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KIDS AND MONEY
U.S. FREEDOM LESSONS
A penny saved
Use them at home
FIREWORKS TO CHRISTMAS A mom connection
AREAS OF INTELLIGENCE Where does your child fit?
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Summer Events & Festivals July–September 2018
Contents
July 2018
Features A penny saved Children and money
Columns
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8 The Horney Village
July 4th’s Christmas connection
14 Manic
Mothering
Baby shower thoughts
U.S. freedom lessons
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23 Recipes by Bethany
Vegan Brazilian Stew
Use them at home
Departments 10 Adoption
A Different Kind of Love Story
Natural Motivation
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Yours, your child’s
11 Wednesday’s Child
Meet Shelby
20 KIDS FIRST!
Dino Dan’s adventures
Summer 22 Events & Festivals July-September 2018
In Each Edition 3 Editor’s Intro Family jokes
16 Family Events
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Volume 6, Number 7 Publisher J.J. Plew Cover Photo Roaring Springs Water Park Editor Gaye Bunderson editorgaye@gmail.com Sales & Marketing J.J. Plew jjplew82@gmail.com 208-697-2043 Contributors Kimberly Blaker, Daniel Bobinski, Bethany Camp, Jessie Horney, Ranny Levy, Beth Markley, Sandy McDaniel Graphic Design Carol Smiley csmileydesign@gmail.com Distribution Shauna Howard, Doris Evans
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EDITOR’S Intro
Families a good place to foster humor
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hen I get together with my family, we can laugh at the oddest things — things that if there were a stranger in the room, he or she wouldn’t find funny at all. I think that’s unique to families: a shared and sometimes bizarre sense of humor about the smallest and craziest things. I thought it would be fun to laugh at families’ expense, so I found some great jokes to share with you. Hope you LOL over them the same way I did. (Do people still use that acronym?)
From http://www.laughfactory.com/jokes/family-jokes:
• A child asked his father, “How were people born?” So his father said, “Adam and Eve made babies, then their babies became adults and made babies, and so on.” The child then went to his mother, asked her the same question and she told him, “We were monkeys then we evolved to become like we are now.” The child ran back to his father and said, “You lied to me!” His father replied, “No, your mom was talking about her side of the family.” • Mr. and Mrs. Brown had two sons. One was named Mind Your Own Business and the other was named Trouble. One day the two boys decided to play hide and seek. Trouble hid while Mind Your Own Business counted to 100. Mind Your Own Business began looking for his brother behind garbage cans and bushes. Then he started looking in and under cars until a policeman approached him and asked, “What are you doing?” “Playing a game,” the boy replied. “What is your name?” the officer questioned. “Mind Your Own Business.” Furious the policeman inquired, “Are you looking for trouble?!” The boy replied, “Why, yes.” • A woman gets on a bus with her baby. The bus driver says, “That’s the ugliest baby that I’ve ever seen. Ugh!” The woman goes to the rear of the bus and sits down, fuming. She says to a man next to her, “The driver just insulted me!” The man says, “You go right up there and tell him off
— go ahead, I’ll hold your monkey for you.” • A mom texts, “Hi! Son, what does IDK, LY, & TTYL mean?” He texts back, “I Don’t Know, Love You, & Talk To You Later.” The mom texts him, “It’s okay, don’t worry about it. I’ll ask your sister, love you too.” • A young boy came home from school and told his mother, “I had a big fight with my classmate. He called me a sissy.” The mother asked, “What did you do?” The boy replied, “I hit him with my purse!” • I wonder what my parents did to fight boredom before the internet. I asked my 17 brothers and sisters and they didn’t know either. • I want to die peacefully in my sleep, like my grandfather. Not screaming and yelling like the passengers in his car. • A man called his child’s doctor, “Hello! My son just snatched my pen when I was writing and swallowed it. What should I do?” The doctor replied, “Until I can come over, write with another pen.” • Q: What did the mama cow say to the baby cow? • A: “It’s pasture bedtime.”
From https://www.rd.com/jokes/family/:
• My 3-year-old daughter stuck out her hand and said, “Look at the fly I killed, Mommy.” Since she was eating a juicy pickle at the time, I thrust her contaminated hands under the faucet and washed them with antibacterial soap. After sitting her down to finish her pickle, I asked, with a touch of awe, “How did you kill that fly all by yourself ?” • Between bites, she said, “I hit it with my pickle.” — Cindy Yates, Mill Valley, California • A police officer jumps into his squad car and calls the station. Continued on page 21
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A PENNY saved
Teaching your child financial skills By Kimberly Blaker
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ccording to a 2016 report by Sallie Mae*, “Majoring in Money,” students aged 18 to 24 carried an average credit card debt of $906 in 2015. This exemplifies the point made by Nellie Mae* in a 2013 report that credit card usage isn’t going to go away. If anything, it reveals credit card use, at least by young adults, is on the rise. The average credit card balance carried by college students just three years ago was $499. This reflects an increase of nearly 190 percent. So educating kids on how to use credit cards responsibly is crucial to their future financial well-being. Fortunately, those who learn and develop good saving habits early in life are more prepared to deal with what lies ahead and develop into financially responsible adults.
The younger set
Begin teaching your child the concept of money, including the values of coins, from the ages of 4 to 6. During this time keep it simple. Allow your child to earn money to save in a piggy bank for small chores.
It’s all elementary
By the time your child is 7, an allowance is essential to learning about money and developing good habits. Familiarize your child with banking. Open a savings account so she can watch her money grow. Also, help set achievable goals, such as saving for a new toy or putting away for holiday gifts. Keep in mind, many banks charge service fees unless a minimum balance is kept, and frequent trips to the bank may be impossible. As an alternative, set up your own “family bank.” Give your child a spare checkbook ledger or savings passbook. Then copy blank savings deposit and withdrawal slips from your bank for your child to use. Require him to fill out the slips and log transactions in the ledger. Also give your child monthly interest for his savings so he can experience the immediate reward of saving money.
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The teen scene
Designer clothing, entertainment, and car expenses are the biggest areas of teen spending. Some teens also put away for college. But few are prepared for the adult world, says developmental psychologist Nancy J. Cobb in “Adolescence: Continuity, Change, and Diversity.” That’s because most teens aren’t primed for the responsibility of paying for food, housing, and health care costs. Those teens involved with the family budget and who contribute to family expenses learn a valuable lesson. Opting to show teens the spending categories in which they have a direct impact on family expenses is helpful. Also, agreeing on a reasonable amount in which teens can contribute to help cover those expenses can go a long way toward preparing teens for adulthood. Whether teens contribute or not, their working hours should be limited to no more than 10 to 15 per week. According to Cobb, researchers have found adolescents who work, especially 20 or more hours per week, are not as engaged in school as their non-working peers. Based on various studies, this shortchanges students in the long-term. If you restrict your teens’ working hours to ensure success in school, it’s good to provide an increased allowance for clothing and personal needs. You can then help your teen to budget her money. Still, there are many ways teens can learn the value of money and develop good habits. In fact, limiting teens’ funds may force them to be more selective and make wiser financial decisions.
Tips your kids can bank on
Help your child develop good saving and spending habits in the following ways: • Allow your child to make some of her own spending decisions. Place reasonable limits. Then offer appropriate guidance while giving your child opportunities to learn from her mistakes. • Don’t loan your child money every time he wants it. But do offer occasional opportunities for him to learn the costs of borrowing and the experience of repaying the loan. When deciding whether to loan money to your child and how much, consider the purpose of the loan, past repayment, and his ability to repay within a reasonable time. Charge interest on loans so children learn the cost of borrowing. Realize, regardless of how financially savvy we raise our kids to be, borrowing does have its place. At the very least, it’s often necessary or practical for acquiring a college education, reliable transportation, and a home. These can be wise investments even when borrowing is necessary. • Teach your child how to set financial goals. By the teen years, these may include those big ticket items just www.idahofamilymagazine.com
mentioned: saving for automobile expenses, college, a home, and other long-range plans. And don’t overlook the importance of short-term goals, which offer your kids a feeling of accomplishment and a boost in selfesteem. • Require your child to put at least 10 percent of each paycheck, or allowance, into savings. It’ll be much easier to adhere to as an adult if practiced during childhood and teen years. • Don’t be completely secretive about family finances. Children have few opportunities to see and experience
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the financial side of the adult world. This doesn’t mean you need, or even should, disclose everything. But it’s easier for kids to understand if they can see it in concrete terms. Develop a detailed household budget. Then explain it so your adolescent can see how your family spends and why. • Discuss the different ways in which you save and invest your own money, and explain how these different plans work. Point out both the benefits and the risks. • Send your kids to http://www.themint. org/ where they’ll learn about money, goal setting, saving, investing, and more. • Try a computer program such as Family Bank by ParentWare to help your child track his allowance, expenses, loans, and more. It calculates interest for both savings and loans, allows children to write checks to their parents, creates graphs of their
spending habits, and more. Visit http://download.cnet.com/FamilyBank/3000-2132_4-10077035.html. * Student Loan Marketing Association * New England Loan Marketing Corporation
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FREEDOM lessons
Bringing U.S. liberties to your family
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By Sandy McDaniel
uly is usually the “free-est” time for Freedom to be unique children as there is no school, fewer One of the ways we inhibit children is by responsibilities and the weather comparing them to other people. In doing so is warm. It is also the month in which we we kill individuality and invite a child to be celebrate the Fourth of July. I’ve probably like every other child. No two people are alike. written 30 columns about the dangers of Help your children to value their uniqueness fireworks, the responsibilities of parents, and a by celebrating it. “There’s no one just like you” little on patriotism. This month my focus is on is a painted plate I have in my kitchen, given freedom — how to teach what it means, how to me by my daughter Kathleen when she was to celebrate what it is and how to honor it as 10. If Kathleen valued that concept in me, a privilege. chances were good she would grow up to be The Fourth of July brings all of us together her own person. (Trust me, at 48 now she has to celebrate, but most people have no idea Sandy McDaniel totally claimed that place.) Words like “One of what we are celebrating. It’s the birth of our the things I love about you is that you are kind” acknowledge the nation and our freedom. Those Americans who have never work your child is doing on being unique. known anything else have no clue what a priceless gift freedom is. Maybe your family can find ways to practice a few freedoms — and if you’re reading this after the Fourth, Freedom to live in a safe environment these freedoms still count: Everyone in your family needs to be kind. There needs to be zero tolerance and immediate consequences for ANY unkind Freedom of speech act. Although I recommend the Minute Drill (see parentingsos. com), I’m going to teach the Penalty Box for this training. For Ask each of your children what they would change about hitting, disrespect or unkindness, a child is sent to the Penalty the way you parent. If someone says something that cannot Box for as many minutes as they are old. The challenging part be changed (such as, “Stop using the Minute Drill”), smile to teach is that a sound cannot be made when the child is in and say, “Thank you for telling me your feelings. That is not the Penalty Box. If the child talks, screams or gets up, the time something that is going to change.” But be willing to bend, starts over — and over and over, until the child sits there quietly. wherever bending will build a bridge between you and your The Penalty box needs to be a chair or place that is always child. the same. In the beginning, a parent takes a child to the Penalty At a family meeting each week, have each child be free Box. Once the child is familiar with the location, the child will to tell another family member something that is bugging just walk to the Penalty Box, sit and be quiet. them. Be sure each person focuses on behavior, as personal If your family chooses to take on the zero unkindness rule, attacks are unkind and therefore unacceptable. An example you can have a set amount of time (3 minutes for little people, of what could be talked about would include: “It is upsetting 5 minutes for other children). If one child makes an unkind to me when you tease me about my hair, and I want you to comment, you say, “Penalty Box, right now.” One child trips stop doing it.” The manner of approaching such a subject is another child — “Penalty Box!” A child throws a toy at another important, too. It is not acceptable to attack. Avoid speaking child — “Penalty Box!” this way: “You are such a jerk! You think it is funny to tease Lastly, in our country you have the freedom to parent your me, but I think you are mean and I hate you!” way; what other parents think of you is none of your business. You are the architect of a human being’s life. Choose well.
Freedom to vote
One of our most devalued rights is the right to vote. Tell your kids about the history of voting (Google.com). Have family meetings once a week where kids may vote on predetermined ideas, not non-negotiable rules and standards. Vote on what game to play, what movie to watch, etc.
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For more than 54 years, Sandy has been an international speaker and recognized authority on families and children. Author of five books, columnist, founder of parentingsos.com, she is a resident of Meridian and loves spending time with her three Idaho grandchicks. Semi-retired, she speaks to schools, churches, and MOPS groups and provides parent coaching sessions in person and on the phone. She is available for parenting talks/trainings in the Treasure Valley and may be reached at sandy@ parentingsos.com. Also, go to YouTube: Sandy Spurgeon McDaniel to see videos on specific parenting issues. www.idahofamilymagazine.com
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THE HORNEY Village
The connection from fireworks to By Jessie Horney
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t’s 100 degrees by lunchtime every day and firework stands pop up on every available corner, but I can’t help thinking about Christmas. The 4th of July always makes me think about Christmas. Kids from all over town pedal bikes across sweltering pavement to stare at clapboard walls pasted over with firework posters advertising things that ought to be shouted, like “The Avalanche” and “Black Night Explosions” and “Fiery Clouds.” The sweaty kids agonize over what to buy, hand over their sweaty, crumpled dollar bills for Black Cats and firecrackers, then ride off with backpacks full of explosives. My mom used to be the one selling those explosives; she was the one in a lawn chair with a book to read when things got slow, the one organizing shelves of combustible merchandise, the one running the firework stand for a week every summer. My parents did not lead a simple life. My dad pastored a small Baptist church (very small, more like a large dysfunctional family than a congregation) and owned a remodeling business, while involving himself in countless other endeavors. An entrepreneur to the fullest measure, he is a man of dreams and hypotheticals, a man of longing and heartache. The way I remember my dad in my childhood is the way I feel when I see old pictures of him: enthralled, distant, equal parts afraid and adoring. There’s my dad at graduate school in 1978, head full of blonde hair and face alight with a slightly smug gap-toothed grin as he cradles his first baby. There’s my dad in 1989, father now to 7 children, blonde hair receding rapidly off his head, a half-demolished house in the background, adventure in his eyes. It is completely shocking that my dad even has 7 kids. As a grandfather now, he is the dad I think he would’ve been if life hadn’t squeezed around him like a vice for all those decades of raising us and a church and a company, all at once. He was not an available person. But if you’ll believe it, I don’t resent him. Because while I love my father, and crave his approval even now, it is my mother who holds my childhood in her hands. My mom likes to say that she tricked my dad and asked for 14 kids so they could “meet in the middle” and have 7. The truth is, many of us were surprise arrivals. Conservative Baptist members might dress up for church, but apparently they have no qualms loosening up in the bedroom. Almost every family we knew had at least 4 children — I don’t have
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any memories without a pack of kids around me, cousins and friends alike. And at the head of the pack stood my mother, dark hair loose around her face, shoulder pads giving authority to her knit shirts and dress jackets, full of a desperate desire to give her kids the love and safety she didn’t feel in her own childhood. With her husband working for God (no money) and a fledging remodeling business (fluctuating money), my mom walked the fine line of managing a house full of kids and their constant needs (soccer fees! new shoes! medical bills! dental appointments! groceries! clothes! mission trips! tutoring!) and fighting back her longing to give us everything we wanted. While no child should get everything they want, the truth is, it hurts when you know you can’t do it anyways. As a mother now, I ache when I think of how my mom daydreamed with us about what she would do if money weren’t a factor. She didn’t tell us about trips she wanted to take or things she wanted for herself; she dreamt of redecorating our bedrooms. Of buying brand new wardrobes for us instead of piecing them together from sales at ShopKo and hand-me-downs. Of sending us to every summer camp we wanted to attend. As a little girl I couldn’t understand the yearning behind those conversations, how primal a mother’s desire is to be generous and good to her babies. That bone-deep drive is why our mother stood at a temporary firework shanty in the parking lot between The Wave (a now defunct burger joint in west Boise — sorely missed) and the 7-11 gas station (also gone) and hawked sparklers, Family Value Variety Packs, and tiny boxes of snappers for one week every summer. She stood in that parking lot, working for a friend who owned several firework stands, so that 6 months later she could create a Christmas miracle in our living room. I never knew. I never ran down the stairs on December 25, glanced at our piles of gifts, and thanked my mom for selling fireworks and saving the money to buy us beautiful dolls and coveted boom boxes. I didn’t know where our gifts came from, how my parents suddenly had extra cash to fulfill the wishes of 7 kids and make dreams come true. I just knew that Christmas morning was my mom’s dream come true. I knew she beamed as we opened each present. I knew she curated each of our gifts to create a perfect, individualized experience
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Christmas of joy. My mother was the goodness of my life, and Christmas morning was her only chance to lavish that goodness on us in tangible, material ways. The rest of the year she and my dad took care of us, loved us, provided for every need and some of our wants; but Christmas existed on a different plane. On that holy day my mom burst with love and glowed like her fireworks, and that light got into us. Her sacrifice lit something inside each of her sons and daughters, and it made us generous. Kind. It made us love our own children in a way I don’t think we could have managed without a mom who led the way, in the scorching heat of a Boise July, in a plywood shack full of roman candles and slow burning fountains of sparks, with a paperback mystery and a cold soda and a resolve that only a mother can hold. We celebrate the 4th of July to celebrate our freedom, and we eat burgers and light fireworks in gratitude for the sacrifices that make our democracy possible. But when I watch that twilight sky erupt with color and the smell of sulfur falls around me in a neighborhood full of hollering kids, I think of my mom and her sacrifices. And I am more thankful than ever.
T he author’s circa 1988. mother at Eagle Island , (Courtesy ph oto)
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ADOPTION: A Different Kind of Love Story
Harpers learn pain, reward of fostering By Kevin Harper
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ur family started fostering over 17 Some came in as infants, others toddlers, years ago. My wife, Diane, and school age, or teens. Many of our former I initially looked into adoption foster kids are now young adults, and we are and thought it was too expensive, blessed to still be connected with many of so we literally put the big three-ring binder them. One asked to come back to live with of information we had accumulated up on us recently in order to get out of an abusive a shelf. About a year after the birth of the relationship. youngest of our four biological children, Our first teen came to us with a toddler and Diane asked me what I thought about has now gone on to get married and start a adopting now. I immediately said yes. God family. We’ve had kids come back to us for had been working on my heart at the same marriage advice, relationship advice, and time, and that conversation set us on a path parenting advice. of growth from adoption to fostering that has Kevin Harper But we’ve also had troubled teens run become part of our family identity. away, or slip out of the house late at night. Some might question the idea that it is growth to go from We’ve received that dreaded knock on the door from law considering adoption to considering fostering, that maybe we enforcement in the early morning hours. So fostering isn’t have it backwards. To them, I’ll just say that foster care is not always a “feel good” thing. The hard moments are balanced for everyone. If your heart is set on building a family, and you by the knowledge that we’re doing something with long-term want to adopt for that reason, then by all means go through impact. Sometimes we simply have to invest in these kids a private adoption. It’s not right to put already traumatized with a longer horizon for success than we would like. They foster kids into families that are not in this mission field with break our hearts and bring us to tears all the time. Getting both feet. attached is not an option. That’s the way it’s supposed to be. Reunification is the goal of foster care, unless the child is Despite the challenges, fostering is very rewarding. As in the Wednesday’s Child program, or parental rights have believers, we can’t define success by what we see today, but already been terminated. In foster care, there are trials, by what we have faith that we’ll see over time. We have to frustrations, and setbacks when you invite kids who have invest time into these children’s lives without expecting them been through different levels of trauma into your home. So to reciprocate immediately. Sometimes they acknowledge it, don’t do it if this thought is too scary for you. and sometimes they don’t. More often, they don’t — not for Our family now consists of four biological, three adopted, years, at least. and numerous foster kids who are now connected to us. It’s great to comfort a kid who misses his mom, but it’s even
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better when you have an opportunity to encourage his mom to make the life changes she needs to make to raise her boy right. For those whom God is preparing to foster teens, in particular, sometimes your measure of success is that they survive past 20 years old until their brain matures enough to make better decisions. You don’t have to be perfect, or to think you’re perfect, to do foster care. The runaways have a way of making us feel like complete failures. But at some point, God smacks us around and gives us some encouragement to continue speaking life into these kids’ lives. So we’ll do our best to stay connected to even the toughest of these kids. We have plenty of positive stories under our belt to compensate (on most days) for the heartbreaks along the way. There’s an infant we had, and we still keep in touch with his birth mom a couple years later. She texts pictures of him growing up, and he’s adorable. One of the school age girls we’ve had in our home is still friends with our girl around the same age, and we still get the two together for play dates. We
keep in touch with many of our former foster teens through Facebook and Instagram. Some are closer to us than others, and that’s okay. At the end of each day, we are blessed by the relationships we have with these kids, their birth parents, and now young adults who have left our home and gone on to live productive lives. We are also passionate about helping other like-minded families get started doing foster care. Every community in Idaho needs new foster families, especially families who are willing to take teens and school age kids. If you think you’re up to the task, please contact FosteringIdaho.org. Kevin Harper is the author of the upcoming book “Foster Parenting Teens,” and a foster care speaker, trainer, and mentor with Family Resource & Training Center. His daughter, Saty Cornelius, just released a book about the experiences of foster teens titled “More to Me,” available on Amazon. Connect with Kevin on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @fosterbetter.
WEDNESDAY’S CHILD
Shelby loves animals and adventure The following information is provided by Wednesday’s Child, an organization that helps Idaho foster children find permanent homes. Shelby, 14, is an animal lover through and through, which was evident when she recently visited a rescue farm. Having grown up as a country girl surrounded by animals, this spunky girl was right at home riding a horse; playing with the bunnies, pigs and a baby calf; and bottle feeding a 3-day-old tiny goat. She dreams of a home on a farm, or at least in the country, but would be content to be in town as well, as long as her new family is adventurous and values providing her with opportunities to be involved in activities and try new things. Shelby describes herself as “a handful” but in a good way. She wants to ride 4 wheelers and dirt bikes and would love to learn to barrel race in a rodeo. Like most teenagers, music is important to her, and she loves to listen to anything — from country to hip-hop to heavy metal music. She enjoys camping, swimming, tanning and board games and is looking forward to making new holiday traditions together with her new family. www.idahofamilymagazine.com
Her favorite subjects in school are science and biology, and she can’t wait to get to the section where they get to dissect something. She one day hopes to go to college and become a veterinarian so that she can be surrounded every day by the animals she loves so much. Shelby is a beautiful girl inside and out and has so much to offer the right family. If you feel that you can offer this resilient girl the love, acceptance and forever commitment that she deserves, inquire today for more information. For more information on the Idaho Wednesday’s Child Program, visit www.idahowednesdayschild.org, or contact Recruitment Coordinator Shawn White at swhite52@ewu.edu or 208-488-8989 if you have specific questions. Idaho Family Magazine | JULY 2018 11
INTELLIGENCE types
Discerning your child’s natural By Daniel Bobinski
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ou’ve probably heard of IQ , a visualize things in their mind both accurately person’s “intelligence quotient,” (concretely) and abstractly (conceptually). but did you know that intelligence Bodily-Kinesthetic. People scoring strong is much broader than that? in this area have an ability to control their Standard IQ tests mostly measure a own body movements, and also to handle / person’s ability to work with visual shapes, manipulate objects skillfully. mathematical problems, language, and Interpersonal. People scoring strong in this cognitive recall. You might say those four area have a capacity to detect and respond areas cover a lot, but Howard Gardner, from appropriately to the moods, motivations, and the Harvard Graduate School of Education, desires of others. proposes that all humans have at least nine Intrapersonal. People scoring strong in this different areas of intelligence, and each area can easily tune into their feelings, values, person has several areas that are dominant, beliefs, and thinking processes. In other words, Daniel Bobinski some that are “average,” and some that are not they are quite self-aware. so strong. Naturalist. People scoring strong in this area have an Let’s jump right in. Here are the nine areas of intelligence ability to recognize, relate to and systematize things in nature, identified by Gardner: such as plants, animals, and other natural objects. Verbal-Linguistic. People scoring strong in this area have Existential/Spiritual. People scoring strong in this area have well-developed verbal skills and sensitivity to the sounds, a desire and capacity to tackle deep questions about human meanings, and the rhythm of words. existence and the meaning of life. Mathematical-Logical. People scoring strong in this area If you’re wondering why I used the words “natural have an innate ability to think conceptually and abstractly, motivation” in the headline of this article, it’s because I with a strong capacity to discern logical or numerical strongly believe that if someone has innate intellect in a patterns. certain area, then that person is naturally motivated to Musical. People scoring strong in this area have an ability pursue activities in that area. With that in mind, this model to understand and appreciate rhythm, pitch and timbre. is useful for parents to help their children discover the world They are often adept at creating music, as well. around them. After all, if a parent and child have different Visual-Spatial. People scoring strong in this area have natural motivations, it’s easy for misunderstandings and hurt a capacity to think in images and pictures, as well as to feelings to occur. However, if a parent is aware of what drives
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motivation a child’s interests, the parent can help that child blossom. Whether your child is 4 or 14, you can look at behaviors as clues for which areas might be your child’s stronger intelligences. Here are some examples: • 8-year-old David is gifted at assembling model ships and airplanes and seems to be a born tree-climber. He also loves doing role plays and acting in skits. Chances are that David has innate intelligence in Bodily / Kinesthetic. • As for 6-year-old Eva, she sings with beautiful pitch and seems to pick up melodies and rhythms naturally. She can also tell you when instruments are out of tune. Chances are she has a strong Musical intelligence. • Whenever Russell picks up a pencil, he starts drawing realistic scenes. He’s also very good at reading maps and loves photography. It’s likely that Russell is strong in Visual / Spatial intelligence. • Simon loves doing science experiments and thinks it’s fun to solve math puzzles in his head. Memorizing his multiplication table was a snap. Here we could deduce that Simon is strong in Logical / Mathematical. • 7-year-old Anna loves to read. She loves word games and regularly asks what different words mean when she hears adults using them. Chances are that Anna has strong Verbal / Linguistic intelligence. • Olivia just seems to “get” people. At 12, she is the person that her friends turn to when they need an ear. She reads their body language well, and helps her friends see things from different perspectives. It’s likely that Olivia has strong Interpersonal intelligence. • Carl can tell you all about birds and their nesting habits. He loves camping and hiking and exploring along creeks and rivers. It’s probable that Carl has strong Naturalist intelligence. • Kaitlyn is known for seeing the big picture on many things. She enjoys being outside, and asks a lot of questions about life. Discussions about religions are always of interest to her. It’s likely that Kaitlyn has an innate Existential (Spiritual) intelligence. • 9-year-old Hailey keeps a diary and enjoys spending time alone, appearing introverted. She is self-motivated, but prefers working independently. It’s possible that Hailey has a strong Intrapersonal intelligence. To my knowledge, Gardner has not released an assessment for measuring preferences in these areas and none of the free ones available online have impressed me. Therefore, my company brought together some experts and together we created an assessment that identifies one’s preferences in these nine areas. It’s still in beta, so as of this writing it’s available for free, and I invite you to take advantage of that. www.idahofamilymagazine.com
Just visit workplacelms.com/namo to take it. Have your spouse take one, too, and if your child is old enough (10), you can have him/her take one, too. If the child is younger, you can assist and explain each question along the way. Caution: Be unbiased in your voice tone and let your child decide for him/herself. If your child is very young, you can strive to identify your child’s preferences by observation. Just look for the two or three strong aptitudes that stand out. Now the big question: How can you use this info to help your child? Easy. Just visit surfaquarium.com/MI/profiles. There you will find excellent tips for how to support your child in ways your child will love. And if you have questions beyond the info provided on that site, feel free to contact me for how to find additional resources. Daniel Bobinski, M.Ed., runs two businesses. One helps teams and individuals learn how to use Emotional Intelligence. The other helps companies improve their training programs. He’s also a homeschooling dad, a best-selling author, and a popular speaker at conferences and retreats. Reach him at daniel@eqfactor.net or 208-375-7606.
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2 almost-empty nesters at a baby shower By Beth Markley
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don’t think I’ve ever been to a baby a photo op. It was a no-go. shower before.” Instead we sat in the mid-life corner, with This was Mike’s confession to me as the rest of our gang of parents of teens, we were walking up to the door to our empty nesters, and hip grandparents. We friends’ home on a Saturday afternoon late talked about our dogs or our jobs or the next last year. trip we were planning. Had I realized this earlier, I would have I thought about the soon-to-be new parents thought of some way to punk him. Maybe and the hurricane that was about to hit their made up some fake baby shower etiquette to household. I thought about what their lives share with him in the car. But, right then, on would be like when the diapers didn’t smell the spot like that, I couldn’t think of the right remotely like chocolate, and the cute baby thing to say that would freak him out just headbands made this afternoon would be put enough for us to laugh about it later, but not away because plastic beads and glue-gunned Beth Markley enough for him to bolt. These things take some flowers are choking hazards. finesse and the look on his face had me worried. I think I’ve said before, I’m not a bit nostalgic for the baby So I just shrugged. days. I don’t have the energy for that amount of work on that “There’ll probably be mimosas.” little sleep, wearing clothing that always manages to attract a The mom-to-be greeted us with a huge smile, wearing a stain or four before I can even leave the house. flattering, floral print dress. Back when I was that far along But I do remember what it felt like, on the verge of with either of my pregnancies, you’d likely find me in a something powerful and frightening and hopeful, in the days baggy pair of overalls that gave me the profile of Uncle just prior to the arrival of our first son. I remember praying Jesse on Dukes of Hazard. On alternate days I’d switch we had what it took to not screw up in such a way that he’d between one of the two knit tops that still fit. On dressier tell stories about us one day in therapy. days, I might wear shoes. I could go on like that for a Back when we were still just talking about having kids and couple weeks. one of us was pretty sure we wanted them and the other This was a couples’ shower, which I hoped meant it wasn’t so sure, I remember not being able to put my finger would be light on the traditional baby shower activities. on what the big deal was. You pop out a couple of shrieking Anyone suggest Mike try to guess the girth of the guest gooey, slobbery maniacs, who demand every second of of honor, or what kind of chocolate bar was melted into your time, attention and energy, make you broke and cost a baby diaper, and the bolting thing would likely happen, you sleep. And if you’re lucky they grow up and don’t ask prank or no. to move back in when they’re broke and may even have a I pocketed the car keys, couple of shrieking, gooey, just in case. slobbery maniacs of their There weren’t any games, own. thankfully. There were And then you can sit on mimosas and a table full a patio with some of your of food. A few guys sat in friends and drink mimosas the living room watching and talk about dogs and trips a football game. A group and jobs and the like. of young women were on I’m still trying to find a the porch with a hot glue way to articulate what this gun and a basket full of all means. The parenting ribbons and flowers. I think thing. What’s the big deal? we were supposed to make Since becoming parents, a party favor or something from moment to moment for the new baby if we felt during the last couple of the urge. decades we’ve swung from I offered Mike cash if he anxiety so intense it feels would make a craft. Just for like suffocating, to episodes 14 JULY 2018 | Idaho Family Magazine
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of side-splitting laughter, also often so intense it’s a little like suffocating. We’ve fallen asleep at 8 p.m. on the couch and been woken before dawn the next morning. We’ve coached and chauffeured and chaperoned. We’ve put our foot down. We’ve been too lenient. We’ve taken credit for their successes and sought forgiveness for our failures. And now that we have a couple of nearly-grown people ready to launch, for better or for worse, their own lives, I still don’t think I can tell you what it all means. Except they still make us laugh, they still challenge us and worry us and inflate our egos and infuriate us. They still cost us money. They eat all the chips before I can get to them. They put dings in my car and keep dirty dishes in their rooms. We say they’re going to be the death of us, but we’re not as exasperated as much as we’re wondering if, when they finally do leave, we’ll see them nearly as much as we’d like, and if we’ve taught them enough to handle their own shrieking, gooey, slobbery maniacs, and all the other hurdles they’ll face without us. Our shower gift to the young couple was a small stack of books. If the new parents are lucky, they’ll come to a point where they know every word on every page of those books and others, and the feeling of reading them while half asleep to a little person who turns the pages with pudgy fingers, her hair smelling like that lavender shampoo that’s supposed to make her drowsy. “More, read more,” she’ll beg, and they’ll relent. Every single time, they’ll relent. And probably without wondering what it all means. Beth Markley is a humor writer and fundraising consultant who lives in Boise with her husband and two sons. She now writes regularly on her new website, MidlifeSentence.com (Dispatches from the Crossroads of ‘Been There Done That’ and ‘Oughta Know Better’).
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CALENDAR Foodbank Picnic in the Park
splashdown pool and access to the Natatorium Pool, where the entire family can enjoy a large swimming pool, diving boards, wading pool, turfed sunning area and concession stand. Also, plenty of deck space is provided to accommodate people who want to sunbathe. For fees and hours, call 208-608-7675 or go to parks.cityofboise.org.
Family Golf Month
Parent and Tot Skate Thursdays
Traveling Playground
CableONE Movie Night in Meridian
The Idaho Foodbank’s Picnic in the Park program will be providing free lunch for anyone 1-18 years old at various sites across Boise from now through August 10. To find a site near you, meal service times, and general program information, visit idahofoodbank.org/programs/picnic-in-the-park/. July is Family Golf Month at Ridgecrest Golf Club in Nampa. Kids get a large bucket of range balls for $3 (limit one per day) throughout the entire month. On July 8-14, there will be discounted green fees for kids 17 and under. Go to ridgecrestgolf.com. Nampa Parks & Recreation’s Traveling Playground visits various locations from now until August 16. It’s free to participate. For more information, call 208-468-5858 or visit nampaparks.org.
Mobile Recreation Van
Join the Boise Parks & Recreation Department for free supervised drop-in activities all summer from now through August 17. Boise Parks & Recreation staff members coordinate field games, teach art techniques and serve a healthful snack. (No Mobile Recreation on July 4.) For more information call 208-854-4917.
Friday and Saturday Family Slide Nights
Enjoy unlimited access to water attractions during Family Slide Nights at Roaring Springs on Fridays and Saturdays from now through August 25. From 6 to 10 p.m., enjoy water activities with your family while the sun sets. For more information, go to www.roaringsprings.com.
Alive After Five Summer Concert Series
Attend the Alive After Five Summer Concert Series from 5 to 8 p.m. every Wednesday from June through August at the Grove Plaza, 827 W. Main St. in dowtown Boise; 2018 marks the 32nd year of the program. It’s free to attend. For more information, go to downtownboise.org.
Golf Family Fun Nights
Family Fun Nights are a great way to get the family out on the golf course and save some money at the same time. Every Saturday and Sunday after 4 p.m., spend your evening at Centennial Golf Course or Ridgecrest Golf Club in Nampa. Each group must have at least one adult and one child (17 and under) to receive the discounted rate. For more information, call 208-468-5889 (Centennial) or 208-468-5888 (Ridgecrest). Some youth golf clubs are available for use.
The Hydrotube
The Hydrotube opened June 1 and is located in Boise at the Natatorium Pool, 1811 Warm Springs Ave. behind Adams Elementary School. The facility features a fun and fast, safe water slide with
arents and children 8 and under may skate from 10:30 to 11:30 a.m. each Thursday at Idaho IceWorld for only $5 per person. This is a special stroller-friendly public skating session. Price includes skate rental. Go to idahoiceworld.com for more information. Grab your family, friends, and neighbors this summer and join Meridian Parks and Recreation for CableONE Movie Night in Meridian every Friday in June, July, and August. Free family-friendly movies are shown on a giant inflatable outdoor screen in Settlers Park. Each week, a different community partner joins the fun, sometimes bringing bounce houses or give-aways. Treats and beverages are available. Bring lawn chairs and blankets. All movies start at dusk. To view the movie schedule and watch trailers, visit www.meridiancity.org/movienight. Share the moments in pictures and videos with the hashtag #MeridianMovieNight on social media or on the new @MovieNightinMeridian Facebook page.
Village New Parent Groups
Parents with babies born January-early June of 2018 are invited to build their Village at the Library! at Bown Crossing. Sharing experiences and learning from other parents at the same stage in the early parenting journey can have an immense impact on the social/emotional health of new parents. Village groups are fun and social, and each meeting includes time for sharing parenting highs and lows. Groups meet for 10 weeks for approximately 1.5 hours per meeting. Potluck dinners will be organized. A meeting will be held at 6:30 p.m. Tuesday, July 3. For more information about upcoming meetings, contact Danielle Worthy at dworthy@cityofboise. org or 208-972-8360. A similar group meets at the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian Library District. Contact Skye Corey at scorey@mld.org or 208-888-4451. The Cherry Lane group will meet from 9:30 to 11 a.m. Friday, July 6, as well as other days.
Teen Night: Morse Code Jewelry
Teens, learn how to make your own Morse code bracelets, necklaces and key fobs/zipper pulls and wear coded messages all the time. The craft program, for young people ages 12-17, will take place at 7 p.m. Tuesday, July 3, at the main branch of Boise Public Library. All supplies will be provided. Go to boisepubliclibrary.org. (The program on July 10 is Ridiculous Relays; the program on July 17 is Candy Sushi; and the program on July 24 is Escape Room.)
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Tuesday Family Summer Movies, 2-4 p.m.: • July 3 – Captain Underpants • July 10 – Lego DC Super Hero “The Flash” • July 17 – Paddington 2 • July 24 – Nut Job 2 • July 31 – Sherlock Gnome • August 7 – Despicable Me 3 Check out all the events at nampalibrary.org.
Ada Library Activities
Ada County Library branches feature a number of family- and youth-friendly programs. Following is a brief list of events for July and August: Hidden Springs Branch Library, www. adalib.org/hiddensprings, 208-229-2665 • Tuesdays, 1 p.m., Archaeology Club, ages 5-9 • July 9, 11 a.m., Idaho Museum of Mining and Geology program, all ages – hands-on for kids 3 and up • July 16, 11 a.m., Treasure Valley Children’s Theater program, all ages • July 20, 11 a.m., author Buck Buchanan, his book “Denni-Jo and Pinto,” with music and crafts, all ages • July 23, 11 a.m., Boise Rock School concert, all ages • July 30, 11 a.m., Climbing Wall & Pet Rocks (to paint yourself), all ages Lake Hazel Branch Library, www.adalib. org/lakehazel, 208-297-6700
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of Events • July 3, 2 p.m., Mr. X Magic Show, all ages • July 10, 2 p.m., Guinness World Record attempt, involves juggling-chopsticks-bursting balloons, all ages • July 12, 4:30 p.m., get inked with henna (must have parents’ permission slip), ages 12-18 • July 17, 2 p.m., Boise Rock School performance, all ages • July 24, 2 p.m., Bandemonium: A Puppet Play, all ages • July 25, 4:30 p.m., Murder Mystery: Death of a Rocker, ages 8-11 • July 26, 4:30 p.m., Murder Mystery: Death of a Rocker, ages 12-18 • July 31, 2 p.m., Idaho Museum of Mining and Geology, all ages – hands-on fun for 3 and up • August 1, 4:30 p.m., Locked Box Mystery: Spy School, ages 8-11 • August 7, 2 p.m., Dance Party, old favorites-new moves, all ages • August 8, 4:30 p.m., DIY Unicorn Bags, ages 8-11 • August 9, 4:30 p.m., DIY headphone cases and wraps, ages 12-18 • August 11, 2 p.m., Touch-a-Truck, all ages • August 11, 6-8 p.m., Glow in the Dark Par-Tay, ages 12-18 Star Branch Library, www.adalib.org/star, 208-286-9755 • July 10, 2 p.m., Museum of Mining & Geology: Meteorites, all ages • July 11, 2 p.m., Meet an Artist: Albrecht Durer, presentation and craft-making, all ages • July 14, 3 p.m., Natural Beauty, skin care and makeup workshop, ages 10-18 • July 17, 2 p.m., Sody Sallyratus: A Puppet Show, all ages • July 25, 2 p.m., Meet an Artist: Vincent Van Gogh, all ages • July 28, 2 p.m., Make-and-Take Cricut Craft, use the Cricut machine, ages 13 and up • July 31, 2 p.m., Bandemonium: A Puppet Play, all ages • August 7, 2 p.m., UnBirthday Party, all ages (not your birthday-no problem) • August 8, 2 p.m., Meet an Artist: Wassily Kandinsky, all ages Victory Branch Library, www.adalib.org/ victory, 208-362-0181 • July 5, 3 p.m., STEM Family Event, all ages • July 9, 4:30 p.m., get inked with henna (must have parents’ permission slip), ages 12-18 • July 11, 6:30 p.m., “A Perfect Day for an Albatross,” a book about fascinating birds, all ages • July 12, 3 p.m., Idaho Museum of Mining Geology: Rocks, Meteorites and Minerals, all ages
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• July 16, 4:30 p.m., play Hungry Hungry Hippos, ages 12-18 • July 19, 3 p.m., Treasure Valley Children’s Theater program, all ages • July 26, 3 p.m., Bandemonium: A Puppet Play, all ages • July 30, 4:30 p.m., Solar S’mores, build a solar oven and cook s’mores, ages 12-18 • August 2, 3 p.m., Meet the Raptors, live raptors and kids’ take-home activities, all ages • August 6, 4:30 p.m., Antique Book Charging Stations, organize cords-turn a book into a charging station, ages 12-18 • August 9, 3 p.m., Totally Awesome ‘80s Party, all ages • August 13, 4:30 p.m., Life-Sized Angry Birds, ages 12-18
Neighborhood Time
Join the Library! at Bown Crossing each week to watch an episode of “Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood,” talk about it, and then participate in a fun activity. All ages are welcome. On Thursday, July 5, at 4 p.m., the group will watch “Tom O’Horgan’s Unusual Musical Instruments.” Go to boisepubliclibrary.org for more information. (Another Neighborhood Time will be held on July 12.)
31st Street Machine Shootout
A family-friendly Street Machine Shootout will take place from noon to 10:30 p.m. Saturday, July 7, at Firebird Raceway, 8551 Hwy. 16 in Eagle. For more information, go to firebirdonline.com. Other activities in July include the Midnight Drags, which will start at 7 p.m. on July 21.
Boise Rock School at the Library
Boise Rock School wants to make music fun for everyone. Join them for an interactive gig, hear a performance, become part of a band, learn about instruments, and make an instrument to take home, beginning at 6:30 p.m. Monday, July 9, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. Go to mld. org.
Storytime: All Ages, Stories and Songs
Dance, clap, and sing along with a music and movement storytime for all ages. Join Mr. Michael and his animal friends for stories and songs that will have the whole family on their feet. The program will begin at 9:15 a.m. Tuesday, July 10, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. Go to mld.org.
Craft Corner
Join the fun and come craft with others from 6 to 8 p.m. Thursday, July 5, at the Library! at Cole & Ustick. Bring your own craft or come to get new ideas for your next project. Everyone and every craft is welcome. (Please bring your own craft and supplies.) Go to boisepubliclibrary.org.
Silver Screen on the Green
Grab a blanket, lawn chair, and family and friends and head to Optimist Park in Nampa for a free movie every Friday night throughout summer. Movies are shown on an inflatable screen; fun activities begin at 8:30 p.m., and the movies begin at dusk. Movies for the remainder of summer include: July 6, “Paddington 2”; July 13, “The Incredibles”; July 20, “The Little Mermaid”; July 27, “Coco”; August 3, “Sherlock Gnomes”; August 10, “The Lion King”; and August 17, “Cars 3.” For more information, call 208-468-5858 or go to www.nampaparks.org.
Family Snooze at the Zoo Overnight
This event is for parents and children ages 7 and up. Zoo guides will provide evening and early morning treks through the zoo to investigate animals and their habitats, behavior and care. There will also be activities, games, art projects, and up-close animal encounters, plus an evening snack and continental breakfast. Indoor/outdoor sleeping areas are provided. Upcoming dates throughout the summer include July 6-7 and August 4-5. Pre-registration is required in advance. For more information, go to https:// zooboise.org/events/events-home/snooze-at-thezoo/.
MAKE ART TOGETHER!
Drop-in artmaking programs for children accompanied by an adult. Free with the price of admission. Toddler Wednesday Sponsored by Target
August 1, 2018 10:00 a.m. - Noon Learn to draw shapes with oil pastels after exploring brightly colored artwork. Family Art Saturday Sponsored by Richard and Sondra Hackborn
August 25, 2018 Noon - 3:00 p.m. Make a print with abstract forms inspired by artwork in BAM’s featured exhibition.
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CALENDAR “Movies Under the Stars”
Eight fun-filled family “Movies Under the Stars” evenings will be held throughout the summer beginning at 7 p.m. and featuring free fun and games for kids provided by the Boise Parks & Recreation Mobile Recreation Van. Capture the Flag and Dodgeball are some of the activities for kids of all ages. At dusk, family-friendly movies will be shown on a 30-foot inflatable movie screen. “Movies Under the Stars” will take place on the following days at the following locations: July 14, Peppermint Park, 2030 S. Sumpter Way; July 21, Julia Davis Park; July 28, Sunset Park, 2625 N. 32nd St.; August 4, Fort Boise Park, 155 E. Garrison Rd.; and August 11, Julia Davis Park. For more information, call 208-608-7680 or go to parks.cityofboise.org.
Noodle Mania at Lakeview Park
Play and float with foam floatable noodles from 1 to 4:45 p.m. July 14 and August 11 at Lakeview Water Park in Nampa. For more information, go to nampaparksandrecreation.org.
Deaf Awareness Day at Roaring Springs Caldwell Farmers Market
The Caldwell Farmers Market is held on Wednesdays throughout the summer at Indian Creek Park at 7th and Blaine. The market is open from 3 to 7 p.m. Check it out on July 11; the market features live music, hamburgers, sno cones, and kettlecorn, along with products to buy.
Stampede Community Festival
The 2018 Stampede Community Festival is set for July 12-14 at Lakeview Park in Nampa. Throughout the 3-day event, there will be vendor booths, a Fireman’s Charity Bar B Que, Kiwanis Steak Fry, Boys & Girls Club Breakfast, FFA Youth activities, great music and more. Go to Facebook. com/StampedeCommunityFestival/.
Nampa Firefighters Burnout Fund BBQ
In conjunction with the Stampede Community Festival, Nampa Firefighters will host a fundraising barbecue beginning at 5 p.m. Friday, July 13, in Lakeview Park. A $10 suggested donation will purchase a BBQ pulled pork sandwich, coleslaw, beans, beverages and a dessert bar. There will be live music, kids’ games, firetrucks and a silent auction — all for a great cause.
Black & White Ball
Royal Family Kids’ Camp of Boise will host its 18th annual Black & White Ball from 6:30 to 10:30 p.m. Friday, July 13, at JUMP in Boise. This elegant semi-formal event will feature dancing and entertainment by the Big Wow band, a keynote address by Eldridge Broussard, light refreshments, and live and silent auctions. The goal of the camp is to create positive memories for children of Idaho who have experienced trauma, abuse and neglect. Go to boise.royalfamilykids.org.
There will be discounted admission fees for the deaf and hard of hearing and their families from 11 a.m. to 8 p.m. Saturday, July 14, at Roaring Springs. Go to www.roaringsprings.com for more information.
Let’s Make Ice Cream
Children, teens and adults are welcome to come celebrate National Ice Cream Day by learning to make their own ice cream from 1 to 3 p.m. Sunday, July 15, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. Bring gloves — your hands might get cold. Go to mld.org.
Rock Climbing in the Boise Region
Teens and adults may attend this program that begins at 6:30 p.m. Wednesday, July 18, at the Library! at Collister. Local guidebook author Sandy Epeldi will present an overview of rock climbing in the Boise region. The presentation will feature the Black Cliffs, Table Rock, Mores Mountain and many other rock climbing opportunities within a 4-hour drive from Boise. Sprinkled throughout the program will be retro tidbits of local climbing history and lore. Even if you aren’t a climber you’ll enjoy learning about what nature has to offer in this region. Go to boisepubliclibrary.org for more info.
Foster / adoption meetings
The first step in finding out more about being a foster or adoptive parent in the State of Idaho is by attending an information or orientation meeting. This event will give you a basic understanding of who the children in need are; the roles and responsibilities of foster/adoptive parents; and the process you will need to go through to become licensed to foster or adopt. You will hear from experienced foster and adoptive families about the rewards and challenges of fostering/adopting. You will learn more about the background of some of the children and the length of time it will take to get a placement. Attending a meeting does not commit you to anything. Information / orientation meetings are set for: 6:30 to 8 p.m. Wednesday, July 18, in the Idaho Room of Caldwell Public Library, 1010 Dearborn St.; and 6:30 to 8 p.m. Monday, July 23, at the Boise Police Department, 333 N. Mark Stall Pl.
Nampa’s Fitness in the Park – Family Zumba Take your workout outside this summer with Nampa Parks & Recreation. Taught by certified fitness instructors, the free classes will help you change up your routine and try something new. Workouts and locations differ each week; visit namparecreation.org for a complete schedule or call 208-468-5858. From 7:30 to 8:30 p.m. Thursday, July 19, the routine will include Zumba for the whole family. Zumba is a Latin-inspired cardio class that fuses music with easy movements. It will be held at Lloyd Square Park, 1 14th Ave. S. in Nampa.
Stalwart – A Brothers’ Story
A Youth Summer Play, in partnership with Boise Parks and Recreation, will be presented July 20-22 and July 26-27 at Boise Little Theater. A musical titled “Stalwart – A Brothers’ Story” is based on the true story of the Lind family during World War II. “Stalwart” is a glimpse into the Lind brothers’ life before, during and after the war. The story takes the audience to the Lind home, the military barracks, the combat field and the USO. For ticket and other information, go to http:// boiselittletheater.org/current-season/.
Keep It Simple Skills: Life
The Meridian Library at Cherry Lane invites teens and adults ages 16-24 to come learn “life tips” from 6:30 to 7:30 p.m. Wednesday, July 18, in the library’s small conference room. Enjoy an evening at the library with dinner provided. Learn a new skill from presenters and participate in a group discussion where you can meet others. Go to mld. org.
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Summer Fun Family Event
Reading Rocks!
The 2nd Annual Summer Fun Family Event at Kleiner Park will take place from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 21, at 1920 N. Records Way in Meridian. Admission is free, and activities will include a life-size Candy Land game, a scavenger hunt for prizes, a variety of food and vendors, kids’ activities, and raffles benefiting One Church – One Child and Fostering Idaho. Go to https://www. facebook.com/events/131435034226784 for more information.
Mini Basque Festival
Everyone is invited to come learn about Basque culture and history with the Basque Museum and Cultural Center, watch dances performed by the Oinkari Basque Dancers, and enjoy a taste of Basque food from 10:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. Saturday, July 21, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. Go mld.org.
Run Wild at Zoo Boise
Join Zoo Boise on Saturday, July 21, at 9 a.m. for a fun run for kids ages 2-11. There will be 3 different runs through the zoo, each broken up by age and distance. Registration is $25 ($20 for Zoo Boise annual passholders) and includes breakfast at Zoo Boise, after party, and participant (+1 parent or guardian) admission to the zoo. Online registration is not available after 3 p.m. on July 20, but will be available in person at 8 a.m. on the morning of the event. Go to zooboise.org for more information.
Courageous Kids Climbing
Courageous Kids Climbing will return for a third year to the YMCA Camp at Horsethief Reservoir near Cascade on July 21. Participants may attempt the climbing tower and rope confidence course. The program will run from 1 to 4 p.m., and, if he’s not out fighting a fire, Smokey the Bear will join in the fun, with support from the Cascade Fire Department. The program is for people with special needs. Pre-registration is required so that event organizers can insure they have the appropriate equipment on hand to accommodate each and every person who participates. To sign up, contact Coordinator Jeff Riechmann at jeffriechmann@cs.com, or visit Courageous Kids Climbing on Facebook.
Treasure Valley Children’s Theater presents, “Reading Rocks! or The Mystery of the Missing Stories” at 11 a.m. Saturday, August 4, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. What happens when all of the treasured books and favorite characters disappear? Only an intrepid team of quirky reading lovers can find out for sure in this entertaining and educational musical experience for children of all ages. Go to mld.org.
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Gazebo Concert Series in Heritage Park
A Gazebo Concert Series is held the last Thursday of each summer month through September at Heritage Park, 185 E. State St. in Eagle. The entertainers for the remainder of the summer include: July 26, Barton and Bollar & Winewood; August 30, Blues Addict; and September 27, Jared Elmore & Tylor and the Train Robbers. The event is family-friendly. For more information, go to cityofeagle.org.
Happy Birthday, Harry Potter
Grab your wands and come celebrate Harry Potter’s birthday with crafts, snacks and a costume contest from 6:30 to 8 p.m. Friday, July 27, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. Go to mld.org.
Autism Awareness Day at Roaring Springs
There will be discounted admission fees for those with autism and their families from 11 a.m. to 8 p.m. Monday, July 30, at Roaring Springs. Go to www.roaringsprings.com for more information.
There’s no asssigned reading in this book group for all ages. Silent Book Club is about taking time out of your busy schedule to simply relax and read, while spending time in the presence of fellow book lovers. Attend a meeting of the book group from 7 to 8:30 p.m. Monday, August 6, at the Library! at Collister, 4774 W. State St. in Boise. For more information, contact Paige Thomas at pthomas@ cityofboise.org.
Teen Cycling
An Introduction to Downhill Mountain Biking for young people ages 12-17 is set for August 13-17 from 8:30 to 11:30 a.m., beginning at Fort Boise Community Center. The course is offered through Boise Parks & Rec and co-sponsored by the Southwest Idaho Mountain Biking Association. For registration, fees and other information, go to parks.cityofboise.org or call 208-608-7680.
Michael Bradley: Musical Fun
Join local storyteller and musician Michael Bradley for an evening of songs, rhymes, stories, and surprises for the whole family at 6 p.m. Tuesday, July 31, at the Meridian Library at Cherry Lane. Go to mld.org.
Baby Palooza
This event for new or expecting parents is set for 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 22, at Expo Idaho. There will be more than 50 exhibitors offering products and services for maternity and babies and toddlers, as well as guest speakers. Admission is free.
Summer Girls Day Out
A day of pampering, beauty tips, delicious treats and more is set for 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday, July 22, at Expo Idaho. Admission is free.
Kids’ Summer Adventure: Shark Week
Celebrate Shark Week with a shark craft and treat at the Eagle Public Library from 2 to 3 p.m. Tuesday, July 24. For more information, go to libcal.eaglepubliclibrary.org.
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KIDS FIRST!
Experience Dino Dan’s many adventures By Ranny Levy
Introduction
In this complete series set, enjoy 50 dinofilled adventures with junior dinosaur expert, Trek Henderson, as he imagines dinosaurs in the real world. While Trek’s brother, Dan, is away helping his dad, it’s time for Trek to get his own dino time. Trek is going to finish some of the experiments in Dino Dan’s Field Guide, including seeing at least 18 dinosaurs that Dan has never seen before. Trek will even meet marine reptiles for the very first time. It’s time Imani to join Trek Henderson as he embarks on one dino adventure after another and all in his very own way. See the review below of Dino Dan: Trek’s Adventures: The Complete Series.
Review by Imani, age 16
Dino Dan: Trek’s Adventures: The Complete Series is a series for young kids, with a lot of excitement and fun adventures to go on. Kids will love this series if they have a big imagination and, of course, have a love of dinosaurs. On this DVD, there are 50 dino-filled adventures with the dinosaur expert, Trek Henderson. Trek imagines different types of dinosaurs in the real world throughout all of his experiences. While Trek’s brother, Dan, is away helping his dad with something, Trek takes over and entertains himself with his dinosaur world. The goal is to finish up some of the experiments that Dan has started. Trek even meets some new dinosaurs and marine reptiles that he hasn’t seen before. Join Trek on his wonderful adventures throughout the world of dinosaurs. One reason I really like this show is how they incorporate educational lessons into it. It’s not every day that you see a kids’ TV show that includes all kinds of educational facts
“The overall message in this series is that it’s okay to have an imagination and even share it with others.”
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within the storyline. This is exactly what this series does. For example, in the episode “Trek Rex,” Trek is having trouble figuring out what dinosaur he wants to dress up as for a party. Throughout the episode, he has various encounters with several dinosaurs to help him make his final decision. Trek and the dinosaurs’ encounters happen in the real world, in front of real people, so he is imagining it. I believe that creates a connection between Trek and kids in the real world, since many kids have big imaginations. The overall message in this series is that it’s okay to have an imagination and even share it with others. Trek has no problem sharing his findings out loud for everyone to hear and has no shame about doing that. This is what kids should feel. And, sharing their findings throughout their childhood is a cool thing to do. I rate this show 4 out of 5 stars for its playful storyline, exciting cast, imagination and much more. I would love to see the storyline develop more, but it’s perfect for younger kids. I recommend it for ages 5 through 10. This is available on DVD now, so check it out.
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Summer Events & Festivals July-September 2018 AUGUST EVENTS Kuna Days, August 3-4 This year’s theme: “Beach Party” kunachamber.com
JULY EVENTS Eagle Fun Days Eagle, July 6-7 Eagle Fun Days is all about family and community and includes a family bike night, street dance, parade and more cityofeagle.org/fundays
Lavender Merchant Lavender Festival Kuna, July 7-8 Lunch, desserts, lavender products and u-pick bouquets at 2871 Stroebel Road thelavendermerchant.net
Twilight Criterium Boise, July 14 Fast-paced cycling race in the heart of downtown Boise; kids’ cycling event also featured boisetwilightcriterium.com or downtownboise.org
Snake River Stampede Ford Idaho Center Nampa, July 17-21 One of the top 10 professional rodeos in the country, it’s billed as “The Wildest, Fastest Show on Earth”; it inclues a Community Festival in Nampa’s Lakeview Park, among other highlights snakeriverstampede.com
McCall Music Society SummerFest McCall, July 22-29 Week-long festival of classical chamber music and more, held at several venues in and around McCall; there are also Just for Kids programs mccallmusicsociety.org
Canyon County Fair Caldwell, July 26-29 “Find Your Fun” is the theme of this year’s fair and will include carnival rides, food, and musical entertainment canyoncountyfair.org
Mountain Home Country Music Festival Elmore County – 30 minutes from Mountain Home, July 27-29 Headliners this year include Eric Church, Dierks Bentley, Alan Jackson and more mountainhomefestival.com
Sun Valley Center Arts & Crafts Festival Atkinson Park Ketchum, August 10-12 Marking its 50th year, the annual exhibit of handmade works by artists from throughout the country also includes live music, food vendors and a children’s activity area sunvalleycenter.org
Nampa Festival of the Arts Lakeview Park Nampa, August 11-12 32nd annual celebration of the creative spirit of a diverse community, the event features more than 190 artisan booths and draws more than 18,000 attendees; also includes live entertainment, food concessions and free activities for kids nampaparksandrecreation.org
Caldwell Night Rodeo Caldwell, August 14-18 84th annual event includes YMCA Family Night, Power of Pink Night, Patriot Night and more caldwellnightrodeo.com
includes a non-motorized parade, pancake breakfast, bareback riding demonstrations, arts and crafts, and more wagondays.net
SEPTEMBER EVENTS Air Force Appreciation Day Mountain Home, Date TBD 58th annual event allows the City of Mountain Home to express its appreciation for Mountain Home Air Force Base by bringing people together for a parade, eats, treats and music mountainhomechamber.com
Art in the Park Julia Davis Park Boise, September 7-9 One of the city’s premier cultural events, highlighting the works of artists and craftspeople and including entertainment, food and kids’ activities boiseartmuseum.org
Lumberjack Days Orofino, September 13-16 Festivities include a carnival, parade, auction, log sawing and log rolling contests, all centered on the theme of “Timber, Trails & Historic Tales” orofinolumberjackdays.org
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Hyde Park Street Fair Camels Back Park Boise’s North End, September 14-16 Annual street fair includes vendors, kids’ activities, live music, exotic foods, community entertainers, and a wine garden
Western Idaho Fair Expo Idaho Boise, August 17-26 Concerts, carnival rides, all kinds of food booths and exhibits, plus much more
FitOneBoise Healthy Living Expo Boise Centre, September 20-21 Race Day – September 22, starting in Downtown Boise
Bannock County Bluegrass Festival Pocatello, August 17-19 15th annual festival of music features fiddle, banjo, acoustic guitar and mandolin
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Warbird Roundup Warhawk Air Museum Nampa, August 25-26 Amazing aerial events for the whole family to enjoy during this annual gathering of famous WWII airplanes warhawkairmuseum.org
Wagon Days Ketchum, August 31-September 4 61st anniversary of the days before railroads or automobiles reached town;
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Thousand Springs Festival of the Arts Ritter Island Hagerman, September 22-23 This 26th annual arts festival is a fun, cultural event that takes place near one of Idaho’s natural wonders: Thousand Springs; the program features live entertainment, food and beverage — a first-day-of-fall event well worth putting on your calendar https://visitsouthidaho.com/event/ thousand-springs-festival-arts/
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RECIPES by Bethany
Vegan Stew with a Brazilian Twist By Bethany Camp
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his dish will leave you feeling satisfied, energized, and ready to take on the day! A Brazilian Fish Stew inspired me during a week I was preparing South American food. Because I live a plant-based lifestyle I used tofu in place of fish. The lime, cumin, paprika and cayenne pepper really heat this dish up, giving you an explosion of flavor in your mouth. It is the perfect dish after a long day hiking or on the water, when you just want a hot meal to relax. Not to mention the amazing nutrients within all that yumminess. Packed with vegetables, whole grains, protein, herbs, spices and made with all-natural non-processed ingredients. RECIPE Broth: 1 ½ tbsp. olive oil 2 garlic cloves, minced 1 small onion, finely diced 1 large red bell pepper, halved & sliced 1 ½ tsp. coconut sugar 1 tbsp. cumin powder 1 tbsp. paprika 1 tsp. cayenne pepper ½ tsp. sea salt 14oz can of coconut milk 14 oz canned, crushed tomatoes 1 cup vegetable broth
Tofu: Extra firm tofu, cubed 1 tbsp. lime juice ¼ tsp. sea salt Black pepper, to taste 1 tbsp. olive oil Finishes: 1 tbsp. lime juice 3 tbsp. cilantro, chopped
DIRECTIONS 1. Drain all of the water from the tofu package and place the tofu on a flat service. Press down on the tofu with your hands (or you can use a plate) so that any access water gets fully drained. Pat the tofu dry with a towel and then cut it into cubes. 2. Heat olive oil in a pan over medium-high heat. Add the tofu, lime, sea salt, and black pepper and sauté until the tofu becomes golden brown and then set aside. 3. Re-heat 1 ½ tbsp. of olive oil in the pan over mediumhigh heat. Add the onion and garlic, and sauté until the onions become translucent.
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4. Add in the red bell pepper and cook for another 2-3 minutes. 5. Lower the heat to medium and add in the coconut milk, crushed tomatoes, veggie broth and tofu. 6. Add in the remaining ingredients. Stir the broth until all the ingredients are fully incorporated and cook for another 5-7 minutes. 7. Lower the heat to low, cover the pan with a lid and let the broth cook for about 30 minutes. 8. Once the broth is done cooking it should be a thicker sauce and not too watery. 9. Serve over brown rice and garnish with cilantro and lime!
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