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BLAIR HUGHES

A LIFESTYLE MAGAZINE FOR THE WOMEN OF TUPELO/LEE COUNTY

Owner of Park Heights and South Restaurants

Women Entrepreneurs Thriving in Tupelo Local Women’s Clubs Staying Busy

Women’s Health

Physical and Mental Health Dealing With Migraines Nurturing Your Relationships

SHOPPING & ENTERTAINMENT FALL FASHION

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GETTING MARRIED? Helpful Information Inside

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Breast Cancer: Not Prejudiced Getting Ready for a Baby

Dealing with Osteoporosis

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Premiere Lady Fitness Keeping Women Fit

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Ruby Del Harden The Entrepreneurial spirit Sylvia Blanchard The Heart of a Servant

Susie Morgan Sharing stories of Mississippi products Paula McTune Jones turns passion into business

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Shop ‘Til You Drop in Tupelo’s Shopping Districts Weezie’s Deli & Gifts A Place to Call Home

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I’m Engaged... What Now?

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Holly McCoy Keeps Busy Juggling Family and Career

Salvation Army Women’s Auxiliary Working Together, Changing Lives

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Urology Associates Welcomes State’s First Female Urogynecologist

Blair Hughes Being and Entrepreneur was in the Blood

Wyatt Joins Reeds Staff

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Obesity: An Endocrine Doctor’s Perspective

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New Expectations for Women in Mississippi Alivia Paden Roberts proudly serving as Miss Tupelo

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According to the American Cancer Society, the mortality rate would be decreased by 30 percent if women over age 50 would receive a mammogram.

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BREAST CANCER: Not Prejudiced All at Risk

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having regular mammograms and clinical exams.

According to the American Cancer Society, the mortality rate would be decreased by 30 percent if women over age 50 would receive a mammogram. Deaths from breast cancer have declined in all women combined, and these decreases are because of earlier detection. Survival from breast cancer is at an all time high even though breast cancer incidence has increased. The reason for this is because women are more informed, practice breast self-exam, have clinical breast exams, screening mammograms on a regular basis, increased awareness and improved treatment.

Can we prevent breast cancer? The causes of breast cancer are not fully understood. Because no one knows exactly what causes breast cancer, there are no sure ways to prevent it. But there are steps that every woman can take that will make developing breast cancer less likely. Some of these include healthy eating and exercising regularly. Leading a healthy lifestyle will not eliminate your chance of getting breast cancer, but it can help reduce your risk.

Getting checked regularly can put your mind at ease and finding a cancer early can save your life. Is it time for your mammogram? Call and get your appointment today. One simple test can save your life. L

very three minutes a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer, and every 14 minutes one person will die from it.

Breast cancer is the No. 1 female cancer and No. 2 cause of female death. The American Cancer Society estimates that in 2016 there will be 246,660 females diagnosed with breast cancer with 40,450 deaths. This is in the United States alone. In Mississippi it is estimated that 2,330 females will be diagnosed with 420 deaths.

Women are not the only ones to get breast cancer, but the ratio of female to male is 100 to 1.

Who gets breast cancer? Anyone can because breast cancer is not prejudiced.

All women are at risk. Known risk factors like having a family history of breast cancer, starting menopause after age 55 or never having children account for only a small number of new cases of breast cancer every year. This means the majority of women who get breast cancer have no known risk factors except being a woman and getting older.

The best way to detect breast cancer in its earliest stages is to routinely check your breast for signs and symptoms of the disease even when your breasts feel fine. The real enemy is not breast cancer, but late detection. Fear needs to be replaced with education on how to protect our health. How do we do this?

By learning how to do breast self-exam and then consistently doing it, and by

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Vickie Arnold, RN, is a breast health specialist at North Mississippi Medical Center’s Breast Care Center.

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Getting Ready FOR A BABY WRITTEN BY BRANDY R. PATTERSON, M.D., FACOG

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of having an uncomplicated pregnancy and healthy baby. Preparation can also help her body to adjust to the stress of pregnancy, labor and eventually delivery.

Many women do not recognize pregnancy until they are several weeks into their gestation. These early weeks are extremely important for the baby’s growth; during the first eight weeks, most of the major organs and body systems have begun to form. Poor health (uncontrolled diabetes or hypertension, etc.), smoking, drinking alcohol and using certain medications (prescription or over the counter) can harm the baby and impede normal growth. Proper health care, with a preconception planning visit for women on medications or with medical issues, can ensure normal growth and development for their children at one of the most important times of fetal development – the first trimester.

eciding to expand a family and bring a beautiful new life into this world is a big decision. Having a baby is one of the most wonderful and memorable experiences in a woman’s life and marks the beginning of a journey that will truly transform her body into a remarkable vessel of support and protection of her unborn child. Preparation for this journey can ensure both a healthy mother and child. This preparation is called preconception care, which provides a chance for her to focus on healthy lifestyle options that will benefit both her and her baby.

Preconception counseling by her doctor can identify medical conditions, environmental factors and lifestyle choices that may be harmful to her or her baby.

Education about these issues and taking steps to become as healthy as possible before conception can increase chances

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Some medical conditions such as diabetes, hypertension, depression, thyroid abnormalities and seizure disorders can cause issues during pregnancy. Women with any medical conditions requiring medication should seek a preconception visit before attempting pregnancy to discuss possible harms of her medications to baby. Some of these medications can lead to birth defects and must be changed before becoming pregnant. This does not mean that a woman with these medical issues cannot have a normal, healthy pregnancy - it just means that she should plan prior to pregnancy and ensure that her body is prepared to be a healthy vessel.

Some medications, including overthe-counter supplements and medi-

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cations, can be harmful to a developing baby and should be avoided while attempting pregnancy and throughout pregnancy. For example, isotretinoin is a prescription medicine used to treat severe acne, but it can cause severe birth defects in a developing baby. Even common nutritional supplements can be harmful. For instance, some multivitamins contain a very high level of Vitamin A, which has been shown to cause severe birth defects if taken at high levels in pregnancy. Some herbal supplements have not been studied in pregnancy at all and therefore, should simply be avoided. It would be most helpful to bring bottles of all medicines – prescription and overthe-counter/supplements – to the preconception visit. The health care

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provider can ascertain if the patient should stop taking certain meds or if the benefit of continuing the medication during pregnancy would outweigh the risks to baby.

Another important discussion prior to conception is regarding past obstetric history. Some complications in prior pregnancies can have a higher risk of recurrence in later pregnancies. Some of these complications include preterm labor and preterm birth, gestational hypertension, preeclampsia and gestational diabetes.

However, just because these complications occurred in a prior pregnancy does not mean it will happen again, especially with proper care prior to pregnancy. Another important aspect of obstetric history is prior miscarriage or stillbirth. Often, women who

Women with any medical conditions requiring medication should seek a preconception visit before attempting pregnancy to discuss possible harms of her medications to baby. have experienced these issues fear this happening again. However, most women who miscarry once actually proceed with a normal pregnancy and healthy baby in future pregnancies. But, with a history of recurrent pregnancy loss (stillbirth or miscarriage of two or more), certain studies should be completed prior to attempts at conception to identify risks of mom’s body rejecting the pregnancy and finding means to prevent this from occurring.

A balanced diet should be an important aspect of daily life, but it is vital during pregnancy. Nutrients from the food eaten provide energy for the growing baby and must be substantial enough to support both mom and baby. The U.S. Department of Agriculture’s food-planning guide called MyPlate (www.choosemyplate.gov) can help design a healthy diet. Though most of the body’s

nutrients come from the foods eaten, it is a smart choice to begin taking a prenatal vitamin supplement at least two-three months before pregnancy occurs. Folic acid is an essential B vitamin that helps prevent neural tube defects (birth defects of the nervous system). All fertile aged women should take 400 micrograms of this vitamin daily. Folic acid is found in many foods and is an additive in breads, cereal and pastas, but it is very difficult to consume enough of these foods to get the recommended daily allowance of this vitamin. Most prenatal vitamins contain 600-800 micrograms of this vitamin.

Obesity is a major health problem nationwide and is certainly an issue in the South. About one-fourth of reproductive-aged women are obese, and another one-fourth are overweight. Excessive weight during pregnancy is associated

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with several pregnancy and childbirth complications including high blood pressure, preeclampsia, preterm birth and gestational diabetes.

Maternal obesity also can cause macrosomia (larger than normal baby) as well as increased complications of vaginal birth injury and cesarean delivery. The risk of birth defects, especially neural tube defects, increase with maternal obesity as well. An increased amount of central body fat can also make it difficult for the obstetrician to monitor the baby during pregnancy and labor. Losing weight before pregnancy is the best manner to prevent these complications.

Successful preparation for pregnancy gives the baby the best possible start. Eating right, staying fit, avoiding unhealthy substances and maintaining a healthy weight are key factors in preconception. Beginning a pregnancy journey fully prepared allows mom to focus on the future and joys ahead. L

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OBESITY

An Endocrine Doctor’s Perspective JAY DEY M.D., ENDOCRINE AND METABOLIC DISORDERS INSTITUTE

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A person’s risk of being obese depends on several possible factors. Some people have a genetic tendency to hold on to excess body fat and have to fight extra hard to lose excess pounds or inches. Eating disorders such as stress eating and tendency to binge are sometimes to blame. Lack of physical activity, worsened by injury or ill health, leads to weight gain.

Pregnancy, as well as menopause, often make it harder for some women to lose weight due to changes in metabolism. Hormonal disorders can sometimes sabotage your attempts to lose excess weight. Frequent steroid use, as well as certain depression, diabetes and other medications, can lead to significant weight gain.

xcessive body fat can shorten your life and puts you at higher risk of diseases such as diabetes, heart disease and certain types of cancer. New research suggests unexpected connections between disorders such as sleep apnea, polycystic ovary syndrome and fatty liver with higher degrees of obesity. It seems that those who carry their extra weight around their abdomen are more medically affected than those who carry it around their thighs or hips.

Being overweight can lead to some distressing symptoms on a daily basis: trouble sleeping, acid reflux, high blood pressure, cholesterol, triglyceride and blood sugar levels, arthritic pain over weight bearing joints such as the knees, hip and back, and swollen veins over the legs. All of these symptoms often improve with proper treatment of obesity.

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DIAGNOSIS Obesity is defined medically by calculating your body mass index or BMI. A free calculator is available at the following website - http://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/assessing/bmi/ adult_bmi/english_bmi_calculator/bmi_calculator.html

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At my clinic, we also measure a person’s waist as a measure of belly fat. Women with a waist of more than 35 inches and men with a waist of 40 inches or more are at increased risk of heart disease and diabetes.

Laboratory testing is done to pick up on medically treatable conditions caused by, or contributing to obesity.

A person’s resting metabolic rate, or how many calories he or she burns daily, can be measured using a calorimeter. This aids in more precise dietary recommendations.

For most, obesity is a lifelong problem. Once overweight, it is tough to lose; and once lost, even tougher to maintain your healthier weight. The time it takes you to reach your weight goal depends on how much you have to lose and the type

of weight loss program you choose.

Most obesity-related medical conditions show improvement with as little as 5 or 10 percent loss from your starting weight.

PREVENTION Preventing obesity is paramount.

Once fat cells form, they stay in your body forever. You can reduce the size of the fat cells but cannot get rid of them. Eating a nutritious balanced diet and exercising regularly is your best bet against future weight problems.

TREATMENT Successful long-term weight reduction needs commitment to sustained change in our eating habits and regular physical activity. You may

need professional help from personal trainers, dietitians, behavior therapists and weight loss coaches, among others. Your personal physician would be able to review your medical conditions and guide you in your unique weight loss strategies.

DIET CHANGE Cutting out 500 to 1,000 calories a day is expected to make one lose one to two pounds per week. Whether you concentrate on eating less fat or fewer carbohydrates is up to your preference, but sticking to your plan in the long run is crucial. Avoid sugary drinks, choose healthier fats and remember to have enough fiber in your diet. Eating mindfully and slowly makes it easier to stick to your plans of cutting back.

Once overweight, it is tough to lose; and once lost, even tougher to maintain your healthier weight.

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EXERCISE Most people will need to exercise at moderate intensity for an hour on most days of the week to effectively lose weight, and keep it off. I highly recommend activity monitors such as step counters or wrist bands to track your progress.

WEIGHT LOSS MEDICINES In recent years, there have been several FDA-approved prescription drugs available that can assist with appetite suppression and weight loss. Most medical insurances do not cover the cost of these expensive medications.

There is no one magic bullet and your doctor may help you choose one over another, based on your needs. These medications are for longterm use and most regain their weight back on stopping too soon.

HERBS AND SUPPLEMENTS My advice is to avoid use of unregulated supplements or herbs sold through various outlets and online, claiming unsubstantiated weight loss benefits. Lack of rigorous scientific research regarding safety and effectiveness, and the possibility of questionable quality control, make me hesitant in recommending these options to my patients.

BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION PROGRAMS Structured approaches like WeightWatchers™, provide easy to follow portion control recommendations, but with regular accountability of your weight loss efforts, that work for many.

More intensive low calorie meal replacement programs such as Optifast™, are designed for rapid initial weight loss and long term behavior change under close medical supervision. Years of scientific research and medical experience show this strategy to be most effective and sustained among non-surgical weight loss options.

WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY Bariatric metabolic surgery is generally recommended to those with severe obesity and its serious health consequences. Over the years, surgical options have become safer and more effective. Although expensive up front, successful weight loss surgery can save money on obesity related medical expenses in the future.

An experienced surgeon will explain the risks and benefits and help you decide what procedure will best suit you. Even after dramatic weight loss from surgery, one has to maintain proper food restrictions and lifestyle changes, lest the body fat comes back over time.

SUMMARY Long-term maintenance of healthy weight is challenging for most of us, but is worth the time and effort. Keep a positive attitude and commit to making small but sustainable changes. Seek professional help if you need additional support and options. L

Jay Dey M.D., Endocrine and Metabolic Disorders Institute.

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Dealing With OSTEOPOROSIS

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WRITTEN BY JASMYNE SEARCY, MOTR/L, OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST

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that person would be diagnosed with having osteopenia.

Whether being diagnosed with osteoporosis or osteopenia, one must be mindful of how she performs transitional movements, what exercises she can do, how to engage in hobbies of interest, and how to perform her activities of daily living without increasing the risk of fracture. People who are at high risk need to minimize the repetition of performing movements that require excessive bending, lifting and twisting. A way to remember this is using the acronym BLTs. A simple and easy exercise to build up bone strength is walking. Exercises that can be modified to be performed lying on your back are good for someone who is severely osteoporotic because it reduces the risk of fracturing a bone located in the spine if it is not strong. If someone has mild osteoporosis and has good core strength, exercises can be performed while sitting or standing. Always keep in mind that some fractures can occur without having any pain; thus the reason for good body mechanics and appropriate and safe exercises.

In Tupelo, North Mississippi Medical Center Outpatient Rehabilitation Services at Longtown have a team of occupational and physical therapists who are certified in the Sara Meeks Method, one of the most current standards of treatment for osteoporosis or osteopenia. The method focuses on reversing the patterns of postural change with an emphasis on the skeletal system, as well as preventing and managing the distressing consequences of osteoporosis. We will provide a thorough evaluation and plan an individualized strengthening/flexibility program and a balance program if needed. The exercises that are given are safe and site-specific for this population. Not only will this population be given a customized program, but they will also benefit from recommendations on adaptive equipment that can assist with increasing one’s independence and preventing falls. The program is designed to guide, safely progress, and educate those diagnosed with osteoporosis or osteopenia with the ultimate goal of preventing a fracture and improving quality of life. A doctor’s prescription is needed that includes a medical diagnosis with the complaint or problem. L

steoporosis is a systemic skeletal disorder that decreases bone strength, thus placing an individual at an increased risk of fracture. The cause of osteoporosis could be agerelated or due to lifestyle factors, diseases and certain medications. Some factors that put people at an increased likelihood of having osteoporosis include: female, delayed puberty or irregular menstrual cycle, Caucasian or Asian, high alcohol intake, sedentary lifestyles, early menopause, postmenopausal, family history of osteoporosis, smoking, prolonged periods of not being able to move, caffeine intake (more 2-5 cups/ day), high protein diet, men with low testosterone (over 75 years of age), having no children, and people with eating disorders.

Some important signs of osteoporosis include loss of body height, postural changes, transparent/clear skin, back pain, loss of teeth (periodontal disease), and having a current or past fracture.

The current diagnostic tool for osteoporosis is a bone density scan. The bone density scan tells the amount of bone in a given area. From a bone density scan, a person will obtain a T-score which is related to the peak mass. The peak mass is the amount of bone one accumulates as a young adult (generally between the ages 30-35). A T-score of -2.5 and below is considered osteoporosis. If a person has a T-score that is between -1 to -2.4

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Jasmyne Searcy, MOTR/L, Occupational Therapist

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Urology Associates Welcomes State’s FIRST FEMALE UROGYNECOLOGIST

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because it gives women back their quality of life. It is not how long you live, but how well,” Dr. Parden said.

“Many of the women that I treat have sacrificed their lives for their family and children, and it is not fair that they feel they can’t enjoy their grandchildren for fear of going out in public.”

A native of Lebanon, Ind., Dr. Parden earned a bachelor’s degree in chemistry from the University of Alabama in Tuscaloosa. She completed medical school at the University of Alabama School of Medicine in Birmingham, where she also completed residency training in obstetrics and gynecology. She recently completed a three-year fellowship (specialty surgical training) in female pelvic medicine and reconstructive surgery at the University of Alabama School of Medicine in Birmingham.

As a woman, Dr. Parden brings something unique to her patients. “I don’t know how many times I have been told, ‘you don’t understand how hard it is to talk to a man about this,’” she said. “As a woman I can relate to another woman, and a man just can’t. I personally have had my female concerns brushed off by a male gynecologist as a young adult, and I never want any of my patients to feel that their concerns are not valid.”

Women often mistakenly believe these conditions are simply part of aging that they will just have to learn to live with. It can be difficult to talk about problems such as incontinence or vaginal bulges, even with a doctor. But Dr. Parden says it’s worth asking about your symptoms because they can be treated. “You are not alone. Do not fear asking for help,” Dr. Parden urges.

“Help is available. Don’t feel embarrassed.”

She joins Drs. Paul Farabaugh, Stephen Farmer, Jonathan Kalish, Hughes Milam, Tim Posey and Kristopher Whitehead, at Urology Associates (soon to become Urologic), which recently relocated to Midtown Pointe, 499 Gloster Creek Village, Suite A1. L

li Parden, M.D., recently joined Urology Associates as the first female urogynecologist in Mississippi.

Dr. Parden is a board-certified obstetriciangynecologist who completed three years of specialty training in the evaluation, diagnosis and treatment of problems involving the female pelvic organs.

She offers specialty surgical and non-surgical treatment for women with pelvic floor issues including urinary incontinence or leakage, fecal incontinence, urinary tract infections, pelvic organ prolapse, overactive bladder, trouble emptying the bladder or rectum, pelvic and bladder pain, and fistulas. She complements, but does not replace, services offered by OBGYNs and urologists.

“I love the field of urogynecology

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PREMIERE LADY FITNESS Keeping Women Fit

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remiere Lady Fitness first opened its doors October 1, 1993 feel at home. Beckish believes both of these factors contribute to their at Gloster Creek Village. 21 years later, co-owner Kristi overall success.

Beckish continues to be proud of how far they have come.

“A lot of times when starting an “In 2003, we built this (current North Gloster) location,” Beckish said. “Over the years it has grown tremendously. It has grown so much we have expanded from a small location over at Gloster Creek of 5,000 square feet to a 10,000 square foot facility here which is catered just toward the ladies. But of course that doesn’t include the co-ed facility of Premier Athletix, which is another 7,000 square feet.”

Premiere Lady Fitness is the sole ladies-only gym in Tupelo. It is also locally owned, which gives it that special touch of employees knowing each member by name and making them

exercise program, whether on your own or from a doctor’s recommendation, walking into a gym can be rather uncomfortable and intimidating. And so, with the ladies-only niche, I think that is a big draw. All of our equipment, classes, workouts, trainers—it’s all tailored to the ladies. ” Premiere Lady also offers an onsite childcare facility, which is appealing to moms on the go. This alleviates the need to find an at-home baby sitter and frees up time for them to come in and participate in a workout that fits their needs.

“A lot of times when they first come in, they’re going to look around and see if this is a place that’s going to be comfortable, if it’s going to meet their needs, and if we have a place for their children,” Beckish said. “So I think overall it’s been very successful because we offer all of this.”

Members can find exercise programs, equipment, and trainers that cater to any level of fitness. From beginner level to fitness guru, Beckish is glad to say they have something to offer every

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lady at Premiere Lady Fitness.

“We have programs and trainers that can make your workouts as challenging as you want. If you’re pregnant and you want to work out, we can help you. If you’re over 50 and want to get active and back in shape, we can help you. If you’re just starting out, we can help you. If you’re an avid exercise person and want to take your workout to the next level, that’s why we have trainers. So no matter what you want to do, we can help you.”

A basic $10 membership includes 24/7 access to the facility, all group classes, access to the steam room and sauna, new member orientation, and evaluations every thirty days. A new member orientation is used to assess each individual’s needs. This includes weight, measurements, body fat, a progress chart, and a discussion about goals and the reason for those goals.

“We’ve got cardio. We’ve got strength training,” Beckish added.

“We’ve got a thirty-minute group circuit--which is the hydraulic resistance as opposed to weight train-

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From beginner level to fitness guru, Beckish is glad to say they have something to offer every lady at Premiere Lady Fitness. ing—so a lot of ladies, especially beginners or anyone who is recovering from an injury, that’s really good for them to get started.”

For the lady who thrives on the camaraderie of working out in a group, a wide array of classes are offered six days a week. Premiere Lady Fitness hosts cardio dance classes such as Zumba, as well as strength training classes like Total Body Pump.

They also have Cardio Blast which includes interval cardio and some weights, and Boot Camp which is an intense, higher impact class. Zumba Toning, Pilates, and Pyro classes are also offered.

Premiere Lady Fitness allows you to build your membership. Other features that may be added include tanning and childcare services. For an extra $10 a month, Kids Zone is

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available for ages 6 months to 12 years old and is open during peak hours—8:30 a.m. to 10:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m.

“There’s always adult supervision and it’s a place for moms to have peace of mind while they’re working out,” Beckish said. “We have an art room for them. We have inflatables. We play games with them and keep the kids busy.

It’s a nice extra.”

Premiere has overcome big challenges. During the 2014 tornado, Premiere Athletix was a total loss and Premiere Tans had serious damage, while luckily Premiere Lady was slightly affected. They have bounced back in a big way and Beckish is excited about the future of Premiere.

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Blair HUGHES

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rant business for 35 years. They own the chain of restaurants in the Eat With Us family. In college, Hughes worked a Harvey’s in Starkville, which piqued her interest, but she felt she was too far down the road in her education to change.

“I loved finance for 10 years, but stayed for 13,” she says. “I started making an exit plan, and I knew I wanted it to be food related. I considered food writing and I considered opening a grocery store at the beach. But coming home, where I had support, made the most sense.”

She came back to Tupelo in 1999. “My brother told me if I was going to do this I needed to learn every aspect of the business,” she says.

She attended culinary school and spent some time cooking on a line in a kitchen to prepare herself.

In 2000, she opened Park Heights, which specializes in American cuisine with elegant, creative touches. In 2007, Hughes says she decided she wanted to be part of what was happening in downtown Tupelo and in Fairpark.

She moved the restaurant to its current location at Fairpark.

It gave them more space for private functions and the rooftop space the restaurant is known for now.

In 2008, her husband got out of the furniture business and they joined forces in the restaurant business. Her second restaurant, South, was not part of the Hughes’ original plan.

“We started doing more Southern-inspired dishes at Park Heights, and it seemed to be what our customers were drawn to,” she says. “At the same time, the old Shoney’s building came available. I called to ask about it and from there it all happened pretty quickly. It was complete insanity but felt meant to be. Next thing I knew I had another restaurant. We signed the papers right around my 50th birthday.”

Hughes attributes her success to having an incredible team and supportive family – especially her husband, Hamp.

Hughes echoes advice given by Rubye Del Harden. “Do your homework, and make sure you love every aspect of the business. Don’t just study it – actually do it. Be prepared for it to take over your life and be in a position for it to be allconsuming for a little while,” Hughes says. L

ughes has restauranteur qualities in her blood, but that didn’t stop her from trying to go in a different direction early on in her career.

Hughes and her husband, Hamp, own Tupelo restaurants Park Heights and South. However, when Hughes graduated from George Washington University, she started her career in finance in Washington, D.C. She lived in D.C. for 15 years.

“I worked for a quasi-government agency,” she says. “There was lots of red tape, layers of approval, meetings, contracts…and lots of panty hose.”

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RUBY DEL HARDEN The Entrepreneurial spirit

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uby Del Harden of Tupelo never set out to be an leadership, communication and entrepreneur, but her life passions and many ideas have management consulting firm.

A business trip to Chicago introturned into multiple businesses over the years. duced Harden to quick print busiHarden currently owns five businesses – Sprint Print, The Dance Studio, All Star Dance Camp, Results, Inc. and S.N.A.P. She has started others during her career – some successful and some not so.

A Fulton native, her first business was a joint venture with her sister – they owned a newspaper in Hamilton, Ala. Their father passed away in 1977, when Harden was teaching in south Alabama. She came home and took his place as manager of the Itawamba County Times. For years afterward, Hardin “did newspaper” – managing and owning several newspapers and printing others. She sold her last newspaper business last year.

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nesses – something Tupelo didn’t have. She was already knowledgeable about printing, so she came home and opened Sprint Print. “That’s the way my businesses usually start – I hear an idea, look around and see if anyone else is already doing it – and the seed is planted,” Harden said.

Harden also has a passion for ballroom dance and used to travel to Las Vegas for dance classes. She eventually brought a teacher in to teach a class in Tupelo, and The Dance Studio was born.

Harden says the key to her success as a business owner is hiring good managers. “I love seeing people who work with me grow and learn,” Harden says. “I try to create a culture that is positive and nurturing that allows them to focus on the business in front of them. I think the key is to be specific about what you want, but give them the latitude in how to get it done.”

She says the worst mistake she has made in her career was deciding without consulting anyone to go into a business she thought was a no-brainer. “No business is a no-brainer,” Harden says. “I didn’t do adequate research or have the background to thoroughly understand everything we were doing.

I hired someone who I thought could run it for me, and I lost a lot because I didn’t totally understand. If you have a new venture, you have to become an expert. You have to be the one who can be manager, human resources, delivery, janitor – everything Know it inside out and upside down.

“Being a business owner is not an 8-5 job – you have to be sure this is something that you love. You can’t ignore any segment of your business or blow anything off. The best I can give is be absolutely certain your ducks are in a row, pray a lot and be sure it’s something that is fun to you.”L

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SYLVIA BLANCHARD The Heart of a Servant

BY JESSICA WRITTEN BY:STARKS JENNIE BRADFORD CURLEE

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f you’re not dedicated to your profession, you will give up.”

Those are the words of Sylvia Blanchard, a woman who chose to risk it all and step out on faith in order to serve the people of Mississippi. Blanchard’s love for people started at a young age.

“I always knew that I wanted to be where I could help people and do for others,” Blanchard said. “That’s always been my passion.”

After graduating in 2000 from MUW with a Masters of Science in Nursing, Blanchard realized that there was something more out there for her. After much prayer with her husband (Jeff), they both knew that it was time to open her own practice. Blanchard did not hide the fact that the beginning was rocky.

“I wanted to provide a place where people could feel welcomed and cared for,” she said. “It was tough at the beginning, having to get in here and do everything yourself. You’re the one who has to make all the decisions, and get all the insurance information. It was a struggle.”

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that you’re meant to do, it’s easy walk away and just say ‘Forget it.’”

In 2004 Family Care Medical Clinic was opened for business.

Blanchard’s motto for her business is, “It’s not just a place for health, it’s a place for family,” and she stands strong in that belief.

“I treat everyone as if they are my sister, mother, brother, child, as if they’re someone in my family,” She says. “So I know that I will give them the best care possible.”

The working wife and mother of three loves all of her patients, but admits that her favorite part of her job is interacting with the children.

“The children are my heart. I have kids that I had as newborns that are now 15 and 16 years old. I enjoy being able to watch them grow and be a part of their lives.”

Why Tupelo? Sylvia said it was fate.

“We had been looking around for places and talking to people, but we were always either turned down for the buildings or turned down for the loans,” Blanchard explained. “My husband and I started to think that maybe the practice just wasn’t meant to be.

But one day, we just so happened to come up on a building as we were driving – it was God-sent. We met with the owners, signed the lease, and everything went from there.”

Since opening, Blanchard has become a Doctor of Nursing Practice, and her business is better than ever! For those wishing to own their own business one day, the Houston, Mississippi native has some advice: “Make sure that you weigh everything and that it’s truly what you want to do, because it’s a sacrifice. Make sure that you have the right people coming in to work with you for your business.”

And to those who want to become nurse practitioners, “Make sure it’s what you want to do,” Blanchard says. “Make sure that you have an absolute love for it, because there will be people that try your nerves, or don’t do what you need them to do for their health, or people that are just mean and rude. You have to make sure it’s something you really love and have in your heart to do. Don’t do it just for the money because it’s much more than just a job.”

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ble to handle any crisis that comes her way, juggle a career, balance a family of a loving husband and three very active, energetic children , Holly McCoy, owner of Rosie’s Bakery in Tupelo, could very well be a true Wonder Woman in her own right. She serves as cook, taxi driver, business manager, keeping track of a very busy family in which every member of the family is involved in some type of athletic activity. But she very humbly downplays her super powers and gives all her credit to a very simple formula that she has followed throughout her life.

“We always put God first, then family, then work, then everything else just comes next and falls into place,” McCoy said. “When you put God first in your life, everything else just falls into place, but you’ve got to have the faith to do that.

Sometimes, I have to remind myself of that, but it has worked for my family and for me.”

Although it seems that McCoy was destined for the field of confectionary goodness, she never really considered owning her own bakery until she began working with her mother-inlaw at her bakery. McCoy was always found in her own kitchen during holidays, baking up a storm, creating cookies, candies, and cupcakes to help celebrate just about every holiday. But when McCoy began working with her mother-in-law, Rose McCoy, she found a renewed love of baking.

“I guess I more so married into the business,” McCoy said. “I loved being a part of the bakery and meeting all the great people that came in. When my mother-in-law decided that she wanted to retire last fall, Neal and I knew that we wanted to take over the

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business. I know people probably thought we were crazy, but it has been a wonderful experience from day one.”

The reason that McCoy thinks that some might question her sanity is that her plate was already pretty full at the time, but she has maintained a perfect schedule of family and business. And that’s saying something, considering how active and involved her three children are. Mac, the oldest of Holly and Neal’s children, 12, is active in sports and just started golf (with practice twice a week). He also plays basketball and whiffle ball. South,10, plays for a traveling baseball team and plays Pee Wee football, and the princess of the family, Carter Cate, 6, participates in dance and gymnastics.

“Carter Cate is our only little girl and the baby, but she really rules the roost. And her brothers just adore her,” McCoy said. “I may spend a lot of time on the road taking the kids from school to practice or going to work, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I really love it all, but I couldn’t do it without great teamwork at the bakery and such wonderful support from the community.”

McCoy feels extremely blessed to have a great staff that helps her balance

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“We always put God first, then family, then work, then everything else just comes next and falls into place.” everything. Calling her bakery manager, Michelle, “a Godsend,” McCoy knows the bakery is in good hands when she is not there because she is sure to hold down the ship for McCoy and company. So McCoy feels confident that her business is in good hands while she is away, serving as wife, mom, driver, biggest fan, or whatever role she might be needed to do.

As if this lady did not have enough to keep her busy, she is very active in the community and the school system.

In addition to her parenting duties and business obligations, Holly McCoy is very involved in the Tupelo Public Schools where her children attend in three different schools this year! She is a member of the Tupelo Junior Auxiliary and is in the second year of her 6-year commitment of this wonderful organization. “The giving back to the community and kids of Tupelo and Lee County is such a blessing!” McCoy

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said. “I have interacted with the kids that we have helped on a handful of times already, and you can just see the joy, excitement and how much they appreciate all that we do for them.”

Although I just feel overwhelmed looking at what all this businesswoman and mother does, she takes it all in stride and has learned the importance of keeping a schedule of all upcoming activities. “That’s the only way I could keep everything straight,” McCoy said. “But I really see all of the challenges as a blessing. I enjoy every aspect of my life—my faith, my family, our business, our community and customers—just everything. When you put God first in your life, everything will fall into place.”

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SUSIE MORGAN

Sharing stories of Mississippi products

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usie Morgan of Tupelo is the owner of About the South, and expanded their business.

There was an art gallery downa gift shop featuring Mississippi-made items in town that Morgan would visit and downtown Tupelo. noticed a space next door that had Morgan worked in retail when she was younger, and knew it was something she wanted to do. In November 2012 she started out with a booth inside Joyful Creations in Tupelo. She was there through March 2013, when her husband, Greg, encouraged her to expand.

“He said if this was what I wanted to do then now was the time,” Morgan says.

They moved to their own location

“Our products are from artists and other entrepreneurs.

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been empty for 15 years. Around the same time, her business was being recruited by the Downtown Tupelo Main Street Association. “Everything fell into place, and we moved downtown and expanded.”

The business is now in its fourth year and Morgan is staying true to her original goal.

“We still specialize in products made in Mississippi or in the South,” Morgan says. “Our products are from artists and other entrepreneurs. Everything in here has a story – and I like to tell it as best I can.”

Morgan says that sometimes a new business feels like a toddler that will never grow. “On the front end, you have to give it 100 percent,” she says. “You can’t set it in the corner and hope – you have to tend to it and maintain it.”

Morgan attributes her success to the support of her family and of Tupelo.

“I have a great, supportive family,” she says. “My mother was wonderful and very independent. I worked for great ladies in my past life who taught me how to roll with the punches and taught me to enjoy working in retail and how to balance a family and a business.”

Moving to downtown has made such a difference in Morgan’s business. “We really saw downtown Tupelo coming back to life and more people going downtown. We are so glad to be a part of the tremendous growth downtown has seen in recent years.”L

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“I was just really surprised how much interest there was in a food blog,”

PAULA MCTUNE JONES turns passion into business

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t’s been said that when you get to do what you love for a living, then you are truly blessed, and Paula McTune Jones has great faith in that theory. Jones feels extremely blessed to do what she has enjoyed doing all her life and has the freedom to be there for her family whenever needed. Plus, if you get paid for doing the work you love, then it doesn’t feel like work at all.

That is exactly how Paula McTune Jones feels. All her life, she has loved cooking, especially baking. Jones’ mother gave her daughter free reign in the kitchen, with only one caveat—that she had to clean up after herself. That is the only

chore that Jones dreads still today about cooking.

“My mother was wonderful and let me try out any kind of recipe or mix up new flavors or ideas as long as I cleaned up the kitchen afterwards,” Jones said with a laugh. “She was a teacher and did not have the time for any additional cleaning, but she really gave me the freedom to be creative in my baking and express myself anyway that I wanted.”

From the tender age of eight or nine, Jones could be found in the kitchen, baking up a storm as she cooked cakes, cookies, candies, and just about anything and everything to help celebrate the season. Throughout her life, Jones saw baking goodies as a way to show her love and appreciation for her family and friends.

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“I look back now at my life and think what a nerdy teenager I was,” the bubbly baker said with a laugh. “I was always reading cook books, and I loved reading them and collecting them. When the Food Network first started, it was on all the time at our house, and I was watching it always.”

Throughout her life, cooking and baking have been a passion for Jones, but she never really considered it as a career path. Jones began her professional career in banking, but when she and Wesley Jones were married and began building a family, she wanted to be home to care for her boys, Lincoln and Ryder. Jones said that she had always loved to entertain, cook, tailgate, and bake, but had never really viewed those interests as a new form of employment until after she won the Mississippi Magazine 2011 Recipe Contest. After claiming the well-deserved honor, Jones got more and more recipe requests from family and friends and decided to start a blog to share recipes with friends never truly believing that it would blossom into the successful venture it is today.

Chefs, foodies, bakers, and anyone who loves food at all can find some of the easiest and most delicious recipes, gorgeous colorful photos of food, and lots of fun with Paula, better known as PMc to her friends, at her booming website: http://www.callmepmc. com. If Jones had it her way, she would only bake sweets because that is truly her passion, but she knows that she has to incorporate “real food” as she called it into repertoire, by offering recipes that can be done under

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“By having the blog, my family and I have gotten to do so many cool things, go to some really cool places, and meet so many cool people that we would never gotten to without the surprising success of the blog.”

30 minutes, recipes that only require three ingredients, and other unique, beautiful creations on her very fun and engaging food blog.

“I was just really surprised how much interest there was in a food blog, and I couldn’t believe that people would be looking to me for easy but tasty recipes for different occasions,” Jones said. “It has continued to grow, and I can definitely tell you that it has improved because when I began I would be cooking and would stop to take a picture. Let me tell you, my photography skills weren’t great then, and I know my boys had to think I was crazy because they would say, ‘Mommy, why are you taking a picture of the food?’”

Those days of inexperience are long gone as Jones has gained even more experience in working on her blog and is very fortunate to have her own food panel right across the table. Jones said that her husband is an excellent cook, and her oldest son is starting to help with the blog. But probably their favorite task in this incorporation is as taste testers.

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opinionated and don’t mind telling me what they like or may not like.

Now, they know more about my blog, and they will stop before eating and ask, ‘Mom, do you need to take a picture of this before we eat it?’”

Although Jones and family are based in Tupelo, Mississippi, her fame is worldwide and continues to grow daily through her delightfully beautiful website. Jones’ warmth and humor as well as her expertise in the kitchen are reflected on the website.

A visit here is almost like chatting with Jones about baking, tailgating, family fun or what have you rather than a boring blog with just recipes and nothing else. Jones lets you into her kitchen, her home, and her heart, by introducing visitors to her family and pets, her interests besides cooking, favorite activities, memories, and hints or suggestions on how to make any occasion special.

“By having the blog, my family and I have gotten to do so many cool things, go to some really cool places, and meet so many cool people that we would never gotten to without the surprising success of the blog,” Jones said. “I dearly love every aspect

of cooking, and I love having the food blog because it allows me the flexibility to be there for my family and be involved in any school or volunteer activities.

And it also makes me feel good that I am able to contribute to the family income without putting all of the financial burden of earning money on my husband.”

Jones admits that her Southern roots are deep and this girl loves to bake and eat desserts more than anything. If she could, she said that would be all that she would do, but she knows that families and children need more balanced menus. Jones has offered more healthy options and recipes, grilling ideas, and so much more, on her website. With her success, she has been able to gain sponsorship by several companies by incorporating their advertised ingredients into her recipes. The horizon seems even brighter for Jones and family and one of the best food blogs you’ll ever visit on the world wide web. Naturally, it’s no surprise that Jones wants to join her cooking heroes on the shelves one day.

“My dream has always been to have my own cook book,” Jones said. “I’m not ready for that yet.

I’m working to get better and better, but one day I would love to have my own cook book. That may be a little while down the road, but until then, I will keep on working to improve my website, my photography, and just really improve on everything.”

It hardly seems there is any room for improvement as Paula McTune Jones expertly displays how a successful career woman can balance family, career, fun, and of course, lots of delicious treats right from her oven. L

The holidays will be here before we know it whether we’re ready or not. At some point during the season, you may have to host or provide a potluck ‘snack’. As a wife and mother, sometimes the last thing I want to do or think about is entertaining. Let’s face it, we have plenty to do without the stress of added holiday gifts to buy, houses to decorate, socials to attend, and cute party food to make. I put together four easy appetizer recipes that are guaranteed to satisfy hungry house guests. These quick and easy appetizers have just a few ingredients and steps. They will make entertaining easy and ‘semi’ stressfree. I promise with these appetizers you won’t be fussing over a hot oven all day! For more easy recipes like these, visit my website CallMePMc.com BAKED PIMIENTO CHEESE 1 and ½ cups mayonnaise 4 ounce jar diced pimientos, drained 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce ½ teaspoon ground red pepper 8 ounce shredded Cheddar cheese 8 ounce shredded Monterrey Jack cheese Stir together all ingredients. Spoon mixture into a lightly greased 7x11-inch oven save dish. Bake at 350 degrees F for 20 minutes or until dip is golden brown.

Serve with cracker, chips, or vegetables.

JALAPENO CHEESE DIP 1 pound colby cheese, grated 3 fresh jalapenos, seeded and chopped 2 cups mayonnaise ¼ cup onion, minced panko bread crumbs or crushed butter crackers Mix first four ingredients and spoon into an oven safe dish.

Top with bread crumbs or crushed crackers.

Bake at 350 degrees F for 20 minutes or until hot and top is browned.

Serve hot with corn chips or Scoops BAKED CHEESE APPETIZER ½ package (1 sheet) puffed pastry, thawed 8 ounce round of Brie cheese (provolone or Havarti can be substituted) 3 tablespoons orange marmalade or apricot preserves.

1 egg white Preheat oven to 350 dgrees. Lightly grease a pie pan or cookie sheet.

Place cheese in the middle of pastry and spread marmalade or preserves over top of cheese.

Wrap pastry up and around cheese, forming a decorative top and pinching it to seal.

Brush with egg white.

Bake 15 to 20 minutes or until browned.

Serve with sliced green apples.

WYATT JOINS Reed’s Staff WRITTEN BY: JENNIE BRADFORD CURLEE

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nnabeth Wyatt has joined Reed’s as its Marketing and Advertising Director. Wyatt joined the staff after serving as Assistant Communication’s Director for the Tupelo Public School district.

“I started working for Reed’s this summer,” Wyatt said. “I have truly enjoyed my first few months at Reed’s.”

Wyatt takes over for Lucia Randle, who left to become Director of Marketing for the Boys and Girls Clubs of North Mississippi. Wyatt said her duties include working with owner Jack Reed, Jr. to promote sales and help with community outreach.

“I work directly with Jack and the Reed’s team in order to decide exactly

what merchandise and products we want to advertise and market each week of the year,” Wyatt said. “We are very involved with a number of sales and promotion that goes on during the year, so putting a marketing plan together is a daily duty.”

Wyatt also says her duties involve many of the company’s charity projects.

“One aspect of the job that has meant so much to me is having the opportunity to be the liaison for Reed’s and the countless number of charities and regional groups the store helps,” Wyatt added. “Whether it’s a monetary donation, or items for silent auctions or events, Reed’s helps and supports so many people and groups across our area.”L

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SALVATION ARMY WOMEN’S AUXILIARY Working Together, Changing Lives BYAMANDA WRITTEN BY:JEWEL WADLEY JENNIE BRADFORD CURLEE

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alvation Army Women’s Auxiliary (SAWA) has been active in Northeast Mississippi since 1979. SAWA forms several committees assisting The Salvation Army with projects focused on meeting specific needs. Thanksgiving Dressing, Empty Bowls, Mud Ladies, and Christmas Angel Tree are just a few of the ways SAWA serves the community.

Katrina Potter Patty was sworn in as SAWA president when they resumed meeting in August. “We have a kick-off in August and meet every third Wednesday of each month at 10:00 a.m. through April at The Salvation Army on Carnation Street. Our August meeting will take place at a local church fellowship hall or parish hall. We’ll serve finger foods and

welcome new members.” says Patty.

One committee that makes a huge impact in the fall is the Thanksgiving Dressing Committee. They gather together in order to feed those who come to The Salvation Army on Thanksgiving Day. “We make about 50 pounds of dressing—we call out the ingredients to everybody and they are responsible for those ingredients,” Patty says. “Then each person brings in their ingredients all in one day. And then someone comes in the next day before Thanksgiving, and mixes it all. We throw it in a pan and cook it and it takes a huge committee just to do that.”

Salvation Army Angel Tree is a well-known event that supplies gifts to families who cannot afford to buy gifts for their children at Christmas.

“We usually have around 196 spots to fill in a four to five week period. We start taking applications in September and we will do

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that for a week at the Salvation Army,” said Patty. “Clients will come in and we will have mailed them a letter of what to bring with them. They’ll show up in September and we’ll write all of their information down and send them to the back, to the Majors who will talk with them and type in a few numbers; they will either approve them or decline them at that point. Notices are sent to the Health Department, Department of Human Services, the Public Housing Office and we air it on radio broadcasts and T.V…Also something we started last year, everyone who comes in and completes an application has to take a finance class…If they don’t stay for the class and sign in at the end of class, they won’t be approved. It teaches them how to budget their money and we’ve had positive feedback from it.”

Once this process is complete, the children’s names are put on tags and the Angel Tree is set up to begin the week before Thanksgiving. Workers are needed to divide the ten-hour day into three to four hour shifts throughout four to five weeks. Businesses and groups can sign up to work the Angel Tree.

“Usually about the second week of December on a Saturday is when we have to shut down Angel Tree. We have to get every angel to the furniture market. We lay out all the numbers on the floor; last year we had about 500 angels. And we have to see who got returned and who didn’t. Who is missing? Sometimes people adopt and then don’t bring their angel back…When we have one missing, we have donated toys that we can go get a toy for to put with that tag. We don’t always have enough. We sometimes have a few

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“We make about 50 pounds of dressing—we call out the ingredients to everybody and they are responsible for those ingredients.” that don’t get adopted, but some places like Toyota and Walmart will donate toys so, thankfully, we can fill those missing adoptions,” says Patty.

Around Ash Wednesday of each year, SAWA sponsors Empty Bowls.

Empty Bowls helps to raise awareness and donations for the Salvation Army’s food program. Last year 106,473 meals were prepared at The Salvation Army’s Tupelo Carnation Center for those in need.

“Many people have been confused about this event. I’ve had people say, ‘Oh, well I thought you were feeding the homeless that day.’ No, you purchase tickets. You come eat. VM Cleveland donates the space at the Furniture Market. Anyone can purchase tickets for $15 in advance at different locations or at the door. When you come, you get soup, water and bread. This symbolizes the hunger in the world,” says Patty. “BancorpSouth brings casseroles, banks come in and sell items, and we have visiting potters come in and sell items. All give a percentage of their sales to Empty Bowls. We even have drive-through services available where you can call ahead or fax in your order and pull up at the front and someone comes out to help you.”

After lunch, ticket holders can pick up their soup bowl which is made

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luncheon. “They meet every Tuesday in a little building and they mold, fire, glaze, re-fire, design—everything from start to finish. Our committee chair Barbara Vaughn goes to Florence every two months and picks up a Suburban full of clay. They bring it back, literally dump it out of the box—it’s probably 60 pounds of clay—and we dump it on the table and cut it with a flossing wire. We cut it into little slabs and crank it into a machine that makes it into like a quarter inch consistency in order to flatten it out to start the design. And it turns into your nice little pottery bowl,” says Patty. In a year they make around 2,000 pottery bowls for the Empty Bowls event and are looking for new members to help with this committee.

Patty says SAWA has started recruiting new members and welcomes women of all ages to join their organization.

“We’ve got maybe 100 members on roll where 40 or 50 may show up to a membership meeting. We have pamphlets for more information, the Facebook page…and in August, we’ll have tables set up in a local church with displays for each committee so you can walk up and see what all they do.”

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SHOP TIL’ YOU DROP in Tupelo’s Shopping Districts Grab the Girls and explore why Tupelo is a regional shopping hub WRITTEN BY: JENNIE BRADFORD CURLEE

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f shopping is truly an art form, then Tupelo is a big, blank canvas just waiting to be filled. With three distinct shopping districts situated throughout town, there are unique finds ready to be found, as well as staples for every shape and size. Tupelo is known as a regional shopping hub for North Mississippi, West Alabama, and other surrounding states. While our neighbors near and far know about the city’s sensational shopping, there is no better time than now to grab the girls and find out first-hand why Tupelo’s shopping districts are the best around.

The perfect day of shopping begins with a visit to Downtown Tupelo. The health of a city can often be told by the vibrancy of its downtown. If this is the case, Tupelo is thriving. With the recent addition of the Elvis Presley Birthplace Trail, Downtown Tupelo has enjoyed a facelift, adding street trees and green spaces, sidewalks with bricked pedestrian crosswalks, crossing signals, bike lanes, and decorative street lighting. All of this was created

to improve the safety and livability of the downtown Main Street corridor while also strengthening the Elvis Presley Birthplace connection to downtown.

Meet at Fairpark Grill, or one of the other great dining spots downtown, for brunch and map out the day’s stops, fueling for the shopping marathon that is about to commence. The merchants in the Downtown Shopping District include Reed’s, one of the oldest department stores in the state and Tupelo Hardware Co., where Gladys Presley purchased Elvis’ first guitar. Among Downtown Tupelo’s newest shops are BlairHaus, an upscale home furnishings and interior design space; Willow Bride, Tupelo’s newest bridal boutique; and Bailey Diane, a ladies’ clothing shop. Perinneal favorites include About the South, FarmHouse, and Swirlz, all offering exclusive gifts and accessories; The Caron Gallery, Tupelo’s downtown art gallery specializing in Mississippi artisans; and MLM, a mens’ fine clothier.

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variety of stores ranging from a florist and bakery to bargain hunting and children’s specialty items, Midtown is as unique and varied as it comes.

Situated along Industrial Road, the Midtown Shopping District begins with the West Main Shopping Center, crosses Main Street going south and includes Jody’s Flowers, Tupelo’s exclusive McCarty Pottery dealer, and the shops of the Willow Bend Shopping Center. Further along, turning onto Varsity Drive, shopper’s will find Stagg’s Interiors, Tupelo’s longtime home for unique home furnishings and interior design. Grab lunch at Danver’s in Midtown for Tupelo’s favorite salad bar before continuing the day of shopping with your girlfriends.

Now that the back of the car is brimming with all of the fabulous finds of the day, head north to the Barnes Crossing Shopping District where national brands are waiting. The Mall at Barnes Crossing, the region’s largest mall, anchors this area. It has undergone a refurbishment recently, with new floors and fixtures throughout, giving it a contemporary look, including new stores. The mall also hosts special events throughout the year.

While the Mall at Barnes Crossing is the centerpiece of this district, many other stores occupy this vast area that was once farmland. The constant in the Barnes Crossing Shopping District is moving dirt as new stores pop up constantly. Tupelo boasts over 160 restaurants, many of which are located in this area, making it a great destination for dining. End the day with the girls toasting the success of the shopping trip, while also planning how soon you can do it again.

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Plan your Tupelo shopping itinerary at www.tupelo.net To learn more about Tupelo’s three shopping districts, visit: Downtown Tupelo Shopping District www.tupelomainstreet.com Midtown Shopping District www.facebook.com/midtowntupelo Barnes Crossing Shopping District www.barnescrossing.com

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WEEZIE’S DELI & GIFTS A Place to Call Home

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f you ever find yourself traveling down West Main Street in Tupelo, you may pass one of the best-kept secrets in town – Weezie’s Deli & Gifts. Although this shop may not be the best known in Tupelo, there is no denying that the customers of this establishment feel as if they are going to grandma’s house.

Weezie’s Deli & Gifts started in 2001, just two days after 9/11 – a sensitive time in our country’s history. Owner Vivian Lee thought that the world needed a little comfort, and what better a way to accomplish that than by food and a little reminder of the love of family.

Weezie’s was named after Lee’s mother, but the name was not the only inspiration her mother gave.

Weezie, who is now 88 years old, is known for her generous heart and how her home was always open.

“My mother’s house was a place that you couldn’t wait to go to and were never in a hurry to leave,” said Lee. “We wanted to bring that same atmosphere to the restaurant.”

Serving soups, salads, and desserts, Weezie’s takes pride in not using any canned vegetables, utilizing only fresh produce.

The restaurant also has gifts and homegrown jellies for sale in their shop.

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“We have a room here in the restaurant where we allow small gatherings to come after-hours called The Inez Room,” which Lee revealed is named after her favorite aunt. “I believe she’s looking down on us and feels happy and honored.”

Weezie’s will be celebrating their 15th year in business this year, and they give all of the credit to their loyal customers.

“A lot of our customers we know by name because they will come and eat here 2-3 times a week. We also have customers that came here as kids come back and bring their families, because they considered

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“We also have customers that came here as kids come back and bring their families, because they considered our place a major part of their childhoods.” our place a major part of their childhoods.”

Weezie’s mission statement is “Nourish the Body and Refresh the Soul.”

“Whether it be with work, raising a family, or whatever, there is so much stress in the world, said Lee. “Here at Weezie’s, we want you to step inside and be able to get away

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from all of that for a while. We don’t want you to regret coming; we hope you leave here better than you came.”

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I’M ENGAGED...

What Now? WRITTEN BY: SALLYE STEWART AND GINNIE WAITE

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e’s popped the question and you said “YES!” Your family and friends are elated and overjoyed. You picture yourself as that little girl who dreamed of this day and now you see your life through the eyes of a fiancé. The questions begin rolling in. “So when’s the big day?” “Do you have a dress?”

“Who’s your baker?” “What about the flowers?” Now, as a good southern girl you know how to plan a party, but this is different.

This is the biggest day of your life thus far. How will you be able to handle it? These questions and the need for guidance lead you to step one of the process. #1…FIND A PLANNER! This is going to be your day and the ultimate celebration of two lives joining together. Your planner is your support system and the gateway to your dream team of vendors. Now, hiring a planner does not mean that your entire decision-making goes out of the window. It’s your voice that guides your planner, that helps marry your vision and your budget to create your perfect day.

Another advantage of a planner is that on your perfect day you (and your mother) get to play the roles of a lifetime, instead of assuming the responsibilities of making sure all comes off as planned. In today’s world of multi extended families, casual dress codes,

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and blended cultures a good planner is essential in assisting you with your wedding etiquette questions.

Gone are the days of purchasing a wedding planning guide book. Each wedding is unique and a planner will help you tailor your perfect day to your individual situation.

#2…WHAT’S YOUR VISION? As planners in our first meeting with a bride we ask the question “When you close your eyes and think of your wedding what do you see?” This is the time to see the big picture. Don’t stress over the specifics. The details will fall into place. It’s easy to fall into the “trendy trap!” Stay true to yourself and what you like. Each year and season trends ebb and flow, colors and styles evolve and merge and are ever changing. Don’t be afraid to mix styles. Some of the most beautiful and memorable weddings contain a mix of décor styles. Be sure to incorporate your personal tastes and parts that “brand’ the wedding as your own. One of the most important jobs we have as planners is to fit the bride with the perfect floral/wedding designer. That person, along with your planner, will help you achieve your vision. #3…SET PRIORITIES: DECIDE WHAT’S IMPORTANT TO YOU! Every bride is unique. Each one has an order of priorities of what they value most. For some it’s all about the dress! For others, the main concern is the floral and décor that sets the tone for the day. You might have a particular cake in mind that is your “must have.” As planners, we help you make

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that list in order of importance. Remember in Step 2 we said, “Don’t stress the specifics?” This is where we as planners help you to begin the process of wading through the details. #4…TIME TO SET A BUDGET. Our best advice here is don’t start with “How much does it cost?” Instead decide what you are comfortable spending. That answer equals your budget. This is the point where your planner will take your vision and that list of priorities and will help you decide how the money will be allocated. Just remember, the groom’s family is a part of this too. Have a conversation to determine how much they are willing to help with the expenses. We tell all of our brides, “You can have a wed-

ding on any budget; you just have choices to make.” #5…THE DREADED GUEST LIST! Jump in, start and finish your guest list early. So many things are determined by your guest count; • the number of Save the Dates • the number of invitations • your rental budget • the amount of food for the caterer • the amount of reception seating As planners we remind you to “REMEMBER YOUR VISION.” Fit the guest list and size of the wedding to the vision, not vice versa. This is one of the most difficult parts of the planning process.

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dresses of those included. Remember, your groom will have a guest list too! #6…JUST A FEW TIPS! • Use Pinterest Wisely Remember Pinterest is a site of professional photos. When you see a picture you like ask yourself what it is that draws you to that photo.

What speaks to you? Is it the colors? The symmetry? The design?

The specific flowers? Don’t try to copy a look, use it as inspiration to create your own look.

• Be Wary of “Family Help” Everyone is excited when the planning starts and eager to offer help, especially for the weekend of the wedding. Unfortunately what

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“When you close your eyes and think of your wedding what do you see?” This is the time to see the big picture. Don’t stress over the specifics.

they mean is they will help set up.

Remember what goes up must come down and sometimes well-meaning family nd friends get caught up in the fun of the evening and just forget to stay around for the clean-up.

Better to let your guest be guest and leave as much as you can afford to the professionals.

• Don’t Go On a Buying Spree at the Craft Store You immediately look on Pinterest, see things you like and then make a trip to the local craft store to start buying. Even the best intentioned and creative bride can end up with a bunch of “stuff” blowing her decorating budget in the process. Set your vision then purchase with intent and purpose. Remem-

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ber you will have all that “stuff” to store after the wedding is over.

• Stick to Your Timeline; Don’t put off the unpleasant functional parts that must be done. Everyone wants to focus on what colors you will use, what flowers you like, and what the bridesmaids will wear.

There are lots of details that must be taken care of in order to avoid a mess close to wedding time. This is where your planner really comes in to play.

A good planner will take those mundane but necessary parts of the process off of you and let you think about the fun parts.

The ring now feels like it was always meant to be there.

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You begin to daydream and grow this vision that will be your day.

The planning process begins to take on a life of its own. Don’t get swallowed up. Don’t get overwhelmed.

Make friends with your planner and rely on them to support you.

Laugh, cry and be excited. Remember to plan for the marriage, not just the wedding. And, above all else, know at the end of the day you will be married to the love of your life.L Sallye Stewart is a certified wedding and event planner located in Tupelo, Mississippi.

She can be reached at sallyestewartep@gmail.com.

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NEW EXPECTATIONS FOR WOMEN in Mississippi Supporting Women, Touching Lives WRITTEN BY: AMANDA JEWEL WADLEY

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ew Expectations for Women in Mississippi (NEWMS) is a special project of the CREATE Foundation. Seven leading business women spent a year brainstorming ways to address the needs of Northeast Mississippi women and in 2004 NEWMS was formed.

“NEWMS is committed to providing resources to help all women be successful,” says Cheryl Henning, Chairman of the 2016 Board for NEWMS. “Most of today’s pressing problems fall on women. And usually on single mothers. While we’re committed to providing resources for all

women, we also focus on families— especially single mothers.”

According to the NEWMS website, the goal of NEWMS is to encourage local women to reach their potential through services focusing on health, education, leadership, and philanthropy. One of the services offered involves the Women’s Business Network events which has expanded this year to seven meetings from quarterly.

“Three of those are luncheons,” Henning said. “And the other four events are held at 4:00 p.m. at the CDF Boardroom. That way those who can’t come in the afternoon could come to lunch, and those that can’t come at lunch can come in the afternoon.”

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and gain support from other business women. Speakers at these events give advice, tell their stories, and help others understand they are not alone in their struggles to balance their business lives with their personal lives.

“It’s a great networking time. It’s meeting a need we are hearing that today’s younger professional women don’t have support groups of knowing there are others out there experiencing the same struggles they are—child care, financial challenges, needing to work on self-development. And they are so thrilled to learn that there is not just a group or not just an agency or organization, but actually other individual women that they can connect with, that they can identify with in trying to meet today’s working woman needs.” says Henning.

NEWMS has a philanthropic program called Fairy Godmothers.

For those NEWMS members who pay a higher membership fee, their extra money is used in a multitude of ways. “We have purchased gas cards for someone to get to a cancer treatment. We have provided scholarships for certified nursing students. We have provided rent for terminally ill patients and car repairs for a single mother to get back and forth to work. Pretty much, if another agency will grant it, then it doesn’t fit underneath us. We try to fill in the cracks.”

In 2017, NEWMS is having their Second Annual Sweet Expectations Chocolate Festival to raise money for Fairy Godmother projects.

“2016 was our first event and we had eight or nine participating businesses and vendors,” Henning said.

“We did meet our goals of raising the money we needed. Sponsorships are $75 for any business or individual that would like to have a booth and of course, our focus is on chocolate.

It’s a lot of fun. We’ll have live entertainment, giveaways and raffles.”

This event will be located at MidTown Pointe Food Court from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. on February 4, 2017.

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According to the NEWMS website, the goal of NEWMS is to encourage local women to reach their potential through services focusing on health, education, leadership, and philanthropy.

NEWMS does accept donations for Fairy Godmothers, as well as for their scholarship program. The scholarship program funds are divided into two kind of scholarships.

A general scholarship fund is offered for such uses as the nursing school fees to take the certification test or to provide scrubs for a student of the nursing program, and partial scholarships are offered for the Success Skills class supported by NEWMS. Those who would like to apply for a scholarship may contact Administrative Executive, Lee Oswalt at oswaltkl@gmail.com or at NEWMS c/o CREATE P.O. Box 1053, Tupelo, Mississippi 38802.

Success Skills is a class supported

by NEWMS that focuses on professional leadership skills. It is a 10 week class where participants gain a better understanding of priorities, communication skills, setting and achieving goals, and focusing on what is most important. The next class will be offered in the fall of 2016. Those who are interested in learning more information may contact Ruby Del Harden at 108 North Spring Street in Tupelo or Cheryl Henning at chenning@bcsarena.com.

The Teen Success Skills class is for girls ages 18 to 25 which is sponsored by the Success Skills Alumni Board.

This class teaches self-defense, health, self-awareness, goal setting, finance, and warning against internet predators. For more information, contact Rhonda Horton, President of the Success Skills Alumni board at (662) 322-6434.

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love most about NEWMS. Underneath that, making friends with like-minded people who want to be successful and want to help other women,” Henning says.

One of the ways those who make a difference are honored is through the Women of Distinction Luncheon sponsored by NEWMS. “NEWMS’s Women of Distinction Program is a tribute to women who by their lives and examples pave the way for other women for generations to come. They distinguish themselves as role models, friends, heroes, and mentors. The Women of Distinction Luncheon is held every other year. In the off years we gather nominations of the appropriate women to honor. It began in 2004 and this year made our 7th class of Women of Distinction. It is a fine event that honors them and encourages them to be better themselves, and encourages all who attend to be more self-less, to give and to touch lives more and more.”

The next luncheon for this event will be in the spring of 2018. Nominations will begin to be accepted in late 2017.

Contact Lee Oswalt at oswaltkl@gmail. com or at NEWMS c/o CREATE P.O. Box 1053, Tupelo, Mississippi 38802 to place a nomination. L For more information about NEWMS, visit them on their Facebook page NEWMS-New Expectations for Women in Mississippi, or at their website newms. us. NEWMS is a special project of the CREATE Foundation. All membership fees and donations are tax deductible.

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ALIVIA PADEN ROBERTS proudly serving as Miss Tupelo WRITTEN BY: YVONNE FIELDS

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ontrary to popular belief, Alivia Paden Roberts was not born with a silver spoon in her mouth. She saw her family put into action strong Christian faith and virtues of accountability, discipline, courage and charity, all now serving as influences for her to pursue greatness in her life.

She is Miss Tupelo, representing the “All-American City” with four corners of the crown - style, service, scholarship and success. When asked, what is your purpose in life? Roberts succinctly responded, “To make a difference and help continue to break the glass ceiling.” In reply to Roberts’ statement, her parents, Kenneth and Teresa Fields Roberts shared, “In our ‘spiritual right,’ we asked for divine inspiration over our daughter’s life.”

On January 23, 2016, Roberts, a former Miss Tupelo Outstanding Teen, was crowned the winner of the Miss Tupelo Pageant with platform issue, Healthy Teens for a Better Mississippi: Teenage Pregnancy Prevention. Her win qualified her to compete in the Miss Mississippi Pageant (a preliminary of the Miss America Pageant) which is held each year in Vicksburg, MS. In this year’s state pageant in June she represented her local town with a Top 10 placement that rewarded her a

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Miss Mississippi Cash Scholarship Award. In 2015, she took top honors as a Talent Preliminary Winner.

There’s a special story that aided Roberts in choosing her platform issue. While delivering a speech on the stigma associated with Mississippi’s teen birth rates at a Town Hall meeting in Tupelo, Governor Phil Bryant, being captivated

by Roberts’ youthful ability to intellectually engage an audience on such a plaguing and serious issue, appointed her on the spot to serve as his Executive Youth Leader & Spokesperson for Region II to help promote his newly mandated Healthy Teens for a Better Mississippi (HTBM) initiative.

Since joining forces with the Office of the Governor, under the mentorship of Dr. Nycole Campbell Lewis, State Coordinator & Policy Advisor for HTBM, Roberts has made great strides in giving teen pregnancy prevention the attention it deserves to help her native state reach its goals of lowering teen birth rates.

Personally, to gain a global perspective on this epidemic, she mentored young girls in Nicaragua, which has the highest teen pregnancy rates in Central America. According to national statistics, in 2010, Mississippi ranked number one in the nation with the highest rate of births to teen mothers 15-19. Today, Mississippi has seen a decrease, ranking fourth. In recognition of her work, the governor awarded Roberts with the “Youth of the Year Award 2015.”

Having the support of the Office of the Mayor, Jason Shelton, together with pageant directors, Diana Strickland Pittman and Dale Hathorn, serving as Miss Tupelo appears to be a fruitful and inspiring experience for Roberts. Their goal is to ensure quality opportunities for her to promote her platform issue throughout the community right through her reign. Although

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Roberts has made great strides in giving teen pregnancy prevention the attention it deserves to help her native state reach its goals of lowering teen birth rates. the crown embellishes extravagant glitz, it comes by way of enormous effort. Despite the balancing act between college and the demands that typify Miss Tupelo, “I manage to make volunteer community service a priority, which is dear to my heart,” said Roberts.

In light, she volunteers with MSU’s Longest Health Center to help address unplanned pregnancy prevention as enacted by Mississippi Legislature House Bill 972 to raise awareness on unplanned pregnancy prevention across the college population.

Her commitment to making a difference has decorated her with dis-

tinguishing honors such as the President’s Volunteer Service Award by Corporation for National & Community Service, a Congressional Gold Medal by United States Congress, American Legion Leadership Award, Mississippi Trailblazer Youth Promising Award and the Platform Service Scholarship Award by MS Outstanding Teen Pageant. In validating these achievements, Roberts is reminded of a stimulating appeal by her cousin and Rust College President, Dr. David Beckley. He said to me, “Alivia, many will doubt your abilities because you come from a small town like Shannon, MS. But don’t you let

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anyone tell you what you can’t do.

Let it be your choice to decide what you can or can’t do because only you will have to live with that choice.”

This appeal abides in Roberts, who after graduating Valedictorian of her high school class, made MSU her home away from home. In her freshman year, she became the first African American to integrate MSU’s Delta Omega Chapter of Kappa Delta Sorority and MSU Diamond Girls.

Her daily schedule is always full of opportunities to bear fruit of her life’s purpose. That’s the way she likes it while consistently managing to grace the President’s List, exemplifying the GE-Reagan Foundation Scholar that she is. Moreover, her service to Miss Tupelo is a testament to the promise of hard work. Roberts starts each day with a big dose of gratitude to her Creator, her family and faithful supporters. Filled with a zeal of purpose and significance, one can only wonder all the laurels her life’s work will bring. L

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ask dr. linda Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We have 2 beautiful children together ages 7 and 3. Recently, his 15 year old son from his first marriage came to live with us. What should we do to help everyone feel like we are one big, happy family?

A: Communication is key. In blended families, you have the coming together of two sets of rules, discipline and expectations.

If there isn’t some discussion ahead of time about things such as values and beliefs, limits and discipline, it can lead to conflict down the road.

Try to give all children equal time doing what they enjoy. Spend time together as a family and let each child have quality time alone with both parents. Be sure to have regular family “meetings” to discuss feelings and concerns. You might also consider NOT using the word “step” when referring to the children and the parents. Most of all, show unconditional love and patience.

Q: I recently started a new job. One of the first people that I met was a very handsome, very available male co-worker. He seems to be interested but I’m not sure if dating a coworker is a good idea. What do you think?

A: Congratulations on the new job! I think the fact that you are asking my opinion indicates that you know this is not your best idea and you want someone to talk you into or out of it. In general, it is not a good idea to date co-workers for a number of reasons. I’ll name a few.

1. Too much togetherness.

There’s nothing wrong with some time away from the person you’re dating. In fact, it’s pretty healthy. Sometimes we need a breather so we can actually miss the people we see every day. How can you expect to get that if you wake up and see them, go to work and see them, and come home and see them?

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2. It can cause distractions. One of the biggest drawbacks to dating a coworker is the distractions that come with the romance and they might cause your performance to suffer. If you already find it challenging to concentrate (and with a new job you might), you might want to avoid hooking up with a colleague.

3. It makes your judgment seem questionable. Don’t be too surprised if coworkers begin to question your professional judgment. There might be situations in the future where they cry favoritism or your inability to see clearly due to the love cloud circling around your head.

4. Not all relationships last forever. If you end the romantic relationship, you still have to maintain a positive workplace relationship. Folks who date their coworkers and breakup leave themselves open to awkward situations and potential claims of harassment.

5. If the relationship ends, dating someone new on the job could be awkward.

6. It can blur the personal and work life boundaries. Things you say (and do) at home with your significant other don’t always transfer to the workplace. Other workers don’t want to see emotions and affection.

7. If you work in the same department, you may not be able to advance.

The relationship may impact your reporting relationship.

Sometimes office romances can skew your career ambitions as no one wants to “one-up” the other person.

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dent when there is “trouble” at “home”.

9. It might lead to workplace drama. It’s amazing how crazy we can get when we see our significant others interact with the opposite sex. What they deem as being nice can play out in your head as flirting or emotionally cheating.

10. If the company’s viability becomes questionable, you and your significant other may both be out of a job.

In your case, there are additional factors to consider. Since you are new to the job, you want to focus on your work and establish yourself first. You don’t want anyone to believe that your accomplishments stem from anything other than your ability. Additionally, you want to get to know him and his reputation at work. Like it or not, we are judged by the company we keep. Don’t limit yourself; get to know everyone. If a relationship with him is meant to be, wait for it. Start as friends and don’t jump into a relationship too soon. Then, when you think you are ready for a relationship, make sure there is no company policy against and reconsider items 1-10 above. L Dr. Linda Wiley is the CEO of Turning Point Leadership Group and a certified relationship specialist by the American Psychotherapy Association. She is also a life coach and author.

Her views can be heard on “Love and Relationships” on News and Talk 1380 WAOK and on www.blogtalkradio.com/ the-cocoa-express. Visit her at www.

DrLindaWiley.com and follow her on FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, and Instagram.

If you want your question answered send it to HelpMeDrLinda@gmail.com.

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CELEBRATION VILLAGE

The Preview Party kicked off the 15th annual Celebration Village on October 19th at the Tupelo Furniture Market.

TAWANA ASHLEY, DEBRA CAROUTHERS AND JEANNIE HOLT.

EMILY AND RAMONA SALMON.

LEIGHTON GIBENS, JULIE GIBENS, JASON WARREN, HAYLEY WARREN, ROBIN WALTON AND NEEL DEAN.

GABRIELLE AND RICK COOPER.

SANDY PASIEWICZ AND LAURA HONEYCUTT.

PAM ROPER, MARCIA OWENS, CHANDA MILLER, CHRISTY PHILLIPS AND KRISTY BERRYMAN.

DEWONNE WARREN, KAY AND BOYCE SHELTON.

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CHUCK, VAN, RHONDA AND JACK COOPER.

TRACY SHANE KRAMER, VERONICA BENCH, VERONICA JONES AND CHELSEA SPAIN.

CHERIE JORDAN, TERESA DAWSON, MARILYN MCANALLY, NEVA STACY AND PAM MILNER.

CAROLYN ASHFORD, CARROL SCOTT AND EVELYN HOLMES.

ERENA WASHINGTON, MICHELLE BANES, CYNTHIA COLBURN AND CONNIE RIEVES.

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JANET ALEXANDER, JAMIE PHILLIPS, MARIA SUMMERS, SHERRY STUBBLEFIELD AND JERRY STUBBLEFIELD.

JULIE CLAYBORNE, MIKE CLAYBORNE, SUSAN ECHOLS AND JULIE MORTON.

SADIE BUCHANAN, MERRELL ROGERS, TERESA GRAMMER AND JAN WILLIAMS.

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