Caring For Others

Caregiving is not new, but it is a hot topic among every generation, but baby boomers find themselves facing this challenge even as they age and have their own health challenges. With this set of circumstances, some have found themselves facing stress, debt, caring for grandchildren and navigating the impact of the covid-19 pandemic. There are factors that make caregiving complicated. Sometimes the person we now care for was not kind to us, did not contribute to our upbringing or was not there for us as we would have desired.

Caregiving under these circumstances can be painful but also is an opportunity to connect or reconnect with someone that had been distant for many years. Caregiving also gives us the opportunity to love those who cared for us and contributed to the richness of our lives.

Caregiving requires a lot from those in this role but for many it is a labor of love. Keeping the loving posture is a challenge at times because of the constant and consistent needs of our loved ones. Caregiving can also be a draining and depressing experience especially for those who may not get the support from other family and friends. Making sure arrangements are made for respite, scheduling chores, and hiring a care companion or getting friends and neighbors to volunteer can make the job of caregiving more manageable.

Many churches, health organizations, and community organizations have resources that help as we navigate the paperwork, doctor appointments and other care needs our loved one may have. Caregivers must get out of their heads and not feel bad about asking for help. The resources are there, we just must do our research and then follow through with the process. While caring for others, make sure your health and well-being are not neglected. Schedule all your medical appointments. This is a good time to get the assistance of others so you can take care of your health. Make sure you eat a proper meal and make exercise a part of your health regimen. Continue attending worship services online or in person. Your spiritual health is an integral part of your overall health. Engage in professional counseling or join a support group to help you get tips and the emotional support you need as you care for others. Caregiving does not mean your life ends and you must live in isolation. It means you must live on a schedule, get a support team, and pack your patience. It may be a journey of love for some or obligation for others, but you do not want to be lost along the way. Take care of yourself!

Dr. Carla Debnam, Founder, Renaissance Christian Counseling Center