ANAL SEX

Anal sex is sexual activity involving the anus. The anus and rectum (which the anus leads to) both have very sensitive nerve endings. Regardless of sexual orientation, many people enjoy anal sex.

With anal sex, as with any type of sex, it is super important that both partners are into it. Everybody likes different things and is turned on differently, so when it comes to anal sex, as always, communication with your partner is key as well as knowing that it is something you want to or don’t want to do. Anal sex has become more popular through porn. However, if porn is making you want to try anal sex, don’t do it like you see it in porn!!!

Anal sex requires a lot of trust, care and lots of lube (which is rarely if ever seen in porn).

Trusting someone to be super careful and respectful with you while having anal sex is just as important as when having any other intercourse or pleasure together. If not, anal sex can be a bad experience which is not loving or pleasurable.

Let go of the scripts you have learned - Especially from porn!

If either of you feel pain at any point it’s important to STOP. Sex should never be painful and pain is never something you should feel like you have to put up with!!

You may find that you need more lubricant with anal sex, than with other types of sex, as the anus isn’t self-lubricating. It is also important that you feel in control and comfortable with how deep the penetration goes. The anus has very delicate skin, which is easy to tear and can take a while to heal. So, go slow and gently!

IMPORTANT

It’s easier to get an STI (sexually transmitted infection) through anal sex as viruses or bacteria from semen can easily get into the blood stream of the other person.

Because of this it is important to always use condoms for anal sex! After anal sex NEVER put the penis or sex toy into a vagina or someone’s mouth! Always wash the penis or sex toy with care before having other types of sex.

Remember to claim what it is that makes it truly enjoyable and that both you and your partner are on that same page.