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Volume 2, Issue 2 March | April 2013 Complimentary

Tammy Sayler Little Miracles with Big Smiles

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Please call ahead to confirm events. Promote your March and April events by sending information to grandcitieswoman@live.com or by calling Autumn at (701) 261-2692 by April 1.

March 2 through April 30

March 21

April 4, 11, & 18

Velkommen, downtown Grand Forks This installation and sale features a hand-cast jewelry collaborative of new small works and designs from the Viking age by pewtersmiths Nils Akessons of Gotene, Sweden and Rune Tennesmed of Stockholm, Sweden.

For more information call 701-775-8482.

5:30 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.

NDSU Extension Office Parents Forever participants learn how to make informed, child-supportive decisions so children will come through divorce having a positive relationship with both parents. Parents Forever is a comprehensive educational program that puts parents on the path to minimizing stress for themselves and their children. The class fee is $55 per person. Call 701-780-8229 to register.

6:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.

Head Start (connected to Lake Agassiz School) 1, 2, 3 Magic offers easy-to-follow steps for disciplining children without arguing or yelling. These classes help parents to avoid over explaining, maintain control, avoid misbehavior in public, and help their children make positive choices. Call 701-787-4216 to reserve your spot.

Thor’s Hammer: Original Heavy Metal

March 7, 14, 21, and 28 Prenatal Pilates

9:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m.

Tone and strengthen your body as it goes through the remarkable changes of pregnancy. Improve balance and alignment while reducing lower back pain. Cost is $15 per class at the Sanny and Jerry Ryan Center for Prevention and Genetics. Call 701-732-7620 to register.

No prior Pilates experience needed and drop-ins are welcome.

March 16

BeautiControl Public Event

10:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m.

Alerus Center Visit the BeautiControl booth at the Healthy Living Expo and learn more about the products from Yolando Cox.

March 20

Truyu Skin Institute | Acne

6:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.

Learn from skin experts from Truyu Aesthetic Center as they share in-depth information about acne. This session is free of charge and takes place in the Sterling Room at Choice Health & Fitness.

March 21

Healthy Beginnings

5:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m.

Are you newly pregnant or trying to conceive but unsure of how to change your diet? Altru offers a prenatal nutrition class to help you nourish your body and baby, achieve your goals, and stay healthy throughout pregnancy. Cost is $5. Call the Sanny and Jerry Ryan Center for Prevention and Genetics to reserve your spot at 701732-7620.

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Parents Forever

March 21

BeautiControl Public Event

5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.

Canad Inns Visit the BeautiControl booth at the Diva Expo and learn more about the products from Yolando Cox.

March 23

Girlgineering

UND Jodsaas Center The Society of Women Engineers at the University of North Dakota invites you to a day filled with science and technology. Learn the outstanding feats that girls and women can accomplish through hands-on activities and experiments. Just imagine that everything we use in daily life was originally constructed by an amazing engineer! Open to Cadette, Senior, and Ambassador Girl Scouts. For more information, contact Program and Learning Specialist Rachel Downs at 701-772-6679 or send an email to rdowns@gsdakotahorizons.org.

March 23 Earth Hour

Coca Cola Bottling Plant Be the difference! Come take part in this one-of-a-kind event. Girl Scouts—Dakota Horizons is committed to making a difference by taking part in the world-wide Earth Hour movement to reduce energy usage. The Association of Undergraduate Geologists from UND will teach girls ways to save energy and be more eco-friendly! Girls will tour the Coca Cola bottling plan and see green energy in practice. We will also spend one hour in the dark to commemorate this yearly event. Open to all Girl Scouts and anyone interested in becoming a member. For more information, contact Program and Learning Specialist Rachel Downs at 701-772-6679 or send an email to rdowns@gsdakotahorizons.org.

1, 2, 3 Magic

April 6

Aerospace Exploration

UND Odegard Hall The University of North Dakota Women in Aviation invites you to participate in Aerospace Exploration. Tour the world renowned Aerospace Center and learn how to fly by using a flight simulator!

This day also includes a tour of the Grand Forks airport and a course on air traffic control and pilot communication. Most importantly, come to learn about women in aviation and how you, too, can fly someday. Open to Junior Girl Scouts. For more information, contact Program and Learning Specialist Rachel Downs at 701-772-6679 or send an email to rdowns@gsdakotahorizons.org.

April 6

Spin for Kids

8:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.

Sacred Heart School, East Grand Forks Spin for Kids is an indoor relay race on stationary spin bikes. Riders raise pledges to support children with special needs. Learn more at www.altru.org/spinforkids or call 701-780-2533 to register a team.

April 9, 16, 23, 30

Common Sense Parenting

6:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.

NDSU Extension Office, Grand Forks Common Sense Parenting offers a plan for parents that allows for individual lifestyles and preferences, but incorporates the important elements of consistency, commitment, and courage in the plan for raising children. Parents learn how to use teaching as a way of discipline, how to send clear messages and give clear expectations, and the role of consequences—negative and positive—as critical components in bringing about lasting changes in children’s behavior. Call 701-7874216 to reserve your spot.

April 11

April 13

4:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m.

Rydell GM Auto Center, 2700 South Washington Stop by and make sure your children have a safe ride.

9:30 a.m. to 11:00 a.m.

UND Wellness Center

Car Seat Check-Up

Autism Awareness Walk & Community Celebration

April 12

April 7

8:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.

For more information and to register, contact UND Conflict Resolution Center at 701-777-3664.

Northern Valley Youth Orchestras Garden Party 4:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m.

All Seasons Garden Center, 5101 South Washington St., Grand Forks A playful fundraiser in the garden featuring tempting tea party fare, beautiful gift baskets, and live music provided by members of the Northern Valley Youth Orchestras.

The Business of Civility

April 13

Whipping Up Weather

Grand Forks Girl Scouts—Dakota Horizon Service Center and The American Meteorological Society of UND invite you to join their weather workshop! Come whip up some weather wonders, and then learn about forecasting storms and safety tips. Learn how to create your own anemometers or tornado simulators, and be a meteorologist for the day. Session 1 is open to Daisy and Brownie Girl Scouts. Session 2 is open to Junior and Cadette Girl Scouts. For more information, contact Program and Learning Specialist Rachel Downs at 701-7726679 or send an email to rdowns@gsdakotahorizons. org.

Music in Bloom

April 20

2nd Annual All American Girl Tea Party

2:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Wanzek Center for Scouting, Fargo You are invited to this fun and inspiring event. Bring your daughters, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, and girlfriends to enjoy a tea party. For more information, send an email to altrusafargo@hotmail.com.

April 24

Truyu Skin Institute | Hyperpigmentation

6:30 – 8:00 p.m.

Learn from skin experts from Truyu Aesthetic Center as they share in-depth information about hyperpigmentation. This session is free of charge and takes place in the Sterling Room at Choice Health & Fitness.

April 29

Kids Don’t Float Water Safety Class

UND Hyslop Arena (old basketball court area) 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.

This course is designed to teach kids in 1st through 6th grade life-long safety practices. They will be given the opportunity to practice throwing rescue safety devices, participate in proper selection of life jackets, demonstrate the effects of hypothermia, operate a small watercraft under close supervision, and learn about hazards in and around pools. You may call 701-780-1639 to register.

May 9

Car Seat Check-Up

4:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m.

Rydell GM Auto Center, 2700 South Washington Stop by and make sure your children have a safe ride.

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The rich rosemaling traditions of Norway are the inspirations for these wonderfully detailed, ceramic trivet-tiles. Functional and attractive, each design motif is a 6” square, corkbacked with hanger for display from Velkommen, downtown Grand Forks. $36.95 each

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Take advantage of craftsmanship from generations past, dating back to a time of sole dependence on hand tools when craftsmen carefully planned and fitted their furniture. This six-drawer chest is available along with other selections from The Empire Mission Collection at the Amish Gallery at Home of Economy.

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BC Spa Manicure Instant Manicure softens and moisturizes your hands and cuticles with Dead Sea salts that gently exfoliate dead skin cells. You can experience the wonders of natural oils as they nourish, moisturize, and protect your hands and nails. This product is available through BeautiControl Representative, Yolanda Cox, at www.beautipage.com/yolandacox.

This unusual collage of clocks is made from handforged metal and features a finish of vibrant rustic red, antique gold, and aged black. Find this Uttermost clock at Sterling Carpet One.

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The glass artistry of Oiva Toikka shows in each of these exquisite birds from Finland. These are great choices for starting a collection or expanding an existing one from the area’s Scandinavian resource Velkommen, downtown Grand Forks.

Sizes, styles, and prices vary.

Silver chains with pine iridescent beads combine for a classy, modern look. Part of the jewelry collection at True Colors.

Take advantage of craftsmanship from generations past, dating back to a time of sole dependence on hand tools when craftsmen carefully planned and fitted their furniture. This Gentlemen’s Chest is available along with other selections from The Empire Mission Collection at the Amish Gallery at Home of Economy.

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Low-Fat Lime Delights 1 ½ cups low-fat graham cracker crumbs (about 5 ounces) 2 Tbsps. brown sugar Butter-flavored cooking spray 8-ounces light, tub cream cheese 1 Tbsp. lime zest 1 (14-ounce) can fat-free, sweetened condensed milk 1/3 cup lime juice (3 or 4 regular limes) Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

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) Combine cracker crumbs with brown sugar. Lay a sheet of aluminum foil in an 8 x 8 square baking pan, with the sides overhanging the edges. Tuck sides under. Spray foil-lined base with butter-flavored cooking spray. Press crumb mixture into pan.

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In a medium bowl, beat light cream cheese until softened. Add lime zest and condensed milk. Beat until smooth. Add lime juice and beat until well blended.

Pour lime mixture onto crumb base. Bake for 25-30 minutes, until center is just set and edges pull away slightly. Allow to cool. Chill for at least 2 hours. Cut into 16 bars.

144 calories per bar.

Poached Salmon Ingredients 1 pound center-cut salmon fillet, skinned and cut into 4 portions 1 cup dry white wine, divided 2 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil 1 large shallot, minced 2 tablespoons lemon juice 4 teaspoons capers, rinsed 1/4 cup reduced-fat sour cream 1/4 teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon chopped fresh dill

with Dill Sauce

Place salmon in a large skillet.

Add 1/2 cup wine and enough water to just cover the salmon.

Bring to a boil over high heat.

Reduce to a simmer, turn the salmon over, cover, and cook for 5 minutes. Remove from the heat.

Meanwhile, heat oil in a medium skillet over medium-high heat.

Add diced shallot and cook, stirring until fragrant, about 30 seconds. Add the remaining 1/2 cup wine; boil until slightly reduced, about 1 minute. Stir in lemon juice and capers; cook 1 minute more. Remove from the heat; stir in sour cream and salt.

To serve, top the salmon with the sauce and garnish with dill.

320 calories per serving.

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Safe Kids Corner

Lurking In Our Homes, Poisons Abound Written by Carma Hanson, Director of Safe Kids of Grand Forks

They are under our kitchen sink and in our bathroom linen cabinets. They can be found on the table in our family room or on the shelves of the laundry room or garage. Everyday products that we use around our homes can be poisonous to children if ingested, inhaled, or if it contacts the skin. Every March, we celebrate Poison Prevention Week, where we emphasize ways to keep children safe from the dangers of poisonous products.

Most poisonings occur in the children’s own home and usually happen in the evening hours. Safe Kids of Grand Forks reminds parents and caregivers of simple ways to keep poisons out of children’s hands.

• Keep all medications, cleaning agents, and poisonous products out of children’s reach. Items can be stored up high or in a locked cabinet, where kids can’t get to them.

Inexpensive cabinet locks can be installed on doors or drawers where dangerous products are kept.

• Keep all products in their original containers. While bargain shoppers might opt for larger quantity sized containers, having products in the bottles that they came in is important. Often, beverage containers or jugs (and the products in them) look similar to poisonous products.

Children have no way of knowing which ones are dangerous to consume.

Should a poisoning occur, caregivers can take a few simple steps.

Syrup of Ipecac was a common substance given to induce vomiting so children expelled what they had ingested. That is no longer the case. Instead, activated charcoal is usually the recommendation, but it is best to have it administered in the emergency room. The product is thick, smells awful, and is tough to get children to swallow. Rather

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• Remind kids that they should not eat or drink anything that is not given to them by an adult. Currently, many products that are potentially dangerous can look like “safe items.” For example, gummy vitamins, when taken in the recommended daily dose, are safe for children. However, they look, feel, and taste just like the gummy or fruit snacks that many children eat in larger quantities. This can be confusing to children. Also, some medications are in the shape of lollipops (or “suckers”) so children will take them without refusal. Again, this sends mixed messages to children. Store vitamins and other medications as such out of children’s sight and reach; and refer to them as medicine rather than candy in an attempt to get children to take it.

than keeping this product on hand in the home and wasting valuable time attempting to get children to drink it, it is best to go immediately to a health care facility. You can always call 9-1-1 in a poison emergency, or keep at hand the number to the National Poison Control Center, where poison experts are always on-hand to assist with questions about potential or actual poisoning: 1-800-222-1222. Safe Kids of Grand Forks has free stickers or magnets with the poison control hotline so you can place it in a handy location. Adding the poison control hotline to your mobile phone can also help prevent anxious moments when time is critical.

Recently, Safe Kids has provided education on another emerging poison danger in a household product that most of us have lying on our coffee tables, in our purses, or perhaps on the bathroom floor. Button-style batteries, the ones that look like a coin, have become a danger to children. If a child’s product contains this type of battery, it must have a secured cover, usually one with a small screw affixing the battery in an enclosed comp a r t m e n t .

However, many products in our homes such as remote controls, car starters, singing greeting cards, digital thermometers, or bathroom scales contain these small and easily ingested batteries. Unlike a coin, if swallowed, these button batteries cause a danger in that the saliva eats through the battery’s coating within as little as three hours. The acid from the battery is released into the stomach and intestinal tract. This can cause burns to occur, often requiring surgical intervention, and reports have occurred of deaths from button style batteries. If you suspect that a button battery has been swallowed, get the child to the emergency room immediately so that emergency personnel can take x-rays and develop a removal plan. In case of battery ingestion, caregivers and the medical team must act quickly.

To learn more, visit www.thebatterycontrolled. com.

Anyone who has cared for toddlers and young children know that they learn about and explore their environment by putting things in their mouth. Our role as caregivers is to ensure that their environment is free from products that can present a poisoning danger. Children act quickly, but so does poison! Poison prevention is critical and one that requires extra vigilance, every time we bring new products into the home and find places to store them. For more information on poison safety or to obtain your free stickers or magnets, contact Safe Kids of Grand Forks at safekids@altru.org. [GCW] Safe Kids Corner is sponsored by

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…And How is Mom Doing?

By Autumn Graber

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Kayla walked into the clinic waiting room and up to the nurse’s desk to check in for her appointment. Cradling the handle of her six-week-old son’s car safety seat in the crook of her right arm, she said, “I have a 10:00 a.m. appointment with Dr. Richards.” Kayla was a brand new mom with hopes of being the best mom she could be. She wanted to raise a kind and thoughtful child and give him all the tools he needed to grow into a young man that she could be proud of. However, all she could think of was how she was supposed to be happy, yet she felt such sadness. She had overwhelming feelings of failure, but cast them off because she figured that’s how all new moms felt.

For the past six weeks, she scarcely slept and sometimes fantasized about walking out the door and not looking back.

Why did she want to run away? She thought at some point, something would happen to help snap her out of this funk. Her time came, and the nurse asked her back to the exam room. After running through the usual list of questions that Kayla answered without even having to think about them, the nurse finally wrapped up the questions with, “and how is mom doing?” At that moment, Kayla broke down in tears. Once she caught her breath enough to form a sentence, she said, “You are the first person to ask me that in six weeks.”

Kayla was exhibiting the signs and symptoms of postpartum depression. If you can relate to Kayla’s story, then there is new help for you in North Dakota.

Dr. Sara Kenney, Psychologist and former Grand Forks resident has realized the need in North Dakota to develop the right channels that doctors, nurses, doulas, and midwives need to take when faced with diagnosing or realizing the symptoms of postpartum depression. “A lot of medical doctors say they know how to identify it, but they don’t really know what to do with it beyond that,” said Dr. Kenney. “Some doctors don’t feel comfortable with nursing women on medications.” Due to the lack of resources in our state, she has started Pregnancy and Postpartum Support North Dakota. “As far as I know, I’m the only one trained [in North Dakota], in the perinatal mood disorders like anxiety and depression.” There are many therapists and Psychologists trained in other forms of anxiety and depression, but as Dr. Kenney points out, there can be a big difference when dealing with these disorders in a woman who has just given birth. “For some women, maybe you had some anxiety and depression before your pregnancy and this just amplified it or put you into a bipolar disorder because of the change in hormones.”

Dr. Kenney has been the state coordinator for the Postpartum Support International (PSI) organization for six years and is also the regional coordinator for the upper Midwest. PSI is the world’s largest non-profit organization dedicated to helping women suffering from perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. It is her hope to develop a training curriculum for those who can diagnose postpartum depression in women and give them the proper tools and resources to help them recover. “About one in five women will experience postpartum depression or anxiety,” she said. “It is the most common complication of child birth—more common than gestational diabetes—and we don’t screen for it regularly.”

Right now, when a woman from anywhere in the state who thinks she is suffering from postpartum depression calls the warm line through PSI, she is directed to Dr. Kenney’s office number. With the development of Pregnancy and Postpartum Support North Dakota, Dr. Kenney has plans to train more therapists and psychologists in the treatment of postpartum depression, in addition to creat-

ing peer-run support groups in each community. “A lot of support groups across the country are run by moms,” said Dr. Kenney.

The Pregnancy and Postpartum Support group hopes to partner with the nursing colleges and the University of North Dakota School of Medicine to encourage education in postpartum depression. “We are training our next generation of doctors and nurses, and they need to get that information so they can adequately identify it and know what to do with it and where to go for treatment.”

Kenney says the education could be used toward continuing education credits for nurses and therapists already practicing.

A number of screening forms are available in the waiting room that mothers can fill out while waiting for their appointments, like the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale, which includes “ten questions that the nurses could quickly score and see whether or not they need more treatment,” Kenney said. If a diagnosis of postpartum depression goes untreated, it can result in furthering chronic depression and anxiety and breaking down the family and the woman suffering from it. The children are also at risk of being affected. “There is research that shows that women who struggle during pregnancy with their mood can have kids that have more oppositional behaviors when they are older.” There is also a possibility that women suffering from postpartum depression could neglect their child because they are so depressed and can’t get out of bed or abuse them because they are stressed.

Dr. Kenney hopes to have a board of directors established by the end of the year and has already filed for a 501c3 status. If you are a healthcare professional in search of continuing education on the topic of postpartum depression, a mom who has experienced postpartum depression and wants to host a support group in your area, or just someone who cares, you can get involved with this new organization by contacting Dr. Sara Kenney by email at drsara@bloomingprairiecenter.com or by phone at 701662-8255. [GCW]

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This Day

By Shannon Teigen

“I know why I don’t look at these things.” I claimed to my husband, referring to the photo albums piled up across the table, desk, and floor. I didn’t give him a chance to respond as he stood there, shrugging his shoulders and raising his eyebrows. “It makes me sad to see all these pictures of when they were little and how fast that time went,” I said, referring to our children, who posed in the various pictures spread across the room.

We were preparing for our oldest daughter’s graduation from high school this spring. Over the years, we have attended several open house events honoring our friends’ children. I recalled that these events exemplified the tradition of showcasing pictures—past and present—of the graduate. One of these showcases that stuck with me was the display of team photos that Randi and Sarah Anfinson had nestled around their daughter Amy’s awards and accomplishments. I thought it was such a great way to use all those team pictures from T-ball, soccer, dance, and skating.

Amy babysat our children. And, we watched Amy grow up through the skating club, church, and of course, as a trusted caregiver to our children when they were small. The Anfinsons, and many other parents, have passed through this rite. Now it was our turn to showcase the growth of one of our own, and it was making me feel melancholy.

Each picture reminded me of a treasured memory, triggered a silly laugh, or evoked tears that soaked through my water-proof mascara. Each picture evoked a different emotion: amusement at the toddler sporting upside-down sunglasses while hugging our burly dog, Trapper (which was, by the way, her first word – not mama or dada, but “Apper”); sympathy for the little girl in her Cinderella Halloween costume right before she got sick from eating too much candy; and quiet pride at the nine-year old young lady that trusted a buckskin horse for her first solo ride with no parent walking beside her holding the lead rope tethered to the horse’s halter. These pictures made me wonder: Had I done all that I was supposed to do? Did I raise my daughter right? And, were my parenting skills good enough?

Then, I started looking at more recent pictures. I saw the young lady who scored the soccer goals during her senior year, the strong woman who had earned bars, medals, and ropes in the high school JROTC program, and the compassionate young adult, cradling her young cousin as he drifted off to sleep. She had grown into an adult in such a short time.

Shannon Teigen | Writer Shannon writes from her rural hobby ranch that is nestled in the peace and quiet of the North Dakota countryside. Her family, consisting of her husband, two teenage daughters, and one son, is the farthest thing from being peaceful and quiet, but she wouldn’t trade it for anything. After graduating from UND, Shannon established her career with foundation blocks of marketing, sales, customer service, human relations, and communications.

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Yes, I did my very best, with what I had to work with at the time. Parenting my third child is different than my first because I have more knowledge. Being at a different stage in my life allows me to have more patience with my children (though, not always). Not having to pack a diaper bag and get bottles ready makes my life less stressful in some ways; however, it also means that my children are not as dependent on me, and that triggers feelings of happiness as well as sadness.

As I made the final picture choices that would be scattered amongst the JROTC awards, 4-H plaques, and newspaper clippings that would showcase our graduate, I realized that I did my best at caring for, raising, and influencing our daughter. But it wasn’t just me—it was also my husband, parents, aunts, and uncles. Over the years, there were others doing their very best too—teachers, coaches, bosses, friends, parents of friends, and babysitters. We gain so much from others around us.

I felt silly asking myself if I had done enough. Sure, I could have shown more patience some days, I could have said and done things differently, and I could have utilized more teachable moments. We can always do better—depending on the circumstances. Instead of questioning what we could have done, let’s ask the real question: Did we do our very best at the time? That is the question we need to say “yes” to.

As we grow and time passes, we all gain more of what we need. Tomorrow, you will have more tools to work with, whether it is time, money, knowledge, or patience.

And tomorrow, you will do your best with those tools. As for today, I urge you to do your best with the tools that you have available to you and say, “Yes, I did my very best on this day.” [GCW]

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Tammy Sayler Little Miracles with Big Smiles Photography by Autumn Graber | Written by Autumn Graber

Tammy Sayler saw a need in our community and filled the void. “I thought it would be cool to have a place kids could go for daycare, but also get therapy and education needs addressed in the same place,� said Tammy Sayler, owner of Little Miracles in Grand Forks.

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We all can relate to a hectic life.

At some point, we have all been pulled in several different directions simultaneously, and would have given just about anything for a moment of peace and normalcy. Throw kids into the equation, and now you have work competing with family life. At this moment, while writing this article, I have a two-year-old begging to sit on my lap.

“Pweess, mommy?” he asks with a loving smile. I cannot refuse.

Women are great at multitasking. We figure out how to arrange work schedules to accommodate getting to our jobs on time and sneaking out on a fifteen-minute break to run the kids to baseball practice or a dentist appointment. Now imagine having a child with special needs. Depending on his or her needs, the child could need speech therapy, occupational therapy, or physical therapy two times a week. Families with special needs children struggle with decisions, like whether to have a twoincome household or have a parent that stays home with the kids. The issue, if one parent stays home, is how to pay the bills and still maintain a normal family lifestyle for the children.

Tammy Sayler saw a need in our community and filled the void. “I thought it would be cool to have a place kids could go for daycare, but also get therapy and education needs addressed in the same place,” said Tammy Sayler, owner of Little Miracles in Grand Forks.

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After graduating from the University of North Dakota with a Masters in Physical Therapy, Tammy went to work for an early intervention program, assisting children in their own home. These children were under three years of age and identified as being at risk or developmentally delayed. “In doing that, I got a stronger sense of the challenge parents face with special needs kids.” On average, children with special needs have therapy appointments two to three times a week. “That is a good two and a half hours out of your day and five hours a week. Who can take five hours a week out of a job?” In addition, if you have a child who is medically compromised, appointments with specialists and hospital stays are not unusual. “It became clear to me that it is nearly impossible to be a full-time working parent with a child with significant needs.”

Thus, an idea was born. Little Miracles opened its doors on May 15, 2006 with eight employees, which has now grown to 41 employees, including seven therapists. Twenty percent of the 80 children that they now service in the daycare setting have special needs. “You don’t have to have special needs to come here,” said Tammy. “We take children that are more medically involved and have more behavioral issues because we have the support of the therapist staff.” The daycare staff positions are typically filled with college students seeking medical, speech, nursing, or teaching degrees.

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Little Miracles holds free developmental screening clinics on a quarterly basis at their new location, 2200 Library Circle. They have a physical therapist, occupational therapist, and speech-language pathologist on hand to assess all areas of development.

For information on the clinics, go to www.littlemiraclesinc.com or call them at 701-772-3851.

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Parents connect with the caregivers and therapists in a setting that doesn’t feel clinical for the child. “It feels like home, so it feels less like therapy.” Little Miracle therapists interact with the teachers on a regular basis and can see a child’s progress more often rather than only seeing them at scheduled therapy appointments.

“She had a stroke of genius,” said Heidi Thompson, speech and language pathologist for Little Miracles. “[Tammy] decided that she could open up a daycare that would allow these children to receive all of their therapies in a completely natural environment. Perhaps the most important thing is that these children have constant support and care because the people who know their abilities the best are working right alongside their daycare providers.”

Each classroom teacher is open to suggestions from therapists regarding daily activities for those children involved in therapy services. “The teachers are invested,” said Tammy. “They are open to the therapists giving them feedback.”

The Little Miracles caseload has changed over the past two years. Little Miracles has built solid relationships with local physicians, and the amount of referrals for therapy has increased dramatically, leading Tammy to realize that her company is growing. “A large percent of our clients are from outpatient referrals, so they just come for therapy.” Now that Little Miracles employs seven therapists with a growing client list, the need for more room became evident.

Tammy opened a new location on Library Circle just for outpatient therapy clients.

This new location houses breakout rooms for uninterrupted therapy, office space for therapists, and a large sensory area where the children and therapists have room to work on occupational and physical therapy activities that encourage physical development. “It’s a sign of growth,” smiled Tammy.

Little Miracles has an open door policy with many of the community agencies in Grand Forks that work in the children’s best interest. “We are connected with local services because of the kinds of kids we see,” said Tammy.

In addition to providing therapy services and daycare, the center is a licensed preschool. Terry overseas lesson plans to make sure they are appropriate for development and also assures there is modification for those students with special needs so they can participate in daily class activities.

As a parent, I know it means a great deal to know that you have left your children with someone who can care for and protect them as you would. Recently, a mother of an 8-year-old with behavioral issues approached Tammy after picking her daughter up from her first day at the center. The mother had tears in her eyes as she told Tammy, “This is the first time that I have picked her up from daycare or school that she has said she had a good day and liked it.”

Tammy has even employed two adults with special needs that she once treated early on in her career. “I am vested and personally affected by things that happen here,” she said. “It’s not just a job.”

Just as Tammy finished her final thought, the door to her office opened and Adam, a well-known fixture at the center and special needs child, entered and gave Tammy a big hug. “It’s not just work,” she smiled. “It’s a big piece of who I am.”

Tammy is perceived by her employees and clients as a mother to all 80 children in her care. “She is simply a wonderful person,” said Thompson. “She is completely compassionate, loving, and invested into making this company and her family the best that it can be.”

Tammy doesn’t want to think about what it would be like if Little Miracles didn’t exist. “I would be letting the people down that depend on us so much.” [GCW]

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Caring for a disabled or aging family member can sometimes make you feel alone

There is a critical need in North Dakota, especially in rural and tribal areas as our population ages. Education for in-home care providers is paid for by the Division of Medical Services and highly qualiďŹ ed registered nurses customize the training to suit the provider and the client. If you care for someone in his or her home, contact TrainND about taking advantage of our specialized training. Training includes suggestions to help you understand the aging process or living with a disability—and that makes it easier on you.

If your client qualiďŹ es, you could receive reimbursement for your time to provide home care.

701-662-1578 1-800-443-1313 ext. 21578 annie.alexander@lrsc.edu www.lrsc.edu/workforce