Gaia Issue 5

a i ga for every woman

Horse McDonald uncovered ... ‘This is who I am ...’

VG Lee our new columnist funny,honest and unique

Conchita Wurst in conversation

Bisexuality Myths and Realities

ISSUE 5

January 2016

The heat is on ..California

Dreaming

ANNIE LEIBOVITZ “I didn't want to let women down. One of the stereotypes I see breaking is the idea of ageing and older women not being beautiful.”

THIS ISSUE

INTRODUCING OUR NEW COLUMNIST

In her first column for Gaia, author and comedian VG Lee shares her writing life with us OPINION

The Hate Speech Manifesto ON THE COVER

We sit down with legendary singer Horse McDonald whose intimate lyrics and signature voice have elevated her to award-winning success. In a candid conversation Horse discusses her music, gay rights and why a part of her will always feel missing THOUGHTS FROM ABROAD

This month Janet Zaretsky tells us to never apologise for being great CONCHITA WURST

On being true to herself, and the bullying she experienced as a boy named Tom TRAVEL

California Dreaming - discover the deserts and Palm Springs women only resort hotel FITNESS

These boots were made for walking FEATURE

Bisexuality: Myths and Realities

REGULARS Inbox Arts: Books,Music,Film Food & Drink; A Snapshot of our Favourite Eateries Wellbeing Agenda: Events Calendar

Issue 5

january 2016

EDITOR’S LETTER

Heading into the holiday season, we’re all thinking about celebrating, whether it’s spending time with friends and family or planning to ring in the New Year with a bang. At Gaia HQ, things are no different - and we’ve got plenty to celebrate.

Since our debut in March, Gaia has felt positive. From the wonderful events we’ve hosted so far in Blairgowrie, Cowes and Glasgow, to the response we’ve had from our readers who’ve fallen in love with the magazine and being shortlisted for Media Outlet of the Year with both the Equality Network and Ultimate Planet Awards.

At Gaia, we value all of the writers, photographers and designers whose singular talents bring our features to life.

There’s nothing more rewarding than supporting amazing people like our cover star Horse McDonald, who is not only a successful musician but has supported women’s and gay rights for most of her adult life, and Conchita Wurst, who lives her life her own way.

I hope you’ll find plenty to love in this issue and we can’t think of anyone whom we’d rather spend the holidays with than you.

Happy New Year!

AJ Alanna Jane

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Editor:Alanna Jane Cover photograph: Kris Kesiak Contributors: VG Lee, Janet Zaretsky, Amy M. Carbone, Mac Design:idesign Advertising: Alex Allen Publishers: Randan Publishing Ltd Company Number SC201978

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By Mac

Introducing our new columnist

VG Lee

A writing life

I push open the front door and wheel my suitcase into the hall.

From the bend in the stairs cats Lettuce and Tommy Thomson curiously peer at me as if I’m a complete stranger – and I feel like one. Over the past few months, reading from my novels and talking about writing in ten different cities, I’ve been away for almost as many days and nights as I’ve been at home.

‘Hello lads,’ I call out.

They look at each other as if undecided whether to greet me or not.

It’s good to be back, to catch up with friends and family who are a difficult, disparate bunch but that’s one of the reasons I value them! They provide an uncomfortable yet supportive frame-work .There is Mary, my closest friend who intends to give up smoking and alcohol but not till she feels less stressed. (Over thirty-five years Mary has always felt stressed!) I have a dear brother who knows every film and record ever released and prides himself on having invented the perfect way to arrange a sock drawer; my neighbour, octogenarian Les who insists that knowing me ‘hasn’t been a walk in the park/bed of roses/ picnic’ which doesn’t prevent him from tucking in to my cake, my biscuits or my Liquorice Allsorts!

With reluctance the cats follow me into the kitchen although it is nowhere near their dinner time but hey – I’m back for several days – we’re celebrating. The moment I open a certain cupboard door, their reserve and disapproval vanish as purring they wind around my ankles. Lettuce bops Tommy on the nose. He snarls back. She looks plaintively up at me as if to say, ‘I’m only small – do something!'

Behind me in the kitchen the phone rings. I let it ring. It clicks on to message. It’s Mary, ‘I can’t believe that you get paid to swan around the country. Call me.’

I met Mary a long time ago when I was sent as part of an arts degree course to do work experience at the BBC. I remember thinking on numerous occasions over the following weeks that if I sat opposite this ill-natured woman for a hundred years I’d never grow to like her. Then I discovered that she had a sense of humour. I left college, she left the BBC and for the next two decades we worked together making wooden signs in the shape of inn keepers, lobsters and vegetables for London restaurants and hotels. When I decided on a career change to writing it caused a small stir. Why turn my back on a job I loved? And for what? To write stories? Weren’t there enough people writing stories? It won’t be easy.

I open my suitcase and begin transferring clothes straight into the washing machine.

Writing isn’t easy. Nor are some of the elements that transform writing into a paid job.

Recently at a reading a woman asked me to sign a copy of my novel, Always you, Edina.

She said, ‘I’ve been a fan of yours since 2002.’

I’d beamed thinking, what a charming woman.

Although your books aren’t as funny as they used to be.’

My beam had stiffened. I love all my books – they are my babies and what mother wants to be told that Henry is a delight but her other children are dull by comparison? In retrospect I understand that sometimes the story an author feels impelled to write won’t be the story readers feel impelled to read! And once an author has published several novels, the reader may settle on the one they like best which means the others will fall short of their expectations.

I too have been guilty of just such disloyalty. I loved Anita Brookner’s Hotel du Lac but then found many of her later novels pale shadows. How must Anita have felt over the years knowing each time she brought out a new book her fans would be lining up to tell her, ‘We don’t mind this but it’s not a patch on Hotel.’

Washing machine on and cats thawing towards me, I ring Mary.

‘So did you enjoy yourself?’ she asks a shade truculently.

‘I was working.’

Mary says, ‘Words fail me,’ and then talks for ten minutes about how I don’t know the meaning of real work and she’s had to fit in her own ‘hard physical labour’ with feeding my cats twice a day and sitting with them for an hour each evening because they’d looked bereft.

I parry with, ‘Well I wish you’d emptied the ashtray and rinsed your wine glass.’

There is a loaded silence before words fail her again!

Energised by this brief skirmish I go to bed early with notebook and pen. Eventually Lettuce and Tommy Thomson having had their own brief skirmish on the stairs, decide to join me.

OPINION THE HATE SPEECH MANIFESTO

Hanin Ahsan Abbas

The Western societies we live in today are socially, ethnically, and culturally diverse. Like most people, I believe the only way such a society can maintain its diverse nature is by being more tolerant and inclusive in regard to people from different backgrounds, cultures and also free speech and freedom of expression. In fact, the legal system protects the fundamental rights of each individual and also against any kind of hateful content that causes harm to us.

Keeping these assertions in consideration, the wilful dissemination of hatred - of what today's issues going on in the world definitely fall under - is untenable under our current understanding of hate speech and what is considered unjust. My central argument is not focused on censoring public discussion but on censoring hate and offering equal respect and avenues for all marginalised, stigmatised, and oppressed groups and what is best for our society. Thus, open hateful content not only causes dissemination of hate but the destruction of an inclusive society.

There is no doubt that freedom of expression is the foundation of democracy. In fact, an individual's imagination and ability to express ideas and opinions makes us come closer to the truth and ensure a democratic society. However, certain limits need to be placed because with freedom of expression comes responsibility. Generally, hate speech is destructive not because of it being offensive, but because it silences the members of the minority group. For instance, when all Muslims are generalised as "terrorists," they feel damaged and threatened because they no longer feel a sense of belonging and part of a public debate. Another example is of how there are stereotypes attached to Black people being "criminals" or Indigenous women being a victim of rape, sexual abuse, and violence because according to our so-called "hero" Christopher Columbus, " they are barbaric or inhumane." This kind of hate speech convinces not only members of the larger community on how to view the target group but how the target group should view themselves. Therefore, the concern is not how such hateful content and speech on the media or elsewhere harms an individual, but how the entire community and society is affected with a climate and aura of pure hatred.

The logic and understanding behind hate speech and hatred content being problematic is that having the right to insult or offend certain religious beliefs and certain cultures inhibits the right to practice religion, inhibits the right to "blend in" a multicultural society, and inhibits the opportunity to create an inclusive society. If we can consider free speech and freedom of expression as core fundamental rights, shouldn't we consider freedom of religion, conscience, and thought as fundamental rights too? To ensure a democratic society? For a brief moment, let us assume that freedom of speech includes the right to offend. Yet, we should wonder if our compliance to celebrate "the right to offend" also extends to us reaching out in compassion to those who are offended or marginalised.

Although it may not seem offensive to an outsider, they still give rise to understandable fear and insecurity. Hate speech and content against a particular group of people or race gives rise to consequences such as retaliation and violence. A thought-provoking point, therefore, is that the freedom to offend is not applied equally, but targets again and again communities that are already ostracised.

It is important to understand that when we talk about fairness and equality, we should keep in mind that with fairness comes the idea of being sensitive to other people's differences. These differences play an essential role in shaping an individual's identity. Differences include culture, language, and religion. When it comes to free speech, equality, and expression, majority and the ones in power have the privilege to practice it. I believe that free speech should also be used as a tool by the minorities to shed light on injustice and that equality is the right way for them to augment their freedom and privilege they deserve. However, the notion of free speech and freedom of expression is violated when it comes to a certain group of people. This doublestandard nature of freedom of expression and speech is visible when controversies and global issues arise. When we talk about the concept of co-existence we should inherit and meet halfway when a conflict is seen arising, not add fuel to the fire that already burns bright.

We should not forget the purpose: which is focused on what is best for our society. By applying the difference approach (which is accepting and respecting people's culture, religion, and other differences), we are helping to understand why a particular practice or value is essential to a group's identity. Instead of asking the question of whether or not a particular group of people or individual has a right to practice a particular right or not and whether or not those practices violates a right or not, the difference approach weighs the history and scrutinises the significance of a particular tradition or cultural/religious practice. It is important for the public to keep their biases and cultural misinterpretations aside about a particular group or race and expose problems by focusing their attention on how to understand, interpret, and assess identity-related claims. The main concern should be about fairness, justice, and equality - which each and every single individual/group is entitled to (freedom of speech, freedom of expression, and freedom of religion, conscience, and thought).

In conclusion, I believe that the values of free speech and freedom of expression are misunderstood. They are regarded as intrinsic and instrumental in nature because of our individualistic understanding of them as opposed to a collective understanding. By adapting to the difference approach and also the idea of social consensus, we will be enhancing an inclusive environment. By including the people who are the subject of the debate (whether they are Muslims, Non-Muslims, Jews, Christians, etc) we aim for respectful tackling of controversy - an approach in which we do not make enemies.

Therefore, it is important to note that public discourse is not just about what is fair and what is true, it is also helps us develop our preferences and choices. These preferences are not prosaic and dominant in nature but dependent on public debate which is inclusive of all majority and minority. As a result, we should be able to observe how hate, in its pure form, does nothing but disintegrate the vulnerable member's of the society's dignity and does not serve to further the ambitions of freedom of expression and speech.

BOOKS

BOOKS MY LIFE ON THE ROAD

BY GLORIA STEINEM

Gloria Steinem—writer, activist and one of the most inspiring leaders in the world —now tells a story she has never told before, a nomadic existence, from her wanderings with her father to her countless sojourns around the US on political campaign trails, college campus tours, or generally organising, writing, listening and inspiring.

Throughout her childhood, every fall, her father would pack the family into the car and they would drive across the country, in search of their next adventure. The seeds were planted: Steinem would spend much of her life on the road, as a journalist, organiser, activist, and speaker. She reveals the story of her own growth in tandem with the growth of an ongoing movement for equality.

While there are elements of autobiography, My Life on the Road is less about her personal journey than it is about those Steinem has met along the way, and knowing that listening to others’ stories is as important as sharing your own.

Steinem writes about her time on the campaign trail; from Bobby Kennedy to Hillary Clinton, her early exposure to social activism in India, the airline stewardesses who embraced feminism and the "surrealism in everyday life" that Steinem encountered as she travelled back and forth across the country.

There are the brushes with history. Steinem was close enough to hear gospel legend Mahalia Jackson urge Martin Luther King Jr. to tell the crowd about “the dream’’ during the 1963 March on Washington, spurring him to utter his most famous oratory. As a young journalist, Steinem received advice from Jack Newfield of The Village Voice on how to elicit the best quotes from then-U.S. Senate candidate Bobby Kennedy. And while on another journalistic assignment, she watched President John F. Kennedy walk toward the helicopter that would ferry him to Air Force One for that final, fateful flight to Dallas.

More often than not Steinem focuses on the ordinary folks who so often do - or could - have a hand in history, but are unsung.

But Steinem’s most powerful tribute may be her opening dedication, to the British doctor who, at considerable risk to himself, helped her obtain an abortion in 1957 when she was 22 and on her way to India, having broken an engagement to “the wrong man.” The doctor made her promise that she would “do what you want to do with your life.” This book makes it clear that she did.

My Life on the Road is a book bursting with wisdom, joy, empathy and a pragmatic optimism about the struggles that have kept its author travelling for more than 60 years. As well as offering a template for the future, it’s a heartening record of how far we’ve already come.

My Life on the Road, Published by Oneworld ISBN-10: 178074918X

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CAROL

FILM ‘A visually stunning, thought - provoking treat’ Based on Patricia Highsmith‘s novel The Price of Salt, Carol tells the story of two women, the title character (Cate Blanchett) and her young lover Therese (Rooney Mara), in 1950s New York. Working in the toy department of an upscale Manhattan department store, the young Therese makes an impression on immaculately dressed customer Carol, who, intentionally or not, leaves her gloves behind, providing an excuse for further contact.

The Price of Salt is an unconventional love story where the married woman, Carol, fights for joint custody of her young daughter, so the story’s central conflict revolves around moral and legal issues as much as it does matters of the heart.

In an era where homosexuality was not openly accepted, this confused age of hope and restraint is superbly accomplished by director Todd Haynes, cinematographer Ed Lachman and their team of costume and set designers and by the spare language, pregnant pauses and broken thoughts that heighten every moment of anger, doubt and frustration.

Fortunately, Carol is unique in that when the moment of intimacy does arrive for the star-crossed lovers, Haynes chooses not to exploit eroticism using just enough passion to protect the gentle love story he has developed.

The co-stars balance the film. Kyle Chandler plays Harge, Carol’s husband, in a way that allows us to empathise with him, or at least with his situation; he loves his wife, and his anger at losing her could have devolved into homophobic spite. Sarah Paulson, as Carol’s best friend (and former lover) Abby, is the counterweight to Harge, a woman who also lost that which she desires, but understands that the heart wants what it wants.

Mara and Blanchett make for an unforgettable couple in a beautiful film about longing, loss and the confusion and wonder of love. It’s the kind of film you find yourself pondering for days afterwards – it can get under your skin. And while I wouldn’t dream of spoiling anyone’s enjoyment by revealing the story’s ending, I will say this: the penultimate scene - wordless yet beautifully self-explanatory – is a total masterpiece.

Director: Todd Haynes Writers: Phyllis Nagy (screenplay), Patricia Highsmith (novel) Running time: 118 mins

LIZZO

MUSIC BIG GRRRL SMALL WORLD

“Let the big grrrls tell it - I can feel it in my bones, we can take over the world,” declares Melissa Jefferson, aka Lizzo, on her new album.

Lizzo released her solo debut, Lizzobangers, in 2013, and it was picked up for international release by Virgin Records in 2014. Now, she's releasing new music on her own terms: Big GRRRL Small World is out on her very own label. It’s potent stuff.

She is an artist that defies easy definition. A rapper, singer, songwriter and classically trained flautist that could galvanise at least a generation as a razor-sharp wordsmith and her empathetic lyrics. She is a passionate advocate for body positivism, feminism and black visibility.

The standout track here is My Skin, an empowerment ballad, expressly about and for everyone who looks like and looks up to her. "I love that because I am a woman and because I rap and I look the way I look, I can connect with the demographic of people who feel like they have a voice in me," Lizzo told Billboard. "I get to speak to these people who did not get spoken for in this genre.” We are in her head as she processes her relationship to her own body and self, and reflects on the reality of being a woman of colour in a society that's constantly trying to diminish her value.

Hip hop needs a strong female voice today. One that matches the pop magnetism of Rihanna, but with the political and social consciousness of Morrissey. With Big GRRRL Small World, Lizzo seems ready to fill that spot with this artistic masterpiece.

Release Date: 11 Dec, 2015 Producer: BJ Burton Record Label: BGSW Records

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ON THE COVER Much has changed since Horse McDonald first came to our attention, and in many ways, being an artist - especially a female artist - is more difficult than ever. The current tabloid culture of celebrity worship, youth culture, reality tv and instant internet fame certainly seems out of sync with what someone like Horse represents. However, although her ninth studio album may nostalgically be called Home, when effortlessly demonstrating an incredible range with the likes of Careful and Ghost, she proves that talent is timeless.

Inspiration takes many forms, but it's rarely pure. Still, that's precisely what Horse has offered over the course of her career. In her naturalness of expression and lyrical clarity, Horse has created a universe of difference where no one is out of place. Throughout her vast catalogue of songs she creates a world where people aren't simply portraits of what it's like not to fit in, but the joy to be found in one's trademark difference.

Gaia: This September, 2015, was the 25th anniversary of your breakthrough album the same sky.

What’s the secret to Horse’s longevity?

Horse: Making the same sky was thrilling and exhilarating - a real life changer. I’ve never, ever lost that sense when making music. It brings me great joy. I understand, with hindsight, that from teenage years to now, my music has developed from within me by way of osmosis and absolute heart, not head. It has quite literally saved me. It has been my solace and comfort, a companion and a great healer. My idea of success and longevity has completely and utterly changed over the years I have been making music.

Because I put so much of myself into my music, it’s obvious why I would take it personally when commercial ‘success’, or rather, the widely held view of what success is, may have eluded me. However, I reached a place personally and professionally, long ago of being happy with my success. The great sense of achievement and pleasure from still making music and having a true and positive impact on people is incredible. I feel very lucky.

Gaia: It’s easy to forget now what an impact being openly gay had back then. Even your record company were marketing you “ Horse. What is it - a man or a woman?” Do you feel this helped or hindered your career?

Horse: I know that through all of these times were also part of me ‘finding’ myself. I was never closeted. Like most kids I had no idea who I was and not just my peers, but adults who could be very cruel. I grew up in a town where I felt castigated.

I was cast out for being gay and very lonely. To then be ‘exposed’ or public on a grander scale was a little like being dragged backwards to that situation where I ran the gamut of the bullies, the ne’er do wells, the town fathers - only this time there was no escape. We just wanted our music to be heard and naively hoped for that platform. Today’s Stonewall tag would've been perfect - I am ...whatever... get over it. One of the Saturday kids TV producer said she couldn't play our videos to children as I wasn't appropriate, I was offensive. I was so hurt and embarrassed to think someone thought me dangerous for children. Capitol didn't know what to do with me and I had no idea either - I was just trying to be myself. I felt very hurt when I saw the flyer in a club we were playing in, saying “ Horse. What is it a man or a woman?” The biggest lesson I learned, being signed to two major labels, was that you were a commodity, something that was being sold. Hindered my career, yes, absolutely.

Gaia:Your openness about various parts of your personal life has made you a source of inspiration for a lot of people. Where do get your strength and inspiration from?

Horse: I think I have always been true to myself. I haven't ‘sold’ myself short, I haven't endorsed things I don’t believe in and I have steadfastly been myself. The more I’ve struggled the more stubborn I have become. I have also heard first hand from people about the difference I have made to them. My music has been very important to many people. There is nothing more life affirming than to find that through sharing your own struggles that’s helped someone else. I get inspiration from music. I get inspiration from people. My wife inspires me. I get inspiration from simple acts of kindness and good.

Gaia: You dedicated your album Hindsight to your ex partner and your child ("This album is dedicated to Sus, my inspiration, and our little Starfish."). How much has your child influenced your work?

Horse: My life changed irrevocably. Nothing would ever be the same again. Having a child is a blessing. I felt so terribly small and impotent, totally unable to convey how massively important my child was/is. I found it very upsetting that there was no gift I could give that was ‘special’ enough. I’ve always written about my life, so writing starfish and other songs around that time were natural to me. As with all of my work. the osmosis makes the spiritual and physical part of me inside that I bring out in song. From the heart.

Gaia: You say a part of you will always feel missing as you are estranged from your child, not by choice, …what advice would you give to parents thinking about starting a family today?

Horse: It was not my choice, no. It’s a living bereavement, one of the greatest losses in my life. I have not been able to totally voice my feelings, but I shall one day. I was silenced. Given the timing of it, it speaks volumes both in legal terms, as well as politically and socially. Again I found myself at the forefront of change and sadly not able to reap the rewards from our recent equalities.

I have met people that have told me about them being directly influenced by me in having a child.

I feel that if there is a silver lining that has come of this sadness, then it is that. They have their own ‘starfish’ I would say anyone starting a family (or joining a family ) is that as human beings we share the same spirit, the same potential for good. You cannot think of every situation, every eventuality, so my overriding thought is that children need love. Yes, a roof over your head, food ,light, heat but love is all. If a child feels loved they are armed for life with one of the strongest weapons. One parent, two parents, two women, two men, grandad or grandma ...no matter which combinationit’s universal. To be loved is to feel alive and well and able to go forward.

Gaia: Your music is very personal. You put yourself out there and on the line. You give a lot of yourself. It’s one of the things that’s made you popular with your loyal fans. Are there any risks with that? Do you still feel vulnerable when you get up and perform?

Horse: I always get nervous or wound up before performing.

Whether to one person or a thousand - it’s just how I am. I care about what they think. After all these years I don’t think I could ever feel distant from my audience. I get a real buzz from performing - it’s a two way thing. I quite literally feel supported because they have come to hear me sing and that I will always be grateful for. I meet people after gigs, I have done for years. I think the only down side is that after performing for up to two hours it can take a long time to meet everybody so I get a bit tired.

After all these years of performing I find that the most powerful place in the room is on the stage with the microphone. I am now more open than I have ever been. The risks from doing that are so much less and the rewards are sublime.

Gaia: You have shown a great deal of appreciation for your fans. Were there any life lessons you gained along the way to encourage you to never taking the fans for granted?

Horse: I think as time has gone on I realise how important they have been in my life and remain so.

We all have life experiences that we share. Several good fans have passed away in last few years.

My reaction as to how upset I was surprised me. In doing so, I realised that there has been a change in our relationship in recent times. In the early years, I had to keep a distance to keep myself ‘safe’ and retain the professional and personal separate. However, as I said, I think that within my music the experiences are universal. People get so much out of the music, it’s very important to them. There is probably no need to differentiate at this point in my life or to be ‘distant’ Some people have followed me for over 30 years - how about that?

Gaia: Where does your sense of the spirit come from?

Horse: Again, if I go back to music, I voice myself, everything through my music. Singing is such a cathartic thing. We sing with soul. I think my spirituality is very personal to me. It is not a specific church. Since losing both parents I’ve had more of a sense of life and wellbeing beyond the ‘physical.’

Gaia: Why do you think so few older women musicians are as revered as their male peers?

Horse: Until we get to the point where someone is referred to simply as a musician - good or bad, then there will always be the labelling. Women do not make women’s music any more than men make men’s music.

Before we are judged on our music, we have to get over various hurdles first. Men just ‘make music’ This is a mirror of society. This is a universal journey that all women are on. Looking back at our suffrage I am incredulous that there is still stigma and discrimination. Also if we think in the West that it’s difficult, try living in an African or Eastern country.

Gaia: Activism is very important to you, speaking up for people who don’t have a voice, etc. Can you talk about what role your music plays in creating community and awareness for important issues?

Horse: If you can be of use to one person by being either accessible, being visible or saying something which gives hope. In my experience, you can have so much influence and bring so much by just ‘being’. I wouldn’t say I’m an activist; I don't look for controversy. I'm not a political person, but I'm a person with compassion. I care passionately about equal rights. I care about human rights. Above all, I strive to be the best I can - to be better than I was yesterday and better tomorrow.

Gaia: As one of the first out public figures in music, what’s your proudest moment as a gay icon?

Horse: As a person who has been through so many things ( although I did not personally make these things happen) I feel that as part of my ‘visibility’ with many, many others, helped lead the change. The two things that stand out for me are - the day I got married and being in Parliament for the final debate and passing of the Equal Marriage bill.

Gaia: You married your partner, Alanna, in your hometown of Lanark. How is married life treating you?

Horse: I could not be happier. It is just the most amazing relationship in my life and the most supportive. It’s everything I hoped a relationship could be, and I’m so grateful.

Gaia: Knowing all you know about yourself now, what would you tell your younger self ?

Horse: ”Don't sweat the small things. Don't get all worked up about it, because it's all right you're going to be okay.”

Gaia: What would you like your legacy to be?

Horse: I would love for it to be, "Horse, she made a difference through her music - just a little bit." That maybe - because I was here, I was open, I am me - life was a little better for some others too. That would be nice.

Horse will be appearing with her band at the Old Fruitmarket, Glasgow 16 April 2016 For further information: www.horsemcdonald.com

gaia Women’s Burns Supper Fri 29th January 2016

Three course supper with entertainment, a unique auction, banter & surprise guests Hosted by

Horse McDonald Join us for a lively evening of entertainment just for the Lassies In support of Stonewall Scotland

from http://www.gaiawomen.com/#!burns-supper/c9qmv aj@randan.org from 7pm - carriages midnight The Beardmore Hotel & Conference Centre Beardmore St Glasgow G81 4SA

THOUGHTS FROM ABROAD

USA Janet Zaretsky

I had the privilege of hearing Patricia Arquette speak at the Texas Conference for Women, alongside seven thousand other business women. She and other women in Hollywood like Jennifer Lawrence are the loud voice for equal pay for women. The statistics are astounding. I was unaware just how large the gender gap is worldwide; not just in pay, but in careers, in education, politics and even in being treated medically! I am not going to get into all the statistics I have now researched, but simply to say, the disparity is huge. This is not a man versus woman issue but a cultural issue. It is time to take action to end this and truly have equal rights.

I know most people want this, too. And it ties right into what I often work on with my clients.

In the past week, I was working with two of my clients who are in different fields and different levels of their companies. They both were dealing with similar issues. I will share with you about one particular issue with my client, Jane*. Jane*, was dealing with a situation where she was working with a male coworker and discussing ideas with their manager. Jane mentioned one idea. The meeting went on, then her male counterpart mentioned the same thing she did earlier. That was the idea they ultimately went with. Her male counterpart took the credit. She was fuming, but did not say anything. You might say, that is her fault for not speaking up. You would be right.

However, this is a common cultural problem. She did not want to be considered difficult or 'bitchy'. As a woman, she has to be careful in ways her male counterpart would never. I understand that. It is risky. The price of being quiet, having your concern for being liked or not perceived negatively is that she may not move up the corporate ladder at the rate she wants, she may not negotiate a salary commensurate with her contribution and she becomes part of the problem that keeps women from advancing and closing the gender gap. In our coaching conversation she really got for herself the true cost of her silence and vowed to stop apologising for being a great woman, a great employee and a great leader.

This topic is one I often work on with my clients. Be fully who you are. Never apologise for being great. Never apologise for making money. Never apologise for your achievements. Never apologise for being you. Stand tall, own your power and own your brilliance. Do not 'tone yourself down'. Do not step over saying something for fear of someone might not like you or have some sexist comment. We have to educate that this is not acceptable. It all begins with us.

I know it is risky, but the cost of silence is too great.

I have the opportunity to speak with a group of women tomorrow at a tech company about this very topic. They are in a male dominated culture and want to be shoulder to shoulder.

Their idea was 'breaking into the boys club'. That is not effective. Breaking into something will cause resistance, and is not ultimately what they really want. They want to alter the culture in their company so that they are treated equally. Bravo! I cannot wait to speak with them and teach them some simple, yet highly effective ways of listening and speaking that will actually alter the culture.

Often, I find, when there are significant issues like this one, we can feel a bit powerless. Like "What can I do, I am just one person?" attitude. Here is the thing-if we each take actions, we will alter the culture where the gender disparity is allowed to proliferate. Start with one small action-stop apologising for being great. Be great. Own it.

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Conchita Wurst

IN CONVERSATION WITH…

She’s fabulous and stylish. She’s sensitive and quick-witted. She also has a beard.

Conchita Wurst both polarised and fascinated people with her wonderful singing and fearless image. One of the world’s most celebrated entertainers and a beacon of hope to many spoke to us in Glasgow about her new album, writing her book and winning that singing contest.

AJ: You grew up watching Eurovision. Can you describe the moment when Rise Like a Phoenix was announced as the winner?

Conchita: It was surreal. Everybody was jumping around and I yelled at my manager, 'Have I won this?' And he said yes, and I was like, 'Oh my God!' I couldn't believe it. I relive this moment by watching youtube videos. It’s how I’ve reconstructed this moment.

AJ: You’ve been involved with the music industry for many years and were briefly in a boyband. How did you find it being catapulted into the limelight after Eurovision?

Conchita: I still can’t believe it. If you said I spent most of my career being not that successful, not famous, it is a whole new situation and not something I compensate in a year so it’s still something that I see rewards that people actually show up just because my name is on the headline. It’s so crazy but I really appreciate it.

AJ: You’ve just released your debut album, simply entitled Conchita, how did you choose the songs to go on that album?

Conchita: Actually, I receive my songs from all over the world, and for me, a song got just one chance. I need to listen to it and it needs to touch me in some way and luckily for me I had more than just those songs to fill a record, so I was privileged to decide which ones would fit perfectly. I was definitely involved in the whole musical process, but I haven't written any of these songs myself. It’s a wonderful record, I’m proud of it.

AJ: Did you find any of these songs particularly challenging?

Conchita: Definitely! There is a song on the record called The other side of me and it is written or inspired by the very situation when I won. The name of the songwriter is Eric, he is from Sweden and he sent this song with a message saying he was so inspired by this energy that he felt and the whole situation. So, lyric wise, it is very touching to me and musically it is very challenging to me because I’m not really good at not being loud, it is challenging to be soft.

AJ: Usually you are stood on stage as a solo artist, but on one of the songs, Put that fire out, you have a choral arrangement. How did you find that?

Conchita: Simply beautiful. It is such a strong song, I think about twenty people were singing on it and it just gives the perfect lift to the song. I have a really wide range of music on this record because I’m interested in so many different things. I also wanted to achieve something, by presenting myself to the music industry.

AJ: Do you strive to push boundaries and challenge yourself within your music?

Conchita: Definitely. I think I have a nice gift and talent but I’m not Mariah Carey, so I’m working very hard and I’m hard on myself because I’m my worse critic. I want to remain as Conchita and for people to say ‘oh she was a fantastic singer’ . This is what I want to achieve for myself.

AJ: Are you keen to develop your own songwriting skills?

Conchita: Yes. I’m already working on my second album. As an artist I at least have to try it. For myself, I need to say that I have written a song, whether it’s good or not. I have about six songs and feel the creative process is now really starting.

AJ: What hopes do you have for the album?

Conchita: As it is my first album everything is completely new to me and fresh and I’m thinking of a live concert. How can I put this record on the stage? The choice of the venues. I’m excited about playing smaller venues with a live band, these are the goals that I want to achieve with this record.

AJ: You have said that you don't really like the label icon or role model but you are in that position where people look up to you?

Conchita: No, I don’t. It’s flattering but it’s hard to understand because at the end of the day it is me just me being me and I’m not perfect and I say stupid things, but it’s touching and I have to accept it I guess. I just do what I think is right. So if I can't fulfil people's expectations, I'm sorry, but it's not my fault. I never said that I will change the world. Everything I say is just my opinion. I will always speak out for what I think is right. So it’s really unbelievable when people say that I inspire them. It’s a huge honour, but I’m just being me.

AJ: Your book, Being Conchita - We Are Unstoppable is out now. How did you finding retelling certain personal parts of your life? You are still young yet have had a lot of life experiences…

Conchita: I am very young and didn't want to do it in the first place. I said I am just 26, but the publisher forced me to think about it and I did and I’m very proud because the book is now released in six languages.

The whole process of creating this book almost felt like a gift. You get the chance to watch your life in one piece. You don't often get the chance to think what happened when you were 13, you often forget those things. In the process of creating the book I called friends and my family and asked them what did they remember. Some parts were more intense than others. When it comes to my teenage years it was definitely one of the most emotional phases of writing the book. Being a teenager is just not fun for anyone, if you have another sexuality, you’re squinting or have red hair it can be a tough time. I felt the need to tell the story from this specific time because many kids nowadays could be in a similar situation and if my story is inspiring to them or they think oh wow, she did it that way then I would love it if the message comes across that ‘you have to find your own truth’ . You have to find your comfort zone and your way of doing it.

AJ: You found your teenage years difficult?

Conchita : My teenage years were hard, society telling me that something was wrong with me for being gay, and dressing in skirts. We spend our adult lives getting rid of our teenage insecurities. I got called so many hurtful names as a teenager, all because of my feelings for men – I thought that there was something wrong with me.

AJ: Was the book the most challenging aspect of your career to date? To relive what you went through?

Conchita: I relived being bullied at school, of name calling, of feeling physically sick at the prospect of going to class each morning, but I am not a victim, I just had a tough time. I’ve always been surrounded by love and friends. Thinking about it now, then yes, that was challenging, but aren't I lucky? Because I’ve never really experienced real pain.

I’ve never been in a situation where I thought what should I do now? So lucky me if I can say that is the toughest challenge that I’ve had to face yet.

AJ: Has being in the public eye ever felt too much?

Conchita: I can honestly say no. I always wanted my life to be like this and I've prepared myself for it so I’m very thankful.

AJ: What is next for you?

Conchita: I will enjoy the album. I get to travel the world doing what I do. I am so happy to be so busy and doing what I love.

AJ: And will the beard always be a part of your work?

Conchita: Well, never say never (she smiles) but I think for Conchita, you know, she's just a bearded lady. www.conchitawurst.com

Food & Drink

DAVID BANN 56 -58 St Mary’s Sreet, Edinburgh Tel: 0131 556 5588 We have just found our new favourite vegetarian restaurant. Situated just off the Royal Mile and the Cowgate, David Bann is a rare find. With deep aubergine walls accented in silver and dark, minimalist seating and a philosophy that by using fresh seasonal ingredients of the highest quality the food you love actually loves you back, you just can't help feeling a little virtuous about eating there.

A hive of activity every evening, Bann’s has a very informal warm atmosphere. As soon as we entered we were greeted with a friendly attitude and seated straight away. The menu is eclectic and innovative with influences from around the world. Thai fritters sit alongside a selection of tempting pastry dishes and delicately spiced smoked tofu, and the whisky pannacotta is both decadent and delightful.

I started with the Ravioli parcel with hazelnut, red cabbage and thyme; it was very tasty and well presented. For main course I had the Parsnip, Bramley apple and Dunsyre Blue cheese mousse which was well flavoured and tasty. Served with roasted potatoes, buttered carrots and savoy cabbage with caraway it was certainly filling. It's exactly the plate of food I want to see in this sort of place.

Miraculously space was made for dessert (isn't it always) and glad we did as they were stand out - Hot apple and calvados tart with raspberry ice cream and pineapple sorbet.

Everything feels very fresh and healthy and with so many restaurants to choose from to lunch locally, its success is clearly deserved. It's a hard one to beat.

Jo www.davidbann.com http://www.davidbann.com

The View

FOOD Naughton Road, Wormit, Newport On Tay, Fife, DD6 8NE Telephone: 01382 542287 The View Restaurant lies on the southern banks of the River Tay and offers diners magnificent views over the river towards the city of Dundee. The restaurant is run by Steve and Karen Robertson and the cuisine is focused on Modern Scottish food made using top-notch seasonal produce from local artisanal suppliers. On the menu are dishes including venison from the Cairngorms with local chantrel mushrooms and dauphinoise potatoes, chicken breasts from Aberdeenshire with chick peas and curry sauce and Angus beef fillets with asparagus spears, hollandaise sauce and hand cut chips.

Steve’s cooking style is all about ingredients and the dishes are not over complicated letting the flavours speak for themselves.

As well as lunch and dinner the restaurant serves morning coffees, homemade pastries & breakfasts from 10am and Afternoon Teas (booking required) on Sundays between 3pm and 5pm.

Front of house is friendly, relaxed and informal – the décor modern contemporary with impressive designs… Nothing has been overlooked which makes them stand out from the crowd and definitely worth a detour.

There’s a reason The View is called The View - it has one of the most impressive views over the River Tay. On a summer’s day, it's clear, sparkling and beautiful. When the weather isn't quite so accommodating, it's dramatic, striking and ever changing

www.view-restaurant.co.uk www.view-restaurant.co.uk

TRAVEL

CALIFORNIA DREAMING -

DISCOVER THE DESERTS

Fabulous pool parties. Stylish bars and impeccably designed hotels. Pampering spas and energetic nightclubs. Lavish events. There’s no question that the Palm Springs region ranks as one of the world’s top destinations for LGBT travellers. Whether you’re a couple or looking for a singles scene, Palm Springs and its neighbouring cities offer memorable experiences - from tranquil retreats to clothing-optional resorts.

The scene really heats up when the weather cools down in late fall and winter. Some estimates put the local LGBT population at 40 percent, and the party-filled Dinah Shore Weekend/Palm Springs Women’s Weekend (or just “The Dinah”) coincides with the Kraft Nabisco LPGA Golf Championship, and is considered the world’s largest lesbian happening. In November, the Greater Palm Springs Pride event kicks off the season with an eye-popping parade and block party.

The strike of a golf club, the hum of the wind buffeting towering sand dunes, the splash of a dive into a perfect pool. The desert region is a sensory feast.

Death Valley National Park holds the record for the hottest temperature ever recorded (54°C in 1913), while the deserts of Joshua Tree National Park have giant boulders and alien-like yucca plants. At Anza Borrego, California’s largest state park, discover amazing spring wild flowers. The oasis like Palm Springs region (two hours east of Los Angeles and three hours north east of San Diego) has golf resorts, mid-century modern architecture and every spring, the epic Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival.

SPOTLIGHT: GREATER PALM SPRINGS

Fed by underground springs, the desert comes alive here, not only with signature palms, but also with a string of resort communities—Palm Desert, Rancho Mirage, Indian Wells and others, as well as the namesake town of Palm Springs—sporting a cool, mid-century modern vibe and countless ways to relax. Back in the 1950s, stars like Frank Sinatra and Elvis Presley built sleek estates, played rounds of golf at championship courses and wined and dined the desert night away. Today, the region still has plenty of retro hipster swagger, with hot new restaurants, luxury hotels and fabulous shopping. Plus, there’s the beauty of the California desert all around. Step away for a moment and gaze up at a million stars - nothing but you, your thoughts, and the sound of the desert wind.

PALM SPRINGS AERIAL TRAM

Soar from the desert floor to surprising alpine beauty.

Got 10 minutes? That’s all it takes to go from the hot desert floor to cool, piney highlands, thanks to this engineering marvel. Spinning slowly as it ascends, the tram rises 2.5 miles/4 kilometres in one smooth ascent to 8,516 feet at Mountain Station, on the flanks of towering Mount San Jacinto. On the ride up, you’ll be Instagramming nonstop as you take in incredible views of jagged cliffs and canyons (keep your eyes peeled for waterfalls in spring). Celebrated naturalist John Muir once wrote that “…the view from San Jacinto is the most sublime spectacle to be found anywhere on this earth,” and he wasn’t exaggerating.

Up top, there’s access to more than 50 miles/80 kilometres of trails into the Mount San Jacinto State Park and Wilderness Area. The tram operates through winter, and don’t be surprised if fellow tram riders are carrying snowshoes or cross-country skis to explore the snowy backcountry (rentals are available at Winter Adventure Centre at Mountain Station).

Tip for outdoor lovers: it’s a short hike to Round Valley, offering picturesque campsites, even in winter. But you don’t have to hike or ski to have fun. At the top there are two restaurants (fine dining at Peaks Restaurant; cafeteria fare at Pines Cafe), a bar (aptly named The Lookout Lounge), an observation area, natural history exhibits, and a small theatre showing documentary films.

SUNNYLANDS

Tour a mid-century modern masterpiece Sunnylands, the 200-acre/90-hectare former residence of publishing magnate and UK ambassador Walter Annenberg and his wife Lenore, lets you peek into a lifestyle of the über-rich and infamous. The couples’ glasswalled 25,000-square-foot home is a masterpiece that showcases a world-class art collection of Impressionist art. Though many of the Annenberg’s original pieces are now on display in museums, outstanding replicas let you get a sense of how dizzyingly fabulous is - you’ll find works by Monet, Picasso, Van Gogh, and other masters. The artistic style unfolds in Sunnylands’ extensive gardens too - many are landscaped in sweeping bands of colour to evoke Impressionist art.

THE LIVING DESERT

Talk about survival skills. The animals and plants on show at this extraordinary attraction shed light on the amazing adaptions that make it possible to survive in the desert’s harsh environment. Walk through an incredible array - more than 1,400 species in all - of cacti, yucca, and other desert plants that grow in California’s Mojave and Sonoran Deserts, as well as other deserts around the world. You’ll see,and learn about, desert animals too, some of them undeniable charmers. African meerkats rise up on their hind legs, swaying as they pivot their heads and sniff the air. Desert foxes, with enormous bat-like ears, curl up tight for afternoon naps. And giraffes crane their necks and stretch out extraordinarily purple tongues to nibble on grasses outside their enclosures.

Cool morning tends to be the best time to see animals in action, so come early if you can.

That’s not to say afternoons don’t have their merits: As the day heats up, tortoises and lizards come out to absorb the sun and, in the late afternoon, the zoo’s nocturnal animals, like owls and bats , start to stir. Evenings are also a pleasant time to stretch your legs on The Living Desert’s trail network, which leads into the nearby Santa Rosa Mountains. Keep your eyes peeled for native roadrunners dashing among the desert shrubs, looking for lizards and other prey.

For further information visit: www.seecalifornia.com

TRAVEL

WHERE TO STAY…

Casitas Laquita 450 E. Palm Canyon Dr., Palm Springs, CA, USA

Casitas Laquita was built in 1932, newly renovated in 2012 with stylish decor, tasteful furnishings, modern amenities and all the comforts of home. Relax outside in the lush palm tree gardens, swim in the sparkling pool, revel in the spectacular views of the mountains, and recline in the very plush lounge chairs.

A private retreat that offers women a unique, fun and comfortable environment where they can totally be themselves. There is as much or as little to do here as you want; sightseeing, great shopping, recreational sports, Happy Hour socialising and BBQs....or just simply relaxing in a chaise lounge by the pool.

Casitas Laquita Resort provides guests with an atmosphere of rustic tranquility. The property features handcrafted furnishings accented with tribal Indian artefacts, and an old mission charm on 1.2 acres of private spiritual grounds.

The interior design pays homage to the desert's native Indian heritage by incorporating unique, handcrafted furnishings with authentic Indian/Southwestern influences. All rooms feature private bathrooms, full kitchens, televisions, telephones with guest voice mail and in-room internet access. Some units are equipped with Southwestern style fireplaces.

The Inn's signature touches include a generous breakfast basket delivered to every room upon arrival as well as a complimentary hospitality hour (with "tapas" and "spirits") in the afternoon. The informal guest reception offers the perfect opportunity for guests to mix, mingle and meet with one another. Other resort amenities include private areas for special events and a small group conference room.

Other features include: Extra large pool with spacious areas for sunbathing Private areas for BBQ’s and outdoor dining.

Of course, there are outside activities year-round in Palm Springs, including many fine restaurants. Golf and tennis are also year round activities. So are hiking, horse riding, bicycling, rock climbing and croquet. For those who miss the winter, there is even an ice rink! www.casitaslaquita.com

FITNESS These boots were made for walking…

Walking is a key ingredient for optimal health and a lean physique. Walking is our most natural form of exercise and it can help you achieve a number of important health benefits.

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Lower low-density lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol (the “bad” cholesterol)

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To reap these benefits, all it takes is a regular walking routine. Walking is simple.

Comfortable clothing and footwear are all that is needed. Strenuous exercise is not required or desirable. Research shows that regular, brisk walking provides the same health benefits as more vigorous exercise, such as jogging. Long unrushed walks are a wonderful stress reducer and can be very relaxing.

If you’re in decent shape and have been doing some regular walking, just keep doing what you’re doing and look for more opportunities to get some extra daily steps in. If you are currently inactive or out of shape, start slow and easy by walking only as fast or as far as you feel comfortable. Even if you can only walk for a short distance or time, don’t worry, that is your starting point. You should begin with short daily sessions of just 5 to 10 minutes and slowly build up. Over time you can gradually work your way up to 30 to 60 minutes of walking most days each week.

Studies show that doing multiple shorter walks during the day are just as beneficial as one longer walk so do not let time constraints hold you back. Work on fitting in more walking wherever you can.

“Walking at a moderate pace is the ideal fat burning activity. Sitting or little movement is not enough to access your excess body fat stores and working too hard will result in use of lean body mass for energy instead of fat. You should not be breathing too heavy to carry on a conversation and unless it is hot and humid you should barely break a sweat,” according to T. Griesel, co-author of TurboCharged.

Look for fun places to walk, explore your neighbourhood, visit local parks and walking routes and find some hiking trails when your fitness level increases.

Griesel adds, “An inexpensive pedometer will keep track of your daily distance and total number of steps. Using this tool alone has been shown to increase the total number of daily steps by over 2000. Even when not on planned walks, every additional step counts. Set some goals. If you can work your way up to 10,000 daily steps, you will be reaping maximum benefits without ever stepping into a gym or on to a treadmill or exercise bike.”

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Bisexuality: Myths and Realities Amy M. Carbone

Diversity is one of the buzzwords of our culture today. But one group stands out by its absence: bisexuals. Who talks about bisexuality? If your partner is the opposite gender, you are considered straight; if not, you are gay or lesbian.

Period.

The in-between nature of bisexuality is uncomfortable for many of us. We tend to think dualistically, putting things neatly into boxes labeled black or white, good or bad, male or female. Bisexuality challenges our dualistic concept of sexuality. The truth is that people don't fit neatly into boxes!

Some researchers have noted that being bisexual is similar to being biracial. Mixed-race persons generally do not feel comfortable or accepted by people of either ethnic group, feeling that they do not fit in anywhere. Like bisexual people, they spend most of their lives moving between two communities, neither of which understand them.

Like biracial people, bisexual people must create an identity that corresponds to their experience. Forming a bisexual identity helps bisexual people to structure and give meaning to their reality.

Myths about bisexuality abound in our culture. These often serve to foster prejudice and mistrust of bisexuals, and hinder the development of a healthy bisexual identity.

MYTH: Bisexuals are promiscuous.

REALITY: Bisexual people have a range of sexual behaviours. Some have multiple partners; some have one partner; some go through periods without a partner. Promiscuity is no more prevalent in the bisexual population than in other groups.

MYTH: Bisexuals are equally attracted to both genders.

REALITY: Bisexuals tend to favour either the same or the opposite gender, while recognising their attraction to both.

MYTH: Being bisexual means having concurrent lovers of both genders.

REALITY: Being bisexual simply means the potential for involvement with either gender.

This may mean sexually, emotionally, in reality, or in fantasy. Some bisexual people may have concurrent lovers; others may relate to different genders at different periods in their lives.

MYTH: Bisexuals cannot be monogamous.

REALITY: Bisexuality is a sexual orientation. It is independent of a lifestyle of monogamy or non-monogamy. Bisexuals are as capable as anyone of making a long-term monogamous commitment to a partner they love.

MYTH: Bisexuals are denying their lesbianism or gayness. (In other words, bisexuals do not exist.)
 REALITY: Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation in and of itself, though a lot of bisexuals consider themselves part of the generic term "gay."

MYTH: Bisexuals are in "transition." (In other words, bisexuals do not exist.)

REALITY: Some people go through a transitional period of "bisexuality" on their way to adopting a lesbian, gay or heterosexual identity. For many others, bisexuality remains a permanent orientation.

MYTH: Bisexuals just haven't met the right woman or man yet. (In other words, bisexuals do not exist.)

REALITY: This statement implies that if the "right" person came along, then the bisexual person could be influenced to change his or her sexual orientation. Most gays, lesbians, and bisexuals, as well as researchers in the field, agree that sexual orientation is a trait, not a state that can be easily changed.

MYTH: Bisexuals are confused about their sexuality.

REALITY: It is natural for bisexuals, as well as lesbians and gays, to go through a period of confusion in the coming out process. When someone is continually told that he or she does not exist, confusion is an understandable and appropriate reaction.

MYTH: Bisexuals can hide in the heterosexual community when the going gets tough.

REALITY: To "pass" for straight and deny their bisexuality is just as painful and damaging for bisexuals as it is for gays and lesbians. Bisexuals are not heterosexual and do not usually identify as heterosexual, even if they are in a relationship with an opposite-gender partner.

MYTH: Bisexuals friendships are never safe from sex, and every relationship will eventually be sexual.

REALITY: Bisexuals, like other people, are not attracted to every person they meet.

Rather, they will be attracted to a small percentage of the population. It is therefore possible for bisexuals to have many friendships that do not include a sexual component.

If you or a loved one are struggling with questions about bisexuality, we hope you will take time to listen to your instincts, and to find support from friends, family or a knowledgeable counsellor. Bisexuality has been around for eons, and it's time we stop sticking our heads in the sand about it!

WELLBEING Your First Mammogram : What to Expect Jen Stott Your first mammogram is a rite of passage into the decade of your 50s for most women. Since breast abnormalities continue to show up after age 40, an x-ray of the breast is a commonly accepted method of detecting potential breast cancer. Performed in a hospital or health centre, mammograms can save lives.

Despite the importance of the procedure, many women are apprehensive about their first mammogram. Here's what to expect when it comes time to schedule your appointment.

Types of Mammograms There are two types of mammograms: the screening mammogram and the diagnostic mammogram. The annual procedure that most women have is a screening mammogram, intended to scan for abnormalities and observe changes over time to make sure that clinical signs of breast cancer are not present. The first screening mammogram establishes a baseline, against which further changes are measured.

When a mammogram picks up changes, a diagnostic mammogram is in order to investigate the potential causes of a breast lump, a change in the appearance of the skin, pain in the breast or nipple, nipple thickening, or discharge from the nipple. This more extensive mammogram takes additional images to document potential problems.

Being sent for a diagnostic mammogram is often precautionary and may prove that there is no cause for concern or indicate something that needs to be watched.

What to Expect with Your First Mammogram To prepare for a mammogram, your first step is to schedule the procedure. For your own comfort, you should try not to schedule the test right before or during your period, if you're still menstruating. Your breasts may be tender during this time. On the day of the test, avoid using any deodorant, perfume, or lotion under your arms, or on the upper part of your body, as metallic powders in these products could show up on the x-ray and interfere with proper results.

During a mammogram, a technician will x-ray your breasts from at least two positions. Your breasts are compressed between two firm surfaces on the diagnostic machine, and when you are in position, you will hold your breath and the tech will snap a picture before repositioning you for additional views. During the test, you will feel pressure on your breasts, but otherwise you will experience no ill effects from the procedure.

After the test, the technician will verify that the images are technically accurate. Once the radiologist reviews the test, you will receive notification of the results within a few days.

Does a Mammogram Have Risks?

Mammograms are not perfect as they may not always catch a problem, they expose you to low levels of radiation, and may result in a false positive, which requires you to obtain an additional diagnostic mammogram and perhaps even have a breast biopsy.

The other problem with mammograms is that they do not always point out abnormalities in women with dense breasts that are composed of a large percentage of connective tissue, in contrast to fat, which is what comprises breasts for most women. Traditional mammogram techniques often did not penetrate the density in order to reveal abnormalities. Fortunately, new digital mammography is more effective on dense breasts, while 3-D mammography, available in some locations, is even more effective.

Currently, mammograms are the best tests available to screen for potential cancer.

Schedule your first mammogram or your annual one today with the doctor you see for all other women's health needs.

ARTISAN Celebrating Women in the World of Firefighting

Beverly Molina

Why did you want to become a firefighter?

I wanted to become a firefighter, because I wanted to help people and serve my community. I always pictured myself in a career that was service-oriented, and being a firefighter is a way that I can do that.

When I discovered that women in the fire service were few, I was daunted. But I have to admit, I was also motivated by that challenge.

Do you think the reasons that a woman wants become a firefighter are any different to the reasons a man wants to become a firefighter?

I have found that women and men whom I have met in my career, usually seek out firefighting for many of the same reasons - desire to serve their community, help others, the daily physical challenge of the job, the team aspect, and the mental, physical, and technical challenges that mitigating an emergency brings.

What qualifications do you need to get a job as a firefighter? Is it any different from the men?

Like everything else, the fire service is evolving. The first firefighters in the United States were men (thus "firemen"). The first paid female firefighter in the US was hired in 1973.

In the 1980's and 1990's, many departments implemented affirmative action measures to increase the diversity of their fire personnel ranks.

Today men and women, alike, need to go through the same rigorous testing process that can take anywhere from six to twelve months. The testing process usually begins with a written exam. Those who pass the written, go on to the physical agility test.

Women have to pass the same physical agility tests required by the men to be firefighters.

To be an effective firefighter you need a healthy balance of cardiac endurance and upper and lower body strength. In general, while many men may be able to rely more on strength due to muscle mass to accomplish fire ground tasks, women learn to use body mechanics and smarter techniques, in conjunction with their strength, to be effective firefighters.

In truth, this is the smarter way to go, and all firefighters would do well to keep their bodies healthy and free of injury by practicing body mechanics and smarter techniques.

After agility tests are passed, the process continues with oral board interviews, a Chief's interview, and extensive background checks. Thousands of people apply for usually only a few firefighting positions. Once hired, men and women must all go through a fire academy where they learn and practice firefighting skills. If they pass the academy, they begin their probationary year as a firefighter. As a probationary firefighter they continue to be trained and tested throughout the year, on the fire ground through written exams and manipulative skills.

Do men and women share the same types of jobs in the fire service?

Yes! Men and women firefighters participate in the same tasks whether it is going into fires holding the nozzle and the hose, cutting ventilation holes on top of roofs with chain saws, climbing aerial ladders a hundred feet in the air, using hydraulic power tools to cut apart cars to get to patients that are trapped inside, or using their EMT or paramedic skills in treating sick or injured people.

There are far fewer women in captain's positions, and even less in chief's positions. The first paid female fire chief in the United States was Chief Rosemary Bliss of Tiburon, California. She became Fire Chief in 1993. In 2012, Teresa Deloach Reed became the nation's first African American woman Fire Chief of Oakland, California, Fire Department.

When you started working in the fire service, were there an even number of women and men in the fire department? How about now?

The fire department in which I work is comprised of about 10% of firefighters who are women-and that is on the progressive side according to national standards. According to the 2010 Census, women make up roughly 4.8 % of firefighters in the fire service in the United States. The first woman to be hired in my department, just recently retired. She is living history in my book!

AGENDA Women in Scottish Art

1885-1965 Scottish National Gallery The Mound, Edinburgh EH2 2EL 23 January 2016 10am-5pm A study day organised by the Scottish Society for Art History on the occasion of the exhibition Modern Scottish Women: Painters and Sculptors 1885-1965 which explores the role of women in Scottish art at that time. The study day will showcase new research on lesser known female artists and their widening opportunities through education, exhibitions, social and professional networks.

Winter Pride London -

28 New Kent Road, London SE1 6TJ 30 January 2016 9pm – 6am Join London’s LGBTI community for the third annual Winter Pride, this year an inclusive club-night at the historic Elephant & Castle venue The Coronet with live acts, DJs, delicious Smirnoff cocktails and a party set to spiral into the early hours and take you through ‘til dawn. With big name headliners performing and local LGBTI heroes taking to the decks, it’s set to be the biggest party in the pink calendar. http://www.winterprideuk.com

Sunset Boulevard -

London Coliseum, St Martin's Lane, London WC2N 4ES 1 April - 7 May 2016 Glenn Close, in her West End debut, reprises her Tony-Award winning role as Norma Desmond in Sunset Boulevard at the ENO. Andrew Lloyd Webber’s stunning musical adaptation of Billy Wilder’s classic 1950 film captures the haunting world of the Golden Age of Hollywood. With the lush melodies of this much-loved score (including Sunset Boulevard, With One Look and The Perfect Year) performed by ENO’s acclaimed orchestra, this semi-staged production promises to be a spectacular evening. https://www.londontheatredirect.com

WOW WOMEN OF THE WORLD FESTIVAL

Southbank Centre, Belvedere Road, London SE1 8XX 11 March - 13 March 2016 Tackling topics from the deeply serious to the seriously funny, Southbank Centre’s WOW – Women of the World festival celebrates women and girls and looks at the obstacles that stop them from achieving their potential. Hear from outstanding thought leaders, trailblazers, activists and innovators, and join the debate on widereaching subjects such as politics, love, relationships, consent, war and peacekeeping, the refugee crisis, gay rights, the media, black women’s bodies, older women’s voices, and whether we feel complicated about Beyonce. Returning for its sixth year, the WOW festival takes place in the week of International Women’s Day and features over 150 events, including talks, debates, music, workshops, performances, our smash-hit WOW Speed Mentoring and the WOW Market.

Whether we’re discussing violence against women, the role of men in gender equality, social justice or women’s histories, all sessions are designed to feed your mind, nourish your soul and quench your thirst for knowledge, change and ideas. wow.southbankcentre.co.uk Bonnie Raitt -

Glasgow Royal Concert Hall, 2 Sauchiehall Street, Glasgow G2 3NY 29 May 2016 Following the highly anticipated release of her twentieth album, "Dig In Deep", Bonnie Raitt will make a welcome return to the UK where she's long been recognised as one of contemporary music's great live performers. www.glasgowconcerthalls.com

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