HeartSongs Magazine- Fall 2013 Issue

Fall 2013

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The Magazine for Inspiration and Life

Let Your Life Speak!

From Clutter to Clarity Simplify Your Life Now

Dealing with Difficult People The Quiet Times

How to Stay on Track

Amazing Buffalo Chicken Dip Recipe

A Story of Bullying and Grace

Fall 2013

In This Issue No Shame in My Game

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What Might Have Been

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The Blessing of Broken Pieces

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Never Leave You

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Dealing with Difficult People

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Conquering the Spirit of Fear

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Let Your Life Speak

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In Every Issue A Message from the Editor

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What’s Cookin’ in the Café

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A Free Gift for You

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Love Notes from Heaven

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Coming Soon Freelance Writers Welcome

New Artist Feature Story: Local Christian Music Sensation

HeartsSongs Magazine is currently accepting submissions of original high quality content for future issues. If you are interested in having your work published with us please contact us at via email at heartsongsmag@gmail.com for submission guidelines and information.

Ministry Spotlight: Fit for the King Ministries He Said/She Said– Real Talk from Both Perspectives What’s on Your Heart?

TESTIFY!- Real Life Stories of Overcomers ...and More!

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Editor-in-Chief Stephanie Lyas

This Issue’s Contributors Anonymous Contributors Jan Ackerson Donna Haug Bronwyn Johnson Abby Kelly Molly M. Don Pedal Carlton Steele Nancy Twigg

Thanks for purchasing this issue of HeartSongs Magazine! It is always our joy to produce high quality, informative and inspirational content. Our goal is to encourage, inspire, enlighten and uplift you toward the awesome life that God has designed just for you! We welcome your questions, comments and suggestions how we can make this a top-notch publication for your enjoyment. HeartSongs Magazine is dedicated to improving the lives of its readers and glorifying God in all we do.

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Publisher HeartSongs Publishing Unlimited

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No Shame in My Game

by Stephanie Lyas

“LORD, how many are my foes! How many rise up against me! Many are saying of me, ‘God

will not deliver him.’ But you, LORD, are a shield around me, my glory, the One who lifts my head high.” Psalm 3:1-2 (NIV)

Most of us have our share of embarrassing moments that are engrained in our minds.

Things that we would love to forget. Several of mind occurred during my awkward preteen years. Of course, in the mind of a 12 year old, any minor incident can make you feel like your world is crashing down with blunt force!

I’ll never forget the summer I tried out for my junior high volleyball team. Even though I had not an athletic bone in my body, I decided to do it because one of my best friends was trying out and convinced me to do it with her. Let’s just say that it was probably the single most embarrassing spectacle in the history of my young life. I couldn’t do anything right. I remember the coach yelling at me and the all the kids laughing at me.

Even those who I thought were my friends teased me mercilessly and made me want to crawl in a hole and stay there forever. I cried all the way home and then some more once I got there. It is a painful memory that is etched in my mind to this day. I was so embarrassed. So ashamed.

Unfortunately, that incident would be one of many throughout my adolescence and early adulthood that would bring about feelings of shame and regret. Some things I brought upon myself. Others just happened to me. Nevertheless, I spent many, many years feeling worthless and like my life would never amount to much. Although I achieved success in some areas, the shame of what I was becoming overshadowed much of the good that I had done. I wondered how God could ever use somebody like me. But deep down I always felt like He would figure out a way.

As my relationship with Christ began to flourish, I learned that overcoming guilt, shame and regret was something I had to do. I began to meditate on the fact that God was the lifter of my head and that I was free from the shame of my past. I didn’t have to feel condemned for anything that happened —my awkward years, my mistakes, my lapses in judgment, my desperation to be loved. Knowing that my repentant heart and my willingness to surrender all to the Lord made life worth living.

Maybe you’re struggling with some issue or issues that cause you pain and shame.

Maybe someone is making you feel sad and worthless because of something that occurred in the past. Whatever the situation, I encourage you to pray and look up to the One Who lifts your head high. He is the One who shields and protects your fragile heart.

He is the One who completely restores, heals and forgives you when you go to Him sincerely. He is willing and able to deliver you from the bondage of shame and make you brand new!

© Stephanie Lyas. 2013. All rights reserved.

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He Said/She Said

We asked HeartSongs Radio listeners to weigh in on our question of the month.

“What Are Your Top 3 Ideal Qualities in a Soul Mate?�

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That she has a relationship with the Lord because that is the foundation of every good relationship. The Lord.

That she is attractive. That is not being superficial. We are drawn by what catches our eye.

That she is able to receive love. Not bitter, rude, harsh. Not judgmental of past mistakes of others. Kind. gentle. Not snappy or aggressive.

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That he is truly saved and not just going through the motions.

That is confident in who he is. There is nothing more attractive than a man who is sure of himself. He may not have it all together, but if a man knows who he is, he can conquer the world.

A man who knows how to give and receive love.

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Squirrel Sense If you ever get bored on a lazy fall afternoon, come over, grab a cup of coffee, have a seat inside my home office next to the window and just watch. On any given day, you’ll find yourself intrigued by a family of squirrels that live next door. The way they carry on would make you wonder if the they have good sense. Some of their antics are quite entertaining-especially in the midst of a long work day.

It’s nothing to see one or two of them gathering nuts, running up and down my neighbor’s deck or across the power line at lightning speed. My favorite is one I call Rocky who I’m not sure is a boy or a girl but is funny as all get out.

Every day he (or she) waits on the fence post directly in front of my window until another one comes along. Then it’s war. Rocky hems up like a cat and begins to attack. Then they run off somewhere out of sight and come right back to do it all over again.

Watching those squirrels one day taught me a valuable lesson. That life consists of an equal balance of work and play. The squirrels were no doubt busy gathering their food for winter, but in between they found time to simply have fun.

Many times we get bogged down with the essential things like work, chores, errands and so forth that we forget to enjoy life along the way. Realizing that we were created to live in balance gives us the freedom to take time to play and enjoy the wonderful life that we have been given. We may not always feel that we have the time, considering our long “to do” lists. But we must have the sense to make the time for the one thing that is essential to having a happy life– a little fun every now and then!

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Dear Readers, It’s here at last! My favorite time of the year for lots of reasons.

Football, boots and jeans weather, and everything pumpkin. As I look out my window, I see brown and golden leaves from my neighbor’s oak tree floating quietly to the ground. The days are getting shorter. Temperatures are a little cooler. And through it all I’m reflecting on how nature gives us subtle signs that the seasons are changing. And I continue to be in awe of God’s faithfulness time after time.

Maybe you’re in a season of change. Whatever the circumstances, you are in an optimal place to experience God’s goodness, even when change doesn’t feel good. There is always something for which we can be thankful.

Stephanie Lyas, Founding Editor HeartSongs Magazine

This issue of HeartSongs Magazine is a little different than the others. While I generally like to keep the tone of our magazine, lighthearted and upbeat, this issue deals with some real life circumstances that people like you and I face-especially around the holidays. I decided to recruit some very courageous people to share their personal and heartfelt stories. It is through their sharing that I hope to use this publication to encourage others and offer a ray of hope. If one person is blessed then our labor is not in vain.

I sincerely pray that this autumn is full of solemn nights, cool, sunkissed mornings and quiet times of reflection. Thanks always for your love and continued support.

Faithfully yours,

Stephanie

Founding Editor, HeartSongs Magazine

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CONTACT US HeartSongs Magazine c/o HeartSongs Publishing Unlimited Stephanie Lyas, Founder P.O. Box 59763 Birmingham, AL 35259-9763

lion photos, paying her an honest compliment each time. Still nothing. In fact, I haven’t heard a peep out of her yet.

I was convinced that she had no intention on actually getting in touch with me. I felt like I was being pimped for my Facebook friendship. I was just another profile to add to her collection. And I was put off by being ignored.

So week after week I endured her incessant postings about what she ate for breakfast (including photos), how great her hubby was for fixing this or that, and how wonderful her life was. I resisted the urge to write in all caps “WHO CARES?” Instead, I just tried my best to ignore her. Finally, I just blocked her because unfriending her seemed too harsh.

With Friends Like These Avoiding Social Media Burnout

by Anonymous Contributor The buzzing of my cell phone in the middle of a hectic workday was a welcomed interruption. It was a new Facebook notification that I just had to check. “Deena M.G. has sent you a friend request.” Deena? The girl from high school who hated my guts for no reason? The girl who spread nasty rumors about me and tried to make my life miserable? That Dena?

Surely this must be some kind of mistake. But when I signed on and I saw her profile photo I knew it was her. I can’t say that I was thrilled to see her, either. She pretty much looked the same as I remember although she was about fifty pounds heavier and was beginning to gray a little in the front. Also in the pic were two kids and a guy who I assumed was her husband. They all were at the beach and looked very happy. I must admit, although Deena looked a little different than what I remember, this was a pretty good photo of her. Not a bad looking family, either. Of course curiosity got the best of me so I took a few minutes to browse through all her pictures. Most of them were shots of her kids and family. A few were of her and her “hubby” on different occasions.

“Why is this girl, of all people, trying to friend me after all these years?” I thought. We never even had so much as a 5 minute conversation in school. So I decided not to accept her request right away. I needed to give it some time.

When I got home that evening, I logged back on only to see more baby pictures that other friends had posted, cutesy couple pictures, pics of roses my friend got at work, not to mention the Scandal TV show updates. It was too much! This was beginning to really get on my nerves. Why do I do this to myself? And of

course, there was the pending request made by Deena.

I must admit.. I wasn’t all that eager to respond to it. I wrestled with the fact that, although twentysomething years had passed, there was still a part of me that wanted nothing to do with this girl.

Then I thought to myself, “What would Jesus do?

Would he have me ‘friend’ her or just politely ignore her? What if she were friending me after all these years as a way of apologizing for being a complete jerk all those years? Maybe she’s really interested in being my friend. So I bit the bullet..

And accepted.

Several hours and days went by. I waited for Deena to respond and say how great it was to see me after all these years or even say, “Hi”. Neither happened. In fact, I even reached out by “liking” and “commenting” on one of her gazil-

Why was this girl and so many others like her getting under my skin? Was I really that disgusted by their posts? Or was I beginning to compare my ho-hum existence to their wonderful adventures? I realized that I needed to do some soul searching and get to the bottom of why I felt the need to compare and compete with them. And why their posts made me feel so bad about my own life?

I’m almost certain that Facebook was initially started as a way to connect with friends and family, but over time has evolved into much more (and not always good). These days people pretty much live their lives Face-hooked– constantly checking to see what other people are doing. As if we would care otherwise. Although there are so many benefits, social media sites like

Facebook and Twitter also have a dark side. If not used with the right heart sites like these may foster unhealthy comparisons among people, take up too much of your time, promote selfcenteredness and the list goes on and on. I’m not saying that these sites are bad, but misuse can have detrimental outcomes to a person’s spiritual, emotional and perhaps physical well-being. I know.. It happened to me.

You might say, “It’s just Facebook,” but for many people who may live in isolation or are susceptible to depression, certain things can trigger negative responses. I’m not saying to stop posting pictures of little Johnny. It’s your wall. Do what you want. Just be aware that everybody isn’t interested in every single detail of your life. If things are great, CONGRATULATIONS! If you are one of those people, like me, who actually got burned out on social media (a fact confirmed by my therapist), consider taking a break. Find other things in your life that add joy and meaning. Most importantly, stop comparing your life with the lives of people you see online. Learn to appreciate your journey. You may not have the house, the nice cars, the 3.5 kids and the white picket fence life, but know that you are blessed. You may not have lots of happy family pics posted all over the place, but know that you are loved and cared for. God loves you! I pray that you discover the wonderful life that you already have in Him while you’re on the way to the wonderful life you dream of!

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Children & Teen Issues

“Be one who nurtures and builds. Be one who has an understanding and forgiving heart, who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.

Marvin J. Ashton

A Story of Bullying and Grace

Terrorizing Rachel

by Jan Ackerson

Rachel walks into Lit. class with an ashen face. As she passes my desk, I silently will her to meet my eyes, to see the triumph there, but she slumps into her seat without glancing in my direction.

She fumbles in her backpack as Mrs. Crandall starts her boring Beowulf lecture.

A wadded-up paper rolls out and she jams it back inside, blushing furiously. I recognize that paper I taped it to her locker, knowing she'd find it between classes. It's a masterpiece, although my teacher wouldn't appreciate it; I managed to insult not only Rachel but her wimpy religion, in vocabulary that Mrs. Crandall might call "crude, but effective."

Mrs. Crandall calls my name “Lisa, do you have something to contribute?" and I realize that I must have snorted.

"No," I say, and I pretend to take Beowulf notes. Instead, I compose several sentences beginning with "Rachel is a --". My plan is to pass the paper to my best friend, Shana, three rows to my right. Shana and I have made Rachel-baiting an art form, and I know this will make her day. I add a sketch of Rachel in church, (Continued on page 15)

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What Might Have Been My Story of Disenfranchised Grief

by Molly M.

I wish I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard the expression, “you never miss what you’ve never had.“ I wonder if people who say that way really believe it, or if it’s something they say to ease the pain of some deep, secret loss. Speaking from experience there are lots of things whose absence has bored a deep hole in my heart. And I miss them dearly.

The older I get, I try to minimize my regrets.

Sometimes, though sadness and heartache seem too overwhelming-especially those days when I feel like life has passed me by. As I

approach middle age single and childless (not by choice). I can’t help feeling like God is punishing me for something. I mean, I don’t really ask for much. I’m not selfish and materialistic. In fact, I’m a very loving, nurturing and giving person. Almost to a fault. So why do I feel like my deepest desires are the very things eluding me?

I recently read an article in one of those selfhelp magazines that summed up what I was feeling to a tee. The article was about a woman whose story resembled mine in many ways. She was middle aged, unmarried and longed for children of her own. She struggled with a medical condition that caused infertility, so the likelihood of her having her own children without expensive medical treatments was slim. Tears welled in my eyes as I read her story of desperation. I felt in my own heart the pain of her struggle as a single woman to cope in our family-oriented, coupleoriented society. I was interested in her story of what she called disenfranchised grief- grief that really is not vastly understood or accepted in our culture and society. I needed a name for what I was feeling and I got it that day. And suddenly, I didn’t feel so alone in my struggle.

and despair are very real. But with us who only have the memory of what never was, it is haunting reality that deserves a level of understanding and care.

For me, the holidays are the worst times of the year. Although I love what they represent, I hate them at the same time.

And if I don’t plan something to do to distract me from all the family and childcentered festivities, I’ll find myself sinking back into the dark hole of depression.

I’m not writing this article to gain pity or sympathy. I simply want to raise awareness that there are many people out there facing battles that most will never know or understand. We are just like you but our pain is masked by smiles and they typical, “I’m okay.” The truth is.. we’re not okay. We’re surviving though. I want to encourage those reading this, who can related to my story. If I could, I would wrap my arms around your shoulders and let you know that it’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to scream to the top of your lungs. It’s okay to weep and ask God questions.

It’s okay to mourn the loss of something you hoped for but never got. Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted. May these words bring healing to your heart and soul.

Ways to Help Someone Experiencing Disenfranchised Grief 1. Ask, don’t assume that everything is okay. People who feel left out may not reach out for help.

2. Don’t further isolate the personespecially around holidays and special occasions when they are more vulnerable to depression.

3. Don’t ever advise the person to simply “get over it.” Their pain and loss are real and deserve compassion and sensitivity.

4. Be patient and understanding.

5. Provide support when necessary. Just being a good listener goes a long way.

Types of Disenfranchised Grief Loss of a pet Loss of a home or possessions Illness, injury or disability Break-up of a Relationship Infertility/Childlessness Broken promises and dreams Missed opportunities Joblessness Empty Nest Syndrome

Signs and Symptoms of Grief Trouble sleeping Changes in mood or disposition Sadness/Crying Irritability/Short temper Problems Concentrating Hopelessness & Despair Changes in appetite Sources: Wikipedia, Comfort Your Heart

I discovered that disenfranchised grief is not like “normal” (for lack of a better term) grief.

For example, when parents lose their child their grief is treated much differently than someone who is perhaps unable to even conceive. Of course, it’s almost like comparing apples to oranges but for those of us who are hurting, grief is grief. The pain and anguish still exist. The waves of sadness and regret linger. The feelings of heartache

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Always Give Thanks

by Stephanie Lyas

The other day I was coming out of the cell phone store in my usual rush to get to the next destination I was disappointed that the store no longer carried an accessory I needed which meant that I had to head to another store to find it . It was a picture perfect day but I was tired of running around, since I had been to two other stores with no success. As I headed to my car, I murmured under my breath about the phone and a few other things. Just then, I saw a young woman and her kids come out of the ice cream shop next door with their cool treats. I could tell the kids were really enjoying their ice cream, but what happened next changed the course of my entire day. One of the boys, who I suspect wasn’t more than about six years old, stopped to say, “Thanks, Mom.” Normally, I wouldn’t have paid it much attention, but this was no ordinary “Thank you.” It was so genuine and sweet. It stirred up something in my heart. And caused me to humbly repent for my attitude. If a little kid can be grateful, why can’t I? How many times do we go throughout the day with more complaints than thanksgiving? Many people start their day off ranting about everything from traffic to politics. Occasionally, I listen to talk radio early in the morning and it never ceases to amaze me how some people wake up so angry. Sure, there are many things that agitate us during the course of the day and some things we simply cannot change. But a truly grateful heart has little room for complaining.

On my drive home that day I thought about the kid from the ice cream shop and prayed to have a heart like his. One that expresses gratitude for blessings great and small. One that is pure and genuinely thankful.

After all, God is a loving Father who deserves it.

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These issues go much deeper than just having a messy desk or disorganized pantry. These are issues of the heart.

From Clutter to Clarity: Simplifying Life from the Inside Out

Clutter is a problem for anyone, but for Christians, it spells major trouble. Clutter does more than affect us physically and emotionally; it affects us spiritually because it keeps us from following Jesus fully. We simply cannot make room for Him when so many other things are in the way. The more we stay focused on the junk of this life, the less time and energy we have to focus on the important matters God and His plans for our lives.

Have you ever tried to lug an overstuffed suitcase through a crowded airport? Not an easy task, is it? No matter how hard you

by Nancy Twigg try, you simply cannot move quickly and efficiently when you're carrying a heavy load. Think of clutter as baggage physical, emotional, and financial baggage that weighs you down and holds you When most people think of simplifying, the first thing they think back. Clutter is the heavy load that keeps many of us from maof is getting rid of clutter around the home or office. Cleaning out neuvering effectively through our lives. Our suitcases are filled closets and drawers is definitely a part of simplifying, but true with all kinds of deadweight: habits we need to give up, attitudes simplification goes far deeper than that. Clutter is much more we've long since outgrown, activities and possessions that no than old magazines, outdated clothes, and kitchen gadgets you longer serve a reasonable purpose. If we want to lighten the load, never use. Certainly those things are clutter, but from now on, we have to get rid of some of the junk. think of clutter as any possession, habit, thought pattern, attitude or activity that fits into one of these three categories: What keeps you from moving forward at a steady pace in your life? Undoubtedly the things that slow you down are some kind of * Anything you don't need or use anymore clutter you want to get rid of for good. Maybe you struggle with * Anything that doesn't fit or work for you like it used to physical clutter around your home. Try as you might, you cannot * Anything that doesn't add value and meaning to your life as it seem to get organized. Or maybe you want to get a handle on once did your finances. You are tired of making good money but having nothing to show for it. Or maybe yours is an issue with time. You Under this new definition, clutter is anything that complicates are tired of living at warp speed. You want to stop running and your life and stands in the way of simplicity. In the past, you may start living. have only thought of clutter in terms of stuff: those size 8 jeans you hope to wear again someday or those unfinished projects in Whatever clutter challenges you face, trust me when I say you your garage. But let me share a secret with you. These kinds of can learn to clarify your life by putting clutter in its place. I know unwanted and unneeded material possessions are only the tip of because I have done it myself. My biggest clutter challenge was the iceberg! What about the multitude of commitments that cram- not dealing with cluttered living spaces or even cluttered finances. pack your schedule? What about the thoughts that jumble your My challenge was to open up my emotional suitcase and go mind and the spending habits that sabotage your finances? All of through its contents carefully. When I did, I discovered all kinds these things are clutter too, because they cause chaos and confu- of clutter lurking inside. I found worry and doubt. I uncovered a sion. faulty self-image and an inability to set appropriate boundaries. I even found an unhealthy preoccupation with what others thought When you think of clutter in this new light, you begin to see what of me. It was a painful process, but necessary. One by one, I a tremendous problem clutter truly is. You will also see that the learned to trade in these old clunkers for the more efficient modroot causes of this ugly clutter make the clutter itself look tame. els God offered.

Think about it. Why do you say yes to everyone who requests your time and services? Are you afraid that people won't like you I'm not saying I have it all together. Believe me, I don't. I'm not if you say no? Do you feel the need to present a Super Mom imsaying I never face challenges. But I have come to a place of clarage to the world? ity and life is much more pleasant now that I have. Is my life perfect? No, but it is much more peaceful and purposeful. And isn't What about those clothes you hold onto even though you know that what we all want to live in peace as we live out our purpose? you will never wear them again? Are you afraid that if you get rid of them you will need them again someday? If you did happen to Nancy Twigg is an author and speaker who loves inspiring womneed them, do you doubt God's ability to provide more? And if en to live more simply. To learn more about Nancy's speaking you have a tendency to spend more than you can afford, ask your- and writing ministry, visit her online at self why you do that. Are you driven by feelings of discontentwww.keepitsimplesister.com. ment or the need for instant gratification? Are you afraid that if you pass on a sale now you will never find a good price on that item again?

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Cooking & Entertainment

Amazing Buffalo Chicken Dip Perfect for parties, tailgating, game day or any day!

What You Need: 1– 8 oz. pkg. cream cheese, softened 1/2 cup blue cheese or ranch salad dressing 1/2 cup of buffalo wing sauce 1/2 cup of shredded mozzarella cheese 2 (12.5 oz.) cans of premium white chicken breasts in water, drained

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Heat oven to 350 degrees. Place cream cheese in baking dish. Stir until smooth.

Mix in salad dressing, wing sauce and cheese. Stir in chicken.

Bake 20 minutes or until mixture is heated through.

Stir again and place in serving dish.

Garnish as you like.

Serve with crackers, pita chips, tortilla chips or veggies.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT: “In order to be happy, find a thing you love to do and throw yourself into it wholeheartedly.

from Simple Wisdom

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Okay, so it’s not a coupon for a free skinny mocha latte! It’s way better! God gave us Jesus Christ, the only One good enough to pay the sin debt for all mankind– past, present and future.

It’s not about being religious or following a bunch of man-made rules, but it is about being reconciled to God our Father eternally through Christ. His gift is free to us, but cost Him everything.

That’s pretty awesome!

So here’s the deal….

Maybe you’re wondering, “This sounds too good to be true. How do I take advantage of this free gift? ” It is fairly simple, but you must receive it by faith -trusting in God. ACKNOWLEDGE that sin has separated you from God. “For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” ( Romans 3:23) Admit that you’ve broken God’s rules but you really want to change. He’s more than willing to forgive you and help you if you are willing and sincere.

BELIEVE that God sent His Son Jesus as the only acceptable sacrifice to pay the debt for our sins.

Because God is as Holy as He is loving, He could not tolerate the rebellious, wicked state of mankind. So, instead of punishing us , which would have been fair, He showed us mercy and sent His only Son to take our place. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) CONFESS or say what you believe. “If you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9) Again, this must be done by faith. “For with the heart man believes and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation (Romans 10:10).” Be courageous enough to share with others what God has done for you.

And finally.. make a DECISION to live your life to glorify Him.. You may think that it’s too hard, but if you ask Him, He will empower you to do just that. Your lifestyle should represent what your new relationship with Christ is all about.

CONGRATULATIONS! You’ve made the most important decision of your life and you are now a member of God’s family! Develop your relationship by spending time reading and studying the Bible. It may be helpful to connect with others through a local church or small group fellowship to get you started. Communicate openly with God through prayer and meditation in His Word and finally, surround yourself with others who will help you grow you in your new walk with Christ. Your life will never be the same.

You are a new creature in Christ. Old things have passed away and all things are new!

(2 Corinthians 5:17) And that beats a latte any day!

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doing an activity not often seen beneath stained glass windows.

Honestly? She makes it so easy. She carries a Bible in her backpack, and wears a WWJD bracelet, and hangs out with losers like Spastic Jessica and Patty the Fatty.

She thinks she's better than us, with her weirdo clothes and her NutriSweet smile. Shana’s and my goal is to eliminate that nauseating smile. Today's locker note may have done it.

My counselor says I should be using my brains to get better grades, that I'm not "living up to my potential."

Last session, I told him I'd make a deal with him. I'll start to care about Beowulf and quadrilaterals and the Constitution when he can put together a sentence without psychobabble clichés. He responded with something about my co-dependent relationship with Shana, who exposes me to excessive peer pressure. Guess who's going to win that deal?

I fold the note into a compact square and wait for Mrs. Crandall to turn her back. While she writes "Quiz tomorrow" on the board, I lob the note to Shana. Unfortunately, it bounces off her desk and skitters across the floor, landing at Mrs. Crandall's feet.

Of course she reads it, so I spend the rest of the period in the office, waiting for the principal to summon me.

This isn't the first time I've been sent to the office, and I'm very familiar with my student handbook. I've earned a five-day suspension for my literary and artistic efforts.

rals, you're now eligible for expulsion."

Expulsion! Not five days' suspension? I flash on the scene at home when they get the phone call from school: my stepdad's furious anger and the smack of knuckles on flesh.

Mr. Hartley continues. "However, I do have some latitude, which is why I asked Rachel in here. She's shown the most extraordinary mercy. She's asked me to forego punishment altogether. And while I'm not inclined to do so, Rachel was most persuasive. She begged for mercy on your behalf, and so mercy it shall be. Go back to class, girls."

I look at Rachel in disbelief and scoot out of there as fast as possible. Biology has started, and I can't wait to tell Shana I got away with it.

Shana slips me a note as I take my seat. "Peas 4 lunch", it says. "let’s fill her backpack."

Shana grins, and I look from her to Rachel, who is already working on today's worksheet. Perhaps she senses my eyes on her; she meets my gaze for the briefest moment. I think about the satisfying squish of peas on canvas, and then I think about mercy.

I write a note to Shana. "Not today."

Jan is a Christian who has traveled through sorrow and depression, and has found victory and grace. She dedicates all writings to her Heavenly Father.

Copyright © Jan Ackerson. 2006

Thirty minutes have passed when I hear Rachel being paged, and she sidles past me into the principal's office. The door is closed for a long time, and then I'm called inside. I wonder if I've made Rachel cry, but she's calm, even smiling a little. “What the…?”

Mr. Hartley regards me, his fingertips pressed together. "I've been talking with Rachel about this incident.

This isn't the first time you've harassed her, is it, Lisa?" While I'm formulating an answer, he continues.

"Rachel has told me of a number of occurrences. It appears that you've been terrorizing her for most of this semester. Unfortunately, with your record of refer-

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The Blessing of Broken Pieces

by Bronwyn Johnson

Have you ever tried to repair a glass vase or something equally precious that had fallen and smashed on the floor? Those hundreds of bits and pieces form an almost impossible puzzle and it is only through hours of patience and determination that you can almost repair the vessel. Once repaired, it is never the same as it was before.

Water leaks through the cracks, edges are rough and uneven. This is because you are trying to restore the broken item to its original state which is impossible. The good news is that with a little creativity you can do so much more! Each little piece, when examined alone is seen for its own unique beauty.

Together they can be used to build a new work of art, different to the first. I've seen beautiful art works where bits of glass were used to make mosaics, collages, mirrors, picture frames, and much more.

Who could even tell what their original purpose had been? Would I have been that impressed with the glass chip when it was still part of a plate or window? Yet I marveled at its beauty as it hung proudly on a gallery wall.

In the past few years, I've had to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and recover from a divorce and other hardships. One by one I held broken pieces up to the light, trying to figure out where they belonged. Turning them this way and that, I struggled to fit them back

into their original places to restore the person I once had been. Every now and then I'd spot a glint of sunlight reflecting off a sharp shard and I'd throw it away. Then at times, I'd find a piece that was different and I'd realize that this little piece was lovely. After almost two years of fruitless effort, I've come to the realization that the person I once had been can never be restored to her original state.

But God has blessed me with a unique opportunity to take

all these lovely little pieces and to build someone new.

Little bits and pieces of me, that were invisible in the past, are now given a chance to shine.

It is painful to have your life shattered and it may seem impossible to pick up those pieces. Sometimes we don't even know where to start. Any form of repair and reconstruction is a long process. But friend, know that it is also an opportunity to re-invent yourself to

become the person you would like to be. It is a unique opportunity to look closely at the beautiful bits of you. To hold them up to the light and appreciate the way they shine. Don't waste time trying to rebuild the past, rather appreciate this wonderful gift and build a whole new future! One that you would proudly hang on a gallery wall.

Keep smiling!

Copyright Š Bronwyn Johnson 2009.

Bronwyn Johnson is a Christian author and motivational speaker. She has published a Biblical novel as well as many articles, short stories and poems.

See www.bronwynjohnson.com

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Stay On Track and Keep it Moving 10 Ways to Avoid Distractions and Get Stuff Done

by Stephanie Lyas It never fails. As soon as I get started working on something important the phone rings. Going against my rule of not answering the phone except for business during certain hours, I answer it. It’s an old friend from school who I have been meaning to catch up with. The next thing you know, a whole hour has passed by, the project is still on my desk incomplete, the breakfast dishes are still in the sink and I have accomplished nothing significant. Now, my day is ruined because I feel like a failure.

If this sounds like you, keep reading.

We all have moments when we lose focus. However this should never become a habit. Distractions are a part of life, but we can overcome them and stay on track with our goals.

10 Ways to Avoid Distractions 1.

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Decide that the feeling of accomplishment is worth more than whatever is distracting you.

Take frequent breaks to avoid fatigue and burnout.

Set a clear goal and be determined to meet it. No matter what.

Prioritize. Work on what you really want to accomplish the most. Everything can’t be a top priority.

5. Create solid boundaries when it comes to certain distractions. Limit phone, television and social media time. There is nothing more distracting than getting caught up with other people’s lives.

6. Focus. Train your mind to stay on task. Fight against the urge to quit when you hit a roadblock.

7. Know the difference between procrastination and real distractions. Procrastination is more on you.

You put off unpleasant tasks because you don’t want to do them. Distractions come from other sources.

8. Limit caffeine intake. Coffee and caffeinated beverages may be great “pick-me-ups” but they also cause the jitters, which hinders your ability to focus. Try drinking water or a decaffeinated tea, but don’t drink anything too calming or you’ll end up sluggish and too relaxed to focus.

9. Break the task up into manageable bits. Remember, “life is hard by the yard, but it’s a cinch by the inch.”

10. Encourage yourself. The boost you need may not always come from others. You have to be your own cheerleader. One thing that helps me is to post sticky notes with uplifting words and phrases around my workspace.

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“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.�

Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

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reassurance now that God would never leave her and He would be with her every step of the way as she rebuilt her life.

Hot, salty tears fell from her eyes as she put her trembling hand up to her bloody lip. The excruciating pain in her back reminded her of how she ended up tossed over the bed and onto the floor.

Her husband left in a screeching rage a few moment ago, headed for the local bar. He might return with flowers this time and offer his usual, humble apology.

Shaking and broken in her spirit, she began to pray that God would help her.

"Lord God, I am terrified to stay, and I am ashamed to leave. What will my family and church friends think? My husband is well-known in the community. He has a way of charming everyone he meets. I fear, no one will believe me, when I say that he hits me.

How can I talk to anyone about this?"

As she lay on the cold floor talking to God, she felt a calm presence come into the room. Then all she heard was a whispered sound by her ear, "Shhh. I will never leave you nor forsake you." She closed her eyes and allowed the soft tingling presence that seemed to touch her body envelope her in peace. It was then that she knew exactly what she had to do.

Slowly, she stood and made her way to her bedroom closet. Her back still ached as she reached for the suitcase on the top shelf. She began to throw clothes into the suitcase without even folding them. She found her important papers in a desk drawer in the den. She was able to leave this time without looking back and without thoughts of coming back. She had a

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EDITOR’S NOTE Dear Readers, Domestic violence is real. Every day women and men suffer physical, mental and verbal abuse by a loved one. If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, seek help immediately! You are not alone. There is help and healing for you. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or

TTY 1−800−787−3224 for information on how get help in your local area.

In Him, Stephanie HeartSongs Magazine Editor

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Wisdom Speaks

“For every beauty, there is an eye somewhere to see it, for every word of truth, there is an ear somewhere to hear it, for every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.” ~Anon.

“A word of encouragement after a failure is worth an hour’s worth of praise after a success.”

“You can’t become what you want to be until you stop being what you are.” ~Anon.

“Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” ~Psalm 73:25-26

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Relationships

How to Deal with Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People

by Stephanie Lyas

Chances are you know someone who is controlling, stubborn, argumentative and always has to be right. It may be a boss or coworker, a close friend or family member or even a member of your church. It might even be you! We all have that one person that just gets under our skin from time to time. No matter how hard we try, it’s often difficult to get along with them consistently.

But we must find a way. Our witness depends upon it.

Traits of Difficult People They Drain You. Difficult people have a way of sucking the life and joy out of those around them. They are not the type who have a magnetic personality. Instead, people tend to avoid close interaction with them.

They Are Overly Critical- Even when there’s nothing wrong, difficult people can be fault-finding, have trouble with complimenting others and often over look their own mistakes and shortcomings.

They easily shift blame to others and may have a perfectionist attitude.

They Have Trouble Expressing Themselves Appropriately. Difficult people are known for being disrespectful, rude, blunt and inconsiderate of the feelings of others.

1. Understand that you cannot control their attitude or actions. Even healthy confrontation is often met with resistance. Know when to speak and when to keep your mouth shut.

2. Check your own attitude. Always take the high road by being humble, even when you are right. “God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

James 4:6 3. Pray for them. Honestly. They may not be aware of how their attitude and actions affect others.

4. Resist the urge to judge them. Yes, they have issues. So do you. “Judge not lest you be judged.”

5. Be understanding, compassionate and forgiving. They may be facing a tough inner struggle of their own.

6. Model kindness. “Clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others . . . And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts . . .” (Colossians 3:12-15).

They are Probably Insecure– Difficult people may come across as bold and fearless, but the truth is they’re probably just the opposite. In fact, they may feel pressure to come across as tough to avoid being taken advantage of. The need to be intimidating and controlling hides their vulnerability to others.

They are Not Good Listeners and have to always have the final word. They might yell or raise their voice to be heard. They always have to be right (even when they’re not).

They are Selfish - Nine times out of ten when you come across a difficult person, they have a “my way or the highway” attitude. They cannot easily sympathize or empathize with the needs others.

How to Deal With Them Most people would probably agree that the best way to deal with difficult people is to simply not deal with them. However, that’s not always the most appropriate response.

Besides, you may not be able to avoid them.

They’re just a part of life. And we have to deal with them.

Understand that you cannot control their attitude or actions. Even healthy confrontation is often met with resistance.

Wisdom is knowing when to speak and

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when to keep your mouth shut.

Check your own attitude. Always take the high road and stay humble, even when you are right. “God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6 Pray for them. Honestly. They may not be aware of how their attitude and actions affect others. Sometimes the most ungracious people need grace the most.

Resist the urge to judge them. Yes, they have issues. So do you. We all do. “Judge not lest you be judged!”

Be understanding, compassionate and forgiving. A sign of spiritual maturity is learning how to overlook an offense. They may be facing a tough inner struggle of their own that you know nothing about.

Model kindness.

“Clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others . . .

And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts . . .” (Colossians 3:1215).

Conquering the Spirit of Fear 3 Ways to Conquer Fear

by Stephanie Lyas As a child I loved a good horror movie. But afterward I had to sleep with the lights on. As an adult, I now realize that I wasn’t really afraid of the dark, I was afraid of what might have been lurking in the dark. And as if I wasn’t already frightened enough, I can recall older people telling us kids that if we didn’t go to sleep, the Boogey Man would get us.

What a strange way to get a child to bed! What it actually did was cause more fear.

As adults we go through life, and acquire a whole different set of fears. Fear of the past catching up with us fear of the present as we live in tough economic times and fear of the future-What will happen to me. Will God deliver me? Will God heal me? Will God bless me?

If you are a Child of God, you can put all of those fears to rest. You must remember that fear is a spirit that is the arch rival to faith. And God has not given you the spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7) So whenever fear tries to creep into your mind, resist it and say, “If God didn’t give it to me, I don’t want it!”

Knowing the Real vs. Fake Once I was babysitting a child of a friend, and we decided to watch a movie on TV. It was okay for about the first 30 minutes and

then all of a sudden a scary creature jumped out of some bushes and began chasing people around.

Worried that the child would be frightened, I reached for the remote to change the channel. The child, in her most calm and innocent voice responded “That’s not real. It’s just pretend.” At that moment, I knew that she was not afraid because she made the distinction between what was real and what was fake. Fear is just like that-False Evidence Appearing Real. It has no power to control us when we know that it is just an illusion.

Do Not Feed the Fears When you go to the zoo, there are signs everywhere– DO NOT FEED THE ANIMALS. Well you know something? Fear is also a hungry, ferocious beast. And when we feed it, it grows bigger and bigger. Determine to starve your fears and feed your faith through God’s Word. If you must, say out loud that fear is a liar!

Feed what you want to grow.

And trust that God is bigger than anything you fear. He is more than able to help you in times of weakness.

Dear friends, fear and faith cannot coexist. When you live in fear, faith takes a back seat If you are someone who is bound by fear trust God to deliver you.

You are more than a conqueror!

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Use the Word of God- If Jesus had to use the Word of God when tempted to fear, so do we. “It is written, man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God.” (Matthew 4:4) Say it out loud. Get in agreement with God. Go back to what He said.

The phrase “Fear Not” is recorded 365 times in the bible .

That’s one for every day. Get up in the morning and immediately conquer the spirit of fear. Remember the promises that He made to you.

Face it head on– When David went up against Goliath, he probably had some fear in his heart. His confidence in God, however, was greater and allowed him to face the giant and defeat him. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to carry on in spite of it. Sometimes you just have to do things afraid.

Rely upon the power of God. When you get to the end of yourself, the glory of God is revealed. Realize that God is in control. Nothing is going to happen to you that God has not already equipped you to overcome. He is with you, therefore you have no reason to fear.

the eye?

Can you imagine the conversations that the children of Israel must have had in front of their tents as they gazed at the pillar of fire? I am sure they must have sung songs (maybe even Miriam’s song) and told over and over the story of their deliverance from Egypt. As the 40 years of their wandering dragged on, I imagine there were nights that the older generation bared their souls to the younger, confessing what happened when they disobeyed the Lord.

Personally, I cannot imagine living in a tent for 40 years. I think I might even tire of staring into that pillar of fire after that long! However, I can only imagine the memories that must have come flooding back every time the Israelites made a fire after settling down in their new land. They were reminded of God’s eternal presence, of how He was always faithful to guide them, and of how He supplied their every need.

The next time you sit around a campfire with your legs burning and your back freezing, think about how awesome your God is! He will always be with you. He will direct your footsteps if you will follow Him, and He will supply your EVERY need!

God in the Fire

by Donna Haug

Camping is an activity I have learned to enjoy since my husband, Mark, came into my life. In his opinion, my growing up years were severely deprived. Ever since my first “roughing it” experience with the youth group from our church, I have come to actually “enjoy” sleeping on the hard ground, answering nature’s call, baring it in the wild, and bathing in a swimming suit in the lake. Well, maybe not “enjoy” exactly, but I am more than willing to put up with these minor inconveniences just to bask in my favorite part of camping – the campfire.

There is something about sitting around a nice blazing fire on a fold-up lawn chair, staring in fascination at the flames as they flicker and change from blue to red, orange and yellow. Roasting marshmallows (which usually means burning the outside to a crisp!), singing old songs that seem

to be reserved for just such occasions, and the telling of tales that tend to grow each time they are told – these are all memory nuggets that we have tried to bury deep into the childhood experiences of our eager offspring.

Once the children have been tucked, for the last time, back into their sleeping bags, the adults linger around the fire till all that remains are the glowing hot coals with the reds and blacks and yellows dancing back and forth. The conversations we have had around campfires are some of my most treasured memories.

What is it that makes us more willing to “bare our souls” around a fire? Is it the absence of all the busy distractions of our everyday life? Is it the fact that as we stare into the ever-changing flames, we do not actually have to look each other in

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Donna Haug is a missionary wife and mother who loves to write. She has spent much of her life overseas. As a result, her writings have a 'down to earth' quality to them and quite often an international bent.

I Will Give You Rest

Selah

by Stephanie Lyas

“Come unto Me all you who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.”

Matthew 11:28

“What are you doing this weekend?” My co -worker Tracy asked every Friday at break time. I could almost set my watch to her weekly inquiries. She was the office socialite who always had some wild and crazy weekend story to share on Mondays. It was entertainment for most of us.

“Nothing special this weekend. Just gonna catch up on my rest.” I might as well had said I was gonna go out streaking or something. She gasped and gave me a look of disbelief. “Rest?” What are you an old geezer? You need to get out and do something. The weather’s gonna be beautiful and there are so many great things going on in town this weekend. Surely you’re not going to waste it by resting.”

“I sure am,” I said emphatically, “what’s wrong with resting? You make it sound like a dirty word. Besides, it’s been a long and stressful week. I’m looking forward to doing absolutely nothing.”

actually wanted to do, since the week had been so full of deadlines, appointments, meetings and just stuff. At that moment I chose to not feel guilty about not being so busy. I was just going rest in the peace and quiet of my humble but cozy apartment. For a day, I was not going to check email, answer the phone or do anything that resembled work.

Many times we get caught up in the rat race of life that we forget that rest is actually a beautiful gift from God. Jesus Himself said, “Come to me all you who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.” (Matt. 11:28).

He knew the value of resting in His presenceespecially when you feel stressed, weary, and burdened by the cares of life. Rest is something that every person needs in order to recharge and be renewed. And it’s certainly not just something that people do as a last resort.

If you are someone who is constantly on the go, I encourage you to make rest a priority.

If you must, mark it on your calendar. Time spent alone in the presence of God is more valuable than anything in this world.

As I headed back to my cubicle, part of me actually felt guilty for planning to rest. The other part of me felt like a square who was missing out on the fun. I shook off the uneasiness and finished my work for the day.

On the drive home, I turned the radio off so I could think. I thought about Tracy’s comments. I decided that rest was something I

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Who is thirsty? Let him drink Who is hungry? Let him eat Who is feeble? Let him rest Against the Master’s tender breast Selah.

Peace, cascade in rampant tides Beneath your billows let me hide Soothing balm to ease my soul Warmness from the bitter cold Selah.

Mercies, fall like drops of rain Flood my heart, O Lord again Grace, like dawn invade this space So I may see your lovely face Selah.

Hope eternal spring anew My soul in earnest waits for you That joy shall once again abound This heart’s unfruitful fallow ground Selah. © Stephanie Lyas. Dwelling Places 2009.

All Rights Reserved.

Names Have Been Changed to Declare the Righteous

by Abby Kelly

"I love everything about her life!"

The barista's comment startled me as I left Starbucks. I knew she was talking about me.

We had just been giggling together, discussing our dogs and exchanging first names.

I almost turned around said, "No you don't!

You don't know anything about my life!" But instead, I just smiled to myself and walked into the sunshine. I think I know what she loves about my life, it's what she can see. I pray she can see that God has blessed me with joy and a peace beyond understanding.

It hasn't always been this way. I used to spot a girl across the room and wish to trade places with her. I used to pray each night that God would just kill me because I didn't want to do my life anymore. In the midst of a 15 year battle with anorexia and a troubled marriage, it seemed as if my life couldn't get any worse. I even feared that my loved ones had given up on me after pouring thousands of dollars into my treatment, only to still see a starving, depressed woman.

Looking into my heart, I hated what I saw. I perceived my identity as intrinsically linked to my long list of failures.

Maybe Jacob did, too. The Biblical character of Genesis lived up to his given name, "Deceiver". In fact, when God asked him in

chapter 32, "What is your name?" Jacob was forced to reply, "I am Deceiver."

accept the sacrifice of Jesus for us and the gift of His righteousness to us.

At that point in Jacob's life, he believed the end was near. In mere hours, he would be face-toface with a man who once wanted to kill him.

Already, Jacob had a long list of mistakes to feel guilty for. I wonder if Jacob hated who he had become.

"The nations shall see your righteousness, and all the kings your glory, and you shall be called by a new name that the mouth of the LORD will give. You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the LORD, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God. You shall no more be termed Forsaken, and your land shall no more be termed Desolate, but you shall be called My Delight Is in Her, and your land Married; for the LORD delights in you, and your land shall be married."

But God is in the business of changing identities. Over and over throughout the Bible, when God did a massive work in someone's life, He also changed their name, giving them a new identity, a new way to refer to themselves, a new way to see themselves and a new way to present themselves to the world.

For Jacob, God told him, "Your name will no longer be Jacob. You have wrestled with God and with men, and you have won. That's why your name will be Israel."

Another definition of the name Israel is, "Prince of God".

According to 2 Corinthians 5:17, our identity changes too, when we accept Jesus as our salvation. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!"

Isaiah 62 tells us that God changes our name to reflect the new identity that we receive when we

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As I sank into a chair on the patio at Starbucks, the sun's afternoon rays painted my feet a soft yellow, then shadows encroached and swept me into the early evening hours. I smiled again. I love who I am. I love the one who gave me His identity in Christ, and I dearly love the name, Jesus.

Abby is a Christian blogger and freelance writer living in Georgia. Her husband is an Army officer, so their frequent moves peppers her writing with a wide variety of experiences and observations.

The Quiet Times

by Don Pedal

the Kingdom, joy, and peace for us?

You probably have heard someone say, "I'm having my quiet time". To some people this might suggest a time of rest and relaxation. It is a time to just kick back and let your mind wander.

How about the blessings we enjoy every day?

We should thank Him every day for the bread He provides so faithfully. Show our gratitude for warm comfortable homes and how about our health? Many people in the world and our own country do not have health care. Do we ever think to thank Him for leading us to Christ -centered churches where we hear the true Word and enjoy Godly fellowship? Do we remember to thank Him for the gift of being born in this wonderful free nation and can worship without fear of retaliation? The list can go on as we acknowledge the Great God we serve.

You may ask yourself, “I hear all this but what does God really want of me?” This is a profound question. First, God desires a love relationship with you. This relationship is more important to Him than your service ---- that is why an active quiet time is so important.

To a Christian, the quiet time is a time of mental and physical quietness during which we put aside the telephone, turn off the cell phone, the television and the cares of the world in quiet solitude to fellowship with the awesome God we worship. We prepare ourselves to enter into the presence of the One who not only created us but also this vast universe beyond our imagination. We remind ourselves, humbled by the thought that this great God of the universe cares about the little speck of life that is ourselves, so much that He sent His only Son to die at the hands of His own creation, to save us from our sins.

As Christians, we might offer our praise for who He is ---- a time to bring worship and honor to His name. We might want to thank our Father for the privilege, through the work of His holy Son, to come boldly into the very throne room of the Almighty and present our prayers and petitions.

Thanksgiving that He has reached down to us, while we were still in our sins, to enlighten our minds to the truth of the Gospel and the wonderful, free gift He offers us. Do we ever reflect on the forgiveness of our sins, which enables us to live a life pleasing to Him, bearing fruit for

Jesus said, "Draw close unto Me and I will draw close unto you”. How else can we do it other than our quiet time? Intimate love relationships are not built frivolously. Without our devotion and full attention, how can we hear that "small voice" that is our awesome God ministering to us. God desires that we invite Him into every area of our lives. Nothing is too unimportant to include Him. He desires that we walk with Him throughout our day and be conscious of His presence. Do not be afraid to consult Him. You do not have to wait until prayer time. Draw upon His strength and ask for wisdom and it will be given to you. (James

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1:5). Ask for discernment when making choices and decisions. God desires that He be included in all the details of your life in an intimate "love relationship". Our service to the Lord will come as we have this relationship and He guides us into the work He has prepared for us to do.

Where does meditation come into all of this?

Meditation is defined as "the solemn reflection on sacred matters as a devotional act". That is exactly what we are doing in our time with Him. We do not need mantras, positive thinking phrases and, most of all, the practice of emptying our minds of all thoughts. An emptied mind makes us vulnerable to the evil that is around us. We fill our minds with the presence of the Living God and dwell upon Him only.

I used to say to myself, "I realize all this but when do I have the time"? I had all the excuses down pat and was quite satisfied until, one day; God convicted me back to reality. It came in a simple question, "How much time do you spend watching TV every night?” When I counted the hours, I had to confess to the Lord that my problem was not a lack of time but a lack of priorities. I was convicted to put Him first.

Maybe your problem is not TV but other things.

Daily tasks seem to have no end. Go to the Lord in prayer and ask Him to help you manage your time.

We are all given the same amount of time each day. "Time is the coin of life," to quote Carl Sandburg. How we spend it determines our course in life. Can we afford not to spend it on the One who longs to fellowship with us, guide us and provide wisdom to make critical choices each day? Are we so busy that we have no time to minister to the needs of our brothers and sisters around us, as He reveals them to us?

The phone will ring. Family needs will demand attention. So many other things will suddenly become important. The Lord will show you how to deal with these difficulties as you share your concerns with Him. Remember, you are not dealing with problems alone now. As time goes on you will look forward to your quiet time.

Remember, The Lord is faithful and there for you. © Don Pedal. All rights reserved.

My Sunshine

By Carlton Steele Thoughts of joy, Thoughts of happiness, Walking in the sunlight full of bliss, Gazing into the sky with a praise on my mind, Upright in the Lord staying in line, Singing and smiling on this wonderful day, Not wavy or staggering, My time, My season, To stay My Lord is my sunshine, I lay my life on the dotted line, Victorious as I am, I'm His, I will follow and diligently seek Him, My sunshine, My Lord Jesus The one without sin, Praise his holy name, Praise him from within, Full of Joy, With my sunshine, I will not lose, I win

Born and raised in New York, reside in Virginia. Carlton found his calling as a inspirational writer in 2011. Praising God and writing to save His people is my enjoyment.

A Joyful Noise. Carlton Steele. Copyright 2013 by Carlton Steele. Smashwords Edition

Contact Carlton at: www.Heavenlyworldofinspiration.com

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I. Purpose The purpose-driven life begins with God, not you. You won’t discover life’s meaning by looking within yourself.

You’ve probably tried that already. Purpose is directly connected to a greater goal than just satisfying yourself and your desires. More than likely it will involve serving others.

II. Passion

Let Your Life Speak When Purpose, Passion and Power Meet

by Stephanie Lyas One of my favorite movies of all times is The Wizard of Oz. Imagine what that movie would have been like if all we saw was Dorothy & Auntie Em in Kansas living a perfect life. Then fastforward to the end when she’s back in bed with no memory of what happened as if she never went through anything?

HER STORY WOULD BE INCOMPLETE! The whole point of this particular story is the journey not the destination! The writers had to include the details of the journey or else the whole thing would have been a bust. They had to include the times when she was lost, discouraged and afraid in order to demonstrate the powerful message at the end. We had to see that God, in His divine providence sent people in her life to help her along the way. In fact, we can see throughout her tumultuous journey, God’s provision every step of the way. And ultimately, what she searched for outside of herself was there all along. Of course she had to go through something to realize it. And the same is true for us. God desires to use our struggles, hardship, even our joys and triumphs to demonstrate his faithfulness and power to others. At every opportunity we should allow Him to do it.

Why should I let my life speak?

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Because someone is “reading” your life. You have faced and overcome extraordinary obstacles and there

are those who are wondering how you did it. Don’t let the story of your life go untold.

2. Someone else’s deliverance, healing and well-being may depend upon you. If Dorothy had kept her issues to herself, her friends would have never received what they were looking for either. Your journey is not all about you!

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We must tell it all.. the good, the bad, the times we cried, the times we struggled— ALL of it without fear of rejection, or ridicule. It’s all a part of the story.

Now, let’s talk about the three main components of letting your life speak: Purpose, Passion and Power.

What makes you come alive? What drives you? What gives you joy? That is probably your passion. One of the hardest questions that I’ve ever been asked was by a good friend who helped me through a difficult time in my life.

She asked, “What do you want?” I was stunned. My initial response was, “let me get back to you on that…” She said, it’s time that you found that out. You will find success in the things that you are passionate about.

III. Power It’s not enough to have know your purpose and passion. Without power, we are still incapable of achieving success.

You must be connected to the power Source, which is God. To get a desired result you have to be plugged in. For example, if the lamp is not plugged in to a power source (or equipped with batteries), no light will be produced. It doesn’t matter how pretty the shad is. It must be connected to some power!

Letting your life speak means allowing purpose, passion and power to work together to produce a story worth reading and a life worth watching.

It’s not about you.

The purpose of your life is far greater than your own personal fulfillment, your peace of mind, or even your happiness. It’s far greater than your family, your career, or even your wildest dreams and ambitions. If you want to know why you were placed on this planet, you must begin with God. You were born by His purpose and for His purpose. ~Anon.

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Love Notes From Heaven

by Stephanie Lyas I love the old hymns of the church. Songs that spoke directly to and from the heart of God. It seems that hymns have almost become an endangered species in light of the new, contemporary culture of worship. Don’t get me wrong, I love the modern tunes. I love the foot-stompin, raise-the-roof type songs that bring down the glory! I have too many favorites to name. But there is something wonderful about a balanced approach to praise and worship. I just thank God that I grew up in a time where the music that “got us over” was respected and appreciated.

As a child, my family and me would visit my grandparents on the weekends. I personally liked visiting them because one thing I could always count on was a big bear hug from Grandma and a kiss on Grandpa’s scraggly cheek. They had no problems expressing their love for us grandkids and wanted to make sure that we were raised right. I remember getting caught in what they called “devotional service” that was a regular occurrence in their home-especially on Saturdays. I never could figure out why we had to waste a perfectly good play day indoors being still and reverent. That meant, bible reading, prayer and a whole lot of singing. I say getting “caught,” because prayer, bible lessons, and singing did not particularly interest me, especially on a nice sunny day when all of the other neighborhood kids were outside playing. But to this day, I am grateful for them making me sit still. It established the significance of worship in my life that I appreciate as an adult today.

My heart rejoices every time I think back to those days on Warrior Street- once despised but now adored with a thankful heart.

My Grandma would be proud to know that, like her, I’ve come to love the old hymns of the church. She would beam with pride knowing that the seeds she planted early on were springing up into a beautiful life of worship.

Thank God for Grandma and Grandpa. Thank God for His love and grace. Thank God for simply being Who He is.

Every now and then, I like to turn off iPod and just sit in the quiet presence of God. Every now and then I find myself singing the words that brought us through the good times and the bad:

Then sings my soul, my Savior God, to Thee How great Thou art How great Thou art Then sings my soul, my Savior God, to Thee How great Thou art How great Thou art.

Then I remember that, no matter what, I will always have a song in my heart.

My Grandma loved her hymns. She was the only person I’ve ever known to have a literal collection of hymnals and memorized every verse of every one of them. I’m convinced that, because of her, I trained myself to do the same thing over the years. One hymn that I grew to love is “How Great Thou Art.” When I reflect on the lyrics of that powerful song, I’m reminded of how faithful God is to me. Then, I began thinking back to times when I really needed Him and He was right there showing just how great He really is. I can’t help wondering who else but God could work things out just right? Who else but God can turn a chaotic situation into perfect bliss? Who else but God knows me inside and out? And loves me still?

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