2024 Winter Discoveries

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Winter 2024 Discoveries

Providing people with intellectual and other disabilities the opportunity to live life to its fullest.

The Power of Relationships

Read the inspiring story of Board member Julie Wesley-Wong and her brother, Mickey, who is supported at our Wentworth home (pages 4-6)

RELATIONSHIPS — THE HEART OF OUR MISSION

Ioften say our mission is most alive at the intersection of a person served and a welltrained and motivated staff supporting them. This interaction centers around the health, well-being, and needs of those we serve.

When I joined Hammer back in 2012, I spent quite a bit of time getting to know the families of the people supported. In many of our homes, we gather for an annual house meeting to celebrate life in the home and the individuals supported in that house. Back then, these gatherings most often included the parents of the individual served. Today, these house meetings have evolved considerably. With parents aging or having passed away, siblings are now stepping in to take on the responsibilities once held by their parents. Additionally, the care and needs of the people supported have significantly increased due to aging.

Through these shared experiences, I have learned that the strength of a relationship is not measured by the absence of challenges but by the ability to support each other and navigate through them. By embracing

People supported, parents, siblings, and staff at the Currie home family gathering

adversity, we become stronger, resilient, and more focused. We also know we cannot do this work without the relationships we have nurtured over the years.

In this edition of Discoveries, the common thread is our relationships with the people who are stepping up, giving back, and truly making a difference. Our continued success is a result of your generous support and dedication to our mission. Whatever your connection is to Hammer & NER, we are truly grateful for our relationship with you.

Blessings,

People supported, families, and staff enjoyed fresh baked cookies, made by Lauren, at the Gardner family gathering

Discoveries

Managing Editors

Barbara Brandt / Barbara.Brandt@Hammer.org

Jennifer L. Hipple / Jennifer.Hipple@Hammer.org

Contributing Writers

Barbara Brandt, Joe Cullen, Lin Curran, David Duxbury, John Estrem, Jennifer L. Hipple, Julie Huffcutt, Lindsey Kvern, Anna Schmid, Mike Siebenaler, Ellen Timmerman-Borer, Ginger Venable

Photography: Submitted photos by Barbara Brandt, Joe Cullen, and Adam Estrem

Graphic Design: Jennifer Larson

BOARD SPOTLIGHT: NANCY WURM

New to the Board of Directors in 2024, Nancy Wurm brings a diverse array of experiences to the direction of Hammer & NER. Born and raised in Anoka, Nancy desires to empower the individuals we serve around the Twin Cities to live joyful, fulfilling lives.

Nancy grew up on a hobby farm with her parents and two sisters. Her father was an antique car and tractor collector and was quite involved in the community. “My parents were very giving,” Nancy says. “My dad was constantly giving our vegetables and fruits away. My mom was always crocheting a blanket for someone.” These experiences in her upbringing prompted Nancy’s own generosity and volunteerism. “I think my sisters and I all received that. I think that’s where the desire comes to volunteer and serve on boards.”

Nancy’s board service was prompted by fellow Board member, Greg Hanson. “I first came to the Spring Breakfast and that really inspired me; just how organized Hammer & NER is,” Nancy says. She was also prompted by a beloved cousin who lives with Down’s syndrome. “Everyone deserves to live their life to the fullest,” Nancy says.

“The

individuals we serve deserve to be happy and experience everything they can, whether it’s enjoying a cup of coffee, going to the movies, or for a walk around the lake.”

Nancy’s professional experience includes over 20 years in sales and account management roles and several years of experience in the nonprofit sector. She has remained involved

in her community in a variety of other ways. Nancy was involved in her county 4-H group, served as a cheerleading coach, and was a Saint Paul Winter Carnival Princess. She graduated from St. Cloud State University with a degree in speech communication and an emphasis in public relations. “I like to talk,” Nancy laughs. She enjoys building meaningful relationships through her profession and her volunteer efforts. Outside of her professional work and board service, Nancy enjoys a number of other activities. “I like hanging out with family and friends and travel. I have also enjoyed working on the landscaping in my yard. I am trying to get my dad’s green thumb to come out!”

As she completes her first year of service on Hammer & NER’s Board, Nancy looks forward to the future. “I am excited for all the ways to be a leader and to help Hammer & NER’s mission moving forward.”

IN THIS ISSUE

PAGE 2 Letter from the CEO

PAGE 3 Board Spotlight

PAGES 4-6 My Sweet Brother, Mickey

PAGE 7 Thank You DSPs & PMs!

PAGE 8 Andy — A Helping Hand & Heart

PAGE 9 The Power of Relationships

PAGES 10-11 Managing the Care of a Sibling

PAGE 12 From Volunteer to Generous Donor

PAGE 13 Thank You to The Lacek Group

PAGE 14 Memorializing a Loved One

PAGE 15 Gifts that Send a Message

PAGES 16-17 In Loving Memory

PAGE 17 Staff Milestones

PAGES 18-19 Tiffany & Her Sisters

PAGE 20 Building Connections & Driving Change

PAGE 21 Coffee & Donuts with Chris

PAGE 22 Advocating for Disability Services

PAGE 23 Emily’s Touch

BACK COVER Family Day Picnic

Nancy Wurm, left, with Kathy Hanson, whose daughter, Meghan, is supported at our Merrimac home in Plymouth
Nancy (right) with her friend, Kerri Maas, at Reach for Ralph 2024

My Sweet Brother, Mickey

A SISTER’S DEVOTION ENSURES HE LIVES HIS BEST LIFE

Julie Wesley-Wong is Vice President of the Hammer & NER Board and chairs the Board’s Advocacy committee. Her brother, Mickey, joined the Hammer family in 1978 when he moved into the boys’ dorm on the Hammer campus. Recently, she sat down with Chief Development Officer, Ellen Timmerman-Borer, to reflect on her brother’s life and the responsibilities that come with caring for a sibling with a disability as they age.

ELLEN: Please tell us about your brother, Mickey, and how he came to be part of the Hammer & NER family.

JULIE: Mickey is the youngest of 10 kids. When he was born in 1967, the doctors told our parents he should be put into an institution, but my mom said, “No, I’m taking him home.” I know it was scary for my parents, but they were determined to do the best for him. Growing up, the rest of us kids were living our lives hanging out with our friends, and Mickey often got left behind. My parents wanted him to have peer relationships. They found Hammer Residences and when Mickey was 11, he moved into the boys’ dorm. The first day he moved in, all the guys he went to school with were also there. They came over and said, “Come on, Mickey!” and off they went to play. It meant so much to us to know he had established friendships from day one at Hammer.

Mickey and Julie with their mother, Mary, in 1968

Mickey learned to ride a bike at Hammer and how to swim. He had opportunities to learn new skills and routines. He also joined the Boy Scouts through Hammer and participated on the Iron Man weightlifting team and the bowling leagues.

ELLEN: You have a big family—10 kids! Describe their relationships with Mickey.

JULIE: Mickey and I are 18 months apart and I grew up with him. My other siblings are older and so their experiences are different from mine. Each of his siblings truly love Mickey and they all want the best for him. Mickey has five brothers and four sisters, and each sibling is very important to him. He loves it when we get together as a family. We are a big group when all the siblings, their spouses, children, and grandchildren gather for celebrations. When Mickey has had medical issues, our family comes together to take turns sitting with him in the hospital and advocating for him. I do the bulk of decision making and appointments, but I can’t be

“Mickey turned 57 in September,” says Julie. “He talked about his birthday all year long and told me what kind of cake he wanted, what he wanted to eat, and the gifts he wanted!”

there 24/7. My siblings are always willing to help with Mickey, and they have supported me in making important decisions for him. As we have grown older, our niece, Anna, has stepped forward as a coguardian for Mickey. This has given me peace of mind to know that the next generation is there to help and guide Mickey.

ELLEN: What has influenced your family’s decision to keep Mickey at Hammer all these years?

JULIE: Hammer & NER has provided our family with a great sense of security, knowing Mickey is well cared for. He has had opportunities for long relationships with his peers and staff. Barb Matter, recently retired, has had a relationship with Mickey for over 40 years. There were games and rituals he would only play with her. Barb has kept in touch with him even after she left her role as a Program Director. It’s those relationships and opportunities that have been so important to our family over the years. Mickey thrives on routines in his relationships. Our family is so grateful that Mickey is where he needs to be.

ELLEN: Are there other staff who have made a significant impact on Mickey’s life?

JULIE: Sedinu Nagbe (Mickey’s former Program Manager) and former Program Director, Tyson Hollins, have had great relationships with Mickey, and they were great advocates for him. Mickey has also had a long relationship with Rand Peterson (DSP at the Wentworth house) who’s been there over 15 years and Madia Dade who provides such compassionate care for Mickey and his housemates. He has a great new Program Manager, Ann Wilmes. She’s been wonderful for Mickey. She truly cares for his well-being and happiness, and she communicates her ideas for adaptations and accommodations that can be helpful for Mickey.

ELLEN: How has your relationship with Mickey evolved over the years?

JULIE: Our father died in 1991 when Mickey was 23 years old. When that happened, I talked with my mom and said that if something happened to her, I needed to know Mickey would be okay. My sister and I became co-guardians with our mother when I was 25. Mom died almost 10 years ago, and I know she wanted to make sure Mickey has a great quality of life. As Mickey ages, there have been more medical issues, and his health has been declining. We need to adapt to these new needs. There’s a lot more caretaking and decisions that need to be made, which have impacted our relationship.

I really encourage families to bring in siblings as much as possible. Life can change on a dime, and families need to have a good plan in place. I’m so grateful my mom forged strong relationships at Hammer & NER so that when I stepped in, I had people I could partner with to care for Mickey. Her forethought helped the partnership to continue and thrive.

Program Manager, Ann Wilmes, with Mickey
The Wesley siblings with their mother, 2014
Mickey and Julie with DSP Madia Dade
Mickey and his parents, 1989

ELLEN: Your mother was also a Board member and was around when we were downsizing and moving people to homes. She helped build our Wentworth home (Mickey’s home). Her legacy lives on in you and your family.

JULIE: She wanted a fully accessible home. It was carefully designed to make sure Mickey and his housemates could stay there for the rest of their lives. She was very proud of that. Mickey has lived at Wentworth since it was built in 2000.

ELLEN: Hammer & NER’s partnership with families and guardians is important. What do you want others to know?

JULIE: Hammer & NER recently brought forth the concept of “family extended.” This resonated with me because Hammer & NER really does provide that family experience for our loved ones. For us, family extended means not only supporting Mickey but supporting our family as well. I like to think this holds true for all the individuals and families that Hammer & NER supports.

ELLEN: You and your husband, Wymond, have actively supported Hammer & NER over the years, as has your business, Twin City Heating, Air, and Electric. And you currently serve on the Board. What keeps you “present”?

JULIE: My husband has taken my love and enthusiasm for Hammer & NER and just ran with it. He wants his company to have an impact on the community. We’re proud that we’ve been able to contribute the best we can. We are excited for more opportunities to support Hammer & NER’s mission in the future.

I’ve been blessed to have the sweetest brother on the planet. His needs are simple. Just like anyone else, he wants to be heard and to have a good life. As his sister, I try to make sure he’s happy. We’re so grateful for how he’s been cared for. It has truly made a huge impact on our entire family.

“FEEL THE LOVE” WARMS HEARTS & HOMES

TWIN CITY HEATING, AIR, AND ELECTRIC AND LENNOX PROGRAM DONATE HVAC SYSTEMS

Julie Wesley-Wong and her husband, Wymond, own Twin City Heating, Air, and Electric and are generous donors to Hammer & NER

Earlier this fall, Hammer & NER was honored to receive two new HVAC systems through a special program sponsored by Lennox. The installations took place Saturday, October 12.

Feel the Love, sponsored by The LII Lennox Foundation, partners with local residential HVAC dealers to give back to those in need within the community. The equipment for the project is donated by The LII Lennox Foundation, while the participating dealers and their staff, volunteer their time to complete the installation.

This year, Hammer & NER’s Hwy 96 and Brenner homes in White Bear Lake were chosen for the project. Staff members from Twin City Heating, Air, and Electric volunteered their time to install the systems in our homes. The Twin City Heating, Air, and Electric team was honored to participate in the Feel the Love event for the eighth year in a row!

Twin City Heating, Air, and Electric is a generous sponsor and donor to Hammer & NER and has proudly served the Twin Cities metro area since 2016. To learn more about their services, visit their website at twincityheatingandair. com

Since 2009, Feel the Love and its participating dealers have installed over 2,300 heating and air conditioning systems for families in need. You can learn more about the program at feelthelove.com

Julie Wesley-Wong with Andy from our Highway 96 home

During DSP Recognition Week, staff delivered “treat boxes” and warm hats to all our direct care staff

Allen
Carlson
Emery
Gramsie
Lawndale
Lee Ave.
Norway
Knollway
Plymouth Colony
Wentworth
Cedarwood Apts
Cedarwood East
County Rd. F
Currie

ANDY—A HELPING HAND & HEART IN THE KITCHEN

We would like to shine a light on a certain someone who has been helping out with various groups who volunteer with our weekly Cooks in the Kitchen program on the East side. His name is Andy, and he is one of the many fabulous folks that we support here at Hammer & NER.

Andy attends our day program five days a week in White Bear Lake. Living in one of our homes, Andy participates in many activities offered in the evenings and on weekends with Hammer & NER. When he is not out and about enjoying a local apple orchard, a movie at the theatre, or checking out the zoo, you will find Andy poking his nose in the kitchen at our White Bear Lake office. He not only enjoys the yummy smells but is always wanting to lend a helping hand. The Wednesday morning Cooks in the Kitchen volunteer program is on the lower level where our Adult Day Service program is also located.

Cooks in the Kitchen brings people together to prepare meals for some of our homes. For Andy, it’s not just about the cooking—it’s about enjoying those meals that are often sent home with him to enjoy with his housemates. When asked what his favorite meal is, Andy just smiles and says, “I love them all!” He has a goal to learn more about cooking and baking, which he is really excited about.

Joni Purrington, a past NER Board member, shares that, “Andy gets right in and adds value and gets things done. He is truly helpful.” I couldn’t agree more. I love being greeted by Andy and his smile on Wednesday mornings. He always wants to help me set things up for our awesome volunteers.

Kelly Rashaw volunteers each month with a team from Scentsy and has worked with Andy a few times. They like to have music playing while they cook and have found that Andy loves the oldies. “He really wants to help, and he holds himself to perfection,” she says.

We are proud to have Andy as part of our Hammer & NER family. We look forward to seeing Andy continue to thrive, both in the kitchen and beyond. He reminds us all that it’s not just about the tasks we complete but the heart we put into them. And in that regard, Andy is truly a chef of kindness.

Andy with volunteers from The Lacek Group
Andy is a great help in the kitchen!

The Power of Relationships to Increase Potential

& Possibilities

Dear friends,

I would like to share a story about the positive and life-changing impacts of the relationships our staff have with those we support.

Justin joined the Hammer & NER family in November 1997 when he moved into Cottage Place (now 9th Ave), gradually moving to the Cope House (now Virginia). When he came to us, there were only a few foods he would eat: dry roasted peanuts, American cheese, Chips Ahoy cookies, Little Debbie’s Swiss Rolls, and Goldfish crackers. We thought, how can this young man be so healthy? But somehow, he was.

In the past, Justin loved going to playgrounds as long as no one else was in the area. He also loved going for long walks with staff when others were not present. Daily cares were difficult for him. He struggled with bathing, haircuts, dressing, and other forms of care. But over the years, with the staff’s persistence, he can now dress himself, shower without incident, tolerate daily cares provided by staff, and go out in the community where others are present.

I recently met with Wade Hartmann, who was the Program Manager (PM) at the Virginia home from 2007-2018. Wade is now a Lead DSP at our Adult Day Service (The Club) program and feels privileged to work with Justin from time to time. Wade says when Michaelin Otis (Justin’s mom) visited back when he was the PM, Justin was not very cordial with her. However, once again, over time and with persistence, the two were able to visit in his living room then gradually sit outside on the wood swing (one of Justin’s favorite things to do).

Wade also said the persistence of staff taking Justin out in the community, regardless of what “might” happen, has opened many new doors to Justin’s world. For several years, staff took him to a hotel for a weekend by the Mall of America and they would eat in the food court and shop in many stores, again without incident.

The reason I am sharing this is due to how amazing it is when I visit The Club and witness Justin’s interactions with others. One day, he was sitting at a table manipulating Legos while others were busy doing other things around him. In July, he went to Pinz Bowling with this group and ate pizza! Apparently, he will eat just about anything nowadays, which was a real shock considering what he ate when he joined us in the late 1990s. Justin also loves to go to the movie theater and will sit through a movie (taking some Legos with him) while enjoying popcorn and pop. Amazing!

I’m confident that Justin’s growth over the years is due to his staff’s persistence, the respect they show to him, and the relationship they have built with him. Relationships and continuity of care are important for growth. We all remember times when we were nervous about trying something new with the people we support BUT have found it is so worth it. If you do not try, you won’t discover the possibilities and potential of a person.

Sincerely,

Justin working with Legos at The Club with Megan Pierce, Recreational Specialist, Community Life
Justin enjoys pizza at Pinz Bowling

MANAGING THE CARE OF A SIBLING WITH AN INTELLECTUAL DISABILITY

The sibling relationship is one of life’s most enduring and multifaceted connections, particularly for those with a brother or sister living with an intellectual disability. This bond often transcends mere companionship: Siblings frequently find themselves taking on roles as advocates, caregivers, and essential supporters in the lives of their loved ones. However, every sibling’s experience, every family’s experience, is different. Some embrace a caretaker role from an early age. Some are living their own life as their parents have traditionally provided the majority of care or decision making. However, as the parents age, will the sibling(s) be prepared to step into the decision-making role?

By engaging siblings in the planning process, families can facilitate a smoother transition into the future.

Planning for the Future

As parents age, shifting responsibilities for the care of a child with an intellectual disability to his or her siblings can be challenging. It’s vital for families to initiate conversations

Access to resources is important to ensure there are plans in place for a trust, where the loved one will live, and the level of support that will be needed.

about future care early on, normalizing discussions to make them routine. Engaging siblings in conversations with service providers can foster a sense of involvement and preparedness. Recognizing that each sibling’s experience is unique, it’s important to create a supportive environment where open communication can flourish.

Siblings may need to not only manage care previously handled by their parents, but also collaborate with healthcare professionals, and make critical decisions about their loved one’s future. This underscores the need for a collaborative approach, where siblings are active participants in care planning and decision making. Families that involve siblings in these discussions not only bolster their confidence but also prepare them to handle the challenges that arise as their loved ones age.

Effective planning can encompass various life transitions— moving from school to adult services, living independently or

Mike Smith (center) surrounded by his family

moving to a group home, and addressing potential grief. A useful tool in this process is the “Letter of Intent,” a non-legal document that outlines important information for future planning. This letter can include:

Family history: Traditions & stories that shape identity

Support network: Friends, neighbors, & community resources

Medical history: Key medical contacts & medications

Personal histories: Capabilities & interests of the individual

Activities history: Education, jobs, & social engagements

What works: Effective behavioral strategies & motivators

Financial planning: Estate & legal arrangements

Support for Siblings

Siblings often juggle multiple responsibilities, including caring for aging parents, their own children, and managing careers. They may not always feel prepared to engage fully in support planning but appreciate being included in conversations about their loved one’s care. Recognizing the potential barriers—financial, personal, or logistical that siblings may face is also crucial in ensuring they can fulfill their supportive roles.

Active participation in care planning is crucial, even if siblings cannot attend every meeting, their insights should be incorporated into care plans, fostering smoother transitions, and ensuring their loved ones receive the best possible support.

The role of siblings in the lives of individuals with disabilities

As siblings age, they will inevitably face end-of-life issues and the transition of caregiving roles.

is essential and multifaceted. By providing siblings with the support and resources they need, families can ensure they remain a vital part of their loved one’s support system. At Hammer & NER, we celebrate the invaluable contributions of siblings and are committed to empowering them as advocates and caregivers for their loved ones. Together, we can foster a more inclusive and supportive community for individuals with disabilities and their families.

RESOURCES FOR SIBLINGS

Learning how to navigate disability services, financial planning, and other relevant topics is crucial. The Sibling Leadership Network can be a helpful resource on a variety of topics including future planning and offers a variety of webinars and toolkits. The Arc also has a “Center for Future Planning” resource to support families. Check out the Minnesota Developmental Disabilities Council for additional information and education resources.

https://siblingleadership.org https://futureplanning.thearc.org https://mn.gov/mnddc/council

Barb Tuckner (right) with her sister, Janet, who is supported by Hammer & NER
Kelly (left) and her sister, Anne

FROM VOLUNTEER TO GENEROUS DONOR TO . . . HAWAII?

In 2009, Martha Gschneidner was preparing to send her youngest son to college. Desiring to give back to her community with her added free time, she sought out volunteer opportunities. This desire to give back would lead to 15 years of volunteerism and generosity with Hammer & NER.

Through volunteer connections with her employer, Martha found a listing for a walking buddy at Hammer Residences. “I thought I could do that, and it would fit really well into my life,” Martha recalls. “The first person I talked to at Hammer was Joe Esposito. He and I talked about what the volunteer activity would be.” Martha was paired with Rick, who was supported at the Arkansas home at the time. She started to walk with Rick every Wednesday. Then she began treating Rick to soda pop, letting him walk her dog, and eventually joining him for bowling nights.

The condition Rick lived with caused him to be nonverbal. Although they couldn’t converse verbally, Martha says the experience was good for both of them. “Rick was able to get out for a walk and for me it was about being present with someone,” she says. Martha was impacted by Rick’s personality and remembers bowling nights being particularly fun. “Rick was a lovely gentleman, and I had the opportunity to be with him a really long time.”

Martha also began to give charitably to Hammer. “When I started volunteering with Hammer, giving was a logical extension for me. This is an organization I have chosen to be a part of. Therefore, I want to financially support it as well,”

Martha says. She and her husband, Ed, feel it is important to utilize charitable gifts to further fuel the mission of Hammer & NER. “I would like (Hammer & NER) to be able to serve anyone who comes to them asking for service. That sounds simple, but it’s not. You need lots of staff, different types of residences, and different types of services,” Martha says.

Martha’s service led to her being presented with the Community Partner Award in 2019. Soon after, Martha realized another way to get involved: Hammer Travel. Since 2019, she has volunteered on eight trips including Minnesota Twins training camp, Hawaii, and Disney World. “There is just so much joy and excitement when people are traveling,” she says. “It’s fun to see it through the eyes of someone else.”

Even though Rick transferred to another organization several years ago, Martha continues to be involved as a volunteer and as a donor. She recently returned from a Hammer Travel trip to Florida for Disney’s “Halloween Magic.”

Martha and TJ, who is supported at Lakeside, on a Hammer Travel trip to Hawaii in 2023

Martha’s volunteerism and generosity empowers the 380 individuals served by Hammer & NER to live life to the fullest. Thank you, Martha!

Martha and Linda, who is supported at County Road F, visited Nashville

CELEBRATING A “GOLD STANDARD” COMMUNITY PARTNER

We are grateful for our many community partners who support us in a variety of ways. They are critical to helping us live our mission. A standout among them is The Lacek Group, which has proven itself to be the gold standard in partnerships.

For nearly two years, The Lacek Group, a loyalty, CRM, and brand marketing agency based in downtown Minneapolis, has been a valued partner of Hammer & NER. Among their fundraising efforts is the “Lacek Soup Smackdown” held each November. Through this and other creative fundraising activities, 175 employees were inspired to donate over $20,000. And then Ogilvy, their parent company, joined them in matching these gifts! They also donated 18 laptops to our dedicated Direct Support Professionals for their personal use.

The Lacek Group’s employees have spent over 324 hours volunteering in every opportunity we have presented to them. Each month we see them at our East and West “Cooks in the Kitchen” programs, making delicious meals for many of our homes. Employees also “adopted” our Gramsie and Kentucky homes! Lacek employees work in groups that spend time with our individuals, where they enjoy coloring posters together, playing Jenga, getting their nails painted, and celebrating Halloween with cool themed glasses. Recently, Lacek employees made birthday cards for the people we serve, people who sometimes have no family or friends to send them greetings.

Volunteers also beautified one of our homes by refreshing the front yard with plants, flowers, and new grass. Several Lacek employees have volunteered at our special events for two years running, including Reach for Ralph, our Annual Spring Breakfast, our All-Staff Meetings, as well as Disabilities Day at the Capitol.

In May, The Lacek Group’s Know and Grow team invited a group of Hammer & NER staff to share their insights on working with people with developmental disabilities. This demonstrates a sincere interest in becoming more knowledgeable about the needs of those we support.

We appreciate the leadership of The Lacek Group for offering employees an opportunity to volunteer with us. Together, we make a difference. Thank you to everyone at The Lacek Group for everything you do!

If your company, club, or group would like to partner with Hammer & NER please contact Volunteer Resources Director, Cathy Thoma, at cthoma@hammer.org or 952-345-8554.

In August, John Estrem presented The Lacek Group with a Community Partner Award at their Minneapolis headquarters. This award honors individuals and organizations that are making a significant contribution to their community through their time, actions, and talents by volunteering or donating to Hammer & NER
Volunteers from The Lacek Group get cookin’ with Cooks in the Kitchen

MEMORIALIZING A LOVED ONE, LIKE DANA

Dana Haskvitz lived at her Hammer home for 20 years. She lived a full life with support from family, friends, and loving caregivers. She enjoyed bowling, dancing, and going to activities with her housemates. Sadly, she passed away in August 2020, but her spirit lives on through the amazing support her family and friends have shared over the past four years. Together, 17 people have made generous donations (over $6,000!) in her memory.

Dana loved the Family Day Picnic. She is pictured here with her caregiver Pat, father Ron, and sisters Jenna and Andrea

THANK YOU TO THESE DONORS WHO CONTRIBUTED IN DANA’S HONOR:

Melanie Barry

Jake Christensen

Joey and Taylor Christensen

Rachel Christensen

Harry and Elizabeth Fischman

Jenna Haskvitz

Leah Haskvitz

Ronald L. Haskvitz

Pamela Holcomb

Luke Komarek

Lommen, Abdo, Cole, King & Stageberg PA

Trevor Lueders

John and Francoise Shirley

Andrea Simonett

Janet Stroebl

Sadie and Owen Sullivan

Brad Wicklund

IN MEMORY OF

Donations made in memory from January 1, 2024 –September 1, 2024.

Thank you for your generosity and kindness in remembering those you have lost and still hold dear.

In Memory of

Beverly Adamson

John and Vicki Pink

Bill Bieber

Jay and Sally Bennett

Skip and Char Gjersdal

Gary and Susan Rappaport

Bob Koltes and Becky Gromek

Theresa and Timothy Johnston

Jo Ann Koltes

Joe and Gina Koltes

Chris M. Strande

Bob Ryne

Peggy Swanson

Brad Hill

Thomas P. Bedard

Bryna Levin

Susan and Michael Oreck

Dale Hovda

Ronald E. Hovda

Denny Schmidt

Lee and Caryl Aanenson

Bonita Connolly

Lawrence Flaherty

Sue and Joel Heckman

Joan Loer

Laurie and Doug Moga

Bob and Diane Morse

Tim and Kris Myhra

Shari and John Newgard

Michelle and Steve Olson

Corrine Schmidt

Roger Schmidt

Ronald and Mary Sternal

Ruth Thompson

Jackie Ulrich

Gary and Mary Williams

Dick Bailey

George and Audrey Schultz

Dr. Gary Garvis

John and Vicki Pink

Frank Renshaw

Beth Bierden

Tom and Marianne Davis

Pat and Clifford Johnson

Daniel and Pam Patnode

Greg Pahl

John and Mary Connerton

Tor and Beth Gloppen

Patrick Pahl

Terese Zwolski

Harold Rubin

Susan and Michael Oreck

Jack Rubenstein

Alan and Connie Wilensky

Jammi Roggenbuck

Marie Silvernagel

Jerome Bolte

Patricia Babor

Jerry and Marie Tuckner

Phil and Myra Toconita

Jerry Bolte

Joan Campbell

Kitty Dolan

Carol and George Daum

Lee Heidel

Alan and Connie Wilensky

LeRoy Laddusaw

John and Vicki Pink

Lorrainne Forslin

Allen and LaVonne Ribbe

Mary Lou Leibig and Mary

Torborg

Carol and George Daum

Nino Pedrellli

Noah Bly

Paul Wernick

Alan and Connie Wilensky

Robert Hume

Ron and Lori Hume

Roger Stevenson

John and Vicki Pink

George and Audrey Schultz

Ruth McClug

Jenna Haskvitz

Susan Seymour

Tracy Seymour

Tom Steiner

John and Vicki Pink

HONOR A LOVED ONE WITH A MEANINGFUL MEMORIAL

You have a special opportunity to pay tribute to a loved one. It’s a powerful way to honor or create a memorial for those who have touched our lives. Your tribute gift can be designated to a specific home, fund, or area of greatest need. If you would like to make a tribute gift, use the enclosed envelope, go online, or send us a note along with your contribution. Thank you.

Dana (in 2002) loved her housemates and her home

GIFTS THAT SEND A MESSAGE: MAKE A GIFT IN HONOR OF A CAREGIVER, TEAM, OR SPECIAL OCCASION

Some donors like to make gifts in honor of someone who lives or works at Hammer & NER. It is a great way to support our mission and pay tribute to someone special. When we receive a gift in honor of someone, we always pass along your kind words. Here are a few recent examples:

Thank you, 1st Avenue staff, for your loving care of all the guys! — Sarah Homuth Goar

Jan, the guys are so lucky to have your support!

— Kim Mesun

Thank you to the staff at the Reserve apartments who provide Joe with a source of stability. He is comfortable calling, texting, and dropping into the office when he has a problem or just to talk. We are grateful to you for being a steadfast, calming, and supportive resource for us. — Jean Guenther

All the Caruso family thanks you for your wonderful care of Michael and the guys at Nelson Place!

— Sarah Caruso

Tammy Delfun and Paul Wilson, thanks to both of you for serving Gretchen’s needs all these years. You have been, literally, “mental life saviors” for her.

— The Ribbes

Direct Support Professional, Jan Hopper, with the 1st Avenue guys
Michael (second from left) with direct support staff Gismos, Leo, and Brenda
Joe with Direct Support Professional, KT Noon
Paul and Gretchen

IN LOVING MEMORY

We are saddened by the loss of the wonderful people we have been privileged to support. They will always be part of our Hammer & NER family. We are thankful for all the ways they touched our lives.

Brian Litfin

08/20/1974 – 11/18/2023

Brian graduated from Hopkins High School. Brian was supported at our Royal Oaks apartment program and worked at Workabilities assembling cards for Trader Joe’s. Brian fiercely valued his independence. He was very proud of his aquarium and the fish he cared for over the years, which provided him much comfort and joy. Brian also loved WWII history and airplanes and enjoyed going to local airshows.

Greg Pahl

01/04/1960 – 02/15/2024

Greg was supported at our Garland home for 29 years. Greg’s favorite things were music, pizza, ice cream, hanging out in the backyard, and walking around the Garland community. Greg loved it when his brothers visited. You could tell how much they adored him. Although Greg was legally blind, he was resourceful, affectionate, and had a unique way of letting you know his likes and dislikes. He was loved and adored by the Garland team.

Kelsey Martin

09/06/2000 – 12/10/2023

Kelsey was the 2005 poster child for Gillette Children’s Hospital. Although Kelsey was non-verbal, she was adamant about her hair being up, earrings in, and fancy clothes on— then she could start her day. She was a bright happy face and would be loud to let you know she saw you! Kelsey enjoyed live music, especially at church, along with horseback riding, long rides with housemates and staff to Duluth, and spending time with her beloved brothers.

Jammi Roggenbuck

06/12/1960 – 1/23/2024

Jammi worked at Workabilities. She was very talkative and knew how to express her needs and feelings. Jammi loved big bear hugs! Her long list of favorite things included watching movies, rocking in her rocking chair, going out for coffee, talking on the phone, taking long, hot showers and baths, singing songs, coloring, listening to music, going out to eat, going swimming, interacting with others, and cooking.

Jackie McKenzie

04/14/1944 – 08/12/2024

Jackie came to Hammer in 2001. She had a lifelong love of art. Some of her work was selected for Hammer’s Art Cards and was displayed all over the home she shared with the ladies of Black Oaks. Jackie loved going to outdoor concerts and local theater. Because of her love of music, she had many fond memories of trips to Branson through Hammer Travel. She loved to take walks around Parker’s Lake and watch competition shows like The Masked Singer and Dancing with the Stars with her housemates. Jackie really enjoyed going out on Lake Minnetonka. She would sit back and smile as she looked around. She also enjoyed riding on the Wayzata trolley and watching the kids who came on. Visiting the Humane Society and holding and petting the rabbits and cats was a favorite pastime.

Sean Christensen

Sean worked at Hammer & NER for 30 years, just celebrating that anniversary a few weeks ago. He spent his whole career at our Tyler home caring for the people who lived there with such dedication, kindness, and sensitivity to their needs and individual personalities. He was a quiet man with a huge heart and strong feelings for the people he cared so much about. We will always treasure what Sean gave to us and hold him dear in our hearts always.

STAFF MILESTONE ANNIVERSARIES

Sean with Matt, supported at Tyler group home in Plymouth. Sean worked at Tyler for most of his career at Hammer & NER
Sean celebrating his 30-year anniversary with Kelly Bosch (back left), Virginia Carpenter, and Joe Esposito

TIFFANY & HER SISTERS

SHARING THE JOURNEY OF A SIBLING WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

Michelle Olson is a Hammer & NER Board member. She and her husband, Steve, utilized NER’s former respite program to help care for their daughter, Tiffany (Tiff), when she was younger. Their other daughters, Chrissie and Nikki, grew up observing the care and commitment that was needed to take care of their sister.

Today Chrissie and her husband, Dave, live in Lino Lakes and have three young children. Chrissie works full time as a nurse and health coach. Nikki and her husband, Sam, reside in Shoreview and also have three children. Nikki is a cosmetologist but is currently a stay-at-home mom. With young children of their own, Chrissie and Nikki are navigating the path of caring for a sibling with a disability with their parents. They share their experience of working together to ensure Tiffany is living her best life.

Chrissie and Nikki, you are both busy moms with a sister you love. How do you spend your time with her?

CHRISSIE: Tiffany loves Disney movies, going back to the ones we watched together when we were little. She also loves to color. Her backpack that she carries around is filled with crayons and markers. We all get together at our parents’ home. Most of the time she lights up when she sees our kids. If she’s not in a great mood, seeing us will shift that. Our kids like to spend time in her room with her.

NIKKI: She also loves beading, stickers, and arts and crafts like painting little figures. She loves thunderstorms and trains too. We drive around to see trains passing by. She likes getting her hair done and playing dress up. I coordinate with Mom and Dad to see when she’s going to be with them, and then I bring my kids, and we hang out. Tiffany is just happy that we’re there and enjoying each other’s company.

Tiffany came to NER through the former respite program before moving into the Norway home. How did this affect the dynamics of your family?

NIKKI: I remember when Tiff started going to respite care. She had a constant need for care, so this meant we could have a few hours or a night with our parents. When she moved to a group home, the dynamic at home changed—there was more room to breathe, and our parents could put more time into me

Steve and Michelle Olson with their daughters
TIffany celebrated her 30th birthday with Nikki (left) and Chrissie

and Chrissie. It was hard for Tiff at first and hard for us to adjust to not having her here. But when we got acclimated to the new reality it made our bonds stronger. We’re still able to keep that bond which is beautiful. Tiff’s comfort level at Norway has continued to grow.

CHRISSIE: I think the transition to the group home was probably harder on us than Tiff: She had a better transition than we expected because she got to go into a home where she already knew people (from Respite). It changed our relationship with her and one another because we weren’t worried about taking care of her all the time.

How has your relationship with your sister changed over the years? Are you involved with planning for Tiffany’s future?

NIKKI: I allow the people who care for her to do their job. It’s hard, because I want things to go a certain way, but they have guidelines they have to follow. I want to be involved with her care. I check with my parents about what’s being done with her, any changes, any issues, and how we will move forward. She’s been in the hospital many times (due to grand mal seizures) and needs a lot of extra care. I try to be there to help with that. The staff do everything they can to care for her. She’s very happy there. I want to be a part of it.

CHRISSIE: There’s been a lot of change over the last few years. It makes us think deeper about how things will be going forward as our parents get older. We have families of our own and it’s changed our relationship with her. We don’t see her as much as we would like. As far as planning for her care, Mom keeps us in the loop. I know that will change eventually (and we’ll take on more of that).

“Tiff loves her staff and they really care about her,” her mother, Michelle, says. “Fatou is from Africa and wears a head scarf, and one day Tiff was trying to put one on too, to be like Fatou. Tiff loves her. Bobbie is also a long-time staff and very upbeat. Tiff can be a rebel, complete with an array of swear words. Bobbie uses her humor and music. She and Fatou know what Tiff likes and doesn’t like and how to use it. They both really care about her. She’s got a lot of ‘moms’ (although they are about her age)!”

The Norway staff (Fatou, Bobbie, and Elly) take Tiffany out into the community, giving her exposure to the world and getting her involved

BUILDING CONNECTIONS & DRIVING CHANGE

MEET CHRIS CHICA & MIKE SIEBENALER!

Chris Chica and Mike Siebenaler are in new roles at Hammer & NER. Let’s get to know them and the ways they are helping us live our mission of providing people with intellectual and other disabilities the opportunity to live life to its fullest.

Tell us about your background and what brought you to your new role.

CHRIS: I’ve been with Hammer for over 10 years, starting as a Direct Support Professional (DSP) after college. Over the years, I’ve held various roles, including Program Manager and Case Manager. My career path has been deeply connected to supporting individuals with disabilities, and my new role as Residential Services Coordinator allows me to continue doing that by helping families find the right fit for their housing needs. I’m excited to build relationships with families and provide guidance as they explore housing options within our programs.

MIKE: My background is in political science, and I’ve spent my career in public policy and advocacy. I’ve worked with elected officials like (the late) Senator Paul Wellstone and (former) Congressman Keith Ellison. My experience has been about empowering people to advocate for themselves, and in my new role as Advocacy Director, I’m looking forward to supporting Hammer and NER’s mission by amplifying the voices of staff, families, and residents to make a lasting impact at the state level.

What motivates you in your current role?

CHRIS: It’s all about building relationships and helping people find a home where they feel supported. Even if we don’t have a spot available right away, fostering that connection with families is important. I really enjoy meeting people, understanding their needs, and ensuring that when the right opportunity arises, we can offer them a perfect fit. It’s a meaningful experience and knowing we can make a difference in someone’s life motivates me daily.

MIKE: I’m driven by the opportunity to make a tangible difference through advocacy. Whether it’s pushing for better funding through Medicaid or raising awareness about the work Hammer & NER does, it’s about making sure that our voices are heard at the Capitol. The real joy comes from connecting with people—learning their stories and understanding how policy changes can improve their lives. That’s what keeps me going.

What are some of your goals for the coming year?

CHRIS: My primary focus is helping families find the best possible housing fit for their loved ones. It’s important to match individuals with the right environment, considering their needs and the existing dynamics within our homes. It’s a delicate balance, but one that I find deeply rewarding.

MIKE: Advocacy-wise, I’m focused on increasing Medicaid funding for residential and day programs and pushing for higher wages for staff. These are crucial steps in ensuring we can provide the best services while retaining our incredible team. I also want to strengthen Hammer & NER’s presence in public policy discussions, ensuring we’re consistently on the radar of lawmakers.

Chris Chica with Ralph
Mike Siebenaler at the Family Day Picnic

COFFEE & DONUTS WITH CHRIS

NOVEL

IDEA SUPPORTS REACH FOR RALPH

AND STRENGTHENS RELATIONSHIPS

Chris Ringe joined the Hammer & NER family in 2017 when he moved into our Lancaster home. Chris is an active, friendly, outgoing guy with a big heart. His parents, Mitch and Judi Marie, were thrilled when Chris was invited to live at the Lancaster home, where he instantly clicked with Jacob Snell, the home’s Program Manager at the time. “Jacob and Chris had a way of communicating that worked so well from the very start,” says Judi Marie. “Jacob was patient and kind in listening to us and answering all our questions. From the first day, Chris had people in his court. You can feel the support, you can see it. There’s something special there.”

Although Jacob has moved on to another home, each new Program Manager has brought fresh observations and strategies that are helpful to Chris. “The team of DSPs are rock solid, stable, and fabulous,” the Ringes say. “They consistently step in and step up, being there for Chris.”

Earlier this year, as our annual Reach for Ralph fundraiser approached, Chris wanted to give back to Hammer & NER. The Ringes came up with a fun idea: Coffee & Donuts with Chris as a live auction item. Chris and his parents would make a special delivery to the winning bidder with the proceeds benefiting Hammer & NER.

On the night of Reach for Ralph,

when Coffee & Donuts with Chris came up for bid, Chris and Mitch made their way to the stage. Chris eagerly stepped to the mic and rallied the crowd. It wasn’t long before a “bidding war” ensued. The auctioneer paused and asked Chris and Mitch if they would like to provide THREE Coffee & Donuts with deliveries. Chris said, “Yes!”

One of those bidders was Julie Wesley-Wong, a Hammer & NER Board member and longtime supporter. Julie happens to work in early childhood special education for the Osseo School District and worked with Chris over 30 years ago! Things came full circle when Chris stopped by to deliver Coffee & Donuts with Chris to the district’s early childhood special education team. “I thought it would be fun to share Chris’s story with my colleagues,” says Julie.

“It was nice to see one of ‘our kids’ all grown up and living his best life and to learn about his success.”

Karen Morgan was another winning bidder. She and her husband, Bob, are neighbors with Tim and Amy Haugen and joined them at Reach for Ralph. (The Haugens’ daughter is supported at one of our homes.) Karen invited the Ringes to deliver Coffee & Donuts with Chris to her Bible study group

The third winning bidder was Jim Bebo, a long-time generous supporter and Community Partner.

Coffee & Donuts with Chris raised $7,200 for Hammer & NER. Thank you to the Ringes, Julie, Karen, and Jim for your support!

The Ringes with Julie Wesley-Wong
The ladies of Good Shepherd Lutheran women’s Bible study group enjoyed Coffee & Donuts with Chris
Chris Ringe and Jim Bebo at Reach for Ralph

ADVOCATING FOR DISABILITY SERVICES

IT’S UP TO ALL OF US

Many people support Hammer & NER in several different ways. Most find a way that is convenient or comfortable for them. Support could mean volunteering or donating. One way to offer support is to advocate for additional resources and programs.

Advocating for services and funding from the elected officials who provide those resources can be productive and fun. Advocacy is our right and our duty. Politicians are asked questions every day on many subjects. It is easy for them to forget or at the least, think less often about Hammer & NER and our services. The more we contact them, the more familiar they are with these needed services. When the time comes to vote on additional services, additional funding, or to prevent cuts, they are more likely to vote favorably if they have a relationship with us and knowledge of the great things offered by Hammer & NER.

Advocacy occurs in many forms. The easiest way is to vote. Another way to advocate is to receive updates from Hammer & NER on legislation affecting our organization and contacting key elected officials to express support. Hammer & NER will meet with state legislators next spring on March 18 during Disability Services Day at the Minnesota State Capitol.

If you are interested in advocacy and helping us contact as

many elected officials as possible, please connect with me at (612) 772-3825 or Michael.siebenaler@hammer.org. I will work with you to find a way for you to advocate for Hammer & NER.

2024 Day at the Capitol “Rally in the Rotunda”
Self-advocates Kristine, Nathan, Anthony, and Nels during Disability Services Day at the Capitol
Mike Siebenaler with Advocacy committee member Margie Sillery talking to Lucas, supported by Hammer & NER

EMILY’S TOUCH DECADES OF DEVOTION HAVE NURTURED FULFILLING LIVES

At Hammer & NER, our mission is to provide person-centered support to all those we serve through the highest quality of care. The faces behind the direct support in the homes are pivotal to this mission succeeding. For 17 years, Emily Robillard has carried out this mission through her unfaltering work ethic and compassionate character.

“When I started working at Gardner, Emily provided a warm welcome with stupendous support,” says Program Manager Annie Critzer. “And she is willing to do whatever it takes to help the gals.”

Emily began her career at Hammer Residences in 2007 in the Program Manager in Training (PMIT) program at our Unity home. In 2009, she helped open and manage the Gardner home. She has worked as a DSP, supported the West office front desk, and is currently the Lead DSP at the Gardner home.

Emily recently began working as the Special Needs Ministry Associate at Woodridge Church. Practicing their faith is a priority of the Gardner women. “She is good at speaking in church,” Lauren says. Every Tuesday, the gals attend the 7 o’clock service, which Emily facilitates.

“The individuals I’ve supported over the years have been a part of many milestones in my life,” Emily shares. “From getting married to having my daughters, they have all been there with me.” Alternatively, Emily recounts the times she was there during milestones of the Gardner gals’ lives. “Weddings and family celebrations as well as deaths and break ups,” she says. “We mutually support each other.”

As Emily reflects on the mission of Hammer & NER, she shares her hopes. “I hope we never lose sight of what it means to serve and support the individuals,” she says. “I hope we continue to stay person centered and really invest in the relationships staff have with the people we support.”

Emily’s incredible work has had a rippling effect on those who have worked with her.

The four Gardner gals include Brittni, Lauren, Sara, and Dawn, who are intelligent, ambitious, and have warm hearts. Their love for Emily is no surprise. “I believe that you need to build relationships with each person you support,” Emily says. The goal in the home is to truly enrich the lives of the women who live there.

Emily has helped create many wonderful memories for the Gardner gals from going to prom to attending plays. On the hard days, all agree that listening to a little music goes a long way. “Get to know their likes, dislikes, and find the things you have in common,” Emily suggests. She also knows the importance of building relationships with families. “A big part is earning the parents’ trust,” she says, “and listening to their dreams for their loved one—it’s all a part of the relationship building.”

Thank you to Emily Robillard for your dedicated work and to all Hammer & NER employees who fulfil our mission every day.

The Gardner gals with Emily (lower left) and Anna (far right)
The Gardner Gals: Brittni, Lauren, Dawn, and Sarah

Hammer & NER

1909 Wayzata Blvd.

Wayzata, MN 55391

952-473-1261

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A FESTIVE CLOSE TO SUMMER HAMMER & NER’S FAMILY DAY PICNIC

This year’s Family Day Picnic had an unexpected start with a rainy and stormy setup. Despite the thunderstorm, our amazing volunteers powered through and managed to get everything ready in time. Once the event kicked off, the weather cleared up, and we were able to enjoy a beautiful day together!

As always, a big thank you to Village Meats for providing us with a delicious meal. A big thank you also goes to TD’s Happy Faces for their fantastic face painting, as well as Linda Berglund and her team for the amazing caricatures that brought smiles to all those who participated.

A special shout-out to Jesse Moravec for stepping in as our DJ this year and to all our volunteers and staff members who worked hard to make this event a success!

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