Having to Discuss Suicide

By Linda Ligon, Family & Kids

As kids enter the pre-teen years, the discussion of suicide can become more in-depth. Choose an appropriate time to open a discussion and begin it by asking questions to find out what your child knows about suicide. This gives you an opportunity to correct any misinformation your child has received from his peers. By this age, your child should be familiar enough with his emotions to identify if he feels sad or hopeless. Ask your child if he or his friends have ever considered suicide. Explain that if someone has a mental health condition, such as depression, that leads them to commit suicide, it is not that person’s fault but that of the illness. Have a discussion about how suicide can sometimes be prevented if depression symptoms are identified, and the person gets help in time.

Helping your preteen help others

By opening a discussion with your preteen about suicide, you are sending the message that you are always available to your child if he finds himself feeling hopeless and sad and needs your help. Let your child know that if a friend shows signs of depression or states he wants to harm himself, he should reach out to you or another adult. Express that he is not betraying his friend’s trust by getting him the help that could save his life.

Helping your preteen

Preteens are notorious for moody episodes but watch for those that seem out of the ordinary or last longer than usual. Preteens and teens with mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder, are at higher risk of attempting suicide. Kids considering suicide might withdraw from friends and talk about death. Talk to them if you have concerns. Seek help for your child from a healthcare professional without delay.