GENT'S Mag

12.07.2014

INSIDE THE LIFE OF THE SINGLE, BLACK, GAY FATHER & TV HOST

KARAMO BROWN

3RD

The Annual Gentlemen’s Ball Honors HOLIDAY SIMMONS CARLOS KING THE ANDERSON’S

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RAHSAAN PATTERSON Stays True To Himself In an Unforgiving Industry

JUAN & GEE The Founders Share their Passion

“I LOVE HIM” – 2014 GROUND BREAKING SINGLE BY “PHYLLE”

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CONTENTS 6

LETTER FROM THE FOUNDERS By Juan & Gee

GENTLEMEN’S BALL 8 THE 2014 PROGRAM

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KARAMO BROWN’S REAL WORLD By Bryson Jones GENTLEMAN OF SERVICE:

13 Holiday Simmons

GENTLEMAN OF EXCELLENCE :

16 Carlos King

GENTLEMEN OF PROMISE:

19 Tre’Darrius & David Anderson GENTLEMEN OF THE

23 YEAR NOMINATIONS GENTLEMAN 27 R&B

By Waddie Grant

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A SIT DOWN WITH PHYLLE By Bryson Jones

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GENTLEMAN:

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#BEINSPIRED

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INSIGHT By Juan & Gee

A Poem by Del Antonio

An Intimate Interview with Octavius Terry-Sims

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CRANBERRY-WALNUT BAKED BRIE By s.a.l.t. Sisters

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THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS

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THANK YOU’s & SPONSORS

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Greetings Gentlemen, 2014 has been a monumental year for the #TrueGentleman. Our Twitter feeds, Facebook timelines, and Instagram posts have been filled with headline after glorious headline of African American gay men standing tall in their truth. Take our dear friend and Gentlemen’s Foundation Power 100 member Senator Kelvin Atkinson for instance. This past October, similar to his April 2013 coming out declaration during a passionate debate on the senate floor, we witnessed the Senator deliver an impromptu yet emotional proposal to his partner of 6 years, Sherwood Howard (or Woody as we affectionately call him). They would become the first gay couple to wed in Las Vegas. Congratulations are definitely in order... Cheers Gentlemen.

We’ll drink to that!

Or what about Michael Sam? He became the personification of courage when he set himself on a path to become the first openly gay player in the overtly macho world that is the National Football League.

His determination and brave spirit was a beacon of hope that shone across the world.

He taught us that through hard work and perseverance, any goal can be achieved.

And who could forget about the historic moment in January when Queen Latifah officiated a mass wedding ceremony that featured several SGL couples at the 2014 Grammy Awards. Our hearts were overflowing with joy as we sat in our bed, tears running down our cheeks, watching two of our favorite couples, Octavius & Jamal Terry Sims and Deondray & Quincy Gossfield exchange vows before God and the world... Can you say Powerful?

These are the type of Gentlemen that make up our community; people that you rarely hear about. That is why we created The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. and The

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Gentlemen’s Ball. Society and Media has a way of portraying a skewed version of our community that does not fully capture the breadth and depth of who we are.

We are Educators, Doctors, Lawyers, Activists Corporate Professionals, Real Estate Agents, Business Owners, Pastors AND SO MUCH MORE! We are a very dynamic community that deserves more recognition than what the mainstream has been accustomed to delivering. The Ball & Foundation are here to help change this public image. We are committed to strengthening our community by helping to enrich the abundant lives that are housed within it.

And let’s not forget about our YOUTH! Our youth desperately need us. They need to see positive examples of men that look and act like them. Imagine if we had images to connect with when we were coming of age. How would that have helped to shape our lives? As a young, black gay boy growing up, how much self-denial, pain, depression, anxiety, shame and/or suicidal thoughts could have been avoided just by being able to connect with others that are like you? Can you say Powerful again?

So, with this said, we salute you! Your attendance alone make you a part of the movement. Thank you for sharing in our vision and actively being a part of the change. Whether you are a card-carrying member of the LGBTQ community or a much-appreciated Ally, we couldn’t do it without you. We are grateful for the support and do not ever take it for granted.

LET’S CELEBRATE! With Love,

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The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization dedicated to strengthening the quality of life, leadership ability, and mental & physical health of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning (LGBTQ) individuals, particularly those in the African American and other minority communities. We offer support, primarily in the form of grants and increased public awareness, to other charitable and non-profit organizations that share the same mission or whose programs have similar goals, interests, and objectives.

The 3 Tenets of the #TrueGentleman:

Confident in Himself.

Generous in His Giving.

Proud to Stand Tall in His Truth.

Our mission is to eradicate the ‘gay stigma’ perpetuated by societal norms and to decrease the prevalence of depression and suicide among black and other minority LGBTQ individuals by offering general support, guidance, and positive examples of LGBTQ people of color through effective, holistic mentoring tactics.

The Gentlemen’s Ball, the annual fundraiser for the foundation is a creative black-tie affair that features a decadent three-course meal, a phenomenal host, superb live celeb-

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rity entertainment, signature cocktails, and more! It is the premier event of the year, attracting a caliber of men of superlative quality; the proverbial Who’s Who in the LGBTQ Community from NYC to Los Angeles and all points in between. It is an evening of grandeur where sophistication and class unite in an unparalleled experience that celebrates the TRUE Gentleman for being GENEROUS in his giving, CONFIDENT in himself, and PROUD to STAND TALL in his truth.

Each year The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. awards a grant to a dynamic non-profit organization that supports initiatives dedicated to strengthening the quality of life, leadership ability, and mental & physical health of LGBTQ youth.

The recipient of 2014 The Gentlemen’s Grant is Georgia Safe Schools Coalition.

Won’t you join us? The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. is accepting members beginning January 1, 2015. Please email admin@TheGentlemensFoundation.org for more information.

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The Gentlemen’s Ball The Gentlemen’s Ball 7, 2014 December December 7, 7pm-Midnight 2014 7pm-Midnight SCHEDULE OF EVENTS SCHEDULE OF EVENTS

7:00pm - Red Carpet Arrivals Silent Auction Opens Dinner & Wine Service

Welcome -Host, Karamo Brown

Gentleman of Service Award Presentation Recipient: Holiday Simmons

-Brodney McClinton, Marion Lessington, Paul Thomas

Musical Performance -Phylle

Gentleman of Excellence

Gentleman of Promise Award Presentation Recipients: David & Tre’Darrius Anderson

Founders Remarks -Juan & Gee Session-Smalls

Gentleman of the Year Presentation Nominees: Abdur-Rahim Briggs Anthony McWilliams Darnell Moore Lonnell Williams Jerome Wilson

Live Performance -Rahsaan Patterson

-DANCE INTERLUDE-

Award Presentation Recipient: Carlos King

Student Grant Presentation

Artistic Expression:

-The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. Board of Directors

Poem & Dance Tribute -Del Antonio, Poet -Mitchell Kelly, Dancer

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Grant Recipient -Georgia Safe Schools Coalition (GSCC) Representative

A Gentlemen’s “Home and Personal” Style Every gentleman should strive for what we call an “inspired home” - that is a home that evokes the feeling of welcome, comfort and, of course, style and sophistication. It is also a home where visitors are immediately greeted with the sentiment of feeling right at home. That right at home feeling starts with a few simple steps that any gentleman can easily accomplish.

Find an Item of Inspiration When formulating a design scheme, we find it beneficial to secure an item or two that inspires the entire look.

A piece of artwork, a colorful rug or exciting decorative item are sources of inspiration that can guide your design.

Select Color Options Pull together a color scheme from your inspiration pieces. For example, paintings are great for selecting color schemes. You can develop your entire palette and then distribute the colors throughout your space. When selecting colors make sure you choose hues that compliment or flow within the same saturation levels. Flow and harmony are the keys to a successful color scheme.

Play With Patterns Don’t be afraid to play with patterns! Combining pattern varieties make for a more lively design scheme. The key to an effective mix of pattern is to find a large, medium and small combination. If you stay with the same pattern proportions, the mix becomes boring or too busy. Mix sizes and you will produce a space that is distinctively audacious.

Mix and Match Gone are the days of everything in your home matching. In our opinion, the creative process is more exciting when gathering and conjoining multiple finishes. Explore the idea of mixing gold and silver or brushed bronze with brass. When you open yourself up to the notion of “mix and match”, the possibilities are endless. We love for our spaces to have a composed and collected feel as opposed to showroom cookie cutter.

Jazz Up Your Table We love creating tablescapes. Layer is key when fashioning a display for your table. This is an opportunity to employ all of the tips we have previously mentioned. The mix of patterns, textures and finishes make for a striking tablescape. Soft candle light, table runners, natural elements and beautiful service-ware are the layers that develop your table’s theme. Let loose and permit your personality to show through with your tablescape.

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Karamo Brown’s Real World.

By Bryson Jones

Karamo Brown, host for The 3rd Annual

Gentlemen’s Ball, is probably best known for his role on MTV’s The Real World: Philadelphia, which originally aired in 2004-2005. However, there is so much more to Karamo than that of a reality TV star who hid his sexuality from his roommates (and the world) on National TV. These days, life keeps him extremely busy: he is the host of a daily show on Oprah.com, “#OWNShow”, a contributing host on HLN’s “Dr. Drew Live”, and a working model; all while raising his two sons, Jason and Chris, in metro Los Angeles.

Recently, I was able to get to know more about the REAL Karamo Brown. I remember watching him on The Real World years ago and was always intrigued by his spirit and persona that radiated through the television screen.

So, to say that I was elated to be able to interview him is an understatement. It was a complete honor and his outlook on life and positivity did not leave me underwhelmed.

BRYSON: How has your life/career changed, ever since you stopped filming The Real World?

KARAMO: My life and career since being on MTV’s Real World has been pretty crazy but amazing. I became a father, found my voice, started pressing my career and just grew into a very strong and confident man.

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BRYSON: What does being a true gentleman mean to you?

KARAMO: Being a true gentleman to me is respecting yourself, inspiring others to be their best self and never allowing a negative situation or person allow you to forget the purpose you have been put on this earth to fulfill.

BRYSON: What does a typical day look like in the Brown house hold?

KARAMO: First you should know there is never a typical day in the Brown household.

I am raising two teenage boys alone and so each day brings new surprises. For the most part however, I get up, kids and I get ready for the day. We discuss everyone’s schedules/plan for the day and then I drop them off at school. I then rush to work at OWN to shoot till about 3pm and then rush to CNN to film Dr. Drew On Call Live. After filming, I get home, cook dinner, help the kids with homework, discuss their day and then do it all over again. It reads typical but everyday has very interesting and unique twist.

BRYSON: Why did you decide to get involved with The Gentlemen’s Ball?

KARAMO: The Gentlemen’s Ball is the premier event for LGBT men to attend where they can live in their greatness with other like-minded men. That was very appealing to me because as a SGL man on color sometimes I question where other men like me are. Men who are motivated, successful, proud, sexual - but Gentlemen.

This is an event where those men congregate for an amazing night. That’s why I got involved.

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BRYSON: What are some of the obstacles that you’ve had to overcome as a Black Gay Man in the fashion/entertainment industry?

KARAMO: To be honest… none. I use the fact that I am an open and proud member of the LGBT community to my advantage.

It is one of my greatest strengths. The only obstacles I’ve ever had to overcome in my life were self-imposed. Self-Doubt, not feeling secure, etc. But as I’ve gotten older I realized those obstacles are illusions. They don’t exist… and since they don’t exist there is nothing stopping me.

BRYSON: Is there any extra challenges being a Black Gay Dad? KARAMO: I wouldn’t say that my challenges as a Father have anything to do with being Gay or Black. My ‘daddy guilt’ is just like any other single parent who is raising their kids on their own but still pursuing their dreams. Of course there are ignorant people in the world who may have a “comment” about how I choose to live my life. But I don’t internalize those and I definitely don’t allow it to stop me from being the best father I can be to my sons.

Parenting is a full time job that you can never take a day off from. But it’s one job I would never quit.

Make a plan that is realistic to your means and talents. Realize that you have to take small steps to where you want to be. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help if needed. And it’s always important to realize that you can’t build a brand alone. Meet people who believe in you and build a team and use advisors. You will get many rejections but you can’t allow that to stop you from getting what you want.

BRYSON: What is some of the best advice Oprah has given to you since working for her? What is it like being a part of the OWN family?

KARAMO: Best Advice Oprah has given me/the world is… I can only be the best Karamo so never try to be anything/anyone else. Working for OWN is a dream come true. It has opened so many doors. And as a Television host, to be validated by the QUEEN OF HOSTING is that boost of confidence that became wind under my wings so I can soar.

Please follow me on Instagram and Twitter @KaramoBrown and Check out KaramoBrown.com for updates on my career and to check out my Vlog.

BRYSON: What new projects are you currently working on?

KARAMO: I am currently the host of #OWNShow for the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN). I am also correspondent for Dr. Drew On Call Live Nightly. I am modeling. In 2015 you will see my International Gillette ads and Dockers ads to name a few. But what I am most excited about is that I started a production company over a year ago and we are finally close a deal with a major network and I will be producing my first show. It’s pretty exciting.

BRYSON: What advice can you give to aspiring Black Gay actors/models?

KARAMO: The only advice I can give would be the same advice I give my sons.

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Annually, America celebrates

Gentleman of Service:

Holiday Simmons

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knowledge is the weapon carried, service is the battle-dress donned, and compassion is the only warfare waged. This year’s recipient of the Gentleman of Service Award is granted to a person who embodies the principles of grace. Holiday Simmons was born in St. Louis, MO to loving parents both proudly hailing from Mississippi. His parents impressed upon Holiday and his brother that their African heritage did not begin with slavery and that their Native-American lineage did not begin with Columbus. A history of activism, service, and standing up for righteousness runs innately and intrinsically through his blood.

Holiday’s paternal grandfather, an unsung hero and activist in his own right, was forced to escape the dangers of Mississippi because he stood up to the injustices of the day and his maternal grandparents, no strangers to activism, lived on the same block as Fannie Lou Hammer. Holiday’s informal education to social injustice and activism was put to practice as a child accompanying his parents to rallies for various causes. The lessons learned during those developing year oftentimes determines the course of the rest of your life.

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approximately fifteen national and public holidays, all designed to commemorate an event, or express the appreciation and love for one’s sweetheart, parents and family.

Several of these holidays charge Americans to recognize the least among us. In between the days of each holiday, there remain the cultivators of humanity tilling the ground so purpose is sowed, wisdom reaped, and care appropriated to the soldiers battling against the inequities of people. For a courageous soldier to emancipate the lost,

Holiday advanced his intellect with the receipt of an undergraduate degree from the University of Virginia and a Masters in Social Work from Washington University.

He traveled to Canada, Ghana, as well as other developing countries, returning to the U.S. with an acute awareness that the exposure to suffering for people of color across the globe was akin. The experience was the cornerstone to the work he administers to advocacy, empowerment, purpose and self-worth, especially for the LGBT black community. For the past 11 years, Holiday’s focus has been social justice work for the LGBT community, teaching GED, writing workshops for incarcerated youth, facilitating anti-bullying campaigns for LGBT youth, and advocating for battered women and transgendered people.

He currently heads the community education department at Lambda Legal, the oldest and largest national legal organization dedicated to providing civil rights for all lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered people as well as those living with HIV. Simmons’ ascent did not take root on a crystal staircase. During his journey, he

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removed all the tacks, sanded away every splinter and repaired every cracked board so that the steps of anyone who followed would be less agonizing. Society plays unfairly with differences, especially when a person who is biologically a girl tries to convince it that he is a boy.

“Growing up as a transgendered child, I tended to externalize most of the things like most men. I never assumed I was in the wrong body. I thought the world was crazy. I always thought that I was a boy. I was just waiting for the body parts to grow.”

Holiday continued to express with deep conviction and awareness that his adeptness at most things, his scholastic and athletic achievements, and his congenial personality contributed to his ability to maneuver through his formative years with minimum repudiation. Holiday admits that he was a precocious child, one who was before his time, and who was able to tell his parents early on who he was. “I would cry when my parents would refer to me as a girl or She and I would ask them to call me a boy, call me He and they would humor me by calling me Him and His and all of those pronouns. I would pack a sock from the time I was 5 to 12 and my mother knew it. She would tease me and say make sure you wash that little thing.”

He laughs as he highlights how grateful he was to be born to parents who didn’t shatter his spirit or dim his light.

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When adolescence arrived and hormones emerged, the body delivers a tune that could deafen the ears of a transgendered child. It can force any child to make decisions that might go against family values and morality. At this juncture, Holiday was forced to live his life as a woman. He would later identify himself as a lesbian and then gender queer and finally a transgendered man. The characterizations of gender identity are vast by name and meaning. “Gender queer is a gender identity for people who don’t feel that they are either male or female or they feel like that they are both.” For several years, Holiday felt that he was both male and female. He was connected to feminism and women struggles but strongly connected to male. Finding it very disturbing when people would refer to him as she, he drew closer to the spectrum of being a man. “It was like going back to how I felt when I was a little kid ... that was the irony for me. It wasn’t like a brand new feeling, it was like a renewed feeling” . The most important part about any identity is when the emotional, spiritual and mental presence aligns with the authentic being and how the person feels intrinsically. “Society takes an effeminate gay male and say that he’s not a man because of how he acts.” Holiday peeves over how society oftentimes attempts to remind him that he too is contrived and subsequently not important. “I know that I’m a man. I know how I feel and I know what I can do.” He retorts with self-acceptance and affirmation.

As the Director of Community Education and Advocacy, Simmons utilizes the position to quell any myths, biases, ignorance, and aberrations toward the LGBT community through education, conversation and awareness and by

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highlighting police brutality against blacks and transgendered people and other injustices permitted by our society. “You can be arrested for driving while Black or walking while Trans.” Holiday bullets various transgressions he contends with daily. It ranges from fighting police brutality, ending the criminalization of people with HIV, dismantling employment discrimination and making marriage equality a right for all Americans. Brick by brick, Holiday goal is to build bridges between the different communities. For instance, increasing the intergenerational connection within the black community supports traditions and encourages pride.

“Youth need older people to show them [young LGBT community] the way and not in the way of telling them y’all don’t know nothing.

There has to be an intergenerational exchange.

We can serve them as a model, to find housing, to getting into college and they can help us to understand what it’s like out there for them ...

We have powerful people in the city that are LGBT friendly, who are in alliance with the progression of the LGBT community. We have to link these powerful people with the common people. We have to reach back to that thug.

We may not connect them to any gay issues right away, but we can connect them to issues that serve their immediate needs, like going to a Martin Luther King march or rally and they will see that many of the people on the front line are gay. We have to link together the working class, middle class and the powers that be and also the young and old to bring about change for all Black people regardless of sexual orientation or identity”. Holiday reemphasizes that the bridge between the straight black community and the black LGBT community can only strengthen the black community as a whole.

Holiday’s spirit to champion change is stronger than the current that brought his ancestors through an arduous passage and as resilient as the ancestors who first inhabited the America. As he continues to fight the good on behalf of LGBT Seniors and

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youths, transgendered rights, immigration, harassment against LGBT people in the work place, among other focuses and make strides in changing laws that discriminates against LGBT people, he never wavers at an opportunity to shine a light on the maltreatment for all people.

He’s adept in changing the climate, attitudes, hearts, and empowering people to do it for themselves. He trains other organization and businesses on ways to change the culture and climate and also service providers and community members to advocate for themselves. “I link people within their community and organization with allies to advocate change...Changing hearts and minds of the people who make up the world, that’s a lifelong goal...It doesn’t happen overnight, but I’ve seen it happen.” It takes a different kind of commitment to encourage change. The history of this country proves that change will not happen absent service. These are the people digging in the trenches a clearer path to peace, acceptance, love and justice so that others can have an opportunity at a better life. The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. commemorates Holiday Simmons because his service to humanity deserves celebration.

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A typical work day can have

you feeling like a worn Whack-A-Mole at a children’s theme park. If it isn’t the chaotic traffic, it’s bound to be the nettling boss, or the apathetic coworker or the indecisive client. Whatever the situation, there’s seems to be no refuge in sight. Then it finally comes, the “clock out” hour. The excitement of settling home to wash off the day, pour a glass of your favorite red wine, curl up on your sofa and tune in to one of your many guilty pleasures, your favorite reality TV show. Piercing through the blinds at the private lives of others as they exchange assorted clever and witty quibble gelled with brusque and sarcastic banter can be seductive and intoxicating. The characters or cast members interweave their social, professional and interpersonal lives like an expensive tapestry commission on display for entertainment and scrutiny.

The artistry or rather brilliance required to bring these concepts to television has to be the work of a mastermind. The reigning royal who sits on the throne of successful reality TV productions is this year Gentlemen’s Ball recipient of the Award for Excellence. Carlos King exudes an undeniable resolve and yet an unassuming confidence. He doesn’t grip distractions quickly or any thoughts that would shift him away from his true mission, to become a television mogul. He’s well underway. He’s the producer behind the auspicious shows, The Housewives of Atlanta with a staggering 4.4 million tuning in each week and the breakout hit, Love & Hip Hop Atlanta, both ranked as two of the highest in the reality TV genre.

There’s little known about the intricate details required to create a show of this

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magnitude or the people and positions behind making this all possible. For instance, what does it mean to be an executive producer of a television show? What does that job entail? “An EP of a television show oversees the ins and outs of the whole production which includes hiring your team, overseeing the storyline, getting intel from your casts, creating the story, and relaying details to the networks ... you are responsible for the nuts and bolts of the production ... you have to manage your team and the cast as well ... you are the starter and the finisher.” That is a lot of responsibility for one person to assume and juggle. When you envision excellence you think of someone who is the best at what they do.

Mr. King recognized early on that the meaning of excellence doesn’t come without sacrifice, resilience, diligence and ability.

Growing up in Detroit, the middle child of ten, he found himself assuming the role as the mediator and the peace maker, traits that would be instrumental to his rise in the television industry. While his six brothers expectedly found their footing with sports, Carols took a penchant to television. He would watch Ananda Lewis on BET’s Teen Summit, astonished not only by her beauty

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but by her elocution and ability to stand present while tackling a number of teen issues of the day. It immediately sparked his interest in television. “What attracted me to Ananda Lewis was how articulate, compassionate and relatable she was; how she spoke about topics at that time of my life that catered to me and my generation. She was the spokesperson of the generation” After high school, Carlos enrolled in Wayne State University and later transferred to Hunter College in New York majoring in journalism. The move to New York positioned young King to land an internship with the successful ABC TV show, The View. It was while the iron was hot Carlos struck out on faith by quitting college and giving his passion for television his full attention. He interned at BET, 20/20, Primetime Live, and Def Jam to name a few. “I was an intern junkie” he jokes. Although he laughs with nostalgia, it is evident that he’s grateful for every opportunity that allowed him to grow and hone his craft. During those early days, he recalls the biggest challenge he faced was maturity, or the lack thereof. The inability to handle the pressures of capitalizing on situations afforded him and the politics of the industry had to be learned the hard way.

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It was this resiliency and the wisdom gained that gave Carlos an opportunity to flex his creative muscle as production assistance on BET’s Style and subsequently lend his expertise on 106 & Park, Oprah’s Season 25: Behind the Scenes, and ultimately The Real Housewives franchise.

When the networks green-lighted the expansion of The Real Housewives franchise to Atlanta, Carlos’ proven track record with The Real Housewives of New Jersey made him the perfect candidate to spearhead the concept in Atlanta. There may have been some initial trepidation, but he packed up his fears and leaped at the challenge by moving from New York to Atlanta. The show went on to become the highest rated reality TV show for the network, certifying once again Carlos’ stellar and remarkable talents in television production.

All of the success has not clouded King’s perspective. He believes in the old Black proverb ‘Each One Teach One’. By sharing his story, the challenges and the triumphs, Carlos feels it inspires others to follow their dreams and passions. He mentors his staff on how to create and follow a blueprint for sustaining a successful career in the business.

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“Mentoring requires sharing my story, which is why I am a leader because I share my story.

God puts you in a situation in order for you to be of service.

My successes and failures are public. It’s all designed to be used as a tool to teach others.

I tell my team my story and provide examples and let them know how to monopolize on everything that is happening to them”.

Success for Carlos King is about having passion for everything he loves and appreciates. “I am someone who is passionate about my work, my family and my faith” With all of the astounding credentials on his crown, the sought after producer founded his own production company aptly named Kingdom Reign Entertainment, LCC. Carlos intends to dedicate producing projects that will continue to attract the female demographic by highlighting the black male experience.

“America needs more Black male representation on TV and more gay black men on TV in the reality space. The black male is missing ... I want to showcase the heterosexual and homosexual side ... shows that women would enjoy watching with her husbands or boyfriends.” In 2006, Carlos created a black gay show called the Hot Boys. It was his first solo project. The networks loved it but

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they felt it wasn’t the right time.

“The networks are afraid to try something new. The next time I pitch a show, it would have to be the right one. You don’t get many opportunities in this industry to fail. As a black person, you have to constantly prove to the world your value regardless of your successes. But I’m always up for the challenge.”

King represents a minute fraction of black men in his position. He and his fellow black colleagues understand that attention to irreproachable work ethic and outstanding creativity furnishes the next black man an opportunity to exemplify their success.

Superior success warrants underscoring and highlighting. Carlos King’s celestial journey shines brighter than any constellation. He continues to remain resolute when faced with challenges. He does not language fear as it is not a part of his vocabulary.

He remains steadfast in his distinction for greatness, growing and evolving to bring his best. This is evident with his latest project under his production company. The new reality TV show, Hollywood Divas, currently airing on TVOne is sure to follow the successes of his previous endeavors.

There are so many milestones gained and developing for this unwavering spirit.

Television doesn’t stop just because you turn the power off. There’s always someone like Carlos King creating a show which will have you riveted. Watch out for what’s next for this gleaming talent, His Excellence, the King, Carlos.

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Those who seek to change the world most

often do. However, that change begins in small steps or actions not always guaranteed to attract the attention of others. The most profound changes of our society have often occurred in the quietest places of the lives of those whom we admire, adore and sometimes vilify. Most movements and people who have been agents of profound change in our communities, nation and world were often busy living their ordinary lives until opportunity or need propelled them to answer a call to action, make use of their voice, time and resources or perhaps they simply believed they could positively contribute and become agents of change.

Such are David and Tre’Darrius Anderson, two gentlemen who lend their voice, energies and platform to LGBT equality and LGBT youth through their organization “Guy’s With Pride”.

David and Tre’Darrius Anderson were largely unknown until they received a phone call from the producers of “My Teenage Wedding”, which was featured on Slice TV Canada, after word got out that the two were planning their nuptials. From

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the moment David and Tre’Darrius began planning their union they faced adversity, but they both seek to find something positive in all of the negativity that sometimes surrounds them.

They may have been largely unknown but they certainly were not unproductive.

David and Tre’Darrius were both nineteen years old when they wed in front of the Lincoln Memorial on January 18, 2013.

The couple later had their commitment ceremony in Memphis, Tennessee the following day and are considered the youngest gay African American couple to wed in the United States. The couple have been highlighted in the Huffington Post, Queerty, Clutch Magazine and other notable news sources around the nation.

“We didn’t do the show with the intention to become a household name or the “Youngest African American Gay Couple to Marry”. We just wanted to share our love story and inspire others in the LGBT community.”

David and Tre’Darrius are the recipients of the “Gentleman of Promise Award” by The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. The Gentleman of Promise Award seeks to recognize the positive contributions of young rising LGBT voices in the community who bring awareness to the varying issues faced by the LGBT community.

According to the Anderson’s, it is an honor and a privilege to be recognized as young LGBT rising leaders. The Anderson’s credit their faith, teamwork, creativity and the ability to balance their marriage along with their business relationship as the key to their success personally and professionally.

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“A Gentleman is a man who considers the feelings of the people around him and makes them as comfortable as he is able”. – David Anderson “A Gentleman is a man who is well-mannered and considerate with high standards of proper behavior. One who fights for what’s right in words, not violence.”

– Tre’Darrius Anderson “Guy’s With Pride”, an organization Tre’Darrius founded in 2012, began as an idea for an apparel company whose proceeds would benefit LGBT causes. Not soon after founding “GWP”, The Anderson’s soon expanded the focus of their organization beyond apparel. “Army of Pride”, an outreach arm of “GWP” will be the primary vehicle The Anderson’s use to advocate for world equality and the legalization of same-sex marriage not only here at home but abroad as well.

The Anderson’s credit their increased notoriety with helping them expand their brand and reach more LGBT youth.

According to the Anderson’s, they consider the work that they do social activism but are most proud of the impact they are having on young minds. “People send us messages all the time saying how much we have inspired and uplifted them to want better. We think that because of our story, no one ever has to be afraid to be or express who they are, and whom they love.”

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The Anderson’s soon hope to create Valiant Tube; a web based video series geared towards the LGBT community.

The Anderson’s have this message for young LGBT youth, seeking to make something of themselves in today’s society, “Don’t give up!

There is always going to be someone trying to tear you down. Be yourself and never be afraid to express who you are. The world is yours and you can be whatever and whomever you want to be.”

“Some people have difficulty in accepting their sexual orientation, either because of personal or societal discomfort or pressure. Most people in the LGBT community know from experience that accepting your sexuality will lead to your becoming a happier, more open person.” – David Anderson “If you feel that you don’t fit, or you can’t understand why you aren’t like other people in your life because you are different, remember that you are you, and not anyone else; and that being yourself and accepting yourself for the person that you are is something to be immensely proud of.” – Tre’Darrius Anderson According to The Anderson’s, they would like to see the following issues being more widely addressed in the LGBT community, the Taxation of Domestic Partner Benefits, along with Healthcare for Same-Sex Couples.

“If you can’t accept your sexual orientation and feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, then other people find it harder to accept you fully. It is your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Tell yourself: “I am a person with feelings and intellect and a life that matters, just like everyone else. I am unique and I am an individual, and no one has the right to choose my life for me. The fact that I am LGBT, is just another facet of who I am, just

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as being creative, or optimistic, or having brown eyes may be a part of who I am. I may not be like many of my friends, but I choose to live my life authentically and happily. It’s my life, and I choose to be happy.” – David Anderson The Anderson’s believe that all campaigns such as “NOH8” and “It Gets Better” are beneficial and relevant for the LGBT community, as well as the recent gains for marriage equality, which have become significant in ending the stigma of homosexuality in the nation and

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particularity for the African American LGBT community. However they caution, that it’s going to take one day at a time to make things better for us all, one day we will be “One World One Nation” - GWP slogan. The Anderson’s hope to continue expanding their platform and reach into the African American LGBT community and beyond with their organization “Guy’s With Pride”, and in the years to come they also hope to remembered as inspirational LGBT leaders!

All indications conclude that they are indeed well on their way! We salute you, Tre’Darrius and David Anderson!

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ENTLEMAN of the Year The Gentleman of the Year Award is presented to a pillar of the LGBTQ community who embodies the three tenets of the #TrueGentleman: CONFIDENT in himself, GENEROUS in his giving, and PROUD to stand tall in his TRUTH. Let’s take a look at the 2014 nominees for Gentleman of the Year.

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Girls Club while growing up as a youth in South Central Los Angeles, California where he was named “Youth of the Year” in 1986 by the Watts/Willowbrook Boys & Girls Club Board of Directors.

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graduated with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Sociology with a Minor in Public Administration from California State University at Bakersfield in 1991. As Founder and Executive Board President of Al Sura, Inc., he is no stranger when it comes to community involvement. His philanthropic endeavors are heavily influenced by the late Roy W. Roberts, II Former Executive Director of The Watts/Willowbrook Boys &

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After completing his undergraduate studies at California State University at Bakersfield, he relocated to Washington, D.C. in 1994 and began performing volunteer work for organizations such as Us Helping Us, People Into Living, Inc. where he received The Marvin E. Young volunteer of the year award in 2001, the Spirit of Light Award from Mascara, Inc. in 2005, Trailblazer Award from InCrowd International, Inc. in 2008, Inner Light Ministries Community Service Award in 2010, the Alston-Gillard Community Service Award in 2012, the GoodLife Empowerment Award in 2013 and the Welmore Cook Award from DC Black Pride in 2014.

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Through the power of the internet, Lonnell Williams continues to establish himself as an important and influential force in the world of social media. As host and producer of the popular web series, 3LWTV, Lonnell initially came to prominence in the African American LGBT community by committing to showcase positive images of a people often marginalized or ignored by mainstream media. His unique interviews have been viewed by millions on YouTube. With a background in media production, his own site 3lwtv.com, and an audience of loyal supporters worldwide, there is no limit to what is next for Lonnell.

His numerous television features include: Oprah Winfrey’s “Life Class”, CBS’ “The Insider”, CBS’ “The Talk” and “Entertainment Tonight”. In a continued effort to learn, teach and inspire, Lonnell continues to explore new opportunities and use his life to demonstrate a tagline his supporters have come to adore....”Stand In Your Light.”

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1997 and his first independently released out music project, Dante’s Got a Man Too, in 1999. His latest full length release, London 2 Atlanta: the Ultimate Collection is his 10th effort and celebrates his 25 years of recording and producing music and his 15th year as an OUT artist. Since 1999, Anthony has also worked on the front lines of HIV/STI Prevention for Atlanta with a tireless focus on MSM communities for AID Atlanta, ARCA and now as a Senior Research Coordinator at Emory University.

He is a father, great friend, listener and a featured writer for the It Gets Better book and campaign. He completes the legendary Atlanta-born performance poetry trio The Adodi Muse: A Gay Negro Ensemble.

Anthony is a World Traveler, Brick City Baby, Lover of Hip-Hop, Unapologetically Queer and Big to four high-spirited Littles as part of the Big Brother, Big Sister program.

Born in Zaria, Nigeria to American parents, Jerome Wilson grew up in Decatur, GA after he and his parents returned to the states from their teaching trek at a Nigerian University. A graduate of Florida A&M University, Jerome earned his BS in Business Administration and Computer Science and is currently a Field Engineer for a major Airline - which is perfect because he literally “lives to travel”. “Jay Rome”, as he is affectionately known, is a community activist and volunteer at heart. He has been on the scene for years volunteering and Anthony Antoine is performance poet, supporting many organizations such as community activist and recognized Georgia Equality, Human Rights trailblazer of the LGBT Music Scene after Campaign, Equality Federation, Lambda recording his first out and proud song in Legal and Delta’s Volunteer Network to WWW.THEGENTLEMENSFOUNDATION.ORG

name a few. Jerome also serves on the East Lake Neighborhood Community Board of Directors and chartered & executed eastlake.nextdoor.com where neighbors can communicate about various issues affecting their community.

Jerome is best known for starting the “For Couples Only” networking group - a positive, supportive outlet for those in committed relationships. He organizes discussions, retreats, events, vacations, networking mixers, etc. in an effort to support & sustain SGL Couples. He currently resides in Atlanta with his husband of 3 years.

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Darnell L. Moore is an educator and writer.

Darnell has served in the fields of education and youth development for more than a decade. He began his teaching career as an Urban Education teaching intern with KidsCorp in Newark, NJ in 1999.

Darnell has served within the education and non-profit fields in administrative capacities as well. He was a therapist and a program director of a youth transitional living program at the Center for Family Services in Camden. He went on to serve as the Principal of Integrative Concepts Consulting Group, Project Evaluator at the Institute for Community Living in NYC, Director of Strategic Initiatives at the United Way of Essex and West Hudson and Associate Director of the Newark Schools Research Collaborative, a partnership between Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey and Newark Public Schools.

Darnell is also a nationally-recognized advocate, speaker and diversity consultant/ trainer. He has served on the boards of the

Governing Institute of New Jersey, New Jersey Women AIDS Network, Newark Legacy Charter School, Stop Shootin’ Inc., Newark Essex County Pride Coalition, and the Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies at the City University of New York. He was appointed the inaugural chair of the city of Newark’s LGBTQ Advisory Concerns Commission by Mayor Cory A. Booker and served as co-chair of the Queer Newark Oral History initiative. Darnell was a recipient several awards including: The Tony Campolo Fellowship at Eastern University (2001-2004), the 2009 Jan Herman Venker Award from the Circle of Friends, and the 2012 American Conference on Diversity’s Humanitarian Award. He received a BA in Social and Behavioral Science from Seton Hall University, a MA in Clinical Counseling from Eastern University, and an MA in Theological Studies from Princeton Theological Seminary.

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entleman Rahsaan Patterson

By Waddie Grant

When The Gentleman’s Ball organizers Gee & Juan Session-Smalls announced R&B veteran Rahsaan Patterson as the headlining act of its annual event, attendees and fans rejoiced as they expect the “Where You Are” crooner to give a show-stopping performance that will cap off this soon-to-be memorable affair.

Patterson’s legacy in the entertainment industry spans more than 30 years with an extraordinary beginning as a regular cast member in the hit children’s television show “Kids Incorporated.”He was in great company with future top-charting

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hitmakers Fergie and Martika and later branching of into his own music success that started off as a go-to songwriter during the mid-1990’s for fellow teen stars Tevin Campbell and Brandy. His songwriting success led to the number one hit single “Baby” by Brandy in 1995 and a major recording contract with MCA Records.

As a major recording artist, Rahsaan won the praises of music critics with his eponymous debut and its successive album. Some music tastemakers hailed him as one of the forefathers of the neo-soul genre alongside Maxwell, D’Angelo and Raphael Saadiq.

Patterson created his own record label Artistry Music to release more albums as an independent artist with a growing audience who clamor to his live shows around

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the world. Fans and critics enjoy the intimate vibe of a Rahsaan Patterson show as the “Easier Said Than Done” vocalist looks into his audience crooning his catalog of hits from his self-titled debut to the Bluephoria era.

Though his personal life is low-key to the public in comparison to his enormous talents, Patterson lives in his truth openly as a Black gay man in the entertainment industry. His comfort in his truth allowed his music to be in the forefront of his public persona, which left no room for journalists and gossip mongers to label him as the “gay artist” or the “gay R&B artist.” In his own words, Patterson enlightened the world in a 2008 interview, “it’s not about being ‘the gay artist’; I’m an artist.”

Patterson’s essence of a soulful crooner who stays true to his craft and making his talent the center of his public image for the last 30 years makes him a gentleman who have inspired many singers who arrived in the industry after him and the fans who followed his solo music journey.

I had the fortunate pleasure of conversing with Patterson about his career achievements and how he perceives what the qualities of a gentleman entail, including a short, powerful message to Black gay men about staying true to oneself.

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entertainment for The Gentlemen’s Ball. What do you make of being the headlining act of the event with an all-Black gay headlining set?

RP: I think it’s awesome. I’m glad to have been invited and am already familiar with two of the honorees. It will be a great evening.

WG: You have lots of fans in the community, especially among the attendees at The Gentlemen’s Ball.

We haven’t heard new music from you since your last album, Bluephoria, in 2011. Can we expect new Rahsaan Patterson music soon?

RP: Absolutely! There will be. I’m in the studio working on a new album, currently. The likelihood of hearing that will be – something to be heard – soon. I can’t say exactly when. But soon, there will be something [a new single] to be heard. The album will follow sometime next year.

WG: Well, it is great news to us fans that you will be provided us new music soon. Have you come up with an album concept? Since, the Bluephoria was very funk-driven, what kind of vibe are you concocting with the new album?

RP: It’s going to be a continuation from where the last album left off.

That’s how I always approach my albums. Wherever the last song leaves you from the previous record, that’s the extension into of what’s coming next.

WG: First and foremost, congratulations on being WG: You mean the last track “God” announced as the headlining from Bluephoria?

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RP: It is. Yes, it is.

WG: So, the album will be inspirational?

RP: The name of the album will be called “Heroes & Gods.” I’ll give you that.

WG: After celebrating 30 years in the entertainment industry this year, how do you manage to stay relevant? I notice that whenever you release new music every few years, the news still become a big deal among R&B music listeners.

RP: I believe that it is an innate ability and gift that certain artists

WG: In the Bluephoria album, you recorded with R&B divas Jody Watley and Faith Evans. Will there be any collaborations on Heroes & Gods?

RP: I don’t necessarily have plans on doing that. I’m taking it as it comes creatively. Wherever my vision takes me, I will go. That last record, I pretty much had those people mind as I was writing and cultivating those songs. I had Faith in mind. I had Shanice in mind, and I had Jody in mind. With this record, this is just me. This is just me in the studio singing and writing. If people are interested in collaboration, they can come into the studio if they want to.

have – to be able to stay relevant and reinvent oneself – whether it be sonically or visually. As an artist in the broader sense, I’m receptive to everything that inspires me. I’m inspired by love, people. I’m inspired by all kinds of art. I love going to the cinema. I love going to the theaters sometimes. I think it is a another gift to be cognizant of what’s happening culture-wise and be able to remain true to who I have always been artistically, who people who have supported all these years, but continue to be progressive and move into the future creatively and take my people with me.

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ten years old. Through every album thus far, I give them something that there are expecting – to an extent – and are familiar with, but I take them somewhere else, and we’ll just ride.

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1990s, it had a lot to do with people wanting to work with me – not wanting to work with me. I was open to work with some of the acts of that era but because I was so different from all the cats that were out at the same time, that I wasn’t jumping on the bandwagon, that I wasn’t in a pretense of trying to be someone I wasn’t or dressing in a manner that didn’t appease people and gain urban fans – because I didn’t do that, that kept a lot of people wanting to fuck with me. I was fine with that.

Ultimately, it was like “ooooo okay.”

I understand totally why that was. It had more to do with people and their apprehension of dealing with people and their sexualities, especially in the R&B realm. It is what it is. I have sustained myself. I have been true to myself, and I have been able to work well with people who wanted to work with me.

WG: I have noticed that about your career. You seem to be one of the very few R&B artists who managed to stay true to the genre throughout your career without hopping on the styles of the moment – like featuring hip-hop artists on your singles and remixes during the late 1990s or incorporating EDM (electronic dance music) into your discography during this current music climate. Why have you chosen not to follow those paths? It seems that other R&B acts do it for continued relevancy or attain new audiences.

RP: I’m not really a bandwagon jumper. When I was on a major label, [MCA Records] did respect WG: Have any of those artists who me enough to not to force me to didn’t want to work with you earlier conform. Every now and then, they in your career because of your made suggestions. At times, I made sexuality reached out to you in suggestions on what I wanted to do. recent years?

There was a time when I wanted to RP: Not so much in a collaborative work with R. Kelly. There was a time way, but in a respectful, personal and when I wanted to work with Jimmy artistic way. They reach out. They Jam & Terry Lewis. Their schedules, give me my props. I give them theirs. and/or whether they wanted to or It’s very interesting how time changes not, didn’t allow us to collaborate. things and people’s perspectives – I’m always present to whatever and how when you are in the music is popular at the times – and industry and for some who had to various styles, I like some of them compromise themselves. With age, and have always. I’ve always been you just start to really, hopefully, open to do certain things. I think become clear on who you are and moreso back in the mid to late secure about who you are regardless WWW.THEGENTLEMENSFOUNDATION.ORG

of industry standards and expectations. I take [the love] as they come – as long as they are respectful and honest with it.

WG: As you talk about love and respect, I think of what The Gentlemen’s Ball is all about. With that said, what does being a gentleman mean to you?

RP: It makes me think of my dad.

That the first thing I think of when it comes to a gentleman. It alsomakes me think of class, intelligence, security, heart, spirit, soul.

WG: As Rahsaan Patterson the entertainer and Rahsaan Patterson the man, I define you as a gentleman on the way you have carried yourself in the public eye.

How do you incorporate being a gentleman into your personal character?

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RP: I think it pretty much represents who I am ultimately. I think if one looks at my career from the time that I became an adult, they could see that it reflects who I am artistically as well as just being a grown ass man. They are able to read my interviews to see what I’ve contributed – not only to music and to society – and that my intent is to give back and to ride with others as they grow out of and conquer their fears and release things that have caused pain and drama in their lives. I’m in the process of that as well. I think that’s what we’re here for – ultimately – is to be here for one another.

WG: That is very empowering, Rahsaan. I agree that we have to be here for one another. As a veteran entertainer who lives his life openly as a proud Black gay man, what words of wisdom can you impart on the younger generation of Black gay men who seeking fame and notoriety during this social media age?

RP: It is always necessary to be oneself, but it would always behoove us to always be a gentleman.

Yes. It wouldn’t let all my letters in there. It was always one letter or two letters too short. I went to Patters--.

The “n” wouldn’t fit or “o-n” wouldn’t fit. So, I was just like “fuck it” - @mynameistoolong.

You’re the first people who understood what that meant.

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A Sit Down with Phylle

By Bryson Jones

Larry Phylle Carter has only been married to his lover for well over a year, and yet he has droves of people looking to him for advice on how to maintain a healthy relationship. His spirit is humble, genuine, and something that just causes people to feel very comfortable and vulnerable with him.

Despite being fully dedicated to his marriage, Larry also juggles multiple careers in music and acting. He’s got a soulful album on iTunes, “The Coming: Introducing Phylle” and is in a starring role on the web series “The Boy Next Door.”

He’s really quickly becoming what is known as a “gay-lebrity”, even though, he quickly dismisses the title.

Larry was more than eager to sit down for a quick Q&A on life, love, and being a gentlemen turned married man.

BRYSON: How has your life changed since filming the web series “The Boy Next Door”?

PHYLLE: Man, it really hasn’t changed much. I mean people are really kind; they stop and say hi on the street or in stores. It has been enlightening. People have questions all the time. It has been a blessing all and all.

BRYSON: What does being a true gentleman mean to you?

PHYLLE: “Being a true gentleman means

you are responsible in all you do. “

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No haphazard actions. You give thought to the things you do, say, wear and are. It’s a classic classiness that you exude.

BRYSON: What does a typical day look like in the Carter house hold?

PHYLLE; A typical day in the Carter house hold, what is a typical day? Well we have a lot going on all the time it seems. Every day is different. However we always start the day with breakfast together at the bar in the kitchen. It’s our “us” time. No phones or laptops. It’s just us talking about our day and what we have planned. Then we head out on our separate ways. Sometimes I’m gone all day. However we almost always have dinner together.

BRYSON: What’s the best advice to can offer to other gay men and women who want to be in healthy relationships that will eventually lead to matrimony?

PHYLLE: The best thing I can tell someone about love and relationships is leave all expectations at the door. They just complicate things. I didn’t have a type. I wasn’t looking for anyone when we met. I was just looking at him and who he was, that’s it. No stereotypes, no gender roles, just two men getting to know each other. K I S S meaning keep it simple stupid lol.

BRYSON: Why did you decide to get involved with The Gentlemen’s Ball?

PHYLLE: I got involved with The Gentlemen’s Ball because I thought it was so very important to support Gee and Juan. These guys are giving blood sweat and tears to make this event amazing every year. They are honoring men who are doing great things in our community.

How can I not support it?

BRYSON: Why do you feel that Atlanta has a reputation of not being a safe haven for relationships?

PHYLLE: I feel like Atlanta has a reputation that’s not true. I feel like people blame the city.

This City is amazing and has so many opportunities. It draws a lot of gay men. It doesn’t

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mean you have to be with them because they are here. I feel like it’s all about you committing yourself to your relationship. You can be in Utah and slip up but are you going to make it work or leave?

BRYSON: What is something that someone from the outside would be shocked to know about you?

PHYLLE: Something that someone would be surprised to know about me is that I am a very shy person. Big crowds are hard for me.

That’s something most people don’t think or know.

BRYSON: What new projects are you currently working on?

PHYLLE: I am working on a few projects. I have my album coming next year. It’s going to be fun. I am in a few indie movies coming.

I am up for two Out Awards which happens

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Jan 19 in NYC. I was also considered for a Grammy for my song I Love Him. The video has been doing very well.

BRYSON: What advice can you give to aspiring Black Gay actors/artists?

PHYLLE: What advice can I give to aspiring Black Gay actors and artists? Wow that’s hard.

I mean I am totally humbled by that question.

It would mean I am someone that could give advice on the matter. Thank you for that. Be true to yourself, be your authentic self. It’s the beauty that lives inside of you that is your art.

It’s so important to share you and your story.

You will touch people’s hearts and lives. That is such a blessing.

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I was a boi And I was taught to be a man But never a gentle man There wasn’t room to be gentle about anything I had to be tough Strong Show that I’m not phased by anyone I couldn’t be vulnerable Not to mention I was gay So for me to attract guys I like I definitely couldn’t be gentle in any way Everyone was wanting the B-Boy Blues They wanted basically a cave man that would command them what to do They wanted the bad boi The kind you don’t take home to momma And I wasn’t But I played the role of one of them I wanted to be liked I wanted to be desire Who wanted a gentleman Only thugs and bad bois were for hire But one day I could no longer contain I could no longer act as if I had never felt pain Because I had I had a past It made me sensitive It made me vulnerable It actually made me more lovable One day I set myself free And became the gentle man I always knew I was supposed to be I didn’t care to be popular I didn’t care to be liked I wanted to be a man of substance A man of purpose A man wanting to do right I was a gentleman And I wasn’t ashamed I was of age where things truly mattered Where substance had to be a determining factor I stood for something I began to walk in a new way I look around and said I’m a gentleman I’m proud to say I’m a gentle man WWW.THEGENTLEMENSFOUNDATION.ORG

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ctavius O Terry-Sims #BeInspired:

By Waddie Grant

In early 2014, television’s portrayal of Black gay men surprised TV viewers, especially Black gay men around the world, when the annual Grammy award show organizers performed a massive wedding hosted by top-charting acts Madonna, Macklemore and Queen Latifah. As the show producers demonstrated their declaration about their support of same-sex marriage, two Black gay male couples took part in that historic event. Fashion designer Octavius

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Terry-Sims and his husband Jamal were one of the two Black gay couples who exchanged vows and saw their moment raising their public profile significantly as leaders and influencers. For the Black gay community, they became the beacons of hope for love and the examples of living comfortably in one’s skin while using their joint platform to inspire others. Octavius’ journey as a fashion designer started to ascend swiftly after completing his education before the Grammy affair. Now, his profile has afforded him to become of the most sought after rising stars in the industry through his mastery of self-promotion in social media, undeniable talent and all- around great reputation among his peers. As his growing legion of followers notice his daily walk as a gentleman of exemplary standards, I caught up with Octavius to talk about his recognition of his own platform and what he plans to do to continue to inspire his peers and the Black gay community.

WG: Octavius, by watching your daily walk in life and in person, you personify on how a gentleman carries himself in my opinion.

How would you, specifically, indentify the qualities of a gentleman?

OTS: I think being a gentleman is being someone who can walk authentically in his own life in a positive manner and being able to inspire, not only other men and children, but also, women and families.

WG: That is a great way of defining a gentleman succinctly. How do you use those qualities in your daily life?

OTS: That’s such a great question, and I have a couple of answers for that. I think that getting married on the Grammy’s reminded me of that point I just shared about being authentic. I recall Oprah [Winfrey] mentioning that being authentic in who you are will make everything else falls into place. I think it’s the universe’s way of rewarding you for being who you are.

Secondly, if anyone follows my social media and recognize the haghtag “#beinspired,” I just want to be an example [to others] and tangible in that way with my platform for the people who follow me. It’s my way of telling people that you can do whatever you put your mind to. I’ve been able to live three different lives [as a professional athlete, a recording artist, and now, a fashion designer]. As I turn 42 this year, I reflect on how I touched a sewing machine for the first time four years ago, and now, I am working with Tamar Braxton [on her TV show “Braxton Family Values”] and Mary J. Blige [for the styling of her latest album era “The London Sessions”]. I want everyone who comes into my life know that they can do whatever they put their minds to – there is no age requirement, no sexual orientation requirement. That is my daily walk because I am inspired people who walk authentically in their daily lives.

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WG: You and [your husband] Jamal have been inspiring people long before you were on that Grammy stage in front of 20 million people getting married. Since that landmark moment earlier this year, can you recall one of the most memorable testimonies you and Jamal received from someone you inspired?

OTS: We constantly get messages on Instagram and direct messages from Black gay men who have yet to be authentic in their walk regarding their sexual identity.

We just had an encounter with someone in the gym just recently, who we had no idea who had an issue with the openness of his sexuality, he approached us and was like, “Because of you guys and the reputations that you have through your Instagram and social media, I see that you guys have found a way to normalize how to be a man of color that likes other men,” right after we got married on the Grammys. He came back around to us six months after that to let us know he has now become the happiest person he could have ever been. Those are the testimonies that really touch me. We really appreciate the platform we have and look forward to inspiring more people.

While I really do not what the real stereotype of being Black and gay is, I am glad that we are opening the doors for some people who are walking in their light now.

Those are the touching testimonies we get.

The testimonies do not only come from Black gay men who are living on the down low.

We even get compliments from parents who have gay children who once feared about their children being gay, not producing children and being bullied by other people.

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WG: That must be very endearing. I would not be surprised that the man who approached you see you two as Black gay masculine figures in the public eye, which is a characteristic of Black gay men we do not see media highlighting adequately.

How do you feel about people who see you and Jamal as heroes who represent the masculine Black gay male image?

OTS: I don’t see it as like that kind of responsibility, upholding the masculine part of the community. We are representative of people who are just doing everyday things.

I guess we just fall into that category of not falling into the stereotype of what being Black and gay looks like as far as the TV images and mainstream media allows.

We’re still going to continue that walk and hopefully break every stereotype we can but at the same time be supportive of everyone in the same-gender-loving community.

There will be so much more coming from Octavius Terry-Sims and his husband Jamal in the near future. From a joint clothing line venture to mentoring and inspiring people near and far to documenting their married life for the world to see, the Terry-Sims family will be giving us, the Black gay male community, a lot to celebrate and find inspiration in the coming months and years.

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INSIGHT

So many of us want to fall head over heels

in love with a person, but we are so busy protecting our egos that we can’t even allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to experience such a thing. If you really want to feel this kind of love for someone, try letting your guard down. Try texting him first instead of waiting around to see if he will text you. Call him. Those butterflies you feel when he’s around, tell him about them. When you want to touch him, do it.

Silence the mindless chatter in your head about what or what not to do next. Just DO. Sharing the way you feel for him is essential to falling in love. If you continue in life trying to protect your heart, falling head over heels in love with someone will never be a part of your journey. Your heart is stronger than you think, let it do its’ job.

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BOARD OF DIRECTORS

Co-Founder & Chairman

Juan Session-Smalls

Philanthropist. Actor. Song Writer.

Blogger. Entrepreneur. Advocate. Juan Session-Smalls is the epitome of the modern day Renaissance Man. This Los Angeles native began his career at the ripe age of sixteen with his debut performance as Arvide Abernathy in Guys and Dolls. In the coming years he would go on to portray a multitude of roles on stage & screen, and in print.

The UCLA graduate’s most recent endeavors are dearest to his heart.

Alongside his husband and partner, Gee Smalls, Juan co-founded The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc., a 501(c) (3) non-profit organization and LoveWorks, a blog dedicated to showcasing healthy love and relationships within the community. Mr. Session does not limit himself and is constantly striving to live his best life. He currently resides in Atlanta with his husband and step-son.

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Co-Founder, Vice-Chairman

Gee Session-Smalls

Born and raised in Charleston, SC, Gee has been a resident of Atlanta for nearly 20 years. Upon graduating from DeVry University with a BS in Computer Information Systems, Gee immediately immersed himself in the Information Technology field. A glutton for knowledge, he honed in on his niche for Project Management after obtaining his Master’s Degree from Keller Graduate School. Always knowing that there was more to his corporate professional career, Gee ventured into Event Production alongside his husband, Juan, a few years after they met. His passion and dedication for community service naturally led to a focus on strengthening the LGBTQ community through his event production efforts. This ultimately led to the birth of The Gentlemen’s Ball as well as LoveWorks, a Love & Relationships blog that spreads the message of healthy love and relationships throughout the community. Gee has a 13 year-old son that currently lives with him and Juan in their midtown home.

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Secretary

Jason Brooks joined AutoTrader in

August 2013 to lead the organization’s Diversity & Inclusion and university recruiting efforts. In this capacity, he is charged with creating programs and initiatives to attract, retain, develop, and advance diverse talent from entry-level (university) to mid-career, across the organization. Prior to joining AutoTrader, Jason led Talent Acquisition and Diversity and Inclusion for Unilever, a consumer packaged goods company in Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey. He often says he has created his very own rotational program, as he has worked in various HR roles across multiple industries from pharmaceutical and automotive to non-profit and consumer goods. A native of Cleveland, Ohio, Jason received his Bachelor’s Degree in English from Shaw University in Raleigh, North Carolina and Master Degree in Labor and Employment Relations from Rutgers University in New Brunswick, New Jersey.

In his spare time, Jason enjoys playing volleyball, traveling, and spending time in the community with his fraternity, Kappa Alpha Psi, Fraternity Inc.

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Treasurer

Dexter Taylor is a native of

Atlanta, GA. After graduating from Morehouse College, Dex began his career in Asset Based Lending and Forensic Accounting in New York City. Currently, Dex is Vice President/Eastern Senior Auditor at First Capital Business Credit. Through Dex’s career he has worked at The CIT Group, Textron Financial Business and General Electric Commercial Finance. Dex’s community and civic outreach is extensive, where he contributes to several education boards and community outreach organizations. A financially active member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Incorporated, Dex currently holds National and Local Chapter officer and committee member positions. Dex has been member of Cambridge Who’s Who in Atlanta and was awarded Cambridge Who’s Who Among Professionals 2010 VIP of the Year.T

The purpose of the Georgia Safe Schools Coalition (GSSC) is to eliminate LGBTQ oppression in Georgia schools. We educate and advocate on issues affecting lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning students and families. GSSC works to address the intersections among various systems of oppression, understanding that one cannot eradicate trans-prejudice and heterosexism without simultaneously working to end all forms of injustice. By serving as a resource for Georgia students, educators, and families, we strive to engender positive social growth among Georgia’s youth, and to foster a safe and affirming school climate for all.

Georgia Safe Schools Coalition is a partnership of educators, community organizations, and safe school activists dedicated to raising awareness about issues affecting lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning (LGBTQQ) youth and families. GSSC works with educators and community organizations to help Georgia’s schools become safe and affirming environments for all students, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/ expression.

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We do this by: Providing training, support, and resources to Georgia schools, counselors, administration, faculty and staff.

Raising awareness among families, parents and members of the community.

Providing resources to help support safer, more affirming schools at the local, district, and state level.

Consulting with schools and personnel in developing safer, more positive school climates.

Offering support and resources to GayStraight Alliances.

To learn more about GSSC, please visit us @ www.georgiasafeschoolscoalition.org

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WE NEED YOUR SUPPORT! The Gentlemen’s Foundation, Inc. is a 501(c)(3)non-profit foundation that relies on the membership and financial support of individuals and corporations to achieve its mission of strengthening the quality of life, leadership ability, and mental & physical health of LGBTQ individuals.

Members of the Gentlemen’s Foundation POWER 100 serve on an Advisory Council for the Foundation and may be called upon as a consultant as the need arises in a given area of expertise. The Board of Directors approves all applicants.

WANT TO GET INVOLVED?

General Membership is open to any person that possesses a commitment to and passion for the betterment of minority LGBTQ Communities, supports the Foundation’s mission and embodies the core values of a #TrueGentleman.

We understand that giving is very personal. Your time, money, and commitment are priceless and we don’t take that for granted. To ensure that everyone’s unique skill sets are utilized to their fullest potential and in an effort to maximize the productivity of the Foundation and the successful execution of our initiatives, we offer the following forms of membership: The Gentlemen’s Foundation POWER 100:

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GENERAL MEMBERSHIP:

FOR MORE INFORMATION… For more information on how to become a General Member or a POWER 100 candidate, please email: Admin@TheGentlemensFoundation.org

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WE SALUTE YOU...

THE GENTLEMEN’S FOUNDATION, INC. would like to extend our sincerest THANK YOU to our Sponsors, Diamond Supporters, and Friends of the Foundation.

DIAMOND SUPPORTERS

Jason Strong & Anthony Henderson Earl & Raynette Kornickey

POWER 100 MEMBERS Senator Kelvin Atkinson Dave Ferguson Steven Hollowell Khadish Franklin Ryan Girley

FOUNDATION MEMBERS D’Wayne A. Wells Brodney McClinton Marion Jamell Lessington Paul Thomas Bryson Jones Brandon Thompson Neal Foster Tim Captville

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FRIENDS OF THE FOUNDATION

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