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summer lift our spirits, it gives us a chance to reflect on all the good we have in our lives today, the path that got us here, and to enjoy the moment at hand. Managing Directors Jeff Kraus and John Sevo In this issue we touch on all three of those themes. We explore ways to enjoy quality time with family members, we get sage advice on what matters most, and we share some of the innovative activities that our residents enjoy each and every day. In “Across the Years” (page 5), we explore the intrinsic value of nurturing the intergenerational relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. It’s a chance to connect personally and share one’s memories—indeed, one’s legacy—with younger family members. Speaking of legacy, we continue our series on The Greatest Generation in this issue, with the fascinating story of three residents who served our great nation in WWII. See “Sacrifice and Valor” on page 10. We also profile one particularly distinguished resident who has dedicated his life to public service, first with the FBI and then at the highest levels of the law. Then, just for fun, we share the creative activities that our communities have implemented around the country with our “Innovation Celebration” on page 23. From resident-run radio stations to international festivals, it’s been a fun summer here at Spectrum. And the good news is that the fun has just begun. Enjoy reading our latest issue and getting to know the wonderful people of our very special Spectrum family.
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CONTENTS Spectrum Lifestyle
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greatest generation:
Sacrifice and Valor
Meet three remarkable residents who put their lives on hold to serve in WWII.
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Wisdom of the ages Spectrum centenarians share insight from the road to 100.
Spectrum Advisor
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caring for our elders from afar
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His Honor This issue’s Distinguished Resident has dedicated his life to serving both country and community.
Long-distance caregiving presents unique challenges, as well as opportunities.
Inside Spectrum
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Across the Years The importance of grandparentgrandchildren relationships.
resilience in aging How to achieve great happiness, despite the challenges of aging.
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Just a few of the fun and creative activities that keep our residents hopping.
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looking ahead Breaking ground on the newest Spectrum Community.
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ACROSS the Years The importance of grandparent-grandchildren relationships By Lydia Manning
It’s an age-old truth that is a family unit. And, statistically speaking, as our life revealed differently in every family: Grandparents expectancy lengthens and more people live longer, can play a pivotal role in the the number of grandparents is lives of their grandchildren. increasing. Grandparents love Positive relationships Today, nearly early 75 being grandparents: between grandparents and percent of Americans over 72% say being a grandparent is grandchildren can be rewardthe age of 65 are grandparthe most satisfying role in life ing for both parties and lead ents, and approximately 63% say they do a better job to strong intergenerational half of all grandparents caring for their grandchildren than they did their children family bonds. Often viewed become great-grandparents. as traditional figures in The increasing numbers of 68% think being a grandparent family life, grandparents are grandparents implies that brings them closer to their adult children frequently the cornerstones of greater numbers of younger
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generations will know their grandparents well into young again adolescence, adulthood and even as young parents. Research shows that relationships between Increased life expectancy also increases the likeligrandparents and grandchildren are undeniably hood that grandchildren will have all of their important. More so, studies report that adults derive grandparents alive during their childhood. great pleasure from being in the grandparent role Interaction between the generations is becoming and that adjustment to grandparenthood is positive. more common as well. Nearly half of all grandparMany grandparents ents report weekly contact report that interactions with one or more grandwith their grandchildren Grandparents like to children, and roughly 75 have tremendous benefits. spend time with kids: percent of grandparents They feel more valued as report monthly contact 60% live close to their grandchildren an elder and are able to with their grandchildren. 46% wish they could live even closer fulfill a sense of legacy Advances in modern while reminiscing about 70% see the kids at least weekly technology make it easier the past. These relation66% travel with their grandkids to stay in touch and are ships allow seniors the promoting intimacy, even freedom to act foolish, at a distance. Grandpargiggle and play games that ents these days are increasingly tech-savvy, and they ordinarily would not. The hugs and cuddles their grandchildren appreciate this. that children expect from their grandparents also 6
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provide opportunities particularly as the for healthy personal younger generations age contact. Reciprocally, of and experience life for course, these relationthemselves. Younger ships are also beneficial to generations express grandchildren. wanting to be responsible Grandparent-grandchild for their older loved ones, relationships are as wanting to make sure that unique as the individueveryone is receiving the als that comprise them, care, love and support but research indicates they need. Reciprocity that there are also some is also important. Both commonalities in the way generations do well when Grandparents the generations interact. all parties feel needed, are wired: People can become valued, and connected. 75% are online grandparents at any age, Creating intergenerational 30% instant message from their 30s and up. This exchanges and opportuni56% share photos online age diversity contributes ties for grandparents and 4 5% are on social networks like to the diversity of grandgrandchildren to deal with Facebook parenting styles. In 1964, hardship together is also 55% play video games with their Neugarten and Weinstein important and bolsters grandchildren identified five types of these relationships and grandparent: formal, family resilience. fun-seeker, distant figure, Establishing nurturing surrogate parent and reservoir of family wisdom. connections between the generations can be fun In 1986, Cherlin and Furstenberg identified three and easy. For grandparents who find it challenging, styles of grandparenting: remote, compassionate some simple strategies can help them to interact and involved. Whatever the style, these relationwith their grandchildren: ships can change over time and in most cases, these • Arrange for regular visits. relationships occur naturally and effortlessly. • Talk frequently. • Share life stories. building relationships • Send mementos in the mail. Sometimes, the grandparent-grandchild connec• Describe what inspires you and what matters tion may require cultivation to be fruitful and most in your life. meaningful. There are strategies to help foster • Enjoy being able to see life through younger connection and empathy across generations and eyes. personality types. Four basic tenets can help to One of the great benefits of being a grandparbuild and strengthen these relationships: respect, ent, of course, is that you’re not the parent. responsibility, reciprocity, and resiliency (Brubaker Grandparents can play, share and interact … & Brubaker, 1999). often without the day-to-day duties of raising a We know that younger generations respect the child. Enjoy this role. Take it easy and smell the wisdom and life experience of their grandparents, roses together.
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resilience in aging
It is important that we understand what it means to age well despite the challenges that accompany a longer life expectancy By lydia manning
It’s a bit ironic. The longer we live, the more adversity we inevitably face. But this adversity garners wisdom, presents opportunities to make meaning later in life, and can ultimately lead to a deeper level of happiness. How we handle this adversity over the years is critical in shaping our level of satisfaction. The resiliency with which we navigate life’s curveballs determines how well we age, and how happy we can be later in lfe. So, then, what determines an individual’s level of resiliency? How do we handle adversity, and to what extent are older adults able to sustain high levels of personal well being through life’s challenges? Does it depend on inner strength? Family support? Sheer luck?
Resilience is an individual’s ability to recover from distressing events and is manifest in how a person successfully negotiates everyday challenges in life. While aging affords many opportunities for growth and transformation, it also presents inherent challenges and complexities associated with getting older. Effectively and efficiently navigating these challenges is key to aging well, and turning life’s hardships into fulfilling life experiences.
Building Resilience The concept of personal resilience in aging adults emerged from what gerontologists call the “paradox of old age.” This paradox suggests that while older adults experience more loss and decline as compared to their younger counterparts, they also experience the highest levels of life satisfaction and
When elders engage in “resilience thinking,” they are able to turn hardship into opportunity. 8
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overall well being. One’s resilience is fundamental to realizing this contentment. According to researchers, there are three hallmarks of resilience: recovery (bouncing back from stress and returning to balance); sustained purpose (moving forward and finding meaning through engagement); and growth (emerging stronger as a result of dealing with hardship). Dr. Alex Zatura and his colleagues in the Resilience Solutions Group at Arizona State University claim that older adults who successfully adapt and recover from adversity engage in what they call “resilience thinking.” This type of thinking allows older adults to reframe life’s challenges using a positive lens. In other words, when elders engage in “resilience thinking,” they are able to turn hardship into opportunity. Resilient elders are able to glean positive results from negative events and turn a problem into an opportunity for growth, expansion and personal transformation. In my own work as a gerontologist, I find that enduring adversity is largely influenced by one’s self-perceived emotional strength. In my research, I explore how older adults manage hardship as they age and examine the key factors of resilience in later life. Older adults share their own strategies for handling adversity with me, and talk openly about how they see adversity as an opportunity for growth and expansion. Participants in my research have revealed how they intentionally map their life resources, mine for social support and tap into the benefits of human connection. Older adults know the importance of practicing radical self-care and compassion, especially in the face of uncertainty. I have been struck by how comfortable elders are with ambiguity, lack of control and vulnerability. Many participants have articulated that, for them, being strong and having resilience means being able to dwell comfortably and peacefully with the uncertainty embedded in their lives, and to embrace their vulnerability as people … especially as they grow older.
An overarching theme linking these coping strategies is how people conceptualize themselves. This “resilience thinking” is an important component of an individual aging well, but it is also critical in family life and within family units. Aging families face circumstances together. Issues related to caregiving, loss of loved ones or changes in levels of dependence. When thinking about late-life families, it is important to keep in mind the importance of relationships and social support. Building resilience is a life-long process and can be facilitated in numerous ways. Resilience is a critical skill in negotiating life’s challenges, and relationship building lies at the heart of creating both individual and family resilience. Lydia K. Manning, Ph.D is a gerontologist and researcher focusing on resilience, health and well being. Find her work online at lydiamanning.com.
Building Resilience Optimism and effective coping styles: Responses to crises are more often seen from the “silver lining” point of view, rather than from despair.
Sense of purpose: Involved in an activity or a function that gives life meaning affects optimism and how one looks to the future.
Personal connections: Happily engaged with family and friends, closeknit communities, or even at work.
Healthy diet & active lifestyle: The healthier and more active older adults are, the more traits of resilience they possess.
Self-efficacy: Ability to handle one’s own problems; flexibility; adaptability.
Source: Resilience Solutions Group.
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{Greatest Generation}
Sacrifice
and Valor Meet three remarkable residents who put their lives on hold to serve during World War II
World War II embroiled most of the developed world in the war effort. Entire nations halted production and poured every possible resource into the service of the Allied forces’ efforts to thwart the advancement of Axis powers. While the result of this massive joint effort changed the face of the world and the shape of history, it’s easy to overlook the personal sacrifices that many citizens made in order to help in a time of great global need. Here, we pay tribute to three such individuals who selflessly answered the call to serve.
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George Magoon
Lincoln Meadows Senior Living | Parker, Colo.
What was your childhood like?
I was born in the spring of 1924 and raised in Littleton, N.H. I have two brothers and my mother, Ina, primarily raised us. She was a good Scottish woman who loved life and her children.
Were you athletic as a young man?
I lettered in football in high school and played on the team for all four years. I’ll never forget the last game of my senior year – the coach sent me in to attempt the game-winning play, but I missed it because I couldn’t find a helmet small enough to fit me!
When did you join the service?
I attended Dartmouth College for a semester following high school, and then tried to volunteer for the Air Corps. I was color blind, so I didn’t meet the requirements, but I was drafted in March of 1943 and served for three years, mostly in the 102nd Infantry. After basic training in Cherbourg, France, we were sent to Normandy and then to Germany to train soldiers how to fight out of the foxholes that the Germans made. This wasn’t always the best tactic, because the Germans knew where the foxholes were! It made the fight even more difficult.
Sounds like you were right in the thick of the action.
The 102nd Division carried the artillery for the 84th Division, which started the drive against the Germans. We would fight all night sometimes. My life took a very difficult turn one night when, during a barrage of fighting, I saw a soldier get shot while
trying to make it back to his foxhole. My partner and I ran to a nearby shed, tore the door off and used it as a stretcher to carry the wounded soldier to the medic. That’s when a mortar hit behind me. The next thing I remember is waking up in a field hospital in Bristol, England.
Then what happened?
I spent six months in the hospital and still have shrapnel in my back to this day. I returned to the infantry after I was discharged from the hospital. I remember getting off duty late one evening and hearing on the radio that President Roosevelt had died. That was April 12, 1945. I told everyone in my unit the news.
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don driggs, ph.d Mountain Park Senior Living | Ahwatukee, Ariz.
Is it true you dated swimmer and actress Esther Williams? I met a lot of Broadway stars through my cousins and, yes, they introduced me to Esther Williams. I took her out on a date and we even took a swim in one of the large hotel pools that many Broadway performers frequented between shows. We stayed in touch and whenever I would go back to the city we would see each other.
What persuaded you to leave the East Coast?
When did you join the service? I was 18 and a freshman at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah, when I volunteered for the Air Force. It was during World War II, and by age 19 I’d made Lieutenant – the youngest Lieutenant at that time, they told me. I continued serving in the Air Force Reserves after the war, and was called back to active duty during the Korean War. I retired as a Lieutenant Colonel.
What did you do after the Air Force? I spent most of my time during the 1950s studying Political Science at Harvard University. That’s where I earned my first Master’s and my Ph.D. It was a great time in my life – I would study in Boston all week and spend my weekends on Broadway in New York City seeing all those great musicals. My cousins, The King Sisters, also performed on Broadway, as did the Andrew Sisters, and I enjoyed seeing them as well.
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As much as I liked New York, I enjoyed living in Northern California the most. That’s where I was headed after I graduated from Harvard. Before I left, I saw a notice that the University of Nevada at Reno was looking for a Political Science professor, so I decided to stop by for an interview on my way out west. Would you believe that the president of the university at that time was my high school english teacher from Evanston, Ill.? He hired me on the spot, and that’s where I spent my entire teaching career. I’d teach during the school year and spend summers taking classes elsewhere. I earned Master’s degrees from both the University of Michigan and Michigan State University. I retired from teaching in 1988.
What are some highlights? I met JFK several times – a few times when he passed through Nevada and once in California during his run for president. He was a few years ahead of me at Harvard, but we shared the same advisor. We corresponded several times, and I still have some of his letters that I framed.
What do you enjoy doing now?
I have three children – two daughters and one son – and I enjoy seeing them as much as I can. My daughter Debbie lives nearby. She attended Stanford University and earned her law degree at the University of Arizona.
sadie “skip” johnson rigden farm senior living | fort collins, colo.
What can you tell us about your childhood? I was born the youngest daughter among my parents’ five children. We lived on a small farm in East Nassau, N.Y. I always wanted to be a dancer, and began studying ballet at the age of 5. When I was 6, however, I was diagnosed with cervical tuberculosis and placed in a TB sanitary camp. I lived in the children’s cottage for the next three years and did my best to enjoy my childhood while enduring the separation from my family and friends.
That sounds like a life-changing ordeal … I still dreamt of being a dancer, but having battled TB and going through that experience, I knew that helping others was more important. Following high school in Albany, I enrolled in nursing school in 1936 at the Brooklyn Hospital where I worked in obstetrics delivery for three years. While nursing was my chosen career path, dancing was still an important part of my life and I also continued my dance education.
And then you joined the war effort? In 1941, when the U.S. joined World War II, I felt compelled to put my expertise as a nurse to good use. I volunteered for service and was dispatched to Iceland, where I worked as a duty nurse. I enjoyed my time there and derived great satisfaction in helping care for our soldiers. I would also travel to other bases to teach dance and perform.
Were you stationed anywhere else? In 1943, I moved with my unit to England. On June 6, 1944 –D-Day – I remember looking up in the sky and waving to the pilots as they flew off to bomb Europe. Later that day, my unit received orders to clean and sterilize everything. The tents were converted from medical tents to a prisoner-of-war camp, and they brought in POWs from all over Europe. My job was to take care of them and put them to bed while working with their interpreters to learn as much as possible.
Then, in 1944, we shipped out for France. I lived with more than 100 other nurses in a large horse barn for four months while we awaited our next assignments. That’s where I reunited with one of my brothers, who was also in the Army. We hadn’t seen each other in four years! It was so reassuring to know that he was okay.
What did you do after the war? Immediately after the war ended, I married Don Johnson in Étampes, France. He was a dashing Army officer who I’d met while stationed in England. It was a lovely wedding ceremony, and I remember Don had to get permission from General Eisenhower’s office to be out of uniform. We honeymooned in the French Riviera, and I received permission to fly home. Soon after, I went back to nursing school on the GI bill at the University of Wyoming, and Don and I raised two handsome boys – Dean and Grant. I still dance every chance that I get.
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His Honor
Distinguished resident Harold Moss has devoted his life to country, community and family
A distinguished and storied life is constructed from years of service and dedication to one’s community, family and ideals. It is a compilation of experiences, a shared journey that makes the world a better place. This is the story of one such life, and the man who created it: Harold Moss, a distinguished resident at Spectrum’s Lincoln Meadows Senior Living in Parker, Colo. 14
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At 97 years old, Harold Moss exemplifies a life of honor, accomplishment and devotion. He spent much of his career as an FBI agent, and even after retiring from the Bureau in 1966, he continued to provide support to the local agents, working with them on a regular basis. As a result, he was instrumental in several cases when they needed him. About five years ago, he played a particularly important role in the case of some local residents who were running a Ponzi scheme in Grand Junction, Colo. and swindling people out of millions of dollars. Harold testified in court in 2009, and with the other agents’ work, those criminals were brought to justice. Recently, with former Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor and former Director of the FBI and CIA William Webster at his side, Harold proudly accepted a Lifetime Achievement Award from the Society of Former Special Agents and the FBI.
Joining the Bureau Harold was born near Hannibal, Mo., the last day of May in 1916. He attended school in a one-room schoolhouse while his father worked for Burlington Railroad, which relocated his family to Denver, Colo. in 1922. Harold graduated from high school in the depths of the Great Depression, so going to college was simply not an option. But, with help from the Rotary Club, he got a job at Gates Rubber making fan belts during the summer and was eventually able to attend the University of Colorado where he studied prelaw. After two years, he went on to study law at Westminster Law School (now part of the University of Denver), graduating in September 1941 with his law degree. As soon as he graduated, Harold passed the bar exam and began practicing law. Just two months later, the bombing of Pearl Harbor would change the course of his life. As a young,
newlywed attorney, Harold was presented with the choice of joining the service or joining the FBI. He decided that the FBI would utilize his skills more effectively and was sent immediately to Quantico, Va. for 12 weeks of intensive training. He was then given two three-month assignments in Indianapolis, Ind. and East St. Louis, Ill. before he finally arrived in New York City in January of 1943. He would remain in New York for the duration of World War II. Working as an FBI agent in New York, Harold was “dealing with people who seemed to forget what side of the war they were on,” he explained. His primary job was to arrest “hoodlums” who were stealing equipment that was to be sent to soldiers overseas. Harold and his wife, Ruth, had their first two children while they lived in New York City. Bardwell was born in 1945 and Arthur was born in 1947. They returned to Denver in 1949, and had two more children, Gayle and Wyle, just a few months before their tenth wedding anniversary. Now in the throes of the Cold War, Colorado was a major source of uranium mining. As a result, Harold spent much of his time near Grand Junction, where the majority of uranium mining was located. Being on the road so often, with four children back in Denver, Harold decided to relocate his family to Grand Junction where he spent his remaining 16 years working as an FBI agent. His primary assignment at the time was catching criminals who were selling “yellow cake” (unrefined uranium) on the black market or using it illegally.
Serving on the Bench In November 1966, just five days after his retirement from the FBI, Harold ran in the general election as a write-in for county judge. He won a landslide victory with 90 percent of the votes and was featured on the front page of the Grand Junction Sentinel touting the effusively spect rum / su m m e r 2 0 1 3
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positive community endorsement. A well-revered resident and community servant, Harold spent the next 16 years as a judge before retiring from the county court in 1983. Rather than fully retiring, however, he dedicated another 12 years to the Colorado Judicial Department as a senior judge, traveling around the state to fill in for other judges part-time before ultimately retiring in 1995. Although he lost his daughter, Gayle, to complications related to lupus in 1986, he remembers that time with great fondness. He was able to give his time and energy to people who needed it, and he was able to travel often with his wife by his side. Harold had a very challenging and fulfilling career on many levels. But his sense of identity rests not in what he has done, but for whom he did it. He has served and shared his life with both his family and his community. Harold had joined the Masons upon returning to Colorado and he became heavily involved in volunteering and service activities in the community. Adding to his many other accomplishments and awards, he also recently received the honorary 33rd Degree from the Masons honoring a lifetime of service. Only a few months after accepting the Lifetime Achievement Award from the FBI, Harold lost two people very close to him: His youngest son Wyle, an emergency medical doctor, was killed in a plane accident in Kentucky. And shortly after, Ruth, his wife of 71 years passed away. Ruth’s beautiful art hangs on the walls in his apartment today, and brings back wonderful memories. After living in Grand Junction for 61 years, Harold moved into his apartment at Lincoln Meadows at the end of 2012, after the anniversary of Ruth’s death. Being back in Denver, he now lives close to several generations of family members who continue to learn from him, not only through his example of dedication and service as an FBI agent and judge, but more importantly, by his devotion to family as a loving husband, father, and grandfather.
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Spectrum centenarians share insight from the road to 100. These Spectrum residents have a century of life experience and wisdom under
their belts. From landing ashore on D-Day to running the family farm as a teenager, they have rich memories and endless wisdom to share with all of us.
What matters most in life? Relationships with family.
Can you share some favorite memories from your childhood? I had three older sisters, and really enjoyed swimming, basketball and high school.
What did you do for a living?
Arthur Toffler Pine Ridge of Garfield Born June 20, 1913 100 Years Old
I was a manager at Neisner Brothers clothing store.
What did your parents do? My father owned a grocery store.
What do you enjoy doing?
What keeps you going so strong today?
A positive attitude. It’s very important to have a good outlook on life.
What was the greatest adventure in your life?
Getting married and having a family ‌ and I would do it all over again!
Where did you get married?
In Chicago, to Yetta from Utica, N.Y.
Do you have any regrets? None!
Thinking about good things.
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company. I received numerous promotions and raises throughout my time there and feel great about being able to work for a company like United Airlines for so long.
Can you share some favorite memories from your childhood?
Wayne Sableman Lakeview Senior Living 103 Years Old
I grew up on a farm with one brother and one sister during the Great Depression. When I was a child I really enjoyed shooting my shotgun for rabbits and ducks. I really miss shooting my guns.
What did your parents do? What are the most important things in life?
Family, career and education are the most important things in life. My daughters are always there to help me out and a full education is very important.
What did you do for a living?
I worked for United Airlines for 39 years. I was in charge of the ground services, working with food service, passenger agents, flight attendants. I oversaw everything that had to do with service for travelers. I am very proud of my accomplishments with that
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They were farmers and had a farm in Nebraska between Lincoln and Omaha.
What role does attitude play in your health and longevity?
I have asked my doctor this question a lot and he said with my positive attitude, I will live indefinitely. I am shooting for 115!
What about exercise and diet in your life?
There is a great workout room here on site and I go up there four or five days a week. I work my arms and legs every week to help keep them strong.
What do you enjoy doing?
I used to love to dance. I wish I would have started earlier in my life. Right now, I enjoy spending time with my friends, family and my girlfriend.
What keeps you going so strong today?
Food is very important in keeping you strong. They have a set schedule here and supply three meals a day so that helps keep me going strong each and every day!
Did you marry?
Yes. I married my wife Joyce Ann at age 21 in Nebraska. She passed away and I met Elizabeth while working for United Airlines. We were married and she also passed away.
If you could do one thing in life again, what would it be?
I would increase my education. I did graduate from high school and a two-year business college, but I would have really enjoyed getting a full education from a university.
If you could do anything today, what would it be?
I would like to have my car back so I could drive wherever I need or want to go.
Leo Nelson Crestview Senior Living Born April 20, 1911 102 Years Old
What are the most important things in life?
Leo was born on April 20, 1911 in Kennard, Neb. as the middle of three boys to Danish immigrant parents. His father was a farmer who died unexpectedly when Leo was just 14 years old. He and his brothers took over the farm. When World War II broke out, Leo enlisted so that his brothers would not go to war and could stay on the farm to take care of their mother. He enlisted with the Army Infantry in the Quartermaster Corps and went ashore at D-Day. He stayed in the Army four years and was a corporal when he left the Army. When Leo returned stateside, he married Virginia and had two sons. Eventually, they rented the farm out, his wife went back to teaching, and Leo worked at Boys Town as well as doing various jobs for the local schools. Leo and his wife loved to travel and garden, and they always had a dog. Leo’s wife passed away eight years ago, so he moved to St. Louis, Mo. to be near his son, Leo Nelson Jr. (also pictured here). Leo attributes his longevity to good health habits (everything in moderation), watching his weight, vigorous exercise (he still uses the fitness equipment in our wellness center every day) and good genes.
Family and continuing to move forward.
What did you do for a living?
Farmed and worked for several schools.
What keeps you going so strong today?
What should one’s priorities be?
What about exercise and diet in your life?
If you could do one thing in life again, what would it be?
Healthy living.
What was the greatest adventure in your life? Enlisting in World War II.
Can you share some favorite memories from your childhood?
Helping run the farm after my father passed away.
I take everything in moderation and believe in vigorous exercise and watching my weight.
What do you enjoy doing? I enjoy the meals and saying “Hi!” to all of my friends in the dining room.
I still use the exercise machines.
I would like to be a locomotive engineer.
Any regrets?
I would like to have visited Denmark, the home of my parents.
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caring for our elders from afar Long-distance caregiving presents unique challenges as well as opportunities By lydia manning
Many people find themselves in the position of caring for an aging loved one. Whether it is providing full-time care or playing a smaller support role, it can be extremely challenging to balance one’s own life while maintaining the needs of a family member or friend. Yet, hidden in these challenges lie great rewards. Family caregiving is the bedrock upon which this country’s healthcare system depends and is the primary source of support for 65 percent of older adults in the United States. The services provided by family caregivers represent 80 percent of all
A key component for a successful long-distance caregiving relationship is creating time for occasional personal visits homecare services and are conservatively valued at $450 billion a year — more than double the amount spent on paid homecare and nursing home services combined. Family caregivers provide an array of emotional, financial, nursing, social, homemaking and other services … and many loved ones provide this support from afar.
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Despite the obvious barriers associated with physical distance from a care recipient, there are also opportunities to help loved ones remotely. For example, a long-distance caregiver might provide emotional support to a primary caregiver, coordinate services for a loved one such as arranging for in-home care or meals on wheels, or even manage a loved one’s medical bills or finances.
Effective Long-Distance Care A key component for a successful long-distance caregiving relationship is creating time for occasional personal visits and strategizing ways to create intimacy at a distance. For example, with more seniors using technology, some families schedule time to Skype with an aging loved one. This provides emotional support for the entire family. Other caregivers organize Google Hangouts between family members and care providers. Long-distance caregiving requires organization and planning on the part of both the caregiver and receiver. Suggestions for long-distance caregivers to be effective include: Staying organized and keeping a “care inventory,” scheduling a family meeting and including the care receiver, researching the loved one’s illness and treatment, keeping in touch with the care constellation (the whole team of care providers), asking the loved one’s friends for support, seeking professional help (for example, from a geriatric care manager), planning for emergencies to avoid a crisis situation, and engaging in
Caregiving by the numbers 44 million: Number of Americans who care for family or friends over age 50.
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self-care in an effort to avoid caregiver burnout. If you are a long-distance care receiver, make sure you put time aside to be organized, empowered and clear about the services that you need and desire. Good communication is essential. The dramatic growth of the older adult population as the baby boom generation ages will surely lead to more people fulfilling caregiving roles. Family caregiving will continue to be a central issue
in our aging society. Today, one in four U.S. households is involved in caring for a loved one aged 50 or older. Rest assured that caregivers are not alone, and society is beginning to recognize the significance of the caregiving role and the challenges this role presents. Additionally, while mainstream media outlets, scholarly researchers and governmental agencies are quick to focus on the burdens of caregiving, it is spect rum / su m m e r 2 0 1 3
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The Creed Caregiver’s
I take care of myself. I know that if I am not healthy and sound, I cannot care for another person effectively. I accept that caregiving involves an incredible range of emotions, from anger to joy, from resentment to compassion. I accept that my feelings are not right or wrong. They just are. And they are as natural and unavoidable as breathing. I ask for and accept help willingly. I involve my family, friends and the community in the care of my aging loved one. I understand that it’s not my role to do it all, nor is it best for my loved one. I actively seek information that can help me as a caregiver of an aging senior. I recognize that information is empowering. I respect the preferences and decisions of the older adult I’m caring for. I extend to my loved one the dignity and courtesy I would wish to receive if the tables were turned. I recognize that change — both good and bad — is a natural part of caregiving for a senior. I remain flexible and open to change. I celebrate the small successes and allow myself to grieve the disappointments. I share my feelings with those who can empathize. I am mindful of my own needs and I guard my rights as a caregiver. I do not allow my role as caregiver to overwhelm the other aspects of my life I forgive myself my shortcomings and I congratulate myself for the effort and love I put into my caregiving.
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With more seniors using technology, some families schedule time to Skype with an aging loved one. important to highlight the benefits associated with caregiving. Caring for a loved one means spending valuable time together, and presents an opportunity to create new memories. It means celebrating the small things in life, resolving past hurts and conflicts, and developing personal strength and aging readiness. As a younger caregiver, one can learn from an older person’s full life experience, and share in that accrued wisdom.
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This summer, the Director of Fun at each Spectrum community was challenged to create a new and innovative event to bring their residents together and inspire their peers. Here, we present the winners of the Innovation Challenge, as the Directors of Fun share their ideas and experiences with the whole Spectrum community.
First Place
International Week Lisa Jensen Lincoln Meadows Senior Living Parker, Colo.
Our idea was to have a full week of international food, activities and entertainment. It was a huge success! On Sunday, we started with an international fashion show with fashions from Spain, France, Japan, Mexico, Denmark, Holland, India, Sweden, South Africa, Bosnia, Ireland and the U.S. On Monday we had an international vendor market with food, clothing and teas from around the world, along with music from The Patchwork Singers. On Tuesday, the Golden City Cloggers, along with our international superstar James Creasey and his Jiminy Wicket program, threw one great party! The entertainment was fabulous and the croquet with all of the kids, residents and staff was just inspiring. On Wednesday, we had Spanish Flamenco dancers followed with Rhythm Vision Drums. On Thursday, we had singing in the morning from the local group XY Zingers and then dancing in the afternoon. On Friday, we all enjoyed a performance by our very own Jug Band! The residents had such a great time playing the different instruments and singing. And on Saturday we celebrated Armed Forces Day with the TNT Performers and music from the great ol’ U.S.A.
Second Place PRVS RADIO ON THE AIR
Tonya Wilson Pine Ridge Villas of Shelby Senior Living Shelby Township, Mich.
We launched our very own Villas Radio station, connecting our senior population to the technology of today with the use of iPads. The residents broadcast news, sports, weather and Villas activities by recording themselves on the iPad and then uploading the program to a YouTube account and then onto our Villas of Shelby Facebook page.
The residents had a great time playing the instruments and singing.
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Third Place looking forward by traveling back
Penelope Friedberg Three Oaks Assisted Living & Memory Care Cary, Ill. For the Innovations Celebration, we invented a time machine for “way-back time-travel fun.” Each week for the month of May, we journeyed back through the decades, starting in the 1920s and finishing in the 1960s. We featured musical entertainers performing songs from each era, a slideshow with historical timelines and fun facts to help us reflect on the times.
Average cost of a new home in 1930? $3,845! During the roaring ‘20s, we read The Great Gatsby for our book club. In the ‘40s, we celebrated the U.S. and our armed forces with a Three Oaks canteen. In the 1950s, residents enjoyed a drive-in with the movie Grease and a lunch of hot dogs, fries and a milkshake delivered to their “car.” We also played The Price is Right to look at how prices have changed over the years (Average cost of a new home in 1930? $3,845!) and we ended the month with a vintage clothing fashion show that brought back many good memories. 24
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Honorable Mention the big bee!
Michelle Major Mountain Park Senior Living Phoenix, Ariz.
Mountain Park held an old-fashioned Spelling Bee for the Innovation Celebration and the residents really enjoyed it! Next time, we will make it an intergenerational event and invite families to participate. Some residents were nervous about standing up individually to spell words, so we made four teams and allowed them to write the words on a dry erase board. We crafted our own set of rules and are excited to see the event grow the next time we have it. After the Big Bee, an impromptu social hour in the East Bistro had everyone talking and socializing before dinner.
Honorable Mention
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Donny O’Bryan Shawnee Hills Senior Living Shawnee, Kan.
Here at Shawnee Hills, we hosted eight live game shows all day long. We started out with a live version of Family Feud. Debbie was my assistant, writing the “Survey says!” answers on the dry erase board while two teams took guesses at the top answers. Next, we played Jeopardy. But the real fun was after lunch, when we gathered for a live version of Wheel Of Fortune. We had made a fully functioning spin wheel with all the colors and numbers, which everyone loved to give a whirl. After that, we played The Price is Right and Let’s Make a Deal with three doors to pick prizes from after you answered a trivia question correctly! Our final three game shows, Liars Club, Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader? and Weakest Link rounded out the day.
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Donna Mattingly Westview Assisted Living & Memory Care Ellisville, Mo.
Our Innovative Activity was a huge hit at Westview! Based on the popular reality show Total Blackout, we compiled three teams of staff and residents. Each team was blindfolded and had to identify items solely from one of their other senses, such as taste, smell and touch. It was fun to see the incorrect responses of what we would think were very identifiable items such tasting a banana (egg!) and smelling popcorn (almonds?!). Many got them correct though and all agreed that it was a fun event!
Congratulations to all our communities for creating fun and new innovative events!
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Carolyn Lincoln Parkrose Estates Retirement Community Liverpool, N.Y. We hosted a number of great events for the Innovation Celebration, including: Newspaper Club: We are starting our own resident newspaper called The Parkrose Gazette. The paper will come out once a month and many residents have already started writing their articles! Macy’s on Location: We invited Macy’s to come to Parkrose and provide a day of shopping for the residents. They used our activity room and set it up like a real store. Turtle Races: We had turtle races to celebrate National Turtle Day in May. Each table of residents had a different animated turtle and had to answer a trivia question about turtles to make their turtle move. The residents loved the game and felt that it was a fun way to learn about … turtles!
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Winner of the Missouri Adult Day Services Association “Excellence Award” for Two Consecutive Years!
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Looking Ahead Meadow Brook Senior Living in Fishers, Indiana
Spectrum Retirement Communities has just broken ground on its newest retirement community, Meadow Brook Senior Living in Fishers, Ind. Named by Money Magazine as one of the top 25 places to live in the country, the town’s welcoming atmosphere provides much for visitors and residents to see and do. Meadow Brook Senior Living will offer residents the freedom to lead a healthy and happy life without worrying about housekeeping, maintenance, transportation or cooking. Whether they choose to live in a spacious studio, one- or two-bedroom apartment home, residents pay only an affordable month-tomonth rental without the restrictive buy-in fees. The new community will have 88 well-appointed apartments and more than 40 percent of the building will be dedicated to common areas. Meadow Brook will have a state-of-the-art wellness center, community rooms, library and business center, sky lounge, theater, beauty salon, bistro and dining room where chef-prepared meals will be served. 26
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For seniors who value their independence, yet need some help, Meadow Brook’s assisted living with licensed residential care, will focus on individual wellness and encourage continued independence in a home-like environment. As an alternative to the more advanced memory care program, Meadow Brook will offer a transitional memory care program called The Residence ClubSM where individuals with mild memory loss can flourish. Residents will receive comprehensive care and multiple levels of support that allows them to maintain self-confidence and dignity while living in their own apartments. Spectrum Retirement Communities, LLC, is a Denver-based senior housing company that develops, owns and operates their communities. Spectrum currently operates 20 communities in 11 different states with four additional communities under construction. For more information, please visit www.spectrumretirement.com.
UNIQUE GATHERINGS Take a walk down memory lane with the foods you love R.O.M.E.O. Breakfast/Luncheon
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We even take requests to recreate your favorite meals!
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