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How to cope with a sense of loss during the holidays
written by ROBIN MORRIS LICENSED CLINICAL SOCIAL WORKER BROOK LANE HEALTH SERVICES The 2020 holiday season is approaching and likely will be very different this year due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Family gatherings might be limited, with less travel and the addition of social distancing. Public events, concerts and worship services might look different, if they happen at all. These changes could result in a sense of loss for some people. Others might experience a swell of grief during the holidays due to the loss of loved ones and friends. Family and togetherness are key themes for the holiday season, which can make this time of year difficult for people who are grieving. Such stressors can make it challenging to cope. Here are some strategies to better deal with the feelings of loss you might experience this holiday season:
what you have, rather than compare yourself and/or your circumstancesto what you think others have.
Don’t make comparisons
One of the best things you can do is give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you are feeling. Try not to fall prey to the belief that you have to feel a certain way or do certain things in order to make the holiday “normal.”The
Remind yourself that the holidays are stressful for everyone, and they are rarely the magical gatherings depicted on greeting cards, social media and television. Try to embrace
Set healthy boundaries You don’t have to force yourself to face every holiday event or celebratory tradition. Others might try to convince you to participate, but you don’t have to try to please everyone. When speaking with others about your wishes not to participate, stay focused on your goal to protect your peace of mind.
Be kind to yourself It’s important to get the rest and nourishment you need and try not to take on more than you can handle. If you need to be alone, then honor that. If you crave the company or affection of others, seek it out, while being mindful of what is best for your well-being.
Offer yourself some grace
