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The Holidays!

• A Guide to Giving Kids Technology • Hacks for Easier Holidays • Festive Family Fun

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Nov/Dec 2014

Latkes for All Illuminating Leaf Lanterns Awesome Art by Kids

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FYI’s intrepid editor, Tiffany had an early experience with romantic Christmas gifts.

“My first grade boyfriend got me half a “best friends” necklace for Christmas. I figured out he gave my best friend the “best” half instead of wearing it himself, so he could save money on gifts. And have two girlfriends. That’s some serious first grade irony, if you ask me.” She’s since moved on and lives in Kalamazoo with her husband and two children, ages 3 and 11.

• A Guide to Giving Kids Technology • Hacks for Easier Holidays • Festive Family Fun

Jef Otte

Tiffany Fitzgerald

The Holidays!

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As a child, our Family Man truly got the gift that kept on giving. Jef had strep throat one year on Christmas, and then again the next year and then the year after that (three years in a row, if you’re counting). Magically, when he was told he would have to have his tonsils out if he got strep one more time, he never had it again. Christmas miracle, don’t you think? Jef is currently pursuing an MFA in creative writing at Western Michigan University, in addition to being a father of two.

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Our Last Laugh columnist not only admits he once ruined Christmas (see page 30), but has an additional happy holiday memory to share: “I got a keyboard one year after learning a song on our piano. My brother tried to play with it right away and broke something.

I think I cried, or he cried. I can’t remember, but I remember I was really excited about that keyboard. I can still play ‘Chopsticks.’”

When not dredging up holiday trauma for others’ amusement, Brian is coaching improvisation and spending time with his wife and daughter.

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We’re excited to welcome Melissa Lam to FYI as our new Creation Station writer. Melissa loves working on arts and crafts with children. She was a Montessori teacher in Colorado and Kalamazoo for several years before starting her own day care, where designing fun and creative projects with household objects went from a hobby to a necessity. Currently, she enjoys refurbishing furniture and sharing her love of art with her 5-year-old daughter, Sienna.

FYI does not assume responsibility for statements made by advertisers or editorial contributors; articles and advertisements do not necessarily reflect FYI’s opinions or those of the FYI staff.

To learn more about us visit fyiswmichigan.com

About the cover:

Father-daughter duo Jeb and Maci Gast are hard at work at Jeb’s company, Fido Scooters (in Kalamazoo). Check out Maci’s instructions for drawing a unicorn on page 27. You can also learn more about Fido in this month’s Encore (www.encorekalamazoo.com) Photo by Erik Holladay

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Fun for Free

Family-friendly fun for no charge!

Make This!

Load up on Vitamin A with this sweet potato latke recipe

10 Everyday Hacks

Tips for happier (and easier) holidays

12 Creation Station

Light up those fall nights with leaf lanterns

14 Is this Normal?

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27 Kids’ Corner

Art and poetry created by kids

16 Device Dilemma

Is technology on your kid’s holiday wish list? Here’s a guide to know how much and what technology is appropriate for your child.

Ac tivities 24 Family Events

You ask, our experts answer

Handy guide for two months of fun!

29 Cool Kids

This 11-year-old is in step with Irish dancing

PARENT TO PARENT 21 Family Man

A dad’s perspective on crime and punishment…or just punishment

30 Last Laugh

Sage seasonal advice from the guy who ruined Christmas

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Fun For Free FYI

Americans spend more than $59 billion combined during the Thanksgiving season (that’s more than the annual GDP of Sri Lanka, in case you were wondering), and the average American family spends $800 on holiday gifts, $500 total for each holiday trip and $200 on holiday décor, according to Gallup, Visa, AAA and Forbes research.

Looks like it’s high time we got something free for the holidays — how about something fun to do?

Southwest Michigan has a lot of offer during the holiday season from events at local library branches to town festivals and parades. We put together a shortlist of the best free events for November and December, with options for all ages. Just for you. Happy holidays.

Kalamazoo Holiday Parade

You’re going to be indoors a lot this winter so take this opportunity to get out and hit the streets of downtown Kalamazoo for a fall holiday festival.

This year marks the 51st annual Kalamazoo Holiday Parade and features giant balloons and more than 80 community organizations, businesses, bands, clowns and Santa. Who needs Macy’s with a parade like this?

P.S. FYI will be there! Find us and say hi!

Date: Nov. 15, 11 a.m. — 2 p.m.

Route: Lovell St. to Park St. to Michigan Ave. to Pitcher St. and back to Lovell St. Ages: All ages More info: DowntownKalamazoo.org

Check out our event calendar on page 23 for a complete list of family-friendly activities.

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Diary of a Wimpy Kid Celebration

When you’re addicted to a series of books, there’s nothing better than a new release. Now your kids can celebrate the release of the ninth book in the Wimpy Kid series, Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Long Haul, with other kids who are just as excited as they are. This event features games, a read-aloud session, snacks and prizes.

Date: Nov. 4, 4:30 p.m.

Place: Kalamazoo Public Library – Powell Branch, 1000 W. Paterson St. Ages: All ages

Portage Tree Lighting and Traditional Holiday Celebration

You know the holidays have truly kicked off when the city fires up its annual decorations — and you can join Portage when they do just that.

The event takes place in front of the Portage District Library with the ceremonial lighting of trees and decorations. Participants will then follow a horse-drawn wagon of singing carolers to Celery Flats Historical Area for music, apple cider, hot chocolate and free treats donated by area businesses. Bring donations of gifts for needy families, including winter hats, gloves, mittens, toys and non-perishable food items.

Date: Dec. 6, 7- 8:30 p.m.

Place: Intersection of Westnedge Avenue and Library Lane in front of Portage District Library, moving into the Celery Flats Historical Area Ages: All ages More info: PortageMI.gov

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Featured Playground

Upjohn Park Nestled right in the heart of Kalamazoo, Upjohn Park boasts an 18-acre parcel of land that includes a large, multi-section playground with something for every age group. There’s a “Sway Fun” glider (a wheelchair accessible glider that fits two wheelchairs and about six other children), a zoo of wooden animals that double as percussion instruments, a sand playground and three-point harness swings. Upjohn Park is a great option for groups of children spanning different age groups and physical abilities.

Where: Lake and Walter Streets Hours: Dawn to dusk

Amenities: • Basketball court

• Soccer field

• Skate park

• Softball/teeball fields

• Drinking fountains

• Swimming pool (admission fee)

• Grills • Handicap accessible • Picnic tables

• Tennis court • Toilets

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Family Dinner

Make this! FYI

Sweet potato latkes

A new twist on a holiday tradition We bring a modern dimension to latkes by adding sweet potato to the mix. Sweet potatoes contain more vitamin A, calcium and manganese (for bones, skin and blood sugar control) than their white Eating foods fried in oil during Ha- or yellow counterparts. We also put nukkah is a tradition stemming from a Yukon Gold potato in for its highthe miracle the holiday celebrates, er amounts of vitamin C, potassium that small flask of oil used in the re- and folate (good for red blood cell dedication of the Second Temple in count).

Then again, you’ll be frying these ancient Israel which lasted eight days and nights. That’s as good an ex- in oil, so at the end of the day, these cuse as any to eat fried foods, even health counts might be negligible.

Vegan option: This recipe is can if you’re not Jewish — because, after all, they are delicious. And one of the be made dairy-free and vegan if the most popular dishes during Hannu- sour cream garnish is left off and kah celebrations is potato pancakes, the latkes are eaten only with applesauce. or latkes, as they’re better known.

Gluten Free Options: Substitute the rice flour or a gluten free all-purpose flour for the wheat flour or leave out the flour altogether (the latkes might not be as fluffy).

Hints:

• Use a cast iron skillet or stainless steel pan for even heat distribution — don’t use nonstick pans for frying.

• The potatoes fry better if they’re dry.

Squeeze them in paper towels, a cheesecloth or a dish towel and let them dry for an hour before cooking.

• Don’t overcrowd the pan or the temperature will reduce and the latkes won’t cook correctly.

• Allow 30 seconds between batches for the pan to heat back up again.

• Make sure the oil is heated at medium heat and is sizzling; the oil shouldn’t be too hot or too cold.

Sweet Potato Latkes Ingredients:

How to:

•1 medium sweet potato and 1 large Yukon Gold potato (1 lb. total), peeled and coarsely grated

1. Preheat oven to 200° and line a baking sheet with paper towels.

• 1 medium yellow onion, coarsely grated • 1/2 c. parsley, chopped • 1 large egg, lightly beaten • 1/2 c. flour • 1 tsp. kosher salt • 1/4 tsp. black pepper • Vegetable oil for frying • Sour cream, apple sauce and chopped parsley, for garnish

2. In a large bowl of water with a little bit of salt added, add the grated onion and potatoes. Stir to combine.

3. Pour the potatoes and onion into a strainer, allow to drain. Squeeze potatoes in paper towels.

4. Whisk the egg in a large mixing bowl until incorporated (30 seconds).

5. Sift in flour, add in seasoning and whisk until smooth.

6. Fold in potato/onion mix until batter is combined.

7. Heat 1/4 inch of oil in a large cast iron or heavy skillet pan over medium heat.

8. Spoon three 1/4 cup servings of latke mixture into the heated pan; press lightly on the mounds to form three pancakes.

9. Cook, turning once, until golden (about 2 minutes on each side).

10. Transfer to the baking sheet and keep in warm oven while cooking the rest of pancakes in batches of three.

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Serve immediately with sour cream, applesauce and parsley garnish.

Makes 8 latkes or 4 servings. Nutrition sans sour cream or applesauce, per serving: Calories 242; Carbs 32g; Fat 11g; Protein 4g; Sugar 4g.

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Everyday Hacks FYI

Holiday Hacks ‘Tis the season for being busier than you ever thought possible — decorating, roasting turkeys, baking pies, traveling, buying gifts, hosting parties, going to parties and… phew. Better get some holiday hacks to help you out.

We’ve put together a selection sure to save some time, some money and allow you to sit down and take it easy with your family.

Piecrusts Made Easy For those of us who still refuse to buy a pastry knife, cutting butter into the flour of a piecrust or biscuit mix requires a knife configuration that looks a lot like Wolverine from the X-Men and is about as effective. Try this hack instead:

1. Freeze the butter before making the crust or biscuits.

2. Grate the butter with a cheese grater into the flour mix, keeping the butter cold and eliminating the need to cut it into the flour.

3. Prosper (or at least make your crust).

DIY Gourd Candles

Holiday Shopping Money Saver

These cute little gourds are everywhere in the fall, but what use do they serve? How about to create the perfect fall in-home atmosphere? Turn these colorful gourds into centerpiece or accent candles:

What’s that you say? Find the lowest price on a product just by scanning its barcode? It’s true! The RedLaser app is highly rated (The New York Times even rated it in a Top 10 “must have” for your smartphone).

RedLaser allows you to use your smartphone to scan the barcode of any item and view the prices offered at every retail chain available in your area. Perfect for smart holiday shopping. One downside? Local, smaller stores are often not listed.

1. Pick out small-sized gourds of varying textures, colors and heights (found at any pumpkin patch or grocery store during autumn).

2. Cut a hole around the stem of the gourd, with a circumference the size of the tea light candle you want to insert.

3. Scrape out the inside of the gourd.

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Place the tea light inside the gourd — adjust the opening if the tea light candle doesn’t fit, or put a rock (or something else inflammable) at the bottom of the gourd to prop the candle up if it drops too low.

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ay Erik Hollad

Quick, Easy Snowflakes When you read about this snowflake hack on Pinterest and social media, it’s often pitched as a solution to a decorating emergency. We’re not sure when you’ll ever be in the type of emergency situation only coffee filter snowflakes will save, but we still think this is a great way to spend time with your family and create a beautiful window winter wonderland.

1. Fold the filter in half, then fold the half into thirds, and then fold those thirds into half again. (Not confusing at all, right? Take a look at the image for help.)

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2. Cut designs into the folded filter.

3. Presto! Lovely translucent snowflakes.

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Bonus: Use a needle and thread to string snowflakes together to drape or hang in front of a window.

5. Extra credit: Some extra-crafty people dye the coffee filters with food coloring and let them dry before cutting.

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For tickets, visit KalamazooSymphony.com or call 269.387.2300 General admission: Adults $12 & Children $6

Rachael Caskey Max the Dog Adapted for orchestra and stage by Tyler White and Tim Marrone, this delightful children’s story is sure to get you in the holiday spirit!

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Creation station FYI

Fall Leaf Lantern by

Melissa Lam

What makes creating the fall leaf lantern special?

Collecting the materials is part of the fun!

Take a family walk around your neighborhood or on any of Southwest Michigan’s trails and nature preserves and hunt for perfect leaves as you enjoy the outdoors. But act now — the bright fall colors splashed across Michigan’s foliage can only be gathered for a few short weeks each year.

Fall leaf lanterns make wonderful seasonal nightlights in your child’s room, and can be illuminated with a battery-operated candle for overnight safety. They’re also great for decorating a fall table and adding warmth to your fireplace mantle. And here’s a bonus: the lanterns can be made with just about any glass container, so you finally have something to do with those glass jars you can’t bring yourself to throw away.

Here’s how to do it: Hints: • Pick fresh leaves from a tree or off the ground. Curled, dry leaves will not work.

• Use a battery-operated candle if the lantern is going to be left unattended.

• Just like Elmer’s glue, Mod Podge is nontoxic and safe for kids, but you still wouldn’t want to eat it, so this project is probably best for ages 3 and up.

Materials needed: • Multi-colored autumn leaves • Smooth glass jar or vase • Paint brush • Tea candle or battery operated candle • Mod Podge water-based sealer (available at any craft store, non-toxic)

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Directions: 1. Collect bright autumn leaves.

2. Press leaves in a book for 36 hours, allowing them to stay flat (top photo).

3. Paint Mod Podge over outside of glass jar or vase (photo on opposite page).

4. Place and press leaves on wet Mod Podge.

5. Paint another coat of Mod Podge over leaves. The milky white Mod Podge will dry clear in a few hours.

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Is this normal? FYI

You Ask, Experts Answer Every child is unique but sometimes the uniqueness of our children’s development can catch us off guard — every stage of growth seems to come with its own set of quandaries.

More often than not, if your child is expressing a new bewildering behavior or developmental stage, there’s another parent out there who’s been there. We’ve taken some of our reader’s questions to our panel of experts from Comstock Community Learning Center, Bronson’s Hospital and Child and Family Psychological Services to get some answers.

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My son is almost 3 years old and we’re getting ready to start daycare in a couple of months. We’re worried because even though he’ll pee in the potty without any issue, he still poops in his pants. He won’t warn us, or tell us he has to — in fact, he kind of “hides” behind a chair or in a corner while he does it. Can it be normal for kids to lag in potty training for “No. 2” but be right on time for “No.1”? What can I do to help him?

— Parent in Portage Comstock Community Learning Center Staff: Every child develops at his or her individual pace and the process is not always easy. As you potty train your child, be sure to remain calm and patient. It may be difficult to maintain a positive attitude, but it is important for your child to see you being calm and patient with him while he learns to use the bathroom on his own.

Often you will notice a difference between potty training boys and girls.

It is common for children to succeed at ‘No. 1’ potty training prior to having control of going ‘No. 2.’ To help your child succeed at being trained in ‘No. 2,’ watch for behavior signs that

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indicate he needs to use the bathroom. These signs may be wandering around, hiding, becoming quiet or an unusual expression on his face.

When you see him start to show the signs of having a bowel movement, invite him to the bathroom. You may need to assist your child in promptly getting to the bathroom. The goal is to encourage him to go on the toilet or potty seat.

Pay attention to the time of day that your son goes “No. 2” to determine his natural rhythm. By determining when his natural rhythm occurs, you may encourage him to go at that time each day. Once your child goes “No. 2” in the toilet or potty seat, celebrate the accomplishment with him.

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After sleeping consistently and on schedule for years, my 8-yearold daughter has started having a very hard time going to sleep at night. We stick to a bedtime routine — shower, reading, and then lights out at the same time every night. It takes her sometimes two hours to fall asleep lately.

We’ve talked to her, and she doesn’t know why it’s happening; she just doesn’t feel tired.

Could something be going on that we just don’t know about?

— Parent in Oshtemo Jacob Utash, M.D., Bronson Family Medicine Downtown: There are many things that can affect a child’s ability to fall asleep. I always start by looking at sleep hygiene. Like

other forms of hygiene, sleep hygiene is composed of many behaviors that can be modified.

Consider adding these three steps to your daughter’s routine: No caffeine six hours before bed; no bright lights one hour before bed (this includes computer and phone screens); and no TV in the bedroom. I also always encourage keeping a sleep log with bed times and sleeping times, as well as awakening times.

It is very uncommon, but there are several diseases that could also lead to difficulty sleeping, such as problems with the thyroid. I would suggest starting with a journal, followed by an appointment with your primary care provider.

An appointment should be scheduled sooner if the child is showing new behavioral problems, excessive energy or changes in mood.

Q:

When I take my daughter out in public (she’s 7 years old), she talks to everyone. It can be kind of embarrassing. For example, the other day in the grocery store, she asked the woman next to me if she was buying travel shampoo for a vacation. Once she approached a woman who looked sad and asked her if she was going through a divorce. I want to encourage her to be kind and outgoing, but I also want to teach her boundaries. What should I do?

— Parent in Kalamazoo Nichole Holliday MA, LLPC, LLMFT, Private Practice at Child & Family Psychological Services Portage and Alyssa Noonan, LLMSW, Private Practice at Child & Family Psychological Services Kalamazoo: It’s fantastic you appreciate your daughter’s outgoing personality and that she is demonstrating empathy and an eagerness to help others. However, a light-hearted conversation is warranted about how some people like to keep their feelings and their personal life private.

It may be helpful to give her examples of what polite questions and comments are to make toward strangers and contrast that with topics that are more appropriate for friends and family members. Role-playing with her would be a fun and positive way to allow her to practice differentiating between appropriate conversations with strangers and friends or family.

It is important to address safety issues related to stranger awareness, including what interactions with strangers are safe and which are dangerous. Explaining that a simple “hi” and “how are you?” may be appropriate toward strangers when she is with an adult, but when by herself, it is safer not to approach or engage in conversations with strangers.

These behaviors may become more concerning if they continue after having a conversation with her, followed by multiple reminders of boundaries and stranger safety when she engages with strangers. It could be of concern because unfortunately continuing to initiate personal conversations or behaviors could lead to more severe safety concerns. If her verbal interactions progress to physical interactions or willingness to leave with or follow directions from strangers it may be time to seek a mental health professional’s assistance with this concern.

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Dodger Bennett, 1, of Kalamazoo, seems perplexed by all the devices at his fingertips. (P.S. His parents don’t have this many devices; Dodger would rather play with an empty box.)

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The Device Dilemma

When, what and how much technology should our kids have?

Tiffany Fitzgerald photography by Erik Holladay story by

To illustrate the persuasive and pervasive power of

technology, Allan LaReau M.D., a pediatrician at Bronson Rambling Road Pediatrics in Portage has a go-to anecdote.

“We were at a restaurant in Ireland and on the wall there was a sign that said, ‘No, we don’t have Wi-Fi. Talk to each other,’” he says, laughing. “That’s a telling remark — even in restaurants now, the phones are out and no one is engaging in conversation.”

Grappling with technology dependence and balancing virtual and physical connection isn’t easy no matter what your age. “Media diets” are even being prescribed by physicians to help adults pare down on social media usage and screen time overall. So, what about our kids?

Parents and caregivers are faced with an array of techrelated decisions in concern to monitoring usage for their children: Is it okay for a toddler to play a game on an iPhone? Will watching TV, even if it is Sesame Street, help or hurt his or her development? When do you finally cave in to your t(w)een and buy them that tablet, phone or laptop they’ve been angling for? Can or should you control the way your child uses technology?

This holiday season, we offer a technology guide to arm you with the knowledge to say no or yes (with structure and conditions) to your children’s requests for gifts of technology.

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What is age-appropriate?

There aren’t any set standards concerning what type of technology (i.e. tablets, laptops, phones, games and television) are appropriate at what age, but the American Academy of Pediatrics has a clear set of boundaries that can help guide parents who are considering gifting technology to their child. The academy issues the following guide on how much screen time children should be limited to in a day and what type of screen time is acceptable:

child, says Holliday, who advises that parents consider the following: • What is child is getting from the device?

• Does the child fully understand the purpose of the device and what it should be used for?

• Is the child able to properly use and take care of the device while observing parental guidelines?

“Parents should also be willing to set boundaries and offer alternatives to playing with electronics,” says Holli-

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“‘Screen time’ is texting on the phone, it’s playing video games, it’s watching T.V. — anything on a screen,” says LaReau. The only exception to the rule? Using a screen to read non-fiction or fiction for children over 2 years of age.

“The more reading you do, the better,” says LaReau.

“You can’t overdose on reading.”

The “no screen time” rule for children under 2 may seem strict, but the guideline is strengthened by current research.

“Children that are younger than preschool age learn the most crucial information about their development with object manipulation and looking at things in their environment rather than touching a finger to a screen,” says Nichole Holliday M.A., licensed counselor and therapist at Child and Family Psychological Services in Portage. If play and learning for this age revolves around electronics

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day. Alternatives to technology can be anything from a craft project to an outdoor activity that provides time to “disconnect.”

Enforce rules and parameters

Children who are old enough to use technology and are ready for more access to games, television and personal devices still need guidance, boundaries, rules and structure, say the experts.

“It is helpful when gifting an electronic device to set up expectations for the child when using the device so that there are no mixed messages about the extent and nature of the electronic use,” says Holliday.

She points out that parents should know the parental control options and capabilities of devices they gift and how to set-up safety guidelines for children, particularly on devices with Internet access.

“Identifying the expectation of how often, for how long, time of day, and where the device can be used are some things to plan for when setting boundaries for a child,” she says.

After gifting a piece of technology, the caregiver should remain in control of the use of the gift, says the American Academy of Pediatrics. And whenever possible, adults should interact with the technology with their children, to open communication about different activities.

“Some parents also choose to treat electronics as a privilege not a necessity,” says Holliday. “Parents should feel comfortable saying ‘no’ to screen time and be able to provide suggestions and encouragement for other forms of free play that do not involve electronic devices.”

The American Academy of Pediatrics has some suggestions for guidelines parents can choose: •M odel effective “media diets” to help children learn to be selective and healthy in what they consume.

•M ake a media use plan, including mealtime and bedroom curfews for media devices.

•D on’t allow screens in bedrooms.

•N o violence in any media under the age of 12.

• Always monitor screen time.

With teens, who usually have personal Internet-connected devices, structure and boundaries might seem harder to enforce, but LaReau says finding a way to place boundaries and enforce them — such as limiting texting or how long they can use the device — pushes teens to interact

in-person with other people, which is an important part of their social development.

The unwanted gift

It’s no secret that technology use in general is a hot-button topic — every parent and expert has their own opinion on the benefits and drawbacks of devices— but sometimes a well-meaning grandparent, aunt, uncle or co-parent with a different tech philosophy might gift a piece of technology to your child for which you aren’t ready to roll out the welcome mat.

“Around gift giving times, preventative measures and discussions with friends, family and other gift givers could prove to be very helpful,” says Alyssa Noonan, a licensed therapist at Child and Family Psychological Services in Kalamazoo, who

Delaney Bennett, 2, listens as her mom Rebekah reads a book to her from a tablet. says these conversations might be enough to avoid unwanted gifts altogether.

Noonan suggests having a frank discussion with your child, as well, to clearly outline your feelings about technology and the access to tech privileges including what behaviors need to be demonstrated or at what age might your child be allowed to have certain technology. Set your boundaries clearly and early, so your child can anticipate your answer to their requests, or if a surprise technology gift shows up.

“Then, if an unexpected gift does appear, the child already knows what the parent thinks about it,” explains Noonan. “Although it may not pre-

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vent the child from becoming upset completely, it may temper the disappointment because it will likely be easier for the child to understand if they cannot keep or use the gift.”

Co-parenting presents a new dynamic to the challenge — agreeing on everything isn’t a realistic expectation, but compromise helps enforce boundaries by creating consistency for the children involved, says Noonan. But if boundaries remain different at different homes, there is still a solution.

“Talk with your child and help her or him understand what you expect and parent in line with those expectations,” she explains. “This communication makes the differences predictable and likely to be less troublesome.”

Warning signs Once your child has been given the gift of technology, one way to monitor the effects of its use is to look out for signs of overuse, says Noonan, Holliday, LaReau and the APA. Warning signs of too much time with technology include: •L osing interest in other forms of play.

• I solating him or herself from others.

•L osing interest in playing with other children.

• Blunted social development.

• A decrease in his or her level of physical activity.

• A preoccupation with the device, asking questions and thinking about it when he or she is not using it.

• Allowing the device to become a point of conflict between child and caregiver.

• Experiencing delays in fine or gross motor skills because of too much screen time.

• Engaging in aggressive play and experiences nightmares, if screen time involves violent themes.

Your child might exhibit these signs even if he or she is following the suggested guidelines, says Noonan, so the presence of these signs may still indicate over-exposure.

“Each child is different, and therefore, the appropriate amount of screen time for each child may also be different,” she says. “Moderation, moderation, moderation.

Like so many other things in life, moderation is key.”

It is possible for children to become addicted to technology, experts now agree, and even though research on technology addiction is relatively new, doctors and psychologists are starting to see adults and children alike who may need to scale back their use of technology.

“All of us who have iPhones and gadgets know how addictive they are, and they’re even more addictive for children,” says LaReau.

For more information about the American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines for technology use, visit www.aap. org and search “media and children.”

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Family Man FYI

I Am The Punisher by

My mom could hold her own with kids, but on certain especially challenging occasions — like the time I lit part of the garage on fire or the time I accidentally destroyed the neighbor’s sidewalk with a sledgehammer — my mother would unsheath the ultimate trump: Just wait until your dad gets home. I don’t actually remember any of the punishments my stepdad meted out, but I remember the agonizing, day-ruining fear. You did not want to wait until your father got home.

In my own household, of course, I am the father, and I’m home all the time. So instead I say, “Just wait until your mother gets home,” and then I lock them in cages in the basement until she does. Just kidding. My kids both have different moms, one of whom lives out of state, so one of my sons would be in the cage a really long time and that would just be irresponsible.

Thus, while my wife can certainly hold her own, the majority of day-to-day discipline — as it was for my mother — falls to me. I am The Punisher.

Actually, I don’t know if I believe in punishment. That’s not to say that I let my kids run around like wanton heathens, or that there are no rules. I’ve got rules aplenty, in fact, and when they get broken there are consequences.

And there’s a difference.

You put hydrochloric acid in your eye, it’s going to burn your eyeball out.

Not because the hydrochloric acid was like, “Don’t put me in your eye, don’t do it, I’m counting to three, one, two, two-and-a, that’s it, I’m burning your eyeball out” — but because that’s what happens. Jim Fay poses this punishment/consequence dichotomy in his Love and Logic series, and while I’m not 100 percent sold on his every idea, that one struck a chord with me.

So I stared deep into the abyss of my soul and learned a couple things. One is that all these years I’ve been forcing myself to eat cantaloupe and I don’t even like canta-

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loupe. The other is that the instinct to punish, at least for me, comes from a desire to get revenge — something like, “After all I do for you, this is the way you treat me? Well see how you like this, you ingrate.”

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stuff for ingrates who will not appre- every proton of fun out of good ciate it is a natural consequence of times. Not one singular behavior, but having kids. When they’re not acting rather a grab-bag — like the Honorright, I just don’t want to do as many able Potter Stewart said of obscenity, “I’ll know it when I see it.” nice things.

And I know he does, too.

For my 3-year-old, it’s easy. He can For a while I thought, “I guess this eat his vegetables and have some chocolate chips after dinner, or he moodiness is like an 11-year-old tancan not eat his vegetables and miss trum, and so I should treat it as such.” out. (Item: he spontaneously started The tantrums of my 3-year-old I just calling chocolate chips “babies” for ignore, and since they don’t get him some reason, so now when I buy them what he wants, they’ve decreased in at the store he tells everyone who frequency and intensity.

But this approach did not work on walks past, “I gonna eat babies!”).

Action, consequence. So guess who the ’tude. Neither did lecturing. In fact, it got worse. eats his vegetables?

So, I wondered, exactly what does With my 11-year-old, it’s trickier. It’s less about what he does or doesn’t my 11-year-old want when he acts in do, and more about that ramped-up this mopey, one-word-answer, heavy preteen ’tude. You know, that moody, sigh, rude-tone-of-voice way, and KPL_FYI_NovDec14_TFFAd.pdf 1 10/1/2014 4:29:20 PM broody black hole of ’tude that sucks the answer I came to surprised me:

What he actually wants is for me to take notice, and care enough about him to set it right. He wants to know I know he knows. What he wants, in fact, is consequences. Even if I’m calling them as I see them.

So I’m trying something new: I’m imposing them. At this very second, he’s moping because I asked him to write a thank-you note to his grandmother for the super-fun weekend he spent at her house. I told him, “Kiddo, it’s a real chore to be around you when you’re acting like this. So for every minute I have to spend with this attitude, I’m going to ask you to spend one minute doing a chore for me.” And I started the clock.

We’ll see what happens. Either way, there are some weeds in the driveway about to get pulled.

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LEGEND Ages:

Infant Toddler, ages 1-3 Preschool (up to 4) School Age 4-11 Tweens & teens, ages 12-17 All ages Indoor activity Outdoor activity ost is free, otherwise cost C is indicated

ONGOING Thru May 17 – Kalamazoo for the Union! An Exhibit of Civil War, Civil War through the eyes of Kalamazoo County residents; Kalamazoo Valley Museum, 230 N. Rose St, 373-7990, 9 am-5 pm Mon-Sat; 1-5 pm Sun Thru Jan. 19 – Voices for Social Justice, explore race, equity & social justice through oral histories of Kalamazoo residents, Kalamazoo Valley Museum Thru Nov. 26 – Big, a voyage past planets, spinning galaxies, & stars, 11 am Mon-Fri; 1 pm Sat; 2 pm Sun; Galaxies, all about galaxies, 3 pm Sun, Mon, Wed, Fri, Sat; Kalamazoo Valley Museum Planetarium, $3

Beginning Nov. 28 – Mystery of the Christmas Star, a scientific explanation of the star the Wise Men followed, 3 pm Sun, Mon, Wed, Fri, Sat; Season of Light, interactive tour of the constellations, 11 am Mon-Fri, 1 pm Sat, 2 pm Sun, Kalamazoo Valley Museum Planetarium, $3 Thru Nov. 30 – Counting the Day Away, circle time program, 10 am & 1 pm Mon-Fri, 11 am Sat, Kalamazoo Valley Museum Thru Dec. 31 – Tiger’s Experience: Tracking a Legend, exhibit on endangered Bengal tigers, 9 am-5 pm Mon-Sat; noon-5 pm Sun, Kalamazoo Air Zoo, 6151 Portage Rd, AirZoo.org, $10 Thru Nov. 9 – The Arts of Japan & China, Japanese & Chinese art, 11 am-7 pm Tues-Fri; 11 am-5 pm Sat & Sun; Kalamazoo Institute of Arts, 314 S. Park St., kiarts.org, KIA members, active military & kids under 12 free, $5 adult, $2 student Thru Jan. 31 – Let’s All Get Along, circle time program, 10 am & 1 pm Mon-Fri, 11 am Sat, Kalamazoo Valley Museum

NOVEMBER

Tuesday, Nov. 4

Saturday, Nov. 1

Baby Lapsit, songs, bounces & rhymes, 9:30 am, KPL-Central

First Saturday, stories, activities & door prizes with the Kalamazoo Symphony Orchestra, 2:30 pm, Kalamazoo Public Library-Central, 315 Rose St, 533-7999 Pumpkin Destruction Weekend, destroy pumpkins in a variety of ways, Gull Meadow Farms, call 629-4214 for cost Free Fall Movie@Kalamazoo 10, Ice Age 4: Continental Drift, 9 & 10 am, Goodrich Quality Theater, ticket info@345-7469 Home Depot Kids Workshop, learn to make a pallet coaster, 9 am-noon, 6685 S Westnedge Ave, 324-8100 Lego@the Library, build & imagine, 10:30-11:30 am, Kalamazoo Public Library-Oshtemo, 7265 W. Main St, 553-7980 Bats of Michigan, learn about Michigan bats, 6:30-8 pm, Pierce Cedar Creek Institute, Hastings, ticket info@721-4190 Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 am, register at LowesBuild&Grow.com Sunday, Nov. 2 Fall Migration Celebration, games, walk & activities celebrating waterfowl migration, 1 pm, Kellogg Bird Sanctuary, 12685 East C Ave, Augusta, free to members, non-members $5 adult, $4 senior, $3 ages 2-17 Free Fall Movie@Kalamazoo 10, Ice Age 4: Continental Drift, 9 & 10 am, Goodrich Quality Theater, ticket info@345-7469 Monday, Nov. 3 Preschool Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage District Library, 300 Library Lane “Drive In” Movie, decorate a cardboard box car, enjoy a short film, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo, register@553-7980 Teen Advisory Board, plan programs & service projects, discuss books, movies, music & websites, eat snacks, play games, 3:30 pm, KPL-Central 2-3 Year Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & activities, 10:30-11:15 am, Comstock Library, 6130 King Hwy, 345-0136 Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble, 6134 S. Westnedge Ave., 324-1433

Baby Steps, songs, books & rhymes, 10:30 am, KPL-Central I’m a Big Kid Now Storytime, activities & stories just for ages 4-5, 10 am, Portage Library Diary of a Wimpy Kid Party, celebrate the release of The Diary of a Wimpy Kid: The Long Haul, 4:30 pm, KPL-Powell, 1000 W. Paterson St, Kalamazoo, 553-7960 2-3 Year-Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & other activities, 10:3011:15 am, Comstock Library, 3450136 Toddler Tales Storytime, songs, rhymes, movement & story, 10:1510:45 am, Parchment Community Library, 401 S Riverview Dr, 3437747 Wednesday, Nov. 5 Baby & Toddler Time, stories & activities, 9:30 & 10:30 am, Portage Library Toddler Talk, toddlers play, parents chat, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, Kalamazoo Public Library-Powell Baby Talk, parents talk about infant care, 1:30 pm, KPL-Oshtemo Read with Bailey, read to a loveable Schnoodle dog, 4-5:30 pm, KPL-Washington Square, 1244 Portage Rd, register@533-7970

3-5 Year-Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs, & activities, 10:30-11:15 am, Comstock Library Hula Hoop Fun by Audacious Hoops, fun & interactive performance, 6:30-7:15 pm, Portage Library Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Special Monthly Craft, speciallythemed craft, 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, register@324-1433 Friday, Nov. 7 Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Central Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Washington Square, 1244 Portage Rd, 5337970 Art Hop, art at locations in downtown Kalamazoo, 5-9 pm, kalamazooarts.org Delilah DeWylde & the Lost Boys, live rockabilly & Americana music, 6 pm, Kalamazoo Valley Museum Saturday, Nov. 8 WMU Men’s Soccer vs. West Virginia, 1-3:30 pm, WMU Soccer Complex, Parkview Avenue Art Detectives at the KIA, kidfriendly art-learning initiative, 11:15 am-12:15 pm, Kalamazoo Institute of Arts, 314 S Park St, 3497775 Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 am, register@ LowesBuild&Grow.com

Thursday, Nov. 6

Sunday, Nov. 9

2’s & 3’s Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library

New Beginnings, Kalamazoo Junior Symphony Orchestra concert, 4 pm, Chenery Auditorium, 714 S. Westnedge Ave, $5 students, $10 seniors; $15 adults

Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Eastwood, 1112 Gayle St, 533-7810 Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo Preschool Storytime, 10-11 am, Bookbug, 3019 Oakland Dr, 3852847 Tween Hangouts, activities for tweens, 4 pm, Vicksburg Library, 215 S. Michigan Ave, 649-1648

Monday, Nov. 10 Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library LEGO at the Library, build & inspire, bricks provided, 4:30 pm, KPL-Powell, 1000 W. Paterson St, Kalamazoo, 553-7960 Yoga Storytime, pairs stories with yoga poses, 10:30 am, KPL-Central Slam Session, write & experience poetry, 3:30 pm, KPL-Central

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Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Tuesday, Nov. 11 I’m a Big Kid Now Storytime, activities & stories just for ages 4-5, 10 am, Portage Library Toddler Tales Storytime, songs, rhymes, movement & a story, 10:15-10:45 am, Parchment Community Library Wednesday, Nov. 12 Baby & Toddler Time, stories & activities, 9:30 & 10:30 am, Portage Library Toddler Talk, toddlers play, parents chat, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Powell Baby Talk, parents talk about infant care, 1:30 pm, KPL-Oshtemo Read with Bailey, read to a loveable Schnoodle dog, 4-5:30 pm, KPL-Washington Square, register@533-7970 Thursday, Nov. 13 2’s & 3’s Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am KPL-Eastwood Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo LEGO at the Library, build, inspire & imagine, bricks provided, 4:30 pm, KPL-Eastwood Preschool Storytime, 10-11 am, Bookbug Tween Hangouts, activities for tweens, 4 pm, Vicksburg Library 3-5 Year Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & activities, 10:30-11:15 am, Comstock Library Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Meet Todd Parr, picture book author & illustrator will share stories, 6:30 pm, KPL-Central Saturday, Nov. 15 Holiday Parade, 11 am-2 pm, floats, balloons & Santa, downtown Kalamazoo Drop-In Holiday Crafts, make a holiday-themed craft, 11 am-1 pm, KPL-Central International Games Day, play video, board & card games against players from around the world, noon, KPL-Central

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It’s a Small World, create crafts & listen to the Kalamazoo Children’s Chorus, 12-4 pm, Kalamazoo Valley Museum Books Alive: Frog & Toad Are Friends, story, movement & art projects, 2:30 pm, Portage Libra Explore Glass Art Day, 45-minute sessions learning various forms of glass art, 10 am-4:30 pm, West Michigan Glass Art Center, 326 W. Kalamazoo Ave, Suite 100, $25 $65, register@552-9802 Monday, Nov. 17 Preschool Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library J-Pop Club, Japanese anime, manga, Pocky & food, 3:30-4:30 pm, KPL-Central Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 am, register at LowesBuild&Grow.com Tuesday, Nov. 18 Baby Lapsit, songs, bounces & rhymes, 9:30 am, KPL-Central Baby Steps, songs, books & rhymes, 10:30 am, KPL-Central I’m a Big Kid Now Storytime, activities & stories just for ages 4-5, 10 am, Portage Library

LEGO at the Library, build & imagine, bricks provided, 4:30 pm, KPL-Washington Square

Marble Run Mania, build a marble run, 4:30 pm, KPL-Eastwood, registration required@533-7810 Toddler Tales Storytime, songs, rhymes, movement & story, 10:1510:45 am, Parchment Community Library Wednesday, Nov. 19 Baby & Toddler Time, stories & activities, 9:30 & 10:30 am, Portage Library Toddler Talk, toddlers play, parents chat, 10:30 am, Kalamazoo Public Library–Oshtemo Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Powell Baby Talk, parents talk about infant care, 1:30 pm KPL-Oshtemo Read with Bailey, read to, a loveable Schnoodle dog, 4-5:30 pm, KPL-Washington Square, register@533-7970

An Dro, eclectic & surprising music, 7 pm, KPL-Central Thursday, Nov. 20 2’s & 3’s Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Eastwood

Miss Lisa: Stories & Dance, dance & stories, 10:30 am, KPLOshtemo, Thanksgiving Crafts, drop in to create Thanksgiving crafts, KPLOshtemo, call 553-7980 for hours Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble

Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo

Tuesday, Nov. 25

Bookworms, book club for kids & their grown ups; this month, Frindle by Andrew Clements is discussed; books available the first of the month preceding the meeting, 4:30 pm, KPL-Central

Baby Steps, songs, books & rhymes, 10:30 am, KPL-Central

Cartooning with Kenjji, learn graphic novels with comics master Kenji Jumanne-Marshall, 4:30 pm, KPL-Eastwood Friday, Nov. 21 Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Central Family Storytime, stories & activities, 10:30 am, KPL-Washington Square Owl Prowl, family program, 6-7:30 pm, Kellogg Bird Sanctuary, 671-2510, $5 adult non-members, $4 senior or student, $3 ages 2-17, members free Saturday, Nov. 22 WMU Turkey Trot 5K, timed run or walk through WMU campus, 8:30 am, WMU Student Recreation Center, $15, info@387-3765 Preschool Storytime,10-11 am, Bookbug Tween Hangouts, activities for tweens, 4 pm, Vicksburg Library 3-5 Year-Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & activities,10:30-11:15 am, Comstock Library Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 a.m, register@ LowesBuild&Grow.com Sunday, Nov. 23 The Gilmore’s Rising Stars Series, Jerry Léonide, jazz pianist, performs, 4 pm, Wellspring Theatre, 359 S. Kalamazoo Mall, ticket info@342-4354 Monday, Nov. 24 Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library Musical Storytime, Mr. Bill brings songs, stories, & special guests, 6:30 pm, KPL-Central

Baby Lapsit, songs, bounces & rhymes, 9:30 am, KPL-Central

I’m a Big Kid Now Storytime, activities & stories for ages 4-5, 10 am, Portage Library Thanksgiving Crafts, drop in to create Thanksgiving crafts, KPLOshtemo, call 553-7980 for hours Elf the Musical, hilarious tale of Buddy’s journey to find his father, 7:30 pm, Miller Auditorium, ticket info@387-2300 Toddler Tales Storytime, songs, rhymes, movement & a story, 10:15-10:45 am, Parchment Community Library Wednesday, Nov. 26 Baby & Toddler Time, stories & activities, 9:30 & 10:30 am, Portage Library Thanksgiving Crafts, drop in to create Thanksgiving crafts, KPLOshtemo, call 553-7980 for hours Toddler Talk, toddlers play, parents chat, 10:30 am, KPL-Oshtemo Miss Lisa: Stories & Dance, dance & stories, 10:30 am, KPLCentral Baby Talk, parents talk about infant care, 1:30 pm, KPL-Oshtemo Read with Bailey, read to a loveable Schnoodle dog, 4-5:30 pm, KPL-Washington Square, register@533-7970 Elf the Musical, hilarious tale of Buddy’s journey to find his father, 7:30 pm, Miller Auditorium, ticket info@387-2300 Friday, Nov. 28 Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313 Saturday, Nov. 29 Circus Maximus Antique Toy Show, 9 am-2 pm, Kalamazoo Expo Center, 2900 Lake Street, $6 admission, free after 1 pm

Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 am, register@ LowesBuild&Grow.com

Special Monthly Craft, speciallythemed craft, 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, sign-up@324-1433

Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313

Friday, Dec. 5

Manheim Steamroller Christmas, 8 pm, Miller Auditorium, ticket info@387-2300 Sunday, Nov. 30

Art Hop, art on display in downtown Kalamazoo, 5-9 pm, kalamazooarts.org Kalamazoo Mandolin & Guitar Orchestra, 6 pm, Kalamazoo Valley Museum

Shrek, The Musical, 2 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313

Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313

Vienna Boys Choir: Christmas in Vienna, The Vienna Boys Choir performs, 3-5 pm, Chenery Auditorium, ticket info@382-7774

Saturday, Dec. 6

December Monday, Dec. 1 2’s & 3’s Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Tuesday, Dec. 2

Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313

Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 am, register@ LowesBuild&Grow.com

Moscow Ballet’s Great Russian Nutcracker, Tchaikovsky’s classic score, 7 pm, Miller Auditorium, ticket info@387-2300

Winter Holiday Festival, meet Santa & celebrate the holidays, 12 pm, The Olde World Village, free under age 12, adults $10

I’m a Big Kid Now Storytime, activities & stories just for ages 4-5, 10 am Portage Library Thursday, Dec. 4 Baby & Toddler Time, stories & activities, 9:30 & 10:30 am, Portage Library 3-5-Year-Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & activities,10:30-11:15 am, Comstock Library Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313 The Jubilee Christmas Tour, 3 of Southern gospel music’s most recognized artists, 7 pm, Chenery Auditorium, ticket info@337-0424 Preschool Storytime, 10-11 am, Bookbug Tween Hangouts, activities for tweens, 4 pm, Vicksburg Library Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble

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Winter Holiday Festival, meet Santa & celebrate the holidays, 12 pm, The Olde World Village, 13215 M-96, Augusta, 580-1290, free under age 12, adults $10

Preschool Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library

Toddler Tales Storytime, songs, rhymes, movement & a story, 10:15-10:45 am, Parchment Community Library

Looking for something “Family Friendly” this New Year’s Eve?

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How the Grinch Stole Christmas, Kalamazoo Symphony Orchestra, Chenery Auditorium, ticket info@349-7759 BachFest Christmas!, family holiday tradition, 4 pm, Stetson Chapel, Kalamazoo College, ticket info@337-7404 Mrs. Claus Tea, at the Manor House, 3-5 pm, Kellogg Manor House, ticket info@671-2400

Lego City Magician

Monday, Dec. 8 2’s & 3’s Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library

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Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Tuesday, Dec. 9 Preschool Storytime, stories & activities, 10 am, Portage Library Toddler Tales Storytime, songs, rhymes, movement & story, 10:1510:45 am, Parchment Community Library Wednesday, Dec. 10 I’m a Big Kid Now Storytime, activities & stories for 4 & 5-yearolds, 10 am, Portage Library

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Sunday, Dec. 14

3-5 Year Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & activities, 10:30-11:15 am, Comstock Library

Shrek, The Musical, 2 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313

Baby & Toddler Time, stories & activities, 9:30 & 10:30 am, Portage Library

Monday, Dec. 15

Preschool Storytime, 10-11 am, Bookbug Tween Hangouts, activities for tweens, 4 pm, Vicksburg Library Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Friday, Dec. 12 Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313 Saturday, Dec. 13

Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble Wednesday, Dec. 17 Ballerina Storytime, Miss Lisa brings her stories & dance, 10 am, Portage Library, register@329-4544 Thursday, Dec. 18 3-5 Year-Olds’ Storytime, stories, songs & activities, 10:3011:15 am, Comstock Library Preschool Storytime, 10-11 am, Bookbug

Shrek, The Musical, 7:30 pm, Kalamazoo Civic Theatre, ticket info@343-1313

Tween Hangouts, activities for tweens, 4 pm, Vicksburg Library

Art Detectives at the KIA, kidfriendly art-learning initiative, 11:15 am-12:15 pm, Kalamazoo Institute of Arts, 314 S. Park St., 349-7775

Weekly Storytime, story, coloring & treats, 10:30 am, Barnes & Noble

Build & Grow Workshop, weekly clinics at Lowe’s in Kalamazoo & Portage, 10 am, register@ LowesBuild&Grow.com

Friday, Dec. 19 Holiday Nights at Binder Park Zoo, lighted paths, entertainment, ice skating, animals, 5-9 pm, 7400 Division Drive, Battle Creek,

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Kids’ Corner FYI

Imagination Gallery Fused Glass Art

Karrynton Burks

Age: 6 Educating for Freedom in Schools Summer Program

Maci Gast Erik Holladay

Age: 6

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Cool Kids

Local kids doing great things

Jaidin Smith, 11 Irish Dancer

Stop The Violence!

Last year I spoke about Black on Black Crime and How Black men need to stop committing violence against one another!

This year it is has gotten even worse and this is what I have discovered.

This is an age old crisis and it is turning into an epidemic.

We look at the evening news, boys and girls my age are getting shot and killed everyday.

What is going to be the limit?

How long will we continue allow our children, our boys to pretend to be gangsters?

Jaidin Smith’s turquoise-blue Irish dancing solo dress is a point of pride – she earned it when she achieved a first place position at a novice Irish dancing competition. It’s handmade by a seamstress, as all solo dresses are, and no two are ever the same.

“I love it,” says Jaidin, of Mattawan, patting the stiff satin and straightening up into an Irish Dance position, arms straight at her side and tucked slightly behind her, feet pointed away.

She’s staring straight ahead, concentrating on a point. All of a sudden, it’s as if she’s on stage. Then, as quickly as she went into dance mode, she breaks her pose, jumps back into kid mode and excitedly tells the big news of her weekend.

“I got a first place yesterday at the Feis!” she says. “I almost cried, and I screamed a little bit.”

You’re probably thinking, “Wow! That’s great! But what’s a Feis?”

Let’s back up for Irish dancing beginners.

Irish dancing (also called Irish step dancing and step dancing) can either be recreational or competitive, as Jaidin does at her school, The Quinn School of Irish Dance in Marshall. Feis, pronounced like “fesh” is a festival, where Irish dance groups perform and compete. There are different levels of competition from beginning to novice to champions, and each dancer passes to a higher level by placing high in their current level at a competition. Once a female dancer places first in a novice competition (moving out of novice), she earns a solo dress, which is a custom-made outfit different than the group dress the school wears.

So when Jaidin sports her new solo dress and gets really excited about getting first place over the weekend, it’s because, in short, she’s acing Irish dance. And, even though Jaidin has a lot of pride in her individual accomplishments, she’s very quick to point out that Irish dance isn’t really about one dancer.

“Team dances are a big part of Irish dancing,” she explains.

“And, with the footwork and quick beats, you always have to be on time together, which takes a lot of practice.”

Do you want “to get jiggy” with the Irish dancers of The Quinn School of Irish Dance? Visit QuinnIrishDancers.com to learn more about classes for all levels and ages (even adults!).

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Because in reality, all we are is pranksters.

While we supposed to be going to school and preparing for college.

Some of us are out here in the streets gaining the wrong type of knowledge.

It baffles me, whoa, it baffles me that we demand respect from others.

But how can we expect other ethnicities to respect us when…

We do not respect our own sisters and brothers!

Today I ask the whole audience to stand up and declare no more VIOLENCE! Today we shall continue to strive to educate our people, we cannot ignore our reality and live in silence!

STOP THE VIOLENCE!

Jumauca Golliday

Age: 12 Education for Freedom in Schools Summer Program

Learn more about Educating for Freedom in Schools in the November issue of Encore (www.encorekalamazoo.com).

If you know a kid who’s up to great stuff or a child who would like to share their artwork, writing, projects and more with FYI readers, let us know! Send all info to fyi@encorekalamazoo.com.

The Last Laugh (continued from page 30) Dear Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas, My parents are flying “in” from Seattle for the holidays.

Unfortunately, “in” means an airport almost three hours away, and their plane arrives late at night. I asked them about getting a hotel for the night, but they say they just want to get here. Any thoughts?

— Rodney, the People’s Republic of Gobles Dear Rodney, Many times — and especially over the holidays — we have to make sacrifices or do things we don’t want to do in the name of family. That’s what you’ll need to explain to your parents when you tell them to take a cab.

Dear Quetzalcoatl, The holidays are about so much more than just giving gifts. But not to kids. You better figure out a way to get them what they want before they estrange themselves from you. Do you have some jewelry or a family pet you could sell?

Dear Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas, This holiday season, I’ll be overseas. On what day do they celebrate Thanksgiving in France?

— Jennifer, right behind you!

Dear Jennifer, Ha! Trick question. The French do not celebrate any holidays.

Dear Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas, I have several siblings and dozens of nieces and nephews.

My wife and I are strapped financially this year so the fact Until next year, dear readers, stay away from the Irish that we all still buys gifts for each other’s kids has us a little cream. stressed. Should I bring up the idea of a round-robin or A Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas group gift exchange?

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LAST LAUGH FYI

Ask a Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas

By Brian Lam

One year, I ruined Christmas.

I would like to think I had actually been trying to save Christmas – after all, it was a magical night that involved disguising myself as an elf to get a last-minute gift after the store had closed, a sleigh chase through Bronson Park and a bottle of Irish cream….

But really, the ruining part of the story just isn’t that interesting. What is interesting, however, is that I am once again attempting to save Christmas by allowing you to learn from my mistakes.

I have been given the honor, the privilege and an Oct 15 deadline of answering important holiday questions from you, dear readers.

This year, my holiday wish is that these little bits of wisdom can make even one family’s holiday experience just a little bit more magical.

Enjoy!

Dear Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas, Do holiday wishes ever come true?

— Marcy, Portage Dear Marcy, No. Dear Guy Who Has Ruined Christmas, We’re doing a Secret Santa gift exchange at work, and I drew my boss! I don’t want to look like I’m brown-nosing by spending too much, but I don’t want to look cheap by getting something inexpensive. Help!

— Jackie, just outside Kalamazoo Dear Jackie, The perfect thing to give your boss is 110%.

Your boss will appreciate it and you don’t even have to wrap anything.

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Dear Guy Who Ruined Christmas, Three years ago on Christmas Day, my family’s Labrador retriever got out of the yard and was hit by a car. The problem is now it kind of puts a damper on what’s supposed to be a joyous day for our family. Do you have any advice for ceasing to associate Christmas with this tragedy?

— Wayland, Wayland Dear Wayland, Instead of making the day about dogs being taken, make it about dogs being given. This Christmas, give dogs to your friends, family and co-workers. Feel your own spirits lift as you brighten the lives of those around you with the gift of 8 to 15 years of commitment and responsibility.

Want to really leave the past in the past? Fulfill a holiday wish for a family that celebrates Hanukkah by giving them a dog pound rescue eight days in a row. (continued to page 29)

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