in this small town aren’t who you think they are.

‘I’ve never been above stairs’

It’s the fictional town of Kildarrock and I play the local GP, a very happy family man with a beautiful wife and three children. There’s this terrible house fire and the family is wiped out apart from Tom, who survives by the skin of his teeth. Together with friends, he tries to work out what happened. Was it an accident or something more sinister?

It was sort of by accident. I love listening to podcasts. It was a side project that kind of ballooned. I’m not a journalist, so I did it just to see what happens when someone does it who doesn’t know what they are talking about!

It grips you from the start…

NEW FRIENDS If she could, Clemmie would campaign for world peace. As it is, she’s left it to former Miss World Vanessa Ponce from Mexico.

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You’re now doing your own podcast… how did that come about?

From the beginning you’re plunged into the lives of these characters and you David as Tom in Deadwater Fell

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He’s not called The Rock for nothing

Hollywood stars Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson and Kevin Hart were in town plugging their latest flick, Jumanji: The Next Level – and I’ve never had a cooler reception. Nothing to do with the lads, who were hilarious. Dwayne loves the room to be icy cold, so cracked a window as he cracked the gags. It was B

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You’ve had great guests, including Olivia Colman. There has to be a part for you in The Crown…

Who would I be? Some scrawny Scottish peasant! I’ve never been above stairs.

Your success in Doctor Who was huge – how did you cope?

It’s a shock because you don’t really know what to do until it happens to you. You do feel very exposed all of a sudden. It’s a wonderful privilege to be in people’s living rooms, but you have to manage your own sense of self within that.

What’s on your bucket list?

Just finding the next challenging thing. The freelance life is a difficult one to feel satisfied about. You’re only as good as the last thing you did. I don’t think you ever think, ‘I’ve arrived, I’ll be OK now.’ You’re always imagining it will end. ● Deadwater Fell, C4

Maybe we should all try an I’m a Celeb detox

gs Martin Kemp and wife Shirlie couldn’t be more thrilled with son Roman Kemp after his turn on I’m a Celeb. He’s come back a new man.

‘I’ve never seen his skin look so good,’ Shirlie tells me.

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YOU CAN B E H E RO E S ne who has pledged time for GMB’s One Million Minutes campaign to end loneliness.

Our D-Day veteran Cyril had a ball at the annual Not Forgotten charity bash at St James’s Palace. He even invitedpatronHRHPrincess Anne to his 95th birthday do make reply!

Me with Cyril and (left) with Princess Anne

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FELL OUT backstage’ Cheryl tells us that the Strictly pro ‘plays dirty’ on The Greatest Dancer

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fter filming wrapped on the first series of The Greatest Dancer last year, Strictly Come Dancing professional Oti Mabuse confessed she and her fellow judge Cheryl ‘hadn’t really kept in touch’, adding fuel to the rumours of a feud between the two women. And with Simon Cowell’s BBC dance competition returning to our screens in January, former X Factor judge Cheryl, 36, has admitted things got heated between her and Oti, 29, while filming the second series. Oti and Cheryl are two of the four judges on the show, hosted by Alesha Dixon and Diversity star Jordan Banjo, with Glee star Matthew Morrison and new judge Todrick Hall completing the line-up. Todrick – who has choreographed for the likes of Beyoncé and Taylor Swift – isn’t the only thing that’s new about the upcoming series: at the end of each day of auditions, one judge, chosen at random, gets to choose their Greatest Dancer of the Day. Here, Cheryl dishes the dirt on what went on behind the scenes.

Hi Cheryl, what was it like having Todrick sitting next to you on this year’s series?

Hilarious! It was like having the front row seat to his show all day. There were so many jokes that the producers couldn’t fit them into the one-hour show. But I think I belly-laughed the whole way through.

Cheryl loves the new series Cheryl with fellow panellist Oti

You’re a talent show success story yourself, having won Popstars: The Rivals with Girls Aloud in 2002. Were you able to bring that experience to your dancers and help them with the rejection?

One of the beautiful things about this show is no one feels rejected. It’s definitely a different process to the one I went through. Dancers are already competing in the dance world not on TV, so they know the drill. They know there’s only one winner.

The real dance world is brutal – this is gentle in comparison.

Did you do deals with each other when it came to who you wanted on your team?

There were some rows. Matthew was very sure of himself this year, and Oti tries to hide people so you forget about them. Then you choose yours, and she’s like, ‘Oh, I’m having this person!’ She’s a dirty player. I was just honest, saying, ‘I want him, I want her, don’t touch them.’

‘I can’t deal with emotional big-up talks’

The Greatest Dancer of the Day has been added this year. How did you find making that decision?

Judges Oti, Matthew, When my name came up, I didn’t Cheryl and Todrick know who to pick. But when I was looking at them all standing there, I knew who I wanted. There were some great ones to choose from, but the ones I chose just gave me something more. It was instinct.

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How did the other judges find it?

Oti went into full meltdown!

Do you have any rituals before you do a live show?

I just like silence. I can’t deal with any emotional, big-up talks. I like to just zone out.

Finally, what makes The Greatest Dancer different to Strictly?

Strictly is Latin and Ballroom and our show has a lot of variety – there are little kids and then a 98-year-old. I just feel warm when I watch it back. It’s a feel-good family show and there’s something for everyone. ● The Greatest Dancer is on BBC1, Saturday, 4 January

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Don’t set yourself up to fail

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oes anyone know who invented New Year’s Are New Year’s resolutions? The only resolutions bad for us? thing I’m certain about is that they were a sadist who quite clearly loathed everyone. too tricky to navigate. Plus, if you do give Because what on earth is the thought into temptation, it’s fine because it’s still process behind making the coldest, ‘party season’. But as the month draws darkest, poorest, frumpiest, dumpiest on, the pressure to be a 2020 saint rather month of the year the right time to make than sinner mounts up. yourself even more miserable?

Dry January is only designed to make Day one when you’re hungover and you go booze bonkers come February. stuffed from New Year’s Eve revelries isn’t Who decided it was all or nothing? Why not just cut down and still enjoy that occasional glass of vino?

Likewise, giving up chocolate/cake/ bread/meat or whatever other foodstuff you feel browbeaten into quitting. A slice of toast is not going to kill you. A little of what you fancy really does do you good.

‘Who decided the coldest, darkest, poorest month was the time to be more miserable?’

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Some pet food man vegan have now introduced dogs. products for cats and ho are These are creatures w d that’s natural carnivores an d since seen them in good stea n the dawn of time. We ca , they choose to live off tofu mad can’t. And it’s barking to think otherwise.

Just throw the dog a bone!

Beating yourself up over ‘giving in’ to temptation is just creating guilt and anxiety. Taken to their extremes you can end up with fullblown mental health issues with food, alcohol and even exercise.

Because it’s not just giving up that these resolutions encourage, is it? It’s also taking up something virtuous, like aiming to run a full marathon by March or speak three oriental languages come Valentine’s Day. Improvement is good, for sure, but making stuff that should be fun into a punishment is just setting yourself up to fail. Go for a walk or jog in the fresh air because you want to. Not because of some skinny reality TV star who’s probably had a shed load of liposuction and is now trying to flog their new fitness DVD. All this new year, new you stuff implies there’s something wrong with the old you.

And is there really? Or are you just piling guilt on guilt for being a normal, fallible woman? Life is for living and there’s no better time than January to count your blessings and enjoy all the positives you already have in your life.

Happy New Year to all!

Brain freeze

A gadget that zaps the brain with a tiny electrical current could make periods less age to cover painful for millions up,’ she of women. The posh declared. ‘I still name for it is anodal love spectacular, transcranial direct athletic sex.’ current stimulation.

Go girl! Life Or you could just experience try gin. and a naughty

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as about to return the usual red, slightly scratchy ‘Mrs Christmas’ undies (thanks again, darling) when I saw those amazing photos of Vanessa Feltz.

The 57-year-old radio and TV broadcaster posed for a stunning set of sexy lingerie shots looking hotter than ever to show older women are Vanessa’s naughty still sensual beings. twinkle keeps her young ‘How dare they expect women of my

twinkle will always be more of a turn on than a bimbo with fake boobs and an empty head. Vanessa has a brain the size of a planet, a great sense of humour and a brilliant career. She’s also a granny. So maybe I’ll keep that sexy Santa set after all.

What’s your opinion?

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The baby I lost

HAUNTED ME

Stacey Dukes, 31, was excited to be a mum, until dark thoughts crept in

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ettling onto the sofa with a cup of tea, I smiled, thinking I’d have a few minutes to myself while my nine-week old daughter, Ava, was asleep in her bassinet beside me.

Yet as I flicked on the TV, the shrill sound of a baby crying made me sit bolt upright. ‘It’s OK, sweetheart,’ I cooed, leaning over to comfort Ava, only she was sound asleep.

I could still hear wailing, though, and it sounded right next to me. ‘Who is that?’

I asked the disembodied cries, but no sooner had I said it, I knew the answer.

‘It’s the baby I lost,’ I thought, flooded with painful memories of the miscarriage I’d had nine years earlier in 2007.

I knew that was a crazy notion, but couldn’t stop panicked tears overwhelming me and as I gasped for air between sobs, I accidentally woke Ava. Cuddling her helped calm me, and as I got my breath back, I told myself I was just overtired and turned the TV up to drown out the phantom cries and my fears that something was very wrong.

I’d always wanted to be a mum, so when I fell pregnant at 19, I was more excited than nervous. But a miscarriage at

Stacey was heartbroken after her miscarriage

eight weeks left me heartbroken, and while my job as a student children’s nurse provided a distraction, the pain of what I’d lost never faded. Sometimes, seeing a pregnant woman or newborn would fill me with a profound sadness.

When I met Sean, 25, online in October 2015, I told him how I ached for a baby, so even though it was fast, we started trying, and by March 2016 I was pregnant. ‘It’s the best news,’ he laughed as we shed happy tears.

I moved into Sean’s house in Manchester and at my 16-week scan found out we were expecting a girl. As my bump grew, I’d sometimes feel anxious something would go wrong again, and felt low at times – but I blamed the hormones.

On 20 November 2016, Ava was born, and Sean and I couldn’t have loved her more. Only, as we settled in at home, the reality of being new parents hit and we

‘I turned up the TV to drown out the phantom cries’

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muddled through nappies and night feeds. Sean was brilliant, instinctively knowing when Ava was hungry or needed a nap, but I found it difficult and was upset I didn’t share the same bond.

Out of control After two weeks’ paternity leave, Sean went back to work as an audiology practitioner for the NHS and, all alone with Ava, I felt overwhelmed. I became protective to the point that paranoia crept in. I became obsessed with the idea she’d be kidnapped, until I rarely left the house.

She found it difficult to bond with baby Ava

With partner Sean and baby Ava

Real life SHOCK READ nurses cared for Ava while I was given a sedative and soon drifted off for my first night’s sleep in three months.

After that, Ava stayed with me but under constant supervision, while Sean visited every day. I was given medication, daily group therapy and went to the sensory room with Ava, who loved gazing at the lights and colours. I still heard the other baby’s cries sometimes, but they were fading, and knowing they were all in my head helped me tune them out.

Truly happy

At night, every few minutes, I’d shuffle to the bottom of our bed and peer into Ava’s cot to check she was breathing.

‘She’s fine, love, go back to sleep,’ Sean would say, thinking I was just being an anxious new mum, but I’d lie awake in fear, too scared to say what I was feeling out loud.

Then at nine weeks, those phantom cries started and I became convinced it was the baby I’d lost. I started hearing the desperate wails whenever I was alone with Ava, crying out for me, and I badly wanted to comfort, feed and soothe the baby, like I could Ava. One morning, as I was nursing Ava, the phantom cries sounded more distressed than ever. ‘I should kill myself,’ I thought suddenly – it was the only way I could be with my baby. Then I looked at Ava gurgling away and felt awash with guilt – I couldn’t leave her. ‘They both need me,’ I thought, feeling torn. The suicidal thoughts thrust me into a constant state of panic and I felt out of control.

‘How are my girls doing?’ Sean would

say when he arrived home from work, and I’d plaster a smile on my face. ‘Great,’ I’d beam, masking the battle going on inside my mind.

One evening. when Ava was 12 weeks, we were watching TV while Ava slept upstairs, when the shrill wail began. ‘Can you hear crying?’ I asked Sean. ‘Not Ava – another baby?’

‘Are you alright?’ Sean frowned. I broke down, confessing everything. Sean immediately rang the doctor, who suggested we go straight to a specialist mother-and-baby psychiatric unit at Wythenshawe Hospital. There, I was assessed by a psychiatrist – I admitted I’d been seriously thinking about suicide to be with my dead baby.

She believed I was suffering psychotic postnatal depression and asked if I’d like to be admitted – with Ava, too, as I was breastfeeding. ‘Yes,’ I nodded, and although I’d left my job before Ava’s birth, I’d been working as a mental-health nurse, so I knew I needed help. That night,

‘Suicidal thoughts thrust me into a state of panic’

Two weeks later, I was allowed to take Ava to a cafe in the hospital grounds, alone – and for that hour, I felt like a normal mum.

Then, that evening, as I made Ava laugh playing peekaboo, I felt truly happy.

It was 10 weeks before I was well enough to go home – and, even then, Sean’s mum would pop round while he was at work because I was so nervous.

I soon settled into a daily routine of feeds and naps, though, and in April, we took Ava to the zoo. ‘Like a normal family,’ I smiled to Sean as we watched her laughing at the monkeys.

It’s hard not to feel guilty for putting Ava through all that – Sean too – but I’m working hard on my mental health, for them. I’m now living with bipolar disorder, have been prescribed medication and won’t be scared to seek more help if I need it. Having a baby sparks masses of emotions, but I want other mums to know that they don’t have to be afraid to speak up if they’re struggling or experiencing feelings that don’t seem usual.

Ava is three now and a little chatterbox who loves to sing, watch Peppa Pig and read animal stories. When I look at her, I shudder to think how differently it could’ve turned out if I’d not accepted help – but thanks to a lot of support, I’m the mum I’ve always dreamed I would be. ● Phantom Cries by Stacey Dukes (£8, Amazon ebook) is available now Stacey hopes other struggling mums will speak up, too

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Who wore Which celebrity nailed the latest look?

Duchess of Sussex, 38 A colourful coat doesn’t need to be blinding and Meghan’s navy cover-up looks just as cosy as it does stylish. The slouch boots are very on trend too, but we’d ditch the fancy hat for the Tesco run!

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Katie Holmes, 41

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Rust orange is a hot colour trend right now and Katie wears it well, teaming her satin slip dress with a classic trench in a similar shade.

Davina McCall, 52 Fitness queen Davina could stop traffic in this chic red ensemble. Her black boots pull the whole look together and her statement bag adds extra interest.

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update your look without breaking the bank – wear with your chunky winter knits to reclaim your shape.

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FLORAL SKIRTS The gentle A-line shape skims over hips while the ruffle hem will slim calves. This sweet skirt will be perfect with a knit and coat now, then swap in a T-shirt when spring hits.

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If you’re top heavy, opt for a pattered skirt to balance your frame. The high waist will pull you in at the middle, too.

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A bright knit will draw attention away from wider hips – it’s also the perfect way to add some fun into your winter wardrobe!

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Your beauty resolutions

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Banish those niggling beauty woes for good – here’s how to get your best skin yet

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Depending on wh d to seek the persistent they are, you might nee them help of a dermatologist to really get under control. Start by asking your GP or visiting a private clinic. In the meantime, stock up on BHA (that’s beta-hydroxy acid) salicylic acid. Oil-soluble, it penetrates deep into pores, unclogging them and stopping them from becoming blocked.

The Inkey List Salicylic Acid k, is Cleanser, £10.99, cultbeauty.co.u ne is brilliant. Leaving your zits well alo ing important too, picking and squeez mean will not only lead to scarring, but ia. you’re more likely to spread bacter Spot patches are great for shielding well blemishes from prying fingers, as a Spot as treating them. Try Zitsticka Kill or Clarifying Patch Kit, £26.99, Boots £7, Yes to Tomatoes Zit Zapping Dots, er chi Sainsbury’s. Finally, if it’s a pun treatment you’re after with no time to visit the GP, dermatica.co.uk provides online consultations to prescribe clinically-proven acne medication such as tretinoin.

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This is the year I… TACKLE MY ROSACEA

Often misdiagnosed as acne, dermatologist Dr Ariel Haus explains that getting to the root of rosacea can be tricky.

‘Rosacea is a complicated and chronic condition,’ he says. ‘There are different types and it can be triggered or aggravated by lots of different factors.’ As a starting point, try to recognise what irritates your rosacea – it could be anything from spicy food, alcohol, exercise, even overly astringent cleansers – and then try to cut back. Some changes are easier than others. Our beauty editor, Fiona, found that washing her face with lukewarm instead of hot water dialled down her post-cleanse flush. While you identify your triggers, strip your skincare back to basics to make sure you’re not using anything that’s likely to cause irritation.

French pharmacy favourites, like La Roche Posay Toleriane DermoCleanser, £12.50, Boots and Avène Hydrance Aqua Gel, £20, Boots, focus on soothing and nourishing skin. While Institut Esthederm Cellular Water Mist, £18, feelunique.com, helps defend skin against redness-causing external aggressors.

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This is the year I… IN KENhsSK SMOOTH OndUonTtheMbacYksCofHyouIC r arms, thig or Most commonly fou en skin’ is caused by cheeks, keratosis pilaris or ‘chick there’s no reason why blocked hair follicles. Frustratingly, r another. Like most skin one person would develop it ove h conditions, it isn’t ‘curable’ but wit bumps at maintenance, you can keep those bay. Best used every day, Ameliorate Intensive Skin Therapy, £15, is formulated with lactic acid to unclog your pores, reducing the bumps and leaving skin silk y smooth.

Keeping skin nourished and hydrated will help too – Bioderma UltraNourishing Anti-Irritation Shower Oil, £8.80, Boots, is nice and gentle.

This is the year I… FIX MY DRY SKIN Diff

Caused by the over-production of melanin (the natural pigment that gives your skin and hair its colour), pigmentation can be triggered by a myriad of factors, from hormones to acne – as well as sun damage.

‘When it comes to improving pigmentation, you’ll see results gradually, so regular weekly exfoliation is key,’ explains celebrity facialist Emma Brown. ‘It’s also worth noting that over exfoliating can actually worsen pigmentation, so be careful not to overdo it, once weekly is enough to begin with.’ Time Bomb Overnight Peel + Reveal, £42, lookfantastic.com, is a two-step treatment that’s easy to incorporate into your routine. Using an SPF is non-negotiable, 365-days a year, if you’re using acids or want to stop new dark spots from forming or worsening. Eucerin Pigment Control Sun Fluid SPF50+, £16.99, is fast-absorbing and comfy enough to wear underneath your make-up.

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This is the year I… SHIFT MY PIGMENTATION

erent to dehydrated skin, which is lacking in water (often caused by centra l heating or cold weather) and a temporary con dition, dry skin is a skin type, where the skin naturally has fewer oil-producing glands.

Dry skin sufferers will often notice itchy, flaking skin that persists all year round.

A body oil like Palmer’s Cocoa Bu tter Formula Moisturising Body Oil, £5.39, Superdrug, will help to replenish the oil your skin is lacking, and soothe and smooth your skin. But while adding moistu re is one thing, keeping it there is another.

Eucerin Dry Skin Intensive Lotion with 10% Urea, £13.50, Boots, uses ceramides to support and repair the skin’s natural barrier function to prevent further moisture loss.

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Mandy (right) who died in 2014, pictured with her daughter Chelsea

Mum and dad, Gill and John, holding (from left) Mandy, Yvonne and Jane

It felt like my family was CUR

Natalie Cribb, 45, has lost more than most, but won’t let grief hold her back

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aking my last exhausted step across the finish line, I punched my fists in the air and looked around for my family and friends who were there to support me.

Then, with my February 2019 Brighton half-marathon medal around my neck, we went to find a nearby pub. Only, while I felt elated sipping my gin and tonic, my heart also felt heavy. There were three important people missing – my sisters, Yvonne, Jane and Mandy. We should’ve all been together, popping champagne, celebrating Jane’s 50th, too, instead, my family were raising a glass to them and fundraising in their memory.

When I was born in 1974, Yvonne was seven, Jane, five, and Mandy, just three.

And when our little sister, Becky, arrived eight years later, the five of us became affectionately known as the ‘Cribb girls’.

Our house in Newhaven was right next to the fire station, where our dad John worked, and while Yvonne had the box room, the rest of us shared – meaning it could get a bit lively at times.

Jane would get cross when Mandy borrowed her clothes, and the bathroom rota was a nightmare. But we were a tribe, with Yvonne acting like our second mum, helping our mother, Gill, wash, feed and

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keep us in line. Jane was the quiet but fiery one, who always sent the Monopoly board flying when she was losing, Mandy was the protector, always the first to stand up to playground bullies, while I sat quietly in the background, and we all doted on Becky, the baby of the family.

It was a happy place, with friends regularly piling through the door and tucking into Mum’s homemade dinners.

Support network

demanding Account Director job and trying to keep life as normal as possible for Leon, then three. The following year, Yvonne was told she was cancer-free and we thought she was through the worst.

Only, in summer 2010, she called me.

‘The cancer’s back,’ she said, and my heart sank. After suffering back pain, Yvonne had collapsed and tests had revealed three tumours pressing on her spinal cord. This time it was stage four, and terminal. ‘At least I won’t have any wrinkles in my coffin,’ she joked, trying to be brave, but Leon was only seven at the time, and we were devastated.

Yvonne started chemo to extend the time she had left, and Jane and I took turns ferrying her to the Oncology ward, where she became well known for her wildly inappropriate sense of humour.

But in May 2011, tragedy struck elsewhere, as Jane’s daughter, Megan collapsed at the local rugby club.

Jane and I raced to Eastbourne District General Hospital, where Yvonne met us, but Megan had passed away from heart complications, just nine days before her 18th birthday. Jane channelled her grief

‘We were always there for one another’

We’d soon all grown up and started becoming mums ourselves, but were always there for each other, through the good and the bad, like when Jane’s oldest, Megan, was born in 1993 with a heart condition, or in February 1999, when Mandy’s 15-month-old, Kaycee, died suddenly after contracting a virus.

Mandy struggled to cope with the terrible grief, so her eldest, Chelsea, then nine, came to live with me.

Then in 2007, Yvonne found a peasized lump in her right breast and was diagnosed with cancer. As she underwent chemotherapy and radiotherapy, she battled through, refusing to quit her

From the HEART In happier times (from left): Natalie, Jane and Yvonne

Natalie (left) with her older sister, Jane, who died in 2017 Yvonne, who died in 2013

RSED into setting up a charity offering support to families who’d lost a child, and named it You Raise Me Up after a Westlife song – Megan had always loved the band.

A year on, Jane was still battling grief when she took my hand one afternoon while we sat in her garden. ‘Feel this,’ she said, and as I did, I gasped – it was a lump the size of an orange on her left breast.

I urged her to get it checked, but she was also diagnosed with breast cancer. Tests showed it wasn’t genetic, just cruel luck.

Shared experience

spoilt one who didn’t have to lift a finger while she helped Mum in the kitchen.

Consumed by grief They’d both lost a child, but while Jane focused her grief into something positive, Mandy’s tore her apart, and she never recovered, drifting in and out of our lives as she dated the wrong men and struggled with drug issues.

Then, in November 2014, I received an urgent message from Jane. ‘It’s Mandy’ she wrote. Mandy had been admitted to hospital with pneumonia, where she’d died, aged 43. Heartbroken doesn’t even come close to how I felt, thinking about my beautiful, kind sister who’d never been able to beat her demons.

Within 18 months, our tribe of five had become three, yet just as we accepted life as a trio, Jane’s cancer returned, this time in her lungs, liver and breastbone. All the tragedy had chipped away at Mum and

Yvonne and Jane bonded over their shared experiences, but while Yvonne wore a headscarf, unhappy about losing her hair, Jane didn’t seem to care about that, displaying her bald head with pride.

After chemo, Jane had surgery, and in April 2013, was officially in remission.

But there was no celebration, because Yvonne was deteriorating at speed, and that same month was moved to a hospice. Two weeks later, she took her last breath, aged just 45.

As five sisters became four, the hole left by Yvonne’s absence was felt by us all.

Family parties felt soulless without her bossing us around, sarcastically Jane’s daughter, ribbing me for being the

Megan, died when she was 17 years old

Natalie (left) with her younger sister, Becky

Dad, and Jane couldn’t face causing them more pain by telling them her cancer was terminal, so I broke the news for her.

Despite aggressive treatment to manage the cancer, Jane battled on, even when it spread to her brain. We spent as much time together as we could, but after a fall in December 2017 put Jane in hospital, she knew it was the end.

‘I’ve had enough. No more treatment,’ she told her son Oliver, then 22. Four days later, Jane passed away and was buried next to Megan in the local cemetery.

It felt so unfair, but I poured my energy into Jane’s charity. I crossed that finish line in Brighton in Jane’s honour, and I’ve since run a half marathon for Yvonne, Mandy and my lost nieces, too, raising more than £3,000 for You Raise Me Up. Mandy’s eldest, Chelsea, 29, who lived with us until she was 18 years old, is like a sister to my teenagers, Evan, 19, and Ruby, 15, and has two children of her own now, who call me Nanny Nat Nat. I often talk with Mum and Dad about Yvonne, Jane and Mandy, and we take great pleasure watching their children grow up, knowing how proud they’d be.

At times, it’s felt like my family is cursed, but mostly I feel blessed to have had so many strong, wonderful women in my life. ● Visit youraisemeup.co.uk for support and advice if you’ve lost a loved one

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Askthe DOCTOR

Why has my cholesterol gone up?

Doctor Dawn Harper answers all your questions...

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A recent health check has shown that my cholesterol is high and that I need to make an appointment to see my doctor to discuss starting statins. I really don’t understand – I became vegan a couple of years ago and eat so healthily. Should I ask to repeat the test?

Actually, only about 10-20% of our cholesterol comes from our diet. The rest is made by our bodies, so it is perfectly possible to eat healthily and have a high cholesterol, or have a high fat diet and have a low cholesterol. So, I’m afraid, you should see your GP and discuss statins.

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It feels like I’m eating metal

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I had antibiotics for a chest infection and while I was on them, I noticed that my food tasted metallic. I assumed that it was a side effect, but I have been off them for over a week and food still tastes metallic and now my tongue looks white and furry. Is there anything that I can do?

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You may have oral thrush. This is a fungal infection, which can occur after taking antibiotics. Our mouths are teeming with bacteria and fungi living in balance.

Antibiotics are good at getting rid of bad bacteria but can also affect the good bacteria, allowing the fungi to thrive. Speak to your GP who will be able to give you some antifungal drops to help you.

TO ASK? IS IT CANCER?

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The most likely explanation is that you have a urethral caruncle, which is a benign lump that can occur in post-menopausal women. If so, your GP may suggest oestrogen cream.

Cancer of the vulva is not common, but any new lump

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I’m a semi-professional singer and have noticed in recent weeks that I can’t reach higher notes any more and that my speaking voice is slightly husky. Could I be developing vocal cord nodules? My mum had nodules removed many years ago and never got her singing voice back again.

You may well be developing nodules. Try to rest your voice and avoid irritants such as smoke. You should also stay well hydrated and use steam inhalations. Your GP may also recommend an assessmen with a speech therapist.

Some nodules will heal without the need for an operation, but the good news is that surgical techniques have really improved in recent years and the outlook following surgery is much better.

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Afraid

I’VE FOUND A LUMP DOWN THERE. MY NETHER REGIONS HAVE FELT SORE FOR A WHILE, SO I DECIDED TO HAVE A LOOK WITH A MIRROR. THERE IS A RED LUMP NEAR MY CLITORIS. COULD THIS BE CANCER? I’M TERRIFIED.

My voice is changing

should always be checked out and remember, the sooner cancer is diagnosed, the better the outlook, so please see your GP. Hopefully they will be able to put your mind at rest.

Contact Dr Dawn Send your questions to drdawn@ti-media.com Follow her on Twitter @DrDawnHarper or drdawn.com

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A problem shared

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Mum-of-two Anita Naik has been an agony aunt for 25 years.

My friend is depressed Q

My best friend has been going through a hard time and is sad. She’s lost weight, can’t sleep or eat and is always tearful. I know she has money worries, but she also lost her mum this year. I want to help but am scared I will say the wrong thing as I think she’s depressed. What do I do? She’s 47, and her kids are grown, so I’m all the support she has.

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The best way to help your friend is to make sure she knows you want to support her.

The next time you see her say, ‘What can I do to help right now?’ If she says she doesn’t know, then tell her you’ve noticed she’s down and add, ‘Would you like to see someone as I can come with you?’ If she turns this down, don’t push her, instead make sure she knows who she can go to for help. Talking therapy is available on the NHS via her GP, or contact the Mind Info Line 0300 123 3393 who can give you details of help and support in her area.

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My fiancé won’t stop cheating

He sent naked pictures

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I don’t know what’s wrong with my son. He is 23 and has sent naked pictures of himself to a girl that he’s been seeing (she asked him to send them). Her mum told me, and I am so disgusted.

I don’t know how to deal with it.

Is he breaking the law?

Lisa, 53

I’ve been with my fiancé for eight years. Throughout this time he has cheated on me, a lot, once for 10 months, but mostly on one-night stands. It hurts so much when I find out he’s done it again, but I stay because I know he loves me and wants to marry me. I want to help, but where do I start?

Claire, 40 People cheat for all kinds of reasons. Some like the thrill, others want the best of both worlds, but many do it just because they can. Whatever your partner’s reason, it sounds like he has no intention of changing!

Instead of asking why he does it, ask yourself why you stay? This is not a loving relationship, he’s constantly betraying and hurting you. You need to start helping yourself before you waste another eight years.

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Contact Anita Send your questions to askanita@ti-media.com, follow her on Twitter @AnitaNaik, or go to anitanaik.com

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The best way to help is to let her know you're there

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of men hav sent some e a naked pione themselvec of s*

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Sexting (when someone sends or receives a sexual text, image or video) that occurs consensually between two adults is not breaking any laws.

However, it’s never advisable to send naked selfies to anyone, as who knows where they will end up.

Talk to your son but remember your son and his girlfriend are adults, so it’s between them.

3 ways to be... emotionally healthy 1 2 EXPRESS YOURSELF CLEARLY. Let people close to you know when something is bothering you.

Keeping your feelings hidden adds to stress and anxiety.

DOWNLOAD THE MOOD METER APP to help you identify your emotions and improve emotional vocabulary. Discover what causes you to feel the way you do and see patterns over time.

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NOTICE YOUR EMOTIONS AND REACTIONS. Note what in your life makes you sad, frustrated, or angry.

Try to address or change those things.

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1 Check your finances

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‘Consistently overspending, taking out multiple store cards, juggling a raft of credit cards and running up significant debts are all a real concern and could be having an impact on your levels of stress as well as your overall health.’

66%

Could you have a spending problem?

2 Watch for generosity

‘Do you lavish your children or partner with extravagant gifts? Do you feel the need to reward yourself and others with presents? You might be hiding your emotions through shopping.’

3 Are you a hoarder?

‘If you often buy excessive amounts of things you really don’t need or are going to extreme lengths to conceal items and hide your credit card bill, then you may have a problem and should see your GP.’

of Brits smell meat to check if it’s still edible, despite bacteria not having a smell.**

Have you heard about?

An invasion of fleas Your central heating could increase a flea outbreak in your home if you have a dog or cat, which hasn’t been properly treated, says itchpet.com.

It worked for me

Sunny Skorik, 43, from London ‘At 17, I developed urticaria, which left me with redness under my eyes and on my face and cheeks, as well as flaky, itchy skin. I tried everything but nothing worked until I found Enterosgel (£12.80, Boots). It’s a clinically proven oral intestinal adsorbent, which I now take regularly.

Since then, I haven’t experienced any more reactions. I also have IBS, but with Enterosgel I don’t have tummy cramps, even if I eat bread.’

food fight

Swap this

Your usual fishcakes

For this Linda McCartney’s Vegetarian Fishcakes (RRP £2, Sainsbury’s).

WHY? Fish-free, these are high in protein so you’ll feel fuller for longer.

Buy of the week Starting the new year with a fitness regime? Make sure you choose the right trainers. Saucony’s Liberty ISO 2 (£140, saucony.com/uk) may be an investment buy, but they’re supportive for everyday use, plus are ideal for walking, jogging or Zumba – so one shoe fits all.

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Why can’t

I lose weight?

Want to shape up, but the pounds just won’t shift?

It could be down to something simple…

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hink it’s trickier now to stay slim than it was in your 20s? Sadly, you’re right. But the good news is you can still turn things around if you discover what’s derailing your diet. ‘Yes, it’s harder to lose weight after 50,’ says nutritionist Dr Marilyn Glenville (glenvillenutrition.com), author of Natural Alternatives To Dieting (£9.77, amazon.co.uk).

‘As we get older, we naturally lose muscle, which makes it harder to burn fat – and this also causes our metabolism to slow down.’

So, with staying at a healthy weight essential for lowering your risk of arthritis, heart disease and diabetes, take our quiz to find out what’s secretly stopping you from slimming.

B I need coffee straight after I wake up, then I eat something later C I grab something while I’m out and about D I never eat breakfast

The Quiz

Q3 How often do you exercise?

Q1 How well do you sleep?

A As regularly as I can B I don’t go to a gym, Swimming is a great but I’m always rushing source of exercise around anyway C I don’t really D I sign up to new classes and then swap A The chips are always piled higher than the veg, to be honest B A normal helping size, the same as always A Countless. I’ve done every fad over C It varies, sometimes I have a big the years appetite and sometimes I don’t B None, I’ve never needed to before D Tiny – I honestly don’t think I eat C I’ve tried slimming clubs in the past that much D I devise my own diets and restrict certain things

Q2 Do you take supplements?

A Yes, I have a cupboard full, but I only take them when I remember B Yes, a daily multivitamin C No, they’re a waste of money D I take something to boost my energy first thing During the menopause, supplements are often essential

Q7 What are your portion sizes like?

Q4 How many diets have you tried?

Q5 How often do you snack?

A All the time B It depends if I’m being strict with myself C I often reach for them as a quick fix D Definitely more than I used to

Q6 When do you eat breakfast?

A Every morning at the same time, as I have for years

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Q8 How’s your health in general?

A OK B I seem to catch every cough and cold going C I feel tired all the time D I’m not unwell, but I’m often bloated

Add up your score Q1 A0, B1, C3, D2 Q2 A1, B0, C3, D2 Q3 A3, B2, C0, D1 Q4 A1, B0, C2, D3 Q5 A0, B1, C2, D3 Q6 A0, B2, C3, D1 Q7 A3, B0, C2, D1 Q8 A1, B3, C2, D0

A I used to sleep well, but now I wake during the night B Very well C It takes me a long time to drift off D Even if I go to bed early, I often wake up tired

Health LIVE WELL blood sugar will drop and you’ll be unable to concentrate,’ she says. ‘Eat little and often to keep your blood glucose (sugar) stable.’ Plan meals in advance, and include protein, such as lean meat, fish, soya or nuts and seeds. Sign up to a slimming club for steady and sustainable weight loss.

13-18 You’re stressed out

0-6 Hormones are to blame Steadily been putting on weight? Your hormones have changed, but your eating habits haven’t. Thanks to the menopause, women need 100-200 fewer calories per day compared with before. ‘Weight can increase as your body tries to compensate for lower estrogen levels in order to protect your bone health,’ says Dr Glenville.

If you’ve been eating the same way for 20 years, cut down portion sizes.

Beat bloating by swapping white bread, rice and pasta for wholegrains and vegetables, plus drink plenty of water. Walking, aerobics, jogging, swimming or skipping can be beneficial, but you need to aim for 150 minutes a week.

with sleep patterns

You may think you’re being clever, but fasting during the day, skipping meals or unrealistic fads won’t work. ‘You might lose weight in the short-term, but the moment you quit, you will put on all the weight you lost and more besides,’ says Dr Glenville. Stop skipping meals. ‘Your Breakfast will help with concentration

19-24 You’re not getting the right nutrients ‘During the menopause, you need more vitamins, minerals and protein to keep everything in balance,’ says Dr Glenville. ‘There are certain nutrients that turn glucose into energy instead of fat. If you don’t have enough of these, your body will find it harder to lose weight, especially around the middle.’ Avoid processed foods and download the NHS’s Eatwell Guide (nhs.uk), to make sure your diet is balanced, and consider taking a supplement.

‘Chromium reduces cravings and magnesium balances blood sugar,’ says Dr Glenville. ‘Plus, amino acids help to control appetite.’ Try NHP Amino Support (£31.77, naturalhealthpractice.com).

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The Results

7-12 You have a bad relationship with food

‘Stress can interfere with your sleep pattern, and lack of sleep can not only affect your appetite, but make it harder to lose weight,’ says Dr Glenville.

This can result in binge eating all the bad stuff. Not only will all that sugar result in more hot flushes, it will leave you lethargic. Eat little and often, as the stress hormones are released when your blood sugar drops, and cut down on caffeine, sugar, alcohol and efined carbs, such as white bread and biscuits. And get outside – walking or just simple tretches every day an help you feel Stress can interfere more relaxed.

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Your new year

fat shreLodseder

Overdone it this Christmas? Fear not, Fiona Kirk’s two-week diet plan will help kick-start your weight loss for the new decade

10 lb in 2 weeks

THE RULES

Before you begin, here’s some of Fiona’s essential tips for fast, achievable weight loss…

1

Rethink breakfast

‘There is scant evidence to prove skipping break fast results in us eating more during the remainder of the day,’ says Fiona. ‘Have your first meal when you are actually hungr y.’

2

Go pink

Japanese researchers showed that mice given astaxanthin – the pigment that gives salmon and prawns their pink colour – had significantly lower body weight and body fat than mice fed a similar diet without astaxanthin. ‘Add a “portion of pink” into your day,’ says Fiona.

Try having a snack at bedtime

3

‘Studies show that those who regularly get less than six hours’ sleep per night tend to gain more weight than people who get seven to eight,’ says Fiona. Try a snack that promotes the release of the sleep -inducing hormone

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melatonin, such as half a banana or two buttered oatcakes with two turkey slices.

4

Boost your weight loss

5

Fight fat with calcium

‘Caffeine increases the number of calories the body burns at rest,’ says Fiona. ‘A single 100mg dose may increase our metabolic rate by 3-4% for at least an hour afterwards.’ It’s particularly effective before you do any exercise, so have a double espresso or a small, filtered coffee first thing (skip the milk and sugar), followed by 30-45 minutes of exercise.

‘Research indicates that a diet rich in calcium allows us to burn more calories per day,’ says Fiona. ‘There’s also evidence that when calcium levels are low, the brain detects this and stimulates feelings of hunger, causing us to eat more.’ Fiona recommends eating nuts, seeds, spinach, cabbage, broccoli and beans.

!

Healthy EATING

YOUR TWO-WEEK PLAN Mix and match from the following...

First thing Cleansing juice Mix equal parts of water, unsweetened grapefruit, pomegranate and cranberry juices. Add a pinch of cinnamon, ginger and allspice and stir well.

Breakfasts Overnight muesli Combine 6tbsp oats, 140ml coconut water, 2tbsp flaked, toasted almonds, ½tbsp manuka honey, 1tbsp full-fat Greek yogurt, 2tsp fresh lemon or lime juice, ½ peeled, cored and grated apple and 4 finely chopped mint leaves.

Mix, cover and chill overnight.

Sprinkle with cinnamon.

Lunches Crispbreads Top 2 plain, rye or seeded crispbreads with: ✽ Prawns or crab meat, sliced cucumber, chopped boiled egg, natural yogurt and toasted pine nuts. ✽ Smashed avocado, cottage cheese, grated courgette, cherry tomatoes and 1tsp of mango chutney. ✽ Sliced cooked beef, tzatziki, toasted, flaked almonds, fresh mint and a drizzle of honey.

Serve with orange smoothie Blitz 3 ice cubes, 1 yellow or orange pepper, 1 orange, ½ cantaloupe melon (peeled and chopped), 4 apricots (stoned and chopped) and 4 cos lettuce leaves. Add 2tbsp coconut milk and carrot juice. Blitz as desired.

Quinoa Thai vegetable bowl Combine 50g cooked quinoa, 4 chopped broccoli florets, ½ finely sliced red onion, a small, grated Why not add sliced beef or avocado to crispbread for lunch?

carrot, 1tbsp chopped coriander, 2 sliced spring onions and 1tbsp peanuts.

Make a dressing with the juice and zest of ½ lime, ½tbsp each rice vinegar, tamari and sesame oil, 1 garlic clove and 2cm ginger (peeled and grated).

Stir into the quinoa, season and scatter over sesame seeds.

Start your day off right with some delicious muesli served with apple One pot chicken is a quick, easy and simple dish for a hearty dinner

Snack right Choose one mid-morning and one mid-afternoon (optional) ✽ Small pot of houmous with raw vegetable sticks ✽ Small natural yogurt pot with 1tsp honey ✽ One rice cake topped with no-sugar peanut/almond butter

Dinners One-pot chicken, fish or chickpeas Three meals, one recipe!

Preheat oven to 220C/Gas 7.

Spread 200g diced sweet potato and 3 unpeeled garlic cloves in a deep roasting tin.

Place 2 chicken thighs (skin-side up) on top. Pour in 40ml chicken/veg stock, pop 2 lemon wedges around tin, drizzle with 1tbsp olive oil and season.

Place tin (uncovered) in the middle of oven for 20 mins.

Add 1 diced courgette, ½ finely sliced and deseeded red chilli and 50g chorizo. Mix well but keep chicken on top. Return to oven for 20-30 mins or until chicken is cooked and veg still has bite. Remove tin, squeeze garlic cloves from skins and mix, then add ½ small bag spinach and 1tbsp chopped parsley. Return to oven for 5-10 mins. Serves 2. If using sh (2 white fillets) r chickpeas (½ x 400g tin, rained and rinsed) instead f chicken, wait until 15-20 mins before end of cooking me before adding it. Omit the

g arian.

Speedy salmon Lightly brush a salmon fillet or steak with olive oil and grill under a moderate heat for 7-8 mins, turning once. Sprinkle with Worcestershire sauce/balsamic vinegar and lemon juice just before serving with at least 3 steamed or roasted vegetables, or a mixed salad.

Very quick tofu Cut 2 x 1in slices of tofu into cubes and stir-fry in olive oil mixed with 1tsp crushed garlic and grated fresh ginger. Add honey and top with toasted flaked almonds. Serve with at least 3 portions of vegetables.

DID YOU KNOW?

‘Research shows women who are vitamin D deficient carry betwe en 40 -80% more abdominal fat tha n their D-rich counterparts,’ says Fiona. Consider a supplement or book a blood test to check your levels.

l Fiona Kirk’s New 2 Weeks in the Fast Lane Diet is available through Amazon and Apple Books

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Why we’r back on 37.75 units per week

Is this a New Year’s resolution you

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ost middle-aged drinkers admit they should reduce their intake – but less than half actually try to cut down.

Two women who go over the 14-unit weekly guideline try a different method each and tell Woman’s Own how they did...

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‘I switched to non-alcoholic drinks’

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RE of cava (3), BEFO2 gla sses

Monday: 1 glass of prosecco (1.5) Tuesday: 1 small glass of white wine (1.5) Wednesday: None Thursday: 2 small glasses of white wine (3) ), Friday: 1 can of Aperol spritz (1.5 s a mini cava (2.25), 4 large glasse of wine (12) Saturday: 1 glass of white wine (1.5), 3 glasses of prosecco (4.5), 2 espresso Martinis (4), 3 vodka, lime and sodas (3) Sunday: None TOTAL: 37.75 UNITS

AFTE1Rbottle of 0% beer

Monday: Tuesday: None Wednesday: 1.5 glasses of non-alcoholic wine Thursday: 2 gin and tonics (2) Friday: 1 gin and tonic (1) Saturday: None Sunday: 2 and a half pints of lager (5) TOTAL: 8 UNITS

Hannah Verdier, 47, lives in Sydenham, southeast London, and is mum to daughters, Mimi, 10, and Evie, seven. In a typical week, the single copywriter drinks around 38 units. By switching wine for non-alcoholic drinks, she cut down to just eight units in a week.

I’m a single parent, so during the week friends tend to come to me, as it’s easier for babysitting. We’ll often crack open a bottle of wine to share and sometimes I’ll have a glass or two while I cook.

It can be stressful getting through the week, and drink helps me relax, so by Friday, when the girls go to their dad’s house, I can become a bit unleashed.

When a friend came round on the Monday, I really wanted some wine but I opted for non-alcoholic beer. On the Wednesday, I had non-alcoholic wine but it was horrible, so I switched to water.

It wasn’t difficult until the Friday night.

I was out with a friend and we’d normally share a bottle over dinner, but while she enjoyed wine, I sipped on fizzy water.

I’m definitely more aware of what I’m drinking now and won’t go back to Friday-night bingedrinking because I know how good Saturdays can be without a hangover. But I will stick with water rather than non-alcoholic alternatives to wine. They’re not that nice.

re cutting booze

The way I SEE IT

could stick to?

‘I banned schoolnight drinking’ Helen Fear, 47, is a full-time mum and lives in Rickmansworth, Hertfordshire, with her husband, Paul Redhouse, and their twin daughters, Frida and Rae, seven. She drinks nearly 50 units in a typical week but cut that to 4.5 when she had six booze-free days in a week.

I’ve always been a big drinker and I love red wine. As soon as Paul comes home from work, we open a bottle to have over dinner. It’s a relaxing way to end the day.

If friends come to collect kids after a play date, I will ask if they want tea or wine. I try not to drink every night. It does worry me that when I’ve Monday: None drunk loads with friends and Tuesday: 2 large glasses they text to say they are of red wine at home (6) throwing up, I’ll be fine Wednesday: Half a bottle because I’ve built up a of red wine (4.5) tolerance. Monday was fine Thursday: 4 large glasses but as the week went on, of red wine (12) I struggled. Having kids Friday: A bottle of red round on a play date, losing wine (9) my phone and friends Saturday: 2 bottles of coming over left me prosecco (18) gagging for a glass of red Sunday: None but I made it through with TOTAL: 49.5 UNITS tea. On Friday, we gave in because that’s always been our ‘steak and wine’ night.

Monday: None This came at the perfect Tuesday: None time because I’ve put on Wednesday: None weight and I know cutting Thursday: None down is better for my Friday: Half a bottle of mood, weight and health. red wine (4.5) We plan to have booze-free Saturday: None school nights but we’re Sunday: None not giving up Friday and TOTAL: 4.5 UNITS Saturday night tipples.

49.5 upenr witeesk

BEFORE

AFTER

‘Gagging for wine, I made it through with tea’

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n e e s n i a g r a B

Our expert Rebecca Gamble saves you some serious cash

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With Car & Away, a new car-hiring service, your car is rented out while you’re away, and the company reckons owners can make around £80-£200 per week doing it, depending on the size and make, plus you’ll get a free car valeting on your return. It’s currently available at Gatwick and Bristol airports and Car & Away says your car will be insured when it’s with them. As always, read the T&Cs carefully to make sure you’re happy and it’s worth telling your own car insurance company beforehand too. For more info, visit carandaway.com.

How to… get out of debt Many of us are feeling the financial pinch at the moment. If you’re in debt, here are top tips for getting out of it, from acting chief executive of the Money and Pensions Service, Caroline Siarkiewicz

Talk to your friends and family ‘Research shows people who talk about their finances feel less stressed or anxious and more in control,’ she says.

‘Opening up about money worries can be the first step towards getting help.’

Work out your debts ‘Write down everything that you owe.

This might seem overwhelming, but facing up to what you owe will help in the long run,’ advises Caroline.

Pay priority debts first Earn some money while you’re on holiday by renting out your vehicle

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‘Make sure to pay debts such as mortgage, rent and energy payments before secondary

debts like overdrafts, personal loans and credit cards,’ she adds.

Avoid high-cost credit ‘If you need to borrow, it’s important to shop around,’ says Caroline. ‘There may be more affordable options available, such as credit unions.’ The Association of British Credit Unions website helps people find the right credit union – findyourcreditunion.co.uk.

Set a budget

‘A good way to understand how much you can afford to pay off your debts each month is ‘Don’t suffe r in silence – to write down what but make su re you get your income is and list the right he lp,’ Caroline says.

‘Use the de all your expenditure,’ bt advice lo c ator tool she says. ‘Use the on the Mon ey Advice S e rvice budget planner at website to h elp you find moneyadviceservice. services tha t are free org.uk.’ and confide ntial,’ she says.

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Your MONEY Take time to sit down and write a list of all your expenditure

Apps to... cut food waste Do your bit to reduce the amount of food that’s thrown out and save money too with these great apps…

1 Olio Olio connects people locally, enabling them to share food. So whether you’ve got spices, sausages or soup you want to give away, you can donate them by uploading the details. Anyone interested in taking them will message you and arrange to collect them. You can also use it to look out for things you would like to have from others. Visit olioex.com.

2 No Waste If you end up wasting food because you lose track of what’s in your cupboards, check out the No Waste app. It lets you build an inventory for erage combined v a e th f o st o c your fridge, freezer and e h T ome h ts n te n o c d n a s pantry, and you can building d by

Did you KNOW?

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The victim is told to download a type of software, then log into their online banking — this grants the fraudster remote access to their computer and allows them to see the victim’s personal and financial details.

3 Too Good To Go This app lets you buy cut-price food from restaurants, cafes and bakeries that would otherwise be thrown away at the end of the day.

Just choose where you’d like to buy from, pay via the app, then go at your agreed time to collect your ‘Magic Bag’. The bags are typically priced between £3-£5, and are filled with at least three times the value you’ve paid on Too Good To Go. So if your bag costs £3, the food would have cost a minimum of £9 at normal service. Visit toogoodtogo.co.uk.

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view the food you have by expiration date too so you can spot what’s about to go off. nowasteapp.com.

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My man had

a midlife makeover

Teeth whitening, supplements, face creams.

We find out what it’s really like when your partner becomes a self-tanning hunk

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hat do Simon Cowell, Gregg Wallace and Huw Edwards all have in common?

They have all had a midlife makeover – with gym routines, spray tans and pearly-white teeth.

Music mogul Simon, 60, even went vegan and cut back on alcohol, losing a

stone and a half in weight. Fans were shocked at the transformation, but one woman has seen it all before.

Here, Cara French, 45, explains how she watched as her chain-smoking, takeaway-loving partner Neil, 46, changed into a vegan gym-lover and self-tanning hunk.

‘I joked that he was having an affair with the gym’ Cara French is a lab technician. She lives in Rhyl, Denbighshire, with her partner, Neil Coates, 46.

‘Neil and I met at a party nine years ago,’ explains Cara. ‘He was working as a firefighter, doing 12-hour shifts. He loved his food and had takeaways at least four times a week. And at weekends, we enjoyed long lie-ins and going out for a curry.’

But three years ago, Neil began to think about ageing, after a few friends turned 50.

Cara says, ‘He was smoking up to 30 cigarettes a day, drinking alcohol and

putting on weight. He weighed 13st and didn’t want to be fat when he turned 50.

I thought it was great he wanted to be healthy, but when he signed up for a gym membership, I had no idea it was about to become his second home.

‘Instead of sleeping in with a cuddle, he was up at 5am for a two-hour workout, six days a week. Soon he started coming home later, too, fitting in a cardio class after work.

‘I thought it was just a phase, and joked that he was having an affair with the gym. But it never stopped.’ And a few months later,

‘I thought it was just a phase, but it never stopped’

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Neil turned his health-and-fitness obsession to food.

BEFORE: 13ST Smoked 30 cigarettes a day, drank, and ate four takeaways a week

He had purged our kitchen ‘I came home one day and he’d done a clean sweep of the kitchen cupboards,’ says Cara. ‘Out went treats, he banned sugars, and carbs and dairy were out.

‘I had to have a small section of the fridge for my stuff and hide anything he thought was unhealthy. The weight

You’ll never BELIEVE IT! dropped off him and, after a while, his muscles started to pop out.

‘I don’t work out, don’t count calories and don’t spend much time worrying about my appearance. But here I was with a man who has a body better than any man I have ever dated, even in my 20s.

‘I sometimes eat the same food as him, but when it comes to swapping chips for quinoa and bulgar wheat, I draw the line.

Don’t get me wrong, I fancy his new body, but he doesn’t have a lot of time or energy to let me enjoy it.’

Neil, who after shedding fat and gaining muscle now weighs 11st, then turned his attention to other aspects of his appearance.

Cara says, ‘He started buying tailored shirts that showed off his figure. Then he started getting full-body fake tans and whitening his teeth. He even started using posher face creams to give him a healthier glow. It is frustrating giving up takeaways.

I miss having a relaxing time, as he’s always asleep before me and awake at the crack of dawn.

‘Although I think it’s a bit crazy, I’m proud of him and he’s so much more confident now. He’s my very own Simon Cowell.’

‘He even started to use posher face creams’

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I miss some things

‘I didn’t expect to take it so far ’

AFTER: 11ST Ditched sugar and dairy for quinoa, six two-hour gym stints a week, and no alcohol

Neil, 46, who works in a supermarket and is preparing to become a personal trainer, says, ‘When I decided to lose some weight and get fit, I didn’t expect to take it so far. Now I can’t imagine life without the gym, tan s, diets and face creams. Men sho uldn’t fall prey to middle age, you can turn things around if you want to.’

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New wayswith

chicken these tasty one-pot meals

Brined chicken with cider, pears and pumpkin Brining the chicken seasons it throughout and keeps it juicy. Serve with mashed potato or salad.

COMPILED BY: ROSIE BENSBERG. RECIPES AND PHOTOGRAPHY: TI-MEDIACONTENT.COM

Serves 4-6

✽ 1 large, free-range chicken (about 2kg) ✽ 10 shallots, halved and peeled ✽ 4 bay leaves ✽ 5 thyme sprigs, plus extra leaves to serve ✽ 50g butter, softened ✽ 1 small pumpkin or round squash, deseeded and cut into wedges ✽ 3 small pears, halved and cored ✽ 2tbsp olive oil ✽ 150ml dry cider For the brine: ✽ 200ml dry cider ✽ 100g demerara sugar ✽ 2tbsp rock salt ✽ 1tbsp whole black peppercorns ✽ 2 thyme sprigs ✽ 3 fresh bay leaves, crushed

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Make the brine by mixing the ingredients with 200ml water. Put the chicken in a large, zip-lock bag and pour in the brine.

Seal, set it in a bowl, and refrigerate for 6-24 hours.

Pre-heat the oven to 190C/Gas 5. Remove the chicken (discard the

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brine), rinse and pat dry.

Put four shallot halves, 1 bay leaf and 1 thyme sprig inside the chicken. Loosen the skin and put a pat of butter and the bay leaves underneath. Spread the rest of the butter over the breast and legs. Add to a roasting tin, cover and roast for 20 mins.

Uncover the chicken and put the pumpkin, pears, shallots and thyme around the base. Drizzle with oil, season and add the cider. Reduce the heat to 180C/Gas 4 and roast for 50 minutes, covering the chicken if it browns too quickly. To see if it’s cooked, insert a skewer into the thigh: the juices should run clear. If not, cover and return to the oven for 10 minutes.

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Parmesan chicken bake Serves 4 A crispy and hearty classic, this perfect, speedy family meal is full of oozy goodness. ✽ 4 chicken breasts ✽ 6tbsp flour ✽ 3 eggs, beaten ✽ 100g panko breadcrumbs ✽ 3tbsp sunflower oil ✽ 2tbsp olive oil ✽ 2 garlic cloves, chopped ✽ 2 x 400ml cans tomatoes ✽ 1tsp sugar ✽ 1 ball mozzarella, sliced ✽ 100g freshly grated Parmesan ✽ basil leaves and salad, to serve

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Heat the oven to 230C/Gas 8. Using a rolling pin, bash the chicken between 2 sheets of cling film until about 1/2cm thick. Put the flour, eggs and breadcrumbs on 3 plates. Dip the chicken first in the flour, then the egg, and then the breadcrumbs. Place the chicken on a baking tray.

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Drizzle over the sunflower oil and bake for 10-12 mins until Stir some spinach cooked and brown, into the tomato turning every few mins. sauce to add more Meanwhile, to make nutrients to the tomato sauce, this meal. heat the olive oil in a pan with the garlic for 2 mins, then add the tomatoes and sugar. Cook for 2 mins until heated through. Remove from the heat and blend, then season to taste. Layer the cooked chicken with the tomato sauce, mozzarella and Parmesan. Return to the oven and bake for 20 mins until golden.

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Chicken almond tray bake Serves 4 The antioxidant-rich kale and protein-rich almonds make this the perfect healthy Cashews or week night supper. walnuts would make a lovely ✽ 1tbsp barbecue alternative to seasoning the almonds. ✽ 2 garlic cloves, crushed ✽ 6 skinless, boneless chicken thighs (500g in weight) ✽ 3tbsp rapeseed oil ✽ 2 red onions, cut into wedges ✽ 2 red peppers, deseeded and cubed ✽ 200g kale, chopped ✽ 60g whole almonds

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Drizzle 1tbsp oil over everything. Cook for 20 mins, until the chicken is slightly browned.

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Steph is commissioned to review a newly opened country estate in the Lake District, run by the Sinclair family. But Harry Sinclair is still mourning the death of his wife, Elizabeth.

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Dashing gossip columnist Marcello Mastroianni sniffs out the scoops and scandals of Roman high society in Federico Fellini’s legendary 1960 film – now being re-released in a gleaming new print to celebrate the director’s centenary. The iconic sight of Anita Ekberg cavorting in the Trevi fountain in a strapless black dress was originally quite shocking. The Vatican even tried to get the film banned. Sixty years on, it’s pretty hard to see why, but the film remains a brilliant snapshot of the lost era’s hypnotic, decadent glamour.

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Film Spies in Disguise Out 26 December Can’t wait for the next Bond film? This computeranimated spy comedy from the makers of Ice Age stars Will Smith as a 007-type superspy who gets turned into a pigeon by Tom Holland’s nerdy young boffin. Cue plenty of Road Runner-style slapstick action and gags galore from the mismatched duo.

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‘Bunty meets her match!’

As BBC1’s daytime crime drama Father Brown returns for its eighth series, Emer Kenny reveals what’s in store for Bunty…

When Father Brown returns to BBC1 for its eighth series, the sleuthing priest has 10 new mysteries to solve, one of which involves saving his friend Bunty from the hangman’s noose when she’s accused of murder!

‘It’s a brilliant episode,’ says Emer Kenny, who plays Bunty in the 1950s-set crime drama.

‘Bunty goes to a Gatsby-themed party hosted by a playboy millionaire, but when he ends up getting murdered, it’s thought that she has a hand in it and she ends up going on trial. There’s something very real at stake for Father Brown because

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Mark Williams The new series is back as the also includes whodunits sleuthing priest featuring an artist who’s obsessed on the horizon when she encounters a with his model, a fashion photographer… beekeeper who has a strange home ‘He seems like the male version of life with her adopted son and a group her,’ says Emer. ‘They meet their match of jesters who arrive in the village for in each other, but you’ll have to watch a convention! the series to find out what happens...’

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Sheridan Smith In BBC1’s true-life drama Four Lives, the Cleaning Up star plays the mother of a gay man who falls victim to serial rapist and killer Stephen Port.

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1. Dancing on Ice, ITV The skates are back on for the next 10 weekends, making TV history with the show’s first competing same-sex partnership with Ian ‘H’ Watkins of Steps with pro Matt Evers. There’s a new addition to the judging panel in the form of John Barrowman.

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THE TRIP, BBC2 Steve Coogan and Rob Brydon starred as fictionalised versions of themselves in this sitcom, which saw the pair falling out and humiliating each other as they toured the north of England and visited restaurants for an article.

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RICKY AND RALF’S VERY NORTHERN ROAD TRIP, GOLD This upcoming six-part travelogue series sees Ricky Tomlinson reunite with his Royle Family co-star Ralf Little for a tour of the North in a campervan in the middle of Autumn! What could go wrong?

John joins Ashley, Jane and Chris on the Dancing on Ice judging panel

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ITV hosts Joel Dommett n by de as 12 stars, hid ff te to pull o masks, compe ance as a m the best perfor ies to l tr celebrity pane ers’ guess the sing identities.

2. Coronation Street, ITV The Platts must be hankering for simpler times when Shona buttered rolls at Roy’s. As Josh’s trial begins, painful memories resurface. But will proceedings be overshadowed by the ripple effects of Christmas Day, which are still casting dark shadows over the street?

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Ricky Tomlinson and Ralf Little are back together

Pierce Brosnan The former James Bond will star in Netflix drama Eurovision, which follows two Icelandic musicians who are given the chance to perform at the contest.

Former Emmerdale star Frazer Hines – best known for playing Joe Sugden for 22 years on the slurry slinging saga – guest stars on the cult daytime soap, returning to familiar sudsy turf in a cameo that will delight his fans. He turns up at the surgery with a plan to free jailed doc Jimmi!

Billie Piper In Sky One’s eight-part drama I Hate Suzie, the former Doctor Who actress plays a star on the wane whose life is turned upside down when her phone is hacked and dodgy photos of her are leaked online.

Frazer Hines is all set for a cameo that will delight his fans

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Real life DEBATE

24%ofwomen haveneeded adayoffto cope*,yetsome thinkit’sa bit extreme

Should you get time off work for the menopause?

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No

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Yes

‘It’s a hormonal onslaught for women’

Dr Daisy Mae, 57, is a menopause specialist and freelance health writer from Hampshire.

The menopause is a I was induced into the physio logical process that menopause after a battle all women go through, but with breast cancer in 2017 it’s worse for some than and immediately began to others. I’ve seen many have intense symptoms wome n at the menopause such as hot flushes, night ’t You can clinic in floods of tears, sweats and mood swings.

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