I AM Woman Global - Sarah Blake January 2023 Issue

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1 2 www.herringtonpublications.com www.herringtonpublications.com TABLE OF CONTENTS 5 Interview by Hazel Herrington 34 Strategic Conflict Resolution For The Modern Era With Sarah Blake 38 Conflict And Resolution In Business 50 Conflict & Resolution: Women in leadership 56 How Social Media Can Be Used To Create Opportunities For Women Entrepreneurs. How to increase your organisations resilience and your ability to stand out amongst the competition
By Hazel Herrington
64 67 Breaking Through Barriers: How Women Entrepreneurs Find Success Through Conflict and Resolution 76 Women’s Economic Empowerment Matters 82 Conflict And Resolution There is room for everyone in the world
By Olivia O'Connor By Alisha Fernandez.
By Barbara dalle Pezze

This month’s cover story features Sarah Blake, an award-winning conflict strategist, author, and corporate trainer. With her innovative approaches to conflict management, Sarah is enabling industry leaders and entrepreneurs to tackle complex conflict problems in the business world and revolutionize how people perceive and respond to these issues. This issue of I Am Woman Global dives deep into conflict resolution for the modern era and tackles the issues that women face when it comes to leadership.

Through expert knowledge from Sarah and other professionals in conflict resolution, this magazine provides its readers with valuable insight into conflict management that can help them come out on top when tackling business problems.

Happy reading

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Strategic Conflict Resolution

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C“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”

HH: What inspired you to pursue a career in conflict and

I was always interested in the process of bringing people together to make hard decisions, but it was a roundabout journey to get here.

As a second-generation mediator, I had the opportunity to do my mediation training back in 1996. This training has weaved and shaped my career ever since.

On my first day of university in my first Anthropologist class the lecture said that our role

My future was also shaped during my time in Darwin, when the 1999 East Timor conflict occurred, I found myself helping fellow university students fleeing war. I also met my future husband who was in the Navy. These two perspectives of the impact of war lead me to undertake a Master of Strategic Affairs. I wanted to better understand strategically the intersection of community and conflict and what role I might play in peace-making.

But three years ago, I levelled up and decided to take my business seriously, not just my profession. Sarah M Blake Pty Ltd is the personification of my deep belief in both me and the benefits of collaborative problem solving. I see so many leaders of high calibre, struggling with conflict, who resist dealing with it or turn it into a fight. Leadership doesn’t have to be this hard, which is where I step in.

As I have matured in my experiences and understandings there is now

This is about helping people to navigate the chaos, confusion and conflict that impact us all. I am on a mission to help change the way we view conflict – not as something to fear, instead if managed well it is the vehicle for change, innovation, and peace HH: In your experience, what are the benefits of using a collaborative approach to resolving conflicts? The reality is that if individuals could solve

Whether the issues are legal, economic, reputational, or relationship based there is always a choice, you can have a fight or choose to problem solve. The challenge is that we have become so used to the notion of ‘win at all costs’, that we need to be ‘right’ to get a good outcome. But there are alternatives.

When we approach conflicts with curiosity, with a commitment to try and negotiate a fair outcome with the other person we increase the likelihood of sustainable agreements.

Contrary some assumptions, collaborative approaches aren’t about being soft, rainbows and fairy tales or just agreeing with the other person. And yes, I have had to say that to clients on occasion! Instead, this collaborative problem solving helps participants negotiate the things that matter (interests and needs) with a focus on the future rather than blame.

These approaches to the resolution of conflict often result in quicker and less expensive processes that

Both from experience and research these approaches to resolving conflict are more likely to result in more sustainable and practical agreements because the participants themselves have shaped the outcomes

HH: In your experience, what are the most common causes of conflict in the workplace?

Interestingly, the top three causes of workplace conflict in my experience are:

Miscommunication of Expectations

Resistance to Accountability or misuse of power

Poor boundaries about what is and isn’t ok

Covid has had a massive impact on workplace conflict and to be honest many conflict professionals have

But how these conflicts play out are always different

People’s behaviours will range from aggressive

These start to erode and undermine people’s sense of self and confidence, leaving victims vulnerable and usually negatively impacting productivity, growth, and innovation. One of the more challenging trends is the increasing impact of mental health on workplaces. With so many people struggling with how to deal with stress, anxiety, and depression it can be difficult to navigate both for

These challenging conversations often result in workplace conflict because everyone focuses on being right or taking a side.

However, I have also seen incredible leaders guiding their teams with a growth mindset, tackling the challenges with innovation, and going back to basics to ensure foundations are strong.

HH: What strategies do you use when working with clients who are

This means that the strategies that I use vary depending on the personalities, my role and what outcome organisations are looking for.

Always, my strategy is to start from a position of listening – tell me your story? As I seek to understand what has been happening, it also helps them disengage the emotions from the problem and allows a new clarity to emerge This conflict clarity helps participants better understand what matters.

So, it’s not surprising that my first intervention strategy always begins with a question - ‘what

The processes I use to facilitate complex decisionmaking will also vary.

As a nationally accredited mediator, there are standards by which I am bound when conducting formal mediations. But there is also great flexibility that allows me to co-design processes with cultural, legal or relationship legitimacy

Whilst the nuances of action might look different, fundamentally we journey through a process of exploration and understanding, reality testing and option generation, problem solving and negotiation, agreement making and implementation.

These four phases underpin all effective conflict resolution processes and I love to watch as leaders and decision-makers undergo a mindset shift from combative approaches to conflict into a growth mindset where they seek opportunities for resolution.

How can you frame your needs in a way that increases the chances they will agree If you don’t reach an agreement, what might happen next?

We would bed down in our position, and we would use power to try and force an outcome in our favour.

If you find yourself in conflict, there are some foundational questions to consider that may help you quickly shift from destructive conflict into constructive conflict: What is driving this conflict (the problems not the people)?

What outcome do you and they want and need?

What costs are you prepared to carry if this conflict continues?

What we are seeing in this modern era is a shift in how people seek to resolve conflict Going to court is becoming more and more expensive, time consuming and risky.

How can you best help everyone to future focus?

HH: What do you believe is the key difference between traditional conflict resolution methods and those used in the modern era?

Most companies, big and small, need a speedy, costeffective process that reduces risks to relationships, reputations, and potential future business.

What are nonnegotiables and what can you negotiate on?

In the past we traditionally found ourselves going to court to get the judge to make a decision that aligned without argument.

Judicial systems across the world are increasingly pushing for conflicts to be resolved through mediation either in or outside of courts.

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With the recent ratification of the Singapore Convention on Mediation, we are formally witnessing the acceptance and legitimising of collaborative processes for dispute resolution through mediation.

We are also seeing a shift and growth in our understanding of what it is to make good decisions during complex conflicts. People’s expectations of how issues like sustainability, diversity, indigenous rights and culture impact decision making have also changed We know that multi-disciplinary approaches to problem solving are necessary in this modern interconnected world. It isn’t enough to assess conflict through a legal lens, we also need to consider relationships, reputations, finances and much more.

Traditional approaches to conflict normalised power, intimidation, and control. Conflict was a battle to be won. This approach is no longer being accepted.

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People want to be heard, valued, and empowered to participate in conflict resolution. The power over approaches of the past lack legitimacy now and systems are rapidly trying to adjust to the emerging expectations of decision-making within the conflict space.

HH: What is the key to successful conflict resolution in family settings?

Whenever I tell someone what I do, they always ask if I do family work. I think because it is easiest to relate to – we all have family conflicts we try to avoid. Personally, I am very happy to leave family dispute resolution to those wanting to work within the family law system.

But I am a mum of two boys, a wife and have a complicated family spread across the country. I often learn the most about conflict by how I deal with these issues at home. This is an integrity piece for me – if I don’t apply what I know at home, then how can I legitimately practice in the conflict space.

For me, the key to successfully dealing with conflict within our families starts from our ability to communicate. Conflict will happen regularly – big issues and small issues, but as I said to my 10-year-old recently “if we don’t talk about the hard things, we can’t work on fixing them”.

When conflict happens, you will all know what the rules are for dealing with it. These are the commitments you all make and are foundational for our collective future. It might simply be no name calling, if we are angry, we call timeout to pause our conversation, if we have a problem, we will make time to sit down and talk.

I see many other practitioners who are uncomfortable with conflict, they want everyone to feel good, just get on, be happy. For me, conflict like life is often hard and messy. Every day I walk in this space both professionally and at home when I clock off. I have had to learn to be comfortable with conflict, see it not as something to fear but rather an opportunity to learn and grow from.

So, when things get hard, tough, or messy it is important that we make space to listen, question assumptions and explore our needs; and parking our judgment. The minute you start to judge or get overly emotional, others will shut down, stop listening and before you know distance grows.

Create some conflict rules for your family.

As parents and partners, we teach others what is and isn’t ok – and with a lack of great examples on-line and in the media, it is so important that we all do our bit to deal with conflict better.

HH: What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?

Running my own business, being an active community member and entertaining my kids takes up a lot of time.

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With a husband in the military, we end up spending a lot of time without my husband or family around. We have got used to being resilient and independent. So, when I get a chance, my spare time is usually spent doing adventures as a family, hitting the beach or bush to explore, walk and discover. I spent so much time growing up on the beach and farm and I want my kids to be able to put down the electronics and really enjoy nature.

I love to bake and entertain – it is a creative outlet for me and there is magic that happens when we come together to laugh, share our stories and just be. Dinners or afternoons at my back patio, the simple moments of connection.

This past year I have also made a conscious effort to re-prioritise me To say no to others more and make time to nurture my soul, body, and heart. I love to walk, especially along the beautiful coastline where we live, it is both meditative and grounds me. I love to sit and read trashy books to escape for a moment of mindless peace. As the weather warms up again you can bet that any spare moment I will be on the beach or floating in the ocean

HH: What do you think are the biggest obstacles to women's leadership roles?

As women step up and demand a seat at the table of power we are discovering more about the obstacles. Rather than focusing on the big issues though, I thought it might be useful to share from my own experience. What have been the biggest obstacles to me as I’ve stepped up into leadership?

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In an industry that is heavily dominated by older white men who use the status of their title for legitimacy, taking on leadership has required me to find my own way. Too often I have sat at a decisionmaking table only to have them attempt to silence my voice These weren’t bad people, just men used to having power; used to doing things their way This system benefits them, it makes them feel in control and it is safe for them. This deep systemic bias, a resistance to sharing power is a values conflict which locks out women or those from a diverse background. I have found my way around it by finding new ways to connect with my clients and community. I have found different ways to show I know what I am talking about.

Essentially, I have found the confidence to march to my own music. I don’t try to do it all, I don’t take on the battles unless I am confident, I can influence change, and if they aren’t ready for change, I go around!

The other obstacle for women in leadership roles is women ourselves. It is the internal conflict, the insecurities of ourselves and the guilt that we can’t, shouldn’t or have to.

As women, we must stop blaming others, stop bringing down other women and instead take responsibility for our own hope, the future we want to create.

HH: What is your vision for 2023 in terms of conflict and resolution?

The world is going through a period of great flux, there is a lot of uncertainty, change and even high conflict risks.

It is important to acknowledge this – because when we are low on resilience, we are more prone to conflict. I hope that leaders can ease into 2023 making time to recharge and nurture themselves, to reconnect with joy and passion and be energised for what I hope will be a really exciting year.

A powerful woman, for me, is someone who knows who she is She doesn’t spend her time trying to impress or influence others for her own gain, but instead brings a deep confidence that she is enough as she is. It doesn’t just happen, these women do the work, both internally and externally.

Workplaces are struggling to engage with these new expectations and the impact of COVID is still being felt economically and socially.

Many leaders will be feeling depleted and worn out as we head into the end of the year and start of 2023.

My vision for 2023 is really a challenge to leaders to reflect on their own discipline of dealing with conflict. We are the ones who set the tone for problem solving and resolution.

As we transition out of the crisis of covid, now is the time to reset expectations about how we deal with the problems that impact us.

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This conversation starts with each of us taking responsibility for how we deal with the complex people dynamics around us. Choosing a future focus with curiosity, strength, and grace.

As conflict increases and competition heats up, now is time for us all to rise-up and speak out for a different way of dealing with conflict

I hope that 2023 is when we plant the seeds of a conflict revolution - where we choose to wrestle together for better outcomes rather than let fear divide us. This starts locally but requires us to authentically speak bravely at home, work and in the community.

It is us learning the words of understanding rather than diminishing, seeking to manage tensions not necessarily fixing everything. Our world is complex, humanity is complex – yet we are all fundamentally tied together with a hope for a better future.

Let us use 2023 as the year we collectively shift from blame into ownership, the realisation that we can each contribute to better outcomes.

HH: How do you manage to stay calm under pressure when resolving conflict?

Hahaha – I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t feel the butterflies in my belly when I must deal with conflict within my personal life.

I think people assume you can learn to not be impacted by conflict or that we can make a conflict free world.

That just isn’t life – life is messy, conflicts happen because we are humans who bring our own views, ideas, cultures, and needs to our relationships.

But this capacity to stay calm under pressure when helping others to resolve conflict, even when I am directly impacted by conflict is one of the skills I am most proud of.

And wow, have I worked on it, consciously for more than 20 years. Because I know that how I am, impacts how others react or respond to conflict.

I have had to lean in and discover my own fears about conflict, what are my triggers and insecurities and perhaps most importantly I have learnt who I am. There is this deep freedom that has emerged from this knowing, a sense of calm. But it is also a discipline – I have self-care, I reflect and debrief, and I have good boundaries. But there are a couple of key principles that help guide me.

01 Clarity of Purpose: it is not my conflict to fix, my role is to hold the space for my clients to navigate their conflict. I have a clear understanding of the extent and limitations of my role This allows me to walk into conflict spaces with authority and focus.

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Emotions in check: when I feel emotions bubbling up, I acknowledge and listen and then park them. It isn’t the time for me to be reacting to my emotions. It is my job to lead by example. That isn’t to say that I am hard or robotic (yes, I have seen mediators do this), rather my emotions don’t drive my actions.

HH: How have you been able to successfully manage work and family demands while maintaining a successful business?

Stay Grounded: before I walk into any high-pressure conflict, I prepare myself, I visualise sinking my feet into the earth. Like an old tree whose roots hold them steady, this grounding and connection to my core also keeps me steady. If I need to take a moment, I breathe and reconnect with that vision.

I also have a sense of purpose, my capacity for calm is my superpower When I was adopted into my Yolngu family, they also gave me a name. My Yolngu name is ‘Widingal’ meaning calm water or bringer of calm waters. This deep knowing of my role in life, reminds me that everything will be ok even when the storms rise.

It is a constant process of negotiation and juggle trying to manage work and family demands. Just when you think you have it all sorted out, things change, your kids go through another stage and life happens. Running my own business was a conscious decision I made to enable me to be present to my family. With a husband in the military there is a real need for flexibility and resilience. We move a lot, when he is home, we want to be able to spend time with him, and when he is away it falls to me to hold the fort.

Over the years I have learnt what works and what doesn’t, but the biggest shift has been a mental acceptance of the realities and values that drive what I do. I have big ideas, but whilst my kids are young, they are going to take longer to achieve. I have learnt to be gentle on myself – to reset expectations and then reset them again because things change and that is ok. I have stopped trying to be perfect and stopped looking for perfection because I am deeply content to prioritise the relationships that matter.

I also have clear boundarieswhere possible I am there to pick the kids up from school and spend those precious hours focused on them.

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The balance also requires hard work – I have put a lot of effort into building my brand profile. This has meant that maintaining the momentum doesn’t take as much effort. But I can’t do it all myself – the trick is also to build a great team around you. Outsource what you can, empower your team and let them fly too. It never stops, the task of growing, learning, and parenting. It is a wild ride that I don’t try to control, rather I let it shape and inform me as I live and I embrace our potential.

HH: What advice can you give future women leaders?

I love to see emerging female leaders discover their passion, voice, and drive. But it isn’t all smooth sailing and I guess I want to say that leadership takes time It takes time to discover your vision, your story perhaps even you. It takes time to build experience, knowledge, and wisdom.

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So, I want to remind you that it is easy to get caught up in the glamour and excitement of likes, popularity and hanging out with the ‘cool’ people But in my experience, authentic leadership emerges from your capacity to do the work. This means making mistakes, learning from others, honing your craft, and building legitimacy from experience.

There are learnings along the way – some will be painful and humbling, and others will be joyful. These are the things that will shape who you are not just what you do.

For future female leaders, don’t let anyone silence or diminish your curiosity.

But equally don’t let your ego pull you into blame. Your leadership journey will likely be full of lots of emotions, feel them but don’t let them define you.

Honestly, I want you to know that it is ok to be unapologetically driven to succeed. It took me time to let go of my guilt around that, to realise I didn’t need to conform someone else’s idea of perfection. That I was enough just the way I am.

If you can find that grounding and still be curious, reflective and strategic, you will fly!

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Conflict An Resolution

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Conflict and resolution in business are vital parts of ensuring successful outcomes, yet women are still underrepresented in leadership roles To drive change and promote the development of strong female leaders it’s essential to understand how to effectively manage conflict and resolve disagreements at work. Conflict is inevitable when it comes to business, as different ideas and approaches can lead to conflicting opinions However, these differences also present an opportunity for growth, creativity and innovation if they are managed appropriately.

Women in leadership positions can play a key role in diffusing tense situations by utilizing emotional intelligence This involves understanding both sides of the argument, being able to empathize with other perspectives, and then creating an environment where all parties feel safe enough to share their thoughts without fear of judgment or criticism.

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Women often have different approaches when it comes to problem-solving - such as focusing more on collaboration rather than competition - which can help create an atmosphere where constructive conversations take place.

Additionally, utilizing open communication techniques such as asking questions rather than making statements gives people the opportunity to explain their point of view while allowing them a level of control over their narrative.

When it comes to resolving conflicts, women in leadership positions should focus on empowering those involved rather than trying to impose solutions from above.

It’s important for leaders to create space for others to speak their minds without the fear of punishment or retribution; this allows everyone involved in the conflict to be heard without having any personal or professional stakes attached.

Finally, when disagreements arise women leaders must remain impartial while guiding participants towards a mutually beneficial solution.

This helps foster respect between conflicting parties and facilitates meaningful dialogues around finding common ground for compromise and resolution.

Rather than seeking out blame or apportioning responsibility, all parties should recognize that misunderstandings occur due to complex interactions between people with diverse backgrounds and experiences;

In conclusion, women leaders have an important role to play when it comes to managing conflict and achieving resolution in business settings; through employing well-rounded strategies such as emotional intelligence, open communication techniques, respect for others and impartiality women can ensure effective outcomes are achieved while also fostering a positive work culture for everyone involved.

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How to increase your organisations resilience

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Ever get that feeling of not quite knowing the next step. Not sure what the right action is to take? How about that feeling of overwhelm where there just seems to be so much going on, that it’s hard to figure out what is the most important thing right now?

How do some teams seem to be able to cut through uncertainty and act whilst others get stuck in indecision and inaction?

Why do some organisations seem to be able to roll with the punches while others seem to lag? Some almost seem bulletproof and rich in resilience.

This resilience can determine your organisation’s ability to move from merely surviving to thriving in ever increasing competitive marketplaces. At the heart of organisational resilience is people. It’s your team’s ability to quickly recover from difficulty and quickly adapt to change.

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When we lack resilience

As I dial into meetings, I see many individuals really struggling to maintain any kind of strategic thought and sanity as they are continually working among the reeds of day-to-day tasks and never ending to do lists. This isn’t restrictive to any job title or industry. This is across the board. There is a certain air of helplessness within teams who are working within organisations where decisions are made from the top then forced down into teams for implementation. The mental and emotional wellbeing of our people is taking a hit and leaders who themselves are dealing with overwhelming change, struggle to cope with the extensive support that’s required.

Leaders often find they haven’t had the time to take stock to rise to the leader they want to be, and they feel stretched, dealing with stress and burnout of their teams, and often themselves.

Stuck in the mud

Stress and overwhelm can be paralysing. If we’re operating in a state of anxiety, then we can’t think clearly, and our decision making is impaired.

Our brain goes into fight or flight mode under conditions of perceived threat. Therefore, our ability to remain calm and focused whilst experiencing stress is reduced.

If people are retreating and are hesitant to engage with one another then employee engagement and the experiences we need to enjoy our days at work, instantly start to falter.

I can’t talk right now

Think about that last argument you had. I don’t know about you but my thought processes slow right down. If it’s heated, then emotions really take the reins, and any triathlete of a mind suddenly gets glued to the spot A total mind, shut down.

There’s a social aspect too. Often people under long periods of stress will tend to retreat socially. Stress can disrupt synapse regulation, resulting in the loss of sociability and the avoidance of interactions with others.

Think of all the time and effort required to build a positive culture. Stressed teams will inadvertently contrast these efforts.

Resilience enables teams to be safeguarded against negative experiences which otherwise could be paralysing

It helps to establish emotional balance during adversity and reduces the likelihood of debilitating stress.

It’s knowing you have trusted relationships with those that you work with and knowing that someone’s got your back when things get tough.

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If resilience is the ‘what’, then collaboration is the ‘how’.

Where do we start on the journey to resilience?

1 Connect teams and help them build trusting and genuine connection.

2 Provide environments where they are free to be themselves, be heard and provide value to the work that they do

3 Demonstrate the links between the work people do and the grander vision of the organisation

A collaborative approach is what underpins all the above. This is the ONE thing that will help your team not just face tough challenges but meet them head on with vigour and action. Staying ahead of your market means keeping up with how to get the most of your team.

Teams are feeling more disconnected than ever. Many teams are living in quiet desperation of wanting to connect more and contribute more but the operational cadence and design of meetings simply don’t allow this Instead, they remain in mere survival mode of just getting through the day. This tip cost Google millions, you can have it for free!

We often band aid building trust among teams. We organise social events and team building days when in fact we should reassess as to how we can build and strengthen relationships through the work that we do. We already spend a lot of time working.

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Extra work time, to the majority of us, means less family time. Less personal time. This in fact can just add to the stress individuals are already experiencing.

In 2012, Google was on a mission to break down what made the perfect team. What was the secret formula? They spent millions with research partners from around the world and it became Project Aristotle. They studied hundreds of Google’s teams and figured out why some stumbled while others soared. The results will surprise you. It didn’t come down to personality traits of getting the right mix of introverts and extroverts. It didn’t come down to IQ, skills, or expertise. It came down to one very simple element.

It’s called equal voice.

The equal distribution of people talking in meetings. If the voice of everyone was equally distributed and people took leadership roles at different times, then the team performed extremely well. For teams where one person dominated the airtime, they lacked outcomes in comparison as well as less collective intelligence.

As an experience facilitator I’ve seen how just one small change to a meeting structure can immensely impact the experience of everyone involved. As an employee I’ve also experienced this, and I can tell you the experience of a collaborative room is energising and I’d even go as far to say inspiring.

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In a thriving culture of collaboration, I felt my leader listened to what I had to say, I was able to design the work I did in the way I needed to, and I felt fulfilled and excited about my work.

On the flip side cultures that still embrace top-down strategies and one-way communications risk the engagement and wellbeing of the teams but also are at risk of becoming a stagnant player in the marketplace.

And trust me I’ve experienced the dichotomy of both sides of the coin.

If innovation is on your radar, embrace collective intelligence I mentioned collective intelligence earlier. This is an essential part of an organization's ability to innovate.

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A constantly evolving commercial environment demands constant professionally led progression towards effective collaboration and this should be the goal from all that strive to thrive within it. Meaning that ‘ways’ of collaborating need to be designed from within the organisation. The act of allowing teams to collaborate more effectively and play a role in designing the way they work is an act of enablement that can create a ripple of positive change. After experiencing the joy that comes from a collaborative culture it inspired me to create what I call ‘The Collaboration Project’. In a few short weeks organisations can progress the way they work together, the way they collect and organise their ideas.

Teams walk away with a toolkit to reinvigorate their days and deliver their best work while managers build genuine connections through the trust that comes from empowering teams to have an equal voice and demonstrate their worth.

The result is teams who are:

More focused on execution

More productive

In a collaborative environment we embrace execution. We also embrace failure and take this as opportunities to continually grow. The stress that comes from isolation and fear of getting things wrong melts away into an environment of trust and knowing your team has your back.

Collaboration ensures we all have a role to play in transforming the experience of work, through succeeding together.

Take the next step.

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If we’re looking for an antidote to eradicating toxic behaviours at work and thriving in a competitive marketplace, then collaboration is it. There’s nothing worse than feeling like you have more to offer or that your time is wasted. For leaders there’s nothing worse than seeing teams in states of turmoil and anxiety.

From accelerating collaboration within teams, or getting cut through with customers, Liv will quickly know which steps to take to create the best pathways for you and your team.

Get in touch with us today to learn more about how to not just survive but thrive in your market!

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Conflict & Resolution: WOMENINLEADERSHIP

Conflicts can’t be avoided. You don’t even need another person to have a conflict. There is intrapersonal conflict too, and I have noticed that when my values and behaviors don’t match, I have an intrapersonal conflict When it happens within us, it is bound to happen with the outside world that comes with varied education, pedigree, upbringings, perspectives, values, and principles etc. Conflict is unavoidable and shows up in various forms like dissensions, dislikes, and arguments that prevail in many personal and professional situations. Conflict is a state of opposition between two or further individualities and can be a difference over objects, prospects, or pretensions between persons or groups. Conflicts at the workplace decrease productivity and negatively impact working relationships.

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There is nothing wrong with conflicts. They are extremely healthy and help expand our horizons and thought processes. They become disturbing if not handled well. This is true for all genders, but women need to be extra cautious as conflicts have the potential to invoke emotions, and displaying them raw in business settings is neither warranted nor healthy Emotions must be processed and managed well. I am reminded of a former woman colleague Pooja,who was excellent at her work and was a go-to person for all business-related challenges, yet she wasn’t growing much in her role. After a while, her career had plateaued.

When I started interacting more with her, I realized that she could not accept disagreements and arguments and wont even allow logic to change her perspective.

It was impossible to show her your perspective, leading to her alienation as no one would want to discuss anything with her.

This was not the case with colleagues only, but even with her manager, who was known to be a rational being, she had similar outbursts and all that created an impression that she was an egoist and wanted only her say.

As I understood her better, I realized nothing could be farther from the truth.

While it looked like My Way or HighWay, the fact was she didn’t know conflict resolution skills. While conflicts help us in more than one way, if you don’t know how to manage them well, they can lead to situations like Pooja’s. It is essential to have an understanding of how to resolve them There are multiple methods, from extremely unhealthy to healthy ones. We must understand these to avoid unhealthy ones and leverage healthy strategies. Here are 5 strategies for conflict resolution.

It may not be the best for any parties, but it helps arrive at a compromise.

This is generally useful when both parties are equally powerful, and you are at a stalemate. This will, at best, be a temporary solution as it's a compromise. This is lose- lose style

Situations to consider this style:

You are looking for an immediate solution

Productivity is negatively impacted by resources utilized in this conflict

Compromising – as the name suggests, is about winning some and losing some.

Both sides understand the perspective of the other and achieve agreement.

Situations where you are looking to set an example of the team over self

Avoiding – It is useful when you want to cool off, and it has been highly emotive.

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This is useful in situations where any further discussion will damage the relationship confrontation will only make matters worse. An unhealthy style may be helpful in some instances where outcomes are not very important to you and you would want to save resources. This is considered a weak and ineffective style.

Reasons to consider avoiding style:

Indecision or high emotional involvement

One side overpowers the other side and focuses only on its gains. One party ignores the requirements of the other. It is all about asserting your authority over others

Situations to consider competing style:

The desired outcomes are critical for you, or others are trying to push you back

This is used when people are more concerned with conflict than you, and you want it to close as it's impacting the team negatively. Many people go for it when others are more experienced than them

Lack of resources to focus on this matter

The situation is leading to a lack of productivity

Dominating – I win, and you lose. This is one of the unhealthiest and most ineffective styles of conflict resolution.

Obliging – It is I lose you win situation where one party allows the other to win as the relationship is very dear to them, and they don't want to hurt the relationship. This is a non-assertive style and not a very healthy or effective one, but it can be helpful in certain situations where the outcome may not be significant for you, but the relationship is. This is the opposite of I win; you lose.

Collaborating is all about arriving at a decision that is in the interest of both parties and serves them well This is one of the most effective and healthy conflict management styles since it cares for both sides. It is called a Win-Win situation where you gain something and leave something for the other person as well, and both parties are equally happy with the outcome.

Also, many people will be impacted by the outcome. Now that you have understood how to handle conflict, keep practicing these strategies and applying them when required. Also, please remember that these will be effective only if you have command over communications skills and emotions. While conflicts are unavoidable and not something we look forward to, they can become an opportunity to showcase your leadership skills and executive presence, especially as a woman.

Reasons to consider this style. When the relationship is essential, and you want to consider the interests of everyone.

Always remember that one of the key elements of your executive presence is determined by how you address conflict and resolve it.

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How Social Media Can Be Used To Create

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As an introverted woman in business, I understand that we have not always had the easiest path to enter the realm of entrepreneurship and gain economic independence.

Fortunately, as innovations such as the internet increasingly become part of the fabric of society, more women (just like you and me) have had the opportunity to gain success in business leveraging the power of social media.

Using social media as a marketing platform has allowed me to build two successful online subscription businesses, my personal brand and create repeat customers without spending any money on advertising or marketing.

I still pinch myself that this is real life.

In a nutshell, social media has been instrumental in helping me find my voice and achieve my goals in business as both a woman and an introvert.

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But it didn’t start out like that. I’m not kidding.

It wasn’t doubt that held me back - it was fear.

Fear of judgement…

Social Media to me was terrifying, debilitating. Business to me was daunting... To be completely transparent… people scared me. To the point where I was even too shy to pick up the phone to order takeout

Fear of ridicule…

Fear of being called out

We let make-believe thoughts keep us from sharing our gifts with the world. For what… comfort?

For staying in the same place, a year from now?

Fear of seeming like a fraud…

Just an overall fear of what others would think

So, I put off building a business on social media for a long time. But because of all the time that I took, I lost out on immense opportunities to reach more people. To work with amazing customers. To be further along in my journey.

An important lesson I’ve learned in my 9-year entrepreneurial journey is… “what others think of me is none of my business”.Caring what others think of us, is a narrative of worst-case scenarios we build in our heads. Think about it, we let hypothetical judgements keep us from building our dreams.

Seriously? How many times have you told yourself “I’ll start posting on social media to build my business next week?” I used to do that all the time. Take it from a massive introvert with a public presence - it’s not as bad as we think. It’s as bad as we let it be.

I thought to myself there must be a better way to build a business than the traditional “you pitch your business, I’ll pitch mine” face-to-face networking events. You betcha there was Enter social media. But at the beginning like I mentioned earlier… I was scared to get started To do that first post… To connect with a new person online… To show my face on camera. I went back and forth for ages before telling myself to put on my big girl pants and just do it.

When I decided to build a business,

It was agonizing as I was watching other female entrepreneurs win with their social media presence.

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But I took the leap of posting regularly and often, engaging with other women online, sharing relevant and interesting content and continually learning about the new social media features.

And did I die? – nope! Quite the opposite – I thrived!

And I hope my story encourages you to the same

I wish I could give you the magic formula on how I was able to conquer my fears but honestly it took time, persistence, and consistency. I’ve had so many “OMG” moments, but a mentor once said to me “courage comes before confidence” and that’s what I whisper to myself daily to help overcome my fears.

How social media can be used to create opportunities for women entrepreneurs.

Social media offers a level playing field for women entrepreneurs like you and me to showcase our businesses and build a following. We have the opportunity and power to use social media to connect with potential customers, business partners and investors from around the world… from our phones… from home… in our Pyjamas… FOR FREE! Social media can be a powerful tool to connect women and amplify our voices. Through social media, we can build relationships and find support networks, learn from each other, and share our experiences with the rest of the world.

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By sharing our stories and experiences online, we can also help empower other women to achieve their goals.

I had a professional speaker (let’s call her Maria)attend one of my free online Masterclasses about the hottest feature on social media right now, “Instagram & Facebook Reels”. Maria asked, “how is this feature relevant for women in business?” I explained it gives us the opportunity to go viral… viral for free, as I experienced this firsthand when one of my Reels recently reached over 35 million people around the world leading to over 12,000 leads!

Maria was frustrated but open to leveraging social media to build her business as the traditional methods had let her down…

As a result of implementing the strategies she learnt on my Masterclass, Maria was able to secure new clients and partnerships that helped her grow her business online exponentially Maria’s Reels have recently been published in a very popular UK newspaper and her now dominant online presence has secured her paid virtual speaking engagements.

By using it as a powerful tool for networking, rallying support, spreading information, and driving activism, social media is helping pave the way for more inclusive societies where everyone can thrive equally regardless of their gender identity or expression.

Don’t resist social media… change and embrace it just like Maria did. I get it… Often the longer you are in business, the more reluctant you are to change what’s working. But this is not always helpful for improvement.

Maria attended the masterclass because she had lost the majority of her income during the pandemic due to the inability to fly around the world for her speaking gigs…

Maria’s success has made me realise that social media gives women the ability to act and create real change in the world.

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Marketing methods are changing all the time particularly in the online space and one of the best ways to learn and explore these methods is to try them.

You never know you may just find the rare silver bullet just like what happened to Maria

My final thought.

If you let fear rule you, it will do the one job it has… to CONSUME you. Don’t let that happen to you.

Start now. Your future awaits you. Even if you’re starting your business from scratch as a one-woman operation, it’s important to think of yourself as a leader from day one

Social media is a great way to promote your business and grow your network. It can also help you grow your personal brand and feel more confident in your professional accomplishments. If you leverage social media well, you could make a much bigger splash than you anticipated when you first started your business Step into the role of leader. Own it. For too long, women have had to fight against a glass ceiling for business success. That’s finally starting to change, and it’s time to celebrate by growing the business of your dreams by leveraging social media.

Breaking Through Barriers

Women entrepreneurs have become a major force in the business world, but they often face unique challenges when it comes to navigating conflict and resolution. With women making up nearly half of all small business owners, these entrepreneurs are no strangers to the conflicts that come with trying to make a name for themselves in a

traditionally male-dominated industry. But instead of giving in to adversity, many female founders are using their creativity and determination to find success through conflict resolution.

One of the most common problems faced by women entrepreneurs is gender bias.

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Despite numerous advances in the workplace, studies have shown that women still experience unequal treatment in comparison to men This can take many forms, from being passed over for promotions or denied access to important networks, to being subjected to inappropriate comments and behaviour from male colleagues.

Of course, sexism is only one type of conflict that female founders must overcome. Other conflicts may include disputes with investors or partners, unexpected setbacks within the marketplace, or even disagreements among team members. While it can be daunting to try and solve all of these issues on your own, there are strategies that any woman entrepreneur can use when looking for successful resolutions.

For starters, it's important for female founders to not be afraid of confronting uncomfortable situations head-on.

Speak out if something doesn't seem fair or rightdon't just accept things as they are; challenge them! Similarly, know when its time to walk away and look elsewhere for solutions. Don't be afraid of taking risks or exploring alternative paths; sometimes these decisions can lead you down roads you hadn't expected and open up new opportunities far beyond what you had originally imagined! Finally (and perhaps most importantly), don’t forget the power of communication this is especially true when resolving conflicts among team members or partners.

everyone tried tackling the problem on their own terms without collaborating first.

Taking the time to communicate openly about everyone’s expectations creates an atmosphere of understanding and respect that can often lead to more productive resolutions than if

By understanding how conflict works and developing effective strategies for addressing it, women entrepreneurs can break through barriers while finding success in whatever form they see fit! From identifying gender bias in the workplace or fighting their way into closed networks, female leaders have what it takes not only to survive but thrive by utilising constructive methods for dealing with difficult situations. With this kind of determination and resilience at their disposal as well as a little bit of luck women entrepreneurs will no doubt continue breaking down walls as they forge ahead in an ever-growing field!

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Conflict & Resolution: WOMENINLEADERSHIP

I was a young girl, around eight years old. I was speaking with my friends at school and learning about their Sunday allowance. I never had a Sunday allowance. It was not something happening in my home. So, one day after school and with the conviction of a “suffragette” that just discovered her own right to an allowance, I asked my mother why I did not have a Sunday allowance.

My parents always provided everything I needed but they never proposed to give me an allowance. It was not part of my family culture So, getting an allowance became something that I needed to learn how to ask and argue for: “why do you need an allowance?” would my father say, “If there is anything you need, you can just ask your mom and I...”

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I was young and I did not know how to debate or argue in favor of my request. So, it took me quite some time before I could actually get that allowance.

Asking for it was my first step towards independence and economic empowerment. It was my first conscious experience of standing up for myself and asking for what I wanted Eventually I made it, I got my allowance. It was around five dollars per week It felt like I was a millionaire, I could decide where, when, and how I could spend ‘my money’ without asking for permission.

With those five dollars, I experienced not only a sense of freedom, but I felt stronger, I experienced some sort of power that I did not know before.

I experienced that I could desire something, and I could act on that desire to fulfill it.

At the time, what I wanted was simply getting an ice cream after school or buying that gadget that “everyone” in my class had and that it meant that I belonged, but it was so important to have those five dollars: It made me feel in charge of my reality at a very young age.

As stated by a research done at the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, Women’s economic empowerment is a “transformative process that helps women and girls move from limited power, voice, and choice at home and in the economy to having the skills, resources, and opportunities needed to compete equitably in markets as well as the agency to control and benefit from economic gains.”

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My Sunday allowance was the beginning of that “transformative process” that opened me up to future opportunities. It was the beginning of a learning process that made me aware that there are resources always available and just to be found. I experienced what Abby Wambach states when she writes that women “can be grateful for what they have while also demanding what they deserve.”

Becoming aware that we have the power to fulfill our own needs, that we can find a way to make our life better, that we have the ability to develop new skills and take care of ourselves, is an experience that not only empowers ourselves,

But it helps us move one step further and contribute to the life of others.

When we are on a selfempowering journey, we learn that helping and supporting others is part of the same journey. We learn that we can focus on others’ needs and desires, support them and help them find their own way to fulfillment, without losing ourselves.

We learn that the more we know ourselves, we are connected with our inner power, we recognize our own voice and speak up with it, the more we can positively impact the life of others.

Women’s economic empowerment is a fundamental step in the exciting and innovative journey of selfempowerment. Borrowing a few words from Michael Ray, I dare to say that a selfempowering journey is a continuous “flow of giving and receiving” that takes us closer to our own purpose, that is what ultimately empowers us the most.

What actions do you need to take to move forward? What do you need to let go of? What resources do you need to connect to? Where do you stand as to your own ‘economic journey’? Who do you need to talk to who would make a difference in your life? What questions do you need to ask? What conversations do you need to have? What chances do you need to take?

As a coach committed to inspire others to reconnect with their most profound and authentic voice, their highest purpose, and their power to make choices, I invite you to ponder a few questions: What is your empowering journey like? Where is it taking you? Is it where you want to go? What is your highest goal?

Write in your journal the answers to these questions and become aware of where you are at in your journey. We cannot change nor make better what we are not aware of, and to become empowered women who empower others, we need to know where we stand and where we are going.

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I would like to conclude these reflections with a quote from Ela Ramesh Bhatt, founder of the Self-Employed Women’s Association (SEWA) in India, who expresses so simply and yet powerfully the contribution of a self-empowered woman:

“A woman who tends a small plot of land, grows vegetables, weaves cloth, and provides for the family and the market, while caring for the financial, social, educational and emotional needs of her family is a multifunctional worker and the builder of a stable society.”

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There is room for

EVERYONEINTHEWORLD

As an individual whose work touches both the public administration and the business environment, I would like to share my experience of the role of women in bringing about global change in these areas.

For me, it has become a matter of concern that it often seems that only chosen individuals or only men do achieve success. It took time to understand that success in the world is not anyone's monopoly, nor is it given to someone as a gift. It is the result of daily hard work, often seemingly exhausting, but giving new strength the next minute.

Formula for success...

I am often asked to define success and ways to achieve it. And for me the answer is very obvious: success is both a result and a process. It has two sides, on the one hand, it is the result of consistent and dedicated work, on the other hand, it is an opportunity that we use to give someone a smile, to find another's lost dream, to restore faith in one's own abilities, to share knowledge, encourage and support, which in time and space multiplies and creates value with global impact.

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As a government official, it has been a real success for me to make tangible changes in the process of institutional improvement of the tourism industry by adopting the principle of "think global, act local" as a way of working

All this, of course, will be done locally, but the result will be felt globally.

The key to success is driving changes in the culture of thinking

Set your goals high

The tourism sector, being one of the priority sectors of the economy of many countries, including the Republic of Armenia, is one of the sectors with the largest share of emissions in the global economy.

Have you ever wondered what is the reason for the failures that you sometimes encounter? I'm not talking about bad planning, mismanagement, inadequate supervision and flawed procedures.

As part of institutional reforms, it was important to introduce mechanisms for the equal distribution of economic gains generated by tourism, introduce sustainable practices, make tourism accessible to all, taking into account the importance of inclusiveness and integration of people into social life.

I'm talking about setting goals low, fearing that you might stumble and fail if you try to set a milestone that seems beyond your abilities. But how can you know and truly assess your abilities if you dont try?

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After all, a baby does not stop trying to take the first steps just because he is afraid of falling. There is too much untapped potential in the world, especially female potential. In other words, everyone has an opportunity, but discovering and using it and achieving success is a matter of choice. Define your goals, some of us call it a goal, some of us call it a dream, sometimes they are explicit or hidden, conscious or unconscious, realized or not fully, materialized or not ... but we all have dreams.

There will be ups and downs, but will is decisive in everything... Believe in your ability to accomplish them. If you are able to learn to walk, you will also learn to run.

Success is the freedom to choose what you want, to create what you believe. The perception of success is different. Often, unhealthy competition, greed, and the obsession to carry the "laurel of victory" alone are the shortest way to destroy the pillars of global success

Gradually turn dreams into goals, then crystallize and turn them into daily purposeful work with a high sense of social responsibility.

Cooperation is the gold of success. Both people and organizations gain competitive advantage by pooling knowledge, experience, capital and resources around value-creating policies.

Cooperation at the global level, based on the concept of "mutual" and "win-win", is the core on which the future should be built. Instead of competing, be competitive. Surpass yourself by becoming more competitive than you were yesterday. The way to achieve success, harmony and joy is to give success, harmony and joy. Read a lot – As David Muradyan, the acknowledged Armenian writer says, education is the only dictatorship that liberates a person Competitiveness, initiative, networking is the foundation of womens economic empowerment, and education is at the heart of it all.

As an African proverb states, “If you educate a man, you educate an individual, if you educate a woman, you educate a nation”.

Don't be afraid to try and fail – failures are the key to success.

On the way to success, there are constant challenges and the bigger the goals, the more complicated the challenges are and you either get discouraged and stop halfway or accept the challenges thrown at you and move forward, sometimes through a seemingly labyrinth.

At different stages of my life, after each achievement, I realized that my will and perseverance were being tested,

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but life, through complex paths of trials, generously taught and endowed me with skills and abilities that later would become the basis for creating the good and value.

Shape new behavior from consumer to creator

We make generous use of the benefits of nature, often thinking that natural resources exist in order to best meet the needs of mankind. However, natural resources are not infinite, they are depleted, and it often takes decades to restore them. And if we want to drive real changes in business with real results, we do need to be prepared for real and systemic solutions, harmonizing success in business with maintaining the balance of nature.

In my practice, training conducted in a business environment shows that tangible results can be achieved. When you are honest and believe in what you say and do, it transforms into incredible energy and enables you to create a new culture of thinking in the business world that is more sustainable for business, people, country and planet

Conflict and Resolution

Each of us can become the cornerstone of global change if there is concern for the environment, sincerity and honesty towards humanity which must be accepted as the highest value and create good in all circles of valuecreating policy.

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Comprehend that if life is dandy for you that does not equal the same for everyone else. If your confidence comes with a cherry on the top, then learn to be a friend. Develop the art of caring and discard resentment When you strategically avoid that challenging conversation, you craft a perceived quick win that is masked with prolonged dysfunction

Idolatry is well and truly alive in our plans to dream the dream but give up once the gloom is forecasted. We run for the hills without profound efforts. A sedentary culture churning along.

The same basic skills are required to flourish and soar at any REALationship. Be aware of all the forces at play and decorate your stress away one meaningful interaction at a time

You cannot annoy my anchored soul so before you leap off into anything: marriage, friendship, partnership, leadership, volunteer or work team member understand what anchors you

The global divorce statistics are staggering. What’s contributing to this equation of despair? So many shattered lives, dreams and a generation of scars…strands in the cord of truth!

Moving to the tyranny of urgency requires us all to march to the beat of change, amendment from the cycle that is defined by data to be doomed truly before the romance has blossomed.

A curated community never greatly pressed for the want of pity so we move on swiftly to the next unsuspecting best thing Your acrimony habituates to a kernel of loathe. Why not adopt a proactive approach and go in with your eyes wide open to avoid contributing to the statistics? Love brings our broken bits all together and keeps us in proximity when we inform each other of our secrets. Meanie of mistrust is not the path to remain stuck in. Life offers us rich relationships in other facets outside the romantic boat as well.

Create positive vibes on purpose no matter how difficult the situation is. Look for the silver lining every time. Do you not allow new people to love you since former people hurt you? Have you left the baggage at the door? A dime a dozen think they have but so much drama manifests in the most inopportune time just because we lack the skills to tackle the elephant in the room and heal.

How deep are your roots? Will you survive a storm?

Do you simply avoid any signs of a storm like the plague and buckle in?

Your senses for people will alter drastically as you acquire knowledge to love yourself, understand your core values and not make comprises that will taint your world.

‘Self-Love a.k.a. my rights’ proudly emblazoned on every platform and so many lips.

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There is much to declare for having a healthy level of self-worth and exercising appropriate self-care. Our preoccupation with self is not shared by the scriptures. Consider for example, Jesus’ famous words in Luke 9:23, whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. In essence this enlightens us to focus on others instead of constantly zooming in on your personal needs. Piled misjudgement on misfortune is the results when we are constantly selfseeking. Break the mould and celebrate the other party, it will propel you into a new season. We are essentially in a facet of relationship 24/7 so develop both the awareness and skills to soar at it.

Commitment, responsibility and honesty are attributes that propel us to create sparks and rapport in the bedroom, boardroom or any social platform. Has all traces of blame and victimhood left the building? Positive relations embody presence that is tendered and manicured daily – it is purposeful. Thriving networks communicate about anything and everything. It is courageous, vulnerable and loyal with no smokescreens or secrets. You cannot plan for the future unless you properly address the past in all associations. Consider the tone in which you speak Extend gently with your experience In addition, develop the art of offering your undivided attention as depicted by Richard Moss ‘The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention.’

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Don’t use primitive smoke code to communicate. Use jargon free language to reach your audience even if you do not use verbatim.

A wise woman understands the precise psychological moment when to say nothing yet say so much with no words at all, artful tact at its pinnacle best. ‘There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words and still not understand you There are others who will understand you – without you even speaking a word.’ Yasmin Mogahed.

The greatest litmus test is how you handle the relationship when it plummets down south, where the twists and turns take you – do you lose the plot? Do you become bitter or better?

What lessons do you glean from the ended season? The intricate facets also include establishing your boundaries and maintaining them, respecting boundaries from others. Unlearning bad habits. Teaching yourself new things to add value to the new escarpment of fellowship.

Unconditional love is distinctly different from unconditional tolerance…know the difference - the subject of knowledgeable arguments if you have to partake.

There is ample deLIGHT in harnessing an authentic relationship with yourself. A milestone where you have plateaued to be comfortable in your own skin and there is absolutely no prerequisite for others to rush in and validate your existence like quartz clockwork.

Delightfully sardonic tweetup throws some relationships is a spotlight. A love story that captured hearts around the world when Meghan Markle and Prince Harry shared matrimony bliss. Their fairy tale has been untraditional yet it tarries. The love shared between the couple continues to conquer the mammoth trials. One curve ball after the next, vast hullabaloo but they are still smiling and making those vows work Everyone has a path that will stretch and bend them but we need to find our focus to ride on what boosts us.

No characterised cultural soirée is completed without grit. Find your perseverance switch. Do you have the grit to transcend from sand to glass?

Craving any emotional connection in authentic conversations is a sure telltale that you have deficiencies. Develop self-awareness for these red flags so you do not bond to someone unhealthy to satisfy your needs. Have that difficult conversation with your significant other and create a way to debar uninvited intrusion. Never apologise for burning too brightly, let your zeal shine and if it bothers others then look at the reasons objectively. Why are people jealous or intimidated? May your choices demonstrate your ordered hopes and not reflect your brewing phobias. When you judge me without knowing me, you do not define me.

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You describe yourself so let people paint themselves while you live your best life with those that fundamentally matter. Park the noise in the dark corner. Information brings revelation and revelation ignites transformation.

Align your values to reach your North Star, instead of avoiding the elephant in the room yet again – grab it by the tusk and tame it.

It is not your responsibility to heal others, however it is your obligation to reconcile the fragments of you that resonate with their brokenness Manipulation is when people blame you for your reaction to their disrespect. We compose a story expressing to everyone how to intermingle with us now and in the future!

Sometimes we have to make a decision that will hurt our heart but will most definitely heal our soul.

Practicing gratitude doesn’t equate to concealing unwelcome emotions or seeking for the silver lining in an adverse condition.

Committed appreciation means acknowledging what is quite decent along with the disarray. Fling away the notion that it is essential for you to pause your life until you are fundamentally healed.

Make wholesome choices for your present and future within the pain that’s where victory steps in and takes charge to change the narrative. Remember, you are always responsible for how you act, no matter how you feel.

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