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It’s not possible to say how much porn or masturbation is too much – it is about what is comfortable for you and only you can be the judge of that. Some people watch porn and feel it is a positive part of their life, whereas others may choose to never watch it.

It is important to understand that most porn is nothing like real sex. Often the actors don’t look like us, and do things that we would never do in violent or humiliating ways. Without realising it, viewers’ expectation of ‘real’ relationships and partners can change and negatively affect their intimacy and self-esteem.

Porn is more accessible than ever and many young people have watched itbut what should you do if porn is having a negative effect on your life?

If you are worried or anxious about the effects of watching porn on other parts of your life, this is when you should seek advice or support. Negative side effects of watching porn could include:

■ Unrealistic expectations about sex and relationships

■ Feeling disappointed by ‘real’ sex

■ Engaging in unsafe sex (for example, you rarely see condoms being used in porn)

■ Feeling shy or inadequate about your body because it isn’t like a porn star’s

■ Difficulty concentrating in normal life, such as at uni or work

Online Dating

Online dating is an instant, low-effort way to flirt and meet new people but it does come with risks. If you do arrange to meet up with someone online, remember: www.brook.org.uk/your-life/porn to get more information, advice and support if you are worried about yourself or a partner

■ Meet the person in public where there are lots of people. Never go to houses.

■ Tell a friend who you are going to meet and where.

■ Keep your phone fully charged, with enough credit to call or text if needed.

■ Arrange your own transport to and from the date and make sure you have enough money aside for a taxi.

■ Watch your stuff and never leave your drink, phone or other belongings unattended.

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