LIFE COACHING
2020 - The Last Year You Ever Resolve To Stop Smoking
My clientele is made up of a lot of different types of people from very different backgrounds. I was recently asked if it was OK for my client to do some work whilst in the salon, she was really embarrassed and apologetic. Obviously, I said it was fine and I would never have thought of it as rude!
I’ve realised recently that naturally I do change my manner a bit to be what I need to be for the person in my care at that time. I have some clients who want to laugh and tell me their stories, and some who talk to me about the stresses in life. I have clients who very much want every piece of advice and information regarding their hair. I have some who want the peace of just sitting in comfortable silence for an hour or so. I suppose the thing for me is that all of this is OK; as hairdressers we tend to follow your lead. We are OK if you need to be on your phone the whole appointment as that is what life is demanding of you right now. It’s not rude, it is you making the most of your time. It’s OK to share your problems, we are good listeners. It’s also OK to just be silent. Sometimes our moments of peace come few and far between. So use that salon time for advice, or problems or peace. It’s your time! Enjoy it in your own way.
The Hair column is contributed by Sophie Laidlaw. Sophie is Director @wonderland Livingston. www.wonderlandlivingston.co.uk 22 | CALDERS
How many times have you decided to quit smoking? If you ask most smokers that question, they’ll probably tell you that they managed to stop many times in the past - for three weeks…three months or even three years. Many people believe that quitting would work out fine if only they had more willpower. But the problem is that we are constantly focussed on what we don’t want and what we need to resist at all costs. Using willpower to stop smoking means that the ex-smoker is constantly thinking ‘I’m definitely NOT going to smoke today’ So, just for a minute, try not to think about a pink elephant. I’m willing to bet that the first thing that popped into your head was the very thing that you were trying so hard not to imagine. That is exactly what happens when we tell ourselves that there is something we are going to avoid at all costs We first have to think about that object before crossing it out or drawing a curtain over it. It really is possible to decide that this ‘National No Smoking Day’ is the last one you’ll see as a smoker. For years you have convinced yourself that cigarettes: • Relieve stress or boredom or soothe uncomfortable feelings • Make social situations easier • Give you something to do with your hands Instead of focussing endlessly on giving up smoking and mourning what we convince ourselves that we’ll lose by letting it go, how would it be if we could simply focus on new, healthy behaviours instead? The life coaching column is contributed by Francine Orr. Francine is a locally based NLP coach, Hypnotherapist and Reiki practitioner who runs www.orrganise.co.uk She set up the business to support people to find real and practical solutions to the things that hold us all back in life.
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