i have a friend: a welcome bonus

“I Have A Friend”

A welcome bonus By Laurie Black

It can be difficult to make a new friend, especially in the middle of a global pandemic, but that is just what Ian and his friend, Jerome, were able to do.

Ian began volunteering with Mental Health America of Fredericksburg and the Senior Visitors Program in 2020. Soon after volunteer training, Ian was introduced to Jerome. Ian says, "My wife wanted me out of the house after I retired and suggested I volunteer. I wanted to do the volunteering in Fredericksburg." Ian goes on to say, "People live in their own "balloon", and I found it a pleasant surprise to find out about a new balloon so different from my own. Jerome is very shy, but not with me. He is a walking encyclopedia when it comes to history. I have learned so much about [Jerome's life] and I enjoy learning more each week."

Jerome heard about the Senior Visitors Program at a senior center. The senior center suggested he might enjoy having a volunteer visit him at home. Jerome says he most enjoys having someone to talk to. "We meet either at the party room in the apartment complex or meet at Barnes and Noble. Sometimes we just talk over the phone. [Ian] is near my age and from Scotland. I've always enjoyed conversing with people from other cultures."

I have highlighted many volunteers and seniors in Front Porch Fredericksburg over the past five years. I always feel I learn so much from them about true kindness, community spirit, caring, and friendship. One of the beautiful things about the Senior Visitors Program is it teaches us that despite apparent differences in culture or age or life experience, we can come together, support one another, and learn from one another. This program is about connecting with community and overcoming isolation. The education and understanding we gain is a welcome bonus!

In the time that Jerome and Ian have been visiting they have talked about a myriad of topics such as politics and American presidents, the history of Coca Cola and Pepsi bottling companies, famous inventors, health issues, and growing up in Richmond. It seems unlikely they will run out of things to talk about. Ian even suggested that Jerome should write a book of all his experiences. I hope he will! .

If you know a senior who could benefit from having a weekly, friendly visit or if you would like to volunteer to visit a senior, call the Senior Visitors Program at (540) 371-2 2704 or visit our website at mhafred.org to download volunteer or senior applications. The Senior Visitors Program is a free community service program of Mental Health America of Fredericksburg.

Laurie Black is the Senior Visitors Program Coordinator.