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Contents JanUaRY/FEBRUaRY 2020

LooK 12 Accessories pearls, beads and colourful gemstones

16 Back to work Bags, blazers and heels to mix and match

19 What’s on our

fashion radar?

20 2020 trends round up the hottest runway looks 28 Who wears the trousers? culottes make a comeback 30 The delicate side of fashion: soft tailoring, exotic prints and dressed-up denim 40 Get the look Flowing slips, silky pastels and loud prints 42 Pan-African fashion Featuring Nungu Diamonds

FEE L 46 2020 beauty report the hottest trends straight to your makeup stand 51 What’s on our beauty radar?

52 DIY beauty How to whip up your own products 54 Lunar influence Harness the emotional benefits of the moon’s phases 56 Funktastic beauty Just add colour – lots of it 64 Pan-African beauty Featuring Natural Hair co

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Li V E 68 Jennifer Lopez Movie, pop and fashion icon

74 The French connection editor-in-chief Asanda sizani’s insider look at louis Vuitton spring/summer ’20 78 Never on time? you could be suffering from chronic lateness 80 Half your age How does dating someone much older or younger than you work?

82 Why so serious? comedian Donovan goliath on the funny side of life 86 20 for 2020 the fashion designers to watch over the next decade

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PHOTOGRAPHY: Dan Drury, Gregory Scaffidi/IMAXtree.com

98 Are you in a toxic relationship? get out of it – fast!

106 What’s your love language? How five millennials discovered theirs 110 Work it can you get ripped in just 20 minutes a day?

114 Spots 115 Books 116 Veggie tapas Delicious Mediterranean recipes from the Athletic club & social 119 Stockists 120 The women who made me By the petersen twins

40 PhoToGRaPhY: Maarten de Boer/NBc universal/getty Images

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EDITOR’S LETTER

Future

THIS MONTH I’M LOVING

I visited the Villioti Fashion Institute recently, a fashion-design institution founded in Joburg in 2004. What was meant to have been a brief visit turned into an inspiring conversation with Spero Villioti, a prolific designer in his own right. We paged through his archives and walked through the school premises. I entered each room, met students and lecturers, and saw a handful of graduate collections in their early stages.

Days later, during the Viliotti Fashion Institute’s graduates’ runway show, it was touching to see the venue filled with parents who understand their children are on the cusp of launching their fashion careers and have decided to encourage and support them.

I took in each collection, hopeful for the future of local fashion. There’s no shortage of extraordinary design talent in this country.

But fashion graduates can’t rely on talent alone to survive because this industry is looking for grit, passion and a unique point of view. The technical and business skills taught at design institutions are an invaluable foundation from which to launch, and sustain, a fashion career.

As it’s the first month of the new year, I’d like to challenge every content creator, retailer, PR agency, and anyone who has a platform, a voice and influence, to support and promote local.

Young designers need our support if we want our fashion industry to thrive. ’Til next month!

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1. Clutch bag Giambattista Valli X h&M PoR. 2. Hat Crystal Birch R1 250. 3. Boots still Life R1 399.

4. Perfume Maison Francis Kurkdjian Paris À la rose R3 090. 5. Necklace Zara R359.

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PHOTOGRAPHY: Austin Malema, supplied ASANDA WEARS: giambattista Valli X H&M

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This Month On

JEnniFER LoPEZ

Nobody owned 2019 like this movie star, pop sensation and fashion icon.

This month, Glamour editor-in-chief, Asanda Sizani’s favourite picks from the Giambattista Valli x H&M Collection.

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PHOTOGRAPHY: lauren luxenberg/laurenluxenberg.com HAIR & MAKEUP: glasshouse salon MODELS: Ishi oma at Mutha london and Mia cecily

ADD SPARKLE the year 2020 unifies every era, and every trend, that came before it – especially when it comes to jewellery. get ready to layer up and stand out.

Words by MIRA leIBoWItZ

this ’90s trend is back with a vengeance, in the form of necklaces, bracelets, earrings and more. think thick and chunky or slim and delicate, gold or silver, rhinestone-encrusted or hammered metals. Buy in and layer up because chains are all the rage.

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We’ve been seeing tons of oversized, brightly coloured, glistening jewels this season, in the form of necklaces, earrings and rings, to name but a few. It might feel a bit costume-y, but fashion is all about dressing up and having fun, so why not treat the world as your stage and rock them?

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taking it back to primary school lunch breaks, when we used to make each other youthful and colourful friendship bracelets, beads are making a major comeback. this summer is all about combining multiple trends to create a multilayered, eclectic look.

YEAR OF THE PEARL

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pearls will always be on trend: period. But pearls are dominating in a way we’ve never seen before, and we stan. Hair clips, chokers or earrings – it’s all about incorporating and layering pearl pieces with other statement accessories.

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Back to work

these blazers and heels, mixed and matched with wreckless abandon, take dressing for the job you want to a whole new level.

Blazing Button up a boxy blazer, whether it’s with a co-ord suit or jeans and a t. this season welcomes the oversized blazer – in all prints, colours and textures.

Wool-blend blazer Racil R10 659

Doublebreasted buttoned blazer Zara R1 199

Doublebreasted blazer country Road R2 499

Checked Jacket H&M R750 Check blazer Witchery R2 299

Wool-blend blazer Acne studios R8 218

taraji P. henson knows how to work a bold blazer in What Men Want

Stretchwool blazer Dolce & Gabbana R25 304

LOOK

Mules Aldo R1 199

Sandals Gucci poR

Step Up Not only are they timeless and trendy; block heels are sophisticated while giving your feet the comfort they need, from the boardroom to brunch.

in Legally Blonde, reese Witherspoon shows us who’s boss – in heels, of course

Heels Mango R1 399

Boots Zara R1 799

Sandals Mango R949

Mules call it spring R899

Sandals Zara R759

Pumps Miu Miu R11 146

Ankle boots Public Desire R899

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Miranda Priestly approves of this trend, that’s all

Shoulder bag ratio et Motus R6 657

Clutch bag

By Far R7 567

Croc-effect bag Mango R949

Tote bag staud Frida R4 216

Carry On At the moment, we’re all about the croc look: strong, structured bags that add value and polish to your back-to-work looks.

Mixed leather bag Mango R1 199

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Animal print bag Zara R399

WORDS BY: Mira leibowitz PHOTOGRAPHY: Moviestore/ReX/shutterstock, supplied

Belt bag superbalist R259

Carryall coach poR

LOOK

iConiC shaDEs

A collaboration between Kate Moss and christian Roth (cFDA), this eyewear pays homage to early ’90s glamour (available at eyeconik, Melrose Arch).

DisaRonno wEaRs DiEsEL

Fashion and cocktails go hand-in-hand. this limited-edition Disaronno label was designed in cahoots with streetwear legend, Diesel. guess what we’ll be drinking this summer?

Disaronno Fizz: ice, fresh lemon, Disaronno and soda.

WORDS BY: Mira leibowitz, tania Durand, Jason Alexander Basson PHOTOGRAPHY: Frederico ciamei, supplied

what’s on our

FASHION rADAr? It’s a new year, and we’ve got lots on our radar, from sneakers to concept stores.

aT LasT, REsoRT!

last November, the Mother city showcased the best in destination dressing our country has to offer at the inaugural cape town Resort collections, produced by gavin Rajah in partnership with pick ’n pay clothing.

This month, Puma releases their muchanticipated Puma x Random Event collab, a unisex collection that brings the best of this edgy Chinese streetwear brand to the fore.

ConCEPT FoR CURaTED We’re as excited as you are about tiaan Nagel opening a concept store in Hyde park, Joburg, which curates and celebrates locally made, timeless pieces, from fashion to homeware.

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2020 trends

round up GiorGio ArMAni

Hot off the runway, Glamour brings you this season’s must-haves.

TREnCh CoaTs

the pastel-hued trench coat is the new summer staple.

toKYo JAMes

erDeM

Brooch Zara R249

BROOCHES Want an instant wardrobe update?

Why not add this season’s most surprising comeback: the brooch?

Brooch next R112

rYAn KeYes

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this candy shade was seen all over the runways this season – and we love it!

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’80S GLAM This retro look has been given a modern twist.

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BAlMAin

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TaKE ThE PLUnGE

Blazer isabel Marant at net-a-porter.com poR

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Risqué necklines are set to make a bold statement this year. go on – your wardrobe deserves it!

Do BE sQUaRE proenza schouler, loewe and stella Mccartney are among the luxury brands to declare the square toe the newest silhouette.

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ProenZA schouler

BotteGA venetA

Dolce & GABBAnA

BAlMAin

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TiED UP

BrAnDon MAXWell

KAte sPADe

Wrap a scarf around your head, paired with hoop earrings, or around your waist in place of a belt.

T-SHIRT Nothing screams 90s more than wearing your classic white tee under your dress.

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louis vuitton

Dolce & GABBAnA

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A reminder of what matters most!

FenDi

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naTURE MArni

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Gert-JohAn coetZee

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BELTED

Blouse next R380

Dolce & GABBAnA

Dries vAn noten

WILD THING Nothing that looks this fierce should be confined to the jungle.

Ports internAtionAl

BurBerrY

update your look by adding a flattering, waist-cinching belt to your blazer.

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BotteGA venetA

GivenchY

chAnel

Bag superbalist R429

Go BiG oR Go hoME

herMes

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AleXAnDer McQueen

vAlentino

stellA MccArtneY

GiorGio ArMAni

Handbags in 2020 are supersized. the bigger, the better.

MODEL ANOK YAI Anok has taken the runways by storm this season, having been the first model to open for Prada since Naomi Campbell and the newest face of EstĂŠe Lauder.

MAX MArA

BrAnDon MAXWell

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sAlvAtore FerrAGAMo

DARE TO BARE This season is all about breaking the rules. Not sure what to wear underneath your power suit?

How about nothing?

We’re here for it.

MichAel hAlPern

uniteD colors oF Benetton

BorA AKsu

WORDS BY: Mira leibowitz, tania Durand, Jason Alexander Basson PHOTOGRAPHY: Daniel Zuchnik/ gallo Images/getty Images, Isidore Montag/IMAXtree.com, Daniele oberrauch/IMAXtree.com, eunice Driver, Rey cortez, carlo scarpato/IMAXtree.com, Armando grillo/IMAXtree.com, salvatore Dragone/IMAXtree.com, Alessandro Viero/IMAXtree.com, paulo lanzi/IMAXtree.com, Filippo Fior/ IMAXtree.com, Andrea Adriani/IMAXtree.com, IMAXtree.com, courtesy of press office

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GEEK ChiC embrace your inner child with this styling trick.

LOOK

DIVIDE Ignore the naysayers; this trend has legs. culottes are making a comeback.

Words by JeN NuRIcK

ho wears the trousers? That was the perennial and political question thrown up at the 51st Wimbledon Championship in 1931 when Elsa Schiaparelli dressed tennis champion Lili Alvarez in a pair of culottes. The bold choice ignited the press, which condemned Alvarez and set the tone for the divisive reception of the pants.

Dating back to the 1500s, when they were the exclusive domain of French aristocratic men, it wasn’t until the Victorian era that the ‘divided skirt’ became available to everyone. To resolve the quandary of riding bicycles and horses, women too adopted the silhouette, thereby associating culottes with liberty, practicality and style.

“With origins rooted in menswear, [culottes] are an empowering piece, focussing on what they feel like wearing, rather than how others will respond to them,” says Sohyun Joo, US head buyer of curated e-store W Concept, where customers have been reintroduced to the style in linen, leather and denim varieties. “[Though culottes exude] a mood that maintains professionalism, these pants are much more versatile and provide

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at Gucci autumn/winter ’19/’20, when the royal’s ensemble from her 1991 Brazil tour was immortalised once more. Culottes were paired with a revised version of the princess’ doublebreasted vest in long sleeves, which Alessandro accessorised with a tie for good measure. Elsewhere, amid the fallen leaves at Khaite’s forest, a leather pair, teamed with just-below-theknee boots, flashed a surprising hint of flesh. Meanwhile, at Off-white, silk culottes fell down the legs like liquid, conservatively layered over trousers and pooling at diamante encrusted heels.

Sohyun says tailoring is key. “The most important feature for culottes is the length: the most flattering [should be] hitting right at the slimmest point of your leg, falling a few centimetres above the ankle,” she adds. And, for a seamless transition between work and weekend wear, replace a tucked-in blouse with a cropped top or swop flat shoes for a pair of heels. Easy.

Zara R1 399

“The most flattering [should be] hitting the slimmest point of your leg”

h&M R99

Forever new R899

Shop the look.

tory Burch R6 265

many more styling options than the tailored suit-pants,” Sohyun adds.

Margaret Howell, Acne Studios and Michael Kors reified this versatility in their respective collections. The pant’s mutability was shown off – each brand interpreted the silhouette with cuffs, pleats and paper-bag waists. As Sohyun says: “With the wide-pants trend dominating throughout the past several seasons, culottes have entered more aggressively than ever as its seasonal sister.”

For proof, turn to Paris, where culottes were solidified into the bedrock of Hedi Slimane’s new guard at Celine. Versions were worn on the runway in pleated houndstooth, chevron wool, autumnal tartans and denim emphasised utility. At Dior, Maria Grazia Chiuri extended their application, pairing culottes in oversized plaid patterns with fitted blazers to defamiliarise traditional feminine shapes.

Styling cues abounded. Princess Diana may well have played on the subconscious of Alessandro Michele oFF-White

PHOTOGRAPHY: edward Berthelot/gallo Images/getty Images, carlo scarpato/IMAXtree.com, tim graham/gallo Images/getty Images, salvatore Dragone/IMAXtree.com

rIGHT: princess Diana in 1991

though power dressing is set to make a massive comeback in 2020, let’s not forget the quiet strength that exudes from the more delicate side of fashion: the friendship between soft tailoring, tonal pastels, dressed-up denim and exotic prints – all that much stronger worn together.

Words by JasON aleXaNDer BassON Photography by CarOliNa aMOretti

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Sleeveless denim shirt, striped denim skirt, veiled hat and ring all Dior

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Slip dress twinset Milano; heels No.21 by alessandro dell’acqua; bodysuit intimissimi; cashmere trousers falconeri; patent white heels sergio rossi; satin maxi dress and earrings both salvatore ferragamo; cashmere jersey falconeri; white silk dress Boss; slingback heels sportmax

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Dress with belt fendi; bodysuitshirt Manila grace

OppOsite page

Orange bodysuit and tights both Wolford; brown mini dress Brown; flared pants fracomina

this page

Suit, blazer and trousers all Calvin Klein; sandals No.21 by alessandro dell’acqua; wool coat Clips More; silk top Clips; shear shapewear Yamamay

OppOsite page

bodysuits, trousers and stretch dress all Kaos accessories; slingback heels sportmax; patent slippers sergio rossi

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Denim striped mini skirt United Colors of Benetton; sleeveless denim shirt, striped denim skirt, veiled hat and ring all Dior; bodysuit fantabody; striped jeans United Colors of Benetton; Knitted sweater and silver sandals ermanno scervino; earrings Dior

fashion Editor : alice Manfroni hair & MakE Up : serena Congiu ModEls: Nora U at elite Models, giulia Bets, leyla Degan, Jo gandola, sara pavan. in Collaboration with Martina amato and sofia atzori

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Jersey dress with slit and buckle elisabetta franchi; coat with faux fur collar la Kore

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sustainable textile and fashion designer sindiso Khumalo talks to us about her brand and dressing fresher this year.

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What’s the story behind your brand? i studied architecture at the University of Cape Town. Then, i travelled to london for work experience, where i ended up working for architect David adjaye. i was enamoured by the world of textile, fashion and industrial design. social media didn’t exist back then, so everything felt like it had been unearthed for the first time. i started cheating on architecture with fashion magazines, and applied to Central st Martins College, also in london, to study a Masters in textiles. after i got in, the rest is history.

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(1) Coat Kwaidan editions R17 420 (2) Blazer Witchery R1 799 (3) Skirt H&M R729 (4) Heels Zara R859 (5) Earrings Mango R249 (6) Earrings Mango R199 (7) Bodysuit Witchery R499 (8) Jacket gRlfRND R4 160 (9) Sunglasses Mango R399 (10) Dress Zara R679 (11) Jeans Maylee R600 (12) Hat superbalist R399 (13) Shirt H&M R1 449 (14) Scrunchie Cotton On R49

What colours are on your radar this year? i love red. Clever use of colour has a powerful way of changing a mood or feeling.

Five must-have items?

New shoes, a summer dress made from natural fabrics, sunglasses, gold hoop earrings and sunscreen.

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PAN AFRICAN FASHION

The Jewels of Africa Nungu Diamonds is helping to decolonise African luxury by putting the continent first, where it belongs.

Words by jASoN AlexANDer bASSoN

hat does it mean to be proudly African in today’s fashion and luxury goods industry? What does it take? Trends used to be dictated by the West, even when those narratives referenced our continent. Today, we have a stronger sense of pride in our industry than ever before, yet foreign labels and luxury imports are still considered more aspirational or carry more weight – especially in terms of monetary value – despite the fact many of the raw materials used in the fabrication process come from Africa. How do we change this mindset and empower our continent?

To answer this question, we spoke to Kealeboga Pule, who’s the founder and managing director of Nungu Diamonds, a proudly South African, black-owned business that’s flipping the script on the bespoke jewellery and diamond trade.

How did ‘Nungu’ (Swahili for porcupine) become the brand’s moniker?

The porcupine is resilient, agile and able to defend itself against ‘the kings of the wild’. It’s distinctly African and embodies the spirit of Nungu Diamonds and the people behind it. Founding a first-generation, black-owned diamond business has had its fair share of challenges, which we’ve met with a will to survive and an unwavering belief in our ability to build an impactful brand that tells a new story about diamonds.

What is that story?

It’s about diamonds in the context of Africa and the role of the continent

in the global luxury industry. First and foremost, we had to understand that diamonds are an African natural resource. The narrative of diamonds, concerning the African continent, is due for renewal, and it should be told by local people. The porcupine’s small size is grounding, because regardless of how big our business becomes, it’ll always remind us where we came from; that we were once small, hungry, and eager to grow and seek new opportunities.

These are qualities that have sustained us, and that will contribute toward our continual growth.

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The diamond industry is surrounded by controversy. What distinguishes Nungu, in terms of its practice and ethos, from other purveyors of diamond products and fine jewellery?

Provenance is one of our key pillars.

Knowing and understanding the origin of our diamonds gives us a unique opportunity to play an active role in ensuring that the diamonds we buy, cut, polish and sell to our customers are sourced from reputable mining companies whose business practices, particularly their mining processes, adhere to best-practice principles and are sustainable.

What has the brand done to empower and uplift women?

Women have contributed significantly to my personal development; as a man, an entrepreneur and a husband. My mother’s strength inspired me to look for the same quality in women, which I found in my wife and business partner.

She brings a much-needed dynamic to the brand, as a woman and a creative.

Women cut and polish our diamonds, and my business associates are also women.

The contribution women have made to my personal life is immeasurable, and I consider myself a champion of the development and inclusion of women in all spheres of life, including business.

You celebrate iconic women.

PhotograPhy: Supplied

Carolyn Steyn has continued Nelson Mandela’s legacy of Ubuntu with her ‘67 Blankets’ initiative, which

LEFT: Kealeboga Pule and his wife, Ursula RIGHT: Dineo Moeketsi and her husband, Zothile ‘Solo’ langa

has touched the lives of many people who are less fortunate than others.

She’s helping to build the South Africa Nelson Mandela dreamed of. We showed our gratitude by gifting her with a bespoke ‘67 Blankets’ diamondencrusted brooch.

Bonang Matheba’s resilient spirit has inspired many young South Africans.

She continues to do great things in the media space and business. For Bonang, we immortalised her logo in diamonds and rose gold, a symbol of living forever in South African history. We also had the pleasure of making Dineo Moeketsi’s wedding ring.

Who is the Nungu customer?

Our customers believe diamonds are as much a part of our heritage as our rich cultures, and as such, should be worn with pride. They also acknowledge it’s time for Africa to claim its rightful place in the world of luxury. Africa’s natural resources should serve the development of our economies and,

more symbolically, mark the most significant moments in our lives.

What’s the biggest trend in diamonds and fine jewellery?

Bespoke. How you connect with and set a diamond should be personal. Gone are the days of telling the consumer what they want. Today’s consumer seeks an experience. They’re looking to connect on a deeper level with each purchase they make. Leading with the diamond allows the customer to dream.

What’s next for the brand?

We’re working on exciting projects that will see African diamonds incorporated into original designs that celebrate African culture, and Nungu’s Lifestyle Diamond accessories will demonstrate the versatility of the gems. Via our collaborations, we’ll extend the reach of diamonds, making them accessible to a wide range of consumers.

Kealeboga has served on the executive committee of the South African Diamond Manufacturers

“The narrative of diamonds, in relation to the African continent, is due for renewal, and it should be told by local people”

Association. He cofounded the South African Young Diamond Beneficiators Guild and serves as its vice president.

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B E AU T Y, I N S I D E A N D O U T

PhotograPhy: lauren luxenberg/laurenluxenberg.com haIr & MaKEUP: Glasshouse Salon MoDELS: Ishi Oma at Mutha london and Mia Cecily

ADORE RED

Now, this is a trend we can’t seem to shake. The best part is that you can create various hues of the same shade simply by layering the shade or adding a gloss.

Our favourite summer beauty trends, hot off the runway and straight to your makeup stand.

Words by JESÉ-CHÉ LILLIENFELDT

GENDER FLUID Girls who look like boys who look like girls. We’re attracted to models regardless of their gender identity. Look forward to a new breed of male stars this year.

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2020 Beauty Report

matty bovan

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STATEMENT EYES Graphic yet simple,

colourful yet chic and bold yet retro, these looks are pretty but also imperfect, which will leave you feeling bold, confident and rebellious.

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THE NUDE MOVEMENT

thierry mugler

emilia wickstead

Who knew the purist trend would take off? Plump up your skin with loads of moisturiser and add a light powder to give you gorgeous, supple and hydrated skin.

WOW BROWS

These brows are

masculine, strong, straight and unusual-looking, in striking contrast to bare skin. This look pops in black-andwhite photographs. âžť

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XXL NAILS elegant, subtle prints, shades and designs, allowing your nails’ shape and length to do the talking.

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CLEAR IDEA “Clear nails are a major story this season – lots of them, in different ways,” says internationally acclaimed nail artist Marian Newman.

Reverse French and chrome, crystal clear in every shape, stole the show.

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NAIL JEWELS

Don’t be fooled by their small size – these accessories have just the right amount of sass to draw your eyes in their direction.

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HAIRLINE We’re totes in love with 18th-century vibes. All you need is hair gel and an edge tamer (or toothbrush) to get creative. Let it dry, and you’re good to go.

BUNS from high, tight and sleek with expensive-looking pearl graphics to low spirals. These styles are whimsical and glamorous.

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Skinny, messy, weathered and slightly overworked – we’re taking a modern approach to school-girl plaits.

Modernise the braid by adding texture to centre partings. max mara

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KNOTS Create abstract styles by bringing your braids forward and running them along your hairline,

POWER PONY Powerful, sleek and perfect. Don’t you agree? You’re looking at every girl’s dream. The wrapped pony gives you chic, don’t-mess-with-me vibes and the dipped ’do screams vintage.

or crisscrossing them in different directions.

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Mj Rodriguez, who stars in the popular Netflix series Pose, was recently announced as Olay’s new spokesperson having entered a new partnership with Olay Body for the brand’s 14-day skin transformation campaign. The actor says she hopes to use the platform to bring attention to issues faced by the LGBTQ community. “I’m focusing on amplifying my voice, trying to get it out there as much as possible,” she says. You go, girl! We couldn’t be any prouder, and we’re right behind you.

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IDÔLE ambassadress Zendaya embodies all of these characteristics – and so too do the women who’ll love this perfume. Lancôme IDÔLE Eau De Parfum R1 590.

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SAVING THE PLANET

This proudly South African brand goes by the motto, ‘Things just got simpler’.

Having tried and tested this palmsized, not-so-average beauty product, we couldn’t agree more. It’s a water-, plastic- and cruelty-free shampoo bar, which means it won’t leave a mess behind. Each bar is packed with goodness and contains a variety of oils that either strengthen, hydrate, nourish or soften the hair.

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She’s a pop of many colours, pigmented and cute. We’re thrilled that MRP has launched a beauty range, including skincare, brushes, makeup and nails. It’s ticked all the right boxes, and got our year off to a good start.

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Keen to whip up skin- and hair-care prods yourself but don’t fancy the effort?

These simple combinations will leave you lathered in head-to-toe beauty goodness.

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MoisturisingAnd-Conditioning HAir MAsk What you’ll need: 2 tbsp coconut oil, 2 tbsp olive oil, 1 large egg and 3 tbsp honey.

How to: Mix all ingredients well in a bowl. Disperse over your entire scalp, then cover with cling wrap and a plastic bag. Do this before you wash your hair, ensuring you leave the mixture on for a minimum of one hour.

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FACe MAsk What you’ll need: ½ cup of any oil (coconut, almond, olive or grapeseed) and 2 tbsp brown sugar.

How to: Mix all ingredients in a bowl until the sugar has absorbed the oil. Then, lather a generous amount on your skin.

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sHoWer BoMB What you’ll need: 60 drops of rosemary essential oil (or any essential oil of choice), 1/3 cup liquid castile soap, 1/3 cup honey and 1/3 cup coconut oil.

How to: Place all ingredients into a blender and pour into a pumptop dispenser. Shake well before use. it has a one-year shelf life.

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CutiCLe oiL What you’ll need: 3 tsp olive oil, ½ tsp jojoba oil (optional), 10 drops lavender, rosemary and lemon essential oil.

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MAkeuP-reMoVer PAds What you’ll need: large cotton pads, ¼ cup baby oil, 2 tbsp baby shampoo and 1 ½ cups of water.

How to: Mix water, shampoo and oil in a large bowl. Ensure that the bottom of the jar you’ll be using to store your makeupremover pads in is covered in the liquid. Add +/- 10 cotton pads at a time to soak, gradually adding the liquid until it has been soaked up.

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TIP! Use a dry body brush as an effective way to combat cellulite. Make sure you brush in long strokes toward the top of your body.

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CeLLuLite sCruB What you’ll need: A muffin tray, 150g coconut oil and 180g freshly ground coffee.

How to: Melt coconut oil in a glass bowl over a pot of simmering water. Add ground coffee and mix well. ladle equal amounts of the mixture into the muffin tray, press down with the back of a tablespoon and place in the fridge to set.

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BronZing BodY Butter What you’ll need: A bottle with a lid or a spray container, ¼ cup of purified water, 2 tsp lightweight oil (baby oil or an oil of choice) and 2 tsp bronze eye shadow.

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The lunar influence Since ancient times, the moon has always been associated with femininity, and the subconscious and mystical. Many people believe it directly affects our mood, body and mind.

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n astrology, the moon is connected to the part of the emotional body that brings us joy and fulfilment.

Viewed as a feminine planet, she reflects how we feel about ourselves, deal with relationships and respond to situations, as well as our inner world, and deeper patterns of thinking and feeling.

Many people believe that the moon’s gravitational pull on ocean tides mirrors the influence it has on our emotions.

Considering the fact you’re made up of mostly water, it stands to reason the moon can also affect you. This pull is at its strongest when the moon is new and full; that’s when it’s lined up in a relatively straight line with the sun and earth. The sun’s gravitational pull combines with the moon’s, causing the highest and lowest tides. in native traditions, water is associated with the emotional body.

Simply put, the moon pulls on your emotional centre. And while it’s magnetic effect doesn’t cause the water in our bodies to physically move, it can bring heightened emotions to the surface.

The moon moves through eight different phases per month. let’s unpack four of the most talked-about and their impact on us.

tHe WAXing Moon The moon’s first step toward fullness.

When it’s new, it isn’t visible at all, until a tiny sliver of light appears in the sky. it’s only considered a crescent moon when less than one half of it is visible.

This allows for the greatest amount of change, sparking creative ideas for projects and plans, and encouraging

you to acquire new objects. it can also have a positive effect on your behaviour and outlook, so it’s the best time to get things moving in the right direction, edging closer to what you want to achieve. During this period, it would benefit you to reflect, meditate, and visualise, feeding inspiration and passion into the intentions that you set with the new moon. if you want to be more patient, more understanding in your relationships or develop a more positive attitude, now’s the time to work on it. Regenerate and grow – anything you do to strengthen and take care of yourself is more effective when the moon is waxing. Here’s an interesting nugget: according to folklore, if you cut your hair during this phase, it will grow back healthier and faster. But if you do this during the waning moon phase, it will become unhealthy and grow more slowly.

tHe neW Moon When the sun and moon are on the same side of the earth, the sun doesn’t illuminate the moon – which is why you can’t see it. Also known as the Seed Moon, this phase represents sprouting and new beginnings. You may want to sleep less and rise earlier, your appetite may increase and you may experience spurts of energy. The new moon brings about calmness, balance, energy and a renewed confidence in your ability to accomplish. Think of it as a retreat. it’s all about new beginnings, a fresh start and a clean slate. Use this time to reboot, throwing all unwanted thoughts and excess junk into the trash. Then, use the energy of a new moon to recharge. During this time, you may feel anti-social and introverted without being able to pinpoint why. it’s a good time to stay away from crowds and focus on yourself.

tHe WAning Moon As the moon recedes and approaches its new phase once again, it starts to look smaller. in the same way the waxing moon encourages you to be more expansive and outgoing in your actions, the waning moon should turn your mind toward de-cluttering.

The old cycle ends and the new one draws near. it’s the best time to withdraw from the world to rest, renew, release and purge. Think things over, contemplate and complete outstanding tasks, as you prepare for new seeds at the start of the next cycle. What do you need to banish?

Are there relationships or projects that are no longer serving you or that you’ve lost interest in?

tHe FuLL Moon Historically, a full moon has been the subject of many cultural myths surrounding its supposed effect on us – about anything from howling werewolves to the moon driving people to lunacy. This phase in the moon’s cycle is the most active and may increase your stamina and energy, especially in the evening. As much as a full moon magnifies your emotions and enhances your characteristics, good or bad, it can also make you feel things more intensely. The effect can be positive or negative, depending on your state of mind when the full moon rises. it also has a way of illuminating your sense of awareness and realisation – which can feel disruptive, resulting in more erratic behaviour, tension, or tiredness. You may feel anxious or emotionally upset. Research has shown that we sleep less during a full moon, so you must care for your body. A tip: pay more attention to rejuvenating your skin during this time, as it’s believed a full moon makes your skin more absorbent.

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Blush Flush Dusty, rosy cheeks, eyes and lips look gorgeous in summer. Oh, and how can we forget the temples and forehead? Swish your blush all over your face. We love BioNike Defence Color Pretty Touch Compact Blusher R175.

A fresh pop of colour sets the tone for the year ahead. Find yours, here.

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Green Light Add a pop of colour using a liquid liner in aquamarine. Glide the felt tip along your top lid extending the line at the outer corner. Try Givenchy KhĂ´l Couture Waterproof Eyeliner in Jade R405. âžť

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Golden Days Think of summer nights when you’re creating this sultry eye.

The aim is to layer hues of gold pigment, depending on how intense you want it to look. Don’t miss the inner corners and blend out your lower lash line for a striking effect.

We love ILIA Beauty Silken Shadow Stick in Age of Consent R615.

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Muted Glow

The trick is to cover your entire face, including your eyelids, with highlighter or shimmer stick, before applying foundation. A dewy finish ensures you radiate from the inside out. Try L.A. Girl Glowin’ Up Highlighting Jelly in Halo Glow R135. ➝

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Apply lip liner in deep fuchsia and over-line your lips to create dimension.

Once completed, fill your pout in with a matte lipstick for staying power.

Try Sisley Paris Hydrating Long Lasting Lipstick in Tangerine R715.

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Calluses

Thick and hardened layers of skin caused by repeated friction and pressure on a particular area of the skin. Calluses mainly occur on the balls of your feet. Quick solution?

Rest your paws in warm water and file away hardened layers with a foot file. Be sure to lock in moisture by applying lotion to your feet every day.

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Ingrown toenails Toenails that grow into the surrounding skin, usually caused by poorly trimmed or curved nails,

or compression or injury to your toes. Genetics may also play a role. Ingrown toenails cause a tremendous amount of soreness and tenderness. Depending on the severity, you can treat it at home with a warm-water soak, topical antibiotics and pain relievers. In more severe cases, when it becomes infected, red, oozes pus and the pain is unbearable, it’s advisable to consult your doctor.

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A bump on the side of your big toe, generally the result of tight or ill-fitting shoes.

Bunions cause your big toe to bend towards your smaller toes and makes it excruciatingly painful to walk. It may also cause inflammation and irritation in the toes next to it. Avoid standing for a long time as it may cause aggravation.

Wear shoes that fit, and use an over-thecounter (OTC) pain reliever.

Say no to cracked heels, and all sorts of funny feet issues, with this guide to common foot problems and their remedies.

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Fungal nail infection

Signs include yellow spots on your toenails, as well as streaking or scales, crumbling and flaking. The most common way fungi enter the toenail is via a moist and warm environment or contaminated nail equipment. Symptoms develop slowly but can become persistent if not treated correctly. Opt for an antifungal cream.

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Corns

Calluses and corns are formed in the same way. They’re circles of thickened skin on your toes or the sole of your foot, caused by trapped sweat.

Corns are your body’s way of preventing blisters on your feet and, at first, they usually aren’t painful. Hammertoe, bunions, or poor-fitting shoes may cause corns. Treat corns if they become irritated. OTC treatments such as corn plasters may relieve pressure on corns and allow them to heal. In severe cases, your doctor will recommend surgery.

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FEEL Natural Hair Co team captain Nyaki Tshabangu and communications captain Lindiwe van Staden are in the business of normalising natural hair. The duo tells us more about their breakthrough brand.

What inspired your business idea?

The idea behind Natural Hair Co stems from a desire to create a central access point for natural hair in South Africa. We started hosting live events and creating content on our website that gave entrepreneurs access to a market of women and men who want to learn about their natural hair and buy products – which, back in 2016, weren’t available at traditional retailers.

How do you choose brands to showcase on your platform?

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Our company has always been driven to empower local South African brands and create an ecosystem that includes product manufacturers, service providers and content creators. We work with brands that offer quality services and products and prioritise those that put education and inclusion first. Each month, we feature and collaborate with a brand, giving them exposure to our community through our Wash Day boxes – affordable box sets of products from brands that, we feel, our audience may want to try themselves.

Were there challenges?

What’s the most rewarding part of running your business?

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The personal stories that people have shared with us about the impact of the social reinforcement and community we’ve created. We’ve loved the gratification of knowing that what we do – the events, product sales and content we create – is making a difference to the way women see and feel about themselves.

What are your customers’ most pressing needs?

Everyone’s hair is different, and your hair-care routine should be an individual choice. Finding the right products to suit your hair’s texture takes time, but all that trial and error can be costly. We offer affordable Wash Day boxes, which allow our customers to try a different brand of products each month. Each box contains an easy-to-follow routine.

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Natural hair is still considered an unnatural choice, for many women (and men), because the general media has, for a long time, suggested that for hair to be considered beautiful, it must be long and fall straight down, as opposed to being kinky, coily, curly or growing upwards. The biggest challenge with this is portraying our hair in a way that people can accept and see the beauty in it. We’ve had to be conscious and strategic with the images and words we use to convey positive messaging that introduces and re-enforces the beauty of hair, as it grows out of your scalp.

“The reason we keep pushing to fulfil this dream is that we can see how the natural-hair community can employ women through entrepreneurship” What goals have you set for your business?

To launch a natural-hair event called Grown Fest in 2020. Centring around identity and stories, it will allow men and women to experience true African beauty and esteem. Our vision is to become the largest marketplace and most informative hub in Africa to shine a light on natural hair.

What inspires your success?

We’ve created an entirely new hairand-beauty market. Three years ago, there were virtually no products specifically for the largest target market in Africa: black women. We’ve not only created a seat at the table, but we’ve created an entirely new table.

What do you think is the most significant barrier to female success?

That we aren’t allowed to fail. There’s so much riding on women’s attempts

at just about everything: social expectations, financial limitations and our feelings of inadequacy. Our pursuit of success requires sheer dedication and a hundred times more work than a man would have to do.

What motivates you?

We’ve always been driven people who look at developing and empowering our community. The reason we keep pushing to fulfil this dream is that we can see how the natural-hair community can employ women through entrepreneurship. We know that when we succeed, others do too.

Your favourite beauty moment?

Lindiwe: I have two. The first moment is after a trim, and the second one is when I undo my twist and my Afro looks bomb!

Nyaki: Freshly washed hair.

For more information, visit naturalhair.co.za

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First impressions last The experts at Image Innovators SA will give you a total makeover, dressing you in styles and colours that flatter your body and express your style personality.

The makeover includes a full style and colour consultation, a face shape analysis, and a personalised online ‘Style Program’ with in-depth detail into garment lengths, styles, shapes, fabrics, prints and accessories.

Your hair and makeup will be done by a professional artist for a styled photoshoot.

Two-night getaway The Abelana Safari Camp, close to Phalaborwa, in Limpopo, is ideal for bush lovers and is home to the Big Five. The prize includes a two-night stay for two guests sharing, a walking safari, all meals, an early morning walk and an afternoon game drive.

Clothing hamper You and your partner will receive four outfits each from the global leader in youth culture Eckō Unltd, including a selection of tops, bottoms, jackets, hats, shoes and bags. The brand fuses music, design, streetwear, illustration, gaming, action sports and more.

Goodie bag The winning couple will receive a case of Warwick First Lady Dry Rosé and a Biosense hair hamper from TPO Bloemfontein.

TO ENTER SMS IISA, your name, address and email to 37338.

(SMS costs R1.50. Comp closes 29 February 2020) TERMS AND CONDITIONS: Clothing product images are for illustrative purposes only and may differ from the actual prizes. Winners consent to allowing photographs taken during the makeover, both by the photographer and the IISA team, to be used for promotional purposes. The prize can be claimed up to 31 December 2020, after which it automatically expires. Makeover, photoshoot and accommodation dates are subject to availability. Travel expenses to the lodge are not included and must be arranged by the winners. Drinks consumed at the lodge are not included and must be settled by the winners upon departure. Winners must cover the community levy of R100 per person per day at the lodge in order to enter the game reserve.

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As a movie star, global pop sensation, and an internet-melting fashion icon, nobody owned 2019 like Jennifer Lopez.

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irst of all, Jennifer Lopez’s apartment looks exactly as you’d imagine: a penthouse in the sky, replete with tasteful floral arrangements, flickering Le Labo candles, and sofas in shades of ecru, cream, and white that, while cosy, appear remarkably unsullied by the debris of human life. The most surprising thing about the place is its location: it’s in the middle of a busy part of New York, and yet, at the same time, it’s private. Looking out from her terrace, you can see thousands of people bustling about, but no one can see you.

This was where Jennifer was sitting on a recent Sunday. She’d just finished working out – because of course she had – and was sipping a cappuccino in makeup-less splendour. That’s when a late-season bee, perhaps mistaking her famous skin for actual honey, suddenly dive-bombed her face. I must’ve made a sound like NOT HER FACE, MOTHERFUCKER because Jennifer said, “It’s just a bee,” and waved it away. Because, of course. She can handle a bee. She’s Jennifer Lopez.

When Jennifer first signed on to produce and star in Hustlers, a movie inspired by an article I wrote for New York magazine, I was as familiar with her work as anyone else on planet Earth. Which is to say, I was familiar with it in the way that I was familiar with, say, air.

Movies like The Wedding Planner and songs like ‘Waiting for Tonight’ were things I’d ingested and enjoyed my entire life and essentially considered a basic human right. But it’s fair to say that I didn’t fully appreciate Jennifer’s work – as in, the extraordinary amount of labour she puts into making these works of art and being Jennifer Lopez – until I created a Google Alert for the movie, which had the side benefit of giving me a daily digest of Jennifer’s activities for over a year. It was like watching Carmen Sandiego or something. Every time I opened my emails, she was somewhere, doing something.

For Hustlers, in which she plays Ramona, a tough-as-nails, career-stripperturned-criminal, Jennifer learned to pole dance, enduring numerous bruises to her thighs to deliver what will go down as the most iconic pole-dancing scene in cinematic history. After the movie was shot, she took off on her ‘It’s My Party’ tour, singing and dancing and jumping out of cakes for sold-out audiences. At one point, I saw a photo of her hanging from a giant sparkling ring on stage, which reminded me that sometime before she’d also gotten engaged to Alex Rodriguez. Then, during winter, she turned 50, a milestone she celebrated as one should – with a massive blowout at Gloria Estefan’s house in Miami. Then, a week after Hustlers came out in September, while the entire internet was demanding she be given an Oscar right now, she created a wholly new iconic moment, at Donatella Versace’s show in Milan, when she appeared in an updated version of the green dress that broke the internet the last time she wore it, nearly 20 years ago. Then she popped back to New York to start work with Owen Wilson and Maluma on Marry Me. Given the year she’s had – which will spill into next year, with awards season and her Super Bowl performance with Shakira just around the corner – it’s tempting to frame this as a moment. A Lopezaissance, if you will. But is it?

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Someone, after seeing Hustlers, tweeted, ‘Jennifer Lopez is a bad bitch’, which I understood to be a compliment but did not realise was a lyric from ‘I’m Real’, until I came across an oral history of the song, which talks about how you wrote the line in the studio and beckoned Puffy to sing it.

[laughs] That’s true! [sings] I’m a bad, bad bitch. That was a long time ago.

It was 2001. Are you a bad bitch?

I think, growing up in the Bronx, there’s a little bit of a, you know, urbangangster quality. That ‘Jenny from the Block’ side. With my Timberlands and my hoops. ’Cause we came from such a hard background, growing up on those types of streets. I used to see girls fighting. I grew up with that. And it affects you. It makes you a tough, badass-type character. When I went to LA, everybody seemed so soft.

Can you tell me a bit about what drew you to the character of Ramona – a fictionalised version of the criminal ringleader at the centre of an excellent article by moi?

I’m not just looking for interesting and multilayered characters, which Ramona was, but something that tells you about what’s going on in their culture. So the whole idea of the Wall Street guys interested me. These girls are cheating them, but these guys are cheating everybody! So what it says about that world, and men and women, and gender roles – all of that made me feel that this could be an interesting movie, as opposed to just a character piece.

Ramona is definitely a bad bitch.

One of the things I loved about Ramona was that she had her own set of morals and values. They were skewed. Which was why she could be like, “Fuck them.

These guys are scumbags. They’re not even gonna miss this money.” Because when you’re around criminals, you become a little bit of a criminal. But I felt like Ramona was, in many ways, a good person. She was a good friend, and she was loyal. And she had boundaries.

She was like, “I don’t even look at their penises. Don’t ask me to touch your shit.”

Whether she was doing great things or bad things, she was clear about what she wanted and what her goals were.

And that she could do it on her own.

Like, you’d never see a man in her life. There were men. But she was so self-sufficient. For me, a person who grew up with her sister, and even slept in the same bed as her, and then went from one relationship to the other, playing that character, having to be that independent and in charge, I was just like, “God, this is so empowering.”

You’ve been through so much in your career. There was that whole early2000s ‘She’s a diva’ thing. Now that we’re in this period of sort of increased awareness of that, do you ever have moments when you look back and you’re like, “Wow, that was sexist or racist” – or otherwise, you know, fucked-up?

For sure. Because I was Latin, and I was a woman, and I was Puerto Rican, and they weren’t giving me the same pass that they gave everybody else at certain times. It’s hard to remember specifics. I wish I could. But honestly, I don’t like to dwell on the negative or feel sorry for myself. You know, it just is what it is. There were moments in my life where it got to me more. When it kind of took me down for a second.

But it never took me down for very long.

The energy was always in just getting better, doing more growing, and driving myself. To be better, all the time. ➻

SHE’S EVERY WOMAN! Jennifer wears many hats, as evident below.

THE POWER PERFORMER

The vocals! The dance moves! The costume changes! Jennifer is an entertainer like no other.

Expect a knockout show when she teams up with Shakira (below) for the 2020 Super Bowl Half-time Show.

THE MOVIE STAR

Gaining critical acclaim as Ramona in Hustlers (above), Jennifer also served as executive producer and will probably win an Oscar this year.

THE BEAUTY BOSS

J.Lo unveiled her latest fragrance, Promise, adding to her growing empire, which is worth $2 billion.

THE STYLE ICON

The dress that launched Google Images. Jennifer reunited with Versace by wearing a modern take on that green dress last year (right).

THE GOLDEN COUPLE

As one-half of one of the hottest, and wealthiest, couples, Jennifer seems to have finally met her match in fiancé Alex Rodriguez (left).

And creating more opportunities for myself. Just be resilient. They’ll give up.

I read an old interview where Benny Medina, your longtime manager, said that you were single-minded in your ambition, and as a result you didn’t always “come off as warm”.

I think there’s some truth in that. I’m incredibly impatient. I want everything now. It’s hard for me to tolerate a slow pace. I get annoyed with it. I don’t like the word ‘no’. Like, really bad. Really bad. If you try to tell me no, I will get into a bad argument with you about why it can happen, and how it can happen, and why you can’t do it. [laughs] But I think it’s funny that Benny said that. Meanwhile, he can do the same type of things, and people are like, “Oh, well, he’s a man and he can say things however he wants.

He’s the boss.” But I’m the boss, and if I’m not careful with people’s feelings, then I’m not nice. There’s a double standard.

Speaking of double standards, were you at all worried about how men would react to Hustlers? It isn’t often that you see men being victimised on screen by women.

And some of the scenes are very disturbing.

I mean, I was disturbed. That scene when it’s just one guy after the other in slow motion, and it’s so cavalier. It’s like, “What the fuck? This is dirty! This got seedy.” That was hard for me to watch.

But I was like, “That’s not you!” It’s just a story. But also I think it’s good for them to see it.

Why is it good for them to see it?

I had a discussion with the guys in the studio about it last week.

One of them was like, “I felt really disturbed and it made me uncomfortable.” I was like, “Because we see you! Because now you see that we see you! Like, you guys think you have this whole secret world, and that we don’t know what’s going on in your minds. We know. We know what’s going on, bro!” It’s like, The jig is up, bro. The jig is up! That’s part of the problem with men and women, right? The lack of transparency and honesty. We need to be who we are. And they need to be who they are. Then we have to find the right person for our lives, that we can coexist with, right?

And you’ve found that person!

Segue alert. In your book, True Love, you wrote that the person you’re with should make you better. How do you and A-Rod make each other better?

I mean, we’re very similar. We’re really alike in our drive, in our ambition. He’s an athlete. He wanted to be the best.

I’m the same way. I just want to be great at what I do. We’re both like that.

We’re both super-hard workers. We’re driven by our passions. And we have a tremendous amount of respect for each other. Everybody in the room can be

“In this industry, by the time you’re 30, they’re already like, ‘She’s done.’ I can’t tell you how many times I felt like people were like, ‘She’s done, she’s over.’”

talking, and if he says something, I tune into it, and if everybody in the room is kinda in his ear and I go, “I don’t think that’s the right thing,” he’ll hear me; he’ll listen. He knows I only have his best interests at heart, and I only want him to thrive and succeed and to be his best self. And I believe that he wants that for me. He wants me to be seen and to get what I deserve. Like, he’s made his half a billion dollars. And he’s like, “I want you to have that.”

When I first met him, I was telling him about my perfume business. He loves business. He went to business school online and took classes, and he just had a real passion for it. And he knew that I was a creative person who had clothing lines, perfume lines, and had some success in consumer sales. So I was telling him a story. And he was like, “Wait, what did you say? How much did you make? I think there’s a better way to do it.”

And I’d been saying this to my team for a while. But it’s done a certain way in Hollywood. These type of business people aren’t trying to give that to the artist. Or educate the artist in that way. Because it doesn’t serve everybody. But he goes, “No, no. This is what you’re gonna ask for. This is what we’re gonna do.…” So we’re investing. And we’re owning businesses, as opposed to being in the licensing business, which a lot of, you know, celebrities do. You wind up making money for people, but you’re still having to hustle.

Because the industry is set up to make creatives feel disposable…

Yes. The whole system is set up to make you think, ‘Oh, next person comes on.’

And you don’t want people to feel like they can be discarded. So we’re building this thing that’s kind of changing that model. Not just for me, but all the creatives. Putting out the

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understanding that as an artist, as a creative person, you’re the scarce asset.

And that has value. Because money’s easy to get, in that world, the privateequity world. But they can’t do anything without the creatives. If you understand that, you can start getting the right value for what you bring. So that’s been an empowering thing.

Relevant to the idea of people being discarded: your 50th birthday served as the theme of your ‘It’s My Party’ tour. Given the attitude toward women of a certain age in our society, and perhaps especially in your industry, did anyone say you shouldn’t be so open about your age?

Yes, everybody. All the men. [laughs] No, that’s not true. It was the women.

They were like, “Do we want to put this out there?” I just didn’t see it. I’m like, “Everybody knows how old I am – what’s the big deal?” In this industry, by the time you’re 30, they’re already like, “She’s done.” I can’t tell you how many times I felt like people were like, “She’s done, she’s over.” But it’s such a beautiful time in women’s lives. Artists, women especially, get so much better as they grow and mature. You can see it!

Meryl Streep’s career took off after she was 40. Tina Turner’s, after she was 40. Cher’s. It’s not that [those women] weren’t who they were before that, but as they got older, they blossomed in a way they hadn’t before, right? They

came into their own power, and they started realising, like, “I am the scarce asset, I am the prize. I have something beautiful to offer the world that’s only mine.” And I feel the same thing!

There’s no reason to ever be ashamed of where you’re at. Not when you’re doing your best. Not when you’re in your best moment. There’s always gonna be people to tell you no. Or “You can’t.” Or “You shouldn’t.” It’s gonna happen. No matter what anybody says, you just have to still be like, “I’m still doing this. I’m still gonna succeed.

I’m still gonna do my best.” Defy the odds. Why not?

Did you have conflicting feelings about performing in the Super Bowl Half-time show this year?

I feel that it’s a great thing to have two Latina women in Miami headlining the Super Bowl, and what we could do with those 12 to 14 minutes to make people understand our worth and value in this country.

I meant to ask when we were talking about the A-Rod-business stuff: Does money make you horny?

[laughs] A lot of things make me horny – money isn’t one of them. But I do like it.

I don’t know that it turns me on, but it does make things easier.

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FRENCH Connection It’s not every day you receive an exclusive invite to attend the Louis Vuitton Spring/Summer ’20 Show in Paris. Glamour editor-in-chief Asanda Sizani got up close and personal with the latest collection.

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DAY 1

Since 1854, Louis Vuitton has brought unique designs to the world that are innovative, stylish and of high quality. Thanks to its visionary creative directors and collaborations, the Vuitton show is always one of the biggest shows at every Paris Fashion Week. My attendance at Nicolas Ghesquière’s Spring/Summer ’20 Women’s Show is one fashion experience that’s not easy to forget. Sat behind the legendary Anna Wintour and Suzy Menkes, both prolific figures in the industry, I had a close view of the details on each garment.

The collection was a tribute to a vivacious time when Paris was pure enchantment. The House describes it as ‘a certain dandyism based on depth of culture, harking back to the fundamentals of romanticism and transposing Art Nouveau onto clothing’.

“...a certain dandyism, harking back to the fundamentals of romanticism...”

Setting the scene The show and re-see took place at the Carrousel du Louvre, a landmark spot behind the Louvre. During the show, the artist Sophie appeared on screen in an extended version of ‘It’s Okay to Cry’. The music video, directed by Woodkid, was specially made for Louis Vuitton. ➻

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My OOTD It was only fitting that I should wear 2019 LVMH Prize-winner Thebe Magugu. I’m an advocate for African fashion, and Thebe is a star on the rise. I visited his Paris showroom an hour before the show to receive the look he’d specifically chosen for me: the Basotho poncho from his new Spring/Summer ’20 collection, which is inspired by the Black Sash, a group of revolutionary South African women who fought for the rights of people of colour during Apartheid.

The textile is handwoven by women in Cape Town. To finish off the look, I wore a straw cap from Thebe’s collaboration with respected South African milliner Crystal Birch.

ABOVE: The Hôtel de Crillon LEFT: Asanda Sizani wears Thebe Magugu BELOW: Asanda’s invitation from Louis Vuitton; the Eiffel Tower

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A re-see is an appointment-only visit with a designer to view a full collection the day after their runway show. I always look forward to a re-see. As looks sometimes move across the runway quickly, this is an opportunity to see, touch and inspect garments up close. In an intimate setting, I was taken through each look to better understand the concept and inspiration behind the collection. Understanding a designer’s vision is important to me.

Environmentally friendly Sustainability is a hot topic, and many luxury brands are playing their part. The wood used for the show was sourced entirely from sustainably

managed forests in France. After the show, all the wood used for the décor was donated for reuse as part of a partnership with ArtStock, whose mission is to recycle and upcycle elements from artistic productions to preserve the environment. The transparent part of the structure was rented specifically for the show.

4 Reasons to #flybetterflyemirates

“I wore a straw cap from Thebe’s collaboration with respected South African milliner Crystal Birch”

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Free on-board WIFI Choose how you want to connect with loved ones, even on long-haul flights. Emirates offers 20MB of free data within two hours of login. If you’re an Emirates Skywards member, you can continue to enjoy free or discounted Wi-Fi throughout your flight, depending on your membership tier.

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PhOTOgrAPhy: Courtesy of Louis Vuitton, Em

Taste the destination You can taste the flavours of your destination in between naps and masking (always keep your skin hydrated during long haul flights). I enjoyed their offering of refreshing drinks and meals inspired by the destination – in this case, there was a French-style menu.

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Getting there I had travelled to Paris twice before: once for my birthday weekend in July 2011, and again in March 2019 for the Condé Nast Editors’ Conference. It was my first time flying to The City of Lights on Emirates. I received plush, comfortable, first-class treatment, from start to finish.

Superb service The hospitality is unmatched. I felt like the airline’s VIP guest.

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Local music I have a preference for local music, especially when in a foreign city. The inflight entertainment on Emirates included a wide range of local music, from Thabsie to Kwesta.

The soundtrack set the tone for an unforgettable adventure.

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Running in heels Words by ThoBekA PhAnyeko

If you’re never on time, you could be suffering from chronic lateness – especially if you’ve already tried everything you can think of to avoid it.

Underlying issUes that lead to chronic lateness Chronic lateness is a habitual behaviour pattern.

You need to question which factors are creating or contributing to it. Stress, in today’s society, is

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ime is precious to highly effective people. If you don’t arrive punctually, however, this harms your relationships and career. Your friends may have forgiven you for showing up late to drinks but remember that time when you were a bridesmaid, and you barely made it to the wedding reception? Being late isn’t only disruptive, but it can also affect your mood and how you behave when you do show up. Always having to explain why you’re late soon gets old. But what if you genuinely have no sense of time, and no matter how hard you try you’re always late? Could there be an underlying reason?

Here, keynote speaker, corporate trainer and change consultant Bronwyn Crawford unpacks the reasons you’re punctually challenged and advises how to manage your time more effectively.

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a common cause. We’re pressured to produce more, in a shorter time frame, and external factors add further pressure. As a society, we’re not good at removing distractions from our environment, whether that’s noise in an open-plan office, or social media and the need to be in the know and be connected at all times.

the effects of chronic lateness Although people who suffer from chronic lateness behave in different ways, there are common consequences of their actions, such as added stress and pressure, which can have an enormous impact on health and wellbeing. The emotional rollercoaster of guilt, judgement and feeling undervalued, are examples.

showing Up on time improves yoUr trUst rating It can also result in the breakdown of professional and personal relationships. Being punctual says

you respect yourself and others, and that you can manage yourself and your resources, all of which are qualities business owners and senior managers seek in employees. If your boss doesn’t have to micro-manage you, they can focus on their own tasks. Remember: you were hired to add value. Showing up on time affirms you’re the right fit for the job. People also value these qualities in a life partner.

learn To manage your schedule An abundance of tools are available to help you manage your time more effectively. Bronwyn uses a calendar to note her

the link between time and money

commitments, including

I believe time and money are directly related. If you value your time by protecting it and making wise use of it, chances are you’re good at managing your finances. When you’re under pressure, rushing to make decisions about a matter you haven’t given yourself enough time to consider, this can lead you to make less-than-ideal decisions. The same goes for how you spend our money.

You should treat both your hardearned cash and yourself better.

reminders. “I schedule

important dates and breaks to drink a glass of water, eat a snack and stretch my legs,” she says.

Identifying what you’re struggling with will help you find a system that works best for you. “Ask yourself: are you over-committing or being unrealistic about the amount of time a particular task takes to complete? how are you organising your to-do list? Are you grouping administrative

“Ask yourself: are you over-committing or being unrealistic about the amount of a time a particular task takes to complete?

How are you organising your to-do list?”

tasks, and then moving on to something else?”

Look at your workspace.

Could you be more productive if you removed distractions that cause you to procrastinate? “Turn off email notifications and shut down social media

Top Tips To help you manage your Time

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sites. Delegate some tasks to others who either enjoy

Use your calendar or mobile phone to set reminders and/or alarms, to

them or are better

ensure you get to where you need to be, on time.

equipped to fulfil them.”

Allow ample time in case you’re delayed by external influences, such as

once you’ve identified your

traffic, accidents, taking a wrong turn or system crashes.

problem areas, decide on

Practice saying “no”. you can’t take on every task other people ask you to

a plan of action.

perform. you need to know when you’re about to overcommit. In doing so, your output is better, and your colleagues have a good impression of you.

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Half your age how people who are in relationships with substantial age gaps deal with judgement from other people, being in different stages of their careers, family planning and getting on with each other’s friends.

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n 2017, when I was 24 and my boyfriend was 33, we were at a bar and some footage of 9/11 played on a projector. I still don’t know why that was happening – it wasn’t 9/11 or anything – but it prompted him to ask me the single funniest question he’s ever asked me: “Were you even alive for 9/11?” In his defence, he was a few drinks in and he immediately realised the implications of dating someone who was born post-2001 (namely: the illegality of it).

For the most part, though, our nineyear age gap goes ignored: in our group

of friends I’m one of the youngest, and he’s one of the oldest, but we know the same people. Besides that night at the bar, I can recall only two occasions when I was painfully cognisant of the age gap. The first was when I introduced him to my parents: I still feel twelve years old around them, which made him seem very thirty-three years old.

The other time was when he showed me Paula Abdul’s ‘Opposites Attract’ music video, where she dances sensually with cartoon feline MC Skat Kat. He was dismayed to learn I’d never seen it, and so was I.

Most people don’t think age-gapped relationships are a big deal. A 2008 study found that couples only face societal disapproval when their age difference is over ten years – I’m in the clear! Woo! Even big age gaps tend to become less taboo as people get older, and it certainly matters at what age the couple met. If you date someone you knew when they were a child, and you were a full-fledged adult, that’s... uh, uncomfortable.

While people certainly have a lot to say about women dating younger men, generally, society is more tolerant of the reverse pattern of men dating younger women (repeatedly, even, in the case of certain male celebrities, ahem) although we do tend to label women in those relationships as ‘gold diggers’ or ‘trophy wives’. Take a long moment to ponder the glaring lack of derogatory terms for men in the same circumstances.

Ponder it.

Keep pondering.

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11 YEARS

12 YEARS

15 YEARS

Priyanka Chopra (37) and Nick Jonas (27)

Blake Lively (32) and Ryan Reynolds (43)

Jay Z (50) and Beyoncé Knowles (38)

Ellen DeGeneres (61) and Portia de Rossi (46)

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How did you meet your partner?

“We met when we were studying law, but we were both with other partners at the time and became friends.” – Ashley, 34, 14 years younger than her husband

What do you enjoy about the age gap in your relationship?

“I was at varsity working for the student newspaper. he was 40, filling in over the

“you can’t beat having someone who

summer as an adviser and copy editor. I was 22 and engaged to another man

is more established in his life – he’s

close to my age. Emotionally and dramatically, I broke up with my fiancé and

already had two or three careers and

moved in with Dennis. We married a few years later and had two children.” – Lila,

is now embarking on a new one as a

55, 18 years younger than her husband

university lecturer. It’s nice to be able to rely upon his life experience when

“We met at the gym, but it took three years or so to connect romantically. I was

I’ve not done something yet or don’t

a coach and wouldn’t have asked her out, but fortunately, she doesn’t share my

know how to handle something.”

moral code [and asked me out].” – Nathan, 49, 14 years older than his partner

– Ashley “of course, the sex is great. A man

Do you feel like you’re in or have ever been in different places in your lives?

who is almost always hard is fucking terrific.” – Gwen “It’s nice to be with someone who

“The age gap becomes most obvious when dealing with our parents. his parents

has themselves figured out and can

are going through some of the typical ageing complications, and his father has

function as an adult. I was so tired of

advanced dementia. My parents are closer in age to my husband and still in pretty

dating men who didn’t know how to do

good health. My father watches my kids two days per week, and they are actively

basic things like wash their bedsheets

travelling, working on their house, and generally acting like people with an empty

regularly or have an extra towel for

nest.” – Ashley

guests.” – Thalia

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17 YEARS

Scott Disick (36) and Sofia Richie (21)

Amal (41) and George Clooney (58)

23 YEARS Somizi Mhlongo (46) and Mohale Motaung (23)

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Have you always been funny?

What or who inspires you?

When I was a kid, my sister and I would entertain ourselves by impersonating our family members and our parents’ friends. I love attention and I’ve never been afraid of making a fool of myself, so I was always the first person on the dance floor. I collected jokes from newspapers and magazines and kept them in a flip file. I would study them, then re-tell them to my school friends.

I’m a storyteller. Most of my material comes from real-life experiences and things I’ve seen or heard that I find funny. I do impersonations on stage, so I’m always watching or listening to people to spot quirks that I can use in my stories.

When did you decide to pursue a career in comedy?

I enjoyed making people laugh, but I hadn’t considered making a living from it – that’s not usually an option if you grow up in Mthatha. The bug bit in 2011, when I watched a stand-up show in Joburg. Tol Ass Mo was one of the acts who performed that night. I was in awe.

Watching him tell ridiculous stories about his life and struggles inspired me to write my first five-minute set about being a white-looking, Xhosaspeaking coloured kid, navigating life in Mthatha. After I experienced that first wave of laughter, which I loved, I was addicted. A few months later, I resigned from my job and – Bam! Now I’m interviewing with Glamour magazine [insert smiley emoji, here].

What, in your opinion, is the importance of humour in society?

It brings people together, and creates a happy and positive environment.

We live in a dark, twisted and stressful world right now, so I think humour is more important than ever.

What are the benefits of humour?

There are many benefits, but this quote from Jim Carrey sums it up best: “my role is to free people from concern”. I think that says a lot.

Please list scenarios where humour could come in handy?

• Flirting • First dates • Any awkward situation where it can be used to break tension • Speeches • When you’re about to be punched in the face by Mike Tyson

If you’ve found yourself consumed by negativity, you’re due for some comic relief. Comedian Donovan Goliath has a different view of the world, which will help you see the funny side of life.

Words by ThoBeka Phanyeko

Why so

You’re a successful comedian. Is there a knack to it?

Writing, practise and throwing yourself in front of many audiences, as often as you can, until you find your voice or style, is a sure way to start getting yourself out there. In this day and age, social media and branding play a massive role in helping you grow and showcasing you to as many potential fans as possible. The key is consistency: once you start making a name for yourself, you mustn’t take your foot off the gas, because that’s when the real work starts.

How do you recover from telling a joke people don’t find funny?

It’s happened to me so many times. In the beginning, it bothered me. Imposter syndrome would kick in, and that voice in my head would tell me I’m rubbish.

You gotta push through that and be practical about it. Now, I figure out why it didn’t work, try and resolve it and throw it back out there again. If it doesn’t work the second or third time, you should park it.

Have you experienced awkward moments during your live performances?

• I was in a line-up, and the MC performed a wrestling move on a member of the audience who wouldn’t stop heckling. He dropped this guy so hard that the stage broke. This brought the show to an immediate halt.

• I once performed to a room full of very drunk farmers in Botswana. I was meant to do a 30-minute set, but I’d managed five minutes of it when one of the guys stood up and told me I wasn’t funny. Everyone started cheering and clapping, which I took as my cue to exit the stage.

“I think the key to happiness is being super-content with who you are”

Do you think laughing at ourselves is the key to coping with life’s challenges?

Absolutely! I think many of us take ourselves waaaay too seriously. It’s just so much hard work trying to be perfect and please everyone. I think the key to happiness is to be super-content with who you are, which means embracing your flaws, too.

What are some of the things people can do to inject humour into their daily lives?

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Come to all of my shows! Just kidding.

There are lots of very funny YouTube channels, podcasts and TV shows. You can jump onto any of these platforms and find something that appeals to your sense of humour. Funny memes shared on WhatsApp have already begun to make the world a little more bearable –if only for brief moments.

Donovan will tour South Africa with his new one-man show in 2020, so look out for him in your city. For more details, follow him on the socials: @DonovanGoliath @donovangoliath Or, visit goliathandgoliath.com

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It’s a new year and you’ve brought your A game.

Here’s a round-up of places to stay that will help you maximise productivity and comfort, in equal measure, on your next work trip.

The Onyx Apartment Hotel These slick, upmarket apartments are close to the Cape Town International Convention Centre (CTICC), which is

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ideal if you’re attending a conference

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there. And if you’re driving, secure onsite parking gives you peace of mind.

After a long day, unwind in style at the outdoor pool, or gym and spa facilities.

Connect to complimentary WiFi and catch up on work while you enjoy a meal

The Cape Milner

at one of the restaurants, which offer a

This hotel is in the heart of

variety of fresh produce and artisanal

Tamboerskloof, the Cape Town suburb

food. If you prefer cooking for yourself,

at the foot of Lion’s Head and Signal

there’s a fully equipped kitchen. Are

Hill. It’s the ideal spot to soak up the

you extending your stay? The Artscape

breathtaking scenery while enjoying

Theatre Centre is just shy of a kilometre

a dip in the pool, working up a sweat

from the hotel. Afterwards, slip back

at the in-house gym or winding down

into your lavish sanctuary for a quality

at the chic Glass Lounge, before you

night’s sleep.

switch back to work mode. Its suites,

For more information, visit

recently refurbished in a classic yet

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modern style, are comfortable and luxurious. Complimentary WiFi comes in handy as you work through your emails, and a relaxed atmosphere sets the tone for a fresh start as you prepare to tackle the year ahead. The luxury, spastyle bathroom boasts a free-standing Dadoquartz bath – what better reason to turn bath time into pampering time?

For more information, email cindy@extraordinary.co.za

Cape Town

The Riverside Hotel

Durban

Who says travelling for business

Protea Hotel Durban Edward

has to be dull? The Riverside Hotel

Situated on Golden Mile Beach, this

offers unparalleled views of a luscious

hotel is an inspired choice for visitors,

greenbelt, from the Umgeni River to the

whether for work or play. Prepare for

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20 Meet the designers with whom you – and your closet – are going to become familiar with during the next decade.

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Central St Martins graduate Sindiso Khumalo founded her eponymous label six years ago, making vibrant, culturally infused garments from sustainable textiles. Her work is powerful and colourful, inspired by her Zulu and Ndebele heritage. Sindiso is driven by sustainability, craft and empowerment, and works closely with NGOs when it comes to developing her handmade textiles. Hers is a local brand that has the building blocks for success.

Illinois-born Virgil Abloh has proved himself a master at visualising a future for himself – and then making that future happen. He runs his own label, Off-White, as well as Louis Vuitton’s menswear division. He’s a DJ, an architect, and a furniture designer, with a retrospective at the Museum of Contemporary Art Chicago.

“I think fashion will make a strong leap into other categories,” he says. “All aspects of lifestyle will see the same eagerness that, to this point, we’ve seen purely in fashion.”

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The Haitian-American designer Kerby Jean-Raymond, who heads up the New York City-based label Pyer Moss, has made it a point to determine his own way of working – by limiting his shows, curating his releases, and questioning both overarching social issues and why the fashion system functions in the way it does. Posing (and answering) such big questions will no doubt be a part of how the industry’s leaders work going forward.

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Simon Porte Jacquemus is the sort of benevolent rebel who typifies the joie de vivre of his native southern France. Whether showcasing his sun-drenched holidays or displaying his designs – from clingy, sensual dresses to micro-size handbags – Simon is also, at only 29, a brilliant brand-builder who has – unlike anyone before him – put together a label shaped by digital culture.

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Having spent many successful years as creative director for Marianne Fassler’s Leopard Frock, Lezanne Viviers started her own fashion brand, VIVIERS, earlier this year. Specialising in made-to-measure pieces, VIVIERS provides a truly unique, by-appointment experience.

Working with an array of textiles, details and silhouettes, VIVIERS pulls off artisan, luxury looks like no other.

The future looks bright for this fledgling studio.

Paris-based Marine Serre has become something of a bellwether for what it will mean to be a fashion designer in the next decade. She’s fearless, for starters – unafraid to embrace activism and sustainable methods. Yet somehow her clothes – sporty, sometimes upcycled, futuristic, and regularly adorned with a crescent-moon motif – inspire a sense of optimism through their creative renderings of reality. “Things are changing so quickly today,” she says, “that you need to be able to dive in – in an extreme way – to be able to feel something.” ➻

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Parisian Christelle Kocher’s reach extends far beyond the hushed hauteur of the Avenue Montaigne. Her covetable, cool aesthetic embraces more inclusive and diverse neighbourhoods – and her old-school couture training, melded with our new-era approach of equality and transparency, speaks to our moment. “Fashion should link people,” she says.

“It shouldn’t cause divisions.”

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Georgian designer Demna Gvasalia studies the everyday and the pedestrian, wryly observing and translating consumerism while bringing his generation’s take on culture and society to bear at both Vetements and Balenciaga. At the latter, he instils the house’s namesake volumes and grace into harder-edged, urbane sportswear that’s not afraid to tackle riskier themes – while proving mightily influential with new-ground concepts, from ‘ugly’ sneakers and eccentric styling to challenging the very notion of what is or isn’t considered good taste.

Based in the heart of Cape Town, Celeste Arendse’s brand, SELFI, has progressed naturally and authentically over a few years, and the fashion label stands for empowering the natural self. Celeste pushes for sustainability when it comes to her collections, and has also created an elegant and inviting space for other creatives to sell and showcase their brands. SELFI breathes a minimal and natural aesthetic, while still feeling feminine and strong. This local brand produces with a global mindset.

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Irish-born Jonathan Anderson is a master at knitting together craft and tradition with a chic modernity. It’s a vision composed of equal parts bohemian-louche and urbanefresh with more than a smattering of gender play, all of it informed by a cross-cultural approach to design that’s ahead of its time: Jonathan collects – and collaborates with – creatives from other fields, from textile artist Anne Low to potter Joanna Wason and photographer Jamie Hawkesworth.

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There’s magic in what Irish-born, London-based Simone Rocha achieves at her label: she represents a vision of femininity that dazzles with romantic, poetic prettiness without being retrogressive or irrelevant. Her velvets, tulles, and sumptuous layers transport the wearer into a lush reverie, but behind the euphoria is a resolute celebration of womanhood, feminism, and independence. For 2020 and beyond, Simone plans to focus on individuality and sustainability – “so that new work comes from the heart, with a social and human consciousness.”

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Mike Eckhaus and Zoe Latta’s bicoastal label could be described as communityminded-clothing-company-meetsart-house, with looks that play with experimentation and a constituency that includes communities not previously acknowledged. To them, clothes aren’t about status or exclusivity but meaning.

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Julien Dossena is a Parisian designer, versed in both craft and couture finish but just as attuned to overall trends and tides. Equally impressive, though, is the way he has delved deep into his imagination to push the house of Paco Rabanne into a robust, global territory (often accompanied by the razzle-dazzle of chain mail). He understands that a brand that was once so enamoured by the prospect of the future –Paco Rabanne himself was fascinated by the space age – is at its best when it’s connected to the present. ➻

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Matte Nolim has been creating bold, minimalist and dramatic collections for the last five years. Originally from KwaZuluNatal, Joburg-based Siyethemba Duma, also known as Matte, understands what the modern South African woman is looking for when it comes to forward-thinking fashion. His designs are often tonal, bold in silhouette and form-flattering. His obsession with volume is evident, in his oversized sleeves and billowing pants. Matte has made a name for himself locally and has his sights set on an international breakthrough.

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New York-based Telfar Clemens is a mastermind at translating cues, from performance to politics, into work that pushes against gender norms or industry expectations (his vegan-leather genderless shopping tote, for example). He’s also a pioneer, having celebrated the queer community, advocated for diversity and built his brand on his own terms. “There is a lot of diversity on the surface, but not yet in ownership,” he says.

British fashion designer Grace Wales Bonner approaches fashion as a kind of cultural think tank – collaborators include the writer Ben Okri and Dior’s Maria Grazia Chiuri. Grace’s narratives, meanwhile, are rooted in her Caribbean background while they play with tropes of gender and class. One high-profile example: the dress that Meghan Markle wore for the announcement of her newborn, Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor – which looked like an elegantly transformed gentleman’s white-tie jacket.

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Korean-born, Texasraised Rok Hwang has come to be known for a neo-stylish aesthetic with his Londonbased label, Rokh.

Think functionality, eccentricity, and chicness balanced together – echoing, in ways, the ethos of Phoebe Philo’s Céline (where Hwang trained).

At the same time, his work is an invigorating anotherness: a fusion of inventiveness with street-inspired separates and forward-thinking plays on gender norms.

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Among 26-year-old Thebe Magugu’s wins in 2019 was the LVMH Prize for emerging talent, the most coveted among young designers in the fashion industry. His Joburg-based brand showcases contemporary South Africa to the world.

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Nigerian designer Kenneth Ize landed on the international scene in 2013, when he launched his namesake label, which focuses on polychrome suiting using modernised iterations of local, handwoven Aso Oke fabric. He now runs a small atelier in Lagos, where many of his textiles are made, keeping an essential Nigerian practice alive.

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What makes Belgian designer Anthony Vaccarello so compelling is his knack for hybridising Yves Saint Laurent’s legacy of gender and sexuality with his own, resulting in a glorious deconstruction of the line between women’s wear and menswear. Anthony makes statements and orchestrates spectacles – two things that keep fashion moving.

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And the award goes to…

Eleven powerful South African females, honoured as Glamour’s Women of the Year.

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outh African trailblazers who’ve broken barriers to create positive change in their industries were celebrated at Glamour’s Women of the Year awards, held at The Venue, Melrose Arch, last November. The dazzling occasion, attended by A-listers and special guests, was hosted

by Glamour editor-in-chief Asanda Sizani and media personality Anele Mdoda, in proud partnership with Tanqueray. To add soul and cultural pride to the event, praise poet Jessica Mbangeni delivered a riveting performance honouring iconic women.

To end the occasion on a high note, singer and songwriter Shekhinah took to the stage for a soulstirring performance.

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Patience Stevens Music: Sho Madjozi Art & Design: Lady Skollie Business: Stacey brewer Activism & Goodwill: Jessica Dewhurst Science & Technology: Prof Lindiwe Zungu Sport: Desiree Ellis TV & Film: Terry Pheto Digital Influencer: Emma Sadleir South African Icon: PJ Powers Lady Skollie

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Hey, it’s OK… … Not to have everything scratched off your to-do list by the end of the day if you feel exhausted.

... To scroll through your feed wondering how you’ve made it this far.

… To put yourself first sometimes. … Not to have it all figured out by the time you’re 30. We’re all on different paths, and uncertainty is part of the journey.

… To be a total wreck sometimes. You’re only human, after all. … To wing it. No one else has to know.

… To let go and trust the process. … To slow down and trust the timing of your life. … If you prefer cuddling a teddy bear more than a human because it’s less complicated. … Not to worry about what other people think of you.

… To admit you tried your best and surrender. There’s strength in letting go. … To own up to your mistakes and be the first to apologise. … To forgive yourself for yesterday’s mistakes.

... To want to spend time alone.

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It’s not always easy to spot the signs of emotional abuse, especially if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, as the abuse is often subtle and progressive. Dr Sarah Davies, psychologist and author of Never Again: Moving On From Narcissistic Abuse and Other Toxic Relationships, sheds some light.

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The subtle signs of abuse Abusive relationships, narcissistic abuse, in particular, can also be referred to as ‘invisible abuse’, as emotional and psychological abuse doesn’t leave physical marks. “In many ways, this makes it more dangerous, as it’s harder to spot,” says Dr Sarah Davies. If you suspect you’re being manipulated by your partner, look for subtle signs, including feeling undermined or unsupported. “Abusive relationships can be up and down, on and off, and leave you feeling drained, tired or emotionally exhausted. Feeling unsafe, threatened, or that your partner is unpredictable or unreliable, are all signs of a toxic relationship.” You may have started to second-guess yourself and wonder if you’re imagining things. You may miss the warning signs if your abuser showers you with romance, gifts, compliments, apologies and promises to overcompensate. Your head is probably spinning with a whirlwind of emotions. “But it’s important to stay grounded while you try to keep up with what’s happening,” she says. “Be realistic about how you’re being treated.”

Healthy vs. toxic relationships When you’re in a healthy relationship, you feel supported, and your partner is willing to accept you, baggage and all. A toxic relationship is the opposite of this. “Other signs of an abusive relationship include having a partner who suggests that any issues or problems within the relationship are your fault,” says Dr Davies. The truth is, it’s never solely down to you because relationships take two people.

“Watch out for abusive behaviours, such as criticism, noshows, guilt-tripping, shaming, manipulation and lies, usually followed by a show of love and remorse.”

Are you being gaslighted?

Gaslighting refers to a particular kind of psychological abuse, where a partner may, in a variety of ways, deny, accuse, undermine, suggest, or cause you to doubt yourself.

Dr Davies says this is common, and that in extreme cases, it can leave you feeling like you’re going mad. “Many people I’ve worked with at my clinical practice have said that looking back, they had a nagging feeling, call it a gut instinct, that they were being mistreated, but still allowed their abusive partner to justify or rationalise their negative behaviour. You can always rely on your gut instinct: if you have a feeling something’s off, then it probably is. “The trick is to learn how to pay attention to it. It can be helpful to reach out and talk things through with a trusted friend, family member or therapist.”

How to stand up for yourself Your first step should be to equip yourself with useful information about narcissistic abuse and techniques such as gaslighting. “If you increase your awareness, you can do something to change your situation. Talking to friends, family or a professional can also help you to recognise it,” advises Dr Davies. Standing up for yourself requires selfconfidence and trust in your belief that you’re doing the right thing. “How you feel is real to you – you’re entitled to that,” she adds. This speaks to having healthy boundaries, which will help you feel more self-assured and comfortable about your feelings, wants and needs.

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with bullying. Dr Davies says clear boundaries are the dynamic of a toxic relationship. “You should aim to accompanied by a consequence: the ones you set should better yourself and to improve your wellbeing, rather than reflect your values, as well as what’s important to you, use it as a means to try and manipulate or control your and you must communicate what partner or ask them to change who will happen if someone disrespects they are.” Doing it for the wrong these boundaries. “For example, reasons can lead to co-dependent if you value being spoken to behaviour, which is unhealthy for hoW to recoVer respectfully, then you could say, your relationship. “If your partner From a toXic ‘It’s not OK when you shout at me’, is narcissistic or manipulative, relationShiP With followed by the consequences of they’ll probably be able to charm a narciSSiSt it happening again, ‘If you shout the therapist easily, and will at me again, I won’t engage in attempt to get them on their side,” Take responsibility for your part conversation with you. I’ll only she says. It takes a highly skilled in the relationship talk to you if you speak to me therapist to work with narcissists, – more politely.’ If the shouting especially if they’ve come for Focus on your own needs continues, then it’s down to you to counselling with the victim of their – action your boundary and do what abuse. “I’ve heard of instances Develop healthy personal boundaries you said you would, whether that when a narcissist will readily put – means refusing to engage with on an act in front of the counsellor, Master self-care. Many people who that person or leaving the room but behind closed doors the abuse are in a relationship with a narcissist entirely. Boundaries let other doesn’t stop,” Dr Davies adds. tend to be caring – they know how to people know which behaviours Therefore, she recommends having care and cater to everyone else’s you won’t accept. That doesn’t therapy on your own, as well as needs. But recovery involves taking necessarily mean the other person with your partner. care of yourself first will stop doing it or change who – Walking away they are – setting boundaries Work on your self-esteem and Not only is it possible to walk isn’t about trying to control other self-confidence away, but Dr Davies also says it’s people – however, consequences – necessary. “This involves stepping make it clear what will happen if Let go of guilt, fear and any other up your self-esteem, confidence and they continue to do something that sense of responsibility for others. This self-care, and it also means taking upsets you. Consider boundaries goes hand-in-hand with developing personal responsibility for your in terms of a range of behaviours healthy boundaries, which help you wellbeing and happiness.” A toxic within a relationship, including realise that, to a certain extent, you’re relationship takes a toll on your communication. Telling someone responsibly for yourself mental health, but the moment you how you feel about cheating, lying – remove yourself from it, you can or being disrespected can be an Consider having relevant trauma regain perspective and wellbeing empowering experience. therapy, such as Eye movement quickly. “That will further highlight desensitsation and reprocessing Work on your how toxic your relationship was, (EMDR) or sensorimotor mental health and how much better off you are psychotherapy According to Dr Davies, working on without it,” she concludes.

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Is climax change the latest frontier in sustainability?

Marie-Claire Chappet gets to grips with the new wave of eco alternatives for a greener sex life. Grab your brinjal*; you’re in for a ride.

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8:30am: purchase a coffee in your reusable cup. #Smug 12:30pm: buy your vegan lunch from a plastic-free shop and pop it in your canvas tote bag. #HumbleBrag 9pm: wash your face with a muslin cloth and bar cleanser. #WhoNeedsWipesAnway? 10:30pm: reward yourself with a night of passion, electronic (hello, Rabbit) or otherwise. But wait – has your sex life just screwed the world?

Think about it: condoms, sex toys, lube, even the pill, all have a seismic environmental impact; contributing to an enormous amount of waste – it’s enough to make you cross your legs forever.

So what to do? Confine yourself to a vegan nunnery?

Never shag again? Thankfully, the eco revolution has spread to the sex industry, with innovative products and solutions changing the way we get it on – from eco-conscious coupling to, er, vegan porn. But cleaning up your act could have consequences: encouraging less-than-safe practices and reducing our already dwindling sex lives. Is it possible to stop damaging the planet without damaging our sex lives too?

THE CONDOM MOUNTAIN Thought you’d relegated your exes to landfill? You genuinely may have done. An estimated nine billion condoms are sold globally each year, meaning that (even if we discount bravado condoms lingering unused in teenage boys’ wallets) there are a lot of them in landfill, along with the foil and plastic packaging. Most condoms are made from latex rubber, which can take up to four years to decompose, depending on the coating. Ernie Simpson, from TerraCycle, explains, “When condoms decompose deep in landfills, they leach harmful chemicals that spread into groundwater.”

And if you were ever tempted to flush your used condoms down the loo – please don’t. They enter sewers and eventually end up in the sea, where fish can ingest them. Grim.

Many big brands, including Durex and Skyn, do make polyisoprene condoms for people with latex allergies. But the planet has an allergy to them, as they don’t biodegrade at all. The only condoms that decompose safely are lambskin, which isn’t vegan and – crucially – doesn’t prevent STIs (as the membrane has perforations).

If your sex life is penis free, or you prefer self-love, you could be off the hook – unless of course, you use sex toys, most of which aren’t eco-friendly, either. The plastics used don’t biodegrade and often contain silicone, electronic parts and batteries, which can’t go in mainstream recycling. At the last count, 48% of people living in the UK own or have owned, a sex toy, and that’s a big problem. Your Rampant Rabbit could still be rampant thousands of non-biodegradable years later.

THE SEXTAINABLE REVOLUTION It’s enough to make you put your sex life to bed forever.

But there are innovative companies dedicated to filling the ecological deficit.

Let’s tackle that condom mountain first. Sustain Natural is a US-based company leading the charge on ethical prophylactics. It’s a Certified B Corporation (a legal standard that balances with those of the environment, employees and customers) and its products are chemical-free, organic, fair trade and vegan. “Our products are not only good for you but also good for the earth,” says cofounder Meika Hollender.

“The ultimate goal is to only create net-positive products.”

Though no one has cracked the fully biodegradable condom conundrum as yet, Meika argues that Sustain Natural’s are the closest you’ll get. “We reimagined the manufacturing process to eliminate the formation of nitrosamine, which is a known carcinogen. Our latex also comes from one of the most sustainable rubber plantations on the planet. Plus, preventing unplanned pregnancy has incredibly positive impacts on the environment.”

“Your Rampant Rabbit could still be rampant thousands of nonbiodegradable years later” Other brands are also fighting the good fight – Glyde has been making ethical, plant-based condoms for over 20 years; German brand Einhorn makes eco-friendly, vegan condoms; and for every one of Sir Richard’s vegan condoms sold, one is donated in the developing world. Even lube is getting in on the action – last year Good Clean Love’s Almost Naked became the first-ever carbon-neutral lubricant.

GOOD VIBES Want to get off and get down with the revolution? Why not try reaching an eco-friendly orgasm with the Gaia Eco, the world’s first recyclable and biodegradable vibrator, which is made from Biofel, a starch-based bioplastic. Alternatives include a solar-powered vibrator by California Exotic, or a Gläs Callisto Clear Glass Dildo, which – the company insists – won’t shatter but will offer an earth-shattering orgasm.

If you do already own an offending plastic vibrator, UKbased sex toy brand Love Honey will accept any batteryoperated toy, in a recycling scheme titled ‘Rabbit Amnesty’.

Award-winning sex educator Alix Fox has lots to say ➻

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WHO SAVES THE WORLD? GIRLS! “Now, with the anxiety and engagement around climate change, there’s a new wave of predominantly female-owned businesses proposing eco-sexual solutions to many sex and environment-related problems,” says Nichi Hodgson, author of The Curious History of Dating. “The great thing is that it’s dominated by women, who have previously been underrepresented in sex brands and start-up culture.”

It seems that sisters are, in fact, doing it for the planet.

Yes Yes Yes is an organic intimacy company founded by women, for women, specialising in natural lubricants. “The environmental impact of our products is of fundamental value to us,” its cofounders Sarah Brooks and Susi Lennox tell us. “We seek to ‘change the world from the inside’, and respect human health, wildlife and the environment. This is reflected in our carefully chosen organic, plant-based ingredients and recyclable, FSC-accredited packaging.”

Hanx is another female-backed company, selling fairtrade and vegan condoms marketed towards women. Vegan brand Lovability is also female-founded, makes condoms, lube and body sprays with names like ‘Hallelubeyah’ and ‘Moregasm Mist’, and even donates a chunk of its profits to Planned Parenthood.

ECO-CONSCIOUS COUPLING For some, buying an eco-friendly vibrator and a pack of vegan condoms is not enough. There’s a whole movement committed to sexual sustainability: eco-sexuality. The term was coined by porn-star-turned-sex-educator Anna Sprinkles, who believes the earth is “your lover, not your mother”.

Eco-shaggers are usually vegan, will avoid having children to reduce overpopulation and may even engage in sexual practices involving plant life, or watch vegan porn – we’ll leave this one up to your imagination. Eco-sexuals often find

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partners through apps such as Grazer and Vegan Eyes in the UK, or US dating site Green Singles, which has been around since 1996. “The original membership was mostly comprised of older, hardcore environmental activists, but now Green Singles also attracts eco-focused millennials,” says Jill Crosby, the site’s founder.

“The original idea of eco-sexuality was not about consumerism. It was about things like carving your own dildos out of brinjals because vibrators use up so much electricity,” explains Stephanie Theobald, author of Sex Drive: On The Road To A Pleasure Revolution. “It’s also about sexually appreciating nature. Have more sex outdoors – you’ll have much more ecstatic orgasms.”

Eco-sexuality is great for cash-strapped millennials, too, as most of it is free. “Many household objects can be very fun in sexual scenarios,” says Stephanie Alys, founder of sex-toy brand Mystery Vibe. “Ice for temperature play, a scarf for tying your partner up, or a clean wooden spoon for spanking.

Get creative!” You could, of course, just take matters into your own hands.

SEXUAL HEALING The most eco-friendly way to have heterosexual sex can, however, be the one with the most consequences. A large number of eco warriors are opting to use nothing at all, trusting the rhythm method and apps such as Natural Cycles (which claims to be 93% effective) to prevent pregnancy.

However, this doesn’t prevent STIs and isn’t a foolproof means of contraception. A Swedish hospital reported that of the 668 women who sought abortions between September and December 2017, 37 were using Natural Cycles as their sole birth control. So playing it safe for the environment isn’t always safe for you. Then there’s the feat that millennials and Gen Z-ers may stop having sex entirely. Which isn’t as absurd as it sounds, when you look at the statistics. A recent survey found that millennial women were having sex 4.8 times a month, down from 6.3 times ten years ago, and another study found that Americans in their early twenties are 2.5 times more likely to be abstinent than their Gen X equivalents were at the same age.

So, no need to take sex off the agenda just yet. Thanks to innovative products inspired by our burgeoning consumer conscious, you can still bonk responsibly. Brinjal dildos and wooden spoons, optional. *We would like to confirm that no brinjals have been harmed in the making of this feature.

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about making your sex life greener. She says NobEssence (yes, that’s its name) makes hand-sculpted wooden dildos, which, she assures us, are “highly polished to avoid splinters”, and Sway is a slick subscription service that curates femalefriendly, ethical sex products that it sends to your door every month. “I think it’s important to educate ourselves,” she says.

“I respect heyepiphora.com and dangerouslilly.com, which dive deep into the science behind the safety of sex products; busting myths, exploring ethics and blowing BS claims out of the water.” Sex education for the win.

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THINK Whether it’s Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch or Gifts, the common thread is expressing and receiving love in a language you understand. Five millennials share how they discovered their love languages.

Words by THOBEKA PHANYEKO

Edwain Steenkamp In a relationship Love language: Acts of Service Masego Malihlaba Single Love language: Words of Affirmation There were times when I’d be down and my ex wouldn’t know what to attribute this to, so he would try to lift my spirits. There was also constant miscommunication, and when I asked for something he would either be unresponsive or nonchalant about it. That’s when I knew we were speaking different languages. Initially, I accepted, and settled for, what I received because I thought everyone was different and I didn’t have to force someone to understand me.

This was the case until I discovered love languages – I’d say it was an eye-opening experience and communication between us improved. I was also more aware of what I wanted and needed from my relationships. In retrospect, I know why some of the relationships that had potential never worked; they would always be missing something. I don’t ever want my time wasted and to risk not having my needs met by a partner who has no intention of learning my love language. And because my love language is Words of Affirmation, I’ve found most of the men I’ve dated have difficulty expressing their emotions, and reassuring me verbally. I’m still learning and I appreciate the journey, but most importantly, I’ve learnt that you shouldn’t forcefully project your love language onto your partner. It’s not a plug and play; it’s a process that involves two people.

I never understood (or cared about) love languages, until I started dating seriously in my late-twenties. Going on dates and trying to build relationships, I was often told that I seemed aloof, because according to them, I didn’t express my emotions or desires explicitly, and equally bad for them, I didn’t show enough physical affection. I felt very self-aware about this, and like I was somehow letting others down. I even started thinking that perhaps I really was aloof! It was when I heard of the term ‘love languages’, and after doing some research, that I realised my love language is Acts of Service, i.e. I show my love to others by helping alleviate their burdens and stresses.

Knowing this about myself was crucial because it also helped me navigate my way through the dating world. I know that I do show love and affection adequately – just not in the way that many people want, or see as conventional. I realise it’s important to look for someone who appreciates the way you show love, and not try to change that to what their expectations are. This knowledge also helped increase my awareness and understanding that people give and receive love in different ways, and that we need to be open to putting our expectations aside and allow people to demonstrate their love in the way that is unique and authentic to them. I also discovered that I like to receive love through Words of Affirmation, i.e. words of praise and appreciation, as well as thoughtful and meaningful conversations. But that being said, my partner shows love through quality time, and that is still precious and beautiful to me because it’s authentic and organic. So the most important thing I’ve learned about love languages is to express your love authentically, and always allow your partner to do the same. ➻

Arthur Mukhari In a relationship Love language: Words of Affirmation I discovered my love language about two years ago when I got into a relationship. When I was a child, I would feel fuzzy inside whenever I received a compliment or words of encouragement. My mother used to tell me I was needy, which was really confusing for me because I always thought it was her responsibility to affirm me. I didn’t realise then that it was her way of preparing me for the real world. Even though she would rarely compliment me, when she did, I would throw a little party for myself because that was the only thing that made my heart smile. Knowing my love language has been beneficial to my relationships because my people actually know what kind of person I am. Hearing that I’m loved, being complimented and constantly reassured, really means a lot to me, despite how I was raised, which was to be tough and strong. My love language allows me to be vulnerable, which is a quality I struggled with before. This character trait actually helps me be the best version of myself, and I also get to transfer that energy to the rest of the world. I’m also more self-aware as a result of discovering my love language, and I’m able to suss out the BS and see people for who they are and their true intentions. I try to accommodate others by learning their love languages because I’m a firm believer in reassurance and making people feel comfortable in their own skin. Knowing your partner’s love language gives you the communication platform to explain what’s most important to meet their emotional needs, and also gives you the insight to figure out what’s important to them, so that you can navigate the relationship and also address theirs.

Nonku Hlophe In a relationship Love language: Acts of Service I find the concept of love languages very interesting.

I recently embarked on a journey to discover mine, which started with an online quiz. The results revealed that Acts of Service is my primary love language, followed by Words of Affirmation. This discovery helped me verbalise how I prefer to express and receive love, and provides context to how I’ve been navigating my relationships.

It’s clear to me now that I’ve always preferred Acts of Service, but I didn’t know it. Now that I’m aware of my love language, I’m able to use it to my advantage, and I’m particularly happy to use the love languages as a reference going forward. I think it’s important to express yourself correctly so your loved ones know how to love you in a way you’ll appreciate. I believe that this provides a secure base for your relationships and lets them thrive.

“I’m a firm believer in reassurance and making people feel comfortable in their own skin” – Arthur Mukhari

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Cody Hartman Engaged Love language: Acts of Service

PhotograPhy: Supplied by Participants

Acts of Service is my primary love language. Before I discovered my love language, I navigated relationships by just going with the flow and would explode when I felt too pressured to do certain things. Knowing my love language really changed my perspective on my relationship and it allows me to work on certain areas that I wasn’t aware needed attention before. I have definitely become more selfaware because you actually understand the way your partner operates. I try to accommodate others by speaking their love languages. The online quiz helps you become more accommodating of others because it gives you insight into different types of people that have different love languages. The importance of love languages in relationships is definitely finding various ways to show and communicate your love to each other.

Balegugu Ndlovu Single Love language: Words of Affirmation and Quality Time After multiple failed romantic relationships looking for my ideal someone, I learnt that it’s important to know and understand myself first. To understand how I need to be loved as well as how my preferred partner needs to be loved. It’s all about reciprocation, right? Having emotional needs fulfilled and being able to confidently fulfil the needs of those I love is heartwarming. Understanding something makes navigating it so much easier. I like to think of it as like driving a car. If

you know where you’re going, there’s no need to waste data on GPS navigation. Similarly, if you understand yourself and your partner’s love languages, it makes the relationship much healthier and a lot more exciting. You’ll find you’re able to avoid wastage by making the right efforts and loving your partner in a way they’ll appreciate. They may even be motivated to learn to love you better. I’m definitely more self-aware since discovering my love language – I believe each past relationship happened to teach me something about myself and how I need to be loved, but also how to be patient and learn to compromise, reciprocate and speak the love language. I believe love languages don’t just end with romantic relationships, they play a role in friendships too.

The saying ‘check on your strong friends’ should be taken seriously, because even friends we consider ‘strong’ have a love language. We get so caught up in our day-to-day lives that we don’t really take the time to nurture our relationships with our friends. It’s so easy to be selfish and expect our friends, boyfriend or girlfriend to be the ones to call and maintain the relationship. It’s a two-way street. Be curious about the people you love, and love them right! Knowing your love language is essential because it gives you the chance to explain what’s most important to meet your emotional needs, and also the insight to figure out what’s important to your loved ones so you can best meet their emotional needs.

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WORKit You’ve heard of it, and you’re wondering what all the fuss is about.

We tried the latest fitness trend: a 20-minute workout called BODYTEC.

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wo staff members from our office were raving about BODYTEC. I work in an open-plan office, so it’s only natural I tuned into their conversation. Initially, I was intrigued by the fact each session lasts only 20 minutes (which is short, in my opinion). I thought it could be a perfect alternative to having to renew my gym membership, and then having to drag myself there every morning.

Because let’s be honest: that gym rush can be intimidating. With that, I decided to put my body to the test and give it a shot. Here, head trainer at BODYTEC Alex Johl sheds light on this workout.

what is it?

BODYTEC is a form of EMS (electricalmuscle stimulation) training using Miha BODYTEC EMS technology that was developed by the medical industry in Germany.

how does it work?

EMS training is a full-body, highintensity, strength-training method.

Electrical impulses cause muscles to contract, making them stronger and more toned. EMS devices send electronic pulses to your motor nerves, producing a higher number of muscle-fibre contractions than a regular workout.

how effective is it?

During EMS training, up to 90% of your muscles are activated at once, and contractions are of higher quality and are more intense than what you’d experience if you were doing the same exercises voluntarily. Compared to conventional weight training, EMS training activates deeper muscle groups, which results in improved balance and core stability.

how often should i do it?

For the best results, Alex recommends one 20-minute session per week, followed by a minimum 72-hour recovery before your next session.

when will i see results?

That all depends on you and your training goals. Most members feel

results after just a few sessions, and start seeing results such as firming, toned muscles, some weight loss and reduced back pain within four to six weeks.

is it a lifestyle?

EMS training is a form of intensified strength training and doesn’t guarantee weight loss on its own.

Although having stronger muscles means you burn more kilojoules, a balanced exercise plan, including cardio and a healthy diet, is recommended for weight loss.

can anyone do it?

Anyone who can do basic exercises can do BODYTEC, and your fitness level doesn’t need to be high. Pregnant women, and those with a pacemaker or an acute illness such as a fever or recent surgery, won’t be allowed to

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train. People who have certain medical conditions will only be allowed to do it with their doctor’s consent.

is it safe?

FEEDBACK FROM THE OFFICE

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Jesé-CHé LiLLienFeLdt, Beauty editor, GLAMOUR 5 Sessions Later: “I pushed myself at my first session. At one point, I felt like I’d lost control of my body, but I knew I had to endure it. As the saying goes, ‘No pain, no gain!’”

edWain steenKaMP, déCor editor, HOUSE & GARDEN 8 sessions later: “This was when I noticed a change in my body, as it started getting firmer and tighter.

The best part was that my friends and family could see it too.”

Ziyaad Bassier, art direCtor, GLAMOUR 10 sessions later: “Since I started, I feel physically stronger, have more energy, and now I crave being active. I’ve even taken up swimming and jogging. I don’t see myself stopping BODYTEC anytime soon.”

Yes it is. A lot of research has gone into the technology and training methods behind BODYTEC. Personal trainers attend regular training courses, even after they’ve qualified.

what if i don’t finish the course?

It’s not advisable to start, and then stop, the course. As with any form of exercise, consistency helps you achieve the best results. Although you only need to do one 20-minute session per week, you should commit to attending them all. It isn’t a one-off or quick-fix solution. It’s a training program; and as with other training programs, you need to do it consistently to get the best results from it.

You can train at any of the 40 BODYTEC studios across the country.

For more information call 021 418 3479 or visit bodytec.co.za

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to the environment. The pesticides and fertilisers used in growing these crops are harmful, too.

The other issues are GMOs and the monopoly on seeds. There are companies that specialise in the sale

he world is in an environmental and human rights crisis.

Unfortunately, the fashion

It’s time to face the truth about textile production and the choices you can make to secure a better future for the planet.

The demand on cotton has resulted in its genetic modification to create a higher yield with greater resistance to disease. Yet the seeds have a toxic side effect on the soil they’re grown in and are not distributed fairly or with consideration to the heavy export duties and low prices. These problems create a chain-reaction of other issues that eventually filter down to the communities living in those

industry (which we all

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affordable, fast-fashion

contributors to this. Hard

of the present without

biggest offender of them all:

T-shirt comes at a much

pill to swallow, I know. That

compromising the ability of

cotton.

heftier price than you think.

doesn’t mean we have to

future generations to meet

jump ship and walk around

their own needs’. In the

prolific global crop – the

recycled cotton is the way

in our birthday suits. It

fashion context, that means

most water-demanding of

forward. It’s not perfect, but

does, however, mean that

a lot: identifying brands

the them all – and the one

it’s cheaper to produce and

we all have a responsibility,

that are on a sustainable

most riddled with labour

is far less harmful to the

as Africans, to think

trajectory and have suitable

and fair-trade issues.

environment. Other crops to

more carefully about how

labour practices, which

and what we buy, what

means figuring out how

arid soil, usually in areas

and bamboo, all of which

quantities we use and what

and where your garments

that don’t have access to

are better for the world than

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are made, and making a

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cotton.

identifying and rewarding

commitment to shop more

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development in brands

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And these aren’t hard to find. Keep your eyes open

Cotton itself is not a

and make sure you choose

harmful plant, in essence,

your fabric carefully. Study

is a complex issue, certainly

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the labels and find out as

more so than what can

involved in treating,

much as you can about

sustainable development?

be addressed in a single

spinning, dyeing, and

where it was made. Demand

The Brundtland Report

article, so let’s begin the

ultimately transforming

transparency from those

defines it as ‘development

conversation one thread

them into fabric, are riddled

retailers. You have the right

that meets the needs

at a time, starting with the

with waste that is harmful

to play the field.

and cultivating sustainable behaviour as consumers.

Firstly, what is

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This beautiful addition to Steenberg

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Tiger’s Milk strikes the perfect balance

dishes inspired by the East, and

between a rebellious rock-and-roll

occasionally influenced by traditional

attitude and a comfortable, fun

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beets, fine beans, blueberry gastric

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chicken breast and sesame seeds,

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In 1904, the hamburger gained

carpaccio for dessert (R85).

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Arbour Café & Courtyard

favourite restaurants in Kloof pays

The Famous Butcher’s Grill

64 St Andrew Street, Birdhaven

homage to the year, boasting a

101 Buitengracht Street, Cape Town

011 788 4111

modern American diner-style interior

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Owned by renowned restaurateur

and hearty portions big enough for

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a leisurely ladies’ lunch. We enjoyed

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Wrenrose Avenue, Sandton

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tender, lamb rogan josh (R127).

ceramics, jewellery and more.

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Earthmother Organic

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of Sandton’s Central Business District.

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Its new summer menu is on-trend,

This homely, peaceful, quaint café

combining international expertise with

and grocery store has a well-stocked

an African flair. We enjoyed sea bass

bookshelf and loads of plants. From

with beetroot mash, young vegetables

the organic vegetarian and vegan

and sauce vierge (R275), perfectly

menu, the mixed-berry smoothie

paired with fine wine and followed by

(R48) goes down perfectly with the

a hot, chocolate fondant with Rocky

Thai nut tortilla wrap (R75). A bonus:

Road and ice cream (R110).

the entire menu is good for you.

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national recognition. One of our

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Agent Running in the Field by John le Carré (Penguin Books Ltd; R489) It begins with a 47-year-old intelligence officer named Nat, who

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suspects he’s in for an early retirement after a middling career at

Little Weirds by Jenny Slate

MI6. He’s more interested in playing

(Little, Brown Book Group; R461)

badminton than running a station of

Actress Jenny Slate’s alternately

spies. Le Carré effortlessly weaves a

tender and twee not-exactly memoir.

plot involving a young opponent of

The comedian wraps her themes in

Vanity Fair’s Women on Women

by Radhika Jones and David Friend (Penguin Putnam Inc; R603)

Nat’s who’s possibly a double agent

ethereal layers of whimsy, fantasising

for Putin’s Russia. This is understated

throughout that she isn’t a woman but

and modulated to the low-key finale,

a mouse, a croissant and a lighthouse.

The magazine’s current editor-in-

but also pleasurable. –Taylor Antrim

Rather than asking herself ‘the same

chief, Radhika Jones, and editor David

old questions’, the comedian posits,

Friend, have gathered up some of the

‘what if I only dreamed gardens, what

shiniest touchstones. The collection

if I ate carrots because what if I were

offers glimpses of a randy Julia Child,

a pleasant rabbit?’ – Lauren Mechling

an emotionally scarred Tina Turner, and a glittering Princess Diana,

schoolgirl was still there’. Full of

The Problem With Everything: My Journey Through the New Culture Wars by Meghan Daum

glamour and personality, the book is a

(Gallery Books; R543)

celebration of women’s voices.

A lament over the contradictions and

captured at a moment when ‘star quality was still emerging, but the

paradoxes now gripping the resistance-mad left. Daum is mortified at the Trump presidency. But she’s also gripped with dismay at the way nuance and complexity have disappeared from the discourse around feminism, #MeToo, identity politics, and other preoccupations among the liberal social-media set.

Around My Table by Denise Cowburn-Levy (Flyleaf; R459) Chef and owner of cooking school, Ginger & Lime, Denise CowburnLevy shares her love for food and travelling, whipping up tried-andtested recipes at her homes in the Western Cape and Lake Como, Italy.

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Spelt, Slow-roasted tomatoes and ricotta

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On the menu at trendy Cape Town-based eatery, The Athletic Club & Social, are three types of Mediterraneanstyle tapas – vegetarian, meat and seafood. Head chef Law Mawoneke shares his favourites.

Spelt, SlowRoaSted tomatoeS and Ricotta

� 1kg plum tomatoes,

Serves 1, or can be shared Spelt:

> Pre-heat oven between

temperature to 80°C.)

100°C and 120°C.

> Let tomatoes cool. Then,

� 125ml olive oil

> Mix all ingredients in

store them in the fridge,

� 60ml sherry vinegar

a bowl.

sandwiched between

� 40ml pomegranate

> Add tomatoes and toss

sheets of grease-

gently, until evenly coated.

proof paper.

halved, length-ways

molasses

Cook 140g spelt in boiling

� 1 Tbsp harissa

> Arrange tomatoes,

water. Drain and let cool.

� 1 Tbsp sumac

cut side up, on a metal

to add to Spelt:

� A few sprigs of thyme

rack. Cook for three to

� Handful fresh basil

� Sea salt and

five hours. (To cook

� Handful fresh parsley

overnight, drop the

� Handful giant Spanish

Slow-roaSted tomatoeS:

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black pepper

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Sweet-potato criSpS:

Turn down the heat and

Finely slice sweet potato

cook until cauliflower turns

with a mandolin, sprinkle

dark brown. Remove

with olive oil and salt, and

excess butter and return

bake in the oven at 180°C,

the cauliflower to the pan,

until crispy.

adding some of the milk and crumbling in yeast.

about head chef law mawoneke

cauliflower puree:

Add the rest of the milk

law mawoneke, who hails from Zimbabwe, knew from a

� 200g unsalted butter

and reduce on a low

young age that his career would be in the kitchen, and

� 200ml milk

simmer. Let cool, then blitz

has continued to sharpen his skills since he began his

� 12g fresh yeast

into a purée.

culinary journey at the V&a waterfront in 2013. He’s been

� 2 Tbsp vegetable oil

part of the restaurant’s team since it opened in 2018.

� Juice of one lemon

to SeRve: Place two to three slices

> Take a head of

of grilled aubergine on a

cauliflower and cut into

plate. Add a few small

parsley, basil, and the

small florets. Fry the

dollops of cauliflower

tomato and chilli dressing.

florets until they start to

purée, and sprinkle with

Not too much dressing –

change colour. Add butter

basil, mint, pomegranate

you want a tasty salad,

and heat, until it forms a

and sliced almonds. For

tomato and cHilli

not a soggy one! Toss the

warm sauce, which the

added crunch, top with

dreSSing:

salad. Place roasted

French call beurré noisette.

sweet-potato crisps.

Makes about 700ml

tomatoes on top of the

�3 ripe tomatoes,

spelt, and spoon the

green olives � 1 Tbsp (per person) ricotta cheese

deseeded and diced � 2 to 4 red chillies, deseeded and roughly

ricotta over it. Don’t mix it – leave that pleasure to your guests.

PhotograPhy: Supplied by The Athletic Club & Social

chopped � 1 Tbsp dry chilli flakes

GRilled aubeRGine

� 2 Tbsp caster sugar

Serves 1, or can be shared

� Juice of 2 lemons � 150ml olive oil

aubergineS:

� 100ml walnut oil

� Slice aubergines

� Sea salt and black pepper, to taste

lengthways and lather in a mixture of: � 60ml soya sauce

> Blend all ingredients

� 45ml olive oil

(except the oils) until

� Salt, to taste

smooth. Add oils

� 20g flaked almonds

gradually, continuing to

� Handful fresh basil

blend. Season to taste.

leaves, chopped � Handful fresh mint

to SeRve: Once spelt has cooled, add chopped olives,

leaves, chopped � Pomegranate seeds (when in season)

grilled aubergine

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THINK Tonia Petersen Our mother is our biggest supporter, and she’s elevated us to reach our potential in every way, allowing us to be independent and grow as women. She’s not only an aesthetically beautiful woman, but she’s the perfect example of alluring inner beauty because she’s selfless, and able to love and give unwaveringly.

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Yara Shahidi She’s living proof that brown women can shine, even if it feels like the world is against us. Her activism, thirst for knowledge and understanding of the importance of education have shown us the positive example we can set using a variety of platforms.

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Aunty Shehaam We’ve known her for practically our entire lives, and have seen her endure trauma that, we imagine, is too much for one person, yet her love for life and people is so eminent. We see her as another mother figure in our lives. She’s taught us that you don’t need to have blood ties to be family.

3 THE WOMEN WHO MADE ME

SA fashion models and former Glamour Paris cover stars, Jodie and Justine Petersen, on the women who inspired them.

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This incredible eight-year-old is such an inspiration to us. Zinnia is a pageant star, who was crowned Miss Petite SA 2019, Miss Petite Universe SA 2019 and Miss Petite Western Cape 2019. Her most recent victory was Goddess of the World Junior Overall Winner 2019. She’s also the ambassador for the NGO, Angels United Helping Hands.

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The matriarch of our family is confident, bold and loves fiercely. She’s taught us that having a sense of humour is our biggest strength. Our grandmother can walk into any space and bring joy into peoples’ hearts. Life would be dull without her.

WORDS: Shannon Manuel PhOtOgRaPhy: Dart Photography

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