LESSON 1.1.4: Strategies to build self-confidence and confidence in others

Facilitator’s Guide

G10 ~ Life Orientation

Unit 1 Assist learners in completing this activity. They may use the table below which is also provided in the Study Guide. For the purpose of this activity, they must focus on one goal.

My personal development plan Vision statement

SMART goals

Write your goal here: S: Is it specific? M: Is it measurable? A: Is it achievable? R: Is it realistic? T: It is time-bound?

SWOT analysis

Strengths Weaknesses

Opportunities Threats

Action plan

Actions Who is involved? What do I need? When must it be completed?

• Discuss self-confidence with the learners. • Make them aware of how confident people will act. • Discuss ways to improve self-confidence. (Skills You Need, n.d.) • Learners must: ○ develop communication skills ○ develop perseverance to complete tasks ○ be able to solve problems and make effective decisions

Improve communication skills

• Discuss effective communication skills with the learners. • Share and discuss the following tips with the learners:

Tips for confident communication

• A stable clear voice. Practise to talk without whispers or stammering. • Make eye contact with your audience. • Listen attentively to others. • Be assertive. Do not confuse self-confidence with aggressiveness. • Speak from the heart – if you are passionate about what you say, you will feel more confident. (Matta, 2012)

Plan to complete tasks successfully and on time

Proper time management skills are equally as important as proper communication skills.

• Discuss with learners the positive impact of completing tasks successfully and on time. • Encourage learners to follow these guidelines.

Useful guidelines

• Keep a planner where you plan your activities and manage your time to keep to your deadlines. • Remove all distractions, e.g. TV, social media, phone. • Congratulate yourself on all tasks completed successfully and on time and reward yourself.

Problem-solving and decision-making

• Assist learners to apply the basic problem-solving method as illustrated below. Once mastered, they will be able to handle difficult situations much easier and start to make more sound decisions in their lives. • Also share and discuss the following problem-solving and decision-making guidelines with learners.

Problem-solving and decision-making Some useful guidelines for solving problems or making decisions

• Clearly identify the problem or the issue. Try to understand why you think there is a problem. • Try to find potential causes for the problem. Also rely on the input from other people and listen to their opinions. • Identify alternative ways in which to approach the problem in order to solve it. • Brainstorm with others to find possible solutions. • Decide on the best possible solution to solve the problem. • Implement your final decision. • Evaluate the outcome. Did your plan work? Was this the best solution?

Problem-solving method

Very often we make decisions based on emotions. To ensure that the decision is viable and the best personal option available, a logical approach must be implemented. Rely on many different opinions of those not emotionally involved in the problem.

Effective problem-solving and decision-making will be covered in more detail in Grade 11.

How to build confidence in others

Discuss with learners the personal joy they might find in helping someone else and how it might add to their own self-insight.

It is not always easy to build confidence in another person. You can merely encourage them to be more confident. Let us look at some ways of encouragement.

• Celebrate success. Your friend has passed their test. Make an effort to congratulate them on their success. Tell them how awesome you think that is. • Compliment often. Compliment people on things they have done well. Many people are overly critical of their actions. Affirmation that something has been done well will encourage and motivate them. • Listen to learn. Learn to listen when somebody talks to you. When someone expresses their anxiety or insecurities about something they must do, do not just dismiss it. Provide support and sound advice. Make an effort to meet people that are different from you. Focus on their uniqueness and what you can learn from them. • Acknowledge and respect uniqueness and differences. Try to learn more from people different than you. The better we understand others, the easier it would be to support them.

FOR THE CURIOUS The Power of Positive Thinking: How Thoughts Can Change Your Life

by Brian Tracy

Encourage learners to read and discuss the following article.

Brian Tracy is a Canadian-American motivational public speaker and self-developed author of over eighty books. Below is a summary of the most important aspects of his article.

Can you guess what the most successful and happy people think about all day long? The answer is quite simple …

Healthy, happy people think about what they want, and how to get it, most of the time. In this way developing a positive attitude can profoundly change your entire life.

When you think and talk about what you want and how to get it, you feel happier and in greater control of your life. When you think about something that makes you happy, your brain releases endorphins, which give you a generalised feeling of well-being. As a result, you develop a positive attitude.

How to think positive

Based on many psychological tests, happy people seem to have a special quality that enables them to live a better life than the average.

Can you guess what it is? It is the quality of optimism!

The best news about optimism is that it is a learnable quality. That means you can learn how to think positive by taking adopting an optimistic mindset.

By the law of cause and effect, if you do and say what other healthy, happy people with positive attitudes do and say, you will soon feel the same way, get the same results, and enjoy the same experiences that they do.

Happy people find good in the world

Optimists seem to have different ways of dealing with the world that set them apart from the average.

1. First, they keep their minds on what they want, and keep looking for ways to get it. They are clear about goals and they are confident that they will accomplish them, sooner or later. 2. Second, optimists look for the good in every problem or difficulty. When things go wrong, as they often do, they say, ‘That’s good!’ And then set about finding something positive about the situation.

Facilitator’s Guide

G10 ~ Life Orientation

Unit 1 What we know is that, if you are looking for something good or beneficial in a person or situation, you will always find it. And while you are looking, you will be a more positive and cheerful person.

The power of positive thinking

Optimists seek the valuable lesson in every setback or reversal. Rather than getting upset and blaming someone else for what has happened, they take control over their emotions by saying, ‘What can I learn from this experience?’

Resolve today to learn how to develop positive thinking and a positive attitude toward yourself, the people around you and your life.

How do you train your mind to think positive?

Training your mind to think positive can be achieved by leveraging a simple concept. Your mind has enough bandwidth to only focus on one thought at a time. All you must do is keep it focused on uplifting thoughts until you form the same types of neural pathways that are created when you establish a new habit.

When a negative event occurs, remember that it is your response that truly determines the outcome. Always look for the positive response or optimistic lesson when such events take place.

Decide to be happy

Resolve from now to see your glass of life as half full rather than half empty. Happy people give thanks for the many blessings in life rather than worrying or complaining about the things they do not have.

Assume the best of intentions on the part of everyone around you. Most people are decent, honest and are trying to do the absolute best they know how to. When you look for something good in their words and actions, you will almost always find something.

Your positive attitude in action

It is easy to be cheerful when everything is going according to plan. But it is when you encounter unexpected setbacks and difficulties that you demonstrate to yourself, and the world around you, what kind of an attitude you really have.

Make sure that it is a positive one!

How positive thinking can help you

Developing a positive attitude can help you in more ways than you might realize. When you think positive thoughts, you do not allow your mind (conscious or subconscious) to entertain any negative thoughts or doubts.

After you learn how to think positive, you will notice amazing changes all around you. Your brain will begin to operate in a state of free-flowing feel-good hormones called endorphins, which will make you feel lighter and happier. You will also notice a major boost

in confidence and will feel more capable of taking on new assignments and challenges that might have previously been outside your comfort zone.

By reducing your self-limiting beliefs, you will effectively release your brakes and experience growth like you never imagined. Essentially, you can change your entire life simply by harnessing the power of positive thinking.

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Summary

To be able to develop and grow as a person it is important to increase our self-awareness. Understanding yourself better, knowing your strengths and weaknesses provide you with an opportunity to develop strategies to improve yourself. You need to understand what might impact your self-esteem and how it might influence your level of confidence and relationships. You need to take control of your own personal development. Formulating your own vision statement and setting clear and smart goals will contribute to reaching your dreams.

Assist learners with the following assessment task. Use it as a tool for preparing for the formal exams.

LESSON 1.1: Assessment memorandum

1. List THREE effects of a poor self-esteem on a person’s personal development.

Any THREE of the following or any other similar and related effect.

• A person with a poor self-esteem does not value or appreciate themself which might prevent any personal development.  • A poor self-esteem may cause a person to feel defeated and depressed with no interest in any personal development.  • A poor self-esteem can prevent a person from reaching their full

potential because they focus on their weaknesses rather than on their

strengths and opportunities.  • A poor self-esteem may cause a person to fall into a destructive relationship with no prospects of any more personal development.  • A poor self-esteem may lead to making bad decisions and choices

which might impact negatively on their life with no opportunities for

personal development.  (3 × 1) = (3)

Facilitator’s Guide

G10 ~ Life Orientation

Unit 1 2. What is the difference between self-awareness, self-esteem and personal development?

• Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of your own character, skills, feelings and the events in your life.  • Self-esteem is confidence in your own worth or abilities.  • Personal development is the actions you must take to improve your

self-awareness and identity and to develop talents to reach your

potential in order to enhance your quality of life.  (3 × 1) = (3)

3. Discuss FOUR ways of building self-esteem.

Any FOUR of the following or any other similar and related way.

• Stop being critical of yourself and breaking yourself down.  • Acknowledge your achievements and be proud of yourself.  • Stop comparing yourself with others.  • Do not aim for perfection because nobody is perfect.  • Appreciate your own uniqueness.  • Gracefully accept compliments.  • Develop a positive mindset.  (4 × 1) = (4) 4. Your friend is struggling with low self-confidence. Suggest FOUR strategies that you can implement to help your friend improve their self-confidence.

Any FOUR of the following or any other similar and related strategy.

• Celebrate your friend’s successes to show them that you are proud of them.  • Give honest and true compliments on tasks well done to make your friend feel good about their accomplishments.  • Encourage and motivate your friend when they lack confidence to show them that you are interested in their well-being.  • Listen when your friend wants to share feelings of insecurity to show them that they are worthy of your attention and empathy.  • Do not dismiss or mock your friend’s feelings of anxiety or insecurity to show them that you care about the way they feel.  • Value your friend’s uniqueness and ensure them that they are very special.  (4 × 1) = (4)

5. Explain the importance of having clear vision in order to reach your goals.

A clear vision helps you to focus on and be sure about what you want in your life. Without a clear vision you will not be able to set SMART goals to reach this vision.  (2 × 1) = (2)