Darren Espanto
Taking good care of hinges and sockets for better mobility
Touching lives through songs
Sharing the pain matters more than fixing the problem
Unspoiled dive spots to explore and enjoy
CONTENTS
JULY-AUGUST 2016 6 Connecting With Your Joints
By Evelyn V. Almocera
What they do and why they sometimes hurt
26 How Times Change!
8 Children and Self-control
By Ellen G. White
Why they can never succeed without it
By Rose Fres Fausto
Fixed income or equity? Mutual fund or UITF?
By Dexter O. Quiñones
Our life and times then and now…illustrated
29 Life's Order
9 A 45-year-old Couple Asks About Improving FQ
By Evangeline T. Cailao
Timely tips for organizing small everyday stressors
12 The Other Guy
31 Trusting God When It Doesn’t Make Sense
By Gail Justesen
By Angie
Encountering a supernatural being
Abuse, despair, and peace
15 Struggle to Forgive
33 Balingoan: Underwater Paradise
By Daniel Tolek
By Angel C. Juarez
Sexual abuse ruins family and friends
Plunge into one of Mindanao’s offbeat diving sites
18 Milking “Liquid Gold”: Breastfeeding Fast Facts
36 Corn Cob Planter
By Janet R. Tolete
By Johanna C. Gallermo
Breastmilk is still best for babies
Dainty “dresses” for your indoor plants
37 When God Made the Ears
20 If Marriage Were an F150
By Bryan Schalesky as told to Marlo Schalesky
The things you fix and the things you just wait for
ABOUT THE COVER
Darren Espanto, a full-blooded Filipino living in Canada, was the 2011 grand champion of Pinoy Singing Sensation in Edmonton and 1st runner-up in the first season of ABS-CBN’s The Voice Kids Philippines. Besides singing, Darren is into charity missions. Read more about him on page 23.
Coming Up...
By Rowena R. Antemano
Hear ye! How they capture sounds
40 Aratilis: Abundant, Sweet, Healthy, and Free
23 Darren Espanto: Melody, Humility, and Industry
By Arlene May G. Corpus
Beyond your childhood memories
By Lucile B. Tañalas
The kid behind the voice
42 Weekend Weight Crunch
By Sue Radd
Stop binging and stop bulging
Mighty Mint Spider Veins Welcome to Antique When God Made the Nose Office Munchies Polycystic Ovary Syndrome Handling Criticisms Like a Pro Why Does the Moon Keep Following Me?
44 Stones of Blessing
By John T. Baldwin, L. James Gibson, and Jerry D. Thomas
What’s in a river and what’s in a day
Photos in this issue are by rogeRGSabio unless credited otherwise.
Columns 3 Passion and Purpose
By Lucile B. Tañalas
Compiled by Dexter O. Quiñones
Forgiveness 4 iContact 14 Dear Doctor
By Linda L. Varona
22 Personal Answers
By Arnold C. Serra
Abusive Boyfriend 28 Echoes of Life
By Ryan J. Martinez
Sticking With Church 30 Subscribers Section By Eden B. Aguilar
43 Word for the World
By Ryan J. Martinez
Traversing the Storms of Life 46 Children’s Corner
By Janet R. Tolete
Beautiful Differences
Do I Need to Take Vitamin D? 17 Consult Your Lawyer
By Silvino L. Sumagaysay, Jr.
Two Teachers and Health & Home 39 Food for the Family
Artificial Insemination
By Miriam R. Estrada
The Healing Power of Purple
Models not subjects of article
Children and Self-control By ELLEN G. WHITE Prepare children for life and its duties
Well may the mother inquire with deep anxiety, as she looks upon the children given to her care, What is the great aim and object of their education? Is it to fit them for life and its duties, to qualify them to take an honorable position in the world, to do good, to benefit their fellow-beings, to gain eventually the reward of the righteous? If so, then the first lesson to be taught them is self-control; for no undisciplined, headstrong person can hope for success in this world or reward in the next.
Give nothing for which children cry
One precious lesson which the mother will need to repeat again and again is that the child is not to rule; he is not the master, but her will and her wishes are to be supreme. Thus she is teaching them self-control. Give them nothing for which they cry, even if your tender heart desires ever so much to do this; for if they gain the victory once by crying they will expect to do it again. The second time the battle will be more vehement.
Never permit display of angry passions
Among the first tasks of the mother is the restraining of passion in her little ones. Children should not be allowed to manifest anger; they should not be permitted to throw themselves upon the floor, striking and crying
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because something has been denied them which was not for their best good…. If an evil is permitted once, it will be repeated, and its repetition will result in habit, and so the child’s character will receive an evil mold.
No wavering or indecision
Perverse temper should be checked in the child as soon as possible; for the longer this duty is delayed, the more difficult it is to accomplish. Children of quick, passionate disposition need the special care of their parents. They should be dealt with in a particularly kind but firm manner; there should be no wavering or indecision on the part of the parents in their case.
Never lose control of yourselves
Never should we lose control of ourselves. Let us ever keep before us the perfect Pattern [Jesus]. It is a sin to speak impatiently and fretfully or to feel angry—even though we do not speak. We are to walk worthy, giving a right representation of Christ. The speaking of an angry word is like flint striking flint: it at once kindles wrathful feelings…. In the home do not allow yourself to use harsh, rasping words. You should invite the heavenly Guest [Jesus] to come into your home, at the same time making it possible for Him and the heavenly angels to abide with you. Ellen G. White is author of more than 5,000 periodical articles and more than 40 books, one of which is Child Guidance, where this article was excerpted.
If Marriage Were an F150 By BRYAN SCHALESKY as told to Marlo Schalesky
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gripped the steering wheel, clenched my teeth, then turned the ignition key in my Ford F150. Sput, sput, vrooooom. I smiled as the engine purred like a contented tiger. Who needed those guys at the repair shop? With a little hard work, I could fix anything! My confidence ebbed as I sauntered into the garage and heard half-stifled sobs coming from inside the house. I hurried to find my wife sitting on the edge of the tub. A pregnancy test stick lay on the counter. Negative. Again. I rubbed my hand over the back of my neck. “It’ll work next time.” My wife didn’t even look at me. “We just need to try something different.” Marlo sniffed and glared at me. “This isn’t like one of your broken down cars. You can’t just turn a wrench and make it work!”
Darren Espanto: Melody, Humility, and Industry By LUCILE B. TAÑALAS
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e looks dashing in his off-white coat worn over a red casual shirt. His smile belies the tiredness he feels from a just-concluded presscon when he meets and greets us warmly at the start of the photo shoot for this issue’s cover. An unassuming 15-year-old, Darren needs no cajoling for the poses. A pensive look. A million-dollar smile. A boyish grin. A serious expression. Indeed, he is a pro through and through. In just a little while, the pictorial is over. Who needs a hundred and one shots when a little over 30 will do and every photo is cover material? That’s Darren, 1st runner-up in the first season of The Voice Kids Philippines two years back.
At two years old, Darren could already sing while most of his two-year-old contemporaries were just learning to talk. Many a night he would jam with his family around a karaoke. Aside from singing, Darren write songs, too. In fact, he started writing songs at the age of 11, but was too shy to pursue it then. Now, two of his original compositions were included in his second album. In fact, he wrote more than five songs already. His family is his inspiration when composing songs. "Home" is his favorite original composition. "It talks about family and wanting to be back home and going back to where it all started," he explains.
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His boyhood
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Balingoan: Underwater Paradise Text and photos by ANGEL C. JUAREZ
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n my continuous chase for offbeat dive sites in the country, I got a chance to explore the underwater treasures of Balingoan in Misamis Oriental. Heading to Barangay Mantangale with my perennial diving buddy, Ate Claudia Artazo, from Cagayan de Oro City one day, I was enthralled with the unspoiled beauty under the waters of this laid-back municipality. Indeed, the place is one of the most underrated dive spots in the country. While most tourists frequent Balingoan only as a jump-off point to Camiguin Island, for some like us, it is already a destination. It is a small piece of underwater paradise that will definitely keep us coming back again and again.
Finding Balingoan Balingoan is two hours north of Cagayan de Oro City. Unknown to many, the waters around this small town that stretch toward Camiguin bustle with vivid underwater life. Without a doubt, Balingoan is one of my favorite places in the Philippines for scuba diving for two reasons: its rich marine life and the absence of the usual tourist traffic that popular dive sites get. This means Balingoan is generally unspoiled and unexploited! Sipaka Point One of Balingoan’s known diving spots is Sipaka Point. Its sloping white and sandy bed is an ideal site for students and divers
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Aratilis: Abundant, Sweet, Healthy, and Free By ARLENE MAY G. CORPUS
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iny, cherry-like fruits dot the tree. Time to feast on this sweet and nutritious fruit. There’s a good chance that, like me, you also have fond memories of climbing an aratilis tree with your friends and savoring its cotton candy-like taste and lovely fragrance. Aratilis tree, scientifically called Muntingia calabura Linn, is also known as Kerson or calabur tree (English), Jamaican cherry, aratilis (Tagalog), mansanitas (Ilocano, Cebuano), or saresa (Ilonggo). Aratilis is not just a ready-to-eat fruit snack. It is packed with health and medicinal benefits, too.
Fruits •Immune booster. The fruit is rich in resveratrol or
anthocyanin that protects our body from infection, reverses the effects of harmful free radicals, and contains anti-aging agents. Though tiny in size, this fruit contains 24 different flavonoids and phenolic compounds strong enough to kill free radicals, considered to be the culprits in cancer and other diseases.1 •Nutrition-packed. Aratilis fruit contains vitamins A and C that combat colds and flu. It has B-vitamins (thiamine, riboflavin, and niacin) for vitality and good mood. The fruit also contains minerals like calcium and phosphorus for strong bones, and iron for anemia.
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•Stomach problem fighter. Eating aratilis will help keep the doctor away because of its antibacterial compounds that fight staph and intestinal bacteria that cause infections like sepsis and diphtheria.2 •Pain reliever. Eating 10-15 pieces of aratilis fruits three times a day can help relieve all sorts of aches (headaches) and pain (gout) because they contain anthocyanin, which has antiinflammatory properties. •Blood sugar controller. Though naturally sweet, this fruit helps stabilize blood sugar levels, making aratilis an ideal fruit for diabetics.
Flowers Got stomach problems? Brew fresh aratilis flowers like you brew a tea and drink it at least two times a day. It can help calm an upset stomach, gas cramps, abdominal cramps, and indigestion. The flowers have antiseptic properties, too.3
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