JAAN PEHCHAN THEME SEXUAL HARASSMENT
With Dr. Severine Minot
AAP KI BAJI Advice Column to Answer Your Queries
TODAY’S CUP OF TEA ZEY SE ZANANA Urdu section on Women
WHAT’S POPPIN’? You Should Check it Out!
I SPY WITH MY LITTLE EYE We don’t Overlook What You may do
HU GAZETTE Vol 1, Issue 1 | Nov - Dec 2017
I whole-heartedly express my gratitude to all the core team members of the magazine who worked selflessly to piece this gazette together. We hope to stay connected and produce continuous editions of this student-led initiative. The gazette will cover and emphasize on crucial and important themes which are in dire need to be recognized, similarly like abuse and harassment which are rampant and should be focused on by the students. I hope to see the same zeal and enthusiasm in the students in terms of contributing as well as support. Your feedback for the improvement of the magazine is highly appreciated and welcomed by all means. Editor-in-chief, Amna Ashraf Class of 2021
EDITORIAL
I feel honored and elated to present to the readers the very first edition of the HU Gazette. It is a bilingual magazine representing the essence of the entire university. Poetry, literary work as well as advice-seeking questions have been received, in both English and Urdu and are full of originality and exuberance. The major theme for this edition of the gazette is abuse and harassment faced in many spectrums of life, whether it is physical, emotional or psychological. SSE as well as AHSS students submitted their interesting pieces, which acted as a delightful surprise for the community because of the eager response for the first ever edition of the gazette.
Meet The Team Project Director
Baneen Rizvi
Project Lead
Muhammad Mooneeb
Editor in Chief Editor Assistant Editor
Amna Ashraf Faizan Masudi Soomal Haleem
Mudeer Ma'wan Mudeer
Yusra Afzal Muhammad Ahmed
Lead Designer Designers
Bushra Jabeen Maryam Qureshi Mashal Faraz Shamsi Fatima Nadeem
Reporters
Arham Sarwar Maria Tariq Safia Hussain
1 Editorial
4 What’s Poppin’? 6 Reviews
8 Jaan Pehchan
10 Critique (Op-ed)
CONTENTS Zey Se Zanana 11
Today’s Cup of Tea 14
Apki Baji 16 What’s Cooking? 18
I Spy with My Little Eye 20
What�s ' Highlights 21st September: Movie Screening (AIR) 21st September: Tug of War (S&RC) 21st September: 2017 Engage for Education (Kawish)
The Orientation, conducted by the HU Student Life, was five glorious days of entertainment, acclimation, making new friends and (most importantly) free food in order to welcome the Class of 2021.
26th September: Women in Journalism (H-Fem)
Mooneeb Hussian Project Lead, HU Gazette Class of 2021
12th October: Patterns of Languages and Programs (Brain.Hack()) 17th October: Movie Trivia Night (Habib Arts Society- Inaugural Event)
21st to 25th AugustWeek of Welcome Conducted by : HU Student Life
Photo Credits: Taha Murtuza Ali
The Week of Welcome was about welcoming the Lions back home to celebrate the start of a new semester. Arham Sarwar Reporter, HU Gazette Class of 2019
15th September Karaoke (Habib Anime Club)
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Poppin'
Missed an event at Habib? Don’t worry fam.We bring you the events highlights in this section!
Highlights 17th October: Photoshop and Illustration Workshop (Brain.Hack() and Habib Arts Society)
17th October - 24th October: HU Sports Olympiad Conducted by: Sports & Recreational Club
24th October: Nature Inspired Computing Talk (Brain.Hack( )
The Sports Olympiad was the first ever mega event organized by a student-led club at HU. It consisted of various competitions and had more than 450 participants partake in them.
26th October - 29th October: HUMUN Conducted by: Habib University Public Speaking Club
Talha Shaheer Aitemaad Class of 2019
HUMUN was Habib University’s first ever Model United Nations Conference which provided a platform to individuals for critical and thoughtful thinking following its motto for ‘celebrating diversity and resolving differences.’
Shaam-e-Jaun Eilia (Aaraish-e-Khayal)
3rd November: Biology Meets Society (H-Fem) 3rd November: Mehfil-e-Dastangoi at Ghalib Library (Aaraish e Khayaal) 21st September: Engage for education (Kawish)
Ali Arshad Class of 2020 Shaam-e-Jaun Eliia (Araish-e-Khayaal)
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Bohat hogae parhae. We food. We want movies. And paani? Nahee, more like
want de-stressing.We want we want books. Bijli, daana, kitaben, khaana, movies.
It’s Popcorn Time MAMA (2013) Being a horror movie buff, I have inevitably chosen a horror/thriller movie for this review. Directed by Andy Muschietti, it is the story of 2 girls, who due to some unfortunate circumstances have been left in the wild for 5 years which leads to their transformation into feral children. (Hint, hint: Tarzan) So it’s about the revival of the 2 sisters (back to normal), which is hindered due to the mystery of Mama- a figure the 2 seem to look up to. Hold onto your seats and hearts as you watch new bonds form, however tentative- all the while hoping for the girls to humanise themselves completely. All in all, it’s a great movie, definitely worth a watch!
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Reader's paradise Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon I’m not getting paid to say this so when I say this I actually mean it, this is a beautiful book and you will fall in love with it. It is the story of a girl (Maddy) with a disease called SCID, due to which she has to quite literally lived her entire life in a bubble because she’s allergic to everything. (Yes everything, everything) I mean this is the modern day Rapunzel- she has not set foot out of her house for 17 years. Captivating, witty and interesting, this is her story; how she meets Olly, a guy who makes her question the life she’s living- in fear and safety and compels her to dare to take risks if it means she gets to actually go out into the world and have all the experiences she longs to have- to actually feel alive. It’s the type of book that you can’t resist not reading; you just want to devour it whole at once. So go ahead, pick up this book and thank me later. Or don’t. Happy reading!
Guess what, Habibis? There’s a new dealer in town! And she walks the very same hallways as you do! MAJOR BONUS: Now you can get high legally, without any major repercussions. Curiosity unlocked? I’m talking about- drum roll pleaseYusra Humayun’s delicious, appetizing, scrumptious, tasteful, (yeah I looked up synonyms for yummy in the thesaurus) chunky CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES. So they’re not just large in size but they’re just the right amount of crumbly and intactness with chocolate chips highly populating the insides. Every bite is like diving into love. So here I am with a new coping mechanism for y’all, ‘cause what are a few cavities in the quest for happiness? Ciao!
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JAAN PEHCHAN with
Dr. SEVERINE MINOT
Have you ever left a class without the class leaving you? Have you ever been curious about who lives insides your professor? Well let that door get smacked down as we bring to you gupshup with some of our very own prestigious faculty.
This issue on Jaan Pechan, we bring to you a very esteemed faculty member here at Habib University, Dr. Severine Minot to talk about the issue of harassment and abuse with us. As a PhD in Sociology, Miss Minot is equipped to talk authoritatively on this subject. Let’s walk through on what she had to say. What does harassment and abuse mean to you?
I think there is not a lot of it happening in school, regarding the need to interact in a healthy manner that actually promotes mutual development and growth and has collective fulfillment. I think that putting each other down in whatever shape or form compromises our ability to develop our potential, either through access to public spaces, work or education but also access through self-esteem. How will you stir ahead and believe in yourself when you have a low self-esteem? Therefore, I believe we have to be more accountable to each other for which education is the way to go but how do you even do it? How do you begin? I think people are afraid to look at themselves, both collectively and personally. They are too concerned about their image and shame attached with such issue. ‘Honor’ supersedes the willingness to progress and bring change in mainstream attitudes towards such pressing issues.
In the broadest sense, it is some sort of symbolic violence, which can be psychological or physical. It is an attack on a person’s dignity. Often, harassment and/or abuse exists on a spectrum of mildest to most severe. In the mildest form, it can be an insult or a sexualizing comment on the street whilst the most severe forms can be physical assault, beatings and flogging. Women generally are most exposed to harassment or abuse but men, too, can be victims. In the latter’s case, it can often be worse because of the ‘competitive’ mindset amongst them. This manifests itself in insults, bullying etc, which normalizes and desensitizes the issue. However, this can negatively affect self-esteem and create self-doubt, depression and anxiety. Therefore, I think power is an essential component here, which is why the focus of men as perpetrators and women as victims is over-done now and I think this needs to be seriously addressed. We need to expand and explore this topic and relationships, even within the home. This is because even parents do not realize the extent to which they can be abusive, particularly in the way they speak to their children. I think the lack of flexibility in the way we define harassment and abuse that makes us blind to the ways in which we can perpetuate it on others.
It is an attack to a person's dignity.
Is it possible to formulate a way to get rid of the culture that perpetuates it?
How does harassment and abuse affect its victims? Can the frequency with which it takes place worsen the adverse impact? The impact of harassment or abuse on your mental health depends not just on the severity of it (that is the spectrum on which it lies with cat-calling being mild and rape being the most extreme) but also the frequency with which it occurs. Therefore, if you have had to face mild forms of harassment/abuse but it is continuous in your life and happens every day then it will probably destroy your self-esteem. Unless you have people around you who give you an instance of respect and full dignity that you are entitled to, you may in fact internalize this abuse to the point where you think that you deserve it and that that it is normal. This is a behavior that I have personally witnessed at various counselling sessions. It often leads to dissociative disorders, deep repression and sublimation.
You need what I call classes of relational hygiene.
In terms of prevention, you need what I call classes of relational hygiene. In primary school and secondary school, you need to get parents involved. I call this relational hygiene because it is about keeping relations and interaction clean. How do you do that? That does not mean you cannot joke around with people you are comfortable with but it means that you are always responsible for the affect that you have on others. HU GAZETTE
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About HFEM | Habib Feminist Collective Founded in 2014, HFEM is the first official student club at Habib, following the university’s vision to make the campus a safe space, that’s tolerant and accepting of diversity, both in identity and dialogue. Our intent is to bridge the gap created by patriarchal institutions within the Habib community and outside it through advocacy, awareness and dialogue. HFEM engages these issues by starting channels of conversation and engaging in varied forms of activism. Feminism is often seen as a “modern,” Western ideology that is exclusionary. We seek to dispel such misconceptions and introduce a postcolonial, intersectional feminist thought, which is also in line with the built-in pluralism of Habib University’s philosophy of Yoshin. The safe space that the university provides, under this philosophy, has allowed students to study, freely debate and challenge dominant narratives on gender, sex, sexuality, sexual orientation, racism, classism, ableism, gendered violence, all of which are deeply interconnected. Yet, HFEM, does not want this discourse to be merely limited to academia. Our larger aim is to expand feminist dialogue outside the Habib community, to a wider audience In light of this, we dream of a future where student-led feminist societies pop up across Pakistani universities to bring in alternative dialogue that includes the voices of the marginalized that have been previously unheard, invalidated and erased, fighting persistently on equality against all cases of discrimination, within and outside our institutions
If you could give a message to all those who have suffered abuse and harassment, what would it be? You do not ‘escape’ from trauma. You heal from it and one cannot heal with anger, resentment and frustration. These emotions are a manifestation of negative energy and they can consume the person entirely, impacting their very being. It has to be replaced with love and care for one’s own self because love is what sparks positive energy within you and feeds your broken soul so that it can stand up and shine like never before. This process is the human equivalent to a Japanese art from called, ‘Kintsugi’, in which pieces of a broken pottery are used to recreate it by mending with a golden glue. The texture that the golden threads give to the mended pottery makes it appear even more beautiful than its original being. In a similar way, humans can refine themselves, despite years of abuse. Healing is what gives your life a sense of purpose. You cannot live your entire life as a victim or even a survivor. ‘Surviving’ means you are still clinging on to a past that has left you scarred and broken. The entire reason for your being cannot be survival. You have to be a warrior, instead! You have to be a warrior in the sense of being driven, passionate and motivated.
You have to be a warrior, instead! BY AMNA ASHRAF
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CRITIQUE (OP-ED)
Have something to say? Flip the coin and pick a side. We’ve got space waiting for your words like fields of sowed crops waiting for rain.
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Sexual harassment. An uncomfortable dislodging of the throat; a concept nonchalantly, frequently brushed underneath the hypothetical carpet. Incidents shared in hushed voices, dialogues dipping several octaves lower to accommodate the term sexual. Yet, there is no issue when publicly discussing harassment. Despite, quite disturbingly, one term being far more detrimental and damaging than its counterpart. Once conjoined, the two create a fearful, formidable, befuddling phrase. It can – and will – strike discomfort within the hearts and minds of countless. A subject which – within the context of a South Asian society specifically–is avoided much the same way one would dodge the plague; sexual harassment is one such topic. A topic which, despite its gross prevalence and begrudgingly afforded status as a heinous harm, remains a subject with blurred edges, and baffling parameters. What is sexual harassment? In defining the matter, a stark divide is instantaneously drawn. At one end of the spectrum, individuals, perhaps even the law and judiciary, would abide by a clean-cut, textbook definition.Still others would contest the permeability of such a definition. After all, if one were to define sexual harassment as simply harassment based off one’s gender, the flexibility of the term harassment seems boundless.Certain examples, granted, remain unsaid. A group of rowdy, lewd men following a woman down a street, catcalling and tossing about gendered slurs, can entirely be considered as sexual harassment. A female employer inappropriately commenting on a male employee’s body and sexuality within a professional setting, can similarly be considered as sexual harassment.Indeed, every place of work might sustain a committee and code of conduct, charting out the specifics and ramifications of sexual harassment. Yet, when such codification devolves to mere appeasement and formality, 10
By: Sarah Ansari the larger context and impact of the issue is conveniently ignored.For sexual harassment is not restricted to gritty desk-jobs, where the nine-to-five workers struggle to shoulder their way past a predominantly indigestible world. That ominous code of conduct does not alter social conditioning and understanding. Perhaps through the fault of its abiders, it is boxed as a corporate issue, and not an ill which manages to seep and conquer near every sphere of human existence.For sexual harassment runs abound within this country; it trickles through the corporate sector and entertainment industry, plants itself firmly in educational institutions, lingers between the crannies that hold domestic structures together, and offers glimpses in the daily societal melee. A failure to address this reality, however, is what largely discourages women from pursuing work as flexibly as they would wish. It is this common, hive-mind understanding of equating the corporate sector with sexual harassment which ultimately chips away from the movement, and disadvantages women from entering the workforce en-mass, as is needed, as it should be.Sexual harassment, this taboo, often frowned-upon term (but not for the reasons one would imagine or hope), is afforded a disastrously meagre amount of prominence and seriousness within Pakistan.Inappropriately approaching one’s house-help can be regarded as sexual harassment. However, for the typically-orthodox Pakistani citizen, steeped well within the narrative of rejecting anything close to progressive in the name of cultural preservation, sexual harassment is tantamount to rape. Sexual harassment and sexual assault are interchangeable, if not alike. Indeed, is there a difference? So what if a boy harangues a girl for her number? That is just boys being boys, after all, is it not? And how dare one attempt to stifle male sexuality in the name of Western feminism? Nov-Dec / 2017
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[ Today’s Cup of Tea ]
Harassment of Women and Men
a serious issue or merely a joke? Aaiye, aaiye. Let’s make matters chai-ofied and let our minds release ideas into the air while tea keeps us grounded. issue in entirely different and unfair ways. It does not imply that the very same act of aggravation must count men as the odd ones out. The Pakistani actor Hania Amir’s snapchat story in which she attempts to invade a man’s personal space and publicly laughs about it is a similar case where the uneasiness of the man is dismissed and ridiculed. Additionally, it is noteworthy how both men and women in our society look at the harassment of the male gender as a source of their entertainment. Even the person who is the victim of that kind of treatment is taught and expected to not be bothered by such acts since the male gender is anticipated to be the powerful one. However, if a man stands up for himself when he is harassed, he is regarded as feminine, weak and not strong enough. This is similar to the “boys don’t cry” kind of generalization. In a human society, emotions exist. It is unfair to expect one gender to possess emotions while the other to have no emotions and sense of discomfort at all. According to Psychology Today, 16.1 percent of 7,809 sexual harassment charges filed in 2011 were those of men. Similarly, 10-20% men face sexual harassment in the workplace. The statistics are endless. It is high time for us to not only ponder upon the seriousness of harassment as a prevalent issue in the society, but to also look at it with an open mind and consider it as a problem for all instead of that of one particular gender.
Anyone who understands harassment must be well aware of what it implies. Every action of a person that comprises of making another individual uncomfortable, unsafe and bothered by physical or emotional means constitutes what we refer to as Harassment. However, in the society we live in, it is evident how the very issue of harassment is treated way differently in different situations. The seriousness of this issue is measured by the sexual orientation of the victim in that situation which is not unreasonable. It has to be deemed unacceptable for one case to be treated as a serious issue that must be eradicated while the other case as a joke. In a South Asian society, with the rise of feminism as a movement, it is apparent how a great amount of people who claim to be “feminists” fail to count men in the equation at all.
At that point, they fail to understand the entire concept of what feminism really is. The movement promotes the equal treatments of all genders. However, in a situation where a man is harassed, the alleged feminists make a joke out of it. It becomes a matter to be giggled about and the person becomes a laughing stock. It is true that in a male dominated society where the amount of harassment that women face is higher than that of men, but that in no way requires a person to judge a note-worthy
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Watch Your Words by Anonymous
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ery recently, I searched for the full form of ‘via’ ‘cause even though I knew what it meant, I didn’t know what it stood for. After hitting up Google, I found out I didn’t even know what it meant exactly(lol). There is no full form for ‘via’, its literal meaning is “road” Or “route”. So something that connects 2 things- forms a bridge between them. I’m here to talk about one such bridge, something that connects people and defines a whole lot of what an individual thinks about and how he feelswords. Do you ever think of what you say before saying it? No, we often let words fall out of our mouths like sand slipping through our hands, not giving them much thought or effort, not realizing that these distinct sounds we make will shape some kind of reality for the person who hears them. I think people are very much like flowers. If you keep your flowers within clean air, they’ll bloom but if you surround them with polluted gas they’ll wither and die. Words are the air that people inhale and if they’re kind and encouraging, you have no idea what wonders they’ll do for a heart that needs them but if they’re cruel and oppressive, they can make a person’s insides wither and die. I believe words are very powerful- after all, they are the capsules that transmit abstract thoughts or feelings from one person to another. They are the very medium of communication. Saying them gives you some sort of validation of the wild things that go through your mind, saying them gives you a feeling of relief- as if you’ve released the monsters that have been hammering the walls of your brain, torturing you for no reason at all. But it’s not right to inflict your demons onto someone else either, just for the sake of your own liberation.
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leaves no mark- a child does not go home with something as obvious as a purple eye to have their parents freak out and threaten to confront the responsible party but they go through their day without having anyone notice what is going inside them because of what someone said to them that has affected them to the extent to have their mental health in jeopardy. Every person has had their share of bullshit- excuse the rough language- but yes, we all go through things in life that drag us down and make us feel useless or unworthy or just downright depressed. And this world we live in? Sorry for the spoiler alert but it’s a pretty messed up place, and you will find things that upset you without even trying. So the point I’m trying to make is that the world is not okay, and sometimes the people are not okay either, in a reality such as this, I cannot stress enough on how important it is to BE KIND, kind in not just your actions but kind with your words. Whether you believe it or not, you have the power to change someone’s entire day and it’s so frickin’ easy- like all you have to do is speak of the good you notice in someone, whether it’s physical or an attribute. Like someone’s shoes? Speak up. Like someone’s smile? Tell them! Like someone’s way of getting passionate about things that matter? ARTICULATE THE THOUGHT. Please don’t keep it inside because that is not going to benefit anyone. And if you’re asking how this benefits you, you get to see someone’s eyes light up and their face brighten up as they smile- it’s sure to make you happy as “no good deed is selfless”(‘cause you feel good when you do good) as Joey Tribbiani once said. (F.R.I.E.N.D.S reference, boo-yeah!). I’ll end it here by requesting y’all to be more careful with your words because there’s enough darkness in the world already, let’s be candles and light up the way for not just ourselves but others as well. Love is the message. Peace!
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Aap Ki Baji How to manage workload without stressing out about it? Hello there. I think, for you to be able to organize your workload in a way that it doesn’t end up stressing you out, you should know the importance of timetables. Timetables worked in high school and college and I guarantee you they will do you a favor in university as well. Create a timetable for yourself and organize your readings and assignments in a pattern that is not stressful to you. Although, there may be cases where you have multiple assignments due on the same day or on consecutive days, in such circumstances, it is important for you to start way earlier than what the due date really is. I know it is hard but that’s also the most comfortable way of submitting good quality assignments on time. I agree that procrastination is a part of this process because we have all been there. But believe me when I say that once you begin organizing your assignments through timetables and succeed in following it religiously, it will do nothing but motivate you to do better. Timetables can be in any form. If you’re not an artsy person, just use the sticky notes on your computer and if you are, then hey more power to you. Create a fancy timetable (motivational quotes and memes are a plus!) AND DO NOT FORGET TO FOLLOW IT. Good luck.
Now that was the question I was waiting for! But I kinda need a little more description about your situation before I answer that question. What kind of relationship do you have with her? Is she a friend or is she a stranger? Do you guys talk or do you look at her from the sidelines? Help me out a little, would ya? I know that isn’t possible at this moment so for now, I’d suggest you to take it slow. Asking someone out requires baby steps. You must develop a connection with that person before you let your cat out of your bag. That’s it for now. Make sure you send in more details to me in the next issue. Awaiting your response.
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What is the best place on campus to be alone,cry, and have a mental breakdown in peace without people asking you if you're okay? Hi. This is such a common and important question, both at the same time. I feel like the university should have its own crying society already! We all have breakdowns and are forced to control or stop them due to the fear of someone looking or asking if we are okay when WE CLEARLY ARE NOT! However, I do have a few on-campus spots that qualify when it comes to having undisturbed breakdowns. First, the Zen Garden. Go there and have your moment. Take care.
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Basically, all this interaction with computers and cell phones hurts my eyes very much. I cannot avoid using it because readings, assignments and basically everything needs to be done using one of these devices. What am I supposed to? Stop reading or doing my assignments? Or let the rays hurt my eyes? I am genuinely upset because I do not know what to do. I love my eyes I don't wanna wear vision glasses. This is one unfortunate situation, dost. The screen has become a necessity of life with the advancement of technology and it cannot be ignored. But I see where you are coming from. You clearly do not want to go blind or have a weak eye sight. I wouldn’t encourage you to stop doing your assignments or readings because, well, GPA. However, if you really do love your eyes, I’d suggest you to get yourself the Crizal UV Protective Lenses that aren’t necessarily for weak eye sight. They protect you from the UV lights and help you get a good night sleep. Google it! Let me know how this goes for you in the next issue.
Hello, Baaji. Though I doubt you'd have anything to say on the matter, I am, however, foolish enough to have faith in this community. What do you do when you're a woman trapped inside a man's body? Coming out as transgender is something I'm having a tough time dealing with, mainly because I'm afraid how the Habib community is going to take it. It's getting harder day by day, to spend energy pretending to be someone I'm not, but that's all that people seem to register. Boy or girl. Gay or straight. You can never be something in between. Khair, apkakyakehnahai is mamlaymein. I'm interested in hearing your two cents about it. Hi, friend. I believe that Habib is a diverse and accepting community which will not have an issue with you being yourself. I know introducing you as someone you do not seem to be is a hard thing to do. Whoever has a problem with accepting you should be welcome to have a dialogue on their difference of opinion and it can be a learning experience for all! Love for all!
I want to have fun in my final year and want to make it memorable. Problem is, I’m always broke and have permission issues. I’m earning but I have to save. Tell me how to have fun and elevate my mood to relieve stress so I can live and escape the monotony of Habib Life. Oh, I haven’t met my old friends in years. So that is sad too. Always thinking about work and I feel it’s making me old. Hi! Now that’s one regrettable situation. I’ll address your money issue first. You always have the choice to dine on a budget. Go to a dhaba with your friends and have fun for a cost as low as Rs. 100. Try to discover your adventurous self! Permission issues, hmm. How about having a conversation with your parents while you both agree on some ground rules and get what you want? For having fun, I’d encourage you to go to parks like Sindbad and Hill Park with your friends. Sign up for in-school activities to spend quality time with your friends. We all miss our old friends. Plan a reunion and call them over at your place and do a movie night or something. We pay a great amount of attention to work which is okay but we do need to realize the importance of de-stressing. It’s your final year man! Go have some fun. Don’t forget to invite me. Hope this helps!
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WHAT’S COOKING?
CHOCOLATE FUDGE CAKE
*Stomach Growling * bhook lagi hai khana do? Bhook lagi hai khana milega and not just instant noodles but easy peasy lemon squeezy recipe-sies.
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INGREDIENTS For the Batter:
For the Frosting:
2 cups all-purpose flour 2 cups sugar ¾ cup unsweetened cocoa powder 2 teaspoons baking powder 1½ teaspoons baking soda 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon espresso powder 1 cup milk, buttermilk, almond, or coconut milk ½ cup vegetable, canola oil, or melted coconut oil 2 large eggs 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1 cup boiling water (You can also use black coffee instead of this, makes the cake taste even more amazing)
1½ cups butter (3 sticks), softened 1 cup unsweetened cocoa 5 cups confectioner’s sugar ½ cup milk 2 teaspoons vanilla extract ½ teaspoon espresso powder
DIRECTIONS Preparing the oven: Preheat oven to 350º F. Prepare two 9-inch cake pans by spraying with baking spray or buttering and lightly flouring. For the chocolate cake
For the chocolate frosting:
1. Add flour, sugar, cocoa, baking powder, baking soda, salt and espresso powder to a large bowl. Whisk through to combine or, using your paddle attachment, stir through flour mixture until combined well 2. Add milk, vegetable oil, eggs, and vanilla to flour mixture and mix together on medium speed until well combined. Reduce speed and add boiling water to the cake batter until well combined 3. Distribute cake batter evenly between the two prepared cake pans 4. Bake for 30-35 minutes, until a toothpick inserted in the center of the chocolate cake comes out clean 5. Remove from the oven and allow cooling for about 10 minutes, before removing from the pan and cooling completely 6. Frost cake with chocolate buttercream frosting
1. Add cocoa to a large bowl or bowl of stand mixer. Whisk through to remove any lumps 2. Mix together butter and cocoa powder until well-combined 3. Add sugar and milk to cocoa mixture by adding 1 cup of sugar followed by about a tablespoon of milk After each addition has been combined, turn mixer onto a high speed for about a minute. Repeat until all sugar and milk have been added 4. Add vanilla extract and espresso powder and combine well 5. If frosting appears too dry, add more milk, a tablespoon at a time until it reaches the right consistency. If it appears to wet and does not hold its form, add more confectioners’ sugar, a tablespoon at a time until it reaches the right consistency. I hope you use this recipe and enjoy making the most delicious chocolate cake ever. - Safia Hussain
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I Spy with My L ittle Eye <I see, you see and what you see, they do not see; so jot down what you’ve seen and let the world see what’s the unseen.> Dear Readers, Have you seen the number of babies on campus increase? I surely have. These cuties have taken over Habib University all of a sudden so I decided what’s better than to go explore the lives of these babies on campus. Hopefully, their lives are less stressful than ours. Meet this cutie, her name is Alizay. She comes to University everyday with her mom Saman. I wonder how intellectual she will be when she grows up since she comes to university so often. Alizay is such an adorable baby who everyone adores. She seems to have a great time distracting everyone in class and getting all the attention from both students and the faculty. Saman told me how one day in class when everyone was quiet Alizay pooped loudly and the whole class was looking at her, Saman then took her out of class to get her changed and as soon as Alizay came back to class she decided it was time for lunch. After feeding she wanted to sleep and then her mother had to walk all around the class to make her go to bed. Looks like Alizay doesn’t always want mommy to study.
The second cute baby we have on campus is also another Alizay. This one is very hyper and extremely talkative and sweet. You will find her in the gym chatting with a friend or as she likes to call them ‘Frrrrieeennd.’ This cutie is always super hyper and happy, she is usually up for a good conversation as well. One day my friends and I were sitting in the gym and I had a nail polish in my hand, Alizay saw the nail polish and quickly brought her own nail polish to see how different they were. She continued to examine the nail polish for 15-20 minutes and then stood up and said mine is better. I need her confidence in my life. You all probably know this baby. Yes, yes it’s Dr. Anzar’s baby Hanael. He comes to campus occasionally and is swarmed by students who want pictures with him. Imagine what it’s like to be so popular at such a young age. These are just some of the few adorable babies we have on campus, I am sure you have seen more of them.
Another baby we have on campus is Aisha Batool’s son Rayyan. He comes to campus every day and spends most of the time with his khala while his mom works. He is so adorable and friendy.
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